I hope you will enjoy this new series. Thank you to Skillshare for sponsoring. The first 1,000 people to use the link will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare: skl.sh/thedailyconnoisseur02231 Also, the cheesecake recipe is written in the description box above. If you have any requests for future Teatime topics, please leave them in the comments below. Thank you for watching! Love, Jennifer
Thank you not only for the video ( pepp talk) yay!! And the recipe ROCKS! SUMMER SCHOOL PIT TREATS GREAT! I Found a Cream Burlay recipe 3 egg yolks! O my devious! If you would like the recipes gladly share it I can! Thank you for sparking new hope in ab old soul@ 70 last month stay home instead of going to a job; always love working at a job and being home can be great but can be uninspiring at times for me at times as well! Love you and your Feminine approach to life and wellness and mindfulness! ❤😊 Sharon in Ohio! Columbus 😂
I was not a good housekeeper when my children were babies, toddlers, and teens. It was rarely “company ready” unless I knew a week in advance company was coming. All that changed on my 37th birthday. I came home from work (I worked as a sales representative and did not have 8-5 hours) and my husband was preparing supper, bless his heart! He told me my parents were on there way over. I was upset by this as my house was a mess! He told me they were coming to spend time with me on my birthday. They were coming to see Me, the daughter they loved and adored, not my house or to judge my housekeeping. We had a wonderful evening! The next day I was working out of town, and this was before cell phones. My dad had a heart attack and died before anyone could reach me. I am forever grateful to my husband for giving me that last evening with my dad. Kudos to Marie Kondo for knowing her priorities! May others find their joy and know their priorities, too ♥️
This resonates with me so much. I’m in a very difficult stage in my life. Change is slow and I recognize it’s progress nonetheless, but I’m terrified this will occur with me. It’s like a constant anxiety and fear
♥️🙏 Thank you. I keep some family arms-length due to the mess, even though some of them have seen it and not judged at all. My mom was a true hoarder and we would just rush-clean the day before people came over. Which I hated, but I still haven't figured out a good way to maintain. I homeschool my special needs child, and have health issues that drain time and energy and it piles up fast. But the more we work twords minimalism it's been really making us happy. It's still SO hard to just get rid of things, like I probably should be. But work-in-progress. I appreciate the inspiration of remembering the relationships trump temporary embarrassment.
For some reason, people think that authors don't change as people. It's like, if you write a book about growing orange trees and then decide to grow cucumbers 5 years later, people say you're being a hypocrite and your orange growing system doesn't work. When actually, you're just tired of oranges. 😂 Authors are like anybody; they shouldn't have to be stagnant in life just because they wrote a book.
I also think there’s a huge difference between temporary mess and clutter. I think decluttering is a huge support for parenting and makes temporary mess less stressful because it is so easy to tidy up when you have more space.
I totally agree with this comment! Her home is already decluttered. The daily messes are easily tidied when there is less to maintain. I tidied my home with her method after the birth of my third child and it truly was life changing, not just in making our home easier to maintain, but bringing focus to what brought us joy. I attended her first workshop in Manhattan 7 years ago. At the time she did not have children and some of the professional organizers were a bit skeptical of her methods involving children. Because of this, when my sister and I started helping others curate their spaces we created a bit of a hybrid between her method by category and the Simplicity Parenting method. Simplicity Parenting is a great book. Creating a toy library is so helpful to young families.
@@janessatravis9526y child legitimately doesn't play with toys most days. Autism but the state can actually read flag you for getting rid of too many toys. Lol If that's not consumerism driven idk what is. We keep plenty because I grew up with way too many toys. But I always get stuck with organizing them even though we don't use them but maybe once or twice a year. 🙈 I have cute baskets and they are out of the way but it feels unsatisfactory.
I totally agree with you. I don't like people throwing Marie under the bus just because she has toddlers. There's a season to just let the mess go and that's fine. We can always go back to tidying later after this season is over. Great video.
I discovered the Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up after my first child and it was a game changer. I knew that I wanted to spend more time with my child instead of being overwhelmed by excess clothing and toys like I grew up seeing. Marie’s book was the blueprint for me and helped tremendously with staying tidy and I still fold using her method 8 years later. I never viewed her book as limiting but freeing. Take what you like and leave what you don’t. I’m glad she stated that being a parent changes thing for those who saw her style as not realistic. I don’t believe she has given tidying up entirely its just not at the top of her list.
I'm so happy Teatime with Jennifer is back! It's one of my favorite series. Your perspective on priorities changing with the seasons of life is insightful! Thank you for sharing!
I love that you chose this as a topic, because I really relate to what Marie Kondo has said. I have three children (ages 6yo and under) and it’s very difficult to maintain a tidy home. As soon as I clean a room, my children come in and make a mess. I try to organize their clothes, yet it takes them seconds to make the drawers a mess while searching for their favorite shirt. I love that Marie Kondo has been transparent about her current reality. ❤
I hear you!! I’m on to grandchildren now….while finishing up the youngest 3 of my 9…..and when they were all under one roof I found that keeping the go-somewhere clothing in a central closet while leaving play clothes in their space made life so much easier. Just do what’s easiest for you in this busiest season of your life.😊
U need to instruct your kids on folding their clothes & moving their toys. My mother made me do this. She had a temper and demanded strict organization ! I forgot to put a tea cup in the sink one time that I left on the kitchen table overnight, and got an earful of her hollering at me ! 🙄😆
I keep my kids clothes in bins under a bed. They each have one bin (ages 3 and 6) and I don’t fold their clothes. Just throw everything in their bin and it doesn’t matter when they make a mess of it. The only thing I might start keeping separate is one nice outfit for church so that they have at least one pair of pants with no holes in the knees that they can’t accidentally wear at home to play. I only keep the current season’s clothes out and they only have enough to last 5-6 days before washing.
@@SweetPetunia897 Scrape pants knees, got holes, then got beaten up for this ! Later I would get a new pair and warned to be extremely careful which I was, but maybe eight months to a year later I recall tripping and ripping those also. Then, after coming home I was beaten exceptionally hard for that incident. Mother was a perfectionist for order and care of stuff ! 😆 🤪
@@SweetChicagoGator this is not realistic. Sounds like your mom had issues to scream about a teacup. That does not sound like a happy childhood to me. My mom wanted us to play and make messes, that is what kids do.
I bet Marie Kondo’s home is a lot easier to clean when she gets the chance to do it. She has a place for everything and minimal clutter that’s half the battle! She’s got her priorities right for the stage she’s in right now.❤❤
Ugh, I agree with you 100% Jennifer about the Marie Kondo story. The media missed the point of the whole thing!! The point is not to be perfect in the act of keeping home “tidy”, but to figure out what’s important to YOU and do that in keeping your life tidy and in order. For me, there were certain things I needed done everyday when my kids were really little. These few things kept me feeling sane when I tripped over the baby bouncer or another ride on toy. Listening to the “talking heads” you’d think Marie Kondo is living in squalor these days!! I doubt it 😆
The fact that life changes constantly is something we can count on and it’s admirable that she was willing to address this after bringing to light what her original mission was. Our focus will change if we are authentically living. You brought this out well in your discussion. Having children will most definitely change our lives and our focus. It causes one to prioritize in a more meaningful way which before that shift, we are unable to comprehend fully. She will go back to tidying the way she loves and finds calming at the proper time, today she is embracing her everyday lifestyle and that will be such a blessing to her. She has taught all mothers with her example, regardless of her notoriety, how to extend grace to herself and others. Thank you for the thoughtful discussion, Jennifer🌹
Absolutely, I agree, it’s about embracing and appreciating the different seasons of our lives, that will bring us most peace and joy 😀. So change and adapting is not to be considered failure.
Hmm. Somehow I think that what Marie considers "messy" is substantially different from quite a few American homes. I follow several Asian moms on youtube. No matter the ages or numbers of children, their homes are spotless, meals are homemade, hot, and on time, lunches are packed beautifully, beds are dressed, laundry done, as well as all the household errands and chores. Such an extraordinary and diligent culture(s), both Japan and South Korea. I'm certain Marie is no different than her peers. She's a minimalist as well, so an overly adorned home would not be her style. Admire Marie greatly.
I appreciate your compassionate focus on Marie Kondo’s growth and learning. In order for people to learn and grow to their fullest potential it’s important to be able to come to new understanding and sometimes make mistakes without being subject to the shame and blame attitude that is so prevalent in our culture.
Last summer my husband and I became "empty-nesters". This was more difficult for me than I thought it would be, having been a stay-at-home mom. Everyone says it goes quickly, and it does! Embrace your time with your children at home and don't stress about being perfect. When I recall my cherished memories, I don't remember if the house was clean that day or not! I remember the connection, the laughing, their faces and smiles!
Is not easy but they come to visit often and I make sure that we spend quality time, making their favorite dishes and just hanging out , talking and enjoying one another’s company. The last thing on my mind is the perfect tidy home.
@@elizabethwilk9615 same here Elizabeth they are so fun and funny to talk to now. Such a different dynamic than when they were elementary school age or tweens
What is more important? Being a devoted wife and helpmeet and an excellent mother or being too overly focused on a spotless house? There are times in life that your house can be spotless and there are other times of life where you just need to accept and embrace that people live there and showing those people love until such a time as they grow up and move out is worth far more than organized drawers and pantry
Oh, good, so glad Teatime is back! Am enjoying a cup of peppermint tea as I watch this. About Marie Kondo, I read her books some years ago and they really motivated me to start decluttering, a practice I still keep doing today, and I enjoy it. I live alone and am retired now, but still things tend to accumulate almost before you realize it. Now, I was never as strict as what I read in her books, but it helped me look at my surroundings and life in a new way. It did bring me joy. I think her critics need to calm down and give her some grace. Life is not static and we all grow and learn to adapt to our current circumstances, whatever they may be. I’m happy to hear that she is putting her children’s needs first and is enjoying her family. I think with some willingness to experiment with various methods of housekeeping and homemaking, with love, care and some thoughtful planning, we can find that “sweet spot” that works for us and our families. I like to think of it as finding a balance between ‘perfection’ and ‘pigsty’! 🙂 Thank you for another thoughtful video, Jennifer. Have a lovely day!
Good commentary. It's interesting to think more deeply about why we (as a society) mock people or react poorly when they dare to admit they've changed.
I am pregnant with our third child and during my first trimester I was too exhausted to try and keep my home tidy. I will confess it was difficult but I had to give myself grace and take care of myself. Now I am in my second trimester and I have some time to clean more. I know once the baby is here I’ll just be focused on homeschooling my older children, rest and nourishing my family. The cleaning and organizing will have to wait.
When my only child was little, I did basic cleaning. Even though she was an only child, she had friends with siblings. It was like having more children. So here's what I learned: Do basic cleaning. Keep order with small tidying up. Prioritize what is important. You have stacks of laundry and vacuuming that need to be done. Plus, little ones are running around. Laundry needs to be done. If you can squeeze in vacuuming, great. If not today, then tomorrow. Have your Littles be responsible for keeping their rooms tidy. They get a toy out, and they put it back or aside when their done. If you have more than one child or they have friends, then have them help pull out toys and return toys to their place. Keeping a home clean should always be important. It should be a shared effort. Now that my daughter is 21, she takes care of her room and helps keep the rest of the home tidy.
I 100% support Marie for your revised view of organization. I am a mom of 7 whom I homeschooled, so we were all at home for the day. Our 5 boys could really "populate" the room with cars and Brio tracks. However, we had something called the "5:00 Bell". This was when all playing stopped and we all tidied up the house. I had a rattan basket that all the cars/trucks went into under an entertainment center with a door. Easy. All the brio tracks went into an former doll suitcase. Close it up, in the closet, done. I had a chore chart and each week had a different helper in the kitchen with me and others set the table. We usually sat down to eat at 6 or 6:30 pm. It wasn't Marie tidy, but it recreated peace in our environment. Hope this helps someone. 😄
We used to have a pastor at church who often said "know the season you're in and respond appropriately." I find that helps me let go of any "guilt" about things I'm not doing, because I'm choosing to give preference to what I need in this season. And there are a couple of things I've learned over 32 years of marriage and raising 3 children to young adulthood (which has included seasons of more-than-enough and then scant income; plenty of time and then combining full-time study, parenting and working): 1. You can't have it all, all at the same time. 2. You can't do everything.
This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I have 3 children who are older (my youngest will be 7 soon) and don’t need me very much so I was able to keep everything tidy. But I recently had my 4th baby in January and with a newborn, tidying often is something I had to let go of. It was stressful for me at first but now I’m beginning to feel ok about it. I want to soak up as much little baby time as I can because I know it goes by so fast.
Yes!! I had to become comfortable with a little mess. I'll never forget my 3 year old at the time say "you're always cleaning". Truly made me feel awful and had to reprioritize.
Hopping in the boat with you ladies! 😂 When my fourth and fifth babies (twins) got to be about four years old, I started to feel like I was getting a good handle on my house and routines again, and then - surprise! - baby number six! 🤍 I do what I can and enlist the children’s help, but I have to let so many things go in this season while I nurse and snuggle my baby. I’m grateful to have read Marie Kondo’s first book eight years ago, (simultaneously with Lessons From Madame Chic! 😉) because decluttering has been a key to keeping our home somewhat manageable. 😊
People change they age, and having kids definitely was the biggest change for me as well, and I only have one at the moment. I personally believe she hasn't changed her value for it was always "surround yourself with what brings you joy", and never "clean up or you are wrong." Her books are still my motivation.
Hindsight is certainly 20/20. My kids are now 22, 22, and 19. The early years were incredibly challenging; moreso, given that I am a organized person who thrives on routine. I've always needed some form of "minimalism" to create boundaries for the physical clutter that comes with the wild and joyous season of parenting. It was and is my sanity. It's interesting that decluttering is so popular. Its a result of overconsumption, isn't it? I only ever felt the chaos of parenting when I fell into the trap of buying too many things. It was never the actual cleaning that overwhelmed me. It wasn't the activity or noise. It was always the 50 plants or the 100 knickknacks or the 10 area rugs or the 20 decorative pillows or the 6 sets of table settings. Once I realized that my love of beautiful things was just not meant for that season of life, I began to focus on parenting more. I accepted the season. Now I'm in the next season. The "kids sort of still live here season". I'm accepting it; freedoms and limitations and all. Sort of. That's the fun part. We get to make mistakes. Course correct. Then, declutter and try again. ♥️🇨🇦
When my eldest was 3, I was fortunate to be introduced to Montessori philosophy & education and I embraced it wholeheartedly. My children learnt that everything had a place and they learnt, at a very young age, to tidy up after they finished an activity. They learnt how to wash dishes at 2 years of age, and to prepare what they needed to do a specific activity. I had to prepare the environment that assisted them with this (equipment had to be age appropriate!) and it worked beautifully. As teenagers, my son was still tidy and organized but my daughter...oh boy!! What happened??!! I learnt that it was better for me to simply shut her bedroom door and go in there once a month to give it a clean out! They have both, now, left home. They are both tidy at home, are happy to leave a bit of a mess in the sink if they're tired, but to clean in the morning. The key is to have a place for everything that flows in your 'workspace'. When there is no dedicated space for something, we don't know what to do with it and so it just stays 'on the kitchen bench'! As an "empty nester', my home is neat, clean and tidy and I regularly go through my 'stuff' and 'release' what isn't working for me. I am conscious of the 'Swedish Death Cleaning' concept now and, having downsized, I am much more comfortable to let go (and donate - often to the kids or their friends!) of what I no longer need. I'm so pleased that Marie Kondo has recognised that her life has changed....after all, Life IS change!
Marie also mentioned that she was a professional tidier, which contributed to her pressure & ability to be tidy all the time. Whether we have children or not, most of us have other occupations that don’t focus on being tidy. & many of us without children still have to work & can’t be home long enough to take care of our homes. It’s either pay my bills or take a day off, with no one to help take care of errands, chores, meals.
The thing I like about loving to tidy up, when you have children as much as the house is a mess, it is never out of control. I now have a “controlled mess”😂. My tidying up now is more of a service of love towards my family, the things that make our living a quality experience… allowing spaces of expression for each member.
I remember reading her book and then freaking out as I was trying to declutter the house and keep things tidy. My husband had to say to me “this is normal, everyone with little kids has a messy house”. Our neighbor has kids the same age as ours and she is always yelling at the kids to clean up, why did you make a mess again, etc. I am happy my kids are playing, its better than them staring at a tablet for hours.
Dear Jennifer so happy to see this series back. The 3 articles on dress would be fun to add to tea time. I’m looking forward to seeing your ideas for your Spring 10 item wardrobe too 🌷
I love "Tea Time With Jennifer"!! I knew nothing of Marie K's new book, but I know I want to read it since learning about it. From what you said, it sounds as if Marie is being authentic about her season in life, not contradicting her statement that it is life changing to tidy up! She helped so many people, myself included, to lift the burden of stuff from their shoulders. I am thankful she is enjoying her children. I have made mini cheesecakes before, but not with honey. Thank you for sharing this recipe. I hope your father is continuing to progress in his healing process. Blessings, Paula
As someone in the last third of my life, I can testify that everyone who reaches 40, hopefully, figures out what is important and housework is low on the list. Homemaking, however, is high on the list. There is a difference and finding what that is and keeping the balance between the two is vital for a happy home. I very much enjoy your content.
I think big news outlets are taking her comments out of context. "Marie Kondo has given up on tydying" is about as believable as "Jennifer L Scott has given up on elegance". It's clear from her remarks that she has just adjusted her expectations to be more realistic, having 3 children. She just came out with a new book about tidying, I don't buy for a second she has given it up. As for her house being "messy", her messy is probably what the average American would consider pretty clean.
I feel like I'm commenting on your videos more than ever lately but I love that you talked about this because I have often wondered how you did life with young children and would love to hear more about it. I also found Marie's comments to be a change in perspective rather than giving up and was happy for her to have found that freedom and it was reassuring, as mom with toddlers who tries to provide a nice environment for them to grow up in but that is far from perfect, that even Marie Kondo thinks it's ok.
My favorite gift postpartum was a biweekly cleaning service! I have a 13 month old boy and 4 week old newborn girl. I am lucky my personality loves lists and keeps a generally calm demeanor however I’ve learned to let go on the nights the “General tidy” doesn’t happen before bed. It is important to remind ourselves while we can re-prioritize we deserve to uphold a certain standard.
Blessings and love from Chile, thank you fro your thoughts, I only heard people commenting on the Marie Kondo giving up of tyding. It is interesting what we think about it and how we relate to the success of someone who really change the world through inspiration and courage. Why we have the need of letting people down and be happy about when suppously go down? I am grateful that you do a point about it in your experience. Personally I read and implemented the Konmari Method when I was with my 2 little children, and even when it was hard and intense, was the best experience to put my mind in a different way of thinking and relating to organization and living life in a simple way. I really love the concept of honor things, and blessed them for their job in our lives. I remember hating my house in that period of time, and lived a very deep transformation and gratefulnness through the Konmari way. Love your tea time and connecting with your thoughts. Hope your family is healing and having all the support that needs. Big Hugs!
I found MK while I had my first daughter who was 2.5 yo at the time. I still took away from her book many wonderful concepts that I still implement now with a second child since then, with my babies now 8 and 5. Prior to kids, I could easily keep a tidy home while working full time. Now, I have dropped the expectation of perfection and get to everything as I can in time. I understand I will get more time back as the kids grow but for now their happiness far outweighs my need for a perfect house.
So happy to see Teatime With Jennifer return! Really enjoyed it! I saw a photo yesterday of Princess Catherine at the BAFTAS and I always wonder what your take would be on her outfits. Thank you Jennifer!! ☕️💕
When your kids are small, it is a very chaotic, busy season of life.. Being perfectionist about tidying during that season is an exercise in futility! Embrace the chaos, enjoy your little ones while you can. Before you know it, you'll be an empty nester, and the house will stay clean all the time. ❤
Very encouraging. Right now I'm working on a clean kitchen at the end of every day because it makes the next day possible. And training my kids to try and keep the toys in the toy area, because I need to not be tripping on them all day. But while I do that, my focus needs to be enjoying them and this precious time we won't get back.
Hi Jennifer, I've been enjoying your videos for a long time. i have a suggestion for a video topic,- The art of coversation. it is a skill that many people struggle with. Thanks!
Dearest Jennifer, You are a beautiful shining light of style and elegance in an often dark and casual world. Thank you for always maintaining your worthwhile standards and sharing these with us. ❤
I live in Scotland, and the houses are small and have hardly any storage. I have learned to let go of alot of things. There's still plenty of stuffs around, and it's constantly an ongoing project to try to downsize these things. Unfortunately I'm a crafter, a penpaller and a reader..so this is one of the reasons the house feels a little busy sometimes. Always working on getting better at keeping house.
Wow do I need this! I am overwhelmed by all the things I am expected to do. It is really hard to keep calm and stay classy when I am so ignorant and overloaded with so many things like computer program issues and other chores. I feel like I’ve been thrown under the bus because there is a lot to keep on top of and i keep lists. I feel so alone and discouraged. my husband is like a child and won’t help even a little. How do I even ask for help? Who do I ask for help?
Thank you for correctly quoting Maria Kondo. It does show wisdom on her part to put her kids as priority. Her house is still probably tidier than most of ours, but she doesn't get upset by the mess of kid toys.
I love that Marie Kondo came out and said this! I read her book before I had children as well, and now I have three (ages 4, 2, and 10 mo). Aside from how to fold my socks, I felt that the biggest takeaway (even then) was that decluttering your home was to make space for you to live your life unhindered by the stress of "stuff", to enjoy what was beautiful, and prioritize what was important. My children, my family are what are most important, and my job is to create a home FOR them! Decluttering for me is not about having a perfectly tidy, company-ready space at all times - how boring! It's about having space to be together, have tea, play, even make messes! Maybe we need to value our children more than we value the appearance of our home :) And, as you said, there will be plenty of time in life for perfect tidiness! Pull up some kitchen chairs and bake a cake!
I so appreciate you bringing this topic up. I have 3 young kids aged 3, 1, and 1 years old. When I read the articles on Marie Kondo loosening up on tidying it was such a relief - none of us need to have it all together! I look up to her and I love that she was willing to share her personal journey of prioritizing her family over cleaning at this time in her life 🤍
When my daughter was a toddler I was so stressed with working full-time and feeling that I was failing keeping up my home. A wonderful older woman told me to focus on making memories with my daughter and husband as there will be plenty of time later to fuss about the house. She said that was her biggest regret when she was a young mother with 3 kids. Said she was so worried about keeping her home perfect that she felt she missed many opportunities to just play with her children. Best advice EVER! My daughter is now a successful and independent 23 year old. She's close with both me and her daddy although she lives very far from us. I strongly believe by us prioritizing family time and not worrying so much about making the house perfect, helped her to make better decisions about what's truly important. Now I have lots more time to focus on the actual house. And yes, I'm also a huge Marie Kondo and Swedish death cleaning fan!
Here’s a tip to make cookie crumbs real quick. Put them in a zip top plastic bag and just roll over them with a rolling pin. Great topic today and love tea time with you❤.
Excellent video!! Yes priorities change according to your stage in life. My daughter is in college now and I have a lot of time to clean and tidy up but when she was little even though of course I cleaned and tidy up what it was more important was to let her play and make memories!! No regrets we just have to adjust to life.
Its a natural sequence of events as we age and go through the stages and circumstances of our lives. Our priorities change in a variety of ways. There should be no judgements. Great video, thankyou!! 💗
presently bouncing my third in the carrier, praying the 2 year old stays asleep and that the 4 year old will close his mouth for "quiet time." all home all the time. and yes there are quite a few messes about but that is probably the biggest way I've actually grown as a mother. I can let somethings go now. I used to think that was the downfall or the "giving up" in motherhood.
Thank you for this lovely, sympathetic take on Marie Kondo's adjustments to where her life is now. The time when I had 4 under 6 was definitely the hardest as far as housework goes. Things are much better now, partly because I've learned to say "Children need to be able to play!" We pick up the worst of the mess a couple times a day and then in the evening, they are to pick up the living room "the way Mama likes it". Then I can enjoy a clean living room for at least a little while each day! (Flylady system also helped tremendously.) I think it's a sign of maturity to be able to change with your life circumstances.
I’m an empty nester and retired from a fulfilling, but demanding career that I put in high gear to help pay for the kids’ college. It’s been so fun to be a homemaker again. To come home to a house that looks the same as I left it. Everything has a season. The decluttering season eventually returns.
This video came at such perfect time. I decided to have a proper tea break (proper, because I will sit down and enjoy it, not leave it in the kitchen and forget about it). What a lovely way to spend that time. Thank you, Jennifer! P.S. That bag is so gorgeous! I’m now tempted to treat myself…☺️
Thank you for the recipe which has, correction- "no table sugar"- in it. Honey is very high in natural sugar which will definitely raise blood glucose levels. I'm a type 1 diabetic and would not be able to have these and just want to pass that onto others who may not be as knowledgeable.
Thanks for sharing about her new book! I'm in a new place in life and needed this Marie boost. I went and downloaded audio book before finishing your video. Also funny thing, I'm learning about making vinegar boosted my feelings about right place right time. Enjoyed her comments about people now having time for "homesteading" activities vs convenience because tidying allows time to do things that bring joy.
Beautiful video, Jennifer, I love sharing teatime with you! I believe the mystery rose that you mentioned in your last two videos is called Secret Hybrid Tea Rose. I have one in my garden too, and the fragrance is spectacular. I just finished reading the Marie's second book that you mentioned today, and it is the perfect extension to her first book. Her philosophy about order is timeless and gracious, and is a buildable skill that naturally flexes through all stages of life. I'm so grateful that you introduced me to this wonderful author through your lovely channel. Wishing you many more blooms in your rose garden!
I have come to the place where I have seen many trends come and go. I jumped on my share of them! What I do now is if I'm interested in something I take from it what serves me and leave the rest full knowing that the exact opposite trend will show up at some point and be just as convincing as the previous one was.
Just wanted to say, thank you, Jennifer! For just sharing with us, such a breath of fresh air! I love listening and watching you. Bisous, from Dakar, Senegal!
I have always said/felt this when it came to the konmari method. Less is more when you feel overwhelmed. This applies to everything. With little children, it is far easier to have less "things" to tidy and fuss with and to prioritize the basics. However... As we mature and settle in to motherhood and as our children grow, we can and should add things and let go of routines as life allows and pushes us to do so. When my littles were little, 4 sets of dishes, 7 days worth of clothing for each of us was far easier to manage for me. But now i can handle the extra clothing and diahes and things because they can help out and thats good. Its growing up really.
What a wonderful topic, Jennifer! My home is nowhere close to what I would love, AND I am loving it. I am not at peace but at the same time my priority now is spending time with my kid. Slowly, I am working towards a chic home. I grew up elegantly, however I remember my mom being most of the time overwhelmed (4 kids). I choose to let slide a lot...I want to remember the cuddles, laughs and talks with my son and I want him to have a happy place in his memory.
I appreciate Marie’s thoughts on letting go of items that do not serve us especially gifts. Three children- three years old and under was busy but not especially challenging because I had a very tight budget and we didn’t have money for an abundance of clothes, toys or anything. 😅 Now 6 full grown children in a small home keeps the decluttering always essential; I think hard before purchasing something knowing I need a place for it. Thanks for the lovely tea time, Jennifer; enjoyed a matcha tea almond milk latte while watching. Julie 🌷
It is important to recognize and respect the season of life we are in. Jennifer, I love your channel! I always feel so good after watching your videos. I really like your videos about elevated thinking and behaving. Those inspire me. Inspirational tips on being classy and elegant. I also enjoy your homemaking videos. All are very inspiring.
🤗💐 nice video, Jennifer.....I'm almost 65..I think younger, of course but I don't look younger....I married into motherhood to a precious 3 yr old daughter, at 25,... 2.5 yrs later I birthed our only son...those yrs have traveled by...you're a sensible, beautiful mother...thank you for your inspiration to many...our Great God's continued Blessings!, on your visions, goals, and endeavors.
Anyone who laughs at Marie Kondo for changing her mind and saying that, “she has kids so of course she’s not cleaning anymore” is missing the point. If anything, Marie’s openness and vulnerability with her audience is demonstrating that it is healthy to readjust your patterns for the season of life in which you currently live.
Marie Kondo came into my life at the perfect season. I was newly retired and had the time to weed through my things. After using her method of folding, I will never go back. Thank you for treating her revelations about motherhood with such compassion.
Another great book is Home Therapy by Anita Yokota. She is a interior designer and a LMFT. It is really a wonderful book on organization. I did like Marie Kondo's new book.
Hi! Love your videos, so peacefull and calm. I made those cupcake-cheescakes some time ago and it's a lovely idea, you can even put them in the freezer to eat them at another time. About house maintenance, it is difficult, even more after children come but time passes, children grow and it should be easier. It is hard to find time for it, to motivate yourself and the members of the family about the importance of helping out, beacause you shouldn't be alone with it. Stay classy and inspiring! sending good vibes from Romania
I’ve enjoyed your tea time videos. I think it’s great that Maria has come out with the new book. I’m on the side of having grown children and I’m enjoying organising more again. For me though, it’s more about having a lot less and then tidying is so much easier. Wish I knew this way back when
Thank you for the section on Marie Kondo. I’ve just tracked it down in my local library. This resonated with me on the cusp of retirement years and making my home and lifestyle part of my physical and mental health.
I am so glad you brought back "tea time"! I love your blouse and it's so fitting for TT. I still like Marie Condo and I consider this an evolution for her. She could have chosen to say nothing, but she wanted to share how her thoughts have changed on this subject. My husband is from Ukraine and I love the desserts my MIL makes. I purchased sour cherries from an online Ukrainian store and I add them to the top of cheesecakes. The cherries are a little tart, but they are not sour. I then serve with a bit of whipped cream.
I love teatime with Jennifer. I love Marie Kondo but we all have to change and adapt with to our lives. I’m glad that she is realistic about life! Loved meeting a new designer. Thanks for this video. It is wonderful how you keep adding new segments. I always look forward to to your videos and you always inspire me!❤️
I have a 4 year old and it's hard to keep it tidy. I have a daily schedule (monday - kitchen, tuesday - bathroom), etc. and that has helped me a lot to just focus on one room per day so it's not so overwhelming.
I have come to peace with lowering my tidying expectations to focus on what’s important spending time with my 5 and 8 year old. Love the mini cheese cakes. I can wait to make them.
I love that Marie didn't pretend she still can keep all the balls in the air. My first born and second born are 9 years apart and indeed the mess and clutter starts to clear up around 7 or 8 and the kids are so much more helpful at that point. The younger stages make it so hard to put that tidying pressure on our shoulders. There will be a time to return to clutter-free when those stages pass.
yum just made the mini cheese cakes today when I got home from work! enjoying them with some creamy earl grey! thank you for the lovely video and recipe!
The cheesecake recipe looks and sounds so delicious! I might try it this weekend. We have a sour cherry tree and I freeze the cherries to make pie filling when I make a crostata .
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I was not a good housekeeper when my children were babies, toddlers, and teens. It was rarely “company ready” unless I knew a week in advance company was coming. All that changed on my 37th birthday. I came home from work (I worked as a sales representative and did not have 8-5 hours) and my husband was preparing supper, bless his heart! He told me my parents were on there way over. I was upset by this as my house was a mess! He told me they were coming to spend time with me on my birthday. They were coming to see Me, the daughter they loved and adored, not my house or to judge my housekeeping. We had a wonderful evening! The next day I was working out of town, and this was before cell phones. My dad had a heart attack and died before anyone could reach me. I am forever grateful to my husband for giving me that last evening with my dad.
Kudos to Marie Kondo for knowing her priorities! May others find their joy and know their priorities, too ♥️
Wow 💙
This resonates with me so much. I’m in a very difficult stage in my life. Change is slow and I recognize it’s progress nonetheless, but I’m terrified this will occur with me. It’s like a constant anxiety and fear
♥️🙏 Thank you. I keep some family arms-length due to the mess, even though some of them have seen it and not judged at all. My mom was a true hoarder and we would just rush-clean the day before people came over. Which I hated, but I still haven't figured out a good way to maintain. I homeschool my special needs child, and have health issues that drain time and energy and it piles up fast. But the more we work twords minimalism it's been really making us happy. It's still SO hard to just get rid of things, like I probably should be. But work-in-progress. I appreciate the inspiration of remembering the relationships trump temporary embarrassment.
@@ari3lz3pp this is me too
Such a heart touching story😭
For some reason, people think that authors don't change as people. It's like, if you write a book about growing orange trees and then decide to grow cucumbers 5 years later, people say you're being a hypocrite and your orange growing system doesn't work. When actually, you're just tired of oranges. 😂 Authors are like anybody; they shouldn't have to be stagnant in life just because they wrote a book.
I feel so seen, haha! Thank you for saying this. ✨
Authors changed the most because they're the most reflective!
Proverbs 14:4 where there are no oxen, the Manger is clean, but an abundant harvest comes through the strength of oxen.
I also think there’s a huge difference between temporary mess and clutter. I think decluttering is a huge support for parenting and makes temporary mess less stressful because it is so easy to tidy up when you have more space.
Excellent point.
That is a brilliant observation.
Yes! Absolutely!
I totally agree with this comment! Her home is already decluttered. The daily messes are easily tidied when there is less to maintain. I tidied my home with her method after the birth of my third child and it truly was life changing, not just in making our home easier to maintain, but bringing focus to what brought us joy. I attended her first workshop in Manhattan 7 years ago. At the time she did not have children and some of the professional organizers were a bit skeptical of her methods involving children. Because of this, when my sister and I started helping others curate their spaces we created a bit of a hybrid between her method by category and the Simplicity Parenting method. Simplicity Parenting is a great book. Creating a toy library is so helpful to young families.
@@janessatravis9526y child legitimately doesn't play with toys most days. Autism but the state can actually read flag you for getting rid of too many toys. Lol If that's not consumerism driven idk what is. We keep plenty because I grew up with way too many toys. But I always get stuck with organizing them even though we don't use them but maybe once or twice a year. 🙈 I have cute baskets and they are out of the way but it feels unsatisfactory.
Severely limiting the amount of inventory you have to manage in your home is my strong recommendation for being able to tidy up quickly.
I totally agree with you. I don't like people throwing Marie under the bus just because she has toddlers. There's a season to just let the mess go and that's fine. We can always go back to tidying later after this season is over. Great video.
I discovered the Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up after my first child and it was a game changer. I knew that I wanted to spend more time with my child instead of being overwhelmed by excess clothing and toys like I grew up seeing. Marie’s book was the blueprint for me and helped tremendously with staying tidy and I still fold using her method 8 years later. I never viewed her book as limiting but freeing. Take what you like and leave what you don’t. I’m glad she stated that being a parent changes thing for those who saw her style as not realistic. I don’t believe she has given tidying up entirely its just not at the top of her list.
I'm so happy Teatime with Jennifer is back! It's one of my favorite series. Your perspective on priorities changing with the seasons of life is insightful! Thank you for sharing!
I am a widow living alone in a small condo, and I am constantly picking up, putting things away, clearing and decluttering!! It’s ongoing!! ❤🥰
Unhinge your clutter pack rat mentality !! I have been swamped there also ! 🥶
I love that you chose this as a topic, because I really relate to what Marie Kondo has said. I have three children (ages 6yo and under) and it’s very difficult to maintain a tidy home. As soon as I clean a room, my children come in and make a mess. I try to organize their clothes, yet it takes them seconds to make the drawers a mess while searching for their favorite shirt. I love that Marie Kondo has been transparent about her current reality. ❤
I hear you!! I’m on to grandchildren now….while finishing up the youngest 3 of my 9…..and when they were all under one roof I found that keeping the go-somewhere clothing in a central closet while leaving play clothes in their space made life so much easier. Just do what’s easiest for you in this busiest season of your life.😊
U need to instruct your kids on folding their clothes & moving their toys. My mother made me do this. She had a temper and demanded strict organization ! I forgot to put a tea cup in the sink one time that I left on the kitchen table overnight, and got an earful of her hollering at me ! 🙄😆
I keep my kids clothes in bins under a bed. They each have one bin (ages 3 and 6) and I don’t fold their clothes. Just throw everything in their bin and it doesn’t matter when they make a mess of it. The only thing I might start keeping separate is one nice outfit for church so that they have at least one pair of pants with no holes in the knees that they can’t accidentally wear at home to play. I only keep the current season’s clothes out and they only have enough to last 5-6 days before washing.
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Scrape pants knees, got holes, then got beaten up for this ! Later I would get a new pair and warned to be extremely careful which I was, but maybe eight months to a year later I recall tripping and ripping those also. Then, after coming home I was beaten exceptionally hard for that incident. Mother was a perfectionist for order and care of stuff ! 😆 🤪
@@SweetChicagoGator this is not realistic. Sounds like your mom had issues to scream about a teacup. That does not sound like a happy childhood to me. My mom wanted us to play and make messes, that is what kids do.
I bet Marie Kondo’s home is a lot easier to clean when she gets the chance to do it. She has a place for everything and minimal clutter that’s half the battle! She’s got her priorities right for the stage she’s in right now.❤❤
Ugh, I agree with you 100% Jennifer about the Marie Kondo story. The media missed the point of the whole thing!! The point is not to be perfect in the act of keeping home “tidy”, but to figure out what’s important to YOU and do that in keeping your life tidy and in order. For me, there were certain things I needed done everyday when my kids were really little. These few things kept me feeling sane when I tripped over the baby bouncer or another ride on toy.
Listening to the “talking heads” you’d think Marie Kondo is living in squalor these days!! I doubt it 😆
Good for Marie, she sounds healthy in mind!
Absolutely ✨
The fact that life changes constantly is something we can count on and it’s admirable that she was willing to address this after bringing to light what her original mission was. Our focus will change if we are authentically living. You brought this out well in your discussion. Having children will most definitely change our lives and our focus. It causes one to prioritize in a more meaningful way which before that shift, we are unable to comprehend fully. She will go back to tidying the way she loves and finds calming at the proper time, today she is embracing her everyday lifestyle and that will be such a blessing to her. She has taught all mothers with her example, regardless of her notoriety, how to extend grace to herself and others. Thank you for the thoughtful discussion, Jennifer🌹
Absolutely, I agree, it’s about embracing and appreciating the different seasons of our lives, that will bring us most peace and joy 😀. So change and adapting is not to be considered failure.
Hi Nikki! So true. The focus often shifts but it is a natural process. Much love
Hmm. Somehow I think that what Marie considers "messy" is substantially different from quite a few American homes. I follow several Asian moms on youtube. No matter the ages or numbers of children, their homes are spotless, meals are homemade, hot, and on time, lunches are packed beautifully, beds are dressed, laundry done, as well as all the household errands and chores. Such an extraordinary and diligent culture(s), both Japan and South Korea. I'm certain Marie is no different than her peers. She's a minimalist as well, so an overly adorned home would not be her style. Admire Marie greatly.
I wonder if they’re full time homemakers or if they work outside of the home? I find it difficult to do both tbh
I appreciate your compassionate focus on Marie Kondo’s growth and learning. In order for people to learn and grow to their fullest potential it’s important to be able to come to new understanding and sometimes make mistakes without being subject to the shame and blame attitude that is so prevalent in our culture.
Last summer my husband and I became "empty-nesters". This was more difficult for me than I thought it would be, having been a stay-at-home mom. Everyone says it goes quickly, and it does! Embrace your time with your children at home and don't stress about being perfect. When I recall my cherished memories, I don't remember if the house was clean that day or not! I remember the connection, the laughing, their faces and smiles!
We just became empty nesters too, and there is a lot of grief involved. But what brings me joy is remembering life with my children!
Amen!
Is not easy but they come to visit often and I make sure that we spend quality time, making their favorite dishes and just hanging out , talking and enjoying one another’s company. The last thing on my mind is the perfect tidy home.
@@elizabethwilk9615 same here Elizabeth they are so fun and funny to talk to now. Such a different dynamic than when they were elementary school age or tweens
@@elizabethwilk9615 ALSO praise God They want to come home lol!!
What is more important? Being a devoted wife and helpmeet and an excellent mother or being too overly focused on a spotless house? There are times in life that your house can be spotless and there are other times of life where you just need to accept and embrace that people live there and showing those people love until such a time as they grow up and move out is worth far more than organized drawers and pantry
Oh, good, so glad Teatime is back! Am enjoying a cup of peppermint tea as I watch this. About Marie Kondo, I read her books some years ago and they really motivated me to start decluttering, a practice I still keep doing today, and I enjoy it. I live alone and am retired now, but still things tend to accumulate almost before you realize it. Now, I was never as strict as what I read in her books, but it helped me look at my surroundings and life in a new way. It did bring me joy. I think her critics need to calm down and give her some grace. Life is not static and we all grow and learn to adapt to our current circumstances, whatever they may be. I’m happy to hear that she is putting her children’s needs first and is enjoying her family. I think with some willingness to experiment with various methods of housekeeping and homemaking, with love, care and some thoughtful planning, we can find that “sweet spot” that works for us and our families. I like to think of it as finding a balance between ‘perfection’ and ‘pigsty’! 🙂 Thank you for another thoughtful video, Jennifer. Have a lovely day!
Good commentary. It's interesting to think more deeply about why we (as a society) mock people or react poorly when they dare to admit they've changed.
I am pregnant with our third child and during my first trimester I was too exhausted to try and keep my home tidy. I will confess it was difficult but I had to give myself grace and take care of myself. Now I am in my second trimester and I have some time to clean more. I know once the baby is here I’ll just be focused on homeschooling my older children, rest and nourishing my family. The cleaning and organizing will have to wait.
It's important to get help during that time if you can...
She also lived in a tiny apartment in Japan, rather than in an average large American home.
When my only child was little, I did basic cleaning. Even though she was an only child, she had friends with siblings. It was like having more children. So here's what I learned:
Do basic cleaning. Keep order with small tidying up.
Prioritize what is important. You have stacks of laundry and vacuuming that need to be done. Plus, little ones are running around. Laundry needs to be done. If you can squeeze in vacuuming, great. If not today, then tomorrow.
Have your Littles be responsible for keeping their rooms tidy. They get a toy out, and they put it back or aside when their done. If you have more than one child or they have friends, then have them help pull out toys and return toys to their place.
Keeping a home clean should always be important. It should be a shared effort.
Now that my daughter is 21, she takes care of her room and helps keep the rest of the home tidy.
I 100% support Marie for your revised view of organization. I am a mom of 7 whom I homeschooled, so we were all at home for the day. Our 5 boys could really "populate" the room with cars and Brio tracks. However, we had something called the "5:00 Bell". This was when all playing stopped and we all tidied up the house. I had a rattan basket that all the cars/trucks went into under an entertainment center with a door. Easy. All the brio tracks went into an former doll suitcase. Close it up, in the closet, done. I had a chore chart and each week had a different helper in the kitchen with me and others set the table. We usually sat down to eat at 6 or 6:30 pm. It wasn't Marie tidy, but it recreated peace in our environment. Hope this helps someone. 😄
We used to have a pastor at church who often said "know the season you're in and respond appropriately." I find that helps me let go of any "guilt" about things I'm not doing, because I'm choosing to give preference to what I need in this season.
And there are a couple of things I've learned over 32 years of marriage and raising 3 children to young adulthood (which has included seasons of more-than-enough and then scant income; plenty of time and then combining full-time study, parenting and working):
1. You can't have it all, all at the same time.
2. You can't do everything.
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This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I have 3 children who are older (my youngest will be 7 soon) and don’t need me very much so I was able to keep everything tidy. But I recently had my 4th baby in January and with a newborn, tidying often is something I had to let go of. It was stressful for me at first but now I’m beginning to feel ok about it. I want to soak up as much little baby time as I can because I know it goes by so fast.
Yes!! I had to become comfortable with a little mess. I'll never forget my 3 year old at the time say "you're always cleaning". Truly made me feel awful and had to reprioritize.
Hopping in the boat with you ladies! 😂 When my fourth and fifth babies (twins) got to be about four years old, I started to feel like I was getting a good handle on my house and routines again, and then - surprise! - baby number six! 🤍 I do what I can and enlist the children’s help, but I have to let so many things go in this season while I nurse and snuggle my baby. I’m grateful to have read Marie Kondo’s first book eight years ago, (simultaneously with Lessons From Madame Chic! 😉) because decluttering has been a key to keeping our home somewhat manageable. 😊
People change they age, and having kids definitely was the biggest change for me as well, and I only have one at the moment. I personally believe she hasn't changed her value for it was always "surround yourself with what brings you joy", and never "clean up or you are wrong." Her books are still my motivation.
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Hindsight is certainly 20/20. My kids are now 22, 22, and 19. The early years were incredibly challenging; moreso, given that I am a organized person who thrives on routine. I've always needed some form of "minimalism" to create boundaries for the physical clutter that comes with the wild and joyous season of parenting. It was and is my sanity.
It's interesting that decluttering is so popular. Its a result of overconsumption, isn't it? I only ever felt the chaos of parenting when I fell into the trap of buying too many things.
It was never the actual cleaning that overwhelmed me. It wasn't the activity or noise. It was always the 50 plants or the 100 knickknacks or the 10 area rugs or the 20 decorative pillows or the 6 sets of table settings.
Once I realized that my love of beautiful things was just not meant for that season of life, I began to focus on parenting more. I accepted the season.
Now I'm in the next season. The "kids sort of still live here season". I'm accepting it; freedoms and limitations and all. Sort of. That's the fun part. We get to make mistakes. Course correct. Then, declutter and try again.
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When my eldest was 3, I was fortunate to be introduced to Montessori philosophy & education and I embraced it wholeheartedly. My children learnt that everything had a place and they learnt, at a very young age, to tidy up after they finished an activity. They learnt how to wash dishes at 2 years of age, and to prepare what they needed to do a specific activity. I had to prepare the environment that assisted them with this (equipment had to be age appropriate!) and it worked beautifully. As teenagers, my son was still tidy and organized but my daughter...oh boy!! What happened??!! I learnt that it was better for me to simply shut her bedroom door and go in there once a month to give it a clean out! They have both, now, left home. They are both tidy at home, are happy to leave a bit of a mess in the sink if they're tired, but to clean in the morning. The key is to have a place for everything that flows in your 'workspace'. When there is no dedicated space for something, we don't know what to do with it and so it just stays 'on the kitchen bench'! As an "empty nester', my home is neat, clean and tidy and I regularly go through my 'stuff' and 'release' what isn't working for me. I am conscious of the 'Swedish Death Cleaning' concept now and, having downsized, I am much more comfortable to let go (and donate - often to the kids or their friends!) of what I no longer need. I'm so pleased that Marie Kondo has recognised that her life has changed....after all, Life IS change!
Marie also mentioned that she was a professional tidier, which contributed to her pressure & ability to be tidy all the time. Whether we have children or not, most of us have other occupations that don’t focus on being tidy. & many of us without children still have to work & can’t be home long enough to take care of our homes. It’s either pay my bills or take a day off, with no one to help take care of errands, chores, meals.
The thing I like about loving to tidy up, when you have children as much as the house is a mess, it is never out of control. I now have a “controlled mess”😂. My tidying up now is more of a service of love towards my family, the things that make our living a quality experience… allowing spaces of expression for each member.
This was actually beautiful
I remember reading her book and then freaking out as I was trying to declutter the house and keep things tidy. My husband had to say to me “this is normal, everyone with little kids has a messy house”. Our neighbor has kids the same age as ours and she is always yelling at the kids to clean up, why did you make a mess again, etc. I am happy my kids are playing, its better than them staring at a tablet for hours.
Dear Jennifer so happy to see this series back. The 3 articles on dress would be fun to add to tea time. I’m looking forward to seeing your ideas for your Spring 10 item wardrobe too 🌷
Me too!!
Yes! That's a great idea. Thank you
I love "Tea Time With Jennifer"!! I knew nothing of Marie K's new book, but I know I want to read it since learning about it. From what you said, it sounds as if Marie is being authentic about her season in life, not contradicting her statement that it is life changing to tidy up! She helped so many people, myself included, to lift the burden of stuff from their shoulders. I am thankful she is enjoying her children. I have made mini cheesecakes before, but not with honey. Thank you for sharing this recipe. I hope your father is continuing to progress in his healing process. Blessings, Paula
As someone in the last third of my life, I can testify that everyone who reaches 40, hopefully, figures out what is important and housework is low on the list. Homemaking, however, is high on the list. There is a difference and finding what that is and keeping the balance between the two is vital for a happy home. I very much enjoy your content.
I think big news outlets are taking her comments out of context. "Marie Kondo has given up on tydying" is about as believable as "Jennifer L Scott has given up on elegance". It's clear from her remarks that she has just adjusted her expectations to be more realistic, having 3 children. She just came out with a new book about tidying, I don't buy for a second she has given it up. As for her house being "messy", her messy is probably what the average American would consider pretty clean.
I feel like I'm commenting on your videos more than ever lately but I love that you talked about this because I have often wondered how you did life with young children and would love to hear more about it. I also found Marie's comments to be a change in perspective rather than giving up and was happy for her to have found that freedom and it was reassuring, as mom with toddlers who tries to provide a nice environment for them to grow up in but that is far from perfect, that even Marie Kondo thinks it's ok.
I would love to hear more from Jennifer about her experiences of having young children too!
I am drinking Jasmine Green Tea as well! Happy Monday, Jennifer. Thanks for the tea time.
My favorite gift postpartum was a biweekly cleaning service! I have a 13 month old boy and 4 week old newborn girl. I am lucky my personality loves lists and keeps a generally calm demeanor however I’ve learned to let go on the nights the “General tidy” doesn’t happen before bed. It is important to remind ourselves while we can re-prioritize we deserve to uphold a certain standard.
If you put in the melted butter first, you can use the same measuring cup for the honey; it will slide right off!
Your Victoria magazine made me feel so nostalgic.. my Mom & Grandma collected them,, & I loved looking through them as a child and teenager.. ❤
Blessings and love from Chile, thank you fro your thoughts, I only heard people commenting on the Marie Kondo giving up of tyding. It is interesting what we think about it and how we relate to the success of someone who really change the world through inspiration and courage. Why we have the need of letting people down and be happy about when suppously go down? I am grateful that you do a point about it in your experience. Personally I read and implemented the Konmari Method when I was with my 2 little children, and even when it was hard and intense, was the best experience to put my mind in a different way of thinking and relating to organization and living life in a simple way. I really love the concept of honor things, and blessed them for their job in our lives. I remember hating my house in that period of time, and lived a very deep transformation and gratefulnness through the Konmari way. Love your tea time and connecting with your thoughts. Hope your family is healing and having all the support that needs. Big Hugs!
I found MK while I had my first daughter who was 2.5 yo at the time. I still took away from her book many wonderful concepts that I still implement now with a second child since then, with my babies now 8 and 5. Prior to kids, I could easily keep a tidy home while working full time. Now, I have dropped the expectation of perfection and get to everything as I can in time. I understand I will get more time back as the kids grow but for now their happiness far outweighs my need for a perfect house.
So happy to see Teatime With Jennifer return! Really enjoyed it!
I saw a photo yesterday of Princess Catherine at the BAFTAS and I always wonder what your take would be on her outfits.
Thank you Jennifer!! ☕️💕
Yes, her gloves were very dramatic!
@@TheDailyConnoisseur and the earrings!
When your kids are small, it is a very chaotic, busy season of life.. Being perfectionist about tidying during that season is an exercise in futility! Embrace the chaos, enjoy your little ones while you can. Before you know it, you'll be an empty nester, and the house will stay clean all the time. ❤
Very encouraging. Right now I'm working on a clean kitchen at the end of every day because it makes the next day possible. And training my kids to try and keep the toys in the toy area, because I need to not be tripping on them all day. But while I do that, my focus needs to be enjoying them and this precious time we won't get back.
Hi Jennifer, I've been enjoying your videos for a long time. i have a suggestion for a video topic,- The art of coversation. it is a skill that many people struggle with. Thanks!
Dearest Jennifer, You are a beautiful shining light of style and elegance in an often dark and casual world. Thank you for always maintaining your worthwhile standards and sharing these with us. ❤
Thank you so much
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Dear Jennifer,
You are a gift to everyone whose lives you touch.
How to even begin to thank you?
I live in Scotland, and the houses are small and have hardly any storage. I have learned to let go of alot of things. There's still plenty of stuffs around, and it's constantly an ongoing project to try to downsize these things. Unfortunately I'm a crafter, a penpaller and a reader..so this is one of the reasons the house feels a little busy sometimes. Always working on getting better at keeping house.
Wow do I need this! I am overwhelmed by all the things I am expected to do. It is really hard to keep calm and stay classy when I am so ignorant and overloaded with so many things like computer program issues and other chores. I feel like I’ve been thrown under the bus because there is a lot to keep on top of and i keep lists. I feel so alone and discouraged. my husband is like a child and won’t help even a little. How do I even ask for help? Who do I ask for help?
Thank you for correctly quoting Maria Kondo. It does show wisdom on her part to put her kids as priority. Her house is still probably tidier than most of ours, but she doesn't get upset by the mess of kid toys.
I love that Marie Kondo came out and said this! I read her book before I had children as well, and now I have three (ages 4, 2, and 10 mo). Aside from how to fold my socks, I felt that the biggest takeaway (even then) was that decluttering your home was to make space for you to live your life unhindered by the stress of "stuff", to enjoy what was beautiful, and prioritize what was important. My children, my family are what are most important, and my job is to create a home FOR them! Decluttering for me is not about having a perfectly tidy, company-ready space at all times - how boring! It's about having space to be together, have tea, play, even make messes! Maybe we need to value our children more than we value the appearance of our home :) And, as you said, there will be plenty of time in life for perfect tidiness! Pull up some kitchen chairs and bake a cake!
I so appreciate you bringing this topic up. I have 3 young kids aged 3, 1, and 1 years old. When I read the articles on Marie Kondo loosening up on tidying it was such a relief - none of us need to have it all together! I look up to her and I love that she was willing to share her personal journey of prioritizing her family over cleaning at this time in her life 🤍
drinking tea with 2 amazing icons~ I love her transparency and I love yours too! yes, life has many different seasons
When my daughter was a toddler I was so stressed with working full-time and feeling that I was failing keeping up my home. A wonderful older woman told me to focus on making memories with my daughter and husband as there will be plenty of time later to fuss about the house. She said that was her biggest regret when she was a young mother with 3 kids. Said she was so worried about keeping her home perfect that she felt she missed many opportunities to just play with her children. Best advice EVER! My daughter is now a successful and independent 23 year old. She's close with both me and her daddy although she lives very far from us. I strongly believe by us prioritizing family time and not worrying so much about making the house perfect, helped her to make better decisions about what's truly important. Now I have lots more time to focus on the actual house. And yes, I'm also a huge Marie Kondo and Swedish death cleaning fan!
Here’s a tip to make cookie crumbs real quick. Put them in a zip top plastic bag and just roll over them with a rolling pin. Great topic today and love tea time with you❤.
Excellent video!! Yes priorities change according to your stage in life. My daughter is in college now and I have a lot of time to clean and tidy up but when she was little even though of course I cleaned and tidy up what it was more important was to let her play and make memories!! No regrets we just have to adjust to life.
Beautifully spoken Jennifer. I agree growth is good.🌿🌸
Its a natural sequence of events as we age and go through the stages and circumstances of our lives. Our priorities change in a variety of ways. There should be no judgements. Great video, thankyou!! 💗
presently bouncing my third in the carrier, praying the 2 year old stays asleep and that the 4 year old will close his mouth for "quiet time." all home all the time. and yes there are quite a few messes about but that is probably the biggest way I've actually grown as a mother. I can let somethings go now. I used to think that was the downfall or the "giving up" in motherhood.
Thank you for this lovely, sympathetic take on Marie Kondo's adjustments to where her life is now. The time when I had 4 under 6 was definitely the hardest as far as housework goes. Things are much better now, partly because I've learned to say "Children need to be able to play!" We pick up the worst of the mess a couple times a day and then in the evening, they are to pick up the living room "the way Mama likes it". Then I can enjoy a clean living room for at least a little while each day! (Flylady system also helped tremendously.) I think it's a sign of maturity to be able to change with your life circumstances.
I’m an empty nester and retired from a fulfilling, but demanding career that I put in high gear to help pay for the kids’ college. It’s been so fun to be a homemaker again. To come home to a house that looks the same as I left it. Everything has a season. The decluttering season eventually returns.
Good for Marie for knowing what is most important!! ❤
This video came at such perfect time. I decided to have a proper tea break (proper, because I will sit down and enjoy it, not leave it in the kitchen and forget about it). What a lovely way to spend that time. Thank you, Jennifer!
P.S. That bag is so gorgeous! I’m now tempted to treat myself…☺️
Thank you for the recipe which has, correction- "no table sugar"- in it. Honey is very high in natural sugar which will definitely raise blood glucose levels. I'm a type 1 diabetic and would not be able to have these and just want to pass that onto others who may not be as knowledgeable.
Thanks for sharing about her new book! I'm in a new place in life and needed this Marie boost. I went and downloaded audio book before finishing your video. Also funny thing, I'm learning about making vinegar boosted my feelings about right place right time. Enjoyed her comments about people now having time for "homesteading" activities vs convenience because tidying allows time to do things that bring joy.
Beautiful video, Jennifer, I love sharing teatime with you! I believe the mystery rose that you mentioned in your last two videos is called Secret Hybrid Tea Rose. I have one in my garden too, and the fragrance is spectacular. I just finished reading the Marie's second book that you mentioned today, and it is the perfect extension to her first book. Her philosophy about order is timeless and gracious, and is a buildable skill that naturally flexes through all stages of life. I'm so grateful that you introduced me to this wonderful author through your lovely channel. Wishing you many more blooms in your rose garden!
Ah, thank you for letting me know about the rose. I am going to look it up!
I am so glad you brought back Tea Time with Jennifer!! So excited!!
I have come to the place where I have seen many trends come and go. I jumped on my share of them! What I do now is if I'm interested in something I take from it what serves me and leave the rest full knowing that the exact opposite trend will show up at some point and be just as convincing as the previous one was.
Just wanted to say, thank you, Jennifer! For just sharing with us, such a breath of fresh air! I love listening and watching you. Bisous, from Dakar, Senegal!
Thank you for watching! ✨
I have always said/felt this when it came to the konmari method. Less is more when you feel overwhelmed. This applies to everything. With little children, it is far easier to have less "things" to tidy and fuss with and to prioritize the basics. However... As we mature and settle in to motherhood and as our children grow, we can and should add things and let go of routines as life allows and pushes us to do so.
When my littles were little, 4 sets of dishes, 7 days worth of clothing for each of us was far easier to manage for me. But now i can handle the extra clothing and diahes and things because they can help out and thats good. Its growing up really.
How do you do laundry? I feel like I’m always running out of clean clothes cuz I missed a day or two of laundry 😢
I’m actually waiting to put stuff in the dryer now
What a wonderful topic, Jennifer! My home is nowhere close to what I would love, AND I am loving it. I am not at peace but at the same time my priority now is spending time with my kid. Slowly, I am working towards a chic home. I grew up elegantly, however I remember my mom being most of the time overwhelmed (4 kids). I choose to let slide a lot...I want to remember the cuddles, laughs and talks with my son and I want him to have a happy place in his memory.
Love, love Tea Time series!!! 💞
I appreciate Marie’s thoughts on letting go of items that do not serve us especially gifts.
Three children- three years old and under was busy but not especially challenging because I had a very tight budget and we didn’t have money for an abundance of clothes, toys or anything. 😅
Now 6 full grown children in a small home keeps the decluttering always essential; I think hard before purchasing something knowing I need a place for it.
Thanks for the lovely tea time, Jennifer; enjoyed a matcha tea almond milk latte while watching. Julie 🌷
I think that is well said, and I am glad that Marie is prioritizing properly.
It is important to recognize and respect the season of life we are in. Jennifer, I love your channel! I always feel so good after watching your videos. I really like your videos about elevated thinking and behaving. Those inspire me. Inspirational tips on being classy and elegant. I also enjoy your homemaking videos. All are very inspiring.
🤗💐 nice video, Jennifer.....I'm almost 65..I think younger, of course but I don't look younger....I married into motherhood to a precious 3 yr old daughter, at 25,... 2.5 yrs later I birthed our only son...those yrs have traveled by...you're a sensible, beautiful mother...thank you for your inspiration to many...our Great God's continued Blessings!, on your visions, goals, and endeavors.
Thank you, Debbie!
Thanks!
Thank you so much, Pat! ♥
I missed teatime with Jennifer. So glad it is back!
Anyone who laughs at Marie Kondo for changing her mind and saying that, “she has kids so of course she’s not cleaning anymore” is missing the point. If anything, Marie’s openness and vulnerability with her audience is demonstrating that it is healthy to readjust your patterns for the season of life in which you currently live.
Thanks so much for bringing this feature back!
Wonderful episode! Thank you.
Marie Kondo came into my life at the perfect season. I was newly retired and had the time to weed through my things. After using her method of folding, I will never go back. Thank you for treating her revelations about motherhood with such compassion.
I found a new with tag Italian leather bag at my thrift store! I love it! Paid under 10$ for it!! ❤
Thrifting when you can is such a great idea!
I found all leather Italian shoes for $8; my hard to fit feet are thrilled with the luxury.
Another great book is Home Therapy by Anita Yokota. She is a interior designer and a LMFT. It is really a wonderful book on organization. I did like Marie Kondo's new book.
Hi! Love your videos, so peacefull and calm. I made those cupcake-cheescakes some time ago and it's a lovely idea, you can even put them in the freezer to eat them at another time. About house maintenance, it is difficult, even more after children come but time passes, children grow and it should be easier. It is hard to find time for it, to motivate yourself and the members of the family about the importance of helping out, beacause you shouldn't be alone with it. Stay classy and inspiring! sending good vibes from Romania
I’ve enjoyed your tea time videos. I think it’s great that Maria has come out with the new book. I’m on the side of having grown children and I’m enjoying organising more again. For me though, it’s more about having a lot less and then tidying is so much easier. Wish I knew this way back when
Thank you for the section on Marie Kondo. I’ve just tracked it down in my local library. This resonated with me on the cusp of retirement years and making my home and lifestyle part of my physical and mental health.
I am so glad you brought back "tea time"! I love your blouse and it's so fitting for TT. I still like Marie Condo and I consider this an evolution for her. She could have chosen to say nothing, but she wanted to share how her thoughts have changed on this subject. My husband is from Ukraine and I love the desserts my MIL makes. I purchased sour cherries from an online Ukrainian store and I add them to the top of cheesecakes. The cherries are a little tart, but they are not sour. I then serve with a bit of whipped cream.
I love teatime with Jennifer. I love Marie Kondo but we all have to change and adapt with to our lives. I’m glad that she is realistic about life! Loved meeting a new designer. Thanks for this video. It is wonderful how you keep adding new segments. I always look forward to to your videos and you always inspire me!❤️
I have a 4 year old and it's hard to keep it tidy. I have a daily schedule (monday - kitchen, tuesday - bathroom), etc. and that has helped me a lot to just focus on one room per day so it's not so overwhelming.
I am glad teatime is back!!
Love tea time Jennifer.😊 Thank you for the mini cheesecake recipe.
I have come to peace with lowering my tidying expectations to focus on what’s important spending time with my 5 and 8 year old. Love the mini cheese cakes. I can wait to make them.
Very pleasant Tea Talk.💖Thank you.☺🍵
I love that Marie didn't pretend she still can keep all the balls in the air. My first born and second born are 9 years apart and indeed the mess and clutter starts to clear up around 7 or 8 and the kids are so much more helpful at that point. The younger stages make it so hard to put that tidying pressure on our shoulders. There will be a time to return to clutter-free when those stages pass.
I have 3 kids (6, 2, baby) and this is a struggle for me. The mess stresses me out and I spend a fair amount of time tidying up to reduce my stress.
yum just made the mini cheese cakes today when I got home from work! enjoying them with some creamy earl grey! thank you for the lovely video and recipe!
The cheesecake recipe looks and sounds so delicious! I might try it this weekend. We have a sour cherry tree and I freeze the cherries to make pie filling when I make a crostata .