What i got out of this is that society is full of too many immature selfish people looking to use as many people as possible to satisfy their narcissism on a daily basis.
💯👍 True for ALL people, though tbf when we're really young, most people are entirely unaware of this fact. Unless of course they have experienced a lot of "real life" during their childhood... those who've experienced neglect, abuse, or some other kind of trauma that forced them to "survive". Those who've suffered often come out the other side one of two very different ways. Either way the "delusion" is gone, for them. But yes, I would agree, the overwhelming majority of all people are entirely immature, selfish, and ignorant people.❤
"but most importantly drop dead gorgeous" Notice how you prioritized physical beauty? I suggest you go back and listen again, might save yourself some problems in the future.
Marriage can be useful for sociopolitical reasons, for financial stability, for heritage, for childrens wellfare. It's overall a very positive constillation for everyone involved!
Growing up I could never find a role model. But watching almost all of your podcasts, I’ve learned so much about life. Thankyou for helping me and many others grow. You deserve all the love. May Allah bless you in this life and in the hereafter.❤❤❤
There was this greek singer Notis Sfakianakis that many years ago( 15?) mentioned in an interview that there will come the day ( i am talking about the modern greek society) that the relationship between men and women will be just for having babies. I didnt understand that at the time since having babies i still believe that is the best thing that can happen to you . But after "going out and experiencing the world and men" , i came to remember his words and i totally understand now...
I’ve been following you on RUclips for a while. I absolutely love your approach to relationships. It’s really helpful for men and women to hear your insights on relationships. I keep sending your videos to my husband. Hopefully he is watching all of them. 😉 And I’m learning a lot about the man’s perspective which is very much needed since they don’t know how to express their emotions or needs the same way women can.
Marriage...to profess your love, to each other, in the presence of family and friends. It establishes and publicized a commitment of love and devotion. Similar to professing your goals in life or career, people will know if you fail, it's a mechanism for personal accountability. Basically, your more likely to follow through and be more committed to your goals if they are made public.
It's not even that nice (or naïve) guys finish last. They don't even get to finish. They see smoke and fire pouring out from under the hood and they just calmly pull over to the side of the track, get out, walk away and let it burn. They're checking out because they're increasingly coming to the realization that there's no winning no matter what they do. There's not even any reward worth competing for anymore. The kind of woman that most men are trying to pursue simply doesn't exist. She's just not out there. They're not even being raised, and they're certainly not going to become the woman that men actually want later, either. There's absolutely nothing in it for men anyway, nevermind the fact that we're not even wanted - let alone loved - for anything more than what materialistic lifestyle we can provide without being allowed to ask for anything in return. It's a zero-sum "game" that was rigged from the start, and the only winning move anymore is not to play.
Done every thing you literally said, in these last couple days 😂 lying about pregnancy pregnancy, apparently getting married and relying on men for money. Usually from broken hike with no father figure 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
I would love nothing more than to be married and have a family, but can't find a marriageable woman. I've given up on so many of my relationship goals because I can't find a woman who won't trip over my bar even if it's an inch off the ground.
She is so right, they do have to find you attractive or they won’t respect you. And that’s why you shouldn’t force your self on to someone that’s not attractive to you.
💚🙏 i appreciate this Sadia, most certainly Good work, good perspective, intellectual, beautiful She isnt my end all, be all type,Unfortunately Psychologist also freak me out, dont wanna constantly be under examination
Did you know your outfit was going to camouflage with the background? It is very interesting to see the blending of color with the clothes & background.
Sadia what about naive women? Girls that didn't have a father growing up? I feel like I can relate to that exactly the other way around. Women will also take whats easy for them, men that tell them what they wanna hear. Cause they've never saw the other side ether.
I know you drop the crown though I would like to know the real concept of relationship can you please make one in Islamic Marriage context...the family bonding, communal harmony, strong child upbringing, relatives and neighbours haq & rights, divine attachment, sacrifices for others, mutual respect & love,... These kind of stuffs.
Hello Sadia. What do you think about women who grew up with a single father and had no relationship with there mother or a terrible relationship with there mother? What have you notice about how they navigate dating and relationships? What mistakes do they usually make and how can that be corrected, so that they can have healthy fulfilling long-term relationships? Thank you.
@@sadiapsychologythe internet will test your patience to the limit. I think you shouldn’t respond to any negative comments just for self preservation. Take care of yourself. I see F&F and Rollo just push you down all the time. I hope all of this doesn’t get you down. They are in hating women mode even tho they say they don’t hate women. They are becoming male versions of feminists. I’m studying Hinduism and yes I agree with the main cause of all the suffering in this world is caused by the ego. Good luck too you stay strong.
Gawd dang i love this woman but what she's saying is quite frankly right in front of us, all the time. Shamefully i was one of these naive boys when i was young. That Cinderella reel running through my head about women.
💯 Unfortunately, there simply aren't too many men who actually feel any kind of "love" other than what is actually just sexual attraction. Ime those that do are simply "playing along". They usually don't mean anything they "say". I mean I had my husband writing love letters to me, sweet notes, along with gifts and notes and all sorts of "romantic" things... only to discover that he'd been lying about "using" pornography all along! Despite having ironed out the fact that pornography use was WAY past my boundaries due to some horrific childhood sexual abuse in my past. So despite having a concrete boundary AND almost constant romantic type gestures, he was lying about how he felt for me the ENTIRE time. He knew the cost and it was always worth it to him, it was always just a lie. Long story short is that you simply cannot believe anything.😉
I understand, there are a few billion male out there, but like how Sadie khan say, look for a gentleman that is nice but not naïve, you can spot a naive by how they talk, maybe how they walk too. I hope you can experience a spark of romance soon.
What couples that don't opt to be Married even having Children, need to understand in most states, if a couple remains a couple for an extended period of time (think its 10 years), Family Law considers those couples, Married in the eyes of the Law, and assets are split 50/50 in most cases in the event of Divorce. If you are going to have children together and are not married, then I agree, for the children's sake, get Married to set the example for their Life going forward.
I think a man needs to be discerning... yes a relationship is an interaction between a man and a woman but note that a expression of a man being narsistic may align and visa versa with regards to a female... yes some high emotional as well emotionally "unstable" females may use that term however that is not 100 percent of the time.... caution and use common sense as well viewing a partner's actions over time to see which it is... but please don't be dismissive towards the female that uses the term because it maybe the true... time will tell and your interaction with her will give you alot of insite!!!
I understand Sadia is speaking about the mean of situations typically from the women’s’ POV, one thing hit a nerve with me and it’s very particular. I came out of a 6 year relo, was certain I’d marry this girl but she started holidaying 6 months a year without me while I worked, while she never had to work, and when I did join her on holiday she would not pay for anything for me but expected me to pay for our dinners and match her inherited wealth accordingly etc. I couldn’t, and recognised a marriage with her would be much the same. Near the 5th year her ideals changed, started making decisions about our future without discussing it with me first. Then came the prenup discussion: I took it as she didn’t trust me, because she was already using her wealth as a controlling tool in the relo. Was it therefore acceptable that a mention of a prenup at this point was a major putt off? Btw, I told her it wasn’t a deal breaker and I’d do it, but my terms were anything I’ve made will be mine too, including the hypothetical 35k ring she was expecting I’d we didn’t make it (for many many more reasons, we didn’t make it)
It makes me wonder, the part where she speaks about emotional affairs, if the context changes when it comes to same-sex couples. A lot of her content, which I think is great, delves deep into heterosexual relationships, but I do wonder what her thought process is for same-sex couples. I haven't come across any content about it, but since she's a psychologist/therapist, I would love her input on same-sex couples.
Brilliant perspective 👏🏿 25:22 I don't get why they're saying those things about you. Nor care. You've called out a lot of my bullshit. Thinking I could romanticize my way into relationships is probably why i'm single. What I do get is that you talk about how people act and what happens because of it. You also go into what happened before and what happens next. I've learned more about my own behaviors.
@Sadia Psychology could you do a video over how much height of a male impacts attractiveness and relationships and comparing a shorter guy to taller guy in the dating market. I’m taller than average, but I find this very interesting.
Emotional affairs do exist. The 'affair' part of the "emotional affair" is that there is sexual desire that hasn't been acted on (yet). Basically the cheating partner WANTS TO have sex with this person but they haven't managed to yet. And instead their outlet for this intense covert (or overt) sexual desire becomes emotional intimacy (i.e. treating them like a lover). I will say that emotional affairs are typically short-lived, however. In fact, unless one person actively rejects it, the emotional affair is usually a prelude to a full blown physical affair. We've seen them in movies: e.g. Spanglish, I Think I Love My Wife. Whenever someone who is married or in a relationship has a 'friend' that they want to have sex with and treat like a lover, that relationship constitutes an emotional affair until they either actually have sex with them or lose the relationship.
I loved listening to this podcast. I even started following Sadia's page after this podcast. But I have a question... going through the comments, I can't help but notice how she mostly responds to the negative comments WITH a negative or insulting response. I am totally flabbergasted. My comment is posted with love and respect so please be kind to me when you respond
@sadiapsychology I fully agree. I do not tolerate disrespect either, but I don't fight fire with fire. I'm far too smart for that, and so are you. I know what and who I am and don't need to justify it to someone who disrespects me. I leave it up to karma. And as you know, karma is a bitch...I don't have to be one. Thank you for your decent response. Appreciated ❤️
I dated a girl that worked as flight attendant for NBA professional basketball team. She heard some pretty crazy things. Some of the players were married and some weren't. Some of them had girls in multiple cities waiting for them when they traveled. But the understanding between the basketball players and the gitrls married or not was if a girl wanted to be with them they were allowed to have multiple girls. The girls were OK with that as long as the players they were with payed all their bills and they had access to a credit card and the card was always payed down. Even the married ones were OK with the arrangement as long as they had access to money.
@@jbw8471 but at any time that girl could be sent packing bags and replaced by another girl probably younger than her. Then what does she do? No more money probably doesn't have a real job.
They are all using each other. It’s all transactional. The girls are seeing other guys too. It’s pretty sad. It won’t end well for any of them. Children will be born into this chaotic mess. That’s the worst part.
What if you come into a marriage as equals and later the woman has retired by offer of her husband. She now cannot offer the same “person” and aside from housewife feels that she does not have the value she did before?
Sadia, kind of reminds me of myself, too much knowledge, too much clarity of mind. I am wondering whether it is a positive thing or negative one. Unfortunately we need to be ignorant sometimes otherwise we become too cynical.
Every single word is true here every word......not all interview I liked....women should work no matter what, because of mental peace, practice her skills & knowledge & take it to a supreme level. It's not only about money, it's about how modern women should behave when they are handling technology at home or outside home, finances, banking, job or businesses, house hold work, raising children the right way. Same goes with MEN. Morden MEN & WOMEN should be the ALL ROUNDER. Imagine life 10 years ago & compare it with now. Every year new technology gadgets are emerging. House hold work getting easier, everything getting easier more technical, more organized, less time consuming.....only the motherhood still takes 9 months to grow a baby inside but even raising babies getting easier. We got diapers now different types 100 types even adult diapers are easy to find !! Imagine 40 years back then when my mom was taking care of us as a baby....that time she couldn't find any diapers....no advanced technologies.......imagine the hard work back then !!!!!!!
Ok, let’s rewind a bit. Number one, some men enter into a woman’s world with little to no money. Out of the goodness of her heart, she agrees to assist him, title it as you may. This isn’t done because she is insecure or desperately in need of anything but, because of her heart. Now here’s the problem, a good man with good intentions and integrity, wouldn’t come into that relationship with money only to take from someone who has less than him knowing full well, that he does, turns around and has a breakdown in communication and then, calls her a gold digger knowing that she never knew that he even had money. So then, why lie on good women who were good to you? Why sit around and allow others to believe the lies told about them when, they were lies in the first place? This says more about Their intentions than anything else. Some women are not out for what’s in a man’s pocket but rather, his compassion, companionship, character, decency, honesty and integrity. Why try destroy women that have nothing but good. Women who are after money will let you know and for that reason, I respect that because at least their honest enough to tell you. Some of us comes from broken homes but we do not lack moral standards, respect and integrity for one another. Just because one comes from that doesn’t mean we have to represent the profiled stigma of it. There were good parents and neighbors who made sure that those things were in us. We were not allowed to treat people any less than the next person. The question is, what makes one with money be so arrogant into thinking that it’s ok for them to do that? We rather come from brokenness with those things than to come from or have riches and feel the need to look down on others. A person with integrity won’t hide their faces when they know that they have done wrong but rather, correct their mistake. There is a whole lesson to be learned on how money can effect moral standards. This is our problem today, at least one of them. When you have it, you can stand up to anything in truth. Thanks for sharing this with us. The discussions are great and is a great way of opening up and having real life discussions. Prayerfully, we can find solutions peacefully ❤️✌🏾
sorry i see enough women settle with wrong guy because of her neediness. its usually that. there is no reason to do that otherwise and women are not stupid to do that for kindness of heart only
No, she is speaking on her EXPERIENCES. This isnt about EVERY WOMAN. The problem is that women put in A LOT OF WORK NOW TO THE RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE AND IT'S NO LONGER 50/50. Men are using women for home, money, job too and PUTTING IN LESS WORK. They are NOT ALSO sacrificing themselves for the RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE. THEY ARE SATURATING THEMSELVES IN THEIR JOBS AND ACTIVITIES and NOT ADDRESSING THE PROBLEMS OR FIXING THEM.
@@sadiapsychology that is very generalising of a massive group of individuals from different backgrounds, beliefs and experiences. Labeling on top of it. I'm honestly very disappointed.
@@imaanconstructioninc.6351 From top of my head just one idea that if you are planning to have children and are indeed from a poor, uneducated background then if a husband leaves you, then he leaves you unable to take care of your children beyond poverty line while half of the assets would be also funding children's expenses. Pitiful allowance called these days alimony is not enough to get a single mother to pay for everything. It's a system's fault really but I wouldn't sign a prenup specifically because of that. Men this way can get away from (for example) building a successful business and when they are successful dropping a woman like a hot potato because she is not longer a hot 20yo, forgetting they have children and paying them a bare minimum comparable to netflix sub and going on the have a ride of their life while a woman who has been supporting said man and bare children for them and god forbid was SAHM all this time is left pretty much homeless, with no money and no work experience because she was sahm. I also heard stories where men were trying to add prenup clause where they could sever all their parental responsibility if a woman is found cheating even if the kids are his bio children. That is just so gross and inhumane towards children. There are many, many other reasons and one of them is personal. My father kicked me, my newborn sis and my mother on the street when I was 7. He was a very successful businesman and because he had funds he avoided courts and paying us alimony for years. My mom helped him build a successful business over the span of all those years being together and she was left with not even money for food because they weren't married and he never added her as co-owner just an employee (this is regarding an argument Sadia made that there is no reason for it unless you are religious). I will never sign a prenup not have children out of wedlock because of those reasons and more but don't have time to type more so this will have to be enough for you.
@@imaanconstructioninc.6351 I replied to you with long post listing multiple reasons including personal experience of my childhood but it looks like either my comment was deleted or not approved by the channel owner...
Hi lol still at odds with Morgan something to do about midnight not sure going to try to stay up until then then go to bed going to the other park tomorrow and also the blood source plasma donation get some money it's in the other side of downtown
I don't agree with the thing that primary reason to get married is to have children. You can't reduce marriage between two souls to just having children. It's just extension of marriage, not a necessity. You primarily get married to get a life partner which different from having children. They might overlap but are not the same. Infact having children destroys a marriage even if you married the right person. You don't have to get married to have and raise children, however you need marriage if you want to keep a person for life. Because ultimately you would want to give the relationship a name. But the world sells the exact opposite narrative.
Every man needs to take half an hour away from the World to listen to the words in this video. As somebody who’s come out the other side of this, it could not be more right. Don’t be a mug fellas
So basicly men shouldn't fall in love , stay sober and always watch out for mind games , lies ,manipulation.... we have to be constantly suspicious about women and quiestion everything they do or say??????? Great . I AM DONE WITH WOMEN😂
Why people get married if already they live togheter? To protect themselfs. A woman that doesn’t work Will find herself after 20 years thrown away as garbage for a younger one and be on the streets without the protection of marriage. If a spouse get sick at the hospital you have to be married to get permission to decide on medicals décisions. If one of them die what it’s gonna happen with other one if they are not married? Another exemple if the a man have un amazing job offer abroad how cand the woman folow him if she is not safe financially?? If they are married his money will be the couple’ s money and they can act like a team. So yes!! There are plenty reasons why people get married even they already are living toghether and have kids. People that live togheter they are already married. But you have to put it on paper to be official. If you think you girlfriend it is not mariage material don’t date her don’t sleep with her don’t do nothing. Îs that simple. If you love your woman/man marry her or him! If you don’t love them enough to marry them don’t be with them!!
@@sadiapsychology swearing or use word fuck does prove you are grown up, don't confused two. If you believe God you will understand, you can't be part of the world while follow God. Remember those facts.
@@sadiapsychology Yes, we're adults, and yes, I am guilty of it too. Yet, it remains good advice all the same. We should aspire to be better, more eloquent, better role models, etc. That includes finding more beautiful ways of speech.
What i got out of this is that society is full of too many immature selfish people looking to use as many people as possible to satisfy their narcissism on a daily basis.
💯👍 True for ALL people, though tbf when we're really young, most people are entirely unaware of this fact. Unless of course they have experienced a lot of "real life" during their childhood... those who've experienced neglect, abuse, or some other kind of trauma that forced them to "survive". Those who've suffered often come out the other side one of two very different ways. Either way the "delusion" is gone, for them. But yes, I would agree, the overwhelming majority of all people are entirely immature, selfish, and ignorant people.❤
EXACTLY.
💯
Exactly what's going on.
She's the internet big sis we all need.
Sadia Khan being articulate, intelligent but most importantly drop dead gorgeous is what makes women so upset
"but most importantly drop dead gorgeous"
Notice how you prioritized physical beauty?
I suggest you go back and listen again, might save yourself some problems in the future.
@@leviathon2exactly 😭😭
That’s the most important part?
So to you, looks is everything? lol
It’s most important that she’s beautiful?? 🤔🥴
This woman talks so much sense, need more women like her in this world, too many people are damaged goods
Love the word Naïve guy instead of Nice guy. Thank you
Marriage can be useful for sociopolitical reasons, for financial stability, for heritage, for childrens wellfare. It's overall a very positive constillation for everyone involved!
Growing up I could never find a role model. But watching almost all of your podcasts, I’ve learned so much about life. Thankyou for helping me and many others grow. You deserve all the love. May Allah bless you in this life and in the hereafter.❤❤❤
You are so welcome!
she is one of the most respectable mature women i have ever come across
"Women believe their lies" Can't be stressed enough
Memorize this: “I will have a prenuptial agreement”
They are worthless.
Or you can just get married to someone in another country that comes from a more traditional family culture.
Lol, or just find someone who is your equal 😂
@@taqeemhilton💯👍 Exactly! Much better plan! Find someone who is your equal, someone who needs/wants you as much as you want her😉
@@sarahalderman3126even if she's my equal the society might eventually delude her into thinking she's above me.
The queen has spoken 🙌
I wish I heard this wisdom years ago.
She's so pretty
What else did you get out of this that you can add to the comment section? I'll wait...
She’s so gorgeous and they still somehow manage to get an awkward picture of her
There was this greek singer Notis Sfakianakis that many years ago( 15?) mentioned in an interview that there will come the day ( i am talking about the modern greek society) that the relationship between men and women will be just for having babies. I didnt understand that at the time since having babies i still believe that is the best thing that can happen to you . But after "going out and experiencing the world and men" , i came to remember his words and i totally understand now...
27 minutes of facts. Thank you as always Sadia
My pleasure!!
13:01 I hear that for the first time and it makes perfect sense. Maybe a very important insight. Thx!🙏
I’m religion person. I agree. I have never had a Gold digger. I have always my dealer breakers.
Love ya woman! Thank You! Whould love to hear you live As a speaker!
Would love for you to make some videos on how polygamy affects adult relationships. I imagine it must really affect the kids.
I’ve been following you on RUclips for a while. I absolutely love your approach to relationships. It’s really helpful for men and women to hear your insights on relationships. I keep sending your videos to my husband. Hopefully he is watching all of them. 😉
And I’m learning a lot about the man’s perspective which is very much needed since they don’t know how to express their emotions or needs the same way women can.
We are teaching young men to never get married and never have kids because its not worth it.
I mean of course, it was always that way, when you are chasing the wrong things 😉
Thank you for your insights.
We are learning a lot from your content.
We love you, Sadia.❤
She won't tell you I proved alimony and child support are voluntary payments in January 2008.
Love Sadia. This video is Gold. I wish every young adult ton earth would hear this message.
Marriage...to profess your love, to each other, in the presence of family and friends.
It establishes and publicized a commitment of love and devotion.
Similar to professing your goals in life or career, people will know if you fail, it's a mechanism for personal accountability.
Basically, your more likely to follow through and be more committed to your goals if they are made public.
I come from a broken home, but I had a father figure
I was raised by my grandparents
This woman is ridiculously beautiful.
Safia!! I grew attraction to a man that was brilliant and we had a connection and I became attracted!! Like crazy
💯 % truth 🙌! She legendary for this I agree
She is talking only to the top 5% earners and 20% genetics guys. Stop listening to things NOT addressed to you
What do you mean by this comment?
It's not even that nice (or naïve) guys finish last. They don't even get to finish. They see smoke and fire pouring out from under the hood and they just calmly pull over to the side of the track, get out, walk away and let it burn. They're checking out because they're increasingly coming to the realization that there's no winning no matter what they do. There's not even any reward worth competing for anymore. The kind of woman that most men are trying to pursue simply doesn't exist. She's just not out there. They're not even being raised, and they're certainly not going to become the woman that men actually want later, either. There's absolutely nothing in it for men anyway, nevermind the fact that we're not even wanted - let alone loved - for anything more than what materialistic lifestyle we can provide without being allowed to ask for anything in return.
It's a zero-sum "game" that was rigged from the start, and the only winning move anymore is not to play.
What a smart person, Thankyou
Sadia is the new queen of relationships
Hey, Sadia. I'd really like to see you have a conversation with Jordan Peterson!
Done every thing you literally said, in these last couple days 😂 lying about pregnancy pregnancy, apparently getting married and relying on men for money. Usually from broken hike with no father figure 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
It’s that more and more people go for transactional relationships
I would love nothing more than to be married and have a family, but can't find a marriageable woman. I've given up on so many of my relationship goals because I can't find a woman who won't trip over my bar even if it's an inch off the ground.
Well said Sadia! Thank you!
She is so right, they do have to find you attractive or they won’t respect you. And that’s why you shouldn’t force your self on to someone that’s not attractive to you.
Nefertiti was a queen. You talk more, equally beautiful!
💚🙏 i appreciate this Sadia, most certainly
Good work, good perspective, intellectual, beautiful
She isnt my end all, be all type,Unfortunately
Psychologist also freak me out, dont wanna constantly be under examination
Did you know your outfit was going to camouflage with the background? It is very interesting to see the blending of color with the clothes & background.
Sadia what about naive women? Girls that didn't have a father growing up? I feel like I can relate to that exactly the other way around. Women will also take whats easy for them, men that tell them what they wanna hear. Cause they've never saw the other side ether.
I know you drop the crown though I would like to know the real concept of relationship can you please make one in Islamic Marriage context...the family bonding, communal harmony, strong child upbringing, relatives and neighbours haq & rights, divine attachment, sacrifices for others, mutual respect & love,... These kind of stuffs.
I appreciated this piece, very nice...true true true
Thanks for listening
Hello Sadia. What do you think about women who grew up with a single father and had no relationship with there mother or a terrible relationship with there mother? What have you notice about how they navigate dating and relationships? What mistakes do they usually make and how can that be corrected, so that they can have healthy fulfilling long-term relationships? Thank you.
You are beautiful and amazing thank you for sharing so much wisdom ❤️❤️😁
Very well informed.I am curious how she is with her partner ?
She lives in Dubai. Enough said. 😉
@@sadiapsychologythe internet will test your patience to the limit. I think you shouldn’t respond to any negative comments just for self preservation. Take care of yourself. I see F&F and Rollo just push you down all the time. I hope all of this doesn’t get you down. They are in hating women mode even tho they say they don’t hate women. They are becoming male versions of feminists. I’m studying Hinduism and yes I agree with the main cause of all the suffering in this world is caused by the ego. Good luck too you stay strong.
Gawd dang i love this woman but what she's saying is quite frankly right in front of us, all the time. Shamefully i was one of these naive boys when i was young. That Cinderella reel running through my head about women.
Really interesting points re duty of care.
I still want the poems and love letters. Women are not all the same.
How old are you?
Laydees are all exactly the same.
@sairaali1419
2 Corinthians 13:12, have a wonderful day
💯 Unfortunately, there simply aren't too many men who actually feel any kind of "love" other than what is actually just sexual attraction. Ime those that do are simply "playing along". They usually don't mean anything they "say". I mean I had my husband writing love letters to me, sweet notes, along with gifts and notes and all sorts of "romantic" things... only to discover that he'd been lying about "using" pornography all along! Despite having ironed out the fact that pornography use was WAY past my boundaries due to some horrific childhood sexual abuse in my past. So despite having a concrete boundary AND almost constant romantic type gestures, he was lying about how he felt for me the ENTIRE time. He knew the cost and it was always worth it to him, it was always just a lie. Long story short is that you simply cannot believe anything.😉
I understand, there are a few billion male out there, but like how Sadie khan say, look for a gentleman that is nice but not naïve, you can spot a naive by how they talk, maybe how they walk too. I hope you can experience a spark of romance soon.
What couples that don't opt to be Married even having Children, need to understand in most states, if a couple remains a couple for an extended period of time (think its 10 years), Family Law considers those couples, Married in the eyes of the Law, and assets are split 50/50 in most cases in the event of Divorce. If you are going to have children together and are not married, then I agree, for the children's sake, get Married to set the example for their Life going forward.
I think a man needs to be discerning... yes a relationship is an interaction between a man and a woman but note that a expression of a man being narsistic may align and visa versa with regards to a female... yes some high emotional as well emotionally "unstable" females may use that term however that is not 100 percent of the time.... caution and use common sense as well viewing a partner's actions over time to see which it is... but please don't be dismissive towards the female that uses the term because it maybe the true... time will tell and your interaction with her will give you alot of insite!!!
I understand Sadia is speaking about the mean of situations typically from the women’s’ POV, one thing hit a nerve with me and it’s very particular. I came out of a 6 year relo, was certain I’d marry this girl but she started holidaying 6 months a year without me while I worked, while she never had to work, and when I did join her on holiday she would not pay for anything for me but expected me to pay for our dinners and match her inherited wealth accordingly etc. I couldn’t, and recognised a marriage with her would be much the same. Near the 5th year her ideals changed, started making decisions about our future without discussing it with me first. Then came the prenup discussion: I took it as she didn’t trust me, because she was already using her wealth as a controlling tool in the relo. Was it therefore acceptable that a mention of a prenup at this point was a major putt off? Btw, I told her it wasn’t a deal breaker and I’d do it, but my terms were anything I’ve made will be mine too, including the hypothetical 35k ring she was expecting I’d we didn’t make it (for many many more reasons, we didn’t make it)
Wisdom.
It makes me wonder, the part where she speaks about emotional affairs, if the context changes when it comes to same-sex couples. A lot of her content, which I think is great, delves deep into heterosexual relationships, but I do wonder what her thought process is for same-sex couples. I haven't come across any content about it, but since she's a psychologist/therapist, I would love her input on same-sex couples.
Brilliant perspective 👏🏿 25:22
I don't get why they're saying those things about you. Nor care.
You've called out a lot of my bullshit. Thinking I could romanticize my way into relationships is probably why i'm single.
What I do get is that you talk about how people act and what happens because of it. You also go into what happened before and what happens next. I've learned more about my own behaviors.
@Sadia Psychology could you do a video over how much height of a male impacts attractiveness and relationships and comparing a shorter guy to taller guy in the dating market. I’m taller than average, but I find this very interesting.
*Joey from Friends says* Hey Sadia, How u doin? 😋
0:15 It’s like the Virgin Mary giving a warning to some of her holy sons.
Emotional affairs do exist. The 'affair' part of the "emotional affair" is that there is sexual desire that hasn't been acted on (yet). Basically the cheating partner WANTS TO have sex with this person but they haven't managed to yet. And instead their outlet for this intense covert (or overt) sexual desire becomes emotional intimacy (i.e. treating them like a lover).
I will say that emotional affairs are typically short-lived, however. In fact, unless one person actively rejects it, the emotional affair is usually a prelude to a full blown physical affair. We've seen them in movies: e.g. Spanglish, I Think I Love My Wife.
Whenever someone who is married or in a relationship has a 'friend' that they want to have sex with and treat like a lover, that relationship constitutes an emotional affair until they either actually have sex with them or lose the relationship.
I loved listening to this podcast. I even started following Sadia's page after this podcast. But I have a question... going through the comments, I can't help but notice how she mostly responds to the negative comments WITH a negative or insulting response. I am totally flabbergasted. My comment is posted with love and respect so please be kind to me when you respond
Because I don’t tolerate disrespect and neither should you ❤
@sadiapsychology I fully agree. I do not tolerate disrespect either, but I don't fight fire with fire. I'm far too smart for that, and so are you. I know what and who I am and don't need to justify it to someone who disrespects me. I leave it up to karma. And as you know, karma is a bitch...I don't have to be one. Thank you for your decent response. Appreciated ❤️
I dated a girl that worked as flight attendant for NBA professional basketball team. She heard some pretty crazy things. Some of the players were married and some weren't. Some of them had girls in multiple cities waiting for them when they traveled. But the understanding between the basketball players and the gitrls married or not was if a girl wanted to be with them they were allowed to have multiple girls. The girls were OK with that as long as the players they were with payed all their bills and they had access to a credit card and the card was always payed down. Even the married ones were OK with the arrangement as long as they had access to money.
Interesting!
that makes sense though. They are being taken card of
@@jbw8471 but at any time that girl could be sent packing bags and replaced by another girl probably younger than her. Then what does she do? No more money probably doesn't have a real job.
They are all using each other. It’s all transactional. The girls are seeing other guys too. It’s pretty sad. It won’t end well for any of them. Children will be born into this chaotic mess. That’s the worst part.
What if you come into a marriage as equals and later the woman has retired by offer of her husband. She now cannot offer the same “person” and aside from housewife feels that she does not have the value she did before?
In 2024 relationships are becoming more transactional.
Hmm… she’s making statements are there any facts behind this , it’s all her anecdotes
Right
Did you hear her opening statement to this video? I'm sure she edited & clipped the video at that point for a reason.
Sadia, kind of reminds me of myself, too much knowledge, too much clarity of mind. I am wondering whether it is a positive thing or negative one. Unfortunately we need to be ignorant sometimes otherwise we become too cynical.
Actually, she also reminds me of Esther vilar, smart and beautiful😊
Me too, sometimes I wonder if it'd be easier to be dumber
@@twize4916 what do u mean ?
Every single word is true here every word......not all interview I liked....women should work no matter what, because of mental peace, practice her skills & knowledge & take it to a supreme level. It's not only about money, it's about how modern women should behave when they are handling technology at home or outside home, finances, banking, job or businesses, house hold work, raising children the right way. Same goes with MEN. Morden MEN & WOMEN should be the ALL ROUNDER. Imagine life 10 years ago & compare it with now. Every year new technology gadgets are emerging. House hold work getting easier, everything getting easier more technical, more organized, less time consuming.....only the motherhood still takes 9 months to grow a baby inside but even raising babies getting easier. We got diapers now different types 100 types even adult diapers are easy to find !! Imagine 40 years back then when my mom was taking care of us as a baby....that time she couldn't find any diapers....no advanced technologies.......imagine the hard work back then !!!!!!!
Ok, let’s rewind a bit. Number one, some men enter into a woman’s world with little to no money. Out of the goodness of her heart, she agrees to assist him, title it as you may. This isn’t done because she is insecure or desperately in need of anything but, because of her heart. Now here’s the problem, a good man with good intentions and integrity, wouldn’t come into that relationship with money only to take from someone who has less than him knowing full well, that he does, turns around and has a breakdown in communication and then, calls her a gold digger knowing that she never knew that he even had money. So then, why lie on good women who were good to you? Why sit around and allow others to believe the lies told about them when, they were lies in the first place? This says more about Their intentions than anything else. Some women are not out for what’s in a man’s pocket but rather, his compassion, companionship, character, decency, honesty and integrity. Why try destroy women that have nothing but good. Women who are after money will let you know and for that reason, I respect that because at least their honest enough to tell you. Some of us comes from broken homes but we do not lack moral standards, respect and integrity for one another. Just because one comes from that doesn’t mean we have to represent the profiled stigma of it. There were good parents and neighbors who made sure that those things were in us. We were not allowed to treat people any less than the next person. The question is, what makes one with money be so arrogant into thinking that it’s ok for them to do that? We rather come from brokenness with those things than to come from or have riches and feel the need to look down on others. A person with integrity won’t hide their faces when they know that they have done wrong but rather, correct their mistake. There is a whole lesson to be learned on how money can effect moral standards. This is our problem today, at least one of them. When you have it, you can stand up to anything in truth.
Thanks for sharing this with us. The discussions are great and is a great way of opening up and having real life discussions. Prayerfully, we can find solutions peacefully ❤️✌🏾
sorry i see enough women settle with wrong guy because of her neediness. its usually that. there is no reason to do that otherwise and women are not stupid to do that for kindness of heart only
Sadia, can you make a hair tutorial?
some men get married cause they have mommy issues so they're always scared of being alone without a woman
If your not busy this weekend can you check in on Morgan and her family more crazy stuff coming to light
I would really appreciate it and you have a wonderful weekend too Stay safe pretty much you already noticed it's pretty dangerous here
How may I talk to you in person
No, she is speaking on her EXPERIENCES. This isnt about EVERY WOMAN. The problem is that women put in A LOT OF WORK NOW TO THE RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE AND IT'S NO LONGER 50/50. Men are using women for home, money, job too and PUTTING IN LESS WORK. They are NOT ALSO sacrificing themselves for the RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE. THEY ARE SATURATING THEMSELVES IN THEIR JOBS AND ACTIVITIES and NOT ADDRESSING THE PROBLEMS OR FIXING THEM.
I think prenup is a very personal subject and you shouldn't make such broad statements about people who dislike the idea.
I think it’s only personal for manipulating people
@@sadiapsychology that is very generalising of a massive group of individuals from different backgrounds, beliefs and experiences. Labeling on top of it. I'm honestly very disappointed.
@dashiya1570
And what is a legitimate reason to not negotiate a pre-nup?
@@imaanconstructioninc.6351 From top of my head just one idea that if you are planning to have children and are indeed from a poor, uneducated background then if a husband leaves you, then he leaves you unable to take care of your children beyond poverty line while half of the assets would be also funding children's expenses. Pitiful allowance called these days alimony is not enough to get a single mother to pay for everything. It's a system's fault really but I wouldn't sign a prenup specifically because of that. Men this way can get away from (for example) building a successful business and when they are successful dropping a woman like a hot potato because she is not longer a hot 20yo, forgetting they have children and paying them a bare minimum comparable to netflix sub and going on the have a ride of their life while a woman who has been supporting said man and bare children for them and god forbid was SAHM all this time is left pretty much homeless, with no money and no work experience because she was sahm. I also heard stories where men were trying to add prenup clause where they could sever all their parental responsibility if a woman is found cheating even if the kids are his bio children. That is just so gross and inhumane towards children.
There are many, many other reasons and one of them is personal. My father kicked me, my newborn sis and my mother on the street when I was 7. He was a very successful businesman and because he had funds he avoided courts and paying us alimony for years. My mom helped him build a successful business over the span of all those years being together and she was left with not even money for food because they weren't married and he never added her as co-owner just an employee (this is regarding an argument Sadia made that there is no reason for it unless you are religious). I will never sign a prenup not have children out of wedlock because of those reasons and more but don't have time to type more so this will have to be enough for you.
@@imaanconstructioninc.6351 I replied to you with long post listing multiple reasons including personal experience of my childhood but it looks like either my comment was deleted or not approved by the channel owner...
I sent my booking officer message before I went to subway earlier
Great advice as always and to me nothing is more sexy that a smart woman
Married for 35 years here. The dating/marriage world appears a tad feral by the sounds of this! Yikes!
"Actions speak louder than words" is an old saying.
There are many women to watch out for.
OMG! You did an interview with Soft White Underbelly! You Rock!! ⚡️
He’s the bestb
She is fiiine
Gorgeous & Smart 👍
Hi lol still at odds with Morgan something to do about midnight not sure going to try to stay up until then then go to bed going to the other park tomorrow and also the blood source plasma donation get some money it's in the other side of downtown
tax benefits are a benefit of getting married, perhaps not the priority but it is a benefit
I don't agree with the thing that primary reason to get married is to have children.
You can't reduce marriage between two souls to just having children. It's just extension of marriage, not a necessity.
You primarily get married to get a life partner which different from having children. They might overlap but are not the same.
Infact having children destroys a marriage even if you married the right person.
You don't have to get married to have and raise children, however you need marriage if you want to keep a person for life. Because ultimately you would want to give the relationship a name.
But the world sells the exact opposite narrative.
Im not 100% sure but I'm positive Amy Lee was arrested today
Who's deleting comments? 👀
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Every man needs to take half an hour away from the World to listen to the words in this video. As somebody who’s come out the other side of this, it could not be more right. Don’t be a mug fellas
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So basicly men shouldn't fall in love , stay sober and always watch out for mind games , lies ,manipulation.... we have to be constantly suspicious about women and quiestion everything they do or say??????? Great . I AM DONE WITH WOMEN😂
With all her knowledge, why isn't she married yet.
How do you have the word psychology in your channel and you’re not actually registered as a psychologist? Grifting at it’s finest😂😂😂😂😂
And yet you’re here stalking like a fan ❤ I must be soo important
Why people get married if already they live togheter? To protect themselfs. A woman that doesn’t work Will find herself after 20 years thrown away as garbage for a younger one and be on the streets without the protection of marriage. If a spouse get sick at the hospital you have to be married to get permission to decide on medicals décisions. If one of them die what it’s gonna happen with other one if they are not married? Another exemple if the a man have un amazing job offer abroad how cand the woman folow him if she is not safe financially?? If they are married his money will be the couple’ s money and they can act like a team. So yes!! There are plenty reasons why people get married even they already are living toghether and have kids. People that live togheter they are already married. But you have to put it on paper to be official.
If you think you girlfriend it is not mariage material don’t date her don’t sleep with her don’t do nothing. Îs that simple. If you love your woman/man marry her or him! If you don’t love them enough to marry them don’t be with them!!
I love your podcast but you using the Word fuck doesn't suit you miss Sadia
We’re all adults here let’s grow up a bit
@@sadiapsychology you right but swearing doesn't look professional and doesn't suit though
@@thatophalatse7466 let’s grow up
@@sadiapsychology swearing or use word fuck does prove you are grown up, don't confused two. If you believe God you will understand, you can't be part of the world while follow God. Remember those facts.
@@sadiapsychology
Yes, we're adults, and yes, I am guilty of it too. Yet, it remains good advice all the same. We should aspire to be better, more eloquent, better role models, etc. That includes finding more beautiful ways of speech.
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Basically Amber Heard
And every single woman on social media.
Are you referring all these SHIT about MIKE THURSTON?