The Pressure of Toxic Beauty Standards | Chicago Med | MD TV

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  • @LavigneJulie
    @LavigneJulie 2 года назад +2626

    I’ve had vitiligo since I was 3. It’s now spread to about 95% of my body which I’ve been told is very rare. Growing up was hard. People can be very cruel.

    • @_R-R
      @_R-R 2 года назад +72

      I bet you're a wonderful person to be around.

    • @XOonhelli
      @XOonhelli 2 года назад +43

      You are beautiful in your own way! Take care of yourself ^_^

    • @seraphina453
      @seraphina453 Год назад +30

      and the vitiligo is beautiful and dont let anyone tell you otherwise

    • @3mma.s
      @3mma.s Год назад +9

      i have it too

    • @GrandmaCoCo7800
      @GrandmaCoCo7800 Год назад +14

      You are rare and precious which is a beautiful blessing !!! ❤️

  • @choryllis6646
    @choryllis6646 2 года назад +3264

    I'm saddened by the fact that vitiligo is seen as ugly.
    To anyone who has vitiligo, you're absolutely stunning. Nothing short of grand artwork. Your skin is a heavenly mix of gorgeous shades and hues, and I hope you will one day grow to see your skin as beautiful as the fates intended it.

    • @lavinialaabishgrimberg3603
      @lavinialaabishgrimberg3603 2 года назад +58

      Excellent said, I also think it's amazing and I wish people with vitiligo could see themselves through this (our) mindset and not listen to frustrated bullies. Diversity is beautiful.

    • @lavinialaabishgrimberg3603
      @lavinialaabishgrimberg3603 2 года назад +61

      @Shana Jackson wtf is wrong with you? Some things are best kept inside. Even if someone might seem "ugly" to you, just keep it in. Beauty is mostly determined by culture and education and even what we may think it's personal preference, it was initially engraved in us through our surrounding. If you would have lived in a society where everyone has vitiligo and non vitiligo skin is weird and much less common, then for sure it would be considered the standard of beauty.

    • @choryllis6646
      @choryllis6646 2 года назад +46

      @@lavinialaabishgrimberg3603 My guess is they're a troll. It's best to ignore them, as anything they say is a waste of everyone's time and oxygen.

    • @emeraldwhite5670
      @emeraldwhite5670 2 года назад

      @Shana Jackson REPORTED YOU. PEOPLE LIKE YOU ARE FULL OF BULL.

    • @LigmaFatBalls69
      @LigmaFatBalls69 2 года назад +15

      My dad has vitiligo and we sometimes make jokes of it to which is laughs along to and doesn’t care. Not all people with vitiligo are that sensitive and I honestly don’t see why people are making a big deal out of it.

  • @karanhdream
    @karanhdream Год назад +785

    A professional dancer from my country once said "Being unique is more memorable than being perfect".
    Some of the wisest words I ever heard.

    • @amberanime
      @amberanime Год назад +3

      And yet I have never met this mythical fabled perfect human being yet. We are all unique, and nobody is perefect. A perfect person does not exist. So ''being unique is more memorable then not existing at all'' is more accurate here.

    • @stran2323
      @stran2323 Год назад +1

      ​@@amberanimeI think there are a lot of people out there with their own standards about what is perfect, and just as many who strive to meet those standards. True, objective perfection doesn't exist, but subjective perfection has countless versions. In my opinion, the original quote is ingenious, because it gives some people a good reason to stop trying too hard to be what they consider perfect.

    • @jjs1300000
      @jjs1300000 Год назад +1

      Damn right

    • @ss-wu1vp
      @ss-wu1vp 11 месяцев назад

      Being perfect is being unique as it is super rare....

    • @its_diddlydoo
      @its_diddlydoo 8 месяцев назад

      even as someone who draws portraits, some of the more unique people i've drawn are the ones who've taught me so much about different anatomy and taught me to appreciate so many types of beauty, than the people who are deemed perfect looking by current beauty standards.

  • @foodlife9399
    @foodlife9399 2 года назад +2769

    This honestly breaks my heart since I currently have vitiligo and am very proud of my spots. The beauty standards truly are toxic. I wish every girl could feel like she could be herself.

    • @tatianafraserA
      @tatianafraserA 2 года назад +27

      I think you are very strong because a lot of people find certain beauty marks or have deemed them as unattractive but you don't let others define your beauty a d that is admirable.

    • @hasturthekinginyellow5003
      @hasturthekinginyellow5003 2 года назад +42

      I'm a heavily inked person and a tattoo artist (newbie), and one of the people who come in the same store as me is this girl with vitiligo who decided to "document" the development of her spots , she comes once a year so one of the artist can trace it, it is a beautiful tattoo.
      This year will my turn to do it, wish me luck.

    • @tatianafraserA
      @tatianafraserA 2 года назад +5

      @@hasturthekinginyellow5003 good luck!!

    • @LittleKitty22
      @LittleKitty22 2 года назад +11

      I got large scale Vitiligo. I don't have a problem with it, but other people do. Normally I use camouflage make up but at present I'm severely disabled so I'm not able to do make up. All the medical staff I encounter mock me for the Vitiligo by saying "you just got white skin because you are white" and "you look fine to me", ie implying that the Vitiligo is "just in my head". Actually I'm not white, and the medical staff claiming I am is as if part of my identity is being denied. I feel more and more forced to pretend to be something that I'm not just to keep them happy.

    • @dwhitman3092
      @dwhitman3092 2 года назад +4

      Definitely sad situation but moreso affecting physical image for females, though some males do endure those same pressures. This body image obsession is certainly a cultural phenomenon. The goal of Physical Perfection is ubiquitous world wide. It is even to the point that I can't share my love of fashion with my niece, due to the majority of those shows that feature thin, hangry looking girls; I don't want that influence upon her. Such a shame that so many industries/ businesses rely heavily on sex appeal (and A distorted appeal at that).

  • @TheCoolProfessor
    @TheCoolProfessor 2 года назад +2244

    The lessons to be learned are:
    Never self diagnose.
    Never care what people on Instagram say about you.

    • @Viking102938
      @Viking102938 2 года назад +92

      1. Make doctors more available and more sympathetic (they're not)
      2. Stop telling people on Instagram to starve themselves
      Fixed it for you, Brain.
      Coming up with fictional problems solves nothing; addressing actual solutions solves everything.

    • @aparnaeaswar5246
      @aparnaeaswar5246 2 года назад +43

      Please let’s bear in mind that certain diagnoses are hard to get so if somebody keeps getting diagnosed with something they don’t have because the diagnosis that fits them better is also rarer. If they don’t ask to be checked for what **they** think they have, they will never get diagnosed.

    • @amitramlall4235
      @amitramlall4235 2 года назад +6

      Why aren't more docs like this in real life?

    • @highcolor_sunz
      @highcolor_sunz 2 года назад +36

      self diagnosis if done right is good, not everyone has access or the funds to see doctors

    • @raizahasmath5580
      @raizahasmath5580 2 года назад +5

      Actually, she was the shamer

  • @BAChambers-235
    @BAChambers-235 Год назад +785

    Honestly, my favorite part of this is the Mom being so accepting of the psychiatrist’s help.

    • @FreeSpeechMatters
      @FreeSpeechMatters 3 месяца назад +5

      Yes! Quite different from so many other parents we see on the show.

  • @KILLzone_565
    @KILLzone_565 2 года назад +666

    When I was growing up, I always saw people with Vitiligo and thought that they were so cool. The spots can look incredible and make up some neat patterns. Turns out Vitiligo runs on my dads side, and I started to get spots a few years ago. I was worried people would look at me different and judge, but most are very supportive. I just embrace it now.

    • @Silencer796
      @Silencer796 2 года назад +16

      How did you go from “Wow! They look so cool!” To “Hope no one judges me.”

    • @KILLzone_565
      @KILLzone_565 2 года назад +47

      @@Silencer796 because I know not everyone sees things the same way I do… Just because I thought other people with the condition looked “cool” does not mean I myself would be self conscious.

    • @Silencer796
      @Silencer796 2 года назад +5

      @@KILLzone_565 Your right on that part.

    • @alexisgrunden1556
      @alexisgrunden1556 Год назад +7

      It's one of the cooler genetic surprises that can crop up in families. Beats the pants off inheriting a genetic predilection to cancers or something. Me, I'm pretty sure I'm a carrier for congenital analgesia; it's on both sides, so no idea how I Matrix'd _that_ bullet~

    • @Stopthisrightnow560
      @Stopthisrightnow560 Год назад +3

      Right??? The unique patterns are so stunning. I wish we all had our own.

  • @chilbongers
    @chilbongers Год назад +239

    “you know who the unhappiest people in the world are? 15-year-old girls.” as a 15-yr-old girl myself i highly agree with dr charles. people, and even myself included, tell me “don’t listen to those toxic beauty standards!! you’re beautiful your own way!” but it’s really hard not to constantly compare yourself to other girls out there, who look so much better than me. if i could i’d desperately wish to be pretty and have a skinny curvy body. i relate to this girl so much. i take like 100 diff photos, delete the photos i don’t like, and sometimes, that either leaves me with 1 photo or none - cuz i hate the way i look in pictures - meanwhile my friends take beautiful photos and post them. i just don’t feel beautiful.

    • @tiffanywilliams8055
      @tiffanywilliams8055 Год назад +8

      Has a 21 almost 22 yr old I can relate to you but dear your own unique beauty matters

    • @concernedg7636
      @concernedg7636 Год назад +6

      I wonder if it would be helpful to start with appreciating the beauty elsewhere. You start noticing the beautiful things and your realize how much beauty there is all around you. You'll start to realize that beauty is can be so vast, various, and interesting. It really helps me when I think of it that way. To just enjoy the beauty around me and not compare any of it to each other. As a woman, I know how hard this is, don't doubt that. I promise you this is more of a mindset than a reality though.

    • @RaptorFromWeegee
      @RaptorFromWeegee Год назад

      It'll be better by the time you hit your sweet 16 party. Just wait and see. Once you and your friends are driving things'll get way more exciting.

    • @linajanebanda-gz8lz
      @linajanebanda-gz8lz Год назад +2

      I know it's very difficult to feel that way but I want you to know that your friends feel like they are not perfect too they admire your beauty but they dnt tell you

    • @insciencewetrust8829
      @insciencewetrust8829 11 месяцев назад +2

      There is no skinny and curvy at the same time and let me tell you i am 22 now and i also felt like that - everyone does! Maybe the people whose photos you see took 400 of which avfew turned out nice. We judge ourselves harsher than others.

  • @rw9495
    @rw9495 2 года назад +904

    Dr. Charles is my favorite character on the show, he's the reason I continued watching :)

    • @DioneN
      @DioneN 2 года назад +9

      Me too, I love Oliver Platt.

    • @TheHonorsKid
      @TheHonorsKid 2 года назад +8

      Me too, do you know why he is in a wheelchair now?

    • @forestcatkay14
      @forestcatkay14 2 года назад +7

      I’ve enjoyed watching Oliver Platt since Dr. Dolittle. It’s cool to see how far he’s come. I do love that his name is Charles and he’s in a wheelchair as he was in the X-men First Class movie.

    • @madelyndale
      @madelyndale 2 года назад +1

      @@TheHonorsKid that’s what I’m asking

    • @kristynvario2508
      @kristynvario2508 2 года назад +11

      @@TheHonorsKid If I remember correctly, his character had a knee injury and would be in and out of a wheelchair while doing PT. Not sure about any real life reasons.

  • @F.S214
    @F.S214 2 года назад +634

    I seen all the advisements. From hair, makeup, even body weight. I never cared to have social media platform or to look like a celebrity, I don't even try. Perfection is something no one can get. Everyone has flaws.

    • @lokilover3746
      @lokilover3746 2 года назад +3

      Same here and have you read the warrior cats?

    • @rainatmidnight
      @rainatmidnight 2 года назад +1

      How is perfection something no one can get if we're using perfect people as inspiration? It's clearly achievable if they have it

    • @buecherdrache1
      @buecherdrache1 2 года назад +17

      @@rainatmidnight But they aren't perfect. The images we see are made to look perfect via fotoshop, playing around with the light, make up etc. Because of this people start to think this is actually achievable for them, because others look like this too. When in reality the others are just as imperfect, but you just don't get to see it.
      Another example are body builders. Quite often you hear stuff like "just train following this routine", "with this shake you will gain muscles like crazy." and so on. But the six packs and defined bodies you see are almost always by severe dehydration (deadly) or drugs like steroids (also deadly) to make the muscles mir visible and they are not just from working out. So people work out like crazy, but just don't get this body and feel like it's their fault, like they don't push themselves hard enough, when in reality it just isn't possible to achieve a bodybuilders body in a healthy way.

    • @F.S214
      @F.S214 2 года назад +4

      @@lokilover3746 no I am more of a wing of fire fan lol. I do like watching the maps and animation of the warrior cats.

    • @F.S214
      @F.S214 2 года назад +8

      @@rainatmidnight who is these perfect people? What makes then quote perfect?

  • @TheHeliosProject8
    @TheHeliosProject8 2 года назад +576

    Why is everyone so afraid of vitiligo? I haven't met a single person that thinks it isn't beautiful.

    • @gr4veyards20
      @gr4veyards20 2 года назад +50

      I totally agree, I think it's beautiful. Don't understand why society doesn't see it that way 🤷‍♀️

    • @lovelyfrancesquita6603
      @lovelyfrancesquita6603 2 года назад +56

      Because it makes people look differet, singles them out (and get bullied). THere has to be a road to acceptance to it, both from the person who is different and others

    • @Gumbier_Than
      @Gumbier_Than 2 года назад +1

      Isn't it painful? I was told that people who have it also experience pain with this condition.

    • @xylema.
      @xylema. 2 года назад +1

      No

    • @TheHonorsKid
      @TheHonorsKid 2 года назад +26

      @@Gumbier_Than it’s not painful, but it can lead to higher chance of sunburn and since it is an autoimmune disease, can lead to other issues

  • @hisuru9134
    @hisuru9134 2 года назад +289

    bro I'd give anything for someone like Dr. Charles to be my mentor I just love him

    • @Cannibaldeer_
      @Cannibaldeer_ 2 года назад +1

      SAMEEEEEEE

    • @beansheeran7322
      @beansheeran7322 2 года назад +1

      Agreed

    • @bellerain381
      @bellerain381 2 года назад +1

      Same! He’s adorable and he’s such a passionate and caring man!

    • @debrajones4840
      @debrajones4840 2 года назад +3

      My favorite character. I told my doc every ER should have a doctor Charles

  • @voiceacticon667
    @voiceacticon667 2 года назад +240

    There’s no such thing as perfect. You can’t be what doesn’t exist.

  • @addicted2itall
    @addicted2itall 11 месяцев назад +37

    Winnie Harlow has made a career as a model with vitiligo, I don't think anyone should see it as a bad thing. Having something like that, anything at all makes you unique and unique is art.

  • @afreerobin5939
    @afreerobin5939 2 года назад +220

    A few years ago I noticed these dark patches on my arms. They were symmetrical on both sides, and got darker as Summer came. It looked like splotches of dirt, but no matter how much I'd scrub at my arms with soap, and literally every sponge out there, they wouldn't come off.
    Eventually I went to a dermatologist who originally diagnosed me with ezema. That didn't seem right to me from what I knew about ezema, but I didn't question it. But when the treatment didn't work, and the spots didn't go away, we went back.
    Finally the dermatologist told me about Terra firma-forme dermatosis. She hadn't even know about it during my first visit, but she had been researching and eventually found it. I was given treatment, and it worked! My arms don't have black spots anymore, and my skin doesn't feel rough to the touch.
    I won't go into detail about how I was treated in school when this was going in. But I can tell you it wasn't pleasant.

    • @amberanime
      @amberanime Год назад +1

      Wait thre is treatment? I have it, and they told me there was no treatment. I can rubb it off temporarely with some kind of alchohol mixture. But it always come back.

    • @afreerobin5939
      @afreerobin5939 Год назад +4

      @amberanime Ah, unfortunately it isn't a permanent treatment. It comes back frequently, though im luckily that my spots are easy to reach and clean. As for something permanent, I'm not sure. Alcohol is the only solution I've found.

    • @Eric-pn9ml
      @Eric-pn9ml 7 месяцев назад

      You had revitiligo. That's the opposite of what Michael Jackson had.

  • @rachelbrinkley3020
    @rachelbrinkley3020 Год назад +64

    My grandmother had vitiligo. She was the most wonderful woman. It's because of her that I first started to think vitiligo is very beautiful.

    • @amberanime
      @amberanime Год назад +1

      This comment section is all ''but vitiligo is beautiful'' . Ok so what your saying is they can stop feeling bad because they are still beautiful. Your also validating that if they somehow had a different condition that is never beautiful under any circumstances they would have every right to feel bad about themselves? Why is people's first response when it comes to toxic beauty standards to say ''you already are beautiful'' which only validates that beauty matters and that in industry is simply going a bit overboard with the standards, but some standards are appearently fine? This is bad. Sometimes people just are not beautiful. Sometimes some conditions are monstrous looking straight from horror or scifi movies. These people are just as valid as the ''beautiful'' ones. Instead of teaching people and especialy young girls they are beautifull even if they dont match the standards, we should teach them that beauty is irrelevant and boost their self esteem trough different means. Sometimes your just not beautiful no matter what. And thats ok. We need to stop obsessing about looks. We need to help teens and young people stop obsessing about looks. You dont do that by telling them they are beautiful. That just validates the focus on their appearence.

    • @johnnywalker8815
      @johnnywalker8815 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@amberanimeall this person said in a nutshell is that their grandmother changed their world view and you wrote a whole think piece for it wow.

  • @elaz925
    @elaz925 2 года назад +693

    I can't believe they decided the best message for this episode would be "She tried to kill herself because she thought she had vitiligo, but good thing she doesn't so we can just fix it eventually"
    Like wtf, if they were gonna have an episode on it, it would have been better to dismantle the stigma and horridness people experience. Could have had her have it and join a support group of other teen girls with skin disorders, and have it end with her trading numbers with a girl after they compliment each others jewelry or something, have her make a friend based on common interests, not appearances.

    • @F.S214
      @F.S214 2 года назад +37

      Yeah, it didn't seem to have the best message

    • @recoveringsoul755
      @recoveringsoul755 2 года назад +26

      The evils of social media needs to be addressed, we are so much more than our physical appearance, and beauty fades with age. This touched on some of those issues, "digital friends" aren't real friends , we shouldn't self diagnose ourselves, and it's important to talk to someone, and have real friends who care about the real you.

    • @Rhonettala187
      @Rhonettala187 2 года назад +47

      Because of the nature of the show, I don't think it would fit with the story line since the focus is on the ED. Med has that issue with a lot of story lines. I do appreciate that Dr. Charles was very forward with Sarah that she did nothing to help the patient. And because she admitted to the suicide attempt, she would have been put on a mandatory psych hold in the hospital. I agree that they could have done more, but I also think the confines of the premise of the show make it more complicated.

    • @MidnightDawn
      @MidnightDawn 2 года назад +11

      ​@@recoveringsoul755 Completely agree, however I would like to point out that while followers on instagram or other platforms aren't friends, that doesn't necessarily mean that if you only talk to someone online that you can't be friends. I have a couple of friends that I really only talk to through discord (we live pretty far away from each other) and just because we only talk online doesn't mean we aren't friends. Just thought I'd point it out!

    • @starscream4812
      @starscream4812 2 года назад +9

      I feel like it would have been better had she had vitiligo and saw that you can be beautiful with it

  • @dedekent1205
    @dedekent1205 2 года назад +52

    I’m raising two beautiful girls and I make sure that they understand everyone is beautiful in their own way and you’re never to tell another lady she’s ugly cause that hurts. My kids go around telling every women they see that she’s beautiful or gives them a compliment. It starts young to pass on the kindness and uplifting to each other 😊

    • @Brendaglam24
      @Brendaglam24 Год назад +2

      That word is toxic

    • @caroldente9635
      @caroldente9635 Год назад

      Sweet!!!!!

    • @thezek6322
      @thezek6322 Год назад +4

      I prefer the realistic approach that I teach my brother, and it’s to embrace the ugly. Not everyone is beautiful and it’s a lie to tell someone that ain’t beautiful that they are, I see people take dozens of photos for the perfect one when I snap one and accept that I don’t look good. I say be proud of being ugly

    • @Dxrk320
      @Dxrk320 Год назад +1

      @@thezek6322 right you are…

  • @garden_goth7140
    @garden_goth7140 11 месяцев назад +10

    i think vitiligo is fucking gorgeous. i don’t know what it is but it’s just so beautiful and unique

  • @aloistrancy.
    @aloistrancy. 2 года назад +42

    Vitiligo is so pretty, I don't understand why it's seen as ugly. I remember the first time I ever seen it, the left side of this girl's (in a commercial of some sort) face was black while the other was white she had one blue eye and one dark brown. Her arms and hands had patches as well, she was stunning. I'd never before seen someone so uniquely beautiful. I was very young at the time so I think seeing this girl set up a good view of vitiligo for me.

    • @ellaqyk
      @ellaqyk Год назад +2

      I thought so too, its just so gorgeous!

    • @safespacx1565
      @safespacx1565 Год назад +2

      That’s what I’m saying! I’ve always thought it looked gorgeous on people

    • @shelbiedawn8868
      @shelbiedawn8868 Год назад +2

      Agreed! One of the most beautiful people in my opinion is Winnie Harlow. A model with vitiligo. Such beautiful skin.

  • @rockisrx
    @rockisrx Год назад +26

    That Dr is like “she’s got a long way to go” when he saw her taking selfies on the hospital bed 😂

  • @bonD6002
    @bonD6002 2 года назад +44

    People can find peace when they learn to love themselves and what they were born with, imo

  • @AnuxeL
    @AnuxeL 2 года назад +57

    Being 15 is truly a struggle

    • @IronClique
      @IronClique 2 года назад +10

      Lol. Those are times I am thankful to be beyond

    • @MyStalkersArePostingMe
      @MyStalkersArePostingMe 2 года назад +1

      🤣🤣🤣no not really..what kind of childhood did you have🤔💀🤣🤣😭😭

    • @miau6451
      @miau6451 2 года назад

      ~society~

    • @tandzilebhembe1255
      @tandzilebhembe1255 Год назад +3

      True. The worst year of my life was the year I was 15

    • @andreasanchez1453
      @andreasanchez1453 Год назад +3

      At 15 i was happy at 21 I was a stressed anxious person

  • @UmisTsukishiro00
    @UmisTsukishiro00 2 года назад +32

    And that is why you consult a doctor before you buy the worst case scenario the internet rabbit hole is selling.

  • @meenabharani1568
    @meenabharani1568 2 года назад +41

    Song lyrics/poem that I have written about perfection:
    She wants you to fix your hair
    She wants you to smile a certain away
    She wants you to speak up on her terms
    He wants you to wear a different dress
    , says that he’s still not impressed
    It seems like everyone knows who I should be or how I should act
    Do I want to change, or am I already shining as bright as a diamond
    Maybe you start questioning yourself
    But remember
    Everything they tell you is only their version of perfection
    Not yours… It isn’t yours
    Your personality is just as beautiful
    Your lens is just as clear
    Look through it and see that you’ve already created perfection
    You’ve already created perfection
    It seems like beauty is only measured in how you look
    And maybe that’s how you’re measuring your perfection too
    What if you tried another way?
    What if perfection came from your kindness?
    What if it came from how your love shines right through your eyes?
    What if it meant that you felt others emotions?
    And that you were brave, honest, and understanding too?
    Think of it like sunshine
    Are you going to darken your sky for every standard you think you don’t meet?
    Or are you going to create your own sunrise?
    Those colors are just as beautiful
    Your lens is just as clear
    Look through it and see that you’ve already created perfection.
    You’ve already created perfection. ❤

  • @HaloHighlightz
    @HaloHighlightz Год назад +20

    I love Dr Charles, he’s so down to earth

  • @Tay-cg1pt
    @Tay-cg1pt 2 года назад +69

    I know growing up there was definitely a stigma with vitiligo. People were seen as unattractive or imperfect. But I’d say over the past couple of years that narrative has really turned around and thank goodness because it is very freeing to realize the beauty in peoples body as it naturally is.
    So I’m quite surprised a show as modern as this one didn’t want to at least add a line or two to show how off the young girl was for thinking she’d be ugly. She’s 15 and superficial, so I’m not surprised she didn’t see the beauty in vitiligo, but I’m very disappointed that none of the adults in the story had anything good to say about it either. Idk if dr Charles mention of the girls superficial mentality was meant to somewhat address that, but I doubt it.

    • @shootingcomet082
      @shootingcomet082 Год назад +1

      Society might be coming around but kids are still dicks that mock anything and everything; especially something that's different. Being told that you'll still be beautiful from a stranger is pretty meaningless when your classmates mock you and when no one wants to be your friend or date you.

  • @yadiboy333
    @yadiboy333 2 года назад +62

    bro our world needs to change we need a change in society no one is expected to be "up to standards" in there beauty standards
    everyone is perfect. just the way they are..

    • @RaptorFromWeegee
      @RaptorFromWeegee Год назад

      Pretty ideals you're talking. Beauty in the eye of the beholder, and all that? But, unrealistic. That stuff only works on Mr Rogers. You're never going to eliminate beauty standards, they're hardwired into our psyches. You can only control what YOU say, do, and think, as well as the choices you make. You can't control how other people think.

  • @phantomcat7990
    @phantomcat7990 2 года назад +40

    Vitiligo is like, really cool?? Like it’s all these awesome spots scattered on your skin like fireworks! I remember 12 year old me hearing about it for the first time and I remember thinking it was the most beautiful thing. It’s sad that people believe it isn’t

    • @GoatzombieBubba
      @GoatzombieBubba 11 месяцев назад

      It's not vitiligo, it's tinea versicolor, which is a simple curable fungal infection.

  • @lucyjane2883
    @lucyjane2883 2 года назад +88

    would’ve probably been a little more powerful if she did have the thing she was afraid she had, then they could show her overcome it not just avoid something that a lot of women do suffer with:/

    • @silverselkie1692
      @silverselkie1692 2 года назад +3

      I feel weird about this, because on one hand it does go a bit against the message. But on the other hand, this girl was clearly catastrophizing.

    • @miau6451
      @miau6451 2 года назад +1

      @@silverselkie1692 Which is also a valid message, one that I actually needed to hear because sometimes I have this tendency to imagine the worst. It's not really good to jump to and act on those conclusions ;-; the episode could've been furthered though to address mental health and toxic beauty standards, I agree.

    • @Brendaglam24
      @Brendaglam24 Год назад

      Me too

  • @kaylawilson2856
    @kaylawilson2856 2 года назад +31

    Dr Charles glasses being on the edge of his nose got on my nerves lol.

    • @adylaar6708
      @adylaar6708 2 года назад +1

      Nah, its usually like that with far sighted glasses in old ppl.

    • @JubbysDragons
      @JubbysDragons Месяц назад

      If you don't get bifocals when you need them you literally have to wear them like that so you can look over the lenses when not reading....

  • @louisem6295
    @louisem6295 11 месяцев назад +5

    I’ve had vitiligo all my life and am now in my 50s. I’m white and therefore the patches don’t show as much as they do on darker skin tones but it was still sometimes difficult at school. Recent models with vitiligo have really helped to make this condition to be accepted more. But children will always be cruel and find any ‘flaw’.

  • @Bananasplitsssz
    @Bananasplitsssz Год назад +28

    Can I just say that in my opinion
    Vitiligo is one of the most fascinating and beautiful skin conditions I have ever seen ❤️
    Also no. Never Google your symptoms.

  • @neen2660
    @neen2660 2 года назад +35

    People with vitiligo are beautiful:(

  • @tonyajones1463
    @tonyajones1463 Год назад +9

    It's hard being a teenage girl intodays society always getting judged for your body your looks. I'm 28 year old woman and I've always been insecure of my looms. I've gained weight and used to be skinny but when I was smaller I still thought I was fat. Ever since I was a small girl I looked at others and thought they were prettier than me even my older sisters hang in there girls u are loved by your families

  • @amberthemagnificent7259
    @amberthemagnificent7259 2 года назад +7

    I knew a kid in high school with vitiligo, I didnt know what it was, just figured he was born like that. I used to have the biggest crush on him lol

  • @amandahunter9186
    @amandahunter9186 2 года назад +25

    I really don't want to post pictures of myself on Instagram because I feel ugly and I don't want to get bullied or hurt

    • @OutCast907
      @OutCast907 2 года назад +1

      Well, an other way to protect yourself I guess
      No need to self inflicted so much pain for vanity anyway

    • @ClezVideos
      @ClezVideos 2 года назад +4

      I don’t know what age you are but if you’re under 30, you will realise when you’re my age (45) that you are far more beautiful that you realise. But, I know you won’t believe me, which is sadly how I felt at your age too. I hope you see your beauty some day

    • @amandavalentino3818
      @amandavalentino3818 2 года назад +2

      I believe you. Thanks for saying the is.

    • @Margann1987
      @Margann1987 2 года назад +1

      Beauty comes from within, Amanda, and that is something that Instagram photos or any photo can never capture. Continue to be a good person. Outer beauty fades over time but inner beauty is eternal.

    • @ineedhoez
      @ineedhoez 2 года назад +1

      Smart move. People are toxic AF and there is no need to expose yourself to other people's opinions. Stay off social media. You'll be happier and healthier

  • @catherinewilliams9680
    @catherinewilliams9680 Год назад +5

    I am so glad that I grew up before social media.

  • @rayshanedits8215
    @rayshanedits8215 2 года назад +42

    I never thought i'll hear someone say a yeast infection is wonderful

  • @ellesandralady8596
    @ellesandralady8596 Месяц назад +2

    Beauty standards are really stupid to me, you can do whatever to your body in the name of beauty, like boob jobs, nose jobs, plucking hairs off your face, and etc, but going too far can do a number on the mind and body. Like obsess over looking perfect, addiction to the medication, or obsess with surgery ( for real people CAN get addicted to surgery )

  • @takumi2023
    @takumi2023 2 года назад +20

    why is dr sarah reese look so beaten down in future episodes she so full of life in this one. i don't like how they made her character so tragic.

  • @_Wiccan_Witch_
    @_Wiccan_Witch_ 11 месяцев назад +3

    I have always thought vitiligo was so beautiful! I used to have an elementary teacher with it and she was gorgeous! And about a few months ago (beginning of the year maybe) I started developing some patches on my arms and thighs. It’s a little scary at first for me since I wasn’t sure how people would treat me but now I am in love with how it looks. I feel like it makes me look even better!❤❤

  • @clarehouston5360
    @clarehouston5360 2 года назад +8

    I have had the same thing this patient has since I was in middle school and it really messed with my confidence. I just thought I was dirty up until this year when a dermatologist diagnosed me.

  • @BBrawler101
    @BBrawler101 Год назад +8

    My dad has vitiligo. He didn't get it until he was older, and even then, he's white so it was never a "big thing" when it came to him being judged. I always thought it was really cool to have, and it sucks seeing people getting judged so harsh over something that can just... happen.

    • @RaptorFromWeegee
      @RaptorFromWeegee Год назад

      Woah, you saying white people can get that too? And even after they're past 21?!?!

    • @waves2378
      @waves2378 8 месяцев назад

      As long as it doesn't pose any sort of threat to my health, it's really not a problem to me. So you have some lighter patches of skin. So what?

  • @grimm6176
    @grimm6176 2 года назад +2

    my goodness, there are two people in my town with vitiligo and they are, without a doubt, two of the most beautfiul bloody people i have ever seen. the vitiligo makes them look like a work of art and that is no exaggeration. im not saying believe the words of a stranger on the internet, but folks with vitiligo - you are beyond beautiful.

  • @cyanidesidesalad
    @cyanidesidesalad Год назад +23

    This was difficult for me to watch because I know the right thing to do is feel empathy for her but as soon as I heard she was a bully to other girls is when I lost it.
    Let me explain:
    I survived severe bullying most of my early childhood. I tried committing suicide when I was under 11 years old and I started self harming when I was under 10 years old. It it’s not gotten much better since then for me.
    Countless treatments, doctors, medications, therapies, hospitalizations, suicide attempts. All because of girls like her in the video who bullied just cause they felt pathetic themselves.
    This is good for me to watch so I can feel challenged on my mostly black and white hatred against bullies. Still it’s hard to watch cause I it just makes me angry seeing other people in the comments and in the show pity her and want to help her when she herself could’ve cause unrelenting anguish to others.
    UGH I’m so divided on my feelings. 😞

    • @shannon890
      @shannon890 Год назад +1

      I understand as a victim of bullying myself. I don’t forgive my abusers I can’t because for me that erases what they did. I have moved on now and I don’t wish them harm but I get where your are coming from.

    • @NativeWarrior88
      @NativeWarrior88 Год назад

      I know how you feel! I have a lot of hatred for bullies and I refuse to sympathize with them!

    • @RaptorFromWeegee
      @RaptorFromWeegee Год назад

      @@NativeWarrior88 Ah, sweet schadenfreude

    • @buecherdrache1
      @buecherdrache1 11 месяцев назад

      I was bullied by one of my friends back in school, which makes it really difficult for me to make friends now. I originally thought he bullied me in the hope of rising the social ladder. However as I know now, back then he was actually she because she is male to female trans and her mother hated and bullied her for her feelings. So to make herself feel better she bullied me. However a few years later, after she moved to her father, who completely respected her, she wanted to meet me. There she apologised for what she did. She also told me that her issues are not an excuse for what she did, she just wanted me to know that it wasn't due to anything I did or anyway I looked.
      So to me knowing that bullies hurt that much makes it easier to accept what happened, because I know it wasn't due to anything on my side, but due to their problems. And it also makes it possible to fight bullying: if we reduce the pressure on people and help people like her with her issues we might prevent further bullying. That might not mitigate my pain, but maybe lead to someone else not having to go through the same. And for this, showing empathy to a bully (not for bullying of course) might be worth it.

  • @Erin-bo1kc
    @Erin-bo1kc Год назад +3

    Honestly, I think Vitiligo is beautiful. I understand to the person experiencing it, it could be distressing and I'm sorry I can't understand that personally. But gosh, I think people who have it look so ethereal and gorgeous.

  • @nancyfifita2395
    @nancyfifita2395 2 года назад +4

    This was one of the reasons I stopped myself from going on social media.

  • @EPrimeify
    @EPrimeify 2 года назад +16

    Me: That vitiligo kinda looks like the thing I have. Tinea Versicolor
    Me: Oh…..

  • @SparDanger
    @SparDanger 6 месяцев назад +2

    Vitiligo is gorgeous!! Rock that skin you're in!!

  • @guestsmith58
    @guestsmith58 Год назад +1

    I had never posted a picture on any platform to be judged like this woman. I refuse to be judged by anyone but me.

  • @whycuzlifesucks5532
    @whycuzlifesucks5532 10 месяцев назад +6

    Am i weird for thinking people with vitiligo are BEAUTIFUL

    • @OmeCoatl054
      @OmeCoatl054 4 месяца назад

      Nope.... there's beauty in what is rare to like

  • @jonathanfenton2601
    @jonathanfenton2601 2 года назад +3

    "I don't know what to say, what to ask." I can't tell you how many times I tell people that my job is 90% bullshitting with people. You'd be surprised how much information you can gather from a simple conversation about anything else.

  • @user-bo3wu7ce4v
    @user-bo3wu7ce4v Год назад +3

    I agree with everyone who points out how beautiful vitiligo is!
    My father had something I can only think of as vitiligo in reverse, and was rather proud of it. He was 75% Irish, 25% Spanish, so basically white, but born with with large brown patches which grew as he got older and subtly changed their shapes. He showed them off, and to be fair, they did look rather fine ornamental features. Has anyone there seen or heard of this white and brown phenomenon?

  • @carmenquinones4451
    @carmenquinones4451 9 дней назад

    The first time, I saw the model who has vitiligo. My first thought was "WOW she reminds me of a beautiful palomino horse." So grateful .

  • @roydadancegod
    @roydadancegod 2 года назад +90

    That psych resident looks hotter than most Instagram models

  • @GoatzombieBubba
    @GoatzombieBubba 11 месяцев назад +1

    It's not vitiligo, it's tinea versicolor, which is a simple curable fungal infection.

  • @NortelGeek
    @NortelGeek 2 года назад +4

    They're only standards if you allow them to be standard. ❤️
    Be good to yourself.

  • @frenchiesottises8193
    @frenchiesottises8193 2 года назад +22

    Even if it was vitiligo, the worst it does is produce white patches on the skin. As far as I know, your life isn't at risk for having it, it just makes you extremely pale. Michael Jackson had it and he still rocked it.
    It boggles me that a disease, especially one that poses no threat to the person's health, is seen as ugly.

    • @snafuet
      @snafuet 2 года назад +7

      Are you forgetting that he made himself almost white because of that? Operations and stuff?

    • @frenchiesottises8193
      @frenchiesottises8193 2 года назад +3

      @@snafuet All I know is that the dude had vitiligo and, despite struggling with it, managed to make it work.
      I may not be big on popstar history, but the point still stands that vitiligo shouldn't be seen as ugly.

    • @snafuet
      @snafuet 2 года назад +3

      @@frenchiesottises8193 he was already a star before vitiligo, though.

    • @ineedhoez
      @ineedhoez 2 года назад

      Bro come on we really got to stop this. If you are walking around with creamy chocolate evenly tone skin and then half your face turns white, you're going to have an issue. And it doesn't just turn white all at once. Your splotchy AF. You don't look good and you don't look healthy. You look diseased. Just stop.

    • @chadwood4412
      @chadwood4412 2 года назад +12

      He didn't "rock it", he literally bleached his entire body so it wouldn't show. He did the exact opposite of what you're trying to say. He ran from it and covered it up. If he was rocking it he'd have let it run its course.

  • @janaelewis1016
    @janaelewis1016 4 месяца назад +1

    I’ve always seen vitiligo as beautiful. They put too much pressure on young girls to try and force them to grow up faster. It’s honestly sickening

  • @PaulaDautremont
    @PaulaDautremont 9 месяцев назад +3

    Winnie Harlow is one of the world's most sought after models. She has vitiligo and is absolutely stunning.

  • @gs3833
    @gs3833 Год назад +2

    I used to be embarrassed when i was a kid about vitiligo but as an adult dont even think about it being weird

  • @fluffycow8165
    @fluffycow8165 Год назад +2

    To me, vitiligo is one of the most beautiful body features that someone can have, even though she doesn’t have it she is still beautiful. Everyone is.

  • @graceb5779
    @graceb5779 10 месяцев назад +1

    Even if it was vitiligo, the fact that someone resorted to ending their life because of it needs serious help

  • @oliviajachym9537
    @oliviajachym9537 7 дней назад

    I knew this kid in elementary school who had vitiligo and back then, I had no idea what that was, so I thought it was strange, but i thought it cool nonetheless. Nowadays I realized it was vitiligo and I’m so glad no one in my old school was cruel to him about it

  • @c8_snow133
    @c8_snow133 Год назад +2

    I love Doctor Charles he always does his work so well to me and something about the way he works amazes me

  • @josiemell1795
    @josiemell1795 Год назад +1

    This makes me very sad that conditions such as vitiligo is seen as ugly especially since I’ve always thought that it’s so pretty. To anyone with vitiligo, u are beautiful and don’t need to change yourself

  • @ark01000
    @ark01000 Год назад +3

    Something like this happened to me. I had bad chronic pain and my mum was dying. So I stole her meds and used mine to do something stupid! The result was me being in a coma. It’s better to be honest with the doctors and your choices. I was under so much pressure to be strong when she was dying. I felt awful and my condition made it worse and upset.I needed to be calm to stop the pain! It’s left me with damage to my liver and kidney and heart ! Don’t judge her, be hind and ask why in slowly done over time little chunks ! :) 😅
    .

  • @Amanda_Woodward
    @Amanda_Woodward 10 месяцев назад +1

    When I was in my early 20s I used to go in tanning beds all the time… It started off with one patch on my back but I started to get these big white spots, I have light skin but it’s still looked very obvious… Eventually my entire back was covered… I never wore tank tops or bathing suits… I blamed tanning beds for this discoloration all over my back… After a few years of dealing with this I had a random doctor appointment for something different and I mentioned it… It was tinea versicolor, I’ve never heard that term before… Doctor prescribed me lotion to put on my back and two days later it was completely gone. Every couple of years it will pop up somewhere… Mostly from working out and wearing sports bra and sweating etc.… I have the same exact cream they prescribed, Ketozocale cream - you can also use dandruff shampoo though… Clears right up.

  • @user-jo7kf2bj9s
    @user-jo7kf2bj9s 7 месяцев назад

    My niece has vitiligo, on her side, down her leg. She's almost 12. We never let her talk down about herself, or feel bad, because she is as she was meant to be. No 2 people in the world are exactly the same, even identical twins are vastly different. Beauty is not a physical trait.....those fade over time, no matter how well you take care of yourself. Beauty is how you treat others, how you accept differences, the compassion and kindness you extend. Thats beauty, because those things arent always easy in a world where standards are ridiculous and harmful.

  • @kathimorrical9912
    @kathimorrical9912 Год назад +2

    I love Oliver!! He's one of the most under rated actors around!

  • @lhproductions61
    @lhproductions61 9 месяцев назад

    One of my good friends growing up and her mom have vitiligo, I think they’re both gorgeous, always have. Their spots are on their arms and hands, like I said beautiful.

  • @sandpiperr
    @sandpiperr Год назад +25

    Okay so I'm 6 minutes in and 3 things...
    1. It's not vitiligo, it's tinea versicolor, which is a simple curable fungal infection.
    2. That girl didn't try to kill herself because she felt bad about how horrible she was to other people, she just was afraid of it happening to her.
    3. She learned nothing from this, she'll be back cyberbullying other girls with in a year.

    • @matthaygood654
      @matthaygood654 Месяц назад

      Are you a doctor :/

    • @sandpiperr
      @sandpiperr Месяц назад

      @@matthaygood654 I'm not an MD, but I am a different type of doctor. I have a PhD in biomedical reserach, and I knew it was tinea versicolor because I teach medical microbiology to future MDs.

  • @AshleyBehr
    @AshleyBehr 8 месяцев назад

    I have the same skin condition as the patient and it has definitely made me more self conscious and I hate my skin when it's cold! It can be very embarrassing and I understand her!

  • @cindykaywebster4643
    @cindykaywebster4643 Год назад +3

    I absolutely love what he said about souls!! So Very true!!!

  • @nr6916
    @nr6916 Год назад +1

    My aunt has vitiligo, though I’ve only really seen them on her hands. I always thought they were beautiful paint splatters, now I know that genetics declared her hands to be works of art

  • @e-l-l-ablla6177
    @e-l-l-ablla6177 2 года назад +26

    It's honestly sad now girls think their not beautiful because they don't have a flat stomach, no acne, etc. Many of my friends talk about how they workout and nothing working but all I said to them was " you look beautiful, but you can't get yoursf down because of somebody else's body" now we encourage eachother to eat health while still having fun and being normal teens.

    • @bellerain381
      @bellerain381 2 года назад +3

      Your friends are very lucky to have you in their lives!

    • @e-l-l-ablla6177
      @e-l-l-ablla6177 2 года назад +2

      @@bellerain381 thank you 😊💕💗

    • @Brendaglam24
      @Brendaglam24 Год назад

      Right

  • @pluto5814
    @pluto5814 2 года назад +10

    there’s no way he can see out of those glasses lmao

  • @annahenderson2155
    @annahenderson2155 3 месяца назад +1

    I think vitiligo is just another lovely skin hue. I don't know if it carries other side effects, but in itself, it's unique.

  • @lubystkaolamonola529
    @lubystkaolamonola529 2 года назад +5

    How she could not know the meaning of the word psychiatry if she wants to be psychiatric resident? I know it is America, but still, keep some level please.

    • @wizardofchaos6193
      @wizardofchaos6193 2 года назад

      Phychiatri gets confused with psychology alot. But one Dr deals with drugs and the other deals with emotional issues.

  • @LeahBates-uk3wu
    @LeahBates-uk3wu Год назад +1

    docter is doing good job

  • @Kanjiwinyan
    @Kanjiwinyan Год назад +1

    I have vitiligo thanks to type 1 diabetes. The very, very few people who care about my spots aren't worth the time of day.

  • @shaquanawilson7995
    @shaquanawilson7995 Год назад

    One of my close friends has vitiligo and she’s literally one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever met!

  • @pinksugiii
    @pinksugiii Месяц назад

    Vitiligo is seriously really pretty tho, natures imperfections are always perfect

  • @raphaelledesma9393
    @raphaelledesma9393 8 месяцев назад

    Sort of happy with whoever did the makeup on the show for the spots. As a doctor myself, my first thought when seeing the spots was a fungal infection called tinea versicolor. It’s one of the things to rule out when there’s pale spots typically by looking at skin cells under a microscope and looking for spores. That said, vitiligo spots do look much paler than tinea versicolor so at a glance, it did look like tinea.

  • @carlies.crazyness.creation1398

    My sisters friend has vitiligo and she is the most gorgeous person I’ve ever seen dead honest she Is so pretty, it’s so awful that people shame upon people with it.

  • @rupertperiwinkle4477
    @rupertperiwinkle4477 3 месяца назад +1

    Vitiligo is beautiful. My gramps had it. It reminds me of him and he was beautiful :)

  • @donnielindon1015
    @donnielindon1015 2 года назад +8

    Just be safe out there.

  • @candiibars5668
    @candiibars5668 2 года назад +2

    It's the way Choi had his hands on that girl when the patient first came in no offense

  • @sarodorethedragon9865
    @sarodorethedragon9865 9 месяцев назад

    as a person who used to be a first responder, i see that ambu bag action as an absolute win!
    Look at it go!
    not even on the patient for part of that scene and were already less then 20 seconds in! XD
    great show but please its a minor detail that makes a big difference

  • @theemoturtle7002
    @theemoturtle7002 Месяц назад

    Vitiligo is such a interesting condition visually. I remember i got my hair done and the stylist this strange skin look (what i now know is vitiligo) and i just started stareing at her, just anamored by how interesting she looks. My mom told me to not be mean, and looked at the stylist and told her that if i said anything, tell her. But all i wanted to do is tell her how beautiful she is. Vitiligo is such a beautiful look! I think it should be embraced

  • @thehamsters579
    @thehamsters579 2 года назад +5

    It’s so sad the this is actually what’s happens nowadays

  • @hazbinotakusimp2182
    @hazbinotakusimp2182 9 месяцев назад

    I've seen people with vitiligo and anytime I see it I can't help but stare, not in disgust or anything of course, but just in amazement. It always looks so unique and cool and I can't help but admire they way it looks (I don't stare stare of course, just to the appropriate level lol), I met a man once who had it all the way up to his face and he always had a smile, he looked great!

  • @Ennnn.jenn.
    @Ennnn.jenn. Месяц назад +1

    As a 15 yr old girl, i have given up to societal standards n i decided to actually jst do whatever that makes me happy, so long as its not illegal 😂

  • @MadamComet
    @MadamComet Год назад +1

    It hurts cause my mom is developing it later in life and she is not big on it and very self conscious about it. But I think it's pretty cool. It just goes to show the many shapes and sizes people from all walks of life walk in come from.
    I've also come to the understanding that this may happen to me as well. And I won't lie, I am a tad bit scared but overall have accepted it as just another way my body changes. I'm gonna be old and wrinkly anyways.
    To all those with Vitiligo and those who might get it later in life. Don't give attention to these other people that give nothing but negatives. It's okay to not like what you look like at that point in time. But hopefully, eventually, you can love yourself throughout those changes.
    Love you all 🖤💜

  • @eceozuduru5148
    @eceozuduru5148 2 года назад +15

    “I’m a great believer in psychiatry” says the guy who treats every psych patient like they’re freaks

  • @MandiaM27
    @MandiaM27 Год назад +1

    I grew knowing I was never going to be pretty. Even random small children comment on the street "why is she like that???" bullying, physical abuse I have suffered everything in the book. Sometimes I do think I am a waste of resources but I know that this would make all of them and whoever created such a sad creature winners. By this point I seek to make myself better inside by studying and reading however I am extremely bitter and jealous of the other people. and she got paranoid over a self diagnosis??

    • @user-bo3wu7ce4v
      @user-bo3wu7ce4v Год назад

      You're better, far better than anyone who ever insulted you, Mandia. I wish I could meet you for a discussion about how the cruelty of others early in our lives shapes our futures. I had - and have - autism, and this invoked some vicious bullying from other people. We can get over the cruelty when we don't agree it was justified. You have never been a waste of anything - just a child, and just a person who didn't happen to conform to what people were directed by media and fashion. I've never seen an ugly person: our uniqueness is our attractiveness and our beauty.
      Be strong and be yourself in your originality.

  • @jenneli314
    @jenneli314 2 года назад +6

    Vitiligo glows under UV light, fun fact.

  • @elliewinters3191
    @elliewinters3191 Год назад

    I see people with vitiligo and think it's beautiful ❤️

  • @cheylikespie
    @cheylikespie 6 месяцев назад +1

    dr. charles may be fictional but he is my dream doctor truly