I don't know how I found your channel, but I love your style, makeovers, your honesty and smack talk. Please don't think of your acting career as a failure but as a stepping stone. You have now become the writer, director and movie maker of your own story; which I look forward to watching every week. You are a gem. Congratulations on the YT award. Looking forward to seeing your award for 1M!
Totally agree. All the work you have done in acting totally comes through in your RUclips videos. The storytelling, how you follow your intuition and communicate your feelings, and so many more things! There’s no way your videos would be as good as they are without all that experience! From here, it definitely does not look like a failure but a stepping stone to this beautiful channel you created. So much joy for you!! You so deserve it!! Xx
@@daniellelearnsstuff yes! The journey should be appreciated. I dont do that well for myself, but intellectually at least, I know this is a journey, not a destination.
Princess Carolyn from Bojack Horseman has this line: "...you have to be careful, because if you spend a lot of time with stories, you start to believe that life is just stories, and it's not. Life is life."
it's interesting though because i feel like my life can be broken down into 'times' because they are complete stories...of those times. but yeah, i guess that's life isn't it? lol
The stories come after the life has been “lifed”. Stories help us make sense of life, afterwards. But if you manipulate your life to fit into a story, then you take yourself out of life.
Somebody commented that these are like Saturday morning cartoons for adults. I 100 % agree. I literally just said out loud let me go get coffee and some breakfast to sit down and watch this. Keep your chin up Caroline, we love you.
Congratulations! I’m a 60 year old grandma and I don’t care what you talk about, I’m going to listen because you are so incredibly HUMAN! Thank you for being you!!! You totally make sense!❤️
I'm a 206 years old vampire, didn't knew how fun was life out of this castle, thanks for sharing yours, I will go out more (at night). Congratulations Caroline!
You're amazing. "He really didn't know what he wanted, and I'm not willing to be collateral damage to him figuring it out" is some of the wisest stuff I've ever heard. EVER. And then my heart melted when you hugged your folks' pupper. You absolutely deserve than somewhat questionably designed RUclips plaque!
It's rare seeing someone who demonstrates self care while dating, giving your audience a little tea in the process, but also respecting your date enough to not share anything "too" intimate about your shared experience. Really glad to be here in your audience! 🙂 congrats on 100K!
I really love the dating content, not necessarily hearing the stories about specific people but just hearing another single woman talk through her thoughts and feelings on dating. It’s so refreshing and comforting to hear someone articulate some of the things I’m experiencing. Thank you for sharing 🤗
Don't settle. Wait for someone who feels like home, who you have everything in common with, who you both bring out the best in each other without pushing. Wait for the person who will one day make you say, "Marrying him was one of the best decisions I've ever made." Marry someone who you feel safe assuming the best of them. Because even easy, good relationships have hard days where you don't communicate well, and knowing they are good goes a long way.
@@mariettaberry1711 I’d say it’s about sacrificing. Marriage shouldn’t be settling… but being willing to sacrifice for one another. Serving each other despite your differences:)
I understand the idea of getting back in the saddle after a break up but there are too many angry, ego maniacs to filter through before you find the mythical "Mr Perfect". Just get on with your life because its short enough without wasting time dating.
@@Erinnestatic Sacrificing? Yeeugh, no thanks. That is the best reason NOT to get married. You gain a bloke only to find yourself less of the person you really are for what? So other people feel more comfortable around you? That's being short changed not a friend, not a life partner.
The fact that ritual let you keep in the clip where you’re talking about your box full of baby teeth makes me like them more than any type of advertisement or marketing they could ever do 😂
I am older than your parents, Caroline, and am a huge admirer of yours. I am here to say you will definitely meet such a man who will adore you as you are --not only on RUclips, where you are adored by your subscribers but also edited by you. He will know you as you really are and love that person. He may be a bit older than yourself, or, if not, be experienced enough and wise enough to bring out the best in you, as your videos do. He's out there! Once you know someone is not for you, don't give him a lot of time. Keep on the alert for the one who will make your heart sing and your spirit leap with joy. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I agree! A.M is wise! I was like you were in your twenties too- speeding up right past every red flag trying so hard to make all the red flaggers feel loved and validated all the while sacrificing my boundaries needs and deepest desires. One day while trying to get out of a toxic relationship I opened my eyes to my best friend who was waiting for me and loving me for who I was -and I finally felt seen- and now he is my husband and the absolute love of my life!! Wait for him. I never thought I’d find him but I actually did and now we are about to have our second baby!! ❤ much love Caroline!
At 30, I didnt know how to take good emotional care of myself in the way you have just demonstrated. Every young woman needs to see this. "Not my job." When I was a kid, we had to write stuff over and over when we got too loud in school. "Not my job to make him (or her) okay" would have been WAY more useful than the Gettysburg Address.
Caroline, you didn't fail in your acting career. You are doing it now on your channel. We all love your skills and you just got an award for it. You won a RUclips Academy Award! Congratulations!
@@margomeave9064 lol I like the staring into the abyss cuz it's something I do too haha. Plus it makes me feel like were both sitting there in comfortable silence drinking coffee together. Whereas watching a video someone is always talking :)
When I was younger I think I was focused on how to be a good partner, how to improve that with each new relationship or “audition” (date). But as I got older I realized that that will come once partnered, and the real task at the time was learning how to recognize and have good judgment about people in the beginning. It takes practice, knowing when to release from the interaction. It’s like tennis or singing or parenting or anything that’s a combination of instinct plus learned wisdom.
I relate so much to the “falling in love because of a narrative”. I never encountered anyone phrasing it like that, but know that you said it, it makes so much sense in my life
I have never left a comment on a video in all my years of watching RUclips, but I wanted to let you know that I stumbled upon your channel a few months ago, and you became my favorite RUclipsr almost immediately. Watching your videos feels like hanging out with a friend. You might not be “owed” your success on this platform, but you do deserve it.
Ooof I wish I’d I had an ounce of this self-respect and intuition, and ability to walk away when it came to dating. I spent a lifetime falling for that love bombing, ignoring red flags and then refusing to see when I was sticking around too long. This is what I’ll eventually be teaching my daughter (who’s only 2!). ❤
I came here for the interior design. Stayed for you. Your personality not only makes sense but makes others feel seen. Now I'm here every Saturday rain or shine! Congrats on the plaque, you have all the right to be proud
Caroline, as a “Boomer”, I can honestly say that you are one of the most honest, grounded, connected to family, talented and realistic people I have found on RUclips. I have a daughter your age (late in life Mom) whom I told about your channel, and she loves you, too. I look forward to your insights into many things from a younger generation’s perspective. You definitely deserved the RUclips accolades for taking all of us on this journey with you. You respect privacy and show maturity and compassion for others. Keep up the fabulous vlogs! AND good luck with your Podcast!!❤
It was really powerful for me to hear you thinking about “falling for the story” and the ultimate lesson you landed on of being in the moment with a person and not the story. So poignant. I’m usually one for the comments but you spoke a word there. Vibe sis.
I want to be your best friend. 😭 Your unapologetic sass, the delivery of the baby teeth in a box confession, the accuracy of what you’re looking for in a romantic partner the way you’ve found belonging on RUclips… brilliant. Bravo, Caroline!!! You’ve inspired me so much, helped us on the other side of the screen feel more seen, less alone. I’m so happy for this milestone you’ve made, and grateful you took the thousands of unsure steps before this to get here. Forever fan, Lauren 💕
I just showed my husband this and said “isn’t she so much like me?!” I say that not because I think I’m even remotely in the arena that is Caroline winkler but because maybe that’s the gift you give us right back. You also make us feel like we belong. That the quirky humor has a place. That all our little idiosyncrasies can come together on this little platform like a little family. So thank you Caroline. You’re the best frfr
I am sorry about the Street Man not turning out as amazing as he did initially :/ … also: the excitement and crazy-ing you do with your dog is the same thing I do with our dog 🐕🌪🥰 **edit**: OMG the 100k subs Silver YT button 🫶🥳🫶❤️🔥
As a much older woman I can’t imagine the detailed thinking that goes on when getting to know someone. I was married at 19 and just lived without all the thinking. Still married 47 years later and happy.
Honestly sometimes that works out and sometimes during your time people made the wrong choice. I believe it is a good thing to make sure that you know that you want and what not
Same! I normally fast forward adds, but she hooked me. It’s kind of cute if I think of it from a kid’s perspective, but as an adult I think it is kind of weird. I think she should just keep them lol
For real, if someone else said half the shit Caroline says about herself I'd tell them to STFU and go eat a lemon. I get she is being humble, but she takes it too far and belittles herself like she pre-emptively takes it away from herself to make sure she doesn't lose it.
Feeling SO validated and seen by the baby teeth segment. I was on the phone with a friend the other day and told them that I, as a child, collected my baby teeth in a mini size treasure chest that I still have to this day -- and they acted like I was an axe murderer. THIS is why I adore your content and subscribed from the first moment I watched. Your authenticity is priceless.
I have collected my son's baby teeth. Couldn't bear to throw them away when he worked so hard to grow them. They are so dear. I don't really get how parents could throw them away.
I found one of my kitten's baby teeth when I was sweeping (this was over a year ago) I thought it was a bead or something because I do crafts and just saw a little white thing clatter across the dust pan, I felt too guilty to throw THAT away! Let alone if I was blessed with a baby of my own! I asked my friend if it was weird but they surprised me at how understanding and nice they were about it. They said it made sense to them because when you look at it you remember them at that tiny baby stage, and they encouraged me to put it in one of my empty bead bottles, so I did and honestly I don't regret it. It's on a little shelf of knickknacks and my friend was right if I walk by that shelf I see it and remember when my kittens were small enough to fit in the palm of my spouse's hand! Anyway~ I don't think it's actually weird but I feel like we all THINK we're not supposed to do it or else it makes US weird. I hope that made sense lol.
I know I remember when the comments would be here before you blow up. RUclips viewers can really tell who will be big lol. Ive been here before from the beginning.
While I am so thrilled for her and she truly deserves it, a part of me is a little sad to lose the "little village/group" feeling when there weren't so many subscribers ha. But I guess we'll have to share her, cuz she should have all the plaques :)
I absolutely remember when people started believing in this channel and helped me start believing in myself. I think in about August of last year someone commented “I predict 100,000 subs by end of 2022!” And I was like oh they’re crazy. (My goal was to have 40,000 by end of 2022). It was the first time I noticed people believing in me more than I believed in myself. And that changed my life. I also totally feel and know that bittersweet feeling of things changing, the smallness changing. I think about it a lot. I want to keep the intimacy. Trying to find ways to do so. And in the mean time, thank you for such kind words and so much support even before I knew to root for myself that way ❤️you’ll never know how much it has meant
The speech she gave about her RUclips plaque is the most relatable thing I've ever heard. Always feeling like you're too much of this or not enough of this is how I've always felt and I'm still trying to find my place. Glad RUclips is yours ❤️
After all that serious talk and gratitude for RUclips platform, dropping that plaque was a very funny moment. 1 year later you've grown your channel almost six times. Well done!
You are blowing my mind with the whole emphasizing the narrative of a relationship vs how it actually feels in real life I DO THIS TOO thank you for helping me realise!!! (Also same to empathizing away every potential issue)
Watching other people live their lives is weird too. But hey, I love your vlogs, so thank you for filming yourself and for being comfortable with talking to a camera.
‘I still keep my baby teeth on a bedside table…’ is literally a lyric in the song ‘Civilian’ by Wye Oak. It’s beautiful & self-reflective, like you, Caroline. xo
I know we only see so much of you online (and rightfully so- you owe viewers nothing), but seeing your RUclips channel grow from 12k when I found you to what it continues to become, man. You are so humble and self aware and the genuine goofiness and uniqueness you’re willing to share on RUclips has blessed me and I know has blessed others. I hope you enjoy all the successes you cultivate here and offline in your life!!!
I was just doing a casual weekend scroll when one of your videos popped up. I thought I recognized you so I clicked and now I’m in a Caroline’s RUclips channel black hole that I can’t escape. Is it weird that I’m binge watching videos of someone I used to go to school with? If it is, I don’t care because now I’m subscribed and invested.
100% so glad you broke things off with Street Man. The whole thing with the "narrative"...god damn, that's so relatable. My first boyfriend was this modelesque dreadhead I was introduced to through friends, and since I had low self esteem when I was in my early 20s, I thought, wow, I'm so lucky this beautiful, well-traveled man wants to touch me. He turned out to be a self-absorbed man-child who couldn't take any amount of criticism and had no regard for the things I wanted. I had planned to spend my last year in college overseas so we could continue dating, since he was attending grad school at a university in England, and it all seemed so romantic right up until he dumped me half a month before the trip that I couldn't get a refund for. So I spent the last year of college in isolation, pretty much. He AND HIS MOTHER harassed me for six months after he broke up with me, because he realized he'd made a mistake, but I at least had the good sense to say, um, no thank you, crazy people. I'm not a spur of the moment decision; I'm not an afterthought or an accessory. I'm a human being. Stop making the fact that you don't know what you want my problem. Last I heard he was still unemployed and living with his mom. 😂
My husband asks me why I continue to watch you. And all I can say is.... you’re just so talented, great vlogs, so relatable. I’m glad you are able to spot red flags and act on them. Very self aware.
Pigtails! 👍 I'm kind of an obsessive reader of the comments sections of the videos I watch, and I have to say that you've (somehow!) developed the most literate bunch of commenters that I've ever seen. If that means anything to potential sponsors, your agent should point this out as one of your channel's long list of features and benefits. Continued success on your RUclips adventures. Me, I just want to be the family dog. 🐾
why am i tearing up about the YT plaque talk? you deserve it all, caroline. thanks for being here. i genuinely feel happy for you and proud of how far you've come. it's a gift that you share with us all.
Acting as a profession has SO many gatekeepers. They decide if you're 'good' or not. It's stupid. Just be the thing. Do the thing! Caroline is doing just that. Hats off. Let's all take a leaf from her book.
Your reaction to the second red flag 😂😂 love your open conversation, Caroline! I know I had a similar dating experience a few years back where I was trying to explain away some of the flags until I couldn't anymore.
I read a very old book called Are you the one for me. It really helped me to think more clear headed and not only with my heart. What to look for in a mate and what i discovered was when it flows and feels normal it’s so much better than the ups and downs of having butterflies and then being ghosted.
My 23 yr old Grandaughter is coming for Thanksgiving, Caroline you'll be on my TV all day. Thank you for being an amazing human being and sharing your journey ❤
I was telling someone how my husband and I met and hearing me say it out reminded me how it is a good story to tell, but it’s not something I ever think about after 11 years married, 3 kids, juggling work and a mortgage later. Remaining present is key in any relationship. Good on you for not getting swept up in a storyline and instead closing a chapter so you don’t settle for less than best.
don't feel bad about giving people chances! it's totally understandable. if it makes you feel better, I used to go on multiple dates with guys I wasn't even attracted to (before I realized i Was gay). Sometimes the potential of a relationship is so much more addictive than the connection itself. And if you found the guy really cute, I can imagine it was even harder for you.
When I watched the first video I found of you randomly the one thing I immediately thought was she’s very talented, she is going places. Please don’t lose yourself in the process, you are a breath of fresh air.
When you posted about the date initially I wondered if it really was going okay. I didn't think you seemed confident that it was going in a deeper direction. It's so refreshing to see someone who knows themselves so well and can stay grounded despite what seems like a perfect hallmark story beginning.
Finally at 31 I realized the red flags with dating that you talked about. I’m so glad you see those too and shared them here so hopefully more women see! Love how introspective you are while maintaining boundaries on RUclips.
Congratulations on your RUclips award and pls don't downplay your achievements. I'm old enough to be your mother and really enjoy your videos - every single one of them. Good on you for recognising those red flags with Street Man whilst maintaining both yours and his privacy and dignity on RUclips. LOVED seeing your dog's reaction to your arrival and how you have big hugs - plus gotta love any household where a dog has his own couch ha ha. Hi from Australia xx
Oh girl, that last bit made me tear up. I am pretty sure I speak for a lot of us here when I say that the "finding a fit" feeling is reciprocated. That's why there are so many of us, you make us feel like you're a good friend without even meeting us... Not to mention, as someone studying ID all of that perfectly imperfect content is such a bonus cherry on top. I've learned so many golden nuggets. Thank you for being so genuinely you here on RUclips, you deserve enough plaques to cover your whole bathroom lol :)
I'm sorry i had to stop the video to say this.. you already do (HAVE) the talent for it (present tense) and it shines through your internal dialogue, facial expressions, your witty banter talking to yourself, and many many more!! Doing RUclips is like your own show that you get to star, produce, edit and direct every ounce of it and put it out for us to watch💖 and i think this is equally amazing Imagine a person turning on the TV to just see YOU, knowingly!! Definitely thank you for opening up about this with us, i first hand know how hard this is to talk about ❤️ I'm constantly reminded that you have a very eclectic mix of subscribers If i cud say so myself by some of the comments i read and who love you for being genuinely who you are ❤️ Also sorry, English is not my first language so apologies for any misinterpretation.. Love from Egypt ❤️
Honest, funny, upsetting, silly... your vlogs are always so many things but always introspective, insightful and interesting. Also, congrats on the 100k, you're the best.
This middle aged woman loves your humor, decorating focus, glimpses of family life...all of it really. Congratulations, Caroline. I almost sent coffee out my nose when you dropped your plaque at the end! Lol. Merry wishes to you this holiday season. You bring much joy to my life.
I don’t know if I’ve ever used a partnership code before for a sponsor, but I simply had to in order to fund stellar content like baby-teeth boxes. Ritual, you chose correctly when you decided to sponsor Caroline.
Re: Things We Don’t Deserve In Life: Conversely, I believe that when people work hard at something, and have talent, and their efforts have merit, they ARE deserving of _____ (fill in the blank) money, recognition, success, satisfaction, whatever. It’s just that there is no one formula which guarantees the outcome one strives for. Which is to say that many, many hardworking and talented people who truly love what they’re putting their effort towards will go unrecognized/unrewarded and unfulfilled. Depending on your beliefs and philosophy on life, that may seem hugely unfair. But the reason I’m pointing this out is two-fold: (1) The lack of success is no reflection on the actual merit of what went in to the undertaking; and (2) The lack of success should have no bearing on one’s self-esteem - i.e. it’s not necessarily a reflection of who YOU are as a person. In fact, it could be indicative of society having misplaced values, or not recognizing talent, or a myriad of other issues. It all comes back to the individual. If you know you gave something an honest effort, then your happiness and satisfaction in what you’ve done IS deserved. As it should be - because we won’t always be recognized for our efforts, and ought not rely solely (or even primarily) on external validation for our sense of achievement and belonging. I hope that makes sense.
Back in the gym! Yaaas girl! Let's go! Also super glad you didn't let the narrative keep you in that dating situation for longer than necessary once you realized it was a no-go. Congrats on 100K! It's a big deal. Don't minimize it!!
Awww you save your baby teeth too! My mom used to have a little box with my and my siblings teeth but we lost it moving out and I was so sad I want to keep them forever
Oh my goodness, the joy you had at showing us the baby teeth 😂😂😂 that was the moment I remembered to “like” this video. Pure joy and honest and random and I love it🦷🪥
1) I really like the message you are putting out there about dating. You know, taking time to get to know someone, really thinking about it all before leaping. 2) I love the way you showed love to the fur baby! 3) Keep those baby teeth. It's not weird.
Beautiful speech 👏 so happy you finally found something that makes sense for you. How crazy is it that 100,000 of us would have shown up for your award in person if we could?!
So I started watching your videos about two months ago; as an interior painter, and faux finisher, and ex actor, your content certainly resonated. Your design style is delicious, and The Street Man Chronicles had me hooked. So now I'm am subscribed. Hope these days find you well.
This was so insightful. Hearing your thoughts on the streetman saga, I was just nodding aggresively. And Im so happy for your success but more importantly, you feeling more connected. That is so important. Cheers, girly. Thank you for sharing your life! You put a smile on my face and make me think.
I'm with the 60 year old grandma - in my 50s and I watched your first video for style tips but hung around for your randomness and humor. You are a trip!
That was literally the best "thank you" speech I've ever heard from any RUclipsr. So genuine, quirky and relatable. It's just YOU and it's GREAT! Congratulations!
WOW!🥳🥳🥳 Greetings from Ukraine! 💛💙 Sooo happy for you, Caroline! 🤗 Your videos and vlog story are very inspiring. I love your character, and I appreciate your honesty. I also dream of being part of the interior design sphere and still trying to figure it out, though it's rather challenging right now with a war going on in our country. I usually watch your videos and hide in the bathroom during the air-raid warnings. It helps me to distract and gives hope for the best. Thank you a lot!
Being able to empathize with people and explain away questionable behavior is something I completely understand, but you realize it only hurts you and the act is often not seen or appreciated by the other person. I think your approach to new dates is solid. I like how you think (except for the teeth). Congrats on the plaque. Glad to be one of the many strangers that regularly watch your videos.
"50 once felt impossible". I really love that ❤️ keep going, I love your self-reflection and your self-awareness and your boundaries. Life is definitely like a box of chocolates 🍫
Thank you for sharing the update on street man. It is so easy for me to get lost in the romance of a relationship when the only thing that really matters is the reality of how they are treating you. I think I exorcised a few demons of my own listening to your matter-of-fact account of the ending of what was really just a possibility, not even an actual thing in itself. Loved the rest of the video, DC is so gorgeous.
I don't know if you've talked about it before, but whenever you mention feeling like you don't fit in or quirks you have or whatever, it's so relatable and as a person with ADHD, it makes me suspect you might be one of us. And yeah, this is a space where because you make your own community, it's especially helpful where because of things like ADHD or other situations, you can find like-minded people or people curious about whatever and good things can happen.
Caroline, you are amazing. I was once a young woman in NOVA working in DC and dating is hard. It is really hard in DC. You hang in there. To quote the great Janis Joplin, "don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got." You are amazing and did not compromise yourself. As an intelligent woman, it's going to be harder for your to find your soul mate but you have got this. Don't feel bad that your didn't lessen yourself to make someone else feel more. Someone who really loves your will celebrate you. You are great. You are so real, beautiful and intelligent. Hang in there lady. You are a classy lady! From another Caroline. :)
What you talked about from min 25 onwards made me feel so connected. I just got recently diagnosed with ADHD as a 31 year old woman. And it was liberating. I'm not qualified to diagnose anyone of course. But your quick recap of school and the feeling of having too much projects / interests, making a mess for others - it was important to me to know what my brain is in charge of and what literally is my character when it comes to my life circumstances. Just recently found your channel in my recommend section. love it!
Adhd was what I spotted in her too myself. Actually asked her about it on another video because she reminds me of myself and im diagnosed. But then I forgot to ever check for an answer and prob haven't checked my RUclips notifications in a couple weeks... Because you know.. adhd. So it shall forever be a mystery. Lol
@@just1desi we tend to see it in a lot of people when diagnosed ourselves don’t we 😅 I think the knowing what it is that stands in my way in all aspects of my life helped me so much. Just identifying it helped so so much. Thanks for your input!
You have given me the opportunity to say one of my favorite quotes. “ Deserve has got nothing to do with it” It is a huge mindbend to think about, towards the negative or the positive. I do truly believe it though.
The messsage you put on the frame for the RUclips plaque is NOT cheesy. It's a sign of your good home training. Thank your people for whatever part they played in helping you to grow to have gratitude for the good in your life. I hope you don't continue to feel weird about feeling proud . Congratulations on finding a place to feel like you make sense. Expect blessings, baby girl.
Clarity is kindness in all relationships.. especially in the dating scene. I made this point to my now husband on one of our first dates and am very thankful he respected me enough to communicate where he saw our relationship at with each stage and how he was feeling. Extra tid-bit of wisdom.. which comes from my brother-in-law who will say this until the day he dies.. “relationships are all about communication and expectations and communicating about your expectations” You’re a gem Caroline!
I don't know how I found your channel, but I love your style, makeovers, your honesty and smack talk. Please don't think of your acting career as a failure but as a stepping stone. You have now become the writer, director and movie maker of your own story; which I look forward to watching every week. You are a gem. Congratulations on the YT award. Looking forward to seeing your award for 1M!
My sentiment exactly! Bravo Caroline! 🙌🙌
Totally agree. All the work you have done in acting totally comes through in your RUclips videos. The storytelling, how you follow your intuition and communicate your feelings, and so many more things! There’s no way your videos would be as good as they are without all that experience! From here, it definitely does not look like a failure but a stepping stone to this beautiful channel you created. So much joy for you!! You so deserve it!! Xx
I couldn't agree more. I love her channel, and the fact that she is in the local DMV area makes her content so much more relatable.
Completely agree! I think we as a society need to redefine failure. It's growth. It's all growth.
@@daniellelearnsstuff yes! The journey should be appreciated. I dont do that well for myself, but intellectually at least, I know this is a journey, not a destination.
Princess Carolyn from Bojack Horseman has this line:
"...you have to be careful, because if you spend a lot of time with stories, you start to believe that life is just stories, and it's not. Life is life."
it's interesting though because i feel like my life can be broken down into 'times' because they are complete stories...of those times. but yeah, i guess that's life isn't it? lol
Or life is a bunch of stories?
That is powerful.
Best quote ever
The stories come after the life has been “lifed”. Stories help us make sense of life, afterwards. But if you manipulate your life to fit into a story, then you take yourself out of life.
Somebody commented that these are like Saturday morning cartoons for adults. I 100 % agree. I literally just said out loud let me go get coffee and some breakfast to sit down and watch this. Keep your chin up Caroline, we love you.
Yes this too I agree with.
“I’m not willing to be collateral damage along the way.” Girl that hit me so strong. Good for you❤
Congratulations! I’m a 60 year old grandma and I don’t care what you talk about, I’m going to listen because you are so incredibly HUMAN! Thank you for being you!!! You totally make sense!❤️
Im 60 too and enjoying these vlogs as i would in my younger years! Cheers Caroline! May life give you all the good vibes you send us
@@maleidi same!
I'm a 206 years old vampire, didn't knew how fun was life out of this castle, thanks for sharing yours, I will go out more (at night). Congratulations Caroline!
I’m 56 and love your channel! Keep on Keeping on Caroline! You are AWESOME 😊
Yup another Grandmother here, LOVE her!
You're amazing. "He really didn't know what he wanted, and I'm not willing to be collateral damage to him figuring it out" is some of the wisest stuff I've ever heard. EVER. And then my heart melted when you hugged your folks' pupper. You absolutely deserve than somewhat questionably designed RUclips plaque!
This is the best content on yt 🥹
Your channel is good too! 🙂 I don't wear makeup, but your channel makes me want to.
Look at this down to earth queen supporting another down to earth queen!
Real recognizes real ❤
Right? She’s refreshingly real & candid: like you, Alex!
She really is. I love your channel too! And your brother’s 😂🙏🏻😂
It's rare seeing someone who demonstrates self care while dating, giving your audience a little tea in the process, but also respecting your date enough to not share anything "too" intimate about your shared experience. Really glad to be here in your audience! 🙂 congrats on 100K!
I really love the dating content, not necessarily hearing the stories about specific people but just hearing another single woman talk through her thoughts and feelings on dating. It’s so refreshing and comforting to hear someone articulate some of the things I’m experiencing. Thank you for sharing 🤗
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Congratulations.
I agree, love hearing another woman sharing her thoughts on dating...but I also love the stories haha
Don't settle. Wait for someone who feels like home, who you have everything in common with, who you both bring out the best in each other without pushing. Wait for the person who will one day make you say, "Marrying him was one of the best decisions I've ever made." Marry someone who you feel safe assuming the best of them. Because even easy, good relationships have hard days where you don't communicate well, and knowing they are good goes a long way.
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You have a giveaway🎁🎁🎁.
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Since no one is perfect, isn't marriage always settling?
@@mariettaberry1711 I’d say it’s about sacrificing. Marriage shouldn’t be settling… but being willing to sacrifice for one another. Serving each other despite your differences:)
I understand the idea of getting back in the saddle after a break up but there are too many angry, ego maniacs to filter through before you find the mythical "Mr Perfect". Just get on with your life because its short enough without wasting time dating.
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Sacrificing? Yeeugh, no thanks. That is the best reason NOT to get married. You gain a bloke only to find yourself less of the person you really are for what? So other people feel more comfortable around you? That's being short changed not a friend, not a life partner.
The fact that ritual let you keep in the clip where you’re talking about your box full of baby teeth makes me like them more than any type of advertisement or marketing they could ever do 😂
I am older than your parents, Caroline, and am a huge admirer of yours. I am here to say you will definitely meet such a man who will adore you as you are --not only on RUclips, where you are adored by your subscribers but also edited by you. He will know you as you really are and love that person. He may be a bit older than yourself, or, if not, be experienced enough and wise enough to bring out the best in you, as your videos do. He's out there! Once you know someone is not for you, don't give him a lot of time. Keep on the alert for the one who will make your heart sing and your spirit leap with joy. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yep! What she said ⬆️😊👍
I'm going to pretend you're speaking to all us young ladies, what a sweet comment. I'm new~ish to her channel but she is lovely 🌹
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I agree! A.M is wise! I was like you were in your twenties too- speeding up right past every red flag trying so hard to make all the red flaggers feel loved and validated all the while sacrificing my boundaries needs and deepest desires. One day while trying to get out of a toxic relationship I opened my eyes to my best friend who was waiting for me and loving me for who I was -and I finally felt seen- and now he is my husband and the absolute love of my life!! Wait for him. I never thought I’d find him but I actually did and now we are about to have our second baby!! ❤ much love Caroline!
A.M. You just put my thoughts into words.
SO smart to understand "not my job". It takes a lot for us to realize this about ANY relationship!
The best piece of dating advice my mom ever gave me. "You want a man that will bring out the best in you and you do the same for him." ❤️
At 30, I didnt know how to take good emotional care of myself in the way you have just demonstrated. Every young woman needs to see this. "Not my job." When I was a kid, we had to write stuff over and over when we got too loud in school. "Not my job to make him (or her) okay" would have been WAY more useful than the Gettysburg Address.
"That's pretty condemning... So I kept seeing him..." Classic. You're awesome.
Many months ago I came for the design tips, stayed for the person.
Caroline, you didn't fail in your acting career. You are doing it now on your channel. We all love your skills and you just got an award for it. You won a RUclips Academy Award! Congratulations!
I find perfection in Caroline’s channel - except for the (don’t hate me) “staring into the abyss” that has become rather frequent.
@@margomeave9064 lol I like the staring into the abyss cuz it's something I do too haha. Plus it makes me feel like were both sitting there in comfortable silence drinking coffee together. Whereas watching a video someone is always talking :)
When I was younger I think I was focused on how to be a good partner, how to improve that with each new relationship or “audition” (date). But as I got older I realized that that will come once partnered, and the real task at the time was learning how to recognize and have good judgment about people in the beginning. It takes practice, knowing when to release from the interaction. It’s like tennis or singing or parenting or anything that’s a combination of instinct plus learned wisdom.
I relate so much to the “falling in love because of a narrative”. I never encountered anyone phrasing it like that, but know that you said it, it makes so much sense in my life
I have never left a comment on a video in all my years of watching RUclips, but I wanted to let you know that I stumbled upon your channel a few months ago, and you became my favorite RUclipsr almost immediately. Watching your videos feels like hanging out with a friend. You might not be “owed” your success on this platform, but you do deserve it.
Ooof I wish I’d I had an ounce of this self-respect and intuition, and ability to walk away when it came to dating. I spent a lifetime falling for that love bombing, ignoring red flags and then refusing to see when I was sticking around too long. This is what I’ll eventually be teaching my daughter (who’s only 2!). ❤
Same page and three 😅🤦🏻♀️
@@2enigma8 I love it. Already planning how we improve love and life for our mark 2s 😊
Laura and Tracy. I'm available...
@@laurasharp6838 listening to jay shetty is a great place to start!
I want to think that all those kids have a father at home
I came here for the interior design. Stayed for you. Your personality not only makes sense but makes others feel seen. Now I'm here every Saturday rain or shine! Congrats on the plaque, you have all the right to be proud
Same! ❤
Caroline, as a “Boomer”, I can honestly say that you are one of the most honest, grounded, connected to family, talented and realistic people I have found on RUclips. I have a daughter your age (late in life Mom) whom I told about your channel, and she loves you, too. I look forward to your insights into many things from a younger generation’s perspective. You definitely deserved the RUclips
accolades for taking all of us on this journey with you. You respect privacy and show maturity and compassion for others. Keep up the fabulous vlogs! AND good luck with your Podcast!!❤
It was really powerful for me to hear you thinking about “falling for the story” and the ultimate lesson you landed on of being in the moment with a person and not the story. So poignant. I’m usually one for the comments but you spoke a word there. Vibe sis.
I want to be your best friend. 😭
Your unapologetic sass, the delivery of the baby teeth in a box confession, the accuracy of what you’re looking for in a romantic partner the way you’ve found belonging on RUclips… brilliant.
Bravo, Caroline!!! You’ve inspired me so much, helped us on the other side of the screen feel more seen, less alone. I’m so happy for this milestone you’ve made, and grateful you took the thousands of unsure steps before this to get here.
Forever fan,
Lauren 💕
I *loved* the baby teeth chapter.
I just watched that yesterday. She kept brushing them😂 Love this girl!
Hahaha I want to be her best friend too!! 😜
@@hannahkruszewski3810 I'm glad I'm not alone!! lol
I just showed my husband this and said “isn’t she so much like me?!” I say that not because I think I’m even remotely in the arena that is Caroline winkler but because maybe that’s the gift you give us right back. You also make us feel like we belong. That the quirky humor has a place. That all our little idiosyncrasies can come together on this little platform like a little family. So thank you Caroline. You’re the best frfr
I am sorry about the Street Man not turning out as amazing as he did initially :/ … also: the excitement and crazy-ing you do with your dog is the same thing I do with our dog 🐕🌪🥰
**edit**: OMG the 100k subs Silver YT button 🫶🥳🫶❤️🔥
I’m not willing to be collateral damage along the way.” Girl that hit me so strong. Good for you❤
As a much older woman I can’t imagine the detailed thinking that goes on when getting to know someone. I was married at 19 and just lived without all the thinking. Still married 47 years later and happy.
Honestly sometimes that works out and sometimes during your time people made the wrong choice. I believe it is a good thing to make sure that you know that you want and what not
I'm so happy it works so well for you and your spouse! Congratulations on 47 years; here's to a whole bunch more! 🥰
I am DYING watching Chapter 5. I don't think I've ever enjoyed the ad portion so thoroughly. 🤣
Yes! Had no idea it was going to even be an ad because of the obscurity. Loved it!
Same! I normally fast forward adds, but she hooked me. It’s kind of cute if I think of it from a kid’s perspective, but as an adult I think it is kind of weird. I think she should just keep them lol
😂 same! I almost always skip them but this one was hilarious.
Literally 😂
Best ad ever.
Damnit Caroline, I wasn’t ready to tear up yet this morning. Glad you found your place - you may not be owed it, but you do deserve it.
For real, if someone else said half the shit Caroline says about herself I'd tell them to STFU and go eat a lemon. I get she is being humble, but she takes it too far and belittles herself like she pre-emptively takes it away from herself to make sure she doesn't lose it.
You have great self awareness especially for someone your age.
Feeling SO validated and seen by the baby teeth segment. I was on the phone with a friend the other day and told them that I, as a child, collected my baby teeth in a mini size treasure chest that I still have to this day -- and they acted like I was an axe murderer. THIS is why I adore your content and subscribed from the first moment I watched. Your authenticity is priceless.
I have collected my son's baby teeth. Couldn't bear to throw them away when he worked so hard to grow them. They are so dear. I don't really get how parents could throw them away.
Me too! I still have mine in a tiny box too! :D
I like the idea of being burned/buried with ones baby teeth. Kinda full-circle-ish?
I found one of my kitten's baby teeth when I was sweeping (this was over a year ago) I thought it was a bead or something because I do crafts and just saw a little white thing clatter across the dust pan, I felt too guilty to throw THAT away! Let alone if I was blessed with a baby of my own! I asked my friend if it was weird but they surprised me at how understanding and nice they were about it. They said it made sense to them because when you look at it you remember them at that tiny baby stage, and they encouraged me to put it in one of my empty bead bottles, so I did and honestly I don't regret it. It's on a little shelf of knickknacks and my friend was right if I walk by that shelf I see it and remember when my kittens were small enough to fit in the palm of my spouse's hand! Anyway~ I don't think it's actually weird but I feel like we all THINK we're not supposed to do it or else it makes US weird. I hope that made sense lol.
I used to have mine also but lost them when moving. Still gutted about it hahah
Around a year ago, many of us predicted that your channel would grow quickly and I'm so happy
to see it happening before our eyes. Congratulations!
I know I remember when the comments would be here before you blow up. RUclips viewers can really tell who will be big lol. Ive been here before from the beginning.
While I am so thrilled for her and she truly deserves it, a part of me is a little sad to lose the "little village/group" feeling when there weren't so many subscribers ha. But I guess we'll have to share her, cuz she should have all the plaques :)
I absolutely remember when people started believing in this channel and helped me start believing in myself. I think in about August of last year someone commented “I predict 100,000 subs by end of 2022!” And I was like oh they’re crazy. (My goal was to have 40,000 by end of 2022). It was the first time I noticed people believing in me more than I believed in myself. And that changed my life. I also totally feel and know that bittersweet feeling of things changing, the smallness changing. I think about it a lot. I want to keep the intimacy. Trying to find ways to do so. And in the mean time, thank you for such kind words and so much support even before I knew to root for myself that way ❤️you’ll never know how much it has meant
The speech she gave about her RUclips plaque is the most relatable thing I've ever heard. Always feeling like you're too much of this or not enough of this is how I've always felt and I'm still trying to find my place. Glad RUclips is yours ❤️
6 sec. This is my proudest moment as a subscriber
Thank YOU for being as open, vulnerable and honest as you are and creating a space where WE feel like we belong!
YES! 💯
For real. Wish I had friends like this.
After all that serious talk and gratitude for RUclips platform, dropping that plaque was a very funny moment. 1 year later you've grown your channel almost six times. Well done!
You are blowing my mind with the whole emphasizing the narrative of a relationship vs how it actually feels in real life I DO THIS TOO thank you for helping me realise!!! (Also same to empathizing away every potential issue)
Watching other people live their lives is weird too. But hey, I love your vlogs, so thank you for filming yourself and for being comfortable with talking to a camera.
‘I still keep my baby teeth on a bedside table…’ is literally a lyric in the song ‘Civilian’ by Wye Oak. It’s beautiful & self-reflective, like you, Caroline. xo
GREAT song
I know we only see so much of you online (and rightfully so- you owe viewers nothing), but seeing your RUclips channel grow from 12k when I found you to what it continues to become, man. You are so humble and self aware and the genuine goofiness and uniqueness you’re willing to share on RUclips has blessed me and I know has blessed others. I hope you enjoy all the successes you cultivate here and offline in your life!!!
I was just doing a casual weekend scroll when one of your videos popped up. I thought I recognized you so I clicked and now I’m in a Caroline’s RUclips channel black hole that I can’t escape. Is it weird that I’m binge watching videos of someone I used to go to school with? If it is, I don’t care because now I’m subscribed and invested.
100% so glad you broke things off with Street Man. The whole thing with the "narrative"...god damn, that's so relatable. My first boyfriend was this modelesque dreadhead I was introduced to through friends, and since I had low self esteem when I was in my early 20s, I thought, wow, I'm so lucky this beautiful, well-traveled man wants to touch me. He turned out to be a self-absorbed man-child who couldn't take any amount of criticism and had no regard for the things I wanted. I had planned to spend my last year in college overseas so we could continue dating, since he was attending grad school at a university in England, and it all seemed so romantic right up until he dumped me half a month before the trip that I couldn't get a refund for. So I spent the last year of college in isolation, pretty much. He AND HIS MOTHER harassed me for six months after he broke up with me, because he realized he'd made a mistake, but I at least had the good sense to say, um, no thank you, crazy people. I'm not a spur of the moment decision; I'm not an afterthought or an accessory. I'm a human being. Stop making the fact that you don't know what you want my problem.
Last I heard he was still unemployed and living with his mom. 😂
My husband asks me why I continue to watch you. And all I can say is.... you’re just so talented, great vlogs, so relatable. I’m glad you are able to spot red flags and act on them. Very self aware.
Pigtails! 👍 I'm kind of an obsessive reader of the comments sections of the videos I watch, and I have to say that you've (somehow!) developed the most literate bunch of commenters that I've ever seen. If that means anything to potential sponsors, your agent should point this out as one of your channel's long list of features and benefits.
Continued success on your RUclips adventures. Me, I just want to be the family dog. 🐾
why am i tearing up about the YT plaque talk? you deserve it all, caroline. thanks for being here. i genuinely feel happy for you and proud of how far you've come. it's a gift that you share with us all.
The most upsetting thing is that as soon as the box rattled I was like oh that’s teeth. Why did I recognize that??
Acting as a profession has SO many gatekeepers. They decide if you're 'good' or not. It's stupid. Just be the thing. Do the thing! Caroline is doing just that. Hats off. Let's all take a leaf from her book.
Your reaction to the second red flag 😂😂 love your open conversation, Caroline! I know I had a similar dating experience a few years back where I was trying to explain away some of the flags until I couldn't anymore.
I read a very old book called Are you the one for me. It really helped me to think more clear headed and not only with my heart. What to look for in a mate and what i discovered was when it flows and feels normal it’s so much better than the ups and downs of having butterflies and then being ghosted.
I'm 69 years old, and you are a great time to watch, and a great time to realize that we are all the way you are, even when you're old.
“The place where I make sense” Isn’t that what we’re all looking for? So happy for you! ❤️
My 23 yr old Grandaughter is coming for Thanksgiving, Caroline you'll be on my TV all day. Thank you for being an amazing human being and sharing your journey ❤
Ritual will be glad to know the creepy baby tooth box interlude had me so discombobulated I followed the link to order.
I was telling someone how my husband and I met and hearing me say it out reminded me how it is a good story to tell, but it’s not something I ever think about after 11 years married, 3 kids, juggling work and a mortgage later. Remaining present is key in any relationship. Good on you for not getting swept up in a storyline and instead closing a chapter so you don’t settle for less than best.
don't feel bad about giving people chances! it's totally understandable. if it makes you feel better, I used to go on multiple dates with guys I wasn't even attracted to (before I realized i Was gay). Sometimes the potential of a relationship is so much more addictive than the connection itself. And if you found the guy really cute, I can imagine it was even harder for you.
Don't rush into relationships, build friendships first. Take more time and let things flow naturally.
When I watched the first video I found of you randomly the one thing I immediately thought was she’s very talented, she is going places. Please don’t lose yourself in the process, you are a breath of fresh air.
When you posted about the date initially I wondered if it really was going okay. I didn't think you seemed confident that it was going in a deeper direction. It's so refreshing to see someone who knows themselves so well and can stay grounded despite what seems like a perfect hallmark story beginning.
Finally at 31 I realized the red flags with dating that you talked about. I’m so glad you see those too and shared them here so hopefully more women see! Love how introspective you are while maintaining boundaries on RUclips.
Congratulations on your RUclips award and pls don't downplay your achievements. I'm old enough to be your mother and really enjoy your videos - every single one of them. Good on you for recognising those red flags with Street Man whilst maintaining both yours and his privacy and dignity on RUclips. LOVED seeing your dog's reaction to your arrival and how you have big hugs - plus gotta love any household where a dog has his own couch ha ha. Hi from Australia xx
Oh girl, that last bit made me tear up. I am pretty sure I speak for a lot of us here when I say that the "finding a fit" feeling is reciprocated. That's why there are so many of us, you make us feel like you're a good friend without even meeting us... Not to mention, as someone studying ID all of that perfectly imperfect content is such a bonus cherry on top. I've learned so many golden nuggets. Thank you for being so genuinely you here on RUclips, you deserve enough plaques to cover your whole bathroom lol :)
I'm sorry i had to stop the video to say this.. you already do (HAVE) the talent for it (present tense) and it shines through your internal dialogue, facial expressions, your witty banter talking to yourself, and many many more!! Doing RUclips is like your own show that you get to star, produce, edit and direct every ounce of it and put it out for us to watch💖 and i think this is equally amazing
Imagine a person turning on the TV to just see YOU, knowingly!! Definitely thank you for opening up about this with us, i first hand know how hard this is to talk about ❤️
I'm constantly reminded that you have a very eclectic mix of subscribers If i cud say so myself by some of the comments i read and who love you for being genuinely who you are ❤️
Also sorry, English is not my first language so apologies for any misinterpretation..
Love from Egypt ❤️
Honest, funny, upsetting, silly... your vlogs are always so many things but always introspective, insightful and interesting. Also, congrats on the 100k, you're the best.
This middle aged woman loves your humor, decorating focus, glimpses of family life...all of it really. Congratulations, Caroline. I almost sent coffee out my nose when you dropped your plaque at the end! Lol. Merry wishes to you this holiday season. You bring much joy to my life.
I don’t know if I’ve ever used a partnership code before for a sponsor, but I simply had to in order to fund stellar content like baby-teeth boxes.
Ritual, you chose correctly when you decided to sponsor Caroline.
Re: Things We Don’t Deserve In Life:
Conversely, I believe that when people work hard at something, and have talent, and their efforts have merit, they ARE deserving of _____ (fill in the blank) money, recognition, success, satisfaction, whatever.
It’s just that there is no one formula which guarantees the outcome one strives for. Which is to say that many, many hardworking and talented people who truly love what they’re putting their effort towards will go unrecognized/unrewarded and unfulfilled.
Depending on your beliefs and philosophy on life, that may seem hugely unfair. But the reason I’m pointing this out is two-fold:
(1) The lack of success is no reflection on the actual merit of what went in to the undertaking; and
(2) The lack of success should have no bearing on one’s self-esteem - i.e. it’s not necessarily a reflection of who YOU are as a person. In fact, it could be indicative of society having misplaced values, or not recognizing talent, or a myriad of other issues.
It all comes back to the individual. If you know you gave something an honest effort, then your happiness and satisfaction in what you’ve done IS deserved. As it should be - because we won’t always be recognized for our efforts, and ought not rely solely (or even primarily) on external validation for our sense of achievement and belonging.
I hope that makes sense.
one of my favorite things about getting older that it becomes easier to let go of other ppl's monkey circuses. good for you caroline
Back in the gym! Yaaas girl! Let's go!
Also super glad you didn't let the narrative keep you in that dating situation for longer than necessary once you realized it was a no-go.
Congrats on 100K! It's a big deal. Don't minimize it!!
Awww you save your baby teeth too! My mom used to have a little box with my and my siblings teeth but we lost it moving out and I was so sad I want to keep them forever
Oh my goodness, the joy you had at showing us the baby teeth 😂😂😂 that was the moment I remembered to “like” this video. Pure joy and honest and random and I love it🦷🪥
Me too! I totally hit Like at the baby teeth part. 😬
I love the weirdness 😂
1) I really like the message you are putting out there about dating. You know, taking time to get to know someone, really thinking about it all before leaping. 2) I love the way you showed love to the fur baby! 3) Keep those baby teeth. It's not weird.
You are so cool and unique and I think we would be good friends IRL. Keep going you’re great.
Beautiful speech 👏 so happy you finally found something that makes sense for you. How crazy is it that 100,000 of us would have shown up for your award in person if we could?!
So I started watching your videos about two months ago; as an interior painter, and faux finisher, and ex actor, your content certainly resonated. Your design style is delicious, and The Street Man Chronicles had me hooked. So now I'm am subscribed.
Hope these days find you well.
This was so insightful. Hearing your thoughts on the streetman saga, I was just nodding aggresively. And Im so happy for your success but more importantly, you feeling more connected. That is so important. Cheers, girly. Thank you for sharing your life! You put a smile on my face and make me think.
I'm with the 60 year old grandma - in my 50s and I watched your first video for style tips but hung around for your randomness and humor. You are a trip!
Older than you but also here for the same reason. 🙂
That was literally the best "thank you" speech I've ever heard from any RUclipsr. So genuine, quirky and relatable. It's just YOU and it's GREAT! Congratulations!
I was dead from a hangover but now I am revived and refreshed
WOW!🥳🥳🥳
Greetings from Ukraine! 💛💙
Sooo happy for you, Caroline! 🤗
Your videos and vlog story are very inspiring. I love your character, and I appreciate your honesty.
I also dream of being part of the interior design sphere and still trying to figure it out, though it's rather challenging right now with a war going on in our country. I usually watch your videos and hide in the bathroom during the air-raid warnings. It helps me to distract and gives hope for the best.
Thank you a lot!
oh my gosh, praying you will stay safe
Now look at you! You have tripled the 100,000 mark since summer. Goin’ places! 😘
DC is so beautiful through your eyes
Being able to empathize with people and explain away questionable behavior is something I completely understand, but you realize it only hurts you and the act is often not seen or appreciated by the other person. I think your approach to new dates is solid. I like how you think (except for the teeth). Congrats on the plaque. Glad to be one of the many strangers that regularly watch your videos.
"50 once felt impossible". I really love that ❤️ keep going, I love your self-reflection and your self-awareness and your boundaries. Life is definitely like a box of chocolates 🍫
Thank you for being so real
Thank you for sharing the update on street man. It is so easy for me to get lost in the romance of a relationship when the only thing that really matters is the reality of how they are treating you. I think I exorcised a few demons of my own listening to your matter-of-fact account of the ending of what was really just a possibility, not even an actual thing in itself. Loved the rest of the video, DC is so gorgeous.
I don't know if you've talked about it before, but whenever you mention feeling like you don't fit in or quirks you have or whatever, it's so relatable and as a person with ADHD, it makes me suspect you might be one of us. And yeah, this is a space where because you make your own community, it's especially helpful where because of things like ADHD or other situations, you can find like-minded people or people curious about whatever and good things can happen.
Caroline, you are amazing. I was once a young woman in NOVA working in DC and dating is hard. It is really hard in DC. You hang in there. To quote the great Janis Joplin, "don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got." You are amazing and did not compromise yourself. As an intelligent woman, it's going to be harder for your to find your soul mate but you have got this. Don't feel bad that your didn't lessen yourself to make someone else feel more. Someone who really loves your will celebrate you. You are great. You are so real, beautiful and intelligent. Hang in there lady. You are a classy lady! From another Caroline. :)
Don’t underestimate the impact you make on the planet. Thanks for being so real and honest💕
What you talked about from min 25 onwards made me feel so connected. I just got recently diagnosed with ADHD as a 31 year old woman. And it was liberating. I'm not qualified to diagnose anyone of course. But your quick recap of school and the feeling of having too much projects / interests, making a mess for others - it was important to me to know what my brain is in charge of and what literally is my character when it comes to my life circumstances. Just recently found your channel in my recommend section. love it!
Adhd was what I spotted in her too myself. Actually asked her about it on another video because she reminds me of myself and im diagnosed. But then I forgot to ever check for an answer and prob haven't checked my RUclips notifications in a couple weeks... Because you know.. adhd. So it shall forever be a mystery. Lol
@@just1desi we tend to see it in a lot of people when diagnosed ourselves don’t we 😅 I think the knowing what it is that stands in my way in all aspects of my life helped me so much. Just identifying it helped so so much. Thanks for your input!
Another ADHDed subscriber of Caroline here: yup, I see it too 🤔
You have given me the opportunity to say one of my favorite quotes. “ Deserve has got nothing to do with it” It is a huge mindbend to think about, towards the negative or the positive. I do truly believe it though.
„My own mother wouldn‘t show up to this“ 😂😂 u‘re cracking me up, i love it
Definition of dating:
Multiple chances to see if you are compatible.
Nothing ventured nothing gained.
You are lovely and your opinions are refreshing.
Keep being your unapologetically AUTHENTIC self, Caroline, and beyond the sky is the limit! This is why we LOVE you! 🙏
okay WAIT this is so special congratulations caroline!! celebrating with a big ol “what da heck” 🥹
The messsage you put on the frame for the RUclips plaque is NOT cheesy. It's a sign of your good home training. Thank your people for whatever part they played in helping you to grow to have gratitude for the good in your life. I hope you don't continue to feel weird about feeling proud . Congratulations on finding a place to feel like you make sense. Expect blessings, baby girl.
Clarity is kindness in all relationships.. especially in the dating scene. I made this point to my now husband on one of our first dates and am very thankful he respected me enough to communicate where he saw our relationship at with each stage and how he was feeling.
Extra tid-bit of wisdom.. which comes from my brother-in-law who will say this until the day he dies.. “relationships are all about communication and expectations and communicating about your expectations”
You’re a gem Caroline!
“Wow, dropped it!” 😂😂😂 so glad I listened til the end! Love your relatable content!