3 Spells Against Narcissist’s “Black Magic” Presence, Voice (LISTEN, PRINT, DECLAIM)
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- Опубликовано: 9 фев 2025
- Remove the narcissist’s spell: 3 affirmations.
Listen daily, print and paste everywhere, repeat aloud.
1. It is not about me. It is not my fault. The narcissist lives inside his/her mind and reacts only to internal dynamics. S/he is out of touch with reality.
2. I was chosen by the narcissist because of his/her needs and fantasy - not because of WHO I am.
3. The narcissist was compelled to devalue and discard me in order to exorcise his/her inner “demons”. I could have done nothing to prevent it and neither could the narcissist.
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I'm 58 and live with an Aged Collapsed Narcissist. The total lack of "empathy" is their primary behavior... the same as serial killers.
Wow. You are so right!
I’m a scapegoat from a particularly vicious family. Every time I’m around them, I find myself following the little slime trails of their gossip & lies about me. I would put up with anything, and admit to anything, just to be accepted. But that never happened, because it had nothing to do with me. It was not personal.
Thank you for these liberating words, Sam. I’m 70,and wish I’d known all this when I was a teenager.
After seven years of narcissistic torture from which i am only just emerging , i would add - give gratitude. Give gratitude for all the simple small gifts of life that make a day special . The inability to give gratitude is a narcissist's kryptonite.
I found that "seeding doubt" is one of their top 3 favourites
@whatap-prof-sam-vaknin-1-1 Narcisists also tell other people what to do 😂
Hey, can you please elaborate purpose of seeding doubt and how it benefits them and affects their victims?
@@rajatkumthekar94 do you really need explaining how seeding doubt works in their favour? You got tons of info on google about anything... how old are you?
That’s the worst, and they try to do it. BUT THEY LIVE IN THEIR OWN MIND, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!
This makes me cry... for the narcissist... what a terrible life to live... he took 7 years from me, but IMAGINE being stuck in that constant headspace... what a awful existence... he abandoned me for someone else... he won't ever be truly happy though.. but I know I will, eventually. Thank you for the affirmations ❤
Bless you for meeting negative with positive. Too few do. Walk in grace and may peace and fulfillment be ever on your path ❤️
They are not even worth one tear. They will sell everything, including logic, kindness, truth, and accountability to be "right." There's a book for survivors called, It's My Life Now.
@@lilu6766 No human is worth dismissing, book or no. That is an entire person, a life, a sentient being trapped in a prison of their own making. No matter what someone does or says, there still needs to be an element of compassion or we ourselves become dehumanized. Nobody is 100% bad 100% of the time and no one is in a position to be so harshly judging others. We have all (in our own ways in milder forms) at some point in time displayed some or all of these behaviors- maybe not enough to be classified a narcissistic personality, but enough that we should know we are not perfect and have no room to pass judgement. Move on, yes, but do so in a way that does not harden your heart and make you embittered. That enables the cycle of broken people to continue.
Sounds codependent
@gameznotgames2435 sounds like codependency
Professor Sam Vaknin is the 'go to' man when it comes to narcissists.
No 'therapy' no BS. Just the real truth served cold!!
❤❤
"CAPTIVE OF HIS/HER OWN SICKNESS & ONLY, ACTS ON HIS/HER INTERNAL NEEDS/WOUNDS/ SUPPLY & SURVIVAL"- THAT HELPS SO, MUCH. THANKU!.
Thank you, I am devastated with the loss of my grandchildren used as punishment by my daughter when I dare to not do as I am ordered. Exhausted I have finally had to remove and block her from my life. Your words have eased the pain. Thank you.
Very painful experiance. I have no contact to all my children and relatives, because of my EX husband is a religious fanatic narc, he wants to destroy me totally
Thanks Prof…for this it’s going to become my ‘mantra’ until I’m de-programmed ✊🏻
Yes...de-programmed..that's a good way to say it.
What you say is true !
Everyone's an expert at diagnosing narcissists these days. People just being selfish or hurtful isn't a thing. Nope. Narcissist. Full-blown personality disorder. Thank god the normal citizen is now capable of diagnosing this.
These things help me so much! Narcissits are masters of exporting all of their problems and needs and faults to others. My father was probably one for example. Not a very stong all the time but sometimes it got really horrible when his other side became more dominant. I also have to say that he was worse when he was younger and that he became better when he got older. He did things that people can't really imagine because most people who didn't know him really well, just superficially, said that what I and others said is a lie and started to work against me because they have become victims of his manipulation.
They are completely different people in private than they are in public.
Omg thanks. The 3 keys to unlock sanity in my mind. Amen brothers and sisters
Thank you doctor Sam. This is precisely what I needed to hear. I’m on a healing path from my NARC mother but her voice, her mockery, accusations, unfounded criticism and shaming still speak inside my head. Now i have a weapon to protect my boundaries, physical and mental. Your great help is deeply appreciated. Good luck to everyone who is here. Healing is possible with intention, hard work and self-love.
On the same journey.. all the best to you❤
Thank you Sam you’re a legend I needed to hear these so much! My boyfriend’s mother is causing so much distress not only to me but to my boyfriend too. She has bullied me, called me names and has been disrespectful to my partner also, she intrudes on our privacy, and she feels she owns him and no one else can have him, we’ve now backed away from her and now she blames me for the “family breaking up” and has deep hatred for me and wishes me dead (her nephew told me this)She has slandered me to the whole family and they hate me. When confronted about what it is I’ve done so wrong she can’t answer because she knows I haven’t. It’s actually insane how she deflects everything she does and aims the lime light towards me. We live right next door and with any bit of luck we will be out in the next few weeks. These words have given me some encouragement and comfort I appreciate them so much. Thank you again.
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@Michael-ow4kv Thank you so much I’ll check it out. 😊
This happened to me but his mother was stealth about herself and was a master manipulated so subtle that it made her seen innocent and caring but so conniving that she trianguled out of the sight of everyone else. He however was in denial and his mom is the standard for him and no women could ever compete against her. I had to walk away from all of them all the while he proclaimed none of the so-called truths I pointed out had anybearing on the demise of the relationship. He has weekly trips to see her and didn't give me a callfor anything weekly.. He lives in denial.
@@karenortega2046 Oh goodness bless you I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through it too it’s literally one of the most painful stressful situations. It was the exact same for my boyfriend he idolised his mother and she manipulated him for years but slowly he managed to see the truth as she let down her guard and started displaying awful behaviours, that not only hurt me but him also. I really do hope you’re happy and at peace now.
I am reading your message I am
not too sure how much distress your mother causes your boyfriend if all of this is mostly directed at you. Sounds like an enmeshed dynamic- has he ever put boundaries in place? Is he able to say no to her? Is there a healthy mother/son relationship? If you look closely enough you will be able to spot this. There is a wonderful video by Prof Vaknin on mentally unwell families- I recommend you listen to it! Lots of love
Professor Sam is appreciated beyond words by those who have experience abuse by individuals with NPD. It's awesome that he provides insight on the disorder and how we can heal. Also, he's has a bit of a comedic flare. We see you Professor.
Thank you Professor Vaknin
Metaphorically speaking, it feels like like this ‘witch’ tried to cast a ‘hex’ on me. These ‘people’ have a void where their souls should be.
No weapon formed against me shall prosper, in the name of Jesus.
Thanks Sam. It has been years since the narcissist has been in my life. Others have come in for a while, but because of you, I recognize them. The lingering thoughts from long ago were hard to negate, try as I may. I will practice this as you suggested…hearing it once lifted a cloud from me immediately. I went to a meeting and kept remembering from counselors, “What is your part, or why did you choose him? I could not answer for years. This question has haunted me. Internally I knew I did not choose him, but I was under a spell, so to speak. Not many people or professionals understand this concept. Thank you again.
I’m sorry you had to learn so much about narcissistic abuse! I thank you for sharing help to others! I feel for little kids who are going through this now! I wish I could help them!!
When it comes to deeply analyzing any complicated situation Sam is the man with the perfect touch!
Thank you for the mantras 🙏🏻
Wow..
Thank You 🙏
Simple but really powerful three affirmations ❤❤❤
And powerful because most times, we the targets/victims internalise the pain and ruminate over incidents that we had no control of...and never even participated willingly to the drama by the narcissists..
Professor Vaknin, I once knew a psychopath who claimed that very early in childhood he recognized he had to establish his own set of morals and he claimed he always adhered to them, although they may have been different morals than those taught to us by parents and society. He also asserted that if there are several true psychopaths at a gathering, they can immediately detect one another. They may work together in exploiting people and situations, not to become friends because that doesn’t matter to them, but because it’s mutually advantageous. Does this sound accurate to you? I’ve been curious about this for years and thought I’d finally ask.
Yes, it is by and large correct.
@@samvaknin Thank you for taking the time time to answer my question. Your book helped me get through the most difficult time of my life and I’m forever grateful 🙏🏼
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@@samvaknin I just reviewed it. There weren’t any other reviews on the page. Amazon said it might take a few days to show up.
How true! As a malformed subset of the collective hive mind consisting of an energy field consuming the light with their darkness.
Gracias, Prof. Saint Vaknin. Best wine for you!
Thank you, Professor, for sharing these "white magic" spells with us.
What a gift to humanity Dr. Vaknin is.
I was targeted by at least four
I count myself grateful and lucky to have gotten out alive!¡ Love to all survivors!!
I did this years ago, it took me about 4 years to see results. Great advice Sam, this technique is so helpful.
Professor you’re the best! I needed this today.
I made a recording of myself with affimations although i was hurting and hus voice was in my head i played the recording over and over to get into my psyche i tokd myselc on the recording that in a year from that recording i would be in a better place well it worked it has to be done with authority to the self also i would light a white tea light candle everytime he was in my head id look into the flame and say cancel i would see the residue of the dark mass leave and fill my soul with light. ❤❤
Thank you ❤I appreciate you so much professor my family and i have suffered so much because of my malicious ex husband and his demonic family cult in 36 years 😊many blessings to you.
same
The same for Borderlines too. Thanks a very lot
Thank you Profesor Vaknin, many blessings to you
Thank you for this video. My parents' narcissistic dismissal of many of my brother's and my hurts, prepared me for the narcissist I was married to for 24 years. I'm 18 years out, had 8 wonderful years with my late 2nd husband, and notice I still have some of that toxic voice of my ex in my head. What you're teaching will help me get rid of it.
That was soothing to hear .Thank you professor.
Thank you grand wizard Vaknin 🙏
My narcissist mother not only mentally trained me to understand that I only deserved shit and that I am nothing but shit. She actually makes voodoo dolls and sends me photos of the ones Ms that represent me. I wonder daily what I did to deserve that my own mother ensured my life was fucked. Since I’ve moved from Canada to Belgium, I am finally free. I really wish I had done it much sooner
love taking action videos!
in addition to the beautiful theoretical long deep lessons
Thank you! I feel much lighter!
Knowing what I know now, I could have written the script 27 years ago.
Thank you so much . Sometimes it seems like he s going to get by w it all and his final steps that lead to driving me insane ahgainst my will.and the police that wldnt arrest him are just as resposible , just as guilty .he got his orders from someone .they wld hve let him killme
My narcissist boyfriend of 10 years told me today that he tries to spend time by himself at home when he gets home from work(avoiding contact with me) to spare me his vile moods. This was a few days after he broke up with me by text, and then tried to fix it the next day. So this helps to put it into a proper framework - he lives in his own mind and has no need of me, and no desire to spend time with me or do anything with me or for me at all.
My divorce will be finalized this month.
Grateful for self care.
No role playing anymore.
Glad he discarded me
Thank you for this tool ...... very grateful!
My daughter has killed all love between my beautiful,grandchildren and myself. I have had to run away from her for all our mental well being.
She's just protecting her own kids lady, go get yourself checked! Hating your daughter like that, you must be seriously deranged up there!! Be grateful she's got better things to do and didn't put you in a mental facility yet, and you can sing freely to the cows all day long 😂😂 but careful though, cause karma's a bitch and it's coming for you
Omg I know it’s so horrible I pray for mental freedom heart freedom everyday
@@thejadestone1You’re a narcissist no empathy.
@@RandomPerson28337How are dead mother's made? 👁️ Let's ask Sam that.
Lol you're probably the one who created her
You are so right, thank you so much for sharing, no one ever thought about this, 💯%
This message and video is enlightenment. I appreciate your help my friend. I will watch more of your videos and subscribe to your channel. Blessings & Peace upon you .🗣️💪😁
Thank you for all the Years and hopefully more following ones.
Thank you so much. These statements are true medicine.
Thank you so much Sam Vaknin🙏 the best video ever❤ this mantra applies to all toxic relationships from chilhood to now 🎉
Hello, very interesting channel. Thank You for Your contribution to the healing of humanity ❤
Thank you Prof. Sam Vaknin
I just want to leave an extra mantra I kept repeating myself in times of rumination, one that worked miracles, in case anyone else finds it useful:
he/she is NOT MY problem anymore
You're helping so many of us. Thank you professor
Best advice ever! Now you really nailed it
This is so awesome.
So ... displace the intrusive thoughts about the narcissist with intrusive "affirmations" about the narcissist, pasted everywhere you look, and everywhere you go. Or ... you could just realize that they've wasted enough of your time, energy, and attention -- and just forget about them, and get back to living your life. 😊
Thank you Professor Vaknin. I will take the white magic suggestion.
Amazing! Thank you very much!
What the fuck within 27 seconds you read my mind. This voice is something I struggle with each day. You really know your shit.
Here's something that's particularly confusing to me. My 'narc' was my best friend and nothing more. He was simply *starting* to get abusive to me in particular, increasingly so towards the end, which is why I terminated our friendship - and paid a dear price for this. The abuse wasn't that bad, or at least didn't feel like it. But today, 10 years later, I am still struggling with significant abstract rumination. His voice is in my head very often. It doesn't feel like it's based on reality, even though he is factually a diagnosed narcissist. I just can't seem to connect his behavioral patterns that well to this ruminatory mental state. Does this imply there was more going on than I initially recall? I don't understand. It wasn't even an intimate relationship - neither of us are gay.
I had the same with a friend, and it was hard. Took over 2 years for the mask to really slip but at the time I couldn't process it because of the sense of allyship he had created and the joint project he manufactured.
Hello father ,
I would like to translate your videos in Arabic Language,
This disease is widespread in our countries like wild fire,
So I need the authorization from you please 💗
You don't need my permission. My videos are under the Creative Commons license and you can make any non-commercial use of them, as you please.
The misogny and patriarchy plays huge role in male narcissism
I hope your work will prosper
Prof Sam who does one who has joint custody with a NARC successful navigate the raising of the child to minimally impact the child's upbringing. Especially in a situation where the narc becomes very aggressive, at just your presence, even after many years of separation.
Search the From Child to Narcissist playlist.
Thank you
Happy Easter 🥚🐣🐇
My narc after 9 months of meeting and 6 months of marraige told me I had a unpleasant odor. He blamed it on my healthy smoothie that I make. So i had to stop. However that wasnt enough he proceeded to toss out all my vitamins, and skin care, telling me it made me smell bad. Im sorry but what the FUCK. I left his narc ass after that. Who does that? Ive never had anyone tell me that I had an unpleasant odor about me. He was cruel. I havent heard from him since I left 5 weeks ago. Someone who had
" no idea how much he loved and adored me." Unbelievable.
Maybe he was right? What has that got to do with being a narcissist!??
@@phatstar007 well how would you feel? Disrespect, control, crossing my boundaries. Your comment is way out of line on this feed. You have no idea what else he put me through do you? Not to mention that after I left he is stonewalling me. How dare you question my experience.
I was just commenting on your post, not your life story.....I'm not a mind reader! By your attitude, (and your apparent supplement smell) I'm really not surprised the guy did a runner! Best of luck for your future and health.
@@phatstar007 you can keep you insensitive comments to yourself. You're probably a narc since you're on his side.
@@phatstar007 damn, best of luck to you for your future and health too, brother.
Thank god 😮needed very much 😊
Professor Vaknin, thank you.
If the narc husband left a few choice words in my head, I have left volumes in his. I put up with it for a few years, after that.... 🎉
Thank you sir 🫶
Thank you so much!!!! ❤
Thank you
Brilliant video
Thanks, Wizard Vaknin!
Love you Sam. Youre truly a legend
Professor, please, talk about Self Supply. I am trying to help myself and have control over myself the same way you do to you. I know I can't but I can devote my life to work on it instead of depending on him to make me feel stable. I am boderline and he is a narcisit. 17 years of marriage, first and unique love. He betrayed me and went away to restart with his new supply. It didn't work and I still begging for him to return to me. I am killing myself while I am trying to survive my own mind. Please, help me!
Thank you for existing ❤
Thank you!!! ❤❤❤
You are genius!! Thank YOU!
Thank you 🔆🌟
Thank you.
God bless you
Bless you. Thank you.
Thankyou Prof. Vaknin ! 🙏
Gracias , tus conferencias me están salvando la vida
Funny one day. I heard in my intuition she is dead. I had a narc CBT. I thought she really died. Then a huge wind came out of me. Some say that was her demon. After I was told by some voice. She is dead. She wasn’t. The curse was broken. It took me 4 months to go no contact because she was elderly and I felt bad she crossed the line and made me her friend. Oh boy my first mistake. . A CBT practicing and charging for phone sessions at 82 years old. Flying monkeys all around who loved her money as it goes to them. It’s real. In therapy she built me up. Fake empathy. Then would tear me down. It was a nightmare. 70 000 over 10 years for her therapy. 10
Years and I got sicker and sicker with her inner child work. It was the best school ever. I can follow ever word you say. Because I loved it from a therapist.
Thank you for this.
Thank You !!!
Thank you very much
GRACIAS! SALUDOS!
What if the covert narcissist deceased
Whasaaa?? yes!!
Dear professor, thank you for this. On another note, does a narcissist derive any long term relief through devaluing/projectively identifying a particular supply - or do they need fairly constant renewal of supply to find this relief?
I have been diagnosed with PPD. I suspect my dad is a narcissist in addition to having been diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
Im in treatment. He is not. I would be willing to be interviewed. However i wouldn't want my name in it so I will delete this comment at some point. I don't know if this is something you'd be interested in or not.
Thank you, Professor Vaknin.
Yeah,just been targeted to be abuse😊
האם הנרקסיסט עצמו מודע או מכיר את המושגים " גז לייטינג" או "פלייס מונקיז"?
Search the channel for “aware”.
El narcisista me debe $, y no quiere pagar! 🐀🐀 Pero, tarde o temprano, lo hará! 💸🌱🌿💰🤲🙏👏🌺🕯️🌞
Thank you ❤
Thank you so much
Bless you. Thank you,
Thank you ❤️🙏🏼
Thank you❣️