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If you chase butterflies, they’ll fly away; but if you be still and patient you will find that many butterflies will land upon your steadiness
That’s a dope way of putting it
I thought it was..
If you chase butterflies, they will fly away but if you invest your time in building a garden you will see many butterflies coming to your garden. Even if they don't, you will still have your beautiful garden.
@@RxN1189 maybe different counties have different versions of the same saying?
@@Kingholloween nah nah lol..
@@RxN1189 maybe that’s another one idk I’m sorry haha, I came up with my analogy :)
bro went on a date outside of his comfort zone AND FILMED IT. so proud of you, keep strong.
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This is literally the quote, “if you spend your time chasing butterflies, they'll fly away. if you spend your time making a beautiful garden the butterflies will come to you. and if they don't come, then you still have that beautiful garden.”
What a beautiful comment🥺
"I have so much love to give for someone, but that someone isn't there yet, and that's really frustrating." I felt that very deeply, and honestly made me tear up, because that is EXACTLY, nearly word for word, what I say and how I feel. It's hard. really hard. But I agree, you just have to let it come naturally, despite how hard it may be. I have to keep reminding myself of that.
This was an absolutely beautiful video with powerful messages. Thank you, so much for this. I really needed to hear that. 🧡
I just discovered this channel 15 minutes ago and I was really shocked at how amazing this video is. The choice of music, the storytelling, the date itself, the ideas, everything about this video is amazing i kow you hear this a lot but you're truly one of the most underrated youtubers in this platform i hope you get the recognition you desrve
Thanks Junior :) means a lot!
@@wholesomesimon Your videos really struck a chord with me, you may not see this, but all your videos are amazing and really help me tackle all the topics you talk about.
I wish I had a friend like you in my life
aaghh same, we could all use an authentic dude like simon in our lives
Same!!
Same
gosh what a lovely video. it's so human to want to love and be loved. the desire for a deep and meaningful romantic love that brings stability and connection, and makes you feel seen and understood can be so overwhelming and frustrating when you feel like youre ready but its nowhere to be found. brads advice hits so different,, pour that love you have into yourself and the people around you, and it will only help you to foster healthier and more grounded relationships in the future. 💛💛💛 healing takes time, be patient and kind to yourself. sending so much love
SARAH YOU WILD OUT HERE AHAA, I am so inspired by your growth friend :')
@@brad_radio BRADDDD you are so so sweet ohmygosh 😭💛 i am inspired by YOU
I’ve intentionally not allowed myself to feel something for someone in like the last 4 years and for the most time I’ve been content with it until recently
Same 👍
3 for me. And I’ve pushed some amazing people away because of it
Can you elaborate on "until recently"?
Same
i love you so much in a platonic way. the way you just go around trying to spread positivity, you really inspire me dude
I used to have a crushes like every year and always falling for someone and then it really struck to me how unhealthy that was for me
I spent like id say almost a whole year without feeling even a single bit attraction towards anyone I was so focused on my career at the time, but now after all that I'm in my most healthiest relationship ever. Trust me guys it gets better after realizing u don't really need anyone unless they are that right person for you
How's the relationship? Status change?
@@salt.astrologyStatus update:
We been together for 1 and half year now! there has been lows like in every healthy relationship there should be, but those lows make the highest of the highs. Planning on moving together by the end of this year.
I've spent the last year or so looking for romance after avoiding it for years. To me it's not even about finding the right person it's about feeling that attraction, comfort and love towards a person. As much as platonic love is so so so fulfilling, I still feel this little void of loneliness. Brad put it best "I have so much love to give for someone and that someone isn't there yet, and that's really frustrating". I think I'm beginning to realise all the ways I've been forcing myself into loving someone just to satiate that frustration. From settling for people who make me feel just enough to think about our potential to forcing myself into liking someone just because they meet my standards, as much as those experiences took a lot out of me emotionally and mentally it helped me realise that I need more time and that there's nothing wrong with that.
Thank you for this video, it was cathartic and comforting to watch.I hope we all find love that fills our hearts and makes life more beautiful.
i’ve felt this way before, you just have to let it happen, your friends are right, let yourself heal, let yourself be upset for a bit, another relationship will come to you, it’s all apart of life; i thought i would never find anyone n i didn’t really feel good without being drunk or high. we have our whole lives to experience romance don’t let one relationship ruin it and yourself
You are right, those things are part of the process; waiting, feeling shame, confusion, being in denial, etc etc. you are in the process and it reminds me of what I tell people, how being confused, being impatient, frustrated are parts of the process; of finding out. there is someone thinking and waiting for you. Even if they don’t know you yet but think of the person that’s like you, that still counts!! we will continue to wait with you so please don’t give up even if it’s tempting to. endure being frustrated when being patient because I wouldn’t want you to sacrifice what you really want. Take care, Simon!!
Haven't been in a relationship or allowed myself to fall for anybody for 10 years, so I basically have no dating experience. Part of me regrets distancing myself due to past trauma, but during that time I also allowed myself to heal a lot of scars I had from past experiences and I became a better person for it. Self-love is so important, and now I'm in a much healthier mindset than I was years ago. I'm happier, more successful, and comfortable. Being alone can be really difficult and lonely sometimes - especially when friends around you date, get married, and have kids - but it's also really freeing and has it's benefits. In the end I think this experience will really benefit me and help me to become a better partner for whomever happens to walk into my life.
I’m so happy for you simon. It’s not easy trying to find courage to love again. Im so glad you did this and came to this conclusion. It’s better to love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely. You are a whole person who deserves love and care even when you’re single. I hope you can do a lot of self care and adventures to make more memories alone. I think your person, when they come along will love your adventure stories!!
Wow, Brad seems so loving, kind, and wise! I hope everyone has / finds a Brad in their life!
Brad really summed up love in the greatest way 👏🏻
I really admire the courage for this content, normally people will not share about their personal lives and share learnings on them.
My last relationship was 3 years ago, and it was a tough break up. For the last years I started to focus more in myself and I am really proud of the results, but obviously there are still times in which loneliness hits (and hits hard). Similar to you, I was pretty scared of not being able to find someone who fulfills my “romantic fairytale” expectations and I was worried about it asking to myself “would I ever feel the butterflies in my stomach again?”
I really enjoy being in love, mostly because I can be who I am meant to be, and as painful as it may sound there will be times that you will feel alone and with no love regardless of how many people surround you. This last year I became aware of something: I can be in love with my friends, family, places, dogs, memories and with myself, and nowadays I can really say that I do not need to establish a relationship with any girl to be what I am meant to be.
This were 3 harsh years, I have never spoken about this with anyone, I learned to love again by myself and I am very proud on how this resulted, because now I’ve met a girl; would she be the one? I do not know. I only know that I am happy when she is around and this might be the beginning of an even better story. So, with all that I have learned and the maturity that I have constituted, I will not back down. Because you shouldn’t fear love; because you should embrace and enjoy it as long as it lasts.
I never knew the time when I was going to say this but I think I am into someone, and better yet, she is into me. So wish me luck. I am very excited on what is to come with her. I stopped waiting for someone to appear a long time ago, so stop waiting and start loving each moment you live. Life will give you what you deserve.
Send you love fam 🫶
Thank you for this video.
I needed this video, after my longest relationship of about 2 years ended with her cheating, I closed myself off. I told myself it’ll only be a few months but that turned into years. I found this girl who’s genuinely interested in me and we get along so long good. I could honestly go on about how happy I feel hearing her laugh. But I can’t shake that internal fear of love and the vulnerability it takes
I'm in the exactly same situation right now and can't see myself pushing through another relationship. She seems so nice but the fear is too strong.
Same
i think i had a realization watching this. ive never been in a relaitonship. i sometimes crave love and someone to share experiences with and to love. but a lot of those things i could do by myself, loving myself. like going on cute dates and spending more time outside doing spontaneous things. i dont need to wait for someone to start living that life.
I’m so glad I found this video the understanding that ppl are out there experiencing the exact same things makes it a whole lot easier also the ending😢🥺
oh man, it's crazy how last night I had a conversation about this exact thing. although I've experienced deep love (in a friendship sense) I have not yet experienced romantic love. I was feeling upset with myself for that reason because the way I feel has nothing to do with the people around me, but everything to do with myself. basically the advice I received was the same as this video. let go of the expectation that you "should" feel a certain way right now and just embrace it; learn to love yourself by being as authentic to you as possible; and be patient because healing, discovering, and learning takes time. so to anyone who has taken the time to read this comment, I hope that we all find what we're looking for someday 🤍 thanks Simon for this video
thank you sosososo much, we shall keep looking for what we want in our own life for sure!!
Appreciate that Ian. Definitely a ton of truth in that. For some reason I had felt like there was something wrong for me feeling this way. This comment means a lot to me
i am so happy that i discovered your channel and presence. my heart feels fuller and my face feels lighter after watching this. thank you for existing
barely watching this video wished i saw this earlier, loved it :) you truly are showing what love can do for a person and how to use that love for the better.
Thank you so much. I've been having so much trust issues and lack of love lately. This really helped me. Thank you for all that you do. As always, stay wholesome!
Your videos really do give me motivation, they make me genuinely happy, happiness I haven’t felt in a while. Please never stop.
I thought it was completely normal to feel this way. I haven't felt romantic love since I was a young teen, but I have friends. The friendship love is enough for me to feel really well, but I also can't decide when I should pursue something romantic... if I even should
I’m so happy for you , I’m feeling such great vibes so happy for you
I don't know how to fully express it, but I needed that video! Thanks for opening up and being so vulnerable. Also, the words of your friends Brad hit so deep, thank him too for sharing his wisdom 🥰
i literally love your authenticity and how it seeps through the screen. Keep up the great work!
It took me more than two years to finally open myself for someone else after I broke up with my significant other. Let yourself be alone for as long as you need and just wait patiently for the right person
I just discovered your account and I am really glad that I did. Watching your videos honestly feels like I'm having a heartfelt conversation with a close friend. (Which irl I currently lack) I'm very thankful for you! I often worry if I will ever love again. This video really helped me get that bit of faith back again. I shall keep going and wait till those butterflies come back around again. Thank you 💕
this was so healing in a way, thank u
thank you simon, i was introduced to you a few years back through my for you page, and Im so glad i was. Life's been really difficult, ive been enveloped in drama with a girl for so long, and its been causing me so much stress. i've recently just let it go, and im starting to do somewhat better. there's still tons of scars and pain but ive been trying to push through. ive recently found out that making music, getting some fresh air, and meditating helps me clear my mind. take care, and stay well simon! -ryan
I seriously love your music and vibe. Thank you for showing music source. Your art always gives me energy and relief.
I'm frequently connected to your work through RUclips and Spotify these days. I wish I had a friend or boyfriend like you.
I absolutely love your videos and story telling, I only found your channel today but this is exactly what I needed right now.
this video touched something within me, I'm not in a good place in my life right now (mentally). I have been keeping myself isolated from everyone around me which is not that many people actually. I also have not loved anyone romantically or even liked someone in 19 years of my life so I want to thank you for just living and sharing what you are going through. Lots of love
I needed this video. I've been feeling the same type of way. You are an amazing storyteller!!
thank you. i just feel like i really needed to hear this. it sums up all the feelings i felt after that exhausting heartbreak i dealt last year. sometimes i catch myself longing for someone that might or might even exist. i ahve so much love to give but the person is not yet here and during that process i kind of like lost that romantic spark. you are right, it'll all takes time and noting to be ashamed because it's part of the process
Hey man, I just wanted to let you know, this video was much needed. I really admire the vibes you give and you seem like someone that I’d be down to hangout fr fr. I know I may be some stranger on the internet, but I was in my second relationship two years ago and it lasted for a year. This was during my junior year of college. As a Asian American myself, I’ve always felt really insecure about myself back then and didn’t really think I’d be able to get into a relationship, but this was such a good wake up call cause I’m in nearing to my mid twenties and I’ve been a bit worried because I just thought I wouldn’t find that significant other, but I know it takes time and the past of the process is to really just improve yourself through self love and how you can put all of that energy to you, so in the long run you’ll be able to put that to someone you cherish. Thank you for this video and I’ve had bits of thoughts on giving up on love, but I think just going on a date can really bring the door open have bring in hope to a lot of people. Thank you for sharing and I hope you have a good rest of your day and I’m always going to root for you in the long run! You’re going to do great things and I know for a fact you’ll find your significant other too!
this video really hit me hard i have been going through this for a while now and this video has really opened me up to what i have to do for myself first over all... i just found this chanel today actual having this same thought in my head how to fall in love. keep this going man you have a great mindset and thing going here and you will keep on touching someone or many more people. much love to you
thanks simon for such a wonderful video, this is honestly the type of video i needed currently in this point of my life and so its highly appreciate to hear alot of things and to see alot of things in this vid, gives of hope:)!.
I appreciate these videos so much it’s always the highlight of my day, they have REALLY helped me! it’s crazy how underrated you are like it’s not even funny :)
Falling in love is one of the most beautiful human experiences. Ill never forget the first time I knew I was in love. At the time I was young and didn't understand it but falling in love the second time made me realize the feeling more. You have to accept it with open arms in order to understand, feel, and cherish it. Thank you for this video.
love you man just got out of a tough breakup and have been feeling shit this has helped me hope u do well
This is beautiful, thanks for being so vulnerable
The music choice you put in ur videos are also solid! Thanks for making and sharing an awesome video.
So glad I found this channel!!
this video was absolutely incredible. i loved the vulnerability and how you pushed yourself out of your comfort zone :)
Thank you so much Simon 🫂
got me crying towards the end and throughout
Wow what a beautiful video, no what a wholesome video, I feel the exact same way as you. Thank you for posting this, I really needed this as a reminder to keep improving and loving myself even more.
This dude is so chill its relaxing
geesh i just discovered your channel, and i really love how it's so simple but yet so inspiring.
Wow what a video. Really enjoyed this and so glad I came across this video. I (although still a highschooler - 17yrs) had this issue for about 5 years, I just genuinely never ever had crushes on anyone and just wasn't interested to the point where people would question my sexuality and would think I was strange - I always just blamed it on the fact I was going through puberty but never came across others with the same feeling so it's cool to see that I'm not the only one. Fortunately in the past 6 months, despite having still never been on a date, I have been able to develop love and feelings for people which has definitely helped my mental health and understanding of myself. Don't worry about it, as you say, take the time to love yourself (which I failed to do 😅) and just have fun with friends as you are doing and the right person will come into your life :)))))
Got me smiling the whole way through! Loved the video Simon
Aww, i loved this video❤ Thanks Simon
This is exactly what I’ve been going through too. Thanks for this video ❤️
I wish I'd seen this video earlier it basically sums up exactly where I am right now as well. Another good vid Simon
Hi, Simon. I didn't believe when the notification of your video came out, because I am in the same situation as yours. But, I am in the begining of the road. This road can be sometimes so painful, the memories and other beautiful things can make you feel regretful and wanna go back. but sometimes, even you don't know what to feel and what you really wanna do. Regardless of these confusing and hurtful period, it is beautiful time to discover ourselves. Maybe, it is more about ourselves before finding that "right" person, soulmate. ;) Take care and good luck.
OK Brad Preach!!! Fill your cup with all forms of love!! I appreciated the vulnerability in this video ! thankyou .
Woah, the message hits deep. Bless the youtube algorithm for recommending.
Your videos are ALWAYS so amazing, like i can't even explain it in words - art work!
thanks evelina!
I just found ur channel today lol and I'm glad I did, it's literally just what I needed, I was feeling kinda down bc of bad weather, I'm sure you understand bc you live in Michigan too. I don't know why I felt kinda sad tho bc I literally have it all smh and you made me realize how grateful I am for friends who are willing to talk. Keep making these types of videos, I know there are more people out there who need it.
Damn this video hit hard and im thankful to have found love again after all the things that happened in the past, but in due time everything will pan itself out bro
hi :)
i've discovered your channel through this video! And man, do I have things to talk about...
Firstly, I think the way you portrait the little specs of your life is a form of art, the cinematography here is incredible (even the color pallet) and the storyline is so nice to hear. I've always tried to look for these types of content here on youtube but not always I feel as connected to them as I felt for yours.
It is truly amazing how you can create such a piece of art and how I can totally appreciate every single detail of it all. Your videos are an experience man, keep up the good work because we need this transparency when it comes to talk about emotions we feel!
♡
This video helped me in ways I can’t even explain. Thank you Simon.
a video has never made me smile so much, thankyou
My situation is the same, thank you for this video 🥹
Oh my gosh I needed this 🥹
i had a soulmate for both years of 2021-22 but i left her in pursuit of what was either lust or freedom; either way i found myself enjoying being lonely and after getting lead on/messed with by a couple girls, nothing serious, void of any desire for love and a romantic partner. i'm pretty happy just being myself and trying to reject my habit of trying to always look good and impress, i love myself a lot more than i did a few months back and i think it's important for everyone to be single/without romance for a good chunk of time to really find themselves, whether there's someone waiting for them or not. a lot of regret fills me but i think everything happens for a reason and the reason for me all of a sudden leaving behind the girl i loved for years was truly finding myself and letting go of a big part of my life she was attached to.
wow - I feel like I could have written this
but I'm so afraid of trying to fall for someone new and the entire time in the back of my mind, I'll be thinking the girl I left .... "it should have been her you idiot"
@@EYDuff yeah i get that, its hard to not put her on a pedestal. i also realized since i commented this she did a lot of things to hurt me and has a lot of negative traits and if i had the choice, i wouldn't get back with her. i had to see her as another person and think everything over to realise she's not worth my time. there'll always be someone for you and you can have more than one 'soulmate'. but if youre concerned youre still not over the other girl, dont rush anything, let life happen and work on loving yourself. thats just my advice from personal experience
Loved the vid, the message, I've been struggling with the thought of getting into a relationship ever since my last one ended a couple of years ago, and I've been trying to learn to be patient, take my time, and become better myself. It's a great place to be in mentally.
Also, Omori music? Subbed.
the way you talk about your day and the background music you use yep! I think I'm inspired to make some video logs
this dude has no idea how happy he makes me with these simple lil vids
Ugh I appreciate this video so much, Simon ❤
I'm just starting so nothing to say on the video yet but just wanted to say your audio is sooo good! Thank you for that.
I had so much move love to give so I put it back into myself, now that's a beautiful line man, I'm not really into self love but I'm definitely really really into self care, taking care of how I look speak write, how I carry myself , it's about increasing my value as a man, or as cliche as it sounds, getting closer and closer to my best self
thank you so much i needed that.
I love your videos so much bro what the hell this is like the most positive channel on youtube
i felt every aspect fo this video ❤
Thank you for opening yourself up for us it’s really helps
This is exactly the video I need right now. I’ve had this complicated thing with this person for a while and I think it’s time to stop and I haven’t had any motivation to find love just like he talked about
My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago, it's been hard, but your videos hype me up! Thank ya :)
this video felt bittersweet. the last girl I went out with, we also did some painting (even the setup was similar) and we went to the arcade. I appreciate the people in my life so much but I’m also still working on having the emotional availability to fall in love.
wait that’s crazy dude you live in Ann Arbor. I noticed that dollar tree mall instantly I grew up over in that area that’s awesome. I’ve been binge watching ur content after a breakup and it’s making me feel a lot better.
guy, this style of videos is art! greetings from germany
I had the metaphoric butterflies in my stomach the first year of puberty, it was short lived (I was 12). Then another the very next year, but she was in a relationship so I didn't think much of it and moved on, and with time I stopped feeling it for that person. But years later, before I knew it, I realized I had never had that feeling happen again for anyone else.
In some ways I was glad, I did not want to chase anyone and I thought younger me fell for people too easily, but in other ways I thought I was incapable of it as I got older, as if those earlier feelings were just an effect of sudden hormones and puberty, and that butterflies in my stomach would never happen for me ever again. In fact, I thought I was proven right because I did not get those feelings for a whole decade. But just when I was least expecting it, with no chasing required, it organically happened again one day.
I was 23 when I felt butterflies in my stomach for the third time.
I'm 24 now, but what I'm basically saying is, you can't make it happen, but some days it will fall right into your hands... and that's an amazing feeling.
What a freaking good video. It is like a movie or a drama! Damm.
this is so meaningful! i was broken up with almost a month ago now (it doesn’t feel that long omg) and she already has a new boyfriend :( i’m starting to get over it i know it but i’m still hurting and i still miss her.
This video has helped me so much. Thank you :)
I’m glad this popped up in my suggestions because this is how I feel and don’t know how to start again lol
so here is the deal. I just found this video and I don't know if the universe send me this or sm, but man...I needed this. I just started a new relationship after a very hard breakup 2 years ago. Im not gonna lie, it a problem for me to live in that moment. Iam always thinking about the past or future, but when do I ever stop to just..be there and not worry. thank you
thank you for this gem of a video! :))
This video was so inspiring thank you ❤
Just went through a really big loss of a friend group that included someone I thought I had something with. For the most part, I've drastically healed since then but this video was honestly, something I needed. I think for now, I need to enjoy life as it is. Love can come later but for the meantime, I'll be chilling
You don't know how much you have restored faith in love for me again. I am just like Brad, I have this much love that I want to share but no one to do so, which is really just, FRUSTRATING. But I will really try to love myself more and become the better version of myself, who I am going to be with down the road.
So true sense this message made to me, hope it does to everyone in need, out there.
You got this, you are stronger than ever before, that's why you are living in the PRESENT ! : )
When people say it, they really mean it. "Love yourself before you love anyone else"
Okay, Brad is wise ass guy. That was a great outlook and beautifully put
this was actually so good
w mans. w video. w girl. w inspiration. made my day a walking w.