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Just keep in mind that you being a nice guy, good man, or bad boy isn’t up to you, it’s 100% how she perceives you. Three men can do and say the exact same things and she’ll interpret it 3 different ways based on how attracted she is.
A good guy is a man with character and principles. He treats people well and shows respect. However, he is not a pushover or a doormat. I think a 'nice' guy is more of a people pleaser.
Exactly, be a good person, not just nice. Nice is good but if you're nothing else, if you're not courageous, honest and YOU, man or woman, you're not gonna attract a soul that's worth your time.
Nice guys are weak BECAUSE they are putting more value on women than themselves. They have low self-esteem. That's what needs to be worked on and strengthened.
@@TrippAdvice well tripp, we all have our own opinions and i respectfully disagree. I am living proof that you can be nice and get women. You just cant be nice to them MAJORITY of the time. If so, you will be taken advantage of which is crazy. Why would any want to take advantage of someone who has their best interest at heart. So thats why i say they are not good human beings
Dee Jay I agree with you and Tripp. Nice guys should keep boundaries. Women should have more empathy and should appericate the nice/kindness being giving to her.
@@Dee--Jay You have to be able to stand up for yourself and put them in check when they are wrong. Do it respectfully though. If you don't, they will walk all over you.
I just think you should be who you are as a person in general instead of trying to change yourself to fit in . A woman is going to like you for you and if she doesn't that person wasn't for you at all!
Exactly. If you are who you are + confident, then you should start attracting girls who like you. It also depends on what kind of girls your going for though bc maybe u like certain kinds of girls that don’t like your type.
Tripp, there really are no words to describe how special your videos are. You get the message across with such uncanny clarity that is simply beyond awesome. Thank you.
Your interview with Dr Robert Glover got me onto his No More Mr Nice Guy book which is a complete life changer, Nice Guy Syndrome isn't as simple as it sounds, it's seriously deep. Amazing book! Thank you Tripp for making me aware of him 👏
Wow a good guy is a nice guy bud nice guy is a good guy they're one in the same bud. And the people that are insecure are the mean people not the nice people that's why they're mean because they're insecure.
I don't see women being in the bad girl anc the good girl, balance. They just being picky until they get old I did all of a sudden they want a nice guy
When was the last time you heard a guy brag to his friends “I have a date tonight with a broke, average- looking 46-year-old mom, and man you would not believe how nice and polite she is! She treats me so well.” Not valuing “nice” over “hotness/status” isn’t exactly a “female” thing that guys need explained to them.
i don't really wanna compliment myself but yeah i'm a nice guy and i wanna be myself (who is a nice guy) why would i change myself? it's the who should change not me...
Why should I cry if Girls don't like my niceness ? Today, we are in so good era that... I have many things to enjoy... Like Pornography, Prostitution, Homosexuallity, Meditation etc. Life can be made a beautiful chance to enjoy... Be aware and don't waste it in crying and complaining. Everyone is unique here, Just be yourself and enjoy your uniqueness.🙃
Because nice guys aren't willing to step on the throats of others to achieve success, which is what ladies love to see. That attraction is inherently/biologically evil and is an indisputable logic that only the ignorant or evil would disagree with.
I can say this from experience. I don't know everything but one thing Nice Guys do that works against them is: being overly polite!! Women in their 40's find politeness appealing, but women in their 20's and early 30's look at a super polite guy as being a weakling. That's a turn off. Never be rude to women; that's going way too far the other way. Best route: be just polite to the minimum. Women in their 20's and 30's think being minimum polite to them signals you are an assertive male. Then, as an aside, women in their 40's find very polite men appealing. They think you are a Gentleman and they like polite guys then.
Part of the problem is that it’s not your actions but your motivations that are seen as the problem and that’s 100% filtered through a woman’s perception. A man can do and say something and a woman’s reaction is based on whether or not she’s already attracted to him. If she thinks he’s hot, him bringing her flowers is romantic. If she’s not attracted to him, he’s a creep who’s trying to manipulate her into sleeping with him. And to really prove it doesn’t make sense, the one who she really has the hots for, the bad boy, can completely skip getting her anything for Valentine’s Day or her birthday, only call her for the occasional hookup and he’s the one she’ll drop every other guy for.
All the nice guys out there, please read No More Mr. Nice Guy.. its changing my life.. I haven't got any gf yet but at least it's telling me why should I stop being a nice guy... believe me.. you will feel empowered after reading Robert Glover's No More Mr. nice guy book.. and you will start taking action towards becoming the man whom girls are attracted to...
To be nice is not nice. Its very unattractive and weak in womens eyes. You must be strong in such way you explain. Men better get rid of this nice guy disorder and dont accept to finish last. Thank you
People are mostly confused about the concept nice guys which is a term used in these kind of videos associated to the pick up and seduction community. Most people debate the degradation of the nice qualities. The name was given after negative qualities were identified and no the other way around so this can not be debated in its meaning. It is a way to define the supposedly "good intentions" sarcastically of a guy pretending a girl. Out of this context then you can argue and claim as much as you want.
This explains exactly why I'm still a virgin at 44 years old.Yeah i said it and it's so damn pathetic of me to be a virgin at my age and I hate myself for it but I can't change my past.I never thought in a million years i would ever be a virgin at my age because I almost lost my virginity quite a few times in my early twenties. My parents unfortunately told me from a very young age that I should behave in a nice way towards people. Yeah that advice ruined my life as I missed out on getting girls in my twenties as plenty of them were interested in me but I never made a move on them because I was a coward.I remember my friends constantly cock blocking me every time I would try to chat up girls when I was in my twenties. My friends would often put me down in front of the girl to make sure they don't like me and like them instead.I was so angry at my friends,like why did they do this to me as they already had girlfriends.Some of my friends had multiple girls on the go and were bragging about all the sex they were all having. Now I feel very bitter and cut myself off from people and promised myself not to be nice again.The problem is my mind feels like it has been programmed to be nice all the time and I can't just change it. So what should i do now,should I just give up on women forever and the hope of ever losing my virginity because I just can't simply change my personality.
I’m female and met an amazing nice guy. He’s a southern gentleman and he likes me a lot and my Florida wild lol. He’s sophisticated, handsome, smart everything. I want to be with him so bad.
Tripp, Although I love your content, I have to disagree with you on this particular topic. As a woman, I do like nice/good guys because these men know how to be consistent and be there for you when you need them. The nice man knows what he wants, doesn't play games and has a clear vision of his goal and future. What you are talking about here is women who are attracted to unavailable men. These men show fake confidence, and are very good at the beginning of one relationship, but then, they evacuate themselves from your life because they can't sustain it. More than talk about nice people, we should look with clever attention to the reasons why men and women find some partners attractive and others, who would be good for them, not that attractive. Attachment style, childhood experiences, and past relationship experiences are some of the reasons to explain it. In the dating world, everyone seems to be terrified. People think just because you are honest and consistent that you are playing games. Now, just because one man is nice, he is a pushover and is trying to manipulate their partner? Nice people: - Good listeners - They are generous - They make others feel good, because they care - They know the difference between being a doormat vs generous giver - They treat others well, but also themselves too. Have a good weekend. Alexandra
I agree wholeheartedly with your statement Alexandra Maria!!! I was beginning to feel after watching the video that I had to start changing myself to adapt to what women want , which I am a very nice person with a great heart which can be a death sentence at times in the ever changing world we live that is filled with violence, hate and anger!! Thank you for standing up for the nice people in this world!!
Great points and fair, but as a man here is what I think. First of all, he's explaining it fine. He's leaving nothing out. You forgot to mention what if at all the nice guy gets back. And everything is a game at the start. Otherwise, nothing would be fun.
Great points. I actually like both sides to this. Everyones interpretation is served up a little different based on past life experiences. I think we focus too much on the contrast between "nice guys" and "bad boys" as there isn't a happy medium. Those are the men that many (not all) women picture in their heads prototypically. i.e. being mentally sharp, can justify providing resources for the tribe (the family), is a go getter, has ideal reproductive traits etc. I think most of Tripps videos get misinterpreted by people thinking hes saying ALL of these women or ONLY these type of women. Interesting discussion! Cheers.
Your videos are very informative but I don't know why people don't like it after watching it.one thing that you pointed and is right is that we nice acting guys do the nice stuff to manipulate others to like us and that is absolutely right.I didn't noticed this before.from now on I will never try to manipulate people to like me.I will do what I want to do
Women love drama - if there is not drama; they will create it, cheat on you to get it, leave you / divorce you to get it. The Nice Guy is boring. Women / girls do not give priority or support to persistence, punctuality, consistency, respect, loyalty, responsibility, dedication or honor. be kind, considerate, thoughtful and faithful to a girl - she / they will shiate on you. without exception.
“Don’t mess with the nice guys friends when the also have demons they hold in” “Don’t change yourself just for a girl” “There is a time for nice guy and a time for demons”
Very good video, Tripp. I totally lived this transformation, a specific moment in life if hard enough will bring some questions in place. Hope everyone can understand this early in life.
Thank you! I'm dating a nice guy now and I'm so bored im trying to get him to open up and be himself but he's so insecure and its so transparent and turns me off. I don't want a bad boy, but bad boys don't mind ruffling feathers to get what they want and they know who they are.
Cool get him out of his comfort zone. But don’t break up with him, go for a douchebag and then come crawling back to him when it doesn’t work out with the bad boy. Oh and stop looking for guys to entertain you 24/7 Love. Enjoy!
Good content again Tripp, You are aging like a fine wine. With this quick videos everyday. Lucario & Rom Wills < Fan here They talk about having a mouth piece and showing that boldness. I am that nice guy and now knowing I need to be in the middle because nice is boring and most guys are nice only. I have found enough confidence in myself too start pulling this off. In my experience so far, this will take time and I need to be patient and work all aspect of life / Game.
Oh, they know how to read men, they just don't want a genuinely nice guy. Women today chase narcissists/sociopaths and bad boys. Narcissists/sociopaths because they are capable of calibrating to a woman's feelings instantly and bad boys because they are very confident when it comes to their looks and already have other women around them(abundance mindset). If you don't fit in either of those two categories you are going to have to demonstrate that you are very successful financially.
@@boss4330 you know it’s weird that you mention sociopaths and bad boys because isn’t it weird that the media always pushed or had the clique of the good girl and bad guy & more recently there’s been this romanticizing of mentally ill partners. Like the show “ You”. Anyway I don’t think it’s completely true because my friend in love with this guy who is definitely a “nice guy” so, but she could be an exception.
When a woman is with a nice guy, nice things mostly will happen. When a woman is with a bad guy, mostly bad things will happen. They will learn the hard way also. Woman need accountability also. Nice guys can't keep being degraded.
I totally understand women. Nice guys are not trustworthy and can be narcissistic and manipulative. there is hughe difference between being a pushover for approval or getting laid and being nice because you really mean it. I believe that those 'assholes' behave more in the way a man is supposed to behave.
Nice guys are exactly what they sound like.... nice, good, trustworthy. There is no negative connotation. Now narcissists(who only pretend to be nice) are a different story. Don't confuse the nice guy with the borderline.
@Shield Liger You and me are arguing semantics. However, when modern women use the term nice guy they refer to the actual good guy who they see as worthless. Do you understand that? When you join the chorus of thots who like to put down men(who are genuinely good/nice) you are sabotaging yourself and other men. The narcissist(who's the fake nice guy) has a lot more success with women today than the actual good/nice guy because women are fake.... and they love fake.
@@boss4330 I think that bad boys and tough men (to whom women tend to be drawn) are not necessarily bad people. Take Bruce Wayne as an example; he ,like the villains of the Dark Knight trilogy, has been the product of the same circumstances (chilhood trauma, etc) which lead to hate, resentment and bad feelings. The difference between Bruce Wayne (aka Batman) is that he chose to use all those bad feelings to really understand criminals, combat them and help society as his life purpose. That makes him, in my eyes, a truly good man because he did something extremely difficult which is turning such negative and destructive feelings into something good which is far more difficult than to use them to destroy or take advantage of others. In that process, he developed his own edge and his character. Women are drawn to that kind of men. Of course, women, that are not ok emotionally, will be more drawn to men that are really bad (e.g. Psycopaths like the Joker or Silva from James Bond) whereas women that understand, that are ok and understand men, would feel more attraction to men that do their best to do the right thing even though that sometimes is too fucking difficult without hurting others. The problem is that the archetype of a good man in society nowadays and thanks to Feminism is that of 'a pushover' instead of a stoic old-fashioned badass like James Bond, Bruce Wayne, Marcus Arelius and General Montgomery. The world just needs more men like them and fewer pushovers...
Seems like it's mainly western women who don't like nice guys. When I talk to foreign women, both through texting or video chat, many like me and find me interesting. Some even fall in love quickly. (Sometimes it does look legit, other times not so) Only a few western women I've met in person or online seem to like and accept me for who I am. I am a little shy and I am not really interested in being the center of attention in a group. I am not into small talk either. I have more enjoyment with 1 on 1 conversations than with a group. I've been trying to fix that nice guy persona for some time. Trying to look interesting with my hobbies, sense of humor, interests and knowledge of pop culture/history/trivia among other things. I try to not act shy or meek, especially around people I feel comfortable and confident enough to be around. Seems it mostly doesn't work still. Sometimes certain people have pushed or bossed me around growing up, but I have fought back more often as an adult.
@The Darkest Knight I have been trying to improve my confidence lately, which has sort of worked. Like getting new clothes, trying to stop worrying what others think, act a little sarcastic or silly with others, trying out new hobbies and watching videos from relationship coaches.
It's interested to read the comments here rather than watching such videos 😂... I am being a nice guy always feel low whenever I watch these videos and I cannot turn out to be a bad and jerk as well that puts me into a position of so much needy..... I want to be as I am with some tunings here and there..... Don't worry guys women always have their own filtering system and they always know how to chop you from your master techniques cos they also watching such videos throughout their life.... Be confident and be as you are..... Don't be so needy and desperate..that's the major turn off in front of any women on earth...
Let me be honest here, there are a few of Relationship and Sex advicer here on RUclips that I follow and the one thing in common on all these people I follow are the low subscribers and view. It honestly suck because they are actually really good at it. Like Ma boi Trip here... But deep deep down Inside I really don't want other guys to find out about them either.😂😂😂😂😂😂
The word "nice" is not a character trait, it's a verb. It's not realistic, it's not a part of someone who has developed character or has the ability to introspect on his actions and then actually grow. Being nice is an action intended to gain something from someone else, whether that be just that person liking them in general, winning trust faster, or pretending to be the champion and emotional protector while using the "alpha male" to continuously compare themselves too. It quite frankly can come across as creepy and even predatory at times. IT's aggressiveness wrapped up inside passiveness and manipulating your emotions until you wake up. It's gaslighting in stealth mode and ultimately acting like a victim for standing for truly nothing.
I don't like nice guys, I don't like bad boys, I don't like bad guys. I like GOOD guys, i liked the guy whom the Lord wants me to be with. Good guys are people who aren't insecure, are kind, but are dominant, and are NOT toxic. Bad boys are just wannabes, who just use you for sex (I never had much care for sex, sex doesn't attract me) Bad guys are just Toxic, use you for sex, cheat like, abuse, and just are not kind. Now the nice guys, okay, I have no hatred towards these guys, they are kind, but the reason why girls aren't attracted to "The nice guy" is because they are nice just because they want to people to like them, basically not secure, they also give to many gifts, if you just keep giving gifts and such it will make the woman overwhelmed and tired. Women dont really like bad guys? They just dont know the other types of guys out there. Once again, I like GOOD guys
Only immature women think that way because truth is they don’t want someone out of there league That’s why they settle for less and people say “ why r u with him”
Is there an equivalent for women? Do "nice gals finish last?" Or maybe they finish first? Idk, as a woman I relate too much to the bad guy type; I'm very opinionated and disagreeable to a point that I'm just now coming round to realizing is a big turn off for men. But then when I look at other women who are incredibly agreeable and a pushover, I'm like how is that attractive?! I wish there were more female role models who represented characteristics of a woman who holds true to her values and beliefs, but when disagrees is firm yet soft in her delivery. Because I'm lost as to how to achieve that, lol. 😅
Yeah so Im a good guy and im also extremely ambitious in my personal and professional life, maybe more than most. The term "nice guy" is just to vague. You can be caring and kind to women without being a pushover. You can be good and interesting! This video is not for me. I know who I am.
Hey Tripp Can I Judge a girl to be interested in me based on texting (actions not words) and neglicting the fact that she is not willing to meet as she is extremely shy !! Plzzz I Feel you should make a video on it ...It Will Answer To A lot Of Men !!
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Nice guys are boring and weak that is not fun and emotionally weak, too accomodating and pushover. Confidence, not caring what others think, going though world with ease, being tough. Nice guys have low self esteem and aren't confident of themselves so they do things in order to impress someone. Be in the middle of the spectrum have qualities of nice guy but don't sell yourself and don't step on others. Be Unapologeticaly yourself. Don't compare youself with others. This is who i am, this is what i want.Period Not being an asshole but has that charisma and confidence!
With all due respect, this is not true. For over 15 years, I’ve tried it all. The bad guy, the strong guy, the nice guy, the bitcoin investor, dude for some of us- we’re just going to die alone.
You have to understand stand. Not all woman are just clones And you probably watch to meny movies. But you probably "just assuming" have not had a girl from high school But are you trying to say that more then half of the people on earth can't Get laid...don't be stupid If you were to say "it's just kids" Or something like that then I can expect that but if you don't watch a lot of movies then what makes you think that YOU know what women like us humans have different options on people we like...
There you have it. Women do like nice guys, cept these nice guys turn out to be incompetent losers who take their pain out onto their children and pretend everything is okay.
What women don't realize is the jerks and bad boys want them for is a piece of their @$$ then when they have a bun in the oven these guys split and make them single moms wanting none of the responsibility of the child Nice guys have the good jobs and take care of them who wants a single mom they can always train a nice guy to their desires with no complaint
You explained why a woman wouldn't like assholes but you don't give reasons why she didn't do well with or like the nice guy. She just moved on lol. Because he was a push over? Boring? Both? Indecisive? Come on Tripp.
The bad boy doesn't look like Shrek or a short fat hobbit. He is better looking than the nice guy. Nice guy that are good looking can attract women, but have a hard time keeping a women interested enough to stay with them long term. So bad boy that is good looking, can keep a women interested longer than nice guy, that is good looking. If your having a hard time attracting women that means your not good looking or she thinks you have nothing to offer her as value, or both, it's not hard for you to attract a women because your a nice guy, being less of a pushover ect just leads to more options with women.
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Better to be a Good Man, as opposed to a "Nice Guy."
Evil is better
@@crescentwarriors2503 - That might work for you, but as for me, that's not the type of man I want to be, nor choose to be.
@@crescentwarriors2503 YOU WATCH MOVIES A LOT I THINK IT DONT SUIT ME I AM HAPPY WITH MY LIFE
@@himanshuthakur6991 yes i did
Just keep in mind that you being a nice guy, good man, or bad boy isn’t up to you, it’s 100% how she perceives you. Three men can do and say the exact same things and she’ll interpret it 3 different ways based on how attracted she is.
A good guy is a man with character and principles. He treats people well and shows respect. However, he is not a pushover or a doormat. I think a 'nice' guy is more of a people pleaser.
Yes !
They're just basically the same, woman ruined it, it doesn't make anysense to choose abusive bad guy over a good man, a nice guy, flawed stupid logic.
Do not give your power to women, nor follow the ways that destroy kings. Proverbs 31:3
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Better to be on the corner of a roof top than to be with a contentious woman
Is that in bible?
A run yes it is
Mark 12:30-31 is also in the bible.
Key phrase: “you want to be nice not to get someone to like you.”
Exactly, be a good person, not just nice. Nice is good but if you're nothing else, if you're not courageous, honest and YOU, man or woman, you're not gonna attract a soul that's worth your time.
Nice guys are not weak. They just put value in a women more than himself. Any woman doont want that or takes advantage of that isnt a good human being
Nice guys are weak BECAUSE they are putting more value on women than themselves. They have low self-esteem. That's what needs to be worked on and strengthened.
@@TrippAdvice well tripp, we all have our own opinions and i respectfully disagree. I am living proof that you can be nice and get women. You just cant be nice to them MAJORITY of the time. If so, you will be taken advantage of which is crazy. Why would any want to take advantage of someone who has their best interest at heart. So thats why i say they are not good human beings
@@Dee--Jay You're literally saying that you put her on a pedestal, which is unattractive.
Dee Jay I agree with you and Tripp. Nice guys should keep boundaries. Women should have more empathy and should appericate the nice/kindness being giving to her.
@@Dee--Jay You have to be able to stand up for yourself and put them in check when they are wrong. Do it respectfully though. If you don't, they will walk all over you.
Sounds like too much work, I think I’ll just stay single
Lol
🤣 same
Same man, I gave up, just can't keep changing
😂 that attitude will work though
You need companionship, get a dog. They’re the only ones who will truly love you.
It's all fun and games until the bad boy cheats on you and you divorce him and take half of his income, whatever that is.
Half a computer speaker now a days
And beats the woman
And then they complain on Reddit why there are no "nice guys" lmao hypocrites.....
I just think you should be who you are as a person in general instead of trying to change yourself to fit in . A woman is going to like you for you and if she doesn't that person wasn't for you at all!
Exactly. If you are who you are + confident, then you should start attracting girls who like you. It also depends on what kind of girls your going for though bc maybe u like certain kinds of girls that don’t like your type.
Tripp, there really are no words to describe how special your videos are. You get the message across with such uncanny clarity that is simply beyond awesome. Thank you.
They want a bad boy until one punches them in the mouth
No, she’ll still want him. My first wife left me for a man who abused her for years.
I think a better word is kind. You can be a kind man with a vision, but still have boundaries and your own personality.
It is indeed pathetic to live in a world wchich equalts being nice to or weakness.
Your interview with Dr Robert Glover got me onto his No More Mr Nice Guy book which is a complete life changer, Nice Guy Syndrome isn't as simple as it sounds, it's seriously deep. Amazing book! Thank you Tripp for making me aware of him 👏
is the interview video on the channel??
Keep trying
This sounds about right to me. Sad but true. Sometimes the “nice guy” screams insecurity. I would rather a good guy over a nice guy.
Wow a good guy is a nice guy bud nice guy is a good guy they're one in the same bud. And the people that are insecure are the mean people not the nice people that's why they're mean because they're insecure.
It’s the same thing 🤣Just say you want a bad man. Lol
I only show emotion to her, nobody else. I've been called brain dead because of the lack of emotion. And that still makes me a pushover.
Lmao I swear bro you just can’t please people nowadays
I don't see women being in the bad girl anc the good girl, balance. They just being picky until they get old I did all of a sudden they want a nice guy
Yes... 20 year old women's thinking is a lot different than 30 year olds...
@Trinder3467 if you're talking about golddiggers then yeah... but I dont give a flying fuck about that
@@arthurmorgan2906 All 30+ women are gold-diggers.... some just want more than others. None wants a broke man.
Yeah then the nice guy stops being nice because he knows being nice is a bad idea.
@@boss4330 Yeah but men will accept a broke woman.
When was the last time you heard a guy brag to his friends “I have a date tonight with a broke, average- looking 46-year-old mom, and man you would not believe how nice and polite she is! She treats me so well.” Not valuing “nice” over “hotness/status” isn’t exactly a “female” thing that guys need explained to them.
Boom. This comment is the one.
i don't really wanna compliment myself but yeah i'm a nice guy and i wanna be myself (who is a nice guy) why would i change myself? it's the who should change not me...
Hits home pretty hard Tripp. Love your content. Man you’re so right....
Why should I cry if Girls don't like my niceness ?
Today, we are in so good era that... I have many things to enjoy... Like Pornography, Prostitution, Homosexuallity, Meditation etc.
Life can be made a beautiful chance to enjoy... Be aware and don't waste it in crying and complaining.
Everyone is unique here, Just be yourself and enjoy your uniqueness.🙃
Because nice guys aren't willing to step on the throats of others to achieve success, which is what ladies love to see. That attraction is inherently/biologically evil and is an indisputable logic that only the ignorant or evil would disagree with.
I can say this from experience. I don't know everything but one thing Nice Guys do that works against them is: being overly polite!! Women in their 40's find politeness appealing, but women in their 20's and early 30's look at a super polite guy as being a weakling. That's a turn off. Never be rude to women; that's going way too far the other way. Best route: be just polite to the minimum. Women in their 20's and 30's think being minimum polite to them signals you are an assertive male. Then, as an aside, women in their 40's find very polite men appealing. They think you are a Gentleman and they like polite guys then.
Because non-millennial women actually have class and respect a man that has respect for people. Idk wtf these women my age are on nowadays
Social media fucked their brains all over the place. Just like mine.
Radical honesty
Yup.
Just one advice don't give her to much attention build yourself first and live she is just one part of your life.
Part of the problem is that it’s not your actions but your motivations that are seen as the problem and that’s 100% filtered through a woman’s perception. A man can do and say something and a woman’s reaction is based on whether or not she’s already attracted to him. If she thinks he’s hot, him bringing her flowers is romantic. If she’s not attracted to him, he’s a creep who’s trying to manipulate her into sleeping with him. And to really prove it doesn’t make sense, the one who she really has the hots for, the bad boy, can completely skip getting her anything for Valentine’s Day or her birthday, only call her for the occasional hookup and he’s the one she’ll drop every other guy for.
That was the best comment, i've read here, Bro. Pure truth.
All the nice guys out there, please read No More Mr. Nice Guy.. its changing my life.. I haven't got any gf yet but at least it's telling me why should I stop being a nice guy... believe me.. you will feel empowered after reading Robert Glover's No More Mr. nice guy book.. and you will start taking action towards becoming the man whom girls are attracted to...
To be nice is not nice. Its very unattractive and weak in womens eyes. You must be strong in such way you explain. Men better get rid of this nice guy disorder and dont accept to finish last. Thank you
People are mostly confused about the concept nice guys which is a term used in these kind of videos associated to the pick up and seduction community. Most people debate the degradation of the nice qualities. The name was given after negative qualities were identified and no the other way around so this can not be debated in its meaning. It is a way to define the supposedly "good intentions" sarcastically of a guy pretending a girl. Out of this context then you can argue and claim as much as you want.
This explains exactly why I'm still a virgin at 44 years old.Yeah i said it and it's so damn pathetic of me to be a virgin at my age and I hate myself for it but I can't change my past.I never thought in a million years i would ever be a virgin at my age because I almost lost my virginity quite a few times in my early twenties. My parents unfortunately told me from a very young age that I should behave in a nice way towards people. Yeah that advice ruined my life as I missed out on getting girls in my twenties as plenty of them were interested in me but I never made a move on them because I was a coward.I remember my friends constantly cock blocking me every time I would try to chat up girls when I was in my twenties. My friends would often put me down in front of the girl to make sure they don't like me and like them instead.I was so angry at my friends,like why did they do this to me as they already had girlfriends.Some of my friends had multiple girls on the go and were bragging about all the sex they were all having. Now I feel very bitter and cut myself off from people and promised myself not to be nice again.The problem is my mind feels like it has been programmed to be nice all the time and I can't just change it. So what should i do now,should I just give up on women forever and the hope of ever losing my virginity because I just can't simply change my personality.
Go to Pattaya Thailand, your life will change for the better.
Coulda got a hooker for $200 bucks bruh! Pop that cherry!🤣
Lol!!!! Join a fight gym for a few months and then go to Thailand. Do it. At least the fight gym part
I am 21 and virgin thanks for your life lesson. Maybe I can learn from this.
I’m female and met an amazing nice guy. He’s a southern gentleman and he likes me a lot and my Florida wild lol. He’s sophisticated, handsome, smart everything. I want to be with him so bad.
Kind, respectful, generous (I don’t only mean materially) and mentally mature men are EXTREMELY attractive. People pleasers and needy are not.
The "mixed message" video has given me some hints and it helps me a lot..
Tripp,
Although I love your content, I have to disagree with you on this particular topic.
As a woman, I do like nice/good guys because these men know how to be consistent and be there for you when you need them.
The nice man knows what he wants, doesn't play games and has a clear vision of his goal and future.
What you are talking about here is women who are attracted to unavailable men. These men show fake confidence, and are very good at the beginning of one relationship, but then, they evacuate themselves from your life because they can't sustain it.
More than talk about nice people, we should look with clever attention to the reasons why men and women find some partners attractive and others, who would be good for them, not that attractive.
Attachment style, childhood experiences, and past relationship experiences are some of the reasons to explain it.
In the dating world, everyone seems to be terrified. People think just because you are honest and consistent that you are playing games. Now, just because one man is nice, he is a pushover and is trying to manipulate their partner?
Nice people:
- Good listeners
- They are generous
- They make others feel good, because they care
- They know the difference between being a doormat vs generous giver
- They treat others well, but also themselves too.
Have a good weekend.
Alexandra
I agree wholeheartedly with your statement Alexandra Maria!!! I was beginning to feel after watching the video that I had to start changing myself to adapt to what women want , which I am a very nice person with a great heart which can be a death sentence at times in the ever changing world we live that is filled with violence, hate and anger!!
Thank you for standing up for the nice people in this world!!
Great points and fair, but as a man here is what I think. First of all, he's explaining it fine. He's leaving nothing out. You forgot to mention what if at all the nice guy gets back. And everything is a game at the start. Otherwise, nothing would be fun.
Great points. I actually like both sides to this. Everyones interpretation is served up a little different based on past life experiences. I think we focus too much on the contrast between "nice guys" and "bad boys" as there isn't a happy medium. Those are the men that many (not all) women picture in their heads prototypically. i.e. being mentally sharp, can justify providing resources for the tribe (the family), is a go getter, has ideal reproductive traits etc. I think most of Tripps videos get misinterpreted by people thinking hes saying ALL of these women or ONLY these type of women. Interesting discussion! Cheers.
as if there isn't a happy medium* implying that there is one.
necessary grammar correction
Well said Alexandra. I agree.
You know. This was the right video at the right time.
True. The middle zone is the best.
Life is not a game, yet you have to know game to attract a life.
Your videos are very informative but I don't know why people don't like it after watching it.one thing that you pointed and is right is that we nice acting guys do the nice stuff to manipulate others to like us and that is absolutely right.I didn't noticed this before.from now on I will never try to manipulate people to like me.I will do what I want to do
Your videos are awesome! I wonder how many people will be interested during this corona thing
Time to study up. It will all be over soon enough.
Women love drama - if there is not drama; they will create it, cheat on you to get it, leave you / divorce you to get it.
The Nice Guy is boring. Women / girls do not give priority or support to persistence, punctuality, consistency, respect, loyalty, responsibility, dedication or honor.
be kind, considerate, thoughtful and faithful to a girl - she / they will shiate on you.
without exception.
Women are not attracted to simps and guys that call themself "nice", but aren't really
“Don’t mess with the nice guys friends when the also have demons they hold in”
“Don’t change yourself just for a girl”
“There is a time for nice guy and a time for demons”
You're a great guy for giving us guys such great advice.
Women: we want nice guys
Translation
Women: we want nice guys, but only if they're physically attractive
They also want bad boys only if they are physical attractive :)
Very good video, Tripp. I totally lived this transformation, a specific moment in life if hard enough will bring some questions in place. Hope everyone can understand this early in life.
Thank you! I'm dating a nice guy now and I'm so bored im trying to get him to open up and be himself but he's so insecure and its so transparent and turns me off. I don't want a bad boy, but bad boys don't mind ruffling feathers to get what they want and they know who they are.
So you want a balance guy ?
Cool get him out of his comfort zone. But don’t break up with him, go for a douchebag and then come crawling back to him when it doesn’t work out with the bad boy.
Oh and stop looking for guys to entertain you 24/7 Love. Enjoy!
@@zack1610 she already did!!!!
Good video I watched three of these this is the best one!
Interesting, never looked at it that way. Where to start?
Good content again Tripp,
You are aging like a fine wine. With this quick videos everyday.
Lucario & Rom Wills < Fan here
They talk about having a mouth piece and showing that boldness.
I am that nice guy and now knowing I need to be in the middle because nice is boring and most guys are nice only. I have found enough confidence in myself too start pulling this off.
In my experience so far, this will take time and I need to be patient and work all aspect of life / Game.
Nice guys don't believe in themselves and that leads no confidence in themselves. You can't be afraid and why pretent to me someone else.
Wish I saw this sooner but watching this really made my day.
"It's going to take you months if not years, maybe even a full decade"...I'm 51. I screwed.
Oh..... I feel you buddy
What a great channel to come across. Liked & Subscribed.
I'm just a nice guy never been a push over. So they dont know how to read people or at least me
Oh, they know how to read men, they just don't want a genuinely nice guy. Women today chase narcissists/sociopaths and bad boys. Narcissists/sociopaths because they are capable of calibrating to a woman's feelings instantly and bad boys because they are very confident when it comes to their looks and already have other women around them(abundance mindset).
If you don't fit in either of those two categories you are going to have to demonstrate that you are very successful financially.
@@boss4330 They always did bro . Now the social media just made it more visible .
@@suryakiran3085 I'm old enough to know you are wrong. Times changed.
@@boss4330 Sorry bro . I made this comment for another one . You can just read it . It make no sense .😞 Anyways my mistake .
@@boss4330 you know it’s weird that you mention sociopaths and bad boys because isn’t it weird that the media always pushed or had the clique of the good girl and bad guy & more recently there’s been this romanticizing of mentally ill partners. Like the show “ You”. Anyway I don’t think it’s completely true because my friend in love with this guy who is definitely a “nice guy” so, but she could be an exception.
When a woman is with a nice guy, nice things mostly will happen. When a woman is with a bad guy, mostly bad things will happen. They will learn the hard way also. Woman need accountability also. Nice guys can't keep being degraded.
Do what you want. Always lookout for numero uno cause that's the only person that really matters!
I totally understand women. Nice guys are not trustworthy and can be narcissistic and manipulative. there is hughe difference between being a pushover for approval or getting laid and being nice because you really mean it. I believe that those 'assholes' behave more in the way a man is supposed to behave.
Nice guys are exactly what they sound like.... nice, good, trustworthy. There is no negative connotation. Now narcissists(who only pretend to be nice) are a different story. Don't confuse the nice guy with the borderline.
@Shield Liger You and me are arguing semantics. However, when modern women use the term nice guy they refer to the actual good guy who they see as worthless. Do you understand that?
When you join the chorus of thots who like to put down men(who are genuinely good/nice) you are sabotaging yourself and other men.
The narcissist(who's the fake nice guy) has a lot more success with women today than the actual good/nice guy because women are fake.... and they love fake.
@@boss4330 I think that bad boys and tough men (to whom women tend to be drawn) are not necessarily bad people. Take Bruce Wayne as an example; he ,like the villains of the Dark Knight trilogy, has been the product of the same circumstances (chilhood trauma, etc) which lead to hate, resentment and bad feelings. The difference between Bruce Wayne (aka Batman) is that he chose to use all those bad feelings to really understand criminals, combat them and help society as his life purpose. That makes him, in my eyes, a truly good man because he did something extremely difficult which is turning such negative and destructive feelings into something good which is far more difficult than to use them to destroy or take advantage of others. In that process, he developed his own edge and his character. Women are drawn to that kind of men. Of course, women, that are not ok emotionally, will be more drawn to men that are really bad (e.g. Psycopaths like the Joker or Silva from James Bond) whereas women that understand, that are ok and understand men, would feel more attraction to men that do their best to do the right thing even though that sometimes is too fucking difficult without hurting others. The problem is that the archetype of a good man in society nowadays and thanks to Feminism is that of 'a pushover' instead of a stoic old-fashioned badass like James Bond, Bruce Wayne, Marcus Arelius and General Montgomery. The world just needs more men like them and fewer pushovers...
Shield Liger naw most good guys finish last to women tend to cheat on them more and try and get control over them, and I’m not making this up
Seems like it's mainly western women who don't like nice guys. When I talk to foreign women, both through texting or video chat, many like me and find me interesting. Some even fall in love quickly. (Sometimes it does look legit, other times not so) Only a few western women I've met in person or online seem to like and accept me for who I am. I am a little shy and I am not really interested in being the center of attention in a group. I am not into small talk either. I have more enjoyment with 1 on 1 conversations than with a group.
I've been trying to fix that nice guy persona for some time. Trying to look interesting with my hobbies, sense of humor, interests and knowledge of pop culture/history/trivia among other things. I try to not act shy or meek, especially around people I feel comfortable and confident enough to be around. Seems it mostly doesn't work still.
Sometimes certain people have pushed or bossed me around growing up, but I have fought back more often as an adult.
@The Darkest Knight I have been trying to improve my confidence lately, which has sort of worked. Like getting new clothes, trying to stop worrying what others think, act a little sarcastic or silly with others, trying out new hobbies and watching videos from relationship coaches.
Good for you. It's awesome that you are working on yourself.
@@TrippAdvice Thank you. It's not to impress others, but to grow as a man.
You made some really good points. I have had similar experiences.
Dude great video. I went to skip ⏭ many times but I did not as you kept me listening 👂 respect bruh 😎
Plain and simple.
Good women and attracted to good men. Period
Spot on video
Lets be KIND instead of nice.
Nice, kind...same thing.
It's interested to read the comments here rather than watching such videos 😂... I am being a nice guy always feel low whenever I watch these videos and I cannot turn out to be a bad and jerk as well that puts me into a position of so much needy..... I want to be as I am with some tunings here and there..... Don't worry guys women always have their own filtering system and they always know how to chop you from your master techniques cos they also watching such videos throughout their life.... Be confident and be as you are..... Don't be so needy and desperate..that's the major turn off in front of any women on earth...
You didn't get the real message of the video I see
Let me be honest here, there are a few of Relationship and Sex advicer here on RUclips that I follow and the one thing in common on all these people I follow are the low subscribers and view. It honestly suck because they are actually really good at it. Like Ma boi Trip here... But deep deep down Inside I really don't want other guys to find out about them either.😂😂😂😂😂😂
Be a gentleman
I think a lot of people are nice and not to get someone to like them. Thats the perception of another person of Thats why they are being nice
I like good guys with strong will power
The word "nice" is not a character trait, it's a verb. It's not realistic, it's not a part of someone who has developed character or has the ability to introspect on his actions and then actually grow. Being nice is an action intended to gain something from someone else, whether that be just that person liking them in general, winning trust faster, or pretending to be the champion and emotional protector while using the "alpha male" to continuously compare themselves too. It quite frankly can come across as creepy and even predatory at times. IT's aggressiveness wrapped up inside passiveness and manipulating your emotions until you wake up. It's gaslighting in stealth mode and ultimately acting like a victim for standing for truly nothing.
Please tell me about how you're not married & without a full functioning family unit.
Thanks Trip
It's another NeverEnding topic
I don't like nice guys, I don't like bad boys, I don't like bad guys.
I like GOOD guys, i liked the guy whom the Lord wants me to be with.
Good guys are people who aren't insecure, are kind, but are dominant, and are NOT toxic.
Bad boys are just wannabes, who just use you for sex (I never had much care for sex, sex doesn't attract me)
Bad guys are just Toxic, use you for sex, cheat like, abuse, and just are not kind.
Now the nice guys, okay, I have no hatred towards these guys, they are kind, but the reason why girls aren't attracted to "The nice guy" is because they are nice just because they want to people to like them, basically not secure, they also give to many gifts, if you just keep giving gifts and such it will make the woman overwhelmed and tired.
Women dont really like bad guys? They just dont know the other types of guys out there. Once again, I like GOOD guys
Thank you Tripp!
Only immature women think that way because truth is they don’t want someone out of there league
That’s why they settle for less and people say “ why r u with him”
Be a villain who is also a hero in a movie, 😂simple
Is there an equivalent for women? Do "nice gals finish last?" Or maybe they finish first? Idk, as a woman I relate too much to the bad guy type; I'm very opinionated and disagreeable to a point that I'm just now coming round to realizing is a big turn off for men. But then when I look at other women who are incredibly agreeable and a pushover, I'm like how is that attractive?! I wish there were more female role models who represented characteristics of a woman who holds true to her values and beliefs, but when disagrees is firm yet soft in her delivery. Because I'm lost as to how to achieve that, lol. 😅
they'd rather go back with the jerk that cheated on them five times instead of giving the good guy that loves her an opportunity.
maybe some, but big majority no
Yeah so Im a good guy and im also extremely ambitious in my personal and professional life, maybe more than most. The term "nice guy" is just to vague. You can be caring and kind to women without being a pushover. You can be good and interesting!
This video is not for me. I know who I am.
Women themselves are unsecure most of the time. So obviously they are not in a position to demand a man needs to be secure all the time
Hey Tripp Can I Judge a girl to be interested in me based on texting (actions not words) and neglicting the fact that she is not willing to meet as she is extremely shy !!
Plzzz I Feel you should make a video on it ...It Will Answer To A lot Of Men !!
Shes not into you, move on. Women will move hell on earth if they want you and give no excuses to meeting up and sex.
@@AliasTekTV I think You're Right Buddy !! Thnx !
True pimp spend no doe on da woman
Takes a five gallon bucket full of salt lifetimes worth to know a person and you Stil Dont know them times change of course and it's not the day of like g ma n g pa or your parents ya know what I mean too savie stay covid safe and have your fun while your young what you like then you like always just matter of taste to your likeining 😆
Women like nice guys. Not people pleasers, though.
Wrong
So true. My friend just went back to a go who was arrested twice for STRANGLING HER. Nice means nothing. Be a dick. Then be NICE. They do deserve it
Nice guys are boring and weak that is not fun and emotionally weak, too accomodating and pushover.
Confidence, not caring what others think, going though world with ease, being tough.
Nice guys have low self esteem and aren't confident of themselves so they do things in order to impress someone.
Be in the middle of the spectrum have qualities of nice guy but don't sell yourself and don't step on others.
Be Unapologeticaly yourself.
Don't compare youself with others.
This is who i am, this is what i want.Period
Not being an asshole but has that charisma and confidence!
not caring what others think? being tough? ummm nope... nothing good in this. Almost no girl that I know would like this kind, sorry
There are girls out there that like good guys
I'm single and searching
With all due respect, this is not true. For over 15 years, I’ve tried it all. The bad guy, the strong guy, the nice guy, the bitcoin investor, dude for some of us- we’re just going to die alone.
I just got a wife from overseas.
Lol so I can’t be myself and I have to change the way I am just to get a woman. Nah I’ll stay single
You have to understand stand.
Not all woman are just clones
And you probably watch to meny movies.
But you probably "just assuming" have not had a girl from high school
But are you trying to say that more then half of the people on earth can't
Get laid...don't be stupid
If you were to say
"it's just kids"
Or something like that then I can expect that but if you don't watch a lot of movies then what makes you think that YOU know what women like us humans have different options on people we like...
You can still be a good person? Lol women aren’t attracted to that
Many nice guys find love and get married.
Facts
I ask a girl out and she replied I rather go out with the dog.
There you have it. Women do like nice guys, cept these nice guys turn out to be incompetent losers who take their pain out onto their children and pretend everything is okay.
Is your shirt from Jos A bank ?
M Tailor
What women don't realize is the jerks and bad boys want them for is a piece of their @$$ then when they have a bun in the oven these guys split and make them single moms wanting none of the responsibility of the child Nice guys have the good jobs and take care of them who wants a single mom they can always train a nice guy to their desires with no complaint
You explained why a woman wouldn't like assholes but you don't give reasons why she didn't do well with or like the nice guy. She just moved on lol. Because he was a push over? Boring? Both? Indecisive? Come on Tripp.
there's videos online from psychologists that can help cure your social anxiety disorder.
That's awesome. Yeah I bet there are a lot out there.
I see plenty off nice guys and they are ugly and are with gorgeous girls
The bad boy doesn't look like Shrek or a short fat hobbit. He is better looking than the nice guy. Nice guy that are good looking can attract women, but have a hard time keeping a women interested enough to stay with them long term. So bad boy that is good looking, can keep a women interested longer than nice guy, that is good looking. If your having a hard time attracting women that means your not good looking or she thinks you have nothing to offer her as value, or both, it's not hard for you to attract a women because your a nice guy, being less of a pushover ect just leads to more options with women.