Janek...I am a 51 year old guy, 3 school age children, serious bass player with a day job... (that may be an oxymoron, but I do the best I can, and take my bass craft seriously). I've been watching/listening to you for years now, ever since I saw you in a performance with Mike Stern in Oswego NY many years ago (I'm in Rochester). I just wanted to say thanks for sharing some of your personal life. It was obviously very hard to do. I've been through it myself, and I can assure you things WILL get better. Hang in there and keep making beautiful, artful, meaningful music.
Janek, I saw this vlog when it came out. I was gonna comment on it then, but I felt being that I since I don’t know you personally, it probably wouldn’t be a good idea. So, here it appears on my RUclips feed, a day after my 14 year anniversary with my gal Tiffany. I too, had a similar experience with a woman who I got married to, and ended up divorcing. It was something that I didn’t want, but ended up happening. After some time and some trials, I met Tif. She, absolutely hands down, is the best thing that has happened in my life. I am grateful every day. Seeing you and Chelsea together is wonderful. I knew back when this vlog came out that you’d be ok. I wanted to convey that message then, but I felt I’d only sound trite. Hopefully, I don’t come across that way now. It was only (as always) a matter of time. It’s what choose to do and who we decide to be after we’re dealt a bad hand. You are an inspiration not only to bassists, but to all musicians. Thank you for what you bring to the table.
Stay strong. Sometimes it's easy to forget that you guys, these heroes we have as bass players, are human too. Thank you for being so open, I got a little emotional there at the end. You are an amazing human being, thank you for your music and for inspiring us to be better. Definitely made me think about a lot of things. Sorry if this comment is late, but I'm catching up on your vlogs :)
I'm sooooo sorry Janek for asking that question. I didn't know about your wife. Please forgive me for opening a painful wound. Blessings and Happiness for you.
I've been watching a lot of Janek's vlogs lately, and I got to say, after watching this I wish I could give him a big hug. Talking may have done some good to him, hold on Janek
Wow that was kind of intense and I think that took a lot of courage to share off the cuff like that. Glad to see you have moved on and you and Chelsea look really happy together.
Just want to say that you are a courageous person, a great and beautiful bass player and and inspiration to even an old geezer bassist like me. Keep it up man, you are doing goos work!
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Man, thanks for sharing your experience, be it professional or personal. It really is refreshing and encouraging to have insights from someone who has a career and way of life I'm kind of aiming for, but a few more years ahead! I appreciate that as much as I (we?) would appreciate a friend sharing his experience, and can only hope I'll be an example to many at some point as well! So thank you for being real, spontaneous, and having such common sense. Best of luck to you, we can probably all relate to your story to some extent, and there's necessarily beauty in all that at the end of the day. Thank you thank you! 🙏🏼
Apreciate your courage of talking of your personal life like that…I think it's a real subject whane you're a touring musician. It's part of the thing…and life musician life is not only "have fun"
Hey Janek - just a note of support and understanding. I've been through divorce as well and you're absolutely right - one day at a time. That's all anyone can do. Love and respect for your honesty.
Hi Janek. I got divorced two years ago after five years of being married and I was empty inside kind of how you are felling now. After thinking about us a lot in that period I decided to come to her to ask to be together again... Now we live in understanding and supporting together, that divorce gave us necessary shake to rethink what we mean to each other with all our limitations. This is my experience, maybe it will be helpful somehow.
Hey Janek I stumbled across this video man, I saw you perform in brisbane a few years ago, man I have Always respected your gift but I feel I have more respect for you after the humble approach you answered the question on your divorce. Thanks for being so candid and displaying A level of humility desperately lacking in people today. Cheers
Janek...man first time watching one of these full through and I am really sorry to hear about your divorce. Thank you for being transparent. All the best. Wishing more strength for you man.
Wow, Janek: I've been checking your vlogs and blogs on and off for a couple of years, and the title of this one drew my attention. I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through a rough patch - thanks for your candour. Hang in there, and keep sharing the good stuff with us 'mere mortals'!
I have so much respect for you Janek. You are such an open, honest and humble man. Watching your VLOG since you started has shown why your music is so real and beautiful, it's because that's who you are and you are honest through your music. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.
Very honest Janek! I got divorced 4 years ago and my kids live a long way away. I feel your pain you are not alone. Respect to you and keep doing what you do. You might not realise how inspiring you are :-) Mike
A very thought provoking video - you're absolutely 100% correct about the "one day at a time" approach. Been down that road myself so I know what it's like, and it really is a process of waking up every morning, remembering to breathe in and out, and taking the day on. It's tough getting the work/life balance thing right. If it helps, it does get easier as time goes on, and the one thing that will help you get through it is your music. Thank you for sharing.
I really appreciate how humble and real you are in your videos. When you say things like, 'this is not fluid and natural yet', I like the implication that it will be with time spent working it out. Had i had that mindset as a young player I would have so much more accomplished. Thank you!
I got chills at the end especially when the song kicked back in. I appreciate the honesty and realness with which you answered...I think it'll lead to complete healing 🙏🏼 stay up!
Thank you for being so vulnerable in these blogs. I've been a fan of you as a bass player for years and these blogs have made me a fan of you as a person. I appreciate how real you are in them. Takes a lot of guts to talk about something so personal to a bunch of random people on the internet. You're almost inspiring me to make a vlog about my life/gigs/etc. Almost. Haha.
Yes, beautiful. Honesty always wins :) Amazing how the whole pace of the video radically changed when the question has been asked... relaxed attitude and tone of voice, very real...
Man I just subscribed to your channel today and have watched a bunch of your vlogs so far. Just saw this one and I wanted to say thank you for being so candid. No one here is owed that from you, and it's pretty spectacular that you opened up about such a personal topic as divorce. It's never easy to go through I'd imagine. You're doing great. Best wished moving forward, sir.
Hi Janek, as always your vlog has been a great pleasure to watch. I wanted to say that I admire your strength and dedication as you push through such a difficult period in life. There's nothing more painful than losing a loved one and most people would not be able to handle it with as much dignity and perseverance as you are, and that's not just admirable but inspirational as well. To be able to work as efficiently as you do even during times like these...truly amazing. I wish you all the best as you work through this and just want to let you know that you serve as great inspiration. Cheers.
Janek - Thank you for this Vlog. Been following and will continue to follow. Very candid and eye opening. Please continue to stay positive and hang in there. Peace. Tony.
Very emotinal and sentimental. It's heartbreaking, especially after more than a decade relationship. Janek thank you for sharing with us. Stay strong and be positive in every way. We love you. One step at a time, one day at a time..
Sorry for you Janek. Stay positive and keep funnelling your energy into your playing, your career and your fitness and you'll be ok in the long run. All the best.
hi Janek I have been watching your vlogs really enjoyed them especially this one. It's great to hear somebody be very open about personally hard times. It's lovely that you've admitted that you going to therapy, and advocate this as a way of working through some difficult times. I love your bass playing is so melodic and beautiful, hopefully, one day I will manage to get my fingers around a five string bass and get that high string to C to get those beautiful Chords you use. Can I wish you all the best for the future. Your very inspirational as I just taken up playing bass after a 20 year hiatus. In that 20 years I studied to be a therapist back in the UK. Have wonderful New Year
Hey Janek, Thank you for being such a wonderful human being and an inspiration (beyond the bass) to so many! I have a question for you next Q&A; when you have an exercise session that did not go as well as you had hoped, do you find that the performance from the exercise session translates out into your practice / gig life? If so, how do you compartmentalize?
Wow, brutally honest sharing Janek. I'm so sorry that things did not work out for your marriage but also encouraged that you took such a painful experience and are using it to grow. That's the best lesson you can teach anyone. I hope that things continue to look up.
Beautiful composition that captures that emotion. Reminds of that sweetness Richard Bona often writes. Thanks for your candor. Courageous like your musicianship.
Janek: thanks for doing these vlogs, I look forward to them everyday. This other side of life you touched on in the vlog is often difficult, so thank you for doing so. You have no idea how much it's helped me. Than you.
Hi Janek - Thanks for the fantastic vlogs and you're openness and honesty. I appreciate and enjoy all of your content and find great value in getting an insight of such a hard working, inspiring musician. Cheers from Australia.
Hey Janek! Really enjoy your vlogs. Divorce isn't easy and I'm been divorced for the past 5 months and it's a struggle and I found it very helpful on some of the stuff you touched on. Take it one day at a time. Thanks
Hey Janek, I'm so sorry to hear about your divorce and thank you so much for your honesty in this Vlog and everything you do. I've never heard you complain about anything and you're always positive, and you are an inspiration to me. Thank you for keeping me on track and inspiring me to play every day, even though I'll be without a bass while travelling with my family (it's my wife's dream we're fulfilling to travel Europe). But I have your book to inspire me to learn to read music on the road, and I even discovered I can play bass on my Garageband app on my iPhone 5, pretty wicked! You might feel alone and like you're not sure where to go on a personal level, but please know we love you out here in the world. Learn from your successes and mistakes - tough advice to take for sure, but it is always true.
I've been through it also Janek. I promise it will get better as time passes. Chapter of the book has closed but there are many more chapters to go. Many more. Stay positive and focused and you will get through it.
Really enjoying your blogs Janek, I've just latched onto them the last couple of weeks so I'm not watching them in order. This one touched me, you allowed us into something very personal and something a lot of us have to do - balancing a career and family life - Also one of my biggest challenges. I'm sorry to hear of your divorce, I trust that over time the pain will be less and less. Some of the world's greatest music has been written out of deep loss. Hang in there bro, we need you!
Wow, gained so much more respect for you Janek. Your authenticity, that's the real deal. Look at where you are now, and who you are with :) So happy for you both :) Being a great musician is one thing, being a great person is way more important. You're a great dude. Thanks for sharing.
You are such an incredible humanoid! Your honesty and candor and self expression is quite moving... God Speed to you in your healing and self exploration... What is exciting, is how you are going to grow yourself going forward. Blessings to you
Music takes us down many paths. Unfortunately there are times that it takes a toll on our significant others and they just want to hop off at the next stop.. That's a simplification of a complex problem many of the musician's spouses have to go through. It's a really tough time and this vlog hit home for me. Thanks for sharing Janek
Hey Janek, Thank you for reading out my question though I am feeling a bit shitty now after asking about Yoghurt when you then spoke about your divorce and the difficult times from the past year or so. I would say that your attitude and commitment to your health, fitness, work, music and education is an inspiration and example for us all watching and I wish you the very best.
I obviously don't know you, but I appreciate your transparency and for being candid. It's obviously difficult to deal with. I wish you the best. Remember to take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally and to reach out and surround yourself with friends and family. God bless you and the talent that you share.
I wish I could type words as well as I can speak them to convey what I really mean. Thank you for sharing your story. I really felt the vibe change when you spoke at the end and it really hit me in the feels. I've been binging on the early vlogs and had no idea of your life prior to the last 77 days. You come over as such a positive person and it seems like you are on the go 24x7. You have really inspired me to up my practice and make lists to things I want to accomplish every day. Just thank you I guess, you are making me a better person.
Hey Janek. I asked previously about your wife...I'm sorry. I dont know what to say. From what I see in your videos is that you look very happy and I know a lot of people may be jealous of your life style but I understand that is somewhat a hollow comment. Life happens and sometimes its unimaginably difficult but your making it through. Your showing everyone after this vlog that you can come back from a traumatic event like divorce. I know im just some letter on a screen, but I love what you do and now your vlogs open up a whole new side to a musicians life that most people dont know or see. You are an inspiration and I admire your work ethic and your ability to keep making these videos so often. With every closed door, another one opens.
Came back to your vlogs this week at very very tough point in my life. This one really helped me re-focus and I thank you for being both a musical inspiration but also a beautiful and genuine person. Again, thankyou @janek
Hey man... We've met before (2013) in 55Bar NYC after a year of studying with you. Very courageous of you talking about your personal life, sometimes the down side of being a musician. I've been through a divorce myself and have also been to therapy, which was of great help. However my faith helped me most in healing the parts that no none could. Anyway man, I'll light a candle for you... stay strong!
You, Sir, are a fine human being (we already knew you were an awesome bass player). It takes a lot of courage to be this open about massively traumatic life situations... All the best to you - take care!!!
sorry to hear you've had a tough patch in your personal life mate - all the best and keep up the awesome music and cool vlogs! Tom McK (from MMF days in Merton)
Thank you for your insight Janek! I've been watching your video blogs to hear your style because I feel as though the more emotive pieces that you write remind me of what I would write. Im not as well versed as you are in bass vocabulary but I thoroughly enjoy your enthusiasm. I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. And thank you for your honesty about admitting that you didn't do all you could to weigh the two lifestyles. I have a wife and two kids. Being a musician has been very expensive and somewhat time consuming when I have two other jobs. And I would imagine it would be a lot more difficult when being a musician is your job starting out. Thank you very much for your loving heart! God Bless!
Hi Janek, I've watched nearly all your vlogs but not this one until today !! and the weird thing about it is that you answered a question I put forward to you so thank you for that. I hope that one day you can play back in the UK, maybe next years London bass guitar show in march ??. I live in kent near margate and we now have some great venues to play at. cheers Robert...
Janek. i know this is an old post but i just wanted to say i really appreciated your response to Efrains questions. the issue of balance is one that is always attacking us all no matter our life situation. although I'm no professional music is a happy place for me and the struggles of marriage and fatherhood can make it an appealing escape. and yet it is still something I feel compelled to pursue.and not abandon completely . it is still a gift from God albeit the lesser compared to my family. thanks for your Vlogs . I am a guitarist who plays bass as well and you sharing your life and music has been and encouragement and help to me. God Bless
Very moving VLOG Janek and I really hope things feel better for you in 2017. New starts are so hard but you seem organised and focused and so the percentages are in your favour....you'll get where your going. P.S...the blonde receptionist at the tennis club is pretty cute....
Wow Praying for your strength. Thanks for being transparent. I also have not been managing my time like i should with my wife. Thanks for the wake up call God is using you to help others heal. Be blessed
I've recently come into your Volga's. As a drummer you are certainly someone I'd love to work with and it's good to learn that you are likely a great guy too. I hope are paths cross one day!
I'm so sorry to hear about your divorce. I wish you much happiness and success in your continued growth. Thank you for being an incredible inspiration to me and many others!
...thank you for sharing these thoughts, you're clearly not only one of the most gifted bassists of these times, but also the most insightful. The issue of how music strains relationships and mental health is not discussed often enough. Indeed, the first in-depth study into mental health and music as a profession only seems to have begun last year. It's not an everlasting party, and too often it's portrayed as this wonderful gear and shred fest online. That's not to say the other side of it is dark and scary, it's not it's part of being a creative human. What am I trying to say here? I guess it's wonderful that music has this online community, and the bassist community is esapecialy welcoming and inspirational, but there's almost too much focus on how to WIN at music, and very little focus on what to do when we lose, or how to deal with the sacrifices it requires or the losses we may suffer on the way. I applaud the courage it took for you to post this and am now a confirmed vlog minion. feed us knowledge!!!!
Janek thanks for the inspiring words and work ethics. now i can start doing good things from that devastating break up with my long time girlfriend. well this is whats life and glad you honestly share your life story. i hope you could come and play here in the Philippines. Godbless
I'm really sorry to hear that you are not anymore marry, hope you find that happiness again and also GOD love you and all of us your fans and thank you for sharing this to us
Amazing vlog today Janek! I was gutted watching your emotional response to a highly personal question. Thanks for sharing, and I hope you were able to secure visitation with your dog. I do have a quick question I was hoping you could answer. I dig that beanie you are always wearing, what brand is it?
I think it's a Coal "The Uniform" Beanie. Amazon sell them. He also had an Obey Beanie on the Europe trip. www.coalheadwear.com/catalog/spring-2016-collection/the-beanies shop.obeyclothing.co.uk/products/166/3765/draft_beanie/
Hey Janek greetings from COLOMBIA , your Vlogs be very inspirationals . And Honestly i' admire You courage for talk about you personal life , my best wishes for you and your plans. And when aré you coming to COLOMBIA .
So So Sorry for you. Being in the same situation after 15 years of a marriage ( I lost this life)I don't know how you can talk about that in front of a camera. I don't have your courage!!!!! Keep doing what you do. I felt a little bit alone. Drayen from France.
Well that was a Dflat .... I'm sorry to hear of your situation. Your pain is very obvious and hopefully one day in the near future you find extreme joy again with new love and pets. It's never easy and something most of us have done or will do. I remember when I first had the big break up, and with kids, how empty the house felt for so long. I loved her but hated living with a drunk that was ruining our lives. I had to give her the boot. The next pain you feel is the lawyer sucking you dry and losing half your shit. Funny though, despite all that, I still have an occasional dream about her some 24 years later. I always say though ... if I new how happy I'd be after the fact, I wouldn't have spent 2 weeks feeling sad. I'm new to your channel and look forward to really checking it out. Good luck in the future and all the best.
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Janek...I am a 51 year old guy, 3 school age children, serious bass player with a day job... (that may be an oxymoron, but I do the best I can, and take my bass craft seriously). I've been watching/listening to you for years now, ever since I saw you in a performance with Mike Stern in Oswego NY many years ago (I'm in Rochester). I just wanted to say thanks for sharing some of your personal life. It was obviously very hard to do. I've been through it myself, and I can assure you things WILL get better. Hang in there and keep making beautiful, artful, meaningful music.
Janek, I saw this vlog when it came out. I was gonna comment on it then, but I felt being that I since I don’t know you personally, it probably wouldn’t be a good idea. So, here it appears on my RUclips feed, a day after my 14 year anniversary with my gal Tiffany. I too, had a similar experience with a woman who I got married to, and ended up divorcing. It was something that I didn’t want, but ended up happening. After some time and some trials, I met Tif. She, absolutely hands down, is the best thing that has happened in my life. I am grateful every day.
Seeing you and Chelsea together is wonderful. I knew back when this vlog came out that you’d be ok. I wanted to convey that message then, but I felt I’d only sound trite. Hopefully, I don’t come across that way now. It was only (as always) a matter of time. It’s what choose to do and who we decide to be after we’re dealt a bad hand.
You are an inspiration not only to bassists, but to all musicians.
Thank you for what you bring to the table.
Stay strong. Sometimes it's easy to forget that you guys, these heroes we have as bass players, are human too. Thank you for being so open, I got a little emotional there at the end. You are an amazing human being, thank you for your music and for inspiring us to be better. Definitely made me think about a lot of things. Sorry if this comment is late, but I'm catching up on your vlogs :)
I'm sooooo sorry Janek for asking that question. I didn't know about your wife. Please forgive me for opening a painful wound. Blessings and Happiness for you.
Janek chose to tackle your question Efrain, so he must have wanted to get it out of his system
I've been watching a lot of Janek's vlogs lately, and I got to say, after watching this I wish I could give him a big hug. Talking may have done some good to him, hold on Janek
Tiago Ducatti me too 😢
Wow that was kind of intense and I think that took a lot of courage to share off the cuff like that. Glad to see you have moved on and you and Chelsea look really happy together.
Just want to say that you are a courageous person, a great and beautiful bass player and and inspiration to even an old geezer bassist like me. Keep it up man, you are doing goos work!
Man, thanks for sharing your experience, be it professional or personal. It really is refreshing and encouraging to have insights from someone who has a career and way of life I'm kind of aiming for, but a few more years ahead! I appreciate that as much as I (we?) would appreciate a friend sharing his experience, and can only hope I'll be an example to many at some point as well! So thank you for being real, spontaneous, and having such common sense. Best of luck to you, we can probably all relate to your story to some extent, and there's necessarily beauty in all that at the end of the day. Thank you thank you! 🙏🏼
Apreciate your courage of talking of your personal life like that…I think it's a real subject whane you're a touring musician. It's part of the thing…and life musician life is not only "have fun"
Very beautiful and fitting song for today's vlog. Thanks for the reminder to take it one day at a time.
Hey Janek - just a note of support and understanding. I've been through divorce as well and you're absolutely right - one day at a time. That's all anyone can do. Love and respect for your honesty.
appreciate your candidness. Divorce is brutal. I've been separated from my soon-to-be ex-wife since August 2015 after a 9 year marriage.
frost beam best of luck!
frost beam what happened? why didn't it work out? I'm very afraid of divorce, just want to know what was the main problem?
Your honesty and talent are inspirational, brother. Stay strong!
Hi Janek. I got divorced two years ago after five years of being married and I was empty inside kind of how you are felling now. After thinking about us a lot in that period I decided to come to her to ask to be together again... Now we live in understanding and supporting together, that divorce gave us necessary shake to rethink what we mean to each other with all our limitations. This is my experience, maybe it will be helpful somehow.
Hey Janek I stumbled across this video man, I saw you perform in brisbane a few years ago, man I have Always respected your gift but I feel I have more respect for you after the humble approach you answered the question on your divorce. Thanks for being so candid and displaying A level of humility desperately lacking in people today. Cheers
Janek...man first time watching one of these full through and I am really sorry to hear about your divorce. Thank you for being transparent. All the best. Wishing more strength for you man.
Thank you for speaking so honestly about your life.
Wow, Janek: I've been checking your vlogs and blogs on and off for a couple of years, and the title of this one drew my attention. I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through a rough patch - thanks for your candour. Hang in there, and keep sharing the good stuff with us 'mere mortals'!
I have so much respect for you Janek. You are such an open, honest and humble man. Watching your VLOG since you started has shown why your music is so real and beautiful, it's because that's who you are and you are honest through your music. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.
Very honest Janek! I got divorced 4 years ago and my kids live a long way away. I feel your pain you are not alone. Respect to you and keep doing what you do. You might not realise how inspiring you are :-) Mike
A very moving video indeed. Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest with your audience. You are an inspiration. Hope all is well
A very thought provoking video - you're absolutely 100% correct about the "one day at a time" approach. Been down that road myself so I know what it's like, and it really is a process of waking up every morning, remembering to breathe in and out, and taking the day on. It's tough getting the work/life balance thing right. If it helps, it does get easier as time goes on, and the one thing that will help you get through it is your music. Thank you for sharing.
I really appreciate how humble and real you are in your videos. When you say things like, 'this is not fluid and natural yet', I like the implication that it will be with time spent working it out. Had i had that mindset as a young player I would have so much more accomplished. Thank you!
You're the only instrumental RUclips person that doesn't edit out mistakes. Hats off
Showing the humanity.The honesty was huge contribution to what we learn through these VLOG's. Thank You!
I got chills at the end especially when the song kicked back in. I appreciate the honesty and realness with which you answered...I think it'll lead to complete healing 🙏🏼 stay up!
Thank you for being so vulnerable in these blogs. I've been a fan of you as a bass player for years and these blogs have made me a fan of you as a person. I appreciate how real you are in them. Takes a lot of guts to talk about something so personal to a bunch of random people on the internet. You're almost inspiring me to make a vlog about my life/gigs/etc. Almost. Haha.
Yes, beautiful.
Honesty always wins :) Amazing how the whole pace of the video radically changed when the question has been asked... relaxed attitude and tone of voice, very real...
Man I just subscribed to your channel today and have watched a bunch of your vlogs so far. Just saw this one and I wanted to say thank you for being so candid. No one here is owed that from you, and it's pretty spectacular that you opened up about such a personal topic as divorce. It's never easy to go through I'd imagine. You're doing great. Best wished moving forward, sir.
Hi Janek, as always your vlog has been a great pleasure to watch. I wanted to say that I admire your strength and dedication as you push through such a difficult period in life. There's nothing more painful than losing a loved one and most people would not be able to handle it with as much dignity and perseverance as you are, and that's not just admirable but inspirational as well. To be able to work as efficiently as you do even during times like these...truly amazing. I wish you all the best as you work through this and just want to let you know that you serve as great inspiration. Cheers.
wow.. Janek. Thank you for being so honest and to put yourself in a very vulnerable spot. Much love.
Nice clip. I can empathise having been separated for a few years too. Will be checking these vlogs more regularly. Thank you
Janek - Thank you for this Vlog. Been following and will continue to follow. Very candid and eye opening. Please continue to stay positive and hang in there. Peace. Tony.
I'm going through the exact same thing man. Glad I came across this, just knowing I'm not the only one does help. Thank you for your honesty.
Janek! we are with you bro!
Your work ethic is much appreciated!
Greetings from Perth - Australia.
Very emotinal and sentimental. It's heartbreaking, especially after more than a decade relationship. Janek thank you for sharing with us. Stay strong and be positive in every way. We love you. One step at a time, one day at a time..
Sorry for you Janek. Stay positive and keep funnelling your energy into your playing, your career and your fitness and you'll be ok in the long run. All the best.
hi Janek
I have been watching your vlogs really enjoyed them especially this one. It's great to hear somebody be very open about personally hard times. It's lovely that you've admitted that you going to therapy, and advocate this as a way of working through some difficult times. I love your bass playing is so melodic and beautiful, hopefully, one day I will manage to get my fingers around a five string bass and get that high string to C to get those beautiful Chords you use. Can I wish you all the best for the future. Your very inspirational as I just taken up playing bass after a 20 year hiatus. In that 20 years I studied to be a therapist back in the UK. Have wonderful New Year
Hey Janek,
Thank you for being such a wonderful human being and an inspiration (beyond the bass) to so many!
I have a question for you next Q&A; when you have an exercise session that did not go as well as you had hoped, do you find that the performance from the exercise session translates out into your practice / gig life? If so, how do you compartmentalize?
Wow, brutally honest sharing Janek. I'm so sorry that things did not work out for your marriage but also encouraged that you took such a painful experience and are using it to grow. That's the best lesson you can teach anyone. I hope that things continue to look up.
Beautiful composition that captures that emotion. Reminds of that sweetness Richard Bona often writes. Thanks for your candor. Courageous like your musicianship.
This is heartful, i always turn into this video when i need some hope in my every day.
Janek: thanks for doing these vlogs, I look forward to them everyday. This other side of life you touched on in the vlog is often difficult, so thank you for doing so. You have no idea how much it's helped me. Than you.
Hi Janek - Thanks for the fantastic vlogs and you're openness and honesty. I appreciate and enjoy all of your content and find great value in getting an insight of such a hard working, inspiring musician. Cheers from Australia.
Hey Janek! Really enjoy your vlogs. Divorce isn't easy and I'm been divorced for the past 5 months and it's a struggle and I found it very helpful on some of the stuff you touched on. Take it one day at a time. Thanks
Hey Janek, I'm so sorry to hear about your divorce and thank you so much for your honesty in this Vlog and everything you do. I've never heard you complain about anything and you're always positive, and you are an inspiration to me. Thank you for keeping me on track and inspiring me to play every day, even though I'll be without a bass while travelling with my family (it's my wife's dream we're fulfilling to travel Europe). But I have your book to inspire me to learn to read music on the road, and I even discovered I can play bass on my Garageband app on my iPhone 5, pretty wicked! You might feel alone and like you're not sure where to go on a personal level, but please know we love you out here in the world. Learn from your successes and mistakes - tough advice to take for sure, but it is always true.
I've been through it also Janek. I promise it will get better as time passes. Chapter of the book has closed but there are many more chapters to go. Many more. Stay positive and focused and you will get through it.
I appreciate your honesty. My marriage of 20 years has been on the brink for the past few years. I have no idea how I would deal with a divorce.
Amazing... I really appreciate your honesty!! I'm enjoying all your vlogs... just amazing!!
Really enjoying your blogs Janek, I've just latched onto them the last couple of weeks so I'm not watching them in order. This one touched me, you allowed us into something very personal and something a lot of us have to do - balancing a career and family life - Also one of my biggest challenges.
I'm sorry to hear of your divorce, I trust that over time the pain will be less and less. Some of the world's greatest music has been written out of deep loss. Hang in there bro, we need you!
Wow, gained so much more respect for you Janek. Your authenticity, that's the real deal. Look at where you are now, and who you are with :) So happy for you both :)
Being a great musician is one thing, being a great person is way more important. You're a great dude. Thanks for sharing.
You are such an incredible humanoid! Your honesty and candor and self expression is quite moving... God Speed to you in your healing and self exploration... What is exciting, is how you are going to grow yourself going forward. Blessings to you
Music takes us down many paths. Unfortunately there are times that it takes a toll on our significant others and they just want to hop off at the next stop.. That's a simplification of a complex problem many of the musician's spouses have to go through. It's a really tough time and this vlog hit home for me. Thanks for sharing Janek
Hey Janek, Thank you for reading out my question though I am feeling a bit shitty now after asking about Yoghurt when you then spoke about your divorce and the difficult times from the past year or so.
I would say that your attitude and commitment to your health, fitness, work, music and education is an inspiration and example for us all watching and I wish you the very best.
Powerful stuff. Thank you for sharing. Stay strong.
I obviously don't know you, but I appreciate your transparency and for being candid.
It's obviously difficult to deal with. I wish you the best.
Remember to take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally and to reach out and surround yourself with friends and family.
God bless you and the talent that you share.
Man.... 6 years ago, I didn't understand this... now I do...Thank you, Janek.
Respect to you Janek, and you're openness.
I wish I could type words as well as I can speak them to convey what I really mean.
Thank you for sharing your story. I really felt the vibe change when you spoke at the end and it really hit me in the feels. I've been binging on the early vlogs and had no idea of your life prior to the last 77 days. You come over as such a positive person and it seems like you are on the go 24x7. You have really inspired me to up my practice and make lists to things I want to accomplish every day. Just thank you I guess, you are making me a better person.
Hey Janek. I asked previously about your wife...I'm sorry. I dont know what to say. From what I see in your videos is that you look very happy and I know a lot of people may be jealous of your life style but I understand that is somewhat a hollow comment. Life happens and sometimes its unimaginably difficult but your making it through. Your showing everyone after this vlog that you can come back from a traumatic event like divorce. I know im just some letter on a screen, but I love what you do and now your vlogs open up a whole new side to a musicians life that most people dont know or see. You are an inspiration and I admire your work ethic and your ability to keep making these videos so often. With every closed door, another one opens.
Came back to your vlogs this week at very very tough point in my life. This one really helped me re-focus and I thank you for being both a musical inspiration but also a beautiful and genuine person. Again, thankyou @janek
Hey man... We've met before (2013) in 55Bar NYC after a year of studying with you. Very courageous of you talking about your personal life, sometimes the down side of being a musician. I've been through a divorce myself and have also been to therapy, which was of great help. However my faith helped me most in healing the parts that no none could. Anyway man, I'll light a candle for you... stay strong!
You, Sir, are a fine human being (we already knew you were an awesome bass player). It takes a lot of courage to be this open about massively traumatic life situations... All the best to you - take care!!!
Hey, Janek! I really appreciate you sharing this experience with us. "One day at a time" my grandmother use to say!
sorry to hear you've had a tough patch in your personal life mate - all the best and keep up the awesome music and cool vlogs! Tom McK (from MMF days in Merton)
Thank you for your insight Janek! I've been watching your video blogs to hear your style because I feel as though the more emotive pieces that you write remind me of what I would write. Im not as well versed as you are in bass vocabulary but I thoroughly enjoy your enthusiasm. I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. And thank you for your honesty about admitting that you didn't do all you could to weigh the two lifestyles. I have a wife and two kids. Being a musician has been very expensive and somewhat time consuming when I have two other jobs. And I would imagine it would be a lot more difficult when being a musician is your job starting out. Thank you very much for your loving heart! God Bless!
Hi Janek, I've watched nearly all your vlogs but not this one until today !! and the weird thing about it is that you answered a question I put forward to you so thank you for that. I hope that one day you can play back in the UK, maybe next years London bass guitar show in march ??. I live in kent near margate and we now have some great venues to play at. cheers Robert...
Janek. i know this is an old post but i just wanted to say i really appreciated your response to Efrains questions. the issue of balance is one that is always attacking us all no matter our life situation. although I'm no professional music is a happy place for me and the struggles of marriage and fatherhood can make it an appealing escape. and yet it is still something I feel compelled to pursue.and not abandon completely . it is still a gift from God albeit the lesser compared to my family. thanks for your Vlogs . I am a guitarist who plays bass as well and you sharing your life and music has been and encouragement and help to me. God Bless
Very moving VLOG Janek and I really hope things feel better for you in 2017. New starts are so hard but you seem organised and focused and so the percentages are in your favour....you'll get where your going. P.S...the blonde receptionist at the tennis club is pretty cute....
You're a great person! Keep growing my friend!
Wow Praying for your strength. Thanks for being transparent. I also have not been managing my time like i should with my wife. Thanks for the wake up call God is using you to help others heal. Be blessed
Thanks for sharing so much. Very inspiring on all fronts.
I've recently come into your Volga's. As a drummer you are certainly someone I'd love to work with and it's good to learn that you are likely a great guy too. I hope are paths cross one day!
Hi Janek, just tuning into your vlogs. Unbelievably touching at the end. Take care of yourself. When you gonna be in Ireland? Respect, Brian.
I'm so sorry to hear about your divorce. I wish you much happiness and success in your continued growth. Thank you for being an incredible inspiration to me and many others!
I'm sorry Janek...keep going... your are a fountain of talent. Blessings brother!!
Respect Brother
I appreciate your hard work Janek, keep it up man!
great composition!
I love your videos, Janek! You have inspired me for years!
+1 to props on your candidness, Janek. Sorry to hear about the divorce... Positives vibes from Denver. :)
...thank you for sharing these thoughts, you're clearly not only one of the most gifted bassists of these times, but also the most insightful. The issue of how music strains relationships and mental health is not discussed often enough. Indeed, the first in-depth study into mental health and music as a profession only seems to have begun last year. It's not an everlasting party, and too often it's portrayed as this wonderful gear and shred fest online. That's not to say the other side of it is dark and scary, it's not it's part of being a creative human.
What am I trying to say here? I guess it's wonderful that music has this online community, and the bassist community is esapecialy welcoming and inspirational, but there's almost too much focus on how to WIN at music, and very little focus on what to do when we lose, or how to deal with the sacrifices it requires or the losses we may suffer on the way.
I applaud the courage it took for you to post this and am now a confirmed vlog minion. feed us knowledge!!!!
I really appreciate your sharing brother.
Hey Janek thanks for sharing a little piece of your personal life and a painful one. Greetings from Mexico
Great melody!
Going through it too. It's devastating.
Time will heal.......Thanks for sharing.
Janek thanks for the inspiring words and work ethics. now i can start doing good things from that devastating break up with my long time girlfriend. well this is whats life and glad you honestly share your life story. i hope you could come and play here in the Philippines. Godbless
Very brave of you to open like that... Hope you find the strength to heal. Cheers bro.
That must have been tough to talk about. I've a new found respect for you. Stay strong.
I'm really sorry to hear that you are not anymore marry, hope you find that happiness again and also GOD love you and all of us your fans and thank you for sharing this to us
Som beutiful Janek! Awsome in the beginning....you must do a song of that line
Amazing vlog today Janek! I was gutted watching your emotional response to a highly personal question. Thanks for sharing, and I hope you were able to secure visitation with your dog.
I do have a quick question I was hoping you could answer. I dig that beanie you are always wearing, what brand is it?
I think it's a Coal "The Uniform" Beanie. Amazon sell them. He also had an Obey Beanie on the Europe trip.
www.coalheadwear.com/catalog/spring-2016-collection/the-beanies
shop.obeyclothing.co.uk/products/166/3765/draft_beanie/
Yeah... what everyone said and then some. Have a great and creative 2017.
All the love to you mate!!
Hey Janek greetings from COLOMBIA , your Vlogs be very inspirationals . And Honestly i' admire You courage for talk about you personal life , my best wishes for you and your plans. And when aré you coming to COLOMBIA .
God bless you Janek.
So So Sorry for you. Being in the same situation after 15 years of a marriage ( I lost this life)I don't know how you can talk about that in front of a camera. I don't have your courage!!!!! Keep doing what you do. I felt a little bit alone. Drayen from France.
I pray The Peace of the Lord over your life... and continued blessing and a sense of affirmation. You are highly favored.. you're a good son.
Sorry for your loss, man.
Thank you for sharing...
Hang in there man. it'll all come together soon enough
Well that was a Dflat .... I'm sorry to hear of your situation. Your pain is very obvious and hopefully one day in the near future you find extreme joy again with new love and pets. It's never easy and something most of us have done or will do. I remember when I first had the big break up, and with kids, how empty the house felt for so long. I loved her but hated living with a drunk that was ruining our lives. I had to give her the boot. The next pain you feel is the lawyer sucking you dry and losing half your shit. Funny though, despite all that, I still have an occasional dream about her some 24 years later. I always say though ... if I new how happy I'd be after the fact, I wouldn't have spent 2 weeks feeling sad.
I'm new to your channel and look forward to really checking it out. Good luck in the future and all the best.