"You don't have to get rid of your emotions to live in accordance with your values." Probably the best explanation of "you are not your emotions" I have heard. Pearls of wisdom jam-packed into 25 minutes or so.
Thought Diffusion: Concept: Observing and detaching from thoughts rather than getting caught up in their content. Application: Differentiating between thoughts and actions, particularly in areas like weight loss and business. Example: Choosing not to eat despite feeling hungry or wanting to eat, and facing situations where tempting food is present. Technique: Visualizing thoughts as fish in a pond, identifying the unproductive ones, and discarding them. Emphasis: Separating oneself from thoughts and emotions, using language to gain control over them. Self as Context: Concept: Avoiding over-attachment to self-created identities and stories. Application: Acting contrary to one’s usual self-perceptions in various situations. Example: Acting unanxious despite feeling anxious, breaking the identity of being an anxious person. Emphasis: Realizing that thoughts and emotions are separate from the self, allowing for action despite discomfort. Acceptance: Concept: Developing a new relationship with thoughts and emotions, accepting them rather than rejecting or avoiding. Application: Embracing discomfort and anxiety as part of experience. Example: Dealing with anxiety attacks by accepting and staying in the situation, rather than fleeing. Emphasis: Accepting negative emotions can often help dissipate them, likened to escaping quicksand by staying still. Presence: Concept: Staying in the present moment, avoiding dwelling on past or future. Application: Using activities like walking or meditation to observe surroundings and thoughts. Example: Changing routines regularly to avoid becoming overly reliant on them for stress management. Emphasis: Being present allows for observation rather than getting engulfed by thoughts. Values: Concept: Defining personal values to guide decisions and actions. Application: Identifying values from admired individuals or personal qualities. Example: Narrowing down to three key values for easier daily application. Emphasis: Values act as filters for making decisions aligned with personal goals and desires. Committed Action: Concept: Taking actions that align with personal values, not out of fear or avoidance. Application: Incorporating new habits into existing routines, substituting behaviors, and planning for imperfections. Example: Linking a new habit (like taking vitamins) with an established routine (like brushing teeth). Emphasis: Acknowledging that change is a process, and not expecting perfection. Action is essential for learning and progress.
how is someone so wise and it’s so humble and kind to share this knowledge with everyone. I feel lucky to know her and be able to listen to her every time I need it.
I am not the type that is leaving comments under youtube videos. But this was soooo good. I am amazed of how you put out and verbalise the knowledge and wisdom in such an awesome way. Thank you Leila, this was brilliant. I am going to rewatch it right now, I want to absorb the awesomeness hhhah.
Wow Leila. You have a gift for articulating really complex concepts in a way that are not only easy to understand, but highly accessible and actionable. Thank you for taking the time to think through this video and sharing. ❤
You’re an amazing teacher and therapist Leila! You’re my virtual coach. Thank you so much for all the valuable free content you share. Onward and upward. ♥️🌹
My brain has been binge-eating Alex's podcast, and I was like "Alex is a genius! Alex is a genius!" then I listened to Alex and Leila on the Bigger Pockets podcast and was like "Leila is a genius! Leila is a genius!" Leila and Alex produce insane quality *and* insane quantity - hard work pays off. Thank you Leila!
I have been suffering from extreme panic disorder, but I am turning the corner. The principles in this video are going to help me achieve my goal of living a great life without being paralyzed by fear, aka negative thoughts and emotions. I'm still figuring it out, but this helped a TON. Thank you, Leila! ❤
I have watched hrs of videos, and from the bottom of my heart this 25 minute video is the one that has impacted me the most. She is dropping gems, and I thank her !
1) I LOVE your content. 2) I’m so impressed that you’ve been able to come to these conclusions so young. I’m in my 40’s and just now beginning to understand that I can have negative emotions and anxiety and allow space for it with out trying to expell it or give it too much attention.
This is a rare content to find these days. A beautiful human discussing everyday human issues with such clarity and authenticity. Leila, thank you for sharing your insights and connecting with us on a deeper level.
Leila- you've posted an increasing variety of topics, and they're all are pretty valuable. This video, I must say, is one of my favorites! After taking a lot of notes for me to personally implement, I've forwarded it to my (grown) kids, and posted it in my therapy group (I'm a hypnotherapist, we talk about a lot of topics in our group, and your video hits on a lot of Really Important life coping/ life management skills, both in general, and as it pertains to mental health/mental fitness.) 'Very empowering ideas & strategies. Thanks for this very thoughtful video!
Wow these older pictures are really transformative, and it's great that you allow yourself to have other people see these vulnerable/insecure parts of your life as a way to help us. Was subbed to Alex for a couple months now, also subbed to you today.
So good in just the few weeks I’ve listened to her channel, momentum is crazy. Learning so much from doing and accessing results and data. Ty for such valuable insights and thought provoking outlooks
The example on how to figure out your values is so helpful! I recently realized that was one of the things I was missing therefore keeping me in confused state. I already started getting clarity just thinking about it. Thank you!!
It looks like you're in your zone! You've mentioned that videos where you're talking to the camera, you are not your sweet spot. Your energy and excitement in this video are palpable. It's great.
So many hidden gems in this video. WOW. I'm definitely in need of an identity shift. I didn't realize what my thoughts were dictating me to do, and what that really meant for my health and well being. You give the best advice, and I LOVE the way you teach. This video was so helpful.
I like the fish in the pond, and it reminds me of some basic mindfulness and meditiation techniques. Being the observer, realizing that you are not your thoughts or emotions, and choosing to just let thoughts go by like cars passing on a road rather than reacting. I don't know if the idea here came from meditation or mindfulness practice, but it's powerful.
Leila, thank you for sharing your vetted wisdom. I am so grateful to you and others who attain genuine, comprehensive success and share your knowledge. I lost my resilience during the pandemic but now telling myself that story continues to make it true. Life is challenging but talking about good tools and getting back to action is invaluable. 💜
You are the golden ticket and I love your examples you give which really helps me understand the meaning of what you are saying!! 😅Thank you, thank you!!❤❤ From Portage, MI. And my routines used to own me, if I just work out, if I just do this etc. 😊
This is a really intersting video with some very interestin tips I've never heard before. The idea of dissasociating from your thoughts and emotions and observing them almost as a third party is fascinating. I've never even thought about this. Even just sitting in this chair I'm now think about how my body feels and why I'm suddenly feeling inspired. I'm going to try to practice this all day tomorrow and see how it feels. Also I love your quicksand analogy, it makes so my sense to me. I feel like I unlocked a new level of consciousness just by watching this video. I'm using a part of my brain that I've never used before. I'm observing myself existing, instead of just existing. Fascinating.
Congratulations Laila. You have mastered your own thoughts. Keep on evolving and stay true to you. You and your team have unlocked expansion and abundance mindset in me. Keep going. I will.
Thank you so much for your content Leila, I really admire your mindset and it's helping me a lot these days, specially with uni, work and my personal projects, things get really messy in my mind
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen someone talk about. Thank you Leila for your way explaining these concepts in such an easy to understand manner. I’m definitely going to be using this in my day to day from now on
Some disclosure,I have a psychology background and am autistic. This is a great mindset for some people and covers a lot of techniques used in third wave psychotherapies. I do however think it lacks nuance (something almost all self-help suffers from)and takes a ‘toxically positive’ stance to personal development. We need to remember that a person’s values and goals do not precede their physical reality and sometimes,the former needs to be adjusted,so that it is more sustainable. It’s easy to say that you can manage yourself despite your feelings or practice cognitive diffusion but at what point does it become gaslighting yourself or lead to burnout? The answer will be different for everyone depending on their resources and goals.
Oh my god this is gold. I just wanna let you know that I appreciate all the knowledge that u've shared with us. Thank you so much! This one really hits close to home. ❤
Absolutely fantabulous advice. I'll be rewatching and soaking it in multiple times. Thanks, Leila. You and your husband are such a blessing to everyone with the desire to better themselves.
Acknowledge that your thoughts & feelings aren’t you. Separate yourself. Change how you talk ab your feelings 7:24 flexibility > rigidity 7:44 avoidance enhances fear 6 Tools to go to flexible > rigid 1. Thought diffusion 2. Self as context - not being overly attached to an indenting of yourself 3. Acceptance 4. Presence 5. Values 6. Commited action
This is also good advise for people having anxiety. Because people with bad anxiety always look for something to do about it while the thing that solves it is. Notice it welcome it and go on with what you where doing.
🧨💥YOU ARE AWESOME! THIS IS THE CHANNEL I NEEDED TO KICK MY ASS BACK INTO THE RIGHT POSITIVE MINDSET. I HAVE MADE MILLIONS ONLINE BUT HAVE BEEN IN A NEGATIVE MINDSET THAT I COULDN'T GET OUT OF BUT YOUR VIDEOS HAVE SWITCHED ME BACK TO MY NATURAL DRIVEN POSITIVE MINDSET! THANKYOU SOO MUCH! 😊🎉
I always say to myself "Life is Easy, People make it Hard... don't be one of those people." Then I do whatever I have to do to GSD! Regardless of how I feel. ❤
You could be one of the greatest high-performance coaches in the world. You should start writing a book on personal effectiveness! I have learned more in this video than I have learned in thick self-help books. Your strength is in directiveness and a no-nonsense mentality.
i laughed my ass off at you calling your brain Georgia , ‘Georgia is at it again starting something’, what a great technique! Really loved this video, you distilled so many concepts into such s short space of time. I’ll definitely be re-watching it to take notes!
"You don't have to get rid of your emotions to live in accordance with your values." Probably the best explanation of "you are not your emotions" I have heard. Pearls of wisdom jam-packed into 25 minutes or so.
Thought Diffusion:
Concept: Observing and detaching from thoughts rather than getting caught up in their content.
Application: Differentiating between thoughts and actions, particularly in areas like weight loss and business.
Example: Choosing not to eat despite feeling hungry or wanting to eat, and facing situations where tempting food is present.
Technique: Visualizing thoughts as fish in a pond, identifying the unproductive ones, and discarding them.
Emphasis: Separating oneself from thoughts and emotions, using language to gain control over them.
Self as Context:
Concept: Avoiding over-attachment to self-created identities and stories.
Application: Acting contrary to one’s usual self-perceptions in various situations.
Example: Acting unanxious despite feeling anxious, breaking the identity of being an anxious person.
Emphasis: Realizing that thoughts and emotions are separate from the self, allowing for action despite discomfort.
Acceptance:
Concept: Developing a new relationship with thoughts and emotions, accepting them rather than rejecting or avoiding.
Application: Embracing discomfort and anxiety as part of experience.
Example: Dealing with anxiety attacks by accepting and staying in the situation, rather than fleeing.
Emphasis: Accepting negative emotions can often help dissipate them, likened to escaping quicksand by staying still.
Presence:
Concept: Staying in the present moment, avoiding dwelling on past or future.
Application: Using activities like walking or meditation to observe surroundings and thoughts.
Example: Changing routines regularly to avoid becoming overly reliant on them for stress management.
Emphasis: Being present allows for observation rather than getting engulfed by thoughts.
Values:
Concept: Defining personal values to guide decisions and actions.
Application: Identifying values from admired individuals or personal qualities.
Example: Narrowing down to three key values for easier daily application.
Emphasis: Values act as filters for making decisions aligned with personal goals and desires.
Committed Action:
Concept: Taking actions that align with personal values, not out of fear or avoidance.
Application: Incorporating new habits into existing routines, substituting behaviors, and planning for imperfections.
Example: Linking a new habit (like taking vitamins) with an established routine (like brushing teeth).
Emphasis: Acknowledging that change is a process, and not expecting perfection. Action is essential for learning and progress.
You are a hero. You have saved me at least 30 minutes
Thank you!
You're a legend
❤
Thank you, this is very helpful
1. Thought Defusion
2. Self as context
3. Acceptance
4. Presence
5. Values
6. Committed actions (in accordance to our values not away from fear)
Are you just taking notes or taking action?
@@salesprostevetaking notes is the first step to taking action. Now go apply it :)
@@salesprosteve 😆
This robs ppl of the experience of actually taking it on
No I’ll still take it into memory I don’t want to sit for 25 min
how is someone so wise and it’s so humble and kind to share this knowledge with everyone. I feel lucky to know her and be able to listen to her every time I need it.
I am not the type that is leaving comments under youtube videos. But this was soooo good. I am amazed of how you put out and verbalise the knowledge and wisdom in such an awesome way. Thank you Leila, this was brilliant. I am going to rewatch it right now, I want to absorb the awesomeness hhhah.
Wow Leila. You have a gift for articulating really complex concepts in a way that are not only easy to understand, but highly accessible and actionable. Thank you for taking the time to think through this video and sharing. ❤
You’re an amazing teacher and therapist Leila! You’re my virtual coach. Thank you so much for all the valuable free content you share. Onward and upward. ♥️🌹
I love how people say our generation is screwed when there are people spreading wisdom on the internet FOR FREE LIKE THIS ✨✨💪💪💪 you rock!!!
I just want to take a moment to thank you for everything you do to help others.
My brain has been binge-eating Alex's podcast, and I was like "Alex is a genius! Alex is a genius!" then I listened to Alex and Leila on the Bigger Pockets podcast and was like "Leila is a genius! Leila is a genius!" Leila and Alex produce insane quality *and* insane quantity - hard work pays off. Thank you Leila!
I have been suffering from extreme panic disorder, but I am turning the corner. The principles in this video are going to help me achieve my goal of living a great life without being paralyzed by fear, aka negative thoughts and emotions. I'm still figuring it out, but this helped a TON. Thank you, Leila! ❤
Thought diffusion was HILAROUS, I will adopt Georgia🙈
Me 2
I have watched hrs of videos, and from the bottom of my heart this 25 minute video is the one that has impacted me the most. She is dropping gems, and I thank her !
This is the best self help channel on RUclips. Patreon worthy content. Thank you
I needed this video today 🙏 thank you. I especially liked the recommendation to put your feelings in a purse and just carry them along.
Thanks for this video Leila! Currently 19 yrs old and trying to unlearn old beliefs and make it easier for myself to win everyday. Amazing vid 100%
1) I LOVE your content. 2) I’m so impressed that you’ve been able to come to these conclusions so young. I’m in my 40’s and just now beginning to understand that I can have negative emotions and anxiety and allow space for it with out trying to expell it or give it too much attention.
This is a rare content to find these days. A beautiful human discussing everyday human issues with such clarity and authenticity. Leila, thank you for sharing your insights and connecting with us on a deeper level.
Leila- you've posted an increasing variety of topics, and they're all are pretty valuable. This video, I must say, is one of my favorites! After taking a lot of notes for me to personally implement, I've forwarded it to my (grown) kids, and posted it in my therapy group (I'm a hypnotherapist, we talk about a lot of topics in our group, and your video hits on a lot of Really Important life coping/ life management skills, both in general, and as it pertains to mental health/mental fitness.) 'Very empowering ideas & strategies. Thanks for this very thoughtful video!
I’ll go do it now, I don’t wanna waste another valuable advice like I did all these years watching and doing nothing. Thank you ❤
Your videos literally change my life / the way I view things thank you
Absolutely outstanding! I needed a reminder of these mindset strategies. Have a great day all ✨🙌☺️
Leila never stop making these❤
So well spoken with valuable and FREE information ❤
Wow these older pictures are really transformative, and it's great that you allow yourself to have other people see these vulnerable/insecure parts of your life as a way to help us. Was subbed to Alex for a couple months now, also subbed to you today.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is so powerful! Thanks Leila for sharing these tools!
So good in just the few weeks I’ve listened to her channel, momentum is crazy. Learning so much from doing and accessing results and data. Ty for such valuable insights and thought provoking outlooks
Thanks Leila for your constructive actionable steps' advice
This is a mindset masterclass. Thank you!
The example on how to figure out your values is so helpful! I recently realized that was one of the things I was missing therefore keeping me in confused state. I already started getting clarity just thinking about it. Thank you!!
Omg I’m a BCBA and study ACT therapy! It’s amazing and SO cool that my favorite person is talking about it!!
Life-changing: "Georgia" and "[y'all] can hang out in my purse". Thank you!!!
It looks like you're in your zone! You've mentioned that videos where you're talking to the camera, you are not your sweet spot. Your energy and excitement in this video are palpable. It's great.
So many hidden gems in this video. WOW. I'm definitely in need of an identity shift. I didn't realize what my thoughts were dictating me to do, and what that really meant for my health and well being. You give the best advice, and I LOVE the way you teach. This video was so helpful.
I like the fish in the pond, and it reminds me of some basic mindfulness and meditiation techniques. Being the observer, realizing that you are not your thoughts or emotions, and choosing to just let thoughts go by like cars passing on a road rather than reacting. I don't know if the idea here came from meditation or mindfulness practice, but it's powerful.
This was really helpful for me. Thank you for sharing this.
I appreciate your approach and choice of words. Your advice is ideal, relatable and useful. 😉😊❤
Thank you for posting this! Honestly, the timing of this video is PERFECT!
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!!
Thank you Leila, I really appreciate how you share so much and break things down!
You are not only hardworking but also very wise…. Truly impressive
Love this video! A lot of this reminds me of my favorite book, “the Untethered Soul” and I’ll forever recommend this book to anyone and everyone ❤️
Leila, thank you for sharing your vetted wisdom. I am so grateful to you and others who attain genuine, comprehensive success and share your knowledge.
I lost my resilience during the pandemic but now telling myself that story continues to make it true.
Life is challenging but talking about good tools and getting back to action is invaluable. 💜
This woman is incredible!!!!
You are the golden ticket and I love your examples you give which really helps me understand the meaning of what you are saying!! 😅Thank you, thank you!!❤❤ From Portage, MI. And my routines used to own me, if I just work out, if I just do this etc. 😊
It's crazy how your experience distills so many different schools and practices, thanks a lot for sharing it with the world
These videos really help, thank you. And l can tell you really care about people (and yourself) thank you for what you are doing.
This is a really intersting video with some very interestin tips I've never heard before. The idea of dissasociating from your thoughts and emotions and observing them almost as a third party is fascinating. I've never even thought about this. Even just sitting in this chair I'm now think about how my body feels and why I'm suddenly feeling inspired. I'm going to try to practice this all day tomorrow and see how it feels. Also I love your quicksand analogy, it makes so my sense to me.
I feel like I unlocked a new level of consciousness just by watching this video. I'm using a part of my brain that I've never used before. I'm observing myself existing, instead of just existing. Fascinating.
Framing "not feeling like it but doing it anyway" as a skillset now gives me joy about it. To improve it. Thanks Leila 😊
Congratulations Laila. You have mastered your own thoughts. Keep on evolving and stay true to you. You and your team have unlocked expansion and abundance mindset in me. Keep going. I will.
This was such a good video. I need to listen to this multiple times as it really resonated with me.
I’m going to re-watch this so many times. I hear you Leila. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your content Leila, I really admire your mindset and it's helping me a lot these days, specially with uni, work and my personal projects, things get really messy in my mind
You got this
leila, this is gonna change everything. wow. thanks for this video. i leveled up 100x just by watching this vid alone
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen someone talk about. Thank you Leila for your way explaining these concepts in such an easy to understand manner. I’m definitely going to be using this in my day to day from now on
You're speaking almost word for word Albert Ellis. People, REBT will change your life. Be your own therapist. Look it up.
She has literally said multiple times that her opinions are based on what she’s read from Albert Ellis…
@@sage503I didn’t know that she had so I appreciate @peachesandpoets comment. I also thought the ideas stemmed from REBT.
@@sage503 Your comment seems to imply OP shouldn’t have commented what they did. Boo.
What book exactly would you recommend from Ellis
Thanks for sharing. I’ll have a look never heard of it.
Omg this is amazing. Helping men and women go deeper
I see in the future this will be as well reminded as the brian tracy videos. This is just too valuable
Leila is Wisdom Incarnate. This video unlocked some things for me... i'm on team Leila now.
Leila you are honestly so cool. These 25 minutes were very helpful. And you mad beautiful too. Thank you!!!
Love this lady! And hubby rocks too! Scientologists? High level observations, awareness and communication skills, etc...
This is by far your best video
This video is so helpful! Specially for overthinking personality’s like mine :D Thank you for sharing !!
Leila you’re the best! I get a lot from yr content
This is such good Info ! Thanks Leila !
She is so successful in so many ways such a great business woman no other woman puts out such good content then this lady one of the best for sure
100% agree. I'm trying to do this with all things in my life. 🙌
Thank you for your advice, especially the first one; it was really helpful. Love your content it easy to implement.
I totally admire and respect you, would love to be more like you!
Outdoor walks are one of life's greatest hacks.❤
Feels like Abraham Hicks teachings. Thanks for giving this airtime!
Leila I love your videos and content! Thank youuuu
Wow I will be coming back to this. More people need to watch this.
This is absolute gold. Saving this to my success playlist but more importantly putting these techniques to work starting today.
This landed in my feed at exactly the right time. More content like this please!
Some disclosure,I have a psychology background and am autistic. This is a great mindset for some people and covers a lot of techniques used in third wave psychotherapies.
I do however think it lacks nuance (something almost all self-help suffers from)and takes a ‘toxically positive’ stance to personal development. We need to remember that a person’s values and goals do not precede their physical reality and sometimes,the former needs to be adjusted,so that it is more sustainable. It’s easy to say that you can manage yourself despite your feelings or practice cognitive diffusion but at what point does it become gaslighting yourself or lead to burnout? The answer will be different for everyone depending on their resources and goals.
Oh my god this is gold.
I just wanna let you know that I appreciate all the knowledge that u've shared with us.
Thank you so much! This one really hits close to home. ❤
Best video ever! ❤ I'm taking action today.
Absolutely fantabulous advice. I'll be rewatching and soaking it in multiple times. Thanks, Leila. You and your husband are such a blessing to everyone with the desire to better themselves.
Great, actionable tips! Thank you Leila.
Love the realness. I love the way you have expressed your ideas in this video
Acknowledge that your thoughts & feelings aren’t you. Separate yourself.
Change how you talk ab your feelings
7:24 flexibility > rigidity
7:44 avoidance enhances fear
6 Tools to go to flexible > rigid
1. Thought diffusion
2. Self as context - not being overly attached to an indenting of yourself
3. Acceptance
4. Presence
5. Values
6. Commited action
That’s so helpful, thanks Leila. Also, you look stunning 🤩
This is also good advise for people having anxiety. Because people with bad anxiety always look for something to do about it while the thing that solves it is. Notice it welcome it and go on with what you where doing.
Amazing video. Congratulations, Leila.
This women doesn't miss.... always on point. Appreciate your content Leila 🙏
Amazing video, rewatched it several times already. #1 is really important, you have to set boundaries and stick to your values.
🧨💥YOU ARE AWESOME! THIS IS THE CHANNEL I NEEDED TO KICK MY ASS BACK INTO THE RIGHT POSITIVE MINDSET. I HAVE MADE MILLIONS ONLINE BUT HAVE BEEN IN A NEGATIVE MINDSET THAT I COULDN'T GET OUT OF BUT YOUR VIDEOS HAVE SWITCHED ME BACK TO MY NATURAL DRIVEN POSITIVE MINDSET! THANKYOU SOO MUCH! 😊🎉
I always say to myself "Life is Easy, People make it Hard... don't be one of those people." Then I do whatever I have to do to GSD! Regardless of how I feel. ❤
You could be one of the greatest high-performance coaches in the world. You should start writing a book on personal effectiveness! I have learned more in this video than I have learned in thick self-help books. Your strength is in directiveness and a no-nonsense mentality.
I rarely comment. This video is some good work. You cannot have issues with Georgia when you're creating good content.
Hi Leila. I should've found your channel sooner. thank you.
Omg! This is so helpful. Thanks Leila! It’s like you know what’s been in my head. ❤
“I can eat in accordance with my goals rather then accordance with my thoughts “ ❤
i laughed my ass off at you calling your brain Georgia , ‘Georgia is at it again starting something’, what a great technique! Really loved this video, you distilled so many concepts into such s short space of time. I’ll definitely be re-watching it to take notes!
Good job girl.. good video you talk with good flow
16:52 routines
22:32 change is not linear & road bumps
I like this your logic Leila, I can see this working, cheers.
Leila .. your mindset strategies are amazing as always. 🔥These are your best videos. Thank you for sharing your mindset tools.
Thank you Leila ❤
19:20 the people I admire most in life are you and Alex. Thank you so much for putting out all this highly valuable content ❤