Hey everyone, thanks for spending time with me as I plan my hectic Indian American wedding! Have you had to deal with cultural pressures in wedding planning or your relationships? What’s a cherished tradition in your culture? And what are some traditions your family feels strongly about but you want to break?
That conversation between you and your sister about marriage was awesome. The straight face you had the entire time had me confident you were going to blow up on her. But then you were like, "that's super cool". What a great Sister :) Btw, congratulations!
Wow....you guys are such an adorable couple ma sha Allah! Your fiancé is so laid-back and cool haha 😄 this vid. was SO relatable and beautiful to watch ❤ I'm Bengali and my hubby is Yemeni so a lot of things I saw were very familiar in terms of culture clash....we got married in 2016 and have a 2 yr. old son 😊 I still recall going through such a difficult period of time before my marriage since it was a love match like yours...and my parents were strongly opposed at first due to their traditional mindset that I should marry someone from my own country...plus they didn't have the best opinion of Arabs even if we are both Muslims 😔 but we both stood by each other during that time and were able to convince my family to give their consent....I opted out of a lot of the usual ceremonies that desi weddings tend to have since I wanted a more simple wedding plus my hubby wasn't used to such traditions so I love him enough to take that into consideration...overall it was nice but nothing overly glamorous and I opted to wear blue instead of red....also my jewelry was more Arab than Bengali cuz I thought it would be more unique! My mother still bemoans the fact that she couldn't throw a real desi wedding with a mehendi ceremony...etc. LOL 😅 but I feel like the bride's opinions matter most since she's the one getting married and it's totally fine to change things up! Traditions are fine....but that doesn't mean they can't be altered if you wish to 🙄 what matters most is that you're marrying the person you love and doing things the way you want to🙆 I'm lucky and blessed to have a wonderful little family and we have learned to compromise on lots of things since we grew up in such diff. cultures...it takes effort and patience but I feel happy with Allah on our side...encouraging us to grow and make our marriage stronger as time passes! I wish you guys ALL the best in your marriage and in life as you deserve it! (P.S. Omg I wish I could have gone back in time and kissed my hubby at our ceremony....I bet that would have certainly shocked the aunties haha 🙈 so I'm a little bit envious that you get to have that chance 😉) I really admire your courage & open-minded ways, gorgeous...so keep shining forever like this 😘 XoXo 💖
TBH, I don't like the fact that we have to spend so much money these things for wedding. For me, my future wife and I would simply have the nikah and the walima. No gaye holud, the main wedding and bou Bhat. There is tradition that I want to break which is we want to 😘 after the nikah. BTW, I am a Bangladeshi.
Sikhs fought Germans on French Soil. And off course with the British. So many Videos and Links out there To show their contempt for death, some Sikhs had refused to hide in the trenches' This article is more than 4 years old Excerpts from a collection of Guardian reportage from the first world war • Kate Adie on the history and dilemmas of war reporting www.theguardian.com/world/2014/may/14/excerpts-guardian-reporting-first-world-war
@@riverocean4380 Thats pretty cool. Thanks for sharing. They have a very interesting martial history which seems funny to me considering how peaceful and friendly all the Sikhs I know are.
@@nedisahonkey Sikhi is a Saint - Soldier concept. Many Sikh Pilots during WW2(see BBC documentary on this subject). Guess where Gene Roddenberry of Star Wars created the Charater khan From .......Wiki....Khan's full name was based on that of Kim Noonien Singh, a pilot Gene Roddenberry served with during the Second World War. Roddenberry lost touch with his friend and had hoped that Khan's similar name might attract his attention and renew his old acquaintance.[15By the final draft, Khan is Indian; a character guesses that Khan is from Northern India, and "probably a Sikh."[14] en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Khan_Noonien_Singh
*It's kind of an experience of a lifetime to attend an Indian wedding. I had attended one of my Indian friend's wedding which lasted for a week with various ceremonies and events. It was like spending 7 days at a Disneyland with lots of good food. It was one of the best weeks of my life.*
@@stephaniehale946 Nice, I've been to a few elaborate weddings in TX, too. BTW, I can only hope that one of our guests' describes our wedding as "Disneyland with lots of good food"
@@Shreen Well, I meant more like "The Happiest Place On Earth". I am a huge foodie and a sucker for Indian food. So they had dozens of items every single day, so I was literally in heaven. Their food theme was based on various Indian states. So they had ethnic and local food items from 3-4 different states every day. So the majority of the food items I had, I had never seen them at any Indian restaurant in the US. You can't even find them in the Little Indias of major US cities. They had a team of half a dozen chefs (Maharaj) flew in from India just to oversee all the food preparations for a week. One of them also acted as a priest during many ceremonies. I had to spend an extra hour every day in the gym for the next few weeks, but that's a different story.
Even progressive Hindus have stopped doing the whole dowry thing but the gate entrance is a big thing nowadays. The money doesn't essentially go to the bride but to the bride's little cousins or siblings and it's seen as a game. Same with the shoe game (where the little kids steal the groom's shoe when he sits down for the ceremony and then he must pay a fine in order to get his shoes back). The money is later used by the kids for various things to give towards the couple such as; house warming presents, payment towards honeymoon, or even the reception. It's a more light-hearted event instead of it being this whole "we're paying a dowry or w.e."
i dont thin its just the hindus tho i think its just culture like i am muslim and so is my family but we do the gate entrance thing like the sisters and cousins of the bride say ' no money no honey' or something like that
Well, she did talk about not believing in marriage either; that she doesn't need a person to be a placeholder. And she's using the correct vocabulary by saying that "Weddings are such an insane capitalist industry". I'd say she knows what she's talking about.
I guess she does knows what it means, cause for some families marriage means having a big fat wedding, otherwise it's a failure, plus the pressure of having a great wedding and expensive wedding service and all, i can relate since i have pretty much the same issue with my family who links marriage to wedding appearance
sama sima sounds like priorities are mixed up and the true definition of marriage is lost for your culture and family. Time for a change and shift because a party does not equal marriage
I am surprised at the rigidness of desi parents who have moved to the west. That 'time capsule' theory does seem true. While people in India are changing with time, letting go of the old world traditions, the emigrants are still living in the same century when they left their native country. I am not saying hundred percent in India have changed, but a certain percentage has, and they are surprisingly more moderate than the non residents.
Ashutosh, yes! I do feel the desi culture our parents and grandparents left with in the 60s, 70s, 80s is what they raised us with. But I gotta give them credit for adapting to a whole new culture and system out here, so I don't blame them :)
I have a theory to that. Indians who left when traditions mattered stuck to it, and we were raised with that. Its such a cultural shock to go to India and see my cousins more free and independent than I am.
lol indians in India are blindly accepting westernisation whereas Indians abroad are always trying to go back to our roots...😂😂 I swear i am more indian than these indians from india
Actually this is pretty cool! My boyfriend is Hindu and northern indian from Fiji. We have been talking about marriage so its interesting to see all the differences. It was weird to me that my boyfriend shyed away from affection when ever his family was around. I got so mad at his for dodging a kiss on the cheek (love language is physical affections). I'm a Portuguese American catholic 1st gen and 4th generation immigrant. So seeing the cultural differences is pretty neat!
I also descend from Indian indentured servants like your boyfriend (just not Fiji)! I’m glad his parents approve of your relationship and best of luck to you all in the future.
Love this video. I’m Persian Canadian this kindof relates to me because I’m dating a Chinese Canadian and I always hoped our culture wouldn’t clash. Glad to see those couples can work it out for the wedding. Hoping I can to
You know, I really love my Celtic heritage, but sometimes I get just a little jealous of Indian women (and men, even) because their traditional clothes are just soo gorgeous! Like, I love my long dresses and I love men’s kilts and what not, but did you *see* the wedding outfits??!
You can totally wear them! I wish they would become mainstream in the west the way Western clothes have become mainstream in the east! Those pretty dresses and gowns are perfect for special "important" occasions, I wish I could wear them in the US normally. :| But usually i am too lazy anyway lol. Jeans is the best. Even in India I rarely wore them. But it is good to have the choice.
@@priscilla9995 you can totally wear them in your wedding! Own it. Trust me, Indians don't care. Appropriation is when you 'take' something from another culture and claim you invented it. Example: Starbucks sells 'turmeric latte' pretending they invented it, even though it is called haldi doodh in India and we have been drinking it for thousands of years (they literally stole the idea and are making money off it.) But when they sell 'chai tea', it is ok because they are not claiming they invented it, no stealing. We are happy everybody gets to try chai in some way (even if it tastes nothing like chai). The only way a person in the west would be wrong would be if they wore a dress and pretended the dress was western and they 'designed' it. Or if they called them 'costumes' as if they are fetishising indians, or wore insensitive god related getup (not appropriation but kinda bad taste.) In my experience, the type of girls who genuinely want to wear indian dresses have good intentions- and we love it when we see that. Went to an indian festival in the us where all non indian American wore better indian clothss than indian ones as we were poor grad students and we all loved it (lowkey jealous). If you really want to, go to an indian wedding store nearbg amd at least check the dresses out. You don't need to have an indian wedding to wear the dress- religion is different from culture. :)
I’m an Indian Christian and relate to so many of these traditions and norms, such as no dancing and no touching boys 😂 love the way this video was done and how our culture’s story was told so eloquently!
@HISmercies nbounties It's not waste of money if you have enough money. People want to be rich so they can spend and live better life. Not all weddings are larger than life.
@@AmitSinghco It is a waste of money especially if you're a middle class person. I have seen my father saving money for my sister's marriage, not buying any house and living on rent his whole life. If you're rich maybe you can do this. But weddings in Indian culture are nothing but a show off
@@mirowaisali101 Its looks waste for you because your father tried to organise that marriage in bigger way which costing more money than he have. Instead he should have organised it in simple way. Even our family can't afford more than 10-12 lakh for marriage ceremony but can't see other people with same perspective. The truth is 100-200 million is not a big deal if you have 40 billion.
This was fun to watch. My Indian American wedding was now 15 years ago (and sadly has dissolved in that time), but I can still conjure up the excitement and feeling that we were really creating something unique, personal and unusual. My groom was white (Episcopalian), and I am Indian (Jain). I felt strongly that I wanted everything to be a blend of the cultures--not to feel like either person might feel THIS one was the real one, and the other one just for show. So we worked hard to craft a truly combined ceremony, consulting both the standard Episcopalian ceremony procedure and the Jain one, and literally interleaving the two. (Even the priests - we had a real Episcopal priest (which covered the legalities), and then were free to ask my masi (aunt) who is very religious to be the officiant for the Jain parts. They worked together, alternating parts. For instance, the exchange of rings and the mangalsutra (wedding necklace)--I reordered the ceremonies to put them together. There is a part in both cultures where there is a blessing for the guests, we put those together; so my aunt chanted a blessing which the guests repeated, and the Episcopalian priest dipped a sprig of flowering rosemary into holy water and sprinkled that over the guests.) I also took out the parts that I really wasn't comfortable with: for instance, there is a part where the bride's father washes the groom's feet, and I had a big problem with that, so... delete! (Fortunately, no one argued with me...!) I and the bridesmaids (bridesman too!) wore lenghas and kurtas; the groom's side wore western clothes. My lengha was ivory and red (to include both the white of American culture and the colors of Indian culture). Our "flower girls" didn't walk down the aisle with a basket of flowers, but handed out rose petals for the guests to throw at us as we came back down the aisle after the ceremony. The venue (the faculty club at my college) fortuitously happened to have an Indian chef, so the menu was a combination of western/Indian. We had a regular wedding cake but the wedding favors were little penda cookies (also, partly to get around the venue's rule about no outside food for dinner--they had to allow the favors! lol).
@@Fatima-sc8uz Mahar can be even $1. Or...as the famous story from the Prophet's time goes, a poor man recited a verse of the Qur'an to his prospective bride for mahar. That it needs to be given is compulsory, but there is no set minimum amount, or even the requirement that it needs to be money. A verse of the Qur'an can be gift enough, if both sides agree.
@@theblindcritic5876 Maher is all dependant on the situation of the husband. how much he can afford. but it is fardh either way. it is all for the security of the women. if one day the man decides he wants to divorce the women or he dies etc. but more so if he divorced her, then she has money to look after herself. cuz when the man dies if he has money, it goes to the wife and children anyway. and also some to his parents if they are still alive. it is all for the security of the women.
@HISmercies nbounties The $$ goes from the husband to the wife so no it is not a waste of $. It became required in Islam so that if the husband died or could no longer work the wife could still support herself and the children.
@HISmercies nbounties Obviously you have no clue what maher is. Please go let me know when you have memorized the Quran like I have done and then tell me I have no knowledge of Islam.
@HISmercies nbounties It's *their* money...it's *their* wish on how to spend it...It's a special day for them and they want to spend it like this....who are YOU to be judgmental??
I can respect and understand your parents wanting you to marry within your culture, belief, and language. In a way when you do marry within your culture your language, and belief you are preserving the history of your family and country. But there’s also some upsides to marry outside of your culture and language it allows you to learn a different culture and language.
I love this video as it provides a really clear insight into how diverse desi weddings are. But at 8:45 Shreen says dowry is common in Hindu weddings, which is not true. In rural areas of India, it might be, however, it's more indirect since both sides provide gifts.Nonetheless, Shreen, you have to do more videos on heritage---it's the best one I've seen so far
Absolutely loved all the different versions of an Indian-American wedding and loved seeing the girls explore questions that were important and relevant to them, and not just creating scripted questions in order to explain things to a non-desi/white audience. More of this!!
@Life is Beautiful no one knows what mehdi is expect south Asians so its matters and the whole world knows calls henna. If u dont care then don't reply to my comments
Please note that the “Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi weddings” should all be called variations of the Dharmic/Hindu wedding ceremonies. There is a slight Islamic twist thrown in for Muslims such as the Meher, and the nikkah rituals. The mother culture remains the same even though people of a region convert due to invasions and such.
Nadia M.K I think the point Nikhil is trying to make is that Hinduism is the source of culture in the Indian subcontinent. Yes culture and religion are obviously different things, but the culture in the Indian subcontinent, no matter what area you’re from or religion you follow, is based of Hinduism and Hindu practises.
@@sc3465 Not in whole Sub continent. If talking about Pakistan, then the culture is same as in India (North India) if you are in Punjab or Sindh., But not in khyber Pakhtunkwa, Balochistan and Gilgit Baltistan. These provinces have totally differents cultures.
@@nadiam.k2601kyberpakthunkwa, balochistan, Afghanistan have been part of the Hindu/dharmic civilization from time Immemorial until the Islamic invasions. There are of course some greek,persian and Arabic influences after contact with those cultures but the mother culture is still to this day the same. So is the genetic base.
@Riya Patel You don't have an avatar, so clearly YOU don't exist. I don't waste time on people who exist, I block them and their-profiles-made-only-15-min-ago. Off with you now, fake profile. Ta, troll.🖕🏿
Hello Shreen, I am Mexican American first generation born and raise here in the United states of America. Being first generation Mexican American it's a big pressure to get married and follow tradition as our parents did. Get married, have kids, and take care of the household especially as a woman. But I'm a lesbian so for me is more pressure, even though my parents and family accept me for who I am.... I still find myself hearing " when are you going to settle down?" or " you are getting older Gabriela... you better hurry up" and also I feel pressure if i do ever decided to get married to bring someone home that is also Mexican because if i don't I will let my family down. And also think like your sister I also wouldn't want wedding party rather use that money for down payment for a house. So I just wanted to share a little about my thoughts after i watch this video. thank you for taking time reading this
I'm not Indian but if I had seen these videos back when I got married 20 years ago it would have been an Indian themed wedding for sure!! Beautiful ❤️😍
Wishing you both the best...With endless happy memories. Just a note with ref to Maher: There is a massive misnomer with this subject. The purpose is to surrender an amount or valuable item to the bride which is not a present per sé but a form of payment which can never be asked to be returned. This payment should be high enough not to consider divorce and adds strength to the union. If however the bride at whatever stage wishes to divorce then she must return this amount back to her husband. However if the husband wishes a divorce then he is forfeits the Maher. This is a type of fund setup to protect the woman, so the man remembers the commitments he made to his beloved!
Hey Shireen, awesome video. Congrats on getting married. First of all, I wish that you could have presented not only Indian, but also Bangladeshi and Pakistani weddings into perspective because the way they do it is different from Indian, traditionally speaking. Second point is that you could have mention about nikah being conducted traditionally by men in Islam, where in your sister's case, it was done by a woman and third point is that maher or mahr does not have to be in cash because if you look at the life of Prophet Muhammad PBUH, he allow some Muslim to give mahr in a form believe it or not, a garden, being a hafiz or having good characteristics. However, I understand mention that part as being in the form of 💰. If you don't believe me regarding that, you can check the source like the hadiths and others. Overall, I really enjoyed the video and thank you for that.
Hi, I just wanted to say although you have made some good points I don't think being an Indian she could have presented Bangladeshi or Pakistani weddings perspective
@@dhitikas8827 tbh, i dont know. India has a lot of Sylheti people living in the Northeast and as a Sylheti from Bangladesh, I know their weddings are the same as ours. As for other Bengali muslims living in Kolkata or other parts, I wouldn't know. there isn't a lot of media representation on it.
Video is really very awesome.i like the presentation on screen, i like the way u show conversations between family. Lovely timing. Great i love this video. Waiting for more👍
I can relate to the German and Punjabi couple (laughed when he said white girl.) My fiancee is Vietnamese/Chinese and family is Buddhist. I'm mostly Irish and my family is Christian. His folks were hoping he would bring home a nice Asian girl (preferably Viet or Chinese)....he brought home a white girl (I'm seriously pale as heck).
Omg. I can relate so much. My name is Jessica and I met my bf, Sahil, via Destiny... the game 😆 I’m American and he’s Punjabi. I’m constantly trying to learn Punjab in hopes to one day communicate with his family. I sent him this video right away haha!
Hey Shireen, Thanks for the great video. From my perspective. The Mehr should be something of increasing value as time goes on. No one wants a relationship to go south but if it does after many years when there are kids involved and other liabilities the Mehr should be a backup option for women so that they can lead their lives without depending on anyone else. Gold seems like a good investment. Hard cash returns are not at the same level. That's just my two cents. I wish you and Sohreb and happy and blessed life ahead.
Hasan Tayeeb one of my friends stipulated she will not do house work.. n she got it. My sister in law stipulated monetary compensation for raising kids from a previous marriage.. she got it
@@rubina1868 So your friend took not doing house work as Mehr. I'm no mufti but I think Mehr has to do with material value. And about your sister-in-law when your brother decided on marrying her then he has to accept her with her previous children. There is no need to ask monetary compensation as he needs to treat those children as his own. It becomes his duty as soon as he marries her. So both these instances don't come under Mehr from my understanding.
We have Meher in Iran. families agree on different Meher but the grooms family dont pay anything to the bride's family before or after the wedding. The groom just agrees on an amount and if the couple gets divorced, then the girl can get the Meher to continue her life after the divorce without any economic problem. Women have the right to ask for it during her life even if she doesnt want to divorce but usually nobody asks to get the money.
That’s not true! Unless u went to Pakistan and conducted a survey that statement is false. We don’t identify as Arab, we’re Asians specifically south Asians. The u.s census align with Uk consider us Asians. Only thing in common with Arabs is religion, culturally we are more in line with India, language, food etc similar to India. You don’t decide what to call us, you do not speak for us. Thank you. Urdu, Punjabi, Sindhi, etc languages of Pakistan are also spoken in India. Arabic is not spoken in Pakistan, only used for religious studies, same as in all Muslim countries regardless of geographic location. India has more Muslims than Pakistan, you’re saying they’re not desi as well because Pakistan and India were one country prior to 1947, so I don’t think your statement makes any sense nor do you posses knowledge about that part of the world to even make such comments.
You can ask anything for your maher, in indonesia its very common to just ask for a praying equipment. But i also once read there's a bride who only ask the groom a glass of water (literally!) and the bride drink it on their wedding day because she really don't find the need to ask anything to the groom. Wish you can find a way to go both your parents and your believe in this!
It's actually not a cash gift all tho it can be... it's any gift u ask from the groom.. it's not a cash gift u give that u negotiate... that's called brown islam😅
@@Shreen no I'm not married. So if I was to get married tho, I'd probably only resort to cash if I couldn't think of anything else😅 especially since I'm planning on making my own money, I don't see the purpose of cash😁 But awesome video tho! I can't wait to see the wedding!!
It cracked me up when Shreen asked her sister “why” and put on a serious face😂 would have guessed that she’s the older one even if she didn't explained it in the first place lol
The Maher is the right of the girl and it is her choice to ask as much or as little as she want. There is no set amount, it should be according to the husband's ability to pay.
i need me a mom like theirs, pulling strings behind the scenes to get you a match you can't possibly turn down XD sitting down prospectives like a job interview, asking them for their romantic CVs and shit
G V That’s not true for all Pakistanis. Majority yes, but not all , same as in India which is also very skin color conscious but cannot generalize every single family as being close minded.
Waqar Khan That is true in India, but seeing the most of the abusive comments about only skin color, as if they are all the fairest people on earth, and as if white skin only means beauty and dark skin is ugly, they make comments
To be fair all Indian weddings regardless of religion are typically the same they have a mehendi, a sangeet, and a wedding day. It’s the only last day where things differ.
amal zuhair actually South Indian weddings are different from North Indians, their is no de facto Indian culuture, it’s a mix even in Hindu marriages they differ between a Punjabi Hindu vs a Bengali or Marathi or Tamil and so on
Hey everyone, thanks for spending time with me as I plan my hectic Indian American wedding! Have you had to deal with cultural pressures in wedding planning or your relationships? What’s a cherished tradition in your culture? And what are some traditions your family feels strongly about but you want to break?
That conversation between you and your sister about marriage was awesome. The straight face you had the entire time had me confident you were going to blow up on her. But then you were like, "that's super cool". What a great Sister :)
Btw, congratulations!
@@mikerphone. Wow, thank you Mike! We three sisters are really close :)
Shkriaaaaa!! Thanks
Wow....you guys are such an adorable couple ma sha Allah! Your fiancé is so laid-back and cool haha 😄 this vid. was SO relatable and beautiful to watch ❤ I'm Bengali and my hubby is Yemeni so a lot of things I saw were very familiar in terms of culture clash....we got married in 2016 and have a 2 yr. old son 😊 I still recall going through such a difficult period of time before my marriage since it was a love match like yours...and my parents were strongly opposed at first due to their traditional mindset that I should marry someone from my own country...plus they didn't have the best opinion of Arabs even if we are both Muslims 😔 but we both stood by each other during that time and were able to convince my family to give their consent....I opted out of a lot of the usual ceremonies that desi weddings tend to have since I wanted a more simple wedding plus my hubby wasn't used to such traditions so I love him enough to take that into consideration...overall it was nice but nothing overly glamorous and I opted to wear blue instead of red....also my jewelry was more Arab than Bengali cuz I thought it would be more unique! My mother still bemoans the fact that she couldn't throw a real desi wedding with a mehendi ceremony...etc. LOL 😅 but I feel like the bride's opinions matter most since she's the one getting married and it's totally fine to change things up! Traditions are fine....but that doesn't mean they can't be altered if you wish to 🙄 what matters most is that you're marrying the person you love and doing things the way you want to🙆 I'm lucky and blessed to have a wonderful little family and we have learned to compromise on lots of things since we grew up in such diff. cultures...it takes effort and patience but I feel happy with Allah on our side...encouraging us to grow and make our marriage stronger as time passes! I wish you guys ALL the best in your marriage and in life as you deserve it! (P.S. Omg I wish I could have gone back in time and kissed my hubby at our ceremony....I bet that would have certainly shocked the aunties haha 🙈 so I'm a little bit envious that you get to have that chance 😉) I really admire your courage & open-minded ways, gorgeous...so keep shining forever like this 😘 XoXo 💖
TBH, I don't like the fact that we have to spend so much money these things for wedding. For me, my future wife and I would simply have the nikah and the walima. No gaye holud, the main wedding and bou Bhat. There is tradition that I want to break which is we want to 😘 after the nikah. BTW, I am a Bangladeshi.
Wow that German/Sikh marrige from meeting on World of Warcraft is such a unique modern story. Hope they have a long happy life together
Sikhs fought Germans on French Soil. And off course with the British. So many Videos and Links out there
To show their contempt for death, some Sikhs had refused to hide in the trenches'
This article is more than 4 years old
Excerpts from a collection of Guardian reportage from the first world war
• Kate Adie on the history and dilemmas of war reporting
www.theguardian.com/world/2014/may/14/excerpts-guardian-reporting-first-world-war
@@riverocean4380 Thats pretty cool. Thanks for sharing. They have a very interesting martial history which seems funny to me considering how peaceful and friendly all the Sikhs I know are.
@@nedisahonkey Sikhi is a Saint - Soldier concept. Many Sikh Pilots during WW2(see BBC documentary on this subject). Guess where Gene Roddenberry of Star Wars created the Charater khan From .......Wiki....Khan's full name was based on that of Kim Noonien Singh, a pilot Gene Roddenberry served with during the Second World War. Roddenberry lost touch with his friend and had hoped that Khan's similar name might attract his attention and renew his old acquaintance.[15By the final draft, Khan is Indian; a character guesses that Khan is from Northern India, and "probably a Sikh."[14]
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Khan_Noonien_Singh
This is so on point! I’m Polish marrying Indian American and our Hindu wedding in US is in two months! Can’t wait 😍
Mubaraku shady
Best of Luck Dear.
Best of luck
@Sal m I think desis general
Means you'll be getting married as of now sis
*It's kind of an experience of a lifetime to attend an Indian wedding. I had attended one of my Indian friend's wedding which lasted for a week with various ceremonies and events. It was like spending 7 days at a Disneyland with lots of good food. It was one of the best weeks of my life.*
That's so cool! Where did the wedding take place?
@@Shreen Dallas.
@@stephaniehale946 Nice, I've been to a few elaborate weddings in TX, too. BTW, I can only hope that one of our guests' describes our wedding as "Disneyland with lots of good food"
@@Shreen Well, I meant more like "The Happiest Place On Earth". I am a huge foodie and a sucker for Indian food. So they had dozens of items every single day, so I was literally in heaven. Their food theme was based on various Indian states. So they had ethnic and local food items from 3-4 different states every day. So the majority of the food items I had, I had never seen them at any Indian restaurant in the US. You can't even find them in the Little Indias of major US cities. They had a team of half a dozen chefs (Maharaj) flew in from India just to oversee all the food preparations for a week. One of them also acted as a priest during many ceremonies. I had to spend an extra hour every day in the gym for the next few weeks, but that's a different story.
@@stephaniehale946 Daaaaang. That does sound like heaven!
Even progressive Hindus have stopped doing the whole dowry thing but the gate entrance is a big thing nowadays. The money doesn't essentially go to the bride but to the bride's little cousins or siblings and it's seen as a game. Same with the shoe game (where the little kids steal the groom's shoe when he sits down for the ceremony and then he must pay a fine in order to get his shoes back). The money is later used by the kids for various things to give towards the couple such as; house warming presents, payment towards honeymoon, or even the reception. It's a more light-hearted event instead of it being this whole "we're paying a dowry or w.e."
Parps turkish do it too.. its a cute prank .. in indopK wedding they steal the grooms shoes n hold it in symbolic ransom
Parps yes, that is not dowry lol
Lol no one talks about gold digging act from girl and girls parents in arrange marriage
the kids in my family don't use it for anything towards the couple...they just keep it and use it for themselves lol
i dont thin its just the hindus tho i think its just culture like i am muslim and so is my family but we do the gate entrance thing like the sisters and cousins of the bride say ' no money no honey' or something like that
This was so great! I’m Latina and my fiancé is Marathi.
i am also
Woah great but marathi culture is very different from punjabi and other cultures.
Punjabi and Marathi brave people I am also punjabi..
Kasa chaly mg vahini?
Marathi good people and culture in india
Her sister has marriage and wedding confused. You do not have to have a wedding to get married
Well, she did talk about not believing in marriage either; that she doesn't need a person to be a placeholder. And she's using the correct vocabulary by saying that "Weddings are such an insane capitalist industry". I'd say she knows what she's talking about.
@@audobone yes make sense
I guess she does knows what it means, cause for some families marriage means having a big fat wedding, otherwise it's a failure, plus the pressure of having a great wedding and expensive wedding service and all, i can relate since i have pretty much the same issue with my family who links marriage to wedding appearance
sama sima sounds like priorities are mixed up and the true definition of marriage is lost for your culture and family. Time for a change and shift because a party does not equal marriage
@@audobone What do you mean correct vocabulary? Everything in murica is based on being capitalist? it's there founding blocks in society...
I am surprised at the rigidness of desi parents who have moved to the west. That 'time capsule' theory does seem true. While people in India are changing with time, letting go of the old world traditions, the emigrants are still living in the same century when they left their native country. I am not saying hundred percent in India have changed, but a certain percentage has, and they are surprisingly more moderate than the non residents.
Ashutosh, yes! I do feel the desi culture our parents and grandparents left with in the 60s, 70s, 80s is what they raised us with. But I gotta give them credit for adapting to a whole new culture and system out here, so I don't blame them :)
I have a theory to that. Indians who left when traditions mattered stuck to it, and we were raised with that. Its such a cultural shock to go to India and see my cousins more free and independent than I am.
lol indians in India are blindly accepting westernisation whereas Indians abroad are always trying to go back to our roots...😂😂
I swear i am more indian than these indians from india
@@lxwfgh1796 haha you wish
@misuzu9254 because of the British empire and clonialsim
Actually this is pretty cool! My boyfriend is Hindu and northern indian from Fiji. We have been talking about marriage so its interesting to see all the differences. It was weird to me that my boyfriend shyed away from affection when ever his family was around. I got so mad at his for dodging a kiss on the cheek (love language is physical affections). I'm a Portuguese American catholic 1st gen and 4th generation immigrant. So seeing the cultural differences is pretty neat!
AdorkableLiz77 . Awesome!
I also descend from Indian indentured servants like your boyfriend (just not Fiji)! I’m glad his parents approve of your relationship and best of luck to you all in the future.
"dodging a kiss on the cheek" LMFAO
Love this video. I’m Persian Canadian this kindof relates to me because I’m dating a Chinese Canadian and I always hoped our culture wouldn’t clash. Glad to see those couples can work it out for the wedding. Hoping I can to
You know, I really love my Celtic heritage, but sometimes I get just a little jealous of Indian women (and men, even) because their traditional clothes are just soo gorgeous! Like, I love my long dresses and I love men’s kilts and what not, but did you *see* the wedding outfits??!
Venus Gillespie are you welsh? gaelic? irish? or even cornish? or brittonic ?
Venus Gillespie I understand fully, I’m not Indian but as you see from my pic, I love the their clothing and culture Heheje :) one love
You can totally wear them! I wish they would become mainstream in the west the way Western clothes have become mainstream in the east!
Those pretty dresses and gowns are perfect for special "important" occasions, I wish I could wear them in the US normally. :|
But usually i am too lazy anyway lol. Jeans is the best. Even in India I rarely wore them. But it is good to have the choice.
Same! I'm Puerto Rican. I always dreamt of getting married in an Indian dress! Their ceremonies are truly beautiful ! 😍
@@priscilla9995 you can totally wear them in your wedding! Own it. Trust me, Indians don't care.
Appropriation is when you 'take' something from another culture and claim you invented it. Example: Starbucks sells 'turmeric latte' pretending they invented it, even though it is called haldi doodh in India and we have been drinking it for thousands of years (they literally stole the idea and are making money off it.)
But when they sell 'chai tea', it is ok because they are not claiming they invented it, no stealing. We are happy everybody gets to try chai in some way (even if it tastes nothing like chai).
The only way a person in the west would be wrong would be if they wore a dress and pretended the dress was western and they 'designed' it. Or if they called them 'costumes' as if they are fetishising indians, or wore insensitive god related getup (not appropriation but kinda bad taste.)
In my experience, the type of girls who genuinely want to wear indian dresses have good intentions- and we love it when we see that. Went to an indian festival in the us where all non indian American wore better indian clothss than indian ones as we were poor grad students and we all loved it (lowkey jealous).
If you really want to, go to an indian wedding store nearbg amd at least check the dresses out. You don't need to have an indian wedding to wear the dress- religion is different from culture. :)
I’m an Indian Christian and relate to so many of these traditions and norms, such as no dancing and no touching boys 😂 love the way this video was done and how our culture’s story was told so eloquently!
Yup
I thought Indian Christians are more progressive than other Hindu Muslim and sikh Indians ?
hindus and skihs in india- we just grab and pull people on dancing floor xd
These days both middle eastern and indian weddings are the best moments to show off wealth
yeah well same with south east asian muslim weddings, i despise that. my brother married in an office somewhere in the us and no money involved.
Indian weddings especially hindus' marriages were always extravagant!
I’m Muslim and all the weddings are absolutely beautiful. Not all require money, buddy.
@@jajaja7394 bcox baniya hindus spend ahell lot of money
Weddings don't have to be so extravagant Yasin!!
@HISmercies nbounties It's not waste of money if you have enough money. People want to be rich so they can spend and live better life. Not all weddings are larger than life.
@@AmitSinghco It is a waste of money especially if you're a middle class person. I have seen my father saving money for my sister's marriage, not buying any house and living on rent his whole life. If you're rich maybe you can do this. But weddings in Indian culture are nothing but a show off
@@mirowaisali101 Its looks waste for you because your father tried to organise that marriage in bigger way which costing more money than he have. Instead he should have organised it in simple way. Even our family can't afford more than 10-12 lakh for marriage ceremony but can't see other people with same perspective. The truth is 100-200 million is not a big deal if you have 40 billion.
@@AmitSinghco That's true. But that's my point many Indians (not all) put too much money into marriages.
@@mirowaisali101 ya that's the problem here. Just to be socially accepted they do this.
Hindu weddings are so beautiful, gotta have one for the culture. Not gonna waste money on super expensive wedding cards and stuff tho
Oww mu god I love Indian people i am morrocan in USA,i wish somday i can attend to an Indian wedding 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Fallen Angels Türk’ün gücü 😁
Ohhh i love Turkey and ur dramas....
This was fun to watch. My Indian American wedding was now 15 years ago (and sadly has dissolved in that time), but I can still conjure up the excitement and feeling that we were really creating something unique, personal and unusual. My groom was white (Episcopalian), and I am Indian (Jain). I felt strongly that I wanted everything to be a blend of the cultures--not to feel like either person might feel THIS one was the real one, and the other one just for show. So we worked hard to craft a truly combined ceremony, consulting both the standard Episcopalian ceremony procedure and the Jain one, and literally interleaving the two. (Even the priests - we had a real Episcopal priest (which covered the legalities), and then were free to ask my masi (aunt) who is very religious to be the officiant for the Jain parts. They worked together, alternating parts. For instance, the exchange of rings and the mangalsutra (wedding necklace)--I reordered the ceremonies to put them together. There is a part in both cultures where there is a blessing for the guests, we put those together; so my aunt chanted a blessing which the guests repeated, and the Episcopalian priest dipped a sprig of flowering rosemary into holy water and sprinkled that over the guests.) I also took out the parts that I really wasn't comfortable with: for instance, there is a part where the bride's father washes the groom's feet, and I had a big problem with that, so... delete! (Fortunately, no one argued with me...!) I and the bridesmaids (bridesman too!) wore lenghas and kurtas; the groom's side wore western clothes. My lengha was ivory and red (to include both the white of American culture and the colors of Indian culture). Our "flower girls" didn't walk down the aisle with a basket of flowers, but handed out rose petals for the guests to throw at us as we came back down the aisle after the ceremony. The venue (the faculty club at my college) fortuitously happened to have an Indian chef, so the menu was a combination of western/Indian. We had a regular wedding cake but the wedding favors were little penda cookies (also, partly to get around the venue's rule about no outside food for dinner--they had to allow the favors! lol).
Thank u details written nicely.
Ur a brave lady . wish u well.
Such a fantastic video that gave sincere insight into the lives/views of these three great women and their cultural backgrounds! Well done AJ!
Thank you so much!
I love how honest she was with her mother to ask that question re: being divorced.
Maher- if a bride wishes to forgo the maher it is her choice. You have no pressure to ask for any maher if you don’t wish to.
teewrecks x no ..mahr is frdh
My mehr will be 100k or 100 camels inshallah.
@@Fatima-sc8uz Mahar can be even $1. Or...as the famous story from the Prophet's time goes, a poor man recited a verse of the Qur'an to his prospective bride for mahar. That it needs to be given is compulsory, but there is no set minimum amount, or even the requirement that it needs to be money. A verse of the Qur'an can be gift enough, if both sides agree.
theblindcritic yes i agree with you...
@@theblindcritic5876 Maher is all dependant on the situation of the husband. how much he can afford. but it is fardh either way. it is all for the security of the women. if one day the man decides he wants to divorce the women or he dies etc. but more so if he divorced her, then she has money to look after herself. cuz when the man dies if he has money, it goes to the wife and children anyway. and also some to his parents if they are still alive. it is all for the security of the women.
LMFAO homeboy is gonna have to pay up 10g
Catch 22 welcome to our lives
Thats nothing mine was 25K
@HISmercies nbounties The $$ goes from the husband to the wife so no it is not a waste of $. It became required in Islam so that if the husband died or could no longer work the wife could still support herself and the children.
@HISmercies nbounties Obviously you have no clue what maher is. Please go let me know when you have memorized the Quran like I have done and then tell me I have no knowledge of Islam.
@HISmercies nbounties It's *their* money...it's *their* wish on how to spend it...It's a special day for them and they want to spend it like this....who are YOU to be judgmental??
I’m Bengali Muslim and I married my Junior High sweetheart who is from Belize! My Majer was 1 penny...hehe 🤗😉
Wow it actually takes a lot of courage! So happy for you
YALL ARE A CUTE COUPLE. Male and female versions of each other
I can respect and understand your parents wanting you to marry within your culture, belief, and language. In a way when you do marry within your culture your language, and belief you are preserving the history of your family and country. But there’s also some upsides to marry outside of your culture and language it allows you to learn a different culture and language.
I love this video as it provides a really clear insight into how diverse desi weddings are. But at 8:45 Shreen says dowry is common in Hindu weddings, which is not true. In rural areas of India, it might be, however, it's more indirect since both sides provide gifts.Nonetheless, Shreen, you have to do more videos on heritage---it's the best one I've seen so far
Absolutely loved all the different versions of an Indian-American wedding and loved seeing the girls explore questions that were important and relevant to them, and not just creating scripted questions in order to explain things to a non-desi/white audience. More of this!!
Wow this is really intimate and well done! Congrats team 🙌
Thank you, Tawanda!
I’m glad to see you touched on various religions in India
There are 4 Indian religion like hindu,sikh, buddhist and Jain and 2 abrahamics like Islam and Christians in India.
I marry to a Sikh Man n we both had a simple civil marriage without carry heavy gold medallion in our way.
I m indian Hindu 😍😍 nd I lv our culture nd believe on arrange marriage😍
Not henna
MEHNDI !!!!!!!
It like saying Western is NOT desi
Henna is Arabic word in the Muslim culture women put henna tattoo on the weddings and Eid. And man and woman put henna their hair on Fridays.
@Life is Beautiful no one knows what mehdi is expect south Asians so its matters and the whole world knows calls henna. If u dont care then don't reply to my comments
No not mehamdi it is goranti
Not only Indian, but also Pakistan and Bangladeshi weddings are like this. The wedding just seems to never end.
Please note that the “Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi weddings” should all be called variations of the Dharmic/Hindu wedding ceremonies. There is a slight Islamic twist thrown in for Muslims such as the Meher, and the nikkah rituals. The mother culture remains the same even though people of a region convert due to invasions and such.
@@aryaputra001 One thing religion and one thing is culture, they are both different things.
Nadia M.K I think the point Nikhil is trying to make is that Hinduism is the source of culture in the Indian subcontinent. Yes culture and religion are obviously different things, but the culture in the Indian subcontinent, no matter what area you’re from or religion you follow, is based of Hinduism and Hindu practises.
@@sc3465 Not in whole Sub continent. If talking about Pakistan, then the culture is same as in India (North India) if you are in Punjab or Sindh., But not in khyber Pakhtunkwa, Balochistan and Gilgit Baltistan. These provinces have totally differents cultures.
@@nadiam.k2601kyberpakthunkwa, balochistan, Afghanistan have been part of the Hindu/dharmic civilization from time Immemorial until the Islamic invasions. There are of course some greek,persian and Arabic influences after contact with those cultures but the mother culture is still to this day the same. So is the genetic base.
Lovely and enlightening.
👰🏾🕌🇮🇳
As long those getting married are satisfied, Allah will understand.
What do u want to make allah understand?
idiot why you bring god into it
@Riya Patel You don't have an avatar, so clearly YOU don't exist. I don't waste time on people who exist, I block them and their-profiles-made-only-15-min-ago.
Off with you now, fake profile. Ta, troll.🖕🏿
@storm raider The only one who doesn't understand is you whi missed all the identified Muslims in the video.
Work on that as I block you. Ta, troll.🖕🏿
Good luck! I miss Punjabi weddings. Amazing, tons of fun, great food, family, tears, laughter, etc.
And booze
i love the way you communicate with the elders, and how they react 😘
Beautiful ! Stay Blessed . I’m an Indian. Love our weddings.
Your parents are blessed to have raised 3 smart n independent women like u guys.. you make me very proud
This was so good. Well thought out. Introspective. A+
This guy sounds like Aziz Ansari
Haha he does. Funny considering he's Guajurati and Aziz is Tamil.
@Sal m You're not the smartest person are you. Tamil is an ethnicity not a religon and the only one who bought up religon was you
This video is going into my "Favorites".
Really well done and informative and loving.
5 stars!
Love seeing new perspectives on Indian weddings. Thanks for making this and I loved it!
Omg I love how cute her mom is. She's religious but yet modern.
Hello Shreen, I am Mexican American first generation born and raise here in the United states of America. Being first generation Mexican American it's a big pressure to get married and follow tradition as our parents did. Get married, have kids, and take care of the household especially as a woman. But I'm a lesbian so for me is more pressure, even though my parents and family accept me for who I am.... I still find myself hearing " when are you going to settle down?" or " you are getting older Gabriela... you better hurry up" and also I feel pressure if i do ever decided to get married to bring someone home that is also Mexican because if i don't I will let my family down. And also think like your sister I also wouldn't want wedding party rather use that money for down payment for a house. So I just wanted to share a little about my thoughts after i watch this video. thank you for taking time reading this
When brown and white people marry, the baby comes out white 😂
"We met in" starts an ad🙃
Jessica and Hardeep are so cute!
Thank you so much for doing this! And congratz on your wedding
I love this video! Wish it was longer :)
Love it! You guys are so cute! I'm adding your video to a university class I teach on Multiculturalism
I love this!! Please do a follow up of yalls wedding! 💖
I'm not Indian but if I had seen these videos back when I got married 20 years ago it would have been an Indian themed wedding for sure!! Beautiful ❤️😍
That was a great segment. Good job
Dowry is illegal in India, could have said that.
Wishing you both the best...With endless happy memories.
Just a note with ref to Maher: There is a massive misnomer with this subject. The purpose is to surrender an amount or valuable item to the bride which is not a present per sé but a form of payment which can never be asked to be returned. This payment should be high enough not to consider divorce and adds strength to the union. If however the bride at whatever stage wishes to divorce then she must return this amount back to her husband. However if the husband wishes a divorce then he is forfeits the Maher. This is a type of fund setup to protect the woman, so the man remembers the commitments he made to his beloved!
Hey Shireen, awesome video. Congrats on getting married. First of all, I wish that you could have presented not only Indian, but also Bangladeshi and Pakistani weddings into perspective because the way they do it is different from Indian, traditionally speaking. Second point is that you could have mention about nikah being conducted traditionally by men in Islam, where in your sister's case, it was done by a woman and third point is that maher or mahr does not have to be in cash because if you look at the life of Prophet Muhammad PBUH, he allow some Muslim to give mahr in a form believe it or not, a garden, being a hafiz or having good characteristics. However, I understand mention that part as being in the form of 💰. If you don't believe me regarding that, you can check the source like the hadiths and others. Overall, I really enjoyed the video and thank you for that.
Hi, I just wanted to say although you have made some good points I don't think being an Indian she could have presented Bangladeshi or Pakistani weddings perspective
bangladeshi Muslim weddings are different than Indian Muslim weddings
@@owlright7524 Not so different from Indian Bengali muslim weddings though is it?
@@dhitikas8827 tbh, i dont know. India has a lot of Sylheti people living in the Northeast and as a Sylheti from Bangladesh, I know their weddings are the same as ours. As for other Bengali muslims living in Kolkata or other parts, I wouldn't know. there isn't a lot of media representation on it.
@Blue Man, this isnt about Pakistanis or Bangladeshis, so why should they be included in this whole thing?
So fun to watch and very eye-opening. Thanx so much for the vdo!
Video is really very awesome.i like the presentation on screen, i like the way u show conversations between family. Lovely timing.
Great i love this video.
Waiting for more👍
I can relate to the German and Punjabi couple (laughed when he said white girl.) My fiancee is Vietnamese/Chinese and family is Buddhist. I'm mostly Irish and my family is Christian. His folks were hoping he would bring home a nice Asian girl (preferably Viet or Chinese)....he brought home a white girl (I'm seriously pale as heck).
I’m sure y’all are very cute 🥰
awesome video Shreen and best wishes.. can so relate to the complications in an Indian wedding 🙂 who’s the lady who officiated Yazi’s wedding ?
ashishkiift ashish yeah. What a cool idea
Thanks for sharing! Excellent!
I love the video ☺. Great job!
Omg. I can relate so much. My name is Jessica and I met my bf, Sahil, via Destiny... the game 😆 I’m American and he’s Punjabi. I’m constantly trying to learn Punjab in hopes to one day communicate with his family. I sent him this video right away haha!
Hey Shireen,
Thanks for the great video. From my perspective. The Mehr should be something of increasing value as time goes on.
No one wants a relationship to go south but if it does after many years when there are kids involved and other liabilities the Mehr should be a backup option for women so that they can lead their lives without depending on anyone else.
Gold seems like a good investment. Hard cash returns are not at the same level.
That's just my two cents.
I wish you and Sohreb and happy and blessed life ahead.
Hasan Tayeeb one of my friends stipulated she will not do house work.. n she got it. My sister in law stipulated monetary compensation for raising kids from a previous marriage.. she got it
@@rubina1868 So your friend took not doing house work as Mehr. I'm no mufti but I think Mehr has to do with material value.
And about your sister-in-law when your brother decided on marrying her then he has to accept her with her previous children. There is no need to ask monetary compensation as he needs to treat those children as his own. It becomes his duty as soon as he marries her.
So both these instances don't come under Mehr from my understanding.
Congratulations both of you, wishing you great futures.
I guess separating the sexes depends. At my sister's wedding, males and females were not separated. Everyone sat wherever they wanted.
We have Meher in Iran. families agree on different Meher but the grooms family dont pay anything to the bride's family before or after the wedding. The groom just agrees on an amount and if the couple gets divorced, then the girl can get the Meher to continue her life after the divorce without any economic problem. Women have the right to ask for it during her life even if she doesnt want to divorce but usually nobody asks to get the money.
WAIT! Now I wanna see the wedding !!!!
My marriage, the men/women were dancing together and that was a Muslim wedding. I think that a lot of things have changed now.
Just want to say you are doing such a great job 🤗 more love power and hugs to you lady !
this is so sweet! :)
those dresses are GORGEOUS!!!!!!
Awesome video. so thoughtful,thought provoking ,challenging beliefs you go girl. Well done and all the very best!Your fiancé is awesome too.
Can we PLEASE turn this into a series??
Okay Jessica Aunty and Hardeep uncle are super cool to have met via playing games 😍😍😍
Shreen looks Like Manpreet Toor little Bit
PLEASE MAKE A PART 2!!!!
These dresses are so much prettier than boring white ones!!! I'm not into girly clothes at all but they are absolutely BEAUTIFUL
omg i need more!!!
I would not call pakistani desi, they identify themselves with Arabs, mughals.
Agree 😂
Some body said
A Muslims nationality is Islam.
That’s not true! Unless u went to Pakistan and conducted a survey that statement is false. We don’t identify as Arab, we’re Asians specifically south Asians. The u.s census align with Uk consider us Asians. Only thing in common with Arabs is religion, culturally we are more in line with India, language, food etc similar to India. You don’t decide what to call us, you do not speak for us. Thank you. Urdu, Punjabi, Sindhi, etc languages of Pakistan are also spoken in India. Arabic is not spoken in Pakistan, only used for religious studies, same as in all Muslim countries regardless of geographic location. India has more Muslims than Pakistan, you’re saying they’re not desi as well because Pakistan and India were one country prior to 1947, so I don’t think your statement makes any sense nor do you posses knowledge about that part of the world to even make such comments.
@@kashikhan5361 however, Mughal empire is seen as great empire in Pakistan
Nice try, we’re desis
You can ask anything for your maher, in indonesia its very common to just ask for a praying equipment. But i also once read there's a bride who only ask the groom a glass of water (literally!) and the bride drink it on their wedding day because she really don't find the need to ask anything to the groom. Wish you can find a way to go both your parents and your believe in this!
That's a sweet story. Thanks for sharing, Farny. What are other wedding traditions in Indonesia?
"let us wait and see" my aunt was 50 when she got married so I guess you can wait a very looong time
It's actually not a cash gift all tho it can be... it's any gift u ask from the groom.. it's not a cash gift u give that u negotiate... that's called brown islam😅
Hi Muryum! Thanks for your insight. Do you have a first hand account of maher? What did you ask for?
@@Shreen You should ask your bae for a honeymoon
@@Shreen no I'm not married. So if I was to get married tho, I'd probably only resort to cash if I couldn't think of anything else😅 especially since I'm planning on making my own money, I don't see the purpose of cash😁
But awesome video tho! I can't wait to see the wedding!!
@@humaboutique2 Yes, Huma! We'll (hopefully) plan our honeymoon together. Where should we go?
@@andromeda8325 I hear you. Earning my own money is part of why I feel conflicted over it. Still have time to figure it out...
Mehar is gift 🎁 not only money
May god bless them both! The bride is so beautiful omg🥰
It cracked me up when Shreen asked her sister “why” and put on a serious face😂 would have guessed that she’s the older one even if she didn't explained it in the first place lol
"Before the aunties pick me a part" 😂😂
My mom would prolly faint if I brought home a white girl lmaoooooo but like at the same time.... It's lit!
My boyfriend family at first did not approve of me and now they love me. So, she will get ove it like the person above said.
You have second thoughts about dancing but your wanting to kiss? Haha
This video is more stereotypical than the stereotypes.
The Maher is the right of the girl and it is her choice to ask as much or as little as she want. There is no set amount, it should be according to the husband's ability to pay.
i need me a mom like theirs, pulling strings behind the scenes to get you a match you can't possibly turn down XD sitting down prospectives like a job interview, asking them for their romantic CVs and shit
such a well told story.. which is also very personalized!
Very nice video! Super entertaining and informative
I'm Polynesian (Hawaiian) and husband is Italian/Irish from NY, so yes HUGE difference even though we are "Americans"
Me too my husband is pakistani 🇵🇰 and i am Tunisian 🇹🇳 that was hard time to make all agree
Rania Neffati Pakistanis are skin color consciousness, they check if skin is white or not before marriage
G V That’s not true for all Pakistanis. Majority yes, but not all , same as in India which is also very skin color conscious but cannot generalize every single family as being close minded.
Waqar Khan That is true in India, but seeing the most of the abusive comments about only skin color, as if they are all the fairest people on earth, and as if white skin only means beauty and dark skin is ugly, they make comments
Loved the video. Don't you think your fiance sounds like Kevin Hart
And sounds like Phineas and ferb
Omg he does 😂😂😂😂
Thank you for sharing. Very informative.
To be fair all Indian weddings regardless of religion are typically the same they have a mehendi, a sangeet, and a wedding day. It’s the only last day where things differ.
amal zuhair actually South Indian weddings are different from North Indians, their is no de facto Indian culuture, it’s a mix even in Hindu marriages they differ between a Punjabi Hindu vs a Bengali or Marathi or Tamil and so on
3:16
How romantic
Perfect match xD
Mr Rishi The Cookie literally every other marriage is in shambles.
They can’t compete o WoW
@@sfdko3291 a couple that games together stays together i guess XD