If this is even real, it's a conflict of interest, lady. As soon as he walked into your office as your new patient, you should've stopped the visit then and there. 🤷♀️
I came here to say the exact same thing. It’s 100% a conflict of interest, an ethical violation and HIPPA violation. This guy and his wife can and should sue her. And she can lose her license. Some smart people are so dumb.
Mi ntxhais aw txob tu siab raug tsev neeg ntaw yog hais tiam tsev neeg ntawv ntshai tus ka mob plaum lis ntawm ce Tom qab 30 hnub cev lawm kis mob tag lawm vim peb Hmoob tsis muaj education xwb es they are scray ancient diseases. I'm so proud of you since you so educated these little things that Hmong people always afraid of is nothing. Thov Vaj tswv foom hmoov rau koj thiab vaj tswv yeej hlub peb txhua tus.
For those commenters that are bashing this lady out and some claiming to come from professional backgrounds…yals disgusting. She didn’t know it was him in the beginning. She did her job based on the referral from higher ups. She didn’t leak names or personal info. She kept her distance and still share to receive insight from her husband. She did her job and did send his file to another doctor to treat. The point of her story is, never judge a book by its cover. Those who are very butt hurt, perhaps you’re the one that needs treatment. 💀
It is a conflict of interest. She may not have known it from the start, but she should’ve referred her ex to someone else as soon as she knew. As a pharmacist, I can’t even add my new insurance info into my husband’s profile becuz I’m not suppose to access any part of his file.
You obviously don't understand why she should've referred him out. It's part of her professional ethic, she could lose her license for breaking the law. Even if she didn't know in the beginning, as soon as she found out, she should've stopped seeing him and his wife. It seems she wanted to continue to see him in order to flaunt what he had lost.
Conflict of interest is very gray people. If the world truly lived a life by that rule, we’d be all wiped out. Nobody should be existing by one another in any planet. Again, this is not about her entitlement. Keep preaching because it’s now about yours. 🤣 . Just enjoy the story.
As a daughter myself and with a weak arm. (I was born normal, but got my shoulder socket dislocated in Thailand.).. I grew up always so embarrassed and I would not let any of the guys I dated know. When I met my husband, he was the only one I told and that he needs to let his mom know bc I don't want them saying this and that once we are married. At the end, we got married. I work hard bc I don't want them saying that bc of my weak arm, I can't do any but wait for their son to make money and put food on the table. My husband loves me very much. I'm glad GOD bought him to me. .... I understand very pain in this story. I'm glad GOD blessed you a loving husband that did not judge you. GOD is great all the time.
If this is truly going on, you can lose your job. This isn't how an professional person should be behaving. If his wife, ever found out ....she can get you kicked out of your job. That's the only thing we got out of this story.
@@korxiong792 yes a doctor to the public but there are rules when the case is personal. She has a connection, a past, they were ex lovers in a relationship. She cannot treat families. They said its bias and she cannot see the broader view. That is why doctors and lawyers and cops are reassign to prevent problems.
@@korxiong792 not true. She should've referred them to another doctor. She can't see this patient because they have a history together. She's actually breaking her profession's code of ethic by continuing to see them.
I have some like you too but not my arm in my eye but hmoob people say like that to Me too but my husband is not hmoob he doesn't say or ask me anything about it, Congratulations with you 👏
I used to listen to May religiously (as my husband always say) but I too find that most of her recent stories are shallow with no plot or meaning and oftentimes even sound made-up.
Good for you! Someone like that don't regret! He didn't love you enough to fight for you at the start, so it wasn't meant to be. No regrets! Men like this is so annoying. It's funny how they can say they regret this and that and can't move on in life because of you🤣🤣🤣, what a joke!
This lady doesn't know her role as a professional. Her X boyfriend shouldn't be her patient. Seems she doesn't know her role well as a profession. She must really still want to know his life. If the organization knows they would have said she shouldn't take the patient. This is a conflict of interest.
That’s very wrong for people to reject someone due to physical concerns. I’m sorry that they did that to you. It is their loss. Continue with your life and your thriving family. Your continue service to this individual seems like a ethical issue. Please consult with your overseeing doctor and move this case to another provider.
Obviously this doctor is still hurt from being dumped years ago by the ex husband and his family. She obviously still has feelings that’s why she’s keeping him close and still seeing him as a patient. The ex husband should report her! Patient and doctor confidential! She just exploited your story on RUclips!
Being a doctor she should have known better for not treating family members. She knows better to keep information confidential. She chose to violate HIPPA.
Sister, you better hope he doesn't turn around and sued you. Your not being professional by keeping him as a patient. If he tells them that you and him were lovers and that you used your position to, you get the drift.
Lol. Most well educated hmoob people know no boundaries. She might be educated but poor moral character and integrity. She has no respect for her white husband. I think what she thinks is what her ex does boost her ego lol. Living the past won't get her anywhere. She isn't happy in her marriage that's why she kept communicating with the ex. Vim meskas tsis xaiv li hmoob. Tus chick no tsis muaj kev mus lawm nws thiaj lam yuav tus txiv meskas kom tau txiv xwb. Lam kawm ntawv tag tamsis tsis paub qhov siab qhov qis.
Don't play games with real life. You don't get to start over from fresh. Before you are ready, make sure that you are ready, and be ready for the next "get ready". Not a game! 🙂
If she’s really a doctor, she is not supposed to see him ongoing due to conflict of interest. What she is doing is wrong. It sounds like she wants to continue seeing him so she knows more about his life issues to make her feel better about herself. She could get in trouble and loses her job for not setting boundaries with him.
What mommy and daddy wants, mommy and daddy gets. That’s what happens when you make your parents into gods. You can’t say anything against them and just enable them in their bad behaviors.
If you are a doctor, you know you just broke patient-doctor privilege. Just by treating him, you broke one of your profession's most important rule of ethics. You need to break away from this man completely.
If this is not a made up story, it’s very wrong. Consider you are a professional, you should not take them as your clients and never talk to him about your past love life. I feel sorry that your were retuned due to your physical appearance but I lost respect for you due to lack of professionalism. You are the educated one, you know better.
Oh gosh - another story of regret. If you can be a man at the start of a relationship- what makes you think you’ll be one in the marriage. She dodged a bullet from you.
It seems u still love and miss him. If u still want your marriage, and professional career, then u need to stay away from him. His intentions toward u aren't good.
Nrog zoo siab koj tau daim degree zoo os! Hmoob lub siab phem tshaj plaws li os sister aws! Kuv ces twb raug label ib yam li koj thiab os! Es txhob tu siab mog zoo siab rau yus lub neej yus tus kheej xwb os..
You have to understand that Hmong people comes from a poor and uneducated background. Life is hard enough for the old people with normal physical form. Today, younger Hmong people are more open minded and we follow love. As more of us are more educated and are more prosperous, we are less bias and our personalities are more like people in this country. The way the old folks carry themselves may have worked in the old country but I see that it doesn't not work in America. It's easier for women to adjust to life in America than men. Being a Hmong DIL is pretty tough. I think I am pretty open minded and I hope I am that person when my children ever reach that fork on the road. Your boyfriend didn't love you enough to marry you. It probably has nothing to do with your finger. If he loved you enough, he will run off with you regardless what his parents say. Thanks for sharing your story. Best of luck.
May, you should stop telling these stories about doctor/patient. This is a hippa violation. She can be charged with a crime, lose her medical license, and pay a hefty fine.
Hmoob txoj cai quav dev uas kho ntsej kho muag na, es ua lawv kho puas tau qhov hauv kom zoo li Qub thiab ma? Yog tias twb coj los ua lev tsab lev pua tau pes tsawg hmo lawm na?
To the wife of the unhappy husband whom seek professional help and the Dr was his ex-wife and Ex-girlfriend; if you want the best revenge. This is the moment, report her Dr &SS the broad and get her fired! She was at fault to begin with. If she was professional like her licensed she wouldn’t even had that first visit with you and your unhappy husband. And all the talks and now on social media. REPORT HER.
I Don’t believe this story. A smart professional would have stopped the moment they recognized an old lover. Either made up or told by someone who doesn’t know the ethics of the profession which is not likely.
This kind of story should not be telling on air. It’s confidential and your not supposed to be telling it on air. You can be sued for telling these kind of stories in public especially the wife can do that. This is so wrong to do this telling these kind of story on RUclips. Confidentiality between clients and Dr, if the wife finds out this could be big trouble. You can’t be coming on RUclips telling these kind stories for social media…
Wow...this is the 2nd Dr Drama I heard where a Hmong supposed professional did not recuse themselves when a former ex showed up for mental health treatment and all heck broke lose afterward. Are Hmong this unprofessional/unethical? I watched a bunch of younger Hmong mentees act unethical like this and I just cringe thinking is this a Hmong thing? How can any of us trust our Hmong professionals if behaviors like this occur? Omg! I want to give hmong professionals the benefit of doubt but listening to these self revealed stories is telling me those who do not give their businesses to Hmong Dr's are right. So much ethical breech here. Having seconds thoughts now.
Don’t believe everything you hear. May is known as one of the best Hmong storyteller. I’m sure she added a little here and there to make the story sound that much interesting. Also, it could very well be the same story but she just switched up.
So you're a doctor but treating your ex boyfriend, I'm sure that goes against some code of ethics. You should have disclosed the relationship when they referred him and his wife to you, you as a professional should have declined them even if they're okay with it. I'm sure you haven't disclosed it, hence his wife was still okay with you treating them. Also, Patient/client privilege doesn't reside with you I see.
Shame on you for being so unethical and unprofessional. When you knew it was him, the right thing to do was to decline him and his wife as your clients due to conflict of interest. You led him on by continuing to see him, accept gifts from him and God know what else you two did. If your workplace hears this, you may be looking for a new job.
Is this another story to show off that he/she is a doctor? Half of the stories nowadays are just people's everyday life. It's nothing special... kind of boring and a waste of time to listen. I'm listening less and less nowadays.
Yog lawm
If this is even real, it's a conflict of interest, lady. As soon as he walked into your office as your new patient, you should've stopped the visit then and there. 🤷♀️
Totally agreed. He can sue her. Seems like she cant let go either thats why she's risking this guy to come see her.
@Michael F right! She obviously is curious to know their marital issues, hence why she continued the sessions with him.
This is somewhat HIPPA/confidentiality violation too.
Becuz this is an imaginary story sent by a delusional person 🤣🤣
I came here to say the exact same thing. It’s 100% a conflict of interest, an ethical violation and HIPPA violation. This guy and his wife can and should sue her. And she can lose her license. Some smart people are so dumb.
Txhob tu siab os tus sister koj twb tau txoj kev zoo tshaj lawm os
Mi ntxhais aw txob tu siab raug tsev neeg ntaw yog hais tiam tsev neeg ntawv ntshai tus ka mob plaum lis ntawm ce Tom qab 30 hnub cev lawm kis mob tag lawm vim peb Hmoob tsis muaj education xwb es they are scray ancient diseases. I'm so proud of you since you so educated these little things that Hmong people always afraid of is nothing. Thov Vaj tswv foom hmoov rau koj thiab vaj tswv yeej hlub peb txhua tus.
Sister, as soon as you found out who he is you should've excused yourself from their case. You should've referred to another doctor.
Glad you have a happy life! Don't leave your husband for an ex...they're an ex for a reason.
For those commenters that are bashing this lady out and some claiming to come from professional backgrounds…yals disgusting. She didn’t know it was him in the beginning. She did her job based on the referral from higher ups. She didn’t leak names or personal info. She kept her distance and still share to receive insight from her husband. She did her job and did send his file to another doctor to treat. The point of her story is, never judge a book by its cover. Those who are very butt hurt, perhaps you’re the one that needs treatment. 💀
It is a conflict of interest. She may not have known it from the start, but she should’ve referred her ex to someone else as soon as she knew. As a pharmacist, I can’t even add my new insurance info into my husband’s profile becuz I’m not suppose to access any part of his file.
You obviously don't understand why she should've referred him out. It's part of her professional ethic, she could lose her license for breaking the law. Even if she didn't know in the beginning, as soon as she found out, she should've stopped seeing him and his wife. It seems she wanted to continue to see him in order to flaunt what he had lost.
Conflict of interest is very gray people. If the world truly lived a life by that rule, we’d be all wiped out. Nobody should be existing by one another in any planet. Again, this is not about her entitlement. Keep preaching because it’s now about yours. 🤣 . Just enjoy the story.
As a daughter myself and with a weak arm. (I was born normal, but got my shoulder socket dislocated in Thailand.).. I grew up always so embarrassed and I would not let any of the guys I dated know. When I met my husband, he was the only one I told and that he needs to let his mom know bc I don't want them saying this and that once we are married. At the end, we got married. I work hard bc I don't want them saying that bc of my weak arm, I can't do any but wait for their son to make money and put food on the table. My husband loves me very much. I'm glad GOD bought him to me. ....
I understand very pain in this story. I'm glad GOD blessed you a loving husband that did not judge you. GOD is great all the time.
If this is truly going on, you can lose your job. This isn't how an professional person should be behaving. If his wife, ever found out ....she can get you kicked out of your job. That's the only thing we got out of this story.
It's unprofessional and liable to be bias law suit. His wife could sued her and the hospital and make tons of money and her license revoked.
It doesn't matter because that idiot was your ex. Bf so what can you do to avoid him as a patient to you when you are a doctor to the public.
@@korxiong792 yes a doctor to the public but there are rules when the case is personal. She has a connection, a past, they were ex lovers in a relationship. She cannot treat families. They said its bias and she cannot see the broader view. That is why doctors and lawyers and cops are reassign to prevent problems.
@@korxiong792 not true. She should've referred them to another doctor. She can't see this patient because they have a history together. She's actually breaking her profession's code of ethic by continuing to see them.
A good person with a good kind heart does not necessarily have to church in order to be good. It depends on her or his personalities.
MI ntxhais koj ua tau zoo heev thov vaj tswv foom hmoov zoo rau koj thiab koj tsev neeg nyob Kaj siab lug mus tas lub neej ov
I have some like you too but not my arm in my eye but hmoob people say like that to Me too but my husband is not hmoob he doesn't say or ask me anything about it,
Congratulations with you 👏
I used to listen to May religiously (as my husband always say) but I too find that most of her recent stories are shallow with no plot or meaning and oftentimes even sound made-up.
It sounds unbelievable but you’d be surprised that these happen often in real life. Also take these stories with a grain of salt.
Yea this story sounds superb faKke!
Sounds like a made up story. Too many stories about doctors lately. Lol
Agree 100%
Fake or not, when does life actually have a plot? Lol.
Good for you! Someone like that don't regret! He didn't love you enough to fight for you at the start, so it wasn't meant to be. No regrets! Men like this is so annoying. It's funny how they can say they regret this and that and can't move on in life because of you🤣🤣🤣, what a joke!
Be professional and don't be his therapist. You shouldn't even be his therapist in the first place.
This lady doesn't know her role as a professional. Her X boyfriend shouldn't be her patient. Seems she doesn't know her role well as a profession. She must really still want to know his life. If the organization knows they would have said she shouldn't take the patient. This is a conflict of interest.
I was thinking the same thing. Btw not ex boyfriend but ex husband nonetheless
Totally agree with you. It is unethical to treat her former partner.
Agreed..this lady is unprofessional and should be fine..dumdass book smart but life stupid
That’s very wrong for people to reject someone due to physical concerns. I’m sorry that they did that to you. It is their loss. Continue with your life and your thriving family.
Your continue service to this individual seems like a ethical issue. Please consult with your overseeing doctor and move this case to another provider.
Sounds like Hmong has a lot of psychologists 🤔🤪
Koj muaj hmoo kawg li thiaj dim niag txiv hmong es tau txiv meskas zoo lawm
Beautiful story and a life lesson to learn ♥️
I love your story sister 🥰🥰
Obviously this doctor is still hurt from being dumped years ago by the ex husband and his family. She obviously still has feelings that’s why she’s keeping him close and still seeing him as a patient. The ex husband should report her! Patient and doctor confidential! She just exploited your story on RUclips!
Being a doctor she should have known better for not treating family members. She knows better to keep information confidential. She chose to violate HIPPA.
@@pajtshiabtsheej1984 but she's hmong. and hmong peeps tend to violate everything. they have no regards for rules and laws.
@@chouathao2122 I agree with you. Hopefully she doesn't get sued for breaching confidentiality.
As a story teller
She can make her own story and her big fans still believe and listen 😂
I always wonder that too cause sometimes when she tells a story..it sounds like she's not too sure about the story herself. Just my view and opinion.
One thing for sure, you will be good at what you do every day! lol
Sister, you better hope he doesn't turn around and sued you. Your not being professional by keeping him as a patient. If he tells them that you and him were lovers and that you used your position to, you get the drift.
Lol. Most well educated hmoob people know no boundaries. She might be educated but poor moral character and integrity. She has no respect for her white husband. I think what she thinks is what her ex does boost her ego lol. Living the past won't get her anywhere. She isn't happy in her marriage that's why she kept communicating with the ex. Vim meskas tsis xaiv li hmoob. Tus chick no tsis muaj kev mus lawm nws thiaj lam yuav tus txiv meskas kom tau txiv xwb. Lam kawm ntawv tag tamsis tsis paub qhov siab qhov qis.
Tej tug txiv neej no tsis yog hlub koj nws nrhiav tswv yim rhuav koj lub neej xwb kav txij muab koj thiaj tsis yuam kev.
She’s leading him on lol. He’ll get with her eventually. Otherwise she would have swapped doctors.
Don't play games with real life. You don't get to start over from fresh. Before you are ready, make sure that you are ready, and be ready for the next "get ready". Not a game! 🙂
Beautiful stores os niam hluas May
Love your story May.
The one thing I’ve noticed marrying someone outside of your culture is they don’t have the same set of expectations.
Tus niam tsev raws kuv xav mas koj tseem khuv xim koj thiaj tseem nrog nws tham tag li, yog tsis khuv xim ces yeej tsis nrog nws txuas lus lawm
Sister Mat back to basics. Quality not quantity. It was quality that is why I fell in love with your channel. let us keep is going.
Wow what a hippa violation and conflict of interest!!! Is she really a dr?
Your brothers shouldn't have called him for gatherings. What relationship does he have with you? Nothing.
If she’s really a doctor, she is not supposed to see him ongoing due to conflict of interest. What she is doing is wrong. It sounds like she wants to continue seeing him so she knows more about his life issues to make her feel better about herself. She could get in trouble and loses her job for not setting boundaries with him.
Koj Xob ntseeg tus Tibneeg uas coj tus Cwj Pwm zoo li ntawd, Nws yuav ntxias kom tau Koj mus Tsim lawm xwb os mog. Hmoob siab phem heev Xob ntseeg tus Tibneeg ntawd li lawm os thaum Koj zoo2 Nkauj Nws twb yuav nim no Laus lawm Xob mus rau tsev Hmoob ntawd Tsim Koj ntxiv nawb mog
You shouldn't have taken him as a patient. He didn't love you enough, let it go. Best wishes to you
Tej laus txoj kev ntseeg yav tas los tsis yog ib qho zoo. Kuv tus poj niam twb tu ib tug ntiv tes li koj thiab.
What mommy and daddy wants, mommy and daddy gets. That’s what happens when you make your parents into gods. You can’t say anything against them and just enable them in their bad behaviors.
If you are a doctor, you know you just broke patient-doctor privilege. Just by treating him, you broke one of your profession's most important rule of ethics. You need to break away from this man completely.
If this is not a made up story, it’s very wrong. Consider you are a professional, you should not take them as your clients and never talk to him about your past love life. I feel sorry that your were retuned due to your physical appearance but I lost respect for you due to lack of professionalism. You are the educated one, you know better.
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Koj tias koj tsis nco nws no tab sis koj tseem mloog nws moo ntsoov ces koj yog tus neeg siab phem tsis huv rau koj tus txiv no os
"You will never understand, taking a daughter with something like that into your family and then abandoning her. You can never understand the pain."
Thov ghuas tus hais
Oh gosh - another story of regret. If you can be a man at the start of a relationship- what makes you think you’ll be one in the marriage. She dodged a bullet from you.
Tus neeg no mob hlob heev saib tsis taus koj hlo li
It is a personal story. It is ok to tell on air. Or publuc
It seems u still love and miss him. If u still want your marriage, and professional career, then u need to stay away from him. His intentions toward u aren't good.
Nrog zoo siab koj tau daim degree zoo os! Hmoob lub siab phem tshaj plaws li os sister aws! Kuv ces twb raug label ib yam li koj thiab os! Es txhob tu siab mog zoo siab rau yus lub neej yus tus kheej xwb os..
You have to understand that Hmong people comes from a poor and uneducated background. Life is hard enough for the old people with normal physical form. Today, younger Hmong people are more open minded and we follow love. As more of us are more educated and are more prosperous, we are less bias and our personalities are more like people in this country. The way the old folks carry themselves may have worked in the old country but I see that it doesn't not work in America. It's easier for women to adjust to life in America than men. Being a Hmong DIL is pretty tough. I think I am pretty open minded and I hope I am that person when my children ever reach that fork on the road.
Your boyfriend didn't love you enough to marry you. It probably has nothing to do with your finger. If he loved you enough, he will run off with you regardless what his parents say.
Thanks for sharing your story. Best of luck.
May, you should stop telling these stories about doctor/patient. This is a hippa violation. She can be charged with a crime, lose her medical license, and pay a hefty fine.
Hmoob txoj cai quav dev uas kho ntsej kho muag na, es ua lawv kho puas tau qhov hauv kom zoo li Qub thiab ma? Yog tias twb coj los ua lev tsab lev pua tau pes tsawg hmo lawm na?
To the wife of the unhappy husband whom seek professional help and the Dr was his ex-wife and Ex-girlfriend; if you want the best revenge. This is the moment, report her Dr &SS the broad and get her fired! She was at fault to begin with. If she was professional like her licensed she wouldn’t even had that first visit with you and your unhappy husband. And all the talks and now on social media. REPORT HER.
this man was weak sauce, he's a mommy's boy. move on, dude. don't stuck in the past's mindset like your mommy.
Thaub ruam luag mus tau yav loj thiab ntev lawm es luag nim yuav los lawm os ntse koj npaum suav lawm xwb.
As a professional medical doctor, you are not professional due to breaching conflict of interest and confidentiality..
At this point he’s just stalking you. Yet you’re a “doctor” can’t report him or even just block all contact from him.
I Don’t believe this story. A smart professional would have stopped the moment they recognized an old lover. Either made up or told by someone who doesn’t know the ethics of the profession which is not likely.
Nws tsis tsim nyog ua koj tus patient lawm os. No reason to continues seeing this person.
This kind of story should not be telling on air. It’s confidential and your not supposed to be telling it on air. You can be sued for telling these kind of stories in public especially the wife can do that. This is so wrong to do this telling these kind of story on RUclips. Confidentiality between clients and Dr, if the wife finds out this could be big trouble. You can’t be coming on RUclips telling these kind stories for social media…
Wow...this is the 2nd Dr Drama I heard where a Hmong supposed professional did not recuse themselves when a former ex showed up for mental health treatment and all heck broke lose afterward. Are Hmong this unprofessional/unethical? I watched a bunch of younger Hmong mentees act unethical like this and I just cringe thinking is this a Hmong thing? How can any of us trust our Hmong professionals if behaviors like this occur? Omg! I want to give hmong professionals the benefit of doubt but listening to these self revealed stories is telling me those who do not give their businesses to Hmong Dr's are right. So much ethical breech here. Having seconds thoughts now.
Don’t believe everything you hear. May is known as one of the best Hmong storyteller. I’m sure she added a little here and there to make the story sound that much interesting. Also, it could very well be the same story but she just switched up.
So you're a doctor but treating your ex boyfriend, I'm sure that goes against some code of ethics. You should have disclosed the relationship when they referred him and his wife to you, you as a professional should have declined them even if they're okay with it. I'm sure you haven't disclosed it, hence his wife was still okay with you treating them.
Also, Patient/client privilege doesn't reside with you I see.
He is not a good person.
Shame on you for being so unethical and unprofessional. When you knew it was him, the right thing to do was to decline him and his wife as your clients due to conflict of interest. You led him on by continuing to see him, accept gifts from him and God know what else you two did. If your workplace hears this, you may be looking for a new job.
Is this another story to show off that he/she is a doctor? Half of the stories nowadays are just people's everyday life. It's nothing special... kind of boring and a waste of time to listen. I'm listening less and less nowadays.
Yog kawg. Tej zaj ma tsi tsim nyog tham kiag li
Completely agree!
Another doctor cheating story xwb.
Worst part is, she cheats with the dude that banged her for 3-4 nights and sent her back 🫢 omg!