going on my first date ever (after being single for 21 years)!!

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  • Опубликовано: 3 дек 2024

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  • @sarilove123
    @sarilove123 3 года назад +95

    totally relate girl, except I'm 26 and have my first real date ever tomorrow. So nervous, fingers crossed it goes well!

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +8

      oh wow!! keeping my fingers crossed as well :) and glad you could relate!

    • @daniellasalawu7349
      @daniellasalawu7349 2 года назад +11

      This is me tonight! I am 27.

    • @ZeeA0705
      @ZeeA0705 2 года назад +4

      Good luck I hope it went well for you

    • @acat9707
      @acat9707 2 года назад +5

      How did it go?

    • @strangerdanger2513
      @strangerdanger2513 4 месяца назад

      Some of yall are genuinely beautiful and I refuse to believe that yall never dated before UNLESS you had no interest yourself
      this one is to everyone in the comment section but feels more at place here

  • @TheNunakun
    @TheNunakun 3 года назад +73

    Advice: Just make yourself available by going out to gatherings (clubs, sports, restaurants, gym groups) and let it happen. As you meet more people, you'll find yourself be attracted to certain types of people, and in turn, some will be attracted to you.
    Once you hit adulthood, it's likely that you'll have relationship with a co-worker (statistically), but this can be a nightmare.
    Trying to force yourself into a relationship is not my suggested way, as it's too construed and artificial. Eventually, you'll probably end up with one life partner, so make sure they're the right person.

    • @TheNunakun
      @TheNunakun 3 года назад +8

      Oh, and most important rule (not tip, but rule):
      Make sure you are happy yourself before inviting someone else into your life. If you're unhappy with yourself, then the problem will never fix itself no matter who comes into your life. You must know yourself, your values, virtues before engaging with another person in a deep level.
      I believe this is the principle factor to my single state. I'm still trying to figure myself out haha. We all are. That's what makes life interesting, eh?

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +7

      this is actually really meaningful advice! thank you so much :)

  • @swathinachiarmanivannan8280
    @swathinachiarmanivannan8280 3 года назад +33

    this was so relatable LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL i love this naproud!!

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +2

      hahahaha thanks Swathi!!!

  • @ZeeA0705
    @ZeeA0705 2 года назад +19

    Girl I can relate to how you are feeling I am 28 years old and I have never had a boyfriend and never been on a date and I’m behining to think that I’m the only girl this has ever happened to point is that I never get guys I like mainly because I give up on them too soon as well… you got this just be yourself you look awesome and you have a very mature personality I’m sure he will love you to bits ❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰

  • @ailing8990
    @ailing8990 3 года назад +25

    hahaha, I love your energy 😂😂👏
    I feel you, I'm 23 and haven't had a bf yet~ but it's ok 😊 what will happen, will happen 😂 u r really cute and pretty, btw! 🔥😊

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +2

      Aww thank you so much! 🥺🥺💕💕

  • @patricelloyd639
    @patricelloyd639 2 года назад +7

    This is extremely relatable 😂

  • @heaaaaa5087
    @heaaaaa5087 2 года назад +18

    Just wanted to say, I have also never been on a date ever. I'm 19, and also hadn't done anything with a guy including holding hands until very recently. I understand a lot of the things you struggle with. I tend to find reasons to not date also, like tell myself I will date once I move out or finish my studies. Recently I was asked out by my crush and I found reasons to cancel on him, logically talking myself out of dating him even though I wanted to. My advice is maybe to try to figure out whether it is a fear for you, because sometimes these excuses we make are only covering for a bigger reason, like the fear of intimacy, social anxiety or even abandonment issues. If not, then I'd suggest you just live in accordance to your values and what you want whether that's studying. If you find it is just a bluff for the root cause, then I would suggest you try to ease yourself into dating or find ways to deal with that main issue. For example if you have bad social anxiety, sometimes it helps to plan the date yourself and make it as laid back as possible with the least amount of anxiety triggers like choosing a casual walk in the park over a dinner/lunch date. Also, just because you mentioned how you never go out that could be also why you have never dated. A lot of my experience with guys happened naturally, being in social settings and similarly because I am rarely in those settings I rarely interact with guys. Maybe try to attend more social events, this can allow you to naturally find a guy but not focus on that rather than dating sites and blind dates that is only about dating and not just general socialising. That was long, I hope it is helpful.

    • @naproud
      @naproud  2 года назад +1

      aw thank you so much for all of your advice! :)

  • @huh4963
    @huh4963 3 года назад +13

    This is so relatable though lol I’m about to go on a date for the first time ever. So nervous 😓

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +3

      omg good luck for your date! hahaha glad you found it relatable :)

  • @MoLewis57
    @MoLewis57 6 месяцев назад

    I didn't go on my first date until I was 21 either. 33 years later, and we're still together.

  • @eliseg7888
    @eliseg7888 3 года назад +4

    Just found your channel and I love it already! And you’re an army! YESSSS 😁💜

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +1

      aw thank you so much!!!! and yes hehe 💜💜💜

  • @heaaaaa5087
    @heaaaaa5087 2 года назад +2

    You're so cute, I'm happy I stumbled upon ur channel!

    • @naproud
      @naproud  2 года назад +1

      aw thank you so much 😳💖😆

  • @zirahazmi793
    @zirahazmi793 2 года назад +5

    23 years and counting…. of being single. So I can totally relate to the first two min of this video 🥲 never been on a date, not even like a not serious date lol. Ndjdjdkdi

  • @BoiNgocChannel
    @BoiNgocChannel 2 года назад +6

    I’m the opposite where I had so many ex boyfriends for the past 30 years and what’s strange for me is to not have a boyfriend. 😅 Now I’m practicing being single for more than 1 year, my goal is to be single for 2 years :))

  • @nayelimirandaf.
    @nayelimirandaf. 2 года назад +1

    I am not the most suitable person to give a love advice... But maybe this subject has more layers.
    As you said, something has to do with you being busy, but also maybe, just maybe, could also be because you want to do things right in all aspects of your life.
    Give yourself the opportunity to let things go in that area of your live and talk to persons that wouldn't be your first choice to talk to.

  • @jisoohugsmembers8006
    @jisoohugsmembers8006 3 года назад +3

    You seem so sweet and I enjoyyyeddd your video. I related a lot. Hope u have a wonderfull life. 💞

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +2

      awww thank you so much, this is so kind of you 💓 hope you have a wonderful life too!

  • @hony1717
    @hony1717 Год назад +1

    omg the fish is on point

  • @jorb3884
    @jorb3884 Год назад +2

    STOP THIS IS ME RN

  • @jaiden_knudson7898
    @jaiden_knudson7898 2 года назад +2

    I'm almost 20 years old and I've never dated or kissed or hugged anyone

  • @aps194
    @aps194 3 года назад +6

    My friend Phupha is single

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +1

      OMG

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +1

      what is this commenttttttttttttt

    • @poomna8063
      @poomna8063 3 года назад

      true

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +1

      @@poomna8063 I thought he has many แฟน from his รายการท่องเที่ยว :)

  • @jenjemtentremrhs1897
    @jenjemtentremrhs1897 3 года назад +2

    Nice sharing

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +1

      thank you!

  • @MrRyu719
    @MrRyu719 3 года назад +5

    Just be yourself. That’s legit all the advice I have 😂

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +3

      it's good advice though :)

  • @totovich8740
    @totovich8740 3 года назад +1

    I Love The Little House 🏡🏡🏡

  • @CalvDaMusic
    @CalvDaMusic 3 года назад +2

    weird cause’ im also 21 and single. youtube finally exposed me oh god help lol

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +1

      the algorithm knows 😏

  • @Anne-fg1ld
    @Anne-fg1ld 2 года назад +2

    Same exact situation here

  • @sarashams9782
    @sarashams9782 3 года назад +34

    I feel like you keep saying '21 years of being single' but I hope you understand that the first 17 years probably don't even count 😂 but like how is everyone expected to have had a relationship by 21 even???? im literally the same as you and an awkward mess lol. like there are no prospects in my future rn either so dont feel to bad 😂

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +1

      hahahahahahaha that's very true about the first 17 years 😂😂

    • @adritamitra_
      @adritamitra_ 3 года назад +2

      Same here 🤣 I'm 19 and I find dating so awkward 🤣

  • @TheNunakun
    @TheNunakun 3 года назад +1

    I've outlasted you by a whole decade haha. Basically, I've been working (excuse) and not prepared yet.

  • @mtape1234
    @mtape1234 2 года назад

    I want to say something but I'll keep it to myself since nobody understands.

  • @attapun_an
    @attapun_an 3 года назад +5

    (In terms of finding someone advice) Open up about about your physical insecuties to a guy friend.
    In his words "that's fine, I'd totally [redacted] you"
    Totally not what I was going for but oh well.

    • @attapun_an
      @attapun_an 3 года назад +2

      Just to clairify nothing happened, so I'll be joining you in the 21 and never dated club too 🤣

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад +2

      hahaha I think there's actually a lot of us 🙃

  • @sapphiiee
    @sapphiiee 2 года назад +1

    24 and went on my first ever date a few weeks after my birthday, and it was rough 😂 lots of awkwardness from my side but after a few months and lots more dates, I'm a little bit more confident and know what I like, dislike, redflags etc.
    But all this to say I relate so much from this video, I have little to no social interactions and I kinda shut myself out of the world and the whole dating scene haha. Just kind of mentally drained from the experience 😂❤

  • @totovich8740
    @totovich8740 3 года назад +1

    💕💕💕💕💕💕💋💋💋

  • @ishakshamsudin5640
    @ishakshamsudin5640 3 года назад +1

    Happy birthday na na.You are not in a paradox but just that you don't really make a 💯🧡 effort and focused on your personal life as against your studies and now your career.This lifestyle and ambition if prolonged can be damaging in the long run.

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад

      honestly, I do agree with you :) thanks for the birthday wishes + comment!

  • @hony1717
    @hony1717 Год назад +2

    you are quiet cute just get a dating app and go on a couple free dates with dudes
    - advice from a guy, greetings from Germany

  • @bryantanwz
    @bryantanwz 3 года назад +1

    😂😂

    • @bryantanwz
      @bryantanwz 3 года назад +1

      happy birthday!

    • @naproud
      @naproud  3 года назад

      @@bryantanwz thank you!