Japan’s Parental Child Abduction [ENG CC]
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- Опубликовано: 9 окт 2024
- Japan is known as the "black hole of child abduction”.
But why does it keep happening?
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"In Japan, the police don't help you because 'it's a family matter," yet when you take your children back, they arrest YOU for "abducting your own children." Makes perfect sense.
The police is jokingly says that it is familly matter yet you are arrested for 'kidnapping your own child'
@Sum Ting Wong You're greatly mistaken that it affects only foreigners, it's pretty much same for japanese parents too. Counter abduction will lead to prison regardless of nationality. Why foreigners are highlighted here, is that japanese ignore laws from other countries. I.e. married in foreign country, living in foreign country yet can go away with child abduction.
@Sum Ting Wong Did you even watch the video ? They also talked about a japanese father and his issues with child abduction and how rempant it is. It's not just about foreigners marrying japanese only. Wtf.
And it's this attitude ruining it for everyone. Not caring specifically of one side because "it's domestic" means nothing. It's an issue encouraged by the government there that could actually happen to ANYone, foreign or not.
Meaning there's a giant loophole.
@Sum Ting Wong because when two Japanese ppl marry, the person would only be Japanese? 🤣🤣🤣
@Sum Ting Wong I disagree - My friend who is Japanese lost his kids to his ex-Dutch wife. The system does not necessarily support Japanese parents.
Japan doesn’t really do shared custody even when both patents are Japanese. It’s no wonder they don’t care if the kids lose contact with foreign parents.
And it is expected that the custodial parent will turn the children against the other parent and tell them to never speak English to Dad and run away if you see him.
That’s horrible to begin with
@@UmbraWeiss if marrying could cause so much problem, I wouldn't want it either.
Yep my husbands friend never sees his kids. Both Japanese and from what I've heard he would like to see his kids if he could.
And people wonder why no one has kids there.
always good to see people like nobita-san who are unafraid of tackling the nasty problems people either cover up or don’t talk about. great video 👍
So let's say your ex wife kinapps your kid and they don't care about it. What if you just kidnap the child back? Then you have the power from what I see.
@@Thegreatballsak the parent who tries to recover their children back could be arrested in Japan. This has happened several times.
Counter abduction within Japan would lead to detention. And in case you manage to bring back your child to your country, the Japanese parent will use The Hague to get back the child to Japan. A perfect ecosystem for abductors...
@@Thegreatballsak sure , you dont look japanese but you want to leave Japan with a japanese looking child ! GOOD LUCK IN JAIL !
@@Thegreatballsak Uhh no, cos you'd most likely be in Japan and you'd be thrown in prison before you could even blink. Getting the kids out of Japan? You have more chance of getting from N Korea to S Korea.
Jesus man. Never would I have ever thought this would ever be an issue in Japan. Good stuff as always Nobita.
xDominoDoodx yeah, I heard of that man. That shit is crazy.
This is old news for those married to a Japanese.
I wish more people would stop romanticizing Japan.
@@yesno8785 Very important to bring the reality to light.
Same
Once again, Nobita, tackles the Real issues that people don't want to talk about.
This is why, as controversial as this channel may be, it is Worth a Sub.
No other channel tackles these issues head on, with such quality and Due Diligence, and a willingness to make mistakes and Own them, like this man does.
Keep it up man!
Couldn't agree with you more
Manan anam I am new to the channel what are u talking about?
Nobita's best work is with topics that concern Japan directly. I think a large amount of the controversy that has been generated by this channel is Nobita's willingness to cover topics outside of Japan that he clearly doesn't understand and/or cannot remain impartial with when discussing them. If he's able to cover those topics with the same level of impartiality as he has shown with this topic, his channel would do just fine.
I recommend "Asian Boss" if you don't already watch them! They tackle different kinds of topics in Asia, including taboo topics! ^^
@@kyounokuma On the contrary, Nobita has amazing male bravado and is unafraid of anything it seems. I don't care if I disagree or agree with him, I just want to see the light in his eyes, the spark that makes his words SHINE.
Nobita, you are the SHINING STAR of Japan.
Also, tall sunglass wearing cheetah man who sing
"I HaVE a PeN... I hAve a ApPle.... PiEnaPplePen" bopbopbop
I’m Japanese but, definitely Japan violates important international laws such as convention on the rights on child and forces children separation from one parent. Under Japan’s law you will never be able to see your children or only 2 hrs a month after separation or divorce. This is huge serious violation of basic human rights on both children and left behind parent.
That is insane that this happens :/ Such things just shouldn't happen. I don't have the best relationship with my dad, but I'm glad I was never deprived of seeing him.
I married a japanese, work fulltime , had 4 children, doing fine with his parents and siblings, rendering community's activities, after 15 years, got divorce, decided to get the custody of the children. 2 kids to him and the other 2 to me. We never stop the kids on visiting me or their father and gathered with their siblings. They're normally go to school near where they resides. I' still have my job, still joining community's activities, my ex give child support. We do family gathering once month. Our kids been already used to it. So I think it depends on both of you on how to handle the situation especially your kids after divorce. Being responsible and mature enough to
communicate to your ex's and be wise to handle what consequences of your action.
@@sirfgmk2 I think that's missing the point. I'm sure there are many cases where everything works out well, but your ex could kidnap your children at any point and there's nothing you could do about it, regardless of how mature and responsible you are being. Doesn't that worry you?
@Ummer Farooq You don't know what you're talking about.
@Ummer Farooq Don't know if trolling, or just stupid...
"Strong as Nation, but Weak when it comes to community."
-ctto
That's sad.
yikes, my ex didn't meet her dad for 13 years after they got divorced because her mom just didn't allow it.
Those people are truly despicable.
Ammarove the most selfish thing you can do as a parent what a horrible person
“Traditionally in Japan, children are considered as property (...)”
Dang, is this why shonen and Japanese media in general is full of single-parent households?
Makes sense
Nope, usually because retards get knocked up in middle school.
I recall a manga where a naive one "forgot" to ask her lover if he was married and kinda hoped that if he was he would choose her. Ended up coming back pregnant to her mother. Just very questionable life choices. The title is My Girl by Sahara Mizu.
Jordan Fernandez learn how to interpret context. This is a quote from the video in which Nobita makes the point that in Japan children are considered property in the sense that things that would be psychologically beneficial to the child like joint-custody are not implemented. So they are considered property in the same way you wouldn’t have joint-custody of, say, a couch after a divorce. Whoever the child is with, it belongs to them and no one else has any say.
Every single Japanese male had to undergo military service for 3 years then be sent off to some faraway land to conquer new lands so the system made sense "back then" .
This is infuriating. Japan's judicial system is terrible as it is with its "Guilty until proven innocent" process. No wonder divorce and custody cases are like this.
Japan's justice system is one of the worst in the developed world. This is only one of many examples.
@@warrenlauzon5315 Regarding divorce, it is quite a sexist concept, unless for some reason the mother is incapable of caring for a child. It's sad that divorce in Japan makes it so that fathers can't visit or help their children develop. It's also sad that some fathers can use it as a scapegoat and just disapear from their child's life. I think this also influences sexism in the workplace. Many companies don't invest in promoting or hiring women because of having children. Women miss out on career opportunities by having children and are typically expected to raise them at home. Being out of work for a period of time in any country is questionable to any company, and so oftentimes, single mothers have to work part-time, which is not financially stable, And now, we're in a pandemic, so business has slowed, and fewer hours are distributed to workers.
I don't understand this traditional concept that divorce is a broken family and equates to failure. It doesn't have to be that way.
I went off of the subject being discussed here of foreigners being denied their children, but it is a Japanese problem. And although many foreigners in Japan appreciate and want to participate in the culture, we can get dragged into the ugly parts of the system as well.
@@DangoPirate Wow, just read your comment and major props! Never would I have thought that a country which seems to be a good example in some ways can actually be failing in many others, but hey nothing is perfect right? Well at least a country like China shows most of its issues in how they deal with political problems and its people including the whole Hong Kong ordeal, but I digress. Well this kind of ruins my dreams of marrying a nice Japanese woman cuz ya never know what will happen in a marriage :D
@@vaan4500 I think it stems from the value of tradition in Japanese culture. The status quo often goes unquestioned because to think in opposition of society can compromise "harmony", which is the foundation of Japanese identity.
If more Japanese people advocated for change rather than accept everything as it is, I'm sure the law would be more practical and frankly "just", as it's supposed to be.
Divorce is just one obstacle. The next one is the child's identity. If Nobita hasn't covered it yet, he should consider documenting half-Japanese and foreign Japanese (foreign children born and raised in Japan) citizens and their experiences growing up in a culture that doesn't fully accept them as Japanese.
I love Japan and hoped to have a family here too, but it seems too much of a risk..
@@warrenlauzon5315 Not worse than the United States I can tell you that. Which ones do you think are better and why?
That's so awful... I had no idea this sort of thing happened. I can't believe they don't do anthing about some of these cases.
@Salvador Balart The hell are you posting that for ? (for anyone else reading before clicking, it's lewd pics)
@@ierdan4257 thanks for warning people
"Don't have children with a Japanese person". What a terrible indictment. Thank you for this frightening but necessary report. It should be shared as widely as possible.
In the movie "Hafu" (documentary) the Australian half-Japanese lived in Japan for a year and came back with a bf who was European. Guess it's a wise choice.
@Holly B. The quotation is from a lady who loves Japan, but who has lost her children because of terrible injustice. Calling her cry of pain "xenophobia" is entirely to miss the point.
@@lightflight3638 I bet you'd have a different response to that quote without knowing the context behind it. Whether that statement was made as a cry for pain or not, it's still a xenophobic thing to say. While what happened to her was certainly tragic, it doesn't give her a pass to make that sort of statement. You don't generalize a country of people because of the act of the one that hurts you and/or the way their government handles things. It's just another example of a person exploiting a flaw in the system, it's going to happen in any country no matter the flaw. This is a human issue, not unique to Japanese people. Though I'm sure you're already aware of that.
@Holly B. xenophobia isnt racism you fucking oaf
@Holly B. How are they being racist? They just quoted what someone said in the video that was xenophobic. You've proven yourself to be more of a racist with that "whitie" comment. Also, don't drag in your unrelated political stance where it doesn't belong. This is the problem with you people, god forbid anyone expresses any disagreement with you little shits, you just bring out the ol' "conservative incel" meme accompanied with any of your meaningless buzz words like "racist". It's been 5ish years of this shit, it needs to stop.
We've had countless cases like this in France. To the point that President Macron talked about it during his official visit in Japan. He asked Prime Minister Abe to please do something about it but to no avail so far...
Perhaps then western leaders need to be prepared to put trade deals with Japan on the line to force the issue... that can only happen with political pressure inside our own countries.
@Tidder T The majority yes but not all (even if it's far less frequent) ^^
This is a fucking farce.
@Tidder T The large majority of abduction cases are families in Japan in which both parents are Japanese.
www.kizuna-cpr.org/counting-the-children
@@daveb3987 that will never happen as trade deals with Japan are worth more than the lives of those unfortunate parents and children (in the eyes of politicians).
Nobita is helping us out here folks. If we plan to move to Japan, then we gotta know stuff. Thank you.
So true!! I'm really thankful for hearing about this
Some “tradition” should just die out! And people need to stop being so selfish, just your marriage doesn’t work out you don’t have the right to use your kids to hurt your partner or ex-partner! That’s just disgusting!
Now that's truly disgusting.
I am from a family that did that. I vow to if I ever have children, to do my best to not use them as a weapon to destroy my ex.
WELL SAID👍👍 THERE MUST BE ONE LAW FOR THAT.
@zalost of integrity The anti-lgbt law is just disgusting imo. This is why I disagree with making religion the law of the land... They should be separated...
zalost of integrity that’s true, that’s why I write “some traditions need to die out” I mean the whole World by that. In some countries they are cutting of the genitals of little girls...
And even in Europa is child trafficking still going on an nobody talks about it.
But it Doesn’t matter how small an issue is we should start to make it public and fight for it.
man i love that he doesn't shows only the "it's always sunny in japan" parts he shows reality. love your work man, keep it up!
9:19 hit me pretty hard. Kids as property? That's horrible.
When people are in love they don't look at the big picture of "what if.. ?" Whenever we are going to live in another country or get married to a foreigner, please educate yourself, learn the law of that country, learn about family laws, don't wait until your relationship get to that point you never thought, wanted or look for. Know what are your chances before you take the big step.
"That will never happen to me!", thinks the star struck in love person. I would never listen to anyone at that time. Wrecked my life and my 2 sons. The emotional wreckage/depression part of this video is very true.
@@Limastudent I'm so sorry that you had to experience this for yourself. I hope you can get your kids back one day.
@@finthechat5257 Thank you for the empathy. In my case I raised my half Japanese sons alone when their Japanese father abandoned them after divorce.
Love is dumb, feelings in general shouldn't be used for important choices.
Arrogant men with yellow fever think rules don't apply to them. Lots of stupid and arrogant foreign men in Japan.
This is actually the main reason people should be careful of getting into international marriages in Japanese.
Sadly I have to say yes😔🤷🏾♀️😕
This is actually the main reason people should be careful of getting into international marriages in Japanese.
Already reconsidering it o_o;;
@@HackersSun if you find the right person then it’s a different story. Just walk in with both eyes open.
@@WisamSafi1978 idk it’s hard to trust someone to that extent.
as a law student this whole situation is just appaling to me... it just shows how much japan legal system has failed and on this aspect is nothing more than a joke.
Divorce laws in many countries are very screwed up for the losing party, usually the man.
Also, marriage counselling to help a failing marriage or mediation is rare, if it even exists. If a problem makes them lose face it is ignored and backs are turned. Brain storming an idea to solve it was alien to my ex-husband and he did not even understand the concept. Black or white thinking and disconnect forever from the problem. To hell with the kid's mental health from having a parent that abandons them.
@Manannan anam That is a factor, but if you paid attention to the video you would realize this happens to Japanese parents too. So yes, this aspect of Japanese law is kind of a joke.
@@AhidoMikaro while I will not deny what you said and I do agree that many men on the west are unfairly judged I still believe the current situation in Japan is still more fucked up than usual .
@Manannan anam the problem here first of all is that its not only about foreigners but it also happens to Japan own citizens. But even worse is that even when the Japanese courts agree that the kidnappers are the ones in the wrong and that they have committed crimes they still fold to the ones that are in the wrong and not only let then walk free but reward then for their disgusting behavior . This is the equivalent of someone being robbed and instead of the thief being sent to jail the victim has to plead to the thief to give back his belongings. This is a joke, there is no other way to describe it, it's not only unjust the say they handdle this but it's also the same as spitting on the laws that rule on theses matters itself.
This is a huge issue and should be talked about more
@Ummer Farooq No.
Ummer Farooq the system is shit. Who pissed in your cereal?
This ummer Farooq guy is troll,try to see other reply and he basically say the same shit
The problem is japan does not care about their community more for their image. I mean past mistakes or present problems. I could count some big issues wich japanese citizens probably don't know or don't take serious because of the clean image they were given. I mean comfort woman's (kidnapped young woman's and teenagers) during wars, whale hunting etc.. I'm sorry if I'm being persemestic. But as long as people in japan don't have any interest about publishing problems and the fact that they think life is so perfect because of all the faking and hiding (suicide in japan,thinking mental disorder is a weakness). I love Japans culture and diversity but all the faking and hiding is more than just a thorn in the eye.
Great video. Children not seeing one of the parents after a divorce can have devastating effects on them. More light needs to be shed on this issue.
:0 crazy how nasty people can be when they do not like you anymore.
This hit too close to home : /
@@TheDorianTube Same
I had a vague idea of how poor the laws and rights were surrounding children in Japan, but this is much much worse than I had known. I don't want to be too harsh but this makes Japan look like a joke. It's just so unbelievable that any country would allow something like this to happen. And just like Catherine had said, it really does make you think twice about having children with a Japanese person. It's beyond sad that such a fear exist.
It is common and old news for those married to a Japanese person and divorced, like me.
@@Limastudent And what?? It's still terrible lol. (Edit: I look like a dick because person edited their comment)
Far better than india
Sadly as a foreigner, now i know to never marry a japanese... So sad... Because japanese remain ignorant toward this situation, even if this happen to themselves.
Japan has pretty much the worst judicial system of any developed country in the world.
There are a lot of dark sides to Japan.
To be honest, I have been reading about the issue for long time, but I have never seen a video from the particular channel openly talking about it. Thank you, Nobita-san.
As Japanese I am ashamed.
Those fathers have right to see their kids without any problem and take care of them. Co-parents has to be legalized.
@Chuck Nourrizzz glad to see racist people like you exist 🙄
@Chuck Nourrizzz No. That sounds like something a racist would say.
@Chuck Nourrizzz "People from another country that doesn't speak English don't know English, they're so uneducated." Do you realize how stupid that sounds?
Boom boom
@Chuck Nourrizzz riiiight, @Chuck Nourrizzz
Nobita, I have been a fan for years and I think this is one of your best videos. You definitely worked hard on this. おつかれさまでした！
I personally know people who have has this happen to them, primarily fathers - both Japanese and foreign - who's child was kidnapped by the mother. It's truly awful.
Everytime I go to Japan, I see a lot of wanted and missing posters hanging in bath houses or near train stations. Sad thing is, you don't see those posters often in mainstream areas such as Tokyo.
Where do you see those posters?
Jack Händen at subway/train stations, police stations. Also saw one at a public bath.
@@nat1883-n9i I was not aware of that, maybe need to keep my eyes wide open to see them.
Anyway thanks for the response.
Be safe out there
Missing kids?
@@purplelove3666 Yes, they have another problem. Children missing from their home and going to resident areas and then they report them back to police and they do it again. it happens mainly because their parents can't give them enough time and they don't have any friends. Specially Elementary kids.
A friend of mine had the custody of her children contested and the custody was eventually handed over to the father.
She had no criminal history whatsoever, but the father had. Yet the courts considered the father to be the better parent.
She had visitation rights, but the father constantly stalled and refused to cooperate so she barely got to see her children at all, and the courts did nothing to help her.
Eventually, the father stabbed her to death and almost stabbed the present social worker to death too, and is now serving time in jail.
This is the man with a prior history of both assault, robbery and dealing drugs, which the courts considered the "better parent" of the two.
This is what courts to to children and their parents in the world.
Then why she got married to him in the first place when he had those charges and history to stay away.
@@lordsavior8034 Not gonna debate this with you.
May I ask what country your friend was in
@@richardwhatever3231 Sweden
Seven Proxies this is so fucked up. My heartfelt condolences to your friend.
Props to everyone in the video standing up. This is terrifying and heartbreaking.
I am from Bangladesh. Currently a child custody case involving a Japanese mother and Bangladeshi father is catching the headlines. The father abducted the daughters to Bangladesh and the mother followed him to get the daughters back. Initially I thought the father was doing wrong. But after listening to his interview and researching more about Japanese custody laws, I am shocked and scared. Now I understand the father simply had bo choice as if the kids are taken back to Japan, he will never be able to see them again. That's inhuman and so unfair. The lesson from this incidence is never think of marrying a Japanese person.
Japan is messed up. My then six year old son was kidnapped 9 years ago to japan, and I've been fighting for all of those nine years to try to get to see him. The state department does nothing...I've reached out many many times. The Japanese even allowed my ex to remove me from his birth certificate, change his name to her japanese name. He's 15 and has no idea who his father is. Nothing has changed.
Sadly this is exactly what happened to my sister when she got a divorce from her husband. He took their 2 and a half year old son and didn't let my sister see him. He got the child custody only just because he was the first to take the child...unfairly.
my sister's lawyer reassured her that she can get a divorce and get a custody as she was getting domestic violence from him. However, the bad news came to all of us as a huge shock as we were all absolutely certain that things would turn out in her favour. After they got a divorce and the courts final decision about the child custody, my sister not only lost the custody, but she was able to see her son 6 times a year. .. can anybody possibly believe it?
By the way, she has the kindest heart in the world and she loves her son to bits. She always looked after her son and her family including her parents in law. She only wanted to sort out the issues fairly, that's why she did not take her son away in the first place like he did. Now she hugely regrets not doing it as the Japanese court proved it right.....
By the way, both my sister and her ex husband are Japanese nationals. I can imagine how even harder it is for a parent who is non Japanese national to fight over custody against their Japanese spouse. This thing needs to change.
You are brave and Japanese should be proud of you man.
A true madlad
Thank you for bringing this horrific topic to light. Let me add my experience. When I divorced my Japanese husband he immediately wanted nothing more to do with his two sons. He said that is how it is done in Japan - to cut ties completely and act as if that old life is dead. This devastated our two young sons and it still impacts them very negatively as adults even now to have been deserted by their father. Their father today does not care about them and the damage he caused. Want to marry a Japanese person?
That's what happen to my two friends. Both of their Japanese husbands don't care at all. As if they never existed. Their reason is simple. "It's how it's done in Japan, so deal with it!" kind of thing which is downright outrageous!!!
@@ManhwaLoverzkiss Young people need to know this very dangerous mind set about divorce in Japan before going
This is why child retrieval or retrieval etc services exists because of this since the 80s or longer due to this... Been hearing this for 2 decades.. same thing when Carlos ghoson somehow escape with aid of former army specialists..
Mo powah babeh
I was totally thinking we'll get the kids like ghosn. With some mercs haha
@@SkinnerBeeMan Ghosn was easy to get but tell me how you're going to find someone in Japan when you can't find them???
The sad truth is that this doesn't just happen in Japan; it can happen in any country. To everyone, be careful whom you choose as your partner.
That is simply not true. In a great many countries, the law is enforced. This report convincingly shows that in Japan, it is not.
@@lightflight3638 I know, I watched the video as well and understood the point of Japan's brittle law/handling of the situation brought to us by Nobita. Even in countries with laws that deter such actions, it can and will happen regardless.
American Restoration Initiative there’s plenty of exceptions bro it all depends who has the better lawyer
@American Restoration Initiative as I said it all depends on how good the lawyer and how biased the judge is. For example the fathers lawyer could say 'are you discriminating against my client because he's a male even though single mothers are more likely to abuse children?' and if the judge has seen enough cases of single mothers abusing children they might be biased and give full custody to the father even if the mother isn't abusive. It doesn't happen as much as mothers just claiming dv cause feminism but it does happen a lot more than you think
@American Restoration Initiative that's why I say it doesn't happen as much as mothers getting full custody over fathers
Can't imagine seeing your kids as a property, snatching them away from your ex-spouse just because you like the feeling of winning the custody, only to have them later dead either by child negligence or abuses by you and your new spouse.
Somebody has to do nasty problems that's why Nobita has to tackle all those negative issues in Japan has he has guts to do it. Giving us the true side effects dating a Japanese foreigners. That's why this trend needs to go even their government can't do their dirty work!
Very true it's important to show both sides to all counties. The good and the bad. Since sometimes people idolize first world countries, like they have no wrongs
Yea I was interested in dating a Japanese women in the future but this video definitely opened my eyes
Such hardship, they need to do something about this :(
The takeaway? Don't marry a Japanese if you are not a Japanese. It's a place nice to visit but beyond its polite clean and orderly image, I just find the cultures and constitutions so bizarre in this country!
Yeah... If foreigner marry a Japanese and have child with them. If a divorce happens, the Japanese easily having the upper hands for the children ! What the hell, man ?!
My knee-jerk emotional reaction is that one parent may "disappear" if I don't see my children. I'll find a way.
As stated in the video, not a solution. Even if you're the sole surviving biological parent, relatives of the deceased parent get custody via possession upon the death of the deceased parent, under the Japanese family law principle, mentioned in the video, of the children belonging to the household in which they live.
@@jessicali8594 I think he meant a child retrieval service it gets complicated www.actionagainstabduction.org/child-recovery-specialists/
@@jessicali8594 if she's willing to kill for her children she is willing to kidnap them back and take them somewhere else.
Not just these situations but also adoptions. I remember researching adoption from Japan and.. it's sad that no matter how much bond you made with that child you adopted, they could be taken away at any time even if the biological parent didn't want the child before... :( it's so severe not just from research but people I know that was able to adopt from Japan. I can't imagine adopting a child and raising them with my heart as apart of my family and yet they'll get taken away. I decided to not adopt from there. People need to know these things more.
Just Google the topic. You will find tons about it from many years back and the list given by Nobita above is helpful.
Nobita-san, Thank you again for this coverage on the abduction issue with Japan ! It will help a lot of people.
This is a very important video Nobita. Thank you for the excellent work.
There is so little awareness about this, even japanese themselves often don't know about the issue until it's too late. And many don't even care unless it's affecting them directly. You can't expect to be perfect in every area and predict every single problem. Not everyone is a lawyer nor can plan perfectly for every trouble in future, i.e. getting a lawyer explain you all caveats with the marriage law and skip the marriage altogether. If i knew all this beforehand i would also most likely not get married to a Japanese person. My case was really close to a total failure and i'm still walking on a thin ice... People change, people get sick and mental sickness can change person completely over a really short amount of time. It's true that regardless of what happened in the marriage and people involved, it's the person who abducts the kids first will keep them, domestic violence, child abuse, cheating, mental problems etc is almost completely irrelevant. That is insane reality of a "well developed" country that we call Japan.
Little awareness??? Everyone in Japan knows! But too many men think with the wrong head
I knew the exact opposite. This Japanese woman married a service member. Apparently, they got into divorce. She had 2 children. But her ex-husband had the custody of the kids in the US. She tried to see her kids but he refused. I think she took her own life.
He may be afraid that mother abduct children.
Maybe the kids were born on base or ship therefore Americans. If so I could see him getting the assistance and security to keep his kids.
@@melelconquistador It's interesting how a few words of your comment could be changed to justify how the Japanese justice system treats child abduction as described in the video.
@@Brillemeister Very true. A matter perspective, legality and mortality. Still unfortunate to someone.
*Lol, morality. Not mortality*
Thank you for tackling problems that are considered taboo by entertainment, even RUclipsrs. We need to speak more and more about this issues that have been ignored by many in a position of power
It seems like a lot of Japan's problems stem from the cultural identity that you've talked about before of not wanting to disturb the peace or cause problems. The government would seemingly rather let these kidnappings situations happen than go through the messy process of further custody battles or criminal charges.
yes but by doing that.. IT IS causing more problems. and its killing people and making people VERY VERY sad and lost...
@Jordan Fernandez It's not just a theory, it's pretty accurately what's going on. Japanese people preach "minding one's own business".
This is great, but it would also be good to have Japanese captions for Japanese people to understand what the English speaker are saying. I have some friends that's are Japanese and don't know English very well that I recently discussed this issue with and it would be nice to share a video like this with them.
Many abuse from Japanese wife on husband happen when couple are living in Japan. Husband have to shut they mouth and say yes to everything when they have kids (more than 90 percent of the couples are Japanese women Foreign men)... Join custody and parental Visa just doesn't exist in Japan. I know many cases when wife will trow stuff and beat husband do psychological violence and claim that they are the victim when couple go to court for divorce. Court will never recognize that women can be violent. If you try to meet your kids while separed, prosecutor can extend your period of detention for more than 40 days.
This is exactly what I have been told by my Japanese friends who are lawyers.
@@socialservice576 In "the Red Pill" a guy tells how COPS told him she can beat him half to death but if he fights back and she breaks a nail he's going to jail. No wonder some get back financially. During a divorce procedure a man has withdrawn all the savings and burned them at a waste disposal site Joker style. Said the wife won't be getting a cent. Iirc they had no kids, otherwise he might have resented the wife but still gave money to help raise the kids.
Custody battles have always been terrible. Hearing about this is not surprising. Parents can be pieces of sh!t taking advantage of the law to screw over their ex.
11 years since I've seen my child....and his mother is still ignoring me
It's a really sad situation. I heard a case in my country where the father couldn't meet his daughter in Japan, and he didn't have money enough to support the child and the child's mother, so after a time, she gave the child to adoption without notice him.
This is a serious, shameful problem of Japan, which should be recognized by more people to reduce tragedies involving children.
This was incredibly well made Nobita, I almost forgot I was watching a RUclips video. It was also very informative on a serious issue in Japan and it was good to see the issue reach a broader audience.
Thanks Nobita for rising the subject. Let's be honest, this is happening in every country. Especially in Canada and muslims countries. I'm a foreigner living in Canada, my ex-wife, from the same nationality as me, decided under the advices of feminist group in the province of Quebec, to abduct our two children, and to accuse me of abuse on my daughter. In Quebec, women are encourage to act like this, they are not punished for their actions. I never saw my daughter again. I got the custody of my son after four years of battles. I raised alone since he was 8 years old, but I never saw my daughter again. And nobody, nobody gave a f... about it. It's not only Japan. To my opinion, it's better for a child to be raised in Japan than in North America. North America doesn't have anything to offer to a child. North America has no values. If you marry someone from a foreign country, it's your responsibility to check the different situation who can happen. For sure, children should never be taken as hostage. Every child needs his/her both parents.
I hope you can see your daughter one day
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You are a strong individual, be proud and I'll wish you the best possible outcome.
i highly doubt theyre encouraged to act like this. feminism is hated and that's a literal crime. Maybe in some secluded feminist cult, but in general, most women in canada or america are not encouraged to kidnap children or falsely accuse people.
Also, why did the court do nothing about this? they just let a kidnapping happen?
@@kawosdhdos Well for one law enforcers are, usually, tied down to following protocols unlike civillians who are committing the said crime and when a perpretrator of said crime has the intiative (which is usually the case) he or she won't let the situation unfold without prepping some sort of "safety net" or is confident/desperate enough that it's just some hurdle to get through which won't stop said perpretrator in it's track at least for 80 to 90% of the cases.
If you want "good" exemples of very bad cult like movements that spreads far and keep having influence even though it sounds and look pretty... obviously dumb, it would be the fake martial arts ones that boomed in the past decades and still have quite some impact to this day, be it as the typical ones that stems from uncaring civillians or the more "official" ones like say taichi.
Exemples aren't missing so if your curiosity is peaked I can throw 1 or 2 references but it's safe to safe that this guy's circumstance doesn't deserve the skepticism, at least not with the many other cases that also happened.
Also sorry if it was a bit too big of a text but I did tried to make as concise as I could.
Yet another great video brother
Also child neglect is on the rise in Japan, just last week, a single mother left her 3 years daughter home alone for 8 days and the child starve to death in a dark apartment. Any other country, she would lost her custody long before this happen.
also to add, neighbors heard the child cry daily and didnt do anything
Child neglect is an issue in every country. Social service can only act if and when the parent or parents appear on their radar when alleged neglect is reported. At times neighbours are aware that something isn't right but don't want to get involved. In other cases, the parents could be seriously struggling not knowing where to turn to for some assistance.
Its happend in every country .
@@iamawesome2811 and @Dina Saurus please stop with your WhatAboutIsm.
@@electronicraisin5956 that's a huuuuge issue in Japan. There used to be a BS law according to which the household is so private it's out of police jurisdiction as long as the victims of abuse are family members. Some neighbors still think it's super private and they should not intrude.
i normally don't comment on videos but the fact you talked about this is so amazing and meaningful to me you earned a subscriber and my respect thank you.
It's a painful topic, but thank you for sharing this Nobita.
Props to you again for being open to another Japan infamous unpleasant issues, and making us aware of the current situation. Great job
Always there to report on the hard, uncomfortable topics. Thank you, Nobita! Fantastic video!
Wow, watching your channel grow from helping people find love in Japan to producing serious pieces of journalism like this has been quite the journey. Just incredible work.
Thank you for your excellent video on this topic. There was still some new information in there for me, even though I had researched the topic before.
Nobita-san, you've become one hell of a journalist now. Amazing work!
This makes me SICK, there where already things i didn't like about Japan: the denying of warcrimes, the xenophobia and so on.
But this tops them all, i am disgusted.
@Fuji San , have you checked your history objectively? No, no... Not from your government hand out history books.
@Fuji San Bruh you really don't know what Japan did in China and south Korea huh , and they still don't want to apologize or even admit it lmao
Thank you Nobita, for not shying away from the problems in Japan, but instead trying to educate people about them. I really appreciate your content and your channel.
I just learned about this recently from some guy on Instagram who was trying to put a spotlight on this issue. It’s very sad
I have been following your channel for a while and this video is probably one of the best you've made to highlight some social issues in Japan.
With that said, the content of this video is very depressing, and many people seem to be unaware of these issues. It is nice that you brought this to light.
I hope your channel gets more popular, in Japan and abroad!
ずっと日本に住んでいるのに、知らなかった…こんな問題が起こっていたのを知らなかったのがショックです。
事なかれ主義じゃダメですよね。
As a father it breaks my heart that this innocent children has to suffer living without either their mother or father.
Truly appreciate the time you place into these tough topics and I'm pulling for your continuated success as you transition into your full-time status. Keep the deep discussions coming. I'd be honored to meet you one day when I eventually make my way to Japan.
I’m so glad you are addressing this and I hope it gets recognizing. japan needs to change many things especially this one. I really want to live in japan but this such a scary thought especially if I ever think about having kids.
I love you
Kyo Mebi for what ? 😳
@@scotchtop3 sorry
Parents need more rights globally Nobita great job these issues need to be talked about
parents do have rights.... just not dads
I’m so proud of you for covering this story and providing awareness. I wasn’t even aware this was going on. This is the first time I’ve heard of this in my entire life. More people need to be aware.
If this situation happened to me in Japan, though it's very painfull as a father, I would rather leave Japan and my kids than force the Japanese system nor the courts to be with my kids. As a Philippine citizen it's most likely impossible to be in Japan unless my job requires me to be there. It's best that the parents should talk and arrange things that will protect the kids future without the third party nor the government. If the mother kept the kids away from me then so be it. That what I did with my wife I initiated annulment and the moment she is knew about it she made sure that my kidz stay with me as I told her I will not pay child support even I the case reached the supreme Court nor I would even bother hiring a lawyer and attend court hearings. This is my suggestion keep communicating with your spouse, things get settled easier. If your spouse takes a hard stance turn around and walk away. In my real life communication worked and I still keep my kids also the wife 😁😁😁.
My dad tried to kidnap me from my mum when i was around 8 (who had full legal custody) and keep me in germany. Luckily my mum managed to get the UK embassy and german police involved and he was forced to send me back. Its scary to think what would have happened if she didnt have £2000+ to pay for the legal fees of getting help and even then she nearly couldnt get me back.
Side note: My parents were divorced and my dad had previously been physically abusive to my mum. The event only lasted a couple weeks but i remember it clearly and to this day think about it constantly even though it was resolved, so i definitely believe it traumatises the children involved. I never got over it and it definitely creates trust issues.
Wow, I’m stunned. I’ve heavily studied Japanese culture for the past year, both within and outside of college, but I have never heard about this social issue. To so easily abduct a child from their family is so cruel and unjust, I cannot even fathom it! After hearing about so many social issues in Japan such as bullying, suicide, sexism, and now this, it seems as though there is a herd mentality within the nation towards social problems, which is to pretend that they don’t exist. It’s as though the logic is either, “If I don’t see a problem, then it doesn’t exist,” or “ If a problem doesn’t affect me, then I don’t care,” or perhaps even both! I don’t understand how, as a human being, you can see or hear about suffering and not want to do something about it.
Well, finally someone who gets it. It is all about honor and losing face, nothing more. Your statements are all true and I have lived them through my ex. Oh, they don't come from a Christian background so helping the suffering is not ingrained. Mostly, ancient superstition rules things.
@@Limastudent Quit your bullshit. Wanting to help with others' suffering has nothing to do with being Christian or not.
@@Limastudent As a non-Christian, I am very saddened you think so. My life hasn't been long, but what it has taught me through experience so far is that the selfishness of men is their own, as is their kindness. I hope one day you'll be rescued from your own hatred, for it distorts your vision on those innocent of it. May kind God shine wisdom on your path.
@@ammygamer Oh! Thank you for your blessing!!!
@@Dice-Z All cultures grow from their original religions. The west would not have ancestor worship or fertility festivals like Japan does. As I travel I observe behavior and how it may be in tune with that country's belief system, which comes from religion, usually. I witnessed many examples of what I stated above. Have you lived in Japan? I have. And I am an atheist.
This shouldn't be ignored...
This explains all the fatherless children we see in anime.
In all seriousness though, It was great that you were able to bring this to light and hopefully we can see more content come from you.
yes dont be fooled that the fathers left... most likely the mother left WITH THE FUKING CHILDREN.. without the dads permission.. then tell a bullshit story to the children later..
anime isnt real like you can't compare this issue to it y'all weebs need to stop making these comparisons
when japanese couples divorce the mother almost always gets custody of the child because 1. fathers usually aren't interested in raising them and even go off to remarry and have kids with someone else 2. the system is biased and works on the (old and sexist) narrative that only women truly know how to take care of children, even though that's not automatically the case.
This was an amazing project Nobita. Thank you so much for making the world aware of this. We hope that many children can see the benefits of this awareness someday and get to meet their parents again. :'(
Given Japan's culture of children out without guardians as normal. Foreign girl, no one gives it a second thought. She vanishes, no one knows. Prostitution is also much easier in japan from what I have researched. Doesn't mean it's true. The former seems like a big reason for me. Oh, this is just child custody, still fucked up.
In the future, I want to go to Japan and settle down there. I'm so glad you made this video, thank you.
この手の話は以前も聞いたことあるけど、思ってた以上に大きな問題ですね。まぁ虐待された子供に対してもろくに何もできない役所や法律ですからね。基本家庭に踏み込めないように作られたシステムが、社会が変わってもそのまま残っているための問題なんだろうとは思います。
いい加減政治家には仕事してもらいたいけど、まずは国民がしっかりと問題を認識しないと改善していかないでしょうねぇ・・・
Great video man. Coverage like this on topics that really don't get much light is a big reason why I sub.
Devastating. I don't know what to think, really. I really do hope things improve. But considering this and everything in life, it just too depressing.
Awesome video Nobita! You seem to love your country, but still aren't afraid to ask critical questions and talking to people that Japan has wronged with the hopes of getting people to talk and improve things.
An admirable patriot.
This was chilling, honestly. Thanks for making it, it's important that it be known.
Looks like this is one of the biggest factor why Japanese don't want to get married and have children..
No. Not really
Nah, the birthrate thing goes a bit deeper than that. Also, it doesn't just affect Japan either. Japan is just ahead of the curve. Birthrates just seem to decline at a certain point once a country develops to the point where it can be considered first world.
@@piranhaplantX social and economical instability and cultural mindset of 'men should have power' is the main driving force, I believe. But either the case, kidnapping is hardly any factor for declining birthrate.
Taeseong Moon Birthrates decline as women are given more power. Hell even leftists agree that is the case so long as you word it differently. Find any list where they talk about "protecting the environment" or reducing our carbon footprint, and there will almost always be a listing of educating/empowering women because in their own words "educated women have less children."
Hey cost of living is a bitch over there so that’s one reason and then there’s plenty other ones 🤔🤷🏾♀️😒
Thank for this Nobita san.
Thank for your video very informative 👍👍👍
NOBITA. I commented on a video awhile ago asking you to make a video on this topic and I want to say, thank you SO much!!
Amazing video. Thanks Nobita for uncover the issues that Japan has.
@Nobita from Japan Thanks a lot for showing a very problematic topic and doing an excellent job in research and presenting the issue in the video. Raising awareness is so important. One purpose is to improve the quality of life. Children are not responsible for this, but they suffer.
Crazy that this is happening in the world...
Good job, Nobita-San! Thank you for making this video.
Good luck on your new career path.
How can a country that is so developed economically have such a rudimentary civil law system?
Japan is only developed in its tech and economy only its traditions and beliefs are still archaic.
It's just a different flavor of injustice. Western family law is just as screwed up but in different ways.
@@MoreEvilThanYahweh Based.
MoreEvilThanYahweh you aren't wrong, often .... lets say less savory women get custody of their kids just for being a mother. Even if the father is arguably the better father and in a divorce the woman might end up with almost everything in some states/ districts
@@dbzcupcake In my country, divorce rape and child support is the norm. There are legal ways to prevent the divorce rape but not the child support, but it should be done in BEFORE the marriage takes place.