@@basedbulgarian511we need both. Love and respect and when we get that from our husband truly we give it back. My husbands treatment towards me changed me completely into a kinder and more loving person in general. It took awhile to realize it was his love and respect for me that made me feel invaluable to him and made me want him to feel the same in return. I think people need both. Respect is earned of course but when it is it should be acknowledged regardless. That’s my opinion - best wishes to you and yours
@@israelizzyyarrashamiaak766 I think he's referring to marginal respect. Not that women don't need it as much as men, but that by typical relationship dynamic, respect is unconditionally given to women and conditionally given to men
@@purplerose155 no one said anything about desperate. Just being at right forward. Like hey I like think your really interesting. I think that’s a long way off from desperate.
I live in a very small town where everyone over the age of 20 is either engaged or married or leave to bigger towns/cities. I can't meet people my own age. At least it's easy for me to make random strangers laugh or strike the occasional conversation which is necessary but sadly, it all feels worthless at the end of the day. I can't leave so, sigh.... Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. Love your videos Brett.
I am 24 and i probobly have options around but the things that scare me are what if the girl i will hit on is underaged? There are alot of underaged girls that look older and i rather not be convicted of pedophilia or whatever cause these days every woman can turn any sneeze into an assault let alone underages girls 🥲
I love that you are talking about this! I seriously feel for the teenagers and young adults that don’t really socialize because how different things are with social media. I have a young teen boy and I wish I could give him what I had as a kid. He wants to have adventure and friends that like to get out and adventure, but it’s so hard for him. He isn’t into social media and all that he wants real life experiences and it’s very hard to find at his age. All his friends want to just be home and online and not enjoying life. I really hope he can find that group for him when he gets out of high school.
You can always rely on the good old "I have a single friend, maybe you'd like to meet them" thing that happens when you have friends who aren't single.
I was totally horrified at how forward I was putting my number in my this great guy’s Christmas card. He had no idea I was flirting. 22 year and three kids later…
Why would we go? Even for religious people it just makes more sense to practice at home how they want instead of doing it once a week every Sunday morning.
I was talking to a girl but she was playing hard to get and that was that for me. Turns out she liked me but was wondering how come I didn’t chase for her? To which I said “I don’t have time for that, because once you play hard to get you became hard to want”. Women, if she just told me she was interested then we could have taken it to the next step but she made me feel like she wasn’t taking me seriously so I didn’t.
Anything worth having is worth working for. A guy who is afraid to put in the work is attractive to neither sex. Women won't want you, and strong, hard-working,independent men won't respect you.
@@BuildingATitan Depends how much work we are talking about here. If she doesn't show any interest in you then why bother wasting time in her when you can work on other more interesting people.
@BuildingATitan It's not that we don't want to put in the work, it's that it gets drilled into our ducking skulls that if a woman says she isn't interested, you're a creep if you don't immediately leave. How are we supposed to know who wants "the chase" and who doesn't? I'll answer for you: we can't. Because no means no. Unless it means yes. Unless it means both. Unless it means neither. And woe betide those who get it wrong.
@@ItsNicoleAnderson Taking initiative, saying hi, striking up a conversation. I am confident enough to do that myself, but I am married now. Many good men need a woman to show mutual interest.
Be nice if it worked that way. Churches in my area have two types of single young women.....under 18 and over 30 divorced with kids who recently "rediscovered their faith" to try and find a step dad that will take them in.
@TechMan042 ......yea that's a whole other problem with meeting people at church. Whole lot of pedos trying to hook you up with their underage daughters
Being a step Dad is noble thing single mother's want romance as well...not just a father figure... so sad thar my bio brother listens to the internet hate on single mothers! I'm a younger widow & if I did have the chance to have a baby with my husband I'd be a single mother right now! Please don't overlook single mothers
It’s so sad how people can’t easily meet others. Typically, all a girl needs to do is make eye contact and smile. I feel so bad for men out there- there are some really good people out there. Be encouraged! There really is someone for everyone should they choose it.
See I used to be the “oh he’s cute. *avert your eyes!!!* ” type girl because I’d rather avoid said cute guy than possibly do something embarrassing. But now I do the “look up, eye contact, cute smile, return to what I was doing” trick. Did it at a party and the guy came over to me within like 2 minutes😂
@@loraelizabeth7580 yes! That’s exactly how it happened for me too, I used to think no one liked me and then I figured out I was just not making eye contact and smiling 😂
I’m doing all those things. I have yet to meet anyone. I have found some good dude friends over the years, which is great, but that is no replacement for a good and Godly women. - Church congregation is over 500. Been going for 2 years. No prospects. - Work out several times a week, and I mountain bike several times a week. Haven’t had success. - I do not work remotely, work is probably the worst environment to meet people. Way too many hurdles… I have tried, but I have not had success. - I also hang out at coffee shops after church… in my suit to see if that sparks anything. No success. Everyone I know who has found their spouse through sheer luck. If I get any replies I’ll explain that.
@trinwarn thanks for the honest advice. - I don’t drink and I would prefer a women who feels similar (occasional drinks is fine… getting drunk is not). - I go to every church event I can. Most events are “daddy daughter date night” type events for families. Most churches in my area are like this… no events specifically for young adults or young singles. - I get out every Friday and weekend for events or to go biking with friends. I’m frequently around people. Plenty of young married people… many of my friends are married. But there have been no prospects through my friend groups. - I’ve tried dating apps for almost 2 years now. No success. Lots of matches, but no dates. - I do not travel much. I would like to, but it’s difficult with my job. It’s also expensive, I can only travel domestically a few times a year. I could do abroad trips once a year, but that’s it. Anywho, again I really appreciate the advice 👍
@@madgameman1you, and a lot of people on this channel are in a pretty dicey situation, because your hard line non-negotiable is a Christian woman willing to have kids. In my experience, Christian women are the most promiscuous ones out there, because their parents suppressed them to limited activities, they were always monitored and hidden from the world, and once they turned 18 and left the house, they just go buck wild and "discover" themselves. Usually isn't a problem for most, but then the other hard drawn non-negotiable is a low body count. I really don't mean to come off as insulting when I say this, but Chrisrian girls with low body counts straight up don't exist. At least it seems that way. And the ones who do are usually in one of those Southern Baptist denominations where their parents hooked them up with an older gentleman at their church and she just marries him. Again, I'm really trying not to be disingenuous or pessimistic. I grew up in Texas, went to college in the Bible belt, used to go to church all the time, but because I've always been a social outcast i just took more notice of the clicks. The single girls just dated "Church Chad." Point is, I very much acknowledge your frustrations and want to say your feelings are valid. I won't be foolish and tell you to just settle down on a good, Atheist woman, because that goes against your core beliefs as a Christian. And my wife would just recommend going to the Philippines because she's Filipina and she's always plugging her people and advertising them as "the best wives." I typically listen to what the wife says, so if you're up for dating a non-American then you can try that. They're typically Catholic and Catholics still count as Christians last i checked. I'm not sure if you're a denomination snob where you're only looking for one type of denomination, but if you're not, you can always go to other Churches and look around? They still read from the Bible. May be slightly different iterations but they still say Christ is King, and i think that's the bigger picture there? Personally for me, i love music and making music so I'd go to music bars or any type of music scenes and share my music with other musicians. That's gotten me a date or two. It sounds like you're active, but surrounded by people not looking or not interested. The obvious answer is look somewhere else, but I'm guessing you're running out of that. And you already said you could barely afford to travel so Philippines is probably off the table. I have an idea! Every college has a church scene. There are ministries there because a lot of future pastors study theology and in doing so they get involved with campus churches. There is such a thing as a Christian woman in college, so you'll likely find women at said events. Why not look around local community colleges or different campuses? Or since you're so involved, why not try and host an event? Start a singles club? If you can't find your people, then make your people.... In a sense. Just spitballing ideas. Again, hope i didn't come off offensive. I hope you find something that works for you!
My question is where is everybody out age? Where the heck do we hangout? I'm twenty four (female) and I feel like I missed the conversation on what we all do for fun. I've been going to church, farmers market on Saturdays, and I try to attend community events. Nothing. It's odd to think it's this hard to find someone when we are so connected with our phones🤦
The biggest issue I seem to come across is that women my age are either already dating someone else, or are not currently interested in dating at all. One just flat out told me she wasn’t interested in dating because she valued her individuality. Is this experience with lack-of-dating just me, or a generational trend we happen to be going through right now?
I think people have forgotten how to be friends with someone. Women have always been scared that men just want sex and to leave and with hookup culture a big talked about things, it's definitely making so many women want to be abstinent or take control of their situation by accepting this reality because let's face it, a lot of us are sexual beings. However, men have lost the ability to get to know women. They can't progress past the second date anymore for whatever reason and this is something women talk to each other about and recognize. It's a turn off. Make friends with us, show us you can have a long term relationship and to do that, it means we are right there with you. ❤
That is how I met my boyfriend. We both love theatre and we met during a production we were in. We slowly started talking, then started dating a few weeks later. We have been together for 3 years now and have many plans for the future!
It’s a good idea to go to the same place and build rapport with people. You do got to introduce yourself to someone that you’re interested in naturally and as quick as you can though. You can also approach them immediately if you got the rizz but the point is to make it clear that you’re interested and confident. If you don’t do it you’ll be denied or friend zoned 9/10 times.
I think I really SHOULD start a school for classical dancing. And then, with the whole "how to behave" and "ladies choice" and gent?s choice" thing. I have the feeling it might be a very profitable business....
Volunteering is a great way to build organic community too. My mom always complained living in a different state (and in the burbs) from where she grew up that she didn’t know anyone. She never ran into people, etc. its because she never went anywhere or did anything? I literally cannot leave my house and go anywhere without running into at least one person I know. Usually, I run into several people I know and all from different circles! I’m very involved at our church, I volunteer at my kids schools, I’m a precinct committeeman in my legislative district, I throw block parties to get to know my neighbors, I volunteer for several organizations, I’m a vice coordinator for my kids American Heritage Girls troop, I’m a financial coach, my husband and I are marriage coaches, I specifically go to classes at the gym to work out with other people, etc I live in a pretty densely populated suburb and know a great portion of them in some form
@@burningcoal5705 You will never be satiated. Nothing will ever be good enough for you. If you actually think this way, you will always feel miserable. I definitely encourage you that if you want better in life, serve others. Not only will you feel a drastic change, but volunteer work looks fantastic on a resume and makes you more likely to move up in your job.
@@ItsNicoleAnderson I’m extremely extroverted. What’s funny is my hubs is sigma style introverted. He isn’t shy. He’s… reserved.. But he’s becoming more extroverted when it comes to ministries and such. It’s a blast to be a part of
@@burningcoal5705 Volunteering is a wonderful experience. Not only does it feel good, but it helps your resume. I constantly get job offers.. amazing job offers in my many volunteer roles.
Her looks aren't why she is married at 22. She has a personality. She is out going and active in a lot of things. She has value to a man. She has something to bring to the table. She has traditional and rational values. Things almost all women lack these days.
@@bar506 I rarely drink alcohol. Mostly during holiday dinners and the like. Once in a blue moon I'll have a glass of wine or a good beer. Those few occasions where I went to a bar it was mostly with a group of friends and tagged along to be social. The couple of time I went to a bar alone I found them lonely and depressing.
Only couple troubles I have with dating is A.) fugly B.) live in a mainly Cristian area and I’m Wiccan so yeah C.) effeminate and no one believes me when I say I’m straight Still very solid advice and less likely to get in MAJOR trouble later on
That's how I met my wife, struck up a conversation at a karaoke bar that I went to every Wednesday night, she was new to the city, and at the end of the first night I said to her I'm here every Wednesday night why don't you come back and we can hang out that was 16 years ago
Thanks for the advice. A girl at church admitted to having the hots for me but I didn't return her feelings. I still keep in touch with a girl I like from school, but she doesn't return my feelings. Dating sucks period.
Ive met about a hundred other local young Christian’s in my area just from one fateful Sunday where I stayed for doughnuts that they were handing out after church and I sat with some girls that looked my age that I’ve never seen before. 5 months later, I would consider them my friends and have made many more Christian friends in my city from all over the states and other countries. I play volleyball with a casual Catholic sports group. I get invited to parties and events that I have to be selective with so I don’t overwhelm myself with events lol. I went to a Catholic speed dating event because some lady handed me a brochure for it after church. I went on two dates after that event and both have asked me for second dates. If anyone in Denver wants connections, let me know :)
Sadly many folk play the blame game on the opposite sex, make excuses, and say it's too much work. The comments speak for themselves. Once i become more financially independent I'll be have to have more freetime and energy to go out more 😊
The one piece of advice I’ll say is this: Focus on the hobby itself first, making friends second, and the relationship part will follow. Joining a new community or finding a hobby for the sake of being in a relationship can be rocky If you don’t enjoy the hobby, it can be exhausting as you’re doing something you don’t enjoy. If you don’t enjoy it, but enjoy the people, then you have a good takeaway and walk away with a circle to surround yourself with. And if you do enjoy it, you like the people, and you meet someone naturally romantically and things don’t work out but did the steps prior, then that’s okay! You have a new hobby and friends, which helps contribute to someone feeling less lonely (like many do) TLDR; please prioritize the hobby and friends before looking for a romantic relationship. It’s better for you in the long run and you just don’t look and aren’t as desperate
The issue is today as a guy we this dilemma: 1. We wait play it slow and safe but then she thinks he isn’t into me or shows effort and she’s in a relationship when we do work up the courage to ask her out. 2. We learned from point 1 and ask her out right away and it comes across aggressive and creepy. We cannot win out here men.
@@d.52555 you’re the only one who actually knows who he is! I’ve had quite a few people try and make fun of my appearance because they think that’s me in the picture.😂
Sure if you're into 65-year-old women. But the girls age 16 to 24 are stuck with their noses buried in their phones brainwashing themselves 5 hours a day on TikTok and spending the other few hours taking endless selfies in the gym and demonizing any man who glances for 0.2 seconds in their general direction
I told my family this, although I'm not good at talking to people I am trying to be better lol, but I don't want to do that all online, I want to meet someone in person to places I go to and then talk to them like that. I feel like I'm just seeing everyone else my age talk to people online, but then not know them at all.
If they aren't straightforward with their feelings, then they aren't worth the time and effort. That's my view anyway. I don't like all the subtle garbage. To me, it's just like trying to avoid answering a straightforward question. Which just makes me believe they're not really interested in anything worthwhile.
People always tell me bars but I hate the feeling of alcohol so I never drink and anymore the taste and smell of alcohol make me extremely nauseous. Any girl who I would be interested in would not be at a bar. Basically everyone I know enjoys drinking but I find not having a clear head a miserable experience. People say it helps them relax but I have never once been relaxed while drinking.
Listen, as a man all I can say is my current girlfriend made it LOUD AND CLEAR to me that she was attracted to me and wanted to get to know me more. Like plain as day told me I’m hot and oh so interesting and all that stuff she said. It’s not hard folks. Get to know someone and be direct and respectful.
One of the best things about school is that it’s exactly this, I go to college each day, speak to the same beautiful woman and build up that relationship
Met my husband at church, we were part of the youth leadership, and my homecell became his. We were at band practice together. We were in the same group circle. I didn’t notice him. He apparently saw me , he was an usher at the door sundays too. I always say I to everyone. Never had a second thought 😂😂😂😂 well 18 years & 4 kiddo’s later 😊❤
I feel like we need more adult casual interest groups. Like in high school I went to 3 different clubs throughout the week and played jazz at the local colleges combo and did martial arts once a week, only the martial arts costing any money. Now as an adult I feel like there's so little I can do to find people with similar interests unless I want to shell out cash for some kind of class. Like I'm I get that bars and churches are good for normal people but us weirdos with hobbies just want to meet someone on the same wavelegnth and it probably won't be at either of those places
finally better advice!!! except for subtle cues and the gym. DON"T ASK OUT GIRLS AT THE GYM... unless you're jacked. LADIES, f your subtle clues. Please make them BLINDINGLY, STUPIDLY OBVIOUS!!!
Men, dont forget to take initiative. It's too easy to sit back in fear and hope everything will work out. Something that women want--especially in the Christian context--is a strong leader. Strong leaders dont let fear run their lives. I learned this the hard way and had a a girl I was pursuing tell me, "I love the qualities you have to offer, but I want a leader, and not the potential of a leader." That being said, it hit me like a truck. What was I really doing to exercise my leadership skills. Truth is that I was doing nothing. I was complacent hoping the skills would magically fall upon me. Nope, relationships take time to form, and it takes even more time to foster the skills to make a relationship last a lifetime. Dont lose hope. If you have the desire to marry, it will happen. Deeply examine your soul and foster the qualities that make a desirable husband. Men... if you want a wife, you better make yourself a husband.
this is exactly it, go to the same place over and over and find people who do the same thing and start talking to them and maybe wander into the territory of romance. and sometimes just being in a specific public space often you can develop confidence and feel more at ease in that environment to where you feel more ok with approaching new people who come there. the thing that actually sucks is seeing someone you feel attracted to and knowing deep down you will never see them again as you are just two ships passing in the night.
I already got rejected, humiliated, accused of rape, etc and im only in my early 20s. I was really good at talking to women and getting them before the ME Too movement but now I dont even risk it. A girl at work same age as me really liked me but this feeling of fear always overcame me because I was accused once and lost all my firends and later they found out she was lying but still im never having a steady girlfirend again. I just dont trust women anymore. "I dont hate women, I just hate how naturallly they can manipulate a man"
Boomers learned this in middle school and high school especially if they were in the big cities. Where I grew up (Chicago South side) many high schools would host dances mixers for 8th through 12 Graders on Friday nights from 7 to 11 PM so there was a safe place to meet and talk/dance. We would also meet at the beach or sports courts during the summer. Sometimes even sit around in loose groups on somebodies front porch after school. Mostly always a small group 5-10 kids. For more formal small groups 4 to 6 mixed at ice cream shop or a sunday movie. I believe Millenniums used the Malls for the same purpose if there was one in walking biking range.
To all my fellow sister of Christ, firstly pursue a relationship with the Lord and it all shall be added to you. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be pursued, but it gets messy when things get all twisted. I’ve just discovered so much about myself in walking with Christ and prioritizing that. And then all of a sudden, BAM! God drops someone in your life unexpectedly! You can find and love you’re seeking in Christ! (That way the Lord can prepare you for your future Husband, as he simultaneously prepares your future Husband for you)
Oh my gosh. My youth had some pastors from Dallas literally say the same thing today. It's so true. I think it really comes from how disconnected we actually are due to tech. It's not our fault. We're an accidental social experiment on how tech impacts human connections with each other. Gen Alpha and the Generation after that are the accidentally experiment on how those kids then raise their own kids.
It also helps if once you meet a girl you like you take the time to find out her interests, who she’s friends with, and locations she frequents. Request all her friends online. Go to locations she frequents regularly. It might take some time to figure out when she’s at each location, but put in the work. Make yourself a fixture each time she walks outside. This is a no fail plan.
My church only has 6 single girls and the age gap is too much for me to even bother. The rifle range and gym are also a sausage fest. Trying to get to know someone before asking them out has backfired in me hard where flirting upfront did work. I think millennials are just broken
A girl in my grade who i've been aware of for the last few years was suddenly in my math class this semester, and after talking to her and getting to know her after a few weeks, i finally gathered the courage to ask her out, face to face. She formally apologized and said she had a boyfriend, and I was immediately embarassed and apologized. After a few weeks, I started getting more and more friendly with her again. I tried asking out another girl to distract myself, and after that rejection, I realized that I am, for the first time, truly in love. While it is a wonderful feeling, it's not like I can do anything about it since as far as I know, she still has that same boyfriend. All i can do is hope they break up and manage to grab her attention. She did tell me I looked good when I wore nice clothes last week... That made my day.
Don't waste your time, don't be a simp. Ditch that woman, she will only use you as an emotional tampon for when her boyfriend's not around, don't be a pathetic loser
Don't get stuck in the friend zone, especially when you're still a kid cause it can hurt learning your self confidence and ability to flirt. You can waste a lot of time chasing a girl who will never reciprocate your intentions. I did, and it killed my dating opportunities in high school cause I was too blind to other options and too awkward to take the initiative in some situations when I was older
Ask if she’s got a bf maybe? That’s a rlly clear sign. Flirting can also be fun or you can straight up say i like you (if u know her well enough) or ask her on outings but with less pressure like w friends a few times. Just don’t put her on the spot to express her yes or no for dating you like too soon.
@mommasbigboy8656 yeah If I haven't met them within a week or so I tend to let the conversations go. I just need the companionship for a few evenings. Rarely works out longer than a month or 2 for one reason or another. Probably me.
I always told my son when he's out with his friends and they see a group of cute girls say "hey we are headed to the bowling alley/for milk shakes/ skate park" or wherever. That way they are bringing themselves and their group and its less scary or direct and yall can sort through each other in a public place with no expectations. Especially if your groups are leaving an event or movie or arcade at the same time. Just shout out the resturaunt and see what happens. One on one seems to be difficult for millenials and Gen Z.
I feel bad for rejecting guys but at the same time I just don’t always find them attractive. I can try to change my mind? But that hardly ever works and why waste your time on someone who’s not interested when there probably is going to be another person head over heels for you? I feel bad I’m sorry kings I just can’t 😭
Almost every guy has seen hundreds of videos of women accusing men of being creeps for doing literally any of these things. We aren’t risking being labeled a creep for trying to meet people. Women have to fix the things they broke, not the other way around
Fantastic in theory, but a lot of girl wingmen will pick the friends THEY would like if they were a guy, not the one you'd actually be attracted to. So she matches you up with sweet shy butterface while she's angling her cute friend for Chad McJackedton.
It's so hard to show them though! Especially when you see them regularly and will continue to see them regularly. Like, when you go to church together. If those cues are noticed and he doesn't like you back, then it just becomes awkward between you. Dating is scary man
Every other Friday I go to my local sports bar, I have become a regular at this bar that they automatically pour me a coke (I don’t drink in public because I want to stay sober and not get into any alcohol related trouble), I sit down load up my pipe and start smoke and drink. That’s one way to meet people. Being sober at the bar and everyone knows that you’re sober, you can always be a DD for people you know who have been drinking.
You are right, what I noticed is that guys think they will be getting to have friends just amongst their age group, I was known by adults,the way I showed respect having funny moments and some tried it talking to teachers too and that's what makes girls jealous and don't frown when you greet like you know them already
For men: Be respectful
For women: Be kind.
Feel free to inverse those two.
Women need love, not respect. Chaste women receive respect automatically.
Men need respect, as it's something they usually have to work very hard for
@@basedbulgarian511we need both. Love and respect and when we get that from our husband truly we give it back. My husbands treatment towards me changed me completely into a kinder and more loving person in general. It took awhile to realize it was his love and respect for me that made me feel invaluable to him and made me want him to feel the same in return. I think people need both. Respect is earned of course but when it is it should be acknowledged regardless.
That’s my opinion - best wishes to you and yours
@@basedbulgarian511 everybody deserves respect and love, but they have to earn peoples respect and love
@@israelizzyyarrashamiaak766 I think he's referring to marginal respect. Not that women don't need it as much as men, but that by typical relationship dynamic, respect is unconditionally given to women and conditionally given to men
Feel free to not take advice from a 20-something year old
The editing crew is always on fire
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I like the dbz abridged reference
I do all these things. Still hasn’t worked out yet. But I’m working on being more approachable and bubbly.
Ugh she’s ridiculous
Because you used the word bubbly I'm guessing you are a girl?
@@Private-wj4nd who? Brett?
@@Private-wj4nd Ugh we don’t care, go complain about her on some subreddit. Seriously though you sound like a child. “Ugh”
@@holyghost718 my gosh. Are you speaking from personal experience?
We need to see the UNSUBTLE clues. Make it obvious. Hard to get is hard to want.
Very well said
This is what I was looking for.
Desperate isn’t pretty either. Hard line to walk
@@purplerose155 no one said anything about desperate. Just being at right forward. Like hey I like think your really interesting. I think that’s a long way off from desperate.
@@andrewcatlin3590shut up nerd
I live in a very small town where everyone over the age of 20 is either engaged or married or leave to bigger towns/cities. I can't meet people my own age. At least it's easy for me to make random strangers laugh or strike the occasional conversation which is necessary but sadly, it all feels worthless at the end of the day. I can't leave so, sigh.... Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. Love your videos Brett.
I am 24 and i probobly have options around but the things that scare me are what if the girl i will hit on is underaged? There are alot of underaged girls that look older and i rather not be convicted of pedophilia or whatever cause these days every woman can turn any sneeze into an assault let alone underages girls 🥲
@@bar506 That's where the bar option is always a safe place, relatively. Sit down, but them a beer, talk for a few hours and see where things go
@@austinwilliams7919what if you don't drink
@@bar506 take her to a bar. Let her order her own drink. easy test
@trinwarn I never thought it was rude. 🤷🏼♀️
I love that you are talking about this! I seriously feel for the teenagers and young adults that don’t really socialize because how different things are with social media. I have a young teen boy and I wish I could give him what I had as a kid. He wants to have adventure and friends that like to get out and adventure, but it’s so hard for him. He isn’t into social media and all that he wants real life experiences and it’s very hard to find at his age. All his friends want to just be home and online and not enjoying life. I really hope he can find that group for him when he gets out of high school.
As a single millennial, I go to church every week, & there is no single millennial female there whatsoever! 🤦🏼♂️
Church isn't for chicks. It's for Jesus. Remember that
@trinwarn "Its easy bro, just convert toa different religion"
That's weird. Most churches are like 70% women looking for guys. It's the only environment I've seen where women actually chase men.
You can always rely on the good old "I have a single friend, maybe you'd like to meet them" thing that happens when you have friends who aren't single.
You know, there are other places outside of church that have single women. If it's obviously not working for you, why not look somewhere else?
We need obvious cues, not subtle 😂
So do they my brother.
'Hey I was wondering if you and I could be a thing."
"heyyy, wanna hang out?"
I was totally horrified at how forward I was putting my number in my this great guy’s Christmas card. He had no idea I was flirting. 22 year and three kids later…
Sadly, there are fewer and fewer younger people in churches across all denominations.
In my case there's usually more single women in churches than of ahe single men 🙃
@@priscillajimenez27 real
@@priscillajimenez27 Not in my neck of the woods.
Why would we go? Even for religious people it just makes more sense to practice at home how they want instead of doing it once a week every Sunday morning.
@@LoganMcBride325 are you fr?
You're "touching grass" always cracks me up 😂❤
I was talking to a girl but she was playing hard to get and that was that for me. Turns out she liked me but was wondering how come I didn’t chase for her? To which I said “I don’t have time for that, because once you play hard to get you became hard to want”. Women, if she just told me she was interested then we could have taken it to the next step but she made me feel like she wasn’t taking me seriously so I didn’t.
Anything worth having is worth working for. A guy who is afraid to put in the work is attractive to neither sex. Women won't want you, and strong, hard-working,independent men won't respect you.
@@BuildingATitan Depends how much work we are talking about here. If she doesn't show any interest in you then why bother wasting time in her when you can work on other more interesting people.
@BuildingATitan It's not that we don't want to put in the work, it's that it gets drilled into our ducking skulls that if a woman says she isn't interested, you're a creep if you don't immediately leave. How are we supposed to know who wants "the chase" and who doesn't? I'll answer for you: we can't. Because no means no. Unless it means yes. Unless it means both. Unless it means neither. And woe betide those who get it wrong.
Not subtle cues, obvious cues.
Or....and this is gonna sound crazy...you could approach the guy YOURSELF?!
OK, but what are obvious cues? (genuinely asking lol)
@@ItsNicoleAnderson Taking initiative, saying hi, striking up a conversation. I am confident enough to do that myself, but I am married now. Many good men need a woman to show mutual interest.
Be nice if it worked that way. Churches in my area have two types of single young women.....under 18 and over 30 divorced with kids who recently "rediscovered their faith" to try and find a step dad that will take them in.
Over 16 is legal in most states
@TechMan042 ......yea that's a whole other problem with meeting people at church. Whole lot of pedos trying to hook you up with their underage daughters
@@TechMan042I'm 40.
Being a step Dad is noble thing single mother's want romance as well...not just a father figure... so sad thar my bio brother listens to the internet hate on single mothers! I'm a younger widow & if I did have the chance to have a baby with my husband I'd be a single mother right now! Please don't overlook single mothers
@@TechMan042You're disgusting
It’s so sad how people can’t easily meet others. Typically, all a girl needs to do is make eye contact and smile. I feel so bad for men out there- there are some really good people out there.
Be encouraged! There really is someone for everyone should they choose it.
See I used to be the “oh he’s cute. *avert your eyes!!!* ” type girl because I’d rather avoid said cute guy than possibly do something embarrassing. But now I do the “look up, eye contact, cute smile, return to what I was doing” trick. Did it at a party and the guy came over to me within like 2 minutes😂
@@loraelizabeth7580 yes! That’s exactly how it happened for me too, I used to think no one liked me and then I figured out I was just not making eye contact and smiling 😂
The code was forgotten because it landed every dude in the friendzone
I’m doing all those things. I have yet to meet anyone. I have found some good dude friends over the years, which is great, but that is no replacement for a good and Godly women.
- Church congregation is over 500. Been going for 2 years. No prospects.
- Work out several times a week, and I mountain bike several times a week. Haven’t had success.
- I do not work remotely, work is probably the worst environment to meet people. Way too many hurdles… I have tried, but I have not had success.
- I also hang out at coffee shops after church… in my suit to see if that sparks anything. No success.
Everyone I know who has found their spouse through sheer luck. If I get any replies I’ll explain that.
@trinwarn thanks for the honest advice.
- I don’t drink and I would prefer a women who feels similar (occasional drinks is fine… getting drunk is not).
- I go to every church event I can. Most events are “daddy daughter date night” type events for families. Most churches in my area are like this… no events specifically for young adults or young singles.
- I get out every Friday and weekend for events or to go biking with friends. I’m frequently around people. Plenty of young married people… many of my friends are married. But there have been no prospects through my friend groups.
- I’ve tried dating apps for almost 2 years now. No success. Lots of matches, but no dates.
- I do not travel much. I would like to, but it’s difficult with my job. It’s also expensive, I can only travel domestically a few times a year. I could do abroad trips once a year, but that’s it.
Anywho, again I really appreciate the advice 👍
@@madgameman1you, and a lot of people on this channel are in a pretty dicey situation, because your hard line non-negotiable is a Christian woman willing to have kids. In my experience, Christian women are the most promiscuous ones out there, because their parents suppressed them to limited activities, they were always monitored and hidden from the world, and once they turned 18 and left the house, they just go buck wild and "discover" themselves. Usually isn't a problem for most, but then the other hard drawn non-negotiable is a low body count. I really don't mean to come off as insulting when I say this, but Chrisrian girls with low body counts straight up don't exist. At least it seems that way. And the ones who do are usually in one of those Southern Baptist denominations where their parents hooked them up with an older gentleman at their church and she just marries him.
Again, I'm really trying not to be disingenuous or pessimistic. I grew up in Texas, went to college in the Bible belt, used to go to church all the time, but because I've always been a social outcast i just took more notice of the clicks. The single girls just dated "Church Chad."
Point is, I very much acknowledge your frustrations and want to say your feelings are valid. I won't be foolish and tell you to just settle down on a good, Atheist woman, because that goes against your core beliefs as a Christian.
And my wife would just recommend going to the Philippines because she's Filipina and she's always plugging her people and advertising them as "the best wives." I typically listen to what the wife says, so if you're up for dating a non-American then you can try that. They're typically Catholic and Catholics still count as Christians last i checked. I'm not sure if you're a denomination snob where you're only looking for one type of denomination, but if you're not, you can always go to other Churches and look around? They still read from the Bible. May be slightly different iterations but they still say Christ is King, and i think that's the bigger picture there?
Personally for me, i love music and making music so I'd go to music bars or any type of music scenes and share my music with other musicians. That's gotten me a date or two. It sounds like you're active, but surrounded by people not looking or not interested. The obvious answer is look somewhere else, but I'm guessing you're running out of that. And you already said you could barely afford to travel so Philippines is probably off the table.
I have an idea! Every college has a church scene. There are ministries there because a lot of future pastors study theology and in doing so they get involved with campus churches. There is such a thing as a Christian woman in college, so you'll likely find women at said events. Why not look around local community colleges or different campuses?
Or since you're so involved, why not try and host an event? Start a singles club? If you can't find your people, then make your people.... In a sense. Just spitballing ideas.
Again, hope i didn't come off offensive. I hope you find something that works for you!
My question is where is everybody out age? Where the heck do we hangout? I'm twenty four (female) and I feel like I missed the conversation on what we all do for fun. I've been going to church, farmers market on Saturdays, and I try to attend community events. Nothing. It's odd to think it's this hard to find someone when we are so connected with our phones🤦
Well.. 15 years. ago I would have recommended World of Warcraft... Grins
FR im 24 and can’t find a friend anywhere 😂😭
True, seems like we’re all stuck in inside
The biggest issue I seem to come across is that women my age are either already dating someone else, or are not currently interested in dating at all. One just flat out told me she wasn’t interested in dating because she valued her individuality. Is this experience with lack-of-dating just me, or a generational trend we happen to be going through right now?
A lot of women aren’t interested in dating now and are just fully immersed in hookup culture.
@@andrewcatlin3590 and then you have girls like me who aren’t interested in dating because of the damage hook up culture has done to dating culture
I think people have forgotten how to be friends with someone. Women have always been scared that men just want sex and to leave and with hookup culture a big talked about things, it's definitely making so many women want to be abstinent or take control of their situation by accepting this reality because let's face it, a lot of us are sexual beings. However, men have lost the ability to get to know women. They can't progress past the second date anymore for whatever reason and this is something women talk to each other about and recognize. It's a turn off. Make friends with us, show us you can have a long term relationship and to do that, it means we are right there with you. ❤
That is how I met my boyfriend. We both love theatre and we met during a production we were in. We slowly started talking, then started dating a few weeks later. We have been together for 3 years now and have many plans for the future!
It’s a good idea to go to the same place and build rapport with people. You do got to introduce yourself to someone that you’re interested in naturally and as quick as you can though. You can also approach them immediately if you got the rizz but the point is to make it clear that you’re interested and confident. If you don’t do it you’ll be denied or friend zoned 9/10 times.
I think I really SHOULD start a school for classical dancing. And then, with the whole "how to behave" and "ladies choice" and gent?s choice" thing. I have the feeling it might be a very profitable business....
Volunteering is a great way to build organic community too.
My mom always complained living in a different state (and in the burbs) from where she grew up that she didn’t know anyone. She never ran into people, etc.
its because she never went anywhere or did anything?
I literally cannot leave my house and go anywhere without running into at least one person I know. Usually, I run into several people I know and all from different circles!
I’m very involved at our church, I volunteer at my kids schools, I’m a precinct committeeman in my legislative district, I throw block parties to get to know my neighbors, I volunteer for several organizations, I’m a vice coordinator for my kids American Heritage Girls troop, I’m a financial coach, my husband and I are marriage coaches, I specifically go to classes at the gym to work out with other people, etc
I live in a pretty densely populated suburb and know a great portion of them in some form
Bro you are a FOOL to volunteer when we already have a cost of living problem
@@burningcoal5705
You will never be satiated. Nothing will ever be good enough for you. If you actually think this way, you will always feel miserable. I definitely encourage you that if you want better in life, serve others.
Not only will you feel a drastic change, but volunteer work looks fantastic on a resume and makes you more likely to move up in your job.
How are you not terrified of people? That’s a lot of socialization lol
@@ItsNicoleAnderson
I’m extremely extroverted.
What’s funny is my hubs is sigma style introverted. He isn’t shy. He’s… reserved..
But he’s becoming more extroverted when it comes to ministries and such. It’s a blast to be a part of
@@burningcoal5705
Volunteering is a wonderful experience. Not only does it feel good, but it helps your resume. I constantly get job offers.. amazing job offers in my many volunteer roles.
Attractive woman who married at 22 has thoughts on how to date...
Her looks aren't why she is married at 22. She has a personality. She is out going and active in a lot of things. She has value to a man. She has something to bring to the table. She has traditional and rational values. Things almost all women lack these days.
@@BuildingATitanshe's extremely successful in her career. She isn't typical.
Don't go to bars. You know who's regularly in bars? Alcoholics. Trust me. You don't want that.
Good thing that i don't even drink alcohol so nothing for me to do at a bar 😂
@@bar506 I rarely drink alcohol. Mostly during holiday dinners and the like. Once in a blue moon I'll have a glass of wine or a good beer. Those few occasions where I went to a bar it was mostly with a group of friends and tagged along to be social. The couple of time I went to a bar alone I found them lonely and depressing.
Only couple troubles I have with dating is A.) fugly B.) live in a mainly Cristian area and I’m Wiccan so yeah C.) effeminate and no one believes me when I say I’m straight
Still very solid advice and less likely to get in MAJOR trouble later on
Editing crew pulling out TFS Goku pops
I love it.
That's how I met my wife, struck up a conversation at a karaoke bar that I went to every Wednesday night, she was new to the city, and at the end of the first night I said to her I'm here every Wednesday night why don't you come back and we can hang out that was 16 years ago
Thanks for the advice. A girl at church admitted to having the hots for me but I didn't return her feelings. I still keep in touch with a girl I like from school, but she doesn't return my feelings. Dating sucks period.
I feel this and FFA is my routine 😂
Ive met about a hundred other local young Christian’s in my area just from one fateful Sunday where I stayed for doughnuts that they were handing out after church and I sat with some girls that looked my age that I’ve never seen before. 5 months later, I would consider them my friends and have made many more Christian friends in my city from all over the states and other countries. I play volleyball with a casual Catholic sports group. I get invited to parties and events that I have to be selective with so I don’t overwhelm myself with events lol. I went to a Catholic speed dating event because some lady handed me a brochure for it after church. I went on two dates after that event and both have asked me for second dates.
If anyone in Denver wants connections, let me know :)
Like a good neighbor🎵
Stay over there!🎵🎵🎵🎵🎵
Women, be kind. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 best joke of all time.
Sadly many folk play the blame game on the opposite sex, make excuses, and say it's too much work. The comments speak for themselves. Once i become more financially independent I'll be have to have more freetime and energy to go out more 😊
Ehh, generally the more you make the less free time you have
this girl is saving our generation 😂
The one piece of advice I’ll say is this:
Focus on the hobby itself first, making friends second, and the relationship part will follow. Joining a new community or finding a hobby for the sake of being in a relationship can be rocky
If you don’t enjoy the hobby, it can be exhausting as you’re doing something you don’t enjoy. If you don’t enjoy it, but enjoy the people, then you have a good takeaway and walk away with a circle to surround yourself with. And if you do enjoy it, you like the people, and you meet someone naturally romantically and things don’t work out but did the steps prior, then that’s okay! You have a new hobby and friends, which helps contribute to someone feeling less lonely (like many do)
TLDR; please prioritize the hobby and friends before looking for a romantic relationship. It’s better for you in the long run and you just don’t look and aren’t as desperate
The next time a friend or relative tells you "have I got a girl/boy for you!" Take the opportunity. That is how I met my wife in 1986.
The issue is today as a guy we this dilemma:
1. We wait play it slow and safe but then she thinks he isn’t into me or shows effort and she’s in a relationship when we do work up the courage to ask her out.
2. We learned from point 1 and ask her out right away and it comes across aggressive and creepy. We cannot win out here men.
I definitely plan on being sociable to men who are actually friendly. If they are drunk or high, then obviously that ain't happening.
Some men use alcohol to build up the courage to approach…
@@mommasbigboy8656 I guess that's somewhat valid, but it might scare some girls when a man is drunk
@@ELMSART I do agree with you if he’s extremely drunk. But just turning a guy down because he’s drank a little might be a little far.
@@mommasbigboy8656Love your profile btw, Warwick is the man 👊
@@d.52555 you’re the only one who actually knows who he is! I’ve had quite a few people try and make fun of my appearance because they think that’s me in the picture.😂
I’ve always thought book stores are a great way to meet people whether it be for friendship or romance
Sure if you're into 65-year-old women. But the girls age 16 to 24 are stuck with their noses buried in their phones brainwashing themselves 5 hours a day on TikTok and spending the other few hours taking endless selfies in the gym and demonizing any man who glances for 0.2 seconds in their general direction
Gen Z needs to find God first Brett!!
That’s truest unconditional love anyone will ever find, thank you Jesus
Ayyy shoutout for the goku's [pop] reference. I love you, editor
But I live in the middle of nowhere ‼️🤣🔥🥃
Not so subtle cues are also ok
I told my family this, although I'm not good at talking to people I am trying to be better lol, but I don't want to do that all online, I want to meet someone in person to places I go to and then talk to them like that. I feel like I'm just seeing everyone else my age talk to people online, but then not know them at all.
Yeah join a church.
Will help you in more ways than just finding a date.
Go sit in a building and pretend like you're paying attention for an hour while some asshole in a white robe talks about goats, oxen, and loincloth.
Yeah they'll help you to shut down your critical thinking abilities, and open up your wallet. 😂😂😂
If they aren't straightforward with their feelings, then they aren't worth the time and effort.
That's my view anyway. I don't like all the subtle garbage.
To me, it's just like trying to avoid answering a straightforward question. Which just makes me believe they're not really interested in anything worthwhile.
People always tell me bars but I hate the feeling of alcohol so I never drink and anymore the taste and smell of alcohol make me extremely nauseous. Any girl who I would be interested in would not be at a bar. Basically everyone I know enjoys drinking but I find not having a clear head a miserable experience. People say it helps them relax but I have never once been relaxed while drinking.
Way to Go Gurl!!!! Great Advice!!!!
Listen, as a man all I can say is my current girlfriend made it LOUD AND CLEAR to me that she was attracted to me and wanted to get to know me more. Like plain as day told me I’m hot and oh so interesting and all that stuff she said. It’s not hard folks. Get to know someone and be direct and respectful.
Your luck asl because most men will never experience that moment good luck to you though
One of the best things about school is that it’s exactly this, I go to college each day, speak to the same beautiful woman and build up that relationship
I did Brett. I did. And it was only ever other women who spoke to me or even cared. I’m trying but easier said than done
Thanks Brett 😂
Very true.
But remember, the competition is always watching, waiting!
Don't wait too long.
😁
Met my husband at church, we were part of the youth leadership, and my homecell became his. We were at band practice together. We were in the same group circle. I didn’t notice him. He apparently saw me , he was an usher at the door sundays too. I always say I to everyone. Never had a second thought 😂😂😂😂 well 18 years & 4 kiddo’s later 😊❤
This is hard. I change my routine if someone comments on me being a regular
I feel like we need more adult casual interest groups. Like in high school I went to 3 different clubs throughout the week and played jazz at the local colleges combo and did martial arts once a week, only the martial arts costing any money. Now as an adult I feel like there's so little I can do to find people with similar interests unless I want to shell out cash for some kind of class.
Like I'm I get that bars and churches are good for normal people but us weirdos with hobbies just want to meet someone on the same wavelegnth and it probably won't be at either of those places
finally better advice!!! except for subtle cues and the gym. DON"T ASK OUT GIRLS AT THE GYM... unless you're jacked. LADIES, f your subtle clues. Please make them BLINDINGLY, STUPIDLY OBVIOUS!!!
Yeah, I met my husband in a college class and got to kind of get to know him for a few months before we started dating.
I love how the editors always use Team Four Star stuff.
Men, dont forget to take initiative. It's too easy to sit back in fear and hope everything will work out. Something that women want--especially in the Christian context--is a strong leader. Strong leaders dont let fear run their lives. I learned this the hard way and had a a girl I was pursuing tell me, "I love the qualities you have to offer, but I want a leader, and not the potential of a leader."
That being said, it hit me like a truck. What was I really doing to exercise my leadership skills. Truth is that I was doing nothing. I was complacent hoping the skills would magically fall upon me. Nope, relationships take time to form, and it takes even more time to foster the skills to make a relationship last a lifetime.
Dont lose hope. If you have the desire to marry, it will happen. Deeply examine your soul and foster the qualities that make a desirable husband.
Men... if you want a wife, you better make yourself a husband.
Nowadays it feels inappropriate to ask someone out.
this is exactly it, go to the same place over and over and find people who do the same thing and start talking to them and maybe wander into the territory of romance.
and sometimes just being in a specific public space often you can develop confidence and feel more at ease in that environment to where you feel more ok with approaching new people who come there.
the thing that actually sucks is seeing someone you feel attracted to and knowing deep down you will never see them again as you are just two ships passing in the night.
I already got rejected, humiliated, accused of rape, etc and im only in my early 20s. I was really good at talking to women and getting them before the ME Too movement but now I dont even risk it. A girl at work same age as me really liked me but this feeling of fear always overcame me because I was accused once and lost all my firends and later they found out she was lying but still im never having a steady girlfirend again. I just dont trust women anymore. "I dont hate women, I just hate how naturallly they can manipulate a man"
Boomers learned this in middle school and high school especially if they were in the big cities. Where I grew up (Chicago South side) many high schools would host dances mixers for 8th through 12 Graders on Friday nights from 7 to 11 PM so there was a safe place to meet and talk/dance. We would also meet at the beach or sports courts during the summer. Sometimes even sit around in loose groups on somebodies front porch after school. Mostly always a small group 5-10 kids. For more formal small groups 4 to 6 mixed at ice cream shop or a sunday movie. I believe Millenniums used the Malls for the same purpose if there was one in walking biking range.
Well said
To all my fellow sister of Christ, firstly pursue a relationship with the Lord and it all shall be added to you. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be pursued, but it gets messy when things get all twisted. I’ve just discovered so much about myself in walking with Christ and prioritizing that. And then all of a sudden, BAM! God drops someone in your life unexpectedly! You can find and love you’re seeking in Christ! (That way the Lord can prepare you for your future Husband, as he simultaneously prepares your future Husband for you)
I'm a Gen Z and I'm currently a senior but I do want to find a boyfriend later on in college, thanks for the advice
Girl I have at church and no luck about six years now 😂
I hear this a lot with churches. It's sad but I know the feeling. Hoping it works out for you soon!
i need ur take on the trump trials like rn please this is wild
Not Gokuuuu 😭😂😂
Social clubs are great. If you have an interest, there's probably a club for it.
Oh my gosh. My youth had some pastors from Dallas literally say the same thing today. It's so true. I think it really comes from how disconnected we actually are due to tech. It's not our fault. We're an accidental social experiment on how tech impacts human connections with each other. Gen Alpha and the Generation after that are the accidentally experiment on how those kids then raise their own kids.
It also helps if once you meet a girl you like you take the time to find out her interests, who she’s friends with, and locations she frequents. Request all her friends online. Go to locations she frequents regularly. It might take some time to figure out when she’s at each location, but put in the work. Make yourself a fixture each time she walks outside. This is a no fail plan.
My church only has 6 single girls and the age gap is too much for me to even bother. The rifle range and gym are also a sausage fest. Trying to get to know someone before asking them out has backfired in me hard where flirting upfront did work. I think millennials are just broken
Dude its the same at my church, i feel you bro
You looked so happy when you said “they forgot”. Very Daily Wire of you.
A girl in my grade who i've been aware of for the last few years was suddenly in my math class this semester, and after talking to her and getting to know her after a few weeks, i finally gathered the courage to ask her out, face to face. She formally apologized and said she had a boyfriend, and I was immediately embarassed and apologized. After a few weeks, I started getting more and more friendly with her again. I tried asking out another girl to distract myself, and after that rejection, I realized that I am, for the first time, truly in love.
While it is a wonderful feeling, it's not like I can do anything about it since as far as I know, she still has that same boyfriend. All i can do is hope they break up and manage to grab her attention. She did tell me I looked good when I wore nice clothes last week... That made my day.
Don't waste your time, don't be a simp. Ditch that woman, she will only use you as an emotional tampon for when her boyfriend's not around, don't be a pathetic loser
Don't get stuck in the friend zone, especially when you're still a kid cause it can hurt learning your self confidence and ability to flirt. You can waste a lot of time chasing a girl who will never reciprocate your intentions. I did, and it killed my dating opportunities in high school cause I was too blind to other options and too awkward to take the initiative in some situations when I was older
"Don't ask out the girl immediately" ok, so then how do we make our intentions clear while avoiding the friendzone?
She has no idea how to start a relationship.
Ask if she’s got a bf maybe? That’s a rlly clear sign. Flirting can also be fun or you can straight up say i like you (if u know her well enough) or ask her on outings but with less pressure like w friends a few times. Just don’t put her on the spot to express her yes or no for dating you like too soon.
Not Goku just popping out of nowhere 😂😂
Im chatting with a few women on a dating app at the moment. If i stop asking questions the conversation stops. I get some and give up for 6 months.
You should try to get them off the dating site ASAP. The point of dating apps is to set up dates, not have long conversations.
@mommasbigboy8656 yeah If I haven't met them within a week or so I tend to let the conversations go. I just need the companionship for a few evenings. Rarely works out longer than a month or 2 for one reason or another. Probably me.
I always told my son when he's out with his friends and they see a group of cute girls say "hey we are headed to the bowling alley/for milk shakes/ skate park" or wherever. That way they are bringing themselves and their group and its less scary or direct and yall can sort through each other in a public place with no expectations. Especially if your groups are leaving an event or movie or arcade at the same time. Just shout out the resturaunt and see what happens. One on one seems to be difficult for millenials and Gen Z.
I feel bad for rejecting guys but at the same time I just don’t always find them attractive. I can try to change my mind? But that hardly ever works and why waste your time on someone who’s not interested when there probably is going to be another person head over heels for you? I feel bad I’m sorry kings I just can’t 😭
Going to church is great. They will always bring you up when you feel down in any way.
just wait till gen alpha its gonna get wayyyyyyy worse 😔
“Illiterate and feral” People aren’t built to function let alone thrive in solitary
They could rizz up a level 10 gyatt by singing skibidi toilet 💀💀💀
@@joeyk107 real 😔
@@joeyk107 I'm in tears XD 💀
The best pickup line...you're hot let's date lol
I'm being sarcastic!
Subtle clues are generally dismissed by us older men .. we teach the younger ones this by our behavior
Almost every guy has seen hundreds of videos of women accusing men of being creeps for doing literally any of these things. We aren’t risking being labeled a creep for trying to meet people. Women have to fix the things they broke, not the other way around
Yeah. That was life before the internet/phones. It wasnt terrible.
The irony😊 is to meet girls and be approachable..is to have a a friend who is a girl. She can do the asking for you💋
Fantastic in theory, but a lot of girl wingmen will pick the friends THEY would like if they were a guy, not the one you'd actually be attracted to. So she matches you up with sweet shy butterface while she's angling her cute friend for Chad McJackedton.
Love ya Brett! ❤
Brett Cooper over here jumpstarting the birthrate singlehandedly.
For real... shes giving solid advice. Listen to it
Been trying this. It doesn't change the personality flaws programed into these hold diggin women. 🤷🏼♂️
You have the best videos and shorts Brett!!
I am 28 years old, and I've never really been on dates. Im autistic, and I make less than $15 an hour
PREACH BRETT!!!!!
Subtle cues are too subtle sometimes
It's so hard to show them though! Especially when you see them regularly and will continue to see them regularly. Like, when you go to church together. If those cues are noticed and he doesn't like you back, then it just becomes awkward between you. Dating is scary man
Every other Friday I go to my local sports bar, I have become a regular at this bar that they automatically pour me a coke (I don’t drink in public because I want to stay sober and not get into any alcohol related trouble), I sit down load up my pipe and start smoke and drink. That’s one way to meet people. Being sober at the bar and everyone knows that you’re sober, you can always be a DD for people you know who have been drinking.
I joined the community theater last summer just for fun and met the best friends I've ever had. ❤
Thanks Bret
I'm mentally deficient on anything related to dating
Haven't had a relationship last more than 3 months
Great advice
Found my girlfriend at the youth Bible study at my church
You are right, what I noticed is that guys think they will be getting to have friends just amongst their age group, I was known by adults,the way I showed respect having funny moments and some tried it talking to teachers too and that's what makes girls jealous and don't frown when you greet like you know them already