Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind Explained | Ending Explained

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  • Опубликовано: 4 июн 2024
  • This Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind Analysis / Explained is a video I've wanted to do for a long time. I loved this movie for its direction, story, and its message in so many ways, so it was really fun to do this breakdown. I did lots of research and thinking, and I think I've wrapped my head around it. Here is my explanation of the movie and the ending. Hope you like it! Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind starring Jim Carrey, Kate Winslet, Kirsten Dunst, Elijah Wood, Mark Ruffalo, and Tom Wilkinson, directed by Michel Gondry, written by Charlie Kaufman is a classic indie drama. Tune into this Lucas Blue Explained to find out the meaning of Eternal Sunshine. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. I would love to discuss!
    This is a spoiler-filled Eternal Sunshine Explained video by Lucas Blue. Let me know your thoughts about Eternal Sunshine or any of your favorite psychological drama movies in the comments below. I love hearing the opinions!
    Outro Song: Let Go
    Listen here: smarturl.it/sonorouspletgo
    Director: Michel Gondry
    Writer: Charlie Kaufman
    Cast: Jim Carrey - Kate Winslet - Kirsten Dunst - Elijah Wood - Mark Ruffalo - Tom Wilkinson
    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Intro & Agenda
    00:56 Theme 1
    07:09 Theme 2
    10:14 Theme 3
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  • @lucasblue20
    @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад +15

    Hope my research and ideas can offer some new insights! What were your thoughts and ideas around Eternal Sunshine? I would love to discuss! Let me know below!

    • @wayhollobj36
      @wayhollobj36 2 месяца назад

      Hi I'm new to your channel
      RUclips algorithm landed me here
      Not a huge fan of the movie before
      Probably because I knew thinking about this movies depth would take effort
      But I'm glad to hear your explanation
      Because social commentary done right is magical Just a side note taken from arguably the worst Star Trek movie Number 5 When Spock's half human had a psychic ability to reach inside another person's deepest pain and help alleviate them from it
      Kirk comments when resisting this procedure is that he needs his pain
      It's part of what makes him human
      Spotless did a much better exploration of this theme
      And I agree 💯
      Ups and downs have made me who I am

  • @rylandcline8011
    @rylandcline8011 3 месяца назад +57

    The modern quote version "A life free of pain, but a life free of growth." is phenomenonal!

  • @beastymcfly4144
    @beastymcfly4144 7 месяцев назад +176

    im sure you saw, but just in case you didn’t, Clem’s hair color and it’s changing is symbolic of the state of her relationship

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад +18

      I actually never noticed that haha but now that you say it, I’m starting to connect the dots. Thank you for letting me know!!

    • @TheIvanabojanic
      @TheIvanabojanic 3 месяца назад +19

      I think it goes also as spring, summer, autumn and winter, as a emphasis on their phases of relationship

    • @eternalv10killa
      @eternalv10killa 17 дней назад

      Spring (green), summer (orange), fall (red), Winter {rebirth} (blue). My favourite film btw.

  • @daltonmiller5488
    @daltonmiller5488 Месяц назад +27

    Great explanation. I would like to also add something I noticed that I don’t see mentioned in other sources- I believe that the plan to hide Clem in Joel’s deepest and most painful memories is the key to why the cycle is broken in the end. I know that some say the ending is ambiguous and up to your own perception, but I believe the cycle has definitely been broken.
    In hiding Clem within his most dark and painful memories, they had no choice but to delete them entirely. These memories contributed significantly to the mental health issues of Joel throughout the rest of his life and his inhibitions as a person. Had this not happened, I do not believe that Joel would have even ran into the hallway to stop Clem, it would just be too out of character, but instead he seems like a completely different person by the end of the movie.
    Also, it stands to reason that despite us having not seen the procedure done upon Clementine, it is still incredibly likely that she did this as well in an attempt to hide Joel within her deepest memories an insecurities. It’s possible she decided she didn’t want to forget Joel either, and it stands to reason she could have followed the same process Joel did while he was dreaming to save him in her own mind as well. So I believe by the end of the movie they actually are much more healed and honestly might not even remember some of their most damaging memories that caused their mental health issues that lead to the cyclical and inevitable downfall of their relationship. That was their fate, was to keep doing this until they were healed to spend the rest of their lives together.

    • @BeckyEllis-vd8on
      @BeckyEllis-vd8on Месяц назад +2

      Wow! This seems so likely! I’ve often wondered how clementines procedure went & wouldn’t that of made an amazing film along side this one, but probably a bit too complicated to make. Love your post

    • @chi_noobz4240
      @chi_noobz4240 Месяц назад

      Duuuuuude you win this comments section

    • @Sixsoul
      @Sixsoul Месяц назад +7

      Great comment but you're ommiting one huge thing. The very last thing you see is Joel and Clem playing in the snow. Then you see the same thing again. And then again a third time. Signifying that Clem is always gonna inevitably make the impulsive decision to erase Joel and vice versa but they still keep coming back to each other because their soul connection that can never be erased

  • @josebro352
    @josebro352 2 месяца назад +19

    This film makes me think of a girl I knew long ago. We met on a beach and also spent our last night on a beach and I never forgot her. It wasn't an up and down, toxic relationship like Joel and Clem's though. She was sweet and we were really good friends. I'll always keep her in my memory and in my heart.

    • @lucyqy
      @lucyqy Месяц назад +1

      do you still contact her tho?

    • @josebro352
      @josebro352 Месяц назад +2

      @@lucyqy No. I haven't heard from her in a while. I found out through a mutual friend that she moved down south. Everyone says we would've made a wonderful couple but it just wasn't in the cards for us I guess. Last we spoke she told me she'd love me always and forever and I told her the same. Maybe we'll cross paths again someday and see what happens.

  • @racheldesir6612
    @racheldesir6612 5 дней назад +1

    This movie is the more sophisticated and detailed visual representation of the saying "people don't remember what you said or did, but they will remember how you made them FEEL"...

  • @ivelisseperez4388
    @ivelisseperez4388 2 месяца назад +10

    I feel this movie is about our own spiritual path. Remembering who you are. Merging the opposites of your mind. Left & Right brain. Male & female. Absolutely beautiful

  • @_TheQuotesGuy_
    @_TheQuotesGuy_ 5 месяцев назад +53

    As you said at 13:38 - Mary still has feelings for Howard. It's not just a crush, she ADMIRES him.
    I think that is a big part of the movie. People like Clem and Joel and all other patients of Dr. Howard come to him to get the memory of a "person" erased, and with it hope to get their feelings erased too. But I believe that you cannot erase feelings. In case of Mary, it was admiration. For Joel and Clem, it was love. So subconsiously, that feeling stays forever, even after the procedure. And since after the procedure the person forgets with whom they should associate that particular feeling, they feel helpless and confused.
    This is showcased when we see Clem in the middle of the movie crying and anxious when she calls Patrick. Also when Mary kisses Dr. Howard she is confused as to why she did it.

    • @juliaparks6836
      @juliaparks6836 2 месяца назад +1

      I love this explanation! I think it's resonated with me the most. They feel something is off, or different, but they can't explain why. The first time I watched this, I didn't fully understand why people were rooting for them to be together, because there was such a large focus on everything that went wrong (until the end). But I think what really hit for me was that even with their memories of each other being erased and being in a different environment, they still fell in love all over again.

  • @muhammadaamir6058
    @muhammadaamir6058 4 месяца назад +15

    I saw the movie two times and never really understood its true meaning until I saw this video. Amazing work

  • @Sixsoul
    @Sixsoul Месяц назад +4

    Meet me in Montauk is my fav quote of all time. Out of context it means nothing but in context it hits you like a falling piano.
    This is in my top two favorite movies of all time (Vanilla Sky the other, check it out if you haven't its right up your alley if you like ESotSM). I sometimes wonder if my repeated watching of it manifested a relationship that was almost exactly the same as Joel and Clem's. I met an impulsive crazy beautiful multicolored haired girl on a beach. I moved in with her the very next freaking day ffs. We also lasted two years like them and had a relationship arc almost exactly the same as well. We kept in touch often for a while afterwards and then one day for no reason at all, she erased me. Not literally of course, but she just cut off all communication when it was her that was mostly the one previously keeping it going. I know the point of the movie is that you shouldn't erase your memories but I truly don't care I would erase her in a heartbeat if I had the chance. And probably would immediately regret it once inside my head just like Joel 🤣
    I know pain catalyzes growth but the pain I've felt in life far outweighs the growth I've had because of it. Vanilla Sky is the same way in a sense. The moral is to stay out of your head and dreams and live a real life but put my ass to sleep forever and let me dream sweet dreams plz and ty! Then I can be who I want to be and with whom I want to be once more.

  • @b.d6642
    @b.d6642 5 месяцев назад +38

    I really liked your video, it brought me a lot of new insight!
    One opinion i would like to add, is that you covered the idea of how their true love breaks the boundaries of the procedure, but i think the movie also asks the question "what is true love?"
    We see that joel and Clementine's love is strong so much so they remember each other, but we see that they weren't happy.
    Were they just hopelessly clinging onto the past, the one thing they're familiar with?
    Or were they genuinely happy and just gave up on their relationship too soon when things got ugly?
    Is it true love if you feel unhappy but still try to be together?
    Is it selfish to keep each other in this endless loop?
    Or is it good since you're making them feel safe and excited during their boring life?
    The movie doesn't answer these questions, it only brings up the situation, showing us that not every love story with a depressed man and a mysterious girl with coloured hair and wacky lifestyle ends with happily ever after...
    But it also doesn't always end with the breakup.
    That's just life, and not just in relationships.
    Sometimes we just can't move on.
    If someone made it all the way through thank you

    • @sunny100294
      @sunny100294 Месяц назад +1

      I think it doesn’t want to answer it. Everyone should come to their own conclusion. Even if a relationship is in some ways harmful. The positives can still outweigh the negatives and the person in the relationship could feel like it’s a better life with them than without them. For other people this might feel differently

  • @SurinaSlackArt
    @SurinaSlackArt 7 месяцев назад +42

    I love love love u redefining/updating those quotes at the end. They made me see this film in a much deeper way than I previously had

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад +5

      Omg this is so awesome to hear from you because that was actually the funnest part of putting the video together, deciphering the famous quotes. And I'm so glad it deepened the film for you. Thank you so much!!

  • @paiski
    @paiski 5 месяцев назад +2

    12:55 reminds me of the quote "It is better to be unhappy and know the worst, than to be happy in a fool's paradise" - Fyodor Dostoyevsky

  • @glowupgoddess4882
    @glowupgoddess4882 2 месяца назад +6

    Your explanation makes it even more beautiful

  • @lebellees-double-you2827
    @lebellees-double-you2827 3 месяца назад +13

    Best explanation I've found so far. Bravo!

  • @lisawilson624
    @lisawilson624 3 месяца назад

    Nailed it. Thanks for delving into my favorite movie of all time. It never cesss to have an impact on me every time I watch it.

  • @alexlozano6987
    @alexlozano6987 2 месяца назад

    such an insightful & well put video. love your different perspectives, def gonna watch again after this video

  • @kathrynnorrisctmltbsascp2913
    @kathrynnorrisctmltbsascp2913 4 месяца назад +6

    Excellent review! So many other reviews hypothesize that the procedure will be repeated over and over. But I see that Joel began to share intimacy and Clem decides “to enjoy” their time together.
    Good job on sharing your insights.

  • @isamarbaeza3544
    @isamarbaeza3544 Месяц назад +1

    Loved this! Truly one of my favorite movies

  • @dr.vasudhasharma6856
    @dr.vasudhasharma6856 3 месяца назад

    Beautifully explained. Thanks

  • @alwayssaturday3066
    @alwayssaturday3066 6 месяцев назад +5

    EXCELLENT analysis. Tying so many things together I missed. I also loved how you explained with a grace like pace.

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  6 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you so much!! And so glad to hear the pace is good, that's something I've really been focusing on this year. Means a lot!!

  • @renata.renata.andrenata
    @renata.renata.andrenata 7 месяцев назад +2

    I love this movie! I’m so glad you decided to analyze it.

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад

      Yeah I love it so much too, it’s so beautiful! And I’m super happy you enjoyed, thank you so much!!

  • @m3gstarrr436
    @m3gstarrr436 2 месяца назад +2

    you explained this perfectly wow

  • @mariodimaio9291
    @mariodimaio9291 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks for doing this one. I’m ready for a rewatch. 🙌🏼

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад +1

      My pleasure, thank you!! And enjoy the film!

  • @catherineshaw3275
    @catherineshaw3275 3 месяца назад

    I loved your insights on this beautiful movie

  • @fhte111
    @fhte111 7 месяцев назад +2

    Great analysis! I agree with the person saying you must see Synecdoche, New York. It's my favorite movie, but too few people seem to appreciate it, or have even watched it.

  • @tejasnimbokar5627
    @tejasnimbokar5627 6 месяцев назад +9

    Ohh..Woww Lucas, It's a flawless explanation of this seem to be CMPLICATED movie (for me tbh)
    The way you broke it down in the form of themes is just AMAZING!
    I appreciate your efforts while deciphering the famous quotes for all of us which is by far the crucial aspect of this film. I have watched this movie yesterday and was looking for someone who could help me understanding the nuances and then your video came as a blessing for me❤️
    I am greatful to you man!
    I need to re-watch some scenes again now.

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  6 месяцев назад +1

      This means so much, thank you! It was a wild movie for me too, so I'm super glad I could help clarify things for the both of us. A classic!

  • @user-ho8iw9un2f
    @user-ho8iw9un2f 4 месяца назад +1

    I love the way you explained this. I just watched this movie for the first time and watched it 3 times in 3 days. Yet felt I was still missing things and you made me love the movie even more I know you mention two movies in your video. But do u know any movies similar to this. I highly doubt I’ll find one

  • @aliisaza5060
    @aliisaza5060 5 месяцев назад

    This is my fav movie! I loved your intake ❤

  • @AdnanAli-iz8ln
    @AdnanAli-iz8ln 2 месяца назад

    Wonderful analysis 🙌

  • @JustCallMeAnnie
    @JustCallMeAnnie 4 месяца назад

    One of my fav movies from back in the day! Love your breakdown of it.

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  4 месяца назад +1

      Same here haha so glad you enjoyed! Thank you!!

  • @matthewlong3710
    @matthewlong3710 7 месяцев назад

    Excellent video & analysis... thank you.

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад

      Totally my pleasure, thank you so much!!

  • @898spike
    @898spike 3 месяца назад +2

    This was a beautiful review and analysis of this movie I've never watched it and I want to watch it with my wife.

  • @maril1379
    @maril1379 3 месяца назад

    Great explanation about beginning of movie not the beginning.
    Thumbs up.

  • @monettewynne7898
    @monettewynne7898 2 месяца назад

    that was great!!!! Thank you!!!

  • @theorderofthebees7308
    @theorderofthebees7308 6 месяцев назад +2

    I really like your analysis. I just saw The channel the Take take a stab at it as well. This movie made me think it’s so very human to want to erase an ex and sometimes it’s the way forward but this movie makes you reconsider that your memories are necessary the good , the bad the indifferent . Without memory who are you ?

  • @lunchinvesting
    @lunchinvesting 7 месяцев назад +1

    Great episode, thank you!

  • @telepathicteddybear
    @telepathicteddybear 7 месяцев назад

    Yesss! Awesome video, once again!!

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад

      Thank you!! So happy you liked this, and you can expect many more this fall!!

  • @noah.mueller_1597
    @noah.mueller_1597 6 месяцев назад +5

    This is such an execellent breakdown of a complex movie. really great job, this deserves more love!

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  6 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much my friend! Really means a lot!

  • @omkarrevankar5511
    @omkarrevankar5511 5 месяцев назад +2

    Such a beautiful masterpiece and in order to truly understand and appreciate that, this video is a must watch. 💯

  • @Arifin_Alif
    @Arifin_Alif 3 месяца назад

    Nicely Explained

  • @chrismartin6247
    @chrismartin6247 3 месяца назад +1

    I wasn’t paying attention to Mary’s quotes but damn she was SPITTING 🗣

  • @chillvgm
    @chillvgm 7 месяцев назад +2

    Awesome analysis, really made me retroactively appreciate all those subtle details. Similar to Kaufman's Synecdoche, NY which I swear took 3 viewings and many video essays to digest lol. But it felt great finally clicking with it. ALSO I couldn't help but think about the song "Memory Machine" by Dismemberment Plan, with the line "someday I'm telling you, they'll make a memory machine to wax our heart to a blinding sheen to wash away the grief"

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you!! I’ve actually never seen Synecdoche New York, but I think I’m gonna add it to my classics list. It’s not the first time I’ve heard praise for its fascinating complexity. And I’ve never heard that song either, but yeah, those lyrics do totally capture the idea and concept of the film, strikingly similar haha and thank you for watching! It’s so nice to get back to discussing the classics with art and film fans!

    • @chillvgm
      @chillvgm 7 месяцев назад

      @@lucasblue20 For sure!! And nice, I think it's totally up your alley. His writing can be very cynical, but in a way that's intentionally hilarious, kind of like Ari Aster with Beau! Also notable is the collab with Philip Seymour Hoffman, who just elevated everything he was in. I wonder if that song was in any way an inspiration for the film since it's from 1999? The lyrics always struck a chord with me, interesting how it seems like a logical idea to a grief stricken heart, but the film reveals you're killing the hidden joy along with the pain. Very nourishing food for thought, keep up the great work!

  • @MsGerry15
    @MsGerry15 6 месяцев назад +3

    You thought deeply about the name of Kirsten Dunst's character like "Mary, Marry, Marriage" while I not so deeply did the same thing when watching the movie except it was "Mary, who previously played Mary-Jane, is currently smoking Marijuana 🤯"

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  6 месяцев назад +2

      HAHAHAHA 😂😂 yo your conclusion is equally clever

  • @acewickhamyoshi8330
    @acewickhamyoshi8330 5 месяцев назад

    I like how i would always comment on all reviewers of ESOSM , and think, hey , that is an interesting concept , that of Joel in 3rd person ~perspective , it explains why i watch alot of reviews and rewatch the movie endlessly. think foreward , good idea

  • @JM-zo5me
    @JM-zo5me 4 месяца назад

    Really great video! 🎉

  • @KotoriOnWheels
    @KotoriOnWheels 5 месяцев назад

    You're very good at this. ❤

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  5 месяцев назад

      You’re too kind, thank you so much!!

  • @morganadkins2673
    @morganadkins2673 7 месяцев назад +2

    I’ll never get tired of watching interpretations & breaking my own heart every time. love this :)

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад

      Haha don’t get too down, but thank you!! So glad you loved it!

  • @ishaanoneal156
    @ishaanoneal156 7 месяцев назад

    Great Job! Like I didn't understand this movie at all.But this made it make sense. God Bless you and have a wonderful day!! : )

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад

      Omg thank you!! So glad I could tie things together for you, you have a wonderful day as well!!

  • @unmaskscience111
    @unmaskscience111 6 месяцев назад

    You're a great philosopher and content creator 🙌🙏

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  6 месяцев назад +1

      Omg you’re so kind haha thank you so much!!

  • @spacecomunication
    @spacecomunication 24 дня назад

    Joel isn't sad because he find out that Clem erased him. This is the golden line. That rarely happens. Joel listened Clem's tape, in his car while with Clem, where she describes why she wants Joel erased. It is already heavy to hear from someone you love that doesnt feel anymore the same, but listenning right to your face the darkest reasons why this is happening directly from the other person it hits you whole differently. That is what devasted him, that's what devasted both of them at the end of the movie, and that is what always lingers above a relationship, the things that start to make you insuffarble to your loved one.

  • @ecalle8638
    @ecalle8638 6 месяцев назад

    Good video I had to sub 🔥

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  6 месяцев назад

      Appreciate it so much! Thank you!!

  • @Chris-cf2kp
    @Chris-cf2kp 2 месяца назад +2

    Mary - Mother Mary, undying love

  • @ethanl886
    @ethanl886 4 месяца назад +1

    decided to watch this movie bc it’s the name of ariana grande’s new album LOL
    so glad i watched it though, and amazing explanation!!! it’ll be interesting to see if the album has any more connections to this movie!!!

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  4 месяца назад +1

      I actually really like a lot of Ari’s music so I’ll be listening to Eternal Sunshine, and it’d be cool to hear some tie-ins with this for sure 🤞🏾 and thanks so much for watching, super glad you enjoyed!!

  • @rudrasoni3906
    @rudrasoni3906 2 месяца назад

    A simple thing not mentioned by you but maybe people noticed anyways it's that journal thing . At the start joel said that I don't remember tearing the pages and that's after he submitted the pages as memories to the physician it's a small thing but yeah made me a little proud that there's no comment or it's not mentioned in video.. maybe it's a small thing idk

  • @BXBeastBoy
    @BXBeastBoy 7 месяцев назад

    you got skills fam

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much my friend! That means a lot

  • @maril1379
    @maril1379 3 месяца назад

    Heavy movie saw on TCM.
    Remember it is not linear it bounces around in time.
    Thumbs up.

  • @Saurabhhx
    @Saurabhhx 13 дней назад

    Beautifully explained mate, great video

  • @huhhuh4381
    @huhhuh4381 5 месяцев назад +1

    I like your take but there is one thing I stongly disagree with.
    (4:06) I think that it is very unlikely that Clementine has a bipolar disorder.
    She would have to exhibit episodes of manic/hypomanic behavior AND depression. Usually, the depressive episodes last much longer than the manic. Her being reckless, impulsive, tending to emotional outbursts can -in general- be associated - with the hypomanic/manic episode, but it isn't a very specific symptom.
    The episodes of mania/hypomania and depression also usually last several weeks or months. I don't think that it fits very well.

  • @cheesesticcsfromsonicc8278
    @cheesesticcsfromsonicc8278 7 месяцев назад +1

    four hours ago wow i was just looking up a review😭

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад

      Haha that's crazy! So glad you could find it, and hope you enjoy!!

  • @urrealdad76
    @urrealdad76 4 месяца назад

    “What if you stay?”

  • @leslie7872
    @leslie7872 6 месяцев назад

    9:31 they were destined to be together

  • @aneal191
    @aneal191 4 месяца назад +1

    Damn this is beautiful

  • @Sarahworld46
    @Sarahworld46 6 месяцев назад

    ❤❤

  • @diogoreal9740
    @diogoreal9740 18 дней назад

    how did clementine know that something said that she had to go mountak??

  • @Campbell5339
    @Campbell5339 7 месяцев назад +2

    touching film

    • @lucasblue20
      @lucasblue20  7 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah this movie gets to me every time, rly beautiful story

  • @parthv18
    @parthv18 6 месяцев назад +1

    The one thing I still don’t understand is why does Howard let Mary keep working for him even though they had an affair? After deleting her memories, shouldn’t he have just hired someone else?

    • @xxshinypinkxx
      @xxshinypinkxx 5 месяцев назад +1

      Because he can't keep his old hands off her...

  • @chriscontreras66
    @chriscontreras66 3 месяца назад +3

    Her name is pronounced “ClemenTINE” not “Clementeen” 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

  • @Lily-ro1dj
    @Lily-ro1dj Месяц назад

    It's about rape and not knowing what was ever true. Also; I never recieved financial compensation for my work on this.

  • @MaricaAmbrosius
    @MaricaAmbrosius Месяц назад

    Mary had her doubts about undergoing the procedure, as heard on her tape. Howard pressured her into it.