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- Опубликовано: 22 окт 2023
- Ever wondered what it's like to grow up in the Bollywood industry? This week I sit down with Seema Kiran Sajdeh who stars in Netflix hit show Bollywood Wives who shares her unfiltered truth on:
- Growing up in Bollywood
- Marriage, divorce & motherhood
- Finding her superpower
- How she manages her mental health & So much more.
I loved this conversation with Seema and hope you will too!
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00:05 Transition from disciplined lifestyle to the chaotic world of Bollywood
02:43 Seema Sajdeh grew up in South Bombay, in a nuclear family as the oldest sibling.
07:47 The impact of social media comments on mental health
10:16 Seema talks about her upbringing and family connections to Bollywood.
15:25 The societal conditioning of women to constantly compromise and prioritize others.
18:03 Overcoming fear and finding strength in speaking one's truth.
23:09 Transition from struggling with motherhood to self-discovery
25:47 Prioritizing herself led to clarity and happiness.
30:55 Challenges of societal expectations and pressure on women regarding marriage and children.
33:32 The decision to get married and have kids should not be rushed
38:49 Finding happiness and purpose within oneself is essential for true fulfillment.
41:19 Seema Sajdeh discusses her journey towards becoming more confident and the role of her female friendships in this transformation
46:39 Seema felt nervous about filming 'Bollywood Wives' while separated.
49:19 Seema shares about the challenges of being open on the show
54:19 Finding time to disconnect and regroup is important
57:12 Personal growth is about learning from our own mistakes and finding happiness
Thank you 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
My parents conditioned me to have a career, be independent, travel the world, buy my own place..marriage was the last thing on the list.
We are from a small town in Assam.
Thanks, mom and dad.
By the way, I have been married for 17 years now… married on my own terms, had my daughter when I was ready.
Love that!!!
More power to you. My parents are like that too. And I'm from Assam as well. Jorhat 😊
Same here. People who are “single-shaming” others are usually the ones who are the most insecure and unhappy in their own relationships. It’s much better to stay single than be in a toxic unhappy relationship!
That’s lovely, my parents are same.
But I have gone through hell life medically.
So they want me to settle and then plan the life.
May I know the age when you had your daughter??
Because all are talking about that I need 3 years before I have a child, and hence I should marry sooner.
I have sidle lined my career, i have no choice.
But I am making my own choice, by applying for jobs again. But my gal years are affecting eating everything
Even my gynaecology says that I should marry, settle and focus on kids 😢
See, I want kids in life, I was raised progressive but my inner calling is towards being a mother. That is something I want for myself, not for my fiancé, not for my in laws.
But I want a more stable career and explore the world before I get anchored.
horrible advice for girls.......its true...women fail each other!
Omg!! I feel her..I have just moved out of my inlaws house with my husband because the pressure of responsibility on me for being a pefect bahu was making me chronically depressed ..i can resonate her so well..Every body is struggling in some or the other way ..i was so sick of living and tending other peoples needs and happines but not mine and i was struggling to have kids due to stress..finally i mustered the courage to say i couldnt do it anymore..i prioritized my mental health and left the house..i still get anxiety and have triggers about how i was treated but im happy my husband supported me..
Right but wat to do but my mom is not less than any grandmother she never understand me i'm also suffering this but in my own house? Wat to do feeling to get married but the marriage is not the solution here coz i live in a very small place with 7 people around me whu disturb me a lot i'm 32 but not get married coz of my acting career but wat is the need of getting aged , remain without husband if u r not getting peace nd mental helath here nd not focusing on career
Nd i left my job for dreams nd for fulfilling those dreams i need to find job for home rent
@demijo9792 So true why why women are tied down after marriage .... Why the hell a women is one tied up to responsibilities of doing dishes of whole family and cooking food for all
She’s so relatable to every modern age mother with kids growing up under the media bombardment
Never knew Seema is this intelligent and sensitive as a person . It's very sad bright minds get overshadowed by powerful spouses !
I second that!
She looks like kiara
Who ,Sohail Khan?😂😂
@@BeingL3X khandan, not just Sohail, entire abusive family
@BeingL3X yes he was relatively famous:) and whole family in general
Seema is such a breath of fresh air! She's poised, articulate, funny and kind. I wish her the best!
Very few have been this honest, straight-forward... yet not bitter about their experience. More power to you... and thanks for opening up. The manner in which u explained you were looking for happiness in the wrong places, touched me. Loads of love and best wishes ❤️
I think Seema has just shown a mirror to alot of women, thanks to both you amazing women 🎉
Ahhh thank you so much for watching
I like this woman .. She is so honest and love the way she has learnt to embrace self love ❤️..
She looks amazing
Great interview!!
I love Seema’s honesty, rawness and advice. What a wonderful breathe of fresh air to hear about her journey and her perspective. 😇
Thank you Seema. 🙏🏽 I hope you broadcast your voice even further. Asian women need to hear more of you. 💕
I respect her after listening to this podcast. Kudos to her for finding her self and putting herself first 👏🏼
I feel you. I hope you are able to let go of the baggage of the past. God bless you ❤
lol I dint get how people lose themselves first if all
Seema looks not a day above 35 .....47 😮....she looks amazing 👏
She is super normal with no fake accent. Good she is moving ahead .
Very difficult interview for Seema clearly. She is not fake like the other Bollywood wives/ex wives. Being a straight forward person it was difficult for her to hide the real reasons and names while going through this podcast. Hope she does well from here on.
She is a strong woman. It takes guts to revisit a painful past.
Seema is very natural and candid in saying what she says . I admire her confession and it’s helping me so much to understand myself . I am glad she came out of such big mess and confusion box . She looks relaxed and prettier than before because she is free from huge unwanted emotional burden
This was such a great Podcast. Thank you! Seema has definitely had a Spiritual awakening. I could totally see that by her conversation
For the first time I’m loving your interview Seema Kiran Sajdeh! Sooo beautifully articulated
Seema and Malaika only knows what hard life they were living in with the Khans. Feels so proud to see both happy and settled ( career wise ) now.
I actually agree with you..I was genuinely happy for Malaika. n now for her too.
How and why ?
Khans are most wonderful family
@sunnyb831 you know them personally
@@OmkarPawar-tj4bqso U know them personally 😂
she is so different than what you see on insta and netflix...v mature and all the best for seema
One can totally relate to Seema and her thoughts. Unless a man is worthy enough to be a good companion for a woman in every sense of the word, the partnership turns toxic.
Seema came out of her shell and comfort zone to speak her mind and heart is not at all easy actually. Kudos to her ❤👍 such a beautiful charming smart intelligent intellectual poised lady🫶 thoroughly enjoyed this podcast. Accidentally came through and found Shivani one of the best interviewers ❤
Thank you so so so much 🫶🏽🫶🏽
These are d kind of Breakaway conversations we need - Bold, Beautiful and Mature :) keep it up
She was the funniest on bollywood wives compared to other ladies. It was only because of her i watched both the seasons. She was real, caring and sentimental.
Absolutely loved and agreed & resonated with what Seema said. Love how you let all your guests speak and guide the conversation gently without interrupting
Thank you so much 💛💛💛
Love this really! Just finished it.. and the kid is just the cutest.. love to see women together this way!! ❤
Seema is my fav character to on the show, its nice to see her open up more on the topic. Great chat
Amazing interview ❤ refreshing hearing strong beautiful intelligent women from our eastern culture being so honest. Makes me not feel alone in my own thoughts and feelings. We conditioned at a young age in what will happen to women and what is expected of us. It’s never ending making others happy. Not realizing until a later age that our happiness matters as well. We can be strong, loving and caring at the same time.
From the moment I saw Seema on Bollywood wives, I could see she was just such an inspirational person. Whenever I see her interviews I always have to watch! I hope she realises she’s amazing
she is isnt she!! Thanks so much for watching
I absolutely relate with Seema! I'm sailing on a similar boat and long for freedom, to bring to life, the woman-child in me. Hope to make the right decision to be free from all constrictions before I lose every inch of myself.
Go for it dear ❤
Rooting for you
Wow ! Love the thoughtful conversation!
She looks more beautiful and happier now.
Individual choice … choose things that makes u happy. Life is worth living not sulking ❤❤
I wanna c her in bollywood movies too … may b side heroine or some fun character she’s so charming n real
U mean suicidal industry..😢
This was such a relief to watch!! I love Seema Khan!! She is so me!! ❤😍
Seema seems so real and vulnerable, loved her on the show. She’s also beautiful.
I've been married for 16 years and chosen not to have children... and instead got myself two degrees.. and pursing other goals, this podcast has been therapy and absolute gold ❤
Thats amazing 🤩
Bullshit. What you achieved in life. Nothing 🤣😜
We decided the same, pursue our spiritual goals and live comfortable. Children are a blessing but everyone doesn't need to claim that blessing and some should refrain from it as they are not suitable for parenthood because of their own issues.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ m planning the same
That’s amazing ❤
Amazing podcast, thoughts only someone so brave can voice. Also clearly so many unsaid traumas Seema didn’t even speak of, we all have bouts of anxiety and we know why. Its the mindset, the society, the patriarchy and sadly our own partners are an unfortunate accumulation of everything women have to cope with!!! Women give back and never back down!!!
Thank you so so much and agreeee! xxx
Loved the interview. Candid and pure
I just love this heart to heart conversation between two girls ❤❤❤
Thank you soooo much 💛💛💛💛
Honestly...we have these conversations amongst our girl groups. The mental load of women have to deal with is insane, and we have to lose ourselves to make others happy. Glad to see this conversation!
It took a bit...but I only started feeling comfortable with being single as an older person later in life. I'm embracing this and I am living my life to the fullest. If a guy comes great if not also great. My Instagram social media life truly is authentic and it truly does reflect me because I don't have to hide behind social norms and expectations.
Love this!! Thanks so much for sharing 🙌🏽
Finally someone said the right thing to put your happiness first
I liked Seema's personality. Hey Seema if you get this message, please show more of this side on the show too. It is great!!
Such a nice podcast, I can also relate to Seema, I got married at 22, it was just like listening to my own story, lots of guts to get a divorce after 25 years, where lots of women are just compromising , not able to break the rules of our indian socity
Indian men really need to upgrade themselves. One does not marry a woman to produce kids for chrissake. You marry a girl because ur life appears meaningless without her in it..And woman also should marry a guy who understands her...otherwise best to stay single..Most woman desire security at 22 hence marry the first guy who flashes wealth/status etc..Its so imp to be financially independent before getting into marriage in case wealth/status is important to u. Wealth etc can be self earned these days.
Especially hard it must have been when Salman was at his peak
Women finally has a Voice greatly said, as a Society we are Evolving, upgrading and Learning. Although there is no reason to break existing Relationship and fight battles on your own. Take efforts to Save a Relationship than finding excuse to break relationship.
I think society in general is changing as the average Indian age is drifting from 20s to 30s and it brings a lot of change in thought process in the society. It will gradually change more as we age
This was a great interview! Had no idea that I will listen until the end.
Another amazing podcast Shivani I love u n find everything interesting just keep them coming ❤
Hats of to Seema she is so honest, enjoyed the talk.
I absolutely loved the conversation and the engagement chat by Seema and the host Shivani -- really nice and honest discussion about so many life lessons and conversations. Thank you for this!
What a fantastic episode 👏 such a refreshing perspective on life!
Thank uuuu 💓💓💓💓
Both of you gals are so inspirational!!! Kudos to you both❤❤❤
Shivani at 30 talking like she knows everything is what's wrong here! Seema has been through so much more and she can't compare and try to connect her dating life to Seema's 🤦♀️
Very very correct...i too felt the same...she says at 30 when u marry u have things sorted...really???😂 U r not sorted even when u r 80...
This was such a wholesome episode Shivani, keep shining 🧡 big love
Thank you sooo much 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
Really enjoyed the podcast!! Lots love for both of you 🫶🏽
well, i have not yet started the video but for the FIRST TIME i am seeing a sensible ad preceding the show. Thanks to people like Malleshwar for spreading this very important message of ' SAVE FOOD SAVE LIFE'. salutes to MILAAP👋👋👌👌🙏🙏
Sending you love and hugs to Seema... Arise , Rise , Shine and go forth ...❤❤
She just nailed it wonderfully. Hats off to Seema. I really loved her on this talkshow. So gracefull. ❤❤❤❤
So glad you enjoyed the episode! Thanks so much for watching 🫶🏽
@@ShivaniPauPodcast your doing a great job. I really treasure your episodes. It's from your heart, unfiltered and realitable. Genuine. God bless you girl.
thank you seema for not touching your hair all the time like other celebs, instead you spoke well and gave great advice
Seema wonderful wonderful podcast . Honest , from the heart conversation. . Take care . You are a strong lady
It seemed like my future self was speaking and believe you me, irrespective of the age difference, Seema has provided life clarity. Cathartic..., I loved the chat. Loved the ladies and atmospherics too
Shivani the moment you said why is everyone in the 'urge & rush' for marriage, I sooo felt it. Being single in our society is constant struggle of controlling ourselves from getting angry sad n annoyed because people out there have got only one topic to discuss, either body shaming or marriage, literally always. And for the same reason I've stopped attending family events and I avoid meeting relatives. This feels like a constant pressure of finding the right guy n get married, I mean how, u can go out n bump on the right guys come on its real life not a movie. No one ever ask a woman how is she, never, it's always get marriage, if married, have babies, if a parent, still have more babies. Let a woman breathe .
Fully agree.
I m single and 33 yrs old. Whenever u face these questions make them sit and force them to listen to the entire conversation about why are you not doing that. What is the scenario. Give some examples.
I think society in general is changing as the average Indian age is drifting from 20s to 30s and it brings a lot of change in thought process in the society. It will gradually change more as we age
I came across this podcast quite by accident and was unaware of who both woman are hence googled but more importantly what a wonderful refreshing and much needed conversation. Bravo ladies., bravo.
Loved this podcast… Seema u seem to be such an intelligent brave n sorted woman!! U look amazing n have carried urself with a certain aura!! Genuinely a honest podcast❤❤❤
Loved this interview,Seema you were mind blowing 🎉
Intelligent woman. Great podcast to empower woman in the same situation. Well done
Hey chanting really helps and you are really on the right path you were so honest and you are really so intelligent to understand where knowing yourself is so important
This lady seems to be very matured and intelligent.
A HUGE thank you to Seema for being so raw and transparent in this episode 🙏🏽 If you enjoyed this conversation could you do us a favour and HIT that LIKE & SUBSCRIBE button on the video! Helps us a lot ❤
Thank you for a great eps
Grateful ❤
❤
Seema speaks so well better than kareena deepika sonam shradha these ladies dont know how to sit and talk sense. Seema is so intelligent and pure.
Shivani as a suggestion for improvement I would like to say , it is better that you reduce planting your personal point of view too strong in a podcast. Whereas you should bring public point of views , different experiences to the table to discuss.
@parth3337
ln this interview it was not just seema sajdeh speaking .it was every married girl who got married at early stage and went through all this indian mentality including me. its very difficult for any girl to leave thier own comforting house and keep on adjusting for everyone around them.but no one adjust for that one girl who leaves her entire family and adjusts with them.and that adjusting is never an ending .
🎉Financial independence is key.With today's kids it is too much too soon.The mind is not ready to accept certain things.There is a time & a place for everything.Women have a never ending role in this part of the world.
Whenever i came across young students esp girls..my advice them to focus on education..skills, Carrer,house,car..maid, independent etc.everything should be under your name ..NO JOINT ACCOUNTS..
Never gave up your freedom..
Ur choices, hobbies
Go for it,my dear sisters...
Aim high🙏
Yes your life your rule 🙌 If a man truly loves you then only he will come into your life and take care of you. Otherwise enjoy being single 💃
@@Soulfulmind-hj1td
Stop the baby making machine..
Love the unfiltered heart to heart conversation ❤
I loved this podcast, now im understanding all these.... And uh both gave me some clear perspective too... I saved it to watch later... To remind me all these... Im a small town girl from middle class family but I can relate it to 100%
Seema...you are so genuine,i think you got out the phase and new life awaits...even being a celebrity we can resonate with you...
She speaks well , relatable and seems like a sensible woman , sad that she was probably over powered by her husband and his family . I m happy she is in a better place now and wish her good luck with her career
Excellent podcast between 2 lovely ladies! Yes break the stereotype of a woman. I served in the Army and both of chose to have one kid and it’s a lovely daughter who completes our family. She turned 28 recently and is busy in her career and marriage nowhere close! We are fine…..just the grandparents are in a rush and ask us! Second kid was never discussed in our busy lives! Women are the bravest in society. High time guys and Seema aunty comes to terms with that! We have equal rights including inheritance! Use those rights to empower yourself and stand equal!
Hii. Really an eye opening. Like I literally had to pause the video and comment. I never really comment , cause there is so much of insight going on here. I had to do it. Love the perspective when you moved out cause it is the only time you have for yourse. i have been single all the time and always use to complain but the amount i have grown into. cause its real men are gonna see for themselves. but i am growing into this powerful and strong lady. somehow wounded but i will get over it. love seema too.loved in bollywood wives. somehow found her genuine and loved her courage and felt her pain.
Thank you!!!!
Sad to see people talking about their personal relationships & failed marriages in public platforms like this encouraged by anchors like this lady. It’s called washing dirty linen in public.
Lots of respect for Sohail Khan and the Khan family for maintaining the dignity and giving his Ex wife / former Daughter in law the respect she deserves.
Very matured & dignified way of expressing ,seema❤
Just finished watching the whole interview and I didn't think I ll manage to watch it till the end.
Seema is quite sensitive and serious which I never expected from her.
Very brave and honest podcast. Loved it❤
Wow ❤ she is a brave heart. I loved the podcast.... Bring it on!
I loved Seema on the show and to see her open up in such an honest way is so eye opening and inspiring ❤ Thanks Shivani for another great episode!
Thank you so so much for watching!!
So nice Seema I feel like she is talking about me we all woman go through this phase make ourself happy first Indian woman loose themselves in husband kids family etf imagine woman like seems who people assume have no pressure in marriage good seema that you finally prioritised yourself first happy for you , don’t worry about haters or people who judge you go girl ❤
Thank you for watching!
Shivani this n malvikas interview r 2 interviews wch i saw but the quality of conversation is top notch without crossing the line n yet getting the message across
Thank you so much Pooja!!
So I just needed to listen to this podcast today. I have been separated for 6 years n decided today that it's okay for me to divorce. I have been feeling stuck personally n professionally. I am sure I will come out stronger like Seema. I have also been raised in a similar way and been timid but that is slowly changing. Something is changing inside me as I have started to believe in myself and look for happiness within myself. I wish I could meet her and spend time with her :). lot of love to both of you ! May you have His grace always!
Kudos ❤
I left my house at 22, went to get an MBA. Worked for 2 years after. The best 4 years .. married at 26! There are highs and lows.. and obviously life is not fair, has never been! But that is life.
I urge very girl listening, to please seek financial independence before anything. Study hard, get a job & dream. Your freedom begins and ends with 💸💸💰
I know her as sohal khans wife ..she is realy self made ...and I wonder how ...how she manage to do that ..
Great to see this Podcast truly on netflix nobody can realise that how people in Limelight survive in their lives. 😢
She is most beautiful classy and decent women in Bollywood wives show on Netflix ❤
She said her mum and Chunky’s mum are sisters so wouldn’t that make chunky her cousin brother…. Not Uncle
Amazing session well spoken ..... greetings from Malaysia😊😊
More power to you Seema Kiran Sajdeh😘😘😘
Never seen this side of hers, really surprised. She is so sensible and good person ❤
This was such a great interview! It has resonated with me so much as I am in a similar situation to you Shivani and to hear such in depth conversation about experiences that we as Indian women go through is such so enlightening and comforting. Thank you!
I love Seema so much! Brilliant interview
Thank you!!!!
Loved this convo
I got this podcast on yt recommendation from last few days but i avoided it thinking that oh it must be the same Bollywood show off wives interview but i m glad today i watched it and i strongly recommend it to every married woman and i am sure they surely will find something valuable for them to make their life better! Also i used to watch Seema as part of Khan family on TV yt and magazines and was curious about her but had no knowledge about her unlike Malaika Arora who is a known person from Bollywood but I am glad to know about Seema her personality though a little through this podcast!
Seema has always been my favorite. She seems so genuine. And today listening to her gave us a deeper understanding of her as a person. Love her❤
Shivani, your podcast is amazing! Keep doing what your doing. Loving all the converstions and your questions ✨️🫶🏻
So refreshing .. i feel every single word❤ wish u goodluck
Loved this interview ❤
Thank you!!!!