I went through this. My husband hated educated people and always tried to put me down. He stated things like, "you and all your friends have corn Cobbs up your ass". He minimized my accomplishments and was not happy for me. When I published my book he said, "I am not going to help pay for the publishing on your little project because I want you to be proud of doing it on your own!" How stupid. I wrote the book on my own! All my endeavors were described as "little". When I lost 35 pounds he complimented another woman who was on the same diet, but not me. It was always some covert jealousy and competition and a lack of support.
My ex would always bring up my positive attributes in a way that ended up sounding negative. At some point I told him I thought he has npd and he took it surprisingly well. I was ready for the final discard to be honest. He started repeating good things using a negative tone more often. Things like “Hey, you’re doing great, you’re a good mom, you’re taking care of YOUR house and YOUR kids and YOUR cars without any help. Hey, good job, you’re taking care of YOUR business”…I was like yea, that’s what I’m supposed to do. I was taking care of him too and that upset him. Finally I asked why he was jealous of me and that we were supposed to be a team. Through the rest of our relationship he never failed to remind me that he wasn’t jealous. I knew better. The peace after the discard has been wonderful.
He never paid me compliments. I always feel this was so odd especially as he went out of his way to help me with my business. He was a complex man with many demons.
@@trtamrtatv3368 I didn't marry him. When we met my marriage (to a very good man) was coming to an end. My husband and I were in a bad place and this man was someone who had just started to work for me. He pursued me for years and years - but intuitively I never trusted him because he never opened up to me or let me into his life. He did help me build my business in that time. However, all the time he was after me he never paid me compliments. Later on I found out he was living a triple life. He had two baby mamas and God knows how many kids. He told me didn't have any kids. He lived a lie - and I knew I couldn't trust him. I kept him at arms length although he told me endlessly that he loved me and did go out of his way to help me. That's why I say he was a complex man with many demons. It all sounds a mess looking back now. It was odd. He seemed to want me on one level, helped me so much but also lived a triple life. He still hangs around now but we are NC for more than 15 months. There is nothing to say. I have my peace of mind and don't want anything to do with him. If someone can lie the way he did - that's dangerous and vile behaviour. He lived a lie - ducking and diving, lying to everyone. I find it disgusting.
@@leonrwalkerjr thanks. At the start I had moments of doubt - but I can now see he was a messed up person. I ended up in therapy for quite a long time after this - but the unanimous view of friends and the therapist was he is a mess with emotional problems, can't commit and it was the right thing to get rid of him. I just hope one day he regrets his actions because I'm pretty sure he would have convinced himself it was all my fault.
I opened my second business and his mask fell off never in a million years I was married to this man. He made sure I lost my second business. I’m crying and his smiled as he walked away. His demonic
My Narcissist husband tried telling me I was selfish , a terrible mom and destroying our family for grieving the unexpected loss of my 46yr old FATHER..😔🤯 He was my best friend and he brought happiness and joy to so many people including all he's given to my husband and myself when he had nothing to give. My dad showed me REAL love and I knew better than to marry the man I did. And I heavily regret it and am fighting to forgive him and save my soul through the Lord Jesus Christ who will heal all.
My ex called me "Florence" after Florence Nightingale or use it as a verb because of my desire to serve and be a blessing to others and would try and make me stop doing that.
My X was jealous of his own shadow. His heart was in his billfold. 100% important was HIS image, to heck with the truth. Yes, he kept me from my friends and family in "sneaky snake" subtle ways I realized much later, even jealous of my going to the gym so he would schedule things to conflict with that. This was years ago when Narcissist just meant fixated with his own image in the mirror. He blew a hole in my life. Now, with all the information out, heed the warnings RUN. Until these types get therapy, they are TOXIC to partners (they aren't even totally sure why at times). Their inner child is madder than hell. And, the inner child has its hands on the steering wheel of their life.
I m a soul of art and a singer songwriter in my way and when a male musician friend to him heard me sing he asked my then partner why he had not told him about that about his talented woman? Stupid answer from him about have forgot that and so on…. Strange behaviour indeed. 😑 Should not a man be proud of me his woman and shows the world that I was his talented wife?
Yes Leon very sad because he is a musician in his own way as well and we did make a song together and many liked it a lot who heard my strong voice in it together with his arrangement in instruments. It was my music I had made from the start in a more soft song but we changed it to a more cool music in effects together. But later on he erased it and said it was not good and that he wanted to make a new better version of that but that NEVER happened. So that good song is now erased. I said to him many times that we could continue to make great music together and he said that was something we could do but right then he was busy with other things in life and so on. Then he started project with others instead and I was not welcome in their team but what they did was just met and had partys and drank a lot so that with making music was not their most important thing together. This happened a lot and then he stopped to be with them he said because nothing happened in music and then he started a new work some miles from home and just visited me in the weekend until he got paid for the gas then he came home everyday after work. But then he started to be more and more away from home after work as well and sometimes he did not come home at all and no message about where he was and so on. So I was at home and had no idea where he was during the night and when I tried to call his phone’s answering machine went on. Then he could message me in next day and write that he was at work and everything was ok. Very strange indeed. Then sometimes now and then after I told him to give me some sort of info where he went after work he sent me a message now and then so this was very confusing as well. 😑🙄😬😳🤔😑
Hi Leon, sorry if you’ve answered this before but what happens when the narcissists knows that you are done for good and you’re not coming back…also what happens when the narcissists knows that you know who they are? I’ve tried to look this up but the only people that are answering these questions are the empaths and i would rather hear from the narcissist himself! Thank you for these videos.
I didn't realize how abused and controlled I was till I left. That's what gets me upset. If I wasn't so mentally hurt I would have made better decisions. I would have NEVER been with him or had kids. It's damaging. I stayed with him for 14 years. I refuse to go back. It's the detox that I am going through it turns my stomach. You help me SO much. ❤
I’m losing my business and facing homelessness due to narc abuse and demonic jealousy. I had no idea my best friend was so insanely jealous of me- he literally tried to take my life over jealousy, raped me, destroyed my finances, you name it. I was in complete shock for months. I hope God delivers to him exactly what he deserves. I will never forgive him- ever.
What are your thoughts on the narcissist that SAYS he wants you to work, even criticizes you if you don’t, but sabotages you with sleep deprivation (starting an argument the night before as you’re going to sleep) and intentionally upsetting you until you can’t function? Example: You’re working and he sends dozens and dozens of texts (to the phone you’re using for work) of the usual things that he knows is going to distract you and make you so upset that you’ll make mistakes, he knows is going to make you so upset that you’ll leave work, OR gets you so upset that you don’t even go. Then when mad at you lies in social media saying you “refuse to work”.
They never want you to have friends
i would get compliments from my job..and the narc would be jealous and make it about him , i told him every song aint about you !!
GOT DAMM
I went through this. My husband hated educated people and always tried to put me down. He stated things like, "you and all your friends have corn Cobbs up your ass". He minimized my accomplishments and was not happy for me. When I published my book he said, "I am not going to help pay for the publishing on your little project because I want you to be proud of doing it on your own!" How stupid. I wrote the book on my own! All my endeavors were described as "little". When I lost 35 pounds he complimented another woman who was on the same diet, but not me. It was always some covert jealousy and competition and a lack of support.
My ex would always bring up my positive attributes in a way that ended up sounding negative. At some point I told him I thought he has npd and he took it surprisingly well. I was ready for the final discard to be honest. He started repeating good things using a negative tone more often. Things like “Hey, you’re doing great, you’re a good mom, you’re taking care of YOUR house and YOUR kids and YOUR cars without any help. Hey, good job, you’re taking care of YOUR business”…I was like yea, that’s what I’m supposed to do. I was taking care of him too and that upset him. Finally I asked why he was jealous of me and that we were supposed to be a team. Through the rest of our relationship he never failed to remind me that he wasn’t jealous. I knew better. The peace after the discard has been wonderful.
He never paid me compliments. I always feel this was so odd especially as he went out of his way to help me with my business. He was a complex man with many demons.
Just one, maybe little bit ´cold´ question: Why you marry him?
@@trtamrtatv3368 I didn't marry him. When we met my marriage (to a very good man) was coming to an end. My husband and I were in a bad place and this man was someone who had just started to work for me. He pursued me for years and years - but intuitively I never trusted him because he never opened up to me or let me into his life. He did help me build my business in that time. However, all the time he was after me he never paid me compliments. Later on I found out he was living a triple life. He had two baby mamas and God knows how many kids. He told me didn't have any kids. He lived a lie - and I knew I couldn't trust him. I kept him at arms length although he told me endlessly that he loved me and did go out of his way to help me. That's why I say he was a complex man with many demons. It all sounds a mess looking back now. It was odd. He seemed to want me on one level, helped me so much but also lived a triple life. He still hangs around now but we are NC for more than 15 months. There is nothing to say. I have my peace of mind and don't want anything to do with him. If someone can lie the way he did - that's dangerous and vile behaviour. He lived a lie - ducking and diving, lying to everyone. I find it disgusting.
Those demons!!!!
Wooooow!!!!!! Lots of bad things going on with him. You did right for sure!!!
@@leonrwalkerjr thanks. At the start I had moments of doubt - but I can now see he was a messed up person. I ended up in therapy for quite a long time after this - but the unanimous view of friends and the therapist was he is a mess with emotional problems, can't commit and it was the right thing to get rid of him. I just hope one day he regrets his actions because I'm pretty sure he would have convinced himself it was all my fault.
When I went to school years ago my ex said that I always thought I was better than him. Even though it wasn’t true🤷🏿♀️.
He always said that I’m confident and so he tried to break me
Mines did too, but I reminded mines how stupid he really is and can’t do shit on his.😮
I opened my second business and his mask fell off never in a million years I was married to this man. He made sure I lost my second business. I’m crying and his smiled as he walked away. His demonic
My Narcissist husband tried telling me I was selfish , a terrible mom and destroying our family for grieving the unexpected loss of my 46yr old FATHER..😔🤯 He was my best friend and he brought happiness and joy to so many people including all he's given to my husband and myself when he had nothing to give. My dad showed me REAL love and I knew better than to marry the man I did. And I heavily regret it and am fighting to forgive him and save my soul through the Lord Jesus Christ who will heal all.
My ex called me "Florence" after Florence Nightingale or use it as a verb because of my desire to serve and be a blessing to others and would try and make me stop doing that.
I was complimented, but I felt unsure of us eventhough we were close I still felt he wasn't being honest
My X was jealous of his own shadow. His heart was in his billfold. 100% important was HIS image, to heck with the truth.
Yes, he kept me from my friends and family in "sneaky snake" subtle ways I realized much later, even jealous of my going to the gym so he would schedule things to conflict with that.
This was years ago when Narcissist just meant fixated with his own image in the mirror.
He blew a hole in my life. Now, with all the information out, heed the warnings RUN. Until these types get therapy, they are TOXIC to partners (they aren't even totally sure why at times).
Their inner child is madder than hell. And, the inner child has its hands on the steering wheel of their life.
I m a soul of art and a singer songwriter in my way and when a male musician friend to him heard me sing he asked my then partner why he had not told him about that about his talented woman?
Stupid answer from him about have forgot that and so on….
Strange behaviour indeed. 😑
Should not a man be proud of me his woman and shows the world that I was his talented wife?
Wooooow!!! Jealous it seems right? That’s sad!!!
Yes Leon very sad because he is a musician in his own way as well and we did make a song together and many liked it a lot who heard my strong voice in it together with his arrangement in instruments.
It was my music I had made from the start in a more soft song but we changed it to a more cool music in effects together.
But later on he erased it and said it was not good and that he wanted to make a new better version of that but that NEVER happened.
So that good song is now erased.
I said to him many times that we could continue to make great music together and he said that was something we could do but right then he was busy with other things in life and so on.
Then he started project with others instead and I was not welcome in their team but what they did was just met and had partys and drank a lot so that with making music was not their most important thing together.
This happened a lot and then he stopped to be with them he said because nothing happened in music and then he started a new work some miles from home and just visited me in the weekend until he got paid for the gas then he came home everyday after work.
But then he started to be more and more away from home after work as well and sometimes he did not come home at all and no message about where he was and so on.
So I was at home and had no idea where he was during the night and when I tried to call his phone’s answering machine went on.
Then he could message me in next day and write that he was at work and everything was ok.
Very strange indeed.
Then sometimes now and then after I told him to give me some sort of info where he went after work he sent me a message now and then so this was very confusing as well.
😑🙄😬😳🤔😑
bruh.... iam goin thru this right now.... Thank you
You’re welcome. I really hope you are staying strong and loving who you are and what you have?🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you Leon. Great video..
Hi Leon, sorry if you’ve answered this before but what happens when the narcissists knows that you are done for good and you’re not coming back…also what happens when the narcissists knows that you know who they are? I’ve tried to look this up but the only people that are answering these questions are the empaths and i would rather hear from the narcissist himself! Thank you for these videos.
I didn't realize how abused and controlled I was till I left. That's what gets me upset. If I wasn't so mentally hurt I would have made better decisions. I would have NEVER been with him or had kids. It's damaging. I stayed with him for 14 years. I refuse to go back. It's the detox that I am going through it turns my stomach. You help me SO much. ❤
I’m losing my business and facing homelessness due to narc abuse and demonic jealousy. I had no idea my best friend was so insanely jealous of me- he literally tried to take my life over jealousy, raped me, destroyed my finances, you name it. I was in complete shock for months. I hope God delivers to him exactly what he deserves. I will never forgive him- ever.
Wow.. I can’t believe it really happened to me.
Thank You !
What are your thoughts on the narcissist that SAYS he wants you to work, even criticizes you if you don’t, but sabotages you with sleep deprivation (starting an argument the night before as you’re going to sleep) and intentionally upsetting you until you can’t function? Example: You’re working and he sends dozens and dozens of texts (to the phone you’re using for work) of the usual things that he knows is going to distract you and make you so upset that you’ll make mistakes, he knows is going to make you so upset that you’ll leave work, OR gets you so upset that you don’t even go. Then when mad at you lies in social media saying you “refuse to work”.
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