I miscarried 2 days ago. Never experienced anything as impersonal, painful, vulnerable, horrific and traumatising in my life. Thank you for this video ❤️
I miscarried and in 7 days is our baby due date. I don’t think I’ve ever had such a heart break. But we have been blessed with another baby due in August. It’s the worse club ever but it’s a club that has so much love and support.
Bettina Rae it’s been bad for sure! Any pain or weird feeling scares me so bad!! Like I try to keep calm cause I know my baby feels everything but it scares me of losing her too.
This is honestly the best video I've seen about dealing with miscarriage. The sensitivity and compassion is so genuine. I lost mine at 8 wks about a month ago, and am devastated. I can only imagine going through this multiple times- I'm so sorry. But using that as a platform to support others, is so admirable- I am grateful. I love your gentle coping strategies. One thing in particular is channeling your creativity, which I've been doing with a memorial garden- It's been my sanctuary. Thank you again, and prayers.
I’ve just found out at 9 weeks that I’ve had a missed miscarriage and that my baby passed last week but has yet to come out. This video has helped and I was thinking something similar to a memorial garden as am a keen gardener. Thank you for sharing xxx
Thanks for the video. I’ve suffered my 3rd miscarriage 2 months ago and I just can’t get over it. Every pregnancy announcement or baby I see pains me. I feel so broken and feel like the pain just isn’t getting any better. I have luckily been referred for some therapy so really hope this will help me . Lots of love to all my fellow mums that have lost a angel baby xxx
Hayley I’m so sorry to hear of your losses. 2 months is still really early. I would expect you to still feel broken. I hope you find some peace in your therapy sessions. Sending you love.
Just went through my first pregnancy and first loss (hopefully only) and have been feeling like a shell. I saw how this has impacted my husband and my relationship with self and feel like I was meant to find this video. Halfway through I felt myself calling my dad and telling him what had happened and shedding that layer of pain. Slowly I’m coming back to my body. I’m also a healer by soul and feel the loss of this not only on a personal scale but for every being who has experienced this. God bless us for our magic and god bless our babies. May we continue to walk the path as the divine beings we are.
I just went through my 2nd miscarriage last month. My first one was in October. I began to heal from the first one mentally and then the 2nd one happen. I have not been myself. Today I went to go write down something on my calendar and saw that I had written “DUE DATE!!” (that being for my first baby). It crushed me. I had completely forgotten I had written it down. Your timing for this video couldn’t have been anymore perfect.
Oh Caty I’m so sorry for your losses. I can definitely relate. Dealing with the due date when it comes around is so so hard. Give yourself lots of grace today. I’ll be sending love. 💜
I just experienced my first miscarriage this weekend...I am now even more grateful for my two year old son. Thank you for this video...I wish one day we never have to experience this pain again.
Thank you Bettina. I just had my first miscarriage. My partner and I bought a small plant at the nursery in our town and planted it in our yard. Now our lost baby has its own spot in our yard, where we can go visit them, talk/cry to them etc. it feels very healing to have done this.
Thank you so much Ms. Bettina.. I lost my first ever kiddo at 6w in dec. 2020. I havent felt the same since. There are moments where I feel decent and I play the "fake til ya make it" game and then there are times I wanna curl up and cry when I see a baby at my work in healthcare. One day I know I will have another baby- my rainbow perhaps...but right now I am still in mourning. So thank you for this information. I really appreciate it and am glad I am not alone in this club.
Hello! 4 years later and this video is so impactful. I just recently suffered a missed miscarriage and it has been 5 days since my d&c procedure. It has been difficult even though I was only 10 weeks I immediately started imagining my life with a new baby the second I found out and its hard for some people to understand that I'm so sad because of the loss and feeling upset that my body couldn't carry the baby but I know I'll get through it it's just super hard. I just typed in "emotional healing after miscarriage" and your video popped up. Thank you.
I just went through the same thing as you yesterday if you ever need someone that understands and is going through it please reach out because I need it too
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's so important that we take time to take care of ourselves and go through the healing process. I've had a couple miscarriages, a second trimester loss, and a third trimester stillbirth. Any loss is devastating, but I've learned how to go on and have used many of the methods you discussed. I particularly liked journaling, exercise, and I made a Pandora bracelet for my angel babies. We're in the midst of trying for our rainbow baby now. Best wishes and lots of love to all of you angel moms.
It was My first pregnancy and yesterday had a miscarriage...its like our whole life changed in 360 degrees..left with emptiness and darkness all over...thank you for the video.
March and October is the hardest time of the year for me. All 3 of my babies were conceived in March, and were supposed to be born in October. 2013, 2019 & 2022. I’ve been so busy this year and lost track it was October again. First when I was starting to feel so low and sad, I didn’t know the reason why. One day I woke up and decided to create a little garden in my balcony, ended up spending a week, going shopping for all the items I needed, getting dirty with soil in my fingernails. It felt so good feeling like I was connecting with the earth. And when I finished, I realized it was October. When I watched this video it all made sense when you talked about being creative. I will be watching more of your videos. Thank you so much❤
Just went through my second miscarriage yesterday July 15 my sweet baby boy my heart is completely broken an it’s also this unexplainable anger growing inside of me I’m glad i found your video it’s kinda calming me down thank you 🙏🏾
Oh I am so so sorry to hear of your losses. Let yourself feel all of it. Let it move through you and then let it go. Sending you so much love in this painful time 🙏🏻💜
I have 3 beautiful living babies- I am very blessed and very grateful. The last one took a year of trying, and medical intervention to start out. I decided to go medical again- expecting it to take a while again. And it didn't. I started right out. And was terrified because it came sooner than I thought and 4 is alot. And then I went in to the obgyn for my first appointment. Ultrasound found no heartbeat and no growth since 6 weeks. The Dr. was very kind- giving me the options. That was 2 weeks ago. And it still hasn't passed. I'm 11 weeks. and waiting. Waiting to refigure out what "normal" is. Trying to pretend like I'm not shattered. Even though I wasn't ecstatic from the first second, I wanted this baby. And I don't know how to BE anymore. And still. God is good.
Hi Dear , This vedio is really going to help me .. in 9 months i had two MC 1st miscarriage in 6 weeks and 2nd MC in 19 weeks (Twins)..i saw them playing in my womb everytime in all scans.. and suddenly saw them dead ... i am currently dealing with my emotional , physical body situation which is effecting my relationship with husband as well.. I got conceived both the times through IVF after 5 years of my marriage.. i don't have any embryo also left to do more IVF transfer.. Just trying to be strong to except the fact...
Hi Sunita, I never thought I was going to write to a stranger but here I am. I lost my twins yesterday at 13 weeks and 4 days. Just like you 2 weeks ago I saw then playing and moving and yesterday it was no heart beat. They were IVF babies as well . My hell started yesterday and can’t eat, sleep and I can hardly breathe at this point …
Thank you so so much for this video.💗 I went in for my regular checkup with my doctor last Thursday & we were going to find out the gender now that we had arrived at 23 weeks, but when they looked for the heartbeat, we couldn’t find one. They then wanted to double check with the ultrasound &..... the feeling of looking up at the screen & just seeing an empty, dark space where your baby should be moving & living.... it has broken me. I had a very high risk pregnancy & a very rare abnormality so I had to be admitted to the hospital right away & have a very abrupt, traumatic, emergency surgery the next morning. I’m trying to make a plan to begin my healing & not let myself spiral. These ideas are so helpful to me.💗 thank you so so much.
I just found this video and really appreciate your words. Moving through pregnancy loss sucks and I appreciate your reminders of ways to work through that grief.
I have had 7 m/c so I know what you must have felt during yours. This is a really heartfelt video and I hope it reaches more people and help them heal. hugs to you Bettina and all those who have been in the same boat. xx
I just had my 2nd miscarriage two days ago july 12th and now going through the rough emotional pain from it yet again. Thank you so much for your video and positive thoughts
Beautiful Soul✨ thank you for sharing this. Just lost bubba a week ago. Grateful for the fact that I've found your video, that I may learn a way to help me process this & ways that helped you 🙏🤍👼
Thank you for this video. I had my missed miscarriage a month ago and then recently had to do an emergency d&c. I thought I was moving on but I wasn't. This has really helped me to better know how to handle my grief. Thank you.
Going through my first miscarriage right now. You’re right, this is a super shitty club that I never wanted to be a part of. I do feel like I’m putting on a fake face of coping for my kids and family but I’m not. I decided to reach out to a psychologist and I’m praying that it helps. This despair is horrendous. Not to mention the physical pain that I wish I could fast forward through 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss Melanie. It's a horrendous experience and one I wish I could spare everyone from. Sending you love. Please reach out if you need.
Just loss my son Matthew at 8 weeks. I’m so sorry for you in your pain. Your loss in real and raw. Sadly no one wants to be in this club. But I pray for Hope and just God’s love cover you. Journaling is so important. Let it be honest never hate yourself for hurting. I listen to worship music and listening to the word of God (Bible). Yes I made sure to shower more and care for my body. I like to walk and think and pray.
Thank you for this video. I just had a missed miscarriage 2 weeks ago and I feel like on a rolocoaster but mostly sad with some better moments throughout days. I got a beautiful print for my nightstand that says "Carried for a moment, Loved for a lifetime" I just needed something tangible to have and see daily. Also, I decided to get a tiny tattoo on my wrist. Something to cary with me for a lifetime. :) These have been my ways of coping so far.
For about 11 months ive been focusing on having a baby and i promised myself 1 year after the miscarriage i would stop. A man broke my hope through saying "you was never a mum, you didnt have a baby, no matter what you went through with your pregnancy it didnt make you a mum. it wasnt meant to be" It hurt. It hurt alot because a womans words helped me alot saying "Once a mum, always a mum" it helped me so much. I have been struggling so much with it. I feel like i am being silly feeling so depressed when its been so long
You are most definitely a Mum. Possibly the hardest type to be. The Mum of a baby who isn't in your arms. I'm so sorry you've been through this and I'm so sorry you had to listen to that man. Don't ever feel bad about how you're feeling. There is no right or wrong when it comes to grief. Look after yourself. Sending love and hope.x
I’m so sorry that man said that to you. You’re a mother. Your child is being held in God’s arms, and they’re in a place where there is no pain. Praying for you. I’ve lost both of my babies to miscarriage, and I know I’ll see them again someday ❤️❤️
It's my first miscarriage, after a still birth from previous pregnancy. I don't know how to deal so I am glad I came across your video am optimistic about my healing journey
I had a miscarriage in 2016 worst thing I’ve ever been through and I am still struggling with it now, it worser because friends are getting pregnant and having a baby and I wish that was me I’m happy for them but sad for me thank you for your videos I’m going to go through them
I miscarried 29/4/24, a day before we went for Nt scan and the baby was active, healthy and perfect. Today I woke up to the pain of remembering everything. The pain. My tears hasnt dried up yet, I know time will heal but this was very painful and too deep to go through. Now Im afraid Id lose my husband too, or my family.
I had a miscarriage on Monday the miscarriage started on Sunday was my first time being pregnant I was 12 weeks and 5 days pregnant. Me and my partner will try again soon.
@@BettinaRae I really do need to talk, im not coping well at all, im a wreck and i just can't get over it, i don't understand my grief, nor can process it, please message me, i feel so alone in this
I've just lost my first baby at 11 weeks pregnant after 6 years of trying. Didn't realise how traumatic it can be physically (as well as emotionally), having had to have a blood transfusion. Now I feel empty and Mother's Day is just around the corner on 22nd March. I was a day away from my first scan :-(
I just had my miscarriage yesterday. I never thought i will be in this position after having 2 healthy pregnancies. I was looking forward to my 3rd child. Now, i have a deeper appreciation for my 2 kids.😢
5 months ago i lost my very first baby girl was 7 months every day i cry to have her in my arms but i pray to God that one day he will give me my rainbow baby girl
I lost my baby last month and it was my first pregnancy/ first baby. All miscarriage is awful, but it’s worse when it’s your first baby that gets ripped away. So hopefully and happy and excited…just for it to turn into death and disappointment.
last month i miscarried at 5 months, there were so many issues and 7 reasons the baby could have passed and now my boyfriend and i have to go through insane amounts of genetic testing to see if one of us is the problem or if i can even have kids. we were so excited. he took a month off but i went right back to work for a distraction but all i do is medicated myself. i'm so numb. we start grief counselling next week so im hoping that helps.
I lost my twin pregnancy at 9 weeks. One fetus froze earlier, the second at 9 weeks. Suddenly. For no reason. It was a blow. After that, going into a hard store, hearing children ... my heart shrinks. It's still a difficult moment. I am working on this situation myself.
I currently went through my first baby lost 2 weeks ago.I was 17 weeks. I can’t get over it.. I feel so much guilt I don’t know what I could have did differently..
Whitley I am so so sorry to hear of you loss. Please try to let go of that guilt. There is often no explanation why. It just is. Sending you so much love.
Anyone else tell the nurse off for doing the sympathetic voice when your trying not to cry. More context we knew it was coming that was a confirm its over scan. I did a week of crying so of was fed up of crying.
Going through this right know … I’m 💔💔 first time pregnant and fist loss ( hopefully only ) .. I’m still shocked and full of mixed emotions … I don’t know my purpose anymore .. 😢😢
I’m currently going through a miscarriage now 12weeks it really hard because this is my 4th miscarriage and I also had a still birth too it’s really hard I ask myself why . I wondered what could I have done differently it just😔
Do you know the stakes that go in the backyard or the front yard of your home? I have a flower stake I have a couple of flower steaks and a couple of butterfly steaks but I have two flowers steaks one pink and the other is blue and both represents each of my babies who have gained their wings. I wish I can show you guys a picture on the comments
I’ve lost 13 (natural) pregnancies in 2 years, I don’t know that I will ever recover. We have 4 IVF embryos that I don’t even want to use as I’m too emotionally broken now.
I’m so sorry to hear of your losses Tara. That’s completely understandable that you feel like that. Maybe now all you need to focus on is healing. Sending love 🙏🏻💜
I just suffered a miscarriage yesterday and when I told my partner, you know what he said, after getting angry, he is done with pregnancies and done with kids upto ten, seven years to come. 😢 what should I do? For me am not ready to wait that long, yes its my second loss but I want to try again next year,
Did you do anything to get tested extra for why it’s happening… I just had my first a week ago. And when I’m ready again to try I’m scared to go through it again and want to know if there’s anything I can do to see if we’ll be ok
I miscarried 2 days ago. Never experienced anything as impersonal, painful, vulnerable, horrific and traumatising in my life. Thank you for this video ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m also sorry that it was impersonal and traumatic for you. Please reach out if you need support 🙏🏻💜
Prayers for everyone going through this.
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I miscarried and in 7 days is our baby due date. I don’t think I’ve ever had such a heart break. But we have been blessed with another baby due in August. It’s the worse club ever but it’s a club that has so much love and support.
I’m so glad you’ve found love and support through the process. How have you found the anxiety being pregnant again after a loss?
Bettina Rae it’s been bad for sure! Any pain or weird feeling scares me so bad!! Like I try to keep calm cause I know my baby feels everything but it scares me of losing her too.
This is honestly the best video I've seen about dealing with miscarriage. The sensitivity and compassion is so genuine. I lost mine at 8 wks about a month ago, and am devastated. I can only imagine going through this multiple times- I'm so sorry. But using that as a platform to support others, is so admirable- I am grateful. I love your gentle coping strategies. One thing in particular is channeling your creativity, which I've been doing with a memorial garden- It's been my sanctuary. Thank you again, and prayers.
Thank you for your kind comment. I am so sorry for your loss. Channeling your creativity is so important. Thank you for mentioning it. 💜
I’ve just found out at 9 weeks that I’ve had a missed miscarriage and that my baby passed last week but has yet to come out. This video has helped and I was thinking something similar to a memorial garden as am a keen gardener. Thank you for sharing xxx
Thanks for the video. I’ve suffered my 3rd miscarriage 2 months ago and I just can’t get over it. Every pregnancy announcement or baby I see pains me. I feel so broken and feel like the pain just isn’t getting any better. I have luckily been referred for some therapy so really hope this will help me . Lots of love to all my fellow mums that have lost a angel baby xxx
Hayley I’m so sorry to hear of your losses. 2 months is still really early. I would expect you to still feel broken. I hope you find some peace in your therapy sessions. Sending you love.
I did 3 as well.
I'm not doing well at all.
Just went through my first pregnancy and first loss (hopefully only) and have been feeling like a shell. I saw how this has impacted my husband and my relationship with self and feel like I was meant to find this video. Halfway through I felt myself calling my dad and telling him what had happened and shedding that layer of pain. Slowly I’m coming back to my body. I’m also a healer by soul and feel the loss of this not only on a personal scale but for every being who has experienced this. God bless us for our magic and god bless our babies. May we continue to walk the path as the divine beings we are.
I just went through my 2nd miscarriage last month. My first one was in October. I began to heal from the first one mentally and then the 2nd one happen. I have not been myself.
Today I went to go write down something on my calendar and saw that I had written “DUE DATE!!” (that being for my first baby). It crushed me. I had completely forgotten I had written it down. Your timing for this video couldn’t have been anymore perfect.
Oh Caty I’m so sorry for your losses. I can definitely relate. Dealing with the due date when it comes around is so so hard. Give yourself lots of grace today. I’ll be sending love. 💜
I just experienced my first miscarriage this weekend...I am now even more grateful for my two year old son. Thank you for this video...I wish one day we never have to experience this pain again.
You’re welcome. I’m sorry for your loss 🙏🏻💜
Thank you Bettina. I just had my first miscarriage. My partner and I bought a small plant at the nursery in our town and planted it in our yard. Now our lost baby has its own spot in our yard, where we can go visit them, talk/cry to them etc. it feels very healing to have done this.
That’s beautiful 🙏🏻💜
Thank you so much Ms. Bettina.. I lost my first ever kiddo at 6w in dec. 2020. I havent felt the same since. There are moments where I feel decent and I play the "fake til ya make it" game and then there are times I wanna curl up and cry when I see a baby at my work in healthcare. One day I know I will have another baby- my rainbow perhaps...but right now I am still in mourning.
So thank you for this information. I really appreciate it and am glad I am not alone in this club.
I'm so sorry for your loss. You are definitely not alone.
Hello! 4 years later and this video is so impactful. I just recently suffered a missed miscarriage and it has been 5 days since my d&c procedure. It has been difficult even though I was only 10 weeks I immediately started imagining my life with a new baby the second I found out and its hard for some people to understand that I'm so sad because of the loss and feeling upset that my body couldn't carry the baby but I know I'll get through it it's just super hard. I just typed in "emotional healing after miscarriage" and your video popped up. Thank you.
Hi Briana, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Go gently with yourself. This is big. Sending you love. 🙏🏻💜
I just went through the same thing as you yesterday if you ever need someone that understands and is going through it please reach out because I need it too
I’ve had three losses now too..all this year. Thanks for being my friend who gets it
Janelle K I’m with you. I just lost my first one. This was really helpful 💕
Jesenia Nuñez sending love 💘
You’re welcome. I feel honoured that you consider me a friend. 🙏🏻💜 I’m so sorry for your losses.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's so important that we take time to take care of ourselves and go through the healing process. I've had a couple miscarriages, a second trimester loss, and a third trimester stillbirth. Any loss is devastating, but I've learned how to go on and have used many of the methods you discussed. I particularly liked journaling, exercise, and I made a Pandora bracelet for my angel babies. We're in the midst of trying for our rainbow baby now. Best wishes and lots of love to all of you angel moms.
Ebony I am so sorry for your losses. I’m sending you love and hope that your rainbow baby is in your arms soon. 💜
I pray for your heart, Jesus will comfort you
It was My first pregnancy and yesterday had a miscarriage...its like our whole life changed in 360 degrees..left with emptiness and darkness all over...thank you for the video.
Me the same 😢. Yesterday I just announced to my friend but this morning I bleed a lot and after meet the doctor, I received bad news 😢
@komalsalunkhe4354 I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I remember that feeling. It won’t last forever. Sending you love and healing 🙏🏻💜
@trucnguyen1523 it just feels so unfair doesn’t it. Sending you love and healing too 🙏🏻💜
@@BettinaRae thank you so so much 💝💝
I’m so sorry 😭 I lost my baby last month and it was my first pregnancy/ first baby too.
March and October is the hardest time of the year for me. All 3 of my babies were conceived in March, and were supposed to be born in October. 2013, 2019 & 2022.
I’ve been so busy this year and lost track it was October again. First when I was starting to feel so low and sad, I didn’t know the reason why. One day I woke up and decided to create a little garden in my balcony, ended up spending a week, going shopping for all the items I needed, getting dirty with soil in my fingernails. It felt so good feeling like I was connecting with the earth. And when I finished, I realized it was October.
When I watched this video it all made sense when you talked about being creative.
I will be watching more of your videos. Thank you so much❤
Sending you love in this tricky month for you. I love that you found comfort in a creative task. Welcome. 🙏🏻💜
Just went through my second miscarriage yesterday July 15 my sweet baby boy my heart is completely broken an it’s also this unexplainable anger growing inside of me I’m glad i found your video it’s kinda calming me down thank you 🙏🏾
Oh I am so so sorry to hear of your losses. Let yourself feel all of it. Let it move through you and then let it go. Sending you so much love in this painful time 🙏🏻💜
Bettina Rae thank you I’m feeling better i know this will be a long road but I’m prepared 😊🙏🏾
@Jima berrma thank you i will ❤️
I have 3 beautiful living babies- I am very blessed and very grateful. The last one took a year of trying, and medical intervention to start out. I decided to go medical again- expecting it to take a while again. And it didn't. I started right out. And was terrified because it came sooner than I thought and 4 is alot. And then I went in to the obgyn for my first appointment. Ultrasound found no heartbeat and no growth since 6 weeks. The Dr. was very kind- giving me the options. That was 2 weeks ago. And it still hasn't passed. I'm 11 weeks. and waiting. Waiting to refigure out what "normal" is. Trying to pretend like I'm not shattered. Even though I wasn't ecstatic from the first second, I wanted this baby. And I don't know how to BE anymore.
And still. God is good.
Oh Annalee I relate to this more than you know. Sending you so much love. Please reach out via email if you need 🙏🏻💜
Hi Dear , This vedio is really going to help me .. in 9 months i had two MC 1st miscarriage in 6 weeks and 2nd MC in 19 weeks (Twins)..i saw them playing in my womb everytime in all scans.. and suddenly saw them dead ... i am currently dealing with my emotional , physical body situation which is effecting my relationship with husband as well.. I got conceived both the times through IVF after 5 years of my marriage.. i don't have any embryo also left to do more IVF transfer.. Just trying to be strong to except the fact...
I am so so sorry to hear of your losses. Please reach out if you ever need. 💜
So sorry sister. May the Lord help and heal you totally. You are an over comer and He alone makes all things beautiful in His own time
Hi Sunita, I never thought I was going to write to a stranger but here I am. I lost my twins yesterday at 13 weeks and 4 days. Just like you 2 weeks ago I saw then playing and moving and yesterday it was no heart beat. They were IVF babies as well . My hell started yesterday and can’t eat, sleep and I can hardly breathe at this point …
Thank you so so much for this video.💗
I went in for my regular checkup with my doctor last Thursday & we were going to find out the gender now that we had arrived at 23 weeks, but when they looked for the heartbeat, we couldn’t find one. They then wanted to double check with the ultrasound &..... the feeling of looking up at the screen & just seeing an empty, dark space where your baby should be moving & living.... it has broken me. I had a very high risk pregnancy & a very rare abnormality so I had to be admitted to the hospital right away & have a very abrupt, traumatic, emergency surgery the next morning.
I’m trying to make a plan to begin my healing & not let myself spiral. These ideas are so helpful to me.💗 thank you so so much.
Lizzy I am so sorry to hear this. I know exactly how you feel. Sending you love. Please reach out if you need.
I just found this video and really appreciate your words. Moving through pregnancy loss sucks and I appreciate your reminders of ways to work through that grief.
Hi Kasey. I’m glad this video was helpful for you.
I have had 7 m/c so I know what you must have felt during yours. This is a really heartfelt video and I hope it reaches more people and help them heal. hugs to you Bettina and all those who have been in the same boat. xx
Thank you for these beautiful words. I’m so sorry for your losses as well. 🙏🏻💜✨
I just had my 2nd miscarriage two days ago july 12th and now going through the rough emotional pain from it yet again. Thank you so much for your video and positive thoughts
Oh Holly I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this again. I’m sending you my love and hope. Please reach out if you need support. X
Thank you, you’re inspirational and so so honest. You’re a lovely soul, your vulnerability reminds us to recognize our own. Peace sister
Thank you for these kind words Kelsey. ✌🏼✨
Beautiful Soul✨ thank you for sharing this. Just lost bubba a week ago. Grateful for the fact that I've found your video, that I may learn a way to help me process this & ways that helped you 🙏🤍👼
I’m so sorry for your loss Niquita. Sending you love and healing 🙏🏻💜
@@BettinaRae thank you so much 🙏🏼 xx
Thank you for this video. I had my missed miscarriage a month ago and then recently had to do an emergency d&c. I thought I was moving on but I wasn't. This has really helped me to better know how to handle my grief. Thank you.
You’re welcome Kelsey. I’m sorry for your loss 🙏🏻💜
Going through my first miscarriage right now. You’re right, this is a super shitty club that I never wanted to be a part of. I do feel like I’m putting on a fake face of coping for my kids and family but I’m not. I decided to reach out to a psychologist and I’m praying that it helps. This despair is horrendous. Not to mention the physical pain that I wish I could fast forward through 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss Melanie. It's a horrendous experience and one I wish I could spare everyone from. Sending you love. Please reach out if you need.
Just loss my son Matthew at 8 weeks. I’m so sorry for you in your pain. Your loss in real and raw. Sadly no one wants to be in this club. But I pray for Hope and just God’s love cover you. Journaling is so important. Let it be honest never hate yourself for hurting. I listen to worship music and listening to the word of God (Bible). Yes I made sure to shower more and care for my body. I like to walk and think and pray.
Thank you for this. ❤️ I miscarried a week ago but needed a d and c two days ago to clear out things that didn’t pass. I appreciate you so much
I'm so sorry for your loss Katrina. Sending you love and healing.
Thank you for this video. I just had a missed miscarriage 2 weeks ago and I feel like on a rolocoaster but mostly sad with some better moments throughout days. I got a beautiful print for my nightstand that says "Carried for a moment, Loved for a lifetime" I just needed something tangible to have and see daily. Also, I decided to get a tiny tattoo on my wrist. Something to cary with me for a lifetime. :) These have been my ways of coping so far.
Those are beautiful ways to feel them close to you. Sending you love 💜🙏🏻
Sorry for your losses 🤍 This was so helpful, thank you so much for sharing this with us 🤍✨
You’re welcome. Im glad it was helpful
For about 11 months ive been focusing on having a baby and i promised myself 1 year after the miscarriage i would stop. A man broke my hope through saying "you was never a mum, you didnt have a baby, no matter what you went through with your pregnancy it didnt make you a mum. it wasnt meant to be" It hurt. It hurt alot because a womans words helped me alot saying "Once a mum, always a mum" it helped me so much. I have been struggling so much with it. I feel like i am being silly feeling so depressed when its been so long
You are most definitely a Mum. Possibly the hardest type to be. The Mum of a baby who isn't in your arms. I'm so sorry you've been through this and I'm so sorry you had to listen to that man. Don't ever feel bad about how you're feeling. There is no right or wrong when it comes to grief. Look after yourself. Sending love and hope.x
I’m so sorry that man said that to you. You’re a mother. Your child is being held in God’s arms, and they’re in a place where there is no pain. Praying for you. I’ve lost both of my babies to miscarriage, and I know I’ll see them again someday ❤️❤️
He doesn't get it. That wasn't fair. That was your baby. You are a mother.
Helpful video. Just had a miscarriage 2 days ago, still dealing with light bleeding, working on my healing process ❤
I’m sorry to hear of your loss Natalia. Reach out if you need 🙏🏻💜
Thank you. This was very helpful for me today after my second miscarriage. x
You’re welcome Rosie. I’m so sorry for your losses. I’ve followed you for a while on socials. Sending you love. 💜🙏🏻
It's my first miscarriage, after a still birth from previous pregnancy. I don't know how to deal so I am glad I came across your video am optimistic about my healing journey
Welcome. I’m so sorry for you losses. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
You are an earth angel, thank you for holding this space for us all x👼❤️🙏
It’s an honour. 🙏🏻💜
I miscarried yesterday,I have never felt so much pain ,I just pray I get over it 🙏🙏🙏🙏😫😫
I’m so sorry for your loss Nomang. Sending you love and healing 🙏🏻💜
@@BettinaRae thanks,I truly appreciate your kind words 🙏🙏
I had a miscarriage in 2016 worst thing I’ve ever been through and I am still struggling with it now, it worser because friends are getting pregnant and having a baby and I wish that was me I’m happy for them but sad for me thank you for your videos I’m going to go through them
I’m so so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
I miscarried 29/4/24, a day before we went for Nt scan and the baby was active, healthy and perfect. Today I woke up to the pain of remembering everything. The pain. My tears hasnt dried up yet, I know time will heal but this was very painful and too deep to go through. Now Im afraid Id lose my husband too, or my family.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please reach out for support if you need. Sending you love 🙏🏻💜
I had a miscarriage on Monday the miscarriage started on Sunday was my first time being pregnant I was 12 weeks and 5 days pregnant. Me and my partner will try again soon.
Jasmine I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. Please reach out for support if you need.
@@BettinaRae thank you
I had one in January and I'm struggling so hard right now, I'm so upset with myself and I feel so alone
Tiffany, I am so sorry for your loss. Please know you are not alone. Reach out if you need to talk. X
@@BettinaRae I really do need to talk, im not coping well at all, im a wreck and i just can't get over it, i don't understand my grief, nor can process it, please message me, i feel so alone in this
@@findryanlarsen Tiffany. I don't think I can private message you on youtube. But you are welcome to email me anytime. bettina@bettinarae.com x
Jesus will comfort you. Matthew 11:28-30
I've just lost my first baby at 11 weeks pregnant after 6 years of trying. Didn't realise how traumatic it can be physically (as well as emotionally), having had to have a blood transfusion. Now I feel empty and Mother's Day is just around the corner on 22nd March. I was a day away from my first scan :-(
Michelle, I’m so so sorry to hear of your loss. It is traumatic. Please reach out if you need support. 💜
I just had my miscarriage yesterday. I never thought i will be in this position after having 2 healthy pregnancies. I was looking forward to my 3rd child. Now, i have a deeper appreciation for my 2 kids.😢
I’m so sorry for your loss Debbie. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
I lost mine a few weeks ago at 5 weeks. Ultrasound confirmed it yesterday 😢
I’m so sorry for your loss Brittany. This is heartbreaking. 🙏🏻💜
I just loss my baby three days ago…i feel like I can’t breathe. I’m forever changed
I’m so sorry for your loss Veronica. You will be forever changed yes. Sending you love 🙏🏻💜
Thank you so much for sharing this ♥️ an my heart goes out to you. Your a very strong and inspirational woman🧘
Thank you for your kind words 🙏🏻💜
5 months ago i lost my very first baby girl was 7 months every day i cry to have her in my arms but i pray to God that one day he will give me my rainbow baby girl
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
This is such great advice. Thank you so much for sharing.
You’re welcome Katerina 🙏🏻
I lost my baby last month and it was my first pregnancy/ first baby. All miscarriage is awful, but it’s worse when it’s your first baby that gets ripped away. So hopefully and happy and excited…just for it to turn into death and disappointment.
I feel your heartbreak. I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you love 💜
last month i miscarried at 5 months, there were so many issues and 7 reasons the baby could have passed and now my boyfriend and i have to go through insane amounts of genetic testing to see if one of us is the problem or if i can even have kids. we were so excited. he took a month off but i went right back to work for a distraction but all i do is medicated myself. i'm so numb. we start grief counselling next week so im hoping that helps.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m happy to hear you’ve found someone who can help. Sending you love 🙏🏻💜
I had a miscarriage in february and it was the worst thing ive ever been through.
Mileena I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope some of these ideas help. X
Jesus will comfort you. Matthew 11:28-30
I lost my twin pregnancy at 9 weeks. One fetus froze earlier, the second at 9 weeks. Suddenly. For no reason. It was a blow. After that, going into a hard store, hearing children ... my heart shrinks. It's still a difficult moment. I am working on this situation myself.
Oh Marina, I am so sorry to hear of your losses. Sending you love and healing. Please reach out if you need. 🙏🏻💜
I currently went through my first baby lost 2 weeks ago.I was 17 weeks. I can’t get over it.. I feel so much guilt I don’t know what I could have did differently..
Whitley I am so so sorry to hear of you loss. Please try to let go of that guilt. There is often no explanation why. It just is. Sending you so much love.
Thank you. ❤️ Stay 💪 Ladies.
You’re welcome 🙏🏻💜
Thanku soo much.... thanku for spreading positivity
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I just had my miscarrage after 20 weeks of conceiving my baby boy 😢hard to get rod of my pain .... Please pray for me
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you love 🙏🏻💜
Anyone else tell the nurse off for doing the sympathetic voice when your trying not to cry.
More context we knew it was coming that was a confirm its over scan. I did a week of crying so of was fed up of crying.
That’s very fair. I’ve definitely hurried up ultrasound technicians who were stepping around telling me what I already knew. Sending you love 💜
Going through this right now 💔
I’m so sorry for your loss.
@@BettinaRae Thank you for your words 🙏
Going through this right know … I’m 💔💔 first time pregnant and fist loss ( hopefully only ) .. I’m still shocked and full of mixed emotions … I don’t know my purpose anymore .. 😢😢
I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this Cami. I remember feeling lost too. Sending you love. Please reach out if you need 🙏🏻💜
This most painful experience 😢 to point I lost my lil girl so hurt I wanted to have another child but so afraid it could happen again
It is so painful Denise. I’m so sorry for you loss 🙏🏻💜
Hmmmm had my miscarriage at 14 weeks 😭baby s heartbeat stopped beating 😭😭😭😭 am a mess now. 🙏prayers pls I want my boy back in a healthy way 🙏🌈
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please reach out if you need support 🙏🏻💜
Thanks so much. Tips to get pregnant again please share
I’m currently going through a miscarriage now 12weeks it really hard because this is my 4th miscarriage and I also had a still birth too it’s really hard I ask myself why . I wondered what could I have done differently it just😔
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss Marsha. There is often no explanation, don’t blame yourself. Sending you love and hope 🙏🏻💜
@@BettinaRae thanks
Thank you so much for the tips!
You’re welcome!
Thanks for the video how does one go through it, can't even think about it cause when I think of it I get mind block
Do you know the stakes that go in the backyard or the front yard of your home? I have a flower stake I have a couple of flower steaks and a couple of butterfly steaks but I have two flowers steaks one pink and the other is blue and both represents each of my babies who have gained their wings. I wish I can show you guys a picture on the comments
That is a beautiful way to honour them 💜
First miscarriage in May. Just passed my due date and I’m so demoralized about how much of a mess I still am :(
I’m so sorry for your loss. There is no time limit on grief, look after you 💜
I’ve lost 13 (natural) pregnancies in 2 years, I don’t know that I will ever recover. We have 4 IVF embryos that I don’t even want to use as I’m too emotionally broken now.
I’m so sorry to hear of your losses Tara. That’s completely understandable that you feel like that. Maybe now all you need to focus on is healing. Sending love 🙏🏻💜
Thanks for your video
You’re welcome 🙏🏻💜
Did you experience depression or insomnia after your miscarriages? That’s what I’m struggling with now.
Definitely depression. It’s a hard space to be in. Sending you love 🙏🏻💜
I just suffered a miscarriage yesterday and when I told my partner, you know what he said, after getting angry, he is done with pregnancies and done with kids upto ten, seven years to come. 😢 what should I do? For me am not ready to wait that long, yes its my second loss but I want to try again next year,
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s only fresh for both of you. Give yourself some time and see how you both feel in a few months 🙏🏻💜
I just experienced my miscarriage today 😭😭💔
I am so sorry for your loss. Please reach out if you need support.
Did you do anything to get tested extra for why it’s happening… I just had my first a week ago. And when I’m ready again to try I’m scared to go through it again and want to know if there’s anything I can do to see if we’ll be ok
I have a video on my channel that goes through the list of things we did differently and had tested. ruclips.net/video/nPQWD2YKwcw/видео.html
Thank you😌❤️
You’re welcome 💜
What was the book n author referred to?
Was it my book? www.amazon.com/dp/0646800477/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_4nE9CbWPQ3CC3