I’m so sorry this happened to you. I am a single mom by choice and I selected a donor. I’ve been honest with my daughter from the start. Im so sorry that your parents didn’t tell you the truth. I wish you the best on your healing journey ❤
This means a lot, thank you very much! After 3 years of learning, therapy, medication & support, I have pretty much come to terms with everything. I appreciate your kind words. I'd love to do a follow up video on this as well!
I think you have a right to feel however you feel about it. Angry, weirded out, confused… it’s a crazy thing to think about. I’m still just reeling and that’s ok. I’m not ok, by a long shot and you know what? That’s ok.
Thank you for this video. I found out I was donor conceived when I was 23 but was told that anonymous meant anonymous and there was nothing I could do. It only recently occurred to me about doing a DNA test and I am awaiting 23andMe results now. Can really relate to everything you are saying and will be really interested to find out if I have other half siblings out there.
It’s really nice to know that I’m not alone in this journey. I really wanna do a follow up video to show how I’ve grown as a person & accepted the truth.
Being told earlier isnt always helpful either. I was told between 1st and 2nd grade when we were changing schools, and Mom literally held me down to tell me. I just have a sort of mental snapshot of that experience, one if very few memories before we moved when I was 13. I don't know if the brother I grew up with knew back then, I don't know if the information I have known was all given to me then or if there were more conversations I just don't remember. I always thought that had played into my blocking out my childhood for some reason, but didn't understand why I would remember the thing that was so traumatizing. It then made me confused and questionable about dating, because literally anyone could be a half sibling. And at the same time I didn't feel like I fit in with my family. Although it sounds like most of us have some sense of that either way. I find it somewhat funny now that they were concerned we didnt look like Dad. Ive been mistaken for Mom on multiple occasions because we looked so much alike. But anyway, We were DC because Dad had a vasectomy when he was married to his first wife. Mom told me they based the characterists they requested on Dad for stuff like height, hair color, ethnicity, etc. A month before she passed when I was 25. Not sure it came up again until my estranged half sister said something at the hospital a couple days before Dad passed 10 years later. He was my Dad, he always will be. But I am seriously thinking about getting my DNA done. Im not much into the genealogy stuff, but I would really like to find out about half siblings. My big question mark is do I do the health info or not. I already have health problems, and Im concerned that will create levels of anxiety that I don't really need. But then I see videos about how it saved peoples lives too.
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s good to know we’re not alone in this situation. I hope you find peace and comfort! I have my confused and down days-it’s created anxiety & depression. But with medication & therapy, I’m doing okay now. I’m in a better place! I need to share an updated video. Sending love and light to you, my friend!
Me too man. Kinda… Life is weird right? My dad knew I was probably going to find out because I was talking about these kits, and my mom was having her second bypass surgery… I don’t think he thought she would live. He told me… I was 37 and I had two kids already. Turns out I’m 50% Jewish - I think I can get them down to 40 tho.
Why dont parents tell their kids when they are little and keep talking about it in language they understand then it will not be a shock. Feel so bad for all of you. 😪
Thank you so much! After over a year of learning and growing and positive communication with my mom, I have truly come to terms with everything. I still have good and bad days. But overall, I'm okay with everything!
I know that at least in the 80s it seems like parents were predominately told not to tell kids. Not sure when that changed, but I was told at 7 or 8ish? And I think it was somewhat because they were really concerned and there was a lot going on that they told me.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I am a single mom by choice and I selected a donor. I’ve been honest with my daughter from the start. Im so sorry that your parents didn’t tell you the truth. I wish you the best on your healing journey ❤
This means a lot, thank you very much! After 3 years of learning, therapy, medication & support, I have pretty much come to terms with everything. I appreciate your kind words. I'd love to do a follow up video on this as well!
I think you have a right to feel however you feel about it. Angry, weirded out, confused… it’s a crazy thing to think about. I’m still just reeling and that’s ok. I’m not ok, by a long shot and you know what? That’s ok.
Thank you for sharing! I’d love to do a follow up video on this!!! A lot has changed 😁
Thank you for this video. I found out I was donor conceived when I was 23 but was told that anonymous meant anonymous and there was nothing I could do. It only recently occurred to me about doing a DNA test and I am awaiting 23andMe results now. Can really relate to everything you are saying and will be really interested to find out if I have other half siblings out there.
It’s really nice to know that I’m not alone in this journey. I really wanna do a follow up video to show how I’ve grown as a person & accepted the truth.
Being told earlier isnt always helpful either. I was told between 1st and 2nd grade when we were changing schools, and Mom literally held me down to tell me. I just have a sort of mental snapshot of that experience, one if very few memories before we moved when I was 13. I don't know if the brother I grew up with knew back then, I don't know if the information I have known was all given to me then or if there were more conversations I just don't remember. I always thought that had played into my blocking out my childhood for some reason, but didn't understand why I would remember the thing that was so traumatizing. It then made me confused and questionable about dating, because literally anyone could be a half sibling. And at the same time I didn't feel like I fit in with my family. Although it sounds like most of us have some sense of that either way. I find it somewhat funny now that they were concerned we didnt look like Dad. Ive been mistaken for Mom on multiple occasions because we looked so much alike. But anyway, We were DC because Dad had a vasectomy when he was married to his first wife. Mom told me they based the characterists they requested on Dad for stuff like height, hair color, ethnicity, etc. A month before she passed when I was 25. Not sure it came up again until my estranged half sister said something at the hospital a couple days before Dad passed 10 years later. He was my Dad, he always will be. But I am seriously thinking about getting my DNA done. Im not much into the genealogy stuff, but I would really like to find out about half siblings. My big question mark is do I do the health info or not. I already have health problems, and Im concerned that will create levels of anxiety that I don't really need. But then I see videos about how it saved peoples lives too.
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s good to know we’re not alone in this situation. I hope you find peace and comfort! I have my confused and down days-it’s created anxiety & depression. But with medication & therapy, I’m doing okay now. I’m in a better place! I need to share an updated video. Sending love and light to you, my friend!
Thank you for sharing your story with us. 💜
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I am releasing my donor conception story this father's day. I hope that you'll watch mine next month when it releases!
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Fantastic you are feeling way better. ❤
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Me too man. Kinda… Life is weird right? My dad knew I was probably going to find out because I was talking about these kits, and my mom was having her second bypass surgery… I don’t think he thought she would live. He told me… I was 37 and I had two kids already. Turns out I’m 50% Jewish - I think I can get them down to 40 tho.
Why dont parents tell their kids when they are little and keep talking about it in language they understand then it will not be a shock. Feel so bad for all of you. 😪
Thank you so much! After over a year of learning and growing and positive communication with my mom, I have truly come to terms with everything. I still have good and bad days. But overall, I'm okay with everything!
I would be pissed,@@EricMobley1
I know that at least in the 80s it seems like parents were predominately told not to tell kids. Not sure when that changed, but I was told at 7 or 8ish? And I think it was somewhat because they were really concerned and there was a lot going on that they told me.
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