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As a mom with an autistic son of 24 yrs, it seems probably that your son is uncomfortable with too much sensory input around him. Many people speaking, bright lights, the new smell of the bed, etc. Also, if he's accustomed to a routine, sudden changes also can affect him. A quiet, dim lit, peaceful bedtime routine might help. God bless your beautiful family. Love how the siblings help out.💓
I really hope they see this and consider really trying it. I don’t have an autistic child, but I am non neurotypical myself and have two nephews on the spectrum. I really think you’re right.
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I don't think the small little acts of service that our older children do is toxic. They want to help and jump right in and start helping because they sincerely care for their younger siblings, not because we are demanding it from them, I hope that makes sense. We could easily expect too much of them, but we really don't. They have their own rooms and have their own lessons, interests. Mark does Piano, runs, and is a little chef, and Benson does parkour, twice a week and would play Minecraft on his Nintendo switch all day if we let him. He was some amazing creations in there and builds amazing lego creations. and Marie takes Piano lessons, and tap lessons ( i teach tap lessons from my garage for a little extra money) and we go on kid dates with them individually all the time, (monthly) the reason I share this is to help illustrate that they have their individual lives, too we don't treat them as if their purpose in life is to just take care of the younger ones. We don't have it ALL figured out, we still are learning, but we are getting some great parenting advice from youtube comments, (that last bit was meant to be sarcastic, but in all honesty someone pointed out a place on line where we could buy better Pajamas for the boys, and I am ordering some right now. 😄
@@7Aheadfamilyignore ignorant people. Families help other family members, it's what we do. Only people that are sad, lonely and pathetic don't know that. Unapologetically ignorant people like Lexi will never understand a loving family - they are broken beyond repair usually.
Hopefully no one is broken beyond repair. We should try to avoid being judgmental of others we barely know. Whether that is someone who makes RUclips videos or someone who made one comment on one. ❤️😊❤️
God bless this whole family especially the siblings who help their parents and the parents for being a great example of what love between parents and their children should always be like. Blessings to this family!!
I love when parents go the extra-extra mile for their kids who have individual needs. I did the same and do not regret it. It actually gives me happy memories as it will you.
@@7Aheadfamily Wonderful that you have done information sharing. To bring others in means more ideas and support. More can be done, we have to find new protocols. Not drugs. Slow things down without using medication. Exoskeleton, Visual Reality glasses, braces, weighted shoes, light signals. Autism should be addressed with visual cues. So should walking for mobility impaired people. Wear a belt, it sends a light impulse when we've over extended and a fall could result. Many of us have seen parents of special needs kids. Late life, the exhaustion shows. It’s hard hard work. So far, we’re waiting, we're talking to doctors, we’re talking to each other in support groups. Answers are to be found in information sharing, which is what you’re doing here. Simple solutions can be close at hand. British parents had tried everything. Their daughter was petrified of water. After trying everything, they got a lead for a Maine Coon cat. These gentle giant cats love water. Cat and daughter were besties from the start.
Hi. What an amazing bed. I would have loved one of these for our autistic son when he was a toddler. We had many a sleeple ss night because he would not stay in bed and we would be worried he would get up once we were asleep. A stair gate kept him in his room but I still worried about what he was getting up to in there. He was diagnosed at 2yrs old and was non verbal until around 4 when he was given more speech and language therapy because he started nursery and then school. He is now 24yrs old and has surpassed all the mile stones that when diagnosed was taken away from us. You all as a family are doing a wonderful job raising two boys with autism. Just keep doing what your doing and pass milestone after milestone as a loving family that you are. God bless you all. Xxxx
Wow. This made me tear up. Thank you so much. ❤️ it is difficult to make unique divisions sometimes for Autistic kids cause their needs are so different sometimes. But we appreciate your kind words. How old is your son now? How is he doing?
NOT a good job, but they CAN if they wake up & learn how to properly feed him! The bed may be awesome, but should have been set up outside for a week to get rid of toxic fumes! It's probably from china & if, again, you do your homework, things shipped from overseas are treated/sprayed with horrendous toxic chemicals to prevent mold/rat & other infestations.
@@7Aheadfamily I have an adult son on the spectrum. Your sons response is pretty normal and I instantly recognized his posture of trying to process what this new thing is in his room and what does it have to do with him. It does take awhile for them to get aquatinted to new things as you well know. I didn't know about safety beds when our son was younger and we could have benefitted from it as our son was and still is to some degree a wanderer. We lost our son one time when he was about 5 years old. I was using the bathroom and walked out and the door was open and he was gone. We had to call 911 and I'll never forget that frantic feeling. One of our neighbors found him in an open lot and me and/or my husband slept in the living room for a few years after that so we could catch him quicker if he walked out again. (We put bells and other noisy things on the door so we could hear if it was being opened.) I still do at times to this day even though he is a lot better at staying put. 😆😆 You are awesome parents to very beautiful children. All of them Gods gifts to us. 🤗🤗
It is such a benefit for the whole family caring for the special needs of the younger boys. A really special family an example to show that new parents don’t need to be afraid if their children have special needs. 😊
One of my grandsons has autism and is mute. They diagnosed him via a blood sample and when they told my daughter he has genetic autism she laughed and asked if that was why they did the blood test, because if it was she could have told them it's genetic. One of her brothers also has it. Exactly the same. My daughter and grandson are learning sign language, much to the delight of one of their neighbours who's son is deaf. Good luck with everything. Best wishes from England.
I love that they are learning sign language. I really tried to get Ezra to do some signs. His brain just doesn’t work that way. And know quite a bit of sign language, and have some deaf friends. I think the world would be a better place if more people knew sign language. :-) thank you for sharing. I have a cousin and a nephew who are Autistic as well.-Holly
Depending upon which geneticist you talk to, there are as many as 23 different genes that can cause/trigger autism. I agree with the researchers who think autism is a catch all for a host of related disorders. It can present so differently, and what helps one can be a disaster for another.
Our granddaughter is autistic and loves rocking and swinging. So when we moved and purchased new furniture, we took her shopping with us and got her her own rocking recliner. She doesn’t ever recline, but sits and rock a lot.
I have 3 autistic grown up sons...the best way to help them cope is to have 1. A quiet household 2. Routine 3. Dim lights at night all around the house 3. Meditation misic playing 5. Special diet ( no dairy and no gluten) 6. Never shout at them or hit them...always ask for eye contact and explain to them gently using empathy and making them see how another would feel in regards to bad behaviour 7. Let them be....if they have obsessions like lining up toys let them do it 8. Ecourage them by praising them 9. No closed in spaces ( they hate restriction it damages them) 10. No sensory lights...they can trigger them...especially if they play computer games( should be time limited as it triggers something in their brains and makes them flip out My sons are now 19, 21 and 23...all at college and working part time! Why and how??? Because they have to have their rigidity flexed so that they can cope in the real world...too many parents hear autism and think "limited!" And dont push to help the child adjust in social settings... Autism is a gift...find their gift and let them pursue their dreams ... Much love ❤
Keep on keeping on! Your tenacity is admirable! Your outlook on life with 2 autistic children should be in a book, ,maybe in 5 or 10 years when your trials and errors have been practiced. You have blessed many viewers including this old lady! I am so happy to see your transparency dealing with your two, very special autistic children. To be so encouraging not only with the two boys struggling to understand their special world, but the hands on love, patience, acceptance, and eagerness of their older siblings is just righteous beauty! JUST SO VERY REFRESHING, I COMMEND YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY!!
We have been posting every day lately. usually shorts, but about 2 long form every week. We'll do some educational videos of Autism with examples of our kids, and also add in some vlogs too. have you had a chance to take a look at the channel? We have about 300 videos already. (but our older ones are about how we went to all the National Parks in an RV) So they may not be relavant, but they are of our family and we always include our 2 Autistic kids in our travels. ❤️
I couldn't do what you do! To have children that don't settle down and cry a lot it was hard for me to watch the Video. It surely is a real blessing to have a husband who is involved with the children. His love for them is evident and your children know it too!
oh boy oh boy... so many blessings to see... the kindness of the bigger children to the younger ones... wonderful mum n dad... Our Lord to bless you, guide you, to hold you tight.
I worked in a hospital that had patients with brain injuries. A few of them required beds like this for their own safety. They were great, allowing mobility and freedom of movement during a time when mobility was more advanced than judgement.
I think this would benefit Ezra massively. I’m very exited for the whole family. Especially Ezra. I would totally sleep in that bed. You guys are awesome
I’d so sleep in a bed like that but one that’s like black or something since I like how the color looks on appliances only hard thing is my room is pretty little even with my sister and I being in that room so it’d have to be one like that but like a twin size or something but I love how the zipper part of it gives camping energy
GREAT PARENTS~!!! How wonderful that you parents have surrounded ALL your kids with love... so they are included in assisting their siblings with so much love and support.
My son is 38 now. He weighed 1 lb 5 oz when he was born. He is autisic and was legally blind until he got fast growing cataracts about 10 yrs ago. He had them removed but they grew back. Now he is completely blind. Anyway, since before he could even walk, he loved to watch Jeopardy, Wheel of Fortune, and Price is Right. He also played with word flash cards. Anything with words was his "thing". He still loves these shows today and repeats some of the words..basically the only time he talks with a few exceptions. I guess he can remember what the hosts look like. 😊 It makes me so sad that he can't see anymore and is hard for me to deal with.
I’m so sorry to hear your son has lost his eyesight. 😢 Sending sending prayers and hugs your way ❤️. Let us know if there’s anything we can do to help.
Seeing the way you put your sons pj's on took me back. My son who also has autism (20 now) used to smear his poop for years. He was doubly incontinent till 14 so this was always a massive issue for us. We used to put his onsies on backwards too but then he found out how to get them off. We had to buy special ones made especially to prevent him taking his pad off. But with special needs, comes special prices. So glad we don't have this issue anymore. Love your sons reaction to his bed. His excitement over such a big change is really nice to see. We also had a special bed and it gave us peace of mind knowing he was safe so I can totally empathise with you guys.
Thank you so much for sharing. Because of this video we put up we found out about a company that makes sleep-wear for older kids that they can’t take off, I am so happy to find it. I was thinking that I would have to try my hand at sewing something big for him. Lol! You guys know so much more than us, since your child is older. We should be asking your advice on stuff. ❤️
This is so like one of my grandsons when he was little. He’s supposed to be high functioning. Unfortunately at now 18 years old nothing has helped him with his violent outbursts. His father’s not much help and neither are his older brothers as by now have become resentful for all the restrictions placed on them because everything has been a trigger all these years. He’s now taller than my daughter and too strong for her to handle, especially when he yanks her hair off her head as she’s helping him in the bathroom. Wishing all the parents of autistic kids in the world, infinite patience and strength. ♥️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
That sounds incredibly difficult. Thank you for sharing. Sometimes medicine can help calm the nerves and aggression, but it’s different for each person. Hope things can get better.
@@linato1855 been a caregiver in group homes when kids age out and their parents just aren't able to handle them anymore. Many become violent, even on meds, and parents just aren't able to take getting beaten up. I get it...
Change is scary. 70+ years autistic, diagnosed at 17, they have learned so much in these decades. I learned, with little help, how to pass as neurotypical-ish. But the underlying fears never have changed, or lessened. I'm just more practiced at hiding them.
as an autistic myself, diagnosed in 2014, i agree, i hate change, it usually if not always is bad or scary, and God knows we have had a lot of change and i cant say its good(ill spare the details, i dont think anyone wants to read them), i would wonder if something soft and cuddly like a teddy bear would help him, it helps me.
Change can be scary. ❤️ We have tried to give him stuffed bears before, he would mostly just throw them, but every once in a while he would hold them. ❤️ Thank you for the suggestion! 😊😊😊
Same here, but diagnosed at age 66, way too late to get help since I managed with great effort to imitate the neurotypical enough to get through life without total rejection. As I watch this I find all the commotion and focus on the new bed by all the family members with people coming and going and talking and shouting to be way overwhelming to me and, obviously, to the boy covering his ears and holding his head. And then to just force him, both mentally and physically, makes no sense at all. This should have been done way more quietly and drawn out over many days for a smoother transition. Big brother is a rare gem indeed!
You are right. Ezra’s would thrive in a more calm and predictable environment. It’s pretty difficult to create the optimal environment for my two younger autistic children. But we can put more effort into it. Thank you for the reminder.
@@lucyllewellyn2850 quite agree, but how many unsung heroes are out there caring full time for handicapped children. I’ve spent most of my life nursing handicapped children who go on to becoming handicapped adults. One person I helped was a 90 year old lady who was still the carer for her 70 year old child who was totally autistic and sat in a pushchair all day nursing her doll. Love is unconditional but for some life is that bit harder and life means life.
I ❤️ the Support, Patience and ❤️ that your Family especially your kids, his siblings displayed on this video their actions showed how well their being raised…😊🙃
I’m self-diagnosed autistic and 50 years old and this bed seems super cool to me. I didn’t even know such a thing existed, but I think I would love it even now! It’s hard to say from just the video, but I think he was most likely just overwhelmed by the whole thing - that’s a lot of change all at once and over the course of a day and he seemed like he might have already been spent and had no reserves left for it at the end of his day. I do love how supportive your whole family seems to be with your two autistic sons - that’s really amazing and I love your other kids for it. It’s a pretty big deal. For me, I was never non-verbal and my mom said I was pretty easy to raise, but having been me all my life, I do know that I’ve always struggled in various ways that I was just really good at masking (in part because my issues weren’t so severe as to make masking impossible). But I can say with certainty that once I’ve reached my limit, I have no options left and I need to be able to recover before I can deal effectively with anything else again. If I keep pushing myself past my end point, I’m going to wind up in either a meltdown condition which is extremely embarrassing and depressing to go through, or if I’m very “lucky”, I’ll wind up dealing with burnout, which will last much longer and is a lot harder to get through and come back out of, but it’s less visible to other people, and so it’s less embarrassing and less stressful in that way. I have to be very careful about managing my internal resources, which is where all the stereotypical autistic traits start coming into play - special interests, hyperfocus, stimming, sensory issues, sensitivity, etc. I need to be able to make use of all of those that I’m able to leverage in order to cut out all the things that are irritating me or stressing me out and recharge and recover so that I have something left to work with for dealing with the challenges a neurotypical world throws at me. I’m not sure how much this might help with Ezra given his age and being non-verbal compared to me, because every autistic person is different and experiences and handles things a bit differently, but it might have helped in this situation if you’d been able to prepare him for these changes more in advance and over a longer period of time. For me, things that stress me out are easier to deal with if I know to expect them, have some idea what to expect (the more details the better, to make sure that I understand what’s coming vs. being taken by surprise - while understanding that I may still be taken by surprise if I misunderstood something), because then I can start managing my resources in advance and have an easier time handling the changes when they actually come. But it’s probably also useful to let him know clearly if there are still some unknowns, so that he can prepare for those as well (like, “we don’t know exactly when it will come” or “we’re not sure how long it’ll take to set it up and get it ready”, or in this case maybe even “when it comes, it might have some unusual smells that will go away over a few days or a few weeks”). That way, even if the changes are still too much to handle, they at least won’t take him quite as much by surprise, and over time as he gets older, he’ll be able to learn better how to prepare himself in advance and be a bit less overwhelmed by things. Experience helps a lot, especially when you know how and where to apply that experience.
Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤️ I think you hit the nail on the head. 😊 it did just take some time for him to get used to it, and that her preparation might have helped, although I don’t think he would’ve understood until it actually happened. But I think you’re exactly right in your perception of things. Thanks for watching and being here. We try and have a routine around bedtime and that does really help Ezra…
Amazing Parents. Loving, supportive siblings. I hope Ezra becomes comfortable with his new bed, soon. We all know that kids, in general, don’t like change, and usually more so with Special Needs kids. Beautiful family.
Thank you so much! It's so nice to have help from the whole family. I am blessed to have a wonderful husband who is in the trenches with me and older kids who step up all the time. thank you for your kind words! -Holly
that is awesome. Didn't know this is available. I have an autistic granddaughter and we have found many surprises when we wake up. This would be very safe.
@@7Aheadfamily Autism is so horrible. I wish I knew what is she thinking and does she understand what we are saying. Hopefully someday we will understand about these sweet babies. She is always happy, though. At least, most of the time. I wish you well. Your family is so sweet to help with Ezra.
You have a very patient family. It must be hard for the other kids to have everything be about Ezra. I hope they have their time to be the center of the family attention. Prayers for you all.
Yes, you bring up a good point. We do have to spend more time with Ezra’ and Simon than with the other kids. But one thing we do that helps the situation, is planning kid nights. A kid night is when one child gets to go on a date with one parent. The child gets to pick what to do and they have the whole evening Together. We take turns having each child have their own kid night. :-) every month. This works out and helps the kids not feel ignored.
We’ve been doing “kid nights” ever since they were really small. And now that our older ones are teenagers they still want their kids might. I thought they’d feel too cool and our grow them but not yet!
Mom Dad, you are doing an Amazing job with All your Children. You involve all the older children help with the figuring out what might help reach what your Sons trying to communicate. AMAZING JOB lots of Love , and understanding in this Family!!
I'm 60 now, and never diagnosed, but I know I would definitely not like sleeping in something that blocked my ability to see out. Definitely not in a room with no light source, I insisted on a night light. My mom was very insensitive so she didn't understand. I think I'm more along the lines of empathic sensitivity, but from what I'm learning thanks to RUclips, I have some autistic traits as well. Then again, many of the same issues I have seem to apply to both, such as not handling change well among other things. I always knew I was different & couldn't handle as much as other people, but learned to mask & spent a lot of time alone to recuperate. Sensory overload causes me to seem "slow" to other people because I can't process when I'm overloaded. People are only now starting to understand that some of us just can't "toughen up." Sensory overload causes me to focus on anything to shut out what's going on around me, such as the floor, or looking out a window at a tree. There's so much more we need to learn. You're doing a great job with your children, don't get me wrong. I just wanted to maybe give you some ideas of the way thought processes can be so different. I know I wouldn't have done well in a large family, too much going on causes me to withdraw and try to block out what's going on around me because it's more stressful to me compared to what most people consider a normal day. The stress I'm talking about is also that fight or flight type of physical reaction, cortisol being the bodies natural adrenaline, to environment even though other people don't think there's a reason for someone to react with a fear response. Just being different is stressful, actually, so I resort to being alone where my body can calm down, because being around people requires masking. I hope this helps, I realize there's different levels of autism, and what I've experienced may not be what another experiences. I know textures were very important to me, some soothing, others not, such as clothing, blankets and pillows, just to name a few. Light was another. My mom couldn't understand why I couldn't go to sleep for the night when it was still daylight outside as it is in the summer, and needed blackout curtains, but didn't want my bedroom completely dark. May sound like a crazy thing to be sensitive about, but I'm pretty sure there's been some research done on the sun and daylights effect on sleep. I'll say again I can see you're doing your best to help those little ones, and that's a wonderful way to be! I wish my mom had tried as much instead of feeling like I was just wanting attention, or being picky. I don't think she realized how that affected my self esteem.
20 yrs ago I worked for CPS. I had a case where a child had severe autism. He would get up in the night & turn the stove on & do other dangerous things. His family had turned his bedroom into a fortress, nails windows shut & looking the door. I got the case because he had gotten out of the house & was found wandering the streets. So glad that they have developed these safety beds to protect children. Some people don't understand the problem with 24 hour supervision.
I would think if medical insurance pays for a care taker for various diagnosis, a night care taker should be available to families who have children who would be dangerous to themselves without supervision. Like a night nanny ,to sit with the kids at night ,they could listen to podcasts with ear buds or something.
@@blazefairchild465 Sometimes a "safe haven bed" where the child can't leave by themselves and they are trained to have certain times in there helps the child and the caretakers very much. The child knows it can relax there, the caretakers can sleep also in a separate room. With one ear open as parents with children do, but for themselves and without second thoughts. Helps significantly. You only need a nightwatch besides someone if there are conditions like f.ex. epilepsy, self-harm or something like uncontrollable bloodsugarlevels, if there's not another solution available. And it is nice to have peace of mind and not having another person in the household at all times. So props to safe bed developers!
Happened to notice a red popsicle. Some people are prone to reactions from red and blue dyes, chemicals, etc. I imagine it is something you are aware of. Like the teamwork of your family.
I saw that also, dyes are detrimental for these kids. I had to take all sugar and dies out of our diet for our son. This was 40 years ago, when dyes were a little less than they are today. Home cooked and organic. He lives with me today . He manages well , but at highly stressful times, he still loses it sometimes. My son is a meat eater. Meat and sticky rice.
Hi!!! New here. I just watched your rv tour and see you’re now in a house!!! Ezra is so cute!!! I love his name!!! And all the kids are so helpful it’s great!!! Idk a lot about autism but I do see that you’re Fantastic parents!!!💛
Check with your insurance. If your child is handicapped you might get it free. My daughter got one for her son. Otherwise cost would have been $5000. But the loud constant talking is not good for autistic children.
I taught twins in a day care they both had different things that calmed them down sounds crazy but a closet is hard to break .One brother was very calm and love to both nap or go in the closet to play there was to much going on in the classroom We never shut the door but just a little open He slept great. Each of the twins were different in their learning skills John learned how to print simple words at age 5 His brother was happy to sit and turn cars in circles. Accept what they can do and be encouraging. Life is a journey and just love them . Be grateful for simple things when they are still young. I also found having pictures of each activity help them know where to go and it was less frustrating for both boys. Neither of the boys could talk. God bless your family you are all doing great. The help from the other children is done out of love good for them.
LOVE the entire family support ❤ when we changed my sons bed, he had to spend a few days playing on it before he’d sleep on it. He’s since regressed again, now he only sleeps in his rocking recliner chair, sleeps well in it, but we just applied for a Cubby Bed (similar to this) due to new eloping abilities at night.
My mom is 88 years old and jokes about how she used to sleep in a cage. As a toddler she slept in a cast iron crib that had a hinged cover on it. I guess the new safety beds aren't that new of an idea after all.
@@7AheadfamilyI admit (at first) I was a little taken aback by the fact that the kids can't get out of the tents...Then my brain reminded me that I have NO idea what raising kids w autism is like so maybe I should just shut up & watch the video & maybe I'd learn something! 😂 So I did and I did! 😅 Now I absolutely understand why. See? You didn't even have to tell me off, I told myself off LOL Jokes aside, all the best to you & your family! You guys are doing a great job! 🙂💛
Thanks for watching the video. The purpose of our videos is to help spread awareness of our unique normal raising Autistic kids. So thank you for taking the time to see what we shared in the movie. And you are so funny! ❤️
I'm so happy for you guys and for Ezra! Will Simon get a new bed too at some point?? My just about 3 year old got a new safety bed yesterday and slept in in for the first time tonight!!
@@7Aheadfamily we ended up getting one called the safety sleeper by Abrams nation. It came be broken down and set up again with an air mattress if we travel.
It really is! Well said. I am surprised at how many people are reacting negatively to our family, but I love it. The chaos of sweet little ones helping each other is what we are used to. ❤️
I have recently started to look into autism- I think I might be autistic from all I’ve seen so far- this video reminds me of when I moved from my toddler bed to my ‘big girl bed’ i was about 4-6 and I cried the whole first night because it was a new bed with new bedding- and I wanted my old room back (we had also redone the whole bedroom) it was to much and I just cried. Now I’m in an entirely different room and when I first moved in here we did it slow and I kept the same bedding for a while. This is one of my many reasons that I think I could have autism ❤
I slept in an indoor tent, ball pit, and bunk bed as a child and now a canopy bed. This makes me feel not alone in needing to sleep in tight spaces. Thank you
@@7Aheadfamily I am a bit confused, because I wrote two comments (because the first one disappeared) and know the second one did also. I hope that is only a fault of my RUclips-App and you can see the comments. If not I will write a third one about the Kayserbetten-safetybeds.
How does Ezra feel about pillow forts? That’s what the safety beds remind me of-I’d absolutely sleep in the new one… my cat might not like being unable to move in and out easily, though.
My dad was put in a bed like that while in the nursing home. Then the state came in and said those types of beds cause some to have anxiety and panic, which my dad had. Once he was in a regular bed he slept normal. I hope this works for your son.
5:48 "It smells weird, it smells like plastic. The smell might be bugging him, but...". Why _but?_ The smell might have been bugging him. Please don't dismiss that possibility...
It takes time to disappate. It's overwhelming and gives us headaches even when we're not autistic. We can't breathe with those chemical smells from new beds
@@7Aheadfamily Thank you for your gracious reply. I'm sorry, I thought I had edited my first draft and added "please". I didn't mean to come off sounding judgmental. I did come on strong because I (like VioletEmerald) am very sensitive to such toxic chemicals and smells, and empathize with any child or animal who may not be able to communicate their experience to us. 😇 🙏
I'm on the spectrum myself and I would say the smell was probably quite overwhelming at first. Having some time to let the chemically smell of new fabrics/plastics settle and having comforting smells of people he knows take over was probably a massive help. The way smells can instantly hit you and trigger memories/feelings can be tough even when you are kind of ready for them. Personally anything too perfumy or fake smelling (like air fresheners) makes me uncomfortable very quickly. Having something like clothes or a blanket/pillow that has not been washed too recently (not filthy but just used) would likely help with any new experiences in the future. Any sensation of home goes a long way.
@sasquatchpjs, My husband taught me that trick when taking our kitties to the vet__an white t-shirt he wore goes into the carrier beforehand and they feel less stressed. 🐾😺💖
It would probably take a week to me to, mostly because it would scare me to not be able to leave the bed by myself, but I understand that thats kind of the point with this beds and it seems good if it works.
I'm a parapro at a school and I can definitely see how that bed would be VERY helpful for some of the autistic kids I've worked with. I'm also autistic myself and I think that looks like a lovely cave to sleep in, I imagine I would have enjoyed it as a kid.
It reminds me of the privacy pop bed tents. I have one and use it when I have severe migraines. It’s all black and great for people who have eye pain from migraines! You might want to tell him it’s like camping.
It's the planner in me, but I would definitely have a fire extinguisher very close by and something very sharp to get someone out of there quickly. The problem to solve is how do you keep those very same items out of the reach of the one who probably gets into everything and shouldn't have those.
@@7Aheadfamily - I hate to say this, and I don't want to sound dramatic, but it's probably quite hard trying to fumble around for a zipper if there is smoke. I also thank you for taking it as constructive advice that it is meant to be. :)
I think a knife or scissors would be more difficult. The zipper is extra large, (really big) but you have a point, if someone was trying to get him out and didn’t know where the zipper was, then that would cause a problem.
Some of the problem may also be the coloring. His old shelter hut was black in coloring and dark and cool in temperature. The new one is white which is good for claustrophobia. If the color can’t be change, maybe hang up dark curtains inside with Velcro to be removed if necessary. 🙏💕🙏💕🙏
My son is Autistic and has a special mattress.. that has an Alarm on it , coz he has fits as well sometimes .. but he used to jump on his bed and scared hims coz of the Motion Alarm on his Mattress.. it’s as amazing the things that are made to help sick children . I’m so happy this young boy has his special bed
I have autism and one thing that calms me down is small spaces. I'd love to sleep in a bed like Ezra's cause it's a small space. I'd be way to tall for that one though.
@@7Aheadfamily I have a bunk bed now, but I used to have a safety bed. I enjoyed that bed cause it was a closed space. As I got older I learned the dangers of elopement, but I used to run a lot.
@@blakeexaviar9370 Cool, glad you learned the dangers. 😊 Ezra’s not there yet, and when he goes, he does not come back. 😜 losing him at night would be extremely dangerous.
@@7Aheadfamily I believe one day him and Simon will understand. They're 3 and 7, but I'm 16, so I'm quite a few years older, so hopefully when they're my age they'll grow out of it, or they begin to understand. For now you're doing a great job keeping them safe and happy, so good job.
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As a mom with an autistic son of 24 yrs, it seems probably that your son is uncomfortable with too much sensory input around him. Many people speaking, bright lights, the new smell of the bed, etc. Also, if he's accustomed to a routine, sudden changes also can affect him. A quiet, dim lit, peaceful bedtime routine might help. God bless your beautiful family. Love how the siblings help out.💓
I really hope they see this and consider really trying it. I don’t have an autistic child, but I am non neurotypical myself and have two nephews on the spectrum. I really think you’re right.
You are right. We didn’t realize it then, but I think the smell really made a difference.
Exactly what I thought. Too much going on!! Sensory overload.
Absolutely. Way too much.
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The way the older siblings are so involved and helping is so heartwarming!🥹😍
Thank you💕
It's so touching to see how the siblings help Ezra brush his teeth, make his bed for him, etc. What a sweet family!
They are really the best! Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
@@UnapologeticallyLexi they are not. They help. This is how it is with families with multiple children.
I don't think the small little acts of service that our older children do is toxic. They want to help and jump right in and start helping because they sincerely care for their younger siblings, not because we are demanding it from them, I hope that makes sense. We could easily expect too much of them, but we really don't. They have their own rooms and have their own lessons, interests. Mark does Piano, runs, and is a little chef, and Benson does parkour, twice a week and would play Minecraft on his Nintendo switch all day if we let him. He was some amazing creations in there and builds amazing lego creations. and Marie takes Piano lessons, and tap lessons ( i teach tap lessons from my garage for a little extra money) and we go on kid dates with them individually all the time, (monthly) the reason I share this is to help illustrate that they have their individual lives, too we don't treat them as if their purpose in life is to just take care of the younger ones. We don't have it ALL figured out, we still are learning, but we are getting some great parenting advice from youtube comments, (that last bit was meant to be sarcastic, but in all honesty someone pointed out a place on line where we could buy better Pajamas for the boys, and I am ordering some right now. 😄
@@7Aheadfamilyignore ignorant people. Families help other family members, it's what we do. Only people that are sad, lonely and pathetic don't know that. Unapologetically ignorant people like Lexi will never understand a loving family - they are broken beyond repair usually.
Hopefully no one is broken beyond repair. We should try to avoid being judgmental of others we barely know. Whether that is someone who makes RUclips videos or someone who made one comment on one. ❤️😊❤️
God bless this whole family especially the siblings who help their parents and the parents for being a great example of what love between parents and their children should always be like. Blessings to this family!!
Wow! Thank you so much. I needed your kind words today -Holly
I love when parents go the extra-extra mile for their kids who have individual needs. I did the same and do not regret it. It actually gives me happy memories as it will you.
Thank you so much! ❤️ Yes. Having Ezra and Simon in our lives, though sometimes hard, is a tremendous blessing for everyone. 😊
@@7Aheadfamily Wonderful that you have done information sharing. To bring others in means more ideas and support.
More can be done, we have to find new protocols. Not drugs. Slow things down without using medication. Exoskeleton, Visual Reality glasses, braces, weighted shoes, light signals.
Autism should be addressed with visual cues. So should walking for mobility impaired people. Wear a belt, it sends a light impulse when we've over extended
and a fall could result.
Many of us have seen parents of special needs kids. Late life, the exhaustion shows. It’s hard hard work.
So far, we’re waiting, we're talking to doctors, we’re talking to each other in support groups.
Answers are to be found in information sharing, which is what you’re doing here.
Simple solutions can be close at hand. British parents had tried everything. Their daughter was petrified of water. After trying everything, they got a lead for a Maine Coon cat. These gentle giant cats love water. Cat and daughter were besties from the start.
That is so awesome! Thank you for sharing! Yes, we believe that we can all help one another as we share our successes and failures with parenting. 😊
My daughter is autistic but much lower needs. I admire the pure love and strength of these parents and siblings.
Thank you so much! And thanks for sharing
Really sweet to see Ezra's siblings support him by showing enthusiasm for his new bed.
Thank you so much!
Honestly as an late diagnosed adult w/ an autism spectrum disorder… this bed is looking so comfy, and snuggly. Love this.
Right, thanks for watching and sharing. ❤️
Hi. What an amazing bed. I would have loved one of these for our autistic son when he was a toddler. We had many a sleeple
ss night because he would not stay in bed and we would be worried he would get up once we were asleep. A stair gate kept him in his room but I still worried about what he was getting up to in there. He was diagnosed at 2yrs old and was non verbal until around 4 when he was given more speech and language therapy because he started nursery and then school. He is now 24yrs old and has surpassed all the mile stones that when diagnosed was taken away from us. You all as a family are doing a wonderful job raising two boys with autism. Just keep doing what your doing and pass milestone after milestone as a loving family that you are. God bless you all. Xxxx
Wow. This made me tear up. Thank you so much. ❤️ it is difficult to make unique divisions sometimes for Autistic kids cause their needs are so different sometimes. But we appreciate your kind words. How old is your son now? How is he doing?
@@7Aheadfamilycomment says he’s 24…and implies he’s doing well
Yeah. Sorry I missed that part. ☺️ Thank you for pointing that out! ❤️❤️❤️
NOT a good job, but they CAN if they wake up & learn how to properly feed him! The bed may be awesome, but should have been set up outside for a week to get rid of toxic fumes! It's probably from china & if, again, you do your homework, things shipped from overseas are treated/sprayed with horrendous toxic chemicals to prevent mold/rat & other infestations.
@@7Aheadfamily I have an adult son on the spectrum. Your sons response is pretty normal and I instantly recognized his posture of trying to process what this new thing is in his room and what does it have to do with him. It does take awhile for them to get aquatinted to new things as you well know.
I didn't know about safety beds when our son was younger and we could have benefitted from it as our son was and still is to some degree a wanderer.
We lost our son one time when he was about 5 years old. I was using the bathroom and walked out and the door was open and he was gone. We had to call 911 and I'll never forget that frantic feeling. One of our neighbors found him in an open lot and me and/or my husband slept in the living room for a few years after that so we could catch him quicker if he walked out again. (We put bells and other noisy things on the door so we could hear if it was being opened.) I still do at times to this day even though he is a lot better at staying put. 😆😆
You are awesome parents to very beautiful children. All of them Gods gifts to us. 🤗🤗
Ok when Simon waved back. That was just adorable. He's learning fast. And I do hope, Ezra lives a healthy life too
Thanks for watching and commenting, and we do too!!
It is such a benefit for the whole family caring for the special needs of the younger boys. A really special family an example to show that new parents don’t need to be afraid if their children have special needs. 😊
Thank you, yes, all the children are such a blessing. ❤️
One of my grandsons has autism and is mute. They diagnosed him via a blood sample and when they told my daughter he has genetic autism she laughed and asked if that was why they did the blood test, because if it was she could have told them it's genetic. One of her brothers also has it. Exactly the same. My daughter and grandson are learning sign language, much to the delight of one of their neighbours who's son is deaf. Good luck with everything. Best wishes from England.
I love that they are learning sign language. I really tried to get Ezra to do some signs. His brain just doesn’t work that way. And know quite a bit of sign language, and have some deaf friends. I think the world would be a better place if more people knew sign language. :-) thank you for sharing. I have a cousin and a nephew who are Autistic as well.-Holly
There is no such thing as a blood test. Someone bamboozled you guys
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Wow. That’s really cool. ❤️❤️❤️
Depending upon which geneticist you talk to, there are as many as 23 different genes that can cause/trigger autism.
I agree with the researchers who think autism is a catch all for a host of related disorders. It can present so differently, and what helps one can be a disaster for another.
Our granddaughter is autistic and loves rocking and swinging. So when we moved and purchased new furniture, we took her shopping with us and got her her own rocking recliner. She doesn’t ever recline, but sits and rock a lot.
That is great. What a great way to have her stim in a safe way!
I think this couple is incredible, working so hard together for their normal
Thank you so much! ❤️
I love how your children love and care for each other. Blessings to you all 😊
You are so kind, thank you so much for watching and commenting ❤️
Beautiful that these children have the support of a whole family ❤
You are so kind!❤❤
I have 3 autistic grown up sons...the best way to help them cope is to have
1. A quiet household
2. Routine
3. Dim lights at night all around the house
3. Meditation misic playing
5. Special diet ( no dairy and no gluten)
6. Never shout at them or hit them...always ask for eye contact and explain to them gently using empathy and making them see how another would feel in regards to bad behaviour
7. Let them be....if they have obsessions like lining up toys let them do it
8. Ecourage them by praising them
9. No closed in spaces ( they hate restriction it damages them)
10. No sensory lights...they can trigger them...especially if they play computer games( should be time limited as it triggers something in their brains and makes them flip out
My sons are now 19, 21 and 23...all at college and working part time!
Why and how???
Because they have to have their rigidity flexed so that they can cope in the real world...too many parents hear autism and think "limited!" And dont push to help the child adjust in social settings...
Autism is a gift...find their gift and let them pursue their dreams ...
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Hey you give some beautiful advices ❤❤❤❤and took your time 👏👏super true what you are saying!!!!!! 🎉
What wonderful parents, what a wonderful family. So sweet. God bless your happy, busy home. 🙏❤️
You are so kind! Thanks for watching and commenting ❤️
Keep on keeping on! Your tenacity is admirable! Your outlook on life with 2 autistic children should be in a book, ,maybe in 5 or 10 years when your trials and errors have been practiced. You have blessed many viewers including this old lady! I am so happy to see your transparency dealing with your two, very special autistic children. To be so encouraging not only with the two boys struggling to understand their special world, but the hands on love, patience, acceptance, and eagerness of their older siblings is just righteous beauty! JUST SO VERY REFRESHING, I COMMEND YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY!!
How often do you put your videos up? That would be such a blessing to me!! The old lady !!
Thank you so much! ❤️ We really try! 😊
Wow! Thank you so much. You got me all teary-eyed. Thanks for your kind words. Do you know any people who have Autism?
We have been posting every day lately. usually shorts, but about 2 long form every week. We'll do some educational videos of Autism with examples of our kids, and also add in some vlogs too. have you had a chance to take a look at the channel? We have about 300 videos already. (but our older ones are about how we went to all the National Parks in an RV) So they may not be relavant, but they are of our family and we always include our 2 Autistic kids in our travels. ❤️
The way your older children help with your autistic children melts my heart. You clearly raised them well.
Thank you for sharing. ❤️
@@7Aheadfamily hello I’m new and plus I ahve sensory processing issues my biggest issue with it is my ears so yeah
And I have bad grammar so yeah and I have a RUclips channel I like Learningblocks and Bluey
Our kids love Bluey too!
Welcome!
I couldn't do what you do! To have children that don't settle down and cry a lot it was hard for me to watch the Video. It surely is a real blessing to have a husband who is involved with the children. His love for them is evident and your children know it too!
Thank you so much! ❤️ Yeah. Adam is such a great dad for them! 😊
oh boy oh boy... so many blessings to see... the kindness of the bigger children to the younger ones... wonderful mum n dad... Our Lord to bless you, guide you, to hold you tight.
You are so kind, thank you so much, and right back at you. 😊
It's a big change for a little guy. I love that some of the sibs were trying to help problem solve and give support.
Yes! Very true. It was a group effort! ❤️
I worked in a hospital that had patients with brain injuries. A few of them required beds like this for their own safety. They were great, allowing mobility and freedom of movement during a time when mobility was more advanced than judgement.
Yes, we love ❤️ this bed. Thanks for watching and sharing. ❤️
I think this would benefit Ezra massively. I’m very exited for the whole family. Especially Ezra. I would totally sleep in that bed. You guys are awesome
Thank you. :-) Yes, this will benefit the whole family for sure ❤️
I’d so sleep in a bed like that but one that’s like black or something since I like how the color looks on appliances only hard thing is my room is pretty little even with my sister and I being in that room so it’d have to be one like that but like a twin size or something but I love how the zipper part of it gives camping energy
@@J_Games_And_More7216 so true! And we love camping as well!!! 😊 not sure if you saw that we visited and ranked all the national parks….
@@J_Games_And_More7216 Every U.S. National Park We've been to Ranked (Contiguous States)
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GREAT PARENTS~!!! How wonderful that you parents have surrounded ALL your kids with love... so they are included in assisting their siblings with so much love and support.
Thank you so much! These are kind words that we won't forget! ❤️
My son is 38 now. He weighed 1 lb 5 oz when he was born. He is autisic and was legally blind until he got fast growing cataracts about 10 yrs ago. He had them removed but they grew back. Now he is completely blind. Anyway, since before he could even walk, he loved to watch Jeopardy, Wheel of Fortune, and Price is Right. He also played with word flash cards. Anything with words was his "thing". He still loves these shows today and repeats some of the words..basically the only time he talks with a few exceptions. I guess he can remember what the hosts look like. 😊 It makes me so sad that he can't see anymore and is hard for me to deal with.
I’m so sorry to hear your son has lost his eyesight. 😢 Sending sending prayers and hugs your way ❤️. Let us know if there’s anything we can do to help.
Oh I am so sorry.
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The bed is wonderful. The parents are hero's, as are all parents with autistic children.
Thank you ❤️
Seeing the way you put your sons pj's on took me back. My son who also has autism (20 now) used to smear his poop for years. He was doubly incontinent till 14 so this was always a massive issue for us. We used to put his onsies on backwards too but then he found out how to get them off. We had to buy special ones made especially to prevent him taking his pad off. But with special needs, comes special prices. So glad we don't have this issue anymore. Love your sons reaction to his bed. His excitement over such a big change is really nice to see.
We also had a special bed and it gave us peace of mind knowing he was safe so I can totally empathise with you guys.
Thank you so much for sharing. Because of this video we put up we found out about a company that makes sleep-wear for older kids that they can’t take off, I am so happy to find it. I was thinking that I would have to try my hand at sewing something big for him. Lol! You guys know so much more than us, since your child is older. We should be asking your advice on stuff. ❤️
Amazing brothers and parents. I understand your family very well. We have to be very patient with autistic boy or girl. GOD BLESS THIS FAMILY.
Thank you so much.
This is so like one of my grandsons when he was little. He’s supposed to be high functioning. Unfortunately at now 18 years old nothing has helped him with his violent outbursts. His father’s not much help and neither are his older brothers as by now have become resentful for all the restrictions placed on them because everything has been a trigger all these years. He’s now taller than my daughter and too strong for her to handle, especially when he yanks her hair off her head as she’s helping him in the bathroom. Wishing all the parents of autistic kids in the world, infinite patience and strength. ♥️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
That sounds incredibly difficult. Thank you for sharing. Sometimes medicine can help calm the nerves and aggression, but it’s different for each person. Hope things can get better.
@@7Aheadfamily , he’s even been on medical marijuana with no difference. I could share some horrible stories but wouldn’t dare…😭
I am so sorry to hear that. ❤️ our love goes out to you and your family.
@@linato1855 been a caregiver in group homes when kids age out and their parents just aren't able to handle them anymore. Many become violent, even on meds, and parents just aren't able to take getting beaten up. I get it...
It sounds like you do get it. ❤️
I soooo love that bed! Ezra is very fortunate to have such a supportive family watching out for him.
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I can only imagine how exhausting this must be. You are awesome💙💙💙💙💙💙
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It is exhausting and no government help as far as child care so a single Mom can get a job and not be homeless..
Change is scary. 70+ years autistic, diagnosed at 17, they have learned so much in these decades. I learned, with little help, how to pass as neurotypical-ish. But the underlying fears never have changed, or lessened. I'm just more practiced at hiding them.
That makes sense. Thank you for sharing. I am sure you have much wisdom to share. Thank you.
as an autistic myself, diagnosed in 2014, i agree, i hate change, it usually if not always is bad or scary, and God knows we have had a lot of change and i cant say its good(ill spare the details, i dont think anyone wants to read them), i would wonder if something soft and cuddly like a teddy bear would help him, it helps me.
Change can be scary. ❤️ We have tried to give him stuffed bears before, he would mostly just throw them, but
every once in a while he would hold them. ❤️ Thank you for the suggestion! 😊😊😊
Same here, but diagnosed at age 66, way too late to get help since I managed with great effort to imitate the neurotypical enough to get through life without total rejection. As I watch this I find all the commotion and focus on the new bed by all the family members with people coming and going and talking and shouting to be way overwhelming to me and, obviously, to the boy covering his ears and holding his head. And then to just force him, both mentally and physically, makes no sense at all. This should have been done way more quietly and drawn out over many days for a smoother transition. Big brother is a rare gem indeed!
You are right. Ezra’s would thrive in a more calm and predictable environment. It’s pretty difficult to create the optimal environment for my two younger autistic children. But we can put more effort into it. Thank you for the reminder.
Lovely parents. You deserve an award. 🎉
You are so kind. Thanks for watching and commenting. ❤️
Why would anyone need an award for being a parent u do it unconditional
@@lucyllewellyn2850 quite agree, but how many unsung heroes are out there caring full time for handicapped children. I’ve spent most of my life nursing handicapped children who go on to becoming handicapped adults. One person I helped was a 90 year old lady who was still the carer for her 70 year old child who was totally autistic and sat in a pushchair all day nursing her doll. Love is unconditional but for some life is that bit harder and life means life.
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Agreed, a positive comment can go along way in helping someone, especially on a rough day. ❤️. Thank you for your kindness ❤️
I ❤️ the Support, Patience and ❤️ that your Family especially your kids, his siblings displayed on this video their actions showed how well their being raised…😊🙃
Well, you are so kind. ❤️ Thank you for watching and commenting. You might also like a day in the life video…
A Day in the Life of Mild Autism and Severe Autism
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Simon was so nice, moving back into his own bed quietly. I hope you can get him a big bed soon!
I know! We need to get him a big bed. Maybe with PJ masks bedding!
I’m self-diagnosed autistic and 50 years old and this bed seems super cool to me. I didn’t even know such a thing existed, but I think I would love it even now! It’s hard to say from just the video, but I think he was most likely just overwhelmed by the whole thing - that’s a lot of change all at once and over the course of a day and he seemed like he might have already been spent and had no reserves left for it at the end of his day.
I do love how supportive your whole family seems to be with your two autistic sons - that’s really amazing and I love your other kids for it. It’s a pretty big deal.
For me, I was never non-verbal and my mom said I was pretty easy to raise, but having been me all my life, I do know that I’ve always struggled in various ways that I was just really good at masking (in part because my issues weren’t so severe as to make masking impossible). But I can say with certainty that once I’ve reached my limit, I have no options left and I need to be able to recover before I can deal effectively with anything else again. If I keep pushing myself past my end point, I’m going to wind up in either a meltdown condition which is extremely embarrassing and depressing to go through, or if I’m very “lucky”, I’ll wind up dealing with burnout, which will last much longer and is a lot harder to get through and come back out of, but it’s less visible to other people, and so it’s less embarrassing and less stressful in that way. I have to be very careful about managing my internal resources, which is where all the stereotypical autistic traits start coming into play - special interests, hyperfocus, stimming, sensory issues, sensitivity, etc. I need to be able to make use of all of those that I’m able to leverage in order to cut out all the things that are irritating me or stressing me out and recharge and recover so that I have something left to work with for dealing with the challenges a neurotypical world throws at me.
I’m not sure how much this might help with Ezra given his age and being non-verbal compared to me, because every autistic person is different and experiences and handles things a bit differently, but it might have helped in this situation if you’d been able to prepare him for these changes more in advance and over a longer period of time. For me, things that stress me out are easier to deal with if I know to expect them, have some idea what to expect (the more details the better, to make sure that I understand what’s coming vs. being taken by surprise - while understanding that I may still be taken by surprise if I misunderstood something), because then I can start managing my resources in advance and have an easier time handling the changes when they actually come. But it’s probably also useful to let him know clearly if there are still some unknowns, so that he can prepare for those as well (like, “we don’t know exactly when it will come” or “we’re not sure how long it’ll take to set it up and get it ready”, or in this case maybe even “when it comes, it might have some unusual smells that will go away over a few days or a few weeks”). That way, even if the changes are still too much to handle, they at least won’t take him quite as much by surprise, and over time as he gets older, he’ll be able to learn better how to prepare himself in advance and be a bit less overwhelmed by things. Experience helps a lot, especially when you know how and where to apply that experience.
Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤️ I think you hit the nail on the head. 😊 it did just take some time for him to get used to it, and that her preparation might have helped, although I don’t think he would’ve understood until it actually happened. But I think you’re exactly right in your perception of things. Thanks for watching and being here. We try and have a routine around bedtime and that does really help Ezra…
Night Time Routine for Mild Autism and Severe Autism
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I’m 66 and think I may be autistic. Where do you get tested at my age?
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Are you in the United States?
Amazing Parents. Loving, supportive siblings. I hope Ezra becomes comfortable with his new bed, soon. We all know that kids, in general, don’t like change, and usually more so with Special Needs kids. Beautiful family.
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. ❤️ yes, Ezra is enjoying the bed now…
Night Time Routine for Mild Autism and Severe Autism
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I also have 5 kids and the youngest two (now 19 & 18) are autistic. So nice to see your family doing so well! Adorable family! God bless!
Wow, that’s crazy. 😊 Are you also in the United States?
@@7Aheadfamily yes I am. Had a horrible school experience with the youngest.
We’re sorry to hear that. ❤️ God bless you guys! ❤️😊❤️
I can't imagine how exhausting this would be day after day. But you do a fantastic job. God bless you all.
Thank you so much! It's so nice to have help from the whole family. I am blessed to have a wonderful husband who is in the trenches with me and older kids who step up all the time. thank you for your kind words! -Holly
that is awesome. Didn't know this is available. I have an autistic granddaughter and we have found many surprises when we wake up. This would be very safe.
Yes! It’s been literally a life saver for our family. And Ezra loves his bed so much now. How old is your granddaughter?
@@7Aheadfamily She is 10 but maturity age is about 4.
I see. Though Ezra is 7, cognitively he is about 2.
@@7Aheadfamily Autism is so horrible. I wish I knew what is she thinking and does she understand what we are saying. Hopefully someday we will understand about these sweet babies. She is always happy, though. At least, most of the time. I wish you well. Your family is so sweet to help with Ezra.
Autism can be hard. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️❤️❤️
You have a very patient family. It must be hard for the other kids to have everything be about Ezra. I hope they have their time to be the center of the family attention. Prayers for you all.
Yes, you bring up a good point. We do have to spend more time with Ezra’ and Simon than with the other kids. But one thing we do that helps the situation, is planning kid nights. A kid night is when one child gets to go on a date with one parent. The child gets to pick what to do and they have the whole evening Together. We take turns having each child have their own kid night. :-) every month. This works out and helps the kids not feel ignored.
@@7Aheadfamily What a great way for the others to have "their" time. Thank you for responding. I think every family could benefit from a kids night.
We’ve been doing “kid nights” ever since they were really small. And now that our older ones are teenagers they still want their kids might. I thought they’d feel too cool and our grow them but not yet!
Mom Dad, you are doing an Amazing job with All your Children.
You involve all the older children help with the figuring out what might help reach what your Sons trying to communicate. AMAZING JOB lots of Love , and understanding in this Family!!
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I'm 60 now, and never diagnosed, but I know I would definitely not like sleeping in something that blocked my ability to see out. Definitely not in a room with no light source, I insisted on a night light. My mom was very insensitive so she didn't understand. I think I'm more along the lines of empathic sensitivity, but from what I'm learning thanks to RUclips, I have some autistic traits as well. Then again, many of the same issues I have seem to apply to both, such as not handling change well among other things. I always knew I was different & couldn't handle as much as other people, but learned to mask & spent a lot of time alone to recuperate. Sensory overload causes me to seem "slow" to other people because I can't process when I'm overloaded. People are only now starting to understand that some of us just can't "toughen up." Sensory overload causes me to focus on anything to shut out what's going on around me, such as the floor, or looking out a window at a tree. There's so much more we need to learn. You're doing a great job with your children, don't get me wrong. I just wanted to maybe give you some ideas of the way thought processes can be so different. I know I wouldn't have done well in a large family, too much going on causes me to withdraw and try to block out what's going on around me because it's more stressful to me compared to what most people consider a normal day. The stress I'm talking about is also that fight or flight type of physical reaction, cortisol being the bodies natural adrenaline, to environment even though other people don't think there's a reason for someone to react with a fear response. Just being different is stressful, actually, so I resort to being alone where my body can calm down, because being around people requires masking. I hope this helps, I realize there's different levels of autism, and what I've experienced may not be what another experiences. I know textures were very important to me, some soothing, others not, such as clothing, blankets and pillows, just to name a few. Light was another. My mom couldn't understand why I couldn't go to sleep for the night when it was still daylight outside as it is in the summer, and needed blackout curtains, but didn't want my bedroom completely dark. May sound like a crazy thing to be sensitive about, but I'm pretty sure there's been some research done on the sun and daylights effect on sleep. I'll say again I can see you're doing your best to help those little ones, and that's a wonderful way to be! I wish my mom had tried as much instead of feeling like I was just wanting attention, or being picky. I don't think she realized how that affected my self esteem.
Thank you so much for watching, commenting, and sharing. ❤️ We are sorrry to hear you had to go through that when you where young. ❤️
yup. reminds me of dog kennels.
Simon’s bed is actually made for a dog, and he loves it. He doesn’t like a regular bed. ❤️
Beautiful family and so loving! Bless them all.
Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
That´s awesome. Great job. You all are so working hard on this ❤
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. 😊
Ahh such patient supportive parents love you for this. Dont worry he will being so much joy to your life in the future.
Thank you for this kind reply. I needed this today. ❤️
20 yrs ago I worked for CPS. I had a case where a child had severe autism. He would get up in the night & turn the stove on & do other dangerous things. His family had turned his bedroom into a fortress, nails windows shut & looking the door.
I got the case because he had gotten out of the house & was found wandering the streets.
So glad that they have developed these safety beds to protect children. Some people don't understand the problem with 24 hour supervision.
Thank you for sharing. It is a real problem and you’re right, most people don’t understand how serious it is.
Thank you so much for watching, commenting, and sharing. ❤️ We are also very grateful for safety beds. 😊
I would think if medical insurance pays for a care taker for various diagnosis, a night care taker should be available to families who have children who would be dangerous to themselves without supervision. Like a night nanny ,to sit with the kids at night ,they could listen to podcasts with ear buds or something.
@@blazefairchild465 Sometimes a "safe haven bed" where the child can't leave by themselves and they are trained to have certain times in there helps the child and the caretakers very much. The child knows it can relax there, the caretakers can sleep also in a separate room. With one ear open as parents with children do, but for themselves and without second thoughts. Helps significantly.
You only need a nightwatch besides someone if there are conditions like f.ex. epilepsy, self-harm or something like uncontrollable bloodsugarlevels, if there's not another solution available. And it is nice to have peace of mind and not having another person in the household at all times. So props to safe bed developers!
Thank you! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Much love! Ezra wants to take his time!all your children are wonderful! And so are you,mom and daddy!
Thank you, yeah it just took a little bit. 😊
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Happened to notice a red popsicle. Some people are prone to reactions from red and blue dyes, chemicals, etc. I imagine it is something you are aware of. Like the teamwork of your family.
You are right! We had a friend with a little boy that had to take red die out of his diet and it made a big difference. Maybe we should try that
I saw that also, dyes are detrimental for these kids. I had to take all sugar and dies out of our diet for our son. This was 40 years ago, when dyes were a little less than they are today. Home cooked and organic. He lives with me today . He manages well , but at highly stressful times, he still loses it sometimes. My son is a meat eater. Meat and sticky rice.
Thank you for pointing this out. It’s something that I haven’t thought a lot about, but I’ll look into it
Red dye no. 40 and yellow dye are the worst
Interesting. Thank you so much for the insight! ❤️❤️❤️
God Bless this family…such sweet parents & siblings!❤
Thank you
I love Ezra’s new bed! I think it will be great for him.
Thank you! Yes it will. 😊
Thanks for a window into your world. Sending love and all kinds of good energies to your family!
Thank you so much!
A weighted blanket works good for our autistic grandson who does better nights now. It is well worth the cost
Thank you for sharing! Yes, that’s one thing we still need to try.
@@7AheadfamilyI have one! It's pink (my fav color!) and it helps me lots! It's 25 LBS. but I'm 26 so yea
There are an amazing about of Orbs in the room. So many family members and love ones from Heaven came to help him.
Thank you, yes, I believe we get a lot of help from the other side. 😊
Hi!!! New here. I just watched your rv tour and see you’re now in a house!!! Ezra is so cute!!! I love his name!!! And all the kids are so helpful it’s great!!! Idk a lot about autism but I do see that you’re Fantastic parents!!!💛
Aww, that’s sweet, thank you. ❤️ So, glad you could join us.
Awesome loving family. Hero parents. God bless.
Thank you so much
What a beautiful family! I would love a bed like Ezra’s! ❤
Thank you so much❤️. I know right. 😊
Check with your insurance. If your child is handicapped you might get it free. My daughter got one for her son. Otherwise cost would have been $5000. But the loud constant talking is not good for autistic children.
Yes! Very true! Some insurances will help pay for things like this, if you can prove that they are truly helpful. ❤️ thanks for mentioning that.
I taught twins in a day care they both had different things that calmed them down sounds crazy but a closet is hard to break .One brother was very calm and love to both nap or go in the closet to play there was to much going on in the classroom We never shut the door but just a little open He slept great. Each of the twins were different in their learning skills John learned how to print simple words at age 5 His brother was happy to sit and turn cars in circles. Accept what they can do and be encouraging. Life is a journey and just love them . Be grateful for simple things when they are still young. I also found having pictures of each activity help them know where to go and it was less frustrating for both boys. Neither of the boys could talk. God bless your family you are all doing great. The help from the other children is done out of love good for them.
Thank you so much for commenting and sharing your story! Those are some good ideas ❤️
My only comment is this: I don't know how you do it! Thank you for loving your babies so beautifully.
You are so kind. Thank you! ❤️
Thanks for this clip. I had never heard of safety beds before (yup, living under a rock 😂). What a great concept!
Thank you so much for watching and commenting! ❤️❤️❤️
I've never heard of safety beds before either.
I think it's more common now than ever, since more and more insurance companies are helping to pay for them
Transitions are so hard! You and your family do such a great job adapting and helping the boys! This big safety bed is such a good idea!
Thank you so much!! Appreciate you watching and commenting ❤️
So excited for Ezra!
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Love the new dog bed!
Thanks. The new one is actually made for children. ❤️😊❤️
Those are like tents. Fun and safely cozy.
Right. 😊
Love your positive comments to everyone, no matter what their comments and opinions are. Such positivity will flow through to your family.
Thank you ❤️
The force is strong with this one
❤️love it!
LOVE the entire family support ❤ when we changed my sons bed, he had to spend a few days playing on it before he’d sleep on it. He’s since regressed again, now he only sleeps in his rocking recliner chair, sleeps well in it, but we just applied for a Cubby Bed (similar to this) due to new eloping abilities at night.
Sounds like you know just what we are going through. ❤️ Thank you for watching and sharing your story. ❤️
@@7Aheadfamily absolutely. Often feel alone….I’m happy to see these videos
So glad we can share them and develop this community ❤️.
My mom is 88 years old and jokes about how she used to sleep in a cage. As a toddler she slept in a cast iron crib that had a hinged cover on it. I guess the new safety beds aren't that new of an idea after all.
True. This idea of keeping kids in a contained space is probably ancient. We’re trying to keep them safe.
@@7AheadfamilyI admit (at first) I was a little taken aback by the fact that the kids can't get out of the tents...Then my brain reminded me that I have NO idea what raising kids w autism is like so maybe I should just shut up & watch the video & maybe I'd learn something! 😂
So I did and I did! 😅 Now I absolutely understand why. See? You didn't even have to tell me off, I told myself off LOL
Jokes aside, all the best to you & your family! You guys are doing a great job! 🙂💛
Thanks for watching the video. The purpose of our videos is to help spread awareness of our unique normal raising Autistic kids. So thank you for taking the time to see what we shared in the movie. And you are so funny! ❤️
You are brave and loving. Good wishes.
Thank you so much!
Nice job Holly and Adam & 7-Ahead Family!!!!
Thanks ❤️
@@7Aheadfamily Love Ezra’s new bed. Hope he enjoys it and makes an easy transition to his new bed.
It wasn’t quite easy. 😊 but he is now sleeping in it, so that is great. 😊
I have a little bit of experience with development official failures but you guys are very impressive I thank you for sharing
Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so happy for you guys and for Ezra! Will Simon get a new bed too at some point?? My just about 3 year old got a new safety bed yesterday and slept in in for the first time tonight!!
That is so awesome! What type of safety bed did you guys end up getting? We are hoping that Simon won’t need one, but we will see. 😊
@@7Aheadfamily we ended up getting one called the safety sleeper by Abrams nation. It came be broken down and set up again with an air mattress if we travel.
That is super nice! Yeah, this one definitely doesn’t work for travel. 😊
We will have to look into that as well. 😊
awww now I'm missing my 4 siblings and when we were kids. Big families organized mess is something you need to experience to grasp 🥰
It really is! Well said. I am surprised at how many people are reacting negatively to our family, but I love it. The chaos of sweet little ones helping each other is what we are used to. ❤️
I have recently started to look into autism- I think I might be autistic from all I’ve seen so far- this video reminds me of when I moved from my toddler bed to my ‘big girl bed’ i was about 4-6 and I cried the whole first night because it was a new bed with new bedding- and I wanted my old room back (we had also redone the whole bedroom) it was to much and I just cried. Now I’m in an entirely different room and when I first moved in here we did it slow and I kept the same bedding for a while. This is one of my many reasons that I think I could have autism ❤
That makes sense. New things and big changes can be really difficult. Thank you for sharing.
@@7Aheadfamily of course! Thank you for helping me understand myself and little me a bit better ❤️
And thanks for commenting too! We love hearing from people who watch the channel!
I slept in an indoor tent, ball pit, and bunk bed as a child and now a canopy bed. This makes me feel not alone in needing to sleep in tight spaces. Thank you
That’s great. I bet Ezra would love ❤️ a ball pit to sleep in
In Germany we have wooden safetybeds with doors in it in most cases. Habe never seen such „soft“ safetybeds before. 😉
Wow, that sounds awesome! I would love to check one of those out. 😊 Are there a lot of air vents in those ones?
@@7Aheadfamily I am a bit confused, because I wrote two comments (because the first one disappeared) and know the second one did also. I hope that is only a fault of my RUclips-App and you can see the comments. If not I will write a third one about the Kayserbetten-safetybeds.
Got this comment. 😊 Those look like incredible beds 😊. $17,000, those are expensive as well. 😊
Good job big sister and brother. Very helpful.
Thank you, yes, older siblings are so helpful. 😊
How does Ezra feel about pillow forts? That’s what the safety beds remind me of-I’d absolutely sleep in the new one… my cat might not like being unable to move in and out easily, though.
Ezra likes forts, he just takes them apart when given the chance but he enjoys them. ❤️
And that is very nice of you to let your cat sleep with you.
My dad was put in a bed like that while in the nursing home. Then the state came in and said those types of beds cause some to have anxiety and panic, which my dad had. Once he was in a regular bed he slept normal. I hope this works for your son.
Yes, it has been a huge blessing…
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5:48 "It smells weird, it smells like plastic. The smell might be bugging him, but...". Why _but?_ The smell might have been bugging him. Please don't dismiss that possibility...
Yep, you’re right. It just took a little bit to get him used to it…
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It takes time to disappate. It's overwhelming and gives us headaches even when we're not autistic. We can't breathe with those chemical smells from new beds
True. And I bet the smell did bug him. He loves his bed now that Ezra had some time to get used to it and it doesn’t smell anymore
@@7Aheadfamily Thank you for your gracious reply. I'm sorry, I thought I had edited my first draft and added "please". I didn't mean to come off sounding judgmental. I did come on strong because I (like VioletEmerald) am very sensitive to such toxic chemicals and smells, and empathize with any child or animal who may not be able to communicate their experience to us.
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I think his new bed is awesome and the way you did the transition was great. Congratulations 😊
Thank you!! 😊 we tried. And he did end up loving the bed. ❤️
Lovely family ❤❤
Thank you ❤️
You are very welcome. God bless your family and what's next to come.
Yes! Thank you!
I'm on the spectrum myself and I would say the smell was probably quite overwhelming at first. Having some time to let the chemically smell of new fabrics/plastics settle and having comforting smells of people he knows take over was probably a massive help. The way smells can instantly hit you and trigger memories/feelings can be tough even when you are kind of ready for them. Personally anything too perfumy or fake smelling (like air fresheners) makes me uncomfortable very quickly. Having something like clothes or a blanket/pillow that has not been washed too recently (not filthy but just used) would likely help with any new experiences in the future. Any sensation of home goes a long way.
@sasquatchpjs,
My husband taught me that trick when taking our kitties to the vet__an white t-shirt he wore goes into the carrier beforehand and they feel less stressed. 🐾😺💖
That is a really good idea. Thank you
Great idea
I like how the whole family is involved ❤
Thank you! ❤️😊❤️
You should keep a lock on the pantry and fridge/freezer so he cannot get what he wants whenever he wants. He has to ask for it.
That's a really good idea. We should do that.
God bless you and your family!!
Thank you so much, you’re so kind. 😊 God bless you as well. 😊
It would probably take a week to me to, mostly because it would scare me to not be able to leave the bed by myself, but I understand that thats kind of the point with this beds and it seems good if it works.
Right. 😊
I'm a parapro at a school and I can definitely see how that bed would be VERY helpful for some of the autistic kids I've worked with. I'm also autistic myself and I think that looks like a lovely cave to sleep in, I imagine I would have enjoyed it as a kid.
Thank you for watching and commenting! Yes, it has been a great blessing for us. 😊
It reminds me of the privacy pop bed tents. I have one and use it when I have severe migraines. It’s all black and great for people who have eye pain from migraines! You might want to tell him it’s like camping.
For sure! Yeah, he’s broken a couple of those too, I think we talked about that in this video…
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Not sure I understand what that is.
It's the planner in me, but I would definitely have a fire extinguisher very close by and something very sharp to get someone out of there quickly. The problem to solve is how do you keep those very same items out of the reach of the one who probably gets into everything and shouldn't have those.
That is a good plan. The zipper is very easy to use, if you know where it is.
@@7Aheadfamily - I hate to say this, and I don't want to sound dramatic, but it's probably quite hard trying to fumble around for a zipper if there is smoke. I also thank you for taking it as constructive advice that it is meant to be. :)
I think a knife or scissors would be more difficult. The zipper is extra large, (really big) but you have a point, if someone was trying to get him out and didn’t know where the zipper was, then that would cause a problem.
@@7Aheadfamily - You know what's best for your family. I thank you again for being so kind. :) God bless.
Thank you for your concern. ❤️
My son is autistic and he struggles with change aswell.
Yes, change can be difficult. It took a while but now Ezra loves his bed.
Hi mom, you bought this bed where I also have my 4 year old autistic boy, he can't stand the noise
I bet. We are a pretty noisy family.
Some of the problem may also be the coloring. His old shelter hut was black in coloring and dark and cool in temperature. The new one is white which is good for claustrophobia. If the color can’t be change, maybe hang up dark curtains inside with Velcro to be removed if necessary. 🙏💕🙏💕🙏
That is a really good idea. I didn’t think of that. ❤️
Good idea😊
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My son is Autistic and has a special mattress.. that has an Alarm on it , coz he has fits as well sometimes .. but he used to jump on his bed and scared hims coz of the Motion Alarm on his Mattress.. it’s as amazing the things that are made to help sick children . I’m so happy this young boy has his special bed
Wow, thank you for sharing. That alarm sounds awesome. I haven’t actually heard of that. Does it work well for your boy?
I have autism and one thing that calms me down is small spaces. I'd love to sleep in a bed like Ezra's cause it's a small space. I'd be way to tall for that one though.
That is interesting to hear, yeah, both Ezra and Simon seem to love small spaces as well. Do you just have a normal bed then? Thanks for sharing!❤️
@@7Aheadfamily I have a bunk bed now, but I used to have a safety bed. I enjoyed that bed cause it was a closed space. As I got older I learned the dangers of elopement, but I used to run a lot.
@@blakeexaviar9370 Cool, glad you learned the dangers. 😊 Ezra’s not there yet, and when he goes, he does not come back. 😜 losing him at night would be extremely dangerous.
@@7Aheadfamily I believe one day him and Simon will understand. They're 3 and 7, but I'm 16, so I'm quite a few years older, so hopefully when they're my age they'll grow out of it, or they begin to understand. For now you're doing a great job keeping them safe and happy, so good job.
@@blakeexaviar9370 You’re are so kind ❤️ yes, we’re hoping they turn out as good as you. 😊
The cuteness and the sweetness 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you!❤
@7Aheadfamily you are welcome love🌈❤️🩷🥰🥰