His response to my pregnancy! | Talks with Tony
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- Опубликовано: 30 апр 2021
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"If you are not ready to raise a child, you should not be doing what it takes to conceive a child" -TG💯
The father of my child wanted me to have an abortion. I refused & today he is thankful for my choice. He loves his son although me & him we're never meant to be.
I so can relate to this young lady. I was in this same situation at 25, I’m now 32. But just like the guy in the video, the guy I was dealing with did the same thing to me. Coerced me not to go through with the pregnancy because it would “ruin my life” when in reality he just didn’t want his baby mama and family to know he had gotten me pregnant. At one point I told him fine I’ll raise the child on my own. But of course he told every reason why I shouldn’t so I folded and didn’t go through with it. Like Tony said, he didn’t really care about me, only used me and manipulated the situation when things got real. A life lesson learned... I’ll wait on God from now on. I pray God give her the grace and strength to get through it whatever decision she decided to take
I think it’s hard for woman to understand how a man can sleep with them and be in a relationship with them and not love them. The truth is men marry women they don’t even love everyday. This is why I help women heal after toxic relationships by helping them discover their worth & value.
Preach
You're speaking too much truth, shhhhhh 😅
Facts.
So true! I've witnessed men remain in relationships with and even marry women they hate. We have to stop navigating relationships with our feelings and pay attention to actions.
So true. Even though I know the truth, my mind still can’t conceive how you can experience my body but not care about me . I just can’t compute it even knowing it. Thankfully, I haven’t let a lot of men touch me
Same thing happened to my 23 year old daughter and she regretfully terminated the pregnancy at 6 weeks. Needless to say he’s been blocked and deleted since December when she had it done. She’s now in therapy. I am so sorry she had to endure this because she really thought he loved her. Promised marriage and all of that other bull crap. Hopefully she’s learned and that God will bring her through this traumatic time of her life. Pray for her y’all, she can’t forgive herself.
I am so so sorry to hear that. If this is any consolation to her... I went thru a similar situation at 25, was engaged and promised the world but when the bc failed, he acted a plum fool! Said that I was trying to "trap" him and he wasn't trying to rush into anything, he needs to be solo etc! WHAAAT?! I was devastated and made an appointment, I prayed and cried and asked Gods forgiveness...long story short went to the place and they TURNED ME AWAY over a technical issue! I never rescheduled bc that was my sign! Kept the baby and got rid of the man. All that to say she made a mistake MANY women make around the world and no sin is worse than another, if she turns her life around God will use this for good! I truly believe that nothing is outside his will, if it was meant for her to continue the pregnancy then nothing would have stood in the way of it! She will be ok, help her to grieve and to grow! God bless y'all 💙💙💙
praying for her
@@mamat1213 Thank you soooooo much. I will share your comments with her she’ll really appreciate it. God bless you!!
Dear God smh.
I’m sorry she had to experience that but I pray that the lord will heal her and lift her from her regrets. Please let her know God forgives and that everyone makes mistakes but it is only a mistake if the outcome does not work towards your purpose. I pray she forgives herself 🙏🏾. Again, I’m sorry to hear that, I can’t imagine going through such an event. God bless you both.
My ex husband was over 40 making 6 figures when he said if I had another baby he would divorce me. He meant it, and hides his $ so I knew I wouldn't get support and was very beaten down. I made the worst decision of my life, went to the clinic and it spiralled me into depression. Fast forward 2 years he left me for his client and now I'm a single mom anyway...but am on my faith walk and blessed to be healing with very happy children.
I hope she kept her baby because Tony is right, they are 100% yours.
Omg! Your 40yr old financially stable husband said that to you??? He must've been planning his exit.
My ex was 40 ( and coincidently financially stable also) when I was pregnant and he was not happy to be a father again---really!? like i got pregnant all by myself?---he never did bond with our son, even threatened me, when our son was 21 (!!!), that he wanted a paternity test done to prove that our son wasnt really his---as far as I'm concerned, our son is 100% MY son and my ex has no rights to fatherhood with him. What a sad, sorry excuse for a man, so glad to be divorced.
Wow 😳 sad...glad your doing better.
I now realize that my ex never cared about me---he just wanted me to pay for everything that had gone wrong in his life , esp with women. He thought he could use me as his verbal & emotional punching bag--i believe he was ready for the divorce so he could cheat in peace.(but he certainly was gonna make it as nasty as he could before I left). I still cry sometimes when I think of how I let this man take so much of my life with his lies and abuse. The hardest part for me is trying to ask God for forgiveness for what he did.
This is why I want to wait until marriage. When you are not married, you are putting yourself at risk of being a single mom. I pray that God gives her peace and strength to move forward.
True it's risky but nevertheless sadly I knw so many married single moms😥
@@traumamom4338 I know! Even when you get married there still no guarantee. But at least when you get married, you will have leverage if it doesn’t work out.
Same! I’m 30 and still waiting to be married before I have kids. My whole family is pretty much single moms and I’ve watched them struggle and just don’t want that for myself or my kids, so I’ll wait. If it’s Gods will for me it’ll happen. 🤗🙏🏾
Same @Roro same age and everything...most of my family though are not single moms but still I’ve seen single moms struggle and complain and I’d rather not.
@@traumamom4338 if you get married and vet properly then there are less chances of that happening. Its better to try than not all all. When your an ex wife there is more of accountability of that child.
Sis, Tony is spot on about your GROWN BOY. He wants you to RUN and NOT WALK to your NEAREST CLINIC. The SOONER the BETTER. He is HOLDING HIS BREATH, hoping that you'll do "THE RIGHT THING..for HIM."
Tony, DO NOT touch my noodles! 😡
😂😂😂😂😂💀
I thought he said "nudes"..i had to remind 😀😀😀
Boy I’ll eat all them noodles 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That's me.....I always got caught on my 1st attempt at doing stuff I had no business doing!🤪🤪
That chastising comes from God because He loves you 😇🙏🏾💪🏾
Im a true member of the me too group.
This shows how important it is to make sure your partner shares the same beliefs and dreams in life as you before getting on what you hope is a lifetime trip with him. Don't make plans, choices that have consequences or permanent decisions based on the romance you've been fantasizing about, but only on real proven love and commitment from his side.
Michel Jackson even said, "If you can't feed your baby, then don't have a baby". Love this video.
Well keep ya legs closed! A male isn't going to prevent A Female from becoming a mother before she's ready!! When a male skeets in a woman unprotected, he absolutely hates her PLUS intended on altering her natural path away from GOD anyways! Men/males will intentionally lay down with a woman unprotected because he doesn't care and on the spot, when women lay down with that male/ boy, SHE is signing up to become pregnant and carry his diseases as a part of the punishment for sleeping with him unprotected in the first place!! 🤔 You don't know where he has been before you either whether with males, women or animals! All of those cuteness and crushes comes with a price!!
@@kyo-kun369 get therapy okay
@@browngoddess5340 oh you that slow naive woman who thought a baby was gonna keep that man! Awe!! You'll learn sooner than later sis! 🤣😂😅
@@kyo-kun369 how did your slow ass get that out of what I posted. It takes a person with a beg to differ spirit and crazy to come under someone's opinion with a damn essay post about nothing pertaining to the comment. Get help before its too late.
@@kyo-kun369 👏🏾 👏🏾 some people don’t wanna hear this.
LHMJ, this gets me everytime. The couple is having sex, I'd guess on a regular basis with NO PROTECTION, but both are GENUINELY SHOCKED (wink, wink) when the female SOMEHOW MYSTERIOUSLY BECOMES PREGNANT.
That's what I'm not understanding. Did they forget how babies are made??
Right! 😂
@@PeaceBeStill- They both must have skipped HOW BABIES ARE MADE - CLASS 100 and went for the advanced classes where no recap of Class 100 was given. Should have been a prerequisite for them. HECK, for EVERYONE! 🤣
Right
Absolutely it's hard to This statement will you take care of it?
This soooo reminds me of my ex and his current gf/bm. This chick had the nerve to hit me up to tell me I'm jealous but the both of them told me that he asked for an abortion and here's the kicker. They're still together. Nah sis I'm cool. Childless and single over here 🤷♀️
Ok sis and you have peace
Sister! Please please save yourself! I've been through this, it is pure hell with no exists. You can't ever make termination right! I was through exactly the same, he just didn't want it and I went to the clinic. It hurts me so bad, I would choose to be barefoot on the street with that child instead of going through this grief, it's absolutely unbearable.
This story is similar to mine and the reason i first started listening to to TG. I told him exactly what Tony just said "you hate me or you won't want me subject to that" i was done. I still hate him to this day, it's hard to "unhate him". He's pretty much dead to me.
Of course i didn't have the abortion, (he "apologized" had a healthy baby and now he tries to be a social media dad..wanting to post pics, all talk, no action. Blocked! Don't even want money from him.
I'm dealing with my consequences and i have no regrets.
Avianne By hating him he still has power over your life. Your still connected to him by your emotion of hate. Set yourself free and forgive him his actions regardless if you understand it. Your taking poison to your own spirit by hate . Others may or not pick up on it but your words speak loudly your hurting by his betrayal of his lack of love and support towards you. Be healthy spirit soul and body. 🌼🌷🌺🌸❤🦋
I totally agree. I am still tied via my hatred. I've come a long way, a very very long way, it feels like less weight taken off of me daily as i walk this journey. Tony and God has helped healed me soooo much. This experience has grown me in a way i never knew i needed! Thanks for your kind words! 💓
@@avianne Your welcome. Walk in your freedom and let your spirit soar to the heights God has for you. Dont ever let any man lock you in a self made prison of hate. Hes not worth your peace. I say all this in love for you. 🌺🌸🌷🌼🦋🦋🦋🌻
@@kristinakellogg1732
Awesome advice.
@@wandamajette5000 Blessings to you and joy 🌸🌼🌺🌷🌻🦋
You just nailed it “microwave Christianity” we know God but we do the opposite... God have mercy on humanity... Great advice!!!
NEWS FLASH. All of these "Talks with Tony" are consequences to our behavior. Listen at the common theme in all (98%) of these conversations. Typically the "decent" relationship gets worse after sex is introduced to the relationship.
That's why I believe women shouldn't get relationship advice from women only. A man's perspective is very necessary as men and women think differently. Most often women think a man will not respect, like or wait for her if she is not willing to be intimate with him. However the man actually appreciates and respects you more if you aren't intimate with him. Thank you Tony us ladies need honest relationship advice.
I got teary eyed hearing about your son and his interview. Wow.
Men need to be supportive of women they impregnate .I totally understand what you are saying.
Women need to start being careful of who they let impregnate them. I will be the 1st to say everyone sins and gets that 1 time. Not saying the men are not at fault to, but mama's baby papa's maybe.
We need to make men use condoms. If you’re in a relationship and unprotected then precautions should be made.
@@Iambelon most men don't like to use those lol and sometimes you can still get pregnant while using a condom.
No condom. No sex. Boundaries!
Men will do what you allow. I was in a whole relationship and never had sex without one. We used them for 6 months. Until that birth control hit right.
Tony is absolutely right when it comes to when we know God and we belong to Him. We have a higher accountability when we know what God requires of us. God doesn't play with us, when we are His. I know this all too way.
Definitely very woke statement Tony made about these clinics and minorities exterminating life. One thing I do know that when we repent, God will use the choices we have made to show us that He loves us and wants us to have life and have it abundantly. Unfortunately, there are the consequences but we need to sit in it and learn. Great lesson today. Thank you Tony for your wisdom and truth again!
You comment was a blessing thank you
I’ll be praying for you sis 😢🙏🏾
Wow Tony! Praise God for you and you family! You gave her great God-fearing advice! God bless you and your family and thank you for your “Talks with Tony!”
*A Tony a day, keeps the grown- boys away*
God bless you Brother! 🙏🏾✊🏾❤️
Happy Saturday!!! She definitely answered her own question smh he is not for you and your child run!!! God reveals all 😘
I was conceived in sin...just found my dad in late 2019. I wonder if that’s the reason for my life’s hardship and experiences. 🤔🤔 Even still, despite it all I know I’m favored by God.
Yes you are! 🙏🏾
You are a blessing!!!!
May Gods favor continue to rest on you. Curious, are your life’s hardships and experiences beyond your control?
I was born in sin too but nevertheless I finally realized I have the power to choose and the power to reject. I encourage you to choose right and life no matter what you are up against and no matter the cloak or garments satan want you to wear. You are precious and the lord has plans for ur life and can give you beauty for ashes
No God isn’t like that. ❤️
Yoooo this is serious but Tony’s side bar convo on how he got arrested was low key hilarious
What a wonderful statement for parents to hear from the principal 😍
Listening while cooking. It's Seafood Night tonight: shrimps scampi 🍤, baked salmon.
Sounds yummy!
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Happy Saturday! Yes I feel the same with doing things. I don't get away with anything. Everyone else can, but when I do.....smh lol
Same for me as well I cant get away with nothing
@@lillianpitts9853 yeah lol
Lol... I got pregnant first time having sex. Everyone just started having kids 🙆🏾♀️I can’t do nothing without getting caught.
@@Glamrocs You're an awesome mother. I understand.
Blessed Tribe we here!
Yep yep!
Blessed Tribe in the house
Sis, every time you had unprotected sex you planned to get pregnant. What church is okay with fornication but is against termination?
Very well said.
"What To Expect When You're Expecting"..I think that's the name of it.
12:40 😂😂😂 Tonyyyyy!!!! That's me!!! I tell everybody don't do nothing in front of me cause I'm snitching!! I'm so serious!
My cousin had a child with a girl and then married another woman who was jealous of this child and did not like my cousin seeing him. Sweetest little boy being raised by his grandma. Imagine him one day wondering why his dad went and started a whole new family.
Where is child's Mom? Why does Grandma have to step up? Looks like dude made 2 mistakes, not using protection and marrying a woman jealous of a child.
@@margaretwince2748 Some women if they end up a single mother they give the kids to the grandmother or the man and start fresh...not every women want to struggle if not in the position to raise a child...i have seen women leave the child with the dad and pay child support.Of course the child going to grow up and wonder why the parent not present and be disfunctional in his emotional development but the parents dont care
@@margaretwince2748 child's mother was very immature and caught up in drugs
My ex-and I had an unplanned pregnancy and his response was bringing me balloons and flowers with his brother to my mom's house. We were both 23 & 24. If u r having sex then u must be prepared for the consequences. Have the baby and follow Tony's single mom advice. Take time focusing on being the best mom and protect your child. Life isn't over if u decided to keep the baby. Good luck to you! Motherhood is a gift 💕
Perfect timing .... just started my walk 👑
Tony. Your son's achievement is wonderful news. I am wondering like father like son. It is interesting to hear you always reflect about your past life when you were younger and relate to the topic you discuss. Good talk.
Of what I've seen in life, men like you till u get pregnant, then they avoid you, that's why sex out of marriage is so dangerous!
So true! Smh. So many women are not aware, thank God, I found Tony's videos.
@@wonderfullyrenee
So true. But even before Tony said it GOD said it in HIS word and we read it in HIS word. Yet many times, we ignored it.
@@wandamajette5000 Very True!
Happy Saturday Blessed Family!
A child is a blessing. Turn your test into a testimony. ❤️ hope you all kept your blessing. It's never too late to be born again, yes.
So excited for this episode of Talks with Tony 🙌🏾❣️ Thank you Tony for making time for us with your busy family schedule 🙏🏾 God Blessss
God brings life.
Beauty from ashes.
Never let a man play the role of God in your life telling you to terminate life.
Everyone pro-life until that egg is fertilized !
Just shameful 🤦♀️
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right i saw this all the time when i worked in a clinic...most men would say it is whatever she wants to do but we not ready..all this double speak..this wont end well
I considered it before and was under similar pressure to what this young lady expressed. I could not bring myself to do it! If it meant I would be a single mother for keeping my child, so be it! It's my consequence, however, I'm not living to please a man who would even ask me to do that over pleasing The Source of life. And that's what women need to understand... GOD ain't gonna be mad at you for choosing to keep your baby. But you will be mad at yourself later for choosing not to.
Let him HAVE it Tony!!! Praise God for the way you and your wife raised your son 💙💖💙.
Sin is joyful for a season. She shouldn't abort the child. Have the child and God will provide. That isn't man who knows and loves God. God is a life giver and he's telling her to take one of God's precious gift. If she did go with the abortion, she can repent, turn away from her ways, turn to God, and he will forgive her. That's what I love about God. He's so forgiving even when we don't deserve it.
My heart goes out to all the women going thru this
I’m so happy for your son and your testimony! Praise be to God!
God bless you for working on Saturday 🙌🏽
Great advice 😊
Thank you for this! God bless!
Thanks for squeezing us in Tony, doing a video for us. Thanks brotha. ❤️
Thank you for taking time out of your busy day. It really means a lot.
Ready to hear the word
what a great 'speakout' Tony ....
Thx brother🙋🏿♀️💯💯💯💯 You are so kind & blatantly blunt 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Amen!! A child should be a blessing 🙏🏾🙌🏾
I LOVED EVERYTHING about this video!
Thankyou thankyou thankyou for everything you do! Sometime ago I stumbled on your work here on RUclips. I can only say it has been a true inspiration. I became a single mother over 14 years ago and went through some terrible soul searching grief and strain. How much it would have helped me to hear these words back then 🙏
Awesome!! Hats off to Tony and Sheri, great parenting!!
My child's father tried to do that to me but deep down he knew better. He acted a plum fool with me during my pregnancy. Eventually after the baby was born he man'd up and started doing the right thing. But child it was a process to go through because we were being to fast in college.
Thank you. God bless 🙏
“ what to expect when you’re expecting” the book he referenced
Such a great video. (Pastor) Gaskins came through. 🙌🏾
PS: also got some good laughs out of it 😃
I’m so glad you did this video.. It’s so nice hearing a man’s perspective of this matter.. Thank you 🙏🏾
Billboard is an Awesome idea!
That is so awesome, about the principal calling you about your son. God has truly bless you and Mrs. Gaskins. You have been good caretakers, mentors and parents. I pray he exceeds above and beyond what you ever expected, in JESUS Name. Amen.
Listening.
I pray for her strength in this matter.
Hey everyone didn’t here my alert just to old videos to get me above waters . 💯💯💯💯
this would be a good time to start your life, after college. why is that guy trynna play her like they dont both have degrees and can actually make the effort to support the baby? disgusting. i just pray she made the right decision for herself cuz. . . whew
hes just not into her like that..people really get in relationships waiting to meet someone better and when situations like this happen thats when you find out the real them...hes a church person but hes suggesting an abortion..people only scream church when its convenient
Wow I been reading the wrong doctor books saying it’s okay to co-sleep to bond with your baby for as long as you need to and it’s great to have a high needs baby, it’s something to be happy about. Let me do more research so I find out what I need to do different with our second child. My first is a girl, so maybe it’s different with girls. Thank you, I learned something new today.
I got 2 kids under 2
They sleep in their separate cribs
Not Tekashi 69 🤣🤣🤣
Your Son is Blessed
That’s exactly what happen to me I’m still hurting behind it 9 yes later . Because I knew better than to have him talked me outta my baby God Blessed me with. 😱😩
Well said tony😉
I’m going through this right now and I just knew you had a video out there that will tell me what I needed to hear. WOW You really know what you’re talking about and because of that I just brought two of your books on Amazon. It’s sad grown boys only follow God when it fits their agenda. They already got you engaging in Sin and want you to sin some more so they don’t have to be held accountable but judgement day is coming. I give God the glory for leading me to your channel. Thank you for allowing him to use you. I need everything you post, ain’t nothing worse than perishing from lack of knowledge. Choose life ladies 🤎
Tony a mess but be giving us all good laughs and knowledge!! 💪🏾💯😂
Mr. Tony Gaskins and the queen, thank you for raising your sons in Christian values, leadership skills with excellent characters.
Thank you for your time and for squeezing us in. We appreciate it.
“Microwave Christianity”. Wow that’s deep!
Goodmorning 🌅🌞
The "I wasn't the only one" snitching story takes me out 🤣
This video should be shown in schools to young people
Present 💜
That is so true !everytime I try and do something I know I shouldn’t be doing God reaches and punishes me !
What the enemy meant for evil, God used for good!
Amen. Thank you Tony.
Present!
Saddened that she's going through this kind of turmoil. Nevertheless, that baby is a gift. There's a reason he or she beat out millions of sperm to break through that egg after over two years. The guy, he was the vessel used to help bring forth that child. If you're still pregnant, love yourself and the baby and move forward. Don't let the spirit of feeling abandoned take over either. If you decided, or your body released the baby, move forward. Get counseling and heal as much as possible. Either way, a new chapter is beginning, and your life isn't over. All things work together for our good when we look and learn from the lessons. Be blessed.
Not the noodles 🤣
😂😂😂 I was cracking up!
Listening
You grown enough to get it up & to lay down there with her I know that's right 💪🅿️
We gonna choose the safer side of the sin
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Lord help us
These boy’s nowadays will kill you and that unborn child just to protect their image. The audacity is unfathomable! Look at the former NFL player “Ray Carruth” for example. He spent time in prison for having his then pregnant girlfriend murdered, but that child survived! Sickening
Wow
How to deal with a man who's grieving. My bf lost his dad 6 years ago we started our relationship two mths ago and his emotions be up and down sometimes, but overall he's a great man works everyday. We spend time beach trips 100 percent faithful. We're happy I just don't know how it is to lose a parent and he's lost himself. I'm just trying to learn.
No baby is a mistake
Amen
😭😭😭😭😭😭Man you are hilarious
First 🙌🏾❤️
Those with certain callings cant do what they see everybody else do. GOD loves us all and there are some people that He really not playing with! I believe this. There is always grace and mercy, but obedience is better than sacrifice. Scripture says something like, 'Don't despise the fact that you get chastised (corrected for doing wrong) but find pleasure in the fact that you are not a bastard (without parental guidance), because He loves those who He corrects.'