Parents, If your child needs to spend the next 82 years of their life in therapy in order to recover from the first 18 years they spent under your legal "care", you failed. You get an F.
Do you all know what the hell "therapy" is? Bunk. We need guts, awareness, support. That isn't found by the hour for money. Or in our world. It's a societal con by the hour.
"Narcissists can not think about other people, obsessive compulsive people can not think about the big picture, passive dependent people can not think for themselves..." The Road Less Travelled By Scott Peck 1978 Well done those who have kept their soul alive.
My mother said one time (when I was in my late 30s), “my biggest hope is that you don’t do something that would embarrass our family name” or something to that effect! It was then, and on into my middle age that I started realizing that my parents really didn’t love me very much. My mom lived her whole life stressed out, depressed, with pent up anger. And she projected it on me. Not my brother or sister, but ME. I don’t know why. I was a really GOOD kid!!! That is the truth! I have tried to break that generational cycle and try really hard to be a loving good mother to our daughters.
True, it doesn't make sense as to why your parent viciously singled you out. Been there, the only explanation I can think about is they are crazy. Be the best parent to your kids & live a happy life❤
It often takes a long time and distance/perspective to see the things you now see. It took me forever! lol And by then we are adults anyway, so, we can deal with it. Much better than when we were young.
Sounds like scapegoating. Obviously I can't say for sure that your mother scapegoated you, just from a YT comment, but it could be the case. That's a whole sub-topic of complex/childhood trauma in itself. I am my family's scapegoat and putting a name to it and learning more about the dynamic was helpful.
Maybe she was reminded about herself when she looked at you. My mom(and then the rest of the family)scapegoated me and I think because she saw some of the same things in me that was in her and she couldn't handle that someone was so similar to her(or so she thought). I have a mother of three living upstairs, who's treating her youngest the same way and I think because there's lot's of jealousy over a kid living and growing to be themselves and not another her - with the choices that she would like to make again. Some mothers (a lot of them) have a hard time recognising their kids as their own person, rather than another limb or something they own.
Maybe you were too honest. Maybe you saw her more than she wanted to be seen. But definitely, absolutely, the transgression of breaking the cycle is punished in my experience. Good work being a cycle breaker and doing your best for your own children ❤
@@markjohnston8989 If you really want the truth, I would check out Whitney Webb. She's one of the best independent journalists we have. She has a podcast called Unlimited Hangouts. She also wrote a book entitled, "One Nation Under Blackmail".
I concur. The earth is the devil's playground. I am convinced that the only people who could be genuinely enjoying life are the psychopaths. You can't seriously be happy and having a good time in life and have a conscience at the same time. If you have a shred of empathy for others you'll realize every moment you're enjoying yourself someone somewhere on the planet is in an excruciating amount of pain. Whatever resources or support you have, they lack, whatever legal rights and privileges you possess or take for granted by virtue of your birthright or your gender or race or socioeconomic standing, someone else is suffering due to a lack of those rights and protection. I get really mad when I see people walk by laughing and giggling. Because they are oblivious to the pain of others in that moment. I always feel guilty when I laugh or smile because I know that someone else is suffering at that same moment somewhere in the world and I can't ever enjoy anything fully because of that and other reasons.
Yeah, in the end all of those fake rescues really amount to shrugging us off, shutting us down, or stuffing us inside some very simple molds. We don't get to be welcomed and embraced as our true selves, when that is just what we need. Not a lot of people I know who learned the true way to bare pain, plainly. In fact that's an understatement, that would be just my therapist; and I would bet they wouldn't be all that keen to meet me outside of their practice, probably would be too much for them.
Corporations and the State love it when children are broken. You see, broken children make great wage slaves and front-line soldiers who are going to be too afraid to stand up for themselves... so they can be exploited.
I got physically sick, simultaneously a lot of things fell apart in my life-plan. I had a painful growth spurt in my level of awareness and understanding about the world. People around me couldn't handle it. Tried to figure out if I was crazy. I'm independent from these people now and I've calmed down. I'm a realist now. These people are all delusional. They can't handle reality. It makes them disfunctional. I am healthy again. Mostly healed alone. Figured out how to recover on my own. I now calmly try to explain reality to these people and they fight back with denial. It's surprisingly difficult to find reality based people. As a realist, I'm am content in solitude, it would be nice to find someone to talk to that isn't delusional though; to form an authentic connection with.
The only thing going on in the minds of the masses in mass psychosis is to constantly be in a state of mindlessly chasing money. They fixate on it. On a spiritual level they're feeding an egregore by the worldly consumption. Americans don't look at each other as human beings, but rather resources of ultimate conquest. Every action and movement made by typical consumers is consciously adapted towards maximizing the extraction of money and resources. Of course that is exacerbated by PR, Commercials, AI Targeting, Big Data Ops, and Marketing. I understand the relevant needs & responsibilities of taking care of yourself & family(if you're a parent) but that's where it should end. But that's not where the Machine lets us go, in fact the emphasis on working till you drop guarantees you will have an unhealthy relationship with your career & money-getting goals. Profits over People over Time = Decay & Loss of Humanity
I mean, look at our cultural and social structures and world views. Do you see much sanity there? Do you see much deep honesty there? We must blindly worship our parents, our country, our religion, our supposed forefathers, our economic system, our culture, our ethnicity (if we're in the upper levels of the caste system at least), our state, our city... We absolutely must not seek more complete understanding. We absolutely must not question anything. We absolutely must buy into the "good" vs "evil" and the "right" vs "left".
I'm currently living in a foreign country, going through a difficult situation, and to me you are a lighthouse in the middle of an ocean of darkness. One of the healthiest persons I ever saw. Even if I died tomorrow, I came to understand my own life so much better lately, that I find it an enourmous gift. I look forward to be able to heal more and more. If I could pick anyone in the world to simply have a coffe and chat, it would be Daniel. Thank you for being the man you are. Wishing much joy to everyone
I feel exactly the same way - Daniel is one of the most important people in my life, and I have never met him. I consider him a friend, one of my best friends. Thank you Daniel. 🙏
A trend I noticed in high school is that the cool kids tended to have accepting parents and the uncool kids tended to have parents with all these oppressive expectations for them.
absolutely, coolness is something along the lines of "permission to be themselves" they are calm because they don't have fear of people hurting them either. and are often kind from principle and not in a needy manner of wanting something back. it makes perfect sense why it organises people into a status hierarchy similar to wealth distributions. it's sort of like wealth, you will have alot better life and it's alot easier when u get it from your parents. if u don't have it, your early life will suck. but it is possible to change it when older. difficult however
this is so true, i’ve noticed this for years and you’ve just put something into words that i couldn’t for myself, thank you! when I was in high school a very noticeable trend was that kids from new immigrant families were uncool and kids from 2nd or 3rd gen families were cool. In canada, most of the new immigrants are more visible minorities so if you take a cursory look, the divide seems somewhat racial, but there would be alot of exceptions. And most of the exceptions were the 2nd, 3rd, 4th gen minority kids, they would often be part of the cool crowd because they all had a similar “vibe” So what was more true was that kids who had a more open, happy and confident aura about them would be a part of the cool crowd, and there would be kids with their shoulders hunched in and in a constant nervous or needy state who most people avoided. I was part of the latter, and to me, everyone who was cool just seemed to know how to exist somehow. And what was true was that the 2nd, 3rd, 4th gen immigrant kids often had way more understanding and accepting parents than the parents of 1st gen kids, and would often be more well off financially as well. Most immigrant parents put alot of pressure on their kids to succeed and deep down see their kid as nothing more than an anchor to this new country who they need to succeed to secure their future in this country. They’ll manipulate these kids with the guilt trip of “look how much we sacrificed for you to be here” (At least my parents did) when the kid had no involvement in the decision to immigrate in the first place, punish these kids when they don’t succeed, since for the most part they are just solely relying on the kid to provide (financially, emotionally, or just to be a free maid) for their retirement. Immigrant parents are often also facing hardships from being in a foreign country with limited resources. They can also use their kids as a emotional or physical punching bag as an outlet for their own emotional turmoil (ones from their childhood, and ones from any negative experiences they are facing as a result of the move to their new country), blaming the kid for all of their problems. These kids are basically forced to bend to the will of their parents until they can financially provide for themselves (which nowadays could take you into your 20s) and become severly deformed in terms of the ability to be themselves (if they even know what that is after it’s been actively repressed for so long as a protective mechanism), its not even on the radar for them. In school, I can admit I also didn’t want to hang out with the 1st gen kids. I feel like most were either bullies themselves (rude when they could be rude, judgemental, bitter, overwhelmingly negative (probably as a reflection of their human experience which is a reflection on their home life)), or just very sad and quiet people. Another common trait was being two-faced, the ability to flip a switch and be sweet only when they need something from you (probably stems from having to people please their parents), its like the idea of yourself just being nice and other people just being nice to you doesn’t exist. I’m reading this as I write and I have a mix of all of these traits. just trauma passing down. I remember the 2nd+ gen kids at my school were open, friendly, creative, and some will really try to get to know you in this way that felt unlike anything i’d ever experienced at the time where they look you in the eyes with interest and really listen to you when you talk, but i think they can sense something is off from my nervous needy energy, and I can sense that they have not gone through anything that I have, and the interaction is depressing for both sides.
Idk, I was in the cool group once and 3/4 (including me) did not have great relationships with their family AT ALL. The one with the good family was nerdy. Sometimes the friendliest, coolest people are the ones hiding the most pain and using other social environments as an escape.
Not to be overly pessimistic, but I think a lot of this is just rooted in the inherent limitations of existence. Death, decay, and entropy are all the flip-side of life, and something we all have to contend with. Nature is cruel, society will always be flawed, your parents will always come up short in certain ways, you yourself will always be limited. Tough swallow, but what’s the alternative? Life is beautiful and people can be extraordinary, but there is always going to be a darkness to grapple with. This is the reality of our predicament as mortal beings and always will be. Nothing new under the sun.
I mean yeah. Life is mostly about suffering. Living is struggling after all. But like we have come a long ways from the savagery of the ancient times. We have been slowly diminishing the unnecessary suffering. And we should keep on going.
Of course. I’m not insinuating that we should stop trying, just that positive change has to be grounded in the reality that most of our problems are somewhat ever present. The arc of human history seems to be one of making a bit of progress here, losing some there, and so on. I agree that the general trend is positive, but the process is largely one of perpetual trade-offs. Just a matter of patience, I suppose. It can be incredibly demoralizing to look at things on an extremely macroscopic scale, for me at least.
Coming from an Indian culture, we have a lot of biases around family. Nobody even acknowledges that family can be dsyfunctional, let alone accept it. I have been scapegoated for telling it as it is. While I was suffering from severe depression and went through a psychosis too. My family becomes so steadfast with there denial and damage control that fail to see that I'm was a child going through this and still am there child but they come back at me with the insanity and almost gang up in doing so. Imagine doing this to somebody who is mentally going through so much. Who would you call insane?
The family is already dysfunctional if they reproduce in a low resource::population ratio environment. Unless one is super elite, you condemn the child to lifetime of struggle.
Indian culture doesn't recognize mental illness so psychosis would not be recognized which os tragic as zyprexa could help immediately. Seroquel. Calm that overactive sensory part of the brain. ❤🙏for healing
umm what. Daniel Mackler has a bunch of videos exposing psychiatry and psychiatric meds causing life-long long-term dependence over natural healing and recovery of even severe mental distress
Part of what's hard about doing this self-healing is that it's not something other people value or that you can even really share with most people. It's ironic that the most important thing we can do for ourselves is something we will receive the least support or encouragement for.
I joined a group called Adult Child of Alcoholics and found several people that are consistently working on childhood trauma and embrace talking about it. The group is a version of the 12 step program, but it is not focused on your individual sobriety. Try googling the “laundry list traits” and see if you resonate. Some people can’t get past the spiritual focus, but I focus on the fellowship. They say that you can turn things over to “the God of your own understanding” and say atheists can still work the program by turning to another comforting thing, like nature or surrendering/accepting that part of being human is to suffer, for example. Anyway, it helped me tremendously to find others I could meet with in person and a few to call IRL. Btw: your parents don’t have to be alcoholic for you to join the group. Any abuse or neglect in childhood will most likely lead to several of the traits.
It is valuable but you have to go so deep and offend so many people to get to the other side and usually in a completely different society you are building
@@CozyButcher Safe travels to you and all of us! ❤️🌱 May the Internet (but not social media!) survive the impending implosion, so that we can say Hi from afar. 😁👍
My plan this year is to tune out the powerful voices of news media-I don’t need to keep the biased messages on repeat. Get the info/facts and get out. Focus on my well being and my place in reality. Where do I want to be? I want to be regulated, sane, calm and free from anyone else’s agenda.
My family is really good at hiding the suppressed trauma. My brother and father got into a wild rage of a shouting match after thanksgiving dinner and I tried to intervene. They told me that this is just what happens sometimes. I held back from calling out the blatant gaslighting
Some people just learn their lesson when you leave them. And they don't even learn then. When you left it's not your issue anymore. Or you're able to disconnect whenever they misbehave and let it slide. But it still influences you & you'll get mad at yourself for staying with toxic people.
the parents that destroyed my generation (im 28) i noticed did one of the following or a combined: 1. tried to be their child's friend, not a parent no parental guidance 2. had kids to conform with no undestanding they are bringing a HUMAN into this world. thought their kid was just an object and accessory to their life(neglect) 3. absent mother or father - single family house always causes issues. most of my friends came from divorced families 4. mothers competing with daughters or father competing with sons - not loving them instead putting them down always (narcissistic parents) 5. parents that control their kids and force them to live out what the parents dream for them and not letting them authentically be themselves
@Agathon255 yeah, in that case it’s really sad! Or they had kids just to look better as people and look, I understand it in some ways. A lot of pressure on me culturally to settle down and have kids or else im selfish. The thing is i love children sooo much that i wouldnt want to bring anyone into the world if i can’t guarantee my full dedication and time . Being that im in NY it isn’t financially feasible for me. Then theres the whole dating thing and finding a partner which i also am not interested to do at this point lol
I've been reading old texts lately. Torah, Old Testament, Plato, Gilgamesh, Philosophers from Greek to 19th century German. I'm f'n PISSED that my boomer parents raised me with NO guidance after having discarded the "old ways." I think so many people are confused about existence and what it takes to run and maintain a society because we weren't exposed to thousands of years of thought on the matter. All we have is consumerism now. The "revolution" failed.
@Agathon255 thank you i wish the same for you! im in the same boat honestly. im more at peace alone its too painful the dating scene and social media with cheating and all that. im so used to being alone now but it just sucks as a woman much more stigma i feel worthless or like im weird if i dont have kids and have a family
@@BeepBoop-qt4eq same!!! ive been reading proverbs lately and man has the world lost their ways entirely. proverbs lays it all out for parents and children.
For us the Blacks, the world has been crazy for a long time 😂... For decades at least. Imagine the Jim Crow and Apartheid in South Africa.... We survived that era.
I know what you're talking about. I kept my sanity when i was a child by realizing most people were crazy. It was obvious enough because they were filled with fears and hostilities and they would double down and ramp up their anger at me when I talked about their craziness. I could also see where a lot of the crazy ideas and desires came from. They were highly influenced by television and culture that was stupid, and I mean stupid on the face of it, like the aesthetics of ugliness and a flat-out hatred of intelligence. Many very basic things were stupid in my opinion. People preferring to watch sports rather than play it. People who preferred listening to music rather than playing it. And people preferring to watch pornography rather than to marry and have sex. I was amazed when I was a small child by how stupid work was: instead of mastering a craft or a business and earning a living directly by being productive, people did a stupid, repetitive task all day long for the rest of their lives for a paycheck that would meet all their needs and solve all their problems. Even as a child, I could see the economic weakness of such a work strategy, and I could see it falling apart along with people's lives. It was a trap I didn't want to fall into. Instead, I wanted to learn as much as possible about how to do almost everything I might need to have done: business, car repair, plumbing, electrical, carpentry, etc. We might live in a highly specialized society, but people traditionally needed to know how to do everything necessary to live - needed to know how their world worked. They couldn't confine themselves to one skill, endlessly repeated, or they would lose their minds and be helpless in the face of coming changes. Even as a small child I could see the government and the media that served it lied about even the most basic things. They said Americans were supposed to be dedicated to freedom, but they drafted people and waged war all over the place, and taxed Americans against their will to pay for it. What kind of freedom? Only the freedom to choose between consumer products? And I could outright see the hypercompetitive anxieties of my fellow first grade children. They were being driven mad at school The teachers were unrighteous, punishing me for being attacked by the other kids. It was all so insane. I even got trouble from my mother who sincerely believed people were born blank slates, as was the scientific theory at the time. So, she was always attempting to gaslight and manipulate me to be what she desired. I never could win any of the arguments with any of the crazy people, but there was no self-condemnation, because I knew they were crazy. My main problem all along was what could I do? What job or profession or lifestyle could I pursue that would allow me to live with, work with, and cope with all the crazy people, as a sane loner. it isn't ever easy because society was actively hostile to me. As long as you know what you're dealing with, it isn't personally distressing. You know you're just passing through the zoo. And you marvel at the strange creatures.
I must say. I laughed at the prefer to listen to music instead of play it. Made me think about people who prefer to talk rather than listen. Write>read. Balance of these things is the way. Except with porn and other degeneracies 😅 We can just do away with those.
As a war journalist and a political activist for almost 14 years now, and as someone who chose this career to escape my traumatic experience with my family, and as a cultural and geo-politics observer.. This video is just too fantastic and brilliant!!!! What a deep analysis that just cuts to the bone. We need more people like you, Daniel. Thank you very much for this!
Criminalise narcissistic abuse in the developed world, would be a huge start. So in practise organise a team of competent criminologists and have them cooperate with psychologists and make sure it happens within an infrastructure that yields transparency and accountability. Of course the premise is unrealistic to begin with because far too many are personally invested in injustice.
I believe the entire judicial system, lawyers and police should all have training to at least be able to recognise the red flags. The problem is, these places are by now full of narcissistic individuals. Narcissists prefer jobs where they can control others, where people tend to trust them simply bc of the position they hold & respect is given whether it's deserved or not. Teachers, therapists, even nurse practitioners cannot be trusted to act rationally when their behavior is questioned, or when some uncomfortable truth is presented. The only thing you can count on is that it won't be their fault. 'Personally invested in injustice'. Yeah...that's the biggest reason why voting doesn't work. (Well, that & 'corporations are ppl' decision) You're the first & only person to ever put out there what I think about a lot: NPD should be illegal.
@@Kennedy4OurCountry Very much so. Criminalisation of narcissistic abuse is entirely unviable through existing institutions. The only way I can see it implemented societally is from a fresh start, and just like you say with the foreknowledge that applicants may well be narcissistic and with the appropriate specialised efforts to block their entry. I mean it's not like narcissists cannot be identified. It's a matter of having the resources to do the investigation.
Love you Daniel!! I'm so glad you survived & escaped your family system & have been able to speak your truth. Your videos have helped me a lot, thank you for sharing !
Thank you Daniel for saying what I feel deep down in my being without having so articulated words as you have to express it. I am 70 years old, living in Belgium which is not my country of origin, and still struggle with the guilt of staying away from my family in order to keep myself sane, as little sane as is possible in my case. Staying creative helps my hyper sensibility and was always a way out, keeping me somehow grounded. Thank you for your sincerity, I read your videos with gratitude any time you post one. Have nice summer days, here is raining and raining and the sun seems to be " gone with the wind "
i don't think facing personal trauma history is intrinsically difficult, it's made difficult by a social environment which is in denial. an enviroment catered to our addictions we produce to uphold denial. denial is a lifestyle, an industry driven by trauma. on the flipside; how easy it would've been for the likes of me to heal.... or not even become that traumatized in the frst place, if culture supported looking within, questioning parents, treating children as people with human rights.
Children are never told of their legal rights! It should be taught to every toddler before they start talking. We should have nursery rhymes about the number they can call to get help if anyone is harming them, not just Stranger-Danger & "don't eat uninspected halloween candy" bullshit. 😡
I'm sorry to call you out personally. But I have to say I hard disagree with this. Going morally insane for profit is a profound personal loss. The term even has a name, moral injury/trauma.
Think about it this way. When you have incompetent leaders and serious systemic problems, those in power know that fear is in their favor. People are afraid, they don't want to make a radical change so they keep voting in the leaders that created many of the problems. The worse things get, the better for the few who make the decisions. The elite know this and have no reason to fix anything. By design.
Daniel is reminding us of our personal responsibility. It is my responsibility to deal with my side of the street. No one else is responsible for it except me.
❤❤❤ Ever since I came across you, more than 7 years ago, Daniel, I liked your kind of honest, and your kind of "crazy". And the way you deliver it to us, as well. 🙂 x
The fact that there is a depression and anxiety epidemic among youth and also the rise of autistic disorders shows that indeed the world is going crazy. Kids are the most sensitive and they feel it unconsciously
To have Munchausen, the Parent Are harming child and at the same time the parent get the «poor You» attention from lots of people. This is the actual diagnosis for this… and most dont know that.
Sigh. So true- our society is deeply sick, distracted, misguided, delusional and disturbed. My salvation has been finding and connecting with kindred spirits and conscious souls- something I need to remind myself explicitly. That we have to be here for one another with mother earth... I do believe in higher purpose and that our souls are not limited just to our current lifetimes but is constantly evolving across time and space. Just being in truth and stillness within myself is profoundly grounding, which helps me not get so caught up jn toxic drama, petty bs of the ego. and disentangle from energy vampires and covert codependence.
Black death, famines, tyrants, slavery... the world has always sucked. If we let the past torment us, it's because we choose to live in it. The past will indeed stalk us, but we can spit in its face and walk away.
What a painful truth... You have said many brave things, Daniel, but this one is extremely brave to articulate. Makes you wonder who are more crazy, the ones inside or outside the mental hospitals?
The last thing people will see is that they themselves are the crazy ones. “It’s so hard to look within and let go”. Do it anyways. If denial worked well the world would be the epitome of spiritual and emotional health. If you want to grow up then dive into the work of Vernon Howard.
It's important to remember that parents can screw up their children unconciously and indirectly through their nerocies. A child will respond and developed in response to a parents unbalanced personality without the parent necessarily doing anything intentionally wrong. Of course the parent probably shouldn't have had children before resolving these issues, but many of them don't know what effect it will have on their children.
Yes, humans are flawed and that ofc includes parents toward their children. The problem is when the child approaches the parent(s) to express themself about the hurt the parent caused and instead of validating and acknowledging and taking a good hard look at themselves, the parent(s) tell the kid to shut up, sit down and suck it up.
I think their own unresolved trauma drove normalizing some crazy parenting indeed. I see more and more new adults becoming the "stop generation" - a dam of the torrents of abuse gushing from the past, that blocks all this pain from tainting yet another set of innocent children. It may not be perfect, but it's a wonderful, conscious start, that will shape future generations even further. Daniel is one of those "stop generation" people ❤ and so am I, as a mother of a 13 year old boy, healing my own childhood, reparenting myself as I do my best to parent him in a healthy, respectful and loving way. I have faith in my heart that it's going to be better for humanity, with every person raising their own consciousness ❤
I notice with my family (except my mum), a lack of emotional intelligence. Without it you cannot interpret information (Plato's Cave) in a balanced way which leads to misunderstandings/anger and hatred ect. Im the youngest and have watched them stumble blindly through life trying to crush me when given the chance.
How do you afford life though? As someone who is struggling..it has affected me so badly that it harmed my education, body and ability to be able to afford life where they are living the fancy life of trips, dinners out, golf memberships, and flying all over.
Well the question is then, is all that really important? Maybe letting go of a lot of these external distractions is part of the healing process. Of course not to let go of everything but to reevaluate what you truly want and need in your life.
Imagine having so much free time that you can go do all those fancy things. How empty a life must someone have when all they have are money and distractions
@@CollapseWatch yup..and some they did lose...but what they never had was emotionally connecting or not being emotionally mature but they aren't starving like me... j don't care for the fancy yet to be able to afford life normally
I met so much resistance from my entire family when I wouldn’t tolerate my mother and her narcissistic abuse anymore to the point where they actually blamed me for not accepting it anymore and really just crazy things that were easier for her to deal with than the truth she actually kicked me out at 17 and that’s when I finally accepted it and it’s so strange because it was almost harder emotionally being outside of the abuse than being in it I guess 17 years just caught up to me I’ve gained so much insight from your videos on my journey I don’t know if you’ve already made a video about it but could do talk about what’s it’s being outside of abuse for the first time I feel like I’m so behind on everything because the time I was meant to be preparing for adulthood, I was surviving and now I’m 18 and don’t know what to do.
For me, it seemed like the craziness hit a tipping point sometime during the last five years or so when a kind of Kafkaesque, gaslight-y approach to everything became mainstream, across the entire political and media spectrum. On the one hand, we have people insisting covid never existed, and on the other, we have their political opponents telling us the economy is great. If we're not doing well, we're the exception, and there's something wrong with us. We have the creepy situation that happened at Uvalde, and something similar occurred on a smaller scale near me. A group of horse riders were mowed down like bowling pins by a speeding car, killing two of the horses and hospitalizing two riders...and the cops just let the driver go, leaving everyone involved dumbfounded. It's a real 1984 feeling. Or maybe this is how people felt during the start of the Middle Ages or the rise of Hitler. I'm not in ostrich denial about the insanity of the world, but I don't really know what to do about it either. I think there are two schools of people who are "just living their lives," as you said (whether or not they have have experienced personal trauma). There are those who can't bring themselves to think about it (the deniers) and those who know what's happening but feel powerless to do anything that has any meaningful effect (the realists). It seems too that within the latter group, there are many who aren't even "living their lives." Rather, they're struggling to simply survive. They're not going on vacation and posting fake Insta pics; they're working multiple jobs and trying to avoid homelessness. Also, if you're a truth teller outside of your own personal experience (e.g., with climate change), life can get pretty dangerous. Is it worth the risk to tell the truth about society as a whole? Every person has to weigh that for themselves.
@@galaxy98765 Right? I've still yet to see an explanation about why that happened. It's what I mean by that Twilight Zone, Orwellian feeling. Like, they had to have known the driver should have been taken into custody, but the cruelty of letting him go and doing nothing was intentional and meant to mess with people's minds. It's a symptom of a very sick society.
@@patriciasalem3606 You are absolutely correct. I feel so badly for the horses, and the people. I would feel like posting flyers all around town about this entire incident, what happened to the horses and people, and that nothing was done about it, and post the name and a photo, if there is one, of the driver who committed this crime and I would also maybe call PETA, as PETA might do something about it. Lovely profile photo you have. Beautiful horse.
You speak the truth brother.. My parents had me when they were children. Mother was 18 and my father was 20. They had been married less than a year. My mother was loving, but neurotic and depressed. My father wasn’t ready for a child. And resented and ignored me from the day I was born. I grew up in the late 50’s and 60’s. Was introvert and shy, but really good at music. So that was my escape.. But to your point: the world has gone insane. It seems to have gotten exponentially worse over the last 8 to 10 years and, due to the many factors you described, is rapidly moving toward chaos and catastrophe
Hi Daniel. I watch you from my small honduran corner of the world, and have found so many answers in your videos. I was going through a mental block recently because of so much grieving, and sitting down while listening to your insight helped to, at last, get some painting done which helped me feel more like myself. Your mind is so much appreciated.
Thank you for this Daniel. The cognitive dissonance in this world is maddening in and of itself. It's the toxic positivity of the mainstream culture vs. the reality of those who are in so much pain and need to express than pain to heal. Hearing someone share the truth is comforting to me. Like many scapegoated children, my family's narrative existed to meet everyone else's needs at my expense. So it's not surprising that most of my family feels comforted by inaccurate narratives - to the point where they need them to survive psychologically. But since inaccurate narratives rarely met my needs, I never felt positive about them and don't feel the need to hang on to them. Likewise in the real world. I am more comforted by "a scary reality" than a "rose-colored lie". Not always, I'm sure I have blind spots too. But far more often than others around me. But, it is rare to feel this way. It's rare to feel 'healed' when truth is spoken out loud. So, for what its worth, thank you for the healing your words bring, Daniel.
Yea, it's not much fun to be portrayed as faulty...when you're not. Nobody seems to believe you. It's almost as though it's your job in life to be this thing that pity can be heaped upon by those who need to boost their own ego via putting you down, below them. The condescension is absolutely infuriating! But as you say, the best revenge for all that BS is success!
And sometimes the parents make themselves seem the victims. People commiserate with them that they had to go through such a hard time with a “difficult” child. While the child who suffered and is no longer there gets forgotten.
Each and everyone of them. Suicide won't happen to someone who has a true, enlightened, compassionate witness. This is something you have or don't have. People who say, "oh, he was so nice and brilliant, we never would have known", were not friends to this person. Better stay away from such clueless people.
Just look at the cluelessness, the childishness of parents of school shooters who go on TV doing good deeds and putting in good words. Like they want to make up for the bad rep they got instead of lamenting their child in private and the pain they probably ignored from birth.
I don't think parents are in control of all aspects of how a child turns out, however they clearly are likely to be the biggest influence. It also sounds like antidepressent drugs might play a role, I think big pharma has a huge part in seeing humans as something we can quickly 'fix' via drugs rather than actually trying to understand the human condition
The solution is class consciousness, cynicism is the sign: you cannot have room for hopelessness unless you are comfortable enough already. Are you so comfortable with being an educated slave? Remember… from OUR perspective our parents had to most authority… but our parents were paying their dues to the state through their laboring for us, so we will grow and labor for the state. Remove the binds of our own framing, understand your own framing.
There’s a lot of good and a lot of bad. Focus on what’s best for you and those in your life. Everything else is out of our direct control. Live in your own universe… sure, vote and do other things that might help contribute but the less input we receive from any source the better. And most humans are so tiny brained and selfish. Unwilling to try to understand others situations. So focus on what keeps you healthy and happy and just don’t play other people’s games. Smile and walk away.
1:11 Thousands of years ago, the statement "the world has gone crazy" would have been incomprehensible. People didn't perceive of "the world." They perceived of their tribe or community. The question was whether their tribe or community was functioning or not.
You are so cool Daniel! I stumbled upon your videos a while back and it felt like a different person was speaking my mind, like you some how could see or hear my thoughts! Thanks for the video, I agree if we all worked on ourself, things would change! A lot of people don’t stand up for themselves, because they don’t believe themselves to be worthy.
There are so very few good well balanced, morally decent, stable, self aware people in the world. I think its really hard to be self aware and still highly functioning - eg able to earn a living and be financially independent, if you don’t have other self aware people around you.
@@alanm6o9 Same. Its hard to get a connection that feels validating and authentic. Its hard having to deal with concerns alone because you know no one around you will have much empathy or understanding.
I went psychotic temporarily in my late teens and over time I became a sane truth teller. Where does that leave me? I feel like I can see both sides...
When I finally came to understand the big lie my parents put over on me, they were dead. But then my brothers and sisters had no use for me because they were/are stuck back in the lie. You are right on though. The craziness is all due to sublimated feelings. It's micro and macrocosmic.
Such a poinient and true perspective. 🎉 Thank you for your honesty and clarity. Coming to terms with parents who prefer you dead to alive for their own convience or for attention seeking and public sympathy generating is the most difficult thing in the world to explain to run of the mill people. They don't believe this is possible. It is the raw truth.
What an interesting and insightful video, thank you. Your description of psychosis as a metaphorical expression of too-painful inner traumas really enlightened me and helped me understand some of my own childhood 'crazy' experiences like hearing scary voices at night or feeling paranoic fear while walking down the street. I guess it all has to come out somehow. I feel such compassion for myself and others now that it's clearer.
Your feeling is right, and I totally understand. I hold on to the notion that that's something your parents made you feel before anyone else did. We know deep down that this feeling is off, it's not genuine, it's somehow too overwhelming to be appropriate, that the world isn't all evil. We know there are peaceful and beautiful places, but we've been trained to stop looking for them, it's so hard to even notice them when our own inside world has been filled with hate and fear. I had this very painful talk with my mom some time ago, and I asked her why she didn't go out in the world, why she didn't have any friends. I think her answer was kind of half conscious, but I think her true self talked to me at that time. She said she did this to protect herself, that the world was full of danger, and she said this as if it was just some random fact everybody just agreed on. And there I got a good answer for a ton of questions I had for myself. My anxiety, my habit of ruminating dark thoughts and being generally fed up with the world and seeing only the bad, my general feeling of not fitting in, of being unwanted, of being disruptive to others. All of this still hasn't stopped all of the sudden, but gosh that vindicated me and my self doubt. I had proof at last that this was a stupid parasite I inherited from her, and not actually a good reason to keep myself from reaching out and opening up. Gave me another reason to hope for myself. Anyways, don't let other people just tell you you're wrong. Your feelings are always justified even if they seem wrong. They tell you something about yourself you're not even aware of.
You mentioned this in another video a while back I believe but I'd like to hear you break down the state of "pre-grieving" you described that came before you started to actually grieve your traumas.
The amount of shunning and ostrasissm is unbelievable, parents are like cults and they defend each other and they occupy important functions in the system, how to cope with this ? Sometimes i start to doubt myself
One of the final memories of my father in the last few days I saw him, was when he looked at me with psychedelic, scattered but scrutable eyes as he showed disgust for me when he saw me touch my same sex partner on the back gently.
Another way to look at this is you knew you would disgust him and brought your partner in anyways. Not saying hes right but if ur dad is on his deathbed no need to upset him like that
@@alanm6o9 he was not dying. Actually he didn’t know anything about our relationship as it had just started. When he and I had talked about my being gay he did not express disgust for it or any aspect of me or my life. He had a dad who was a closeted bi-sexual. My dad witnessed his mother being beat multiple times in her genitals with his dad kicking her with his boot until she passed out. My dad knew for many years I was gay because I had told him years before and he had met a previous partner of mine who he liked. The person who was there on the one occasion was someone he knew in the medical field. My dad had asked me to help him save his life because he had cancer. I had located treatment that would reverse his cancer completely, it’s the best form of it in the world. His disgust was a sickness in him that had nothing to do with me. My sister was sexually molested by him starting at just a few years old. He also molested my nephew. He would be out late at night around families with children. As a grade schooler I would wait up for him to come home. Before my sister passed she asked me if she should have told him his violation of her had done her great harm. I caught him twice, yes disgusting. He died a few years after the above incident but not from cancer. My dad passed 11 years ago, outliving my younger siblings. Both of my sisters passed early in life due to mostly their reactions to my dad’s abuse. He frequently nearly killed my mother before my siblings were born, when I was a preschooler. From here on out, (for the remainder of your life), never again, not even for one second hold any negativity towards a gay person. Energetically I’m going to hold you to it. My 18th year anniversary with the same person is tomorrow. Thank you for the gift of being humbled. Go do what is right. Give and receive only love.
People get very irritated when I tell them that I want to raise children in a very specific and natural way to pass on none of my ego and beliefs and give them a toolset to use later for any given situation.
Id go Head Nd also plan out a strategy to obtain said land to raise kids on....wgere would you do it that theyd be u able to access media as an influence and is that ethical in the modern world due to handicapping? How will you kids survive anywhere after youre gone? Have you planned this out?
Another insightful and wonderful video Daniel. I wonder if you’d consider sharing your thoughts in a video on Alzheimer’s and dementia in older individuals? Is it possible this is their defense mechanism against having to face the truth as death nears from not living authentically or being able to tell the truth?
I would love to just hang out with this guy and talk about things. Not as a therapist-patient way, just as a peer. I think you are a wonderful person, just by the videos you put out. My solution for the world to be less crazy would be to STOP chronic internet use, mainstream media consumption, and to stop isolating ourselves. People need to stop dehumanizing others and go outside. Connect with your fellow neighbors and community, even if you disagree with their beliefs. We need to stop further dividing ourselves into echo chambers and take in opinions and perspectives we cannot think of ourselves.
You are a beautiful soul and it hurts me seeing you tormented with this rock in the shoe that is the reminder of your parents YOU HELPED ME trhow this rock away and never look back Dont look back, they are dead, the people you used to love are no more there, it was all in your mind, you made an image for them, they were always another thing completely different YOU SURVIVED !!! about the world, we see often the bad things, but the world is a beautiful place full of wonderful people. we are in a sense all kids here is the traslation of a spanish song I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH DANIEL, you are my big brother !!! and my mentor !!! There is more happiness than pain in the world More flowers on earth than rocks in the sea There is much more blue than black clouds And there is much more light than darkness There are many, many more who forgive Than those who try to condemn everything People want peace and fall in love And they adore what is beautiful, nothing more Whatever others say There is much, much more love than hate More kisses and caresses than ill will Men have faith in the afterlife And they fight for good, not evil Whatever others say Daniel, everything is gonna be all right hugs from Jerusalem, my friend
People fool themselves into thinking they must discover themselves, when we are actually creating ourselves everyday with what we do and focus on. They also think they must conqure the world, which is impossible and means nothing. So my advice is to do your best to be the person you want to be and know you will die.
Go within, confront(internally) the people who harmed you. Become healthy and enlightened. Thats what I want to take from this video. As always thank you.
Parents,
If your child needs to spend the next 82 years of their life in therapy in order to recover from the first 18 years they spent under your legal "care", you failed. You get an F.
100%
Do you all know what the hell "therapy" is? Bunk. We need guts, awareness, support. That isn't found by the hour for money. Or in our world. It's a societal con by the hour.
"Narcissists can not think about other people, obsessive compulsive people can not think about the big picture, passive dependent people can not think for themselves..." The Road Less Travelled By Scott Peck 1978
Well done those who have kept their soul alive.
One of my favorite books! Have you read People Of The Lie, by the great Dr. Peck? Check it out!
the world, and its toxic ignorance, will never change my integrity, who i am.
My mother said one time (when I was in my late 30s), “my biggest hope is that you don’t do something that would embarrass our family name” or something to that effect! It was then, and on into my middle age that I started realizing that my parents really didn’t love me very much. My mom lived her whole life stressed out, depressed, with pent up anger. And she projected it on me. Not my brother or sister, but ME. I don’t know why. I was a really GOOD kid!!! That is the truth! I have tried to break that generational cycle and try really hard to be a loving good mother to our daughters.
True, it doesn't make sense as to why your parent viciously singled you out. Been there, the only explanation I can think about is they are crazy. Be the best parent to your kids & live a happy life❤
It often takes a long time and distance/perspective to see the things you now see. It took me forever! lol And by then we are adults anyway, so, we can deal with it. Much better than when we were young.
Sounds like scapegoating. Obviously I can't say for sure that your mother scapegoated you, just from a YT comment, but it could be the case. That's a whole sub-topic of complex/childhood trauma in itself. I am my family's scapegoat and putting a name to it and learning more about the dynamic was helpful.
Maybe she was reminded about herself when she looked at you. My mom(and then the rest of the family)scapegoated me and I think because she saw some of the same things in me that was in her and she couldn't handle that someone was so similar to her(or so she thought).
I have a mother of three living upstairs, who's treating her youngest the same way and I think because there's lot's of jealousy over a kid living and growing to be themselves and not another her - with the choices that she would like to make again. Some mothers (a lot of them) have a hard time recognising their kids as their own person, rather than another limb or something they own.
Maybe you were too honest. Maybe you saw her more than she wanted to be seen. But definitely, absolutely, the transgression of breaking the cycle is punished in my experience. Good work being a cycle breaker and doing your best for your own children ❤
“To those who do not know that the world is on fire, I have nothing to say.”
―Bertolt Brecht
The truth is not for the faint hearted ..
OK. I'm ready. Give it to me:
What is the Truth?
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Simple, this is hell.
@@Masterdebator881I really believe this!
@@markjohnston8989 If you really want the truth, I would check out Whitney Webb. She's one of the best independent journalists we have. She has a podcast called Unlimited Hangouts. She also wrote a book entitled, "One Nation Under Blackmail".
I concur. The earth is the devil's playground. I am convinced that the only people who could be genuinely enjoying life are the psychopaths. You can't seriously be happy and having a good time in life and have a conscience at the same time. If you have a shred of empathy for others you'll realize every moment you're enjoying yourself someone somewhere on the planet is in an excruciating amount of pain. Whatever resources or support you have, they lack, whatever legal rights and privileges you possess or take for granted by virtue of your birthright or your gender or race or socioeconomic standing, someone else is suffering due to a lack of those rights and protection.
I get really mad when I see people walk by laughing and giggling. Because they are oblivious to the pain of others in that moment. I always feel guilty when I laugh or smile because I know that someone else is suffering at that same moment somewhere in the world and I can't ever enjoy anything fully because of that and other reasons.
Society says we need parents, but doesn’t have an answer when we don’t have good parents. Also tries to rescue us in fake ways.
Yeah, in the end all of those fake rescues really amount to shrugging us off, shutting us down, or stuffing us inside some very simple molds. We don't get to be welcomed and embraced as our true selves, when that is just what we need. Not a lot of people I know who learned the true way to bare pain, plainly. In fact that's an understatement, that would be just my therapist; and I would bet they wouldn't be all that keen to meet me outside of their practice, probably would be too much for them.
Corporations and the State love it when children are broken. You see, broken children make great wage slaves and front-line soldiers who are going to be too afraid to stand up for themselves... so they can be exploited.
My experience is the help is predatory and meant to make people dependent on some other sick system...
Be 6'5 with rich parents
@@teaadvice4996 what do you mean by that?
I got physically sick, simultaneously a lot of things fell apart in my life-plan.
I had a painful growth spurt in my level of awareness and understanding about the world.
People around me couldn't handle it. Tried to figure out if I was crazy.
I'm independent from these people now and I've calmed down.
I'm a realist now. These people are all delusional.
They can't handle reality. It makes them disfunctional.
I am healthy again. Mostly healed alone. Figured out how to recover on my own.
I now calmly try to explain reality to these people and they fight back with denial.
It's surprisingly difficult to find reality based people. As a realist, I'm am content in solitude, it would be nice to find someone to talk to that isn't delusional though; to form an authentic connection with.
The only thing going on in the minds of the masses in mass psychosis is to constantly be in a state of mindlessly chasing money. They fixate on it. On a spiritual level they're feeding an egregore by the worldly consumption.
Americans don't look at each other as human beings, but rather resources of ultimate conquest. Every action and movement made by typical consumers is consciously adapted towards maximizing the extraction of money and resources.
Of course that is exacerbated by PR, Commercials, AI Targeting, Big Data Ops, and Marketing.
I understand the relevant needs & responsibilities of taking care of yourself & family(if you're a parent) but that's where it should end. But that's not where the Machine lets us go, in fact the emphasis on working till you drop guarantees you will have an unhealthy relationship with your career & money-getting goals.
Profits over People over Time = Decay & Loss of Humanity
would be legitimately interested to hear your description of reality (not trying to argue, think what you're saying sounds good)
I second that :)
I mean, look at our cultural and social structures and world views. Do you see much sanity there? Do you see much deep honesty there? We must blindly worship our parents, our country, our religion, our supposed forefathers, our economic system, our culture, our ethnicity (if we're in the upper levels of the caste system at least), our state, our city... We absolutely must not seek more complete understanding. We absolutely must not question anything. We absolutely must buy into the "good" vs "evil" and the "right" vs "left".
You're doing it here❤
Technology, consumerism, no community, unhealed people( tbh most people can’t afford therapies) and greed.
I'm currently living in a foreign country, going through a difficult situation, and to me you are a lighthouse in the middle of an ocean of darkness. One of the healthiest persons I ever saw. Even if I died tomorrow, I came to understand my own life so much better lately, that I find it an enourmous gift. I look forward to be able to heal more and more. If I could pick anyone in the world to simply have a coffe and chat, it would be Daniel. Thank you for being the man you are. Wishing much joy to everyone
I feel exactly the same way - Daniel is one of the most important people in my life, and I have never met him. I consider him a friend, one of my best friends. Thank you Daniel. 🙏
A trend I noticed in high school is that the cool kids tended to have accepting parents and the uncool kids tended to have parents with all these oppressive expectations for them.
absolutely, coolness is something along the lines of "permission to be themselves"
they are calm because they don't have fear of people hurting them either. and are often kind from principle and not in a needy manner of wanting something back. it makes perfect sense why it organises people into a status hierarchy similar to wealth distributions.
it's sort of like wealth, you will have alot better life and it's alot easier when u get it from your parents.
if u don't have it, your early life will suck. but it is possible to change it when older. difficult however
this is so true, i’ve noticed this for years and you’ve just put something into words that i couldn’t for myself, thank you! when I was in high school a very noticeable trend was that kids from new immigrant families were uncool and kids from 2nd or 3rd gen families were cool. In canada, most of the new immigrants are more visible minorities so if you take a cursory look, the divide seems somewhat racial, but there would be alot of exceptions. And most of the exceptions were the 2nd, 3rd, 4th gen minority kids, they would often be part of the cool crowd because they all had a similar “vibe”
So what was more true was that kids who had a more open, happy and confident aura about them would be a part of the cool crowd, and there would be kids with their shoulders hunched in and in a constant nervous or needy state who most people avoided. I was part of the latter, and to me, everyone who was cool just seemed to know how to exist somehow. And what was true was that the 2nd, 3rd, 4th gen immigrant kids often had way more understanding and accepting parents than the parents of 1st gen kids, and would often be more well off financially as well.
Most immigrant parents put alot of pressure on their kids to succeed and deep down see their kid as nothing more than an anchor to this new country who they need to succeed to secure their future in this country. They’ll manipulate these kids with the guilt trip of “look how much we sacrificed for you to be here” (At least my parents did) when the kid had no involvement in the decision to immigrate in the first place, punish these kids when they don’t succeed, since for the most part they are just solely relying on the kid to provide (financially, emotionally, or just to be a free maid) for their retirement. Immigrant parents are often also facing hardships from being in a foreign country with limited resources. They can also use their kids as a emotional or physical punching bag as an outlet for their own emotional turmoil (ones from their childhood, and ones from any negative experiences they are facing as a result of the move to their new country), blaming the kid for all of their problems.
These kids are basically forced to bend to the will of their parents until they can financially provide for themselves (which nowadays could take you into your 20s) and become severly deformed in terms of the ability to be themselves (if they even know what that is after it’s been actively repressed for so long as a protective mechanism), its not even on the radar for them.
In school, I can admit I also didn’t want to hang out with the 1st gen kids. I feel like most were either bullies themselves (rude when they could be rude, judgemental, bitter, overwhelmingly negative (probably as a reflection of their human experience which is a reflection on their home life)), or just very sad and quiet people. Another common trait was being two-faced, the ability to flip a switch and be sweet only when they need something from you (probably stems from having to people please their parents), its like the idea of yourself just being nice and other people just being nice to you doesn’t exist. I’m reading this as I write and I have a mix of all of these traits. just trauma passing down.
I remember the 2nd+ gen kids at my school were open, friendly, creative, and some will really try to get to know you in this way that felt unlike anything i’d ever experienced at the time where they look you in the eyes with interest and really listen to you when you talk, but i think they can sense something is off from my nervous needy energy, and I can sense that they have not gone through anything that I have, and the interaction is depressing for both sides.
Idk, I was in the cool group once and 3/4 (including me) did not have great relationships with their family AT ALL. The one with the good family was nerdy. Sometimes the friendliest, coolest people are the ones hiding the most pain and using other social environments as an escape.
The brilliance of this truth telling is so refreshing. Thank you Daniel for all your inner work and healing process.
Not to be overly pessimistic, but I think a lot of this is just rooted in the inherent limitations of existence. Death, decay, and entropy are all the flip-side of life, and something we all have to contend with. Nature is cruel, society will always be flawed, your parents will always come up short in certain ways, you yourself will always be limited. Tough swallow, but what’s the alternative? Life is beautiful and people can be extraordinary, but there is always going to be a darkness to grapple with. This is the reality of our predicament as mortal beings and always will be. Nothing new under the sun.
I mean yeah. Life is mostly about suffering. Living is struggling after all. But like we have come a long ways from the savagery of the ancient times. We have been slowly diminishing the unnecessary suffering. And we should keep on going.
Of course. I’m not insinuating that we should stop trying, just that positive change has to be grounded in the reality that most of our problems are somewhat ever present. The arc of human history seems to be one of making a bit of progress here, losing some there, and so on. I agree that the general trend is positive, but the process is largely one of perpetual trade-offs. Just a matter of patience, I suppose. It can be incredibly demoralizing to look at things on an extremely macroscopic scale, for me at least.
Coming from an Indian culture, we have a lot of biases around family. Nobody even acknowledges that family can be dsyfunctional, let alone accept it. I have been scapegoated for telling it as it is. While I was suffering from severe depression and went through a psychosis too. My family becomes so steadfast with there denial and damage control that fail to see that I'm was a child going through this and still am there child but they come back at me with the insanity and almost gang up in doing so. Imagine doing this to somebody who is mentally going through so much. Who would you call insane?
How are you doing now ? My best friend also had psychosis last year , i hope u r doing good now
The family is already dysfunctional if they reproduce in a low resource::population ratio environment.
Unless one is super elite, you condemn the child to lifetime of struggle.
I feel for you. Indian culture is one of denial.
Indian culture doesn't recognize mental illness so psychosis would not be recognized which os tragic as zyprexa could help immediately. Seroquel. Calm that overactive sensory part of the brain. ❤🙏for healing
umm what. Daniel Mackler has a bunch of videos exposing psychiatry and psychiatric meds causing life-long long-term dependence over natural healing and recovery of even severe mental distress
Part of what's hard about doing this self-healing is that it's not something other people value or that you can even really share with most people. It's ironic that the most important thing we can do for ourselves is something we will receive the least support or encouragement for.
I joined a group called Adult Child of Alcoholics and found several people that are consistently working on childhood trauma and embrace talking about it. The group is a version of the 12 step program, but it is not focused on your individual sobriety. Try googling the “laundry list traits” and see if you resonate. Some people can’t get past the spiritual focus, but I focus on the fellowship. They say that you can turn things over to “the God of your own understanding” and say atheists can still work the program by turning to another comforting thing, like nature or surrendering/accepting that part of being human is to suffer, for example.
Anyway, it helped me tremendously to find others I could meet with in person and a few to call IRL.
Btw: your parents don’t have to be alcoholic for you to join the group. Any abuse or neglect in childhood will most likely lead to several of the traits.
It is valuable but you have to go so deep and offend so many people to get to the other side and usually in a completely different society you are building
@@hspinnovators5516 preach
Wow, so true
Mob mentality, bystander effect and obedience to authority is what I have called "The Dark triad of Society".
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This - 100%. Also, widespread familial trauma.
Hypnosis?
Never a better time to be a mountain hermit.
Looking at properties in the Carpathians as we write. 😂❤
@@darcyroyce ...Cozy, too
@@CozyButcher Safe travels to you and all of us! ❤️🌱 May the Internet (but not social media!) survive the impending implosion, so that we can say Hi from afar. 😁👍
That would be me..since 2017. Mountaintop.
Did you build a cabin or how do you live@@yanifree114
My plan this year is to tune out the powerful voices of news media-I don’t need to keep the biased messages on repeat.
Get the info/facts and get out. Focus on my well being and my place in reality. Where do I want to be? I want to be regulated, sane, calm and free from anyone else’s agenda.
I learned what not to do from my family. I wish more people would look at disfunction this way.
Agreed
Nailed it
This is the path
You are so authentic Daniel
My family is really good at hiding the suppressed trauma. My brother and father got into a wild rage of a shouting match after thanksgiving dinner and I tried to intervene.
They told me that this is just what happens sometimes.
I held back from calling out the blatant gaslighting
Some people just learn their lesson when you leave them. And they don't even learn then. When you left it's not your issue anymore. Or you're able to disconnect whenever they misbehave and let it slide. But it still influences you & you'll get mad at yourself for staying with toxic people.
@@vanessanesener4028 for sure, I've had to confront anger and rage within myself. I sincerely hope they are doing the same
you should have done a stage left, and went home.
How is that gaslighting? Have you ever been mad before lol
@@alanm6o9 the irony is that you're doing a watered down version of gaslighting in your comment lol
Thank you for your videos, Daniel. I relate very much to your family dynamic and your role in the family system.
the parents that destroyed my generation (im 28) i noticed did one of the following or a combined:
1. tried to be their child's friend, not a parent no parental guidance
2. had kids to conform with no undestanding they are bringing a HUMAN into this world. thought their kid was just an object and accessory to their life(neglect)
3. absent mother or father - single family house always causes issues. most of my friends came from divorced families
4. mothers competing with daughters or father competing with sons - not loving them instead putting them down always (narcissistic parents)
5. parents that control their kids and force them to live out what the parents dream for them and not letting them authentically be themselves
@Agathon255 yeah, in that case it’s really sad! Or they had kids just to look better as people and look, I understand it in some ways. A lot of pressure on me culturally to settle down and have kids or else im selfish. The thing is i love children sooo much that i wouldnt want to bring anyone into the world if i can’t guarantee my full dedication and time . Being that im in NY it isn’t financially feasible for me. Then theres the whole dating thing and finding a partner which i also am not interested to do at this point lol
I've been reading old texts lately.
Torah, Old Testament, Plato, Gilgamesh, Philosophers from Greek to 19th century German.
I'm f'n PISSED that my boomer parents raised me with NO guidance after having discarded the "old ways." I think so many people are confused about existence and what it takes to run and maintain a society because we weren't exposed to thousands of years of thought on the matter. All we have is consumerism now. The "revolution" failed.
@Agathon255 thank you i wish the same for you! im in the same boat honestly. im more at peace alone its too painful the dating scene and social media with cheating and all that. im so used to being alone now but it just sucks as a woman much more stigma i feel worthless or like im weird if i dont have kids and have a family
@@BeepBoop-qt4eq same!!! ive been reading proverbs lately and man has the world lost their ways entirely. proverbs lays it all out for parents and children.
You're so right
It's always been crazy
For us the Blacks, the world has been crazy for a long time 😂... For decades at least. Imagine the Jim Crow and Apartheid in South Africa.... We survived that era.
I know what you're talking about.
I kept my sanity when i was a child by realizing most people were crazy.
It was obvious enough because they were filled with fears and hostilities and they would double down and ramp up their anger at me when I talked about their craziness.
I could also see where a lot of the crazy ideas and desires came from.
They were highly influenced by television and culture that was stupid, and I mean stupid on the face of it, like the aesthetics of ugliness and a flat-out hatred of intelligence.
Many very basic things were stupid in my opinion.
People preferring to watch sports rather than play it.
People who preferred listening to music rather than playing it.
And people preferring to watch pornography rather than to marry and have sex.
I was amazed when I was a small child by how stupid work was: instead of mastering a craft or a business and earning a living directly by being productive, people did a stupid, repetitive task all day long for the rest of their lives for a paycheck that would meet all their needs and solve all their problems. Even as a child, I could see the economic weakness of such a work strategy, and I could see it falling apart along with people's lives. It was a trap I didn't want to fall into. Instead, I wanted to learn as much as possible about how to do almost everything I might need to have done: business, car repair, plumbing, electrical, carpentry, etc. We might live in a highly specialized society, but people traditionally needed to know how to do everything necessary to live - needed to know how their world worked. They couldn't confine themselves to one skill, endlessly repeated, or they would lose their minds and be helpless in the face of coming changes.
Even as a small child I could see the government and the media that served it lied about even the most basic things.
They said Americans were supposed to be dedicated to freedom, but they drafted people and waged war all over the place, and taxed Americans against their will to pay for it.
What kind of freedom?
Only the freedom to choose between consumer products?
And I could outright see the hypercompetitive anxieties of my fellow first grade children.
They were being driven mad at school
The teachers were unrighteous, punishing me for being attacked by the other kids.
It was all so insane.
I even got trouble from my mother who sincerely believed people were born blank slates, as was the scientific theory at the time.
So, she was always attempting to gaslight and manipulate me to be what she desired.
I never could win any of the arguments with any of the crazy people, but there was no self-condemnation, because I knew they were crazy.
My main problem all along was what could I do?
What job or profession or lifestyle could I pursue that would allow me to live with, work with, and cope with all the crazy people, as a sane loner.
it isn't ever easy because society was actively hostile to me.
As long as you know what you're dealing with, it isn't personally distressing.
You know you're just passing through the zoo.
And you marvel at the strange creatures.
Very well said
God this made me
super anxious to read through. I
Pictures myself
clinging to a death bed revisiting all of this awfulness. Damn
I must say.
I laughed at the prefer to listen to music instead of play it.
Made me think about people who prefer to talk rather than listen.
Write>read.
Balance of these things is the way.
Except with porn and other degeneracies 😅
We can just do away with those.
As a war journalist and a political activist for almost 14 years now, and as someone who chose this career to escape my traumatic experience with my family, and as a cultural and geo-politics observer.. This video is just too fantastic and brilliant!!!! What a deep analysis that just cuts to the bone. We need more people like you, Daniel. Thank you very much for this!
I became a work alcoholic.
Oh my! I feel the same about this video!
Criminalise narcissistic abuse in the developed world, would be a huge start. So in practise organise a team of competent criminologists and have them cooperate with psychologists and make sure it happens within an infrastructure that yields transparency and accountability.
Of course the premise is unrealistic to begin with because far too many are personally invested in injustice.
I believe the entire judicial system, lawyers and police should all have training to at least be able to recognise the red flags.
The problem is, these places are by now full of narcissistic individuals.
Narcissists prefer jobs where they can control others, where people tend to trust them simply bc of the position they hold & respect is given whether it's deserved or not.
Teachers, therapists, even nurse practitioners cannot be trusted to act rationally when their behavior is questioned, or when some uncomfortable truth is presented.
The only thing you can count on is that it won't be their fault.
'Personally invested in injustice'.
Yeah...that's the biggest reason why voting doesn't work.
(Well, that & 'corporations are ppl' decision)
You're the first & only person to ever put out there what I think about a lot: NPD should be illegal.
@@Kennedy4OurCountry Very much so. Criminalisation of narcissistic abuse is entirely unviable through existing institutions.
The only way I can see it implemented societally is from a fresh start, and just like you say with the foreknowledge that applicants may well be narcissistic and with the appropriate specialised efforts to block their entry.
I mean it's not like narcissists cannot be identified. It's a matter of having the resources to do the investigation.
Love you Daniel!! I'm so glad you survived & escaped your family system & have been able to speak your truth. Your videos have helped me a lot, thank you for sharing !
Thank you Daniel for saying what I feel deep down in my being without having so articulated words as you have to express it.
I am 70 years old, living in Belgium which is not my country of origin, and still struggle with the guilt of staying away from my family in order to keep myself sane, as little sane as is possible in my case. Staying creative helps my hyper sensibility and was always a way out, keeping me somehow grounded.
Thank you for your sincerity, I read your videos with gratitude any time you post one.
Have nice summer days, here is raining and raining and the sun seems to be " gone with the wind "
Aww please do not feel guilty. It is OKAY to want your own life to be at PEACE! Blessings to you.
My mother (I'm a '98er) woke up and put an end to the cycle of madness. I wouldn't be here if she hadn't. Thank you mom for being an absolute saint.
🙏🏽💯❤️
i don't think facing personal trauma history is intrinsically difficult, it's made difficult by a social environment which is in denial. an enviroment catered to our addictions we produce to uphold denial. denial is a lifestyle, an industry driven by trauma.
on the flipside; how easy it would've been for the likes of me to heal.... or not even become that traumatized in the frst place, if culture supported looking within, questioning parents, treating children as people with human rights.
True. Thank you for bringing that up.
Children are never told of their legal rights! It should be taught to every toddler before they start talking. We should have nursery rhymes about the number they can call to get help if anyone is harming them, not just Stranger-Danger & "don't eat uninspected halloween candy" bullshit. 😡
Insanity benefits the few. Sanity benefits everyone. This is all by design.
I'm sorry to call you out personally. But I have to say I hard disagree with this. Going morally insane for profit is a profound personal loss. The term even has a name, moral injury/trauma.
Think about it this way.
When you have incompetent leaders and serious systemic problems, those in power know that fear is in their favor. People are afraid, they don't want to make a radical change so they keep voting in the leaders that created many of the problems.
The worse things get, the better for the few who make the decisions. The elite know this and have no reason to fix anything.
By design.
Daniel is reminding us of our personal responsibility. It is my responsibility to deal with my side of the street. No one else is responsible for it except me.
we all can agree this video is 👍🏼
❤❤❤ Ever since I came across you, more than 7 years ago, Daniel, I liked your kind of honest, and your kind of "crazy". And the way you deliver it to us, as well. 🙂 x
The fact that there is a depression and anxiety epidemic among youth and also the rise of autistic disorders shows that indeed the world is going crazy. Kids are the most sensitive and they feel it unconsciously
I appreciate your integrity so much! Thank you, Daniel
Maunchausen by proxy- “our son is mentally ill, we are so worried and we love him.”
Guess What You both Parents are responsible for This ! You both need Treatment not your son
@@TheExistenceClass0the OC is giving a definition. Reread.
To have Munchausen, the Parent Are harming child and at the same time the parent get the «poor You» attention from lots of people. This is the actual diagnosis for this… and most dont know that.
My parents did this to my brother
@@jflgreen we need to build parenting schools for parents how to raise the children ! Believe me 60% Psychological issue will be healed in this world!
Sigh. So true- our society is deeply sick, distracted, misguided, delusional and disturbed. My salvation has been finding and connecting with kindred spirits and conscious souls- something I need to remind myself explicitly. That we have to be here for one another with mother earth... I do believe in higher purpose and that our souls are not limited just to our current lifetimes but is constantly evolving across time and space. Just being in truth and stillness within myself is profoundly grounding, which helps me not get so caught up jn toxic drama, petty bs of the ego. and disentangle from energy vampires and covert codependence.
Black death, famines, tyrants, slavery... the world has always sucked. If we let the past torment us, it's because we choose to live in it. The past will indeed stalk us, but we can spit in its face and walk away.
What a painful truth... You have said many brave things, Daniel, but this one is extremely brave to articulate. Makes you wonder who are more crazy, the ones inside or outside the mental hospitals?
The last thing people will see is that they themselves are the crazy ones. “It’s so hard to look within and let go”. Do it anyways. If denial worked well the world would be the epitome of spiritual and emotional health. If you want to grow up then dive into the work of Vernon Howard.
the hardest person to honestly judge, is ones self.
I am trying HARD to let go. I can’t figure out how to make it actually happen.
@@Job.Well.Done_01 so your a self proclaimed, skitzo, psycho, narcissistic,. wack job?
It's important to remember that parents can screw up their children unconciously and indirectly through their nerocies. A child will respond and developed in response to a parents unbalanced personality without the parent necessarily doing anything intentionally wrong. Of course the parent probably shouldn't have had children before resolving these issues, but many of them don't know what effect it will have on their children.
Their children sure do ✌️
Yes, humans are flawed and that ofc includes parents toward their children. The problem is when the child approaches the parent(s) to express themself about the hurt the parent caused and instead of validating and acknowledging and taking a good hard look at themselves, the parent(s) tell the kid to shut up, sit down and suck it up.
What is it with so many parents abusing their kids? Has this become the norm?
I think their own unresolved trauma drove normalizing some crazy parenting indeed. I see more and more new adults becoming the "stop generation" - a dam of the torrents of abuse gushing from the past, that blocks all this pain from tainting yet another set of innocent children. It may not be perfect, but it's a wonderful, conscious start, that will shape future generations even further. Daniel is one of those "stop generation" people ❤ and so am I, as a mother of a 13 year old boy, healing my own childhood, reparenting myself as I do my best to parent him in a healthy, respectful and loving way. I have faith in my heart that it's going to be better for humanity, with every person raising their own consciousness ❤
Always has been
The norm for whom? For where?
For some.
Lack of community compounds the abuse.
Antinatalism.
I notice with my family (except my mum), a lack of emotional intelligence. Without it you cannot interpret information (Plato's Cave) in a balanced way which leads to misunderstandings/anger and hatred ect. Im the youngest and have watched them stumble blindly through life trying to crush me when given the chance.
Very True 🙏🏼
Thank YOU for existing Daniel ♥️
You're right Daniel but people didn't even feel this way just thirty years ago. The world has gone crazy in our own lifetimes.
How do you afford life though? As someone who is struggling..it has affected me so badly that it harmed my education, body and ability to be able to afford life where they are living the fancy life of trips, dinners out, golf memberships, and flying all over.
Well the question is then, is all that really important? Maybe letting go of a lot of these external distractions is part of the healing process. Of course not to let go of everything but to reevaluate what you truly want and need in your life.
Imagine having so much free time that you can go do all those fancy things.
How empty a life must someone have when all they have are money and distractions
@@joelvaross i don't care for those things.. i care about being able to make it by a bit more than the shiny life they lead and show off.
@@CollapseWatch yup..and some they did lose...but what they never had was emotionally connecting or not being emotionally mature but they aren't starving like me...
j don't care for the fancy yet to be able to afford life normally
Based. This is the real issue.
But this video confuses the "individual" with the "world". The solution is to get angry. Very angry.
I met so much resistance from my entire family when I wouldn’t tolerate my mother and her narcissistic abuse anymore to the point where they actually blamed me for not accepting it anymore and really just crazy things that were easier for her to deal with than the truth she actually kicked me out at 17 and that’s when I finally accepted it and it’s so strange because it was almost harder emotionally being outside of the abuse than being in it I guess 17 years just caught up to me I’ve gained so much insight from your videos on my journey I don’t know if you’ve already made a video about it but could do talk about what’s it’s being outside of abuse for the first time I feel like I’m so behind on everything because the time I was meant to be preparing for adulthood, I was surviving and now I’m 18 and don’t know what to do.
Amazing message. It all starts with us. Not society, not the system. Only when we change can society change.
For me, it seemed like the craziness hit a tipping point sometime during the last five years or so when a kind of Kafkaesque, gaslight-y approach to everything became mainstream, across the entire political and media spectrum. On the one hand, we have people insisting covid never existed, and on the other, we have their political opponents telling us the economy is great. If we're not doing well, we're the exception, and there's something wrong with us.
We have the creepy situation that happened at Uvalde, and something similar occurred on a smaller scale near me. A group of horse riders were mowed down like bowling pins by a speeding car, killing two of the horses and hospitalizing two riders...and the cops just let the driver go, leaving everyone involved dumbfounded. It's a real 1984 feeling. Or maybe this is how people felt during the start of the Middle Ages or the rise of Hitler.
I'm not in ostrich denial about the insanity of the world, but I don't really know what to do about it either. I think there are two schools of people who are "just living their lives," as you said (whether or not they have have experienced personal trauma). There are those who can't bring themselves to think about it (the deniers) and those who know what's happening but feel powerless to do anything that has any meaningful effect (the realists). It seems too that within the latter group, there are many who aren't even "living their lives." Rather, they're struggling to simply survive. They're not going on vacation and posting fake Insta pics; they're working multiple jobs and trying to avoid homelessness. Also, if you're a truth teller outside of your own personal experience (e.g., with climate change), life can get pretty dangerous. Is it worth the risk to tell the truth about society as a whole? Every person has to weigh that for themselves.
Shame on the cops who let that driver go. Those cops should watch out for KARMA.
@@galaxy98765 Right? I've still yet to see an explanation about why that happened. It's what I mean by that Twilight Zone, Orwellian feeling. Like, they had to have known the driver should have been taken into custody, but the cruelty of letting him go and doing nothing was intentional and meant to mess with people's minds. It's a symptom of a very sick society.
@@patriciasalem3606 You are absolutely correct. I feel so badly for the horses, and the people. I would feel like posting flyers all around town about this entire incident, what happened to the horses and people, and that nothing was done about it, and post the name and a photo, if there is one, of the driver who committed this crime and I would also maybe call PETA, as PETA might do something about it.
Lovely profile photo you have. Beautiful horse.
You have the same thoughts as me. So glad there's someone like you who can articulate it so well. Thank you Daniel.
Stop having babies is the most impactful thing we can do these days
You are a precious soul 🙏
My family wanted to be rid of me too. It only took me 53yrs to work it out 😂
You speak the truth brother.. My parents had me when they were children. Mother was 18 and my father was 20. They had been married less than a year. My mother was loving, but neurotic and depressed. My father wasn’t ready for a child. And resented and ignored me from the day I was born. I grew up in the late 50’s and 60’s. Was introvert and shy, but really good at music. So that was my escape.. But to your point: the world has gone insane. It seems to have gotten exponentially worse over the last 8 to 10 years and, due to the many factors you described, is rapidly moving toward chaos and catastrophe
Hi Daniel. I watch you from my small honduran corner of the world, and have found so many answers in your videos. I was going through a mental block recently because of so much grieving, and sitting down while listening to your insight helped to, at last, get some painting done which helped me feel more like myself. Your mind is so much appreciated.
We have very similar parents. Thank you for being an honest, compassionate, loving presence here on RUclips.
Thank you for this Daniel. The cognitive dissonance in this world is maddening in and of itself. It's the toxic positivity of the mainstream culture vs. the reality of those who are in so much pain and need to express than pain to heal. Hearing someone share the truth is comforting to me. Like many scapegoated children, my family's narrative existed to meet everyone else's needs at my expense. So it's not surprising that most of my family feels comforted by inaccurate narratives - to the point where they need them to survive psychologically. But since inaccurate narratives rarely met my needs, I never felt positive about them and don't feel the need to hang on to them. Likewise in the real world. I am more comforted by "a scary reality" than a "rose-colored lie". Not always, I'm sure I have blind spots too. But far more often than others around me.
But, it is rare to feel this way. It's rare to feel 'healed' when truth is spoken out loud. So, for what its worth, thank you for the healing your words bring, Daniel.
Yea, it's not much fun to be portrayed as faulty...when you're not. Nobody seems to believe you. It's almost as though it's your job in life to be this thing that pity can be heaped upon by those who need to boost their own ego via putting you down, below them. The condescension is absolutely infuriating! But as you say, the best revenge for all that BS is success!
This makes you think, how many suicides have happened and the parents explained as Daniel has said here.
And sometimes the parents make themselves seem the victims. People commiserate with them that they had to go through such a hard time with a “difficult” child. While the child who suffered and is no longer there gets forgotten.
It's no surprise that an unhealthy environment perpetuates its own falsehoods. The important thing is escaping and getting away.
Each and everyone of them. Suicide won't happen to someone who has a true, enlightened, compassionate witness. This is something you have or don't have. People who say, "oh, he was so nice and brilliant, we never would have known", were not friends to this person. Better stay away from such clueless people.
Just look at the cluelessness, the childishness of parents of school shooters who go on TV doing good deeds and putting in good words. Like they want to make up for the bad rep they got instead of lamenting their child in private and the pain they probably ignored from birth.
I don't think parents are in control of all aspects of how a child turns out, however they clearly are likely to be the biggest influence. It also sounds like antidepressent drugs might play a role, I think big pharma has a huge part in seeing humans as something we can quickly 'fix' via drugs rather than actually trying to understand the human condition
Good man. D you just laid it out 💯. I’m so glad. Love you sir. And all the best to each individual on their path to enlightenment.
The clarity, courage & semantic ability in this video is just basically...true love 💙 Thank you Daniel, so much great stuff on your channel 💯🎯
The solution is class consciousness, cynicism is the sign: you cannot have room for hopelessness unless you are comfortable enough already.
Are you so comfortable with being an educated slave?
Remember… from OUR perspective our parents had to most authority… but our parents were paying their dues to the state through their laboring for us, so we will grow and labor for the state.
Remove the binds of our own framing, understand your own framing.
There’s a lot of good and a lot of bad. Focus on what’s best for you and those in your life. Everything else is out of our direct control. Live in your own universe… sure, vote and do other things that might help contribute but the less input we receive from any source the better.
And most humans are so tiny brained and selfish. Unwilling to try to understand others situations. So focus on what keeps you healthy and happy and just don’t play other people’s games. Smile and walk away.
Refreshing to hear at a time it needed to be heard.
It's difficult not to see it.
1:11 Thousands of years ago, the statement "the world has gone crazy" would have been incomprehensible. People didn't perceive of "the world." They perceived of their tribe or community. The question was whether their tribe or community was functioning or not.
You are so cool Daniel! I stumbled upon your videos a while back and it felt like a different person was speaking my mind, like you some how could see or hear my thoughts! Thanks for the video, I agree if we all worked on ourself, things would change! A lot of people don’t stand up for themselves, because they don’t believe themselves to be worthy.
It's called globalism
Thank you for a very thoughtful video, as always!
There are so very few good well balanced, morally decent, stable, self aware people in the world. I think its really hard to be self aware and still highly functioning - eg able to earn a living and be financially independent, if you don’t have other self aware people around you.
Im in that category. God made me self aware and then dropped me in the middle of s fuckin desert with no others like me
@@alanm6o9 Same. Its hard to get a connection that feels validating and authentic. Its hard having to deal with concerns alone because you know no one around you will have much empathy or understanding.
I went psychotic temporarily in my late teens and over time I became a sane truth teller. Where does that leave me? I feel like I can see both sides...
When I finally came to understand the big lie my parents put over on me, they were dead. But then my brothers and sisters had no use for me because they were/are stuck back in the lie. You are right on though. The craziness is all due to sublimated feelings. It's micro and macrocosmic.
Such a poinient and true perspective. 🎉 Thank you for your honesty and clarity. Coming to terms with parents who prefer you dead to alive for their own convience or for attention seeking and public sympathy generating is the most difficult thing in the world to explain to run of the mill people. They don't believe this is possible. It is the raw truth.
What an interesting and insightful video, thank you. Your description of psychosis as a metaphorical expression of too-painful inner traumas really enlightened me and helped me understand some of my own childhood 'crazy' experiences like hearing scary voices at night or feeling paranoic fear while walking down the street. I guess it all has to come out somehow. I feel such compassion for myself and others now that it's clearer.
This world is evil i wish i wasnt born
The devil and evil forces want you to believe that.
Don't believe your thoughts
Learn how to spiritually defend yourself
You are not alone, don’t worry that much🤗
Your feeling is right, and I totally understand. I hold on to the notion that that's something your parents made you feel before anyone else did. We know deep down that this feeling is off, it's not genuine, it's somehow too overwhelming to be appropriate, that the world isn't all evil. We know there are peaceful and beautiful places, but we've been trained to stop looking for them, it's so hard to even notice them when our own inside world has been filled with hate and fear.
I had this very painful talk with my mom some time ago, and I asked her why she didn't go out in the world, why she didn't have any friends. I think her answer was kind of half conscious, but I think her true self talked to me at that time. She said she did this to protect herself, that the world was full of danger, and she said this as if it was just some random fact everybody just agreed on. And there I got a good answer for a ton of questions I had for myself. My anxiety, my habit of ruminating dark thoughts and being generally fed up with the world and seeing only the bad, my general feeling of not fitting in, of being unwanted, of being disruptive to others. All of this still hasn't stopped all of the sudden, but gosh that vindicated me and my self doubt. I had proof at last that this was a stupid parasite I inherited from her, and not actually a good reason to keep myself from reaching out and opening up. Gave me another reason to hope for myself.
Anyways, don't let other people just tell you you're wrong. Your feelings are always justified even if they seem wrong. They tell you something about yourself you're not even aware of.
@@allthe1 Beautifully said.
Then your mission is to create the opposite whenever you can, even in small ways. That gives existence meaning.
You mentioned this in another video a while back I believe but I'd like to hear you break down the state of "pre-grieving" you described that came before you started to actually grieve your traumas.
Thank you for talking about it, and thanks also for your video format, I find it very soothing and I love the music at the end!
The amount of shunning and ostrasissm is unbelievable, parents are like cults and they defend each other and they occupy important functions in the system, how to cope with this ? Sometimes i start to doubt myself
unfortunately agree, that we are the small few who seek a healing path
thank you Daniel
One of the final memories of my father in the last few days I saw him, was when he looked at me with psychedelic, scattered but scrutable eyes as he showed disgust for me when he saw me touch my same sex partner on the back gently.
I am so sorry.
That he thought it was any of his business proves he was a sociopath.
That's sad
Another way to look at this is you knew you would disgust him and brought your partner in anyways. Not saying hes right but if ur dad is on his deathbed no need to upset him like that
@@alanm6o9 he was not dying. Actually he didn’t know anything about our relationship as it had just started. When he and I had talked about my being gay he did not express disgust for it or any aspect of me or my life. He had a dad who was a closeted bi-sexual. My dad witnessed his mother being beat multiple times in her genitals with his dad kicking her with his boot until she passed out.
My dad knew for many years I was gay because I had told him years before and he had met a previous partner of mine who he liked. The person who was there on the one occasion was someone he knew in the medical
field.
My dad had asked me to help him save his life because he had cancer. I had located treatment that would reverse his cancer completely, it’s the best form of it in the world. His disgust was a sickness in him that had nothing to do with me. My sister was sexually molested by him starting at just a few years old. He also molested my nephew. He would be out late at night around families with children. As a grade schooler I would wait up for him to come home. Before my sister passed she asked me if she should have told him his violation of her had done her great harm. I caught him twice, yes disgusting. He died a few years after the above incident but not from cancer.
My dad passed 11 years ago, outliving my younger siblings. Both of my sisters passed early in life due to mostly their reactions to my dad’s abuse. He frequently nearly killed my mother before my siblings were born, when I was a preschooler.
From here on out, (for the remainder of your life), never again, not even for one second hold any negativity towards a gay person. Energetically I’m going to hold you to it.
My 18th year anniversary with the same person is tomorrow. Thank you for the gift of being humbled. Go do what is right. Give and receive only love.
Your videos are so helpful. Thank you ❤ my mother has decided I'm psychotic so i think you're right
my family would rather me dead or locked away... so true and so sad! how little they truly valued me 😊
💯
Thanks for spitting truth Daniel. Hope you're holding up well. Sending good vibes from DownUnder!
So glad you are talking about this.
Thank you so much for your help. You have really really just acknowledged my feelings. THANK YOU.
People have turned into their own bio-weapon.☣️
People were always their own bio-weapon. This is not new.
People get very irritated when I tell them that I want to raise children in a very specific and natural way to pass on none of my ego and beliefs and give them a toolset to use later for any given situation.
Let them, but good luck though 😉
Utter nonsense.
Id go Head Nd also plan out a strategy to obtain said land to raise kids on....wgere would you do it that theyd be u able to access media as an influence and is that ethical in the modern world due to handicapping? How will you kids survive anywhere after youre gone? Have you planned this out?
Genocides everywhere everyday in every generation. It’s depressing and devastating
Another insightful and wonderful video Daniel. I wonder if you’d consider sharing your thoughts in a video on Alzheimer’s and dementia in older individuals? Is it possible this is their defense mechanism against having to face the truth as death nears from not living authentically or being able to tell the truth?
Thanks! I already sort of made such a video: ruclips.net/video/sS4GK_u1BWg/видео.html Greetings---Daniel
@@dmackler58 thank you for sharing! I’ll be watching this later today.
@@jaretromano7515 you're welcome!
Relatable. Thank you for sharing
Non-coercive parenting and anarcho syndicalism
Thank you Daniel
Godbless
I would love to just hang out with this guy and talk about things. Not as a therapist-patient way, just as a peer. I think you are a wonderful person, just by the videos you put out.
My solution for the world to be less crazy would be to STOP chronic internet use, mainstream media consumption, and to stop isolating ourselves. People need to stop dehumanizing others and go outside. Connect with your fellow neighbors and community, even if you disagree with their beliefs. We need to stop further dividing ourselves into echo chambers and take in opinions and perspectives we cannot think of ourselves.
I love you man!
This video basically reflects my life as well. Much respect Daniel. You are a truth teller. You will be hated. and that’s ok.
You are a beautiful soul and it hurts me seeing you tormented with this rock in the shoe that is the reminder of your parents
YOU HELPED ME trhow this rock away and never look back
Dont look back, they are dead, the people you used to love are no more there, it was all in your mind, you made an image for them, they were always another thing completely different
YOU SURVIVED !!!
about the world, we see often the bad things, but the world is a beautiful place full of wonderful people.
we are in a sense all kids
here is the traslation of a spanish song
I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH DANIEL, you are my big brother !!! and my mentor !!!
There is more happiness than pain in the world
More flowers on earth than rocks in the sea
There is much more blue than black clouds
And there is much more light than darkness
There are many, many more who forgive
Than those who try to condemn everything
People want peace and fall in love
And they adore what is beautiful, nothing more
Whatever others say
There is much, much more love than hate
More kisses and caresses than ill will
Men have faith in the afterlife
And they fight for good, not evil
Whatever others say
Daniel, everything is gonna be all right
hugs from Jerusalem, my friend
♥♥♥
What a beautiful sentiment. This is helpful!
@@femaleprofessionaldriver7650 thank you :)
I just want to say I love you and thank you for sharing these videos 💚
People fool themselves into thinking they must discover themselves, when we are actually creating ourselves everyday with what we do and focus on. They also think they must conqure the world, which is impossible and means nothing. So my advice is to do your best to be the person you want to be and know you will die.
Go within, confront(internally) the people who harmed you. Become healthy and enlightened. Thats what I want to take from this video.
As always thank you.