Only pissed off because the parents tossed him under bus while all 3 knew when wedding was, now he got deal with fallout and being new punching bag alone because the parents' old punching bag / OP rightfully cut them all out of his life.
😮😮😢😢😮😮😮I don't think I'll be able to make it into work tomorrow I have been throwing up since yesterday and I have had a headache from hell@polarbear2080
Tbh though, I was kinda hoping that by the brother showing that their parents were lying to him the entire time, and clarifying that his trip had no regard to OP's wedding, maybe OP would give his brother a chance and at least try to hash things out.
@@Asoom1996 But things don't work that way. Why would OP try to fix things out with his brother, when he was bullied by him for years, and the brother never even respects OP?
@@cristinamifa6992 Because things do actually work that way, and I speak from experience. My sister tortured me most of my childhood, and in the same nature I was rebellious and got attention in the wrong ways. Whenever my parents would be scolding me for doing something, she'd be on the side giggling at me and my parents did nothing to stop her. Not to mention her flaunting her 3.9 GPA on my face when we were in high school. Those are just drops in a bucket to the numerous things she did to me. However, now we actually grew up. We knew we were children when all that stuff happened. There's a reason the saying "Children are cruel" exists. She admitted the stuff she did were very screwed up and our mom made her feel very entitled as she was the only girl while there was me and my brother. Now we've grown up, and I trust her with my life and she's become the person who's opinion I value the most. Like I said, the reason OP should try to hash things out with his brother is because most of that stuff happened when they were kids, and kids can be very cruel. If the brother cannot admit to the screwed up things he did, then OP definitely doesn't need to fix things.
not like OP is a candy. Lets be fair, its normal for parents to have preference especially when 1 kid is chill and another kid is fucked up, and yes OP is is/was fucked up, and its not even like "oh i love this kid more" but what you see is what you get. About the wedding thing, yes its kinda fucked up, but its human nature to shoot 2 birds with 1 stone if its possible, was asking to postpone unreasonable? Yes. But logic kinda sound why its possible to postpone. Saying no is on OP, putting this on OPs brother without knowing is on OP, alot of this shit is on OP.
@@Mrt-yg9mw It's far easier to change a flight date rather than the wedding date. Anyone who's travelled or been to a wedding would know that. One parent could have stayed behind for the wedding JUST to be there. Anyway, I'm 80% sure this story is fake.
"Your brothe didnt know you were going to get marry" But you two did, and could have told him you can go on vacation those days because of it. I also dont understand why people think to ask the couple to postpone their marriage cerimony is something normal. What about the costs?
The point was that the brother had intentionally planned that vacation to accidentally coincide with his wedding. Which could not be the case if the brother didn't even know OP was getting married. And there were no real costs in postponement as it was a small ceremony with only the closest relatives and held at a venue owned by a relative. And yes, I am playing the role of the devil's advocate, but everyone deserves an advocate even if they are guilty.
@@nehcrum are you the brother? Bcoz bffr 😭 why tf would OP postpone his wedding even if it "doesn't cost as much". If you're gonna play devil's advocate, atleast don't present stupid arguments. Parents could have chosen to not go to the brother's vacation instead. Vacations aren't a one time thing, atleast for the brother, given that he's doing well, they can always go to vacations later. But OP has planned his wedding and has given the parents a heads up, 8 months in advance.
The fact that the brother actually came out and told OP the truth about how he knew the wedding was at the same time as his vacation makes me think that he _has_ gotten a bit more mature. If it was all about getting one over on OP, he would have held their parents choice over his head, but instead he seemed just as annoyed with the situation as OP. It seems like their parents have caused a lot of issues, but I think OP _and_ his brother have accepted and made peace with the idea that they want nothing to do with each other. The parents are the only ones who can’t seem to accept the reality of the situation, and keep creating problems for both their sons.
And all OP had to do was postpone his already paid for wedding. Next thing you know, they'd be telling his wife to reschedule the birth of her children because it's going to interfere with big brother's bbq or some damned thing. His parents suck.
Funny how that parents only asked OP to postpone the wedding and not the golden child to postpone the vacation. After that any attempt at contact should be met with "I don't have parents anymore from the moment you chose a vacation over my wedding."
@@blender4464 They should not have asked. The ties were broken from merely contemplating to ask that question. It should have never been an option to even think about asking that.
@@blender4464Okay so what's a more important event. Your child getting married said child whom you have a fractured and strained relationship or a free vacation from your favorite child?
The brother admitting that he new about the wedding because the parents told him and still offering the parents the vacation makes him an asshole because he new them two dipshits were going to choose to go with him regardless 😂
i disagree, the parents had the option to decline, but they still went knowing well their son was getting married at the same time, thats on them, dont get me wrong they are still a shit family.
i disagree with this take. the brother explained that he wouldnt be able to take a vacation in a long while, so he took advantage of the situation while its there rather than wait. so i wouldnt wrong him. the parents are wrong tho. throwing their kids under the bus to keep up appearances are typical narcissistic behaviors
The brother never said that he invite their parents to the vacation, I guess that he just told them and inmediatly invited themselfs, which is not weird to see since most of this kind of parents think that they can just stick around everywhere they would go, and more of is their favorite son
They're bullshitting op. There is no way in hell that they did not tell his brother, even in passing that he was getting married in the 8 MONTHS that they knew.
To ask someone to postpone their wedding is the height of selfishness. All the time, money, planning, coordination, and expectations from everyone. OP's parents were not the only ones going, and if i was on the Brides side of the family and found what was going on, I would have ripped OP's parents a new one
Wow, the fact that his parents choose to gaslight him so much that the golden brother had to get the last laugh by revealing everything is devious. OP had chosen right from the start, this is what happens when you try to have your cake and eat it too. Failure of parents, they were not above hurting their youngest to get what they wanted.
I’m 90% sure telltale is making a lot of these stories with chatgpt or something, can’t find them on reddit and they usually always follow the same golden child theme
You'd be surprised how common this is. My mom's biological mother made every excuse under the book to not show up at her wedding, and trying hard to disguise their excuses. Only reason they were invited was because my mother's grandmother, who would adopt kids in the family that weren't in ideal situations, begged her to have a relationship with her mother. They aren't related she was my mother's father's mother
Or ones where sister invited them to lunch, had a sick dog, had housewarming party, was randomly upset over a relationship that ended months ago and dad chose to fly her to Hawaii to cheer up over showing up for other daughter's wedding. At least one where golden sister invited everyone to her n-th baby's shower and tried to get OP to reschedule ended well
Its strange how people question themselves. The truth is you gave them a time and place in significant advance. You booked a date with people 8 months prior. They traded that booking for a vacation offered by their other kid 3 days in advance. They dont care about you. They, considering they goy married, should know how costly it is to move a marriage date. Note: I am aware reddit stories may be fake. The advice is real. Don't keep toxic fake people in your life.
Honestly this is one of those understandable aita questions... I mean he really could've asked the parents to decline the invitation but he instead passively told them "ok".. and he also was admittedly a difficult child... When ur in distress or being confronted by a manipulative person, you cannot think about the logic of it all like "who asks someone to postpone a wedding for their own vacation??" Those parents are gaslighters and its not like they have gaslighters written in their faces and they shared good memories too so its not black and white...that said I can understand why he thinks he's the ah
1. The fault is totally on the parents bc they couldn't say no to their golden child so they didn't tell him then tried to pin it all on op 2. They tried to gaslight him by saying they didn't believe him in childhood bc he went out of his way to make troubles... HE WENT OUT OF HIS WAY BC THEY DIDN'T BELIEVE HIM NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND
@@thousandyardgavri2785 Heres another one: - Family getting back in touch after OP getting successful - Favoritism - Entitled Family - Infidelity - Narcissism - Karens - Gold diggers
“Your brother didn’t know you was getting married” but your parent knew and they choose to ask you to push back your wedding so they can go on vacation. But they want you to believe that your brother popped up with a fully fleshed out vacation with tickets and hotel without asking them for input or verifying they could even travel at that time?
That is the most AH answer from a parent, even if the brother didn't knew, they did and still chose to go with the brother regardless there's simply no excuse
I knew there was NO WAY they didn’t tell the older brother about the wedding date. They come off as WAY too chatty to hide that detail from their admitted “favorite child.” They deserve the bad image as they did decide to take a free vacation over attending his wedding, just to “make it easier” for them. And how they demand he give them the immediate attention as if they have any right to demand him to explain how they failed and tried to gaslight him to save face. Both brothers deserve to be pissed at the parents for making up excuses
So, a groom is an attention-seeker on his wedding? I think that’s one of the rare circumstances where you get to say a day is all about you, and you’d be justified in saying so!
It's a toxic family. The parents fostered the hate and are shocked their sons don't get along. Brother sucks because he knows what he did. He still offered to have them come with him after learning about the brothers wedding. He knew he was more important to them..the op needs therapy and the fact it took one speech from his mom to realize that they might have caused some of their own problems instead of trying to do better. The brother is mad he can't post pics of his vacation without looking like the villain to the family. Since the parents are in them.
Are you kidding me? Just by asking to postponed the wedding so that they can go on a vacation is already insulting enough. Anyone with half a brain can say that it's clear where their priorities are. I guess common sense of the window.
Some stories, you just know how they are gonna go. The OP knows the solution and he keeps iterting it. He just wants people to confirm him on reddit and that is it. He is not looking for advice outside of what he believes. So you just know how the story is gonna go.
"Yea it's ok, my wedding is not as important as your vacation." Also your parents say that you ware a trouble maker and a attention seeker. I'm sure the favoritism plays a role in that.
I feel like op could have prevented some of this. First of all, he said as a child, he was a trouble maker which his parents used that as an excuse for something (i forgot). And that is bad, but it didn't help op's case. And I think op should have just straight up declined to postpone his wedding and uninvited them instead of lying so that his parents would have nothing to bring against op. But those parents are just UGH.
Wow, that’s just not right. A wedding should be one of the most important days for your family, and it’s so disappointing that they didn’t prioritize it.😟
This is BS. I'm pretty sure the parents told the brother OP was getting married and when. And the parents accusing him of still being a troublemaker. OP could accuse them back that they showed their favoritism once again. The parents knew he was getting married and what they did showed they wanted to appease the brother by asking OP to postpone it. Nice manipulation tactic from the mother. Saying they failed as parents still without taking responsibility.
That's stupid. Even if the brother didn't know, it's still on the parents since they knew when the wedding was happening, and could of brought it up when the brother said anything about a vacation 🙄🙄
I was actually starting to wonder how much was just OP's bias, but then the ending happened. Trying to throw their golden child under the bus to make themselves look better is low. Much of an ass as he was to OP when they were kids, good on his brother to set things straight.
OP, they… are YOUR parents. If you were an imperfect child that was on them. Quite literally. But now your an adult who can make your own decisions and one of those was _Weirdly enough_ not canceling the very important event that I’m sure many people planned their lives around so your grown As parents could go on vacation.
The fact that the parents even had the audacity to ask if op was willing to postpone the wedding so they could go on a vacation is ridiculous. That tells that they believe they are more important than other guests and the couple getting married and that they value a vacation more than they value their son. But op himself isn't all that pure either. He should've just said no when they asked him to postpone the wedding. Even if the parents would've started an argument it is not their decision so arguing would've been useless.
My only post-wedding reply would be, “why, after all this time of not believing that my brother was the instigator and believing that I was the troublemaker, would I ever expect you to side with me now?“
While I do agree that actively lying took some of OP's moral high ground away, if the parents are aware that they haven't been the best in the past, they should also understand why OP does not particularly trust that they have honest intentions.
The crazy thing is, even though brother and parents are the AH, so is OP! OP is fuming that parents chose brother over him, but OP lied to them and didn't give them the chance to choose in the first place! For most of the video it's obvious that the parents are mad cause they were lied to about the wedding not being postponed. I'm glad at least, the brother called out parents on their BS & that it wasn't some power play by brother.
Even the brother had the decency to be straight up with his brother (even tho he's obviously a huge asshole) and that speaks VOLUMES to how the parents are its crazy
It doesn't matter if OPs brother knew whether he was getting married or not. His parents knew and they still had the gall to tell him to postpone his wedding because they wanted to go on vacation. OP has nothing to apologize for.
OP is not at fault for his parents favoring his brother. It’s a parent’s responsibility to make sure that all of their children feel loved and safe, and if a child is acting up regularly there is a REASON. His parents have no excuse for neglecting OP during his childhood.
OP and his family should really stay apart. BUT, it sounds like a victim complex and a bad family exacerbated this issue. Words matter. And the instant he said, “Okay, I’ll wait” he wanted this to happen. He wanted to hurt his family and needed an excuse to cut them off. His parents are AHs, but you can tell it runs in the family.
He had failures as a son??? And who helped him to “fail”? Oh yeah, his parents who were supposed to raise him and protect him from people, including their other son who was 8 YEARS OLDER and bullying his little brother. I am 10 years older than my brother and I couldn’t imagine doing anything to hurt him like that
the brother also getting upset tells me that the parents have probably had more to do with this sibling problem than either of them know. if you're the one who hates your brother, you wouldn't be pressed about semi ruining his wedding, and you may even take some pleasure in it.
I probably would have said, "It will be easier for us to reconcile at your funeral rather than this two-faced aprotch." The love of a parent should never be a finite resource. It definitely shouldn't be played for against the other. The parents could simply ask the golden child what would happen if his children were bullied? OPs parents could easily gone public abuse their failures. Instead, they want OP to be emotionally vulnerable around his abuser. It's clear OPs, brother is not prepared to grow up.
Irregardless of his brother knowing or not, if they’re version is true, then they deliberately didn’t tell his brother about his wedding knowing that the dates conflicted, and chose the vacation over the wedding, that’s even worse than the other way around
They knew the animosity between OP and his brother, perfect example was at his wedding when he didn't invite him. No way OP's marriage wasn't a topic of discussion between them so he knows about the marriage. Rather than accept responsibility they dropped all on him. He's better off away from those selfish people. Bet they'll demand grandparent privileges when he and his wife had children. Very manipulative.
Being in a bad relationship whether it be family or significant other is no good for anybody when people show you how they feel about you believe them stop fighting trying to make it work when they don't want it to work
Okay so op parents knew op was getting married so why didn't the ask the golden boy to push his vacation back so they can be at the wedding then go on vacation and if he said no they should have just gone to the wedding
it really makes me wonder if hes a golden child, cause they have a perfectly good reason, its the same reason im not a family golden child (as far as ive seen)
It's not your fault it's your parents fault because they favored their Golden child over their other son and he bullied his own brother but his parents chose to believe his Golden child brother over their other son and they didn't come to the wedding because they choose to go on their brothers vacation over their other son's wedding and that's not right and they should pay for their actions and go to hell for what they have done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and they don't deserve anything for favored their Golden child brother over their other son and his brother bullied him but his parents believe his Golden child brother over their other son and they choose to lied to him and you don't have to apologize for anything it's their fault not yours.
When you treat someone like shit and never give them a chance, don't be surprised they don't give you a chance. Though, I think the way he did it gave them a chance to gaslight like this. Should've just said "Go on the vacation then, but I'm not waiting" instead of "I'll wait". Even if they give him some flak immediately, they can't play the "oh but if you told us...!" game
Same things happened to me many year's ago With similar background like op ...but I took a different route instead taking it like a sandbag l just simply lash out at everyone and everyone that's involved. Ended pretty well for me.
I just can’t help but repeat “you were a child” over and over in the part where his parents said he “didn’t make it easy” to take his side and he actually felt guilty about. He was a child who felt neglected and since they never taught him how to express his emotions properly, he did the only thing he could think of. He didn’t have the life experience to realize it was a bad idea because, again, he was a child. Parents are responsible for more than just giving their kids food, a roof over their head and even manners/making sure they get good grade. Parents are responsible for helping their child figure out how to process, handle and express their emotions. They didn’t but blamed the problems that caused on him who was, again, A CHILD! It’s pathetic
Wow these parents are the worst as if they "tried to be better", if they really cared about you and wanted to understand you the first thing they should of done is get therapy with you and try to find a connection so each of you can get a good idea of each other and seperate you from your brother and set boundaries.
"I didn't have anybody apart from my parents"... Bro wtf you have a wife now that you're dragging into this crud. Drop the parents and brother and don't look back. Inb4 fake.
I blame OP. He lied to the parents and told them he would change the date. Why? He created the situation. He should have just said he wasn’t changing the date and have concrete proof they chose the vacation over the wedding.
Thank you! They asked both sides about changing dates, the oop said yes. And the people going crazy about them considering the vacation must be well off, because to me traveling someplace new for free for a vacation... i mean, that's not lightly turned down either. It's definitely worth the ask.
The brother is still the ah in my opinion. He admitted he knew about the wedding and still chose the vacation dates. If he really cared, he would’ve told the parents to go to the wedding and we’ll plan another time in the future to go on vacation together or they could go visit him even though he’ll be working
Typical emotional abuse. Instead of accepting their failures and properly apologizing for them, they tried to blame, at least in part, their failures on the child. The child doesn't understand advanced concepts at a young age. They're more emotionally driven then logically driven. So if a child acts out in a negative way, it's likely due to a failure of the parent in some way. But it's absolutely emotional abuse to blame the child on the parent's neglect or preferential treatment of another sibling.
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Forget the family drama and favoritism. Who the hell thinks a groom will change their wedding date for a guest?😂 logic 101. You made a choice going on vacation that could be done any other year instead of a once in alifetime chance of seeing your child get married, live with it.
The fact even the "golden child" brother was pissed off in the end. Like. WOW.
Only pissed off because the parents tossed him under bus while all 3 knew when wedding was, now he got deal with fallout and being new punching bag alone because the parents' old punching bag / OP rightfully cut them all out of his life.
😮😮😢😢😮😮😮I don't think I'll be able to make it into work tomorrow I have been throwing up since yesterday and I have had a headache from hell@polarbear2080
Tbh though, I was kinda hoping that by the brother showing that their parents were lying to him the entire time, and clarifying that his trip had no regard to OP's wedding, maybe OP would give his brother a chance and at least try to hash things out.
@@Asoom1996 But things don't work that way. Why would OP try to fix things out with his brother, when he was bullied by him for years, and the brother never even respects OP?
@@cristinamifa6992 Because things do actually work that way, and I speak from experience. My sister tortured me most of my childhood, and in the same nature I was rebellious and got attention in the wrong ways. Whenever my parents would be scolding me for doing something, she'd be on the side giggling at me and my parents did nothing to stop her. Not to mention her flaunting her 3.9 GPA on my face when we were in high school. Those are just drops in a bucket to the numerous things she did to me. However, now we actually grew up. We knew we were children when all that stuff happened. There's a reason the saying "Children are cruel" exists. She admitted the stuff she did were very screwed up and our mom made her feel very entitled as she was the only girl while there was me and my brother. Now we've grown up, and I trust her with my life and she's become the person who's opinion I value the most. Like I said, the reason OP should try to hash things out with his brother is because most of that stuff happened when they were kids, and kids can be very cruel. If the brother cannot admit to the screwed up things he did, then OP definitely doesn't need to fix things.
GASLIGHTING at its finest. These parents suck.
not like OP is a candy. Lets be fair, its normal for parents to have preference especially when 1 kid is chill and another kid is fucked up, and yes OP is is/was fucked up, and its not even like "oh i love this kid more" but what you see is what you get. About the wedding thing, yes its kinda fucked up, but its human nature to shoot 2 birds with 1 stone if its possible, was asking to postpone unreasonable? Yes. But logic kinda sound why its possible to postpone. Saying no is on OP, putting this on OPs brother without knowing is on OP, alot of this shit is on OP.
@@Mrt-yg9mw It's far easier to change a flight date rather than the wedding date. Anyone who's travelled or been to a wedding would know that. One parent could have stayed behind for the wedding JUST to be there.
Anyway, I'm 80% sure this story is fake.
@@Mrt-yg9mw "not like OP is a candy", with the unfair treatment he grew up with, no one would be.
"Your brothe didnt know you were going to get marry" But you two did, and could have told him you can go on vacation those days because of it.
I also dont understand why people think to ask the couple to postpone their marriage cerimony is something normal. What about the costs?
Preach!
The point was that the brother had intentionally planned that vacation to accidentally coincide with his wedding. Which could not be the case if the brother didn't even know OP was getting married. And there were no real costs in postponement as it was a small ceremony with only the closest relatives and held at a venue owned by a relative.
And yes, I am playing the role of the devil's advocate, but everyone deserves an advocate even if they are guilty.
@@nehcrum are you the brother? Bcoz bffr 😭 why tf would OP postpone his wedding even if it "doesn't cost as much". If you're gonna play devil's advocate, atleast don't present stupid arguments. Parents could have chosen to not go to the brother's vacation instead. Vacations aren't a one time thing, atleast for the brother, given that he's doing well, they can always go to vacations later. But OP has planned his wedding and has given the parents a heads up, 8 months in advance.
@@cristinamifa6992 Do you know what devils advocate means? Advocatus Diaboli.
@@nehcrum suure "no costs", only moving the venue time, the amount of food and everyone's schedule line-ups and costs to go to the wedding.
Play favoritism games, get excluded as a prize.
That's a new one. Definitely using that
@@Afghanisstan bro I was gonna say same 😭
The parents and brother are so not liking that FAFO they all reaped on themselves..
The fact that the brother actually came out and told OP the truth about how he knew the wedding was at the same time as his vacation makes me think that he _has_ gotten a bit more mature. If it was all about getting one over on OP, he would have held their parents choice over his head, but instead he seemed just as annoyed with the situation as OP.
It seems like their parents have caused a lot of issues, but I think OP _and_ his brother have accepted and made peace with the idea that they want nothing to do with each other. The parents are the only ones who can’t seem to accept the reality of the situation, and keep creating problems for both their sons.
And all OP had to do was postpone his already paid for wedding. Next thing you know, they'd be telling his wife to reschedule the birth of her children because it's going to interfere with big brother's bbq or some damned thing.
His parents suck.
🤣🤣😭😭
The fact that this doesn't even seem too far fetched, and actually sounds like something OP's parents would do 💀
Funny how that parents only asked OP to postpone the wedding and not the golden child to postpone the vacation. After that any attempt at contact should be met with "I don't have parents anymore from the moment you chose a vacation over my wedding."
They asked and he said yes. How were they to know they were skipping the wedding?
@@blender4464 They should not have asked. The ties were broken from merely contemplating to ask that question. It should have never been an option to even think about asking that.
@@blender4464Okay so what's a more important event. Your child getting married said child whom you have a fractured and strained relationship or a free vacation from your favorite child?
The brother admitting that he new about the wedding because the parents told him and still offering the parents the vacation makes him an asshole because he new them two dipshits were going to choose to go with him regardless 😂
i disagree, the parents had the option to decline, but they still went knowing well their son was getting married at the same time, thats on them, dont get me wrong they are still a shit family.
@@yoelsarmiento7169yea as he said he wouldn't be able to go to any vacation for a while with or without his parents so of course he would invite them
i disagree with this take. the brother explained that he wouldnt be able to take a vacation in a long while, so he took advantage of the situation while its there rather than wait. so i wouldnt wrong him. the parents are wrong tho. throwing their kids under the bus to keep up appearances are typical narcissistic behaviors
" KNEW "
The brother never said that he invite their parents to the vacation, I guess that he just told them and inmediatly invited themselfs, which is not weird to see since most of this kind of parents think that they can just stick around everywhere they would go, and more of is their favorite son
They're bullshitting op. There is no way in hell that they did not tell his brother, even in passing that he was getting married in the 8 MONTHS that they knew.
dudes brother who was his enemy was the most real family member in the end 😭
To ask someone to postpone their wedding is the height of selfishness. All the time, money, planning, coordination, and expectations from everyone. OP's parents were not the only ones going, and if i was on the Brides side of the family and found what was going on, I would have ripped OP's parents a new one
Was going to say the only good reason is if some people you want there who cant make it on the original date
Wow, the fact that his parents choose to gaslight him so much that the golden brother had to get the last laugh by revealing everything is devious. OP had chosen right from the start, this is what happens when you try to have your cake and eat it too.
Failure of parents, they were not above hurting their youngest to get what they wanted.
Yeah don't do this. Just be honest, you don't need to "waste energy on arguing" because you don't need to argue. That's the benefit of being honest
This story is so similar with the one where OP's brother had a baseball/football game but they went to Disneyland instead
I’m 90% sure telltale is making a lot of these stories with chatgpt or something, can’t find them on reddit and they usually always follow the same golden child theme
You'd be surprised how common this is. My mom's biological mother made every excuse under the book to not show up at her wedding, and trying hard to disguise their excuses. Only reason they were invited was because my mother's grandmother, who would adopt kids in the family that weren't in ideal situations, begged her to have a relationship with her mother. They aren't related she was my mother's father's mother
Or ones where sister invited them to lunch, had a sick dog, had housewarming party, was randomly upset over a relationship that ended months ago and dad chose to fly her to Hawaii to cheer up over showing up for other daughter's wedding. At least one where golden sister invited everyone to her n-th baby's shower and tried to get OP to reschedule ended well
Its strange how people question themselves. The truth is you gave them a time and place in significant advance. You booked a date with people 8 months prior.
They traded that booking for a vacation offered by their other kid 3 days in advance.
They dont care about you. They, considering they goy married, should know how costly it is to move a marriage date.
Note: I am aware reddit stories may be fake. The advice is real. Don't keep toxic fake people in your life.
Even if this story is fake, these are still fun to listen to, and sometimes get good advice for specific situations
Ugh I hate that shit too "I'm starting to feel guilty AITA" or they question themselves after being gaslit by a toxic person 😒
Honestly this is one of those understandable aita questions... I mean he really could've asked the parents to decline the invitation but he instead passively told them "ok".. and he also was admittedly a difficult child... When ur in distress or being confronted by a manipulative person, you cannot think about the logic of it all like "who asks someone to postpone a wedding for their own vacation??" Those parents are gaslighters and its not like they have gaslighters written in their faces and they shared good memories too so its not black and white...that said I can understand why he thinks he's the ah
The parents gaslighted so well that I felt gaslighted and almost sided with them
1. The fault is totally on the parents bc they couldn't say no to their golden child so they didn't tell him then tried to pin it all on op
2. They tried to gaslight him by saying they didn't believe him in childhood bc he went out of his way to make troubles... HE WENT OUT OF HIS WAY BC THEY DIDN'T BELIEVE HIM NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND
OHHH MY GOD I HATE THAT MOTHER. You NEVER say that a child is a failure or has failures. PLEASE GO NC WITH THEM
Seven deadly sins: Reddit Edition
- Favoritism
- Golden Child Dynamic
- Entitled relatives/in-laws/people
- Infidelity
- Narcissism
- Karen's
- Gold Diggers.
Isn't 1 and 2 the same? Lol i mean in family settings
@@thousandyardgavri2785
Heres another one:
- Family getting back in touch after OP getting successful
- Favoritism
- Entitled Family
- Infidelity
- Narcissism
- Karens
- Gold diggers
A classic example of toxic parents trying to pit their children against one another ending in both children hating the parents
Man i have to say the two sons are alike towards the end. Thanks to the parents the brothers finally were on the same side.
“Your brother didn’t know you was getting married” but your parent knew and they choose to ask you to push back your wedding so they can go on vacation. But they want you to believe that your brother popped up with a fully fleshed out vacation with tickets and hotel without asking them for input or verifying they could even travel at that time?
That is the most AH answer from a parent, even if the brother didn't knew, they did and still chose to go with the brother regardless there's simply no excuse
Even if the brother didn’t know, the parents did, and they picked where they wanted to go.
I knew there was NO WAY they didn’t tell the older brother about the wedding date. They come off as WAY too chatty to hide that detail from their admitted “favorite child.”
They deserve the bad image as they did decide to take a free vacation over attending his wedding, just to “make it easier” for them. And how they demand he give them the immediate attention as if they have any right to demand him to explain how they failed and tried to gaslight him to save face.
Both brothers deserve to be pissed at the parents for making up excuses
In the end, even the "golden" brother couldn't hold back his anger anymore. All that can be said is: The same. Oh. 😡🔥
So, a groom is an attention-seeker on his wedding? I think that’s one of the rare circumstances where you get to say a day is all about you, and you’d be justified in saying so!
It's a toxic family. The parents fostered the hate and are shocked their sons don't get along. Brother sucks because he knows what he did. He still offered to have them come with him after learning about the brothers wedding. He knew he was more important to them..the op needs therapy and the fact it took one speech from his mom to realize that they might have caused some of their own problems instead of trying to do better.
The brother is mad he can't post pics of his vacation without looking like the villain to the family. Since the parents are in them.
Are you kidding me? Just by asking to postponed the wedding so that they can go on a vacation is already insulting enough. Anyone with half a brain can say that it's clear where their priorities are. I guess common sense of the window.
they wanted to go on vacation bc they wouldn't get a chance like that in the future but a wedding is once in a lifetime thing usually
They literally had 8 months to plan to be at the wedding. You can't tell me they didn't see this coming when they chose the brother over OP.
Some stories, you just know how they are gonna go. The OP knows the solution and he keeps iterting it. He just wants people to confirm him on reddit and that is it. He is not looking for advice outside of what he believes. So you just know how the story is gonna go.
2:11 cursing for a brushing 😭😂
Hey, I still say that lol! In the 90's and even in the early 2000's those words made people quake with fear.
@@Arcane_Route_66 depended on the person saying it back then to be fair.
'Telltales' should change their name to: 'Doormat Tales'
looool
"Yea it's ok, my wedding is not as important as your vacation." Also your parents say that you ware a trouble maker and a attention seeker. I'm sure the favoritism plays a role in that.
I haven’t heard the line cruising for a bruising in a long time. I’m gonna use it
I feel like op could have prevented some of this. First of all, he said as a child, he was a trouble maker which his parents used that as an excuse for something (i forgot). And that is bad, but it didn't help op's case. And I think op should have just straight up declined to postpone his wedding and uninvited them instead of lying so that his parents would have nothing to bring against op. But those parents are just UGH.
Looks like OP didn't have to abandon his parents, his parents abandoned him. . .
Wow, that’s just not right. A wedding should be one of the most important days for your family, and it’s so disappointing that they didn’t prioritize it.😟
Children act out for a reason. Parents blame the child instead of their own negligence
This is BS. I'm pretty sure the parents told the brother OP was getting married and when. And the parents accusing him of still being a troublemaker. OP could accuse them back that they showed their favoritism once again. The parents knew he was getting married and what they did showed they wanted to appease the brother by asking OP to postpone it. Nice manipulation tactic from the mother. Saying they failed as parents still without taking responsibility.
That's stupid. Even if the brother didn't know, it's still on the parents since they knew when the wedding was happening, and could of brought it up when the brother said anything about a vacation 🙄🙄
Funny how the closure we needed for this story has been given by the person OP seemed to hate the most.
Only thing OP did wrong was lie to them. Should have just said "Be there then or don't ever"
Lmao they lost both their sons
I was actually starting to wonder how much was just OP's bias, but then the ending happened. Trying to throw their golden child under the bus to make themselves look better is low. Much of an ass as he was to OP when they were kids, good on his brother to set things straight.
Cruising for bruising lmaooo who talks like that 😂
15:24 How can OP not see his parents are gaslighting him to the extreme
OP, they… are YOUR parents. If you were an imperfect child that was on them. Quite literally. But now your an adult who can make your own decisions and one of those was _Weirdly enough_ not canceling the very important event that I’m sure many people planned their lives around so your grown As parents could go on vacation.
The fact that the parents even had the audacity to ask if op was willing to postpone the wedding so they could go on a vacation is ridiculous. That tells that they believe they are more important than other guests and the couple getting married and that they value a vacation more than they value their son.
But op himself isn't all that pure either. He should've just said no when they asked him to postpone the wedding. Even if the parents would've started an argument it is not their decision so arguing would've been useless.
Right listen to your gut feeling. He knows because they told him.
The parents showed their hand ... They created the golden child & were opportunistic monsters!!! 😡
My only post-wedding reply would be, “why, after all this time of not believing that my brother was the instigator and believing that I was the troublemaker, would I ever expect you to side with me now?“
While I do agree that actively lying took some of OP's moral high ground away, if the parents are aware that they haven't been the best in the past, they should also understand why OP does not particularly trust that they have honest intentions.
I can honestly understand this AITA question.
Those parents are such gaslighters
The crazy thing is, even though brother and parents are the AH, so is OP! OP is fuming that parents chose brother over him, but OP lied to them and didn't give them the chance to choose in the first place! For most of the video it's obvious that the parents are mad cause they were lied to about the wedding not being postponed.
I'm glad at least, the brother called out parents on their BS & that it wasn't some power play by brother.
Ending was crazy:O
Don’t try to shine like the sun moon. You are justified.
Even the brother had the decency to be straight up with his brother (even tho he's obviously a huge asshole) and that speaks VOLUMES to how the parents are its crazy
It doesn't matter if OPs brother knew whether he was getting married or not. His parents knew and they still had the gall to tell him to postpone his wedding because they wanted to go on vacation. OP has nothing to apologize for.
OP is not at fault for his parents favoring his brother. It’s a parent’s responsibility to make sure that all of their children feel loved and safe, and if a child is acting up regularly there is a REASON. His parents have no excuse for neglecting OP during his childhood.
OP and his family should really stay apart. BUT, it sounds like a victim complex and a bad family exacerbated this issue.
Words matter. And the instant he said, “Okay, I’ll wait” he wanted this to happen. He wanted to hurt his family and needed an excuse to cut them off.
His parents are AHs, but you can tell it runs in the family.
Bro, you told them in advance 8 months before there is no way your brother not know anything
He had failures as a son??? And who helped him to “fail”? Oh yeah, his parents who were supposed to raise him and protect him from people, including their other son who was 8 YEARS OLDER and bullying his little brother. I am 10 years older than my brother and I couldn’t imagine doing anything to hurt him like that
the brother also getting upset tells me that the parents have probably had more to do with this sibling problem than either of them know. if you're the one who hates your brother, you wouldn't be pressed about semi ruining his wedding, and you may even take some pleasure in it.
Who postpones a wedding for a vacation? Nah, bro 😂
“Because I’m a sane person” doing same thing over and over again expecting different results is the definition of insanity
wow. his parents were the master class of gaslighting
Man those parents must love the crap they feed themselves... The fact that they think they're justified to be upset about anything is wild 😅😅😅
I probably would have said, "It will be easier for us to reconcile at your funeral rather than this two-faced aprotch."
The love of a parent should never be a finite resource. It definitely shouldn't be played for against the other.
The parents could simply ask the golden child what would happen if his children were bullied? OPs parents could easily gone public abuse their failures.
Instead, they want OP to be emotionally vulnerable around his abuser. It's clear OPs, brother is not prepared to grow up.
Irregardless of his brother knowing or not, if they’re version is true, then they deliberately didn’t tell his brother about his wedding knowing that the dates conflicted, and chose the vacation over the wedding, that’s even worse than the other way around
It's really rare that the crappy golden child ends up being the MVP in the story. O_O
They knew the animosity between OP and his brother, perfect example was at his wedding when he didn't invite him. No way OP's marriage wasn't a topic of discussion between them so he knows about the marriage. Rather than accept responsibility they dropped all on him. He's better off away from those selfish people. Bet they'll demand grandparent privileges when he and his wife had children.
Very manipulative.
if you were a priority they wouldn't even have dared to ask you to postpone - they're trying to manipulate you
Both brothers and both parents are all the assholes in this story. No one is even mostly in the right.
Being in a bad relationship whether it be family or significant other is no good for anybody when people show you how they feel about you believe them stop fighting trying to make it work when they don't want it to work
Okay so op parents knew op was getting married so why didn't the ask the golden boy to push his vacation back so they can be at the wedding then go on vacation and if he said no they should have just gone to the wedding
There is no such thing as a bad kid. There’s only bad parents.
Be fair both them to ur children
i agree with your mum, your ego is what stops you from getting along, the only othion is to run from it all, or find some coomon ground
Why would ANYONE think you can reschedule a wedding that close to the date? Venues have their own schedules too.
His brother 100% did it on purpose, and his parents, being spineless, went along with it. Any attempts by them to say otherwise are gaslighting.
it really makes me wonder if hes a golden child, cause they have a perfectly good reason, its the same reason im not a family golden child (as far as ive seen)
No way, parents were in the complete wrong. Vacation vs wedding, it should have been a no brainer.
It's not your fault it's your parents fault because they favored their Golden child over their other son and he bullied his own brother but his parents chose to believe his Golden child brother over their other son and they didn't come to the wedding because they choose to go on their brothers vacation over their other son's wedding and that's not right and they should pay for their actions and go to hell for what they have done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and they don't deserve anything for favored their Golden child brother over their other son and his brother bullied him but his parents believe his Golden child brother over their other son and they choose to lied to him and you don't have to apologize for anything it's their fault not yours.
Jeez, this is where punctuation goes to die
this guy is just like my brother, minus the age
When you treat someone like shit and never give them a chance, don't be surprised they don't give you a chance.
Though, I think the way he did it gave them a chance to gaslight like this. Should've just said "Go on the vacation then, but I'm not waiting" instead of "I'll wait". Even if they give him some flak immediately, they can't play the "oh but if you told us...!" game
Same things happened to me many year's ago
With similar background like op ...but I took a different route instead taking it like a sandbag l just simply lash out at everyone and everyone that's involved. Ended pretty well for me.
I just can’t help but repeat “you were a child” over and over in the part where his parents said he “didn’t make it easy” to take his side and he actually felt guilty about. He was a child who felt neglected and since they never taught him how to express his emotions properly, he did the only thing he could think of. He didn’t have the life experience to realize it was a bad idea because, again, he was a child. Parents are responsible for more than just giving their kids food, a roof over their head and even manners/making sure they get good grade. Parents are responsible for helping their child figure out how to process, handle and express their emotions. They didn’t but blamed the problems that caused on him who was, again, A CHILD! It’s pathetic
Bht the parents knew. This argument doesnt fly.
Wow these parents are the worst as if they "tried to be better", if they really cared about you and wanted to understand you the first thing they should of done is get therapy with you and try to find a connection so each of you can get a good idea of each other and seperate you from your brother and set boundaries.
Who asks someone to postpone their wedding 3 days before the wedding? Ridiculous story
"I didn't have anybody apart from my parents"... Bro wtf you have a wife now that you're dragging into this crud. Drop the parents and brother and don't look back.
Inb4 fake.
I LOVE THESE
I blame OP. He lied to the parents and told them he would change the date. Why? He created the situation. He should have just said he wasn’t changing the date and have concrete proof they chose the vacation over the wedding.
Thank you! They asked both sides about changing dates, the oop said yes. And the people going crazy about them considering the vacation must be well off, because to me traveling someplace new for free for a vacation... i mean, that's not lightly turned down either. It's definitely worth the ask.
The brother is still the ah in my opinion. He admitted he knew about the wedding and still chose the vacation dates. If he really cared, he would’ve told the parents to go to the wedding and we’ll plan another time in the future to go on vacation together or they could go visit him even though he’ll be working
Typical emotional abuse. Instead of accepting their failures and properly apologizing for them, they tried to blame, at least in part, their failures on the child. The child doesn't understand advanced concepts at a young age. They're more emotionally driven then logically driven. So if a child acts out in a negative way, it's likely due to a failure of the parent in some way. But it's absolutely emotional abuse to blame the child on the parent's neglect or preferential treatment of another sibling.
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If they didn’t favor their other son then they would’ve said sorry we can’t come cause we have a wedding to go to! But they didn’t total gaslighting
Forget the family drama and favoritism. Who the hell thinks a groom will change their wedding date for a guest?😂 logic 101. You made a choice going on vacation that could be done any other year instead of a once in alifetime chance of seeing your child get married, live with it.