I tried a few of these techniques too. Now Ryan Reynolds gin company is on fire and Ricky Gervais is using my naked body as a lamp shade. Baby steps guys. And positive affirmations.
My English teacher was a linguist in the military and he did this to us first day of class. He invoked in pretty much the whole class a specific thought then taught us how to use alot of these tactics in debates to win arguments. Good stuff
A good tip I’ve learned is that if you are too self deprecating people look at you like you have image problems, but if you only get a laugh at someone else’s expense you look like a jerk. Keep an even value for both of these jokes and you will be seen as funny.
The video brings it well, make fun of things about yourself or others that you're not super insecure about. And when making fun of others, make sure you pick someone of equal (or higher) social status than you, and not beating down.
I agree. As I am shorter than the average man (but still taller than Michael J Fox!), I often use this a humour. However, I have been told that it may come across as insecurity. So, I try for balance.
Avoid jokes at anyone’s expense. Just because it is funny coming from an actor in a film or a comedian does not mean it is funny coming from people you encounter in life.
@@SM-bm6jo That's usually what I do. My jokes are either self-deprecating or talking about something in a humorous way. I don't target other people on a personal level, because I want them to laugh and feel better, not feel bad while thinking they have to laugh to keep up a certain appearance.
That only applies if your type of fun is deemed acceptable by the NPCs. It’s an uphill battle because npcs are rotten stuck up white knighting easily offended pricks and they are the majority. There’s a reason why most of the coolest or most genius people have struggled to be accepted by the zombies.
Wrong, some people think they are funny and having fun themselves while they are either being rude or not funny even though they have fun making a joke
@@turonturon8301 I think the point they’re making is that your sense of humour should be true to yourself, and not using another person’s brand of comedy or being someone you’re not, whilst also appealing to the people you’re with
As someone who has been doing this for the past year, it has done miracles. While I haven't become a world-famous actor like Ryan, I have become more interesting to people in my social circles. There were some other changes as well I had to do to achieve that, but I have noticed that people invite me to hang out much more often.
@@vikrantdeshmukh1944 I stopped being to self-centered and started carring about other peoples opinions. Started working out, which resulted in both loss of weight and higher self-esteem. Tried being more outgoing and trying new things. The main thing was that I tried to be as positive as possible. After Covid, I realised things can (almost) always be worse, so I grew to appreciate what I have. Oh, and I stopped trying to pretend that I was edgy. Now I cringe when I remember those days 😅
@User 1234 As an introvert, it can be challenging to feel confident and interesting in social situations. However, there are several ways you can work on improving your social skills and be more engaging in group settings: Look for topics or activities that you and your group members are interested in. This could be anything from sports to movies, or even food. If you share common interests, it's easier to engage in conversations and activities. For my group, we discovered that only half of us enjoy going to the club, but everyone enjoys a good game of Monopoly. So now, games like Monopoly and Uno are quite common during our group meetings. Even if your interests don't align with your group members, it's still worth sharing your passions. Talk about what you love and why you find it interesting. You might be surprised by how receptive others are to your enthusiasm. Again, the Monopoly example. Turns out, all of us were interested in it, but nobody decided to ask because they were afraid of rejection. Luckily, we had one common friend recommend It to us. If you're not sure what to say, ask questions. People love talking about themselves, and it's an excellent way to get to know others. Ask about their hobbies, interests, and experiences. This is also a great way to start a conversation. I always ask my friends how they are doing. The key is to be genuenly interested. People can sense if you don't really care. Pay attention to what others are saying, and show an interest in their stories. Ask follow-up questions and provide feedback. Active listening is an essential skill for building relationships. If your conversation becomes only questions and answers, then it feels like an interview. Maybe you have a story that relates to your conversation. If your friend did something that made him feel proud congratulate him. If you are talking about your dream vacation, be open and involved. Show that you care. Don't try to be someone you're not. Embrace your personality and quirks, and others will appreciate your authenticity. This is THE most important thing. If you need to pretend that you are someone you actually aren't, you won't have any fun. Surrounf yourself by people that know you, and that appreciate you for who you truly are. Remember, being interesting isn't about being the life of the party. It's about being yourself, engaging in conversations and activities that you enjoy, and building genuine connections with others. Changes don't happen overnight. They take time. For me, it took years before I noticed real changes. What's important is to remain steadfast on your path, and to know what your desired result looks like.
I think it's key to not focus on awkwardness at all. Sometimes a joke doesn't land, but this doesn't resonate with all the times when it does. Don't take life and yourself too serious! Love the content from this channel BTW! 🙏
@@littlevoice_11 Ahh, I wish..that’s a beautiful thought, truly. but we need to account for the fact that all laughs are not elicited by making others/to make others feel better. It doesn’t address the fact that some people are not well meaning. So perhaps it might be better to say something along the lines of.. imagine how nice the world would be if everyone’s daily goal was to ease someone else’s suffering.. just as nice, just as thoughtful, but perhaps less loopholes when it comes to trying to create utopia 🙂
Was just in a conversation with my crush she asked me a question and I took about two minutes to fully analyze the complete funny answer that would surely make her laugh, unfortunately I didn't get a chance to tell her because she walked away later saying how "She got uncomfortable being stared at dead in the eyes for 2 minutes while I said nothing and breathed deeply" hm weird
4:05 When people don't laugh at my jokes I do this smiling half shrug and say "well I thought it was funny" even if the joke was a complete miss, it removes all the awkwardness. Or it just makes them laugh anyway
But you cannot speak for how others feel about your bombs. It really depends on many things. Every situation is different. Some people are not funny yet they make jokes. It doesn’t improve things. It makes them worse. You don’t have to make jokes. There are many ways to be fun and interesting to people. More important is just don’t be a buzz kill sucking the life out of everything.
@@SM-bm6jo I never feel obligated to make jokes but I want to blow the conversation wide open for when I'm not funny. There aren't many ways to do that but I find it important. My jokes land 99% of the time though but those 1% are the most important and that's why I use that line. Saying nothing will leave the awkwardness which is unnecessary
On the point about trying jokes, even if they don't land, people will quickly forget the ones that don't land if you just move on. So if you say three jokes and people only laugh at one of them, they will still think you are a funnier person than the person who makes no joke at all.
More important is recognizing you are not a professional comedian who has tested, reworked and perfected material all year before that appearance on The Tonight Show. You don’t have to make any jokes to be interesting, kind, interested in people and life. I’d rather spend time with the latter than someone who is funny 1 out of 3 times.
I laughed at 4:35 while trying to think if "a puppet" is a legal classification of anything. For example, does one need a license to own and operate a puppet? 😂
What are some activities that can help to build confidence in life? 1. Do something you enjoy 2. Walk tall, smile, and look others in the eyes. 3. Each day, create one small task to stretch beyond your comfort zone. 4. Do something unexpected on purpose to let go of your inhibitions. 5. Seek out uncomfortable situations to help you grow. 6. Create a good self-image 7. Be positive 8. Speak slowly and distinctly. 9. Study your expertise daily 10. Achieve small, easy-to-attain goals to help you feel successful. 11. Change one small habit daily 12. At the end of the day, write down five things you are grateful for. 13. Declutter your living and work space. 14. Exercise regularly 15. Try a new path. 16. Be nice to others. For more reading: Stay positive and be happy
Usually when my joke bombs, I sincerely ask to let me try that again and tell it differently for sure it will bomb again. Then I say welp we'll find it eventually, usually this gets a laugh. However, if the conversation continues and goes another direction, I try to relink my first joke attempt to that new conversation. You already created a story of relevance within the interaction returning to the familiar. The worst way this can fail is they laugh at all your failed attempts but since you orchestrated it, it will come out as you are making fun of yourself. However, in most cases relinking the first joke to another conversation creates a fun story telling technique and makes everyone feel involved.
What are some gym hacks? Banana and Black coffee works amazing as pre-workout fuel Include compound exercises in your daily routine to increase your strength and endurance Deadlift is the king of exercises Follow a consistent workout routine, but change it in 3-4 months time Go to gym during off-peak hours Learn resistance training Find a workout buddy (works for some) Have a target set on your mind Keep gym clothes separate and don’t mix with casual wears Don’t buy sugary drinks as your go to drink during workouts Create your gym playlist and if needed, ask your friends to contribute to the playlist Take a shower after your workout Don’t eat junk food after the workout because you’ve burned few calories Don’t workout on the same muscle every single day, muscle needs recovery time Stay hydrated Hope this helps. :) ++
I've said things where people roll their eyes at me and other jokes where the couldn't control their laughter. You just say it and who cares if they like it or not
What are some wise things about life? 1 . Don't change yourself. The whole world may change but you don't change yourself. Remain just as you are. 2 . Forget about break ups, move on. Break up hurts a lot but to move on is wise. Why to mourn over breakups? Why to keep thinking about what you have lost? The one who didn't care for you is gone for good . That person will never return to you. Think of what you can gain . Move on ,don't remain stuck to your failure. 3 . Learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others. To gain experience in life, you have to face difficulties and especially failures. To make mistakes is common but to learn from your mistakes is what wise people do. Furthermore, many people learn from the mistakes of others and save themselves from committing those the same thing. 4 . Don't neglect the advice of elders. Though the advice of an elderly person may be old fashion but it is always useful. The advice that an old person will give you comes from the experience which the old person has gathered since years. 5 . Don't be arrogant. With time people change. Some adopt humility and others become arrogant. It is because some person has acquired too much wealth and education. They become rough in manner. They behave in an impolite way towards people who are below their level. 6 . Learn to accept failures in your life. You cannot gain success in everything. To fail is part of life and you have to accept this fact. Failures teach you the lessons that will make you become wise in life.
Key Moments 1:23 Try a 1 second pause hence they complete the joke in their mind 2:40 Ask yourself what is the most absurd thing you can say [ surprise your listener] 3:30 go-to-jokes = re=use jokes
The key is they always make sure people understand it is an joke, and not meant to be taken too seriously... Something i do often if anything smells bad nearby, i often lift up my arm and exaggerate that my armpits smell horrible (when it obviously doesn't) and tell them " i swear i showered before i went out the door". Or you apologize for the sandwich you had... you didn't think it through how much gas it would produce. So it was either exploding like an atom bomb in front of said people that would make it look like a gruesome murder scene, or let it out slowly & silently. This doesn't mean you actually did fart or smell bad... it just shows you have humor and confidence enough to call it out in an funny way without picking on someone else. Even as adults farts, piss and poop remains funny. It's all about how you go about it.
What advice would you give yourself 10 years ago? 1. The idea is to die young as late as possible. 2. Nothing makes a man so adventurous as an empty pocket. 3. Losing an illusion makes you wiser than finding a truth. 4. Pain is weakness leaving the body. 5. Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. 6. Every experience, no battle how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. 7. Stop trying to force it. When it’s the time for it to happen, it will. 8. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom. 9. As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. 10. Jump, and you will find out how to unfold your wings as you fall. Give me an upvote if you feel the same.
Reading through the comments, I see quite a few where people are sharing the things they do, many of which go against the advice in the video. I have a few thoughts...just my opinion... Not everyone can pull off the same joke or action. What works for one may not work for another, for various reasons. The audience matters as well. A final thought on this: "Stealing" someone else's material (whether the joke itself, the pattern, a facial expression, w/e) can be seen as extremely bad form. People tend to be polite (or at least they should). Anyone who has difficulty discerning between genuine laughter & other types (polite, awkward, forced, etc) may want to look into ways to enhance their skill or to compensate. Anyone who ranks above their audience (a boss, elder, more popular person, etc) rarely should assume that they can "always tell" when someone's being fake. Another common situation is trying to spare someone's feelings, pretending they're funny or have "made a good save" after a bombed joke. ...or they just may desperately want it to be over. Acting sheepish & apologetic, getting the sympathy laugh or a kind smile is rarely the best goal to pursue. Perhaps let it go, switch the focus, allow/encourage someone else into the spotlight to move things along? I'm sure this channel (& others) have better ideas than mine. Not everyone likes extreme humor. Not everyone likes all types of humor. Not everyone likes your type of humor. Know what kind of humor they like? THEIR type of humor. The kinds that make them laugh (when others besides you deliver them). Uncomfortable laughter can easily get TOO uncomfortable. Might want to read the room when dragging out the oooo stinky & naughty naughty jokes, slapstick, or the snooty pretentious stuff...or anything controversial &/or wherein you're being a jackass to someone else. Watch for body language, stolen glances, wry smiles, side conversations....& know who you can trust to truthfully, but kindly, lyk what's not working as well as you might have hoped. If there isn't someone, perhaps spend some social time looking for people who'll not just support, but appreciate you ☮
Hello Ivan, I have been a follower and a binge-watcher of your channel for quite some time. I have used your videos many times in the past in our workshops and classrooms as well. I have written you a mail. Look forward to hearing back from you. I will keep coming back to these insightful videos in the meanwhile.
I think most of your analysis only relies on the star performers whom the people have already come to listen. But the real world scenarios are different, nobody is waiting and patient enough to listen you. So it makes this necessary to be spot on in the first go, i.e., when nobody's actually waiting or even expecting you to speak up.
Just read a Carl Jung book. It's scary how easily after reading one of his books you can manipulate anyone you meet. I don't like it myself, I found it funny for about a week, and after that it really bothered me how simply I could mould anyone I met into thinking whatever I wanted them to. I've gone back to the point of being a wallflower, because it almost seems like a superpower to know how to puppeteer human beings. I don't like it, I don't use it. A lot of purple on this list are masters at it though, Ryan Reynolds being a prime example. A dude that's managed to be a girls wet dream, yet men like him too. Ricky Gervais gets brought up a lot, try and listen to his early podcasts, pre-office, pre mega-millions, when he was a nobody working on the 11'o clock show doing very small cameos. He sussed it out VERY early. If you're reading this, I could make you fall in love with me via 20 direct messages, and that's not right is it. It's misappropriation. Don't use psychology in your life, just be yourself.
Honestly, when your goto jokes are puns as corny as farmers markets in Iowa, you get used to people not laughing pretty quick. But it's a great skill to work on for state breaks.
I love to make puns which usually get a laugh but then I'll start laughing and break down the pun which always gets a laugh and then I'm told to "get out" lol
I'm not quick witted enough to use any of these in the moment . - Instead now I have more fuel to hit me 1 hour later, when I'm already walking home, to feel bad.
These jokes are not “easy” they are personality traits. To be sarcastic takes a very specific level of both practical intelligence and social intelligence which you can’t just take a course to learn. Sarcasm (dry humor) has nothing to do with charisma so if you think that course will get you the ability to do so you are a fool.
being self deprecating, and laughing about it really signals to others it is ok to laugh and not get offended when you make a joke at someone else's expense.
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
Anecdotally. very funny people often seem to have developed their skills during a childhood where they found that humor was the best way to defend themselves.
Quite the opposite, actually. People are funny because they know what most people respond to, and then they practice. Every day. Everyone can be funnier. It's one of the great equalizers.
Wow I didn’t realize how many examples are UK. They’re all characters that are popular in the US, but it makes me wonder why there is so much charismatic attraction to these people. Is the accent helping? Is the different culture helping them somehow?
UK talk shows are longer format than the 4-6 minute interviews US late shows. And they are more conversational and improv-based than the scripted spiels the actors say in the US shows. The UK shows allow more of someone's personality, and therefore charisma, to come through. They also do more group interviews, like Graham Norton, so we see more of actors riffing off each other than we'd ever see in the US.
Great video! I wonder how many of the examples here are biased toward to fact that they took place on a tv show where the expectation to laugh is much higher. Regardless, I'll be trying more of this!
I didn't enjoy acting class because they wanted us to do improv one day. The scene brought to mind Lucy on the I Love Lucy Show, and I would have looked like a bully had I used what she brought to mind in that situation, so I said nothing instead. I wasn't funny, but I wasn't picking on anybody. Another day we had to take turns playing George and Martha in a scene from "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?" I practiced so much that I found her sarcasm creeping into my thoughts and language at other times. I quit.
What is your smartest life hack for time management? Time management and efficiency: Remember simplicity beats complexity Wake up early as less people are around Turn off your phone Eliminate digital distractions Put up a `do not disturb` sign on the office door! Parkinson’s law = assign yourself less time to do tasks Gradualism. - build up to more work Exercise and healthy living indirectly helps time management Don’t respond to emails (But if you don't respond to emails you might loose clients... of course not the important emails. common sense applies.)
Love your channel. I was going to check out Charisma University but this whole thing of just having testimonials to show how good it is, is just a red flag to me. I want to be able to know very specifically what it is I am buying. Are there any links for something like that?
This is interesting however, although some jokes can be easy to learn, being funny isn't really something that you can just show to people and then expect them to be able to replicate it. Comedy is so much more than simple jokes. There are things like timing, setup, gauging your audience, etc. When you're actually trying to be a comedian after receiving some instruction like this video can provide, most of the time everyone else is laughing, you hope, while you're working. That work can be quite taxing and may require serious concentration and technical expertise. That really isn't fun for the performer. If you are naturally funny it's a gift. One that does require a certain amount of structure but in general, you're having a good time while you are just being you trying to make people laugh, which is a very good goal is have. Good luck to all who want to give it a try. You have my admiration and well wishes.
Would like a video on how to handle people who constantly interrupt or interrupt in an attempt to finish my sentence for me, especially if I pause for a second to find the right word. It drives me nuts and usually ruins the "one second pause before the punchline" because it screws up the timing, which is everything with humour. The worst is when I pause before the punchline and someone tries to be funny with the wrong (IMO less funny) punchline and the whole set-up gets deflated. In other words how do I tell someone in front of other people to "LET ME FINISH" without shouting let me finish when they interrupt or talk over me?
you can use your body language to specify that you are not finished, like 1. holding a an index finger and waiting for everyone to focus on it and then bringing it down when you are finished. 2. or double-down on the joke by repeating the line said by the person in a funny way which makes sure that you are not joking on their expense but also lets them know not to interrupt them in future.
You probably sound like you are trailing off. Try saying you last few words louder right before the pause. People will probably realize your thought is not over yet. Cheers!
Theres actually been quite a bit of research on this. A high percentage of this either comes naturally or it doesn’t. You can definitely improve your game by working on it but if you didn’t get the funny gene, you’ll never be truly funny like these people. It’s similar to being happy, if you got the happy gene, you’re lucky, but if you did not, you’ll need to work at being happy. It either comes naturally or it doesn’t. And what qualifies me as an expert on this? Well, I watched a RUclips video on it.
I don't know what it means, but more than once, I've been pouring my heart out to a friend about something that's troubling me, and suddenly they burst out laughing. I have no idea what it means. I'd like to think I'm some sort of comedy genius, but it's not on purpose, and it's not what I want to happen.
First of all: amazing as always. I've got two characters breakdown propositions for You guys: 1. Harry Bosch (Bosch tv series) 2. Cory Ellison (The Morning Show).
Tried few of these techniques as mentioned in earlier videos and it worked. Having a fun attitude is the key.
I tried a few of these techniques too. Now Ryan Reynolds gin company is on fire and Ricky Gervais is using my naked body as a lamp shade.
Baby steps guys. And positive affirmations.
My English teacher was a linguist in the military and he did this to us first day of class. He invoked in pretty much the whole class a specific thought then taught us how to use alot of these tactics in debates to win arguments. Good stuff
A good tip I’ve learned is that if you are too self deprecating people look at you like you have image problems, but if you only get a laugh at someone else’s expense you look like a jerk. Keep an even value for both of these jokes and you will be seen as funny.
The video brings it well, make fun of things about yourself or others that you're not super insecure about. And when making fun of others, make sure you pick someone of equal (or higher) social status than you, and not beating down.
I agree. As I am shorter than the average man (but still taller than Michael J Fox!), I often use this a humour. However, I have been told that it may come across as insecurity. So, I try for balance.
Avoid jokes at anyone’s expense. Just because it is funny coming from an actor in a film or a comedian does not mean it is funny coming from people you encounter in life.
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That's usually what I do. My jokes are either self-deprecating or talking about something in a humorous way. I don't target other people on a personal level, because I want them to laugh and feel better, not feel bad while thinking they have to laugh to keep up a certain appearance.
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Remember the most important thing about being funny is having fun yourself.
That only applies if your type of fun is deemed acceptable by the NPCs. It’s an uphill battle because npcs are rotten stuck up white knighting easily offended pricks and they are the majority. There’s a reason why most of the coolest or most genius people have struggled to be accepted by the zombies.
Wrong, some people think they are funny and having fun themselves while they are either being rude or not funny even though they have fun making a joke
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@@turonturon8301 what’s the most important thing to you then
@@turonturon8301 I think the point they’re making is that your sense of humour should be true to yourself, and not using another person’s brand of comedy or being someone you’re not, whilst also appealing to the people you’re with
As someone who has been doing this for the past year, it has done miracles. While I haven't become a world-famous actor like Ryan, I have become more interesting to people in my social circles. There were some other changes as well I had to do to achieve that, but I have noticed that people invite me to hang out much more often.
Be can u explain me the other changes.?
Ur social circles being your mom and dog 🤣🤣🤣
@@vikrantdeshmukh1944 I stopped being to self-centered and started carring about other peoples opinions. Started working out, which resulted in both loss of weight and higher self-esteem. Tried being more outgoing and trying new things.
The main thing was that I tried to be as positive as possible. After Covid, I realised things can (almost) always be worse, so I grew to appreciate what I have. Oh, and I stopped trying to pretend that I was edgy. Now I cringe when I remember those days 😅
@User 1234 As an introvert, it can be challenging to feel confident and interesting in social situations. However, there are several ways you can work on improving your social skills and be more engaging in group settings:
Look for topics or activities that you and your group members are interested in. This could be anything from sports to movies, or even food. If you share common interests, it's easier to engage in conversations and activities. For my group, we discovered that only half of us enjoy going to the club, but everyone enjoys a good game of Monopoly. So now, games like Monopoly and Uno are quite common during our group meetings.
Even if your interests don't align with your group members, it's still worth sharing your passions. Talk about what you love and why you find it interesting. You might be surprised by how receptive others are to your enthusiasm. Again, the Monopoly example. Turns out, all of us were interested in it, but nobody decided to ask because they were afraid of rejection. Luckily, we had one common friend recommend It to us.
If you're not sure what to say, ask questions. People love talking about themselves, and it's an excellent way to get to know others. Ask about their hobbies, interests, and experiences. This is also a great way to start a conversation. I always ask my friends how they are doing. The key is to be genuenly interested. People can sense if you don't really care.
Pay attention to what others are saying, and show an interest in their stories. Ask follow-up questions and provide feedback. Active listening is an essential skill for building relationships. If your conversation becomes only questions and answers, then it feels like an interview. Maybe you have a story that relates to your conversation. If your friend did something that made him feel proud congratulate him. If you are talking about your dream vacation, be open and involved. Show that you care.
Don't try to be someone you're not. Embrace your personality and quirks, and others will appreciate your authenticity. This is THE most important thing. If you need to pretend that you are someone you actually aren't, you won't have any fun. Surrounf yourself by people that know you, and that appreciate you for who you truly are.
Remember, being interesting isn't about being the life of the party. It's about being yourself, engaging in conversations and activities that you enjoy, and building genuine connections with others. Changes don't happen overnight. They take time. For me, it took years before I noticed real changes. What's important is to remain steadfast on your path, and to know what your desired result looks like.
I think it's key to not focus on awkwardness at all. Sometimes a joke doesn't land, but this doesn't resonate with all the times when it does. Don't take life and yourself too serious!
Love the content from this channel BTW! 🙏
I’m always impressed with the value this channel consistently brings. Always learning from you guys!
Could you imagine how nice the world would be if everyone's daily goal was laughter?
Ahh the idea that birthed the entire genre of prank channels. We all know how that went 😅
Or just being nice to one another 😊
@@littlevoice_11 Ahh, I wish..that’s a beautiful thought, truly. but we need to account for the fact that all laughs are not elicited by making others/to make others feel better. It doesn’t address the fact that some people are not well meaning. So perhaps it might be better to say something along the lines of.. imagine how nice the world would be if everyone’s daily goal was to ease someone else’s suffering.. just as nice, just as thoughtful, but perhaps less loopholes when it comes to trying to create utopia 🙂
Laughter does the heart good like medicine.
Laugh lines should be a badge of honor.
No botox for me, I've had a good time and idc who knows it😆
@@liyans1 however you sound like someone who needs to laugh
Was just in a conversation with my crush she asked me a question and I took about two minutes to fully analyze the complete funny answer that would surely make her laugh, unfortunately I didn't get a chance to tell her because she walked away later saying how "She got uncomfortable being stared at dead in the eyes for 2 minutes while I said nothing and breathed deeply" hm weird
It happens man. Any idea what made you freeze up?
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That was a nice set up for a joke, good job on actually using the video in your comment lol
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@limitlessunknown8676 bro I'm still thinking of the best reply for you
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When people don't laugh at my jokes I do this smiling half shrug and say "well I thought it was funny"
even if the joke was a complete miss, it removes all the awkwardness. Or it just makes them laugh anyway
"Wow! What a wonderful audience!" or "Thank you, thank you! I'll be here all night!" Just own it and act as if you totally killed it haha
But you cannot speak for how others feel about your bombs. It really depends on many things. Every situation is different. Some people are not funny yet they make jokes. It doesn’t improve things. It makes them worse. You don’t have to make jokes. There are many ways to be fun and interesting to people. More important is just don’t be a buzz kill sucking the life out of everything.
@@SM-bm6jo I never feel obligated to make jokes but I want to blow the conversation wide open for when I'm not funny. There aren't many ways to do that but I find it important. My jokes land 99% of the time though but those 1% are the most important and that's why I use that line. Saying nothing will leave the awkwardness which is unnecessary
Good timing💀 was talking to someone and that convo was dying.
Edit: I ACTUALLY MADE THEM LAUGHED, TY
profundly true that we hold often the best part of us back because we are afraid of unsuccess and critique
On the point about trying jokes, even if they don't land, people will quickly forget the ones that don't land if you just move on. So if you say three jokes and people only laugh at one of them, they will still think you are a funnier person than the person who makes no joke at all.
More important is recognizing you are not a professional comedian who has tested, reworked and perfected material all year before that appearance on The Tonight Show. You don’t have to make any jokes to be interesting, kind, interested in people and life. I’d rather spend time with the latter than someone who is funny 1 out of 3 times.
I laughed at 4:35 while trying to think if "a puppet" is a legal classification of anything. For example, does one need a license to own and operate a puppet? 😂
What are some activities that can help to build confidence in life?
1. Do something you enjoy
2. Walk tall, smile, and look others in the eyes.
3. Each day, create one small task to stretch beyond your comfort zone.
4. Do something unexpected on purpose to let go of your inhibitions.
5. Seek out uncomfortable situations to help you grow.
6. Create a good self-image
7. Be positive
8. Speak slowly and distinctly.
9. Study your expertise daily
10. Achieve small, easy-to-attain goals to help you feel successful.
11. Change one small habit daily
12. At the end of the day, write down five things you are grateful for.
13. Declutter your living and work space.
14. Exercise regularly
15. Try a new path.
16. Be nice to others.
For more reading: Stay positive and be happy
Usually when my joke bombs, I sincerely ask to let me try that again and tell it differently for sure it will bomb again. Then I say welp we'll find it eventually, usually this gets a laugh. However, if the conversation continues and goes another direction, I try to relink my first joke attempt to that new conversation. You already created a story of relevance within the interaction returning to the familiar. The worst way this can fail is they laugh at all your failed attempts but since you orchestrated it, it will come out as you are making fun of yourself. However, in most cases relinking the first joke to another conversation creates a fun story telling technique and makes everyone feel involved.
4:35 you los me there, that one was golden
What are some gym hacks?
Banana and Black coffee works amazing as pre-workout fuel
Include compound exercises in your daily routine to increase your strength and endurance
Deadlift is the king of exercises
Follow a consistent workout routine, but change it in 3-4 months time
Go to gym during off-peak hours
Learn resistance training
Find a workout buddy (works for some)
Have a target set on your mind
Keep gym clothes separate and don’t mix with casual wears
Don’t buy sugary drinks as your go to drink during workouts
Create your gym playlist and if needed, ask your friends to contribute to the playlist
Take a shower after your workout
Don’t eat junk food after the workout because you’ve burned few calories
Don’t workout on the same muscle every single day, muscle needs recovery time
Stay hydrated
Hope this helps. :)
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I feel like a robot trying to learn how to be a human 💀
I've taken notes to keep handy during my next social interaction!
I've said things where people roll their eyes at me and other jokes where the couldn't control their laughter. You just say it and who cares if they like it or not
1:02 Ricky Gervais nailed that joke so perfectly. LOL
What are some wise things about life?
1 . Don't change yourself.
The whole world may change but you don't change yourself. Remain just as you are.
2 . Forget about break ups, move on.
Break up hurts a lot but to move on is wise. Why to mourn over breakups? Why to keep thinking about what you have lost? The one who didn't care for you is gone for good . That person will never return to you. Think of what you can gain . Move on ,don't remain stuck to your failure.
3 . Learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others.
To gain experience in life, you have to face difficulties and especially failures. To make mistakes is common but to learn from your mistakes is what wise people do. Furthermore, many people learn from the mistakes of others and save themselves from committing those the same thing.
4 . Don't neglect the advice of elders.
Though the advice of an elderly person may be old fashion but it is always useful. The advice that an old person will give you comes from the experience which the old person has gathered since years.
5 . Don't be arrogant.
With time people change. Some adopt humility and others become arrogant. It is because some person has acquired too much wealth and education. They become rough in manner. They behave in an impolite way towards people who are below their level.
6 . Learn to accept failures in your life.
You cannot gain success in everything. To fail is part of life and you have to accept this fact. Failures teach you the lessons that will make you become wise in life.
"Remain just as you are."
You mean, like stagnate? 😬
@@machupikachu1085 Ignore your fears.
Key Moments
1:23 Try a 1 second pause hence they complete the joke in their mind
2:40 Ask yourself what is the most absurd thing you can say [ surprise your listener]
3:30 go-to-jokes = re=use jokes
You guys need to release another video with this theme featuring Conan. He's the master.
The key is they always make sure people understand it is an joke, and not meant to be taken too seriously...
Something i do often if anything smells bad nearby, i often lift up my arm and exaggerate that my armpits smell horrible (when it obviously doesn't) and tell them " i swear i showered before i went out the door".
Or you apologize for the sandwich you had... you didn't think it through how much gas it would produce. So it was either exploding like an atom bomb in front of said people that would make it look like a gruesome murder scene, or let it out slowly & silently.
This doesn't mean you actually did fart or smell bad... it just shows you have humor and confidence enough to call it out in an funny way without picking on someone else.
Even as adults farts, piss and poop remains funny. It's all about how you go about it.
I love RUclips Channels like this one that help us socially. Lots of thanks.
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1:08 the joke is the look on R.G’s face - like “Dude, it couldn’t possibly be any more obvious”
I already have no filiter I got to figure out how to put the filter back in
The great thing is these joke examples you used are actually funny lol
I liked how you used footage from Enter the Warriors Gate. I worked on that movie. Great stuff
#1 Anthony Jeselnik's stand up is the definition of this
Keep up the good work
Thank you bro
Such a great way to evade uncomfortable questions 😎
What advice would you give yourself 10 years ago?
1. The idea is to die young as late as possible.
2. Nothing makes a man so adventurous as an empty pocket.
3. Losing an illusion makes you wiser than finding a truth.
4. Pain is weakness leaving the body.
5. Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.
6. Every experience, no battle how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind.
7. Stop trying to force it. When it’s the time for it to happen, it will.
8. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.
9. As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.
10. Jump, and you will find out how to unfold your wings as you fall.
Give me an upvote if you feel the same.
Reading through the comments, I see quite a few where people are sharing the things they do, many of which go against the advice in the video. I have a few thoughts...just my opinion...
Not everyone can pull off the same joke or action. What works for one may not work for another, for various reasons. The audience matters as well. A final thought on this: "Stealing" someone else's material (whether the joke itself, the pattern, a facial expression, w/e) can be seen as extremely bad form.
People tend to be polite (or at least they should). Anyone who has difficulty discerning between genuine laughter & other types (polite, awkward, forced, etc) may want to look into ways to enhance their skill or to compensate.
Anyone who ranks above their audience (a boss, elder, more popular person, etc) rarely should assume that they can "always tell" when someone's being fake.
Another common situation is trying to spare someone's feelings, pretending they're funny or have "made a good save" after a bombed joke. ...or they just may desperately want it to be over. Acting sheepish & apologetic, getting the sympathy laugh or a kind smile is rarely the best goal to pursue. Perhaps let it go, switch the focus, allow/encourage someone else into the spotlight to move things along? I'm sure this channel (& others) have better ideas than mine.
Not everyone likes extreme humor. Not everyone likes all types of humor. Not everyone likes your type of humor. Know what kind of humor they like? THEIR type of humor. The kinds that make them laugh (when others besides you deliver them).
Uncomfortable laughter can easily get TOO uncomfortable. Might want to read the room when dragging out the oooo stinky & naughty naughty jokes, slapstick, or the snooty pretentious stuff...or anything controversial &/or wherein you're being a jackass to someone else.
Watch for body language, stolen glances, wry smiles, side conversations....& know who you can trust to truthfully, but kindly, lyk what's not working as well as you might have hoped.
If there isn't someone, perhaps spend some social time looking for people who'll not just support, but appreciate you ☮
That roast on Leo Dicaprio was 10/10 Im crying
Great video ❤
Ricky Gervais is a world class comedian.
If I was a quarter as funny as him I'd be absolutely hilarious.
Hello Ivan, I have been a follower and a binge-watcher of your channel for quite some time. I have used your videos many times in the past in our workshops and classrooms as well. I have written you a mail. Look forward to hearing back from you. I will keep coming back to these insightful videos in the meanwhile.
Nice one.
3:40 *That sitting position though...*
I see what you did there. 7:43 .. well played, sir.
7:43 nice edit
Ryan Reynolds and Rick Gervais should act together in a movie or two.
subconsciously i have this kind of Humour, saying something unexpected or coming up with a bizzare statement
Make your jokes a gift that makes life lighter.
I think most of your analysis only relies on the star performers whom the people have already come to listen. But the real world scenarios are different, nobody is waiting and patient enough to listen you. So it makes this necessary to be spot on in the first go, i.e., when nobody's actually waiting or even expecting you to speak up.
I LAUGHED AT THE TITLE AND THOUGHT SOMEONE RELLY NEEDS A VIDEO TO BE MORE FUNNEY
Just read a Carl Jung book.
It's scary how easily after reading one of his books you can manipulate anyone you meet. I don't like it myself, I found it funny for about a week, and after that it really bothered me how simply I could mould anyone I met into thinking whatever I wanted them to.
I've gone back to the point of being a wallflower, because it almost seems like a superpower to know how to puppeteer human beings. I don't like it, I don't use it. A lot of purple on this list are masters at it though, Ryan Reynolds being a prime example. A dude that's managed to be a girls wet dream, yet men like him too.
Ricky Gervais gets brought up a lot, try and listen to his early podcasts, pre-office, pre mega-millions, when he was a nobody working on the 11'o clock show doing very small cameos. He sussed it out VERY early.
If you're reading this, I could make you fall in love with me via 20 direct messages, and that's not right is it. It's misappropriation.
Don't use psychology in your life, just be yourself.
Which Carl Jung book was it?
@@chymicalbride8065 Fifty Shades Of Obey.
"...specificity. Specifically, ..." Killed my brain. I still can't see the difference.
Could you do a video (if you haven’t yet) about instead of how to act around friends but how to get new friends please?
5:00 What happened to cause that Slap?!
"Keep it down. You're getting out of hand." -- Best running joke in the office.
Honestly, when your goto jokes are puns as corny as farmers markets in Iowa, you get used to people not laughing pretty quick. But it's a great skill to work on for state breaks.
I love to make puns which usually get a laugh but then I'll start laughing and break down the pun which always gets a laugh and then I'm told to "get out" lol
I'm not quick witted enough to use any of these in the moment .
- Instead now I have more fuel to hit me 1 hour later, when I'm already walking home, to feel bad.
Well I guess I've messed up with the "don't joke on something that would make people feel bad/shameful"
These jokes are not “easy” they are personality traits. To be sarcastic takes a very specific level of both practical intelligence and social intelligence which you can’t just take a course to learn. Sarcasm (dry humor) has nothing to do with charisma so if you think that course will get you the ability to do so you are a fool.
That's the spirit!
That gun joke by Rickey got me
being self deprecating, and laughing about it really signals to others it is ok to laugh and not get offended when you make a joke at someone else's expense.
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
I feel like being funny is a talent you're born with. It's like singing oder being smart
Anecdotally. very funny people often seem to have developed their skills during a childhood where they found that humor was the best way to defend themselves.
Quite the opposite, actually. People are funny because they know what most people respond to, and then they practice. Every day. Everyone can be funnier. It's one of the great equalizers.
I like him when he makes the Deadpool character iconic because of him
Just curious, Charisma on Command are American yet they seem to have quite a few UK shows as examples. What channel do they watch them on?
Wow I didn’t realize how many examples are UK. They’re all characters that are popular in the US, but it makes me wonder why there is so much charismatic attraction to these people. Is the accent helping? Is the different culture helping them somehow?
@@green_eye_gossip its largely Graham Norton, he's a great host so good at making people comfortable and guests drink when they're on his show
UK talk shows are longer format than the 4-6 minute interviews US late shows. And they are more conversational and improv-based than the scripted spiels the actors say in the US shows. The UK shows allow more of someone's personality, and therefore charisma, to come through. They also do more group interviews, like Graham Norton, so we see more of actors riffing off each other than we'd ever see in the US.
Very cool information thanks for sharing keep up the great work ❤
comedy is a war of attrition. Not every joke is going to land, but you keep cracking jokes until their walls start cracking open
Great video! I wonder how many of the examples here are biased toward to fact that they took place on a tv show where the expectation to laugh is much higher. Regardless, I'll be trying more of this!
Really fair point about the social pressure involved 🤔
8:30 Is that Tom Holland? Spiderman took your course while he was named Harry?
One more thing share most of the jokes with your Mom.. Surely no one will throw a fork or slippers for joking about food..
Y'all should do a video about Martin Short, super funny very charismatic even when roasting people
I didn't enjoy acting class because they wanted us to do improv one day. The scene brought to mind Lucy on the I Love Lucy Show, and I would have looked like a bully had I used what she brought to mind in that situation, so I said nothing instead. I wasn't funny, but I wasn't picking on anybody. Another day we had to take turns playing George and Martha in a scene from "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?" I practiced so much that I found her sarcasm creeping into my thoughts and language at other times. I quit.
What is your smartest life hack for time management?
Time management and efficiency:
Remember simplicity beats complexity
Wake up early as less people are around
Turn off your phone
Eliminate digital distractions
Put up a `do not disturb` sign on the office door!
Parkinson’s law = assign yourself less time to do tasks
Gradualism. - build up to more work
Exercise and healthy living indirectly helps time management
Don’t respond to emails (But if you don't respond to emails you might loose clients... of course not the important emails. common sense applies.)
“Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.” -Rumi
okay.
Needed so much now
i love ricky
Love the content from this channel BTW! 🙏
Love your channel. I was going to check out Charisma University but this whole thing of just having testimonials to show how good it is, is just a red flag to me. I want to be able to know very specifically what it is I am buying. Are there any links for something like that?
They say every video that theres a 60 day refund so unless you think theyll just run away with your money, you can buy, investigate, and dip
Hi please can you make a video on tact and diplomacy, thank you😊
7:42 I see what you did here
This is interesting however, although some jokes can be easy to learn, being funny isn't really something that you can just show to people and then expect them to be able to replicate it.
Comedy is so much more than simple jokes.
There are things like timing, setup, gauging your audience, etc.
When you're actually trying to be a comedian after receiving some instruction like this video can provide, most of the time everyone else is laughing, you hope, while you're working. That work can be quite taxing and may require serious concentration and technical expertise. That really isn't fun for the performer.
If you are naturally funny it's a gift. One that does require a certain amount of structure but in general, you're having a good time while you are just being you trying to make people laugh, which is a very good goal is have.
Good luck to all who want to give it a try. You have my admiration and well wishes.
Would like a video on how to handle people who constantly interrupt or interrupt in an attempt to finish my sentence for me, especially if I pause for a second to find the right word. It drives me nuts and usually ruins the "one second pause before the punchline" because it screws up the timing, which is everything with humour. The worst is when I pause before the punchline and someone tries to be funny with the wrong (IMO less funny) punchline and the whole set-up gets deflated. In other words how do I tell someone in front of other people to "LET ME FINISH" without shouting let me finish when they interrupt or talk over me?
you can use your body language to specify that you are not finished, like
1. holding a an index finger and waiting for everyone to focus on it and then bringing it down when you are finished.
2. or double-down on the joke by repeating the line said by the person in a funny way which makes sure that you are not joking on their expense but also lets them know not to interrupt them in future.
there is a video of will smith on this channel which breaks down how he doesn't let others talk over him in a conversation or a joke, check that out
You probably sound like you are trailing off. Try saying you last few words louder right before the pause. People will probably realize your thought is not over yet.
Cheers!
It’s “hi hungry, I’m dad” it works every time
Great tips.
You should do a video analyzing Jack Reacher from the show on Prime, Reacher
Be a slayer but at the same time a gentle puppy fahter makes u unpredictable 😂😂
"what would you usually perform in
a game of rock paper scissors"
Great video
00:15, 1:40, 2:15, 2:35, 4:40
Theres actually been quite a bit of research on this. A high percentage of this either comes naturally or it doesn’t. You can definitely improve your game by working on it but if you didn’t get the funny gene, you’ll never be truly funny like these people. It’s similar to being happy, if you got the happy gene, you’re lucky, but if you did not, you’ll need to work at being happy. It either comes naturally or it doesn’t. And what qualifies me as an expert on this? Well, I watched a RUclips video on it.
Not even close to true. Everyone can be funnier. It's one of the great equalizers.
To be funny... Rick Gervais funny type... You need to be cold... That what I love the most
I don't know what it means, but more than once, I've been pouring my heart out to a friend about something that's troubling me, and suddenly they burst out laughing. I have no idea what it means. I'd like to think I'm some sort of comedy genius, but it's not on purpose, and it's not what I want to happen.
Bo Burnham compilation
1:48
6:02
I think a good topic would also be ,,How to make someone open up to you" or ,,How to get to know somebody who's blocking you".
Lmao
I like you alot man
They say not to use self deprecating humor, but without self deprecating humor I’m not funny!
Who says not to use self-deprecating humor? They’re wrong. If they said not to use it exclusively then yeah.
Can you do a breakdown of Chandler Bing's humour?
Love it!
First of all: amazing as always. I've got two characters breakdown propositions for You guys: 1. Harry Bosch (Bosch tv series) 2. Cory Ellison (The Morning Show).