OUR BIRTH STORY | 36hr *at home* labor & delivery
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Let this video be a message to any expecting couples to take a birth class. Go the extra mile to educate yourselves. It's not enough to just have a doula and I myself am a doula. Your doula should not have stayed to help you induce labour at 1cm dilated, that was extremely non-productive. Look up prodromal labour and all the ways you can AVOID it. Let go of when you think you'll have the baby and dates and inducing labour. I know you are so so excited to meet your baby but birth trauma is very easy to come by and I promise you would rather be pregnant for a few extra days opposed to suffering from the trauma of forcing them to come on YOUR timeline. Your body will go into labour when it's ready. Unless you are in active labour (6 or more cms) REST! The emotional pain you are seeing them go through is because of their unrealistic expectations with regards to labour and birth. Ignorance is not bliss.
Not to tell anyone to take birth classes or discourage them to do so but even though my husband and I took birth classes and were very diligent in preparing it for a labour when it had started we were complete ly lost 😅. I forgot everything at once but survived and a birth of our precious child wiped away all “bad” labour memories 😊
@@anitaklara7428it’s also important to recognize that not all classes are equal. You should search diligently and not just take a hospital class as it pertains to that hospital and there procedures typically and they do little to educate you on coping mechanisms, stations, movements etc. you should search out for reviews and positive experiences
Crying happy tears for you ❤ My first baby Micah was an attempted home birth. I laboured for about 17 hours at home. I fought SO hard to get him out. I totally believed God had led me to a home birth. I pushed for like 3 hours but he wasn’t coming out. He went into distress and we transferred to hospital where he was vacuum extracted. He was posterior 10 pound 5 and I am not big! It was such a mix of grief and a miracle that I didn’t have a C section which I’m sure may have happened if I hadn’t fought so hard at home. I went on to have two more hospital births - 9-10 pound babies, but my 3rd son’s birth was incredibly healing. God led me through every labour. I needed to let go of some of my ideals though and let life be messy.
Let life be messy ❤ I felt that
Wow, Tori there is so much to say but the biggest thing I want to tell you is just to be so proud of yourself. I know that sounds weird as a Christian because obviously we know GOD DID THAT but you chose not to transfer, in the most intense pain ever, you stuck it out. What a way to step into motherhood - not compromising and not giving up. Knowing what’s best for your child (because he was so calm and relaxed in there!) and following through even though it hurt you. In these crazy difficult hours (days!) a mother was born!!! What a story ❤
I’m weeping right now! Thank you for sharing your story so authentically! At the end when Chad shared the picture he has of Jesus so present was a sweet gift to me! A reminder that Jesus IS with and doesn’t get angry when we come to Him asking where He is, He’s actually so joyful to show us He was there all along! It reminds me of the song “Show me where you were” by Laney Rene! Beautiful story, Jesus is so sweet & shining through even what seems like maybe some darkness! Love y’all and so grateful for you to share with us!❤️
Y’all’s story is amazing!!! I am so happy that I found this channel. Your heart for the Lord is incredible. Baby Micah is in incredible hands. Much love and God bless y’all’s little family✝️🫶🏼✝️
Thank you for your vulnerability and your story. I feel like your choice to be real is honored here. During your questioning of where was God I kept thinking of the line from the footprints poem "It was then that I carried you." I hope that doesn't come across hollow. One of my good friends is due in the next three weeks with their first child. It is such a blessing to hear both of you talk and to gather such a full perspective of the birthing process. I feel like I can support her better now. Thank you.
I cried right with you. Congratulations a thousand times for this job so well done, Tori. And congratulations to you too, Chad, for being there for your wife and son no matter what.
Hello Chad and Tori, thank you for sharing this with us! I Love y'all!!!!
I almost thought you were going to end up going to the hospital! I was breaking down in dissappoinment putting myself in your shoes.Its also my dream to birth at home and to not be able to would be devastating for me. God is so good though! We should worship him him regardless of the circumstances and I love that this portrayed that for you guys❤ It is a testimony of our faith and a reminder to keep trusting in God almighty
😭😭😭 oh my heck all the emotions!!! 🤍🤍🤍🙌🏼🙏🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing. As a woman who hopes to be a mother sometime in the near future. I really appreciated such a raw, honest and vulnerable video. 💕
I have a question: what helped you mentally when it came to the pain like, what were you thinking?
Beautiful thank you so much for sharing! ❤️
I felt that moment where your whole body froze up and stopped contracting. Wow, Tori! Strong mama (and dad!) You did it! Thank you for sharing your story ❤❤
Let this be a lesson to all mommas not to “Chase labor”, the best thing you can do for yourself in early labor is pretend like it isn’t happening and REST. I 100% understand wanting baby out ASAP, but we can’t fight against our bodies, we have the sit back and let it do it’s thing.
Soooo happy for you Tori that baby was a champ the entire time and you were still able to birth at home, regardless of the incredibly intense and long labor 💙
Exactly! Louder for the people in the back!!
Well once your waters break, you are open to infection and/or a prolapse cord so the best place to be after membrane rupture is in the hospital, not at home.
This has the Lord written all over it. Leave it to God to turn your birth story into a testimony that will inspire so many. Love you guys. I'm honored to witness what you guys go through and pray alongside you. Tori and Chad your strength, trust and vulnerability when it comes to God is truly a gift to me❤️ the Mastersfam loves sweet baby Micah🥹
I finally read a nice comment.
Thank you Lord.
And thank YOU for not calling her ignorant.
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Chad crying in private had me bawling 😭 this was so raw and honest you guys :( proud of you and look up to you guys so much. Micah is so beautiful 💙
Oh my! No disrespect but for someone who attempted a home birth you sound very uneducated about the topic. Anyone who gives birth at home or in the hospital needs to do lots and lots of research. This isn’t a thing where you can just “go with the flow.” Birth is beautiful and feeling empowered only comes from educating yourself
I had my baby 5 weeks ago ♥️ my active labor was 19 hours (although I also was in pre-labor for days also…) it was intense, emotional, painful, exhilarating, and miraculous… 😭♥️🙏🏻
Now that I have experienced birth, I can’t imagine women have been doing this forever and we have not been kissing the ground they walk on! My mom had 4 kids naturally, I wish I could go back in time and rub her feet more, help her more, etc. Moms are SUPER HEROES 😭🤍
That was such a beautiful story! It's obviously awful how much pain Tori experienced, but the whole story is so beautiful because it's your story, it's so raw and God was in it the whole time ❤️
This is exactly what life is. Life is so beautiful despite all of the pain we experience. It's unique, raw and personal for everyone and God is in it with everyone and doing something for each of us in it 🤍🙏🏼
Proud of you guys! ❤️
What Chad said about the answer, the image, God gave him made me tear up so much. The husbands role in the house hold means so much ♡
I've actually been searching for a comment that mentions the image. Do you know what he meant by that? Did he receive the image from someone? Or was it something he visualised?
@@amandadsouza6766 I think Chad was saying that God "gave" him an image. He means that he pictured this image in his mind as a response to his question to God. :) I hope that makes sense? It may be difficult to understand if you haven't experienced it but when you have thoughts or pictures in your mind that don't seem to come from yourself, sometimes you just know they're from God.
He recieved the image from God... it was the answer to his question that God allowed him to visualize.
@@loznoz6936 ohhh okay tysmmm. I hadn’t heard him probably so I was confused
@@amandadsouza6766 all good! Good question :)
Oh friend! Your labor is never in vain! Even in the hospital. Even at home. Even if things don’t go the way you thought! God is in it & He is good. So thankful for Micah’s safe arrival 🌼🌼🌼
AMEN to that my friend
@@ToriAndChad Congratulations!!!!! Baby Micah is so beautiful!!!!
@@ToriAndChad Tori where did you get your dress? It looks adorable!
Wow, I don’t think I’ve ever CRIED from a birth video but this one wrecked me. When he comes and you see the joy on Tori and Chad’s face. Wow🥹
Congratulations! Micah is beautiful! So thankful for his safe delivery! Your birth story is beautiful! Scary at times to listen, surely your faith has increased as the Lord uses All to show his Faithfulness.Praise the Lord for your sweet family 🙏🙏🙏Great job Momma!
Jesus was definitely there for all three of you every second of that labor - giving Tori strength to keep persevering, providing Chad with comfort to extend to Tori, and in the womb with Micah keeping him at peace all throughout the chaos happening externally. Thank you so so much for sharing. This was an incredibly beautiful messy masterpiece of a story. It’s my first time being so invested in a couple’s relationship, marriage, first pregnancy, labor, and parenting journey, and this video’s definitely my favorite so far. There’s really no other proper response but praise to God for you guys. 💖
Birth is all mental. Yes, physical too, but it’s a dance with your mental state. If you are not mentally calm, flowing with your body and baby, your body won’t continue to dance with you. You enter a state of mind that stops progression because you’re in fight or flight. It’s so hard, but the mental preparation you need to do before a natural birth is CRUCIAL. No expectations, just flowing with your body and baby. If you have any doubts or discouragement, your body knows that, and won’t keep going to keep you in a safe state.
I feel for you mama, I’ve had 3 babies. 2 home births AFTER C-section of my first. This is why so many mamas who choose home birth don’t allow for dial action checks. It messes with your mental state, can discourage you, and will inhibit your body and baby from working together leading to more intervention.
Agreed, I went into it with an open mind and knew very well it wasn’t going to be fun. Unfortunately, I had preeclampsia so I had to be on magnesium that made me feel like i had flu from hell on top of labor. Despite all that i trusted the professionals and followed their instructions for the safety of myself and my baby. I wasn’t crying about not having my dream labor no such thing, the only important thing is getting the mom and baby through it safely. I also had great insurance so I wasn’t worried about the financial aspect of it I can’t imagine not having insurance and having to have a baby at home.
Clicked on this so fast. Been praying for God to guide yall with this video.
thank you for your prayers...
1. First off you guys look so beautiful in blue!! 💙
2. What a sign of God that it started exactly at midnight!
3. I’m so sorry it was so painful!
4. When Chad cried as he took a moment to himself at 21:00 mins my heart really 💔 as much the actual pain and giving birth can be so hard on the women, as a father being a bystander and feeling helpless as you watch your wife going through so much pain must be so difficult!!
5. As you said the transition of pain to instant joy was wild to see!
6. Chad when you were talking about the connection to Micah, seeing who “you’re supposed to love” unintentionally causing harm to “the one you know you love” that was *deep*
7. The image of that you received from God when you asked him where he was 😭😭😭
8. Presenting Micah as a gift 🎁 - so so sweet!!!!
Tori huge props to you again for giving birth, you did so good!!!
God bless you both ~ Marie xx
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Labor and delivery nurse here and crying at the ending. It’s so true! Every birth! It’s incredible
One question I‘m asking myself when you say you didn’t know all of those things: is there no birth preparation class or anything offered by the midwife’s helping you with your homebirth? I‘m from another country and those to things go hand in hand here so I was wondering the whole time!
I have been offered classes here in America all three times that I have had unmedicated births at home and in hospitals.
Absolutely! It's common for hospital birth, but how did their midwife agree to take them is beyond me. No knowledge of birth.. desire to control every step...
@@culturallydifferent how would midwives take anyone then? There is no way to learn to give up control until you've experienced birth without an epidural. I read a million books before giving birth but the only real way to learn is to do it. You get better every time but the first time is a rough learning experience.
@@kaelatwede155 learning to stop controlling every step is a hard skill to master, I agree. What I meant though, is lack of very basic knowledge of birth. My midwife would pass such people at her screening session. There should be much more to a decision of giving birth at home that fear/dislike of hospitals or fashion.
@@culturallydifferent makes sense. There are definitely some gaps in knowledge here.
I can’t imagine how difficult it must have been to relive and share this experience, but am so so glad that in doing so God’s presence was made clear in so many ways. Thank you for being so vulnerable throughout this journey - sending the three of you all the love!🫶
As a home birth Doula I want to say how grateful I am for you sharing your story. You advocated for yourself to continue your labor at home, the strength in those decisions speaks volumes. As a mama of four, with a wide spectrum of birth stories I completely feel your postpartum pain. I'm three years out from my last home birth and I'm just now at a place to talk about it openly. Thank you for sharing.
All fine n dandy to commend "advocating" 4 urself whn everything turns out fine i the end. But if it hadn't the couple is 1st to be blaming everyone except themselves 4 the terrible outcome.
Gah I am so so sorry your experience was so mentally and physically testing and exhausting! Of course nothing specific could have changed the way your body progressed through birth, but from hearing your story it seems like maybe you and Chad were not aware of a lot of the variables of birth (especially a first birth). NOT AT ALL TRYING TO BE RUDE, just thinking that a lot of the frustration could've been lessened if you both knew ahead of time the likelihood of delivering on that same day as your water breaking, or just in general how long some normal first births can take etc could have set you guys up for more realistic expectations? Of course in the moment you cannot reason with your mind, but in the weeks leading up you may have been able to become more open to how everything would go. So glad that you were all safe!
Such beauty in this story. Man I felt this to my core! Having been there myself. As our babies are being born, so are the mothers in us. Only the work of the Holy Spirit to sustain you through that many hours. Hallelujah. Nothing but strength written all over this story to both you and Chad. Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤
You had Micha exactly 3 hours after I had my daughter so I was laboring with you Tori! To think that God had his hand on both of us at the same time is amazing. And I’m so happy for your little family and all you went through is so powerful what a story❤God bless you all
While hearing Tori speak during the video, i learned so much and i have so much respect for you Tori and for Chad as well. Thank you for this upload ✨
thank you for your vulnerability chad and tori.... so proud of you both!
"He's with us in our pain. It's not always deliverance from it, but it's faith and comfort inside of it" -Chad. This is such a deeply-moving and profound story of God's faithfulness, steadfast presence, and redemption. Thank you two for sharing your hearts with us, and praise be to God for the wonders of His gift, for His unceasing kindness & His sweet friendship with us--in the highs & in the lows.
I loved that so so good ❤️🙌🏾
First time mamas can be quite naive 😅😅😅 I'd advise anyone wanting a home birth to have a hospital bag ready and a plan for emergencies... you just never know!
Chad's reaction to Tori's pain and the baby's part in that is very interesting. When my ex-wife was giving birth, my overwhelming feeling about the whole things was personal guilt. I felt like I had inflicted that pain on her, not the baby, which as I think about it is kind of weird, I guess. But I never felt like it had anything to do with the baby, but it was all me that caused this "problem" and inflicted the pain. I have never really sat down and thought about this until Chad described his feelings, so thank you Chad, for taking the time to explain that. It really helped me come to terms with something that's bothered me for almost 40 years now. You both are such a blessing to me personally!
My husband actually struggles with this a lot. He still does so just know you aren’t alone.
@@KatieRingley Thank you! I needed to hear that.
Watching this triggered my birth story. I felt your story. I had a due date a week after yours. But at 37 weeks I started “contracting” felt more like period pains. I just thought the whole time I was cramping. I started bleeding and it turned out I had placental abruption. So I was admitted to the hospital that day. It was the roughest experience I’ve ever had. We stay at the hospital for over 3-4 days because I wasn’t dilating fast enough. I eventually went from 6cm to 10cm in an hour and although I had epidural twice, it did not work. It kept wearing off. By the time of pushing I had the weirdest pain on my hips. And every time I contracted that pain would hurt more. And I would have to push through the pain which made it worst. Took 2 hours of pain and dehydration to get my baby boy out. Once baby was out, my hormones were so out of whack. I was so apathetic and sleep deprived. I didn’t want to do anything but sleep. I couldn’t, I had to care for my newborn and get interrupted by nurses every hour. I did not feel better until 2 month postpartum. Thank you for sharing your story because I feel like not enough people talk about the rough side of birth.
All natural birth mamas relating to this story right now, whether labour was a few hours or days. It IS a pain that you forget but also a pain that you'll always remember. God is amazing.
You guys thank you for being this vulnerable and open with all us, i'm so happy to see how God is always there with you three, sending so much love to the three of you ❤❤❤
awe, thank you for watching....
woow. Tori all i could think towards the end was “you are your Father’s daughter”, and i mean the way you endured just put the picture of the walk to the Cross in my mind and how He stayed faithful… i know it might be an overexaggeration but honestly felt this so much because i just thought how proud He is of you🥹 Also the processing of the story when Chad said “i finally had THE GUTS to ask Jesus about this” is exactly the only right way my therapist told me i could heal after decades of trauma..it takes courage and it takes being willing to hear Him answer. Just love this story! It has so much beauty in it 💛
This is beautiful, you are exactly right✝️
Thank you guys so much for sharing your story and allowing God to use you. I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my first baby and have been selfishly hoping I would get to hear your story before my own birth. I’m also planning a natural birth, but at the hospital. And I’m so thankful to be reminded that there is no promise that things will be how WE want or envision them. But there is a promise from a perfect Father that whatever the story, His plan is sovereign and He is with us always. Love you guys 💙
I had my baby on February 12th, this year. And I understand perfectly what you guys are talking about in this video, me and my husband talk a lot about how hard it was for him to be there and felt helpless, we as women go through a lot of pain during labor and delivery but the mental challenge that takes from your husband to watch you in such a vulnerable situation should not be take for granted. It’s hard for both.
May God bless your family 🙏♥️
My big question for you both: for your next birth, do you think you’ll plan to do another home birth? Or do you think you’ll try a hospital birth because of how difficult this one was?
Wondering the same 😬😬😬
I hope you both can remember this birth with love and peace.
I think you had so big expectations and hadn’t in mind other options and times. Babys come when they want. In the early labor you have to act like you aren’t in labor because it can last several hours. I think maybe you needed more preparation for a natural labor so you could understand better some situations.
That a labor isn’t going as fast and easy like you want didn’t mean God isn’t with you. He was with you all the time.
I’m grateful all finished well and I hope you both can accept and embrace this labor because it was normal and natural. Women’s body’s are so prepared for it that we can’t understand it. Who doesn’t is prepared for this type of labor’s is the society
It’s almost like you were holding on to your preferred birth experience and preferred birth date as some kind of idol instead of giving it up to God?
A lot of women do that nowadays, but I will say that midwife was being way too pushy.
If her temperature was fine and the babies heart rate was stable there’s not a reason to go to the hospital when the babies heart beat is stable, and the mother has no fever,
if the mother has a fever that means the baby has a fever which is quite bad, but she didn’t.
Yes, the infection risk goes up the longer you’re in labor after your water breaks, but unless you’re showing signs of an infection like having a fever, you don’t need to go to the hospital she was progressing having contractions until they told her about a transfer, the babies heart rate stayed stable throughout the whole process from what they’ve said, so the Midwives shouldn’t have even mentioned it to her from the beginning and come in with a totally different attitude but I have a feeling these were
nurse midwives and they are trained to be on the cautious side of things for insurance purposes, because a lot of different stuff can go wrong, but you really have to trust the process of birth it can be a long and arduous process but as long as she and the baby were showing no signs of distress, it’s ok to labor at home.
@@bellefaith1627 have you even watched the video? She didn’t go to the hospital.
Oh guys. I couldn't even look at my birth photos for over a year. You are doing so well. You are so brave. Even this seems like a long wait to share, it really wasn't.
Aww balling 😭🥹 firstly ME with my first labour, not knowing what to expect and being utterly shocked at how excruciating it was 🥲 arnt women’s body’s incredible?! Secondly, Love watching you guys. I have 4 kids and it’s so hard for me to make sure I’m spending time with God but your videos honestly feel like a God sent. They make my day and I always end them feeling closer to him. Thankyou ❤
Chad, that picture God gave you is so important- that He is with us in the toughest hardships- even if we don't realize it in the moment. Tori, you are so strong and God truly gave you what you needed to make it through labour and delivery. It was so precious to see the joy on your face the second you got to hold sweet Micah. Thank you for sharing this story with us.
Thanks for sharing your story ❤️ our birth stories are very similar. It took me 12 hours to dilate from a 7 to a 10 and it was the hardest work I have ever done. Currently pregnant with our second and praying over our birth every day.
Haha ‘it was not cute’ (about 5 mins in)… guess that’s why you are meant to be married before this lol he’s locked in by the time he sees this level of realness 🤪
I feel like Jesus was with you in your boldness and wisdom as well. Many women don’t have the courage to advocate for themselves whether in the hospital or at home. Tori, you asked the PERFECT questions at the right times and kept the faith.
I know God called me to have a homebirth (it wasn’t only a desire, it was an act of obedience), and when my midwife talked about going to the hospital at a certain point, I just knew it wasn’t an option.
God made sure (as difficult as it was) that I could deliver my baby boy at home and that we were all safe. Glad He did the same for you. ❤
Wow, this is literally such a beautiful story. Through all the pain, it was so beautiful to hear the delivering!!! Praise Jesus for safe birth!! 🤍
The first birth of our daughter did not go as I had planned, imagined, dreamed or wished but God is faithful. We just had to put our long faithful unconditional friend down (our dog Panda🐕 ) one of the hardest things we had to do. He was suffering so much and we prayed and prayed and asked God to help him so he could stop having seizures. We felt lost and defeated and it effected our faith but really actually grew our faith 🙏 🙌 We are not in control and we can't expect to have God move the way that WE want him to move. He is all knowing and his ways are greater than ours. So happy to see this season of life you two are in may the Lord richly bless your family
So teary eyed watching this. To share your story with the world is vulnerable and will help so many of us in the future. Your story is beautiful, your process is beautiful!
This sounds like a pretty standard home birth. I’m trying to figure out what was traumatic? Did I miss it?
You didn't miss anything. They had really high unrealistic expectations that weren't met. My Midwife said to me most women who walk away struggling where nothing actually went wrong it's because they had all these expectations around birth.
I have had three unmedicated births and I would say the reason she struggles so much was because of her lack of resting before her labor. That makes a huge, huge difference. It does sound like a pretty standard home birth.
Just bc you don’t see it as traumatic doesn’t mean it wasn’t for them just saying 🤷♀️
@Angela Rust by that argument, anything we perceive as traumatic could be. My drive to work could be traumatic because I was in heavy traffic. What meaning does that word have if we label every hard thing "traumatic"?
Isn't be that standard everyone entitled to label their births as traumatic?
I don’t understand why people willingly put themselves through the trauma of home births lol just go to the hospital and get a dang epidural like everyone else does
Centimetres have nothing to do with pushing though. Lots of people go from a 7 to pushing in a matter of minutes. I think that’s why people don’t get checked because if you don’t progress it goes against you mentally. I wish they hadn’t shared that you were “so close” multiple times. That’s so unfair.
Micah choose his own birthday😅. I think all who attempt a home birth are really brave… I think being close to where one can reach for a epidural if need be is an easier opinion for me😅.
Congratulations of the birth of your beautiful son and great job to you both👌🥳
Just want to say that no labor is in vain. Everything you do for your child is amazing, no matter how they end up coming into this world.
He went through the pains of the cross, because of the joy which was before him ❤️ Hebrews 12,2
God gave me this verse to understand all of the pain a couple feels when a Baby is born. The joy which is before us makes us endure the pain. Like Jesus endured the pain because he is looking forward to have us with him in eternity 💫
God is so good.🥰
This sounds so similar to my labour! I had my baby girl 6 weeks ago and it was 36 hours of extremely slow progression and just about had to do a c-section as my water broke early on. I relate to this so much. But God is so good and brought me closer to him and my husband through this whole experience and we have the healthiest little girl. God bless you all, thank you for sharing your story ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing 🥰 we know you’re both so strong and empowered by god through everything ❤ can’t wait to watch
awe thank you ! all glory to Him
Literally almost cried seeing the footage of the first hug with sweet Micah. Joyful with you ❤❤❤
I had my son a week ago and also experienced premature membrane rupture. My water broke Friday morning, contractions didn’t start until Sunday and I had him at home on Sunday afternoon. We were planning a home water birth but active labour came so hard and fast he was born on our bed in 5 pushes! My midwives barely made it. It was the worst physical pain of life but wow the experience was life changing.
Congratulations 💙💙💙
Wow, what a story. So beautiful that you saw Gods redemption through it all. I know it’s cliche, but would you choose a home birth again?
God Bless you all. I’m in tears by the end thinking of my youngest baby’s natural birth, identical to yours. My midwife using her hands to help me get my baby out. What an unexplainable experience that we’ve both been through! You’re not alone 🤍 I wish we could chat and share stories because my birth story was so so so similar to yours. God is so good. Hugs 🤍🤍
Ignorance is not a blessing when it comes to birth.
Me remembering 'every victory has a valley ' while watching this🥺❤️
I’m so sorry that you both experienced so much pain and anguish through your birth. If your story taught me anything at all- it’s that we can make all the plans we want, but ultimately Gods timing and plan is perfect. I love the verse in Proverbs 16:9, “The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps.”
Sometimes in my life, I have all these ideas of what would be perfect and what I think should happen… but God has such a bigger plan in mind. We don’t always know what that is, but we can trust that He is good through it all.
Love you guys! Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing.
From death to life… I felt that one!!! The biggest grace in the world is too see Jesus in your birth story. I pray this for every believer mama🙏🏾
Glory be to GOD y’all💙
My first labor was very similar, almost 3 days labor, no pain killers, no epidural just trusting God.. only difference was I went to hospital. Still had him naturally. I needed so many stitches. I just had my second just over 20weeks ago and all I can say was did God just give me so much grace!! This time it was fast and very painful. Waters broke 6am had no contractions until 12ish lunchtime 1:40 was at the hospital 2:12pm she arrived. No stitches, no drugs, no epidural, just God with me. The grace He gave me and the peace. He is so faithful. My first experience was really rough even afterwards with depression and him waking up every 30-60mins for a good almost 2years. It all humbled me soooooo much, I had so much pride before and judgement on how other parents were. So now I had an awesome second experience, an easy baby who just sleeps all the time, no depression. I am grateful and thankful to God because if my first was as easy as this second I would have had so much pride. So all my suffering even after I had my first it was all to humble me so imagine the level of pride that I had if I suffered for almost 2-3 years.. God knows what we need and when He’s dealing with us oh we are going to suffer! But when you look back you just see His hand on you the WHOLE TIME!! Tori your second will be so much easier God is so good!!!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Wow! What a testimony of God’s faithfulness! Through your story God has clarified what He has been showing me today!
This morning (Sunday) I woke up with my voice completely gone. I am a singer on our worship team at my church so I kinda needed my voice today 🤪 not only that I had been struggling really bad with stomach issues the night before and I prayed and had faith that I would feel better in the morning.. that was not the case. Not gonna lie I was a bit upset with God. He knew that I needed to have my voice and why was I still having these stomach issues!
Instead of praying that God would heal me I then prayed the He would get me through. And boy was He FAITHFUL! I felt His presence so much! After I got off stage I just started bawling because I heard Him say. I didn’t promise a pain free life but I do promise to be there and get you through.
I know that my story is NOWHERE the pain you felt but it really gave me clarity.
Thank you for sharing! ❤
Your baby boy is adorable. When I had my son in a hospital the Dr. told me labor was not painful it was all in my head. Our son was born almost gone they had to do cpr on him. So sorry you were in labor so long. Your all0s baby is so cute.
11/11 & 11/12 still got to be a major part of your story. Maybe not in the way you thought it would.. but God. Having went through a traumatic delivery myself just recently (1/7), I completely understand the feelings of disappointment and being defeated but to think that something like this allows us to see God move in real time, real life, right along with us. Yes, He’s always moving.. but these are the moments that show us He is undeniably moving in the midst!!!!! Your story is beautiful and He gave it to you to tell to someone else that will need it in their moments of disappointment and feeling defeated. God bless all of you ❤
Oh my goodness, I literally cried, God took all the Glory after all you went through. God feels our pain even more than we feel it!
Wow you are a warrior mumma! The fact that you didn't take any type of medication for nausea and not even to get the edge off with the laughing gas. I know that wouldn't take pain away but it could fog your brain enough to push through... The last part where the midwife had to help your baby's head come out must've been so so painful. Thank God you all survived it ❤️.
Q. What would you do different on your next baby? Hospital vs home birth.
How long do you both want to space out your children God willing...
Chad, I really related when you said you finally had the courage to ask God about where he was during that labor and he painted a picture for you. I asked him the same thing one year after mine, and he also painted me a picture of where he was. Crazy that I asked the same question you did and he really answered 🫶🏻
I'd just like to say, as someone born on November 13, I think it's the cutest birthday 💖
Thanks for sharing this real and raw story. With all the questions in it... Because that's how God works. To grow your faith through this intense pain. Thanks so much!! I think you did not get the perfect, sweet birth to encourage all your followers (from all over the world!!) to know that He did not give us a easy trip, but once a safe homecoming.
For the q&a: what was the moment when you both had processed this birth? Did you realize something by reading scripture or?
Y’all are both so beautifully honest. Thank you so much for sharing.
😭 God bless you all. Thanks for sharing. Tori, I'm glad that you all are healthy and well. Did you have any tearing during delivery? Chad, I loved hearing about the picture that our Lord Jesus gave you. Yes, He surely IS always right here with us. I have learned that🙏. Micah, you are so beautiful. Blessings.
Wow what a vulnerable story to share. Thank you guys ❤ I have so many thoughts but one is to say I truly see God in this because it’s not a coincidence that you felt Labour coming exactly at 11:11 midnight. I think it was his wink to say I’m with you.
As a new mumma and Dr I think it’s so important for anyone who is expecting to really be informed about Labour even at a medical level because knowledge really is power. Of course knowledge doesn’t change the actual experience but the more you know, your expectations change and I think it makes the process different.
Thank you so much for sharing this ❤❤
This was one of the sweetest birth stories I’ve heard; I’m sorry for the pain and anguish you went through. You’re husband’s “picture/vision” from the Lord was such a blessing, thank you for sharing that! (I’ve had 3 home births myself, so I can relate to that desire of not wanting your labor and efforts to be in vain.)
Wow! Beautiful story! Our pastor was talking today about how God may or may not deliver us from the fire, but HE WILL BE THERE for us in the pain. Crying with your all at this beautiful birth story. Your story!
wow… I just randomly clicked on this video and you have no idea how much I needed to hear this. I have been sick for two years, bed-ridden for most of it. I have felt robbed of so much life… like so much has been stolen from me. I am still battling against this illness and have been so close to giving up. You never would think that a birth story would be able to speak into a situation like mine, but your story was like a mirror reflection of my inner world for these last two years. So much hope deferred. Thinking that the pain would be rewarded with progress only to find out that nothing has changed. The trauma of this last season has been so heavy and it has been so difficult to find God in the midst of it. But this video came at truly the most perfect time. Thank you for sharing this and for being so vulnerable about your experience. To see you now, after all of that pain and agony with a beautiful baby in your arms has given me the hope I needed to believe that that will one day be me. Free from this pain and, as Chad said, so enraptured by the beauty of the reward that you forget the former agony. God bless you guys 🤍
@Brianne Erman You are free from all pain and sickness in the Name of Jesus by the Power of the Holy Spirit. Amen 🙏
This comment section should be nothing but TORI YOU ARE AMAZING. I can't even imagine how hard that was.
I've had 3 (expecting our 4th) and can say, the strength you had was supernatural.
Beautiful story.❤️
Ohhh my wooord thank you for sharing this beautiful story!!! My husband and I are also trusting for an unmedicated birth, approaching 39 weeks and what I find myself wondering about is how much we have prayed over our birth plan and trying to find that balance between God's Will for our delivery and what we trusting for. Not wanting to be too disappointed over it if God's plans are different you know. It's so beautiful to hear how God carried you right through those 36hrs and gave you revelation and understanding at the end of it all. What a blessed testimony😭 God is soooo Gooood! Much love you to you guys🤍
Tori (and Chad), as you explained your birth story, my heart broke for you. I felt your pain of having gone through that, as I too went through almost identical to what you went through.
I had my boy just shy of 6 months ago and I am utterly shocked at just how similar our birth story is.
My water broke at midnight on 7th Sept 22. I knew it was my water, but calls later that morning with my Midwife resulted in me being told it wasn't my water. I spent the whole morning being told that if it is in fact my water, I am on a timeline. The stress of it, is horrible. I didn't want a hospital birth. I had chosen to have a natural birth at a birthing center - that was the plan. I spent the morning doing everything to get my labour established. Around midday, I started getting stronger contractions. I was so excited, but my MW was still unsure if it was my water that had leaked. Around 4pm, I entered active labour. My MW said its time to go to the center. I was excited to be avoiding the hospital. At the centre everything progressed nicely. Around 9pm I was checked and I was 8cm dilated. As much pain as I was in, I was so excited as I was told transition is the fastest stage and I should have my boy soon. I remember thinking that I will have him before midnight. At around 11pm I got checked again. I was still at 8cm and my cervix had become swollen. I was told I should consider a hospital transfer. My husband and I decided that it was the right choice for us, so we transferred. Upon examination at the hospital, my boy's head was still getting stuck on my cervix. So my MW did the exact same thing yours did. During each contraction, she would attempt to open my cervix and bring it around my son's head. This was excruciating - no pain meds either. You said you can't explain the pain - I know, it's something else. After being told time and time again he's almost here, I nearly gave up. At 3 am, my son finally made his appearance. During the whole labour, his heart rate was perfect. He too was unphased by my distress or his birthing. But just as he came down, his shoulder got stuck and he became distressed. I ended up getting an episiotomy. My boy was born not breathing. He was taken to the special care unit for babies. I didnt get to see him until a few hours later. He ended up doing well and we got to get him out of the special care unit after 1.5 days. We were stoked. He's all good and healthy now - a happy almost 6 month old!
At the time of the birth and every once in a while, I get sad thinking about my birth. I wanted a natural birth with no complications. I don't know what went wrong, but I am grateful the Lord kept my boy safe. I have finally come to terms with my birth. I have accepted that it wasn't what I wanted. But that doesn't matter anymore. The Lord gave me my boy, he is healthy and happy. I am blessed.
Praise the Lord for protecting our little boys. May He bless them abundantly and forever keep them safe.
Congratulations on your beautiful boy!
Aww this was so moving♡ my baby girl Ava was born 13 Nov. 2019 also her great grandmother's birthday♡
Thank you for sharing your story. Did you tear and if so how was recovery ?
Hi Chad and Tori👋, watching this after my obstetrics and gynecology rotations made me feel and sympathise even more. What you and many women all over the world go through is a super power and I'm so glad you know God was with you in it. Many people have certain superstitions and expectations and overconfident advice on labour but in all its form its a beautiful story and I love yours too. I'm so happy our little promise is finally here. During this period i kept having an urge in my spirit to pray for you and God answers prayers. God really is good💜
Waited so long for this video - thank you in advance for sharing! See you in 40 minutes ❤❤❤
see you soon(ish) hehe
This was just WOW! Chad made my cry especially with first his moment he needed for himself and then the picture of he saw. What a testimony this is. It for sure made you stronger but I'm sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for your vulnerability in this video. Bless you three ♥
Wow. I will be praying this week that God may continue to reveal new layers of Micah’s birth story to both of you, and through the new knowledge you two grow closer to God and closer to one another. We know many things are true of the Lord in our minds, and sometimes it takes a while for our heart to get on board. Thank y’all so so much for sharing this incredibly vulnerable part of y’all’s lives. It had added value to mine and has been a blessing to me personally. God bless y’all, your marriage, and baby Boy 💙
Thank you for sharing your story! 🥹🥰❤️
thank you for watching
"He's with us in our pain... not always deliverance from it..."
I still battle with my birth story giving birth to my sweet baby girl. It was a very rough journey and I had a c-section due to her being breech. Unfortunately, here in Colombia they do not allow husbands in the OR during a c-section. So, it was just me and God. There was one point where the anesthesia overtook almost all my senses; I couldn't wiggle my fingers, I couldn't swallow, and everything I heard felt like it was through cotton and people were 3 rooms away. I told them my symptoms (after speaking with a nurse in the OR, it wounds like they either gave me too much medicine or I just reacted strongly and needed an antidote). When I told them my symptoms the doctor said to "ignore her she isn't cooperating."
I was terrified, undergoing surgery in a foreign language, and all alone. All I could do was sing worship songs and beg God to be there. As Chad shared the picture that God gave him it brought an image to my mind as well, of God holding me in that OR as I was all alone. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. It has been 2 years since giving birth to our sweet Eliana and I have battled with God, asked tons of whys... and for the first time I feel like He heard me. Thank you...
I know you guys pray often for your online community. Can I ask you so say a prayer for us as well. We are hoping to have another baby soon, but after our last experience, it needs to be born in my country (the USA). We don't know how yet, because health insurance is tricky at best since I live overseas as a missionary, but am a US citizen. Just pray that God continues to heal my heart and mind and that He provides a way for us to have more kids in a safer medical system.
I had my 48-hour long labour three years ago, and this makes me feel so validated! I'm not alone! We had a lot of similar experiences, our boys just wanted to take their time :) Thank you for sharing!
Aww thank you guys for sharing this story ❤️❤️❤️ I know this must have been really difficult to share with us, I appreciate your vulnerability 😭😭❤️❤️
exactly why i'd never conisder umedicated home birth...