OMG my boyfriend has done this to me to a point that I felt so low about myself. I lost my confidence in myself. I felt I was gross . I'm now not sure how to feel. I'm lost and hurting over this. I just don't know how to move forward. I've forgiven him because I love him( not sure why after this) but I can't forget about this, and I just found out it's been going on off and on for years. This has messed me up, I don't think I can work past this. People say once a cheater always a cheater. I use to be a cheater a long time ago, not proud of it ( in a different relationship) I changed all of that when I met my bf now, 13 yrs ago. I've never had the the urge to in this relationship. It's been 13 yrs now, still no Desire. So yes, People can change.
Seriously. My ex husband told me, the FIRST thing out of his mouth, was "I was just checking to see if you were spying on me." ...... ummm, he took it a step further and typed in the wrong password and made it say, "just seeing if she's looking" as a means to prove to me that that was the reason. I've never had my intelligence so insulted in my life. What a joke he was.
@@leahvillarreal4286 I tried to make it work for almost a year after I found out (same thing, on and off for years). I finally broke and filed for divorce. I was turning into an ugly person over time. I looked down on him, I was angry all the time, paranoid and distrusting... basically I was losing myself over it, I didn't like who I was anymore. That's when I knew I had to go. No regrets.
I caught my gf doing this, a while back a male friend call her with his gf on the line to see if my ex could explain to his gf they were just friends. That's when I told her I did not want to be super flirty or continue having heavy sexual talks with her male friends, anyway. A week ago, I checked her messenger, my intuition told me and the opportunity was there... I found she did not stop the behavior, plus she WAS SEXTING HER MARRIED COUSIN. I broke the relationship, it has been a week and I feel broken but I cannot allow her to do that.
Thanks .It does make sense.I don’t text to get attention,I wasn’t planning to text anyone it just happened ,we like each other ,and kind of in the same situation,.I don’t want to hurt anyone,but nobody knows what I feel inside.Thanks for time
You are very welcome. I think continuing to be clear with your husband about your intentions to want to end the relationship is the best plan AND slowly taking steps towards separating if that's what you truly want to do. Sometimes it takes multiple conversations to finally take physical action to leave.
@@nadiyachekan3143 That sounds like he's very invalidating towards your feelings. And I can see how it might feel like you're coming up against a wall every time. Just remember that even if your partner is not willing to cooperate and improve things, you ALWAYS have a choice about your life decisions and what you want to have happen for yourself. You are never stuck
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I've been with him for 14 months. He always leaves his phone face down. Showed up to one of our camp trips with a privacy screen. We have had multiple problems with me trusting him now. Last weekend we were supposed to be out of town working on us having a great time. I walked up behind him checking his phone and saw him write another woman i want it wish i was in between your legs to. Woman who sent him a picture of her legs. Mind you she was wearing Capris and it wasn't really that sext of a picture. I broke up with him. He is destroyed and wants to get back together and apologizes and has been so upset. I just feel so betrayed and hurt and disappointed. Prior to any of the problems him and I had a blast together all the time. Sad really. Thank you for the video. Just not sure if I'm over reacting. Don't really think I am. I think what he did is and was disgusting
@@AA-qe9hm i went through all this. She asked me to marry her when i found out and i took her back. Then she did it with someone else. You'll never trust him again and gradually it will eat away at you until you have no idea who you are anymore.
@@MrBadgerbingo yeah he did it then i forgave and then he did it again a few months down the line. People never change! I became a freak and spent most of my time checking his phone and online accounts when he was living stress free and having his fun. I later found out that he was doing it the whole time, I just hadnt found all of it
@@AA-qe9hm I was the same. My self esteem was gone, i became suspicious and isolated. Checked her phone all the time. I really lost sight of myself as she lied and gas lit her way through it all. I hope you're through it now and are ok.
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I my own relationship, if there are no other causes for concern and, the conversation were with a stranger and not ongoing ad strictly sexual, I might have hurt feelings but would likely find it to be a small transgression.. but change any of these circumstances and yes I feel betrayed! I am currently struggling with my partner because he has a long pattern of learned behavior doing this and now although he seems to be trying to meet me at my specific boundaries it's lie so much has happened now that I feel uncomfortable with him having any conversation with any other woman who isn't my friend too
MY WIFE TEXTED AND SEXTED ANOTHER MAN THAT SHE KNEW BACK IN THE DAY. SHE TOOK THE PICTURES/VIDEOS WITH MY PHONE, AND OR SHE HAD ME TAKE THE PICTURES AND SHE SENT THEM TO THIS OTHER DUDE, AND OF COURSE HE SENT BACK SOME CHOICE PHOTOS OF HIMSELF. SHE SAYS IT WAS ONLY EMOTIONAL, WAS LOOKING FOR ATTENTION, AND SAYS SHE WONT DO IT AGAIN, BUT MY MIND HASNT BEEN RIGHT SINCE I SAW THE TEXTS AND PHOTOS. SHOULD I LEAVE THE MARRIAGE? AM I A FOOL FOR WANTING TO WORK IT OUT? SO CONFUSED AND TROUBLED RIGHT NOW….
Thanks a lot for your videos,very informative.I do agree with you about texting and make sense what you just said in this video.I am in very bad relationship with my husband and want to separate.I did told him about my feelings and what disturbing me.I said he is free and I want him to let me go.In my case would you consider texting other person is cheating?
Hey there! It depends I think. If the text message is for the purpose of getting to know someone with the intention to hopefully date them, it's not cheating AS LONG AS your husband knows what you're doing and is accepting of that. Even though you want to separate, that doesn't mean he is ready to end it. So basically it would be cheating if he still wanted to be in an exclusive relationship AND you are texting with the intention of trying to date someone. Does that make sense?
Did you ask him why he does it ? And did he fully explain. If he is emotionally into someone else and arranging plans to meet. Yes it is. There are many different types of online chatting/sexting and through actual phone numbers which would be a closer connection i think to meet or already know the person in life.
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My significant other (wife of 47 years) is doing this sexting and it has gone to far, just short of meeting in the real world. What do I do? I don't think she will stop. I have caught her 3 times and she doesn't have any control.
You didn't address the root cause. Why would someone seek passionate communication with another? It doesn't start by accident. Unfortunately it can end by accident. Innocent texting can suddenly turn to love and infatuation.
My wife thinks that sexting is okay. She is a barber that only cuts men’s hair so she has an endless supply of new men to communicate with. I found this out after a couple years into the relationship, confronted her and her explanation is this: “It has nothing to do with you it’s me, i have self confidence issues. The only thing I get out of the messages are a temporary high of confidence.” She thinks that as long as she’s not “doing anything” it’s all just for fun and to feel good. However crazy it may seem, I believe her whole heartedly that she would never cheat on me. Also she is okay with me doing the same, as long as it’s within the boundaries of no emotional attachment and not being in person with any of these people and she doesn’t want to see it. I’m not ignorant to reality and we have communicated about this multiple times. She’s not hiding it from me and we both know it’s happening. I’ve gone through her phone a few times and every time it seems like the wrong thing to do because I get those details stuck in my mind and have to work past them all over again. I’m not at a point where I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m the one that needs to accept that it is just for fun and means nothing, but at the same time I don’t want her to continue doing this. I’m not partaking in sexting other people just because I don’t want to and it is crossing a boundary to me. We have the best relationship I’ve ever known besides this one issue. We have a great sex life and she has reassured me several time that our relationship is not lacking anything, so there is nothing I can do because there is nothing to fix. I would be grateful for any insight or perspective that could help!!! Thank you!
ok, this is what happened to me. I met someone 3 years ago and we started a passionate, intense, loving and exciting relationship. We began to plan to have a baby, buy a place, spend the rest of our lives together. Occasionally she would act weird, nothing i could quite out my finger on, but enough to make me feel like something was not right. Then i began to get suspicious, checked her messages and found out she'd been sexting a married man for the entire time we'd been together. She gas lit me, said she'd tried to tell me that she thought i'd be ok with it, that she thought all new couples did it. She used to tell this guy what we did in bed so he could get off, it was disgusting. After an awful few weeks I said i was willing to give it another go as long as it never happened again. She then asked me to marry her and i said yes. 3 months later she started acting weird again and I found out she was doing the same thing with another guy. And what did i do? I stayed, after she promised to never do it again. 2 years later and although i have no proof she hasn't done it again the trust was gone, and not just that, i couldn't stay with someone who treated me with such disdain and lack of respect. I tried to forgive her, and i think i did, but i could never forget how she made me feel. It was awful. If someone is making you feel bad tell them, and if they dismiss it, you need to decide whether you should stay with someone who treats you in such a callous way. it is not for her to decide what you think is right and wrong, it's up to you. It sounds like she's gaslighting you. You say there's nothing to fix yet you're writing under youtube videos. You sound exactly like i used to do. Don't ignore the red flags, don't just go along with t because the sex is great. I used to go through my exes phone all the time and work through things. That is NOT normal, or healthy. You'll end up a shell of yourself. i wouldn't wish what i went through on anyone.
@@MrBadgerbingo thank you for your perspective and advice. You’re right, it is up to me to decide what I’m willing to deal with and what is right and wrong to me not her. I haven’t gone through her phone in a long time because I know what I would find and the details would just hinder me from being happy and moving on with our relationship. It is obviously bothering me or I wouldn’t be commenting under RUclips videos. Thank you again I appreciate you sharing your story with me!
@@jklhu if the details of her phone chats would make you unhappy then the relationship is not an honest or a healthy one. You need to talk to her about it or walk away. Take it from me, the road you are going down will not make you happy.
@@MrBadgerbingo what if she’s not hiding the details of her phone chats though? She’s open and honest with communication about it. I know it’s happening and she’s not trying to hide it. Her perspective is that it means nothing, there’s no emotion involved, it’s just for the ego boost that she gets. I feel like the issue is just that our values and boundaries are different and I’m not sure exactly what to do about that. There is always something that doesn’t align in every relationship I’ve ever been in and I feel like truly loving someone is loving even the parts that seem negative and accepting them for exactly who they are and working to make them better for both of you. If she was hiding it from me or being dishonest about it, then it would be easy for me to say it’s completely wrong, but since she’s honest and open about it and she has the perspective about it that I can relate to and understand (everyone needs an ego boost to feel better about themselves sometimes) , it makes it more difficult for me to understand what I can do to feel better about the situation or to end a marriage over something that I couldn’t understand or accept. She says I can do the same things that she is, but she would never go through my phone to see it because it would hurt her just like it hurts me. She’s saying things to men that I don’t like and showing her body to men which I don’t like, but that’s as far as it goes and ever will go so I feel like in a way I really don’t have anything to be mad about if it makes her happy and I get the rewards of her happiness. I feel like I talk to myself in a circle about this. I wish you could know her and her personality because that is what makes it so much harder.
@@jklhu Ok, i know this isn't what you want to hear but brother to brother i have to be honest. You need to stand up for yourself, grow some balls and start making decisions that are good for you. You are NOT being kind to yourself. You are doing what every victim of abuse does, you are making excuses for her. This is abuse, you just can't see it because you're blinded by your feelings. It's as simple as this - you are being hurt by something that she is doing, she's then telling you that you shouldn't be hurt because it doesn't mean anything. That's gaslighting and it's abuse. YOU decide what's right and wrong for you, not her. My ex needed an ego boost and did exactly the same, sent pictures, messages to another guy, all the while i was planning holidays for us and looking at engagement rings. Different story with you because at least she's been honest with what she's doing, but it's still abuse. I bet the sex is amazing isn't it? Is that what's keeping you with her? It's what kept me in the abusive relationship i was in. But imagine how good the sex will be when you're with someone who doesn't hurt you. If she needs an ego boost by messaging other guys she isn't in love with you, she's using you as a support mechanism. If she was in love with you she'd stop. Why? because if someone you love tells you that something you're doing is hurting them, you stop. Why would you hurt someone you love?
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I've caught him sexting was even planning to travel abroad to sleep with his new lover. 11 months on he's still denying, justifying,rationalising,minimising and not taking responsibility for his actions. please advise me on this?
Communication is key. Why did he sext the other lady? Has he finally slept with her? Was he bored? Who triggered the conversation. U need to be open, yet rational. Sometimes mistakes happen and you won't let that ruin everything. But he needs to take responsibility for the hurt he's caused you and work on them. I seriously wish u all the best
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I think this is bullshit. A relationship and it's rules are dictated by the people in said relationship. As long as you communicate things with your partner and they are ok with said things, it's up to no one but them to decide. Maybe yall are just too traditional
The problem with confronting is people nowadays are so good at gaslighting and shifting the blame…
OMG my boyfriend has done this to me to a point that I felt so low about myself. I lost my confidence in myself. I felt I was gross . I'm now not sure how to feel. I'm lost and hurting over this. I just don't know how to move forward. I've forgiven him because I love him( not sure why after this) but I can't forget about this, and I just found out it's been going on off and on for years. This has messed me up, I don't think I can work past this. People say once a cheater always a cheater. I use to be a cheater a long time ago, not proud of it ( in a different relationship) I changed all of that when I met my bf now, 13 yrs ago. I've never had the the urge to in this relationship. It's been 13 yrs now, still no Desire. So yes, People can change.
Omg...absolutely!
Just found out my fiance was sexting.
Im so disgusted
Seriously. My ex husband told me, the FIRST thing out of his mouth, was "I was just checking to see if you were spying on me." ...... ummm, he took it a step further and typed in the wrong password and made it say, "just seeing if she's looking" as a means to prove to me that that was the reason. I've never had my intelligence so insulted in my life. What a joke he was.
@@leahvillarreal4286 I tried to make it work for almost a year after I found out (same thing, on and off for years). I finally broke and filed for divorce. I was turning into an ugly person over time. I looked down on him, I was angry all the time, paranoid and distrusting... basically I was losing myself over it, I didn't like who I was anymore. That's when I knew I had to go. No regrets.
So true. Hardest part is confronting
Food for thought: "A person who says they love you would never put themselves in a position to prove they don't."
I caught my gf doing this, a while back a male friend call her with his gf on the line to see if my ex could explain to his gf they were just friends. That's when I told her I did not want to be super flirty or continue having heavy sexual talks with her male friends, anyway. A week ago, I checked her messenger, my intuition told me and the opportunity was there... I found she did not stop the behavior, plus she WAS SEXTING HER MARRIED COUSIN. I broke the relationship, it has been a week and I feel broken but I cannot allow her to do that.
I am in a similar situation, can you update about how u feel right now? And did you consider getting back to her?
@@hadjer8146 don't walk away.. run. You have one-itis. Forget her. forget all women for a while and work on you. Do the work bud.
I agree it's cheating.
Thanks .It does make sense.I don’t text to get attention,I wasn’t planning to text anyone it just happened ,we like each other ,and kind of in the same situation,.I don’t want to hurt anyone,but nobody knows what I feel inside.Thanks for time
You are very welcome. I think continuing to be clear with your husband about your intentions to want to end the relationship is the best plan AND slowly taking steps towards separating if that's what you truly want to do. Sometimes it takes multiple conversations to finally take physical action to leave.
I agree that takes multiple conversations,but the thing is he doesn’t want to listen and say I need to see a doctor
@@nadiyachekan3143 That sounds like he's very invalidating towards your feelings. And I can see how it might feel like you're coming up against a wall every time. Just remember that even if your partner is not willing to cooperate and improve things, you ALWAYS have a choice about your life decisions and what you want to have happen for yourself. You are never stuck
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It's too many feelings about the act of sexting other people. Not enough conversations about WHY people are doing it to begin with.
I've been with him for 14 months. He always leaves his phone face down. Showed up to one of our camp trips with a privacy screen. We have had multiple problems with me trusting him now. Last weekend we were supposed to be out of town working on us having a great time. I walked up behind him checking his phone and saw him write another woman i want it wish i was in between your legs to. Woman who sent him a picture of her legs. Mind you she was wearing Capris and it wasn't really that sext of a picture. I broke up with him. He is destroyed and wants to get back together and apologizes and has been so upset. I just feel so betrayed and hurt and disappointed. Prior to any of the problems him and I had a blast together all the time. Sad really. Thank you for the video. Just not sure if I'm over reacting. Don't really think I am. I think what he did is and was disgusting
Im going through the same thing
I’m also going through the same thing
@@AA-qe9hm i went through all this. She asked me to marry her when i found out and i took her back. Then she did it with someone else. You'll never trust him again and gradually it will eat away at you until you have no idea who you are anymore.
@@MrBadgerbingo yeah he did it then i forgave and then he did it again a few months down the line. People never change! I became a freak and spent most of my time checking his phone and online accounts when he was living stress free and having his fun. I later found out that he was doing it the whole time, I just hadnt found all of it
@@AA-qe9hm I was the same. My self esteem was gone, i became suspicious and isolated. Checked her phone all the time. I really lost sight of myself as she lied and gas lit her way through it all. I hope you're through it now and are ok.
Hey Sis!! I love you. Thanks for this video.
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I my own relationship, if there are no other causes for concern and, the conversation were with a stranger and not ongoing ad strictly sexual, I might have hurt feelings but would likely find it to be a small transgression.. but change any of these circumstances and yes I feel betrayed! I am currently struggling with my partner because he has a long pattern of learned behavior doing this and now although he seems to be trying to meet me at my specific boundaries it's lie so much has happened now that I feel uncomfortable with him having any conversation with any other woman who isn't my friend too
MY WIFE TEXTED AND SEXTED ANOTHER MAN THAT SHE KNEW BACK IN THE DAY. SHE TOOK THE PICTURES/VIDEOS WITH MY PHONE, AND OR SHE HAD ME TAKE THE PICTURES AND SHE SENT THEM TO THIS OTHER DUDE, AND OF COURSE HE SENT BACK SOME CHOICE PHOTOS OF HIMSELF. SHE SAYS IT WAS ONLY EMOTIONAL, WAS LOOKING FOR ATTENTION, AND SAYS SHE WONT DO IT AGAIN, BUT MY MIND HASNT BEEN RIGHT SINCE I SAW THE TEXTS AND PHOTOS. SHOULD I LEAVE THE MARRIAGE? AM I A FOOL FOR WANTING TO WORK IT OUT? SO CONFUSED AND TROUBLED RIGHT NOW….
My boyfriend says it never happened and he doesn't know what else to say but I have literal proof
Very well said!
I found sexting messages on my ex’s phone and she said it was fine because she didn’t intend to sleep with him 🥱
Thanks a lot for your videos,very informative.I do agree with you about texting and make sense what you just said in this video.I am in very bad relationship with my husband and want to separate.I did told him about my feelings and what disturbing me.I said he is free and I want him to let me go.In my case would you consider texting other person is cheating?
Hey there! It depends I think. If the text message is for the purpose of getting to know someone with the intention to hopefully date them, it's not cheating AS LONG AS your husband knows what you're doing and is accepting of that. Even though you want to separate, that doesn't mean he is ready to end it. So basically it would be cheating if he still wanted to be in an exclusive relationship AND you are texting with the intention of trying to date someone. Does that make sense?
Did you ask him why he does it ? And did he fully explain. If he is emotionally into someone else and arranging plans to meet. Yes it is. There are many different types of online chatting/sexting and through actual phone numbers which would be a closer connection i think to meet or already know the person in life.
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My significant other (wife of 47 years) is doing this sexting and it has gone to far, just short of meeting in the real world. What do I do? I don't think she will stop. I have caught her 3 times and she doesn't have any control.
Question…. Would one consider sending an image of a finger representing a penis as a flirtatious joke to a bartender a type of sexting?
You didn't address the root cause. Why would someone seek passionate communication with another? It doesn't start by accident. Unfortunately it can end by accident. Innocent texting can suddenly turn to love and infatuation.
My wife thinks that sexting is okay. She is a barber that only cuts men’s hair so she has an endless supply of new men to communicate with. I found this out after a couple years into the relationship, confronted her and her explanation is this: “It has nothing to do with you it’s me, i have self confidence issues. The only thing I get out of the messages are a temporary high of confidence.” She thinks that as long as she’s not “doing anything” it’s all just for fun and to feel good. However crazy it may seem, I believe her whole heartedly that she would never cheat on me. Also she is okay with me doing the same, as long as it’s within the boundaries of no emotional attachment and not being in person with any of these people and she doesn’t want to see it. I’m not ignorant to reality and we have communicated about this multiple times. She’s not hiding it from me and we both know it’s happening. I’ve gone through her phone a few times and every time it seems like the wrong thing to do because I get those details stuck in my mind and have to work past them all over again. I’m not at a point where I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m the one that needs to accept that it is just for fun and means nothing, but at the same time I don’t want her to continue doing this. I’m not partaking in sexting other people just because I don’t want to and it is crossing a boundary to me. We have the best relationship I’ve ever known besides this one issue. We have a great sex life and she has reassured me several time that our relationship is not lacking anything, so there is nothing I can do because there is nothing to fix. I would be grateful for any insight or perspective that could help!!! Thank you!
ok, this is what happened to me. I met someone 3 years ago and we started a passionate, intense, loving and exciting relationship. We began to plan to have a baby, buy a place, spend the rest of our lives together. Occasionally she would act weird, nothing i could quite out my finger on, but enough to make me feel like something was not right. Then i began to get suspicious, checked her messages and found out she'd been sexting a married man for the entire time we'd been together. She gas lit me, said she'd tried to tell me that she thought i'd be ok with it, that she thought all new couples did it. She used to tell this guy what we did in bed so he could get off, it was disgusting. After an awful few weeks I said i was willing to give it another go as long as it never happened again. She then asked me to marry her and i said yes. 3 months later she started acting weird again and I found out she was doing the same thing with another guy. And what did i do? I stayed, after she promised to never do it again. 2 years later and although i have no proof she hasn't done it again the trust was gone, and not just that, i couldn't stay with someone who treated me with such disdain and lack of respect. I tried to forgive her, and i think i did, but i could never forget how she made me feel. It was awful. If someone is making you feel bad tell them, and if they dismiss it, you need to decide whether you should stay with someone who treats you in such a callous way. it is not for her to decide what you think is right and wrong, it's up to you. It sounds like she's gaslighting you. You say there's nothing to fix yet you're writing under youtube videos. You sound exactly like i used to do. Don't ignore the red flags, don't just go along with t because the sex is great. I used to go through my exes phone all the time and work through things. That is NOT normal, or healthy. You'll end up a shell of yourself. i wouldn't wish what i went through on anyone.
@@MrBadgerbingo thank you for your perspective and advice. You’re right, it is up to me to decide what I’m willing to deal with and what is right and wrong to me not her. I haven’t gone through her phone in a long time because I know what I would find and the details would just hinder me from being happy and moving on with our relationship. It is obviously bothering me or I wouldn’t be commenting under RUclips videos. Thank you again I appreciate you sharing your story with me!
@@jklhu if the details of her phone chats would make you unhappy then the relationship is not an honest or a healthy one. You need to talk to her about it or walk away. Take it from me, the road you are going down will not make you happy.
@@MrBadgerbingo what if she’s not hiding the details of her phone chats though? She’s open and honest with communication about it. I know it’s happening and she’s not trying to hide it. Her perspective is that it means nothing, there’s no emotion involved, it’s just for the ego boost that she gets. I feel like the issue is just that our values and boundaries are different and I’m not sure exactly what to do about that. There is always something that doesn’t align in every relationship I’ve ever been in and I feel like truly loving someone is loving even the parts that seem negative and accepting them for exactly who they are and working to make them better for both of you. If she was hiding it from me or being dishonest about it, then it would be easy for me to say it’s completely wrong, but since she’s honest and open about it and she has the perspective about it that I can relate to and understand (everyone needs an ego boost to feel better about themselves sometimes) , it makes it more difficult for me to understand what I can do to feel better about the situation or to end a marriage over something that I couldn’t understand or accept. She says I can do the same things that she is, but she would never go through my phone to see it because it would hurt her just like it hurts me. She’s saying things to men that I don’t like and showing her body to men which I don’t like, but that’s as far as it goes and ever will go so I feel like in a way I really don’t have anything to be mad about if it makes her happy and I get the rewards of her happiness. I feel like I talk to myself in a circle about this. I wish you could know her and her personality because that is what makes it so much harder.
@@jklhu Ok, i know this isn't what you want to hear but brother to brother i have to be honest. You need to stand up for yourself, grow some balls and start making decisions that are good for you. You are NOT being kind to yourself. You are doing what every victim of abuse does, you are making excuses for her. This is abuse, you just can't see it because you're blinded by your feelings. It's as simple as this - you are being hurt by something that she is doing, she's then telling you that you shouldn't be hurt because it doesn't mean anything. That's gaslighting and it's abuse. YOU decide what's right and wrong for you, not her. My ex needed an ego boost and did exactly the same, sent pictures, messages to another guy, all the while i was planning holidays for us and looking at engagement rings. Different story with you because at least she's been honest with what she's doing, but it's still abuse. I bet the sex is amazing isn't it? Is that what's keeping you with her? It's what kept me in the abusive relationship i was in. But imagine how good the sex will be when you're with someone who doesn't hurt you. If she needs an ego boost by messaging other guys she isn't in love with you, she's using you as a support mechanism. If she was in love with you she'd stop. Why? because if someone you love tells you that something you're doing is hurting them, you stop. Why would you hurt someone you love?
It’s without a doubt cheating
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I've caught him sexting was even planning to travel abroad to sleep with his new lover. 11 months on he's still denying, justifying,rationalising,minimising and not taking responsibility for his actions. please advise me on this?
Communication is key. Why did he sext the other lady? Has he finally slept with her? Was he bored? Who triggered the conversation. U need to be open, yet rational. Sometimes mistakes happen and you won't let that ruin everything. But he needs to take responsibility for the hurt he's caused you and work on them. I seriously wish u all the best
What if there doing it for cheaper drugs ..like lying to them just to get cheaper drugs like fake sexting is that a thing ?
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I think this is bullshit. A relationship and it's rules are dictated by the people in said relationship. As long as you communicate things with your partner and they are ok with said things, it's up to no one but them to decide. Maybe yall are just too traditional