Why you “CAN'T” learn a new language 🥲

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  • Опубликовано: 17 дек 2024

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  • @roter13
    @roter13 3 дня назад +44

    Honestly, videos where people say that they "learned" a language in 6 months don't help. You can't learn all of the ins and outs of a language in that amount of time and it made me think I was stupid when I didn't learn something that fast.

    • @YogaBlissDance
      @YogaBlissDance 3 дня назад +4

      REALLY ITS the HOURS...I WROTE same thing, how many hours a day was this?

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  2 дня назад +13

      I should make a break down of how I studied. It helps that I was watching soooo much tv in Flemish (I think that was the main reason it started to stick). I wasn’t aggressively studying, but I did “prime my brain” for 3 months when no progress was made on the apps.
      I only did like 15 50 min lessons, did grammar, and talked a lot over the course of 6 months. It wasn’t more than 1 hour a day 1-3 times a week.
      I know how I learn though, so it goes faster. Happy to share the process next time!

    • @kineiya
      @kineiya День назад

      According to science you can have "basic conversations" at 6 months with consistent work but master language? There's no mastering a language. It's life long learning

    • @nochu9753
      @nochu9753 2 часа назад

      It depends on what someone define as "learned" for example in 3 months of staying all day I was able to reach a level decent enough in English to keep everyday conversations. Of course becoming C1/C2 in less than a year is literally impossible but other levels of fluency are achievable. However it highly depends on your target language and background. And no, you're not stupid, don't compare yourself to others. Every person learns in their own way and at their own pace

  • @kaelyngardner7383
    @kaelyngardner7383 3 дня назад +35

    My family immigrated from Mexico 2-3 generations ago. I grew up in an area where I never knew anyone who was fluent in Spanish except my mom so she didn’t want to teach me something that would make me feel left out whiiich led to me feeling left out with my cousins who would tease me so much for not speaking Spanish or knowing any Latin culture. Now I’ve been learning for 6 months and I’ve found myself stuck in that trap of understanding but not speaking because fear freezes me up! It feels so impossible to be fluent

    • @jadedjade584
      @jadedjade584 3 дня назад +3

      i completely understand! slightly different situations, i’m first generation, my family also came from mexico. my father was afraid to teach me spanish because he didn’t want to confuse me (ironic, right?). i used to obsess over my heritage and would hate the fact i didn’t speak spanish well enough. all i knew was what my grandparents taught me as they didn’t speak english very well. it wasn’t until i was a teenager when i took it into my own hands and i’m still learning to this day. you’ll get there! just don’t give up on yourself! 🇲🇽

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  3 дня назад +4

      You are definitely NOT alone!

    • @msmendes214
      @msmendes214 3 дня назад +2

      My grandparents immigrated from Portugal when they were kids, so they didn't teach their children (my dad) Portuguese. It literally took just ONE generation to lose something that's tied so intricately to heritage & culture. So yeah it sucks!

    • @ifatdawn
      @ifatdawn День назад

      That’s definitely me!

    • @Maldonado19
      @Maldonado19 9 часов назад +1

      For that reason, I've taught my kids to speak Spanish even if that means that they talk always in Spanish to me, and makes it hard to practice English with them. I always told them how beautiful is to speak more than one language; it's like a hidden power that you could use many times in your life!

  • @dominique9934
    @dominique9934 3 дня назад +19

    I've been stuck on this unending mission to learn French. I took French in high school, but we know how learning a foreign language in the US can be a big waste of time. I went 20-plus years not trying. Then, I was on and off for years. Still can't speak it. Lol. But I also want to learn other languages when i travel to places where I have Friends. I want to learn French, Brazilian Portuguese, Sawhaill, and Tagalog because I have a lot of Filipino friends.

    • @acswellness
      @acswellness 3 дня назад +3

      French has had me in a headlock for 3 years now. Lol. Not giving up.

    • @dominique9934
      @dominique9934 3 дня назад +1

      @@acswellness I'm sticking with it too. Can't give up on it.

    • @arealgoodguy
      @arealgoodguy 2 дня назад +1

      You need to learn a language that you're truly interested in. You never tried because learning French wasn't fun for you. Once you find a fun way to learn it, you'll be more invested.

  • @jofranco
    @jofranco  3 дня назад +9

    Tell me all the reasons you think you "can't" learn a language and we'll tackle them 1 by 1 on this channel!!! Don't forget to find your tutor and get 50% off your Preply trial lesson: preplycreator.sjv.io/5559a3

  • @entropie138
    @entropie138 3 дня назад +8

    My family is Lao. Growing up we spoke Lao and English. Even though we were active in the Lao Buddhist community, my English took over. I rarely spoke full sentences in Lao for fear of sounding stupid. My folks can be really judgmental and know how to make me feel inadequate.
    I’m relearning my Lao, not for them, but for myself.

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  3 дня назад +2

      It’s so powerful when you reclaim it!!

    • @jessicagreen3963
      @jessicagreen3963 2 дня назад +1

      Thats exactly why I wont give up as an AA woman,this is for me!

  • @chythebeautiful
    @chythebeautiful 3 дня назад +11

    estou aprendendo português, espanhol, chinês e coreano. ❤

    • @Kimmibabee
      @Kimmibabee 3 дня назад

      I need a Korean buddy as I’m now learning

    • @anawatl28
      @anawatl28 2 дня назад

      @@Kimmibabeehow long have you been learning? I’m learning too.

  • @sounditout34
    @sounditout34 3 дня назад +3

    You are so fun to watch and so relatable.❤ this definitely helped me and I can't wait for part 2.

  • @TarotlogicallySpeaking
    @TarotlogicallySpeaking День назад

    Not me planning to move to the NL and this is the first language video or yours I see. That alone is encouraging.

  • @chythebeautiful
    @chythebeautiful 3 дня назад +7

    I love your personality and you're very beautiful person. I love your videos. My favorite ploygot ever! I love to learn languages it's my passion. But sometimes I do have some doubts about it but I won't give up on learning ❤❤❤
    Jo the ploygot queen 👑 ❤

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  3 дня назад +2

      Thank you for the kind words, I appreciate it! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @chythebeautiful
      @chythebeautiful 3 дня назад

      @@jofranco you're welcome

  • @ajh.4131
    @ajh.4131 3 дня назад +5

    He sido aprendiendo español por los últimos diez años y por los últimos 2 años yo he tomado en serio el idioma porque me encántalo y no quiero olvidar nada. Yo uso casi todo los recursos. Tutores, libros, programas en la tele, vídeos en RUclips, etc.
    Mi problema es que…algunos días siento que estoy haciendo progreso y puedo hablar sin muchos problemas pero otros días sigo olvidando palabras y no puedo recordar nada. A veces me siento frustrada pero sé que es parte del proceso y todavía lo estoy haciendo bien. Practico cada día en una forma u otra. Un día yo leo y otro yo veo programas y hablo con mi tutor. No importa. Todavía hay progreso aunque no lo crea 😊

    • @jessicag6007
      @jessicag6007 День назад

      @ajh.4131…también es mi problema. Pero estás aprendiendo algo. Estás oraciones son buenas. Buena suerte con los estudios.

  • @TheeJazzmineRose
    @TheeJazzmineRose День назад

    I Loooove my French Preply tutor! She is amazing. I’ve been learning with her for almost two years…🎉😊

  • @hey_itskristen
    @hey_itskristen 3 дня назад +4

    While the shame didn't happen to me, it happened to my father who had Polish-speaking parents. He was constantly teased at school for his Polish-American accent to the point he completely spurned his heritage and embraced English and American culture. He doesn't speak any Polish now but I sometimes like to imagine the bi-lingual me who lives in an alternate timeline where I had a chance to grow up learning about my Polish heritage and being taught the language instead of trying to learn as an adult. 🥲 Shame has generational effects, maaaaaan.

    • @arealgoodguy
      @arealgoodguy 2 дня назад

      I think if you invested in learning Polish, that might get your father speaking Polish again.

  • @timothyodaniell9119
    @timothyodaniell9119 2 дня назад

    I love your take on this. Big fan since the early days

  • @AleighaNicole
    @AleighaNicole 3 дня назад +2

    I Been convinced and accepted that it's my Mind. 😂 I'm still watching, so idk if mentioned yet😩, however, there's a word I learned in a spanish class that I gracefully was given an A- in back in college🙃😊...
    I have to be immersed in the environment/culture + language to learn n catch on. Like how we naturally learn in our original.
    I'm a hands on learner.
    Thats all🫠. 🤣😭

  • @yuenatv
    @yuenatv День назад +2

    the shame part rlly spoke to me. becuz my grandma can’t speak english im forced to use my crappy cantonese hahaha

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  День назад

      I feel you ❤️❤️

  • @sandradoane6684
    @sandradoane6684 День назад

    I understand German very well but shy away from speaking because of being made fun of. When I was young and in Germany I would try to say certain things but get embarrassed when others made fun of my pronunciation. Interestingly I still shy away from speaking, but thoroughly enjoy responding in English to a German conversation. They are really shocked that I understood perfectly what they said. But I do know that I must overcome that hurdle and try speaking.

  • @LouisLuzuka
    @LouisLuzuka День назад

    I saw you in an ad 😮 much love from Vancouver Canada 🇨🇦

  • @jaenaii
    @jaenaii 3 дня назад +1

    I feel the shame part so much! Spoke Mandarin Chinese until 5, then lost most of it, and my parents speak to me in English. One of my core memories in my teens is being made fun of at a professional event for my mandarin. Didn’t stop me from learning other languages though, and I really REALLY felt this video 😁

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  2 дня назад

      Sending you a big hug 🥰 it’s rough but we’re in it together

  • @claudiaj27
    @claudiaj27 3 дня назад +2

    I’m so fascinated in languages I’ve always wanted to learned but never did because I thought I just would not be able to. Now I’m 56 and still so interested but wondering if you think it’s too late for me. My husband is from Bogota and I want to learn to talk to him. Thank you.

    • @brittanyj4808
      @brittanyj4808 3 дня назад +3

      it's never too late to learn a language. Go for it!

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  3 дня назад +1

      It’s DEFINITELY not too late! If I were in your shoes I’d book some p
      Preply lessons, and start this exciting journey!

    • @elmadas
      @elmadas 2 дня назад +1

      I am 52, learning french and chinese. You can do it!! ❤❤

    • @claudiajimenez8044
      @claudiajimenez8044 2 дня назад +1

      @ I think I’ll try Thank You.

    • @claudiajimenez8044
      @claudiajimenez8044 2 дня назад +1

      @@jofranco Thank you so much.

  • @Chris98346
    @Chris98346 3 дня назад +1

    Two things that has been an issue for me is actually speaking in my case Spanish to native Spanish speakers including friends. Due to the fact that I have had the misfortune on several occasions of being purposely mislead on meaning of words. When either trying to speak Spanish or when asking a friend what does this translate into in Spanish. So you mentally log the supposed translation and you are going around like a cool kid saying the new word that you think means this and in fact it means something else and you find out by another person “idk if I would say that if I were you” or “do you know what that actually means?”with a smile on their face. Then you are given the translation and then face palm your head in embarrassment. It kind of carries over in general bc when you are speaking Spanish and somebody will start to grin or laugh it could be because you really hacked up the pronunciation of a word but my mind automatically thinks crap did someone pull my leg again. So it becomes an anxiety induced thing for me. That I feel I can not trust a fellow human to be honest with stuff. Albeit I don’t think in any way it was meant in a intentional harmful way it is just more a practical joke. As I am sure they were probably mislead on English words when they were learning the language. I found through learning on my own that I can write in Spanish pretty well. As well as I can understand Spanish semi decent as I live in Texas and Spanish is very commonly spoken here. But as far as speaking it to people I’m very apprehensive which is why I struggle with speaking it. Thankfully though there is technology that has evolved since when I first attempted to learn the language in the early 00’s.
    The second thing is I have found when I do attempt to speaking Spanish to someone it is not always received very well. It seems to trigger some people to speak in Spanish with someone learning. There could be multiple reasons for this.

  • @dariageorgieva7139
    @dariageorgieva7139 3 дня назад

    Saludos desde Bulgaria!Un video divertido!Yo estoy aprendiendo italiano y turco y puedo hablar espanol y ingles! Estudiar idiomas me hace sentir muy feliz!😇

  • @mrs.trucker9150
    @mrs.trucker9150 День назад

    New to the channel and I luv your editing. Going to look at more videos.

  • @TheTeachingCouple
    @TheTeachingCouple 3 дня назад +1

    For me it’s frustration: I can’t find a good German tutor🥲They’re either too busy, don’t accept students with my level or if I find one, they’re bored and boring… I don’t want to give up on this beautiful language, I’ve to try to study more by myself in 2025 🎉
    Mariangela xx
    Looking forward to part II ❤

  • @KevinFrancais-rz5nd
    @KevinFrancais-rz5nd День назад

    Ongelooflijk hoe goed je Nederlands klinkt! De meeste mensen doen daar echt heeeeeel veel langer over. Mocht je ooit vragen hebben let me know ;)

  • @merissa7609
    @merissa7609 3 дня назад

    Thank you so much for sharing! This video came at the right time as I literally just discovered yesterday how much shame I have internalized in regard to my race and ethnicity. I am Mexican and Filipino. Born and raised in America. I don’t speak any of the languages nor do I “fit” or “look” like the stereotypes of either race. Most of my family speaks fluent Spanish but didn’t speak it to their children and didn’t teach us or uphold traditions of our culture. I experienced judgment and criticism from both people in my community and from my own family for being “whitewashed” because somehow they thought it was my fault for not speaking Spanish fluently and knowing more about my own culture throughout my childhood. These experiences have developed a deep insecurity within me and internalized shame of “not being enough” for people already, and a mentality of “why bother trying” to learn more about the language and culture since I’ve already been rejected by the people of my culture. But now that this has been excavated from the depths I am ready to move through it, heal it, and get back to my roots ✊🏼

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  3 дня назад +1

      This is such a powerful comment, thank you for sharing 🙏🏾

  • @chythebeautiful
    @chythebeautiful 3 дня назад

    I can definitely relate because sometimes I feel like that

  • @bridget9490
    @bridget9490 2 дня назад

    1:20 Hoe is het gebeurd😂 geweldig! Goed gedaan! Als je het liedje Watskeburt nog niet kent, dan is het wel grappig om daar naar te luisteren.

  • @janeonuoha4894
    @janeonuoha4894 22 часа назад

    I feel so seen about re learnig your mother tounge! Its not talked about enough in this language comnunity but its sooo hardddd

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  6 часов назад

      I think we just started this convo 👀

  • @pedromalbernaz
    @pedromalbernaz 2 дня назад

    Eu acho sua história muito inspiradora. Você é um exemplo pra muitas pessoas sobre a importância de ter perseverança , humildade e força de vontade pra conseguir atingir seus objetivos. Parabéns pelas conquistas e por ter ajudado tantas pessoas compartilhando tanto conteúdo enriquecedor.

  • @YogaBlissDance
    @YogaBlissDance 3 дня назад +1

    You told how many months' JO but HOW MANY HOURS a day? It's not like themonths or years as we ALL KNOW some folks study 1-2x's a month for years and some study for 2 hours a day! For years. Big difference. I've heard French men can be teh same way- like direct and serious.

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  2 дня назад +1

      I didn’t go too intense to be honest. No more than 1 hour 1-3x a week! I would get frustrated with myself because I wasn’t making progress, simply because I wasn’t committing time!! Then I’d schedule lessons again and make progress

  • @laramichael4123
    @laramichael4123 3 дня назад

    ☺️🙏🏼🙏🏼thnk you!!

  • @pauloreis7093
    @pauloreis7093 3 дня назад

    uau, minha familia (Cólen) foi da Antuérpia pro Brasil! Pirei nos 1os segundos nesse holandês versão dialeto da Antuérpia. Está na minha lista aprender algo desse idioma antes de ir pessoalmente conhecer minhas raízes!

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  2 дня назад +1

      As suas raizes são bem legais - adoro a língua, comida e cultura!

    • @pauloreis7093
      @pauloreis7093 2 дня назад

      Legal! Faz um vídeo sobre isso, seria interessante!

  • @chimakalu41
    @chimakalu41 День назад

    5:42 oh she is brazilian.

  • @K777angel
    @K777angel 2 дня назад

    Beautiful story

  • @guilhermearruda7715
    @guilhermearruda7715 2 дня назад

    amo escutar ela falando em português ahhh😭

  • @leviurbina3413
    @leviurbina3413 2 дня назад

    Eu sou de Honduras, mais moro nos USA .voce pode me ensinar portugues?

  • @HR-cp5ek
    @HR-cp5ek 2 дня назад

    Precies daarom spreek ik nog steeds geen Engels, Zweeds, Duits en Spaans. Lezen en verstaan: geen probleem, schrijven lukt ook, en ik kan je de grammatica uitleggen, maar spreken, ik ben bang, doe het liever niet, en als ik het toch doe, is het moeilijk, ben ik de goede woorden vergeten, enzovoort. En dat terwijl die talen in mijn omgeving aanwezig zijn sinds ik klein was. Engels op tv, Zweeds en Spaans door mijn familie, en Duitsland was dichtbij en we gingen er vaak op vakantie. Frans had ik trouwens ook op school, maar dat is hopeloos, kan het een beetje lezen, maar niet schrijven en verstaan.

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  2 дня назад

      Leuke reactie! Je hebt veel in jouw hoofd! Dat betekent veel kansen om talen te leren ❤️

  • @loridelia8806
    @loridelia8806 2 дня назад

    Ahhh!!!! I dont wanna be eaten by the tiger!

  • @edmundjacobs4513
    @edmundjacobs4513 3 дня назад

    Hi Jo. Jij moet een Nederlandse filmpie maken!

    • @jofranco
      @jofranco  3 дня назад

      Over welke thema 🧐

    • @edmundjacobs4513
      @edmundjacobs4513 3 дня назад

      @@jofranco over hoe jij Nederlands hebt geleert maar enige ander thema zal ook leuk zijn.

  • @designbyhazema
    @designbyhazema 2 дня назад

    lool my Pops speaks bare, so intimidating tbh

  • @theamerican_insider
    @theamerican_insider 2 дня назад

    Goals… thank you youtube

  • @thiagoamorim1497
    @thiagoamorim1497 День назад

    Me ensina fala inglês 😢

  • @AndrewVandyke-m1m
    @AndrewVandyke-m1m 3 дня назад +1

    I am surprised how you can speak a lots of languages

  • @Gigusx
    @Gigusx 3 дня назад

    Thanks, but I can learn a new language... 🤔