“We have $22k in cc debt…but I want to renovate the house”

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  • Опубликовано: 6 май 2024
  • Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Paul and Morgan, 37 and 33, live in New York City. They find themselves in a painful loop of arguments and unchecked spending, putting the future of their young family at risk. We hear about destination concerts, ongoing renovations, and charged vacations-but it’s their fixed cost percentage that is most worrisome.
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Комментарии • 283

  • @ramitsethi
    @ramitsethi  23 дня назад +25

    00:00 Download the Conscious Spending Plan so you can use your money GUILT-FREE: iwt.com/csp-youtube
    Please remember: These are real people who had the courage to come on my podcast and ask for help. Would you be willing to come on this podcast and share every detail of your financial life? Feel free to leave comments based on what you think, but remember that we are here to help in a supportive way, not to demean and criticize.

  • @postmorbus
    @postmorbus 22 дня назад +178

    It always blows my mind when people say, "I am going to make money later!" I started to become disabled at 37 and I was previously super active. At 42 I was forced to completely retire from the work world. I went from 6 figures to 5 again and my two kids were 6 & 8 - and we had just bought a house a month earlier! TWENTY FIVE percent of people become disabled either temporarily or permanently in their lifetimes. So no, you won't always be making more money. I was lucky: I had disability insurance that covered my salary 70% (and I get COL raises every year) until I am 65. Imagine how hard life becomes when one partner cannot clean, do renovations or even do daycare pickup. Imagine your expenses increasing to add accessibility features to your home. Anyone could get hit by a car tomorrow and go through this process so everyone should have DI!

    • @mellymarie9612
      @mellymarie9612 22 дня назад +15

      Thank you for this important reminder! I hope you and your family are doing well! ❤️

    • @postmorbus
      @postmorbus 22 дня назад

      @@mellymarie9612 We are, I am a good saver and my husband has a good income. We paid off the house in 6 years and we also have a lovely community of family and friends we can rely on (the best investment!). Thank you for your kind comment!

    • @chaselesser3191
      @chaselesser3191 22 дня назад +3

      I think I’m going to get that type of insurance when I renew. B/c you are right, things can quickly.

    • @yohanaortiz7314
      @yohanaortiz7314 22 дня назад +1

      How did you go about getting your disability insurance?

    • @WTF-sh4is
      @WTF-sh4is 22 дня назад +2

      Wow that’s a powerful example! Learning lesson for us all! Thank you for sharing

  • @AnusiaLA
    @AnusiaLA 23 дня назад +264

    My ex husband was like this. Charged everything on his credit cards. I helped him pay everything off. I paid almost all the bills and gave him tax returns (and caught him spending money behind my back and hiding items like tools he didn’t need). Then, once he was debt free he tried to spend my savings on a trip and I said no. He said he’s going anyway. I asked how is he going to pay for it. He said CC. I told him to get the ticket from the town his dad lives in cause he’s moving there ASAP. I kicked him out. Don’t be like me. Don’t marry people who are terrible with money.

    • @martabanasiewicz6353
      @martabanasiewicz6353 23 дня назад +14

      Girl why you have him your money from tax return… if someone don’t want your help with making plan and education they will not appreciate money as gift. But good for you for not letting him use you anymore

    • @bunnybaker2289
      @bunnybaker2289 22 дня назад +22

      @@martabanasiewicz6353 Well they were already married and in a divorce she’d probably be stuck with half his debt anyways. It gets dicey when you marry because you combine financially in the eyes of the law in most cases. It’s rough if you marry someone like that.

    • @codelessunlimited7701
      @codelessunlimited7701 22 дня назад

      He's an idiot, he was lucky with you.

    • @krista4118
      @krista4118 22 дня назад +40

      I could have written this paragraph myself. When we divorced, I paid off his debt so it wouldn't be attached to me anymore. I paid for a divorce lawyer even though he said he would, but he didn't have the money for it.
      I've watched my net worth go up and up since we split 4 years ago. I previously thought I was broke, but it turns out someone was just shoveling money out faster than I was making it.

    • @carieyoung1111
      @carieyoung1111 22 дня назад +9

      I have exact same story - finally divorced- he was a nightmare and did not give two craps about what I did for him…his last purchase was 40k boat he could not afford!

  • @richheruk
    @richheruk 23 дня назад +375

    Cancel my meetings, Ramit just dropped a video.

    • @mspro9032
      @mspro9032 23 дня назад +2

      For real

    • @kemi1486
      @kemi1486 23 дня назад +3

      😂🗣️🤗🗣️🤓🗣️

    • @FaivenFeshazion
      @FaivenFeshazion 22 дня назад +2

      😂😂😂😂

    • @chrisk4053
      @chrisk4053 22 дня назад

      He seems childish with his spending.

  • @CherylWickham
    @CherylWickham 22 дня назад +75

    It's fascinating to me that they moved in with the parents who were struggling and not the ones that weren't and had a huge house. I can't say for sure, but it sounds like his parents are practical, but cold and he sees that lack of warmth and equates it with how they spend money, when really the money is a symptom, not the cause. There are frugal people who are kind and warm too, and I think he needs to realize that.

    • @jaynez9027
      @jaynez9027 22 дня назад +7

      That’s a good thought. My parents downsized and moved closer to us because we had kids and they wanted to be closer. So it was a little rough hearing his parents didn’t want to

    • @elizabethpieters7798
      @elizabethpieters7798 22 дня назад +20

      I think his parents are just fed up with him. I think they have probably helped him out alot in the past and is now setting boundaries.

    • @CambieSweets
      @CambieSweets 22 дня назад +5

      Great job everyone! These are all possible circumstances.

    • @janebaker4912
      @janebaker4912 21 день назад +2

      You can be warm but have boundries and not enable.
      Letting him move in would enable him. He'd never move out and just get in more debt!!

    • @rebvanwinkelstein2578
      @rebvanwinkelstein2578 20 дней назад

      ​@@janebaker4912jupp

  • @sct4040
    @sct4040 22 дня назад +30

    If you overspend because your job is stressful, I think it’s better to change jobs than to spend for pacification. It’s like drinking to feel better. It’s an addiction. I learned the hard way that things don’t make me happy, less stress does. That’s something I realized as I got older, more mature.
    84% of your income on fixed cost is A LOT ‼️ I would work on that asap.

  • @dawnkoplitz1825
    @dawnkoplitz1825 22 дня назад +55

    This episode hits soooo close to home. My husband is always talking about the next thing he is going to buy, and each thing is $25,000-$100,000! He never has enough! He also can’t stand anyone telling him what to do. We decided on a monthly allowance for each of us to have, but then he goes to the bank, deposits his paycheck, and keeps extra cash out to put in his pocket. This is financial infidelity. 😠. When I’ve tried to have a discussion about finances, he always says,” We have plenty of money.” I know he has no idea where we are financially because he only looks at the amount in the checking/ savings. He doesn’t think abt the upcoming taxes, car repairs, etc. I love the phrase, “Your partner doesn’t want reassurance, they want competence.”

    • @PurpleStarsaver
      @PurpleStarsaver 19 дней назад +3

      You must take this seriously! His financial actions are causing you stress as well as anxiety even if you don’t feel it. IT WILL KILL YOU! Please seek help for you and him. He must see that every time he is committing financial infidelity he is hammering another nail in your coffin.

    • @dawnkoplitz1825
      @dawnkoplitz1825 17 дней назад

      @@PurpleStarsaverThanks for validating me.

    • @laurao3274
      @laurao3274 13 дней назад

      There is also such a thing as financial abuse. I endured that (and other kinds of abuse) in my first marriage. I recommend you do some research into it and search your heart to figure out if it's abuse or not.

  • @ignitionSoldier
    @ignitionSoldier 23 дня назад +63

    You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. Paul had a great opportunity with the parents he had and he just doesn't want to heed their advice. I wish I had the same opportunities he has had in life.

    • @Playingwithproxies
      @Playingwithproxies 22 дня назад +7

      Such a massive difference in lifestyle and both of them wanted to do the opposite of their parents

  • @LabradorsAreGoodDogs
    @LabradorsAreGoodDogs 22 дня назад +70

    This was so interesting to see the guy grew up with financially responsible parents, and yet he's not following their lessons. I have a 4 year old son and one of the main reasons I watch this show is because I want him to grow up to be responsible with money. I would be really interested to know if the husband had an allowance when he was a kid, or if the parents always bought things for him and therefore essentially made every purchase decision for him.

    • @agusal4487
      @agusal4487 22 дня назад +11

      I am very curious to know what exactly he found so “restricting” about being raised by financially savvy, dual income, well to do parents. Was it moving in to a bigger house? The vacations they went on? I suppose the dad’s car wasn’t impressive but dad didn’t care. More kids should be so lucky.

    • @cybertoeknee
      @cybertoeknee 22 дня назад +8

      @@agusal4487 My guess would be Paul doesn't consider frugality as a virtue. It sounds like his parents could have bought a new car if it was important to them but obviously it wasn't to his Dad. Their rich life were the vacations and the bigger house, and I don't think Paul has/had made that connection yet.

    • @GlamGoddes101
      @GlamGoddes101 21 день назад +1

      @@agusal4487 His parents did have to “sacrifice” a little by living off of a teachers salary, and completely saving the engineering salary before buying the house. Maybe he thinks that was restricting? But like it ended up getting them a big house so idk why he feels like that

    • @TeKnoVKNG23
      @TeKnoVKNG23 16 дней назад +3

      @@agusal4487 Probably because he didn't get the toys or fancy video game consoles when they first came out like all of his friends did or something along those lines, so when he got older he decided he was going to buy what he wanted/treat himself to make up for it. There's usually a psychological reason behind it.

    • @Sisuri
      @Sisuri 15 дней назад +2

      I read online about this mom who let her kids spent their allowance however they want even after warning them of frivolous purchases. The mom wanted her kids to learn buyer's remorse early on instead of when they become adults and starting earning money. I like this idea. I grew up with frugal parents and picked up on it. I also know adults who live paycheck to paycheck to buy things they don't need because they didn't get to just spend when they were younger.

  • @jdp486
    @jdp486 22 дня назад +17

    I was 15 when I was first shocked by how much things cost. I saved up my babysitting money for 2 years before we visited the USA and I went shopping at the mall for new clothes. Wow, what an eye opening experience. Since then, I've had to remember: separate the wants from the needs, and prioritize.

  • @nosirrahm
    @nosirrahm 22 дня назад +25

    The problem is that he isn’t spending his money. His money was spent years ago because he’s in debt. He’s spending other people’s money.

    • @connerblah
      @connerblah 22 дня назад +2

      Yep. And this is why she said the stakes were higher with her added income. It was less of a problem before because he was spending "his" money. Now that he's spending hers as well, it's become obvious what the problem is. And it probably also gives her more confidence to confront him about it because maybe she felt like she was freeloading and couldn't make the financial calls before, but can now (rightly or wrongly).
      I think she backtracked on this statement and changed it to the kids instead because it can sound kind of selfish when you put it that way. "It was less of a problem when he was spending HIS money, but now that he's spending MINE we have a real problem." It's amplifying the issue that this guy just can't help himself and making it obvious so it's not as self-centered of a statement as it might seem.

  • @Wellingclub
    @Wellingclub 23 дня назад +50

    The most addicting content on RUclips!

  • @LarisaC.
    @LarisaC. 23 дня назад +63

    “My credit card debt will go up to… it’ll get really high and then back to almost zero”. He’s really good with not numbers. 😂

  • @elisekennedy3729
    @elisekennedy3729 21 день назад +37

    23:01
    Ramit: "Your partner does not want you reassurance. They want your competence."
    Me: TELL EM, RAMIT!

  • @Nerdificationing
    @Nerdificationing 23 дня назад +43

    Can you do a follow up with EACH of their parents? That would be so fascinating

  • @evann8382
    @evann8382 22 дня назад +52

    That moment when you realize it’s a 2 part episode and you won’t be getting a new story next week 😢

    • @anonymousname707
      @anonymousname707 22 дня назад +3

      Lol, thanks for this the moment I read this is the moment. I just wait for next week.

    • @arh1234
      @arh1234 22 дня назад +4

      I love the two-parters. I feel like the discussions tend to be especially interesting

    • @Reggiescrew
      @Reggiescrew 22 дня назад

      Thanks for the heads up 👍🏾

    • @Aquaria2291
      @Aquaria2291 19 дней назад +1

      ​@@arh1234 they are interesting but I hate having to wait until next week to see what happens next.
      I wish they would put part 1 in the title, so we can decide up front to wait or watch now.
      I don't even wait for tv shows to come out week by week anymore, I let the season finish and then watch the episodes through. 😂

  • @sydney-my4zn
    @sydney-my4zn 22 дня назад +21

    the look into the camera when morgan said the financial planner from her workplace tried to sell her whole life insurance 🤣

  • @ZenPT
    @ZenPT 22 дня назад +28

    This is interesting. Just made me think about perception and how it shapes our attitude with money. For Morgan, she had a negative role model in her dad, which she does the opposite of what he did. And Paul had a frugal role model and he viewed that as a negative thing and being restrictive. So, he is doing the opposite now and spending more than he makes.

  • @judyfabion8849
    @judyfabion8849 22 дня назад +14

    I'm sure there are many people watching this episode who wished that their household income was $14,000/mo.

    • @Dan16673
      @Dan16673 14 дней назад

      Still not enough

    • @Dan16673
      @Dan16673 14 дней назад

      That's gross also which still ain't much

  • @alexisballard1459
    @alexisballard1459 22 дня назад +21

    He clearly didn’t see what frugality awarded his parents he only saw the cost - reminds me of a toddler throwing a tantrum saying “it’s my money and i want to spend it now!” Glad they’re talking to Ramit.

    • @malone77
      @malone77 22 дня назад

      Agreed, complete man child😂

  • @genesisjpadilla
    @genesisjpadilla 23 дня назад +47

    I think this is my favorite show

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl 22 дня назад +12

    Paul and Morgan's story is a powerful reminder that financial planning is not just about tools but also about consistent action and open communication. For many couples, aligning on financial goals and regularly revisiting them can turn aspirations into reality. 👍

  • @naimahabdullah-gulley4405
    @naimahabdullah-gulley4405 22 дня назад +7

    Thank you for highlighting the couples you do. It gives a snapshot view into what is going on in a lot of households. People see the number of grossing over $170K a year and wonder why they're not rich. But breaking down the numbers shows exactly where the money is going. Everyone can lie, but numbers don't. Can't wait until part 2.

  • @AG-ty4ih
    @AG-ty4ih 22 дня назад +42

    Trying hard to not judge but god its frustrating to hear the guy. 800-900 $ a night when you "only have a couple thousand dollars as debt on your CC". I have upwards of 60k in my savings and I would still never think of an 900 a night room on a whim. I feel for Morgan - the bad luck associated with falling in love with an irresponsible man child

    • @Th3Think3r
      @Th3Think3r 22 дня назад +2

      Eh, but it was a vacation for them. Morgan made absolutely no mention that she disagreed with the expenses related to the that vacation. From her reaction it did not seem like she even knew how expensive the vacation was. I don't think it's fair to only throw Paul under the bus for that excursion. She's an adult too.

    • @alcubierre-drive
      @alcubierre-drive 22 дня назад +2

      A couple thousand of CC debt is an insane amount to carry. And the dude said it’s a small amount. I wouldn’t be able to sleep a single night with that kind of CC debt

    • @Aquaria2291
      @Aquaria2291 19 дней назад +3

      ​@@Th3Think3r vacation doesn't mean you drop $1000 a night on a hotel room, especially when you know you don't have the cash to back it up. If I want to go somewhere and my only option is $1000 a night hotel room, I'm not going. Maybe one day, if I'm as rich as Ramit. 😂
      But not TODAY. 😂

    • @Th3Think3r
      @Th3Think3r 19 дней назад

      @@Aquaria2291 I don't think you read my post correctly. I'm not defending their spending. I am simply stating that the video gives no indication Morgan was not onboard with the money spent on that vacation and therefore it is presumptuous to only judge Paul which is what the original poster was doing. She even said at one point in the video she wanted Paul to set the limits so she could very well have been fine with what they spent on that vacation. Had she stated otherwise then it would be fair to judge Paul.

    • @Aquaria2291
      @Aquaria2291 19 дней назад

      @@Th3Think3r you didn't read mine. 😂 I know it's both of their fault because she could have said no or refused to go.
      I'm saying that it was a dumb idea and saying "eh, it was a vacation" doesn't change or mitigate the fact that it was a dumb idea. They couldn't afford it.

  • @kellibarnes2371
    @kellibarnes2371 23 дня назад +24

    😍 Liked this format better because I could see everyone's faces throughout. Thank you for sharing!

  • @martabanasiewicz6353
    @martabanasiewicz6353 22 дня назад +84

    He really have the audacity to tell his parents that worked very hard to accomplish they dream house that they don’t need it and should sell it.

    • @beetdiggingcougar
      @beetdiggingcougar 22 дня назад +35

      While living in a fixer upper without any fixing occurring. I don't think he needs to give out any advice.

    • @cybertoeknee
      @cybertoeknee 22 дня назад +27

      As Dave Ramsey likes to say, "You shouldn't listen to the financial advice of broke people".

    • @PradedaCech
      @PradedaCech 9 дней назад

      But he has a point, if all children left the house, they don't need that much space any more. So he can talk about it, but it is their choice. Which is exactly what happened.

  • @princessdaaahlingamor5798
    @princessdaaahlingamor5798 22 дня назад +18

    Ramit, at about 47:20 you list what you wish we’d do before filling out the CSP…. Can you, please write that out as a worksheet for each person at home to fill out before we do the CSP with the questions you listed? That would be SOOO helpful. Because…. We honestly don’t know to do that, why it’s important and how to do it. Please include that as an assignment attached to the CSP. Many thanks 😊😊😊

    • @Rvlove
      @Rvlove 16 дней назад +1

      Yes! I had the same thought! Write a “how to complete your CSP” overview with tips like these - thank you!

  • @dantouneto
    @dantouneto 23 дня назад +76

    All hail everybody Ramit just posted.

    • @tswinton8185
      @tswinton8185 23 дня назад +4

      Tuesdays are the best ❤

    • @zipporahngigi4532
      @zipporahngigi4532 23 дня назад +4

      Yup. Always looking forward to it

    • @ramitsethi
      @ramitsethi  22 дня назад +28

      I love these comments. THANK YOU for watching!

    • @dantouneto
      @dantouneto 22 дня назад +2

      @@ramitsethi Thanks to you for sharing these stories that educate us on peoples behavior around money. As a frenchman we don't have nearly the same views around debt as northern american but we can still pick things from those conversations, especially about ways of being intentional with our money. All love ❤️❤️

  • @chaselesser3191
    @chaselesser3191 22 дня назад +10

    I feel like the people from Caleb hammer should go thru both shows. They really do go down different paths. Caleb puts them on blast, but Ramit is like therapy.

    • @mwise9435
      @mwise9435 21 день назад +4

      The people on Hammer are complete lost causes that don't care and most seem like they're just looking for exposure or clout (which is the reason I stopped watching). Ramit's guests genuinely seem to want to work through their answers.

    • @rebvanwinkelstein2578
      @rebvanwinkelstein2578 20 дней назад +2

      That s an amazing idea. They should collaborate 😍 Like good cop - bad cop 😅

    • @Aquaria2291
      @Aquaria2291 19 дней назад +1

      ​@@rebvanwinkelstein2578 that would never work. 😂
      Caleb has alot of growing up to do before he would be in a position to collab with someone in Ramit's approach.
      Bro has 0 finesse in how he speaks to people and if there's one thing you need in this format, it's finesse.

  • @ms.z461
    @ms.z461 23 дня назад +37

    Thanks for posting on time. I see and appreciate the effort

    • @ramitsethi
      @ramitsethi  22 дня назад +22

      Thank you. My colleagues do an amazing job and we all appreciate you watching and sharing the pod!

    • @Kevintendo
      @Kevintendo 22 дня назад +11

      Jeez why the backhanded compliment lol basically complaining about the last upload being late haha

  • @YourRichAuntie
    @YourRichAuntie 22 дня назад +10

    Love the new f2f format Ramit has taken on. When I can see the entire upper body, I can pick up on cues that the Zoom calls were cutting off. I can feel the stress and frustration radiating off of Morgan - they seem like a great couple and I hope they're able to come to a point of resolution, but sometimes Paul is just working against the bigger goals

  • @lathaniabutler1404
    @lathaniabutler1404 23 дня назад +394

    The table works better Ramit. The couple on one side and the consultant on the other side works better for the topic than the cool couches

    • @mariepettit2632
      @mariepettit2632 23 дня назад +10

      Agreed! 👍🏼

    • @zipporahngigi4532
      @zipporahngigi4532 23 дня назад +4

      I concur

    • @AS-kf1ol
      @AS-kf1ol 22 дня назад +6

      Yea them have physically separate chairs actually helps

    • @spoonbr1223
      @spoonbr1223 22 дня назад +15

      Totally! Impressed at how quickly he listened to feedback on the last video.

    • @maxime_vhw
      @maxime_vhw 22 дня назад +24

      Honestly i preffered the zoom style meetings.

  • @MargaretMaenad
    @MargaretMaenad 22 дня назад +8

    Really appreciated hearing her talk about conflicting messages and behavior from her parents. That's something ive had to square with in my own life, so its very relatable content

  • @lyndalamb3221
    @lyndalamb3221 22 дня назад +6

    Husband is still thinking about money like an impulsive 20 yr old. $22,000 in credit card debt is a bad place. Commissions should go towards this paying off this debt. Not paying cc interest is a pay raise. An $800/night hotel! We can go to Europe for $5000!

  • @thetuningroom
    @thetuningroom 22 дня назад +5

    When he said ‘not that much…a couple thousand’ regarding a cc balance, you know there’s issues….a couple thousand at high interest rates is pretty crazy. 42:00

  • @NickiBluIs
    @NickiBluIs 23 дня назад +43

    If this were Reddit I’d say, dump the guy and marry his parents LOL. Seriously though this is such an interesting departure where rather than replicating their parents patterns, they both did the opposite of what they saw growing up but married someone with the money mindset they saw growing up.

    • @NickiBluIs
      @NickiBluIs 22 дня назад +7

      I really hope they resolve this though. My mom has the “I worked hard so I deserve to enjoy it now” mentality. The outcome: she can’t afford to retire but her body physically can no longer work full time. She has credit card debt, a HELOC, a car loan, and a mortgage. As the eldest, I’m scrambling to figure out how to help her 😢

    • @WhyDoWeStay_
      @WhyDoWeStay_ 22 дня назад +4

      @@NickiBluIs Your Reddit comment made me laugh 😅I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with this situation with your mother- I hope you can lean on your siblings and other folks around you so you don't have to deal with this alone. And ultimately, I know it's tough, but it is not your responsibility. Please don't put yourself under so much pressure to solve a problem you didn't cause. Sending love your way!

    • @NickiBluIs
      @NickiBluIs 22 дня назад +2

      ⁠@@WhyDoWeStay_ honest question: how far do people take the “it’s not your responsibility” mindset? People say it all the time but I don’t understand what it means in practice. Are people willing to let their parents be homeless? Go hungry?

    • @WhyDoWeStay_
      @WhyDoWeStay_ 22 дня назад

      ​@@NickiBluIs Totally fair question! And so much easier said than done.
      I try to think of it as a spectrum of caring rather than a binary 'if I do this to help = I care' & 'if I don't do this to help = I don't care about their suffering'
      On a spectrum, it's much easier to avoid burnout and also put in some boundaries (though I really struggle with the boundaries part!). But it's easier to accept that you can help in some ways but not in every way.
      Also I'd say helping in small increments in advance is beneficial, esp. if you can foresee a crisis ahead. So for example (not saying this is your scenario or you haven't done these things!) one can help by first having a tough convo with a parent regarding future retirement plans, helping them figure out the best next steps (maybe downsizing, selling some things, doing a part time job/side hustle that aligns with their abilities). Helping with those aspects now could reduce the likelihood that they have to move in with you in the future.
      Of course this is all simplistic and real life/dynamics are complicated (as Ramit's podcast shows us each week!). It would likely feel impossible to 100% remove the burden of responsibility, but these are some ways that you can reduce the weight of that burden. As an eldest child, and simply just as a human, you deserve more than feeling tired from carrying such a heavy burden alone. I hope this helps even a little bit! :)

    • @CambieSweets
      @CambieSweets 22 дня назад +1

      @@NickiBluIs People do. If you can’t breathe, you have to first place the mask on yourself, then someone else. Your situation is very similar to how a drowning person can drown the person trying to save them. Everyone dies. I really don’t mean to offend or go dark side but that’s how it sounds to this stranger on the internet.

  • @carieyoung1111
    @carieyoung1111 22 дня назад +13

    I married a man like this- it was hard and stressful - I was the main bread winner. He did so many hurtful things financially- I have never been in a better place financially now that I’ve divorced him- and he didn’t go easily :/ good luck

  • @trackee2024
    @trackee2024 22 дня назад +7

    37:24 my father in law is like this too! Grew up with frugal parents and now he just wants steak dinners, vacations, and too many toys for the grandkids!!!

  • @margie909
    @margie909 22 дня назад +8

    Round table much much better than on a couch

  • @dacokc
    @dacokc 23 дня назад +18

    I want to do lots of things. But if I don’t have the money I don’t do them…

    • @abramsrob
      @abramsrob 22 дня назад

      😂

    • @sct4040
      @sct4040 22 дня назад +3

      Correct, that’s how a responsible adult makes decisions.
      If I don’t have the money, I don’t spend it.

  • @ouchman2099
    @ouchman2099 23 дня назад +37

    "you teach me how to be rich and I teach you about N U G G S"

  • @swithheld9905
    @swithheld9905 22 дня назад +3

    I'm 10 mins in and this guy is already exhausting me. i couldn't be married to him. i hope he knows how lucky he is to have her!
    ramit is making some great points, as always

  • @holamissmusica
    @holamissmusica 22 дня назад +19

    Paul should be on the thumbnail with the quote, not Morgan.

  • @yukitamura9228
    @yukitamura9228 22 дня назад +7

    I wonder it will be interesting to see generational interview. Parents and children and see how they dare. Behavior and practice are similar VS different.

  • @kat-oe7gb
    @kat-oe7gb 23 дня назад +8

    I am so happy this is up early 😍

  • @jem9893
    @jem9893 22 дня назад +2

    Thank you so much for providing this content...These weekly podcast releases create regular self-reflection opportunities for me!

  • @aliciahernandez_online
    @aliciahernandez_online 22 дня назад

    I love the two part episodes because we get more in depth, but I was sad when this ended with to be continued. Now to go back to bingeing all the old episodes for the next week! Thank you Ramit! Love the show!

  • @MilKreegz
    @MilKreegz 22 дня назад +5

    Hey baby wake up new Ramit vid just dropped.

  • @danielvee2441
    @danielvee2441 22 дня назад +11

    If a pharmaceutical company pays to be a sponsor, that means you've made it. Congrats.

    • @sct4040
      @sct4040 22 дня назад

      Claritin D gave me heart palpitations, don’t take it. ‼️

  • @jaynez9027
    @jaynez9027 23 дня назад +6

    I really like this one, I am so drawn to people in similar situations to my own life. I’m a bit terrified that when my kids are out of daycare and that huge cost is gone that we aren’t actually going to see a difference so this is a good learning experience

    • @jhgh2000
      @jhgh2000 22 дня назад +4

      Amen! As each kid left daycare we redirected that money to student loans and now that student loans are paid (!!) we direct it towards investing and saving. Lifestyle creep is a silent killer!

  • @StaciaBielka
    @StaciaBielka 19 дней назад +2

    He is the first living person I know who actually purchased Sirius XM 🤣 I thought they only exist to send you annoying mails after the free month ends when you just bought a new car with their promo

  • @msmong123
    @msmong123 22 дня назад +2

    Morgan man you lived my life !! I can remember at least 2 cars being repoed for my parents who definitely lived above their means

  • @a.e.e.6335
    @a.e.e.6335 22 дня назад +4

    I don’t know how Ramit does it, makes compelling and thoughtful content but has me addicted like a kid at a candy store. Need one week to pass quickly!

  • @chellybaby
    @chellybaby 22 дня назад +5

    There is something about the Zoom format that was more engaging to me. I can’t put my finger on it but these recent episodes are pulling me in like the old format did

    • @margie909
      @margie909 21 день назад

      Me too.

    • @catherinagroeneveld149
      @catherinagroeneveld149 21 день назад

      I listen to the podcast anyway, so it’s all the same to me, except I could hear them better on the podcast with the Zoom calls. I just come here for the comments.

    • @wastingtimetay
      @wastingtimetay 14 дней назад

      i liked seeing their backgrounds / house - more clues about who they are

    • @chellybaby
      @chellybaby 14 дней назад

      @@wastingtimetay yeah! I also loved Ramit’s interludes

  • @theChef1337
    @theChef1337 22 дня назад +3

    Back again with the 2 parters. Killin me dude

  • @n.sch.8455
    @n.sch.8455 22 дня назад

    Ramit, I just wanted to say how insightful your podcasts are, I am taking so much away from the episodes and I love your style of asking questions. Thank you for uploading!

  • @streetguru6240
    @streetguru6240 23 дня назад +5

    Keep em coming

  • @tyerrascott6596
    @tyerrascott6596 22 дня назад +2

    I'm so upset. Didn't realize the post date. I'm so invested lol. I'll be back next week!

  • @CustomerRelationsManager
    @CustomerRelationsManager 7 дней назад

    My mom always said "A coat of paint hides 1000 sins" when you can't afford renovations at the current time! Kitchens: reface vs. renovate with new cabinets ..if you do the kitchen yourself = go with IKEA cabinets where you can change the fronts later on down the road as an update in 20 years ... get the floors scrapped professionally two rooms at a time ..... A "HOUSE" is a woman's equivalent as a safe place/showplace = security & a source of pride!

  • @MsJai_1
    @MsJai_1 22 дня назад +5

    I'm late to this video today, but so far I can sense this is about to be... YIKES.
    EDIT: Just finished the episode, and my Yikes assessment was right. This couple can definitely turn things around, but buddy boy needs to stop ostriching his way through life and make mature decisions. But she will need to learn that you can't force anyone to change, and should have a plan B.

  • @Camp_MTG
    @Camp_MTG 22 дня назад +4

    Loved the video! ... But not the split episode! Much prefer one long one

  • @WhyDoWeStay_
    @WhyDoWeStay_ 22 дня назад +1

    The childhood/family dynamics around money were so interesting on this one! Looking forward to next week- I hope that going through the CSP with Ramit helps Paul switch more towards showing competence rather than reassurance with Morgan. Also $14k per month?! Wow!!

  • @aounjafarey1036
    @aounjafarey1036 15 дней назад +1

    I think the fact that they did something so extreme like saving up 60K in a year while on one income while living at her parents home may have left Paul exhausted from the experience of “saving” and being fiscally responsible. It’s no different than people who go on extreme diets, extreme amounts of cardio to become lean and then rebound terribly, they did something unsustainable and have now subconsciously developed an aversion to anything related to that experience.

  • @MrIshouldbeatwork
    @MrIshouldbeatwork 22 дня назад +2

    44:46 funniest turn to look at camera after hearing whole life insurance

  • @jr5557
    @jr5557 22 дня назад +5

    I like the table

  • @aprilm9379
    @aprilm9379 21 день назад +4

    I miss the zoom version where you can see everyone’s face at all times. The new set up feels unnecessary and uncomfortable. Will you guys be going back to that ever?

    • @Rvlove
      @Rvlove 16 дней назад

      Yes we prefer the zoom versions - way more intimate, connected, entertaining and keeps us more engaged. I am 100% focused on the zoom style but I find myself getting distracted with the newer format as it doesn't pull you in as much. It feels less personal... And I think the couples are more deeply honest in the comfort of their own homes and being in separate rooms. Thanks for sharing your comments too! Hopefully they read.

  • @ThinkChimpi
    @ThinkChimpi 22 дня назад

    Love this new project

  • @johnlittle8267
    @johnlittle8267 22 дня назад +5

    They are already living their rich life lol!

  • @shauntelcampos3212
    @shauntelcampos3212 22 дня назад +4

    It would be better to separate the consumer and the house debt rather than combining them on the net worth slide.

    • @Capycorg
      @Capycorg 22 дня назад

      Totally agree!

    • @tomaszp2027
      @tomaszp2027 22 дня назад

      for sure, it's like cholesterol - good debt, bad debt

  • @NishanthaU
    @NishanthaU 22 дня назад

    Good visual cuts

  • @Allybaba55
    @Allybaba55 22 дня назад +2

    LMNT sent me the sparkling waters as a promo and they are good! I don't usually go for carbonated beverages so I probably won't purchase but I'll definitely hype them up.

  • @thewriteplaceforme6874
    @thewriteplaceforme6874 22 дня назад +2

    More surprises next week?!?! 👀
    I'll be here for it!

  • @slaychildhoodmoneyscripts
    @slaychildhoodmoneyscripts 15 дней назад

    I can relate, my dad was the "don't worry, I got this" guy. The thing is I wanted to get involved and learn more, not just depend on him. My mom was OK leaving it all up to him and that was their arrangement, that wasn't the one I preferred.

  • @rhondavigil795
    @rhondavigil795 22 дня назад +2

    I love a good budget!😊

  • @user-uq2ti7tj6k
    @user-uq2ti7tj6k 22 дня назад +5

    Paul reminds me a bit of my sister. We grew up pretty well off. We were spoiled frankly. We got everything we wanted. You wanted something you tossed it in the cart. But my sister would tell you that she was unloved, a black sheep, that no one ever helped her, etc. Long story short, she is 50 and she has either lived for free on our parent's dime or received help for her entire adult life and her finances are terrible. She currently lives in a house, for free, owned by my parents but she will literally tell people she doesn't have a home. The thing is, my sister is older and she can remember my dad being an alcoholic who was abusive to my mom and she created the narrative that she was unloved and not valued from a young age and it stuck. My sister may seem to have "everything" to other people, but she doesn't have (or doesn't think she has) the one thing she wants which is love and validation. As such, she will tell you that I was given everything even though my parents have never, as an adult, paid for anything for me to the point that they feel bad about the disparity. But to my sister I'm the favorite who gets everything - love, acceptance, and validation. I suspect what Paul felt deprived of wasn't entirely money either.

  • @beautifulmeandyou2
    @beautifulmeandyou2 22 дня назад +6

    i'm sorry the lack of self-discipline and maturiy would make me fall out of love so hard.

  • @ryanpotter5002
    @ryanpotter5002 22 дня назад

    This is great 👍

  • @Wenshu_Art
    @Wenshu_Art 22 дня назад +3

    Damn it! now I gotta wait another week for a new episode

  • @KineticsWithKatelyn
    @KineticsWithKatelyn 21 день назад +2

    I watch Caleb Hammers channel too much, I keep expecting him to yell at them 😂

  • @Mr.Boring_Man
    @Mr.Boring_Man 22 дня назад +2

    My wife and I don't really agree on religion, politics aren't 100% the same but we both believe in being financially responsible. Family and financial values have to be in line, I believe. You can love the same music, tv shows, politics but financial anxiety will undermine it all because money affects most other things in your life. Lol.

  • @janebaker4912
    @janebaker4912 21 день назад +1

    A teacher and an engineer...thats the frugal couple combo!!

  • @panchalvsjeeps
    @panchalvsjeeps 23 дня назад +1

    About time you got face to face conversation, makes for better engaging content.

  • @badboy2day2011
    @badboy2day2011 21 день назад +1

    Love your show, i sure would like to see an interview with a 40's hispanic family.

  • @sct4040
    @sct4040 22 дня назад +2

    I was low income in my 20s, then still pretty low income in my 30s even though much better. And I was single, so I had no support. I really don’t understand how people don’t look at where their money is going.

  • @GhostJ3272
    @GhostJ3272 10 дней назад

    “The things you own, end up OWNING you” Tyler Durden “Fight Club”

  • @thesattfam718
    @thesattfam718 День назад

    Not me with a truck and boat😅😅

  • @a.miller8316
    @a.miller8316 21 день назад +4

    Ahhh yes... The old "i deserve it" because i am somehow different or special mentality.

    • @RadCenter
      @RadCenter 13 дней назад

      A slap in the face to his parents-as if THEY didn't work hard or deserve to spend their money on themselves instead of their ungrateful son.

  • @IndigoClare
    @IndigoClare 23 дня назад +7

    Are releases happening more frequently?! This is good!

    • @zipporahngigi4532
      @zipporahngigi4532 23 дня назад +2

      Once a week. He was late by a couple of hours last week and that's why we're excited

    • @jondiaz3475
      @jondiaz3475 22 дня назад +4

      There are so many bad money management examples out there, he could probably drop a video hourly.

    • @IndigoClare
      @IndigoClare 22 дня назад

      @@jondiaz3475 true.

  • @Capycorg
    @Capycorg 22 дня назад +1

    Wish they would've talked about the debt - how much is CC debt vs. mortgage? Feel like that makes a difference.

  • @LismoreLady
    @LismoreLady 12 дней назад

    $800 a night for a hotel is wild to me! That’s about €740 and that’s about the total price we paid for a four night B&B hotel stay in Kraków and return flights from Dublin for 2 this week. Of course we spent more on eg. tours to Auschwitz-Birkenau and the Salt Mines, and lovely dinners on the Market Square terrace restaurants and cocktails 🍸 and beer 🍺 in the Jazz Rock Café. We wandered the beautiful old town and are having a lovely break and we’ll probably do another city break next month or soon after. I know Poland isn’t Florida price wise but my take away from this is he’s spending money he doesn’t have and is paying a fortune in CC interest. (We pay off ours every month so we’re the kind of demographic the CC companies hate!)

  • @stevemaurer2259
    @stevemaurer2259 22 дня назад +8

    Those chairs don’t look comfortable for some reason 😂

    • @arh1234
      @arh1234 22 дня назад

      I've sat in similar chairs that were very comfy - I anticipate Ramit would have checked.

  • @Kayla-ei4th
    @Kayla-ei4th 22 дня назад +5

    Morgan is beautiful!

  • @to4178
    @to4178 22 дня назад +2

    42:06 Nothing crazy just a couple thousand………

  • @amruthag7322
    @amruthag7322 22 дня назад +3

    Patriarchy I guess is why men have this notion to be a provider which is not fair for men though . It’s very stressful . but some women need is a partner so that both can sit and discuss what can be done better to improve ourselves . I thought I see it only in Asian cultures and Mediterranean etc but it’s more than I thought .

  • @lasdamaichon
    @lasdamaichon 21 день назад

    The comments seem so much more insightful in response to this video than usual. I wonder whether it’s because of the special format.

  • @Theimmigrantseries
    @Theimmigrantseries 22 дня назад +1

    See myself in this couple

  • @ryanpotter5002
    @ryanpotter5002 22 дня назад +1

    Second half!!!!!! Ahhhh

  • @tomaszp2027
    @tomaszp2027 23 дня назад +10

    F2F interview again, let's go

    • @mbens9995
      @mbens9995 22 дня назад

      I like it because lighting and sound is better, but I also always found the background of the home to be interesting too…

  • @Nerdificationing
    @Nerdificationing 23 дня назад +2

    I prefer the couches

  • @drewfortenberry7655
    @drewfortenberry7655 21 день назад

    I just need to know where to buy those carpet chairs.