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Should You Stop Having Sex? Why Many Are Embracing Celibacy. A Doctor Explains
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- Опубликовано: 15 авг 2024
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I saw the word celibate and I immediately clicked. I became celibate out of desperation. During my divorce, everyone failed me, even my own family. So, I decided to turn to Jesus. I became celibate to give my entire life and body to Jesus. Little did I know that there were many perks in this way of life:
1. Celibacy gives me peace of mind- I don't have to worry about contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
2. Celibacy gives me clarity. There are so many things you have to deal with in relationships which can cloud one's mind- cheating, lying, deceit and domestic violence.
3. Celibacy has kept me focused on my career. I have gotten two degrees on this journey (nursing/ psychology ) and I am now working on my third degree while starting my small business. I am living my best life and intend to stay this way until God decides another route for me to take. I wish I had done this earlier. JOIN THE MOVEMENT!!!❤❤❤💃💃💃💃💃🎉🎉🌹🌹🌹🌹🎶🎶Celi, Celi, Celibate 🎶🎶. I'm celebrating 7 years of success and happiness 💃💃💃
👏🏽👑🙏🏾 Amen
Blessings to you and Many of us that's on this Journey You said a mouthful yess God Start opening your eyes up to a lot of things when your in this place of celibacy. For one you Learn TO LOVE YOUR SELF AND YOUR SELF WORTH. So Blessings to each and Every one who's on This Journey of Self Love 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🤍
I love celibacy! I feel at total peace! No worries! No headaches!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙂❤️
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Women say they hate men and dating, but when they are alone in bed, they secretly play with themselves
@@davidbaker6019 LOL...nothing like the feel of a cucumber!!!
@@LWRCin that case, cucumbers should be outlawed. Bananas too
Sad, you're just like everyone else
Celibate for 26 months because of STIs and the fact that everyone is having unprotected sex like crazy and it’s disturbing.
Yes!!
I have been celibate since I was 40. I am now 66. I don't miss it at all. In fact, it's a relief to be sexually inactive.
many feel the same way!
Congratulations on your success. I have been celibate for 7 Wonderful and Rewarding Years.
Good to know I’m not alone on this what a blessing
@@christinerose4839 You're not alone. There are a lot of us out here.
Congrats on your journey ma’am!🤩 I’ve been celibate for 3+ years since 2020 and feel so free and happy. I’m going to stay that way for life if God allows. I’m not missing out on anything.🙌🏿🎉✨👏🏿🎊
I understand why most women do it. I just want the right woman to enjoy intimacy.
Understood
An accident had made me celibate and one never felt more beautiful❤ NOt sure if it is why I'm feeling this way but I LOVE IT ❤
I’m glad it’s working for you!
I initially became celibate by circumstance (ppl don't approach much but I'm really nice). Eventually, I settled into it more spiritually and psychologically. And this continues to evolve. For now I prefer it. I'm waiting for God to deliver my hubby at this point. I'm nearing 50 but looking and feeling so young. I still get carded. Maybe I'm aging backwards because no spouse is stressing me out? The one downside is that I miss the relationship stuff. Although, on the upside of celibacy there is so much to discover - like none of his germs! Joking aside it fits my life. But of course I want love just with the right person. And I trust God more than myself to sort that out😇🥰.
Thank you for sharing. I'm nearing forty. I'm unmarried and have been single for a long time. Guess what! I too feel all young. Much less drama in life.
no sex = no attachments=(no children)= less stress
Stress is a killer
there’s also birth control like condoms ?
@@chinmeysway- Condoms can break, not 100%. Can be a good barrier method for STD prevention.
The mental clarity you have while being celibate is on another level. Knowing that your body is free of STDs and STIs is a peace of mind on another level. But also not laying down with any trash is good because condoms don't protect you from "Spiritually Transmitted Demons".
I found this video and wanted to comment. I am a 37 year old man and have been celibate for about 14 years. For me it's just something that I don't miss and have no real desire to do again. I've decided I don't want kids and it's a dangerous world out there with STIs or accidental pregnancy so it's easier to just not have sex.
Foolish man,look for someone to marry 😂
I have celibate for more than two years but it’s because my wife is away. Or am away from my wife. But, celibacy is not a bad thing religious or not. It helps you to recharge.
Agreed!
I'm 43, divorced, and I became celibate in 2018. I didn't neccisarily start out with that intention, but I just found so much peace & my relationship with God has never been stronger than Now. Sometimes I miss Romance , but I kind of forgot about it until I watch a romantic movie oR Show. But I don't want to die alone
😂😂 lol your last sentence😂😂not dying alone… i mean you chose living alone, why worry dying the same way you have chosen.
Born alone die alone
@@jennab7166 😂😂👍
Don’t worry about dying your still young and we never really know how we go the fact you have God in your life is the best thing you could do.
Same thoughts here maggie
When you are a demisexual, it’s hard to survive in a world where relationships are not desired. It’s hard for a demisexual to survive in a hyper-sexual society.
I've been celibate since for a long time. After my divorce in 2012 it was low self-esteem. I've had relationships maybe a year after. It didn't do anything for me. It's scary out here meeting people. I just remain to be celibate until the right person peeks my interest.
I miss the physicality and romance of it, but for the past 12 years, my mental and spiritual well being has been great. When asked, I just tell people I'm good the way things are, and if someone comes along, they have to get tested. I don't know why, when folks hit 50, they think they are magically immune to STDs (just 'cause Covid came to town, doesn't mean herpes/HIV went on vacation).
I know people personally who were not told until after the fact. Sheesh. Would I love to spend my good years enjoying a monogamous friendship/relationship? Absolutely. But in the meantime, between time... life is really good. Thank you Doc.🙏🏽
I love your info. I’m celibate but only because I haven’t met anyone which I find very frustrating.
I don't feel sexual attraction to others and I'm not interested in having sex at all, so I'm probably gonna be celibate for life, and it doesn't bother me, but it seems to bother other people for some reason (not romantic partners).
I think asexuality needs to be talked about more. Some people choose not to have sex. Ever or for a while. But some people don't want sex, ever. Or they have very little interest. They might even have sex - for the enjoyment of their partner for example (in a loving, consensual relationship of course).
There are many ways to be and it's so good of you to spread the word that all of this is okay. If you feel it isn't, you can of course try see if you can receive help.
But if people are okay with the way they are, the society should stop misrepresenting and invalidating their experience. Trying to change them or fix them.
Thank you Doctor Jen Caudle for this amazing, honest, intimate and most important informative topic that most times no one wants to talk about. You just freed a lot of folks to not feel bad about the choices they make in being celibate. Have a great week.
Wow, thank you!
I have been voluntary celibate for a bit over 7 years... just since my last child was born.... because I'm not doing that again. I'm done having kids,
And, my doctor wouldn't give me a tubal ligation... which was bullshịt!
But, I've finally found a doctor who will, so my dry spell might be over soon!!!!
Dr. Jen, you cover more subjects that no one else will cover You r amazing. Thank
You so much. Jana - Texas
Wow, thank you!
I've been Celibate for about 6 months now and find sex confusing and tramatic from Childhood Trama alot of anxiety and fear and nervousness because of childhood rape. I don't masturbate anymore or have sex because it's alot of Disease's out in the world and I don't want to take a risk on catching anything.I want to get married and spend the rest of my life with Wife Amen!!!
Ok I understand!
Thank you for Understanding!!!
I have been celibate since 2012 and very happy with that decision.
🙌🏾🙌🏾
Yes, indeed dont wanna play the game right now
Many folks feel this way!
I am Male. I am now 60 years old and became celibate 15 years ago after losing my libido. Why I have no idea, I have had many tests from my GP, and they cannot tell me why, I would love not to be celibate, but I have no choice as I have no interest whatsoever.
I truly have no desire for sex anymore. I just don’t want to be that way anymore. Going through menopause has really changed my desire to be sexual active even with my husband
Oh wow, really? Does that have a negative impact on your marriage and if so, how do y'all handle that? Do you want him to seek satisfaction elsewhere?
@@ReigningWombanhoney for me it is okay… I’ve asked him about it but he doesn’t complain to me. If he chooses to he know I just don’t care anymore.
@@PriscillaJackson-vv8qf that's really sad, I pray for you that God will restore your sexual feelings back for your husband 🙏🏾
I understand
@@Wanda402 don’t you think I’ve prayed as well, and I have faith that Gos will restore I’m His time, so until that I will work on me and my symptoms while I pray and be obedient to God and my body
I have been celibate for almost six months now and now it's like I feel no pressure from these crazy men and their crazy sexual tastes that I don't want to deal with. I use my toys instead! They don't cheat, lie or have STD's. I have been sexually abused by several men throughout my life. I hate blow jobs and I want nothing to do with that. It doesn't add to my life, and I don't miss it anymore! If and when I do, I want him to love me back! I don't want a hookup anymore and not interested in that anymore.
@@spookykornn Thank you. Some people think you’re crazy if you go this route in your life. It’s better than giving that part of yourself who doesn’t even deserve you, no stds to worry about, no getting knocked up by some loser either. I recently checked the stats of stds in Ohio, that’s where I’m from and it’s very high right now. Everyone seems to forget about aids and hiv still being a big threat too. People lie, lie about that when it comes to that too.
Great advice, thank you and God bless you for sharing!!! 🙏❤
You are so welcome
Celibate for 3 years. It first started because I was withdrawing from social activities due to my mental health at the time. Then it turned into me just being focused on my career. But now I’m realizing that it may just be the safest thing to do with the rise in STI/HIV cases in the U.S. I never thought syphilis would be a re-emerging concern in my generation.
I understand
12 years strong 💪 now.
All good!
Im Borderline asexual honestly... im a rap3 survivor and im not ready/wiling to do it just w just anyone...Also, I've never experienced O with a man during intercource so i don't have desire to it..
I have been body shamed by the person I truly loved . Never going there again .
Omg that’s horrible I’m so so sorry. You dont deserve this
I had a 9 month no sex relationship with my husband he's dead now but our relationship and marriage was healthy and happy
Well Doc you r so right toxic relationship make men go celibate i broke up about 6 month ago, over a 5 year period long story but so afraid too go ahead in a other
I totally understand- it’s happened to many of us. Hang in there you got this
I thought celibacy and abstinence was 2 different things, I personally am practicing abstinence bcuz I am a Jesus follower and I don't believe in premarital sex.
Goodest girl here! 👍
They are!
Ok!
❤❤❤ Good day to you and to yours Dr.Jen,i have been celibate for decades now.i am looking and waiting for the right woman, anybody just won't do;i am a preacher and you have said it right 👍 I've been there and have done that.i a woman who understands me and i understand her! communication is very important to me.thanks i appreciate you, may my God Almighty bless you and yours i pray 🙏 shalom ❤️❤️❤️
Wonderful!
Yes for me it is the best way until you are married to your special someone and yes I do have urges and yes I pray to God and my urges to go away You should save yourself without perfect man The one you're planning on marrying but if you don't it's okay
Dr Cuadle I love this video! Reason why? It confirms my personal decision to wait for the Right time in that Special Situation to live that Perfect Moment! Poetry in motion written for this video!
Yay! Love this!
Celibacy, I think, has an objective definition. It can't and shouldn't mean different things for different people. If someone is single and not having sex, but watching porn and pleasuring themselves, is that celibacy?
It does mean different things to different people. The same as virginity. Most virgins have pleasured themselves and still consider themselves virgins. I believe that being celibate and being a virgin means no sexual intercourse with other people.
@@violet7752 Well....that form of celibacy is easier then.
Yes, it's good to celebrate celibate. It's best to wait until you are married.
Lol wait till u marry
@BlackTikTokandCompany Yes, wait until you are married. That's the godly way to live your life. But if you don't believe in God. Just do whatever you want to do, and you'll reap what you sow rather you believe in God or not.
@mr.robinson9817
Well, good luck to you when you find out you've been praying to the wrong one your whole life and never being laid either....
I hope you're at least going to the heaven with the 70 virgins.
Lmfao
I have been celibate for the majority of my life, due to circumstances beyond my control. Not against sex, but I need to be in a committed relationship. Until then, I'm fine as is. Thanks for all the useful information!
I totally understand and glad this was helpful!
I became a widow in early 2019 and have been celibate since then. That won't change unless I remarry. At this point I'm still wearing my wedding ring and participating in grief therapy. I plan to remain celibate unless I eventually remarry. I believe sex should only be within marriage.
Been more or unintentionally celibate since 2002 now. As a man, celibacy is the natural state, imo, because getting women takes effort. If I make no effort, I get no women. There have been a few rather obvious signs from women on occasion, but probably a lot more I never noticed. In the obvious cases, situations have all been too complicated to go for it, so that's the way it is. I think a woman would have to be extremely blatant these days for me.
I do find it easier and more relaxing to basically ignore whatever sex signals women might be trying to rekay.
I totally understand
Human sexual behavior can be an enormously interesting topic for discussion. I'll have to research the various definitions of the word "CELIBACY" before I can comment in an intelligent, and meaningful way in regards to your video. I thought that I knew what it meant, but maybe I missed some definitions. 😒 🤔 😒 🤔????
Thank you for sharing your videos, Dr Jen Caudle. You talk about the stuff nobody else talks about. 😊❤
Glad you like them!
Thank you!
Dr. Jen thank you for the information.
You have very good video and very good explained.
Thank you
I totally agree with this! So glad you’re talking about this!
🙏🏾
Dr. Jen Caudle I have been celibate for about 10 years now and I don’t feel ashamed about it at all. Even though my Nephew is giving me crap about it I feel a sense of relief not having to please some woman’s odd sexual fetish or desire that’s just totally weird. Although I would love to be remarried I just have a Real Bad Problem Trusting Women. Who knows one day I just might meet Mrs. RIGHT!! Thanks again for All your informative Videos. I used to follow you on Facebook. Thanks again Dr. Jen Caudle. Enjoy the rest of your day.
Thanks so much for your comment! I so appreciate you!! And so glad you’re here!
People, Patients Need To Stop Lying Point Blank. Accepting Reality It The First Step To True Happiness n Recovery
Hmm
Interesting question
I think so too
If you're not in the right situation then yes but as a goal it's up to the person. Sex is not bad but using it as casual entertainment is the problem. Look at our society. The number of abortions, the foster care system, the number of neglected children because a night of fun. Just my thoughts.
Understood!
Just use several kinds of protection at the same time and it’s fine to use as entertainment actually.
You would think that once you have matured and are older you don’t have to worry about many of these issues, but the truth is you do. I can only speak from a female heterosexual person, but there are way to many men 40+ years old that are still taking many risks not practising safe sex, lying about their health status and are not looking for a serious long term relationship and being dishonest about it; it’s sad. As they say why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free. I’m not shaming people that chose to have open relationships, be free and open with their life, but ppl that don’t practise these believes aren’t looking for a one night stand or short term relationship or non monogamous relationship so they practice celibacy. The choice is yours however I know way too many ppl in this age group that are constantly disappointed and depressed because relationships never end as expected or wanted.
What a safe space ❤
YESSSS!
Well nowadays it’s so much going on you can’t trust no one I am 4 years into my journey and it gives me peace. Because I am not as trusting as I once was….nowadays it’s almost like putting your life at risk.
I just realized that Celibacy is what I NEEDED in my life right now. Also since I have not been sexually intimate with anyone for over a year now, (by choice) it has kinda come naturally . I am at peace and my focus has shifted to where it needs to be. Healing spiritually, physically and emotionally.... oh and when the right person comes along... I will be in AWESOME shape! 😄
🙌🏾🙌🏾
Amen ❤
healing from narcissistic abuse im 6 yrs celibate and i could not be happier im over the fairytale that men have hearts marry at your own risk
Bless you
What happens to the vagina if you don't have sex for a long time is a man's way of pressuring you into having sex
It might be for some
I'm 39. I been waiting to have sex but i never been good with talking to woman because of my shyness i was unable to have any relationship.
Well i was like U bro so let me help U JUST TALK YOUR MIND CAREFULLY U BE OK
Just say hi and smile, then talk...... it can be difficult so just practice talking . They gonna reject you and insult you it can be terrifying sometimes its worth it alot of times it's not.
For som people on the autistic spectrum become being cellibate is natural. As relationships are unpredictive and therefore choose to concentrate on more intelectual persuts. If you choose to be cellibate you get a lot of energy left over which gets pentup over time. There for it is important to find alternative ways to dirtect to other things like interlectual persurtes. In my case it is developing interlectually through academic studies. Concentration incresses in very deep thought. People say if you are celibate you are selfish. I say the opposite you can through you interlect contribut to the acumaltion of knowlege for the grater good. As I decide to be celibate from an early age I got most of my sex education when I started medical school. The decision was based on I never saw my parents happy when to gether. Also I find that emotions associsted with sex can switch very quickly form love to hate on the side of both parties. Also what little experiance I gave had is both painfull and energy daining to the extent that I am unable to funtion for up to days. Forexample being very unsteady standing up and feeling like to faint. Also you feel like sleeping for days. The cost of love and sex out ways the benifits. Forgot to mention I am a male. By the way this is just informational on how I see it and manage it.
We don't need sunscreen, we need sun ☀ lol 😂
My name is Ali who believes that sheeping around is not a good idea because of sexual diseases, HIV and so on. I don't want to risk catching anything and also waiting for the one, which I'll be sexually active
🙏
Thank you ❤
You’re welcome
My exact feelings. I was celibate three times in my life and Ì was at total peace sex is A headache.
I hear ya!
Dr. Jen do you know of a sunscreen for black people?
I use neutrogena!
AWESOME VIDEO!!!
Glad you think so!
Well I’m celibate because I’m single I recently became a Christian and got baptized so I’ve been celibate because I don’t want to have sex until I find a good Godly man to share my life with. Also it’s just to many diseases out there and I rather be with someone who will be serious in a relationship and try and take it as a sacred gift of us being faithful to each other.
Congrats on being baptized!
@@DrJenCaudle Than you it’s a new chapter in my life. I’m happy about it.
I do it because after my last kid and a little stomach i cant get rid of dont want nobody to see that i dont want to see that lol and more peace dont want to be bothered no drama no stress. Nobody trying to say where you been when your coming back or you cant wear that or saying your with someone your not dont want to hear nothing .
As an autistic asexual person, having a regular sex life is a mystery to me. How do you do it?😂 How, where do you find the opportunity? It’s so strange when it’s assumed that everyone has a regular sex life like it’s obvious that everyone has opportunity!
i understand and thank you so much for sharing your perspective. i'm sure that many can relate to your feelings and experiences
I love the comment that, this is your choice ❤
Always!
My doctor said it’s not healthy but I own my body
Oh
Past generations used to have sex more often than todays generation back then everyone did it before marriage and underage as teens. Todays generation does not do it and is more open minded about it that’s why they are celibate.
You think?
It’s true
Theyre Celibate Until The Next Attractive Person Comes Along
Maybe sex it's just based on a fear because kids now are priceless if you trying to start a family
🙏
@@DrJenCaudle 😂😂😘
Never been happier!!!
Yay!
It's because of my commitment to God until I get married hopefully with U
😁
What's the difference between celibacy and abstinence?
Great topic.
Thank you!
It has been almost six years and celibacy has been so awesome. I don't miss the bandits nor their dirtiness .❤ 1:30
Sorry. Backed up. Is not down.
I need to
Ok
mostly its because we dont want to catch anything.... if there were no stds or risk of unwanted pregnancy things would be alot different
i dunno, it’s really unclear that sex should have that much power over you emotionally / physiologically. it’s just sex. our species connects through sex and relationships thrive when there’s sex. the new movement of sexlessness w young ppl male is very unhealthy i feel like; it’s bc young boys are stuck in chat rooms w other boys and don’t meet ppl and are not dating. that’s deeper than an easy no sex policy. those ppl are angry at women and suicidal - they need real help.
Oh wow
I havent had sex in 17 years and im scared cause i was raped and i got herpes so how can I have sex how do you tell someone
Can being celibate for more than 5 years give you vaginal atrophy and if so, should you use dilators to avoid this from happening?! 🤔🤦♀️
social taboo
Yup
That cell phone is the new DNA. This is a wicked world now. 2nd Timothy: 3-5 STD free and want to stay that way. You would be shocked what you find.
??
I stimutate my self
My husband in another so I can't have sex
I don’t understand
5 times a day? Why never again 😂
I guess if it's your job or you are some millionaire who has nothing else to do.
Weakness
??
😀😀
I can see a trend in the comments here....all the homegirls who either had no choice or got divorced and then had no choice as this is their only option! That's fine that they feel good about it considering they really don't have any say so in the matter and resigned to saying how great it is! All the high caliber men are all taken and you can bet the young women they're with are not celibate!!!
So here is a doc saying no sex is great and yet, for men, it is absolutely necessary to keep the sperm factory going and having the old production move out while the factory cranks out a fresh batch continuously!!!
So for you homegirls who want to play this silly game, keep at it and you'll be like doc here at 40 and single and you won't have to worry about it for the rest of your life!!
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Yes, it's good to celebrate celibate. It's best to wait until you are married.
Yes, it's good to celebrate celibate. It's best to wait until you are married.
Yes, it's good to celebrate celibate. It's best to wait until you are married.
Yes, it's good to celebrate celibate. It's best to wait until you are married.
Yes, it's good to celebrate celibate. It's best to wait until you are married.
Yes, it's good to celebrate celibate. It's best to wait until you are married.
Yes, it's good to celebrate celibate. It's best to wait until you are married.