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Having No Friends in College lol
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- Опубликовано: 13 ноя 2018
- THANK YOU so much for watching. it means the world. I know this video wasn't the best, but I really needed to vent. I tried to make it as entertaining as possible. I love you. pls stick around! I have so many more videos planned
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Hello first video watch of yours that pop up im not a college student I'm 48 . MY reason I'm commenting is you are seeing through the hard times and getting the meaning to things very well. Yes don't Self sabotage yourself its wrong thing to do i did it around 30to 33 cut off a lot ppl to get some isolation but it leaves you alone with same issues and no sounding board. I would must of my younger fra help others with their problems just to put off my but later on they still there but pilled up at older self. I wiah you best and go far in school see you soon from New Orleans.
I’m at the end of my first semester at college and I’m so lonely it’s killing me. I can literally go through an entire day without speaking to anyone at all, I feel like I’m a nobody
Why dont you take online classes then?
You’re not alone
I'm in my second semester and I have no friends .😓😖
@@megaplesful Lol that makes it worse
me too and I *hate* it
Everyone: “You’ll make friends for life at uni”
Me:
"you'll only study what you like"
"You'll love it"
"It'll be the best time of your life"
Haha yeah if you look at those college intro videos the dudes be like I got friends from France, Italy, China and India.
When I was a freshman my roommate won’t even talk to me
“Join societies/ clubs no problem”
*pandemic happens
-ah shit
exactly bro well I commute so maybe im missing out but still like i just go to class and study in the library i only talk to my parents during the day that's about it.
Literally same
College was the worst few years of my life. I literally feel like I dont exist at all there. No one gives a shit about me. Even some of my friends have better friends to hang out with. My classmates went on a trip without me and most of the time, when I talk to them, I got little to no response. The only time anyone ever talk to me is when they need something but other than that, out of sight out of mind.
As much as I hated those few years, it is also somewhat peaceful. Going to class alone, buying food alone, sitting in my room while watching anime alone. It is bitterly blissful. I tried to off myself a few times but realised that thing will get better but it still didn't. But I still have hope.
I've done with college now a working at a 9-5 job. I've lost contact with all of my college "friends" and never want to look back. Sometimes I wonder what did I do wrong, why am I not enough, no matter how hard I try, no one seems to like me. Guess I have to accept the fact that I'll probably die alone.
Alright, rant's over. Back to reality and there goes gravity.
Edit: I am amazed and sadden by the number of people that went through the same shit I've been. I truly hope all of you will live a better and fulfilling life than me.
Aww I’m so sorry you’re feeling/felt this way. I don’t know how old you are (assuming you’re early 20s?) but you seem young so I really don’t believe you’ll be alone for the rest of your life. There’s so many more years you will find someone hopefully (which I think will be very likely). Praying foe you!!
@@kimberleya5408 thank you. I'm having my 26th birthday next week so I'm not that young but this is probably one of the most nice comment I've gotten. I'm still holding out to that hope so thanks for the prayers. Here's praying for you as well. 😁
Hope work works better for you! 😁
can relate
Bless you
About to hit my fourth year next August and still no friends. Talk to everyone, but no real connection. Spend most of my free time either lifting weights in the gym, playing guitar or reading.
Dude fucking same, i'm depressed af
Same here, I’m a third year but will be graduating a year early and I have made no friends. Now granted I am a commuter but still. I have some nice people I occasionally talk to in a few classes but I’ll probably ever see them again after this semester.
Talks with everyone.but no real connection.That's what I'm going through right now.why I can't make real friends 😭😭
Wtf, that's literally me! I love reading, guitar, gym and video game.
Same
This is the most relatable college video ever tbh
Im a guy here. 20 yrs old and half way done in college. And I can relate, I really have no social experiences and I have no friends to go out having fun. I feel like Im like left behind a few years back in life socially. Theres so many things in life I have yet to do that people my age have already done 😞
Dude you just described my life. I feel exactly the same, you're not alone
Stop comparing yourself with others, We are all on our own journey.
Damn you describe my life
@Dodo you're dumb
I know how she feels as well.
But I gotta say, Ure still young and have the energy. I suggest saving money and doing a trip to Thailand, ull meet so many ppl , and learn how to social. Now I’m not sure how u can do it alone, that’s the hard part. If u have a courage, travel alone , if not wait till ull find a friend threw work, after awhile start planning ur trip, and see if anyone wants to join you (I just thought of that, I’m pretty surprised that idea came to my head cuz I always wondered how I can find someone to travel with). I suggest Thailand cuz it’s cheap there, and beautiful, and visitors are super friendly.
Why are my recommendations full of videos about having no friends? lol
haha me too
Probably because of covid
Same here..been through a rabbit hole of videos like this ever since watching the 21 years old: I have no friends video.
RUclips stalk our life😧😳
@@MalMalWasTaken Yo i can relate. That video started it 😂
Yeah I'm on second semester now and still got no friends. I'm really shy and awkward and I don't know if I'm ever gonna get out of this rut
lewis poois it is hard out here
You can make friends everywhere, just show yourself the way *you* would want people to show THEMSELVES.
If you do that then you will attract loyal people, cuz...you just did what they wanted to do and they couldn't for ''x'' reason.
And people (100%) absolutly LOVE when they see people do what they can't do, but wish they would .
I know because I do like that kind of people, they are so cool in my eyes, and back to the first sentence .
Learn about the law of attraction
Go see a Jesus preacher for prayer for the right one etc...you need a Miracle... 😉
People don't need friends, you can still live without friends
THANK YOU FOR THIS! Thank you for being so honest and not “fake-relatable”.
It’s my third semester and I don’t feel like partying with random ppl and act fake nice, get drunk and cry etc. That seems to be the only way to get friends at university and I’m just not feeling it. It feels so superficial. I guess that’s me self sabotaging potential friendships but meh
I FELT THIS
I know schools just closed down, and you probably won’t read this, but what helps in making friends or at least building an interaction with people to where you consider them hang out buddies is to go to places or join activities you enjoy. Scope people out you would want to be friends with and ask them to hang out outside of that space. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn’t, but that’s an approach to making friends.
A lot of people’s friendships are, for lack of a better word, low effort. So, they essentially become friends with people in their immediate surroundings. You have to consistently put yourself in other people’s immediate surroundings for them to see you as someone to be friends with. Then as familiarity builds, ask them to hang out and see if that forms into a friendship. Sometimes it does, with time, and sometimes it doesn’t.
NewBlueTrue wow okay thank you so much for being so kind?? And like writing all of this advice for me?! You’re like the sweetest. Because of corona the whole campus is closed but I’ve joined a group chat with some ppl so I feel like if I take your advice I might at least get one friend! Fingers crossed lol
Areina If you want it to be directed towards you, then so be it! But remember making friends takes time so it might be a while before someone else considers you a friend. Also, You have to be an active participant and initiator (you’ve got to make the first move sometimes) in making and keeping friends. Oh yeah, and Be Yourself! Fingers crossed 🤞
I sooo relate to this. I went to college with 2 of my high school friends and my first year just ended. They started partying a lot and I've tried to go with them sometimes but it really wasn't for me and I usually just left earlier. I felt awkward there and couldn't make new friends there at all lol. I cancelled a lot of plans because I was tired of being at those parties without having fun and feeling left out but then I was alone in my dorm and felt bad about that too. Idk what side is better. It does seem like when you don't do all that, rarely anyone can relate to you and it's really hard to make friends. I hate feeling lonely and like I'm missing out on all the fun but when I force myself out there, it also doesn't work. I feel like shit about it and it made me kind of depressed tbh. All my other high school friends also have made new friends and/or have boyfriends and I can't relate at all, it's awkward.
My college experience felt like a prison. Go to class, go grab a meal, go to small dorm room alone. My grades really suffered from it and I don't know how that could have been helped . The only advice I can give is to go on walks. Usually colleges have beautiful places to walk around and it helps kill the anxiety a bit.
Yeah ,same 😔. Only me in the whole college
Same here except i’m a junior. It’s depressing asf 😭
Same my depression is caused by the isolation that I'm dealing with.
Grace Terrell *hugs* we’ll be fine thou! ❤️
same, I'm also a junior. All I do is work to stay busy. I work 3 jobs rn.
about to graduate from an HBCU I cannot relate with anyone. I just know people just to do hw. Thats it.
My freshman year, I made a bunch of friends and then they all either transferred, found new groups, or dropped out and my sophomore year was filled with loneliness and depression. Now going into my junior year I’m alone 😓and scared to go to school in the fall.
I’m plenty sad to. Like I had such a big group of “friends” when I first started but they’ve kind of disappeared. It’s my own fault for being so distant. I had the best roommate ever and she dropped out and now I am completely cut off.
To end this, I’m going to try to put myself out there and be more social cause this shit is sucking. “Time of your life” my ass.
nostalgicrecall the last sentence lolol fuking rt. Also thx for watching :”)
For real..I'm thinking about dropping out too
Kinda same, my roommate got a boyfriend after ~3 weeks and moved in with him almost right away. From then on I only saw her 3 times during the entire Semester - I'm happy for her, but it still made it harder. I'm too anxious to go to the community kitchen in my dorm & the people there are from other universities anyway so that's great
Hope you're doing better now!
And now the rain why I originally wrote this comment: The last sentence is gold😂
Sums up my college experience xD
You shouldn’t rely on other people for a sense of enjoyment in life
That line is sooo relatable.
I didn't meet up with my small group of friends except for studying until way in my last year of uni.
Weekends were only good in the sense of no lectures. I could go from Friday evening to Monday morning where the only person I spoke to was my mum on the phone, or a shop worker when I did my weekly shop.
You get used to the alone time.
Some of the worst years of my life though, especially as I didn't enjoy my course.
I think it's changed me in how I like to be around people now. I like my alone time still. I don't really do well at close friendships.
Im in the same situation, the solitude is great for self-discovery and staying focused on school work, but its so lonely. Im a freshman in college and I also have a single dorm so I don't even have a room mate, which is great, but it makes it even more lonely. I found this video because I literally searched "no friends in college" and it brought me here. So thank you for making this video so I can see that Im not the only one. (I also say "I don't know" about this all the time, I genuinely don't know why I don't have friends in college, I just don't know, im not weird or mean, I just don't have friends lol)
Tabitha Tomlinson I guess friends will just come with time////: I am so glad you enjoyed this video. Your comment means the most (:
I'm pretty much in the same boat too.
this is most relatable comment eveeeer
I’m in my 4th semester in Uni, and still haven’t made any friends.
I openly go out of my way to talk to the kids in my program, but they never seem to want to include me in anything and just talk to themselves (They mostly know each other from highschool).
I get good grades, I am on honour role with 90s, yet I don’t feel anything of it.
I also feel like I have so much free time and everything is so boring.
I pretty much just look forward to going to sleep every night now.
Nothing feels as special as it used to lol (holidays, weekends family events).
I am a healthy human, yet I feel ungrateful for my life, I feel disgusted about myself thinking about it.
I don’t want anyone to pity me.
I am just writing this because it feels good to vent these thoughts that have been stuck in my head for a long time,
I hope you meet some really cool people during the rest of your Uni days. You are funny and seem quite nice.
How are doing today? I can relate a lot to your comment. College and life honestly feel very dry and sad. But God is always there for you even though you might not see it. Take care.
Literally me, I’m in uni been here over a year and still don’t have any friends. Like what am I even doing wrong, I keep trying and putting myself out there but I’m just not connecting with anyone, it’s getting to me and I totally feel the separation and loneliness. I’m a friendly, fun and outgoing person, how have I ended up in this situation where I hate going into uni everyday because of how miserable my experience is, I just feel like crying 😭
I know how you feel, I hope things get better for you and I hope you make friends bc the feeling is just horrible. I'm in my 6th week at college and to be honest since the 3rd week in I've been crying myself to sleep every night asking myself why I don't have any friends or why most of the girls are so mean, judging me just because I don't look like them or wear a lot of makeup, or do drugs. I see everyone else making groups and I'm singled out and everyone on my course is beginning to see that I'm the one not fitting in and they're avoiding me bc they think my social status is low. It's hard but my advice is maybe to try and meet people online, foreigners tend to be really well mannered most of the time. At least then when you're by yourself you can be on your phone messaging a friend so you feel less alone
EXACTLY
you should probably join clubs that you're passionate about and find people with the same interest as you.
this is the most relatable comment ever
This is kinda relatable. It's been 2 years so hopefully you don't feel as lonely anymore. I'm an introvert and most of the time people in my hall let me do the talking and ask questions but they only give short answers so i've stopped trying. Last time i went into the kitchen whilst my neighbour was cooking and i said hi how are you? She said ok and asked it back. I said yeah i'm fine thanks, grabbed something to eat and said have a good day and walked out. Tbh she looked a bit offended. I've joined societies but only go to one sometimes when i pluck up the courage. I dunno what i'm afraid of cause we always have a great time. I'm gonna try harder. You should too if your still in the same situation. Try stuff out and if it goes horribly you can go back to your room, reflect and try again. I've never been disappointed trying new stuff.
I went through college having no friends. 5 yrs. It was very hard. I became suicidal. But I got over it. It made me a very strong emotionally independent person. It’s okay babe.
I admire you
How are you doing today? Hope you are well. God is there with you every second even though you might not see it.
How are you doing today?
hey I feel you so much I’ve graduated now and it’s even harder like where??? do adults make friends 👀 feel like imma join alcoholics anonymous just for some homies
Just thinking about life after college makes me was to panic.. I am soooo scared
Ikr if you have to fit in to make friends you basically are losing your own self if you don’t go to clubs, smoke or drink alcohol
@@stefano4226 this is true, the main options to socialize outside work, school or such would be these 3 but they're a shallow and unhealthy way to gain good relationships so the only palatable options that are these kind of suck. And these 3 often are bad since people who socialize doing drinking and smoking often can't socialize without the drink and smoking. They all gotta do it and if one doesnt, then why are they there is what is asked
I'm still in college with no friends but if I try to make friends after college, like would that even be possible?? Because at that point, the majority of adults have their solid circle of friends and don't want to make new friends and have them join their circle of close friends. As if it feels out of balance or something to add a new person in their friends list.
nako mochi so true I feel the same
Incoming college student here. What I really hope is I won't be a loner just like in high school. Most students love talking about kpop, wattpad, etc and do partying but I just can't force myself to like those things. I just hope I'll meet people in college who would just like to hang out with me, eat lunch with me, etc. without being bothered by my quietness. I am more of listener than a talker and I just reallyyyy hope I'll meet someone who actually likes hanging out with me.
I hope things are going well! dont be afraid to eat alone though. There is a lot of practicality that comes with being comfortable being alone. Ive done it my whole life
I’m at the end of my first semester of sophomore year. I joined a sorority, I live on campus, I have people I talk to sometimes and consider friends but I spend most of my time alone. I eat alone, spend a lot of time in my dorm or w my highschool friends. Mostly because I’m too broke to ever do anything, but everyone else has their main group of friends so i just spend time alone 🙃
I relate to this. I’m always alone in college. I’m somehow fine with being alone but there are times that I feel really really sad and tend to skip school because of it, and when I come back to school, I’m too shy to ask other people for help in catching up since we’re really not close, then I end up just being more sad. Idk. College is hard for me. :( I’m kinda thinking about dropping out of a subject because I can’t catch up anymore and idk who to go to. Hope you guys are doing a lot better than I am.
Hey there, hang in there! College is tough and not the best. But why did you went to college? For classes and get a degree, right?
Try to find something to keep you afloat, I wouldn't advise you to dropout but who am I to judge?
I've spent 5 years in college and never made a single friend, it will get better for you after college, perhaps.
hi hi i just wanted to say that like i found this video yesterday and idk why or how but it’s really helped me in the past 24 hours. i feel like your words just made me feel less alone in the world and realise that sometimes you can be alone but not lonely as such and be HAPPY and have a good mindset about it. i’ve never really had much luck with friends, i’ve always seemed to find toxic ones that would never really be there for me? that would leave the second things get hard. my newly found friends of about 5 months in college who i thought would support me through it all just recently turned on me. i haven’t been myself lately and it’s just been getting super hard to be open and i’ve distanced myself a lot, which they saw as me “using them” or something. i have to admit it hurt so so bad. still does. because i needed them the most and they weren’t there but! i turned to other people like my family and my best friend and a couple other people outside of college who mean the most to me and i’m learning to be okay on my own and trying the process of loving myself for the 373737th time. anyways i just wanted to comment this so that you’ll hopefully see and know that you’ve helped someone and probably many others a LOT. and i think you should really really continue to post, because i’ve just recently went back and watched all your videos and tbh you remind me a lot of myself. you seem like you’d honestly be such a cool and genuine friend to have!!! i hope you’re doing well and that things aren’t getting you down as much lately. and hope to see another video soon. thank you
I’m so glad my video made someone feel good for even a moment. I lost a lot of motivation over the winter break but I plan on making a video soon!!! I really hope you stick around, the support is much appreciated:”))))
We can be pen pals 😬
i'm 22 years old i have no friends , not a single one , people like you girl and me exist in this world , we are super specail like tigers who hate to live in groups and prefer to live alone x'D i trully wish if you and i become friends , i wish if i can meeeet youuuu one daaaay !!!!
I'm 21. I feell the same way!
you seem like the coolest person ever and i'd definitely be friends with you! i kind of feel the same way and do wish i had deeper connections at school but a lot of the time i just come to accept it. you have to be okay with just being by yourself sometimes
This actually made me feel less lonely. I kinda like this whole venting video about yourself. We have a similar perspective about making friends lol😅
This is way to relatable. If you have any tips on being social again lmk. Also I'm kinda in love with your editing
deirdre thank you I am so flattered
Getting off the phone more often and deleting social media was the best thing I’ve ever done
I like your style of dress and honesty by choosing thus topic. Loneliness is very common, but people struggle admitting they are affected by it. Thank u for the courageous video.
We are literally the same person.
that is a compliment for me tbh :))))
My first quarter of college was great my dorm was very social and I always had people to socialize with and study with. This quarter has been horrible and extremely anti-social people just stay in their rooms all day with their little group of friends.
although it may seem like being anti social this semester is a bad thing... try and take the positive side ya know. at least now you can focus on school and yourself
I thought I had friends in college. That all changed through second semester. I get I was a little immature, but I was the guy that had strict parents so being 18/19 with freedom in their life. Yeah I admit I partied more than I should've.
Anyways the thing that pissed me off the most was like my birthday, I invited them to celebrate my 19th. In Canada that means you're finally able to drink, it was big. One of my classmates was a few days prior to mine and they all went out to that. Their excuse, they were too busy. It was reading week. I knew they had time judging by how much time they spent on discord. After that they just kinda started leaving me out of everything after class.
My point is, the friends you make in college are like the ones you make in high school. You may make one or two permanent friends but the rest are temporary. Focus on yourself first, friends second y'know.
Thanks for making this. Nice to know we’re not alone.
I went through the same experience in college myself about 9 years ago. Ended up depressed for a long time and never went back to 2nd year. Had a habit of cutting people off when I was younger which in hindsight was a good decision. Fear of failure exacerbated a lack of effort in class but there was enough alone time and alcohol to fuel an existential awakening (if that is a thing). Cut a long story short it's a learning experience and character building. You will be stronger for it in the long run. Trust your gut and be happy. I actually finished my degree part time 6 years later, have a decent job and a love for life. Best of luck 🍀
GIRL! i feel you, i'm in the same situation!!!! i overthink every single thing and i also hate spending time with people i don't care about or people who don't care about me, it's nice to talk to them in school or somewhere we all have to be at the moment but like i don't feel GREAT with all those people around, i feel like they are not my real friends, also, i feel guilty because of my family who judge me that i have no friends & i don't go to a parties & don't socialize when i don't really want to & i don't really feel like it, it sucks, i feel terrible and because of that i cry sometimes, because of your video i feel a little bit better, thanks for that 💜
To everyone in this comment section experiencing something similar my biggest advice is to get involved!! Seriously my freshman year i barely has any friends outside of my roommate and after one semester of being involved sophomore year things did a complete 180!! One of the biggest lessons I learned in college is that things don’t come to you you have to go out and get them.
Pls tell me how you did it. I know getting involved is important but i don't know how to approach people.
I try my best to get involved but they dont want me because I am not in a friend group and they think I have many friends so I need nobody 🤷🏻♀️
this is the most useless advice I’ve ever heard “ go out and get them!!” HOW?
@@dhulo352 join clubs and meet ups
I know this a 3 year old video, but I’m sophomore and I’ve felt lonely since coming to college.
Im now a 5th year senior and the few freinds I made graduated and moved away... im in the same boat. Do what you can... make good grades baby
That’s me and not by choice. I’m just too different. But if you need a friend then I will be glad to be your friend!
Dragon Spade hey can we be friends
@@ceceden9935 hey I'll be your friend if you want
Rainbow Ice Heyy here!
@@ceceden9935 add me on Snapchat it's lraisin7 if you want to be friends 😊
Making friends on the internet isn't a big deal... real life friends is what is difficult
I spent two years in university (First and Second Year) with no friends at all. I became depressed and lonely. I found myself spending weekends either binge watching Netflix. Or going to Walmart or the mall as a way to keep myself sane. I'm transferring to a different university this coming school year, and really hoping I might have a chance in making some friends.
I hope you find some!
Hey, have you graduated? How's it going?
*scoffs* Friends are useless.
Are u still alive?
I relate to this. I have 4-5 good friends from High school but we are all busy with our lives now, and i only see them ~5 times/year. They all made great friends, except me.
I'm a sophomore in college and i literally have 0 friend here. I don't know why because I always had a bunch of friends in High school. I always participate to my college events, I talked to people, asked for their insta talked a bit, but i felt like i was forcing so I stopped and they never sent any message after that.
Now I dont even try. I never eat lunch in the cafeteria because I dont want to eat alone, so I always eat a sandwich in a park not far from my college. It still hurts to see that people around me are at least 2, but they're strangers, not classmates, so it's "ok".
I am so lonely.
i am having the exact same experience.
I've been there. When I was your age, in university, it was a brutally lonely time, so I have a world of empathy for what you are going through. I thought it was just me, but I know now that it wasn't. This experience is common, so refuse to tell yourself lies that it is only you and something must be wrong with you. In my experience, the best way to make friends is to do things that require you to leave your room. Join a club, play a sport, do a hobby, go to church, get a job. Activities are great for making friends because they give us time to develop familiarity and comfort with other people. You won't become lasting friends with most of the people you meet, but you might become lasting friends with a few, and that is worth it. My other bit of advice - based on years of working on this - is to adjust your attitude. I think a lot of people are very lonely, but the range of people that they will accept as friends is about an inch wide. Quit judging people, you judgy judger! ☺ That oddball and that "loser" might make a really good friend. I have a couple of friends who are, by the standards of our society, big failures in life but they are wonderful at being friends. Their friendship is as good as gold because they care about people. So don't be so quick to reject people just because they are low status.
I spent first year of my collage literally going to movies alone like 5 - 7 times a week. Couldn't make any friends and used to feel super lonely looking at people hanging out. Tried many times, I tried to get in groups, met some people yet I couldn't form a lasting relationship with them. I'm at the last year of my college, pandemic took 1.5 years of it. Still have no friends in my faculty, but I feel better, I'll be fine...
I'm a fan of the flute sounds. About the loneliness thing: it would probably help getting rid of the "wasting my/other people's time" idea when trying to meet new people, because if that's in the back of your mind, you might not give potential connections with other people a real chance. Also: go to extracurricular activities at your college, great way to meet peeps with somewhat common interests
Thank you for this. Im not the best at social interactions and I was freaking out about possibly dropping out of school due to not having any friends. This makes me more comfortable with the idea of not having any friends in college, it makes it look so much more doable... almost... enjoyable?Maybe if im comfortable with literally never making any friends in college... I will be more comfortable with trying to make friends since im fine either way...idk, mainly tho, thanks
While i wouldnt say having no friends is enjoyable, i really thing it is important to be comfortable with whatever situation you are in, just like you said. dont stop trying though, if you see someone worthy of friendship then give it a shot its no big deal ya know. im so glad you enjoyed the video. best of luck!
This has been my experience for my first semester at college. I’m not sure maybe it’s me but thinking of transferring schools. It gets so lonely, I just don’t know what to do :/
Just watched this on my college break while well yknow, and this has just made me feel much less lonelier now that I know I am not the only one. There are people who I am friendly with and can hang out with but they have nothing in common as I do and they don’t always acknowledge me so I don’t think those people are considered as friends. I keep questioning myself as well thinking that I need to change but this video has helped me realise that I don’t and friends isn’t the most important thing In the world.
This is my 4th semester in college, and my 2nd on a new campus. I literally can't even be friends with the guy that lives with me, my fault of course. Last week I visited my hometown and a highschool friend invited me to meet his new friends and I declined. I complain about not being able to make new friends but then I give up chances like that one. What's wrong with me?
Blimson i think you’re shy, afraid of new people or afraid of being judged so you push it back. Don’t feel bad that’s how i feel sometimes. ❤️
There is nothing wrong with you. i do the same ting ALL the time. just force yourself to say yes sometimes
I do the same thing and I'm working on improving. If you're like me, maybe you've had so many bad past friendships where people used you and left you, or you have been alone for so long that now that you get the opportunity to make friends, you have trust issues. Or maybe this caused you to not be able to navigate friendships as easily as before because it's been so long. Either way, take the chance. Don't let the possibility of a great friendship pass you by.
I feel you because I do the same thing. I'm hoping to change things into saying YES to the things that I usually say NO to, and get out of my freaking comfy zone.
You just described me 😅. My church's youth group does these group activities like having a sleep over at our youth leader's house , going camping, going bowling, etc but I always decline. It's just that, pretty much 98 percent of the group have known each other for several years and I've only been there for like 2 years so they're all super close like family and they all have the same cultural background (Puerto Ricans) while me and this other girl I know who I talk to more than anyone else there come from Mexican backgrounds so I can't relate with the others that much. I still don't even know their names except for 3 of them and it's been 2 years. I'm freaken shy and introverted when everyone else is extroverted in the group. Puerto Ricans are known to be loud and outgoing so it makes sense why the group is so together. Anyways, only me, the girl and 3 guys are college kids out of the 14 others in circle who are teens and kids. The college ones are all older than me so I cant really relate or feel any connection with them. Plus I don't talk to guys because Ive never had guy friends in my life unless it's like a school environment but outside I don't talk to guys. I don't understand how guys think or wht they even talk about 😅.
Also I'm into Korean and Japanese stuff so I guess it makes it worse because no one else in the group has interest in those kind of things.
Anyways I just feel like a lost potato haha.
I guess I'm going to be lonely for a while lol
I feel like I can relate.. like I’m in my 5th semester in college and i only know go in and out of college without speaking to anyone and I feel like It’s so hard and awkward speaking to people that I don’t share the same interest .. anyway still lonely
I am litterally going thru this in college rn lol u are telling the story of my life
Did college change for you at all?
@@rileybenedict1804 towards the end it got better I made a friend group and they felt the same. So it gets better
I really don't understand why i cut my realation with some people and stay alone it's my fault that I can't make frnd or i don't know how to make frnd i always stay confused
For me College has been more or less like going to a 9 to 5 job. I just go to my classes, do my homework and leave home. I've been trying to look for an actual job but my college hours don't give me time to focus. Sometimes I exchange some words with people but they're just "work friends", never invited to me anything and they only look for me when they want me to pass them some homework or project. But I've learned how to be more happy and relaxed being my myself, not having to deal with their bs.
I don't have any friends in college and I feel lonely all the time. It sucks 🥺 wish I could be like other kids
2020 college students: i have no campus
me in the fall
2020 post graduate: i have no job
We are a lot alike lol
I just finished the first semester of college, and yeah, no friends, I tried on the first day to be very friendly and tried to talk a lot, which is very different from how I normally am, cause I'm shy, but it looked like I was the only one making an effort to make friends.
So I gave up, and just like you, I'm happy now lol
same. im currently a freshman and its been a few days since my orientation. everyone seems to already know each other so first day of orientation and people were starting cliques. my roommates knew each other from high school and are bffs so they always hang out with each other and exclude me. i feel so lonely, and i have only talked to one person who comes from the same country as i. although the person has more friends than me and i always see her talking to her other friends rather than me. im always afraid of the next day and look forward to when i get to sleep. i am always the one who has to intitiate the conversation but the person im talking to never really wants to talk to me, and im normally a shy and awkward person so being the first one to talk first is a really big deal for me. but it always seems fruitless when they dont really bother talking back. i feel so lonely and depressed. i know its only been a few days since i started university life but im starting to feel like i'll never have friends
@@iyayii I know how that is, it seems like other people make friends so fast.
I'm sorry you feel lonely, I can only talk about my experience, and like I said in my other comment, I got used to being alone, it doesn't hurt me anymore because I can have fun by myself, also being busy with studies and work really helps, cause you'll be too busy to think about stuff like that.
So try to find stuff that you like to do, get busy with lots of things, I'm sure you'll feel atleast a little more relieved after that. And you can talk to me if you want :D
There are a lot of people that feel the same way.
“I’m not having these superficial relationships. Instead I’m having no relationships.” Pretty universal...thanks for allowing me to relate, even if it was years later!
It's easier than you think to end up lonely in college. My mother died and it just kind of naturally isolated me due to the need to mourn. It's not a popular vibe at parties, so I kind of ended up alone. If getting on RUclips makes you feel better, good enough. This video helped me know I wasn't alone in... having been alone. You're a clever girl. Never stop thinking critically. Join an extracurricular activity. And we love you back.💯💗
im lonely too, im trying to make friends but everyone thinks im weird. OH well im happy being alone and moving to long beach college in the fall. hopefully i fit in.
Very few pure people, most of them super selfish, super full of themselves, they have no hobbies except studying and above all they are super judgemental.
I can relate, but definitely on a worse level. Freshman year I was very social and talked to everyone. But most college kids never really cared about me or just wanted to use me for their projects or school work. Every college "friend" I had never lasted a month due to them ghosting me. It eventually turned me bitter and angry at everyone. My trust was completely shattered. Worst part is many college kids can be beyond cruel. Sadly, my anger and bitterness got the best of me and I ended up getting into fights on campus, one person I ended up breaking their nose. The college environment for me was mentally and physically draining. I evebtually dropped out and went to a trade school where I'm much better off. But at college, I was lonely, angry, bitter and mean from so many college students not knowing what a friend is. I still have trust issues and a temper from all of it to this day
I love how you just get to the point. It's always good to feel at home by yourself. Be an introvert and an extrovert! It works, trust me :]
I'm 24 and just graduated from Graduate School (Master's Program). I definitely related to that feeling when I was a freshman. I made friends later from my hobby (skateboarding). Most of went our separate ways over time but I remained close with like 1 or 2 of them through undergrad. My advice would be to embrace your individuality and connect to people who have similarities to you (hobbies, interests, even areas of study, multiple classes together) Or just take a chance and talk to that other person eating alone on the cafe. I met my friends by skating around and ended being introduced to the group. I became a part of the group but still had my individuality. Also its possible to still feel alone even with friends in college. It's a weird time for most people and takes some adjusting but remember most people probably feel the same as you, even the ones with huge groups of friends.
Well I admit that too I don’t have friends just my dad my mum and my brother who support me and gives me all the benefits the life can give me....I am not rich nor poor I am constantly shedding layers of my age every year I feel the pain of being isolated or trying to hide from others...I am not a felon but I have lied a lot mostly to my parents I am not afraid to say I failed in my life...I tried to reach out make friends but somehow I cannot maintain the friendship most of my mates are married they are living a happy life...I am still stuck in timeline hoping that one day every thing is going to change....I will a better resume of my life compared to my past....I never procrastinated nor physically hurt anyone....I am being consumed by my thoughts my mind is taking me to places where I never wanna be it hurts me a lot I never been in love cause I am afraid of loosing those I love I think I am a bad omen a dejavu but in fact I am a human a man a son a brother all I ever wanted was to be a better man better son a better brother....
I don’t know why I am sharing myself explicitly via this social platform but yeah I reckon sharing your dilemmas and problems with someone eases the pain I hope you are safe and sound god bless you and your family...
I've found in my life that friends are overrated at best, and dangerous back stabbers at worst.
I had my guitars in my teen years, and I have my guitars and a family now. (I'm over 50) No friends.
My wife often asks me why I don't have a friend or two to go out fishing/hunting with. I tell her that I am perfectly content, even happier, without all the drama and garbage that "friends" drag with them.
Am I a nobody? I hope others see me that way...they'll leave me alone. Nothing more dangerous that screwing with a "nobody".
I'm comfortable in my skin.
I totally get what your going thru and guess I need to vent as well. I learned the hard way self isolating myself at a pre college program and I was miserable for five weeks. Then I realized, fake friends are better than no friends but also alone time is still good. It takes time to find your real (small) group of friends but it's worth it. I started much more social in actual college, but still feel like I haven't made any real connections like what I had with my high school bffs. I was surrounding myself with the wrong crowd and the "good friends" I made in my classes would barely hang out with me outside of class, unless its for class work/projects or the occasional meal all together. They would ditch or cancel plans with me too often, it was really frustrating, and even on my birthday I had to practically beg for them not to bail. Its annoying being left out of the bubble and the odd one out, smoking and vaping is not my thing so I was excluded from most parties and hang outs, although I started skating around campus because of them which was fun for awhile until I busted open my chin in a stupid accident. I was too nice, around my "cool and popular" extroverted roommate and his girlfriend and his group of friends/followers who were sort of some of my only friends too, that I got stomped on and treated like a third wheel. I would sleep a lot, take long naps, and stopped taking care of my hygiene because I was so depressed, unmotivated, spiraled and fell behind in work. In dreams I could escape to my inner fantasy world and receive the comfort and happy thrill I was missing, dreaming about having a girlfriend, missing my home friends and kitty cats terribly. Basically, college is what you make of it, it could either be the best experience or the worst of times! I'm hoping for a brighter future in the years to come, starting by surrounding myself with better worthy people I can vibe with.
@shrimpgoat4876 how are you doing now?
This is why I couldn’t put up with the group I was in and I left and now I’m lonely cuz of drama and they accuse me of stuff etc like I hate when ppl don’t include me and cause drama out of f all.
So I quite literally have nobody tbh I don’t speak to nobody and I have a whole year left.
i really felt that “i really don’t like spending time with people i don’t really care about and that don’t care about me” i cut myself off from everyone i was friends with as well i really don’t try hard to get out there either im too myself do everything alone before it used to really bother me when people would say well don’t you have friends don’t omg how and now it’s just comforting that all i have it myself(:
I worked at a college from 2018-2020...
They are all buried in Their phone...
I would purposely sit next to ppl and ask if this seat is taken, strike up a conversation with them; and they would all retreat to their phones...
I would watch Students in the elevator nervously scrolling back and forth in their phone desperately searching for something to grab their attention... so sad 😞
These kids are so worried about looking foolish, and then they end up looking foolish trying not to look foolish... and don't get me started on the woksters protesting every week: their only uniting force and savior.
you're not alone in this. I totally relate.
i literally wrote "no friends at college" and this video appeared. For the very first time I've seen a genuine person sarcastically dealing with the issue of not hanging out with anybody in college, and that's cathartic man, I don't take it for granted. For the past three years I have always been blaming the pandemic for alienating my social life, but it's not as simple and linear as it sounds. Sometimes I enjoy spending time with myself but, as every single human being, I need dynamic balance when it comes to knowing other people. Nevertheless, by reading those comments I've found myself again, I found my uncomfortableness having lunch alone, taking notes and just getting nervous for exams on my own.
I don't want to blame myself anymore, nor other people, because the whole situation goes beyond the concept of finding who did what and what's wrong about it.
I just think that sometimes this is going to get better, I'm standing up for my positions, seeking for real relationships, and not superficial ones. I don't want to use people whatever it takes, because I have different values and I'm becoming the person I want to hang out with, virtually.
Empathizing is functional sometimes, isn't it? We're on the same boat I guess.
Sun will rise and we will try again :)
Hello, I’m ending my second year in college. I’ve made a couple of friends, but like 1 close one. I see him a lot but sometimes I wish I was more social. I’m really bored when he’s busy, and I feel depressed and sad a lot. I get high pretty often just to deal with the boredom lol. You aren’t alone love
Hey :)
Well, depends on what kind of friends you make in college.
I was kinda like friends with a group of nerds in my college back in the first semester when I entered it, and I was the last student to be accepted so I didn't know anyone while everybody else already got the opportunity to know each other before me, but in this group of friends I made there was a stalker and he apparently fell in love with me or whatever. But he texted me over and over "demanding" me to tell him where I was, what I was doing, who I was with and if I could "spend some time talking to him" (even though we had most of the times nothing to talk about), calling me over my cellphone multiple times a day, sending text at all sorts of social medias and even following me to know where I lived, calling me to go to his place for "study projects" and making all sorts of excuses so I would sleep in there with him, or telling things and secrets about himself to me so I would open myself, but distorcing everything he said to me and about myself to other people and making me look like the bad guy ... And there was even the day he literally wanted me to go to the middle of a park so he could tell me something really important about college and I did went there but it was just a scheme for him to stay alone with me and try to have a romantic date. On a park. At 5pm or something, on sunset, so It could be more romantic. This was not his only attempt. He managed to convince the entire group to have a HP, invited me for weeks and I went because I though "Hey, maybe I won't be alone in there and all", I was the last one to get there (Needed to make sure the others were actually going), and at night, after everybody was trying to sleep, he wanted to sleep with me and wanted to kiss or have sex with me. At that day, he basically outed me as gay (I'm bi) to everybody on the group, even though it was my choice to tell people or not. And it wasn't my choice because it was nobody else's business but mine.
Creepy as fuck, I left the group next semester, never looked back at them (After I had to literally smash his phone so he wouldn't get in touch with me), and since for the rest of the people I was the "bad guy" and he was the "innocent victim", I didn't manage to make any friends in college for the next 4 years.
*Yay to me, right??????* :)
LOL what an unlucky catch, don't let it ruin your perception of *people* in general though, just because one random idiot acted like that
good luck with everything you're doing bro
I went through exactly the same thing. It’s scary how similar our situations are. If it’s any constellation, I wish I’d had a friend like you when I was going through the lonely and friendless points in college
I Literally searched , " no friends in collage,"
i literally posted a video about having no friends in college. Lets GOO
The lack of structure in this video is fine because it represents the confusion one would feel in this situation. It’s a great thing that you put this out there because this is something a ton of people go through, and even those who haven’t can maybe relate to the lonely part hidden inside themselves. I go through loneliness often and I found myself in what you were saying
I’m currently a sophomore in high school and I relate to u. I have literally NO ONE to talk to but my family. The ONLY people I have in my contacts is my mom, sister, dad, brother and I can go a whole week with only receiving a text from either my mom or dad. It sucks not having ppl to talk to but at the same time i came to the conclusion of…it is what it is. It would be nice to have at least 1 person to talk to that relate to me and someone who can help grow together. Very nice video
IM ALSO A SOPHMORE IN HS and have no out of family friends. But I live with only my mom (she's divorced ouch) and I'm an only kid, so yay.
I've been going to the University of Cincinnati for almost three years now and I still don't know anyone. The first year was online because of the pandemic so that probably didn't help. In hindsight, I probably should have held off a year. Last year I was in the dorms but I had a weird roommate and I was never really able to break into any social circles. People tried to talk to me but I would get so nervous I'd basically shut down. I got invited to some stuff and sometimes that went ok but I just was never really able to hit it off with any of their friend groups. Twice people invited me to things and then told me they were canceled because their friends didn't want me there because they thought I was weird. I had some success in the last weeks of school and met a pretty hot girl. She introduced me to some of the people on my floor but it was too little too late and I never broke into that group either. This year one of my high school friends and I got a place above a Japanese Hibachi restaurant. But my friend still spends most nights at his mom's place leaving me alone and I go weeks at a time without really interacting with anyone. I feel terrible and I have crippling social anxiety. I try to talk to my parents about what I'm going through but all that really does is hurt them and make them feel upset so I'll probably stop doing that. But for the moment I'm still living here above the greasy hibachi joint and my grades are steadily declining. My whole adolescence was miserable and I was ruthlessly bullied in high school and middle school I'm worried if something doesn't change soon I'm going to be absolutely miserable for the rest of my life.
I honestly just want good memories more than anything but i'm an artist so maybe I'm supposed to be miserable.
I'll keep yall posted if anything changes
I went through the same bs, it felt at first like I had the plague, so it was tough to open myself up to talking to people, but after awhile, just saying hi to the people I wanted to talk every time I saw them. At first I felt stupid because I would say hi and they just walk passed me, but after awhile they put there guard down and they became my friends.
I just got here and quickly realized this is going to be me 😂 so I watched this to get prepared haha
So relatable my college is literally a high school everybody stares you up and down and gives you a look like you killed them I have had no friends in college since freshman year and your so relatable and a breath of fresh air! Love your videos 📹 ❤ 😍
This is me as well. I think it was also difficult because I was studying away in a different country and then coronavirus plunged me even further into isolation. I feel like it wasn’t even like I had no friends but I would often hang out with people and then go back to my dorm and sob because all the interactions felt meaningless and the loneliness was crushing. Like - gasping for breath, tripping over my own feet and starting to avoid people on purpose kind of crushing. I relate to you so much - I oscillate between wondering if it’s my fault and then wondering if people just left me behind. I hate superficial relationships so much and so honestly college is just hard because people want to do dumb shit together (which def has its time and place) but they never want to go deeper. So now I’m stuck at home facing another online semester in the fall... and I can’t decide if I’m wasting my youth or if it’s just easier this way?
One thing that I have seen though (and this gives me hope) is that often you make a group of friends that you spend time with freshman and sophomore year but you usually end up moving... on? with another group of people as an upperclassmen. Like, people have matured a bit, they’re more open and easy-going? About to go into my junior year so hopefully that turns out to be the case!
Hi Mick, thank you for sharing your story it really helps when you know that other people are going through the same thing.
I'm going through the same thing, how odd (or not). I'm in college (completing my master thesis) ad I've recently had what they call a spiritual awakening and accepted (not realised, I'd done that long before) that none of my classmates is my "friend". Because I've also gained a chunk of self-esteem I now decided to ditch these people - not that they care , though - and focus on myself, on being alone. Because I was the top student in my class I was surrounded by plebs who leeched me off for books, notes and whatever but couldn't even wish me a happy birthday. Well, fuck them, fuck social media and fuck my efforts. I'm going to waste my time and worries on me, I'm good enough for that.
Hope I can get to that point asap
@@cow1234ful You will get there eventually and when you do your self-esteem will skyrocket and you'll finally break free. Good luck to you!
@@KTR2022 thank you I appreciate that
I’m glad I watch these videos because I start college this fall and I’m very uncertain about it. I do feel bummed out saying goodbye to my high school buddies and going to a new place. My mom has told me college will be an improvement but I doubt it, and I usually believe whatever my mom tells me but this time I don’t. But this only bothers me because I feel like it’ll impact how I feel about what I want to study. I want to have fun with working to achieve my dreams. But I feel like if that doesn’t make me feel good, then what should I do? I might as well figure things out as the years go on.
Going into 2nd year of college and I feel ya, I feel like I self sabotaged myself from having friends bc I chose I course that’s majorly male and all that jazz. Yep so no friends for me either.
This video just gave me anxiety lmao. I'm literally a freshman in highschool, what am I doing watching this😭
Seriously though, I hope you find someone you trust enough to get close to. This video kinda prepared me a little and I thank you for that😗💌
im so sorry if it made you worry.. i posted an update video about how I ended up making friends.. and it I can make friends then anyone can :)
Same here. 😥 Today's my third day at college and I am still lonely. I live alone the whole college hours. I just miss my school days 😭
How is it going
so relatable. I had no friends at all in first year and half then I met one person that I really clicked with. but thats it. however I realise that just one person is more than enough. oF course it hurts that all the others don't give two shits about me. I'm practically ignored and donny get a response from anyone. I tried a lot (since my friend isn't in my class ) to get along with my classmates but I don't know. maybe it's them or me. I am awkward and shy and I know at times it could seem like I'm full of myself or something but I'm not. I'm still alone in my class. no one really talks to me unless they want something from me. but I guess I'm getting used to it.
before I moved to a community college, I stayed on campus at a fairly small school so everyone had already known each other from high school and being an international student it was very hard to actually talk to people especially when they've come into college already knowing each other. For the whole school year I probably had lunch with people probably about 5 times and the rest of the times I was in the caf just vibing by myself and it was kinda sad at first especially when all of the cliques were either in a frat or on a sports team, but by the end of the year I enjoyed my time by myself, especially on the weekends when everyone went back home to see their friends. So my advice for anyone who may be going through this is to try and get involved, and if that's not your thing fuck it talk with the caf workers and other workers around school at least that's what I did, or you can just enjoy your time alone before going to class.
You have a 100k people click to watch this video because from the title of it they could somewhat relate...I'm actually glad you made this cause I feel a lot less alone in this now....I actually thought there was something wrong with me...I do the exact same thing. ..I just can't handle the fake relationships...I just don't vibe with everyone and it's okay 💯😂
i've graduated college and all I can say is I haven't made many friends either. I was kind of lucky to have a hs friend with me for like the first half of college. And I made like 2 close friends, 1 of which kind of faded away over time. And a small group of friends from simply studying together (although we aren't extremely close after college, just social media, adulting friends?)
Some ways to make friends are through clubs, create study groups and group chats within your major or any difficult class or just take the initiative to speak to classmates. (Like if youre in a specific major, you can plan to take classes together with people within the group)
I know this is like two years ago, but hope you made some friends.
I finished my 7 years in medical school and I still have no friends lmao
RUclips: hey do you want your female version of your future?
Me: sure.
Fifth semester here, I managed to make ONE friend...
Bruh, if a girl THAT gorgeous with that fun attitude is alone and has no friends in college, WTH am I supposed to expect for me hhaha.
Im also sad, but its that sadness that you dont really let it to hit you, idk its weird.
Its really not about looks
@@Anniemax1 college is about looks at first lol
@@ilikechocolate3741 how is that ! I didn't notice
@Ro Mo u are being sarcastic right i hope u r
@LauraEtarhienyo it is what you make it to be,if you let the morons distract you ,you will fail in college chasing after girls and that dumb shit
Thankyou very much for this vid. I’m gonna start my College this fall and it makes me anxious knowing I don’t have anyone whom I can considered as my friends or even best friends, but I’m really trying to look beyond my situation and just hope that maybe I’ll be able to find the comfort of being alone. 💖
everything will be alright :) i ended up finding amazing friends
thankyouuu. 💖
That's true i am in the same situation
being alone instead of being in superficial relationships is way way better
And for some people like us we loose our energy between people because we don't like small chats and all that show off drama 😶
And it's hard to find real good friends 🙂
Your beautiful and intelligent and have a great personality. Don't sell yourself short. Rather take advantage of this time to focus on the studies that are more challenging and let everything else work itself out in the end. It always does, life has a plan and you need to be patient.
Why I find relatable persons in social media, but not in real life 😓
I've only ever really made friends online. I've graduated without making any college friends.
Billions of people are alive yet here we are still alone.
the editing is so 2018 and i love it. i hope you found friends since you made this video. i came across this video because i am a freshman in college and don't have any friends yet.
My advice for anyone out there reading this is go to college clubs (like knitting club, video game club, etc) . I was extremely lucky and was “adopted” by one of my best friends freshman year of college, and was eventually introduced to her friends outside of college and also and her friends at the video game club at our college. I was lonely at first and without her I doubt I would’ve made friends at college. Going to clubs is usually a good shot at making connections!