It's usually those individuals who are insecure and secretly jealous of us who'd assume we're too intimidating or intense for them, or those who are actually concealing some bad intentions
An intense stare can be a little off putting to people. In a conversation I find that I have to break eye contact so I don't make others uncomfortable. However, I dont want to come off as a anxious or disinterested. Where's the middle ground here?
As an intense person myself, I feel like everything has been a catch-22 for me ... just like you say above. I just can't "win". What I'm really trying to do is NOT upset people for no reason. I do not enjoy working through these double-standards - I fail every time. I would much rather have been a wall-flower.
When speaking it’s ok to break eye contact more often. When listening, try to maintain eye-contact 70% of the time. If you don’t wanna look like you’re anxious, when you break eye contact, try to look like you’re thinking about what they said.
@makingchips Can you please tell me what document you were reading from? The description of an "intense" person you (or he; the host) was reading hit nearly all the nails on the head for me, and I'd like to look more into this topic! Thank you!
Yeah, I’m like this. I stare and often I almost gaze into their eyes. But then I break it off if I notice the other is too uncomfortable. I can feel when they can handle my eye contact and when they can’t anymore. So, when they can’t, I just don’t look at their eyes or glance at their eyes to acknowledge them that I’m listening then look away again.
It's usually those individuals who are insecure and secretly jealous of us who'd assume we're too intimidating or intense for them, or those who are actually concealing some bad intentions
An intense stare can be a little off putting to people. In a conversation I find that I have to break eye contact so I don't make others uncomfortable. However, I dont want to come off as a anxious or disinterested. Where's the middle ground here?
There's no middle ground if they feel uncomfortable thats their problem your not doing anything wrong
As an intense person myself, I feel like everything has been a catch-22 for me ... just like you say above. I just can't "win". What I'm really trying to do is NOT upset people for no reason. I do not enjoy working through these double-standards - I fail every time. I would much rather have been a wall-flower.
When speaking it’s ok to break eye contact more often. When listening, try to maintain eye-contact 70% of the time. If you don’t wanna look like you’re anxious, when you break eye contact, try to look like you’re thinking about what they said.
My stoic demeanor scares away immature people. I can't change that about myself. It's practically a superpower.
@makingchips Can you please tell me what document you were reading from? The description of an "intense" person you (or he; the host) was reading hit nearly all the nails on the head for me, and I'd like to look more into this topic! Thank you!
Yeah, I’m like this. I stare and often I almost gaze into their eyes. But then I break it off if I notice the other is too uncomfortable. I can feel when they can handle my eye contact and when they can’t anymore. So, when they can’t, I just don’t look at their eyes or glance at their eyes to acknowledge them that I’m listening then look away again.
Yes, intensity puts people off but makes for a good leader.
Some interesting thoughts, thank you for sharing
Yes yes. They also bring a sense of oneness with what they do and the intent on why they're doing thgs. Its aways made known.
When you don’t blink enough it’s signs of a psychopath