Do what brings MEANING and PURPOSE into your life. There is always some one who blew it bigger. 45,,,aint that old,Im 61and could say the same thing. Could/have/did,,just words. I do it this way.There was then,,,and there is now. I live in the now,and only refer to THEN to take from it the things I learnt that can help me in the NOW. You are fortunate you realise it.Just imagine,never waking up to the truth. Growth is some times pain full. The pain has a purpose. Go for it,consider all the things you really want,,,,Accomplished, They are in your future.You only have to bring them in to existence!They are waiting for you!
Grant Grindle dude you're still young, and if that's your picture, quite handsome. You've not pissed your life away, you're just getting started on part 2. Judging by your tone and candor, you are very likely a kind and honest man. Trust me, you're a rare commodity if we were to use a market place metaphor. I would suggest giving yourself plenty of time to wind down and come to a more balanced place after all the heartache and difficulty. You may not be healed in a year or two, but perhaps give yourself that much time, more likely to draw a healthier more balanced mate, if you're interested in giving romance another try. That's just my advice as a chick. You got this honey. Hang in there.
Thank you sir, I really needed this. I am 60 and I pissed away at least 35 years of my life; bad decisions ,missed opportunities, chasing stupid shit, etc. I feel like I can start over, I just need to critique; as you mentioned don't let food and all these roller coaster emotions not to control me. Thank you again, this video helped me.
Thank you I have pissed my life away.Stuck in the same job for 19 years divorced paying child support lost house now renting I want to reinvent myself so bad. This message has given me the motivation and inspiration to better myself and follow my dreams.
Thanks George, I'm 49, single for 3 years, I've been getting healthy, losing weight, reinventing myself, as of today 1632 subs on my RUclips channel...so thank you for the confirmation that I'm heading in the right direction.
It's 5:30am...I'm sitting here awake and just tired of feeling like I "have pissed life away." I'm 43, overweight, and never felt like I've had an idea of what I'm here on this earth to do. But I realize as I've watched your video that I have never really put together an honest game plan. Oh, I've flapped my arms really hard and never flown...but never really put together a plan for getting off the ground. Thanks for putting together a casual, yet serious, way to put some meaningful things into action.
+Jason Paulk You just described me many years ago. The only way I became in the ranks of millionaires is by having a game plan. I always say if you don't have a list, you will be lost. Keep watching, take notes, stay positive, and remember action, daily action is the key.
I am 38 years old, went through a painful divorce in my early 30's, have little family that cannot really be relied upon, and a fairly small circle of friends (I'm an introvert). The little family that I do have faces issues that I have limited control over to ameliorate. The first thing I want to say is that it would be very easy for me to think I pissed my life away, as the "bereaving" over my divorce last a solid 5 years. I have had trouble finding myself in any relationship, and the dating scene is not treating me so incredible as well. I am definitely not ugly, and have a solid job that is close to home, so I know that these struggles are a product of trauma and childhood issues. But, having documented the point and place I am over the past 8-10 years, I have made incredible strides. I was 185-200 lbs (5'7") my whole life, and now I range from 165-175 lbs. I run 1,300-1,500 miles a year. My half marathons are usually b/w 1:46-1:51 (on a bad day). Realistically I'd like to be down to 155 lbs, but what matters is that I am far healthier now than I have ever been. I have traveled a sh*t ton....I recently ran 300 miles from Zurich to Salzburg, Austria over 25 days via the Alps with just a back-pack. I go to classical and opera festivals all over Europe on my vacations. I have paid down debts considerably. I am a run leader in a gigantic club in the NYC area....involving myself in group activities. The big thing I have learned, absolutely tremendous, is not to regret. Regretting is a beta mannerism which is a product of past humiliation, upbringings and relationships that were based on approbation-seeking behaviors, and the idea of "trying to make everything perfect". You cannot compare yourself to the person walking down the street...the slim 6'3" arrogant people that have received fortune, inheritance, and looks in this life. But in the end, these people have their own problems, and many of them are the biggest assholes you will ever meet. So, I am not preaching being complacent and letting yourself go as a product of pushing aside feelings of regret. But if you work with what you have, create reasonable goals, document them in a journal, you will create positive change and upward mobility in this life.......and that is something very few people are really able to achieve.
You havent pissed anything away! You are helping other humans from your experience! It's a good thing what you are doing for humanity. Some people die for others to live, you are living to tell others how to live. Many blessings to you sir!
I just turned 20 and I just want to say thank you for sharing your life and wisdom you've collected along the way. Your videos often help me stay motivated and focused.
I'm 38 and going through a really really tough time right now. I was sitting in my apartment earlier tonight looking at boxes about to be filled by me and my ex-wife. We finalized the divorce this morning. "If you're in a bad relationship, get out". Thank you. Thank you for all your videos. I've watched a few tonight and they are truly helping me keep my sanity. I don't plan to piss another second away. I'm going to plan "the funeral" for one weekend in the next few weeks. Thank you, sir. I hope you know the positive effect you're having on peoples' lives.
Dude, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I feel for you man. Stay in touch and keep me informed as to how you're doing. Sound good? Keep your chin up bro.
39 here, but have been feeling 50+ for years. So up yours, I’m feeling ready for change. 😅 thanks a lot. I just started smoking pipe and quit cigarettes since februari. You’re an inspiration. I’m sober 10 months now after pissing my life away for 24 years. 🙏🏻🤎
My son is graduating college with a 4 year degree in psychology. A field I told him is useless. He now is looking at becoming a truck driver. No matter how much you preach to someone, they have to learn for themselves.
'Psychology is useless' What? What kind of person says this? How is understanding yourself useless? hahaha.. Shoulda supported him to become a psychologist. Now he'll just become a dull headed speed addict. And no shit, you aren't supposed to preach to people, if they have a brain it pisses them off. Everyone learns their own lessons.
because he did poorly due to a lack of intelligence and wasn't eligible for clinical psychology programs. It's more about the individual than the institution
@@rexdrabble4988 I feel sorry for you if you think that's what psychology is. Most of them just want to understand themselves and others so they can help people. Not everyone is a victim/oppressor.
Glad I stumbled onto your videos. Very thought provoking! I'm 64, had quad bypass heart surgery and a bypass for PAD in my leg last year. I've lost a career and my home. Yeah, I've pissed away a life but...hey! My beard led me to you....go figure! Cheers amigo.
+Dennis Schell, I'm the same, ie I also stumbled across this but am very glad I did, I subscribed right away and very rarely do these days, I've got enough to occupy my time but I can and will make time for this gem of a channel
Thank you. I've been suffering in a relationship for 5 years now. She left a long time ago but I kept everything. I couldn't let go and its been poisoning my life. I've been stopped dead in my tracks for five years. I walk around with notes from her in my wallet and things from our relationship everywhere in my life. Every single thing from her I kept. I just couldn't let go of the life I won't get to live. All of these things that surround me are leaving. I thought I could carry on and keep them because they are so very precious to me.. I think now that you just made me realize its impossible. I'm taking the first step, the funeral. Then I'm going to cut this mullet that she loved so and get just a "regular" haircut. Like you said in another video. Then maybe once I have recreated myself I can start the motion in my life again. Thank you for sharing your life experiences. I needed these words of wisdom from a fatherly figure. I never had a father in my life to help with anything. Thank you.
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Stop being a simp and focus on your purpose that bitch will come back and you attract more women purpose purpose and hit the gym
I found this after having a very depressed moment seeing people in their twenties full of life doing what they love. I'm 43 and nothing I have done in my life worth anything. Right out of high school I went to work and I needed help to get my driver's license and never got it until I was 35 years old. I took driver's ed but I needed practice on the road and I had nobody. I never had multiple friends, only one and she can't drive due to medical issues. My family never lift a finger when I'm in need. All my jobs were miserable. I have irritable bowel syndrome with diarrhea, long-term depression, anxiety disorder, and panic attacks. I've lost a lot of teeth and hair and I've gained a lot of weight. I have a lot of problems with my back and my feet swelling and severe sciatica in both legs. My vision really sucks. I have no skills in anything and no Talent. I barely have enough money to live off of and this epidemic is not helping my situation. So, how and where do I start to try to get a life and finally for the first time in my life be happy? BTW my parents are dead.
Start a ketogenic diet and switch to a carnivore diet after dropping weight and feeling better. Learn to fast it will work miracles. Learn to control your carnal appetites and lift weights. Raise your level of thinking and focus on what you can do and is within your control. Get busy and get and stay active. Take 100 % responsibility for where you are in life and do not blame others for your condition/s. Best wishes
On "following your passion": Something always seemed a little off about self-help gurus and "life coaches" telling people to follow their passion. They go on and on about how fabulously successful they became by building a business around their passion. So, what is your business? Getting paid to tell people to follow their passion... The whole thing is nothing but a big circle jerk.
I’m coming up on 26 this year, I have worked physical labor jobs since I was about 13. In my area it’s typical for younger kids to work on the local farms from an early age. For the past 7 years I have invested in the arborculture industry. Essentially for the purpose of having a skill I can always fall back on and make a living with. This past year however, I have been feeling trapped and discouraged. It is a feeling I have been struggling with a lot. I just wanted to let you know; the videos you make, and the way you perceive the world/life has recently lent me encouragement and some hope. You’re and great person and thank you for everything you do.
Preach brother. I’m 59 and in a bad place. Bad marriage. Stage 4 kidney failure (again) listed for a second transplant. Never saved any money. I went on the road as a saxophonist at 17 and stayed 15 years. When I got off the road I got a trade and raised 6 children. Now they are all gone and it’s all going to hell. However, I have a 34” waist and a 36” inseam. I’m feeling a quickening so to speak. A change coming in my life. I too suffer from vertigo.
Had to stop the vid and play Cats in the Cradle. Hadn’t heard it in years! So fitting for my grandfather and I (didn’t really have a father). When my grandfather passed away early and it destroyed me, only male role model I’d ever know, and when I hit my teens I was always to busy to spend time fishing, golfing and all the other things we’d enjoyed earlier in life. I’m now 55 and still have regrets and think of him often, always hoping he’s proud of who I’ve become and knows how much he meant to me and the direction of my life! Thank you sir for the content you provide, of all the red pill, MGTOW etc. Yours seems to resonate with me most! Peace be with you!
27 now and had a good few months (hopefully to continue). I was 22 when my life went to pissing away mode. I know 5 years seems like a long time but my mom said not to think about the time passed cuz it just kills your mood and direction in life.
I started out well and ended up pissing it away over the last 5-10 years. You're a greater teacher than you give yourself credit for. To a person like me... YES, you are a rock star and more
That song won't bring a tear to your eye if you were a good dad. Awesome song by the way. Were you a good counsellor? Did you help the kids you counselled? If so, you didn't piss your life away. That being said, there is wisdom in your words. I was lucky, I was always amazed by electricity so I became an electrician, then a business owner, then a teacher of electricity then an apprenticeship coordinator. All related to my first job as a humble apprentice at $2.44 an hour.
“The human race is a monotonous affair. Most people spend the greatest part of their time working in order to live, and what little freedom remains so fills them with fear that they seek out any and every means to be rid of it.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
It’s funny that I’m seeing this now... great info! I went through the pissing my life away period and quickly found myself surrounded by 18 year old people as a mechanic. I quit that job and am now a commercial electrical contractor and banking baby!!! You’re spot on with the college too... it’s an expensive way to prove you can follow directions. Get into a trade and do what you’re good at.
"College just prolongs adolescence" so true lol all my friends that went to college finished recently and are moving back now, they have no idea what to do, cant get jobs, and remind me a lot of my childish self when I decided college wasn't for me a few years ago. They all grew ego's while away at college and I basically lost them all as friends because they didn't want to waste time with non-college people, but it was only a momentary loss because they're back now, extremely lost, and I'm the friend that's knowledgeable on what they currently need help on. It feels good to finally get the respect I deserve for taking the less walked path. Stay strong brothers, it gets better, especially if you make being better a goal.
Appreciate your Advice, since i have gotten older i worry more about my future and i feel like i have pissed away most of my life so far. keep these videos up :)
I’m 27 and I’ve been teetering on self improvement for a few years, as soon as I get close to getting over the hill I demolish it and slump back to being comfortable stop challenging myself. Shamefully this is a pattern I’ve been stuck in for a while. This video meant a lot to me, thank you.
+Gray Bailey patton said; pride in self begins with pride in appearance. veterans with ptsd/mental health issues are encouraged to bathe, shave, clean up, exercise. your self worth & self esteem can increase if you take care of yourself.
25. Watching this in my dorm room at 2 AM. Junior year at a university I don´t really like, with a major I don´t really care about. Maybe I should've done this, or that, maybe changed that sooner etc. Maybe I should drop out, maybe I never should've started in the first place. I´ve watched hundreds of different people and gurus speaking about this stuff, so much so that I feel like I´ve fried my brain with all the different perspectives and so-called instructions, but this is the most genuine monolouge I´ve heard in a while. So for that I thank you. At least we're not alone.
Dan Sherling I thoroughly enjoyed your video. I'm 64, a pipe smoker with a beard, and lost the hearing in my right ear from Meniere's disease 10 years ago (suffered vertigo for about eight years pretty much daily at random times). However, I've been married for 38 years with two sons and daughter. And I can certainly relate to the concept of reinventing myself. Thanks for sharing - food for thought.
I've watched a good many of your videos this year, this was one of my favorites, never too late to turn things around, I'm 46 so this was so perfect for me, thanks
Thank you for sharing this video. It’s a courageous expression to admit your past, but it’s even more courageous to redirect your life as dramatically as you have. I needed this today.
Yeah but, the power, the force, the arc, the distance. The ...Swing. Ha, Ha, Don't take it too seriously. I like the one about pissing up just another wrong tree but, decisively so. You must own that piss. We just don't live long enough to make bigger fools of ourselves , or vice= versa.[show them all, we were right, all along ].
Being under that probable target audience age at 38, I still absolutely feel what you're saying.....deeply. Change is hard, but I think I might get there. Thanks so much for talking about things like this.
I have not piss d my life away.. married to a loving woman for. 37 years. Stable career as a software engineer. Great life as an Semi-pro musician. Hiked most of the US. Read all the masters and maintained a deep faith in God. I love life only the more you enjoy it the faster it passes. Raised three kids that all are self supporting and have professional careers. Was it luck? Yes.... Was it faith? Yes.... George if you ask me you have definitely not posed your life away. Your videos are an inspiration to everyone. Maintain the faith brother. I recognize amazing talent and you are a talented guy with amazing history and beliefs....
I couldnt agree more!!! Im 47 and recently separated and going through a tough time. Im an american living in Czech Republic. Im a guitarist composer/English teacher. I think I need to get out in front of people more. Thats my goal. Im always waiting for the perfect band but I will just wait forever.
Super helpful, I pissed away 10 years in a bad marriage. A waste of valuable time and took years to recover from. So right about focusing on health, as that will hopefully keep the doctors away as I get older.
You are talking about the trades. I can't give money to tradesmen to get them to fix my house. They are so busy. We need more tradesmen. It is a very honorable vocation.
George Thank you for your Amazing words . I am 51 and I have pissed my life away feel and the Marines were great. After that tried to raise a family. I needed this from you I am at a turning point in my life my book is not finished. You right on the great advice you have given . You are Amazing you speak the truth . As Jesus said the truth will set you free. Your a God send thank you so much for the great lessons . Wish you the best always your friend Scott
Cool stuff Gray I'm 59 and will be 60 in November I found Buddhism helps a lot and I dig what you're saying I have a lot of baggage I carry around with me on my hips and in my mind I just needed someone to say at the way you did to really hit home thanks brother your video really meant a lot to me
I'm 62 , against my mothers wishes I dropped out of college to go sailing. Through sailing I met some of the most successful people ever. I met a guy on the docks that happened to be Kirby vacuum distributor. Through him I learned consultive, advisory selling skills and was able to take control of my life. I agree with the importance of purpose and keeping adventure as part of your life. I agree with everything you say. Create don't compete. I did make a mistake by getting seduced into the "trap of ease" by a beautiful blond but it served me well by keeping things in perspective. Looking forward to more of your talks.
Oh my gosh! This was exactly what I needed to hear! Exactly what I needed to hear, at exactly the right exact time! And spoken exactly how I would hear it! I don't know how I found this one but I'm so grateful that I did it; was fortuitous timing! I'm going to post this on my wall! And the quickie jump start instructions were: Don't be controlled by: Food Anger Hormones Your past Impossible dreams
I am happy when I am good at something.. Not doing what I love. I feel good at the jobs where I had confidence and people needed me. Jobs where I thought I would love turned out to be very difficult and discouraging.
Seems like sage advice. You are so correct about your body being healthy. I am recovering from a surgery that has thus far, ruined my ability to work for several months, i am at a crossroads, its dark, and i can not see down the road, right now.
Mr Bailey….thank you for so much wisdom. Your contributions ring so true and the younger audiences really need to apply the knowledge you are sharing. You are very positive yet truthful and I can certainly align to your comments at the age of 46. Thank you!!!!!
I think I understand stand where you're coming from...Ive recently felt the urge just to walk the United States and live in a tent and meet and have interactions with people...people that I normally wouldn't even say hello too ...you may have pissed some of your life away...but I can't help but think of all of us men that you have helped in this bearded life...I thank you for your time and advice..I really enjoy your straight forward style...
The problem is people think they are doing what they love and in the end, they fuck up. If a person truly loved what he was doing, in the end, he would become a master of it. But the mind is a complicated thing you can think you love something but you don't. What influences this? Everything. You just watch a guy you love and he is doing something that he loves and then you want to do that but that thing truly isn't for you it's for the guy you watched. It's a big topic. Think but your not right for this one. Finding what you truly love is almost impossible there are people that find what they truly love and they became masters of it and that makes money. But many of us who don't find what they truly love have to do what they don't like to get money. Sad truth. The point is what you are telling isn't an absolute truth. Thanks for your videos. You are a great person!
I agree 👍 Just because you read something in a book does not make you an expert. Young people/and old just because they have a therapy degree think they can go out and fix peoples problems. They only make it worse ! They have NO life experiences behind them, 1 year of marriage makes them an expert on marriage . 1 argument with there parents makes them an expert on abuse and so on. Most therapists, pastors, should be building bird houses or washing cars. I get you on alot of this 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👍👍👍
Brother, this video, literally, spoke to me. I am about the target age that you mentioned, 45+ and am at a crossroads. However, this pointed me to a path that I need. Thank you. Also, just started smoking my Grandfather's GBD Embassy pipe.
Losing weight was imperative. I never was a drinker, never delved into drugs besides smoking weed casually and doing shrooms twice, wasn't into most of the bad shit for you... But my "Drug" Was Food. Fuck it was unreal... I still can't imagine that I used to weigh about 500lbs at one point. Down to 230ish now at 6'1 so I'm getting there. Ideally 180-200lbs is where I'd like to sit. You're ONE HUNDRED PERCENT correct when you say to correct your health over EVERYTHING. Holy shit the difference in my overall quality of life is astonishing... Sad to say I never knew what health was before the age of 32... I'm just grateful as fuck that I do. I do say follow a passion though, or at least like Mike Rowe says: "Bring your passion WITH you." Love the vids, brother. Thank you!
Sage advice as always, Sultan. I say several of these things to myself daily. Save some love for the mental health workers, we have a LOT of crazy folks out here.
I agree...Cats and the Cradle is a tear-jerker. Always has been for me. Ironically, it spurred on my tenacity toward my family...and having kids for 17+ years now I can look back in all candor and say they will have time for me. ;-)
Also...as some who is approaching 50....I'm thankful to God that I don't feel I have "pissed my life away" up until this point. Trust me, being a family man is not easy...but I devoted the last 23 years of my life to ensure I enjoy my family, my children have everything they could every want (physically, spiritually, emotionally. For the last 23 years I told myself each and every day I did not want to look back and rue and stew on what I did not do based on what is important to me...and I did it. But trust me...it was not easy. It's all I know though.
I love your videos man you've inspired me to start my own RUclips channel. Thank you so much plus it's nice that you're representing older men I'm in your age group. Rock on brother
I love this video so much. I'm 27 and this relates big time to my current place in life. What do you do when your in a long term relationship that your intuition has been telling you to leave for 3 years? When your in a city that feels like a cage? in a job you hate and have no career path? It's a lot that is for sure.
Ty Kenny how has your year been bro? Seeing these things and waking up to the truth is a blessing. Intuition is so god damn important and must be trusted - it is your soul speaking to you. Would go so far as to say the meaning of your life is found by following your intuition
It's easy to lament the decisions of the past. You don't know what you don't know until you know it. No point regretting, just learn and get on with the next project.
You’re insight is so appreciated George. I follow it much better with the long bearded version as well. Thanks for always sharing your wealth of knowledge.
Thanks for the precious words, sir! I'm 19 and by now I'm noticing my life is starting to get pissed. I don't like who I'm and what I do. I'll carry your advices in my heart. Muito obrigado!
I did not get a 4yr degree or use my gi bill but I do not regret it. I strongly dislike classes & office life. college degrees seem to be a mandate in modern society. 30/40 years ago, college was meant for smart people or science research. now, people go to university courses then never use them.
Honestly, I do kinda see where you are coming from. I think not everyone should go to college, but I do think college is useful as long as you're actually going to use it. College can be quite useful if you're actually going into a profession where it is required.
Life is life do we some of us go with the flow or just find ourselves where we are your health is your wealth education is vital in life to stay healthy dont escape realthy to much
George, you should be on the govt payroll for providing an invaluable public service! They say the truth hurts, but the truth will also set you free...
I would have to respectfully disagree about the historical aspect of the statement. There has been a huge push for 4 year degrees since the 60's. Now, today the pendulum swings. Trades are gaining momentum due to many forces in place. However, fundamentally speaking, many college educated people who have four year degrees that are not in demand don't want to do other work. That will change for many when they get hungry enough. So, there are programs offering one and two year certificates, some of which are two-year degrees in the "trades". This is a wonderful opportunity for all who are "sitting duck" with their non-in demand degree to go get something that truly is in demand and ride the wave in the interim until things change for them and perhaps their four year degree will come of value.
I'm 42 and being feeling that I'm pissed my life away. After watching your video l have realized it was never too late it was my choices and decisions.
People that have survived or found success, the best of them, never had a college degree. I think personally think of two bicycle mechanics from North Carolina. ✈📚 Thank you for the advice George Bruno.
Start by taking a look at yourself. Accept and own your flaws, and work religiously to iron them out. Physically, mentally, spiritually, and whatever other arena. The hunger and drive to become better is what will carry you out of mediocrity.
The great thing about Harry Chapin when it comes to inspiration is that he died at the ripe old age of 38. So you can say....maybe I haven't achieved that much in life...but at least I'm still around, unlike poor Harry RIP. Puts things into perspective.
Another fabulous video! I'm 45, going through a divorce, don't own a home, and I definitely feel like I've pissed my life away.
I am sorry for you brother. May God give you strength.
I can relate bro.
Do what brings MEANING and PURPOSE into your life.
There is always some one who blew it bigger.
45,,,aint that old,Im 61and could say the same thing.
Could/have/did,,just words.
I do it this way.There was then,,,and there is now.
I live in the now,and only refer to THEN to take from it the
things I learnt that can help me in the NOW.
You are fortunate you realise it.Just imagine,never waking
up to the truth.
Growth is some times pain full.
The pain has a purpose.
Go for it,consider all the things you really want,,,,Accomplished,
They are in your future.You only have to bring them in
to existence!They are waiting for you!
Grant Grindle dude you're still young, and if that's your picture, quite handsome. You've not pissed your life away, you're just getting started on part 2. Judging by your tone and candor, you are very likely a kind and honest man. Trust me, you're a rare commodity if we were to use a market place metaphor. I would suggest giving yourself plenty of time to wind down and come to a more balanced place after all the heartache and difficulty. You may not be healed in a year or two, but perhaps give yourself that much time, more likely to draw a healthier more balanced mate, if you're interested in giving romance another try. That's just my advice as a chick. You got this honey. Hang in there.
Rex drabble this is wonderful advice thank you for sharing Rex
Thank you sir, I really needed this. I am 60 and I pissed away at least 35 years of my life; bad decisions ,missed opportunities, chasing stupid shit, etc. I feel like I can start over, I just need to critique; as you mentioned don't let food and all these roller coaster emotions not to control me. Thank you again, this video helped me.
Thank you I have pissed my life away.Stuck in the same job for 19 years divorced paying child support lost house now renting I want to reinvent myself so bad. This message has given me the motivation and inspiration to better myself and follow my dreams.
Been there bro. It can be done
Thanks George, I'm 49, single for 3 years, I've been getting healthy, losing weight, reinventing myself, as of today 1632 subs on my RUclips channel...so thank you for the confirmation that I'm heading in the right direction.
It's 5:30am...I'm sitting here awake and just tired of feeling like I "have pissed life away." I'm 43, overweight, and never felt like I've had an idea of what I'm here on this earth to do. But I realize as I've watched your video that I have never really put together an honest game plan. Oh, I've flapped my arms really hard and never flown...but never really put together a plan for getting off the ground. Thanks for putting together a casual, yet serious, way to put some meaningful things into action.
+Jason Paulk You just described me many years ago. The only way I became in the ranks of millionaires is by having a game plan. I always say if you don't have a list, you will be lost. Keep watching, take notes, stay positive, and remember action, daily action is the key.
But you've got to know what your goal is.
I am 38 years old, went through a painful divorce in my early 30's, have little family that cannot really be relied upon, and a fairly small circle of friends (I'm an introvert). The little family that I do have faces issues that I have limited control over to ameliorate.
The first thing I want to say is that it would be very easy for me to think I pissed my life away, as the "bereaving" over my divorce last a solid 5 years. I have had trouble finding myself in any relationship, and the dating scene is not treating me so incredible as well. I am definitely not ugly, and have a solid job that is close to home, so I know that these struggles are a product of trauma and childhood issues.
But, having documented the point and place I am over the past 8-10 years, I have made incredible strides. I was 185-200 lbs (5'7") my whole life, and now I range from 165-175 lbs. I run 1,300-1,500 miles a year. My half marathons are usually b/w 1:46-1:51 (on a bad day). Realistically I'd like to be down to 155 lbs, but what matters is that I am far healthier now than I have ever been.
I have traveled a sh*t ton....I recently ran 300 miles from Zurich to Salzburg, Austria over 25 days via the Alps with just a back-pack. I go to classical and opera festivals all over Europe on my vacations. I have paid down debts considerably. I am a run leader in a gigantic club in the NYC area....involving myself in group activities.
The big thing I have learned, absolutely tremendous, is not to regret. Regretting is a beta mannerism which is a product of past humiliation, upbringings and relationships that were based on approbation-seeking behaviors, and the idea of "trying to make everything perfect".
You cannot compare yourself to the person walking down the street...the slim 6'3" arrogant people that have received fortune, inheritance, and looks in this life. But in the end, these people have their own problems, and many of them are the biggest assholes you will ever meet.
So, I am not preaching being complacent and letting yourself go as a product of pushing aside feelings of regret. But if you work with what you have, create reasonable goals, document them in a journal, you will create positive change and upward mobility in this life.......and that is something very few people are really able to achieve.
You havent pissed anything away! You are helping other humans from your experience! It's a good thing what you are doing for humanity. Some people die for others to live, you are living to tell others how to live. Many blessings to you sir!
I just turned 20 and I just want to say thank you for sharing your life and wisdom you've collected along the way. Your videos often help me stay motivated and focused.
I'm 38 and going through a really really tough time right now. I was sitting in my apartment earlier tonight looking at boxes about to be filled by me and my ex-wife. We finalized the divorce this morning. "If you're in a bad relationship, get out". Thank you. Thank you for all your videos. I've watched a few tonight and they are truly helping me keep my sanity. I don't plan to piss another second away. I'm going to plan "the funeral" for one weekend in the next few weeks. Thank you, sir. I hope you know the positive effect you're having on peoples' lives.
Dude, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I feel for you man. Stay in touch and keep me informed as to how you're doing. Sound good? Keep your chin up bro.
39 here, but have been feeling 50+ for years. So up yours, I’m feeling ready for change. 😅 thanks a lot. I just started smoking pipe and quit cigarettes since februari. You’re an inspiration. I’m sober 10 months now after pissing my life away for 24 years. 🙏🏻🤎
My son is graduating college with a 4 year degree in psychology. A field I told him is useless. He now is looking at becoming a truck driver. No matter how much you preach to someone, they have to learn for themselves.
Psychology,,,the profession that makes the practitioner feel better because they need to
see some one worse to live with themselves
'Psychology is useless'
What? What kind of person says this? How is understanding yourself useless? hahaha.. Shoulda supported him to become a psychologist. Now he'll just become a dull headed speed addict. And no shit, you aren't supposed to preach to people, if they have a brain it pisses them off. Everyone learns their own lessons.
because he did poorly due to a lack of intelligence and wasn't eligible for clinical psychology programs. It's more about the individual than the institution
@@rexdrabble4988 I feel sorry for you if you think that's what psychology is. Most of them just want to understand themselves and others so they can help people. Not everyone is a victim/oppressor.
When he loves psychology and he is good at it, he will get there. Btw, he sounds like a great guy, your son. Trust him.
George,
You’ll probably never know the gravity and the gratitude of those who watch your videos. Thank you sir.
Glad I stumbled onto your videos. Very thought provoking! I'm 64, had quad bypass heart surgery and a bypass for PAD in my leg last year. I've lost a career and my home. Yeah, I've pissed away a life but...hey! My beard led me to you....go figure! Cheers amigo.
+Dennis Schell, I'm the same, ie I also stumbled across this but am very glad I did, I subscribed right away and very rarely do these days, I've got enough to occupy my time but I can and will make time for this gem of a channel
Thank you. I've been suffering in a relationship for 5 years now. She left a long time ago but I kept everything. I couldn't let go and its been poisoning my life. I've been stopped dead in my tracks for five years. I walk around with notes from her in my wallet and things from our relationship everywhere in my life. Every single thing from her I kept. I just couldn't let go of the life I won't get to live. All of these things that surround me are leaving. I thought I could carry on and keep them because they are so very precious to me.. I think now that you just made me realize its impossible. I'm taking the first step, the funeral. Then I'm going to cut this mullet that she loved so and get just a "regular" haircut. Like you said in another video. Then maybe once I have recreated myself I can start the motion in my life again. Thank you for sharing your life experiences. I needed these words of wisdom from a fatherly figure. I never had a father in my life to help with anything. Thank you.
Stop being a simp and focus on your purpose that bitch will come back and you attract more women purpose purpose and hit the gym
Good luck with your development bro - just remember - everything you have kept and held onto about her she has not done the same about you.
I found this after having a very depressed moment seeing people in their twenties full of life doing what they love. I'm 43 and nothing I have done in my life worth anything. Right out of high school I went to work and I needed help to get my driver's license and never got it until I was 35 years old. I took driver's ed but I needed practice on the road and I had nobody. I never had multiple friends, only one and she can't drive due to medical issues. My family never lift a finger when I'm in need. All my jobs were miserable. I have irritable bowel syndrome with diarrhea, long-term depression, anxiety disorder, and panic attacks. I've lost a lot of teeth and hair and I've gained a lot of weight. I have a lot of problems with my back and my feet swelling and severe sciatica in both legs. My vision really sucks. I have no skills in anything and no Talent. I barely have enough money to live off of and this epidemic is not helping my situation. So, how and where do I start to try to get a life and finally for the first time in my life be happy? BTW my parents are dead.
Start a ketogenic diet and switch to a carnivore diet after dropping weight and feeling better. Learn to fast it will work miracles. Learn to control your carnal appetites and lift weights. Raise your level of thinking and focus on what you can do and is within your control. Get busy and get and stay active. Take 100 % responsibility for where you are in life and do not blame others for your condition/s. Best wishes
On "following your passion":
Something always seemed a little off about self-help gurus and "life coaches" telling people to follow their passion.
They go on and on about how fabulously successful they became by building a business around their passion. So, what is your business? Getting paid to tell people to follow their passion... The whole thing is nothing but a big circle jerk.
I’m coming up on 26 this year, I have worked physical labor jobs since I was about 13. In my area it’s typical for younger kids to work on the local farms from an early age. For the past 7 years I have invested in the arborculture industry. Essentially for the purpose of having a skill I can always fall back on and make a living with. This past year however, I have been feeling trapped and discouraged. It is a feeling I have been struggling with a lot. I just wanted to let you know; the videos you make, and the way you perceive the world/life has recently lent me encouragement and some hope. You’re and great person and thank you for everything you do.
Preach brother. I’m 59 and in a bad place. Bad marriage. Stage 4 kidney failure (again) listed for a second transplant. Never saved any money. I went on the road as a saxophonist at 17 and stayed 15 years. When I got off the road I got a trade and raised 6 children. Now they are all gone and it’s all going to hell. However, I have a 34” waist and a 36” inseam.
I’m feeling a quickening so to speak. A change coming in my life. I too suffer from vertigo.
+Scott Johnson Stay strong. Your best yrs could be coming. Dont ever fucking give up bro...ever.
Hope things have improved for you bro, Love from Aus
Had to stop the vid and play Cats in the Cradle. Hadn’t heard it in years! So fitting for my grandfather and I (didn’t really have a father). When my grandfather passed away early and it destroyed me, only male role model I’d ever know, and when I hit my teens I was always to busy to spend time fishing, golfing and all the other things we’d enjoyed earlier in life. I’m now 55 and still have regrets and think of him often, always hoping he’s proud of who I’ve become and knows how much he meant to me and the direction of my life! Thank you sir for the content you provide, of all the red pill, MGTOW etc. Yours seems to resonate with me most! Peace be with you!
bro im 26 and still going through this since 21..
im going to take your word for this sir. thanks bro
27 now and had a good few months (hopefully to continue). I was 22 when my life went to pissing away mode. I know 5 years seems like a long time but my mom said not to think about the time passed cuz it just kills your mood and direction in life.
I started out well and ended up pissing it away over the last 5-10 years. You're a greater teacher than you give yourself credit for. To a person like me... YES, you are a rock star and more
Do what you love an the money will follow has created a plethora of " guitarists" that have pissed their life away!
That song won't bring a tear to your eye if you were a good dad. Awesome song by the way. Were you a good counsellor? Did you help the kids you counselled? If so, you didn't piss your life away. That being said, there is wisdom in your words. I was lucky, I was always amazed by electricity so I became an electrician, then a business owner, then a teacher of electricity then an apprenticeship coordinator. All related to my first job as a humble apprentice at $2.44 an hour.
“The human race is a monotonous affair. Most people spend the greatest part of their time working in order to live, and what little freedom remains so fills them with fear that they seek out any and every means to be rid of it.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
It’s funny that I’m seeing this now... great info! I went through the pissing my life away period and quickly found myself surrounded by 18 year old people as a mechanic. I quit that job and am now a commercial electrical contractor and banking baby!!! You’re spot on with the college too... it’s an expensive way to prove you can follow directions. Get into a trade and do what you’re good at.
"College just prolongs adolescence" so true lol all my friends that went to college finished recently and are moving back now, they have no idea what to do, cant get jobs, and remind me a lot of my childish self when I decided college wasn't for me a few years ago. They all grew ego's while away at college and I basically lost them all as friends because they didn't want to waste time with non-college people, but it was only a momentary loss because they're back now, extremely lost, and I'm the friend that's knowledgeable on what they currently need help on. It feels good to finally get the respect I deserve for taking the less walked path. Stay strong brothers, it gets better, especially if you make being better a goal.
Appreciate your Advice, since i have gotten older i worry more about my future and i feel like i have pissed away most of my life so far. keep these videos up :)
32 y/o... I needed this. Thank you.
I’m 27 and I’ve been teetering on self improvement for a few years, as soon as I get close to getting over the hill I demolish it and slump back to being comfortable stop challenging myself. Shamefully this is a pattern I’ve been stuck in for a while. This video meant a lot to me, thank you.
There's many people like you. Just takes a mixture of encouragement and a little wake up call type of event. Then it all starts to come together
+Gray Bailey patton said; pride in self begins with pride in appearance. veterans with ptsd/mental health issues are encouraged to bathe, shave, clean up, exercise. your self worth & self esteem can increase if you take care of yourself.
I’m with you man. But keep trying. It will happen
Who are you angry at?
Exactly the same!
I’m 24 years old and I value your information as gold, thank you so much for sharing your opinions and life experiences, very helpful!
25. Watching this in my dorm room at 2 AM. Junior year at a university I don´t really like, with a major I don´t really care about. Maybe I should've done this, or that, maybe changed that sooner etc. Maybe I should drop out, maybe I never should've started in the first place. I´ve watched hundreds of different people and gurus speaking about this stuff, so much so that I feel like I´ve fried my brain with all the different perspectives and so-called instructions, but this is the most genuine monolouge I´ve heard in a while. So for that I thank you. At least we're not alone.
Dan Sherling
I thoroughly enjoyed your video. I'm 64, a pipe smoker with a beard, and lost the hearing in my right ear from Meniere's disease 10 years ago (suffered vertigo for about eight years pretty much daily at random times). However, I've been married for 38 years with two sons and daughter. And I can certainly relate to the concept of reinventing myself. Thanks for sharing - food for thought.
I've watched a good many of your videos this year, this was one of my favorites, never too late to turn things around, I'm 46 so this was so perfect for me, thanks
Thank you for sharing this video. It’s a courageous expression to admit your past, but it’s even more courageous to redirect your life as dramatically as you have. I needed this today.
That was very strong, Gray. Very sage advice, indeed. Thanks for sharing. Class of '79.
I will be 70 in a few days. I have really enjoyed your videos. thank you for taking the time to share
I’m about to turn 35 and I can totally relate to this magnificent topic. I feel like I pissed my life away.
Yeah but, the power, the force, the arc, the distance. The ...Swing. Ha, Ha, Don't take it too seriously. I like the one about pissing up just another wrong tree but, decisively so. You must own that piss. We just don't live long enough to make bigger fools of ourselves , or vice= versa.[show them all, we were right, all along ].
Being under that probable target audience age at 38, I still absolutely feel what you're saying.....deeply. Change is hard, but I think I might get there.
Thanks so much for talking about things like this.
I have not piss d my life away.. married to a loving woman for. 37 years. Stable career as a software engineer. Great life as an Semi-pro musician. Hiked most of the US. Read all the masters and maintained a deep faith in God. I love life only the more you enjoy it the faster it passes. Raised three kids that all are self supporting and have professional careers. Was it luck? Yes.... Was it faith? Yes.... George if you ask me you have definitely not posed your life away. Your videos are an inspiration to everyone. Maintain the faith brother. I recognize amazing talent and you are a talented guy with amazing history and beliefs....
wow man thats cool...
I couldnt agree more!!! Im 47 and recently separated and going through a tough time. Im an american living in Czech Republic. Im a guitarist composer/English teacher. I think I need to get out in front of people more. Thats my goal. Im always waiting for the perfect band but I will just wait forever.
Super helpful, I pissed away 10 years in a bad marriage. A waste of valuable time and took years to recover from. So right about focusing on health, as that will hopefully keep the doctors away as I get older.
You are talking about the trades. I can't give money to tradesmen to get them to fix my house. They are so busy. We need more tradesmen. It is a very honorable vocation.
+HighlyMedicated Indeed yes.
Mike Rowe of "dirty jobs" makes that point. America created the job corps program in the early 90s. I considered doing that for welding.
im 33 and i really take your advice... i love listening to you... with love from South Africa
One of your best videos yet. Excellent and unique perspective.
George Thank you for your Amazing words . I am 51 and I have pissed my life away feel and the Marines were great. After that tried to raise a family. I needed this from you I am at a turning point in my life my book is not finished. You right on the great advice you have given . You are Amazing you speak the truth . As Jesus said the truth will set you free. Your a God send thank you so much for the great lessons . Wish you the best always your friend Scott
Cool stuff Gray I'm 59 and will be 60 in November I found Buddhism helps a lot and I dig what you're saying I have a lot of baggage I carry around with me on my hips and in my mind I just needed someone to say at the way you did to really hit home thanks brother your video really meant a lot to me
Good word, I'm 21 and needed a little life advice from someone with a few more years on their belt. Thanks!
Sound advice, one of your best videos, one I've watched more than once when I've felt I needed to step up. Thank you
I'm 62 , against my mothers wishes I dropped out of college to go sailing. Through sailing I met some of the most successful people ever. I met a guy on the docks that happened to be Kirby vacuum distributor. Through him I learned consultive, advisory selling skills and was able to take control of my life. I agree with the importance of purpose and keeping adventure as part of your life.
I agree with everything you say. Create don't compete.
I did make a mistake by getting seduced into the "trap of ease" by a beautiful blond but it served me well by keeping things in perspective.
Looking forward to more of your talks.
37 and going through toughest time in my life. Your bids are helpful. Ty
Oh my gosh! This was exactly what I needed to hear! Exactly what I needed to hear, at exactly the right exact time! And spoken exactly how I would hear it! I don't know how I found this one but I'm so grateful that I did it; was fortuitous timing!
I'm going to post this on my wall!
And the quickie jump start instructions were:
Don't be controlled by: Food
Anger
Hormones
Your past
Impossible dreams
My favorite part is stamped at 13:15. Such golden advice.
I am happy when I am good at something.. Not doing what I love. I feel good at the jobs where I had confidence and people needed me. Jobs where I thought I would love turned out to be very difficult and discouraging.
Seems like sage advice. You are so correct about your body being healthy. I am recovering from a surgery that has thus far, ruined my ability to work for several months, i am at a crossroads, its dark, and i can not see down the road, right now.
Watching this in 2019. You did great with your weight loss journey.
Mr Bailey….thank you for so much wisdom. Your contributions ring so true and the younger audiences really need to apply the knowledge you are sharing. You are very positive yet truthful and I can certainly align to your comments at the age of 46. Thank you!!!!!
I think I understand stand where you're coming from...Ive recently felt the urge just to walk the United States and live in a tent and meet and have interactions with people...people that I normally wouldn't even say hello too ...you may have pissed some of your life away...but I can't help but think of all of us men that you have helped in this bearded life...I thank you for your time and advice..I really enjoy your straight forward style...
The problem is people think they are doing what they love and in the end, they fuck up. If a person truly loved what he was doing, in the end, he would become a master of it. But the mind is a complicated thing you can think you love something but you don't. What influences this? Everything. You just watch a guy you love and he is doing something that he loves and then you want to do that but that thing truly isn't for you it's for the guy you watched. It's a big topic. Think but your not right for this one. Finding what you truly love is almost impossible there are people that find what they truly love and they became masters of it and that makes money. But many of us who don't find what they truly love have to do what they don't like to get money. Sad truth. The point is what you are telling isn't an absolute truth. Thanks for your videos. You are a great person!
I am just turning 30 and this spoke to me deeply. It was like listening to someone tell me about me. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Thank you for this. Just turned 40 a few days ago, definitely pissed some of my life away. 2019 is the year I get unstuck!
Amen Amen. Well said
I agree 👍 Just because you read something in a book does not make you an expert. Young people/and old just because they have a therapy degree think they can go out and fix peoples problems. They only make it worse ! They have NO life experiences behind them, 1 year of marriage makes them an expert on marriage . 1 argument with there parents makes them an expert on abuse and so on. Most therapists, pastors, should be building bird houses or washing cars. I get you on alot of this 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👍👍👍
Brother, this video, literally, spoke to me. I am about the target age that you mentioned, 45+ and am at a crossroads. However, this pointed me to a path that I need. Thank you. Also, just started smoking my Grandfather's GBD Embassy pipe.
Losing weight was imperative. I never was a drinker, never delved into drugs besides smoking weed casually and doing shrooms twice, wasn't into most of the bad shit for you... But my "Drug" Was Food. Fuck it was unreal... I still can't imagine that I used to weigh about 500lbs at one point. Down to 230ish now at 6'1 so I'm getting there. Ideally 180-200lbs is where I'd like to sit.
You're ONE HUNDRED PERCENT correct when you say to correct your health over EVERYTHING. Holy shit the difference in my overall quality of life is astonishing... Sad to say I never knew what health was before the age of 32... I'm just grateful as fuck that I do.
I do say follow a passion though, or at least like Mike Rowe says: "Bring your passion WITH you."
Love the vids, brother. Thank you!
I’ve recently come across your videos and I’m hooked. Feels like I’m watching my future self. GREAT content sir!!!
You are like my big brother...thanks George.
Sage advice as always, Sultan. I say several of these things to myself daily. Save some love for the mental health workers, we have a LOT of crazy folks out here.
I’m 27 and this was a huge benefit to me! Thanks 🙏🏾
Hey George I am part of your army of average. I just went through my second divorce about a year ago. So I’m enjoying your videos thank you
Wow, this makes too much sense ! I’m in college right now, thank you for your wise wisdom sir! God Bless!
My favorite lesson from you on this one. Thank you for your inspiration.
I'm 28 and feel like I've already pissed my life away.
Amen brother
I agree...Cats and the Cradle is a tear-jerker. Always has been for me. Ironically, it spurred on my tenacity toward my family...and having kids for 17+ years now I can look back in all candor and say they will have time for me. ;-)
Also...as some who is approaching 50....I'm thankful to God that I don't feel I have "pissed my life away" up until this point. Trust me, being a family man is not easy...but I devoted the last 23 years of my life to ensure I enjoy my family, my children have everything they could every want (physically, spiritually, emotionally. For the last 23 years I told myself each and every day I did not want to look back and rue and stew on what I did not do based on what is important to me...and I did it. But trust me...it was not easy. It's all I know though.
I love your videos man you've inspired me to start my own RUclips channel. Thank you so much plus it's nice that you're representing older men I'm in your age group. Rock on brother
Excellent!
I love this video so much. I'm 27 and this relates big time to my current place in life. What do you do when your in a long term relationship that your intuition has been telling you to leave for 3 years? When your in a city that feels like a cage? in a job you hate and have no career path? It's a lot that is for sure.
Ty Kenny how has your year been bro? Seeing these things and waking up to the truth is a blessing. Intuition is so god damn important and must be trusted - it is your soul speaking to you. Would go so far as to say the meaning of your life is found by following your intuition
@@BasedBrothers Wise words man. And for Kenny, I hope you found a way out. Feeling trapped=death.
It's easy to lament the decisions of the past. You don't know what you don't know until you know it. No point regretting, just learn and get on with the next project.
You've accomplished so much, never take that for granted.
You’re insight is so appreciated George. I follow it much better with the long bearded version as well. Thanks for always sharing your wealth of knowledge.
Great advise...from the boot camp of your life! Which is what makes this such powerful advise...thanks man!
Thanks for the precious words, sir! I'm 19 and by now I'm noticing my life is starting to get pissed. I don't like who I'm and what I do. I'll carry your advices in my heart. Muito obrigado!
Thanks for your words
I’m 35 and this video resonates with me. I’m looking into which trade to pursue.
Thank yiu
I'll be 30 this December and trust me, you sound like an alternate self trying to point me in a direction thats really in my best interest. One love
I did not get a 4yr degree or use my gi bill but I do not regret it. I strongly dislike classes & office life. college degrees seem to be a mandate in modern society. 30/40 years ago, college was meant for smart people or science research. now, people go to university courses then never use them.
Honestly, I do kinda see where you are coming from. I think not everyone should go to college, but I do think college is useful as long as you're actually going to use it. College can be quite useful if you're actually going into a profession where it is required.
awesome video. Simply awesome 👏
Life is life do we some of us go with the flow or just find ourselves where we are your health is your wealth education is vital in life to stay healthy dont escape realthy to much
George, you should be on the govt payroll for providing an invaluable public service! They say the truth hurts, but the truth will also set you free...
My prediction is the most sought-after and most-in demand careers will be in the trades in the future.
I would have to respectfully disagree about the historical aspect of the statement. There has been a huge push for 4 year degrees since the 60's. Now, today the pendulum swings. Trades are gaining momentum due to many forces in place. However, fundamentally speaking, many college educated people who have four year degrees that are not in demand don't want to do other work. That will change for many when they get hungry enough. So, there are programs offering one and two year certificates, some of which are two-year degrees in the "trades". This is a wonderful opportunity for all who are "sitting duck" with their non-in demand degree to go get something that truly is in demand and ride the wave in the interim until things change for them and perhaps their four year degree will come of value.
I'm 42 and being feeling that I'm pissed my life away. After watching your video l have realized it was never too late it was my choices and decisions.
People that have survived or found success, the best of them, never had a college degree. I think personally think of two bicycle mechanics from North Carolina. ✈📚 Thank you for the advice George Bruno.
Thank You soo very much. You have no idea how many lives you will change. Thank You
Thanx excellent video I needed to hear everything you said stuck in a love less marriage and a dead end job at 44. Wtf happen
Be the exception. Be exceptional.
Thank you George
Wise advice thank you.
Thank you so much for this talk! It does inspire me to turn things around!
Classic. Thanks
Start by taking a look at yourself. Accept and own your flaws, and work religiously to iron them out. Physically, mentally, spiritually, and whatever other arena. The hunger and drive to become better is what will carry you out of mediocrity.
The great thing about Harry Chapin when it comes to inspiration is that he died at the ripe old age of 38. So you can say....maybe I haven't achieved that much in life...but at least I'm still around, unlike poor Harry RIP.
Puts things into perspective.