Full Episode: The Hidden Faces of Anger (Gary Zukav) | The Oprah Winfrey Show | OWN
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- Gary Zukav talks with Oprah and her audience about how hiding anger affects not just your life, but those around you. (Original air date: June 29, 2000) For more on #oprahwinfreyshow, visit WatchOWN.tv/TOWS
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Full Episode: The Hidden Faces of Anger (Gary Zukav) | The Oprah Winfrey Show | OWN
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Anger is a topic that isn’t talked about enough in spirituality. It’s often riddled with negative connotation that makes the one getting angry sink in guilt, disappointment and sorrow after. I like the approach Gary used.
I love these old school episodes! I grew up watching your show and it’s nice to go down memory lane now and again.
Yes even the theme song gives me a warm feeling inside
Yessss ditto
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Morning Morning Agnes was the
this is the episode that completely changed my life. I was in college and saw this.... [anger is not a real emotion. it is a symptom of another emotion.] when I tell you.... the young fire sign in me woke up hearing that. it really catalyzed a process of self discovery and a path to emotional maturity that left/leaves me eternally grateful.
Thank you so much for that quote was it part of Gary's book or maybe quoted here in this video I'm still watching
I love the way Gary talks. He has such a thoughtful & gentle approach to delivering his every word.
That’s why the allure to the ever-so-subtly seemingly “eureka -like” New Age darkness is egregiously deceptive.
The ultimate takeaway message: “God for you, is nothing but YOU- YOU are the beginning & end.
and the most vile aspect of it....apparently it’s light.
I remember watching Gary as a teenager and really not liking the way he talked, but as I watch today I really appreciated it.
100%
I really appreciate how honest these people are. Saying things that I would be ashamed to admit.
So true.. esp the lady who said that she was jealous of anyone who had more than her. Everyone is jealous of someone who has more than her at some point in their life but wouldn't admit it like she did...very brave
Well they flew all the way to Chicago and are on Oprah and being paid, and they wrote the letter and was Oprah wants you you will share all your secrets to be w her.
@@nickalexandre9270 Oprah stated years ago she doesn't pay anyone to come to her show
Everyone should have to watch this and then talk about it. It's a simple concept, but not an easy one to master, hence not all people being willing to approach it and try it. I used to feel very angry even though no one would ever have guessed it. Inside my mind I was ranting all the time, I never had a "nice weekend" and I felt like I had worked extremely hard my whole life only to find myself poor, sick and struggling. I resented that. I don't know what happened, but one day I realized that I can't change my situation overnight, so I need to figure out how to not hate my life in the meantime.
I figured out that I was angry at myself for not standing up for my needs and therefore I had low self-esteem. Once I identified that, I could approach it. It has taken a lot of work to learn to say no to things I'm not okay with that have led me to do things that I was ashamed of or angry about. Even just going to dinner with someone I don't really like! I would do that to "not be mean"! And then resent the person for wasting my free time. LOL. I was so afraid of conflict.
Today, the result of practicing this skill has given me a freedom and joy that I could never have anticipated. I don't get mad very much, and when I am mad I know it's because I need to confront something. I left a job where I was taken advantage of because I said yes to everything to seem helpful and kind, which was the identity I assigned myself. When I left, I found one where I am appreciated and where I say no to work I shouldn't to be doing. As a result I do higher quality and more valuable work. I attract people that respect me rather than use me. I found a place to live that is affordable and not infested with roaches because I got a better job. It all snowballs to better things.
Sounds just like me! 100%
Me too
Keep on keepin on
Well-said, G Eastman! Wow. Maybe you could even do a youtube video about what you said. I'm considering doing the same for myself for things I"ve had problems with in the past, in hopes of helping other people. I usually don't like Oprah, but I'm glad this video came up in my 'recommended videos'
Well done! You were speaking my story too..... But haven't got to the more bullet proof improvement yet🙏🏻💗💫✨💞
Loved how Oprah always learned with us. Explained things and Shared her experiences. Miss these shows
Omg..this was needed for me today! I am dealing with so much personally, financially, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. I need all of the guidance with this today!
💙🙏💙
You are not alone
Zebra yellow. I completely agree with you. If you are interested in working together over email or something, let me know!
@@ktown8139 yes,.please.
Ich bin dabei! Girls, in Deutschland I am watching this.....mich needed! Xxx
I am very much a people pleaser. I don't want anyone to see how angry I can get when provoked. I also have regrets that i don't say what I mean and mean what I say.
Then Beth I consider..you a graduate....because you now GET IT. ...yes it's too True, people say what they MEAN people MEAN what they Say..sometimes they are clever enough to mask it... AS in a JOKE......Once you receive this you turn into a Powerhouse.....😍.....If you command respect..by setting boundaries , and zero tolerance for disrespect...by checking it, correcting it, and dismantling it by distancing yourself....forgiving that person or person's...freeing your spirit, heart, mind & soul...when you distance yourself from those dynamics...you are free...
you just described me. i couldn't put it into words, but you said it for me; well said
Me too, oh wow.🙏🏻😔
Writer Shakti Gawain said, when we became assertive, our anger goes down, as no need for it..
I love Oprah. she is doing all these podcast worthy episodes wayy before podcast was invented
It's so brave to admit being jealous of others. It's something I've never experienced and looked at as such a weakness but the path to change it is admitting it. ❤
I love listening to Gary Zukav. Such a wise soul
Wow! Such a powerful episode. Oprah is such a force. I know she is not perfect, but I don't expect her to be. There are people out there that put her down, but they are probably most in need of watching her show. She not only brings topics to the table, but she has this gift of connecting us with people who have the types of answers and explanations that revolutionize us all for the better.
So glad this came up as a recommended video.
Wow. This came up right after I fought with my mother. Love her but there is still stuff we need to work on.
Very true..also what I'd dislike is the blame game... "When others place what they don't see wrong about themselves and place it on you."
Oprah is always on time seriously
@@ladennayoung2939 my mom is a toxic angry aggressive borderline narcissist. That made me accommodate accommodate accommodate to her needs feelings and not mine
There are no coincidences
I watched this years ago when it originally aired. It stirred something in me but I just didn’t get it. I wasn’t ready to receive or explore the messages. Today I am in an entirely different place and I’m so excited because I actually understand. Thank you for reviving these shows. For as many people as this spoke to back when, there are that many or more this will speak to today. The seeds we sow grow far beyond the moment or the place where we first scattered them - for better or for worse. This has been a blessing to me. The fascinating thing is, when you affect one life, you are affecting many, many more that you may never be aware of.
I totally agree! I couldn't grasp the concept at the time but today I've got it.
After abuse, so much anger builds up that it’s so hard to get rid of it. I’ve tried but the anger burns so bad that it feels good.
Most of the time I feel like there are much simpler ways to say what Gary is saying! Thanks for the translation Oprah 😉
Thank You Both so much, I watched the fear & anger when the Capital was violated on Jan. 6/2021, then sat in tears & jubilation on seeing the in coming president, Joe Biden & Camila Harris take up this challenge... I now have a deeper understanding of the past four years, & the new dawning of love & understanding through healing the anger, fears & pain of the nation. I am Canadian & saw how this fear & anger had infiltrated into Canadians & I was so ashamed of the proud boys from Canada... Bless you both so much for helping me understand my self & my reactions, so much better...
Sometimes I can forget just how good this show was/is. Thank you for sharing this point of reference that I can totally relate and grow from.
seat of the soul was my favourite book of all time its 2020 and still my favourite, a must read
I like the messages she interjects in between segments. Powerful stuff
Their will never another wonderful lady like this lady.. she has been a mother a grandmother a friend a therapist. Thank you oprah
This is one of the best videos I've ever seen
Anger is a natural thing, Anger is one of the most important protector feelings for human!!
QUEEN of Love! I shall not allow this Pandemic to keep me from watching my Favorite Program on OWN TV NETWORK. Today's Topic is based on the Book written by Author GARY ZUKAV, entitled the" HIDDEN FACES OF ANGER" I listened intently as each participant explain their "ANGER" They all gave credit to the Author Gary Zukav for helping them to overcome their Anger. It is hard to escape the Spirit of Anger that present itself in our lives from time to time. In my humble opinion, Anger is an unwelcome force of Emotion that goes awry in our daily existence. It is imperative that we do not entertain it, as it is always better to be safe than sorry. Great interaction QUEEN. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for this Gary and Oprah!
Loved loved this episode! Thank you Oprah and Gary
I found peace in Jesus!
Yeah that doesn't work for atheists
So high quality discussions, we can learn a lot from them..
Thank you for posting very much looking forward to watching this episode
You're so adorable Oprah! 🌻
This is really interesting, and guidance. It gives myself to reflect on, thank you for this
Love Oprah Winfrey show…………so much to learn from other people’s experienced………so interesting
Reminiscing about the 90’s a much simpler time.
I love you Oprah you are a Queen kind understanding loving you ask all the questions that is on our minds. Beautiful and a one of a kind . Love your show .....
Jealousy, anger, arrogance are really testing us in our life. Being consious about these enemies, one can navigate his / her own life smoothly, but it is not so easy. It took me more than thirty years to defeat them.
I'm going to read Seat of the Soul. I identify with the woman who was stuck in anger mode and was victim of child abuse. Thanks Oprah for putting these important life-changer ideas out there. 🙏❤ Also identify with woman who thought she had foegived her father and found the anger came back. This is me right now. I'm wanting to truly forgive my dad who is in hoapice.
Be prepared to cry a lot, with that book. I read it and it is life changing. There is another author you might like, his name is Eckhart Tolle. One of his books called "The Power Of Now", shifted something inside me, something I need to get back. This book is stunningly powerful and it was written because the author was going though a terrible time. I hope you read it. Another one of Eckhart's books is called "A New Earth". This is not a self help book, persay, it is a book about transformation of the soul. All these books are brilliant and what I like is that these two authors were very candid about why they wrote these books. You might find them at the library, rather than spend the money on the books. By the way, I am also stuck in angry mode, but I am way too scared to face what's there because I know what's there; I was molested as a child and I have flashbacks, sometimes. I had counselling but I need to do some major work, because my anger is killing me. I'm sorry to hear about the situation with your father, especially with him in hospice. I was very close to my dad. He died in 2007. My parents would never talk about the abuse, because the abusers were family members. I hope you find some kind of peace with your father, before he passes.
Yes I am glad that I found this
I disagree that it is the “universe” that tests me or brings me good.
The universe is a creation just like I am, the trees, mountains, streams etc. I will not seek solutions or help in the creation but the CREATOR.
Other than that, I loved the beneficial knowledge of how to understand and manage one’s anger contained in this video.
The universe IS the creator or one of many creators, just as YOU are a creator.
@@PotatoWisdom Wow that statement is a whole other lesson ... I was drawn to and grateful that I read. Yes we are creators I just never looked at myself as such.. creator instead of victim. Awesome !!!
Potato Wisdom How can the universe be the creator when it itself was created? My faith is in a higher Power. When I pray to the Almighty I see results. I marvel and appreciate the universe but that is all. It does not have the power to receive my supplications, it is not worthy of worship, it does not instill that inner peace. The universe is not what I pray to. I acknowledge and have faith in the higher Power. There is no creator worthy of worship except The Creator.
That’s the point...YOU are the creator. Bible says so...be still and know I am God. The kingdom of heaven lives within you.
Buddhism- enlightenment comes from meditation, non thinking. Hindu- karma....all you kid.
@@4everu984 where in the Bible do you find "YOU" are the creator? Doesn't that statement blaspheme the true creator God? Buddhism originates from Hinduism, hence they are similar.
BE STILL AND KNOW THAT I AM GOD; I WILL BE EXALTED AMONG THE NATIONS; I WILL BE EXALTED IN THE EARTH" PSALM 46:10
So you think you are god and want to be exalted??
Love this.
The Remembering Your Spirit segment... Awesome
YAyyy Opra on a Saturday :) Perfect. Bless you .
Oh I am awake now and I am angry all the time, now that I see what really is going on. Just can't stop it.
Exactly!!
May God bless Oprah; she is a gem. 🩷🧡
Good encouragement talk oprah powerful program.
Oprah is one fierce Queen
I like Gary's style... he's a bit different but I do enjoy listening to him speak... I have so much anger about so many different things that i dont know where to start.. 2021
I NEVER make comments like this, but Mary, your daughter is incredibly beautiful & adorable!
I'm finally scheduled to see a psychiatrist and I feel that's the first step. I've realized lately I'm 😠 angry. I've always known I deal with depression but I've realized I'm angry. I'm sick of feeling this way! The thing is I don't believe anyone would think I was angry because I hide it with a smile and kindness. Thanks for the episode and I love you Oprah 🥰
I feel that way too I just started therapy trying to hit so many levels of problems that's been throughout my life and my childhood being sexually abused physically assaulted verbally assaulted I told therapist the other day I'm getting angry opening everything up it just is so much easier to bury it and just keep moving on you know? That's good that you seeked out therapy took me a long time... Feel like I'm slipping away you know?
Incredible.
Unpopular opinion: Being the breadwinner as a woman will always cause problems in a relationship.
iloveflowers_ True! They are out of order, and she’s resentful to him. It’s a recipe for disaster.
@@5thHouseProductions Exactly, women should stop this obsession of trying to do it all.
Munira McDaniels Who is out of order? How can one be resentful “to” someone?
only if the embedded ideals of home roles are aligned with outdated expectations.
Only if the man isn't confident in themselves. That is their issue being projected onto the woman. If the man cannot handle it, leave them
Thanks❣️
9:10 Gary is completely RIGHT 💯☑👏🏾
Change the dynamic & get past the anger!
Lots of people pleasers were raised by a narcissistic parent.
Anyone watching this had a purpose. Not for ourselves but for everything around us
THIS IS GOLD (by the way he looks like Richard Gere)
What is so painful to me that its driving me to be an achiever. That hit me in the gut!!!
Anger is normal and natural and happens to me before I realize it. But I turn it onwards myself which is killing me. But I write about it and look at it and pray for others and myself
I appreciate Oprah’s input and a ha moment. I feel she could step back and allow him to talk. He’s your guest. Allow him to speak without adding every time
GREAT STUFF !!!!!!!
This is what I am dealing with, my husband has such an out of control anger issue I've seen this in him before marriage and since he had a stroke it's over the top out of control, and what he does to reflect that this is not his problem is to blame me, his problems are always reflected that I am the problem. I am easy going yes I get angry when I feel I have a reason so I don't hold back if I need to be angry or let someone know that this is how I am feeling but just to lash out at another person is not who I am. Since the stroke he can not drive, has a speech problem and he's always thought that he was the smartest person in the room and now his life is different its hard for him to accept what has happened and the fact that I am his primary caretaker bugs the hell out of him. This is a great program It's what I have suspected that his anger problems.
I'm sorry. Has he gotten any better?
"Opening his arms he said quietly to her, Disappear here."
-Jonathan Carroll
"I felt his arms go around me, holding me tight I was safe. I was warm I was home.
-Ally Carter
"Walking distance to the Riverwalk"
-AloysiaAndAvery😍IniTTogether🤗
Flippin oprah, PREACH!
I know a lot of them people thanks.!!!!!
Behaving 'un' consciously... wow!
I’ve worked very hard myself! Decades of therapy and hypnotherapy... I finally realized “I got it” when my psychiatrist said: “You intimidate doctors...” my answer? “Good! Patty the doormat died and I’ll find a happy medium eventually!” Weee!💪🙏😇🥰
Anger is a surface emotion on the emotion wheel but so many people don't even realize they are angry.
Be mindful of what you project. I want to be a better person
Anger can be a good and powerful guidepost. Anger tells us that we are not feeling safe in our life’s choices. There’s an imbalance of our personal sense of justice. We can heal our anger by identifying the injustice we’ve created for ourselves and correct it! And if you value the people in your life, don’t yell at them to relieve the pressure valve - that’s the external work.
I think this is a really important thing a lot of people need to work on, including myself. I have so much unresolved anger at my family that I don't know how to deal with. And they're all I have to depend on now. I'm angry that I'm 50 and I can't seem to hold down a job and I could go on and on. Just very frustrated with my life and feeling like people love to pick on me. I don't know how to pick the pieces up and carry on. I'm calling a psychologist tomorrow, please God, I need help!!!
Christ is the only one who can really help us
@@DavidKing-qd3sp Well reading the Bible doesn't seem to help either.
there is a book you shoud look at called - scattered minds - it deals with ADD, that is attention deficit syndrome, the author is Gabor Mate---all you need to do is read the first 2 chapters to see if you may have this - or go online and look up the symptoms or characteristics....not being able to hold a job is one of them...not being able to focus for very long is another unless something is extremely important to you...so google that
@@lynnmarieanderson1744 bible study will help but it may not cure---read the book of Psalms and then pray that God will guide you to some personal insights...this is the best first step
I can relate!
Check out Jerry WISE relationship systems YT channel. There are many helpful videos for you.
Like the show but appreciate I found Oprah let her guess finish speaking without interrupting
If people are going to be sent to anger management classes, then the tail-holes who trigger anger in others should be sent to a class that teaches them how to be decent human beings...
Man, I wish it were that simple. Lol.
Wow! People are responsible for their own behavior and feelings. No one can "trigger" feelings in another person. To do so is blaming someone else for one's inability and immaturity to be accountable for their behavior and thought processes.
Jennifer Wilcox if someone kills the person that you love the most, you won’t feel anger or any other emotion, according to what you just said. That’s be an empty human being with no emotions.
Erika Porter - It isn’t, because a lot of people are selfish, self-serving and to some degree, mentally ill.
Jennifer Wilcox - I don’t think you thought this through very well... substitute the word trigger for cause/caused.
Oprah for president !!!!
Great reminders for me🥰
To me reverence is only authentic when it includes ALL life on Earth, which includes our helpless, voiceless animals. The day I chose to become a committed vegan and extended reverence and compassion to animals, my life became even more peaceful, meaningful and abundant. 🥰💛🐤🐥🐥🦎🐬🦋🐇🐑🐂🐕
OPRAH IS CORRECT SHE IS NOT NICE, SHE IS VERY LIKABLE AND I ADORE HER BECAUSE SHE IS ALWAYS WILLING TO BETTER HER SELF. MY SELF I'M PERFECT AS GOD CREATED ME.
In my experience, anger is unresolved feelings of shame, feeling unworthy, inadequate powerless, or like a failure.
When I was younger I had a lot of anger. I did a lot of therapy. What else can you do but work on yourself to do better and be better.
Wow! This popped up right after I had a disagreement with my man.
I love her show specially the old episodes! Why did she stop??? Really!
I couldn't help but laugh when it showed Oprah before and after video talking about her "utube' channel 🤣😂 I can't believe that RUclips isn't OTube yet!!
No worries, there's plenty of time still ;)
This explains the case of Diane Schuler so clearly for me.
righteous anger isnt a sin..but its a sin to make yourself feel wrong for righteous anger...sin meaning unhealthy..its healthy to get anger out by validating you are correct so you can move on/remove those people from your life and smile in your own right. no attachments to bad people. no guilt for not wanting to be around those who hurt you.took me forever to learn this. in my 20s and 30s forget it. took to my 40s. now no one can be in my life who is toxic. only good people so i can feel free to be happy.
lots of good information but when you have a choice, choosing your intention, "I do not want to be angry." is not easy without understanding why you are angry. the video alludes to looking for the source of the anger, e.g., anger was a protection, or i didn't get the love i needed because i didn't deserve it. if you want to be able to make the choice more easily, imho, it's more doable if you ask why did the situation that caused the need for protection exist and why did i create it? or, why did i not feel that i deserved love? the answers to these kind of questions, can help us to make internal changes rather than just reacting to external situations. and, the internal changes will cause the external changes to gracefully happen. and with patience with ourselves we will be less likely to experience the kind of stress Zukav and Oprah suggest we'll meet. a strategy to accomplish this is to proceed like a scientist. i.e., in this case, create a hypothesis and test it. the pressure is removed from you. it's on the idea, i.e., whether it's true or valid. and, you don't put yourself in a success/failure situation. so what could understanding of the causes of the first level of causes be like. in the case of no protection, why were you not protected? you might have been trying to understand another's experience which you asked yourself (in a previous life perhaps) how could they feel like that? and you wanted an answer. or, you didn't feel like you deserved protection, because you didn't forgive yourself for something so you keep attracting it to yourself. the former cause is hard to change until you understand what you were trying to. the latter is easier if you can believe that all of life is a school for us to grow in. this can be hard also if our idea of school is run by our thoughts of pain and suffering as teachers rather than kindness and compassion. if you can be kind, gentle and compassionate towards yourself you'll find that life is easier and you can expect to have positive, beautiful experiences teach you even the hard lessons that we are resistant to. i,e,, if we speak to ourselves with patience, gentleness, kindness, compassion and understanding, our lives will be filled withe these qualities in our external world. but, this should also be validated. approaching this as an experiment makes this happen more easily and doesn't attract an overwhelming succession of challenges. what you experience are opportunities to grow gracefully. one other example mentioned was not deserving love. this can relate to a possible source for the protection source. here, again we are criticizing our self. and, if so, why? maybe we've heard what we think is a beautiful positive explanation of reality, and we are part of it. however, if we expect perfection from ourselves because of our idea of who we are and we don't know whether we can contribute to a beautiful reality or we try and we don't succeed as we expected, we start doubting who we are and we don't see ourselves as worthy of love from others or ourselves. that creates a downward spiral. i.e., the more you criticize yourself the more you see yourself as inconsistent with the beautiful world you want to believe in which creates more criticism. so, the scientific model approach helps when coupled with affirmation meditation to build a thought pattern in your self that will draw related positive experiences to you, positive self, patient inspirational inner dialogue and sharing your feeling about yourself with others without judging them.
There was a hymn we sang as children. It began...
"Oh-oh Lord , I am not wor-thy, tha-at thou should come to me."
So sad and so confusing!
Bom dia Opraha Winfrey eu só Victoria parabéns pelo seu trabalho Deus ti a bênção e toda sua família e sua vida .🎉😂❤
I wish Oprah was still around doing her show to cover topics like childhood emotional neglect with Dr. Jonice Webb, covert passive aggressive narcissism and cluster B personality disorder with Sam Vaknin or Richard Grannon, and adverse childhood experiences with Dr. Nadine Burke Harris. I believe these are origins, especially the ACEs and CEN are the root causes of anger. Narcissism is a post traumatic response to ACEs and CEN.
What I didn’t understand for the longest time, is that we create negative karma through being angry. It doesn’t matter if we have a good reason to be angry or not. Whatever we send out mentally and emotionally we are responsible for, and the same energy flows right on back to us. We get what we give, it’s exacting, and it’s as simple as that. The karma may show up a week later, a day later, or a lifetime later, it doesn’t matter, the law of cause and effect is at work. Life will teach us to be better through the Law of Karma.
Oprah + yellow shirts 💛🤗
I can take my anger out in sporty activities, such as, tennis, running, swimming, and surfing.
This was really sad. This lady was literally using anger to avoid being intimate w her husband. Not intentionally but it’s safer than letting her anger friend go. The author saw right through her and called her out. Heartbreaking.
I know the above comment is 2 years old but I’d like to share a different perspective. I don’t think Gary called her out. She called herself out & he repeated what she said. She then confirmed.
That intro tho ..... 🔥
I try to do my best to allow myself to feel my emotions on a regular so I can let go an let god.
Interesting how feeling wanting to feel" worthy" is at the root .. Truth is we're not worthy, we're just human..only He is.. Thankfull to Him..
Not being nice isn't to be mean. I think a lot of people dichotomize this concept!
So THIS was the point where she started in on the dark deceptive New Age downward spiral.
Wow. This is where the darkness disguised as light came in, and metastasized into the world phenomenon of the same for one who once knew the truth.
Beyond these words, I’m speechless.
Wow.
...Just will add that I am a psychologist. There is a value in certain understanding of how our psychology comes to be what it is is.... but this does NOT negate the validity of our desperate need for the One who created us, with a purpose, Who is also the very source of all that is true, the one Sovereign who holds our eternity.
Joanie’s anger was from the fact that she was the bread winner . She did not bargain for that. That is something that can eat away at you . When one gets married to share love and grow , bread winner leads to loss of respect and love
Joanie chose her career over being a full-time mother, but she feels guilty because she only gets an hour or so to "bond" with her child. She is angry with her husband because he is joyful from his full-time father job, and her career doesn't give her that kind of joy. However, she can change her anger by being grateful that her child is safe and bonding with at least one of the parents; a daycare or another woman (nanny) isn't rearing her child; and they are saving a lot of money on daycare and babysitters costs.
oh wow I get it.
Reality conversations
I was raised in a violent and abusive environment. My father was this big scary man who beat my brothers, slapped my mum, and shouted at me through all my young life, telling me that i am useless and no good and am going to be put in a home. I have grown into a very anxious and very angry person. I am irritable with people, I shout at my partner and can be very rude and cutting and if something goes wrong, I chuck things around and pinch myself until I hurt. I won't let my partner kiss or make love to me, I can't bear it, even though I love him very much and he is a lovely, gentle man. He deserves someone better and kinder than me. Should I be put in a straight jacket and locked away or is there ever going to be a chance for me to be normal. I loved my dog and my cat more than any human being on the planet, even my lovely partner. I am so messed up but how can i blame my early life for my dreadful behaviour in my older years?
Olá. Estou aqui também num momento de raiva. Sou casada há 22 anos, 3 filhos e também trabalho para meu esposo há 21 anos. Não está sendo fácil pra mim. Sou pressionada na frente de funcionários e dos filhos também, por meu marido, patrão, por quem um dia amei... Hoje ele não bebe mais, mas ainda temo que seja pior se der um fim nesse relacionamento - Seria um recomeço muito amplo em minha vida e não sei se tenho forças. Gostaria muito de ter a sabedoria de Oprah pra lidar com isso tudo...