My dad left me when I was 3 and my daughter was separated from me at the age of 2 months because I am diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder. My father now has my taughter. I only see her at weekends. They still say i am not able to amount to anything but I will prove them wrong because they have no idea how much I love my daughter and how much she loves me.
Right. Even crazier to realize the father and mother are ultimately to blame. They completely failed to protect their children adequately. On top of that they abdicated their parental responsibilities to others even the state, and on top of that they did so willingly. The worst of the worst did so for political gain, as is the case of those trying to immigrate illegally to a foreign country. Disgusting.
It hurts and it broke my heart more than any relationship I've ever had that ended. My son was taken away from me when he was 5 months old and I breastfed him every day and spent all day with him and the courts allowed a separation and I die inside every day and night. I'm fighting for him back but it's hard because the father has more money than me and it's just the worst thing that could've happened to me. I have hope though.
Yes. But in adoption, it's seen as beautiful and not trauma. Many believe you can substitute one mother for another without any consequence I believe that is false.
@@jimmymane2960 that very true it too bad so many fathers leave their families and children and force single moms in a hellish Nightmare in poverty working multiple jobs just to survive Not being able to afford childcare! And what happens when Mom gets sick? Or she can’t find affordable housing Good food or have time with her babies between Jobs?!?
@@ATumblelinaTruth7777 not always the case... i run a support group for fathers and a lot of these men are fighting to see their children but are being alienated from them.
I was separated from my Mother at 2.5 years old for over three years. I am a full grown man now. Ive tried my best to be the best that I can be as a spouse and parent, but I realize there is an initial conditioning in me that makes these tasks difficult. I get frustrated with myself for not being better at both.
I was separated from my mother at the exact same age 2.5 years for 6 months. I was sent to another country. I’m 25 now, married, with my own baby on the way. I don’t know if I can ever forgive my parents for their choice, because it was a choice.
@@CaliforniaMortgageLoansslowly letting it go ❤ my daughter is two months old and perfect. She’ll never experience 0.05% of what I have and that’s enough closure for me. I’m permanently no contact with my family. It’s the most compassionate way forward that I can think of
This confirms that I made the right decision in declining an offer for a career raise in exchange for working from home to be with my 1 year old child more. Reporting to office eats up a lot of time in prep and traffic alone (in Philippines), plus the nature of my work is very demanding in terms of unplanned overtimes.
I am a single parent to a now 8 year old daughter. Her mother suffers with BPD and psychosis and since my daughter was 2, her mother has been in and out of our lives. She has been sectioned multiple times and has attacked me in front of our daughter many times too. My daughter struggles with stress and a very poor memory which effects her learning and even speech. This video was very informative and has helped me to understand why she has these issues. I just wish there was a way for me to take away her pain 😥
I'm the adult daughter of a mum with bpd and dad with strong narcissism. She rejected me from young. They both have done lasting damage to me and now my siblings carry on the attacks against me. I feel sorry for your daughter regarding the pain her mother has inflicted. It's good she has a caring father. Having at least one supportive parent means a great deal x
A break in the bond in early childhood can result in dysfunctional social behavior such as lack of empathy, being easily manipulated by bullies, denial of factual truth, susceptibility to conspiracy theories as a basis for reality, and a desire to troll the internet and make ridiculous assumptions and accusations.
Bullshit.. I've done a lot because i were treated like i am beneath a migrant in Sweden, despite the adoption- whenever i were in a conflict i'd get the blame. If a Swedish white girl said i had groomed her on her breast, then the social authorities and the child psychiatry would believe her and write in my journal that i were guilty -even after the police put the case down because of no evidence. The psychiatry and the social authorities would still have written that i had done the crime -leading to me being treated like i'm guilty without any chance of defending myself. Adopted kids are made the scapegoats by white society.. That's the reason for the many suicides and the behaviour you describe.
I'm the youngest child by 5 years, when I was 6 months old my parents left me at a daycare for a week and my family went to Disneyland. ( I hate that photo album) I battled with developmental delays, I was non-verbal until age 4, bed-wetting till age 11 and still struggle with separation anxiety as an adult. I would never leave a baby like my parents did. It's unacceptable and selfish and not bringing me sends a pretty clear message that I was a burden.
The myth of normal by dr Gabor mate. This man is a miracle and he definitely understands and I hope will help you too. It’s on audible or you can get his books. In the realm of hungry ghosts too. It’s about addiction but stick with it because it’s all linked back to childhood xxxx you can heal ❤
When you look at your daughter always remember the pain you made my mom feel and making my dad be involved. You impacting my mom negatively impacted all of us. Your wild decision which was for yourself and her impacted us so much negatively. It made our grandma you mom which raised you guys and you attacked her for her remarks. She loves all her grandkids and wanted be only happy and healthy. For you everything was acceptable stealing, running and doing everything in your power to get what you wanted. If she wasn’t part of the betrayal I would say she doesn’t deserve to be sad and not eat smoke a lot because deep down she’s sick. If they don’t allow this at the time results would have been different. How am I going to take care of you when I can’t take care of myself. What do you expect you lied stole from me which i have return one day. People they don’t respect to women at all my mom cried everyday seeing me like that personally I can’t be that strong every day. They didn’t listen to her cries screams. If you want to make peace we need to discuss this situation within ourselves not media nor others involved.
Exactly, or from the teenager years and on-wards. White people will be intolerant to the different temperament of adopteés. When we are small little children we are all cute. But in the teenager-years we are easily made scapegoats for every conflict started by whites in school. As in my case, with the Swedish psychiatry demonising me.. I got marginalised from the day i moved out from the family home.. From age 19 to now, and i'm 30 in a month.. They placed a Guardian on me ten years ago, they never did listen to me, they did however listen to all the people i had a conflict with- we have zero rights against white Swedes. I'd say this video is just a white woman blaming the separation for the consequenses of being chosen as the scapegoat in a white society. I have nothing against most white people.. But when 10 racists attack an adoptée the authorities usually pick their side, then they sweep the racism and bullying under the carpet- and say we are autistic etc instead. Blaming the separation is like protecting their own country from guilt.
Fleur Bandito Majority are asylum seekers ans refugees from South America...and even still it's incredibly inhumane to treat any human this way if you believe people have basic, undeniable rights no matter what country they came from.
The children who are separated from the caregivers for any reasons are doomed then, heh? Is that a pessimistic perspective or plain limited information? PS: Realistic is arrogance and suicide is solution only to Ozzy Osbourne.
The answer to this sir is Yes, I'm not answering to argue at all. Just so you will understand. Children form a bond with their primary caregiver's, it may be that a child is abused but still there's a bond. Abuse to and abused child is normal to them. They also want to make the parent change and they want to gain acceptance. Anyway they can is this a good thing? No the child only endures more abuse, but any way you slice it the child is harmed. Harmed by the abuse and the separation. Answer to that? The child has to be removed from the abuse so yes they are doomed both way's. It's very sad but true that the abuse and separation do the same equal damage. So unless there is no other option they have to cause one to stop the other .It shouldn't ever be done though unless theres no other option and then the child should go to the next closes person they have a bond with.
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My dad left me when I was 3 and my daughter was separated from me at the age of 2 months because I am diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder. My father now has my taughter. I only see her at weekends. They still say i am not able to amount to anything but I will prove them wrong because they have no idea how much I love my daughter and how much she loves me.
@@joniques.1591 ♥️
❤ I believe you will x
How anyone separating mother and child thinks that is a good idea is beyond me. You wouldn't even do it to a puppy or a kitten.
explain time out
How about a father and child?!
Sometimes it's more detrimental to hold when the parental foundation isn't strong.
Right. Even crazier to realize the father and mother are ultimately to blame. They completely failed to protect their children adequately. On top of that they abdicated their parental responsibilities to others even the state, and on top of that they did so willingly. The worst of the worst did so for political gain, as is the case of those trying to immigrate illegally to a foreign country. Disgusting.
It hurts and it broke my heart more than any relationship I've ever had that ended. My son was taken away from me when he was 5 months old and I breastfed him every day and spent all day with him and the courts allowed a separation and I die inside every day and night. I'm fighting for him back but it's hard because the father has more money than me and it's just the worst thing that could've happened to me. I have hope though.
This applies to babies and children who lose their first mothers due to adoption. Adoption trauma.
Yes. But in adoption, it's seen as beautiful and not trauma. Many believe you can substitute one mother for another without any consequence I believe that is false.
@@jingles9046 I Agree for both Mother and Child I Am A Birth Mother Who Grieves In Deep Regret Every Day 😭🤦🏼♀️😭
The child needs both parents. The father plays a very important role to the child
@@jimmymane2960 that very true it too bad so many fathers leave their families and children and force single moms in a hellish Nightmare in poverty working multiple jobs just to survive Not being able to afford childcare! And what happens when Mom gets sick? Or she can’t find affordable housing Good food or have time with her babies between Jobs?!?
@@ATumblelinaTruth7777 not always the case... i run a support group for fathers and a lot of these men are fighting to see their children but are being alienated from them.
I was separated from my Mother at 2.5 years old for over three years. I am a full grown man now. Ive tried my best to be the best that I can be as a spouse and parent, but I realize there is an initial conditioning in me that makes these tasks difficult. I get frustrated with myself for not being better at both.
I Wish You the best. I belive in You! I can tell You are a good man at heart :)
@@JannoTli thank you for your kind words.
I was separated from my mother at the exact same age 2.5 years for 6 months. I was sent to another country. I’m 25 now, married, with my own baby on the way. I don’t know if I can ever forgive my parents for their choice, because it was a choice.
@@loofchan2481 I hear ya, loud and clear. For your own sake, let it go. Resentment comes with ugly consequences.
@@CaliforniaMortgageLoansslowly letting it go ❤ my daughter is two months old and perfect. She’ll never experience 0.05% of what I have and that’s enough closure for me. I’m permanently no contact with my family. It’s the most compassionate way forward that I can think of
This confirms that I made the right decision in declining an offer for a career raise in exchange for working from home to be with my 1 year old child more. Reporting to office eats up a lot of time in prep and traffic alone (in Philippines), plus the nature of my work is very demanding in terms of unplanned overtimes.
I am a single parent to a now 8 year old daughter. Her mother suffers with BPD and psychosis and since my daughter was 2, her mother has been in and out of our lives. She has been sectioned multiple times and has attacked me in front of our daughter many times too. My daughter struggles with stress and a very poor memory which effects her learning and even speech. This video was very informative and has helped me to understand why she has these issues. I just wish there was a way for me to take away her pain 😥
I'm the adult daughter of a mum with bpd and dad with strong narcissism. She rejected me from young. They both have done lasting damage to me and now my siblings carry on the attacks against me.
I feel sorry for your daughter regarding the pain her mother has inflicted. It's good she has a caring father. Having at least one supportive parent means a great deal x
A break in the bond in early childhood can result in dysfunctional social behavior such as lack of empathy, being easily manipulated by bullies, denial of factual truth, susceptibility to conspiracy theories as a basis for reality, and a desire to troll the internet and make ridiculous assumptions and accusations.
Bullshit.. I've done a lot because i were treated like i am beneath a migrant in Sweden, despite the adoption- whenever i were in a conflict i'd get the blame.
If a Swedish white girl said i had groomed her on her breast, then the social authorities and the child psychiatry would believe her and write in my journal that i were guilty -even after the police put the case down because of no evidence.
The psychiatry and the social authorities would still have written that i had done the crime -leading to me being treated like i'm guilty without any chance of defending myself.
Adopted kids are made the scapegoats by white society.. That's the reason for the many suicides and the behaviour you describe.
You forgot to throw in the kitchen sink
I have too much empathy it's crippling me and literally ruining my life .
I'm the youngest child by 5 years, when I was 6 months old my parents left me at a daycare for a week and my family went to Disneyland. ( I hate that photo album)
I battled with developmental delays, I was non-verbal until age 4, bed-wetting till age 11 and still struggle with separation anxiety as an adult. I would never leave a baby like my parents did. It's unacceptable and selfish and not bringing me sends a pretty clear message that I was a burden.
Please do studies on us. Please help us. I'm 30 I struggle so much.
The myth of normal by dr Gabor mate. This man is a miracle and he definitely understands and I hope will help you too. It’s on audible or you can get his books. In the realm of hungry ghosts too. It’s about addiction but stick with it because it’s all linked back to childhood xxxx you can heal ❤
Thank you thank you thank you for telling the truth. Signed, Adoptee
Same.
that was depressing ...
When you look at your daughter always remember the pain you made my mom feel and making my dad be involved. You impacting my mom negatively impacted all of us. Your wild decision which was for yourself and her impacted us so much negatively. It made our grandma you mom which raised you guys and you attacked her for her remarks. She loves all her grandkids and wanted be only happy and healthy. For you everything was acceptable stealing, running and doing everything in your power to get what you wanted. If she wasn’t part of the betrayal I would say she doesn’t deserve to be sad and not eat smoke a lot because deep down she’s sick. If they don’t allow this at the time results would have been different. How am I going to take care of you when I can’t take care of myself. What do you expect you lied stole from me which i have return one day. People they don’t respect to women at all my mom cried everyday seeing me like that personally I can’t be that strong every day. They didn’t listen to her cries screams. If you want to make peace we need to discuss this situation within ourselves not media nor others involved.
I was separated from my mother several times since I was 2 until she died when I was 10.
@@doctorelectric5630 I’m so sorry 😞
@@Alicea_Myasia it’s fine
@@doctorelectric5630 okay I’m glad to hear that
@@Alicea_Myasia are u from America
OMG sweetie I'm so sorry.
I ponder if separation anxiety in mothers is the flip side of the relationship.
wow! now you're getting it!
...ponder no more, that's affirmative!
What happens in the brainwhen the alienation occurs when the child is age 20 and is alienated for 6 years?
Exactly, or from the teenager years and on-wards.
White people will be intolerant to the different temperament of adopteés. When we are small little children we are all cute. But in the teenager-years we are easily made scapegoats for every conflict started by whites in school.
As in my case, with the Swedish psychiatry demonising me.. I got marginalised from the day i moved out from the family home.. From age 19 to now, and i'm 30 in a month..
They placed a Guardian on me ten years ago, they never did listen to me, they did however listen to all the people i had a conflict with- we have zero rights against white Swedes. I'd say this video is just a white woman blaming the separation for the consequenses of being chosen as the scapegoat in a white society.
I have nothing against most white people.. But when 10 racists attack an adoptée the authorities usually pick their side, then they sweep the racism and bullying under the carpet- and say we are autistic etc instead. Blaming the separation is like protecting their own country from guilt.
@@mrnygren2 I have no idea what you're talking about. I feel you're trying to read racism into everyone white. That's nuts!
@@mandi7380 RIGHT. YOU DO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT.
is a week a long time?
To a child yes it is sweetie.
Zero Trust Network is serious
Im just destroyed.
Why has this been advertised to me as if I care about this topic?
Solution: Do not bring your small child into a country illegally.
Go to a port of entry and request asylum. If you're eligible then you're gladly granted that status.
Fleur Bandito Majority are asylum seekers ans refugees from South America...and even still it's incredibly inhumane to treat any human this way if you believe people have basic, undeniable rights no matter what country they came from.
make me--It's incredibly inhumane to put a child in danger by illegally entering a county through the desert. People die trying to cross.
Fleur Bandito The alternative is sometimes far worst. Hence the reason to risk everything even for a single chance to be free.
Truth
The children who are separated from the caregivers for any reasons are doomed then, heh?
Is that a pessimistic perspective or plain limited information?
PS: Realistic is arrogance and suicide is solution only to Ozzy Osbourne.
The answer to this sir is Yes, I'm not answering to argue at all. Just so you will understand. Children form a bond with their primary caregiver's, it may be that a child is abused but still there's a bond. Abuse to and abused child is normal to them. They also want to make the parent change and they want to gain acceptance. Anyway they can is this a good thing? No the child only endures more abuse, but any way you slice it the child is harmed. Harmed by the abuse and the separation. Answer to that? The child has to be removed from the abuse so yes they are doomed both way's. It's very sad but true that the abuse and separation do the same equal damage. So unless there is no other option they have to cause one to stop the other .It shouldn't ever be done though unless theres no other option and then the child should go to the next closes person they have a bond with.
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