I am absolutely in the same boat. It’s tricky, because I work with him. I don’t want to come across too strong or know if he is interested back? His behavior demonstrates it(I’ve been taught that actions speak louder than words.), and on top of it, I am shy around him. He is so handsome and accomplished, that it’s intimidating. I have to say a lot of positive affirmations to myself before being around him, just to get the courage to be in the same room as him 🤦♀️😆.
I am doing the same, we catch each other's looking, have made eye contact, but that's it...I am shy to men but can make women friends easily...when he comes off dance floor watches me . Wish I wasn't scared.. he's a smooth dancer wish I could dance with him
I just started dating after becoming widowed 3 years ago. I took time to regroup then discover many men are still players. I wondered if I was doing this all wrong. No, I just haven't met the right one for me. Btw, my husband wasn't afraid to show how he felt about me to the world from the get-go and actually taught me how to love authentically.
The amount of scars accumulated by doing this have made unrecognizable by now, even to myself. There's no way in hell or heaven that I'm ever trying it again. I prefer to keep a very safe distance from men and I'm glad that I have learned to survive without them
From experience, I found the more disinterested I was in a man, the more interested he became in me. Yes all men are different but it's what I noticed.
All men are like that. If you show you are attracted to him he will assume he can do better than u and use you for a bit of time and then find someone 'better' (she will be better in his eyes cause she will treat him worse, she can be even less attractive than you). Yes, men are that superficial.
You are right, Ruby, to up to a point. I noticed this was especially true when I was young, in high school and college. However, I married and had a long-term marriage and when I found myself divorced in mid life these rules changed. Men in their 40s and 50s want to know if the woman has some skin in the game. While you don’t want to chase after a guy, to act aloof is not what men in their 40s and 50s want. They’ve been through so much and they don’t have the energy to chase a woman who seems disinterested. Just saying.
This guy offers sage wisdom. Many of these love gurus really don’t. Nothing is prefaced. For example, some of the younger ones, especially those who have never been married will tell you to lean back into your feminine energy when the guy seems to either not be interested or is pulling away. Play it cool and wait for the guy to come to you is what is advised. When you are in high school or college age a young woman who tends to ignore the guy or is aloof tends to get a guy who will faun all over her. However, as you move into adulthood and especially middle-age, guys just don’t fall over a woman anymore. Her best bet is to show that she has interest and some initiative too: This is far from chasing a guy.
Thank you. I never played it cool. I have taken the risk and continue to move forward. I lost my first due to cancer. Very hard to date. I appreciate the confirmation.
I really love your advice 😍. For me a date is coming up soon and I am so grateful you said that playing it cool, will destroy everything. Great story with the woman, who pooped into the ocean ;)
The covert ones are pretty tough to weed out, unless you've already been with one. Just remember that cycle of them putting you on a pedestal comes first. When they say things like that they know you are their soulmate, or they knew they wanted to marry you the first time they saw you, or that they would do anything for you, or that they can't imagine life without you (again, especially very, very early in the relationship) then they may have issues. Stable people don't bond with an idea of you, they bond over time with the you that they get to know. Also, just in my personal experience, the covert ones have abandonment issues, and *constantly* want you to prove to them that you love them. They are incapable of actually receiving your love, so your "proof" will never be enough.
I'm sorry to be the negative one but who talks about their bathroom behavior? How can anyone get turned on by that? I understand ok she's authentic or whatever but damn there's limits on what you should share.
I’m seeing a very shy guy, he has no confidence with women,but responds authenticity when I make a step. Wondering if he is teachable or just emotionally unavailable. I’d like to see a video on “shy” guys
I heard that guys women don’t show interest in like us because women continue being themselves. When we are interested in a guy, we stop being our authentic self and put on a false self. That’s why the guys we like loose interest.
Is that a strong sign of needy or clingy or cheap or weak if you've been vulnerable and available too quick in the beginning？I personally think people, especially man will feel and sense how this woman desperately want a relationship for some reasons. and that feeling has highly chance to turn off the man's interest. You don't play crap game to hurt the person's feeling, but being mysterious ignites the person's desire more in the beginning. after all... we humans always want to have what we don't own and giving high value to those stuff which are rare and hard to get.
Maybe NEVER is too general. In my case, This man just separated some months ago from the mom of his baby. I don’t want to be a rebound even if we have a lot of chemistry.
I showed guys my true self and they ran for hills leaving me alone. So I showed a false side and they ran for the hills. So now I hide because I can't win either way. Now what?
Did you listen to what he said? If you show your authentic self to a guy and he runs for the hills than that’s not the guy for you. That’s what he was saying.
If showing your authentic self makes men run away, maybe it's time to do some reflection. Do you love yourself and take care of your personal interests before others'? Do you have a healthy self esteem and set up boundaries? If you have these and men you meet still run, they're just not the right fit for you. Relax and continue living your best life.
@@ninalewis8243 If that's the case, just be patient while waiting for the right one to come along. Avoid acts of desperation, live your best life without them. When the right one comes along, he will see your worth and won't run away.
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Honestly, men are very puzzling. The more I act like an uninterested bitch, the more men like me. But when I really like one and act sweet I get friendzoned. So it's not just about being authentic, if that authenticity is neediness it doesn't work. Kinda begs the question of who am I truly so I can display that more.
Maybe it's because when I don't like someone, I don't care about him at all whatever I say and do won't change the fact that I will not like him. But like with someone I like, I act like I am not myself. I don't even speak what's inside of me, yeah the fear is there. Thanks for this video.
Somebody played it way way to cool with me and it snapped me right out of my limerent state best thing they did. Totally lost interest in them and i knew they were really into me.
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Can i ask a guy what he is waiting for to ask me out hahhaha 🤣This guy i see him looking am looking too he sat beside me on the bus but never talked to me😏 it been almost a year now am too shy and him too but i said hello several times and and he always realy doese say hello in a very nice way back... what now How long till he talks to me 😶 too shy for over year Now 🙂
*Love is a lot like a backache: it doesn’t show up on X-rays, but you know it’s there.*
Omg I'm glad I saw this...I was holding back for a guy because I was scared, not because I was playing games.
I’m Going through this now.
I do this too! I would never want to play games, but it’s scary when you don’t know where the guy is at and he isn’t one to share.
I am absolutely in the same boat. It’s tricky, because I work with him. I don’t want to come across too strong or know if he is interested back? His behavior demonstrates it(I’ve been taught that actions speak louder than words.), and on top of it, I am shy around him. He is so handsome and accomplished, that it’s intimidating. I have to say a lot of positive affirmations to myself before being around him, just to get the courage to be in the same room as him 🤦♀️😆.
Yes. This is called insecurity and it's not only a massive turnoff, it's a major red flag for us men!
I am doing the same, we catch each other's looking, have made eye contact, but that's it...I am shy to men but can make women friends easily...when he comes off dance floor watches me . Wish I wasn't scared.. he's a smooth dancer wish I could dance with him
I just started dating after becoming widowed 3 years ago. I took time to regroup then discover many men are still players. I wondered if I was doing this all wrong. No, I just haven't met the right one for me. Btw, my husband wasn't afraid to show how he felt about me to the world from the get-go and actually taught me how to love authentically.
Watch Manifest with Jasmine it did wonders for me!
Being authentic is best in any relationship or interaction, really.
Less stressful and energy draining, too! Just be you!💥💗
The amount of scars accumulated by doing this have made unrecognizable by now, even to myself. There's no way in hell or heaven that I'm ever trying it again. I prefer to keep a very safe distance from men and I'm glad that I have learned to survive without them
I agree
This is Right Authentic !!!Polarizing, for the right match who appreciates me for my courage and honesty !
From experience, I found the more disinterested I was in a man, the more interested he became in me. Yes all men are different but it's what I noticed.
All men are like that. If you show you are attracted to him he will assume he can do better than u and use you for a bit of time and then find someone 'better' (she will be better in his eyes cause she will treat him worse, she can be even less attractive than you). Yes, men are that superficial.
Same here
You are right, Ruby, to up to a point. I noticed this was especially true when I was young, in high school and college. However, I married and had a long-term marriage and when I found myself divorced in mid life these rules changed. Men in their 40s and 50s want to know if the woman has some skin in the game. While you don’t want to chase after a guy, to act aloof is not what men in their 40s and 50s want. They’ve been through so much and they don’t have the energy to chase a woman who seems disinterested. Just saying.
Insecure or a player more than likely though 🤣
Same here. They become even more persistent when told "I'm Married". smh
This guy offers sage wisdom. Many of these love gurus really don’t. Nothing is prefaced. For example, some of the younger ones, especially those who have never been married will tell you to lean back into your feminine energy when the guy seems to either not be interested or is pulling away.
Play it cool and wait for the guy to come to you is what is advised. When you are in high school or college age a young woman who tends to ignore the guy or is aloof tends to get a guy who will faun all over her. However, as you move into adulthood and especially middle-age, guys just don’t fall over a woman anymore. Her best bet is to show that she has interest and some initiative too: This is far from chasing a guy.
Thank you middle age realities. We have already played all theses games. It's just kismet now
Thank you. I never played it cool. I have taken the risk and continue to move forward. I lost my first due to cancer. Very hard to date. I appreciate the confirmation.
This is what I do when I meet someone new. Bonus to know I've been doing it right this whole time.
You’ve just told me in a few minutes where I went wrong in my past relationship. Thank you 🙏🏻🧡
I really love your advice 😍. For me a date is coming up soon and I am so grateful you said that playing it cool, will destroy everything. Great story with the woman, who pooped into the ocean ;)
What advice do you have for the ladies who have been open, honest and authentic and ended up with covert narcissists??
The covert ones are pretty tough to weed out, unless you've already been with one. Just remember that cycle of them putting you on a pedestal comes first. When they say things like that they know you are their soulmate, or they knew they wanted to marry you the first time they saw you, or that they would do anything for you, or that they can't imagine life without you (again, especially very, very early in the relationship) then they may have issues. Stable people don't bond with an idea of you, they bond over time with the you that they get to know. Also, just in my personal experience, the covert ones have abandonment issues, and *constantly* want you to prove to them that you love them. They are incapable of actually receiving your love, so your "proof" will never be enough.
Just knock them down, BLOCK THEM AND KEEP GOING
Not your problem to fix
Yeah I really to know.
Love the points covered in this video, thanks so much for sharing!
I'm sorry to be the negative one but who talks about their bathroom behavior? How can anyone get turned on by that? I understand ok she's authentic or whatever but damn there's limits on what you should share.
Yes. TMI to me.
I love this message so much!
I’m seeing a very shy guy, he has no confidence with women,but responds authenticity when I make a step. Wondering if he is teachable or just emotionally unavailable. I’d like to see a video on “shy” guys
I heard that guys women don’t show interest in like us because women continue being themselves. When we are interested in a guy, we stop being our authentic self and put on a false self. That’s why the guys we like loose interest.
Is that a strong sign of needy or clingy or cheap or weak if you've been vulnerable and available too quick in the beginning？I personally think people, especially man will feel and sense how this woman desperately want a relationship for some reasons. and that feeling has highly chance to turn off the man's interest. You don't play crap game to hurt the person's feeling, but being mysterious ignites the person's desire more in the beginning. after all... we humans always want to have what we don't own and giving high value to those stuff which are rare and hard to get.
Every guy that I've ever dated Nope - There was one that was sincere and honest. I dated him and married him and lost him in 2019.
great content, thank you!
Playing it cool turns decent men off especially ones who've been on the scene a while
GREAT ADVICE AND GREAT PRESENTATION.... 🙌🙌
The character Charlotte Lucas in Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austin says the same thing, that to secure Mr.Bingly she should show more affection.
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So nice! Thanks!
This is such helpful information. Thank you!
Maybe NEVER is too general. In my case, This man just separated some months ago from the mom of his baby. I don’t want to be a rebound even if we have a lot of chemistry.
@@nevad.jensen2800 NO.
This is great, golden truth indeed 👍🏻
I showed guys my true self and they ran for hills leaving me alone. So I showed a false side and they ran for the hills. So now I hide because I can't win either way. Now what?
Did you listen to what he said? If you show your authentic self to a guy and he runs for the hills than that’s not the guy for you. That’s what he was saying.
@@robynalvin6319 but when the fake side was shown, they still ran for the hills too .Now what?
If showing your authentic self makes men run away, maybe it's time to do some reflection. Do you love yourself and take care of your personal interests before others'? Do you have a healthy self esteem and set up boundaries? If you have these and men you meet still run, they're just not the right fit for you. Relax and continue living your best life.
@@Mamia209 yes I respect myself love myself but they still run away. No matter what I do they run for the hills 🙂
@@ninalewis8243 If that's the case, just be patient while waiting for the right one to come along. Avoid acts of desperation, live your best life without them. When the right one comes along, he will see your worth and won't run away.
I needed to hear that, thank you
Thank you so much for all you're Extraordinary content... The video editing, The Way you articulate Things is so awesome and super helpful I really do learn a lot from you... God-bless you man 🙌🏿🙏🏿, You deserve 1 billion subscribers
I love this! So good!!
Honestly, men are very puzzling. The more I act like an uninterested bitch, the more men like me. But when I really like one and act sweet I get friendzoned. So it's not just about being authentic, if that authenticity is neediness it doesn't work. Kinda begs the question of who am I truly so I can display that more.
Thank you very much I needed this
But I am only honest with someone whom I don't like and acts with a mask with someone I really like 😂
Maybe it's because when I don't like someone, I don't care about him at all whatever I say and do won't change the fact that I will not like him. But like with someone I like, I act like I am not myself. I don't even speak what's inside of me, yeah the fear is there. Thanks for this video.
Thank you for your help ❤️
Glad to see this
So true ... 🙏for that vid! x
I think I'm to open and honest I believe I scared him away or he actually listened to my haters lies about me
Somebody played it way way to cool with me and it snapped me right out of my limerent state best thing
they did. Totally lost interest in them and i knew they were really into me.
Will i do that to ,to play cool specially qhen iknow that man like me but still i found them playing.
True😊👍
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Can i ask a guy what he is waiting for to ask me out hahhaha 🤣This guy i see him looking am looking too he sat beside me on the bus but never talked to me😏 it been almost a year now am too shy and him too but i said hello several times and and he always realy doese say hello in a very nice way back... what now How long till he talks to me 😶 too shy for over year Now 🙂
Yeaaah!!!
I could have gone my whole life without hearing your story about a woman who took a sh*t in the Ocean. How disgusting! 🤮
Wowwww 😍
Please don't s..t in the ocean.
😊👍
If you’re being disingenuous you’re teaching yourself how not to communicate. 🤯. It does take courage though.
You couldnt have done this video earlier😡
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🤣😂why are you Mad at him
Who honestly disliked this video
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Lol
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Thank you. I needed to hear this.💯