I sent one. I don’t know if it worked, though I wasn’t expecting a miracle. I just felt that I had to let him know that I understood that I was partly at fault for the failure of our relationship. I just said I was sorry and why. He never acknowledged that he received and read it. He hasn’t brought it up, so I haven’t brought it up. We talk on occasion.
I left but after a day explained in a text why I left (did not rehash specific events, just lack of communication, feeling not wanted, etc).. Then a few days later (last night) let him know by a quick text I have been reflecting and recognize and apologize for my mistakes, and only wanting to keep it light and clear the air. Knowing his last words to me on break up night were 'your loss', decided not to expect anything after thr 2nd text and now working to be NC.
Hi Clay, thank you for this video. My ex and I have been apart 9 months. He ended the relationship very abruptly. I had no idea this would happen. We were together 1.5 years. He immediately blocked me on all forums except regular Facebook so we can see one another's profiles. I messed up at first, but then did NC. I feel like it's been NC for months!! I have never written a letter to him. We have had a few very short encounters. Twice he's sent me a random text with a silly question. Should I send a letter?
@melindakube5197 , thanks for watching my video. :-) when it comes to sending letter, always keep your emotions and intentions in check. As long as you are in acceptance to any outcome and is detached to any form of expectations, that is totally okay.
I haven't done the NC I have followed what you have told us from the hours of videos you have put out there for us there are other rc that say to do this and that and I have come to love what you say and feel like what you have us do or suggest is working best but most plus situations are different and mine isn't any more special than others we split on oct30th 2022 she was making a relationship fb aware a week later she started dating a guy she worked with but on a the incoming shift to hers aka after her shift she occasionally works over she says but other than that we live together and have 2 kids that are young so I'm not asking for anything just mentioning my own situation and how things have gotten hot cold and how I keep staying positive and working on me and our emotional communication techniques to bring her back to the me she knew and fell for if it don't work it don't but im better from it either way
I pushed her away made gaslighting jokes about her having a bf on the side or other stuilpid things that I would never do or be me but I fell into a bad spot jealousy, defensive nature over her being upset she wasn't getting help from me emotionally, mentally, and physically I pushed her away and I know it we lost communication and she found the attention she was looking for at work by another guy, she tried to tell me issues were there I didn't believe it I ignored it thinking all was good in my mind and she wasn't happy and she was tired of me being this guy and not the guy she met so nobody but myself to blame she is talking about staying here and saying us in the future we had 4 good days when she was off but she went back to work and is back to being cold, she was telling me thanks and laughing about past relationship things between us, she was asking me to come back and talk in her room with her I messed up and kissed her back 2 times but she had me lay with her talking, she said sorry for snapping on me but she didn't show any physical emotion no trying to hold my hand or touch me told me about a song that reminds her of me and her but she said I was in her bubble at one point or I complemented her and she said I was acting weird but ill do what I have learned from your vids and keep on working on the emotional bond we had to try to get back what I pushed away and lost by being selfish
My question is why is your own self worth so low that you'd want to be with that person unless you are autistic yourself? That's a life sentence of difficulty, challenge and stress. I'm sure they have some great qualities like anyone else but my advice is preserve your own mental health first because it will deteriorate if you are with someone that challenged. If it was your family member that's different.
I sent one. I don’t know if it worked, though I wasn’t expecting a miracle. I just felt that I had to let him know that I understood that I was partly at fault for the failure of our relationship. I just said I was sorry and why. He never acknowledged that he received and read it. He hasn’t brought it up, so I haven’t brought it up. We talk on occasion.
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OMG. Don't write a letter to your ex! Level up and only accept a person that meets your standards. Your ex proved they can't meet your standards.
I sent one and didnt work...did nc didnt work...its been 4.5 months now
I left but after a day explained in a text why I left (did not rehash specific events, just lack of communication, feeling not wanted, etc).. Then a few days later (last night) let him know by a quick text I have been reflecting and recognize and apologize for my mistakes, and only wanting to keep it light and clear the air. Knowing his last words to me on break up night were 'your loss', decided not to expect anything after thr 2nd text and now working to be NC.
What about been blocked everywhere will this work no contact for 7 months!!!
Hi Clay, thank you for this video. My ex and I have been apart 9 months. He ended the relationship very abruptly. I had no idea this would happen. We were together 1.5 years. He immediately blocked me on all forums except regular Facebook so we can see one another's profiles. I messed up at first, but then did NC. I feel like it's been NC for months!! I have never written a letter to him. We have had a few very short encounters. Twice he's sent me a random text with a silly question.
Should I send a letter?
@melindakube5197 , thanks for watching my video. :-) when it comes to sending letter, always keep your emotions and intentions in check. As long as you are in acceptance to any outcome and is detached to any form of expectations, that is totally okay.
I haven't done the NC I have followed what you have told us from the hours of videos you have put out there for us there are other rc that say to do this and that and I have come to love what you say and feel like what you have us do or suggest is working best but most plus situations are different and mine isn't any more special than others we split on oct30th 2022 she was making a relationship fb aware a week later she started dating a guy she worked with but on a the incoming shift to hers aka after her shift she occasionally works over she says but other than that we live together and have 2 kids that are young so I'm not asking for anything just mentioning my own situation and how things have gotten hot cold and how I keep staying positive and working on me and our emotional communication techniques to bring her back to the me she knew and fell for if it don't work it don't but im better from it either way
I pushed her away made gaslighting jokes about her having a bf on the side or other stuilpid things that I would never do or be me but I fell into a bad spot jealousy, defensive nature over her being upset she wasn't getting help from me emotionally, mentally, and physically I pushed her away and I know it we lost communication and she found the attention she was looking for at work by another guy, she tried to tell me issues were there I didn't believe it I ignored it thinking all was good in my mind and she wasn't happy and she was tired of me being this guy and not the guy she met so nobody but myself to blame she is talking about staying here and saying us in the future we had 4 good days when she was off but she went back to work and is back to being cold, she was telling me thanks and laughing about past relationship things between us, she was asking me to come back and talk in her room with her I messed up and kissed her back 2 times but she had me lay with her talking, she said sorry for snapping on me but she didn't show any physical emotion no trying to hold my hand or touch me told me about a song that reminds her of me and her but she said I was in her bubble at one point or I complemented her and she said I was acting weird but ill do what I have learned from your vids and keep on working on the emotional bond we had to try to get back what I pushed away and lost by being selfish
Hi Brad, my ex has is struggling with autism dyslexia and adhd and has trouble communicating in person and on text. Any advice??
My question is why is your own self worth so low that you'd want to be with that person unless you are autistic yourself? That's a life sentence of difficulty, challenge and stress. I'm sure they have some great qualities like anyone else but my advice is preserve your own mental health first because it will deteriorate if you are with someone that challenged. If it was your family member that's different.
@@vanessac1965you should research autism spectrum disorder
I sent accountability letter to hold her accountable. I also accepted responsibility for my items.
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It's probably never going to go in your favor, to send an accountability letter, holding SOMEONE ELSE accountable....
@@SirenaSpades yeah it didnt we ended up agreeing not to communicate at all because everytime we did it became toxic thats been about 3 months