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Talking Mental Health, OCD, Panic Attacks, GERD and Anxiety - Help & Support
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I totally agree with what you're saying, people need to be talking about mental health so much more to remove the very real stigma that sadly exists. X
🥰 the stigma is ridiculous I wish it wasn’t so but your right it really is sadly 😔💗
I'm really glad that you seem to have the answers you've been looking for, I have severe anxiety and panic attacks, but have never been to hospital for them; You really are a very strong and brave woman and you have a very good heart. People caring about others can be thin on the ground, your channel really is like a breath of fresh air.x
Oh cherub I’m so sorry you go through anxiety and panic it’s such a awful feeling I’m always here if you need me and we’ll keep climbing together 🥰 deal? Xxxxxx sending you lots of love and hugs always poppet
Braken Rose Hi Bracken. You are not alone by far. I have severe anxiety , Panic attacks and O C D. I’m on medication for panic attacks. If I wasn’t I’d never be able to leave my house. It’s not easy living with these things. No amount of seeing doctors has helped at all. I’ve just come to realise it’s just how I am.
Well done you x thank you for posting
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In my family u are weak if u are physically or mentally ill and this is from parents uncles grandparents . On my dads funeral day i was still working up2 half an hour before his funeral, we have to maintain a stiff upper lip basically 'get on with it . I have suffered from insomnia for years due to working nightshifts sometimes up2 25 nights a month in a care home I've caused it myself I hammered myself mentally, It really came to a head last year to the point of every morning been seconds from vomitting/having the shakes, one day whilst in the garden I lost my temper with my hubby and was about to hit him with a shovel, I came in the house and calmed down, and later that day I said to him 'I don't want to live anymore' and that was my turning point. I'm now on my 8th lot of medication others didn't help, these are helping. Thank you Hayley for sharing you are wonderful. You also have the same birthday as my dad xxx
Oh hunny gosh no wonder you were burnt out! The vomiting and shakes are hideous and so scary because you physically have zero control!! I’m so glad you found something to help and you are very important and do you know why? because there is not another one of you so you keep climbing hunny and if you ever ever ever need me I am here ok. You’re doing great and should be so proud xxxx ❤️
Ahhhh birthday twins with your papa 🥰
Love you xxx
Love youuuuuuuuuu 💗
💕sweet beautiful Hayley, I just want to give you a big ‘ol virtual HUG! I’m a 50 something menopausal gal who still deals with anxiety and depression and also my teenage son has issues too. Thanks so much for bringing this subject up and sharing your life with us, your RUclips family. 💕💕
The virtual hug has been gratefully received Jenn 🥰
And you guys are the BEST I’m gonna get a t shirt printed saying I ❤️ my RUclips family.
Sending lots of love always 💗
I have horrible panic attacks. I have an intense fear of heights and flying that I have tried everything including parachuting and rock climbing! I take meds that control them but here in the US the best healthcare is for the wealthy and connected. Stay positive and busy!
Eric I’m so sorry 😔 but you are right staying positive and busy is definitely a good thing to do. Sending lots of love to you xx
Thanks baby the people need to talk always.
But with nice person no toxic people before bad experience
Yep no toxic, remove them toxic people 🙌🏽 sending hugs darling xxxxx
I so relate sweetie, I've been very anxious lately and it makes no sense, my life is good and I'm happy. I am going through perimenopause though and so my hormones are all over the place. Yes, let's blame the perimenopause 😘 I've also been having many heart palpitations and bouts of chest pain and I've been so tempted to go to the ER.
I'm post menopausal....and yes things can be different, and many changes can happen....but it doesn't mean you should suffer. The attitude I received from so many people was that it was a medical condition. For goodness sakes it is a life transition to be experienced and wondered at and shared. But I found No one to share it with. And that is really problematic especially when so many medical 'experts are treating it like an illness. In times gone by the community elders would help with these transitions and eliminate the fear that seems to surround it. The same is true for puberty and menstruation. I think women are slowly bringing that out of the vaults and into the open...we need to do it with menopause as well. I highly recommend you look up Susun S Weed. She has a beautiful approach to menopause and womanhood generally and wrote an excellent book exploring all the options available. It is called Menopause, the wise womens way, I think.
Hey Lana, I’m so sorry you’ve been going through this, the advice I was given by the hospital was any heart palpitation get checked, the reason I’ve been in hospital so much is because we simply did not know what this heart burning/pain was so please don’t feel worried at all to go to the ER they would always rather check you than not! Anxiety is a absolute pain in the neck to live with but there are so many things we can do to minimise it. Big hugs to you Lana keep climbing hunny xxxxxx
@@hayleyshelp Sadly, many of us in the US don't have the luxury of getting checked out. A few years ago I thought I had appendicitis, so of course I went to the emergency room. Turns out the pain was from an ovarian cyst. The bill, just for the diagnosis (not for getting the cyst treated, which still hasn't happened) was over $5,000.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Hayls - you are a warrior queen!! You are such a strong positive role model and it's wonderful that you can use your platform to open up the conversation and help others. I also hope that you come to recognise how clever you actually are! You don't need to be "booksmart" to be clever - you're an amazing mum, you have bucketloads of emotional intelligence and you are very successful in the things you choose to do (TV, RUclips, home-making, cooking, taking care of your family). I wish you lived round the corner from me so I could pop in for a brew and give you a big hug!! Take care Hayls. You've got this! Xxx
Awwwww I wish you lived round the corner to 🥰 I like that emotional intelligence I’m gonna add that to my positivity list.
Thank you for always being so kind hunny sending you lots of love and emotional intelligent kisses 😘🤣🥰❤️
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Hayley you are such a beautiful person inside and out. I love that you have fully talked about what's going on with you, the challenges and your hopeful solutions.
My anxiety attacks started when I was 19. I did talk to a doctor about the pain in my chest and my concerns in my early 20s when they were more often. He asked me questions about my lifestyle and pointed out areas that may be causing the chest pain. Anyways I've had a long journey of discovering my triggers, limits and solutions. 2020 it was been my resolution/goal for self care: emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual. I've started exercising again, eating healthier, and pushing myself to socialize more as well. My husband has noticed a huge difference in me the past couple of months and has been so encouraging and helpful.
Another thing you were talking about that I appreciated was how we should be open about our mental health. I've notice that my generation is way more understanding when it comes to mental health than my parents generation. I've had comments made to me that I'm being dramatic or they didnt believe me. Thankfully i have a very understanding husband and my brother as well.
I would love more videos like this where you talk about deeper conversations. And you are a very wise woman. Love ya Hayley and I hope you have a wonderful week. :)
Awwww thank you poppet, that’s brilliant that these things have made a noticeable difference I’m super proud of you 🙌🏽 and how’s the view from the top 😉?
Yes it’s sad because I do think that so many people are like well just don’t worry don’t think about these things and it really really isn’t that simple! Xxxxxx
You are beautiful inside and out Haley thank you so much for sharing your mental health journey it’s really helped as I suffer with terrible social anxiety.
Thank you for being honest and real xxx😘
You are so welcome Debra and we’ve got this 🙌🏽 I’m always here if you need me to help you up the mountain 🏔 xxx
Thanks so much for opening this dialogue, you're a real treasure, Hayley. For me it was bringing it up to my doctor at all that I was having issues. The stigma is that it's something you bury deep deep down and never talk about, so talking to a doctor is unbelievable. Once that ice was broken it was so easy and she started medication for depression and anxiety right away. My advice to anyone and everyone, just talk to someone!
Oh poppet well don’t you! The courage that takes is huge but it’s the first step to regaining your life, nobody should ever feel embarrassed or ashamed. I’m so pleased you have shared this hunny because it may just help one person that is doing the “bury it don’t say anything act like everything is fine” and that’s one of the worst things we can do. I am incredibly proud of you and you should be incredibly proud of yourself to 🙌🏽 absolute warrior we’ve got this babe 💪🏽😉🗻🏔🗻🏔 xxx
I had panic attacks sometimes as a kid, but I just assumed everybody felt that way.
What made it really bad and added ptsd to the mix was when my children were little a well connected relative tried to take them away from me by making multiple child abuse accusations against me. He was a judge so it was very hard and very expensive to fight. I won, but ended up with bleeding ulcers and ptsd. I had to be constantly alert - I never knew when someone would be banging on my door accusing me of not feeding the children or whatever it was that day. This went on for 2 years. Paranoia is totally logical when someone powerful really is out to get you, you know?
Once it was over, I couldn't turn it off. I was afraid to get any help because I was so terrified of being accused of not being able to take care of my children....
Then when the children were teenagers, I asked my doctor if I could have something for anxiety. It helped a lot, but when this relative finally died I just lost it for a while. So my doctor prescribed me some stronger things and now I have a combination that works.
But like you, I have stomach issues to deal with also. I have to take my pills by a certain time each night, and I can only keep them down on a full stomach. And that feeds into my weird need to schedule everything....
I'm a basically functional hot mess! 🤣🤣🤣 But my children are grown up and they love me anyway, and I have 5 amazing grandchildren. 🙂
Dorothy thank you for sharing this hunny, people can be so cruel I had someone on occleaners who caused absolute chaos in my life and effected my mental health hugely, it’s awful what you have been through darling but you must always remember you have children and grandchildren who love you and anyone who behaves in such a cruel way will have that burden to bare forever!
Always remember what others do says more about them than you!
I’ve been doing sooooooooo much research on the stomach and mind and they are so closely linked!
Keep climbing darling Dorothy sending love always ❤️💓❤️
@@hayleyshelp Thanks. 🌻
I like to think of him burning in hell with all the bacteria!
Seriously, though - there is a major connection with the mind and the whole digestive system. I've found that plain, Japanese type foods are the most soothing. Plain white rice, miso soups, etc. Lots of mushrooms. I like to make my own sushi rolls with avocado and really thin carrot slices. The nori is extremely nutritious and easy to digest with the rice. Rice noodles are also easy to digest in soups.
You can make a quick and easy noodle dinner with almost no effort. Just make a broth, set out thinly sliced veggies, etc and the noodles (ramen, soba, etc). Each portion gets boiled individually in the broth and then each child puts in the veggies he or she wants. That way, everybody gets what they want to eat and each child gets a little one on one time while their noodles boil. My grandchildren love ramen night! 🙂
Really needed this, Hayley you are an angel thankyou ❤️xxx
Sending you lots of love poppet 😊💗
Thanks for sharing. You're right!
🥰🥰🥰🥰 you are so very welcome xxx
Hi lovely Hayley 💜 I love this vlog! It was so brave of you to talk about the issues you have had to deal with, especially recently.
I have anxiety and depression. I have found my anxiety has got worse since I lost my job of 18 years after being reported for falling asleep, due to all the medication I have to take.
I live alone so have lots of time with my own thoughts.
You have had a very severe reaction and I'm so glad you are getting the right treatment to help you deal with the panic attacks and circle of issues you have.
I too was so incredibly worried about death. It has returned a bit since living alone - I went and lit a candle the other night and I have no memory of doing so. I end up then thinking what if etc and causing more anxiety. This medication has a lot to answer for!
I would recommend you look at Caitlin Doughty - she's a mortician in the US and is so funny and interesting and will clear up many death relate worries you have. Have a look at her RUclips vlogs and let me know what you think about her OK. I wish she lived over here!
I hope you enjoy your time in Liverpool! I'm a scouser, I was born in Bootle many years ago. I don't have the accent as my parents moved to Lancashire when I was young but my mum certainly is scouse!
I'm looking forward to seeing more of your mental health vlogs. I think you are ace for doing them.
If you ever come to Manchester I'd love to meet you, it's not too far from where I live.
With loads of love to you always Hayley, from Liz in Lancashire xxx 😊💜💙❤️
My darling Lancashire liz, this makes me so very sad 😔 that’s outrageous that you lost your job because of a side effect from medication that is there to help you! I would so love to challenge these employers who behave this way it’s wrong on so many levels. Ahhhhh Lancashire liz is secretly Liverpool liz 🤣😉
The what ifs are meddlers they try to cast doubt and cause panic and chaos we must challenge the what ifs hunny because they spread like wild fires if we don’t.
I am always here if you need me hunny remember you are safe you are a good person and you can push through this! Sending love always to you Lancashire liz 🤔 or do I call you Liverpool liz now 🤣 no let’s stick with Lancashire liz 💗💓💗
You are awesome strong independent and a brilliant person I love your videos
The first step with having any mental illness is to talk about it and you are strong and brave to talk about it.. I have suffering with anxiety most of my life it has stopped me from doing things I want to do with my family aka flying a plane but one day I’m gonna get there but I am proud to say I conquered one of my fears this year I can now get in an elevator without having a mental break down and I’m not exaggerating each work shift I get in the elevator at least once now I still don’t like the feeling but I can do it.. i’ve been listening to a lot of hypnotherapy lately for panic attacks and to help me get through them and I have to say it’s been helping if you wanna look it up on iTunes it’s Andrew Johnson don’t panic.. and just remember it’s OK not to be OK!! And it will go away!! you’ll get through it!! Sending love and thoughts and prayers from Saskatchewan Canada 🇨🇦 xoxo
Lindsay I AM SO SO SO SO PROUD of you for pushing through the fear it’s a terrifying prospect that many will say so it’s just an elevator but to you that elevator is like a gigantic scary monster!!! And you did it 🙌🏽 this makes me so happy because the more we challenge these thoughts we get to see that nothing bad will happen just take baby steps hunny and I truly am beaming over here in the U.K. for you because I know how hard that would of been! Sooooo proud 🥰🙌🏽❤️
Sending you so much love poppet today and always xxxxx
Also we are so proud of you for swimming in the ocean and going out speed boats that’s something you wouldn’t normally do.. see you’re stronger than you think
Love your openness and honesty. Also love the casual look , it makes you look like a young girl.
Ah thanks poppet I was getting ready to pick Sienna up from forest school so I was like ok it’s a ponytail shirt and jeans situation right now 🤣❤️💓❤️
lovely video, it’s nice your able to open up to us all! we all should be nice to each other! have a lovely week 😘 xx
Thank you darling and I want everyone to feel safe and loved here 🥰 you have a lovely week to xxx
You look beautiful and this is an amazing video. This topic is dear to my heart! You are so inspirational! 💕💕💕👑
Darling sayuri how are you? Thank you hunny I’m sending you so much love always if I lived closer I’d deliver a hug to you 🥰❤️ xxxxx
@@hayleyshelp I would love that! We must chat soon. Keep your head up and continue to pioneer in peer support! You CAN RECOVER from mental illness. It's not about being perfect or permanently healed but being coping and not allowing a condition to steal your life away. Words can not express how proud I am of you! 😍😍😍😁😁😁
Forever my earth angel Sayuri 💓💗💓
I have PTSD, Anxiety, and Depression. But I honestly thought I was the only one who worried about what is below the water. It has stopped me from going into the ocean, which sucks because I live in Florida. Also I refuse to get on boats of any size because of what could be in the water. It doesn’t help me when I see the videos of whales crushing sail boats. But it is nice to know that I am not the only one that thinks that way.
Vernon I promise you it’s a true concern of mine (well it was) the idea of the ocean terrifies me but once you kind of push through the fear you realise you are actually safe and ok, obviously I’m suggesting we all go deep sea diving all of a sudden but getting in the sea and staying in shallow water is a great starting point. Even if all u can do Is dip a toe to begin with that’s a great start sending lots of love 💓
Hayley! I love how you look! Thanks for the video!
Thank you poppet that’s so very kind 💗💓💗
Seems crazy that mental health is still a taboo. I happily talk about my mental health but sometimes I get the odd reaction like “well what have you got to worry about?” Or “just don’t worry about anything!” Which just provokes an eye roll from me! I find exercise is fantastic for me - doesn’t have to be rigorous, just frequent.
Oh my goodness exactly this babe!!! It’s needs to be understood more that if it was that easy to just not worry or not feel that way then everyone would do it! It’s much much much more complex. Yes I’ve found doing yoga really helps me I’m building up the courage to start running I’m not quite there yet! 🤦🏽♀️💗💓💗
Hayley's Help a long brisk walk is just as good as running - as long as you’re getting the blood pumping 👍🏻
I struggle with severe acid reflux as well. It's very frustrating...
Apart from that, I also struggle with severe anxiety, mostly social anxiety, but I can get anxious about my health, travelling, and school/work as well.
When it comes to treating anxiety, it's a lot of trial and error, and what works for one person may not work for the next.
The most successful coping mechanisms for me have been aromatherapy, exercise, and seeing my friends regularly. Aromatherapy is really just a good tool for relaxing, which puts you in a better mood and reduces the potential for panic. Exercise, of course, gets your blood pumping, it's great for your health, it takes your mind off your worries, and releases feel-good chemicals into the body, which, again, reduces the potential for feeling anxious. And seeing my friends regularly has really just allowed me to vent, let loose, laugh, and feel connected to other people who very often go through the same things I do.
Just remember that you're not alone and we are here to help you up the MOUNTAIN :)
It’s sooooooo annoying isn’t it! 😔stupid anxiety 🤦🏽♀️❤️
If you are having trouble with your monthly cycles, may I suggest progesterone cream and 'Dim'. I, too, had panic attacks. One lasted two weeks straight and I was beside myself. After telling many Drs I thought it was hormone related and all of them saying no, it wasn't, the last one told me, 'we all have hormones but we don't all have panic attacks'. After getting her $400 bill I decided they would never hear me out and I would have to solve it myself! So, hang in there. You are a lovely vivacious person with a very likable personality, you are important, and the world is better with you in it. So do what you need to do to keep yourself strong and well, and thank you for being genuine.
Thank you hunny what a beautiful message, sorry you were not listened to by the drs.
I hope you are doing ok and keeping safe sending so much love to you 💗💞💗
I am so cool with that. Mental health is so real. You seem to have come a long way.😘. You should try a good (GOOD) Chiropractor for the acid reflex. Adjustments have gotten rid of mine.
Hey babe, I have indeed but there are always bumps in the road 🤦🏽♀️ wow that’s amazing I’m definitely going to look into that because these medicines are gross they taste disgusting 🤢🤮❤️
Your "fears" are like mine. Even if i go with my car to the shop i'm stressed:"what if there will be a crash? What if i will die? What will happen to me?" But i always pray to my Lord and Savior, and until today, i had no problems. If i would not be Christian maybe i would loose my mind!
Oh darling it’s horrible isn’t it! 😔 sending you so much love today and always 🙏🏽❤️
@@hayleyshelp thank you, you are so kind😊. I will try some natural products, i found an old recipe in a book, and if it will work i promisse i will tel you and others🙃
1 word = AMAZING XXX
You are 💗💓💗
Hayley i totally understand you 💋 suffering from health anxiety was a rough time for me and still is ... yesterday I had a panic attack at work when I suffered blow to my head , thought this is it, that’s when I’m gonna die ... I’m still alive and still dreading this horrible pain would come back ... I wish there was a magic pill for the anxiety 😢 I’m so excited for our birthdays ( mine is on the 7th of March) ! I cant wait for your birthday vlog my lovely, stay safe and well ❤️❤️❤️
Hey babe, oh noooooooo whoops a daisy is your head ok hunny? It’s the health anxiety that I hate speaking to people about because people are like why do you think that?
Honestly babe you name it and I’ve demanded the doctors test for it, I’ve had my colon checked, my cervix, my ovaries, my heart on several occasions now! Then bloods if it can be checked I’ve had it checked! I find that feelings that are new in my body trigger me, and seeing things about illness so going to the doctors with all the posters I have to avoid looking at them or stand outside until the doctor gets me!
I wish I had a magic wand I could wave to help you babe because it’s awful when you convince yourself something terrible is wrong with you.
What helps me slightly is I journal, I write down how I’m feeling and if I can’t shake it after two weeks I’ll go to the doctor to get it checked but more often than not whatever I’m feeling disappears before then and I continually read back my journal to reassure myself that I am ok.
Sending you a huge hug darling I’m so sorry you have to deal with this! But you are stronger than you realise babe 💪🏽🥰❤️ xxx
Hayley's Help My head is okay now but a bit sore as after every episode like this . Last thing I want to is to go back to therapy . But I’m managing it :) the journal idea is really helpful I need to try it finally ( I’m so inconsistent with logging anything haha ) 😊😆
I’m so happy you will be touching mental health topic more often ❤️ I love being on your channel
Oh poppet just go easy on yourself I promise you journaling I find so helpful especially for health anxiety, we’ll still be doing our usual make up cleaning fashion occasionally but I wanted to add mental health and cooking into the mix 🥰
I’m so glad you love the channel darling xxxxx
I have GERD/GORD and I find that sleeping on my left side and slightly elevated eases the pressure off the stomach and limits the backflow that often gets worse on lying down. I have been going through a similar cycle but with diarhea. Over the last couple of years it has been so bad that basically I'd had no normal bm for some months. It would get worse when I had to go out...not just appointments but fun stuff or normal daily stuff as well. Prescription medication was useless until after some research and trial I discovered a magic formula that stopped it....and left me with a blockage that required some laxatives....😖. The main problem became a cycle of diarhea all day causing anxiety and fear instead of the other way around, which is why I took the measures I did to stop it. I do have IBS which is linked with recently diagnosed fibromyalgia....it was a long journey of being dismissed by many professionals.
And to those people who don't understand how you can have anxiety and be on TV/RUclips...some of the most famous people have suffered from anxiety and orher mental illnesses.
Intelligence is not education or knowledge, it is using what you have to the best of your ability. Though it's a good thing you're not dyslexic as well because you'd have two lefts...🤣🤣
No tea! 😭. That one is tough!
I used to live near Liverpool...in New South Wales, Australia. ..
Thank you so much for being so open and honest. Times are definitely changing. I think social media has helped a lot. I grew up in the 1970's and 80's and there was a lot less knowledge and a lot more fear and stigma surrounding mental health. Gosh...we still had institutions that threw people with mental illnesses and intellectual disabilities in together and medicated them and lined them all up once a day to hose them down (instead of showering them). We've come a long long way...and we will continue to improve understanding and acceptance.
The one other thing that is worth looking into is the mind gut connection. Emeran Mayer is one of the pioneers in this field and his book is well worth reading. The other thing I have been encouraged to look at is the polyvagal theory. Stephen Porges's text is I think the most prominent work available.
Keep doing what you do best and remember that you are right there next to you doing everything that you do. Mr (or Miss) Anxiety just tags along and gets in the way. He is always with you, but he is not you!
Love you, keep well.
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Linda thank you so much this is really helpful, my husband did mention about sleeping on my left side but I keep turning over to my right 🤦🏽♀️
Yes the mind gut connection is absolutely something I’ve become so interested in lately I will give that book a read 🙌🏽
I’m sorry that you had to go through that! It’s not nice at all especially when it’s affecting your day to day life 😔 I am always here if you need to talk Linda and I think you are very brave and thank you so much for sharing your struggle with us all. Sending hugs and kisses always 💓💗💓
@@hayleyshelp thank you 😘.
I find that either wedging a small pillow or cushion behind you or placing a small cushion, or both can help to stabilise you and feel more comfortable.
You are smart & inspiring though Hayley. Because you keep on keeping on, if you get the meaning. I deal with a lot of trauma based issues - obsessive tendencies & invasive thoughts being part of that. I’m wondering if you deal with dissociation ever? Many of us who have dealt with trauma or stresses since childhood do have dissociation, & I know your grama’s death was very stressful for you as a young girl. The hardest thing I’m finding is that as I’ve gotten older, had kids, more responsibilities, more pressures, managing the anxiety becomes harder and harder. Sometimes I just have to turtle and withdraw from everybody and everything. It helps but can get very lonely, which can cycle into a depression. It’s also not always possible, which makes the anxieties worse, thus leading to more dissociative episodes. The analogy of a snowy slippery mountain is pretty accurate. This is literally a day-by-day, and sometimes hour-by-hour journey. I’m looking forward to the discussions coming. Big hugs to you, dearest. Xoxo
Ahhhhhh I’m sorry hunny 😢 hmmm I don’t know if I have dissociation 🤔 I’m very all or nothing, so for example I’ll be the loyalist person ever to you but if you don’t give loyalty back I’m more than happy to cut ties with no emotion at all it’s like that person never existed in my life, does that make sense? I know that sounds terrible but I’m very much that way, I no longer speak with my sister because she made friends with someone who caused a whole heap of problems in my marriage and with my other friends who I’d known a lot longer than her (stirrer is the appropriate word) anyway I ended up incredibly ill and confided in my sister for her to then end up becoming friends with this person it kind of felt like she had found my weakness and ceased an opportunity to use that against me? I’ve never spoken to either of them since nor will I ever again that was about 3/4 years ago now.
I am always here if you want to talk hunny, don’t ever feel alone 💗❤️💗 sending big hugs xxxxxxx
❤️ Understandable. Protection of your mind health, your children, and little family is number 1.
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