You know this is the way to do it when you get positive reactions like the one at the end. No pickup artist sleazy bs, just expressing yourself openly & confidently.
this is probably like the first time time I've heard someone express that their social Circle in elementary and middle school shame them out of interest in a girl. Me and my friends definitely did that, I definitely bought into it and it reinforced my defenses that I pay for years and years in my adulthood, only the last 10 years may be taking active steps towards addressing it I think
It's funny because I had the same experience, I don't know what it is about us as teens going into puberty that we seem to naturally find liking someone amusing enough to laugh at people for it. For the most part I don't think there is any malicious intent in making fun of someone for it, but many teens are not mature enough to realise what effect that can have on the person they're making fun of, that the sense of shame can really be taken to heart and have long lasting negative effects.
ty i will do this. i realized that everytime i didnt care or didnt find a girl attractive i could "rizz" her up rlly well. now i know why... i was giving without expecting and i was being straight up. im ready now
My whole childhood felt like what you talked about being made fun of for liking a girl. It held me back for so long with so many girls but I’m glad I can realize it now and have the opportunity to see what held me back and change it. It’s not easy reinforcing this new way of thinking but I like the idea of not relying on expectations. I feel like a lot of my life is full of expectations that are just false fantasies that I project onto someone or something that never end up fulfilling it. I loved the courage in your videos but for a while I pressured myself to go up and it felt too forced even though I’m never like that. It helped me realize the importance of just following the flow of every moment and realizing I’m gonna be ok despite the outcome. I’m rambling but thanks man.
I thought I was the only one. I really took it to heart that liking someone was bad or worthy of being made fun of. So I purged my brain of any crushes and any behaviors that could tip off the girl that I liked her. I did it for so long that it became an entrenched thought process and I've been unable to undo it over a decade later.
Thank you Ruben! Your channel has changed my life for the better, I’m 24 years old and would always feel anxious around beautiful women but now after interacting with just about anyone, I’m no longer a spineless male with no balls.
thank for sharing this! WOW Your message about pretending not to like the girl in middle school resonated with me as I was attracted to a girl in junior high and was flirting with her and the other kids made fun of me and things flipped and I got embarrassed and right away stopped complimenting her and pretending I didn't like her :/
Great content. Mindset is very important. Everything flows from there. Positive mind leads to positive actions which set up positive and desirable results.
could not agree more :) your behavior is the natural symptom of your perception and relationships with the world, if you want to change your behavior, you must challenge the underlying assumptions :) thank you for the comment and good luck out there :)
J'ai 16 ans et j'ai toujours essayé d'être la meilleure version de moi-même, que ce soit avec des interactions sociales ou pour approcher des filles par exemple, ce genre de vidéos aide beaucoup de personnes à se libérer et à devenir plus confiant, et même en me sentant beaucoup plus confiant qu'avant, ces vidéos me font toujours réfléchir et je t'en remercie pour ça. Ps : on voit bien ton accent français :p
You express a lot of wisdom in this video on a topic that is super super important and rarely talked about. Love it, keep doing what you're doing, man!
@@socialanimal thanks for your reply, will definitely do! In this video, you talk about how the goal is to express yourself without expectation and while remaining calm. I completely agree with that! Any ideas, tips, videos on how to improve in that aspect?
Great Video My Friend! Good structure, it was cozy to watch You picked up some deep points! Thanks for youre videos. You are helping people, including myself, a lot with them.
When you mentioned about expressing your desires I kinda felt that at a deeper level because I grew suppressing anything when it comes to romance/sex/desires and I kinda just thought those were distractions or I just felt ashamed that someone would make fun of me if I expressed it. I do find it hard calling someone beautiful because I feel like I am objectifying/shallow even though I know I am not that kinda person. Everytime I see a cute girl I am always trying to justify to myself why I find her attractive and if I have good reasons to think that
Great video. I like your point about how it’s sort of like meditation. Meditation is about focusing on the present instead of the past or the future. Would that tie into your point?
Thank you :) Yea my point is that since saying what you want to say makes you anxious, actually saying it is a meditation exercise where you must do you best to stay present despite being anxious :)
Thank you for the videos! I love this wholesome content. Theres so many rabbit holes lonely guys go down when trying to learn to live a romantic / socially abundant life! I'm glad I found your channel so I know what's real!
You are so philosophical, like a breath of fresh air on this dating advice/social skill niche on youtube Love your content man, you should visit here in Brasil!
Nobody is creepy, your behavior is creepy. People want to be talked to, but the way you do it can make someone feel uncomfortable. That's why you need to express desires honestly. When you're honest about what you're saying, your body language will automatically adjust which is the best way to make someone feel comfortable.
Thank you Reuben! To show the short comings in the begin just shows your courage and believe it or not, it is inspiring. It shows that we are all humans and even though things may be difficult we can always over come them.
Been watching a lot of your videos man, what you're saying is so valuable and true. I hope I can learn to express my desires freely, this channel is giving me the motivation I need. Thank you!
Great video and amazing point(s) about expressing your interest and desire without forcing reciprocity onto the other person. I would add one caveat, that is to always remain attentive and attune to the energy the other person is answering with. It's a dance, and sometimes that dance ends with the other person not wanting to dance. I see too many PUA-style clips of guys forcing themselves onto girls that are clearly expressing disinterest, where it would be best to respect their non-interest and leave them alone.
Hey after watching your videos It made me a lot more hopeful about my prospects in social situations. In my thinking I am too dependent on the outcome and I overanalyze things. I have approached numerous people (women included), but still I have a lot of anxiety about it. This is something that I am going to try to work on and think through. You made me realize that social interactions and expressing desires are not things to be afraid of. I hope your channel grows into thousands of subscribers.
@@socialanimal Hey I live in Poland in a small town. Most people I've know or encountered do not know of pick up or don't really causally approach strangers. I still have been met with mostly positive reactions.
but your words tell otherwise. You are in a mindset state that says "Approaching is kinda impossible" listen to your words carefully. "I will try to work on and think through"
I also realized how much I hide, and feel uncomfortable with my desires. I've noticed when I look at some cute girl I feel like a creep, or even a predator. But I noticed when I see other guys confidently looking and smiling at a girl it just seems perfectly reasonable and natural. So I ask myself, when is it actually being creepy and if it isn't then why do I feel like a creep?
low self esteem, to overcome it u should start by putting urself to a higher standard. treat yourself and ur body nicely. eat healthy, workout, etc etc.
@@madebycjoe actually ive been working out and eating healthy for 5 years now, started "self improvement" when i was 19 now I'm 24, Ive also dated 2 girls and went on a bunch of dates by then. Ive been meditating for years as well if you would reply to do that then. Don't take the easy advice of, just work out bro. Life is an individual journey, what would help me could be of no help to you.
My friends made a lot of fun when they heard i wanna buy lambo LOL just kidding :d loved the correlation man thanks for explanation and for the whole channel.
You should have picked something in between biology and engineering. There is a 1:10 - 1:15 ratio here, like you wouldnt believe. Its sad that i dont have the courage to communicate with them, but its really a great feeling(if not a bit intimidating) when you are surrounded by pretty women regardless.
I actually have a subscriber challenge to showcase different backgrounds, personalities and experiences, you should check it out, it will show you that anyone can do it and that we all have our struggles: ruclips.net/video/bO_JgLmlf8A/видео.html
I am very innocent about this, also think about sexuality not as something i want "from" a woman but a beautiful gift we could share - BUT that does not change the awkward situation - you don't know if the other person finds you attractive and want to share that gift - most of the times it will be no - and think about that "me too video" where a woman walks the street and gets random innocent compliments - and half of the world freaked out about that "cat calling". The desires have to be mutual, unless its not the situation is still that i feel that my "desires" are awkward and unwanted.
There is no way you cannot see the difference between cat calling which is basically just throwing some words at someone and giving a genuine compliment as part of an interaction
i doubt it. imagine a physically unattractive woman came up to you and tried to rizz you up or told you she thought you were cute, would you think "ewww what a creep" or?
Great video man I like your mindset. I really think it should reach more people. I think you should change the title to something shorter and complimentary to the thumbnail like "This mindset transformed my approaches to women" and maybe tweak the thumbnail a bit. idk maybe something like a closer shot of them woman with an arrow pointing to her ass, little cheeky tricks like that, with maybe "DESIRE THIS?" instead of "ARE YOU AT PEACE WITH YOUR DESIRES". although the "at peace" thing is fine and maybe the "DESIRE THIS?" is a bit too cheeky hahaha
Haha this is exactly the reason I started my subscriber challenge where I film other people interact with people - checkout the subscriber challenge playlist here : ruclips.net/p/PLlDm9GHD1QD35Slg55JkiLaiwkgoozbQc
Self expression is great and everything, but what about courtesy, politeness, or the recipient’s perception of your comment?…Wouldn’t you be more effective socially if you took that into consideration before expressing your desires? If I tell a girl I just walked up to that she has beautiful eyes, she will most likely think I am hitting on her or wanting her even if I sincerely just wanted to share that I think she has beautiful eyes without even being interested in the girl. No different than if I were to go up to her just to blatantly tell her she’s ugly. Certain comments will consistently result in certain emotions and reactions.
I like the idea of expressing your desire an being honest and straightforward, I also like the idea of just genuinely giving and not expecting something in return which would make someone uncomfortable. Still it goes against all pua logic and to be honest in the beginning of your vid the womens reactions where basically bad, you got that slightly uncomfortable smile like I acknowledge you politely but please go away. I have been thinking a lot about compliments on looks and it is an interesting thing, nowadays I only compliment on characteristics and only in the bedroom do I compliment on looks. I am still conflicted.... because my heart just wants to genuinely express my desire, but than again my heart is often a dumb ass fool that is coming from a needy place.
I would argue that PUA compensate their anxiety with logic, things are not as complicated as they make it, the way their approach these problems are just a symptom of how inadequate they feel. Whether you want to strategize or not is a question that is fully separate from the fact that you should be able to express these things with ease. If you are able to express your desire with complete ease but you chose not to then it’s another debate. Most people that argue against it seem unable to do so, because doing so requires a lot of iteration and self evaluation and most people prefer to stop at “this does not work”. Finally I would challenge how good you think you are at getting cues from people, not only you can see the full interaction in other videos but also for your own life, sometimes people will be cold and it will still workout, others people will be warm and it won’t workout- you have no idea what’s in people’s mind and why they act the way they do so instead of living in the world of your assumption, I realized it’s better to be curious and as long as I have good intentions, go for it. Good luck out there ;) and thank you for the comment :)
@@socialanimal Just because it still works out doesn't mean it worked, You might fuck up half of the interaction, but if she's into you enough in the end it will still work, that doesn't mean the techniques or strategy used work. Like I said I am conflicted, I feel you on the expressing of desire. But if you are a needy guy and you love someone 5mins after meeting them we both know where expressing genuine desire will get you. I am sure you are aware of the idea that complimenting on looks is a compliment on something someone did nothing for to achieve, like some guy said it would be like a girl walks up to you and says "Nice bank account" which could also be a genuine expression of desire for her. But we would react the same as most girls react to the "you are beautiful" they get all the time. Anyway not trying to flame you, just more so thinking out loud.
Not feeling any burn, i am looking for debate :) The problem with that idea of strategy is that you are not a CIA agent looking to manipulate people, you want to find people that you click with and the only way to do that is to express yourself truthfully. Now if you want to say I love you after 5 minutes maybe that has more to do with what you think love is than expressing yourself. Once you start meeting tons of people you realize that the real challenge is finding people you really connect with and really want to spend time with. Lastly, everything in this world is given to you, you did not chose your life, your genes, your abilities, the solar system, the question is can you express yourself truthfully... think of it as if you were a child giving an innocent compliment, when you give a compliment you are sharing your perspective on something that is all... thinking more of it is just a symptom of your perspective on the matter, not the matter itself.
@@socialanimal Right I follow that, but it does portray that your perspective is mainly focused on looks (the bank account) and not on personality. It doesn't have to be from a manipulative pua standpoint, but it does feel a lot different to get complimented on something you achieved, or worked for or on, as opposed to something you did nothing for.
I would argue that you are misguided on what a compliment is and why it feels the way it does. You are saying that what you are complimenting matter, I actually think it’s secondary. The first thing that matter is how do you give the compliment and the vibe you have. In the same way, people love hearing kids commenting on things because they are innocent and genuine. When you see something and you comment on it, spontaneously and genuinely, people will feel it, and what they feel you can call it vibe. The vibe will be free and open. When you see a cute girl but you refrain yourself from saying something, the only thing you are doing is creating a frustration inside of you that is going to get communicated through your vibe and people sense that. That’s why you can ask 10 guys to give the same compliment, and the experience on the receiving end will be different. Lastly I think that in this case particularly being open about the looks of a women you find attractive is actually a huge plus because you are letting her know you have romantic or sexual intentions. Expressing your intentions and desire is really the essence of seduction and without it you are over complicating thing a few order of magnitudes while preventing you the opportunity to be genuine, which to tie back to your last point, I would argue is an essential trait of personality people look for :)
"don't live in a world of your assumptions, have the courage to step into reality".
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Wow this resonated with me.
"I should be able to express my desires without any expectations" Those words are so liberating🙌🙌
You're a fuckin legend for witnessing that about yourself and helping all of us. Thank you.
Thank you for the kind words and the support bro, it goes a really really long way :) !
You know this is the way to do it when you get positive reactions like the one at the end. No pickup artist sleazy bs, just expressing yourself openly & confidently.
this is probably like the first time time I've heard someone express that their social Circle in elementary and middle school shame them out of interest in a girl. Me and my friends definitely did that, I definitely bought into it and it reinforced my defenses that I pay for years and years in my adulthood, only the last 10 years may be taking active steps towards addressing it I think
It's funny because I had the same experience, I don't know what it is about us as teens going into puberty that we seem to naturally find liking someone amusing enough to laugh at people for it. For the most part I don't think there is any malicious intent in making fun of someone for it, but many teens are not mature enough to realise what effect that can have on the person they're making fun of, that the sense of shame can really be taken to heart and have long lasting negative effects.
ty i will do this. i realized that everytime i didnt care or didnt find a girl attractive i could "rizz" her up rlly well. now i know why... i was giving without expecting and i was being straight up. im ready now
Just give the compliment like a gift and do not expect anything is an amazing mindset to have while approaching pretty girls. 👏
Yeah i liked that idea too.. then its not really about you.
Really appreciate your straightforward, honest and non-creepy attitude to talking with strangers in the few videos I've watched so far - thanks, man!
Thank you very much for the support and encouragement :)
My whole childhood felt like what you talked about being made fun of for liking a girl. It held me back for so long with so many girls but I’m glad I can realize it now and have the opportunity to see what held me back and change it. It’s not easy reinforcing this new way of thinking but I like the idea of not relying on expectations. I feel like a lot of my life is full of expectations that are just false fantasies that I project onto someone or something that never end up fulfilling it. I loved the courage in your videos but for a while I pressured myself to go up and it felt too forced even though I’m never like that. It helped me realize the importance of just following the flow of every moment and realizing I’m gonna be ok despite the outcome. I’m rambling but thanks man.
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I thought I was the only one. I really took it to heart that liking someone was bad or worthy of being made fun of. So I purged my brain of any crushes and any behaviors that could tip off the girl that I liked her. I did it for so long that it became an entrenched thought process and I've been unable to undo it over a decade later.
Man your philosophy playlist is Gold!
Bro i think this is something different what i actually needed instead of scripted sheet.
Thank you Ruben! Your channel has changed my life for the better, I’m 24 years old and would always feel anxious around beautiful women but now after interacting with just about anyone, I’m no longer a spineless male with no balls.
The fine car metaphor unlocked everything and wrapped heart scenario as well.
;)
Interesting and honest perspective🙌🏾
Thank you :) happy you liked it :)
thank for sharing this! WOW Your message about pretending not to like the girl in middle school resonated with me as I was attracted to a girl in junior high and was flirting with her and the other kids made fun of me and things flipped and I got embarrassed and right away stopped complimenting her and pretending I didn't like her :/
You're really good with analogies. Like the skateboard analogy, that was really good. You're like the CS Lewis of relationships. I dig it.
Just wanted to thank you for what you're doing man. Spreading love and great advice through your videos. I appreciate you, keep going strong brother.
thank you very much for the kind words, it goes a really long way :) thank you :)
yeah crazy how our childhood shapes our insecurities or what were confident in
Great content. Mindset is very important. Everything flows from there. Positive mind leads to positive actions which set up positive and desirable results.
could not agree more :) your behavior is the natural symptom of your perception and relationships with the world, if you want to change your behavior, you must challenge the underlying assumptions :) thank you for the comment and good luck out there :)
WOW! refreshing perspective, love it and I learnt a lot. Thanks
Happy you enjoyed it :)
J'ai 16 ans et j'ai toujours essayé d'être la meilleure version de moi-même, que ce soit avec des interactions sociales ou pour approcher des filles par exemple, ce genre de vidéos aide beaucoup de personnes à se libérer et à devenir plus confiant, et même en me sentant beaucoup plus confiant qu'avant, ces vidéos me font toujours réfléchir et je t'en remercie pour ça.
Ps : on voit bien ton accent français :p
Haha :) sa fait plaisir ;)
You express a lot of wisdom in this video on a topic that is super super important and rarely talked about. Love it, keep doing what you're doing, man!
:) you ll enjoy the other videos in the philosophy playlist too
@@socialanimal thanks for your reply, will definitely do! In this video, you talk about how the goal is to express yourself without expectation and while remaining calm. I completely agree with that! Any ideas, tips, videos on how to improve in that aspect?
I very much appreciate the thoughtfulness and the non-sleaziness of your content and your approach to meeting people. Honestly a breath of fresh air.
thank you :)
This is literally not even just help on a dating scale it’s a life thing. If ur intentions aren’t bad you can do anything you want
Highly enlightening and worth watching in its entirety!
Glad you like it ;) thank you :)
Great Video My Friend!
Good structure, it was cozy to watch
You picked up some deep points!
Thanks for youre videos. You are helping people, including myself, a lot with them.
When you mentioned about expressing your desires I kinda felt that at a deeper level because I grew suppressing anything when it comes to romance/sex/desires and I kinda just thought those were distractions or I just felt ashamed that someone would make fun of me if I expressed it. I do find it hard calling someone beautiful because I feel like I am objectifying/shallow even though I know I am not that kinda person. Everytime I see a cute girl I am always trying to justify to myself why I find her attractive and if I have good reasons to think that
one of the best videos i’ve seen discussing topics like this
Great video. I like your point about how it’s sort of like meditation. Meditation is about focusing on the present instead of the past or the future. Would that tie into your point?
Thank you :) Yea my point is that since saying what you want to say makes you anxious, actually saying it is a meditation exercise where you must do you best to stay present despite being anxious :)
congrats on the 100k man!
thank you :)
It’s mindblowing how content this valuable is free. Thanks Reuben
COMMENTING FROM 2024, PLEASE DO MAKE MORE SUCH VIDEOS RUBEN.
Haha :)
Have you seen the other ones in the philosophy playlist?
bro your channel is a literal goldmine, thank you
Expressing desire with other people around there is something I tend to struggle with...
Thank you for the videos! I love this wholesome content. Theres so many rabbit holes lonely guys go down when trying to learn to live a romantic / socially abundant life! I'm glad I found your channel so I know what's real!
Thank you for the kind words, it’s really encouraging to hear and making me want to do more :) where are you from ? Good luck out there ;)
@@socialanimal I am originally from Slovakia and moved into the bay area when I was very young. Thank you again!
@@juanandonlydeagledoubleg1468 I see, I am SF, down for coffee anytime :) feel free to email me at ruben@socialanimal.us :)
@@socialanimal Absolutely, I have done so! :)
Great video - I like this format, learned a lot.
Thank you ;)
You are so philosophical, like a breath of fresh air on this dating advice/social skill niche on youtube
Love your content man, you should visit here in Brasil!
I really appreciate the content of this man.
Thank you ❤️
Great video as always. I really like the point about the nice car and how there is no shame in your desire if you are realistic with your attachment.
Its nice to see people relate to what I am saying, thank you for the comment and good luck out there :)
Really eloquent and interesting as always. It's great going into detail about how we think and feel and breaking it all down. Keep it up :)
Thank you Fin :) Much more is coming :)
Nobody is creepy, your behavior is creepy. People want to be talked to, but the way you do it can make someone feel uncomfortable. That's why you need to express desires honestly.
When you're honest about what you're saying, your body language will automatically adjust which is the best way to make someone feel comfortable.
Thank you Reuben! To show the short comings in the begin just shows your courage and believe it or not, it is inspiring. It shows that we are all humans and even though things may be difficult we can always over come them.
Been watching a lot of your videos man, what you're saying is so valuable and true. I hope I can learn to express my desires freely, this channel is giving me the motivation I need. Thank you!
Great video and amazing point(s) about expressing your interest and desire without forcing reciprocity onto the other person. I would add one caveat, that is to always remain attentive and attune to the energy the other person is answering with. It's a dance, and sometimes that dance ends with the other person not wanting to dance. I see too many PUA-style clips of guys forcing themselves onto girls that are clearly expressing disinterest, where it would be best to respect their non-interest and leave them alone.
Zan Perrion would be proud.
You are a smart guy, a lot of this clicks with me
Glad you liked it, you'll probably enjoy the videos in the "Philosophy" playlist, check them out and let me know :)
Hey after watching your videos It made me a lot more hopeful about my prospects in social situations. In my thinking I am too dependent on the outcome and I overanalyze things. I have approached numerous people (women included), but still I have a lot of anxiety about it. This is something that I am going to try to work on and think through. You made me realize that social interactions and expressing desires are not things to be afraid of. I hope your channel grows into thousands of subscribers.
thank you :) and do not hesitate to reach out at ruben@socialanimal.us! Where are you located?
@@socialanimal Hey I live in Poland in a small town. Most people I've know or encountered do not know of pick up or don't really causally approach strangers. I still have been met with mostly positive reactions.
Wow very cool, maybe I ll swing by Poland and we’ll make a video together :)
but your words tell otherwise. You are in a mindset state that says "Approaching is kinda impossible" listen to your words carefully. "I will try to work on and think through"
This is pure gold!!!
I also realized how much I hide, and feel uncomfortable with my desires. I've noticed when I look at some cute girl I feel like a creep, or even a predator. But I noticed when I see other guys confidently looking and smiling at a girl it just seems perfectly reasonable and natural. So I ask myself, when is it actually being creepy and if it isn't then why do I feel like a creep?
Low self esteem
low self esteem, to overcome it u should start by putting urself to a higher standard. treat yourself and ur body nicely. eat healthy, workout, etc etc.
@@madebycjoe actually ive been working out and eating healthy for 5 years now, started "self improvement" when i was 19 now I'm 24, Ive also dated 2 girls and went on a bunch of dates by then. Ive been meditating for years as well if you would reply to do that then. Don't take the easy advice of, just work out bro. Life is an individual journey, what would help me could be of no help to you.
My friends made a lot of fun when they heard i wanna buy lambo LOL just kidding :d loved the correlation man thanks for explanation and for the whole channel.
Thank you for the support bro :) really goes a long way :)
really well said
Glad you enjoyed it, you might enjoy the other videos in the philosophy playlist :)
This guy makes sense. I get him.🙏🙏🙏
Great words !!
Great video! Really useful.
Thank you :) What did you find useful? Curious to know how you related to that video :)
4:01 you rly had to do my boy Gollum like that Ruben?! D:
Hahahaha
Give without measure
bro you are fucking awesome
"fast forward to early 20s, you're surrounded with girls"
Me who chose engineering carreer: what are girls?
You should have picked something in between biology and engineering. There is a 1:10 - 1:15 ratio here, like you wouldnt believe. Its sad that i dont have the courage to communicate with them, but its really a great feeling(if not a bit intimidating) when you are surrounded by pretty women regardless.
beauty is necessary but not sufficient, so don't overweight this one variable when it comes to saying hi or focusing on the long-term
This makes sense
Now all i need is a french accent!!
I actually have a subscriber challenge to showcase different backgrounds, personalities and experiences, you should check it out, it will show you that anyone can do it and that we all have our struggles: ruclips.net/video/bO_JgLmlf8A/видео.html
I am very innocent about this, also think about sexuality not as something i want "from" a woman but a beautiful gift we could share - BUT that does not change the awkward situation - you don't know if the other person finds you attractive and want to share that gift - most of the times it will be no - and think about that "me too video" where a woman walks the street and gets random innocent compliments - and half of the world freaked out about that "cat calling". The desires have to be mutual, unless its not the situation is still that i feel that my "desires" are awkward and unwanted.
There is no way you cannot see the difference between cat calling which is basically just throwing some words at someone and giving a genuine compliment as part of an interaction
Great video man!
I like the skateboard metaphor
:)
Not only we get tutorials We get spiritual quotes and philosophical quotes. Madonna would love you. Express and be yourself . Vogue
hahahahaha
It's only "creepy" if you are a physically unattractive man. Then anything you do or say is creepy
i doubt it. imagine a physically unattractive woman came up to you and tried to rizz you up or told you she thought you were cute, would you think "ewww what a creep" or?
Love it
Good stuff!
:)
This echoes the book models by mark manson
GOAT
How dare you call Gollum ugly lol
Btw great vid
Hahaha :) it’s only my opinion :)
Great video man I like your mindset.
I really think it should reach more people. I think you should change the title to something shorter and complimentary to the thumbnail like "This mindset transformed my approaches to women" and maybe tweak the thumbnail a bit. idk maybe something like a closer shot of them woman with an arrow pointing to her ass, little cheeky tricks like that, with maybe "DESIRE THIS?" instead of "ARE YOU AT PEACE WITH YOUR DESIRES". although the "at peace" thing is fine and maybe the "DESIRE THIS?" is a bit too cheeky hahaha
Smeagol is beautiful
I'm sure your accent helps with women being receptive to you coming up and telling them how beautiful they are lol.
Haha this is exactly the reason I started my subscriber challenge where I film other people interact with people - checkout the subscriber challenge playlist here : ruclips.net/p/PLlDm9GHD1QD35Slg55JkiLaiwkgoozbQc
Self expression is great and everything, but what about courtesy, politeness, or the recipient’s perception of your comment?…Wouldn’t you be more effective socially if you took that into consideration before expressing your desires?
If I tell a girl I just walked up to that she has beautiful eyes, she will most likely think I am hitting on her or wanting her even if I sincerely just wanted to share that I think she has beautiful eyes without even being interested in the girl. No different than if I were to go up to her just to blatantly tell her she’s ugly. Certain comments will consistently result in certain emotions and reactions.
I like the idea of expressing your desire an being honest and straightforward, I also like the idea of just genuinely giving and not expecting something in return which would make someone uncomfortable. Still it goes against all pua logic and to be honest in the beginning of your vid the womens reactions where basically bad, you got that slightly uncomfortable smile like I acknowledge you politely but please go away. I have been thinking a lot about compliments on looks and it is an interesting thing, nowadays I only compliment on characteristics and only in the bedroom do I compliment on looks. I am still conflicted.... because my heart just wants to genuinely express my desire, but than again my heart is often a dumb ass fool that is coming from a needy place.
I would argue that PUA compensate their anxiety with logic, things are not as complicated as they make it, the way their approach these problems are just a symptom of how inadequate they feel. Whether you want to strategize or not is a question that is fully separate from the fact that you should be able to express these things with ease. If you are able to express your desire with complete ease but you chose not to then it’s another debate. Most people that argue against it seem unable to do so, because doing so requires a lot of iteration and self evaluation and most people prefer to stop at “this does not work”. Finally I would challenge how good you think you are at getting cues from people, not only you can see the full interaction in other videos but also for your own life, sometimes people will be cold and it will still workout, others people will be warm and it won’t workout- you have no idea what’s in people’s mind and why they act the way they do so instead of living in the world of your assumption, I realized it’s better to be curious and as long as I have good intentions, go for it. Good luck out there ;) and thank you for the comment :)
@@socialanimal Just because it still works out doesn't mean it worked, You might fuck up half of the interaction, but if she's into you enough in the end it will still work, that doesn't mean the techniques or strategy used work. Like I said I am conflicted, I feel you on the expressing of desire. But if you are a needy guy and you love someone 5mins after meeting them we both know where expressing genuine desire will get you. I am sure you are aware of the idea that complimenting on looks is a compliment on something someone did nothing for to achieve, like some guy said it would be like a girl walks up to you and says "Nice bank account" which could also be a genuine expression of desire for her. But we would react the same as most girls react to the "you are beautiful" they get all the time. Anyway not trying to flame you, just more so thinking out loud.
Not feeling any burn, i am looking for debate :) The problem with that idea of strategy is that you are not a CIA agent looking to manipulate people, you want to find people that you click with and the only way to do that is to express yourself truthfully. Now if you want to say I love you after 5 minutes maybe that has more to do with what you think love is than expressing yourself. Once you start meeting tons of people you realize that the real challenge is finding people you really connect with and really want to spend time with. Lastly, everything in this world is given to you, you did not chose your life, your genes, your abilities, the solar system, the question is can you express yourself truthfully... think of it as if you were a child giving an innocent compliment, when you give a compliment you are sharing your perspective on something that is all... thinking more of it is just a symptom of your perspective on the matter, not the matter itself.
@@socialanimal Right I follow that, but it does portray that your perspective is mainly focused on looks (the bank account) and not on personality. It doesn't have to be from a manipulative pua standpoint, but it does feel a lot different to get complimented on something you achieved, or worked for or on, as opposed to something you did nothing for.
I would argue that you are misguided on what a compliment is and why it feels the way it does. You are saying that what you are complimenting matter, I actually think it’s secondary. The first thing that matter is how do you give the compliment and the vibe you have. In the same way, people love hearing kids commenting on things because they are innocent and genuine. When you see something and you comment on it, spontaneously and genuinely, people will feel it, and what they feel you can call it vibe. The vibe will be free and open. When you see a cute girl but you refrain yourself from saying something, the only thing you are doing is creating a frustration inside of you that is going to get communicated through your vibe and people sense that. That’s why you can ask 10 guys to give the same compliment, and the experience on the receiving end will be different. Lastly I think that in this case particularly being open about the looks of a women you find attractive is actually a huge plus because you are letting her know you have romantic or sexual intentions. Expressing your intentions and desire is really the essence of seduction and without it you are over complicating thing a few order of magnitudes while preventing you the opportunity to be genuine, which to tie back to your last point, I would argue is an essential trait of personality people look for :)
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