I was a very shy child. First day of 7th grade I was sitting on steps outside school crying. A little girl came up to me asking what was wrong. I told her I didn’t have any friends. She said “I’ll be your friend.”. We are still friends after 50 years!
Moogie B I love that!! Moments like that are magical and we never forget them. Her gesture was life-changing for both of you. One gesture turned into a lifelong gift.
I sat in the library with an autistic student my entire senior year. Super smart guy, even got me a vegan organic chapstick for my birthday since he knew I was vegan and couldn't use beeswax products. He could tell you EVERYTHING about your cellphone. He knew the model of every phone in the school haha.
@@bonehead5000 God I wish. I still follow his instagram. He works a job, and loves posting his custom starbucks drinks. He is unapologetically himself and its refreshing.
Hello, I am also autistic and have always sat alone at lunch. That’s not to say I’m some outcast by others actions. People have always been kind to me and have offered seats with me. I deny though. I’m irate to others chewing, eye contact burns my eyes, and I always feel out of my skin when in large areas with many people. Someone like that, I feel I could relate to despite so little information. Have a good day.
@@ryaj2356 Yeah, me either. It's cool though, good for him. I just thought it speaks to just _how_ lonely he must have been that it literally made the news, lol.
It probably made the news because they were using him for clout. Judging from their body language at 1:42-1:50 they were only interested in painting a good image for themselves not really interested in getting to know him or making him more comfortable joining in the conversation.
At university, a girl joined our class in the middle of the semester, she became friends with another girl who was always alone, they were always together, but then one dropped out and the new girl was left alone. I saw her one day just sitting in a bench in a hallway alone and I approached her and started to talk to her. Today she's one of my best friends in the world and I know that I can trust her in any way, I'm just so glad I decided to approach her.
@@mizomint4197 I disagree with that statement, because I do nice things simply because it's the right thing to do. I don't think about myself, I think about the other person.
@@mizomint4197 I think you might be speaking for yourself there. Not everyone keeps a tally of good deeds just so they can subconsciously "allow" themselves to do bad things. I also think that you might not truly "know" what empathy is on an emotional level. It's simply the ability to feel what others are feeling without thinking about it. We have "mirror neurons" in our brains that are supposedly responsible for this phenomena. It's putting yourself in another person's shoes, but without needing to break the situation down intellectually; in neurotypical people empathy is automatic. It's not just about getting a dopamine hit from "being good", it's about wanting to make others feel better, and in turn that reflects back onto you and makes you feel better as well. There's also the philosophical concept of doing the right thing simply because it's the right thing to do and not because you necessarily gain anything from it. The dopamine hit that we get certainly reinforces the behavior of helping each other, but I personally don't think it's only reason we do it. We are social, emotional creatures and we feed off of each other, in both positive and negative ways, and we need each other to survive. We exist in an extremely complex system, so there are a multitude of reasons for why people do the things they do. Besides all of that though, even IF we only do nice things because of evolutionary reasons and the dopamine hit, does it really change anything? It's certainly not a good reason to stop helping others or to deny help from others. In the end I don't think it matters much why we do it, it just matters that we do.
@@mizomint4197 Hey this isn't personal man, if you read the rest of what I wrote you'd see that I actually agree with you to a degree, I just don't think the subconscious and dopamine explain all of human behavior. That said, I shouldn't have assumed that you haven't experienced empathy. Btw, I do have a degree in psych, and as far as I know, no one can rigorously, scientifically explain what consciousness even is and how it works, much less what the "subconscious" is. The subconscious is obviously a thing, and it has great control over our behavior, but we still don't really understand it. I suppose your post read as though you were shitting on the idea of people doing good deeds simply because they care, and saying that in reality they're only motivated to do so for selfish reasons. It felt like a really pessimistic way to look at the world. One thing I took away from my time as a psych major was that the fields of Psychology and Psychiatry are NOT hard sciences like physics, engineering, chemistry or mathematics. Psych researchers do their best, but we simply don't yet have the proper tools to objectively observe and quantify the mind; the brain, absolutely, but the mind? Not yet. Hopefully that will change in the future, but as of now all we have are a collection of different hypothesis that sort of work to explain how the mind might function, but they all fall woefully short of the level of explanation, prediction and understanding that a field like physics can provide. We've come a long way but we're still in the dark ages of psychology as far as I'm concerned. The brain is the most complex system we know of in the universe, so we probably won't be able to understand it until we have breakthrough discoveries in all related fields of study.
Olivia James Same here! That was my freshman year of high school! I hated when they closed the library a few times a year for teacher meetings. I thought “oh no! guess I’ll have to chill in the bathroom” it was a very sad time but luckily I survived!!
Oh gosh dont make me emotional. highschool is long over for me and i was a lonely child throughout highschool. Sophomore through senior year I didnt have many friends so I just made my way to the library. During the times library would be closed I would just try to find a teacher and sometimes camp out in their room. Gym time was horrible as well since I never had buddies to talk with or partner up with. Thank God highschool is over I don't think I ever wanna go back lol
It really doesn’t. It’s like those mission trips that people do to try and “help” African children. It’s not to make you feel better. It’s to make others feel good about themselves for helping the little guy. People that are genuine will go beyond a stunt and actually invite you to something. I had friends that did that.
You're not the only one buddy. When you grow older, friends dissipate away! I dont have friends either. Im probably older than you. Am always been alone but doesn't bring me down.
It is better to be alone then having toxic "friends" It is very hard to find decent , sincere friends -- most people around you are never sincere with you I see guys who have girlfriends -- and often they get so much headaches from them -- sometimes it is better to be alone and have a decent, peaceful life
@@uncertifiedlinguist8396 Im 20 now but was exactly like this in highschool.... Just focus on yourself all the kids who were partying and stuff are still doing just that! But they all live with their parents and arent building their career....soon the tables will turn and your life will be fruitful because you took the time to plant some seeds
I sat alone for 2 years in high school, and it feels horrible to be in a room full of people and still be so alone. It does affect the way you see the world when you're the outsider. Truly hope those are genuine friends and that they continue to sit with him in lunch. And hopefully this video inspires other teens to be friendly and walk up to people who don't seem to have friends at school.
Cats ohh guys me too but lmmm in grade 8 and immm sitting alone these days off cause I changed my school this is horrible teenage is worst age ! Whatever😐‼️
Evelyn Janeidy I’m too scared to eat in the canteen and have to face the awkwardness of eating on my own, so I just chill in the toilets at break and lunch
This made me cry. I was the tormented kid at school in Jr High. I've been spit on, kicked, had my clothing set on fire, my hair cut off, sexually assaulted, guns and knives pulled on me and had my face busted up but then we moved and I was popular at my new school in High school. Kids are so mean. My kids don't even attend in person school anymore. I'm so glad the student council included him.
Always so telling..evidence of pack mentality when at one school you can’t do a single thing to ‘fit in’ but at another you’re popular. Kids should be told about this regularly, so no matter where they might socially stand in school they know it’s just there and not everywhere else in the world. That it’s just that social circle and doesn’t mean something is flawed with them. So many kids take it to heart and become depressed which effects their schooling. It’s a terrible loss that need not be and more attention should be paid to it.
@@sonofhibbs4425 I think one of the most important things that a parent can teach a child is that "fitting in" and "being popular" are not important at all in the big scheme of things. Nothing is more important than simply being yourself, and RESPECTING yourself, and likewise treating others with kindness and respect. Self-confidence really is key! Then no matter how many jerky people you run into, it just doesn't phase you, because you know who you are.
@@sonofhibbs4425 Idk how to say this but popular kids typically do well in life. Being popular means you can get leadership positions at clubs in your school. It means that you can get more opportunities.
Gosh, I’m sorry that happened to you. I know that trauma will stay with you forever but please don’t let that stop you from continuing on with your life.
I'm pretty much like this guy. Everybody saw me as weird and I don't remember having much company back in High School. Thank god I had the nicest teachers in the world though. They allowed me to eat inside their classroom every lunch and sometimes socialized with me. I rarely felt lonely because of them.
@@B75-u7c did you not read what they put? Everyone saw them as weird. At that point, it doesnt matter how much you wanna socialize or reach out, people already have their view on you whether its false or not. And it works both ways, the classmates could reach out as well.
Very sweet. I had no friends in school, so I always skipped lunch because I didn't want people staring at me for eating alone like they always did. I wish someone had asked me to sit with them. A little generosity could go a long way
Same i stayed in the teacher's room by myself to eat until she kicked me out...which made it worse...i wish this happened when i went to school. Glad when i got to college it was the exact opposite everyone wanted to sit and include me
@@subterraneanhomesickalien666 The sad thing is the ppl eating by themselves are usually too shy too go up to someone else alone..cuz the rejection has impacted em so much. Then you also think being alone is better than fake friends who don't REALLY want to sit with you.
The last two years of high school i didnt have a set group of friends. I also ate alone and often took refuge in the toilets just so noone (especially my crush...) would see me by myself.
I’m so grateful my family taught me to be kind to others, no matter their appearance, family’s financial status, or beliefs. It’s nice to see some kids today have character.
My taught me the same thing, only in a different way. My dad told I would be in BIG trouble if I picked on a certain person who clearly had serious social problems. I got the message.
I remember going to the bathroom outside the cafeteria at my school when I was in high school and noticed someone in the stall to my right dropped their milk carton... they were eating in the bathroom stall. I waited outside the bathroom until someone came out because it was the only me and the other person in the bathroom to my knowledge and took a mental imagine of the person and casually approached them and asked him if he wanted to come sit with me and my other friends. Turns out dude played call of duty just as much as me and my friends at the time, although we’ve grown up and don’t play call of duty near as much we still all hangout as often as possible. Something I’ll forever be proud of doing in the years to come 💪🏼
We moved in April of my 9th grade year. My 10th grade was a new school where 2,000 students were enrolled. I spent the entire sophomore year sitting in the bathroom, sitting in a stall, and I skipped eating for the entire day. I thought that I was the only one! I felt invisible for 3 years. Good education, but lonely for sure! It might be genetic, as my son had the same exact problem. So sad. (in my H.S. yearbooks, everyone commented on how funny I was in class. I have heard this at many jobs over the years, "you are sooooo funny!") Go figure.
I sat alone 95% of the time through middle school and high school. It were some dark times but I’m so glad high school is over for me now. And to anyone else who is struggling, I believe in you that you can tackle these years. Keep on striving, school won’t last forever. I survived and so can you!
So I was like reading your comment and I accidentally pressed on your name and it took me to your channel and the first thing I saw was a lady with long hair and a skirt and I was like oh snap this girl is Pentecostal!! I’m apostolic Pentecostal and I go to a church in Texas city by Galveston.....Where are y’all located?
Kids can be so cruel... He looks and sounds like such a sweet boy and I´ll bet he is one of a kind friend that never will let you down and always will do anything to help and to lift you up. Thank God for the sweet kids who saw that in him.
Anja M. That doesn’t make kids cruel because they don’t go out of their way to sit with strangers it’s sad but don’t act like the kids have an obligation to sit with him
@@awaitingban7324 I think it is cruel if other people, kid or grown ups, ignore people who they know have a hard time and sits alone without any friends. It is parents job to teach their kids empathy and compassion. It takes so little to say "hey, com and sit with us" but it means so very much. But it does not make the kids mean or cruel people, that is not what I'm saying. And it is not that they do something cruel, but the lack of doing anything at all... Did I explain that right? I'm from Denmark so hope I made my self understandable ;).
@Zach your idea of education is wrong, education expands mind to new ideas + should give you working skills to be effective citizens of the world, so if your education inhibits socialization it is not education in its realest sense, that would be just making you remember information.
i was sitting alone in class today, and one of my classmates came to sit by me. she might've only come bacause she didn't have anyone else to sit with, but it made me feel a lot better regardless.
Try and think of some generic questions you can ask other kids that will get them talking about themselves in advance. A lot of young people like talking about themselves. Did either of your parents go to this school ? Where do they work ?What grammar school did you go to ? Kids from the same grammar school tend to hang with each other in HS, especially in large school districts and that can be useful in trying to figure out who knows who. I hope that helps a little.
@@ccdogpark I’m actually very extroverted, it’s just hard to talk to people in my class because half of them are part of colorguard(which I recently quit, and that’s awkward) and most of them are seniors, so it’s also hard to approach them.
Not always possible to make friends. I didn’t have any friends in hs since no one had anything in common with me and because my life offended them. Things still haven’t changed since then because i still dont have friends here because people in this state still dont share my interests and my life still offends them. So I won’t be able to make friends that can hang out with me until i move.
Same! I make sure to ask the most quiet ones how they are and if they're doing okay. They might be doing very good or very bad, but you just can't tell. Who knows, they might even be suicidal but don't want to bother others with their problems
@Grafxgrl Thank you!! I saw a regular awkward teenage boy who was shy and just needed someone to do the ice breaking.... I get momma bear mode but .... he reminds me of my daughter’s goofy boyfriend just a year older well nearly two... and he’s just a polite, cute albeit awkward teenage boy who’s super smart and winning over my daughter’s heart because to her he’s perfect... what I truly wonder is how these stories end up on National news? Out of all the shy kids around the country does this particular boy find his way to CBS? And would it add more of a stigma to the little guy by making him feel like he’s supposed to be pariah and the other kids are doing a charitable act by even spending a moment uttering a syllable to him? That sounds more crappy than feel good in my opinion and would never want my child at any age to feel like he/she was a charity act, to the contrary others should be so lucky to know such an awesome, compassionate and caring person... these stories always manage to TEE me off towards the parent in this case and the snot nose kids who should have just said “so?? We made a new friend and we all have fun together” or whatever... not like their trying to score extra credit or a merit badge for giving another kid a chance
You really ignore peoples differences? It is those that identify us, u sadly say he isnt different yet he clearly is, as am i, genuine joy comes from turning the difference into a strength, and embracing. Not hiding.
@@blak3brutus229 I really ignore comments about how the insides of people are different. We all have the same needs and that’s love, mercy, forgiveness and acceptance. I’m deeply thankful that Jesus Christ came to pay the demand for justice for me sins so I have full access to all of those things. Our outsides are different and how we express ourselves or different. I think that’s what you are saying - at least that’s how I’m hearing it, and I agree. That said, knowing Jesus makes those differences insignificant. He looks at the heart and shows us how to do the same. In that regard, this young man is identical to all mankind - he needs love, mercy, forgiveness and acceptance. I hope I was clearer this time. 💝💞💕
@@grafxgrl8030 id say in this situation, he found a good group of people to be treated as an equal however different he is. That's rare, its often better for people to come to terns on their differences so they break the habits putting them on the off side of a social spectrum, i was there all the way till i graduated, and ive seen others in the same boat numberless times, its always just an awkward silence when we try sitting near eachother. Once i did that tho, i got in a nice gaming group a few years back for mtg, and theyre about my only friends who i see 1nce a week for about 2 hours or 4 lol
Pity friends ? The kid obviously wanted to make friends but didn’t know how. That’s the case with a lot of kids including me ... one invite from a group of people can go a long in coming out of your shell . Going to the movies with him is another step too they probably wouldn’t have done that if they were pity friends
Lanfusmcnuff But how will you know if you don’t put yourself out there? These kids might have started out as ‘pity friends’, but perhaps one of these kids hit it off with him and they became real friends. It’s sort of like a blind date. It’s a set-up, but many times it turns into a lasting relationship.
For two years I had nobody to sit with at lunch. I'd go hide out in the library and read instead. My parents were worried and I was also losing weight as a result. The school counselor said I needed to be more assertive and should just go join a random group of kids. I tried that a few times, and was told to stay away because I was "weird" and "gross". So back to the library it was. After I got tired of reading fiction, I ventured over to the non-fiction sections. I found myself fascinated by books on Medicine, especialy Cardiology. Long story short, after 2 years of reading medical literature, I breezed through Pre-Med and got in to Medical school, performed at the top of my class, met a gorgeous and caring woman, and now live a comfortable life. Although the loneliness may be real in high school, just hang in there. The rude, snotty kids that think that superficial appearances and materialistic things are the keys to happy lives will get their reality checks soon enough. Every geek I met in the high school library is now making a 6 figure salary and cruising through life. The kids that bullied me and physically kicked me out of their lunch areas are now either in jail, unemployed, or just struggling to make ends meet.
Greg Gammago lmao don’t make fun of them for being “materialistic.” But turn around to say every geek is making six figures,I think they hurt you and you eventually turned out to be like them....lmao
I feel sad for this kid, I hope he finds real friends because everyone needs a friend in their life. It doesn't matter how many there are, just a few REAL friends would do. Of course I relate to this kid as well.
Since I can remember I have never really have a best friend. Just people I met in class and people I met at work. Most of the time I study alone and work alone. It never bothers me to go looking for a "friend." But that is just me, everyone is different.
Tou Xiong id rather have it your way. I had a toxic “best friend” from 1st grade till the end of 11th grade. Luckily I realized that he was toxic and we are no longer friends. I am now in 12th grade And now have a bunch of great, close friends but not a true “best friend” but it’s better than what I had before this school year.
I was always shy and quiet, never one of the "pretty" girls. At my high school, if you didn't have a designer purse you didn't fit in, were basically seen as "poor" even though it was an expensive private school in rural Pennsylvania. I had a couple friends but no one who lasted. I'm almost 30 and because I still don't fit in with anyone, I've accepted myself and am comfortable with being alone. I really have no choice. I'm just one of those people who is looked over in life, but I'm too shy to speak up. Relationships don't last, people randomly leave and never speak to me again without telling me why. I've had to accept I'm just a reject of society but it's okay because at least I know I've tried my best. But it still warms my heart to see how kind people can be towards others, even if I've never personally experienced it. I really love hearing good moments like this. I hope Andrew has made a nice group of friends. He seems like a sweet kid.
Everyone deserves love and I'm sorry you had to go through that. I sincerely hope one day you find a group of people, whether it's your own family or friends who are like found family, that will light up your life. Of course until then, love yourself to the FULLEST and enjoy your own company. It's so freeing sometimes.
Affirmations work for a lot of people like you. If you write down punch of affirmations relates to what anything you want and you say them out loud to yourself everyday for couple of times especially when you wake up or when you about to sleep at night, your supconcoucious brain will get lit up and it will program your brain in a very new way different than the person you are. Then you will seee yourself having and being what u always wanted. Do this and see the miracles happen for you.
Nobody is a "reject of society." You are a unique person made by God. He certainly has a plan for your life. You will be blessed with friends, and you will also be a blessing to others. Have faith.
Janet Wood I prefer to see the video as positive. I’m sending it to my son’s high school principal. Perhaps kids will learn something about compassion, yes?
It doesn't start in the cafeteria. It starts in the home. Parents need to teach their kids from.infancy that we help as serve others. That we have compassion. That we are inclusive. All these kids absorbed in their phones and isolating is NOT healthy. EDIT: I'M NOT SAYING THE PHONES ARE THE SOUL PROBLEM. I'M SAYING IT DOESN'T HELP WHEN THEY AREN'T USED IN MODERATION. When kids sit in a room together and still talk over social media or ignore each other. Or leave out people because they don't click with them. It's time to dig deeper. Kids can learn to do that with good example and a little coaxing.
The problem is not many parents are hands on anymore, so typical values we often learned young fall by the waist side with this generation. Parents/Guardians also spend a good deal of time on their phones and are not having one on one conversations anymore. With students in school over 7 hours a day in some cases it often falls on the teachers to pick up where parents can't and they're all ready overwhelmed. You're right all of this is NOT healthy and its only going to get worse.
Dang straight it starts at home!!! As a parent your job doesn't stop when your child enters school. Do right by them and actually raise your kid! Maybe then we wouldn't have so many self entitled brats running around ;)
Dachdog Using technology and devices doesn't isolate you. Social media and the Internet has made it much more accessible for us to make new friends with people world wide. It helps us network even better than ever and can help us make social contacts for adulthood.
I used to hide in the bathroom to eat lunch in middle school. Now I’m a sophomore and found some great friends to sit with, I’m very grateful for them. It’s so refreshing to see how this group of kids helped to make this lonely boy’s life better by doing something so small like asking him to sit with them at lunch.
He seems like a nice person, I would have sat with him in high school. I was born with a benign tumor on my face and got bullied on it until I got surgery in 5th grade. So I painfully know what it's like to be lonely and rejected.
Kids can be very cruel, but the good news is, most of the time they don't even really mean what they say and it shouldn't be taken personally. The kids that bullied you could even end up being your friends if both parties forgot about the whole thing.
Me as well. When I was in grade school I remember 2 different mom's thanking for being kind and coming over to play with their sons that it meant a lot to them because they didn't have any friends. I told don't know why because they were fun to play with and I liked them
When I was in high school, they had a section in the library you could sit in during lunch. I would use it everyday. One day I went to go there and I was informed by one of the librarians that it was being used by a class. She was so nasty and said “why don’t you learn how to read the board.” I thought she was nice and it really caught me off guard. Anyways, I just sat in the bathroom that day and felt horrible.
That is what is unique about this young man. The first thing the mother does is pray for him. Thank God that he has a supportive spiritual mother to guide him in tough times. Now God answered her prayers and I sure his too.
The loneliest year I had in school was in 10th grade when I would always eat my breakfast in the toilet and wait for the break to be over so no one would notice that I didn't have any friends. During the big break of 70 minutes I had the luck to be able to go home. I never told anyone of my family because I was so embarrassed. It was horrible but even worse is that 4 years later being 20 loneliness is still so very present for me as I still don't have friends.
Go and talk to people they will not eat you. Now with the covid that is a huge problem but when stuff open go do that. I have no idea how i met my friends at school because i was not old enough to remember. When i went to college in a new town i knew no one. I went on the first day at the office to take my scedule, 2 people outside, i went and talked them. I still talk some times with one of them and the other one is my best friend.
If it was 'horrible' then why not just TRY to change? Try some confidence boosting activitites like dancing or singing. Also, your brain is the MOST powerful computer in the WORLD It has the ability to take you to the edge of space in less than a millisecond, controls 7 TRILLION nerves in our body and what not! Why are you using your brain to think stuff like "What will others think of me?" Just go out to dude. You need to do that and trust me you will surely relish this decision later on. Don't make decisions that you know you will regret later on. Just wanted to add I was almost like you when I was in 10th grade. Also, Meditate. It will help you a lot. Check out Improvement pill. And don't forget that I am writing this comment because I want you to be happy and not miserable. Hope you would understand that. Thanks
sounds easy but people doesn't need to be friend with their whole facebook fake friends . one friend is enough . Try to be more open and allow yourself to talk with other people . I hate hearing those kind of sad stories coz it's sickenning how other people see a lonely person but still keep living their life to the fullest while some are going downhill . Please , just seek for the nicest looking person and try to make him a friend of yours . I love you
In my opinion, human friends can be overrated. Unfortunately, I have come across too many so-called friends who ended up not to be friends at all. "Fake friends". These days, some of my very best friends are animals!
I hope that kids see past my sons autism and accept him for the amazing kid he is. I pray that even one classmate interacts with him. Beauitful story and kiddos to those students...imagine a world if we could all just appreciate each other.
I am with you, my son is autistic and right now he is only 9. If it wasn't for the teachers helping him engage with other kids he'd not be playing with anyone. I am terrified for when he goes to high school and will become the lid no one sits with, because they think he's weird. Praying that someone reaches out to your son with kindness and sits with him and becomes friiends.
Nice gesture but honestly I was one of those kids who always sat alone as well and I loved it. To me, lunch was just that: I would get my food, go sit at any table with open seats, finish within 10-20 minutes and head to the library to chill thereafter. I can't say that it was more fun than say having a group of friends but it was definitely relaxing not having to talk, display emotions, worry about people staring at you, etc for a little chunk of the day. As an introvert, I need social breaks and that's just that. So next time, when you see someone sitting alone at lunch and think that he's sad, depressed, weird, etc, just pause for a moment because he may just be a normal, introverted guy.
Never hurts to ask if they want company, because you could be really changing someone's life, otherwise they can say no if they want to. But you never know without taking the risk. Plus if they're introverted, maybe he'll want to talk to someone after they finish a meal.
And what if he really is sad? Should we just ignore the person who doesn't feel like they would be accepted if they sat down with us? For me, I'd love if someone just came over and was like "hey, want to sit with me?" because I don't have to put myself out there or make an effort, they've already done it for me. Don't tell people to ignore the person sitting alone - they're not going to mind your asking them. It's better to be safe than sorry.
I didn’t want to sit alone at lunch because I was embarrassed so I would spend lunchtime at the library 📚 everyday. Problem was that during my class after lunch I was starving 😕
Those kids are angels. Something as simple as this can change somebody’s life and giving peace of mind and happiness to his mother. Thank you sweet angels x
they were probably embarrassed sitting next to him the entire time, just look at the girls' corner stares and awkwardness, likely a publicity stunt to get re-elected
I'm 59 now. But i was that kid back in the day... Thanks for the upload. You brought a tear to this old salts eye. And maybe even a little hope for the future of this rotting biggoted nation. Be well. peace
+gamrage, Andrew may even do something awesome with his life that is quite noteworthy. Won't those jackholes who have ignored him up to now feel stupid???!!!
Whenever I see a new kid sitting alone on their first day, I always tell my friends “look he or she is sitting alone” so we all go over and sit next to them, and start becoming friends w them:)
As an introverted kid, I liked eating alone. Even in my professional career, I would always leave the office for lunch at 11:15 to avoid invitations from co-workers to lunch with them.
I’m also introverted but it does feel different knowing someone wants you to go even if you’ll say no, versus no one ever wanting you around. Poor kid. Glad he has friends now.
When I used to work at a call center I loved when they would give us an hour lunch would either go home to eat or go to a fast food place instead of having to sit down in the lunch area.
Agreed! Talking to co-workers during the course of your day is OK, but having to talk to them during your free time is excruciating. Others thrive on it, I understand. But for me, I'd rather have the time alone to empty my mind of all the work and work politics nonsense.
During High School I ate lunch with my sociology teacher and watched R-Movies everyday, he's the best. I chose to sit in there and have intelligent and fun discussions rather than sit at the table with my friends and hear them chew lol.
On my first day of high school, I used to wait up stairs and sit by my favorite classroom to avoid going to the cafeteria. As for me, I struggle with social anxiety, so I thought I was going to have a panic attack and embarrass myself in front of everybody. I didn’t actually go to the cafeteria, but instead I stayed in the restrooms until it was over. I started to get used to the overpopulated cafeteria, so I gave sitting in there a shot. and that’s what I did. I sat there, watching everyone socialize and eat their lunch with their friends. I on the other hand never ate lunch at school bc i thought it was disgusting. All I did was sit there with my head down, listening to music. And I questioned if anyone think i’m a loser because i’m sitting alone or if i’m weird. So I started to sit in the library. and the library was my safe place bc it was quiet and comfortable. I enjoyed it and I took out my book that i would bring and read it for a good 20 mins so yeah.... lunch time was always the worse time for me :(
dude I’m experiencing the exact same thing in highschool right now like word for word how weird..well if you see this message do you have any advice for me? :o
@@imwastingmytimeonthis677 hi! so sorry for the late reply but my best advice is to join clubs that you’re interested in, and maybe you’ll find ppl just like you :) it may not be much but it’s a start :D maybe the library will be just your type or if you have a teacher that’s okay with you eating in their class… tbh that’s all i got, i’m so sorry. i started high school off as a loser and i graduated as a loser
Considering the rising number of suicides and school shootings, showing an example of how to treat people with kindness might help to stem the tide if others pick up on it. Sometimes all it takes is an act of kindness to avert tragedy.
I lost my middle school friends going into highschool because I came out as gay, but I had a friend who was a grade above me in soccer and she and her friends invited me to sit with them at lunch and I'm telling you that really made a change in my life. So thankful theres people like this
@@Moy-02 because I love God with all my heart. And everybody has their own sin/cross they have to bear. We all struggle through things in life. And we do our best. Jesus died so we can live. Not so we can pick and choose which sins we are forgiven for. We all sin and fall short of the glory of God. He who is without sin cast the first stone. If you say someone isnt going to heaven for being gay then you're saying that Jesus's death on the cross wasnt enough to save them. Faith is different for everybody. Any bad thought in our head is a sin because we're not perfect and we are gonna mess up. But if we live in fear of sinning every second we cant live life. Faith is accepting the free gift of life that Jesus offers when we believe in him. And of course you dont wanna sin on purpose, but you gotta do your best and forgive yourself when you mess up.
We live in a cruel society and cliques are unfortunately the way of the world. I wasn’t born with a neurological disease like this kid but lunchtime had always been a struggle for me since Junior High. I’m an adult now and it’s still hard to find genuine friends who like you beyond social status.
This is exactly what I saw. Every time they showed the cafeteria scene they literally never spoke or looked at him. The girl to his left put something (food or something) in front of him and didn't even look. The whole thing looked awkward and fake af. I know there are real people out there who are genuine, but I didn't see it in this group. Fake af.
It must suck being so cynical. So you are saying that its better for the group to constantly be looking and talking to him. Its a group of people... Not everyone is going to talk to that one person that's not how group conversation works and you know that.
Love those kids what they did! It’s sad that it doesn’t happen more often. Please if you’re in any school be a force for good. You might just change a life and that will carry with you for the rest of your life.
When I was at school, there were several kids who ate lunch alone so I introduced them to each other and from then on, they never ate alone again and 18 years later, they're all still really close friends
When I didn't eat lunch during school, I went to the library for peace of mind. I wish smartphones existed, I could have slept in there with an alarm set to ring in headphones. 🤣
Same I either went to have lunch in the library and catch up on some course readings/homework to save me some time 😭😭 wasn’t lonely, more like I just needed a break from the 2hr classes and screaming kids lol LITERALLY my break hour
I went to an all boys high school deep in the south. I am gay and I never told anyone. I would sit next to the same group of guys without talking just to eat. After I’d quickly get up to walk around campus to make it look like I was doing something or I would hide in the bathroom so people didn’t know I didn’t have friends. I always hated lunch break and wish we didn’t have one. For those who eat alone at lunch just know high school is temporary and you’ll eventually find your family.
Have to disagree with you last sentence (unless is misunderstood, then i apologize), but being 23, i can confirm that it can indeed make a colossal beneficial impact to sit with someone or be sat with, to connect and just be with other people. Our biology is built around social connection, co-operation and support of each other. When I help on week long or even just weekend camps in the summer, it is amazing to see and feel how much it makes us feel alive, loved, supported and acknowledged for who we are.
@@chrismccaffrey8256 I agree with you half way but in truth not sitting with someone isn't death and it doesn't reduce your intelligence. Usually by university the right kind of people will draw themselves to you once you stop subconsciously thinking about sitting with someone. It might even happen later in life but until then your mind will adapt to the silence around you so much so that you might not even want someone sitting next to you.
In hs, I tried talking to the lonely quiet kid during lunch. he just kept insisting that I go away and I think he said something alluding to me faking being friendly just to be nice. I was awkward and weird as well and only had a handful of friends, so I just let him be. I never talked to "lonely" kids again. why? because you need a certain level of social intelligence to communicate with the lonely kids and I just didn't have it at the time. His cynicism and cruel view of the world made me feel like he was a hopeless case, but if you are able to change their perspective, they can learn to provide more in a friendship than just feeling like people talk to them out of pity.
I agree, I had exactly the same experience with another person like that. Beforehand it feels like you might be doing them a favor but as soon as you approach them it becomes awkward af. So now do you just leave them so they can be lonely and unhappy?
Thats very true. Im one of the lonely quiet kid, I always feel alone but my stone like face just make everyone wary of approaching me lol. One day, another loner befriended me. I dont recall how, but it turns out she befriended me because she have inferiority complex. She would mock what I wear, how I act, what I like, what I eat etc. Basically full blown hatred, yet she cling to me like there's no tomorrow because she was so afraid to get judged because she have no friend. One day, I was absent and she was alone. She followed a group of girls to hang out with this teacher, but the teacher hated her and said 'What are you doing here? Get out!' And thus the next day she basically cried to me (oddly, the teacher is chill with me. Not friendly, but she never verbally abuse me. I guess she have a knack of knowing genuine people and fake people?) I thought she would treat me better then, but she didnt change. Not at all. Since then, even after I graduated from lonely kid to 'that smart and serious kid with only three close friends' I never, ever approach another quiet kid. Some of them are genuinely just awkward people like me, but most are disgusting people that is willing to stab you in the back because of their inferiority complex. Dont approach them unless youre certain you didnt take any bs from anyone. I also have another recent case. Another quiet girl in my previous class... I thought she was just introvert, but she just genuinely have no interest in befriending people. No problem right? Except she also didnt see other people as fellow human being. A girl in my class helped her with her assignments. Basically didnt sleep at all for three days straight, because the quiet girl refused to do her own assignments and all the teachers ran out of patience and threatened to risk the whole class grade. My laptop got a problem then, so Im one of the people who sent the assignment late, I approached her to inv her to send her assignments together with me. She proceed to dump all the papers infront of me and basically let me figure it out and fix it according to the order myself. I noticed theres an assignment missing so i asked if she missed it, she proceed to frown at me and go 'I dont know, ask (the kind girl), she did all of these, its her fault!' Yeah. Sometime, theyre alone because theres something wrong with them.
@@ignarmackadingdongjr6590 Hahaha for real though, I can see why nobody want to befriend me as a kid. I got abused a lot in my kindergarten daycare, so eventhough Im young, my mentality is a bit older than kids my age. I was always silent, reading books by myself and basically boring to the boot. Even until now I still feel very conscious when I talk to people, do they think Im boring? They talk to me now, but would they still talk to me after finding out how boring iam? I have no interest whatsoever in dramas, and it seems everybody is clinging to people with many dramas around them. Its no wonder i got pushed into the corner lol.
I have social anxiety and in high school I used to sit alone on purpose. I tried to find a table that was empty and establish it as my own. I really did not want anyone to sit with me, it was a huge relief if I was able to be alone to eat my lunch. It felt so nice. So don't assume everyone at lunch that sits alone is upset about it. I would just ask if they like sitting alone and if they say yes, for gods sakes leave them alone immediately. They do not want any attention at all. For socially anxious kids, attention is painful.
Koda T I have social anxiety myself and it is true that I like to sit alone. But the only reason we like it is because of our avoidant tendencies and them sitting with me or you is good for social exposure and it builds up tolerance to anxiety. So if I were you, yes in the moment I’d hate it but after it I realize it’s good for me and helps getting rid of the anxiety.
I was a nervous quiet loner. Nobody would sit with me. I wasn’t teased, just ignored. The only kids that were nice and didn’t care were the stoners. By the way they never offered me weed.
God, I hated when the popular people ask you to sit with them. “Come sit with us so everyone can see how good we are!”. Those snakes are worse than bullies
It was so different at my school, there was a rule known around that we would never let a kid sit alone. Sorry that you and others had to deal with idiotic bullies that did things for looks.
These are not those kinds of preppy popular kids though. Not a single one has a punchable face. The preppy kids at my school were the same way, wanting me sit with them but i know from class and sports they just ask questions then make fun of the answers. They want you to sit with them for amusement and to pretend they are good people. But these student council members look like they were loners too.
@@ItsMe-yb8ug I would hate your school, I prefer to eat alone in total silence, I can't stand chit chat while I am eating. Only the insecure have to feel that they need people around.
@@JENDALL714 it’s a really small school so we never wanted anyone feeling alone, some kids did want to talk while others didn’t. we’d still sit with them just so they wouldn’t have to sit alone, but we didn’t force them to converse.
@@ItsMe-yb8ug I prefer to eat alone, I am not a people friendly person. When I go to Church, I find a spot way in the back so I can sit by myself and I don't like to be in the thoughts and prayers of anyone.
me and my friendgroup once saw a kid a few years yonger eating alone so we all sat and ate with him. he told us he was bullied and we told him he can always talk to us. after that whenever he saw us hed say hi and we'd have a little chat and hed seem real happy to see us. looking back, im so glad i did this and i encourage everyone to try and do the same, it can really brigten up a place that can be dark for some kids.
I hate student council kids, they all act like they're important and pure because they commit mildly frustrating acts of kindness. It's a nice gesture on paper but their smiles make it gross
This is the exact opposite of the way you should think. Why can’t it just be positive? I was taught since I was little to try to include everyone and not be rude to people. You see fake people, and whether they are or not, I see a happy guy that feels included and not like an outcast.
@@YOTSUBA_desu @1:34 the way that girl says that makes her look so heinous xD and then that one kid right after her looks like he is probably gonna grow up to be some scumbag crooked lawyer who plots against his client xD Just the way they talk and look at him.
Hippocrates of Kos (/hɪˈpɒkrətiːz/; Greek: Ἱπποκράτης ὁ Κῷος, translit. Hippokrátēs ho Kṓos; c. 460 - c. 370 BC), also known as Hippocrates II, was a Greek physician of the Age of Pericles (Classical Greece), who is considered one of the most outstanding figures in the history of medicine. He is often referred to as the "Father of Medicine" in recognition of his lasting contributions to the field as the founder of the Hippocratic School of Medicine. This intellectual school revolutionized Ancient Greek medicine, establishing it as a discipline distinct from other fields with which it had traditionally been associated (theurgy and philosophy), thus establishing medicine as a profession.
Man I used to sit alone my first year of High School. I used to dread going to lunch. It’s so incredibly embarrassing sitting alone. I was a super shy kid, luckily I was able to find a friend my sophomore year who had a couple others. Thankful for that. Jeeze
I was a very shy child. First day of 7th grade I was sitting on steps outside school crying. A little girl came up to me asking what was wrong. I told her I didn’t have any friends. She said “I’ll be your friend.”. We are still friends after 50 years!
Moogie B I love that!! Moments like that are magical and we never forget them. Her gesture was life-changing for both of you. One gesture turned into a lifelong gift.
Priceless 💎
I don't remember what i ate yesterday
@@zaxarispetixos8728 Long term memory okay, short term memory...what was I saying? 🤣
That is so cute
Before I used to be afraid of being alone. Now I'm afraid of having the wrong people as company.
Yeah me too LOL
Growing up I started feeling the same
no joke
as the great Robin Williams said, "The worst thing in the world isn’t being alone, it’s being surrounded with people that makes you feel alone”
The older I get, the less I want to be around other people
“The worst thing in the world isn’t being alone, it’s being surrounded with people that makes you feel alone”
Fact. Personally,being alone for 1 hour straight is will be the best moment I ever had.
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You're right we as adults know that but teenagers don't they just want to be popular
It’s in quotation marks. Who originally said this? I wrote a poem about this exact feeling.
Amen.
I sat in the library with an autistic student my entire senior year. Super smart guy, even got me a vegan organic chapstick for my birthday since he knew I was vegan and couldn't use beeswax products. He could tell you EVERYTHING about your cellphone. He knew the model of every phone in the school haha.
does he work for apple yet?
@@bonehead5000 God I wish. I still follow his instagram. He works a job, and loves posting his custom starbucks drinks. He is unapologetically himself and its refreshing.
Damn bro, wish I had someone like you
Hello, I am also autistic and have always sat alone at lunch. That’s not to say I’m some outcast by others actions. People have always been kind to me and have offered seats with me. I deny though. I’m irate to others chewing, eye contact burns my eyes, and I always feel out of my skin when in large areas with many people. Someone like that, I feel I could relate to despite so little information. Have a good day.
@@skipper7316 I'm glad my friend seems like someone you could get along with well! I'm sure you'r3 just as cool of a person! Have a great day too!
Imagine being so lonely that when someone finally eats lunch with you, it actually makes the _national_ news :-(
Lol too funny
Lol, I never made the news for eatting alone. I guess times are changing.
@@ryaj2356 Yeah, me either. It's cool though, good for him. I just thought it speaks to just _how_ lonely he must have been that it literally made the news, lol.
@@jhyland87 it's a sad world that being kind and expanding your social circle makes the news lol
It probably made the news because they were using him for clout. Judging from their body language at 1:42-1:50 they were only interested in painting a good image for themselves not really interested in getting to know him or making him more comfortable joining in the conversation.
There’s a difference between a introvert and being lonely..
True! I’m introvert but have a lot of „friends“
I'm both introvert and lonely
This guys clearly lonely
@@joshdeveaux6936 yeah
@@Yyyyzyyy *sigh*
You can still be alone in a group of people.
Nonetheless this was a kind gesture.
yep
Wrzkrz Yea but appearances is better than nothing
So true
Wrzkrz that’s a fact
Literally me
At university, a girl joined our class in the middle of the semester, she became friends with another girl who was always alone, they were always together, but then one dropped out and the new girl was left alone. I saw her one day just sitting in a bench in a hallway alone and I approached her and started to talk to her. Today she's one of my best friends in the world and I know that I can trust her in any way, I'm just so glad I decided to approach her.
I bet she was even more glad than you.
man I admire people like you!
People like you are the reason why I have friends in the first place.
Wait.. I was told that its easy to make friends in uni and you won't be alone, that's a lie?? 😳
@@mija1570 in uni u get to make more then one or two friends
It’s so scary because it’s like you’re talking about me. Wtf. Except the part where she gets approaches though
It's sad, I always ate lunch alone, sometimes I wish I had a friend who would wanna be with me. It's the worst feeling :/
SIS ME! SIS ME! ILL FLY OVER THERE BOO, TO SIT WITH YOU!
come over to my school and be my kpop friend :(
Same here
Me too. I wish I had a friend too. Especially and army friend
I just wish I had kpop friends
This..is the answer to bullying. Just a simple act of kindness.
@@mizomint4197 I disagree with that statement, because I do nice things simply because it's the right thing to do. I don't think about myself, I think about the other person.
@@mizomint4197 Speak for yourself. Not everyone has some hidden agenda or looking to gain something.
@@mizomint4197 I think you might be speaking for yourself there. Not everyone keeps a tally of good deeds just so they can subconsciously "allow" themselves to do bad things. I also think that you might not truly "know" what empathy is on an emotional level. It's simply the ability to feel what others are feeling without thinking about it. We have "mirror neurons" in our brains that are supposedly responsible for this phenomena. It's putting yourself in another person's shoes, but without needing to break the situation down intellectually; in neurotypical people empathy is automatic. It's not just about getting a dopamine hit from "being good", it's about wanting to make others feel better, and in turn that reflects back onto you and makes you feel better as well.
There's also the philosophical concept of doing the right thing simply because it's the right thing to do and not because you necessarily gain anything from it. The dopamine hit that we get certainly reinforces the behavior of helping each other, but I personally don't think it's only reason we do it. We are social, emotional creatures and we feed off of each other, in both positive and negative ways, and we need each other to survive. We exist in an extremely complex system, so there are a multitude of reasons for why people do the things they do.
Besides all of that though, even IF we only do nice things because of evolutionary reasons and the dopamine hit, does it really change anything? It's certainly not a good reason to stop helping others or to deny help from others. In the end I don't think it matters much why we do it, it just matters that we do.
@@mizomint4197 Hey this isn't personal man, if you read the rest of what I wrote you'd see that I actually agree with you to a degree, I just don't think the subconscious and dopamine explain all of human behavior. That said, I shouldn't have assumed that you haven't experienced empathy. Btw, I do have a degree in psych, and as far as I know, no one can rigorously, scientifically explain what consciousness even is and how it works, much less what the "subconscious" is. The subconscious is obviously a thing, and it has great control over our behavior, but we still don't really understand it. I suppose your post read as though you were shitting on the idea of people doing good deeds simply because they care, and saying that in reality they're only motivated to do so for selfish reasons. It felt like a really pessimistic way to look at the world.
One thing I took away from my time as a psych major was that the fields of Psychology and Psychiatry are NOT hard sciences like physics, engineering, chemistry or mathematics. Psych researchers do their best, but we simply don't yet have the proper tools to objectively observe and quantify the mind; the brain, absolutely, but the mind? Not yet. Hopefully that will change in the future, but as of now all we have are a collection of different hypothesis that sort of work to explain how the mind might function, but they all fall woefully short of the level of explanation, prediction and understanding that a field like physics can provide.
We've come a long way but we're still in the dark ages of psychology as far as I'm concerned. The brain is the most complex system we know of in the universe, so we probably won't be able to understand it until we have breakthrough discoveries in all related fields of study.
@@mizomint4197 Found the first year psych student eager to diagnose everyone 😂
There was one entire year that I had nobody to sit with at lunch so I went to the library every single day. Lunch can be very hard for some.
Olivia James this reminded me of my last two years of high school. It was horrible lol but i survived. At that time i was so glad for the library lol
Olivia James Same here! That was my freshman year of high school! I hated when they closed the library a few times a year for teacher meetings. I thought “oh no! guess I’ll have to chill in the bathroom” it was a very sad time but luckily I survived!!
Me too... I went to the library and preffered to skip lunch
You find the nicest people in the library
Oh gosh dont make me emotional. highschool is long over for me and i was a lonely child throughout highschool. Sophomore through senior year I didnt have many friends so I just made my way to the library. During the times library would be closed I would just try to find a teacher and sometimes camp out in their room. Gym time was horrible as well since I never had buddies to talk with or partner up with. Thank God highschool is over I don't think I ever wanna go back lol
As a kid who ate alone at lunchtime this does make a difference.
I sat alone so why am I not in the news? Clout chasers
I sat alone too. We should be on the news 🤣
It really doesn’t. It’s like those mission trips that people do to try and “help” African children. It’s not to make you feel better. It’s to make others feel good about themselves for helping the little guy. People that are genuine will go beyond a stunt and actually invite you to something. I had friends that did that.
@@shaunakkulkarni4679 SO TRUE.
I like sitting alone it’s my alone time.
Empathy and compassion goes a long way, can even stop suicides. 👏👏👏👍
Sven Niles what are u talking about
Sven Niles it leads to suicide more often than not I’m pretty sure
school shooters*
@@lactoseindependent8937 true
Ur gon be the new Justin Y lmao
I like this guy. He’s awkward like me. I too have no friends but I’m way older than this kid.
You're not the only one buddy. When you grow older, friends dissipate away! I dont have friends either. Im probably older than you. Am always been alone but doesn't bring me down.
It is better to be alone then having toxic "friends"
It is very hard to find decent , sincere friends -- most people around you are never sincere with you
I see guys who have girlfriends -- and often they get so much headaches from them -- sometimes it is better to be alone and have a decent, peaceful life
John it’s ok to think you are awkward and be vulnerable about that . We all are awkward in our own ways. Hugs to you
@@uncertifiedlinguist8396 Im 20 now but was exactly like this in highschool.... Just focus on yourself all the kids who were partying and stuff are still doing just that! But they all live with their parents and arent building their career....soon the tables will turn and your life will be fruitful because you took the time to plant some seeds
Yes you do have friends love...we all just live in your pocket on your phone. Hiiiiiiii friend! 👋 🤗
I sat alone for 2 years in high school, and it feels horrible to be in a room full of people and still be so alone. It does affect the way you see the world when you're the outsider. Truly hope those are genuine friends and that they continue to sit with him in lunch. And hopefully this video inspires other teens to be friendly and walk up to people who don't seem to have friends at school.
Evelyn Janeidy I’m in middle school seconds year, and I’ve been sitting alone at lunch for 2 months😔
Actually 3 months
KingKasey
Bruh I’m in middle school 8th grade and also sit alone in lunch
Don’t worry your not alone
Cats ohh guys me too but lmmm in grade 8 and immm sitting alone these days off cause I changed my school this is horrible teenage is worst age ! Whatever😐‼️
Evelyn Janeidy I’m too scared to eat in the canteen and have to face the awkwardness of eating on my own, so I just chill in the toilets at break and lunch
This made me cry. I was the tormented kid at school in Jr High. I've been spit on, kicked, had my clothing set on fire, my hair cut off, sexually assaulted, guns and knives pulled on me and had my face busted up but then we moved and I was popular at my new school in High school. Kids are so mean. My kids don't even attend in person school anymore. I'm so glad the student council included him.
Always so telling..evidence of pack mentality when at one school you can’t do a single thing to ‘fit in’ but at another you’re popular. Kids should be told about this regularly, so no matter where they might socially stand in school they know it’s just there and not everywhere else in the world. That it’s just that social circle and doesn’t mean something is flawed with them. So many kids take it to heart and become depressed which effects their schooling. It’s a terrible loss that need not be and more attention should be paid to it.
Wtf
@@sonofhibbs4425 I think one of the most important things that a parent can teach a child is that "fitting in" and "being popular" are not important at all in the big scheme of things. Nothing is more important than simply being yourself, and RESPECTING yourself, and likewise treating others with kindness and respect. Self-confidence really is key! Then no matter how many jerky people you run into, it just doesn't phase you, because you know who you are.
@@sonofhibbs4425 Idk how to say this but popular kids typically do well in life. Being popular means you can get leadership positions at clubs in your school. It means that you can get more opportunities.
Gosh, I’m sorry that happened to you. I know that trauma will stay with you forever but please don’t let that stop you from continuing on with your life.
Just take a pack of gum to school and you’ll make friends in no time
Isabelle Coubrough for sure
Lmao
LMAO yep I was that guy
Isabelle Coubrough Facts
Fax
I'm pretty much like this guy. Everybody saw me as weird and I don't remember having much company back in High School. Thank god I had the nicest teachers in the world though. They allowed me to eat inside their classroom every lunch and sometimes socialized with me. I rarely felt lonely because of them.
Did it ever occure to you to socialize with your class comrades?
Same!
@@B75-u7c did you not read what they put? Everyone saw them as weird. At that point, it doesnt matter how much you wanna socialize or reach out, people already have their view on you whether its false or not. And it works both ways, the classmates could reach out as well.
@@B75-u7c Really?
@@nspector No. Obviously you just caught my pathetic cap.
Very sweet. I had no friends in school, so I always skipped lunch because I didn't want people staring at me for eating alone like they always did. I wish someone had asked me to sit with them. A little generosity could go a long way
Same i stayed in the teacher's room by myself to eat until she kicked me out...which made it worse...i wish this happened when i went to school. Glad when i got to college it was the exact opposite everyone wanted to sit and include me
Me too I was always ate by myself. I had a discman(I'm pretty old) ,book and my lunch.
@@subterraneanhomesickalien666 The sad thing is the ppl eating by themselves are usually too shy too go up to someone else alone..cuz the rejection has impacted em so much. Then you also think being alone is better than fake friends who don't REALLY want to sit with you.
@@subterraneanhomesickalien666 you are not that old if I know what it is and had one lmao (maybe not by high school but def before high school)
The last two years of high school i didnt have a set group of friends. I also ate alone and often took refuge in the toilets just so noone (especially my crush...) would see me by myself.
I’m so grateful my family taught me to be kind to others, no matter their appearance, family’s financial status, or beliefs. It’s nice to see some kids today have character.
My taught me the same thing, only in a different way. My dad told I would be in BIG trouble if I picked on a certain person who clearly had serious social problems. I got the message.
Imagine living in a world where sitting with the lonely kid at lunch was such a rare and strange occurrence that CBS had to make a story on it
😂😂🤦♂️ frr tho
He’s too cute his mom is beautiful. It’s sad when children can’t make any friends. I’m glad they sat with him
Ya highschool isnt too nice on alot of kids. Pretty common
I bully straight boys in school lmao
@usuallydrunk420?
Can’t begin to explain how much this can change someone’s life.
LanceTheDriver absolutely, this hit home as I ate lunch alone many times in high school.
Totally!
Mother's prayer was answered.
I ate alone in middle school the first year... restroom as well. It’s heart breaking, but I grew up and i appreciate friendship even more now.
I remember going to the bathroom outside the cafeteria at my school when I was in high school and noticed someone in the stall to my right dropped their milk carton... they were eating in the bathroom stall. I waited outside the bathroom until someone came out because it was the only me and the other person in the bathroom to my knowledge and took a mental imagine of the person and casually approached them and asked him if he wanted to come sit with me and my other friends. Turns out dude played call of duty just as much as me and my friends at the time, although we’ve grown up and don’t play call of duty near as much we still all hangout as often as possible. Something I’ll forever be proud of doing in the years to come 💪🏼
We moved in April of my 9th grade year. My 10th grade was a new school where 2,000 students were enrolled. I spent the entire sophomore year sitting in the bathroom, sitting in a stall, and I skipped eating for the entire day. I thought that I was the only one! I felt invisible for 3 years. Good education, but lonely for sure! It might be genetic, as my son had the same exact problem. So sad. (in my H.S. yearbooks, everyone commented on how funny I was in class. I have heard this at many jobs over the years, "you are sooooo funny!") Go figure.
@@bigironduke people also thought I was funny. I didn’t see it as a good thing. Just means people didn’t take me seriously.
Shut up we don't care bruh
I sat alone 95% of the time through middle school and high school. It were some dark times but I’m so glad high school is over for me now. And to anyone else who is struggling, I believe in you that you can tackle these years. Keep on striving, school won’t last forever. I survived and so can you!
Be kind to everyone. Even a smile from a stranger can make someone’s whole day
Like your profile 👍😂
I scare people away when I smile. I always eat alone. Its quiet and peaceful. People are toxic nowadays anyway.
So I was like reading your comment and I accidentally pressed on your name and it took me to your channel and the first thing I saw was a lady with long hair and a skirt and I was like oh snap this girl is Pentecostal!! I’m apostolic Pentecostal and I go to a church in Texas city by Galveston.....Where are y’all located?
Angel Garza hey! Nice to meet a fellow apostolic! We’re located in Phoenix, Arizona
Brittney Ikeda that’s so cool!!! I met a new friend:)So are y’all going to nayc19?!?!
Kids can be so cruel... He looks and sounds like such a sweet boy and I´ll bet he is one of a kind friend that never will let you down and always will do anything to help and to lift you up. Thank God for the sweet kids who saw that in him.
Anja M. That doesn’t make kids cruel because they don’t go out of their way to sit with strangers it’s sad but don’t act like the kids have an obligation to sit with him
@@awaitingban7324 I think it is cruel if other people, kid or grown ups, ignore people who they know have a hard time and sits alone without any friends. It is parents job to teach their kids empathy and compassion. It takes so little to say "hey, com and sit with us" but it means so very much. But it does not make the kids mean or cruel people, that is not what I'm saying. And it is not that they do something cruel, but the lack of doing anything at all... Did I explain that right? I'm from Denmark so hope I made my self understandable ;).
@Zach your idea of education is wrong, education expands mind to new ideas + should give you working skills to be effective citizens of the world, so if your education inhibits socialization it is not education in its realest sense, that would be just making you remember information.
i was sitting alone in class today, and one of my classmates came to sit by me. she might've only come bacause she didn't have anyone else to sit with, but it made me feel a lot better regardless.
Try and think of some generic questions you can ask other kids that will
get them talking about themselves in advance. A lot of young people like talking about themselves. Did either of your parents go to this school ? Where do they work ?What grammar school did you go to ? Kids from the same grammar school
tend to hang with each other in HS, especially in large school districts and
that can be useful in trying to figure out who knows who. I hope that helps a little.
@@ccdogpark I’m actually very extroverted, it’s just hard to talk to people in my class because half of them are part of colorguard(which I recently quit, and that’s awkward) and most of them are seniors, so it’s also hard to approach them.
Make more friends. This world is already full enough of enemies...
Not always possible to make friends. I didn’t have any friends in hs since no one had anything in common with me and because my life offended them. Things still haven’t changed since then because i still dont have friends here because people in this state still dont share my interests and my life still offends them. So I won’t be able to make friends that can hang out with me until i move.
kim coleman You have adventures ahead of you. Think of all the cool places and people waiting for you to come visit.
Exactly! Ppl are super judgemental a holes. We live in a society of rudeness and distrust
It’s harder than it sounds...but there are goodhearted people like these students, very reassuring to see.
Lipstick Capone Speak to yourself, sister! Only people like you are so conniving. Good luck...
This is why I made sure I talked to everyone I could in high school -- and I'm not even naturally social.
This is a great thing to do. I try to do the same even after high school even tho I don’t like talking as much
@@Coby23 you're both good people for doing that!
Same
Same! I make sure to ask the most quiet ones how they are and if they're doing okay. They might be doing very good or very bad, but you just can't tell. Who knows, they might even be suicidal but don't want to bother others with their problems
Same I’m fine like not super extrovert but I make sure everyone has company even if it’s out of my comfort zone
He is not ‘different’ though - he’s Iike every other human on the planet who has a need to be loved.
@Grafxgrl Thank you!! I saw a regular awkward teenage boy who was shy and just needed someone to do the ice breaking.... I get momma bear mode but .... he reminds me of my daughter’s goofy boyfriend just a year older well nearly two... and he’s just a polite, cute albeit awkward teenage boy who’s super smart and winning over my daughter’s heart because to her he’s perfect... what I truly wonder is how these stories end up on National news? Out of all the shy kids around the country does this particular boy find his way to CBS? And would it add more of a stigma to the little guy by making him feel like he’s supposed to be pariah and the other kids are doing a charitable act by even spending a moment uttering a syllable to him? That sounds more crappy than feel good in my opinion and would never want my child at any age to feel like he/she was a charity act, to the contrary others should be so lucky to know such an awesome, compassionate and caring person... these stories always manage to TEE me off towards the parent in this case and the snot nose kids who should have just said “so?? We made a new friend and we all have fun together” or whatever... not like their trying to score extra credit or a merit badge for giving another kid a chance
You really ignore peoples differences? It is those that identify us, u sadly say he isnt different yet he clearly is, as am i, genuine joy comes from turning the difference into a strength, and embracing. Not hiding.
@@blak3brutus229 I really ignore comments about how the insides of people are different. We all have the same needs and that’s love, mercy, forgiveness and acceptance. I’m deeply thankful that Jesus Christ came to pay the demand for justice for me sins so I have full access to all of those things. Our outsides are different and how we express ourselves or different. I think that’s what you are saying - at least that’s how I’m hearing it, and I agree. That said, knowing Jesus makes those differences insignificant. He looks at the heart and shows us how to do the same. In that regard, this young man is identical to all mankind - he needs love, mercy, forgiveness and acceptance. I hope I was clearer this time. 💝💞💕
@@grafxgrl8030 lol im guessing u werent the guy sitting alone everyday 😅 otherwise ud have a different outlook
@@grafxgrl8030 id say in this situation, he found a good group of people to be treated as an equal however different he is. That's rare, its often better for people to come to terns on their differences so they break the habits putting them on the off side of a social spectrum, i was there all the way till i graduated, and ive seen others in the same boat numberless times, its always just an awkward silence when we try sitting near eachother. Once i did that tho, i got in a nice gaming group a few years back for mtg, and theyre about my only friends who i see 1nce a week for about 2 hours or 4 lol
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I would rather have no friends than have pity friends
Lanfusmcnuff true that
What if the pity friends become close friends?
@@Slime-ez5cg then they're not pity friends anymore
Pity friends ? The kid obviously wanted to make friends but didn’t know how. That’s the case with a lot of kids including me ... one invite from a group of people can go a long in coming out of your shell . Going to the movies with him is another step too they probably wouldn’t have done that if they were pity friends
Lanfusmcnuff But how will you know if you don’t put yourself out there? These kids might have started out as ‘pity friends’, but perhaps one of these kids hit it off with him and they became real friends. It’s sort of like a blind date. It’s a set-up, but many times it turns into a lasting relationship.
they aren't including him in conversations or the "circle". they just sat with him, to make themselves feel better
True
We only saw a tiny clip, and they went to the movies together
Still, just by observing how others behave in social situations is still better for social skills development than just being alone in the corner
you would rather they force him to be social? just sitting in a group is relief enough.
At least they reached out to him that is enough
For two years I had nobody to sit with at lunch. I'd go hide out in the library and read instead. My parents were worried and I was also losing weight as a result. The school counselor said I needed to be more assertive and should just go join a random group of kids. I tried that a few times, and was told to stay away because I was "weird" and "gross". So back to the library it was. After I got tired of reading fiction, I ventured over to the non-fiction sections. I found myself fascinated by books on Medicine, especialy Cardiology. Long story short, after 2 years of reading medical literature, I breezed through Pre-Med and got in to Medical school, performed at the top of my class, met a gorgeous and caring woman, and now live a comfortable life. Although the loneliness may be real in high school, just hang in there. The rude, snotty kids that think that superficial appearances and materialistic things are the keys to happy lives will get their reality checks soon enough. Every geek I met in the high school library is now making a 6 figure salary and cruising through life. The kids that bullied me and physically kicked me out of their lunch areas are now either in jail, unemployed, or just struggling to make ends meet.
Greg Gammago lmao don’t make fun of them for being “materialistic.” But turn around to say every geek is making six figures,I think they hurt you and you eventually turned out to be like them....lmao
Big Tex that’s sad bro
Cutie Zalbu
Being Materialistic and being Financially successful are two different things.
Dang, the Lord turned your struggle into a blessing. This is a nice example of everything happens for a reason
@@CutieZalbu not really
The fact that talking to someone who’s alone making it to the news is incredible for me.
I feel sad for this kid, I hope he finds real friends because everyone needs a friend in their life. It doesn't matter how many there are, just a few REAL friends would do.
Of course I relate to this kid as well.
Especially if u have no siblings, then u need friends
I have no friends , but siblings so I'm happy ..
Since I can remember I have never really have a best friend. Just people I met in class and people I met at work. Most of the time I study alone and work alone. It never bothers me to go looking for a "friend." But that is just me, everyone is different.
Tou Xiong honestly same. I’ve never had a best friend but friends I talk to
Tou Xiong id rather have it your way. I had a toxic “best friend” from 1st grade till the end of 11th grade. Luckily I realized that he was toxic and we are no longer friends. I am now in 12th grade And now have a bunch of great, close friends but not a true “best friend” but it’s better than what I had before this school year.
He seems like a really nice guy. God bless him...
I would have been his friend.
@@rn6710 me too
Really proud of those kids! Why can't the rest of the world be like this?
Amen. Great question. 🙏🏼
your right those kids are a true inspiration!
Paul Because we inherited a sin nature from our parents Adam and Eve and without the presence of the Holy Spirit, people only care about themselves.
because the world isn't perfect
I was always shy and quiet, never one of the "pretty" girls. At my high school, if you didn't have a designer purse you didn't fit in, were basically seen as "poor" even though it was an expensive private school in rural Pennsylvania. I had a couple friends but no one who lasted. I'm almost 30 and because I still don't fit in with anyone, I've accepted myself and am comfortable with being alone. I really have no choice. I'm just one of those people who is looked over in life, but I'm too shy to speak up. Relationships don't last, people randomly leave and never speak to me again without telling me why. I've had to accept I'm just a reject of society but it's okay because at least I know I've tried my best. But it still warms my heart to see how kind people can be towards others, even if I've never personally experienced it. I really love hearing good moments like this. I hope Andrew has made a nice group of friends. He seems like a sweet kid.
Everyone deserves love and I'm sorry you had to go through that. I sincerely hope one day you find a group of people, whether it's your own family or friends who are like found family, that will light up your life. Of course until then, love yourself to the FULLEST and enjoy your own company. It's so freeing sometimes.
Affirmations work for a lot of people like you. If you write down punch of affirmations relates to what anything you want and you say them out loud to yourself everyday for couple of times especially when you wake up or when you about to sleep at night, your supconcoucious brain will get lit up and it will program your brain in a very new way different than the person you are. Then you will seee yourself having and being what u always wanted. Do this and see the miracles happen for you.
Amanda Hi I’d like a new friend
Nobody is a "reject of society." You are a unique person made by God. He certainly has a plan for your life. You will be blessed with friends, and you will also be a blessing to others. Have faith.
These kids have such a bright future and I wish the best for them :)
Eric Champlin 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Yes!!
You know what would have been even nicer? If they had sat with him without calling the television cameras! (Kids today want *credit* for being nice.)
Janet Wood I prefer to see the video as positive. I’m sending it to my son’s high school principal. Perhaps kids will learn something about compassion, yes?
Janet Wood how do you know it wasn't the mom who called the news?
It doesn't start in the cafeteria. It starts in the home. Parents need to teach their kids from.infancy that we help as serve others. That we have compassion. That we are inclusive. All these kids absorbed in their phones and isolating is NOT healthy.
EDIT: I'M NOT SAYING THE PHONES ARE THE SOUL PROBLEM. I'M SAYING IT DOESN'T HELP WHEN THEY AREN'T USED IN MODERATION. When kids sit in a room together and still talk over social media or ignore each other. Or leave out people because they don't click with them. It's time to dig deeper. Kids can learn to do that with good example and a little coaxing.
The problem is not many parents are hands on anymore, so typical values we often learned young fall by the waist side with this generation. Parents/Guardians also spend a good deal of time on their phones and are not having one on one conversations anymore. With students in school over 7 hours a day in some cases it often falls on the teachers to pick up where parents can't and they're all ready overwhelmed. You're right all of this is NOT healthy and its only going to get worse.
I agree.
Dang straight it starts at home!!! As a parent your job doesn't stop when your child enters school. Do right by them and actually raise your kid! Maybe then we wouldn't have so many self entitled brats running around ;)
I think it is better to be selfish. It is the kids that believe in compassion that eat alone.
Dachdog Using technology and devices doesn't isolate you. Social media and the Internet has made it much more accessible for us to make new friends with people world wide. It helps us network even better than ever and can help us make social contacts for adulthood.
Bawling crying, thank you great kids of student council.
Pull yourself together Jo
I used to hide in the bathroom to eat lunch in middle school. Now I’m a sophomore and found some great friends to sit with, I’m very grateful for them. It’s so refreshing to see how this group of kids helped to make this lonely boy’s life better by doing something so small like asking him to sit with them at lunch.
Its good he didint get bullied or cornered
I think smaller rural schools are more inclusive these days
Dat Boi finna shoot up the school they better be nice to him
Being neglected is worse than being bullied...
@@sherekhan420u2 Ik that's prob a joke but judgmental much?
@@jgsource552 nope
I thought it was going to turn into a awful story about bullying but it turned into such a nice ending
paleobc65 ikr!
So happy to hear this
He seems like a nice person, I would have sat with him in high school. I was born with a benign tumor on my face and got bullied on it until I got surgery in 5th grade. So I painfully know what it's like to be lonely and rejected.
I think there was some genuine compasson by experience there.. Not everyone is cold and cruel during the school years..
Kids can be very cruel, but the good news is, most of the time they don't even really mean what they say and it shouldn't be taken personally. The kids that bullied you could even end up being your friends if both parties forgot about the whole thing.
Me as well. When I was in grade school I remember 2 different mom's thanking for being kind and coming over to play with their sons that it meant a lot to them because they didn't have any friends. I told don't know why because they were fun to play with and I liked them
When I was in high school, they had a section in the library you could sit in during lunch. I would use it everyday. One day I went to go there and I was informed by one of the librarians that it was being used by a class. She was so nasty and said “why don’t you learn how to read the board.” I thought she was nice and it really caught me off guard. Anyways, I just sat in the bathroom that day and felt horrible.
😥 sometimes people just don’t think- I’m sorry that happened
But they say to respect adults. That right there would make me loose respect for the individual. I'm also sorry that happened to you.
Most staff at my school are like robots, I just give them the same energy
My school doesn’t have that so I’m always being miserable and alone at school being made fun of and I still have years until I graduate school
What a blessing that teens who are good kids have welcomed him to spend time with him. I pray that this happens for all kids
That is what is unique about this young man. The first thing the mother does is pray for him. Thank God that he has a supportive spiritual mother to guide him in tough times. Now God answered her prayers and I sure his too.
*PLOT TWIST:*
*They stopped sitting with him on the 2ND day of school!!!!*
Wait for real ?
@@peanutbuttercoat7621 i don't think so but i feel bad If they leave him again
XD that be sad if they did it for their 6 secs of fame
Rice MenaRQ I wouldn't be surprised, we live in a society full of fake people and friends. Sometimes you can only trust yourself and family.
The loneliest year I had in school was in 10th grade when I would always eat my breakfast in the toilet and wait for the break to be over so no one would notice that I didn't have any friends. During the big break of 70 minutes I had the luck to be able to go home. I never told anyone of my family because I was so embarrassed. It was horrible but even worse is that 4 years later being 20 loneliness is still so very present for me as I still don't have friends.
Go and talk to people they will not eat you. Now with the covid that is a huge problem but when stuff open go do that. I have no idea how i met my friends at school because i was not old enough to remember. When i went to college in a new town i knew no one. I went on the first day at the office to take my scedule, 2 people outside, i went and talked them. I still talk some times with one of them and the other one is my best friend.
If it was 'horrible' then why not just TRY to change? Try some confidence boosting activitites like dancing or singing. Also, your brain is the MOST powerful computer in the WORLD It has the ability to take you to the edge of space in less than a millisecond, controls 7 TRILLION nerves in our body and what not! Why are you using your brain to think stuff like "What will others think of me?" Just go out to dude. You need to do that and trust me you will surely relish this decision later on. Don't make decisions that you know you will regret later on. Just wanted to add I was almost like you when I was in 10th grade. Also, Meditate. It will help you a lot. Check out Improvement pill. And don't forget that I am writing this comment because I want you to be happy and not miserable. Hope you would understand that.
Thanks
sounds easy but people doesn't need to be friend with their whole facebook fake friends . one friend is enough . Try to be more open and allow yourself to talk with other people .
I hate hearing those kind of sad stories coz it's sickenning how other people see a lonely person but still keep living their life to the fullest while some are going downhill .
Please , just seek for the nicest looking person and try to make him a friend of yours .
I love you
In my opinion, human friends can be overrated. Unfortunately, I have come across too many so-called friends who ended up not to be friends at all. "Fake friends". These days, some of my very best friends are animals!
That's nasty, I just stayed at the hallway
I hope that kids see past my sons autism and accept him for the amazing kid he is. I pray that even one classmate interacts with him. Beauitful story and kiddos to those students...imagine a world if we could all just appreciate each other.
I am with you, my son is autistic and right now he is only 9. If it wasn't for the teachers helping him engage with other kids he'd not be playing with anyone. I am terrified for when he goes to high school and will become the lid no one sits with, because they think he's weird. Praying that someone reaches out to your son with kindness and sits with him and becomes friiends.
Nice gesture but honestly I was one of those kids who always sat alone as well and I loved it. To me, lunch was just that: I would get my food, go sit at any table with open seats, finish within 10-20 minutes and head to the library to chill thereafter. I can't say that it was more fun than say having a group of friends but it was definitely relaxing not having to talk, display emotions, worry about people staring at you, etc for a little chunk of the day. As an introvert, I need social breaks and that's just that. So next time, when you see someone sitting alone at lunch and think that he's sad, depressed, weird, etc, just pause for a moment because he may just be a normal, introverted guy.
Never hurts to ask if they want company, because you could be really changing someone's life, otherwise they can say no if they want to. But you never know without taking the risk. Plus if they're introverted, maybe he'll want to talk to someone after they finish a meal.
And what if he really is sad? Should we just ignore the person who doesn't feel like they would be accepted if they sat down with us? For me, I'd love if someone just came over and was like "hey, want to sit with me?" because I don't have to put myself out there or make an effort, they've already done it for me. Don't tell people to ignore the person sitting alone - they're not going to mind your asking them. It's better to be safe than sorry.
Same
My school doesnt let us go to the library
@짜잔! 짜잔! Well said.
Where is the love button when you need one? This touched me to the depth of my soul.💕💕💕💕💕
Miss Elmyra were using this comment as the love button! What an amazing boy!
You're so right...Positive and supportive comments can be love buttons! 😊❤
I know right. I almost started to cry. This was a great story.
Awww how sweet! ☺️💛
High School was really hard.. I graduated in ‘16 and I’m glad to see people are making an effort to include others 💖💖 makes my heart really full.
My high school wasn't really that hard tbh, and I graduated in 17. Also how do you have 5 subscribers?
@@JamesClark993311 I have over 600 subscribers and no content, lol.
@@NoOneHere2Day I'm jealous
Same here! I had severe acne and couldn’t wait to leave that place!
You are somebody.
I didn’t want to sit alone at lunch because I was embarrassed so I would spend lunchtime at the library 📚 everyday.
Problem was that during my class after lunch I was starving 😕
Those kids are angels. Something as simple as this can change somebody’s life and giving peace of mind and happiness to his mother. Thank you sweet angels x
they were probably embarrassed sitting next to him the entire time, just look at the girls' corner stares and awkwardness, likely a publicity stunt to get re-elected
I'm 59 now.
But i was that kid back in the day...
Thanks for the upload.
You brought a tear to this old salts eye.
And maybe even a little hope for the future of this rotting biggoted nation.
Be well.
peace
nice
Excuse me sir its not a rotten biggoted nation. Its the best country in the history of mankind.
Awe😢💙💙
Yosef Muhanna nah it really isn’t mate
I second Yosef btw
This story is absolutely golden! Let's keep this going!
High School is the problem.
It breeds division, jealousy, & bullying.
I'm proud of the student council.
Integrity & compassion.
You're more than trans, don't make your sexuality your personality
@@lenny7773 what are you talking about Lenny.
Teenagers are ruthless
I know this dude! Know you’re appreciated Andrew, you’re a great guy, stay strong for me 🙏🏼
Thank you
@@andrewkirby5327 hey
Andrew kirby hope you’re doing well :)
Andrew!!! Hope all is well with you now. :)
@@andrewkirby5327 Hey Andrew hope things are going well for you. God bless 🙏🏻
Good on him!! I hope he makes more friends!
+gamrage, Andrew may even do something awesome with his life that is quite noteworthy. Won't those jackholes who have ignored him up to now feel stupid???!!!
having multiple friends is cheating
Watch when he hits his mid 20's and puberty hits him like mad, he will make ton of friends and get hit on by girls.
Whenever I see a new kid sitting alone on their first day, I always tell my friends “look he or she is sitting alone” so we all go over and sit next to them, and start becoming friends w them:)
you are a great person shoutout to you sis😥💖
I wish there is more people like you
I really liked this interviewer. She's amazing. Genuine kindness and compassion.
As an introverted kid, I liked eating alone. Even in my professional career, I would always leave the office for lunch at 11:15 to avoid invitations from co-workers to lunch with them.
I dread someone calling me to have lunch with them. I'd rather spend time watching RUclips than force pointless conversations.
I’m also introverted but it does feel different knowing someone wants you to go even if you’ll say no, versus no one ever wanting you around. Poor kid. Glad he has friends now.
When I used to work at a call center I loved when they would give us an hour lunch would either go home to eat or go to a fast food place instead of having to sit down in the lunch area.
Everyone is different. All he wanted was someone to talk to.
Agreed! Talking to co-workers during the course of your day is OK, but having to talk to them during your free time is excruciating. Others thrive on it, I understand. But for me, I'd rather have the time alone to empty my mind of all the work and work politics nonsense.
We need WAY more stories like this! Beautiful ❤️
Jennifer Vaughan Amen... Amen
Love your chanel Jen!
So true!!
If this was me, senior, and they came up to me, I would nope out of nopeville.
👏👏👏👏👏
During High School I ate lunch with my sociology teacher and watched R-Movies everyday, he's the best. I chose to sit in there and have intelligent and fun discussions rather than sit at the table with my friends and hear them chew lol.
On my first day of high school, I used to wait up stairs and sit by my favorite classroom to avoid going to the cafeteria. As for me, I struggle with social anxiety, so I thought I was going to have a panic attack and embarrass myself in front of everybody. I didn’t actually go to the cafeteria, but instead I stayed in the restrooms until it was over.
I started to get used to the overpopulated cafeteria, so I gave sitting in there a shot. and that’s what I did. I sat there, watching everyone socialize and eat their lunch with their friends. I on the other hand never ate lunch at school bc i thought it was disgusting. All I did was sit there with my head down, listening to music. And I questioned if anyone think i’m a loser because i’m sitting alone or if i’m weird.
So I started to sit in the library. and the library was my safe place bc it was quiet and comfortable. I enjoyed it and I took out my book that i would bring and read it for a good 20 mins
so yeah.... lunch time was always the worse time for me :(
How are you doing now?
@@WhyarewehereNow okay, thanks for asking 🤍 i have friends, i just don’t have lunch with them though :/
@@98_juno how come!! ?? That’s good you made new friends tho?
dude I’m experiencing the exact same thing in highschool right now like word for word how weird..well if you see this message do you have any advice for me? :o
@@imwastingmytimeonthis677 hi! so sorry for the late reply but my best advice is to join clubs that you’re interested in, and maybe you’ll find ppl just like you :) it may not be much but it’s a start :D maybe the library will be just your type or if you have a teacher that’s okay with you eating in their class… tbh that’s all i got, i’m so sorry. i started high school off as a loser and i graduated as a loser
I cant believe this is the world we live in, that its a national news story when a kid asked to sit with someone at lunch.
Tiana Matson IKR
It's called a 'feel good story' they've been doing this for YEARS.
Thanks to Trump
Tiana Matson So True. What fools.
Considering the rising number of suicides and school shootings, showing an example of how to treat people with kindness might help to stem the tide if others pick up on it. Sometimes all it takes is an act of kindness to avert tragedy.
Bravo!! What an awesome group of kids.
@Koala Eucalyptus wtf
@mark spannar both you and koala need to stfu
wil mer425 Nah they just did it to boost their egos. It could develop into a friendship, but it started as using the kid for clout.
I lost my middle school friends going into highschool because I came out as gay, but I had a friend who was a grade above me in soccer and she and her friends invited me to sit with them at lunch and I'm telling you that really made a change in my life. So thankful theres people like this
Jesus loves you. Follow him.
@@Moy-02 thanks. I do.
@@Foxrunner1999 Do you believe you are saved? If so why do you believe that?
@@Moy-02 because I love God with all my heart. And everybody has their own sin/cross they have to bear. We all struggle through things in life. And we do our best. Jesus died so we can live. Not so we can pick and choose which sins we are forgiven for. We all sin and fall short of the glory of God. He who is without sin cast the first stone. If you say someone isnt going to heaven for being gay then you're saying that Jesus's death on the cross wasnt enough to save them. Faith is different for everybody. Any bad thought in our head is a sin because we're not perfect and we are gonna mess up. But if we live in fear of sinning every second we cant live life. Faith is accepting the free gift of life that Jesus offers when we believe in him. And of course you dont wanna sin on purpose, but you gotta do your best and forgive yourself when you mess up.
@@Foxrunner1999 What is the gospel? Can you explain it to me? I don’t mean in it in a bad way i just want to know if you understand the gospel.
We live in a cruel society and cliques are unfortunately the way of the world.
I wasn’t born with a neurological disease like this kid but lunchtime had always been a struggle for me since Junior High.
I’m an adult now and it’s still hard to find genuine friends who like you beyond social status.
Breaks my heart when I see people sitting alone. Just a simple hello can change someone’s day
Always feels good when justice is served. A kind kid deserves kind friends.
Thanks for the nightmares!
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Omg exactly
lmaoo
Blackhole Sun, wont you come, and wash away the rain.
Gaming X Pert IKR
I WAS EXCITED
God bless these kind kids who acted with integrity. Everyone deserves to feel accepted. I needed this bit of good in the world.
I literally can’t watch anything without crying. I’m so happy right now ❤️❤️
I watched John Q and cried most of the time
Females 😔
Lol me toooooooooo😫😫😫
Miss Mallory
Yeah i watched paint dry and bawled at it's beauty
Your aunt flow must be visiting
Looks from the video. They still ignore him.
unwrapping by mimi koteng true
This is exactly what I saw. Every time they showed the cafeteria scene they literally never spoke or looked at him. The girl to his left put something (food or something) in front of him and didn't even look. The whole thing looked awkward and fake af. I know there are real people out there who are genuine, but I didn't see it in this group. Fake af.
Very good observation. In real life, "special" kids hang out with similar types.
It must suck being so cynical. So you are saying that its better for the group to constantly be looking and talking to him. Its a group of people... Not everyone is going to talk to that one person that's not how group conversation works and you know that.
ikr, it looks like they're doing it cause they're part of the student council. They don't care about him. He looked so awkward at the table.
That's a nice cafeteria
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Very masonic
i hope you’re being sarcastic
On meee😂
It's SC
Love those kids what they did! It’s sad that it doesn’t happen more often. Please if you’re in any school be a force for good. You might just change a life and that will carry with you for the rest of your life.
This is why we need Human kindness. Those kids in the student council have good hearts.
His mom is beautiful!
When I was at school, there were several kids who ate lunch alone so I introduced them to each other and from then on, they never ate alone again and 18 years later, they're all still really close friends
As an introvert, I much prefer eating alone. My lunch time is my own time - don't wanna waste it on meaningless small talk.
YES
When I didn't eat lunch during school, I went to the library for peace of mind. I wish smartphones existed, I could have slept in there with an alarm set to ring in headphones. 🤣
Okay scrooge settle down.
That's fine. Totally get that. You can be alone and not lonely. Not the case for everybody Some folks just need help breaking the ice.....
Same I either went to have lunch in the library and catch up on some course readings/homework to save me some time 😭😭 wasn’t lonely, more like I just needed a break from the 2hr classes and screaming kids lol LITERALLY my break hour
I went to an all boys high school deep in the south. I am gay and I never told anyone. I would sit next to the same group of guys without talking just to eat. After I’d quickly get up to walk around campus to make it look like I was doing something or I would hide in the bathroom so people didn’t know I didn’t have friends. I always hated lunch break and wish we didn’t have one. For those who eat alone at lunch just know high school is temporary and you’ll eventually find your family.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that....it's heartbreaking to hear, but I hope you're doing well now :) Cheers and hugs from the West Coast!
Grant Holmes,Blessings to you from Philadelphia, Never be ashamed of who you are!!! Been there,done that.
we don't have lunch break but i would stay in the bathroom in recess, it was pretty sad :/
Lunch breaks are the only redeeming quality of school
Yes that’s what I did too. Didn’t want anyone to see me alone so hiding in the toilet or library was the only option. I stopped eating lunch too.
He looks like such a sweet child. High school isn't the end, it's just a phase. Later in life it won't matter if you sit with someone.
Have to disagree with you last sentence (unless is misunderstood, then i apologize), but being 23, i can confirm that it can indeed make a colossal beneficial impact to sit with someone or be sat with, to connect and just be with other people. Our biology is built around social connection, co-operation and support of each other. When I help on week long or even just weekend camps in the summer, it is amazing to see and feel how much it makes us feel alive, loved, supported and acknowledged for who we are.
@@chrismccaffrey8256 I agree with you half way but in truth not sitting with someone isn't death and it doesn't reduce your intelligence. Usually by university the right kind of people will draw themselves to you once you stop subconsciously thinking about sitting with someone. It might even happen later in life but until then your mind will adapt to the silence around you so much so that you might not even want someone sitting next to you.
Seems like a cool dude, id hangout with him.
Wicked Dom Um yea you can I guess you need to open up and come out too your parents
No you wouldn't.
In hs, I tried talking to the lonely quiet kid during lunch. he just kept insisting that I go away and I think he said something alluding to me faking being friendly just to be nice. I was awkward and weird as well and only had a handful of friends, so I just let him be.
I never talked to "lonely" kids again. why? because you need a certain level of social intelligence to communicate with the lonely kids and I just didn't have it at the time. His cynicism and cruel view of the world made me feel like he was a hopeless case, but if you are able to change their perspective, they can learn to provide more in a friendship than just feeling like people talk to them out of pity.
I agree, I had exactly the same experience with another person like that. Beforehand it feels like you might be doing them a favor but as soon as you approach them it becomes awkward af. So now do you just leave them so they can be lonely and unhappy?
Why do i feel personally attacked
Thats very true. Im one of the lonely quiet kid, I always feel alone but my stone like face just make everyone wary of approaching me lol.
One day, another loner befriended me. I dont recall how, but it turns out she befriended me because she have inferiority complex. She would mock what I wear, how I act, what I like, what I eat etc.
Basically full blown hatred, yet she cling to me like there's no tomorrow because she was so afraid to get judged because she have no friend.
One day, I was absent and she was alone. She followed a group of girls to hang out with this teacher, but the teacher hated her and said 'What are you doing here? Get out!'
And thus the next day she basically cried to me (oddly, the teacher is chill with me. Not friendly, but she never verbally abuse me. I guess she have a knack of knowing genuine people and fake people?) I thought she would treat me better then, but she didnt change. Not at all.
Since then, even after I graduated from lonely kid to 'that smart and serious kid with only three close friends' I never, ever approach another quiet kid.
Some of them are genuinely just awkward people like me, but most are disgusting people that is willing to stab you in the back because of their inferiority complex. Dont approach them unless youre certain you didnt take any bs from anyone.
I also have another recent case. Another quiet girl in my previous class... I thought she was just introvert, but she just genuinely have no interest in befriending people. No problem right? Except she also didnt see other people as fellow human being.
A girl in my class helped her with her assignments. Basically didnt sleep at all for three days straight, because the quiet girl refused to do her own assignments and all the teachers ran out of patience and threatened to risk the whole class grade.
My laptop got a problem then, so Im one of the people who sent the assignment late, I approached her to inv her to send her assignments together with me. She proceed to dump all the papers infront of me and basically let me figure it out and fix it according to the order myself.
I noticed theres an assignment missing so i asked if she missed it, she proceed to frown at me and go 'I dont know, ask (the kind girl), she did all of these, its her fault!'
Yeah. Sometime, theyre alone because theres something wrong with them.
@@ignarmackadingdongjr6590 Hahaha for real though, I can see why nobody want to befriend me as a kid. I got abused a lot in my kindergarten daycare, so eventhough Im young, my mentality is a bit older than kids my age. I was always silent, reading books by myself and basically boring to the boot.
Even until now I still feel very conscious when I talk to people, do they think Im boring? They talk to me now, but would they still talk to me after finding out how boring iam?
I have no interest whatsoever in dramas, and it seems everybody is clinging to people with many dramas around them. Its no wonder i got pushed into the corner lol.
@@ignarmackadingdongjr6590 hahaha amen to us awkward people. Glad to hear im not the only one who struggle with this 🌻
Such a simple effortless act can really change someone's life
He's adorable I wish him a long and happy life filled with joy ♥♥
I have social anxiety and in high school I used to sit alone on purpose. I tried to find a table that was empty and establish it as my own. I really did not want anyone to sit with me, it was a huge relief if I was able to be alone to eat my lunch. It felt so nice. So don't assume everyone at lunch that sits alone is upset about it. I would just ask if they like sitting alone and if they say yes, for gods sakes leave them alone immediately. They do not want any attention at all. For socially anxious kids, attention is painful.
Koda T I have social anxiety myself and it is true that I like to sit alone. But the only reason we like it is because of our avoidant tendencies and them sitting with me or you is good for social exposure and it builds up tolerance to anxiety. So if I were you, yes in the moment I’d hate it but after it I realize it’s good for me and helps getting rid of the anxiety.
I was a nervous quiet loner. Nobody would sit with me. I wasn’t teased, just ignored. The only kids that were nice and didn’t care were the stoners. By the way they never offered me weed.
same as me here
haha
God, I hated when the popular people ask you to sit with them. “Come sit with us so everyone can see how good we are!”. Those snakes are worse than bullies
It was so different at my school, there was a rule known around that we would never let a kid sit alone. Sorry that you and others had to deal with idiotic bullies that did things for looks.
These are not those kinds of preppy popular kids though. Not a single one has a punchable face. The preppy kids at my school were the same way, wanting me sit with them but i know from class and sports they just ask questions then make fun of the answers. They want you to sit with them for amusement and to pretend they are good people. But these student council members look like they were loners too.
@@ItsMe-yb8ug I would hate your school, I prefer to eat alone in total silence, I can't stand chit chat while I am eating. Only the insecure have to feel that they need people around.
@@JENDALL714 it’s a really small school so we never wanted anyone feeling alone, some kids did want to talk while others didn’t. we’d still sit with them just so they wouldn’t have to sit alone, but we didn’t force them to converse.
@@ItsMe-yb8ug I prefer to eat alone, I am not a people friendly person. When I go to Church, I find a spot way in the back so I can sit by myself and I don't like to be in the thoughts and prayers of anyone.
15 people gave this a thumbs down. Seriously? Kudos to those kids and to their parents for raising them right.
Jeffrey Carvish Those 15 people are still sitting alone at lunch.
A mother's prayers are always received♡♡♡
me and my friendgroup once saw a kid a few years yonger eating alone so we all sat and ate with him. he told us he was bullied and we told him he can always talk to us. after that whenever he saw us hed say hi and we'd have a little chat and hed seem real happy to see us. looking back, im so glad i did this and i encourage everyone to try and do the same, it can really brigten up a place that can be dark for some kids.
Those kids are fake.
I can tell... they just wanna look special.
Mr Krogan There’s a fake aura conmng off them. I’m glad you can see it too
I hate student council kids, they all act like they're important and pure because they commit mildly frustrating acts of kindness. It's a nice gesture on paper but their smiles make it gross
This is the exact opposite of the way you should think. Why can’t it just be positive? I was taught since I was little to try to include everyone and not be rude to people. You see fake people, and whether they are or not, I see a happy guy that feels included and not like an outcast.
@@YOTSUBA_desu @1:34 the way that girl says that makes her look so heinous xD
and then that one kid right after her looks like he is probably gonna grow up to be some scumbag crooked lawyer who plots against his client xD
Just the way they talk and look at him.
Have u ever sat with the kid eating alone? no? Ok stfu then
Student council. Let's be real, they're doing this to look good lol.
Hippocrates
Who cares why
Hippocrates of Kos (/hɪˈpɒkrətiːz/; Greek: Ἱπποκράτης ὁ Κῷος, translit. Hippokrátēs ho Kṓos; c. 460 - c. 370 BC), also known as Hippocrates II, was a Greek physician of the Age of Pericles (Classical Greece), who is considered one of the most outstanding figures in the history of medicine. He is often referred to as the "Father of Medicine" in recognition of his lasting contributions to the field as the founder of the Hippocratic School of Medicine. This intellectual school revolutionized Ancient Greek medicine, establishing it as a discipline distinct from other fields with which it had traditionally been associated (theurgy and philosophy), thus establishing medicine as a profession.
Regardless of what their doing it for they are still making a difference in this kids life
Thats not true !! Don’t be a hater
Man I used to sit alone my first year of High School. I used to dread going to lunch. It’s so incredibly embarrassing sitting alone. I was a super shy kid, luckily I was able to find a friend my sophomore year who had a couple others. Thankful for that. Jeeze
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That brought tears to my eyes. What a sweet young man and a loving mother and classmates!