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Thank you 🙏 I’ve been hating myself all my life, since I can remember. I know I need to work on it but even listening about trying to love myself triggers that inner hater that says “yeah? But not you”. It’s so damaging. On an intellectual level I know, recognise and understand all what you teach, but my heart abs soul are poisoned. I’m determined to change it, but a question haunts me: how can I love myself if I don’t have any of that in me? And then I realise I am the creator of my own destiny and only I can find it, being compassionate, bit by bit, day by day. It’s a huge inner work. For anyone reading it, if you see that pattern in yourself, I see you and I totally understand how it feels. But just a mere fact that we are here means that this love wants to come out and express itself in our lives. It’s there, we are just not seeing it clearly and not exercising our “love muscle” for what it is.
@@DocSnipes u could have said something more real. Guess u don't really care about her or don't want to give "free advice" Maybe you really think some people deserve to loathe themselves.
I think the responses are automatically generated. Its a pity because Kazique's comment was deeply moving and brave. Yes, if we re here its because we re trying, well spotted!
Thank you Dr. Snipes for the work you do on your videos. I totally relate to self hatred. My self hatred started in childhood. I find that I still hate myself and find it hard to forgive myself whenever I'm impatient and irritated by others. Guilt takes a big role in my self hatred. I have been through a DBT skills course where I learned the loving kindness exercise. When I practice this, I find that self love slowly begins. Positive self talk is very helpful to build self love.
I absolutely love your internal question "what is the function of this behaviour". Its helped me be a lot more of a self aware BPD sufferer which is harder, but its important to progress.
My childhood and health issues have led to a lot of self hatred. It's an uphill battle, but I have reached a point where if I'm not supposed to exist then I would be taken out without having to do it myself.
It seems we were given setbacks in order for us to learn and grow. Some people even believe we somehow chose our destiny before we were born, chose our parents etc. That sounds completely mad but it somehow resonated with me and i believe it 'explains everything'. Because on this journey of life its the ones with the most setbacks who win. The pain and learning is why we re here!
Knowledge is power and understanding is wisdom. This is an educational post. Its educational tools will help save lives both literally and figuratively. Thank you for sharing, thank you for Being, You are Enough.
Thank you! Thanks for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? You can find other videos on improving self esteem at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=selfesteem
I consider myself the ugliest human alive. I start therapy on Wednesday. My entire goal is to make me palatable to those around me. I want zombie drugs to keep me shut up.
I ate a shroom chocolate bar and realized I was being a dick to everyone that ever loved me. Now I'm just haunted by memories of mistakes and wish I could kick my own ass at least two times a day.
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Have listened to so many of your presentations. The last one just now was the one about saboteurs...I saw my ex and myself. Toxic guilt which unfortunately is killing me inside.
This is all such positive advice. Not very helpful for the people it's supposed to be geared towards, but for normal levels of discontent and a healthy base level of self esteem it would be useful.
I am sorry that you are struggling with self-hatred and I appreciate you watching the video.Please feel free to use my AI to learn more about self hatred, how to best address it and to search for videos in the video library: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
What if you don’t know how others perceive you? Like, I have no idea why others are my friends. I feel like people only stay around cuz we known each other for so long. I truly don’t believe they actually care or think nice things.
I appreciate you watching. What are the FACTS for your beliefs? Some videos that might help can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=distortions
Dilly Dilly, Doc Snipes and all! In the 12 × 12 there is a passage and it states ...the Psalmist said. The psalmist as well stated as I shouted out in meetings when we closed with a prayer, once finished I along with the two at my side and the rest of the room would raise our hands and i would shout out, ♡I am some-body. 23 years later I read in the book of Psalms; psalm 139:14, for I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are Your works and that my soul knows very well. Don't quit 5 minutes before the miracle happens.
CBT therapy is too superficial for entrenched self-hate and self-rejection. Also, these issues are very debilitating to the ego, and CBT only works well with a functioning ego and competent executive part of the psyche. If not, every CBT intervention will be used as another weapon to turn against one's self. This lecture only is for those w fairly well functioning and intact egos. Please reconsider keeping this posted.
IF YOURE STRUGGLING WITH SELF HATRED: skip this video. This is 20 minutes of your life you’ll never get back. She’s beyond delusional - because we know why this is happening. The world itself has told us this. But she’s making it as if it’s just a bad thought we have. While ignoring the fact that the world has told us repeatedly that we are a waste of life. Lying to yourself is just as bad as hating yourself.
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I have learned to cope with my self hatred to some degree, it is the distain from others that I cannot deal with so well.
I’m sorry x I always hate myself after interactions with others,
Thank you 🙏 I’ve been hating myself all my life, since I can remember. I know I need to work on it but even listening about trying to love myself triggers that inner hater that says “yeah? But not you”. It’s so damaging. On an intellectual level I know, recognise and understand all what you teach, but my heart abs soul are poisoned. I’m determined to change it, but a question haunts me: how can I love myself if I don’t have any of that in me? And then I realise I am the creator of my own destiny and only I can find it, being compassionate, bit by bit, day by day. It’s a huge inner work. For anyone reading it, if you see that pattern in yourself, I see you and I totally understand how it feels. But just a mere fact that we are here means that this love wants to come out and express itself in our lives. It’s there, we are just not seeing it clearly and not exercising our “love muscle” for what it is.
Thanks for watching.
@@DocSnipes u could have said something more real. Guess u don't really care about her or don't want to give "free advice" Maybe you really think some people deserve to loathe themselves.
I think the responses are automatically generated. Its a pity because Kazique's comment was deeply moving and brave. Yes, if we re here its because we re trying, well spotted!
Thank you Dr. Snipes for the work you do on your videos. I totally relate to self hatred. My self hatred started in childhood. I find that I still hate myself and find it hard to forgive myself whenever I'm impatient and irritated by others. Guilt takes a big role in my self hatred. I have been through a DBT skills course where I learned the loving kindness exercise. When I practice this, I find that self love slowly begins. Positive self talk is very helpful to build self love.
I am sorry you struggle with self hatred and I appreciate you watching. What is your favorite tip from the video?
I absolutely love your internal question "what is the function of this behaviour". Its helped me be a lot more of a self aware BPD sufferer which is harder, but its important to progress.
Its to punish ourselves cause our parents aren't doing it anymore and maybe we think they should..lol
Every step forward is a good step. I am sorry it took so long to respond to your comment.
Perfect! This is what I needed to hear. Your lectures are so informative. So appreciative of all your hard work.
You are so welcome!
My childhood and health issues have led to a lot of self hatred. It's an uphill battle, but I have reached a point where if I'm not supposed to exist then I would be taken out without having to do it myself.
It seems we were given setbacks in order for us to learn and grow. Some people even believe we somehow chose our destiny before we were born, chose our parents etc. That sounds completely mad but it somehow resonated with me and i believe it 'explains everything'. Because on this journey of life its the ones with the most setbacks who win. The pain and learning is why we re here!
Knowledge is power and understanding is wisdom. This is an educational post. Its educational tools will help save lives both literally and figuratively. Thank you for sharing, thank you for Being, You are Enough.
So welcome. I appreciate you watching
Best mental related phd lecturer on youtube
Thank you! Thanks for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? You can find other videos on improving self esteem at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=selfesteem
You're Amazing 🙏🙏
I feel in certain cases that maybe someone else, someone better should have been born right in my place.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Me too.,no matter what I do it's not good enough to be loved for ME
I like that she’s real and doesn’t beat around the bush.
I love this woman’s voice.
Thank you
Omg thank you… finally, a solutions-based self-hate combative video
I consider myself the ugliest human alive. I start therapy on Wednesday. My entire goal is to make me palatable to those around me. I want zombie drugs to keep me shut up.
I am sorry you consider yourself that and I am grateful for you watching the video and for opening up. Congratulations on starting therapy
I ate a shroom chocolate bar and realized I was being a dick to everyone that ever loved me. Now I'm just haunted by memories of mistakes and wish I could kick my own ass at least two times a day.
Thanks for watching.
You reminded me I’m not alone
Great content! Lot’s of good topics I need to address within myself. So o glad I found this channel.
Awesome! Thank you!
This video was really helpful to me. Thankyou.
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What if you don't have a child or a best friend?
Those were just examples - think of someone else that you care about very much and substitute that person when she says “child or best friend”
Then you are just like me.😅
Have listened to so many of your presentations. The last one just now was the one about saboteurs...I saw my ex and myself. Toxic guilt which unfortunately is killing me inside.
I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=guilt
This is all such positive advice. Not very helpful for the people it's supposed to be geared towards, but for normal levels of discontent and a healthy base level of self esteem it would be useful.
Thanks for watching.
How do I cope with self issues that are actually true? Like my ugliness?
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'Be aware of things that cause your self hatred to flare' lol breathing
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Another awesome video. Thank you 🙏🏽
You are so welcome. Thanks for watching
I don't have children but i imagine i would not be friends with someone like myself.
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Why not?
What if you don’t know how others perceive you? Like, I have no idea why others are my friends. I feel like people only stay around cuz we known each other for so long. I truly don’t believe they actually care or think nice things.
I appreciate you watching. What are the FACTS for your beliefs? Some videos that might help can be found at: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=distortions
its about feeling bad about causing others to feel bad. But it helps a lot to think that others are responsible for how they feel. :)
Thanks for watching and commenting.
Thank you so much!💙💛
So welcome.
I have multiple sclerosis which has only increased my issues
I am sorry for that and I appreciate you watching.
Thank you ❤️🙏
You are so welcome. Thank you for watching the video
Dilly Dilly, Doc Snipes and all!
In the 12 × 12 there is a passage and it states ...the Psalmist said.
The psalmist as well stated as I shouted out in meetings when we closed with a prayer, once finished I along with the two at my side and the rest of the room would raise our hands and i would shout out, ♡I am some-body. 23 years later I read in the book of Psalms; psalm 139:14, for I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are Your works and that my soul knows very well.
Don't quit 5 minutes before the miracle happens.
we all know we are "somebody", society often won't agree.
Thank you
You're welcome
Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching.
Ah the inner critic. Always a good idea to reflect on this part of our psyche. Excellent lecture.
TY!
I have managed to stop negative self talk, but I find my self doing things self damaging and I don´t know how to stop it.
Thanks for watching!
Thank you for your helpful lectures, I may not be able to reimburse you financially very soon because I don't have the channel.
CBT therapy is too superficial for entrenched self-hate and self-rejection. Also, these issues are very debilitating to the ego, and CBT only works well with a functioning ego and competent executive part of the psyche. If not, every CBT intervention will be used as another weapon to turn against one's self. This lecture only is for those w fairly well functioning and intact egos. Please reconsider keeping this posted.
It's one theoretical framework, you can integrate more with the treatment.
u don't need a therapist to do self-CBT. Just remember that all your thinking is wrong and when its "better'' u should be cured. Sarcasm screamed here
I don't know if you'll see this, but can you talk about the difference between self hatred and have a grudge with oneself?
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Self hate arises when personally keep doing things that are promised to self will never do it again. Then this becomes guilt & a shame.
Thank you so much for watching the video
For the narc?
Not sure what you are asking?
Got self hatred... you're screwed
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IF YOURE STRUGGLING WITH SELF HATRED:
skip this video. This is 20 minutes of your life you’ll never get back. She’s beyond delusional - because we know why this is happening. The world itself has told us this.
But she’s making it as if it’s just a bad thought we have. While ignoring the fact that the world has told us repeatedly that we are a waste of life.
Lying to yourself is just as bad as hating yourself.
What in the world is this delusional comment
@@asereoak8649 You’re going to have to do better than that. What exactly is delusional about it?
I just wish i was dead basically
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