Hi. You are definitely not alone. I am addicted to thrift shopping and am a hoarder as well. I have probably 8-10 totes of jewelry and even more totes of beads. I also have a wardrobe that could fill 5-6 closets. So while my co-workers admire my outfit and accessories they don’t know I taken vacation days just to go to the thrift shop. They also do not know I have hidden thrift shop purchases from my family. I understand what you are telling us. My goal this year is to get rid of 1/2 of what I own. Much love to you.
My counselor told me it was called roaming. Like so many comments have said it actually takes your mind off of what you're going through. As for myself with the addiction of accumulating things I was trying to fill a hole that couldn't be filled with the stuff that I was getting. And now I've come to realize that all I have now is a bunch of stuff and the real issues are still inside of me. Types of issues take a long time to heal self-love and one step at a time
Your video gave me chills...your story could be mine. I had a dysfunctional marriage that lasted 23 years and I used thrift shopping and collecting jewelry to help with coping. I finally got the nerve to divorce and left the state, and reconnected with my old college bf who was here in GA. Add autoimmune diseases and chronic depression, stir with a need to buy "stuff" and a very understanding hubby that shares my Goodwill addiction and you get me. I have a craft room that is filled to overflowing with jewelry, purses and trinket boxes and I can't bring myself to sell anything! My house is filled like a hoarder house and we had to put a full stop on Goodwill/thrift store trips for 2021. It does help that Covid keeps us home and safe...but then I discovered BlueBox DIY mail order rescue boxes. Now I have at least 2 unopened boxes and several gallon bags filled with jewelry from the local stores. Like you, I have a stash... I love that you posted this, Carla. I feel a bit less depressed about my addiction now because I am not alone. Thank you for bearing your soul and your heart of gold. With respect to your dining room table, you should see mine! 😁 I am approaching it like a person eating an elephant, one "bite" at a time. We can help each other in YT land, and we can support our fellow jewelry hoarding friends by being there for each other. Hugs to you and Keep the faith, baby! 💍💎💗
@@PrincessCasserole Awww...thanks hon💗 If you remember I was the one with the necklace question...I found it in a GW bag and it turned out to be the one you collect! It is missing a watermelon rivoli stone so I have not done anything with it. Anytime you want to chat I am on FB under my name, come find me!
I’ve started using a saying when I feel like buying - that my mum would often use “IF IN DOUBT DO WITHOUT!” I say it out loud sometimes, it does help. It's like a Mantra.
Yep you are preaching to an addict herself and thrifting and jewelry purchasing has become my go to when I’m stressed. Also eating. Thank you Carla for sharing 🥰
Spending money was the thing that would give me that happy feeling that I needed because I didn’t feel whole. Luxury vacations, luxury cars, nice jewelry, expensive sunglasses, purses, shoes-whatever it was, I needed that feeling. Then it went to vintage thrifting. The hunt for that last piece of the collection (that never was actually the last piece) was thrilling. Especially when you know those finds are so rare. But when I had to leave it all a year ago, I realized that I had some serious work to do on myself because those “highs” weren’t possible anymore, and I felt terrible all the time. I have a great therapist that made it possible for me to find healthier outlets. I would suggest talking to someone about this. Addictions can sneak up on you like the deep end of the pool and then all of a sudden you can’t touch the bottom and you can’t swim. Hugs to you for being proactive about this! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Appreciate your honesty. I am a beader and through the years, have hoarded jewelry supplies and only 2 years ago, was able to put my bead room together. It's beautiful. I love it! When I looked at what I've amassed, which isn't as bad as some I've seen on RUclips lol, I did see that it will take years to go through my stash, making jewelry. I set a goal for myself and so far, I need to do 2 more projects to reach my 2021 goal. I have health problems and not that I'm planning on kicking the bucket anytime soon but I realized that I cannot take my jewelry supplies with me...so I'm planning on giving away whatever I make ...and the jewelry I've made over the years. No one needs 50 bracelets...not even me. So I say, sell, sell, sell!!!
My mothers love language was “stuff” also. I have a difficult time with shopping also. We have had a very difficult 2020, and I have bought so much stuff! It does help to buy beautiful things!!
Your honesty is refreshing. It’s like the things replace the sadness at times. I recently was asked if I made jewelry and I was wearing a set, necklace, earrings, two bracelets I made. I said yes and was asked to buy it. What went through my head was lol, it’s mine. Then I thought this lady would enjoy it. So I sold it even though what I really wanted to do was keep it. I think that was my start to down sizing. Maybe one thing at a time. I don’t know if this helps but yes I do some of the things you mentioned also.
Thank you Carla! You have no idea how much this video has helped me. Always remember, you are also one of the wonderful , kind people you were talking about. That comes across in all your videos. Take care! ✌💞 xx
Thank you. You have so much courage for your honesty. I totally feel you on the love language of stuff (and gifts) and shopping as stress and anxiety relief and the high of finding a great thing and struggling to find balance. I’ve watched your channel for a long time and it is has gotten me through some very dark times. Thank you for being here and being you.
Thank you for being so open and sharing your life. You are helping so many by doing what you do! You will get through this! God bless your husband for understanding and God bless you for just being you!
I think that’s it too. It’s almost like gaining weight slowly, you don’t see it until you can no longer deny it. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband.
I’m so sorry Amy. I’ve been doing the same thing too since my former husband died last month. Our daughter raises her eyebrows at me every time the Amazon truck pulls up. One day at a time....
@@kristinuribe8343 I lost my husband in 2014 he was a hoarder I wasn’t but after he passed , I actually had a little money so I would buy clothes or handbags snd now it’s jewellery mainly vintage We lost our home so downsized and had to let so much go I’m getting a grip now for this year as it’s great to hsve it but can’t even go out snd wear it
Your pain is so evident. To put this out there on the net means you know the problem is affecting your life and the lives of your family and are really hurting. I had an addiction to playing bingo once upon a time. I saw how it affected everyone around me and I finally was able to shake it off, but it took every ounce of my faith and wanting more to serve God than myself. To use the word "addiction" is very appropriate. I would literally shake if I didn't have enough money to indulge my habit. The money I spent could have been used better. I, too, paid my bills, but instead of saving or even indulging my children, I had to feed that impulse. Like you going treasure hunting, I would think "Maybe I'll win tonight." It's an adrenalin rush and something we do to fill a void - or escape. I'll tell you how I was able to walk away from eight years of this addiction although many won't understand. I became a Christian and my thoughts became new. I saw things differently but still had the habit. In my new believer mode, I wanted so much to please God but habits die hard and one day I drove to the bingo parlor and parked. I looked at the building and looked at the $100 bill I was about to throw away. I wanted to please God so much and I knew what I was doing wasn't right. With every ounce of strength I had in me, I said, NO! I turned the car around and every mile toward my house, where my teen son was watching his little brother, the desire lessened. By the time I got home, the desire was completely gone. I was free! I chose God. My relationship with Jesus meant more to me and I loved my family too much to keep depriving them of my time. I only tried it once more out of habit and then stopped altogether. The thrill was gone. My chains were gone. I don't know if my testimony will help you, but the only thing that worked for me was to put God first and then HE took me out of bondage. That's exactly what addiction of any kind is, bondage. God bless you for sharing. I will pray for you.
Thanks for sharing. I grew up poor so when I finally got a career and made money I would shop and buy whatever I wanted no matter the price. I went into bankruptcy when I paid for my parents funeral 3 years apart. I learned to stop buying things. It was hard . Someone gave me this advice. She said go to the store and put what ever you want and walk away without buying anything. It was hard the first few times. It got better. It will get better.
Thank you. There certainly is something about being able to buy things and so feeling good when you do. We get into these situations for all different reasons. I hope you’re doing well.
@@PrincessCasserole yes I'm retired paid off my house and credit cards before I retired. Took time to clean out my house of material things. Also finally let go of my parents stuff too. You were brave just admiting you had a problem. Don't feel bad it will get better. I'm in a happy place now love watching your videos. God bless you and your family. They truly love you and that's all that matters.
Carla, I know who you are. You are a kind, sensitive, caring person. You are not alone,we all learn how to deal with emotional issues in different ways. I recently decided to "Purge" some of my "addictions", I recently donated 68( Unused) Yankee Candles to my local thrift. I have many "Collections" and my family already warned me that when I die they will throw everything out ! So...I decided to "Let Go" and let others enjoy some of my collections,that have given me joy for so many years. It was hard at first,and I feel good about it now. We will always love you for the person that you are.It was so nice to see that gorgeous smile,and pretty face again ! You be you. Happiness, Cindy
My mom hoarded papers and trash. I try to keep my cupboards only half full. I love costume jewelry and I set a budget of $10 a week. Most of my things are second hand. Tell yourself you will get rid of ten things each day. Purses, blouses, whatever you don't need just start small. We, your fans, are here for you. Yours, Tina
it's very brave of you to admit you're a hoarder/addict to yourself and others. My mom is also a hoarder, and I can definitely relate to not being able to throw things away/keep things tidy. I'm really happy you are in a great relationship now... If I ever get a partner again, I hope it motivates me to live a clutter-free life, because right now my place looks a little chaotic :( But I think admitting is the first step, then not being afraid to ask for help. Best of luck to you, girl!
Thank you for being so candid! The struggle is real! I resell a lot of what I buy which helps but my rule is that if I don’t have a place for it, I won’t buy it! That has helped me when I get really tempted just because “it’s a really good deal”! Thanks for sharing your story🥰
The coronavirus helped break my addiction to thrifting. I literally have boxes and boxes of Knick knacks and tons of old scrap books and old letters and dolls. I’ve started going thrifting again and will talk out loud to myself and so “No, I don’t need this”. My husband also likes to thrift, he collects old vinyl records. He has a lot! I’m at an age, 58 years old and my daughter is a hoarder and I need to get rid of this stuff because I do t want her to drown in my stuff too. So slowly I am getting rid of items. I even have a huge amount of dog toys and cat toys for my pets. Looking for the treasures definitely gets you out of your head, but it doesn’t last. I’m afraid I caused it in my daughter, when she was depressed growing up I would take her thrifting because it’s “fun”! Thank you for this video. And you are not alone. I donated a bunch of purses awhile ago, I have a bad neck and can’t carry them. I still think about them. ❤️
I'm watching this video a year after you made it. I'm one of the people you're helping....right now. You've made me more comfortable talking about this to the point where I'm finally going to tell my therapist. Because I'm sitting in my home with containers of beads and jewelry all in my living room. My bed is covered with jewelry because I have no spae left to put it somewhere. I'm feeling ashamed and depressed. This bad habit started after a major emotional breakdown I had in 2018.
Thanks for your story. I have a health condition where I'm good one day, in pain the next. I noticed I would go and shop on good days like a reward and it was mounting up, luckily I noticed early on and Im more careful. It its so easy to happen. My mum was similar
I have watched you for about a year now, but this is by far your greatest video ever!!! I can’t thank you enough for sharing such a personal trouble!!!! I too have this addiction and hoarding issue!! It has also made my home a series of piles and embarrassing! I spent an unreasonable amount on jewelry, clothes and purses. Thank you so very much for sharing!!! Love and blessings ❤️🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing!! I have a hard time organizing and then I get overwhelmed. Therapy has helped me so much. I love jewelry too. But really sell more items and think of how happy you are making someone else. Definitely tackle the table and maybe be in the craft room more. If it is something you loved but wore it once then sell, give as a gift or donate. You are amazing and you will tackle the table one section at a time.
Dear Karla, I feel your struggle. I think we all have our challenges for sure. You’ll get through this and I sure hope sharing took some weight off your shoulders. Your channel is so enjoyable and fun, you are kind and very knowledgeable. 🙏🙏🙏 for you and for us all in this crazy time. Hang in there my jewelry friend. ❤️
Dear Carla, you are so brave to share your struggles with us; please know that we are so supportive of you. Just FYI, there is a RUclipsr named Alex (his channel is called Curiousity Incorporated) who is an antique dealer. He deals sensitively and sympathetically with hoarding situations, and I have watched two of his series where he cleared out such homes. They are extreme cases to be sure, but his methods of how he sorts stuff out may be of interest to you. Hope that helps! Stay safe and healthy, and happy New Year!
hi 👋😊 i realize you filmed this a few years ago. I feel like covid had a lot of us slowing down and looking at our lives a bit closer. you are so very well spoken and speaking of love languages, you have and had at this past season in time, a good mind for balancing it all through your struggle. I hope this message finds you well several years later. Thank you for sharing your story, it got me emotional as well, i can realate to some of what you shared. I'm newly discovering my joy in appreciating lovely jewelry and becoming more sentimenal about it & also learning that it can be a form of expressing ones self. That is how i landed on your channel and because i love people in general i looked for your story on your page. Thank you again, i look forward to seeing your videos and enjoying seeing and learning about jewelry. Thanks again❣😊
Understanding what motivates you is SO important! Think of the positives for the change...dwell on that. You can do this! You can reclaim your life and home. Your family is your priority.
I have always adored your honesty about everything! I'm a stuff person myself, for my own reasons, I adore you so much more for this open vulnerability. Thank you for being you and true to yourself! I hope you are doing this video for your husband, daughter, mostly yourself, for accountability. I know people can be harsh on here, just remember you're amazing and good enough for those of us that truly are fans! You're truly a superhero for being talking about this!
Thank you for sharing this, Carla! I too struggle with shopping addiction, stuff is also my love language. It’s helpful and hopeful to know I’m not alone.:)
This was much appreciated. I design, collect and let my daughter start her own little side hustle by providing her with some of my jewelry stash to resell. I love,to thrift too. Years ago I use to volunteer and even worked in a thrift store that continuously had awesome donated merchandise to sell. I recognized how acquiring things for myself, the thrill of the find and the power of reselling items can create it's own highs and lows. It's totally relatable. I try to govern myself by a rule that when one thing comes in, one or more things have to go out. If I'm not wearing it as much or I've outgrown it those are prime candidates for a purge. Some things will stay because they are near and dear to my heart, especially jewelry designs that I've made. But as for your dining room table try to take small steps to reclaim the space for you and your family. Maybe you can start by moving the stuff off the table and into decorative bins that accentuate the dining room since your craft room is full. Another idea is to resell items by mail. I happen to love Buffalo Exchange ship by mail. They will send you a bag (free shipping is included) for your clothes and accessories. You drop it off at a UPS store when mailing it back to them and they will process your items and pay cash via PayPal or store credit. You can opt to let them donate what they don't buy. My suggestions are not the end all be all because you have to get to a place where you can let items go. This could be a way to get the stuff out of your space while you wait for the items to sell. My ❤ and many prayers go out to you. Thank you for sharing.
Rebecca here-grew up extremely financially challenged, but in an extremely materialistic city (Houston). Everyone had so many nice things, we could not afford. Thrifting was not available then. Then in 1990's Goodwills became a thing and I realized I could find amazing deals, have nice things. Thus began that whoosh of joy we get when we find a great deal. Because I was not spending a lot, I felt it was ok. (Also addicted to food, so shopping replaced eating). Decades later, I have had to deal with the addiction from the whoosh, had to learn to disassociate need from want. Enter-pandemic - NO thrifting! I resorted to watching others online - you and so many other favorites I have enjoyed watching. That has helped. Though not buying, I'm still experiencing the whoosh vicariously, and I have learned so much about jewelry. One thing that has helped - now before shopping, I take a 20-30 minute walk in nature 1st, sort my head, find a balance, make sure I'm coming from the right place. Try to calm that wonderful anticipation you get when heading to the stores, that fear you might miss something. Then when I have quieted myself, I go to 1-2 stores max, even if I don't find anything. That helps so much for me. Thanks for your honesty - you are not alone! And know that you have helped me and I'm sure so many others.
These problems are often started from our childhoods, and are a way of coping with anxiety. Try and think what am I anxious about that is making me spend?
I completely understand how easy this can get out of hand fast.....but this has been a very hard year for everyone that has bought out a lot of issues in us. You are so brave and honest to talk about it openly. You are not alone in this situation I promise.... you are loved and a work in progress like all of us! Thank you so much for this video, I needed it! You are beautiful!
Carla, Your doing wonderful. The fact that you realize all this is your journey to healing for yourself. We all have issues in our lives. Everything will be ok. Your beautiful inside and out. 🌷💕🌷Lisa :) p.s. I have to much stuff! Take good care of you now.
Wow, I can relate. My table and craft room are in a similar state. Thank you for sharing. I agree it’s nice to have the joy of these beautiful items in our lives, but finding the balance where they don’t weighs us down, can be troublesome. I’m trying to re-sort and organize some of my earlier jewelry finds/hauls and my crafting supplies This is helping me appreciate the items again, also discover forgotten pieces. I will be here with you on your path to finding your balance, as I too work on finding my way through my piles. Sending you and all love as we each have our own individual struggles. And please remember to be kind to ourselves.
Hi. I started watching a Craft with Me video of yours, wondered if you mentioned which cutting tools you used, and found myself here, commiserating with you about shopping and hoarding. Kudos to you for your courage in talking about this stuff. I was thrifting and selling for a while here and there. Then I started really using thrifting and learning what sold as - I suppose - my main recreation. I loved learning what would sell, going to church bazaars, yard sales, etc. and finding great deals. I collected and collected but found listing and selling not so much fun. My "collections" became like a mountain of potential; I found I was overwhelmed by it all. Then came 2020 and all that. I had a houseful of stuff, and wasn't doing any thrifting, but still wasn't getting any of it listed and sold. I started recreationally shopping Goodwill online and RUclips jewelry channels. (Jewelry smaller, I told myself. It won't take up as much room.) I have so much that it is physically in the way of me enjoying other pastimes like art and sewing. I'm constantly thinking I should be listing and selling and put off the other stuff, then don't get anything done. I'm at the stage now that I fantasize about just re-donating much of it just to make room. I've gotten as far as putting some stuff in boxes. The boxes have made it out to the porch. Some even made it into the back of the car but I had to move them out to put tires in when I got my snow tires put on. Is this progress? Again, I commend you on your courage to talk about this. I found it really hard to even write about this in relative obscurity. It's now almost a year since you posted this. I hope you are doing well and feel good about this past year. I already was subscribed but will be reading more of your posts as I journey toward a healthier mindset re: this.
My arms are wrapped around you all the way from Australia.i watch you every time you post and you make my life so much happier. So thank you for being you and thankyou for your truths I know that must of been so hard. Life is a struggle but knowing you have arms wrapped round you may help we love you princess cassarole❤️
I feel the need to comment again, I HATE the word hoarder!! Just because you want to keep your possesions does not mean you are a hoarder, and what is wrong with keeping things you love? I have multiple interests, I am an artist and love art, art pottery art glass and painting and making jewelry etc so have a lot of art supplys and art. I am an avid reader and have many books , i keep any related to my interests to use as reference, i give all novels away after reading though. I am an avid gardner and have a lot of houseplants and books about them and intend to keep them. I collect and sell jewelry, i keep what I love but most is for sale, some jewelry has monetary value and to me keeping it is like money in the bank. I also collect sea shells and gemstones, rocks , geodes etc. but it is not out of control. I consider myself a collector and hobbyist, I have yard sales in summer and donate to thrift stores frequently. One thing I hate is for people to tell me to get rid of my magazines, certain ones I refer back to frequently such as HGTV, I get a lot of creative ideas from them. And some of my favorite mags cost $13.00 and i should just throw away?? my mother also showed love by giving gifts but she used it as a tool to get us kids to do chores, always a price so it made me have trouble accepting gifts from people. And no amount of thank you is enough for my mother!! I dont think you are a hoarder, I think you are a very creative person who just needs a better organizing system. Also try doing utube videos of thrift store jewelry purchases of say 5 to ten items and stop buying jewelry jars and boxes, they leave you with way too much jewelry that you dont know what to do with!! Or you could try selling the contents of each box immediately after you do your videos, that way you wont accumulate so much. you are a beautiful creative person NOT a hoarder and you will be ok.
We have all struggled. I love that you are kind to yourself and the journey that has made you who you are. Continue to love yourself for who you are while visualizing who you want to be, the mom of a family that eats at a dining room table. You can do this!
You are so brave to come out and voicing your addiction/hoarding. It answered some thoughts I have had, for which I will not reveal here. I appreciate you coming forward with your story. My daughter has been telling me for awhile now that I am hoarding jewelry and other stuff (clothes) and I guess I’ve been in denial. I have so much jewelry that has not ever been listed. I can only bring myself to sell the lower grade or cheap jewelry. I find myself holding onto the sterling and gold pieces for dear life so to speak, when I know I could make good money from it. I just can’t bring myself to do it. You’ve inspired me to take steps in dealing with my own hoarding/shopping addiction. Thank you.
You are on your way to clearing that table first. A section at a time. I can truly identify with you.Thank you for sharing this and I hope you share your PROGRESS also.
You are definitely not alone. I too also shop way way too much and just today gave 9bags to my op shop!! Some clothes still Had the brand new tags on it. You feels so guilty, but now I have had a clean out I am going to try this year as well to do better. You are a special and wonderful person, but we out here love you and your Haus!! Take care xx Janet from Oz
You’re definitely not alone kiddo! I do the same thing... I buy, buy, and buy! I run out of money and catch myself whining to my kids because I can’t afford groceries or this or that! I don’t know what the answer is... it’s eluded me for a long time. I feel you struggle and I understand what you go through. My dining room table is the same way. I found myself just tonight shoving things in a pile so I could set down to eat. The struggle is REAL... Good luck on your journey.♥️♥️
Hi I found you through Dawn and watched a video of you showing your wonderful finds. Anyway you are not alone and i’ve turned to thrifting to forget what was going on in my life. I did resell most but ended up having too much inventory of clothing and ended up dropping them off at goodwill. I’m a crafter and always feel like in need to save that item to repurpose it in some way. it’s a cycle i struggle with and i also collect jewelry and a singer at weddings i feel i’m justifying my purchases. lol ❤thanks for sharing. You are not alone!
You are not alone! I am learning to process my pain, and cleaning my house is helping me. I am giving my stuff back to some Stores where I got it. Doing this, makes me feel a little better. But, I have to continue taking away, and it is cleaning my mind at the same time I am giving away my stuff. Those things are not important anymore.
Hi Carla! You are so beautiful in and out. I love your videos!! I love stuff also especially jewelry and thrift stores lol! I too cant rid of things but Ive put limits on my shopping and hoarding now but i still do buy (baby steps lol). If i buy i try to get rid of something. Ive realized that i can enjoy my “things” while im alive!!! I have no guilt over that concept.
Thank you for sharing!!! You are a wonderful person. I have a hard time getting out of the house and you have been a blessing!!! Thank you for joining me when I'm lonely. Being my RUclips friend I hope that's not crazy. Stay strong stay beautiful
My goodness Carla💜I’ve wiped few tears during your brave monologue and want to reach out and give you hugest hug ! You are so kind with great interpersonal skills, smart and knowledgeable, funny and companionable, and so much more ! Here is me ,,,,, My guest room in the house ( Netherworlds) is my stash/ hoarder / collection heaven . I created few rules for myself : one visit to thrift store and one to vintage/antique market per week, spending price ranch per item 0,25 - 5,00 € , purchase things that I loved/ unique/ never seen or owned before, go out for lunch or dinner to enjoy the experience! I’ve been given away with pleasure my thrifted goodies as a presents to my family and friends . I’ve donated lots of clothing, jewelry for crafts to the refuge center ( makes me happy) ....
@@PrincessCasserole Enjoy ! We have social leather and expected to climbed collectively! When we do something extraordinary then immediately it’s become taboo! Social customs Restricting us from enjoying our life journey. Do what makes you happy without dealing guilty ! My friend is losing her battle to the cancer ... she wished that she live her life the way she wants to , not the way it’s expected from society. Sending you beautiful blessings and exuberant joy 💜
Oh my partner in crime for lack of a better term. I've got the same problem. I work at Goodwill and I just have to walk through the store before I leave work. Always trying to find that bargain. My car is full and my room is full too. It's so hard for me to pass up something that is under priced. In my life I grew up poor and never really had a lot of things. Then in my adult life I've had to start over many times with just a suit case. I had lost everything I had. So now I hoard. I know the pain and shame. You are not alone and you are extremely brave to share your stuggles. I wish you the best in your struggle. I guess they say baby steps. I'll be right along side of you taking those baby steps too. Much Love and sucess.💖
Your story resonates with me and many other people thank you for sharing. I've struggled with many forms of addiction my entire life and finally found a way to deal with it that works for me. I just keep trading up. I've traded one for another for another each one being replaced with a somewhat healthier addiction until I'm finally left with one. My only vice now is Red Bull.
I just recently found you...now today I respect, understand and feel for you. When covid gets under control, have a friend come in and gently help you. I mean a real, genuine , caring friend. Funny story...I too am/was addicted to shopping. Now I am retired, and due to my years and years of shopping (credit cards) I needed a part time job to get me through my months expenses. Well, being older, it was hard to find a job that suited me and my needs (I recently had open heart surgery). Guess who hired me? Goodwill!!! LOL. Good and bad right? Covid forced me to quit, but I am 90% sure I will be rehired when it’s safe for me to return. When I go back, I plan on donating a lot of the stuff that’s still in goodwill bags in my craft room! Yikes! What a mess I am, but there’s still hope because I am still alive. Hang in there. Go easy on yourself, but keep going forward even if it’s at a snails pace. Just keep going forward! Best wishes!
You are so brave!!! To share the problem - to start solving it! You are very open, positive and sincere!!! If you fight - you overcome! From Ukraine with love ❤️!
I’m right there with you. I got too much stuff and it’s now time to let go. Your message actually came right on time for me. I know it’s hard because I like to shop also.After this video I’m gonna start packing up stuff for Goodwill. Thank you and be blessed girlfriend.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️. I have a very similar problem but a little different. It does give me a high and helps with my depression and anxiety When I shop. I end up spending money that I shouldn’t. But I usually don’t have a problem getting I’d of stuff because I want to have room for my new stuff! My family was very dysfunctional as well. My dad was the spender 🥺. It defines and can be a learned behavior. I wish for you peace and happiness. Lots of love and a hug, Tina. ❤️
Hi, im New at your Chanel, love it when you emty the jar, dont worrie im the same page is you, but I learn little by little to bring stuff to the goodwill, my table was full of stuff, untill i decide to buy just less things, every one has something is dealing whith,you are not alone, thank you for opening your heart
Hi Carla !! I've been a mostly silent watcher of your videos for a long time. I always give a thumbs up but rarely comment. This video touched me deeply and made me feel like I was not alone, just as you said. You are definitely not alone ... big hugs !! I'll share one of the things I've done with my jewelry hoard which could be applied to any hoard ( purses, books, anything ) I would gather all my brooches for instance, then I would choose a number that was reasonable (to me) ... it might be 10 or it might be 200. Then I would pick out my 10 or 200 brooches that I loved the most and organize them in a way that I could enjoy them more often. The rest I would sell individually or in lots or give to someone I knew would love them or donate them. Whenever I would purchase another brooch, I would have to exchange it for one that was already in my collection. This kept me from building my hoard but also allowed me to keep buying the real treasures I found. I hope this might be of help in a small way : )
Thank you for sharing your story. It really touched my heart. I too have the same addiction and it started 3 years ago when I retired from a very stressful Telecom sales position. I didn’t quite know what to do with myself as it was the first time since I was 16 that I hadn’t worked and made $$$. Always enjoyed thrift stores just never had the time until I retired. I also struggle with ADD so I love the thrill of the hunt but absolutely HATE the work of listing so I too am now a hoarder. I am in a great marriage and my husband is very patient but he’s even starting to get aggravated with the clutter upstairs. Nice to know that I am not alone.
You are not alone ♥️ I have had a love for jewelry as long as I can remember and thrifting. My dining table is currently covered with the items from the jars I opened last night. I too craft and made jewelry but am a bit overwhelmed with all that I have. My intention was to sell, but went back to work and just can’t find the time. Thank for your honesty and sharing!!
You are a good soul.Just happened upon this video.Since Covid I discovered dolls and costume jewelry on EBAY.I already have a cluttered house but I am backing off slowly from buying after realizing I have a secondhand deal thrill problem.I totally can relate to your honest video and Thank You and Blessings to you and your family.🌌
Thank you for sharing, you are so courageous! My stuff also brings me joy. I do try to donate or (If an item is in bad condition get rid of it) each time I purchase something new. It's difficult but it can help ease the overload. Something in-something out so to say.
Dear Carla Your a brave soul ❤️ To come out and admit your addiction is a step forward and to me that says your courageous and ready to move forward 😊 I believe all things are possible one day at a time Step by step you can do it I know you can 😊 I have faith you can over come anything in life that’s a burden or holding you captive 🙏 I pray you’ll know where to start and what to do Carla ❤️🙏❤️ I wish you the very best on your journey too freedom ❤️ Take care Sincerely Brenda
I use watching jewelry videos and making them as a therapy for my depression I suffer from chronic pain so the depression gets bad, I have a hoarding problem too. I can’t get my house the way I wish it was so when I can my hubby buys me a jar if he can find one it helps but then I’ve got more wonderful stuff to find a place for which I can’t You’re not alone thank you for your honesty I appreciate you much more then I already did…big hugs to you, Tina
Hi. You are definitely not alone. I am addicted to thrift shopping and am a hoarder as well. I have probably 8-10 totes of jewelry and even more totes of beads. I also have a wardrobe that could fill 5-6 closets. So while my co-workers admire my outfit and accessories they don’t know I taken vacation days just to go to the thrift shop. They also do not know I have hidden thrift shop purchases from my family. I understand what you are telling us. My goal this year is to get rid of 1/2 of what I own. Much love to you.
Very helpful, very brave! Much respect!
My counselor told me it was called roaming. Like so many comments have said it actually takes your mind off of what you're going through. As for myself with the addiction of accumulating things I was trying to fill a hole that couldn't be filled with the stuff that I was getting. And now I've come to realize that all I have now is a bunch of stuff and the real issues are still inside of me. Types of issues take a long time to heal self-love and one step at a time
Your video gave me chills...your story could be mine. I had a dysfunctional marriage that lasted 23 years and I used thrift shopping and collecting jewelry to help with coping. I finally got the nerve to divorce and left the state, and reconnected with my old college bf who was here in GA. Add autoimmune diseases and chronic depression, stir with a need to buy "stuff" and a very understanding hubby that shares my Goodwill addiction and you get me. I have a craft room that is filled to overflowing with jewelry, purses and trinket boxes and I can't bring myself to sell anything! My house is filled like a hoarder house and we had to put a full stop on Goodwill/thrift store trips for 2021. It does help that Covid keeps us home and safe...but then I discovered BlueBox DIY mail order rescue boxes. Now I have at least 2 unopened boxes and several gallon bags filled with jewelry from the local stores. Like you, I have a stash...
I love that you posted this, Carla. I feel a bit less depressed about my addiction now because I am not alone. Thank you for bearing your soul and your heart of gold. With respect to your dining room table, you should see mine! 😁 I am approaching it like a person eating an elephant, one "bite" at a time. We can help each other in YT land, and we can support our fellow jewelry hoarding friends by being there for each other. Hugs to you and Keep the faith, baby! 💍💎💗
I’m actually in tears reading this! It’s so wonderful to be both seen and understood.
@@PrincessCasserole Awww...thanks hon💗 If you remember I was the one with the necklace question...I found it in a GW bag and it turned out to be the one you collect! It is missing a watermelon rivoli stone so I have not done anything with it.
Anytime you want to chat I am on FB under my name, come find me!
I’ve started using a saying when I feel like buying - that my mum would often use “IF IN DOUBT DO WITHOUT!” I say it out loud sometimes, it does help. It's like a Mantra.
I developed a habit of making myself put just one thing back at the register no matter what I'm shopping for and it helps.
i love how authentic you are! i think you can work on your addiction and find a way for it to be productive now, and fulfilling again❤️
I’m hopeful. It honestly feels good to purge but then I allow myself to buy again. Gotta stop the cycle.
We love you Carla! We see the kindness in your heart and that’s what matters to us.
Yep you are preaching to an addict herself and thrifting and jewelry purchasing has become my go to when I’m stressed. Also eating. Thank you Carla for sharing 🥰
I mean there’s worse things, but in the end it does cause other stress.
Love your videos, especially this one. Thanks for sharing ❤️. As a reseller I’ve acquired way more than I can list and feeling overwhelmed lately.
Spending money was the thing that would give me that happy feeling that I needed because I didn’t feel whole. Luxury vacations, luxury cars, nice jewelry, expensive sunglasses, purses, shoes-whatever it was, I needed that feeling. Then it went to vintage thrifting. The hunt for that last piece of the collection (that never was actually the last piece) was thrilling. Especially when you know those finds are so rare. But when I had to leave it all a year ago, I realized that I had some serious work to do on myself because those “highs” weren’t possible anymore, and I felt terrible all the time. I have a great therapist that made it possible for me to find healthier outlets. I would suggest talking to someone about this. Addictions can sneak up on you like the deep end of the pool and then all of a sudden you can’t touch the bottom and you can’t swim. Hugs to you for being proactive about this! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Appreciate your honesty. I am a beader and through the years, have hoarded jewelry supplies and only 2 years ago, was able to put my bead room together. It's beautiful. I love it! When I looked at what I've amassed, which isn't as bad as some I've seen on RUclips lol, I did see that it will take years to go through my stash, making jewelry. I set a goal for myself and so far, I need to do 2 more projects to reach my 2021 goal. I have health problems and not that I'm planning on kicking the bucket anytime soon but I realized that I cannot take my jewelry supplies with me...so I'm planning on giving away whatever I make ...and the jewelry I've made over the years. No one needs 50 bracelets...not even me. So I say, sell, sell, sell!!!
My mothers love language was “stuff” also. I have a difficult time with shopping also. We have had a very difficult 2020, and I have bought so much stuff! It does help to buy beautiful things!!
I know that’s why it’s so hard. It’s been stressful so I’ve allowed myself to eat junk and over buy. But I can and will do better (I hope).
My mom, too... I have been working to find new homes for a lot of her things so they can be loved, again.
Your honesty is refreshing. It’s like the things replace the sadness at times. I recently was asked if I made jewelry and I was wearing a set, necklace, earrings, two bracelets I made. I said yes and was asked to buy it. What went through my head was lol, it’s mine. Then I thought this lady would enjoy it. So I sold it even though what I really wanted to do was keep it. I think that was my start to down sizing. Maybe one thing at a time. I don’t know if this helps but yes I do some of the things you mentioned also.
I am a hoarder and I am addicted to shopping.
My mother's love language was also "Stuff".
My love language to my kids is also "Stuff".
Thank you Carla! You have no idea how much this video has helped me. Always remember, you are also one of the wonderful , kind people you were talking about. That comes across in all your videos. Take care! ✌💞 xx
Thank you ❤️
Thank you. You have so much courage for your honesty. I totally feel you on the love language of stuff (and gifts) and shopping as stress and anxiety relief and the high of finding a great thing and struggling to find balance. I’ve watched your channel for a long time and it is has gotten me through some very dark times. Thank you for being here and being you.
I am a very disorganized hoarder. I understand. My basement is filled with jewelry, clothes, and books. Always with the idea that I would resale.
Ugh! I know that’s what I think too but listing and reselling is a lot harder than I imagined.
@@PrincessCasserole it is. I do consignment sales, too.
Thank you for being so open and sharing your life. You are helping so many by doing what you do! You will get through this! God bless your husband for understanding and God bless you for just being you!
You’re not alone since I lost my husband to cancer I have accumulated stuff. I have slowed way down but it’s a slippery slope.
I think that’s it too. It’s almost like gaining weight slowly, you don’t see it until you can no longer deny it. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband.
I’m so sorry Amy. I’ve been doing the same thing too since my former husband died last month. Our daughter raises her eyebrows at me every time the Amazon truck pulls up. One day at a time....
@@kristinuribe8343 I lost my husband in 2014 he was a hoarder I wasn’t but after he passed , I actually had a little money so I would buy clothes or handbags snd now it’s jewellery mainly vintage
We lost our home so downsized and had to let so much go
I’m getting a grip now for this year as it’s great to hsve it but can’t even go out snd wear it
This happens when we try to fill a void after a loss. You are in my prayers.
Your pain is so evident. To put this out there on the net means you know the problem is affecting your life and the lives of your family and are really hurting. I had an addiction to playing bingo once upon a time. I saw how it affected everyone around me and I finally was able to shake it off, but it took every ounce of my faith and wanting more to serve God than myself. To use the word "addiction" is very appropriate. I would literally shake if I didn't have enough money to indulge my habit. The money I spent could have been used better. I, too, paid my bills, but instead of saving or even indulging my children, I had to feed that impulse. Like you going treasure hunting, I would think "Maybe I'll win tonight." It's an adrenalin rush and something we do to fill a void - or escape. I'll tell you how I was able to walk away from eight years of this addiction although many won't understand. I became a Christian and my thoughts became new. I saw things differently but still had the habit. In my new believer mode, I wanted so much to please God but habits die hard and one day I drove to the bingo parlor and parked. I looked at the building and looked at the $100 bill I was about to throw away. I wanted to please God so much and I knew what I was doing wasn't right. With every ounce of strength I had in me, I said, NO! I turned the car around and every mile toward my house, where my teen son was watching his little brother, the desire lessened. By the time I got home, the desire was completely gone. I was free! I chose God. My relationship with Jesus meant more to me and I loved my family too much to keep depriving them of my time. I only tried it once more out of habit and then stopped altogether. The thrill was gone. My chains were gone. I don't know if my testimony will help you, but the only thing that worked for me was to put God first and then HE took me out of bondage. That's exactly what addiction of any kind is, bondage. God bless you for sharing. I will pray for you.
Thanks for sharing. I grew up poor so when I finally got a career and made money I would shop and buy whatever I wanted no matter the price. I went into bankruptcy when I paid for my parents funeral 3 years apart. I learned to stop buying things. It was hard . Someone gave me this advice. She said go to the store and put what ever you want and walk away without buying anything. It was hard the first few times. It got better. It will get better.
Thank you. There certainly is something about being able to buy things and so feeling good when you do. We get into these situations for all different reasons. I hope you’re doing well.
@@PrincessCasserole yes I'm retired paid off my house and credit cards before I retired. Took time to clean out my house of material things. Also finally let go of my parents stuff too. You were brave just admiting you had a problem. Don't feel bad it will get better. I'm in a happy place now love watching your videos. God bless you and your family. They truly love you and that's all that matters.
This is so honest, raw, and real.
Carla, I know who you are. You are a kind, sensitive, caring person. You are not alone,we all learn how to deal with emotional issues in different ways. I recently decided to "Purge" some of my "addictions", I recently donated 68( Unused) Yankee Candles to my local thrift. I have many "Collections" and my family already warned me that when I die they will throw everything out ! So...I decided to "Let Go" and let others enjoy some of my collections,that have given me joy for so many years. It was hard at first,and I feel good about it now. We will always love you for the person that you are.It was so nice to see that gorgeous smile,and pretty face again ! You be you. Happiness, Cindy
Very relatable. Thank you for being brave enough to share this!
Carla, you are so brave. Admitting this issue, putting it out there into the ether. You did great kiddo!
My mom hoarded papers and trash. I try to keep my cupboards only half full. I love costume jewelry and I set a budget of $10 a week. Most of my things are second
hand. Tell yourself you will get rid of ten things each day. Purses, blouses, whatever you don't need just start small. We, your fans, are here for you.
Yours, Tina
10 things a day! Lol I can do 1 maybe :)
it's very brave of you to admit you're a hoarder/addict to yourself and others. My mom is also a hoarder, and I can definitely relate to not being able to throw things away/keep things tidy. I'm really happy you are in a great relationship now... If I ever get a partner again, I hope it motivates me to live a clutter-free life, because right now my place looks a little chaotic :( But I think admitting is the first step, then not being afraid to ask for help. Best of luck to you, girl!
Thank you so much! Honestly I’d be a thousand times worse if it wasn’t for my husband and child.
Thank you for being so candid! The struggle is real! I resell a lot of what I buy which helps but my rule is that if I don’t have a place for it, I won’t buy it! That has helped me when I get really tempted just because “it’s a really good deal”! Thanks for sharing your story🥰
The coronavirus helped break my addiction to thrifting. I literally have boxes and boxes of Knick knacks and tons of old scrap books and old letters and dolls. I’ve started going thrifting again and will talk out loud to myself and so “No, I don’t need this”. My husband also likes to thrift, he collects old vinyl records. He has a lot! I’m at an age, 58 years old and my daughter is a hoarder and I need to get rid of this stuff because I do t want her to drown in my stuff too. So slowly I am getting rid of items. I even have a huge amount of dog toys and cat toys for my pets. Looking for the treasures definitely gets you out of your head, but it doesn’t last. I’m afraid I caused it in my daughter, when she was depressed growing up I would take her thrifting because it’s “fun”! Thank you for this video. And you are not alone. I donated a bunch of purses awhile ago, I have a bad neck and can’t carry them. I still think about them. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. I really relate to the it! I appreciate your honesty. It's all a journey.
Bravo for having this brave conversation! I can relate to much of your struggles!
LOVE ❤️ your honesty! Much appreciated. I totally relate to your story. Thank you for being vulnerable so others can find they are not alone. 🥰
I'm watching this video a year after you made it. I'm one of the people you're helping....right now. You've made me more comfortable talking about this to the point where I'm finally going to tell my therapist. Because I'm sitting in my home with containers of beads and jewelry all in my living room. My bed is covered with jewelry because I have no spae left to put it somewhere. I'm feeling ashamed and depressed. This bad habit started after a major emotional breakdown I had in 2018.
Thanks for your story. I have a health condition where I'm good one day, in pain the next. I noticed I would go and shop on good days like a reward and it was mounting up, luckily I noticed early on and Im more careful. It its so easy to happen. My mum was similar
This hit home on so many bases. Going to save this to watch again when I need it.
I have watched you for about a year now, but this is by far your greatest video ever!!! I can’t thank you enough for sharing such a personal trouble!!!! I too have this addiction and hoarding issue!! It has also made my home a series of piles and embarrassing! I spent an unreasonable amount on jewelry, clothes and purses. Thank you so very much for sharing!!! Love and blessings ❤️🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing!! I have a hard time organizing and then I get overwhelmed. Therapy has helped me so much. I love jewelry too. But really sell more items and think of how happy you are making someone else. Definitely tackle the table and maybe be in the craft room more. If it is something you loved but wore it once then sell, give as a gift or donate. You are amazing and you will tackle the table one section at a time.
Dear Karla, I feel your struggle. I think we all have our challenges for sure. You’ll get through this and I sure hope sharing took some weight off your shoulders. Your channel is so enjoyable and fun, you are kind and very knowledgeable. 🙏🙏🙏 for you and for us all in this crazy time. Hang in there my jewelry friend. ❤️
Dear Carla, you are so brave to share your struggles with us; please know that we are so supportive of you. Just FYI, there is a RUclipsr named Alex (his channel is called Curiousity Incorporated) who is an antique dealer. He deals sensitively and sympathetically with hoarding situations, and I have watched two of his series where he cleared out such homes. They are extreme cases to be sure, but his methods of how he sorts stuff out may be of interest to you. Hope that helps! Stay safe and healthy, and happy New Year!
hi 👋😊 i realize you filmed this a few years ago. I feel like covid had a lot of us slowing down and looking at our lives a bit closer. you are so very well spoken and speaking of love languages, you have and had at this past season in time, a good mind for balancing it all through your struggle. I hope this message finds you well several years later. Thank you for sharing your story, it got me emotional as well, i can realate to some of what you shared. I'm newly discovering my joy in appreciating lovely jewelry and becoming more sentimenal about it & also learning that it can be a form of expressing ones self. That is how i landed on your channel and because i love people in general i looked for your story on your page. Thank you again, i look forward to seeing your videos and enjoying seeing and learning about jewelry. Thanks again❣😊
Understanding what motivates you is SO important! Think of the positives for the change...dwell on that. You can do this! You can reclaim your life and home. Your family is your priority.
I have always adored your honesty about everything! I'm a stuff person myself, for my own reasons, I adore you so much more for this open vulnerability. Thank you for being you and true to yourself! I hope you are doing this video for your husband, daughter, mostly yourself, for accountability. I know people can be harsh on here, just remember you're amazing and good enough for those of us that truly are fans! You're truly a superhero for being talking about this!
Yes! That was actually the idea. If I can just keep the living room and dinning room clean and tidy for 2021 I’ll feel accomplished.
@@PrincessCasserole Awesome!.. baby steps !
Thank you for sharing this, Carla! I too struggle with shopping addiction, stuff is also my love language. It’s helpful and hopeful to know I’m not alone.:)
Thank you for sharing your story! That takes a lot of courage to admit to us.
This was much appreciated. I design, collect and let my daughter start her own little side hustle by providing her with some of my jewelry stash to resell. I love,to thrift too. Years ago I use to volunteer and even worked in a thrift store that continuously had awesome donated merchandise to sell. I recognized how acquiring things for myself, the thrill of the find and the power of reselling items can create it's own highs and lows. It's totally relatable. I try to govern myself by a rule that when one thing comes in, one or more things have to go out. If I'm not wearing it as much or I've outgrown it those are prime candidates for a purge. Some things will stay because they are near and dear to my heart, especially jewelry designs that I've made. But as for your dining room table try to take small steps to reclaim the space for you and your family. Maybe you can start by moving the stuff off the table and into decorative bins that accentuate the dining room since your craft room is full. Another idea is to resell items by mail. I happen to love Buffalo Exchange ship by mail. They will send you a bag (free shipping is included) for your clothes and accessories. You drop it off at a UPS store when mailing it back to them and they will process your items and pay cash via PayPal or store credit. You can opt to let them donate what they don't buy. My suggestions are not the end all be all because you have to get to a place where you can let items go. This could be a way to get the stuff out of your space while you wait for the items to sell. My ❤ and many prayers go out to you. Thank you for sharing.
Wow. Thanks so much for the tip regarding Buffalo Exchange. I’ve never heard of it but it sounds perfect for my needs! 👍🏻
Great start, admitting to a problem is the 1st step. Congratulations!
Now on to the next step, one day at a time and 1 piece at a time.
I feel you, you are not alone we all have issues like you. You are a great person and you can make it happen. I wish you lucky.
Rebecca here-grew up extremely financially challenged, but in an extremely materialistic city (Houston). Everyone had so many nice things, we could not afford. Thrifting was not available then. Then in 1990's Goodwills became a thing and I realized I could find amazing deals, have nice things. Thus began that whoosh of joy we get when we find a great deal. Because I was not spending a lot, I felt it was ok. (Also addicted to food, so shopping replaced eating). Decades later, I have had to deal with the addiction from the whoosh, had to learn to disassociate need from want. Enter-pandemic - NO thrifting! I resorted to watching others online - you and so many other favorites I have enjoyed watching. That has helped. Though not buying, I'm still experiencing the whoosh vicariously, and I have learned so much about jewelry. One thing that has helped - now before shopping, I take a 20-30 minute walk in nature 1st, sort my head, find a balance, make sure I'm coming from the right place. Try to calm that wonderful anticipation you get when heading to the stores, that fear you might miss something. Then when I have quieted myself, I go to 1-2 stores max, even if I don't find anything. That helps so much for me. Thanks for your honesty - you are not alone! And know that you have helped me and I'm sure so many others.
Thank you for sharing
I became myself mindful of things I did Not need, so it is totally relatable to many people!
These problems are often started from our childhoods, and are a way of coping with anxiety. Try and think what am I anxious about that is making me spend?
I completely understand how easy this can get out of hand fast.....but this has been a very hard year for everyone that has bought out a lot of issues in us. You are so brave and honest to talk about it openly. You are not alone in this situation I promise.... you are loved and a work in progress like all of us! Thank you so much for this video, I needed it! You are beautiful!
Such a great video! You’re helping a lot of people by sharing the struggle! 💕
Thank you my friend!
Carla, Your doing wonderful. The fact that you realize all this is your journey to healing for yourself. We all have issues in our lives. Everything will be ok. Your beautiful inside and out. 🌷💕🌷Lisa :) p.s. I have to much stuff! Take good care of you now.
❤️ Thank you!
@@PrincessCasserole Carla, you and Angie are the only ones I’ve bought jewelry from!
I bought a amber colored Leaf Brooch from Angie and theTrifari necklace from you. 💕
Big hugs Carla ...........you're so brave .............and please don't be ashamed......big loves from Sharon in Scotland.........😘xxx
Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
Thank you. You’ve said exactly how I feel. I thought I was alone. My husband isn’t as understanding as yours.
Wow, I can relate. My table and craft room are in a similar state. Thank you for sharing. I agree it’s nice to have the joy of these beautiful items in our lives, but finding the balance where they don’t weighs us down, can be troublesome. I’m trying to re-sort and organize some of my earlier jewelry finds/hauls and my crafting supplies This is helping me appreciate the items again, also discover forgotten pieces. I will be here with you on your path to finding your balance, as I too work on finding my way through my piles. Sending you and all love as we each have our own individual struggles. And please remember to be kind to ourselves.
thanks for sharing, you are totally not alone. it takes a lot of self awareness to be able to recognize your addiction and hoarding disorder.
Thank you. This video helped me so much!!
Hi. I started watching a Craft with Me video of yours, wondered if you mentioned which cutting tools you used, and found myself here, commiserating with you about shopping and hoarding. Kudos to you for your courage in talking about this stuff. I was thrifting and selling for a while here and there. Then I started really using thrifting and learning what sold as - I suppose - my main recreation. I loved learning what would sell, going to church bazaars, yard sales, etc. and finding great deals. I collected and collected but found listing and selling not so much fun. My "collections" became like a mountain of potential; I found I was overwhelmed by it all. Then came 2020 and all that. I had a houseful of stuff, and wasn't doing any thrifting, but still wasn't getting any of it listed and sold. I started recreationally shopping Goodwill online and RUclips jewelry channels. (Jewelry smaller, I told myself. It won't take up as much room.) I have so much that it is physically in the way of me enjoying other pastimes like art and sewing. I'm constantly thinking I should be listing and selling and put off the other stuff, then don't get anything done. I'm at the stage now that I fantasize about just re-donating much of it just to make room. I've gotten as far as putting some stuff in boxes. The boxes have made it out to the porch. Some even made it into the back of the car but I had to move them out to put tires in when I got my snow tires put on. Is this progress?
Again, I commend you on your courage to talk about this. I found it really hard to even write about this in relative obscurity. It's now almost a year since you posted this. I hope you are doing well and feel good about this past year. I already was subscribed but will be reading more of your posts as I journey toward a healthier mindset re: this.
My arms are wrapped around you all the way from Australia.i watch you every time you post and you make my life so much happier. So thank you for being you and thankyou for your truths I know that must of been so hard. Life is a struggle but knowing you have arms wrapped round you may help we love you princess cassarole❤️
Thank you so much ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story and being so vulnerable. It is so true for many folks but most are afraid to say anything. I admire your honesty.
I feel the need to comment again, I HATE the word hoarder!! Just because you want to keep your possesions does not mean you are a hoarder, and what is wrong with keeping things you love? I have multiple interests, I am an artist and love art, art pottery art glass and painting and making jewelry etc so have a lot of art supplys and art. I am an avid reader and have many books , i keep any related to my interests to use as reference, i give all novels away after reading though. I am an avid gardner and have a lot of houseplants and books about them and intend to keep them. I collect and sell jewelry, i keep what I love but most is for sale, some jewelry has monetary value and to me keeping it is like money in the bank. I also collect sea shells and gemstones, rocks , geodes etc. but it is not out of control. I consider myself a collector and hobbyist, I have yard sales in summer and donate to thrift stores frequently. One thing I hate is for people to tell me to get rid of my magazines, certain ones I refer back to frequently such as HGTV, I get a lot of creative ideas from them. And some of my favorite mags cost $13.00 and i should just throw away?? my mother also showed love by giving gifts but she used it as a tool to get us kids to do chores, always a price so it made me have trouble accepting gifts from people. And no amount of thank you is enough for my mother!! I dont think you are a hoarder, I think you are a very creative person who just needs a better organizing system. Also try doing utube videos of thrift store jewelry purchases of say 5 to ten items and stop buying jewelry jars and boxes, they leave you with way too much jewelry that you dont know what to do with!! Or you could try selling the contents of each box immediately after you do your videos, that way you wont accumulate so much. you are a beautiful creative person NOT a hoarder and you will be ok.
Thank you ❤️
We have all struggled. I love that you are kind to yourself and the journey that has made you who you are. Continue to love yourself for who you are while visualizing who you want to be, the mom of a family that eats at a dining room table. You can do this!
I admire your honesty and courage. Sharing it is even more brave. I hope you find your happy middle.
You are so brave to come out and voicing your addiction/hoarding. It answered some thoughts I have had, for which I will not reveal here. I appreciate you coming forward with your story. My daughter has been telling me for awhile now that I am hoarding jewelry and other stuff (clothes) and I guess I’ve been in denial. I have so much jewelry that has not ever been listed. I can only bring myself to sell the lower grade or cheap jewelry. I find myself holding onto the sterling and gold pieces for dear life so to speak, when I know I could make good money from it. I just can’t bring myself to do it. You’ve inspired me to take steps in dealing with my own hoarding/shopping addiction. Thank you.
Oh I know exactly how you feel! I hold on to all the “good stuff” too. Lord knows why it’s not even all my style! We’ll figure it out, I hope.
You are on your way to clearing that table first. A section at a time. I can truly identify with you.Thank you for sharing this and I hope you share your PROGRESS also.
You are definitely not alone. I too also shop way way too much and just today gave 9bags to my op shop!! Some clothes still
Had the brand new tags on it. You feels so guilty, but now I have had a clean out I am going to try this year as well to do better.
You are a special and wonderful person, but we out here love you and your Haus!! Take care xx Janet from Oz
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us
Omg this is me! Thankyou for sharing. I listened to every word you said and i thought oh god this is me too...
I don't know what to say, you are just amazng!! I so spreciate you sharing! I'm right there with you! 🤗❤
You’re definitely not alone kiddo! I do the same thing... I buy, buy, and buy! I run out of money and catch myself whining to my kids because I can’t afford groceries or this or that! I don’t know what the answer is... it’s eluded me for a long time. I feel you struggle and I understand what you go through. My dining room table is the same way. I found myself just tonight shoving things in a pile so I could set down to eat. The struggle is REAL... Good luck on your journey.♥️♥️
Hi I found you through Dawn and watched a video of you
showing your wonderful finds. Anyway you are not alone and i’ve turned to thrifting to forget what was going on in my life. I did resell most but ended up having too much inventory of clothing and ended up dropping them off at goodwill. I’m a crafter and always feel like in need to save that item to repurpose it in some way. it’s a cycle i struggle with and i also collect jewelry and a singer at weddings i feel i’m justifying my purchases. lol ❤thanks for sharing. You are not alone!
You are not alone! I am learning to process my pain, and cleaning my house is helping me. I am giving my stuff back to some Stores where I got it. Doing this, makes me feel a little better. But, I have to continue taking away, and it is cleaning my mind at the same time I am giving away my stuff. Those things are not important anymore.
Hi Carla! You are so beautiful in and out. I love your videos!! I love stuff also especially jewelry and thrift stores lol! I too cant rid of things but Ive put limits on my shopping and hoarding now but i still do buy (baby steps lol). If i buy i try to get rid of something. Ive realized that i can enjoy my “things” while im alive!!! I have no guilt over that concept.
I’m very happy for you that you get over your stress and move on your life. Good luck!
Thank you for sharing. Everything you talked about resonates with me. Good to know we are not alone.
Nice finaly meeting you! Greetings from Romania Love your videous,and admire your work
Thank you for sharing!!! You are a wonderful person. I have a hard time getting out of the house and you have been a blessing!!! Thank you for joining me when I'm lonely. Being my RUclips friend I hope that's not crazy. Stay strong stay beautiful
Of course it’s not crazy! You all have kept me sane and company too ❤️
I laugh with you almost everyday. I so enjoy your personality!!!!!
My goodness Carla💜I’ve wiped few tears during your brave monologue and want to reach out and give you hugest hug ! You are so kind with great interpersonal skills, smart and knowledgeable, funny and companionable, and so much more ! Here is me ,,,,, My guest room in the house ( Netherworlds) is my stash/ hoarder / collection heaven . I created few rules for myself : one visit to thrift store and one to vintage/antique market per week, spending price ranch per item 0,25 - 5,00 € , purchase things that I loved/ unique/ never seen or owned before, go out for lunch or dinner to enjoy the experience! I’ve been given away with pleasure my thrifted goodies as a presents to my family and friends . I’ve donated lots of clothing, jewelry for crafts to the refuge center ( makes me happy) ....
I’ve been trying to more do the only buy things I’ve never seen thing, or start buying less more quality items.
@@PrincessCasserole Enjoy ! We have social leather and expected to climbed collectively! When we do something extraordinary then immediately it’s become taboo! Social customs Restricting us from enjoying our life journey. Do what makes you happy without dealing guilty ! My friend is losing her battle to the cancer ... she wished that she live her life the way she wants to , not the way it’s expected from society. Sending you beautiful blessings and exuberant joy 💜
Oh my partner in crime for lack of a better term. I've got the same problem. I work at Goodwill and I just have to walk through the store before I leave work. Always trying to find that bargain. My car is full and my room is full too. It's so hard for me to pass up something that is under priced. In my life I grew up poor and never really had a lot of things. Then in my adult life I've had to start over many times with just a suit case. I had lost everything I had. So now I hoard. I know the pain and shame. You are not alone and you are extremely brave to share your stuggles. I wish you the best in your struggle. I guess they say baby steps. I'll be right along side of you taking those baby steps too. Much Love and sucess.💖
Your story resonates with me and many other people thank you for sharing. I've struggled with many forms of addiction my entire life and finally found a way to deal with it that works for me. I just keep trading up. I've traded one for another for another each one being replaced with a somewhat healthier addiction until I'm finally left with one. My only vice now is Red Bull.
I just recently found you...now today I respect, understand and feel for you. When covid gets under control, have a friend come in and gently help you. I mean a real, genuine , caring friend. Funny story...I too am/was addicted to shopping. Now I am retired, and due to my years and years of shopping (credit cards) I needed a part time job to get me through my months expenses. Well, being older, it was hard to find a job that suited me and my needs (I recently had open heart surgery). Guess who hired me? Goodwill!!! LOL. Good and bad right? Covid forced me to quit, but I am 90% sure I will be rehired when it’s safe for me to return. When I go back, I plan on donating a lot of the stuff that’s still in goodwill bags in my craft room! Yikes! What a mess I am, but there’s still hope because I am still alive. Hang in there. Go easy on yourself, but keep going forward even if it’s at a snails pace. Just keep going forward! Best wishes!
Thank you! Please stay safe!
I was wondering where you kept everything. Now I know. I’m so sorry you are struggling. 💐
Lol yes I keep it EVERYWHERE!
I admire you for being so honest and brave, you will meet this challenge head on and conquer it xoxo 😘
You are so brave!!! To share the problem - to start solving it! You are very open, positive and sincere!!! If you fight - you overcome! From Ukraine with love ❤️!
I’m right there with you. I got too much stuff and it’s now time to let go. Your message actually came right on time for me. I know it’s hard because I like to shop also.After this video I’m gonna start packing up stuff for Goodwill. Thank you and be blessed girlfriend.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️. I have a very similar problem but a little different. It does give me a high and helps with my depression and anxiety
When I shop. I end up spending money that I shouldn’t. But I usually don’t have a problem getting I’d of stuff because I want to have room for my new stuff! My family was very dysfunctional as well. My dad was the spender 🥺. It defines and can be a learned behavior. I wish for you peace and happiness. Lots of love and a hug, Tina. ❤️
Hi, im New at your Chanel, love it when you emty the jar, dont worrie im the same page is you, but I learn little by little to bring stuff to the goodwill, my table was full of stuff, untill i decide to buy just less things, every one has something is dealing whith,you are not alone, thank you for opening your heart
Beautifully said, honest, and something we all need to hear. 💖
Thank you for this. I, too, struggle with shopping and hoarding, and I watch "Hoarders" too. I am really trying to stop, and it's so hard.
Thank you, this made me cry. God bless Carla.x
Hi Carla !! I've been a mostly silent watcher of your videos for a long time. I always give a thumbs up but rarely comment. This video touched me deeply and made me feel like I was not alone, just as you said. You are definitely not alone ... big hugs !! I'll share one of the things I've done with my jewelry hoard which could be applied to any hoard ( purses, books, anything ) I would gather all my brooches for instance, then I would choose a number that was reasonable (to me) ... it might be 10 or it might be 200. Then I would pick out my 10 or 200 brooches that I loved the most and organize them in a way that I could enjoy them more often. The rest I would sell individually or in lots or give to someone I knew would love them or donate them. Whenever I would purchase another brooch, I would have to exchange it for one that was already in my collection. This kept me from building my hoard but also allowed me to keep buying the real treasures I found. I hope this might be of help in a small way : )
Thank you for sharing your story. It really touched my heart. I too have the same addiction and it started 3 years ago when I retired from a very stressful Telecom sales position. I didn’t quite know what to do with myself as it was the first time since I was 16 that I hadn’t worked and made $$$. Always enjoyed thrift stores just never had the time until I retired. I also struggle with ADD so I love the thrill of the hunt but absolutely HATE the work of listing so I too am now a hoarder. I am in a great marriage and my husband is very patient but he’s even starting to get aggravated with the clutter upstairs. Nice to know that I am not alone.
You are not alone ♥️ I have had a love for jewelry as long as I can remember and thrifting. My dining table is currently covered with the items from the jars I opened last night. I too craft and made jewelry but am a bit overwhelmed with all that I have. My intention was to sell, but went back to work and just can’t find the time. Thank for your honesty and sharing!!
Exactly! I work full time and am exhausted at the end of the end of the day.
You are a good soul.Just happened upon this video.Since Covid I discovered dolls and costume jewelry on EBAY.I already have a cluttered house but I am backing off slowly from buying after realizing I have a secondhand deal thrill problem.I totally can relate to your honest video and Thank You and Blessings to you and your family.🌌
I can relate. I’m still pretty terrible but trying.
Thank you for sharing.....you are loved!
Thank you for sharing, you are so courageous! My stuff also brings me joy. I do try to donate or (If an item is in bad condition get rid of it) each time I purchase something new. It's difficult but it can help ease the overload. Something in-something out so to say.
Lol that’s what my husband has tried me with. I’m trying!
Dear Carla
Your a brave soul ❤️
To come out and admit your addiction is a step forward and to me that says your courageous and ready to move forward 😊
I believe all things are possible
one day at a time
Step by step you can do it I know you can 😊
I have faith you can over come anything in life that’s a burden or holding you captive 🙏
I pray you’ll know where to start and what to do Carla ❤️🙏❤️
I wish you the very best on your journey too freedom ❤️
Take care
Sincerely
Brenda
Thank you!
I use watching jewelry videos and making them as a therapy for my depression I suffer from chronic pain so the depression gets bad, I have a hoarding problem too. I can’t get my house the way I wish it was so when I can my hubby buys me a jar if he can find one it helps but then I’ve got more wonderful stuff to find a place for which I can’t You’re not alone thank you for your honesty I appreciate you much more then I already did…big hugs to you, Tina