How to Read Minds & Hearts | Sh Navaid Aziz (Full Podcast)

Ustadh Shabbir is joined by Shaykh Navaid Aziz where they discuss prophetic emotional intelligence and how we can learn it.
00:00 - Intro
02:20 - What does Islam say about emotions?
05:13 - Masculinity
09:27 - Finding the right balance with our emotions
13:02 - Channelling emotions for the sake of Allah
13:45 - Intelligence vs. emotional intelligence
15:28 - What is emotional intelligence?
16:18 - The Prophet’s ﷺ emotional intelligence
17:30 - The man who urinated in the Prophet’s ﷺ masjid
21:54 - How the Prophet ﷺ won hearts
23:45 - The Prophet’s ﷺ experience of pain & empathy for others
29:09 - No one escapes leadership
30:27 - Can one be soft and strong?
32:43 - Marriage & emotional intelligence
37:34 - It’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it
38:55 - Understanding others’ emotions
45:03 - Examples from the seerah of the Prophet’s ﷺ emotional intelligence
50:54 - Social media and our value for relationships?
54:26 - How to develop emotional intelligence
1:01:28 - Final thoughts
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What an amazing podcast. This is the first time I have happened across this channel. As a person who would consider myself as an agnostic with regard to all religions, (I feel that they can't all be correct, as such no single religion could be 100% correct. I feel that the truth must lay somewhere within grounds upon which all religions agree. But also that it is likely that we, humanity, can never really know the truth. We can only ever have faith in it.). As a person who has grown up in a predominantly Christian county, with parents of different sects of Christianity and seeing firsthand the conflict that could arise from this, I was repelled from religeon at a young age, but I still retained my sense of wonder and awe at the lessons of our ancestors.
I love people, all people, each and every one. I have always been a naturally empathetic person which, I believe, has led me to develop a high level of emotional intelligence. As such, the manner in which I carry myself, treat and love other people is very similar to the manner in which Sh Navaid Aziz is teaching us in this podcast, to be to the best way in which to carry ourselves.
Listening to this conversation has given me a newly found appreciation and respect for Islam and the teachings of the prophet Muhammad (alayhi as-salām) in the Qur'an. In the Western mainstream media, we rarely hear of the culturally rich and ancient wisdom of this beautiful religion. Which, for any Christians that find this podcast and comment, Islam also tell of Moses (Musa) life in much more detail than the Bible does. Alongside Gabriel, Joseph (Yusef), and other phrophets that you may be familiar with. We are all (Jews, Christians and Muslims) linked, by Abraham, to Adam. We are all brothers, and descendents of the same lineage. We all seem to forget this in our "modern era". I hope that this podcast grows larger and reaches more non-Muslims, to remind the Western World just how close and similar every person on our shared planet really is. We all hope for and dream the same dreams, we all want to know the answer to the burning question of truth. But if we continue to segregate ourselves into our 'tribes' we will never know peace on Earth. If we come together, love and learn from each other, then maybe, just maybe, we might be able to ascend our civilisation closer to God, Allah, Yahweh. If we can all realise the truth that we are one people, with one home planet, we might actually ascend our current state and find that heaven has been right here in front of us all along. Heaven is peace, to reach heaven we must find peace amongst all people.
To begin our journey to find peace amongst all people, we should listen to the conversation held in this podcast. Develop our emotional intelligence, doing this will allow us to finally comprehend the truth. We are one. If we tresspass on one, we trespass on all. If we betray one, we betray all. If we hurt one, we hurt all. But If we love one, we love all. The first person that you must learn to love is, yourself. Love yourself first, as only when you love yourself, can you truly love another.
Learn to love yourself, so that you can truly love others. Be kind to others, even when they are not kind to you. See others, even whey cannot see themselves. "Fear Allah (alayhi as-salām) with regards to those who cannot speak".
Thank you for this podcast, it has made me rethink a lot. Shukran lakum 'iikhwani.
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🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🤲 *The Prophet invoked Allah to forgive, purify hearts, and protect chastity, emphasizing the importance of seeking Allah's forgiveness for others.*
00:26 🗣️ *Communication involves words, body language, facial expressions, and tone. Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in understanding and managing these aspects.*
01:12 🧠 *Discussing emotions, emotional intelligence, and emotional management with guest Sh Navaid Aziz.*
01:56 💑 *Emotions, emotional intelligence, and their integration with Islam, focusing on relationships and emotional well-being.*
05:24 🧔 *Challenge toxic masculinity ideals, emphasizing the Prophet's compassionate and balanced display of emotions.*
08:38 😡 *Appropriate expression of anger based on circumstances, highlighting the Prophet's mastery in handling emotions.*
11:19 😄 *Understanding and channeling happiness appropriately, avoiding excess leading to arrogance and pride.*
13:45 🤝 *Emotional intelligence (EQ) defined as recognizing, understanding, and managing one's own emotions and others' emotions to achieve relational goals.*
15:35 🎯 *Emotional intelligence involves recognizing emotional states, understanding others' emotions, and using this knowledge to achieve relational objectives.*
17:26 🤝 *Emotional intelligence, especially in leadership, is highlighted as crucial by discussing an incident in the Prophet's life. The example of the Bedouin man urinating in the mosque demonstrates the Prophet's composed and empathetic response, showcasing emotional intelligence.*
19:30 🎯 *The Prophet aimed to win the loyalty of his companions, emphasizing commitment, dedication, and genuine concern. This loyalty was not imposed but earned through actions that benefitted the individuals, fostering deep relationships.*
20:13 ⚖️ *In a situation involving the Bedouin man urinating, the Prophet's decision to let him finish rather than stopping him immediately demonstrated wisdom. It aimed to minimize harm and avoid escalating the situation, showcasing not just emotional intelligence but broader intelligence in handling complex scenarios.*
21:50 🤲 *The Prophet's deep empathy, developed through personal experiences of pain and loss, allowed him to connect with others experiencing similar emotions. This connection facilitated a profound understanding of people's weaknesses and the ability to forgive them, fostering loyalty.*
26:18 🔗 *The prophetic framework for winning loyalty involves experiencing pain, desiring the best for others, and being compassionate and forgiving. This framework is applicable beyond leadership roles, extending to various aspects of life where meaningful relationships are crucial.*
28:53 🤝 *Forgiving others for unintentional mistakes, understanding their intentions, and remembering the good in relationships contribute to winning loyalty. The Prophet's approach in forgiving even in challenging situations, such as the letter of treason, exemplifies this principle.*
31:28 👫 *The default interaction recommended by the Prophet is soft and gentle, reflecting the mercy of Allah. This challenges stereotypes about masculinity and emphasizes the importance of empathy, kindness, and understanding, especially in relationships like marriage.*
33:48 🤔 *Recognizing psychological differences between men and women, particularly in how they process stress, is crucial for understanding and supporting each other in relationships. The example of contrasting reactions at a wedding highlights the need for empathy and tailored support based on individual needs.*
34:28 🤔 *Understanding psychological differences in relationships is crucial to avoid miscommunication and misunderstandings.*
35:21 🔄 *Focusing solely on obligations and entitlements in relationships can be destructive; strive for excellence, go above and beyond to make the other person happier.*
37:40 🗣️ *Communication involves more than just words; tone and body language play a significant role. Understanding non-verbal cues is essential for effective communication.*
39:18 🚼 *Recognizing the inability of some individuals to articulate their emotions, like babies or those facing trauma, requires extra sensitivity and understanding.*
40:39 🤝 *Being considerate of power dynamics is important; people might agree outwardly due to the dynamic but may be reluctant. Pay attention to body language and tone for a more accurate understanding.*
43:00 🚀 *Developing the skill to read the room, gauge interest, and adapt communication accordingly is crucial for personal and group interactions.*
47:11 🌹 *Examples from the Prophet's interactions, such as comforting a distressed child, addressing sensitive issues with empathy, and handling disagreements in marriage, highlight emotional intelligence.*
50:13 🔄 *The Prophet's ability to make time for people despite his busy schedule emphasizes the value he placed on relationships, contrasting with transactional relationships in the modern world.*
51:24 📱 *Social media, with its screen-mediated interactions, has the potential to impact emotional intelligence negatively, as face-to-face communication allows a deeper understanding of emotions and expressions.*
51:39 🗣️ *The impact of technology on communication: Text messages lack body language and tone, leading to confusion. Emojis are becoming a substitute for nuanced communication.*
52:21 🤔 *Efficient communication is not always better; taking time, being intimate, and discussing things lead to thriving relationships and loyalty.*
53:30 🌐 *Decreasing social interaction: Self-checkouts, less time spent with family and friends, and a shift towards virtual interactions, especially during the pandemic.*
54:12 📚 *Practical ways to develop emotional intelligence: Recommendation of a book by Shaykh Mokhtar Maghraoui, and personal sessions on emotional intelligence available on RUclips.*
56:06 🧠 *Building emotional bandwidth: Understanding Allah's attributes, perceiving the best in everything, and developing patience and forbearance.*
57:29 ❤️ *Showing love in non-traditional ways: Speaking slowly, smiling, being the last to let go when shaking hands, and going above and beyond in understanding and spending time with others.*
58:55 ⏳ *Overcoming haste: Haste stems from a scarcity mindset, fearing the worst, and seeking instant gratification; developing patience is essential.*
01:00:34 🤝 *Importance of self-assessment and feedback: Assessing emotional intelligence, taking pride in intellectual intelligence, and seeking feedback from close relationships for personal growth.*
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