My Sister Stole My Inheritance From My Sick Mom!
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There is more to the story than meets the eye.
I want to hear from the sister. I bet this isn't the whole story.
exactly. Sounds like some horseshit at play here
100%. She’s playing a victim.
@@jaydee8249 uhhh I don't think so lol. If the sister took all the inheritance money and left town, then this woman calling seems pretty victimized
The eldest sister, who is a nurse wasn't invovled in anything till her check didnt show up in the mail?
When George asked "Where is you mom" was I the only one who thought of a freezer in the basement?
Exactly what i thought
I thought on cot living in the back of the business.
Lol right? I think he missed the part where she had died...
Well my brother left my dad in a run down nursing home that put him in a room in a hospital bed and nothing else, and my mom in the morgue once he lifted my parents assets, from them and got it all in his name. Medicaid pays a salary to caretakers but no one monitors if elders are even being cared for, so called family caretakers isolates them from everyone else.
😂😂😂
Before you're quick to judge, this is only 1 side of the story. We don't really know what all has taken place over the years in regards to her sibling, mom, and any other persons. As we know with family, you can have a variety of characters.
This happened to me! My brother manipulated our sick, elderly dad to assign him financial POA, then he sold our dads house, moved all the money to his account, he didn’t bury our dad for over a year - and when he did he came into town secretly did it without telling anyone so we couldn’t have a funeral. It was awful and when I contacted an attorney he told me the same thing!! All during my last year of grad school. I decided to let it go and move forward with my life, and I’m so glad I did. Not only do I not have to deal with a criminal, but I put all that every into building my career and I’m exponentially more successful than I was at the time, and *shocker* he’s broke again and asking to borrow money from other family members!! He squandered everything and my life has never been better; there’s no comparison. Let it go, focus on healing and building the life you want.
YES!!! Luckily, I sat down with Mom, got all the financial info, then handed it to my 30+ year significant other & said "What do you think?" Mom & Dad's will (completed by our family attorney) stated every thing was to be divided equally among us 3 daughters. But, every thing had my youngest sister as the Beneficiary. Thus, once Mom passed, everything would automatically go to youngest sister & hopefully she would divide it equally 3 ways. Once Mom heard this, she went crazy & promised to haunt me if I didn't get this issue fixed B4 she passed (youngest sister lived OFF mom her last 5 yrs. of life, paid for nothing & mom knew she would not do what was right). Every piece of paper was re-signed by mom with the Beneficiary being "the Estate of Jane Dow" instead of one person. The $$$$ was then split exactly between the 3 of us. When Will was read, youngest sister was pissed :-) at me, since we helped mom fix the issue. In return, other two sisters buried mom one day B4 I could return from TX to Indiana. 25 years ago, and I haven't talked/nor will I to any "biological family" since then. We're just fine; so glad I looked into this B4 mom passed; so is she: (NO hauntings) :-)
@@Kathy-jh8heThis is awful. I’ve been through something similar, so I understand your grief. In my case, there was just the two of us, so I was pretty much left an only child/ orphan, even though we were adults. My sibling recently died, so it’s final now, but no less sad. I love your last line, though. I’m glad your mom isn’t haunting you! 😊 My parents would have been horrified had they known.
Her sister should run for congress. She'd fit right in.
she made out like a FAT RAAT!!!
Right!
My question is is she's never seen the will and involved with any documentation planning and things of that nature how does she even know that she had inheritance if she wasn't very involved
There was a hand written will that she has never seen and she somehow knows that her sister attempted to change it but it wasn't signed...she's not sure if it was done with a lawyer but then goes on to say that the lawyers told her there is nothing they can do because it was never signed...
This clealy doesn't add up.
Different states have different rules. Sometimes even a signed will is not valid unless it is filed at the courthouse
@@KM4me Wasn't the point. Her story doesn't add up.
@@JustinCase780 just a difference of opinion in stating a fact. Whether her story adds up or not.???
The attorneys should advise that without a will, the estate would be divided according to intestate laws, which would include something for both daughters. Although it doesn't add up, the same thing happened in my MIL's family. One sister sold the family home and kept the money herself. The other sisters got nothing but said nothing to keep peace.
Depending on the state as well if there is no signed will which by the way could have been forged it has been done before and will always be done. Without a signed will on file at the courthouse the estate would go into probate
Misappropriation of funds, which is definitely illegal. Even as a POA, you have to use the money for that person’s best interest.
This could very well be an elder abuse crime. In some areas, the District Attorney's will prosecute and get convictions. They need a paper trail. If the estate is still in probate, you could potentially get yourself appointed executor. This would allow you access to more info from banks etc. Not sure what is best for your mental health.
Also, title company will have records of what liens are paid and how much they were.
You have to prove it.
The sister may have been paying the mothers medical bills. No one bothers to ask how long she was in hospital or hospice.
@@bernadette573 true but you could explain that to people rather than just disappearing with everything, you'd only choose that route if you were up to something sketchy
Sometimes family can be the biggest thieves of all. Stay strong, Olivia, karma will catch up to her.
The Karma judge will catch up with her...
Are you sure she is on the right? How much time and effort she gave to her dying mother while the sister took the brunt of the pain? Methinks that you are too quick to judge and that the caller is not telling the entire story.
Yes. And do not discount the fact that Olivia might be lying
@cesaravegah3787 I agree! I've the siblings who do NOTHING but complain. And then want "their share."
sometimes. Sometimes you just lose.
Some siblings don't take an interest in their parents until it is time to divide up the inheritance. They leave the day to day problems to the other or others. I'm thinking that this was Little Sister's way at getting back at Big Sister for saddling her with all of the cares and responsibilities over the years. Taking all of the money was secondary to moving away and cutting all ties as a way of giving Big Sis the bird now that she is no longer tied down caring for Mom and Dad.
“Taking all the money is secondary”?? She could have gone no contact with her sister at any time, mighty convenient that she waited to do it til she had a fat stack of cash
Yes, there's hurt and resentment there. Actually sounded like the younger sister did her best to keep the business going and everything she tried she got scapegoated. People do liens to pay off medical bills. I can't believe the older sister, when she saw her, didn't just ask for the ashes so she can do whatever she wants though it didn't even sound like she knew her mom's wishes for the disposition of her remains.
Yep. I have a feeling the other sister's take on this would be far different and the truth somewhere in the middle.
It’s entirely possible her sister is a monster. Also, it sounds very possible the sister lived with and took care of two sick parents for more than five years. The caller didn’t seem to have an issue with her sister’s care or her mom living in “the office” until she found out there was no money left for her.
I completely agree it sounds like she lived with her sick parents for five years ( I assume put her life on her hold since this is very cumbersome) and felt entitled to the money, especially if her mom gave her tacit permission by making her POA.
Such a common story.
Every family has one of those, good luck getting one red cent.
My brother has attempted the same thing. He has taken over her bank accounts by using a fraudulent POA. He also appointed himself as our mother's care taker and since she had dementia it's a lost cause. The one good thing is since he hasn't been granted executor or guardian he cannot sell her home. People are inherently evil and greedy rest assured his ass will pay in spades.
Truly sorry what your sister had done to your family. God doesn't forget.
POA becomes null and void upon death
vengeance is a dish best served cold... in a few years go do some financial damage to his property and he wont know who to retaliate against. ive used this method and its comical hearing the enemy talk about his story to my other friends like "why would someone do this to me" lol. needless to say i got 10 fold payback on a former friend that betrayed me in a big way. he stole from me and well, turns out that financial move didnt end up positive for him...
Yeah, I have so many questions. Where were you when your sister was doing all of this? It sounds like the sister was taking care of her mother, and she was somewhere under a rock.
Her spouse was Patrick Starr. lol
That’s what I thought
Nope. The second she had an opportunity to isolate her mom, the sister likely alienated their mom from the caller or anyone who could ask questions or hold the sister accountable, lying and making up excuses as to why she wasn’t staying in touch. Police don’t know what to do and pursuing legal action to prevent something that you don’t have proof is happening is not as easy as you’d think.
First off. The last reply is too long to read. Second even if the sister is in the wrong she may see it like she helped mom and deserves all the money. I get the feeling that this person wasn’t paying attention and then there was money and she was like, where’s mine?
@@Nasty_Zappa there, removed the personal experience for the sake of brevity. I could be wrong, but based on the feeling you get, I assume your parents are still alive.
"Olivia" is the sister that skipped town .. I can feel it in my bones
Yes she is shady and seems nuts to me
Something doesn’t add up! If Olivia was close to her parents, she would’ve gotten a copy signed of everything. I feel like she was living her married life and left her sister with the weight of 2 sick parents and now she wants money. Like Dave would say « Bull crap »
Many parents do NOT share info. The most my parents did was say they had a trust and everything was taken care of. We find out nothing was ever put into the trust. They would not discuss particulars, leaving my sister the executor to do whatever she wanted without accountability. My parents never knew that part
EXACTLY!!!
She needs to talk to a lawyer and file charges against her. A Power of Attorney doesn't give her rights take her mom's money
No, it doesn't. BUT it allows the opportunity for it to happen. Very sad, advice is good, let it go.......Karma will get them!
I really doubt there was any money left. $344k minus leans minus medical costs means mom died broke and sister shook the dust from her feet when she left
I agree - sounds like there wasn't much money left when everything was done.
I think they missed an aspect that might be worth pursuing. An estate doesn't just disappear in the eyes of the state. Even with a will, it's probated. Those liens- were they resolved? If not, there're likely creditors looking for her sister too.
I'm not sure how much investigating the state would do, but if they get a hold oh her and determine the estate value, it's likely they'd split remaining value (after creditors) between the siblings.
Unfortunately they would not. This is a civil matter so really the sister would have to pay for the investigation and the bar to overcome a will is so high that she is just burning money.
This sounds like is missing a lot of context. I almost think little sis was the care taker of the parents. Plus parents don’t owe you anything but education.
It's impossible to be blindsided like this unless you're completely uninvolved in your mom's life. How did her sister get POA, get her mom moved, sell the house, and skip town all without the other sister realizing it? The only way Olivia is this clueless is if she wasn't involved in the day-to-day living situation and left her sister to do all the caretaking when she's sick, and the stress and work of selling assets, and then show up after all is said and done with her hand outstretched. Sounds like the other sister said, NOPE, doesn't work that way, and took what she felt she was deserved after Olivia didn't do her part.
i agree that there are 2 sides but many adults dont talk to theri mommy every day, especially if they dont live in the same town. being a caretaker for a sick mother doesnt entitle you to all of the inheritance unless thats clearly been agreed to by the mother, which maybe it was and we dont know. either way what the sister has done is clearly immoral and sketchy. again we dont know the full story but i doubt the mother was like "screw Olivia, she doesnt call me daily, so you get all the inheritance."
Yea this story makes zero sense. The caller clearly wasn’t in her mom’s life at the moment and probably didn’t have anything coming to her and now she’s vindictive
@@Big-Government-Is-The-Problem I'm not buying the excuse that she lives out of town and that some people don't talk to their parents everyday. If your parent is sick and needs help to get on with daily activities, then you either make the effort to keep in touch and help out, or you're just dumping the work on your other siblings. There are doctor appointments, grocery shopping, shopping for supplies, errands to run, mail to sort, and most important of all being there emotionally. She obviously wasn't there for any of that. I disagree that she deserves anything, and I don't feel sorry for her at all.
Ture, but it doesn't mean the other sister was a good person either. Could be a case of one negligent sister and one predatory sister who saw she could steal everything and no one would notice.
Maybe the sister did something wrong, or maybe it’s delayed earnings for all the work she did for all those years while her sister had her own life. What this caller’s saying is really devoid of details.
Based on life experience, I have zero confidence that this caller is telling the truth! Please do not believe everything someone CLAIMS that someone else did. I think this lady MIGHT be lying.
I kind of thing that the other side of the histoy is "My sister refused to help for my mother care, she leaved me as the only caregiver and after her death she tried to steal what mother left to me, even today she only cares about money"
The thing about this show is that we’ll never know the whole story from one person and a few minutes on the phone. But no matter how flat you make a pancake, there are still two sides to the story.
Exactly, wanna bet the sister says this is what her mom told she wanted to happen and felt entitled to that money because she was the one who looked after their mom's care. Many children take no interest in a parent's day to day living but show up for the reading of the will.
@@_Y.Not_ "Sister" would not have been able to do this if Olivia had actually been present in her parents lives...
I love the way you put that. Agree. 💯 %!
@@derekd1510she’s a nurse, I doubt the sister was a saint if she moved her mom into the business rather then letting her die in her home. Sounds like caller was busy nurse so wouldn’t have been strange that the other child takes on that roll. But the things the sister did was outright disrespectful to the mother no matter what side you pick. Your cancer mother wouldn’t recommend putting her up in a room instead of her home. At best the sister pressured her and she didn’t have much of a choice
@@socketyellow3 What is the point you are trying to make by writing this page of gibberish?
If there was no valid will, the estate must be split per state law, That would be a 50/50 split. The fact that the sister had a POA does not mean she can take all the estate assets.
Well yeah she can if she transferred over the money prior to death 😅😅😅
Olivia, my heart is so heavy for you! I went through this very thing with my only sister and sibling. Even though I was POA she tricked me and at the point of sale of our sick mother’s property had all equity transferred to herself and her husband account and new property was put only in both sister and husband name. We saw a lawyer Mom and I were told by the lawyer we could contest and probably win but it would be an ugly court battle and would probably cost more than she lost. She passed on 2/13 and now in Gods hands. You and I both have completed our assignment to love and honor our moms,and they are in Gods hands now. Blessings on you, those who mourn will be comforted. ❤❤❤
Power of attorney does not allow you to do whatever you want with the accounts. Especially transfering assets to yourself
To do that to anyone, ket alone to family is awful. People do terrible things and then try to cone back in your life down the road. Don't let this person come back EVER
It’s not possible to keep your peace and sanity and “just move forward with your life”
It’s not that moving forward necessarily gives you peace, it’s that a protracted legal battle with your sister over an estate with no will, is going to _definitely_ not bring peace. Sometimes it’s about the lesser of two evils
This woman has money, she’s a surgeon, the cost of all of this is the relationship with her sister. If there’s anything worth saving it should be their relationship. She seems sketchy and very ill detailed about anything involving her family’s life. Sounds like her sister was involved more than she was and also she should allow her sister some grace. He sister was talking care of her sick parents and a business, who knows what bills came about and what she needed money for. Her 2 parents died, she could be going through a crisis, the money should be the last thing on this woman’s mind.
Interesting how she refers to her Mom's money as "my inheritance". Sounds like an interesting family.
Right - it's not "our" inheritance (between her and the sister), for her it's "my" inheritance. I'm betting there wasn't much left once the liens and medical bills were paid and the other sister resents her for not helping with the parents.
the sister was there by herself taking care of both sick parents, while olivia made her choice to get married and take care of surgical patients. now, olivia wants a share of the money when she wasn't there and didn't help do anything. the sister did nothing wrong. the parents rightly made the sister power of attorney, and there's nothing olivia can do about it, now. should've thought about this when her sister was by herself watching her parents die.
This is true but what if the sister took advantage of her parents to become the POA. If the will isn't valid then her being a POA doesn't matter after someone's deceased.
@@sliver108 this implies the parents are doing something they don't want to do, but they should want to give their daughter, who's doing in home nursing for them and arranging hospice, all of their assets and trust her with their estate. taking care of a cancer patient isn't pretty. the sister had it very rough.
@BrianErwin the best way to do things would have been to have an Executor and a will so the executor by law has to follow the will. They can't do what they want and everyone else that thought they would be involved do not have to feel that the person did whatever they wanted to because the executor legally can't do that. In my opinion the parents screwed up majorly.
@@sliver108that's for people who can't trust their family. these parents trusted their daughter who was there, living with them through thick and thin, while olivia was off in new york focusing on her career and starting her own family. olivia doesn't have any real proof for her share of the house claim, and she doesn't know if any medical bills were incurred that resulted in the sister having to sell the house. olivia messed up by not figuring out how to be more involved.
@BrianErwin no it's not for people that don't trust their family. It's for parents or people that want to legally protect their interests so that no one else that should have been involved in the will thinks that someone is doing something underhanded. It's bound by law. This is the sole reason for contracts in a business environment.
So her sister had to take care of all the problems but she did nothing and wants an even cut basically.
She should ask a lawyer about intestate succession given there is no legal will.
I thought the caller said there was a will, and that the sister was in the process of having it changed but wasn't successful before the mom passed.
@@AllynHin I believe she said there was a handwritten will, but she hasn't seen it and can't find it. In the absence of a will, laws of intestate succession would apply. And in that scenario, no way would one daughter get more than the other.
@@luvsiberians8006 I guess I'd have to watch the segment again. I thought the handwritten will was the second one that the sister was trying to fabricate. No matter. The caller was kinda vague about more than a few things. She didn't seem to have all her facts straight.
@@AllynHinPredatorys so called care taking folks are often non transparent to siblings and other family, and often have no a legal authority for their acts or otherwise, POA ends on the elders death.
So….she talked to a lawyer. And they lawyer said “nay” so she calls Dave Ramsey for a second opinion ? Come on !
😂😂😂😂😂 love it!!
Some people really just need extra guidance. She probably watches Ramsey and feels like he has a good moral compass and would either back the lawyer or maybe tell her to fight harder. I don't think it's unreasonable to seek a second opinion.
Its sad how money changes people. After the death of my grandparents, my parents asked me to be executor when their time comes. I couldnt imagine screwing over my own siblings when it comes to inheritance, assets, etc.
I can't imagine screwing over a sibling caring for dying parents by only wanting an inheritance and assuming theft instead of knowing how expensive it is to care for the dying.
If there’s no valid will, the court decides who gets what. I would try to contest this.
Costs of sitting around for 5 years, let it go.
Here is how you solve this, you never expect anything from anybody. If it happens great. The great thing about this is that people who need to steal usually are terrible with money and will blow it all quickly, they will be groveling back at some point asking you to help. Tell them to pound sand!
As someone who has gone through this…LITERALLY…. For your own sanity let it go. If you don’t need the money then just move on. The only one who wins is the attorney.
We wish our parents would leave us something but sometimes they just don’t. Your Mom trusted her to do the right thing and whatever she does is just that
I wish so much that we had paid better attention to my father's second wife who was younger and what was being signed and what was not being signed by my father we have documents we have parts of the will there are certainly things that she has withheld from us My father's last wish as we saw in writing Before he passed was That his grandchildren inherit his business And all shares And perpetuity Of Income from his companies Period He was quite wealthy Period As my father was dying in the living room With hospice She was sitting in the kitchen Laughing saying she was Rich Widow ....... I will not give the last name because I am not and will not let her name leave these lips or touch these texts. After forged documents forged Witnesses and having all of this information the attorney bills were outrageous and this could have gone on for years. Sometimes money will not give you solace. If you believe in God pray to him and move on. I am so sorry this happened to you but it happens to so many families I mean so so so many families. Estate Attorneys would go out of business if it weren't for this
I also want to add that his will stated that his grandchildren which would mean my children and my siblings children . It has nothing to do with money for me or my siblings it has to do with the grandchildren. Which they were very excited to be able to learn the businesses and start running them when they were ready. Now it's all gone so we all move on
Agree 100 percent happens to a lot of us
Our parents gave my brother money to purchase property on their behalf. The property was to be titled in our parents' names. (My brother handled the transaction on behalf of our parents because they lived in a different state than where the property was located.) When my brother and his wife divorced, it came to light that he had titled the property in his and his wife's names. At my parents' request, I had an attorney prepare documents that transferred ownership of the property to them. My brother and his soon-to-be-former wife signed the documents, so the problem was corrected. I dreaded settling our parents' estate with my brother when the time came. Knowing what he had done to our parents, I knew he might very well try something underhanded to secure for himself more of the estate than to which he was entitled. But I was spared that headache when the sequence of passings was such that my brother predeceased our widowed father.
Rachael speaks the truth about crazy family members sometimes the only thing you can do is consider the relationship a complete loss and write them out of your story for your own peace and wellbeing.
If it's any consolation evil sister will burn through the money and go broke within a few years.
I wonder if the one sister had the burden of the care alone - which means she would be entitled to a greater portion. Then we have to consider her maybe living with them (rent free ?). The sister may have abused her power - and there are parents that will disregard those efforts, and have a favorite child (even if that child does nothing for them). Something does not add with what the caller is telling (how did she know about the attempts to have the will changed ?) Didn't she have any contact with parents when they were still able to take care of their affairs. After all they had a biz so at least one of them must have been biz savy.
Morally, maybe, but legally the estate is split 50/50 if there’s no will, even if one sister had the burden of care
If the sister was the sole caregiver for 2 elderly and ill parents, she wasn't living there "rent free." In fact, she was probably an "unpaid live-in caregiver" and probably deserves the pittance she got after the house sold and liens were settled. I hear so many stories where only one of multiple adult children is the live in caregiver for elderly parents for YEARS. Gives up his or her life to care for the parents. Loses out on earning and saving ANYTHING for retirement due to full-time care giving responsibilities. Has no social life. No vacation. No break. Ever. Then the other siblings want to squabble and gripe that the sibling is living there "rent free" and should pay rent.
@@fionasmom6254So what you are seeming to say is every family the elder has should move in with mom and pdq (6 offspring in one house?)or get screwed out of any token momento from mom and dad? You are kidding right? Your caretaking greedy ploy gives you zip legally, like it or not.
Presumably the estate has to go through probate. This would all be public. And if there is no will, legally the estate would typically be divided equally between the daughters.
The women's a nurse. I don't see why she wasn't more involved with her mother's care.
She was married and was working and had her own life. Oh yeah she had a dog too, right?
@@leisure057blank3 So, I guess she should dump all the responsibility of taking care of their parents on the sibling who doesn't have her own life to live?
@@whatevergoesforme5129 I was actually being sarcastic.I guess it doesn’t translate as well on the page as in person.
@@leisure057blank3 Yes, that is usually the issue when the tone and delivery are not heard. My bad LOL.
$344K minus leans so it's not worth it. The money is gone. Move on.
Well i guess u were not near her and left your mom with your sister and she was the only one near / taking care of her before she died??
Theres always 2 sides of the story
No way she can do so much without your knowledge if the caller was a little involved
Happened to my husband. SIL was in charge of the trust and cut out him and the other sister. Lawyers would touch it. Narcissistic personality. He hasn’t had any kind of relationship with her for over ten years. Very disappointing she turned like this. Lessons learned.
I learned when I was a kid how people could be after someone dies with money. My neighbour was a millionaire but you wouldn’t know it. His family mainly younger brother in his 70s knew. He found the will and destroyed it. My neighbours wife had a stroke after waking up but he was gone next to her. The family didn’t care about taking care of her. Eventually her nephew and his wife took her in. Until they could no longer care for her a few years later a she sent to a care home.
Just let it go. It’s just money. Lots of people don’t get any inheritance when relatives die / you can be one of those people too.
she should be calling authorities not dave ramsey
What was you up to when your sister was taking care of your parents?
fleecing her parents.
The fact that her mother was dying of cancer and she didn't have much involvement in what was going on until it was time to divide up an estate is.... strange.
You may want to check with your local USPS and see if she has a forwarding address for her mail. This could possibly give you the name of the city she moved to. So sorry for your losses and may God give you peace in the coming years.
i'm thinking since she stole 300K she didn't leave a forwarding address....
Same title from the previous video lol
My brother had POWER of attorney. That word POWER you can times that by 100 what He thought it meant. The only thing that saved me was my mom put her house in transfer upon death. -. Which meant the house was shared three ways. The WILL said to divide all assets and cash among us three children.. the only way you can get that done…is hiring attorney. my brother said there was no money left. . I pray every morning to forgive my brother. However, I choose to have nothing to do with that thief. So warning to all. Look into that wonderful Option …transfer upon death. Then whoever is in charge of your parents assets can’t steal it all.
If there is no will, the assets should be divided between the heirs.
When she said ‘she didn’t even bury my mom’, how many other people had a horrific image fleet through their mind?
I was involved with my family but lived out of state from my parents. I did the best I could. My brother, after my mom passed, quickly took my dad, who was in the middle of cancer treatment, the start of dementia and had just lost his wife of 50 years, to his own lawyer and my dad signed everything over to my brother. I had no clue. I was travelling back and forth to help my dad as best I could and I was always the one my parents relied on. My brother was Executor, because he was the eldest. Money changes everything and people get greedy. I only found out after my dad passed. My brother sold everything, down to the dishes and clothes and jumped ship. Even my mom's jewelry and family heirlooms, are gone. I do believe in karma.
My mother-in-law was on hospice care in her home. We received a call from the hospice office telling us that if we continued to cancel the hospice aides, she would be taken off of hospice. We went to my MIL's house and found one of her daughters there carrying belongings to her car. Checking the records showed that the aides were cancelled when this daughter was there. She was leaving my MIL lying in the bed, and neglected while she was stealing her belongings. My husband blocked her car with his and called the police. The police said that there was nothing they could do since the daughter claimed that before she became comatose, her mother asked her to "safeguard" he belongings. Disgusting human being!
I lived it too. My brothers!!!
One of the most bizarre stories I've heard on the show.
What's really going on here is that her sister took care of her parents for all the years that they had cancer until they died and didn't even have a life of her own and so she feels like she deserves that money which honestly she probably does . The caller doesn't have any status because she really didn't have anything to do with helping to take care of her parents who had cancer and left it on her sister to do
Maybe, maybe not. Yes it is kind of weird but this stuff happens all the time
And, did she not claim to be a nurse? This story is way off.
It’s also weird she had no issues with the business or care or her mother living in an office until she found out she wasn’t getting money….
@@nailatiylluf when my mom was sick like this me and my brothers shared responsibility and we all knew exactly what her current status was. Thats how I know how hard it is to see someone get sick and pass on especially when its your parents and you love them. IN fact I believe it can generate or aggravate mental illness. This caller has zero grace for her sisters emotional well being and is only concerned about the money.
@@imveryhungry112money is probably gone anyways, she has minimal concern over their relationship
😮whoa - this is my future. I have a sister like this. Thanks for the heads up.
There are at least 2 sides to every story...
There's leins against the house how was she able to sell the house?
My wife had an similar thing happen. Most of the money is gone (7 figures). Thousands has been spent over the years with no resolution. She contacted the DA, as there is very much a paper trail of the misdeeds, and the DA won't do a thing.
Unless I was completely broke, I would pursue her for the principal of it.
Mr. Schwarzenegger has spoken.
Nope, pick your battles, peace of mind and living without aggravation is far more important than any piddling amount of money she would get from this, she needs to chalk it up and move on, I also suspect other sis would have a far different take on this, this is one side.
She didn't had the time and resources for caring for her dying mother but have enough of both get her money, hmmm, interesting.
Go to the county courthouse where it would've been filed and go to the Register of Deeds. Just because they say there is no will does not mean that there really wasn't one. You need to go and make absolutely sure. They should provide it if it's available at minimal or no cost.
I've been down this road with my BIL. They don't run away and disappear if they did nothing wrong.
I empathize with the caller. My sister tried this with me after our mom passed away in 2019. She, as the executor, refused to sell the house and split the proceeds with me. Instead, she claimed it as her residence and said the will didn't require her to sell it. It took me nearly 4 years and $20k in legal bills to get the court to appoint me as executor and to sell the home. I got her out of the house in Dec. 2023, more than 4 years later. I sold the house and split the proceeds, although the court said I could do it at a 52/48 percent rather than 50/50 as stated in the will. The court also did award me partial attorney fees, something that pleasantly shocked my lawyer who said he'd try to get them for me, but probate courts in Texas are reluctant to give fees. I closed the estate in March 2024. There were several other outstanding issues that still remain unresolved with my sister, but like with the caller, it's something that I had to ask myself, was it worth the expense and time to go after when there's a strong possibility it will ultimately cost more than I could get back in return? So I had to let those go.
The sister is a worthless thief. Hire a PI, find her, and sue her into oblivion. Even if you don't get anything, the satisfaction would be worth it.
How come they didn't ask who the executor of her mom's estate is? Probably her sister is my guess. Let her deal with all of it and move on. It's not worth it.
was there life insurance that she ran off with when she was supposed to burry mom?
This is evil. Karma will eventually captcha up with the sister. Insane
This happened between my older brother and me. He lived in an in-law apartment while my mom was suffering from cancer. I lived over an hour away but was constantly down there helping as best I could, including driving my mom to her weekly chemo sessions over an hour away. The embezzlement was only discovered after my mom added me onto her bank account (her wish). There were many, many questionable withdrawals and checks. Turns out he bought a new truck, paid for cruises and more with checks he wrote out to himself. Loooong story short, he had a choice of repaying every cent or I was going to have him charged with embezzlement and elder abuse. He did end up repaying tens of thousands of dollars. Needless to say, we are estranged now and I haven’t seen him in a couple of years. His own kids have disowned him because of other crappy things he did to them as well. The only guilt I feel is that my mom would not have wanted any of this but she passed a few years ago. Scumbag moves.
Maybe the caller wasn't telling the truth? Maybe the caller wasn't providing all the background. Everyone is so quick to blame the sister
The title of the video doesn't match the contents. "My Spouse Makes HORRIBLE Money Decisions for Us". I see that another video was uploaded today with this same title.
Do did her sister also take the Bobcat?
My aunt did the same thing to my dad...only sick, twisted, GREEDY, bastards of people do this kind of thing to their family.
What her sister did was wrong. But it sounds like her sister did to her, what the caller might’ve done to her mom… disappear. Cause that’s the only way she would have no clue about where she lived, and that the house was bing sold. Lots of missing details here.
All our info is public record.. it will be easy to find her once her public info updates about 6 months after she is "settled". her old phone number is still connected to her so you should still be able to find her w/ that number and find her new number. you can search her w// her old address and it will eventually show her new address too.
This sounds like criminal activity.
I can relate to this my moms side of the family is petty with money
This sounds similar to what my ex went through with his grandpa. Family members come up out of the woodworks and before you know it, their name is on everything. Very sad to watch.
So my question is,,, we’re was You”” when all this was happening to your Dad and Mom,,,did you visit them on occasion,,, who not,,, did you pick up the phone at least once a week speak to your mom and dad,,, a visit your parents time to time,, IF NOT,,, this what happened,,,
Question looking for a response. I’m heavily in debt… Would you recommend stop paying some of your bills, that you owe. So I can pay off the small ones faster? and just let the other bills go to collection, then come back and pay them off later
It's called dying intestate.
Sister will come back later in this caller's life. People like that will blow through all that stolen money and come begging for more. Don't think that could happen? People like that have no shame and she will use the mom's ashes as a leveraging tool. Sis give me $$$ or mom's ashes will go away somewhere.
I’m married- I have a dog.
Thanks for clearing THAT up.
I see nothing wrong with that. Now if you have relations with that dog.....
I initially thought I heard ‘dog’ but must have been ‘job’ surely
😂 she read the story of Jacob too much
Conversations about receiving inheritance feels gross to me. I could never imagine worrying about any sort of inheritance other than the one I MYSELF am passing down. In this situation there was almost nothing, they’re fighting over nothing. Splitting 375k with liens? lol. Anyone mad about an inheritance they didn’t receive reeks of loser. Some of us don’t even have families, let alone inheritance. My father used to try and use inheritance as a blackmail. With his mindset I passed his net worth in my 20’s.
Or maybe, the sister is in pain, because she was the only one that was taking care of her sick parents.
Did the caller go and help the mom in any way?
Seems like there's a lot more to this story.
Especially Dave LOL
Have to hire a private eye to track down the scandalous sister
Waste of money. She'll pop up when she is broke.
What the caller described is elder abuse and criminal fraud against the mother, not just against the mother’s estate. It wouldn’t be hard for law enforcement to track the sister down.
Which is scandalous ? The one who took care of her sick parents till death.
Parents need to set their children up for the inevitable.
If her mom really wanted the caller to inherit money, she would have planned her estate. Unfortunately, she chose to hand it over to the sister. That sucks, but sometimes parents suck. Signed, daughter whose mom married a gold digger and is now in process of transferring her considerable estate to the gold digger’s only child. Despite the fact that her two loving daughters lost our retirement funds in horrible divorces.
I'm guessing the ENTIRE FAMILY is F-ed up, judging by the caller's demeanor.
Something similar happened to me when I was a teenager which is part of the reason I live in a large mansion with a garage and driveway jam-packed with 22 cars.
I suggest you make these thieves pay.
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@@musicman7297 LOL 😂 you jealous?
The same video as the morning one?
Edit: Same title.
Anyway, why call with these type of questions?
Basically, it would be, "What are your expenses? What do you do? This is how long it will take to pay off everything and follow the 7 baby steps. Thanks for calling."
Some of your biggest backstabbers in life will be from your family.
I'd fire the title editor.
I thought with POA you have to be able to show fiduciary responsibility and actions must not be self-serving and must be utilized for the benefit of in this case the mother. Additionally, my understanding is that upon death the POA ceases and the estate must be processed by the executor if there is a will or go into probate if there is no will. Personally, I would pursue it a bit further until I had a clearer picture of things.