Alcoholic interview-Ted
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- Опубликовано: 25 июл 2023
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Ted, an alcoholic from Washington state currently staying on Skid Row. Ted is the husband of Colleen, whose video was also posted today.
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You can tell He’s a kind hearted guy.
Bro really.@@TomokoAbe_
Kind hearted yes but like all addicts also very manipulative.
Seems like the poor guy does not have the capacity to be honest. It's not his fault, he was probably born that way.
Warning: Alchol will turn you into the same a hole that your father was.
who milks the government instead of working. yeah real class.
As an alcoholic with 520 days sobriety, this hit hard. Watching Ted fidget knowing that feeling of "itchy" skin, inflamed insides, anxiety, and overall discomfort took me back and it's not fun. He seems like a sweet guy, I hope he can work on his denial, get help , and get clean. It's worth it. I'm rooting for him.
Stay strong Bro.
a close friend of my mine died from liver failure at 29 years old. this guy’s mannerisms, speech patterns & denial are so similar to my friend. hell even the moving to a different location. i hope he gets the help he needs.
Ugh 3rd day alcohol free & damn I am itchy, tired, dry eyes, just have to roll with the punches! Because I am losing a lot at the age of 34 😢
One day at a time,keep up the good work.From another alcoholic
@@rafsoto6383I hope you keep going. 34 is still young. You deserve to live a long and happy life x
I can feel the nervousness and anxiety in this man. I feel for him.
This man’s heart hurts so much and my empathic self hurts listening to this. I have a boy and girl, just like him, and no one can bet how hard I am cheering for my brother to be around.
yes, a beta blocker or an ssri and he'd be halfway there
Poor guy is in withdrawal.
dts will do that to you
it's me, i know this feeling so well and it honestly gives me a little anxiety watching him. i'm about 4 months sober now, save for 2 minor setbacks(few beers each night, not even enough to get drunk). longest ive ever gone
An alcoholic always thinks they can just have a few, but that rarely happens. Mark is right, there’s no off switch.
It's the same way with any addiction.
It’s a slippery slope and it’s dangerous because you can die from withdrawal of alcohol. It’s kind of sad, because with alcohol it’s socially acceptable and alcohol is everywhere. You don’t have to call up a dealer for it, just go to the package store.
I was a year and half sober then relapsed for few months. Now I’m 5 months sober and I struggle every single day.
@@Anonymous-lq2bsyou’re not going to die that’s urban legend, I drank large quantities everyday for several years and just stopped entirely one day been sober two years.
Now food addiction though I hear you! That’s my next to tackle, cold turkey that and you’re going to die eventually.
@@pben4899 It's not an urban legend, some people can die. Just depends on the level of addiction and the person. You're lucky you're not that person, but if you've ever been to detox, you will see people that are under observation because withdrawals can be dangerous.
And you know, how exactly?
He's good at talking himself into drinking. All alcoholics are.
He needs to wake up and realize how delusional he sounds. I'm sure hes heard it from sober people in the past but its obviously not sticking.
He talks about how he wants a better life for his kids than he had but theyre on skid row. You have to stop drinking bro.
I need a drink after this interview.
Lol yea he’s delusional. He said he got DTs from cocaine, you don’t get those type withdrawals from coke.
@@stopdrunkdriving1061it’s an interview… what do you expect 😂
@@stopdrunkdriving1061AA makes you become a Christian.
I could remember several years ago, alcohol and cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Amen God bless people. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine,alcohol and cigarettes.And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Greece. Really need!
Hey! Yes very sure of Dr.alishrooms. a single dose of shrooms saved me from Alcohol addiction. 6 years clean. no cravings. this doesn't sound weird to me in any way shape or form.
I'm really happy for you that your wife decided to help you...I hear about alot of family members or so called friends shutting an addict out of their life, which since most addicts do it to mask emotions to me is the worse thing someone can do to an addict.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Alcohol! One of the worst drugs out there!
Especially when it’s legal
Agreed he seems very humble
Only costs a couple bucks, easy access.
Exactly it's everywhere and very cheap
Yup!
Alcoholism is something that impacted my life from my earliest memories. My father would become a demon and I am still haunted from seeing my mother have her jaw, nose, ribs broken. He would hold guns to her head in front of me and would hold us hostage in our house as he patrolled the outside of our house with a gun. He would growl and as a little girl I thought he literally was the devil. I remember trying to hide my mother in my closet and being so scared and helpless not knowing how to protect her. I remember being 4 years old to hear my father yelling and running as fast as I could to help my mom. I still cry remember seeing her held up by his hands up against the window. I was terrified. I remember biting his toes to try to get him to let her down and get his hands from around her neck. It's impacted my life and my mom's. Having grown up with an alcoholic father taught me what not to be. He was a teacher to me in an odd sense. And then when he eventually left I felt a sense of relief. My heart did hurt that I never had a dad and seeing my mom nearly die at his hands. I had to read books as an adult to learn how to forgive. After I had my son at 30...I went on a mission to see if he was alive. I did find him and I remember the tears he cried the first time we met. He did apologize and had great remorse. Sadly, he was still an alcoholic but I forgave him and wanted him to know me as an adult and to meet his only grandchild as I was an only child and had just one child. I told him his chance to be my dad went out the window many years ago but wanted us to become friends as I needed to heal. I told him he taught me a lot and I now realized he left us was truly a gift in the grand scheme of things. Alcohol destroys many things in the lives of so many people. I realize my dad was broken and in my own way...I felt terrible for him due to his own choices. I'll never forget him telling me that he never looked in a mirror as he couldn't look at himself knowing what he'd done. He's since passed but at least we had a chance to talk and I found some healing along the way. My heart extends to all those whose lives are impacted with trauma as a result of alcohol. May everyone find healing and peace and forgiveness.
i think your your early life resonates with a lot of people, including myself...thankyou for sharing.
@@pearlharbour3300I hope you've found healing along your journey in life. 🙏🕊️🩷
@@AS-Whitefeather its a life long process i think...never had children..probably because of the past...can be a lonley time trying to figure it all out...its generations isnt it..perhaps it will stop with me,
Beautifully written
@@pearlharbour3300Yes, indeed. It is generational as my father's entire side of the family is riddled with addictions of all kinds, but especially with alcoholism as most of them didn't have easy childhoods. 😔 I stopped the cycle and I always brought my son up with awareness that addictions are very real, but also raised him around people who had either mental health issues, people experiencing homelessness and would bring him with me to each area in which I volunteered. I also worked with mentally and physically disabled people. I got a lot of criticism that I "exposed" my child to those who are facing various issues. He was under my supervision, but I never wanted my son to judge anyone for any reason because we never know a person's life or their heartaches. Compassion, empathy, love, awareness is how we learn. A lot of us are fortunate because most of these could be anyone including us. We can't change the whole world but we can do our best to heal ourselves and help in our own little ways within our communities. 🙏 I believe in you and you can and do have the power within you to stop it. Never be afraid to reach out for help and support. 🕊️ You can do it!!! 💚
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Thank you for the compassion and support YT.
He’ll never stop drinking until he stops lying to himself. I remember being in his exact spot. He has a ways to go before he’s ready for change
it's a vicious cycle isnt it. You lie to yourself and then you drink, let's fix it all tomorrow right, what's one drink. Then you drink and so you keep lying.
It's the classic "I'm going to cut back and just drink like a normal person" syndrome. It's been proven time and time again that doesn't work for alcoholics.
Lying about what? This guy, Ted is his name, is probably one of the most honest men I've ever encountered here on the interweb. He will make it.
@@mplslawnguy3389 And you're a recovering alcoholic or just repeating stereotype stuff you've seen? smh
@@jbkg5898 the lie that all he has to do is “cut back” enough to drink like a “normal” person. If you have ever struggled with alcoholism, you’d know it doesn’t work that way. But we all went through that same rational on our way to recovery. He’ll get there with true honesty. It is possible
Dude reminded me of myself in my active drinking....but here I am over a year of complete sobriety much love and prayers your way. We do recover 🙏
Thanks awesome bro!! Celebrate with a 🍻!!!
As a VERY experienced alcoholic with now 2yrs sober i will say this: This is a good dude and a great storyteller. Its really hard to stop and learn when u have all the answers already.
I’m 1 year, 8 months without alcohol. This guy scares me. Reminding me how powerful the desire to drink is.
Trying to moderate alcohol is pure hell and insanity
One is too many. A thousand is never enough.
It's not that bad. I drink moderately and... It's okay
I’ve told myself I’d stop drinking 70000 times and I’m only 24, I started taking naltrexone that helps.
Lots of people can and do drink moderately.
Wonder when he will realize that he cannot drink alcohol ever again ? The only way.
Ever. you got it
3 years sober next week. Took me about 10 years to figure that out.
Congratulations. it took me so long with a felony and etc
Yup. 7 months sober. Over 20 years to figure it out. Can’t comprehend how I can be so intelligent in so many ways but so “dumb” in this way. It took a miracle for me to change.
Moderation doesn't work for everyone
This is what I needed to watch. Started drinking since 18 and now at the age of 33 have had enough of it. I really feel for Ted and I could see he really wants out of this horrid addiction. Ted is a kind soul and I really wish him the best.
You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!
There is a way out, just be willing, help is there. I know personally, I killed my liver at 43, even after my transplant it still took me a while to stop. You got this!
Ted is a good man with some real problems. But he's got some serious grit, which is probably the thing that will save him in the end... and maybe get him to conquer the goals he's got in life. I'm rooting for you Ted 🎉
You will NEVER be an occasional drinker just like I will never be a part time opiate addict..
Word
It's absolutely possible to be an occasional drinker.
@@LuisCarruthers I know, I am one. But it's very doubtful that Ted could become that considering what he's been through..
@@amstel5468 I see. I thought your comment was addressed to everyone, rather than him. I feel like it's in vogue these days to conflate any alcohol consumption with alcoholism, which is just not fair on responsible drinkers.
@@LuisCarruthers nah mate he’s speaking to us addicts we just can’t mange it the way normal people can we get obsessed and just can’t stop ourselves
Poor guy. His denial is going to kill him 😢
Denial of what exactly? This man is preserving and being a positive person.
I agree. Being a recovering alcoholic I cannot just taper off on my own or just drink three beers. It's just not possible.
@@jbkg5898 His perseverance and positive outlook are a thin veneer masking years of pain and self loathing. There's no real attempt to grow beyond this lifestyle for his kids benefit as he claims to want to do.
@@jbkg5898 he is lying about how much he is drinking daily still. there is absolutely no way this dude is only having 2-3 a day.
That's part of the disease
@@nedscheebly731
as an alcoholic i feel this guy. Shits tough
Amen 🙏
The hangovers are annoying. But I like to drink.
Yes it is going thru it myself I hate it
Alcoholics all have something to hide..there's a reason why we drink..
same, friend
I let my addiction take me to the bottom but I finally found my way up and am doing good now, hope you get up too.
He has an interesting combination of self awareness and denial.
I wouldn't call it interesting
Growing up with a binge alcoholic dad, then dealing with a alcoholic husband, I know that a alcoholic can't drink at all. My childhood and that of my children's definitely has been altered by alcohol, and not in a good way. My husband is now almost 3 years sober, it was the best thing he could ever do for himself. Until this gentleman realizes that he is a alcoholic, and puts down the drink forever, he will always be a slave to the spirits. I wish him the best.
Most important thing I learnt in my life to date to that if you realise that you’re drinking too much/have a problem then it’s too late. Your only option is to cut it out for good. You can lie to yourself and come up with various schemes of drinking “less” and “cutting down” but it’ll never work. You’ll just be in the same pattern and repeat the same mistakes over and over.
You have to take accountability for yourself and make a serious choice. You either give up the booze entirely or you continue on the same downward paths. Sure, never drinking again sucks. There will be times when you think “surely I can just have a couple causal ones”, but it won’t work. You need to be dedicated and strict with yourself. It’s hard. But that’s life.
The way I see it is that there are some people in this world who, for whatever reason, just can’t trust themselves to drink responsibly. It may not be their fault. It could be psychological or something physiological. But the reason is irrelevant. Once you realise that you’re one of the people who can’t drink without going too far, then you need to accept that fact. Quit. And move on with your life.
I hope the guy in this video finally makes the decision one day. At the moment he’s lying to himself.
That shit breaks my heart when he’s talking about losing his baby and his dad. I really hope he can get his life together and that there are better days ahead❤
This is easily the most lovable addict I've seen on this channel. On the other hand My vices pushed me towards self hatred. Which is another direction altogether. Bless you man. Wish you the best.
Alcoholism is inside your brain telling you that it's okay to have one or two beers when it's really not you need to quit completely.
If I've learned anything in this life, the central learning is that we all do our best, this man, watching him wipe away the tears, listening to the mix of self-deception and compassion for others. As always, thank you for this. We are all doing our best, Mark.
Yes!❤
Alcohol made me my lowest self, stole my soul. Ruined beautiful things in my life because I tried burying pain with booze. It’s the literal devil for some of us. I really hope this guy gets sober, seems like a nice guy :( he deserves more out of life
We're similar...is it something someone did to you..or something you did to someone else?
This is basically my dad, he’s the biggest alcoholic I know. He can kill a 2 liter bottle of vodka a day and still be shaking by the end of the night. Surprisingly he’s a really successful and smart person, he works harder than anyone I know and is able to adapt to anything thrown at him. He’s a millionaire but his health is really declining, he has a fatty liver which is a step above chirrosis. I’m worried about him because he’s a great dad
Wow! This guy has an addictive personality and a strong will! rare combination... Imagine what he could accomplish if he was addicted to something positive!
Don't be fooled. Addicts talk a big game.. look at the fruit on the tree, i.e., the reality. He is homeless on Skid Row.
You are describing me. My strong will is what pulled me through the alcohol addiction. I was very bad on the vodka.
My stubbornness was a very POSITIVE thing
2.5 years sober
If he had a strong will, he'd be able to leave the booze alone for good. You can't take anything an addict says at face value. He's in denial
@@aspartamekillsyaknow9019 he isn't using his strong will. I didn't use mine for a LONG time. It wasn't until I was throwing up blood that I used it
But IF he was addicted to Martial Arts instead of drugs, his strong will would have him running his own dojo by now. sad.
I grew up with an alcoholic father, maternal grandfather and paternal grandmother. I hate alcohol with all my heart and I am thankful that my stomach does too. I can spend hours drinking 1 beer. My first beer this year was in June. Every time people gift me alcohol for my birthday I smile with shock and give them a massive thank you. I take the drink home and leave it in the building where I live with a “free” note.
I was an alcoholic for 10 years. I addressed the deeper issues and went sober and it was hard. I quit smoking, drinking and other bad habits. Alcohol is just a symptom. I have a few drinks a year now with zero urges to go on a bender or tie one on. I prefer being sober. But most alcoholics never address the real problems that feed the addiction. Years after abusing its hard to remember what life without was. Blessings to all. Keep digging and peeling that onion back. Dont be a dry drink. 🙏🏼
Alcohol damages the brain so much it makes it hard for people to even focus
I used to drink a half gallon of whiskey every 2 days from sunrise to sundown. I quit cold turkey and had awful shakes to where i couldnt even text because I was making so many typos. I couldnt even hold a pen in my hand because of the shakes. I was having auditory and visual hallucinations. I didnt sleep for days. I had severe anxiety. I will never drink like that again because the detox was so awful. When i was finally finished with the detox it felt like I was born again, it felt so good to not be experiencing that agony
This is the husband of the pothead girl you gotta watch both
That crossed my mind. Is that definitely his wife?
What’s her name?
@@christophercaldwell3963 Colleen it's the other interview he posted today
@@christophercaldwell3963 She's the "weed smoking" interview posted today along with this one.
Oh shoot you're absolutely right.
I’m 24 and started drinking about 2 years ago after being in an abusive relationship and the guy I was with got me hooked. I feel so old but I need to remember I’m still so young and need to get better and get my life back on track. I miss being sober. I miss being happy.
My partner is an alcoholic and I’ve been struggling with it. Thank you for these interviews, Mark.
They don’t quit
They do quit
@@ebutuoy4811 I have faith.
You deserve better
He's struggeling too, believe me. Being in the grips of alcohol is hell.
I was a half Lt. of vodka a day. God bless my wife, she was there every second I got sober.
I was very bad on the vodka too. 2.5 years sober
@@amanduhcase that’s awesome keep it up, it’s a continuous struggle, don’t get comfortable around alcohol always treat it like a snake that wants to die you. I was definitely self medicating, but after just over a year of drinking like that the ER Dr. Said “you’ll die in 6 months if you keep this up” and sent me to a dr. Who was amazing and listened.
@@dopedreamz thank you for the reminder to never let my guard down. I was very tempted last summer and got a far as putting alcohol in my car (!!!!) but it scared me really bad so I called my friend who is a cop and was on duty and had him come get it from me and throw it away.
THAT SCARED ME!!
@@amanduhcase that’s true friendship. It is who you surround yourself with also. My in laws are drinkers, they don’t see it as a problem, good for them they are functioning alcoholics. Not to speak badly of them I do love them and so doe my wife, their daughter but we have learned to love from a distance. Last summer someone passed out into the fire pit, was badly burned. As a teen people gave me 💩 about our parties, we were a million times safer than these 60 year olds trying to relive high school. On the other hand we camp every year and we had a party, my friends brought me some w**d blunts, like 3 because I do smoke weed, it’s legal and my Dr. Said it has little effect on my regular medications.sorry for the novel 😂 be blessed, stay strong!
@@dopedreamz you're good! I enjoy hearing others stories bc I don't participate in AA. I smoke w**d also
This man has a great heart and a good head on his shoulders with good will power. I have every hope in the world this man will become completely sober. He knows, that's always the best step towards to becoming sober. I wish you nothing but the best of luck mate ❤️
This man is very well practiced in answering questions in such a way that the average person doesn't ask any more questions. Mark could be going a lot harder on him than he is.
Thats almost every interview with an adict.
I think Mark knows this guy isn’t ready to be pressed. He isn’t ready
Mark knows he's shitfaced
Only because he's so open, so he answers the questions before Mark asks them. Nothing wrong with that.
I'd say Mark's bs meter is sharp as a samari sword at this point.
He seems like a great man with a very big heart I wish I could give him a hug I lost my father at 14 I understand his pain.. prayers for you Ted you can do anything you put your mind to☺️
Man.. my wife & I lost our son a little over 20 weeks. He was born still birth. The pain in your voice when you made the statement about your son was 1 of the most relatable feelings I’ve had. It’s a hard thing to explain or process as a man. I’m sorry you guys experienced that & I hope you find some peace with it.
I also struggled with my use of alcohol. Much more after he died. Everyone is different, but your idea of drinking sometimes is risky. I went almost 1 year clear from alcohol after a low spot in life. I tried it. I drank way too much & now struggle again with the craving for alcohol. I hope you find what works for you to live healthy for your family. God bless man.
This guy is great, hope for the best for him and his family. Great interview 👍
I wish Ted the best, sadly he's not ready to quit. One drink is too much and a thousand isn't enough. Good Luck
I’ll drink to that 🍻
Thank you for the interview Ted and SWU
Ted and Colleen are a perfect match for each other. I hope you overcome your alcoholism, Ted. You are able to do this ❤
My heart broke when he started talking about his baby that passed. 😥💔
You’ll never be able to have a beer without it telling you that you have to have it. I’m six years sober. Some of my worst relapses started as that “just one beer.” Good luck and God bless you, sir. You seem really cool
He’s a sweet man. Wish him all the best. Lots of energy! Sorry for your losses sir!
I worked myself down to a pint a day then every other day for about a month. Than I quit cold turkey
❄️🦃 happy for you @jacob 🦃❄️
great job! I tried to ween myself off by switching to vodka... Not a good idea. Then I quit cold turkey lol
So sorry for the loss of your son and dad. I love listening to you. I would love to hear from your wife and how alcohol affects her life as well. Good luck to you! One day at a time.
@@TomokoAbe_ I guess people should only aspire to be as void of emotion as you.
My moms fiance is a recovering alcoholic. One of the kindest, most laid back people i know. He's been a little over a year sober and it's still a battle for him. Alcohol withdrawal ain't no joke, shit can kill you if it becomes severe enough. You can tell when he's having a bad day. Hearing his story, and seeing what he still goes through is more effective than any DARE class or anti alcohol PSA I've ever seen. Hearing about addiction and witnessing someone go through it gives you a whole different perspective on it. I always said if people wanna stop, they should just put it down, now I understand it more and I hate alcohol.
This guys full of it
Took a lot of comment scrolling to find this. "8 beers" makes him sick. He's a severe alcoholic. 8 beers is probably what he needs just to get square.
Ted, you are extraordinary!
You quit coke cold turkey!
The way you deal with addiction is so admirable!
Wow, just wow!
The strength this take is beyond what anyone can understand.
Exept from people who have experience with addiction.
And almost no one is able to do what you have done and are doing right now!
It sounds so easy in theory that's why regular people don't understand.
Because it's SO hard to cut down on drugs and alcoholic.
There's a reason why people don't quit, reason being it's so hard people never will understand.
I hope you succeed and comes to a point where you're okay with your life.
I'm sure you'll make it, it sounds like it.
You've got what it takes.
All the best to you and your missus, love from Norway.
This hillybilly is just braindead. "I can stop drinking if i want to i went one and a half years without" Dudes just lying to him self and thinks hes Smart and knows how addiction goes but he aint know shit. It gets me angry seeing him Talk all this Crap with the 3 teeth he has left in his Mouth
He's in denial. He's still an alcoholic and saying he wants to just drink like a normal person. It's pretty well accepted everywhere that alcoholics can't do that. It might work for a few weeks or months, but they go back to hard drinking almost every time. Guy needs a lot of work.
One of the most honest straight forward guys on this channel. You can tell when people are just tweaked or narcissistic that their stories are skewed. I mean a story is a story but this guy seems like a straight shooter as far as life stories. He laughts about his mistakes which is probably the better approach than wailing....kinda like a regretful rockstar which I think many people coming off should take...."yeah was bad, crazy stories, getting older, learnt from problems, get off" thats always a good story. Stable people included.
Alcohol is maybe the most destructive drug but at least it keeps you cool
Very genuin and honest & open guy, wish him only the best of luck and hopefully he can make it through.
This guy has an amazing sense of humor and a great attitude.
He's a mess
@@tee9828 still got a good attitude
@@NicksHEAT1995he is mentally in a complete fantasy world...
@@tee9828 we're all a fucking mess. Life is a mess.
I wish him all the luck and strength in the world.
Thanks Mark for doing these videos.
i used to drink a half gallon of vodka every other day didnt think anyone els came close to that, sober now for a year hope this guy keeps it up, you can do it
I am glad that he is so conscious of the problem and willing to work on it, but I sometimes believe we need to accomplish the 1st of the 12 steps, accepting and asking for help
I’ve been sober for 5 months. You can do this! I hope the best for you sir!!!
I’m 39 been drinking since I was 21. I think drinking really ramped up for me when we got sent home March 2020. Been home ever since. Tried to stop several times but this last bout got me. April the day of a hangover I had massive panic attacks all day. It was so bad I thought I was having a heart attack. My hands even seized up. Since that day I’m now 7 months sober. But I think about drinking everyday. It’s so hard to stay sober but it’s so nice to wake up feeling good. My dog keeps me alive. If it wasn’t for her I probably wouldn’t care what happened. I want to be healthy for her. It scares me to think about cirrhosis and liver issues. You don’t die right away. It’s a slow death. Stay strong everyone.
Him and Colleen are both playing the victim and full of shit blaming everything else. Salvation come from within.
Ahh man, he’s so close, he’s done so much work! But he won’t leave the abusive relationship of alcohol. He believes the promise that 2-3 beers is okay and it’s enough. But it’s not, that’s why it turns to 4 and then 10. it will have its control so long as it’s allowed to be in his life. It’s a relationship and they are too comfortable together to actually be good to one another. He’s just stable enough to not see the only end will be on the 3rd worst day of his life he actually drowns in alcohol. I wish him and anyone else struggling the best. My best streak was a year, 3 years later its 90+ days and I’m as aware as I’ve ever been. It’s not easy, but it’s better to be clear and actually call the shots, to choose to love oneself and what is, instead of numb myself to it all.
21 months sober here man, was drinking beer and wine everyday for nearly 4 years, my withdrawals were extreme, some days I’d go hours without it because I had no change to just buy one, I’d be lying if I said I dont crave it sometimes, but I definitely do not miss those withdrawals, I hope anyone struggling with this addiction can overcome it, I understand your pain.
He replies in a way a good drinking buddy does. Heavy meaning surrounded by jokes and a smile. He has probably been told he is great to drink with his whole addiction. Now it seems like that is a corner stone to his personality. He wont find he is able to drink moderately until he replaces his drinking time with something productive. If he has 2 or 3 beers and nothing to do for the rest of his evening he will continue to drink. Believe me ive done it
Ted is not you. Ted is strong and Ted will do what Ted knows what he wants to do. Please unseat yourself from your high horse.
This dude sounds like me the first few times I tried to quit... He just doesn't sound ready to quit sadly... The just drink a few and i can handle it mentality never ends well, I hope he gets where he needs to be to quit for good.
Brother alcholism is wicked I struggled for year's trying to quit on my own hundreds of times and failed miserably time and time again eventually I surrendered and reached out for help and today I have 3 1/2 years of sobriety, there is HOPE you don't have to struggle anymore, I wish you the best 🙏
This guy is delusional if he thinks as an alcoholic that he can drink sometimes. One is one too many and a thousand is never enough! Godspeed😊
Everyone is different.
For an alcoholic, that is precisely true.
Alcohol is a progressive disease, There is no cutting down. Once a cucumber becomes a pickle, it cannot become a cucumber again. Believe me, I KNOW. I am a sober pickle.
I agree that everyone is different in the sense that not everyone who abuses alcohol for an extended period is a true alcoholic, but if someone really is then they should probably never touch it again
'This guy is delusional' would have sufficed !! hes gone
He could pass as a member of the Whitaker family.....kinda, sort of.
r u for real lol haha take a good look at your self lol
@@davechristian7543 100% 4 real....He has the eye and teeth thingy going on.
Honestly when I saw the thumbnail before I saw the title I thought it was that’s why I clicked😂
@@aldonapetrano4663gross
I’m rooting for you man. You seem like a decent guy. Trust me man- life gets a lot better. You just have to let it go completely and give yourself 3-6 months to adjust to life. I’m day 46 myself dude- and life is already so much better
I am in recovery 2 plus years. AA saved my life
1 Peter 5:8
Be sober be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, like a roaring lion, walks about seeking, whom he may devour. Amen.
That is a beautiful answer. We need more love towards each other. ❤❤
He gets $3000 a month for doing absolutely nothing?
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@@squid_fish lol what?
lol go clock in
@@IbrahimMuhammad_114 ima be honest u needa quit 😭
That's fucked up. The rest of us work 5-6 days a wk.
He immediately responds by saying he used to drink more than now and looks like he had way more beers yesterday than he says so. Typical alcohol lying behaviour. I used to do that too.
Good guy and loved his answer at the end. I wish him well. ❤️
Super smart guy and nice smile. Hope he finds road to recovery.
The few alcoholics that can actually have a drink and not go off the deep end are few and far between. They ruin it for all the ones that need total abstinence.
I’ll drink to that 🍻
Thanks for this Mark. ❤ I’m a binge drinker and I can relate. I’ve tried to stop for about 40 years. It ever affected my work or life…WEIRD
That's what my dad says
40 years? Check that liver. Seriously. Be careful
I've been sober over 6 years. It is totally possible. I used to not think it was. I'd continue to go back to the booze after periods of sobriety. Listen to your soul and never keep trying.
such a good interview, and Ted - best of luck, sounds like a great plan.
All of us addicts want to have our cake & eat it too. There is no "getting it under control" for us. Dude needs to be careful with that opiate allergy...we're finding fentanyl in all drugs, including coke, speed, molly, & others that seem counterintuitive to the drugs function. It's very tiny amounts added to make withdrawals too much to bear. Rough times. I'm glad im old...from a time when even hard drugs were far less deleterious & dangerous. If we dont get a grip on these crappy synthetic drugs, we'll lose more than just a generation or 2, we'll lose our country to civil conflict
Most people have no idea wtf is going on in the world drug market. The fennytal in drugs other than opiates are from dope dealers cross contaminating it. It's easy to make that mistake when handling all types of different dope and use the same scale. The shit even gets on the cash. I've known a few people who got dopesick just from handling it. This would be an important topic in the debate for switching to a digital currency. I think they haven't brought it up because fennytal is the new reefer madness and they want you to believe they're lacing it in everything. I'm sure there's some ignorant dealers that actually are mixing it in everything because the fennytal scare is trending. These days most opiate fiends ask for it by name. Afghanistan reduced thier poppy production by 80% and put resources into meth production and introduced it to poor Arab and African countries. Mexico knows how to make fennytal and doesn't need China. Fennytal has replaced heroin. Coke and meth use is up on a world wide scale. Scary time to be doing street drugs. My only advice is if you're gonna smoke weed, get it from a dispensary or from someone that ONLY deals in weed
Wishing them well
I'm finally sober for longer than 24 hours and I realize that I'll never be in control of it. No matter how much I attempt to control it. I hope he is able to come to this realization someday
You’ll get through it buddy I had an alcohol problem for a short period but the withdrawals are unimaginable. Had really bad tremors which later escalated to terrible hallucinations. Was unimaginable had to go to a detox center, whenever you’re ready it will happen man.
Seems like a decent fella. Hope he is happy and healthy today however that looks for him.
Wish you and your family all the best!
That was my favorite answerr too when asked what has he learned, "to just love others".
Three beers is like eating three peanuts. Never worked for me
He seems like a good guys,but he is in denial, if you’re an alcoholic, one drink leads to another.
All addicts play jedi mind tricks on themselves
I really needed to hear this and I pray it resonates it feels out of my control and I need to stop
Ted, you’re a self aware man with a good heart and high EQ. Use it to your advantage. You got this. Love from DUVALL, WA!
Love is greater than wealth! Universal ❤
The denial is overwhelming
Love conquers Ted! You know the truth and seem like a sweet and kind man. I hope the best for you
I finally said this is enough.... Im only day six but my mind is already more clear... My problem was the morning after... I didn't have physical hangovers. It was HORRIBLE anxiety and depression, the worst most dark feeling... They actually have a term for it.... Hanxiety... I hate alcohol and I want to be normal again. Please keep me in your prayers.
He’s right the world needs more love.. but he needs start loving himself-first.
This dude is talking "Alcoholic Logic",his way of thinking he can casually drink, exactly the same way I had "Junkie Logic" thinking I could use now and again ...lol...we all know how that ends.😂
Wishing the best for this man.