Co-Sleeping | Why We Share a Bed
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- We have a 9 foot bed, we all sleep in it!
Gerd and I co-sleep with our girls and we enjoy every minute of it! In this episode, we discuss why we started co-sleeping and why we haven’t stopped yet.
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So thankful to adrianne that every chance she gets she has talked about you and so glad your now on youtube and we can see now why she is so in love with you. Your amazing god bless you and your family love everything you share.
Thank you so much ♥️🙏🏼
What a beautiful and amazing family.
When Beau fell asleep in your arms while you were singing to her & brushing her hair & face 🥺 😭 Imagine if we were all raised like this? So much love. Security. Affirmation. Can I co-sleep now as a fully grown adult? 😢😩
Thank you for sharing your lives with us. Blessings from South Africa 🇿🇦 💕
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Right?!! 🥺 I wish someone would brush my hair and face and sing me to sleep too, right now 🥺🥲 they're such blessed kids to grow up in such a loving environment 🥰
That moment was so beautiful, I just saw that part.❤️
The way her hubby was looking at Claude when she was talking bout their intimacy🥰
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Gerd said it best. Parenting is such an intimate & personal thing. I believe everyone needs to do what is BEST for them. I loved this episode. Thank you for sharing! ☺🌺
Thank you Lisset ♥️
I literally teared when Beau just said she likes cuddling cause all her fears go away🤧❤
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Theres something about the way you and Gerd do things that just makes me smile. You make me feel "better" about my extended family not understanding how I do things which is so completely different to how I was raised.
Thank you Jodee ♥️
I had to push pause just to comment. I was a co sleeping kid lol. Like Claude, I was a child that was afraid of the dark, nightmares, etc but luckily my parents always had there bed open to me and my sister growing up. We lived in a little apartment in NY and even after moving into a house in Nj where I had my own room, my sister and I still slept together. I didn’t care if people thought it was weird, I felt loved and safe. The bond that I have with my family now as an adult is so strong, especially with my sister. Those little childhood memories of my dad fixing my pillow or the smell of my moms hair… Those moments… my heart could burst just thinking about it. Fast forward to the future…my husband and I are raising a beautifully sweet autistic child and she wants no part in co sleeping lol. My daughter loves to snuggle but her most comfortable way to fall asleep and stay asleep is in her own space. It still breaks my heart a little.
Edit: Back after watching the rest. What was said about feeling like creating that open door/bed structure will hopefully keep an open line of communication with your girls in the future is very true and real. As a teen my mom and I had “silent conversations”. Sometimes when you are going through it you just want to be held. I’m so grateful that I had that with my parents growing up.
I cried when you were singing to Beau…You have such an angelic voice Claude. Your girls will definitely cherish all those moments ❤️❤️❤️
Her voice touched my soul
I know she has a beautiful voice!
Hi Claude I agree with the co- sleeping I just wish as I was a child my parents would of allowed us to sleep with them in thier bed. There is love there for my parents but as for me showing it like I show my one and only son I can't. I told my son I love him everyday since he was born my son is now 26 about to be 27 and nothing has changed. My parents never gave i
us hugs or not even an "I love you". When I became a mother I told myself that I was not going to bring up my son not showing him love. I would always let my son sleep with me in my bed. I felt the comfort bond like a mother and thier child should feel. I commend you as a mother bc you love your kids and you show it. Your kids will always remember all the love thier parents gave them. Keep up the great work and Bless you and your family.
This video has been a complete game-changer for our family. My son is 3 and always makes his way to our bed. My 6 and 7 y/o daughters share a room but my oldest is so scared every night and we end up making her go lay back down. What you said about your fears growing up really resonated with my husband. I told my husband about this video and we decided to make both girls comfy pallets on the floor next to us (no 9ft. bed here 🙂). Not only has this offered her peace and assurance at night but there's been an additional blessing. My husband love going to bed hearing each of them softly breathing around us. It has changed the whole vibe of our home. I noticed that even when they don't choose to sleep in our room they have much more peaceful nights in their own. I am blown away. It was great to hear you and Gerd process through (in other videos too) what YOUR goals are for YOUR family and how conventional ways of parenting don't always get you there so it's ok to do things different. We want our family to follow Jesus. We want our children to feel know, seen and loved. We want our whole unit to be super tight. This moved us closer in that direction. Thank you for this channel!
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. ❤️❤️❤️
I don’t think anyone meant to insult when they appear shocked about co-sleeping, it’s more of I couldn’t imagine sharing my bed with my kids all the time. I’d feel so irritable and restless.. I really need my own space to decompress after a long day. When my first son had horrible colic he would sleep with me but that was because of circumstance and I couldn’t wait for him to outgrow it and get him used to his crib. I never judge anyone who decides to co sleep, moms should definitely do whatever works for them❤️
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I slept with my parents till I was 12. I loved sleeping with them and I have an amazing relationship with them. However, It made me really dependent of them. Since they also protected me/sheltered me. Going alone into college was really hard for me causing me a lot of anxiety/depression. I really learned more about myself alone and became even a better person. So very thankful still for the experience with my wonderful parents.
It’s a delicate balance, isn’t it?
I slept with my mom until 13 and it made me so independent of her actually🤍Amazing how everybody’s experience is so different
Thanks for what you said Gerd! I’ll remember this in my marriage “ if you want to build something worth anything, you work at it. The laws of nature, physics and entropy. Things tend to move towards disorder (….) so how do you keep something intact? You work at it. And that’s what we do with our marriage “
Claud, you are blessed to have a husband who is deep like that! Blessings 🙂
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I co-sleeped with our son when he was smaller, then tried to help him sleep in his own bed. I feel guilty for rejecting him at times and there were times he cried. I thought I was helping him but it probably hurt him emotionally. When he does come into our bed I let him now because I remind myself he will leave our home one day and if there is one thing I would like him to take from us is that we welcomed him to our bed and allowed him to access us in every moment he needed us (my husband and I). Thank you for this video! 💕🙏🏼
Parenting can be hard at times… and we ourselves grow, so be kind to yourself. And that’s a beautiful thing that he is welcomed into your bed and has that access to you. ♥️♥️♥️ sending a big hug to you.
I'm a 23 year old with no kids but the way i LOVE you guys, your family, your videos, is really beyond me! Lol y’all inspire me in so many ways! Such a beautiful family both inside and out, filled with lots of love
Ashley 🥲♥️ thank youuuuuuu
I personally do not let our children sleep in the bed with us because honestly, that’s the only time my husband and I have for ourselves. BUT I love the fact that both you and your husband are on the same page with regards to co sleeping, because so often the moms want the babies around at night and the fathers don’t. So kudos to you both for working together! Although I do not choose co sleeping for my family, we often have the kids come into our beds to snuggle when we sleep in on weekends. I also let my 4 year old sleep in the bed with her grandparents at times and she loves it. Thank you guys for your transparency! Blessings!
Former co-sleeper momma here. My daughter now in 4th grade has decided to sleep in her own bed. But it was honestly the Best experience I have had as a mom as well as for my husband. That's a time we can always look back on with so much love and beautiful memories that will last me a life time. Our daughter still on occasion will come in our bed or ask that I stay in here cause she wants to cuddle and I happily do so🙂 Also, I absolutely love your Chanel. It's has been a breath of fresh air. So much of social media is about showing off a perfect life and about money, the look what I have. But your family is so down to earth and you can feel the realness. Thank you💜 God Bless
🥲♥️ ohhhh how I love reading stories like this! It’s such a precious time! Thank you for sharing this. And for the positive words. Means a lot to me ♥️🙏🏼
I honestly love how genuine, transparent and pure this channel is. I love your family dynamic & how comfortable you are to share your lifestyle with us ❤️ the fact that you’re non-traditional in some things, makes it that more special to watch. I’ve been riding with you guys since episode 1! Lol
Nicole thank you for those words and for the love and support ♥️♥️♥️
@@claudeandco. it’s easy to love you guys!!! Thank you for blessing us with your family videos! Many blessings to you all!
Finally found parents that I can relate to. My daughter and I have been co-sleeping for 9 years and it’s been great.
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I co-sleep with my son. He’s 11 yrs old. Especially that i work shifts it really helps me to express my love to him still while some nights he’s left alone when i need to work nights.
I love the relationship you have with your family!!! It's so nuturing and like living in heaven while on earth. How I wish and yearn for this with my future kids and family!!
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The best part of this video: hearing Claude sing to Beau 🥺💕 Adrienne always talks about Claude’s beautiful voice ✨ so glad we got to hear it !!
Former (& occasional) co-sleeper here 🙋🏾♀️ Also an aspiring anthropologist who LOVES that you brought up the instinctive & global perspective: co-sleeping is part of human nature that has been re-framed in recent times (as Gerd stated). It is animal instinct to be close to your offspring, esp after nightfall (unfortunately some of us have forgotten that we’re still animals). With all this said, I understand folks who opt not to, without judgement (& I wish this were reciprocated towards co-sleepers). BIG UPS to co-sleeping and healthy parent/child relationships, rooted in love & intention ❤️💫
I grew up co-sleeping with my mom. I'm the only child, and like Gerd said I definitely grew up with an extremely Secure Attachment style. I'm now 25 woman and we have an unbreakable bond that people constantly ask us how we fostered it and a great bulk of it came from co-sleeping until I went to college. 🤣 So tell Beau she’s not alone & I’m right there with her! ❤️ I absolutely love the channel & the transparency. Glad y’all brought back something that’s been lacking on RUclips for a while now. Never change! God bless.
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I myself grew up co-sleeping with my mom and people would always comment about how close my mom and I are to this day. Even as a 24 year old married woman there's this bond. Much love 🇹🇹
The reason I slept with my parents was being I was extremely fearful like you Claude. I always thought I was alone. Thank you so much for this.
I would also sweat like you and be super scared.
I haven’t watched RUclips in a while but I make an exception for Claude and Co! I love love love everything you post! May God protect your family and increase your love. I love bed sharing! Both our daughters slept with me until 10 months old! If we had a larger bed I would continue. My 1 year old sleeps in our room in her crib. I love their cuddles and breathing 🥺🥰
🥲 wow, thank you! ♥️🙏🏼 (and enjoy your blessed babies ♥️)
Claudatte's voice 🥺. It's so soothing and so warm. And then she starts singing and my heart skips a beat❤️😍
Claudette*🤭
Co sleeping is one of the most natural things that would happen in nature without any outside influence of society
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When my toddler was an infant I started light sleep training (no crying). Sleeping by herself came naturally to my daughter but from one night to the other, she hysterically cried when putting asleep. At the time she had been sleeping alone for months. Now we cosleep and I love it! I feel like it's takes bonding to a deeper level.
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Interesting! I felt all sorts of emotions watching this. My daughter is 17 now and leaving to college in just 4 months so I know the co-sleeping days are long gone, lol. I did get a little emotional when I saw how Beau fell asleep so peacefully while you sang to her and towards the end when she said all her fears went away when she slept with you guys. I don't know why I never saw it that way. My daughter slept in our room when she was first born until she outgrew her basinet at 3 months (She was a big baby) and I started to put her in her own room and crib. I remember her crying but I would not allow her in the bed. I would go into her room and lay on the floor until she fell asleep and then creep out to my room. She probably felt more at peace having me close and in my head I always thought I would be doing more harm to her by allowing her in the bed. I thought the night time was my break time and just my time with my husband. Even when I got divorced and it was just me and her, she always had her own room and never slept with me. Watching this made me reminisce on so many nights that I could have just laid with her. It probably would of been helpful to both of us. I don't think you sharing on the intimacy part was TMI, because I honestly think that was on the minds of most married folks. When do you find time for you and Gerd to be alone but it seems like you guys make it work.
I honestly have always been so against kids sleeping with parents, but I think if my daughter was little again and I saw this, I would probably want to co-sleep and just see how we feel or what comes from it. Especially now that she's leaving me, makes me want to turn back the hands of time and snuggle with her more.
Great episode! Hope you guys enjoy the rest of your time off :)
See ya next Wednesday!
and btw...you really need to record some music!
Ok this was so beautifully written that it made me tear up 🥲 … wow… thank you for sharing this. Means a lot to me ♥️🙏🏼♥️
You have a beautiful voice Claudette. That moment between you and Beau was so touching. And what you mentioned about your girls being able to come to you when they're having a problem and just cuddling them and you not asking any questions and them not feeling that they have to explain; I'm able to do that with my mom and it really is the best.
Just some video ideas that I would be interested in seeing: Gerd's experience as a black student at Yale, both your experiences in girl/boy groups, the relationship between you and your mom growing up, both your experiences when you guys went on a break before getting married.
Coming from someone who does not co-sleep, what ever you do.... It's a beautiful thing.
You have such a beautiful family! ❤️💖🏠👪💖
Amen
I love this! I slept with my parents until I was like 10 or 11 (I'm 27 now) and I only stopped cause my mom made me start cleaning their room as well as mine. And I thought I can't be cleaning two rooms if I only sleep in one so I moved back to my room. It made me feel safe to sleep next to them cause I too was afraid of the dark. And if my parents weren't home, I would sleep with my brother or grandmother. I loved it and I will totally let my children sleep with me for as long as they want.
This is amazing. Lol. ❤️
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We didn’t grow up co-sleeping, but my parents never turned us away when we’d crawl into bed with them. Now, 41 years later, I live in another state from my parents and when they come to visit my mom and I will sleep in my bed and my dad will sleep in the sofa bed. But sometimes, he’ll just come and snuggle with us in my queen sized bed. So three grown adults co-sleeping. It’s never to late to co-sleep.
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My husband and I coslept for years and years with our two children. My kids felt safe, welcome, comforted, and loved. I don't regret it one bit and they both feel it was a good experience now that they are grown, ages 21 and 19. We are a very close family that values communication and understanding and cosleeping just came naturally to us.
Omg the way your husband looks at you Claude it's mesmerizing. That's true love he listens to you. You are very blessed to have a husband like that. May God bless you all. 🙏
Claude your voice is so beautifully angelic!! We definitely need more of you singing. Such a pretty tone!
We are a family that don't co-sleep but, I have so many friends that do. It's such a beautiful thing hear your girls talk about it! Such a beautiful and amazing family.
Thank you so much Ashley ♥️🙏🏼
So glad you did this video. I am a new mom to and I really struggled doing things the "normal" way with sleep routine. Once I heard about co-sleeping, I tuned everyone out and did it. It was a game changer and we both sleep better, she feeds better, and it's such a sweet bonding experience for us. I do get side eye or comments about how hard it'll be to get my baby into her own space eventually but I don't care. This works for us. Thank you for sharing because I came to RUclips to see how other parents do it. This helps to normalize co-sleeping ❤️
Why am I crying at you singing Beau to sleep omg 🥲 the motherly warmth in your voice is just so soothing
Thank you so much ♥️🙏🏼♥️
Today’s episode really had me thinking. With my youngest we coslept with more out of necessity when he was born until around 3. Then it turned into comfort for not only him but me. Then I felt he needed to sleep in his bed so he wouldn’t be emotionally dependent and sleep like “a big boy”. As a toddler he’s supposed to emotionally dependent on me!!! So now it’s more of a rollercoaster, some days he’ll sleep in his bed, some he sneaks in and I pretend I don’t notice, some I’m asking if he wants to sleep with me, others I need my space because I can’t breathe! lol And that’s ok!! I will start listening to his needs and not care about what he “should do” because “that’s how I was raised”. Thank you for sharing!! This helped me open the conversation with myself. Love your familia xoxo
Awww 🥰 love this. Very nice job. We are kinda co-sleeping too. We snuggle with our little one than we head back to our bedroom. Is really nice because this time will never come back.
I recall coming home from university after a tough semester, I was probably 19 years old. The first night home I slept with my mom and snuggled with her. Everything just felt better.
This video warms my heart!
I see secure attachment style and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs being met on so many levels already for your girls.
Also the soundtrack to Claude & Co immediately makes me relax, I love it so much.
Awww! Claude singing to Beau at night is super sweet and so precious! 🥺💜 What an amazing support system Jet and Beau have! Many blessings to your family.
BEAU IS SOO FUNNY and she knows it! I love how she laughs at her advice
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I’m an adult (without kids), but there are childhood memories that stuck with me which have made me very open to co-sleeping when I have kids.
My childhood wasn’t the greatest. There was trauma from various things (including being bullied till about 13). I had nightmares very often and wake up terrified or crying. If my sister wasn’t home (she was 19 when I was born so she was often at uni), I would sneak into my parents room and climb into bed with them. I always got kicked out or my dad would tell me off and send me to my room and I won’t be able to fall back asleep because I’m scared. My parents did not want to listen to why I needed to cosleep (also, I never led about while asleep so it’s not like I would hit them in the face or whatever while I slept).
At 15, my best friend died and it became extreme difficult to sleep in my room especially as she had stayed there with me not too long before she died. Her death was so traumatic for me (still dealing with PTSD from it) and for a while back then, I didn’t speak, barely ate (only really ate when forced to and didn’t eat much) and spent my days either staring at nothing, crying, or sleeping (some times monitored by a nurse). At night, I would always try going to bed in my room, but I would always end up going to my parents bedroom. They would tell me to go back to my room. At some point, I wouldn’t even try to get in bed with them. I would just lay on the floor in their room and stay there till morning (sometimes asleep, other times wide awake staring at nothing). When I got told off for that, I would still sneak in, but I would lay on the floor in my mum’s walk-in closet. I just felt a bit safer and less alone being near the only other people in the house.
I don’t want my children to ever feel the way I did whenever I was kicked out or told off for attempting to co-sleep.
Because of what I went through, even if my kids have their own bedrooms, they will know that my bed is always open to them if they ever need to snuggle, cuddle, or just have some company to be able to fall asleep at night.
May GOD bless you w children that will love cuddling/cosleeping w you
Sorry you went through this. While I want my room, my bed, my entire home to be a safe heaven for my children. I prefer that they have their own space. My husband and I our own place. If they ever feel any type of way yes they can surely come.
It's so interesting because growing up my siblings and I always slept in our parent's room. I believe a lot of immigrant families practice this, even though we all had our separate rooms, it was normal for my cousins, family friends and I to sleep with our parents.
Thank you for this insightful episode + sharing your experience!♥
Yes, I believe so too. And it’s so beautiful (I think) … it creates such a closeness ♥️♥️♥️♥️ thanks for sharing!
Involuntary co-sleeper here 👋🏼 with my 8-month old. Lol 😆 Loved this episode because it made me feel less bad about not being able to go through with her sleep training. Will show my husband 😄
I love my baby’s cuddles! We got a king bed just so she would fit 🥰 she is now 12 and likes her own bed but from time to time she comes in with us and we love it!
This is beautiful. I think the part that really resonated with me was the fact that Gerd was able to spend the night with the girls after working all day and that we should wonder why we’re in such a rush to separate ourselves from our children when there will come a time when they won’t need us as much. Thank you for sharing with us. You definitely gave me much to consider. 🤗🤗🤗
Hiii Claude, omg this brought so many tears to my eyes. Happy tears🥲I could write all day about how beautiful you described co-sleeping in this video and so classy. ❤️You are so beautiful inside and out. When I had my children my husband was against them sleeping in bed because his parents raised him to think that way. So I listened to him and my children slept in their beds. I wish I could have been persistent about it because I can see how cuddling with your kids is a special time for the family and has such a huge impact on your relationship with them. There is a sense of security and bond that brings you that much closer. I love how you and Gerd work together and he is so supportive. ❤️ I will definitely recommend this to my children when they have their own. ❤️Thank you for sharing this with us. ❤️🙏🏽
Claude & Co, your channel has been orchestrated to reach people me being one of them. Since the first episode I could feel Gods grace and humility upon you and your family. Everything you share I have been dealing with or anticipate too in the coming future. As a new mom of a 3 month old who just had open heart surgery last week I’ve contemplated co- sleeping, dealt with the struggle of nursing and been begun thinking of our home schools plans. Your channel brought me comfort in the hospital and just a breath of fresh air - you guys are the real deal and are blessed. I’ve learned so much, and hope you continue to bring forth such inspiration to people like me.
My 9yo does sneak into our room every night - so I guess I am a non-co-sleeper co-sleeper as well. 😜 and I love it. I agree that for some reason we rush our kids to grow up and be independent- but I always think, soon my kids won’t want to spend as much time with me. I was born and raised outside the US and I slept with my parents until I was 12.
I enjoy your content
Thank you for your videos. I was watching your live and you kept saying "Lana" and I felt like you were saying my name because I'm a Lana too...lol I'm excited to see upcoming videos.
This was a beautiful episode. This was actually my first time hearing about co-sleeping. Thanks for sharing. I enjoyed hearing the girls perspectives and I also enjoyed hearing Claude sing to Beau 🥺😫 such a beautiful family. ❤️
The way Claude described feeling rejected because she couldn't sleep in her parents' bed reminded me EXACTLY of how I felt as a child. I would feel like my mom didn't love me at night, and I was so terrified of being in my room alone at night. I would sleep outside my mom's closed door some nights. 😭 I LOVE how you shared about your intimacy and your relationship. The definition of this channel is love and mindfulness. You inspire me to be an intentional parent once I have a baby with my husband. Please continue with this channel 🙏🏻 I watch this channel during my lunch break, too. (I watched your live 🥰) it truly is some midday peace to break up the pace of my work environment. So much love to you all. 💗
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I find it so weird that you guys are getting such string reactions about this. This happening across the world. Oh the western world! Never cease to amaze!
I grew up co sleeping with my parents and siblings and I always felt very safe and definitely looked forward to going to bed fear free. I wouldn’t say it negatively affected me in any way.
Co-sleeping is natural for so many couples with toddlers & younger ones!
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Tears streaming, down my face at that sweet moment of Claude singing to baby B & her falling asleep. I can’t stop crying. What a beautiful way to be loved with so much gentleness & intention. God bless your beautiful family xx 💕✨
I’ve co slept with all of my 3 babies and my husband and I don’t regret it. One day they’ll grow up and sleep in their own bed. My kids always tell me they feel the safest when they’re in mommy’s and daddy’s bed 💕
My oldest is 7 now and has his own bedroom which he sleeps in but from time to time still sleeps in the bed with us. Intimacy does suffer when the kids sleep in the bed though so we put them in their own bed when we need to 😆
Ha!!! Yesssssss I love this! ♥️ thank you so much for sharing ♥️♥️♥️
This is a beautiful thing when it works for you and your Family. I did it for the first 6 months of our sons life because I was nursing. Which was my primary reason. If I could go back I certainly would have done it longer. With being said, when our 25 year comes to visit he still comes to our bedroom and lounges with us from time to time. There is something to be said about kids being loved and understanding a parents unconditional love. We often won’t to severe these bonding relationships so quickly when children are so young. I partly blame the American in my case Black culture. I adore your bond with your children. They’re only young a short time. Love them!!!! Thanks for sharing.❤️
My mom, sister, and I use to co-sleep when we were young because I was terrified of ghost and my sister was scared of the dark. My dad was around but not emotionally so we never slept with him even if we tried. I loved sleeping with mom and my sister and it was a great comfort but as I got older we all wanted and needed our own space and eventually stopped co-sleeping but I do have fond memories of it.
I never knew people thought co-sleeping was weird because a lot of the people in our neighborhood were poor in a middle class area and would sleep in the same bed as family members because there weren’t many rooms to fit a family of 4+. It was a privilege to have a bedroom for everyone
My son is 11 and he still sleeps with us. He has his own room and it's all set up just how he wants it but he loves to sleep in his mamas bed. One day he will decide he wants his own bed and that's absolutely fine.
The funny thing is that he doesn't want to be cuddled, he just wants to be in the same bed to be near me and his dad.
I love this. I love that there is the option for them to move into their rooms. They maintain their sense of autonomy but also have that comfort with their parents.
Hi Claud. My favorite nurse. Listen I slept with my mom for 16 years. My dad was a merchant sea man. I enjoyed sharing a bed with my mom. Those memories are so important to me now that she’s gone.
I co-slept with my parents until I was 10-11. I was an only child for 13 years until my parents had my little sister. At first we slept together because of our living arrangements but by age 6, we had moved into a house and I had my own room. However by then, I was already so used to sleeping with my parents, it took me a long while to feel safe sleeping on my own. By the time I was able to sleep on my own, my parents had my sister who had disabilities and she also slept with my parents for many years. But I believe she was able to sleep on her own much earlier than me haha! And we are also very affectionate cuddly people. Now I’m 25 and looking back it definitely helped with my inner sense of security and the bond I share with my parents. In fact I slept longer with my parents and they are emotionally more closer to me than my little sister. But one interesting thing is just because you co-sleep as a child doesn’t automatically mean it’s easier to sleep next to others when you’re older because as an adult it’s extremely difficult for me to get any sleep when other people are beside me. So I don’t know what will happen once I have a spouse and kids haha!
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Life is interesting, isn’t it? And everyone’s path is unique and beautiful in its own way.
How sweet!!! You guys gave us another thing to think about. No man and no kids, but this is something I will think about for the future. Thank you again on your perspective. And Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this info, highly valuable!
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This just unlocked memories sleeping and cuddling with my dad at 8-9 years old before he passed away and I have never felt safer
Beau is going to make sure we all know she's ready for college LOL I love it. It seems like every episode she's in, it comes up. I'd love to hear about the stories she's been told about college that makes her so excited about it. It's definitely a great time.
I love love love (Adrienne fan here. Lol) watching these videos every week. Claude & Gerd expose me to a different (non normal/traditional) way to do things & live life on your own terms. Not what SOCIETY states you should do.😊❤
Love, Love, Love this. I co-slept with my parents and I did it with my kids, until they were 11/12. My kids (twins) are 18 now and those are moments memories they still talk about. ❤️❤️❤️
you both have a godly and beautiful outlook on life, thank you for letting us be a part of it
Honestly I NEEDED this! I cosleep with Arian till this very day. It truly brings a safe place at night to know “mommy is right by my side.” I wouldn’t change it AT ALL! I feel so lucky to still have him be with me and truly want to be right there. ♥️
This channel has given many of us examples of figuring out what works best for you in the season that you're in, learning as you go & adjusting as you see fit. I have loved watching how you create boundaries to protect & nurture what you see value in. Thankful for your honesty !
So grateful that you guys shared your co-sleeping story. I'm a new mom and I've been co-sleeping with my baby. It's been over a year and I've been struggling to let go. Watching this video makes me feel at ease. Coze I know now that I not the only one and that it's natural ❤
Sending love from South Africa 🇿🇦
I am a co-sleeping, breastfeeding, culture based educating (homeschooling), Latina mom of 4 Latino/Polynesian babies. This is the first channel I have ever seen myself and/or my views reflected in, in all these aspects, so I'm really enjoying these videos. Its a peek into another families life that values raising children feeling loved. Its great to normalize all these topics because this western culture (steeped in whiteness) that many of us find ourselves in, is not necessarily "better" or something we should strive to assimilate to. In this culture children get a bottle, not the warmth of their mothers breast, they get a lonely cold room down the hall, not the secure grip of a parents embrace at night, and are shove younger and younger each year towards strangers and oftentimes difficult environments (aka schools). Before there were "terms" for all this, my parents did all of the above. To them it was just being a parent. I realize how blessed I was to have such a thing. I also know that even if its later in life, my children will also look back and know they were deeply loved.
Between this video and the homeschooling one, I have become OBSESSED with this channel. Thank you for being so open and sharing. I don’t know if I could have even imagined structuring my family this way but I find this so beautiful. Thank you, thank you, thank you! ❤️
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Claude there is something soothing about watching your videos. I love the honesty and I really admire that you and Gerd did most things differently. You guys are really good parents and awesome humans! I hope your channel continues to grow, god bless you and your family.
The bond between you and your Co is so inspirational. Beautiful episode ♥
Thank you for sharing this, it opened my eyes to this idea for when I start my family. As a child there was a period of time I would cry myself to sleep because I was scared of dying, or had bad thoughts.. and I would feel sad like you described because I didn't have the opportunity to sleep with my mom or my sister would reject me. So I appreciate you making me realize co-sleeping is ok.
You singing to Beau and her falling asleep while she's in your arms is so precious ❤
This was so well done. I think whether you co-sleep or not, so much can be gained from this episode. You guys shared honestly and lovingly. You shared in a way that respected other perspectives, without compromising on your own way. Loved it.
I had chronic nightmares as a child which would cause me to co-sleep often. My mom didn’t have a problem with it. My father on the other hand was very mean about it, and did not want me in the room. I’m an adult now, and I always say if a man is against co-sleeping that’s a red flag for me. I want my future children to have a chance at a secure attachment style and co-sleeping can help foster that.
Hi guys. I grew up sleeping with my parents and loved it. Of coarse I grew out of it, but my parents were fine with it. Also with my kids, when they were younger, they would sleep with us. Sometimes there would be 5 of us in the same bed! Especially when there was lightningI,lol. I think it's fine. And not only that but it makes you closer as children and parents. I've always snuggled with my kids when they were young. We would talk, sing songs as well as me and my parents. Some of my favorite memories were laying in bed with my parents and having my mom or dad sing me songs. Loved it!! I think its ok and your kids will grow up to feel that love and cherish those memories.
Thank you, thank you, thank YOU!..for being authentic and real! Y’all are needed in this space! I love both you and Gerds perspective! Please continue to speak on real topics! Could y’all speak on how y’all parent (discipline, confidence, individuality, etc) and how you and Gerd handle communication and resolving conflict in marriage?
I love y’all’s love for each other! It’s seems like you both adore and respect each other!!💕
Claude is so effortlessly beautiful. Outside for sure… but even inside. 🥺
Thank you for this. I co-slept with my kids. My daughter did it only once in a while but my son stayed in our bed longer. It was on and off. It didn’t happen from Day 1. I believe he did this until he was 11-12 years old. We tried everything to get him out without being forceful. I would love seeing him next to me bc I knew that it wouldn’t be forever. He always slept peacefully. He on his own made the decision to sleep in his own room finally. He is independent and confident. I worried but it didn’t affect us much. Intimacy? You find a way. And as long as both husband and wife are on the same page, I feel it’s not a problem. No judgement. Every parent is different. But we did get criticism. It’s okay :)
I’m 21 from Toronto. I love your videos, they inspire me so much to think about what kind of mom I want to be to my future kids. You and Gerd inspire me to create such intentional moments with my future babies with my family and it makes me so happy to know I have this knowledge ♥️
Hi Claude and co!
I usually don't really comment too much on vids and am really intentional
on what I watch on YT and all the socials, and I'm only commenting because I know (God is your witness) you'll read this:
So THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK ALL OF YOU for this channel!
Make longer episodes, we love it.
So fun to see the exact content we long for!
Lots of love from Belgium!
Enjoy your vacay!
Maggy
Thank you for your comment, support and encouragement! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@gerdalexander897 OMG thank you for responding! God bless you! You made my whole day ❤️❤️❤️
Co sleeping sound soo weird at first thought.. but as I listen to your story I'm like... Pshhh u guys make co sleeping sound dramatic... This is simply sharing a mattress with relatives. We do this all the time on special occasions either when friends and family comes over or when the place small and u make do with what u have. It does bring the family closer when u can spend time together whether it's sharing a meal together daily or spending quality time at night! Much respect to you guys for how u do your life ❤️ 🇹🇹
thank you for saying that there’s no perfect couple and always putting in work
Don’t let anyone tell you different
I love this! My mother breastfed me until I was 4 and we (my parents, myself + 2 younger brothers) co-slept until I was in my teens. I can give a 100 reason on how it helped me emotionally and intellectually, but let's just say it worked for my family. If I ever have children of my own I'll do it the same way 🤍
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I wrote the first part before seeing the video. But I recognize the points made in the video. I'm 27 now, we don't co-sleep anymore but I still live with my parents and that's perfectly fine with all of us. I do travel a lot and when I'm on the other side of the globe I never really get homesick. However there's a security about coming home. I think co-sleeping made me emotionally secure and able to stand on my own. Hence why I'm capable of spending large amounts of time away. But it also made me treasure the time I spend with my family. That's also why I'm still living with my parents by choice.
(still gave 100 reasons lol)
I like yall.
All my children have slept with me and there dad, or just me when we separated when ever they wanted to when they were small, they " grew out if it" My second son never would sleep. So he would snuggle then go to his room, so I relate, not all kids want or need it. I loved sleeping with my Mom when I was younger and she would rub my forehead just like you rubbed Bo's and i would fall asleep. She worked two jobs so that was a way to spend time with her. It was often the only time I got, a few minutes to catch up, cuddle and sleep. Now my Grandson is 5 and he sleeps with Glammy sleep with everytime he visits. We listen to bible stories, talk about the goodness of God and cuddle. It's a precious time.
So precious
I love your videos, you can tell how much these girls are loved and raised with so much consideration and care. They ae so confident and secure! Beautiful Family❤❤
I love this. Growing up I was like you Claude where I got anxious a lot & especially when there was a thunderstorm I climbed in the bed with my parents & thankfully they let me sleep with them when I was having a bad night ! This is beautiful & special ! ♥️
My son has always been in a bassinet and then crib(Still exclusively breastfed for a year) and I never desired cosleeping. I was terrified of the “risks” and knew I would not be able to sleep because of it . I’m a wild/deep sleeper for context. But this video made me open to the idea of allowing him to sleep with us when he’s old enough to ask . I never want him to feel rejected. Once again , thank you for sharing this. My kind of content !
I wondered the same. I would be terrified of sleeping in the same bed with my newborn
Claude & co….each new episode I think is my favorite then you guys show another side of ur gorgeous life and my heart melts all over again. Had never technically heard of co-sleeping(although Im from Uganda and my parents did this for us the first years of our lives) but honestly it was so healing to watch the intentionality, warmth and safety you create as a family radiate thru this episode. Im so glad you decided to share your life with us. You’re truly opening so many minds and hearts!endless blessings upon you all🥰🥰
Thank you for this episode ❤️ I love co-sleeping and always knew it wasn’t the norm because people would always say how difficult it would be to get the kids out of our bed but I don’t want my kids out of the bed. I love the open door concept because it applies to so much more than just sleeping. It’s a open door for conversation, emotional trust, and comfort etc… cuddling with your kids is also an intimate thing and a bonding experience. It is where they feel safe, it would be too hard for me to deny them that, and I need them just as much as they need me ❤️
My weekly dose of happiness!! I have to say I immediately judged this title and topic but you and Gerd made some great points. It made me realize that I co-slept with my mom and sister until I was 12 or 13, I called it not being able to afford bigger housing but I like co-sleeping better 😂. Thank you as always for yalls candor! I can’t wait for next week!! Much love from Texas!
I’m European and it’s just a natural thing for what co-sleeping is
Me and my siblings grew up co-sleeping with our parents
Now my husband and I do co-sleeping with our little one ❤️
We did have to get a bigger bed just so that the 3 us can fit comfortably in the same bed
Love it❤️
That’s beautiful ♥️ enjoy every second