1. What is your intention in this relationship? 2. What are your thoughts on waiting to have sex before marriage? 3. What boundaries or values are you not willing to compromise on? Thanks for this video! These questions would have saved my wife and I from a lot of pain.
@@no_prisoners6474 If you've had more than one, they weren't healthy. Your goal in courtship should be marriage. If it's not going in that direction, it's the wrong person, wonderful tho they might be. You should have ONE healthy relationship in your life and it should last a lifetime.
First video, thanks. Staying close to Jesus includes obedience. If the person does not have a relationship with Jesus that person is not a candidate for marriage. I disobeyed God on this, and I urge you not to.
Your channel is a breath of fresh of air in a world full of terrible dating advice from single miserable people who are ego maniacs and see the worst in almost everyone particularly the opposite sex
This is great advice. Though *the Bible calls is to be equally yoked.* You should not marry someone or even considering marrying someone if they're not of the same Faith. This will cause heartache and trouble down the road.
Knowing that all Catholic women want 6/6/6 Chads to marry with, as a Catholic man I will be delighted to have a relationship and marry any kind of woman, no matter her religion or lack of faith, who truly accepts me, respects me, and loves me.
Hey beautiful Elizabeth! What a treat to see you and Blaise. Thank you for this important post. I pray, with God’s Grace, that (many of?) those who need these words of wisdom, hear them in His perfect timing so as to draw them closer to living “Thy Will be Done”. Cathy P 🙏
2 years is too long and you really shouldn't be approaching it as "dating." You should start seeing a woman in a courtship mode and a woman needs to expect to be courted by ONE man. No dating multiple people to find "the one" and then becoming exclusive. That means she already knows what your intention is and if it's not hers, just don't start. And that works in reverse too. If her intention isn't to be married within a year of starting a relationship, move on. The sex question should be a statement of your position because people will lie if asked. They'll know where you're headed and tell you what you want to hear. and number 3? No, NO, NO. There are no non-negotiables. There's no such thing. You have your values, your needs and your offerings(how you see YOUR role). That's it. Once you state your values, end of discussion. They're either acceptable or they're not. Values=non-gegotiables by definition. Your marriage should occur within less than a year of entering the relationship.
As one who engaged in typical secular dating back in the day, I'd say less than 2 years is too soon. People can hide their 'true self' for a year, easily.
@blujeans9462 and the can hide themselves for longer, too. You won't know until you live with them daily. 2 years is too long to risk temptation and struggle with it. If you aren't being tempted after a year, you're just not into them enough to spend the rest of your lives together.
Don't look for relationship advice from people part of the hook-up culture. Ask the ones who have been married, preferably decades in, who have been through so many ups and downs, stuck through, and especially if they treat each with respect and can laugh over it.
What I have learned from several years of watching multiple evangelists on television and listening to my pastor at church is that you should put God first in any relationship for God is constant ant people are not. I think that should be the first question. Congratulations on the new baby!
Ask about sex after marriage. Do they have a negative reaction to the term “marital debt”. Do they view sex as optional? Do they believe it is OK to deny the marital debt if they are tired or don’t feel like it? Also look at their parents. If a girls mom has been divorced and remarried a few times, run.
Ask the person how she feels about her mon having multiple husband before fleeing. My mom married seven men but I have only had on husband for 46 years so far, through thick and thin.
1. What is your intention in this relationship?
2. What are your thoughts on waiting to have sex before marriage?
3. What boundaries or values are you not willing to compromise on?
Thanks for this video! These questions would have saved my wife and I from a lot of pain.
My first healthy relationship started with these, more or less.
@@no_prisoners6474 If you've had more than one, they weren't healthy. Your goal in courtship should be marriage. If it's not going in that direction, it's the wrong person, wonderful tho they might be. You should have ONE healthy relationship in your life and it should last a lifetime.
@@tinalettieri Im currently in the healthy relationship. The other 2 didn't work for that reason. In hindsight.
Amen!
Hey, that is too much info for a baby
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First video, thanks. Staying close to Jesus includes obedience. If the person does not have a relationship with Jesus that person is not a candidate for marriage. I disobeyed God on this, and I urge you not to.
Excellent advice. Make sure you are "equally yoked", at least on a fundamental level. It is the most important thing to address when dating.
This woman seems like such a nice lady. Great video, thank you : ) -from a 21 year old
Your channel is a breath of fresh of air in a world full of terrible dating advice from single miserable people who are ego maniacs and see the worst in almost everyone particularly the opposite sex
This is great advice. Though *the Bible calls is to be equally yoked.* You should not marry someone or even considering marrying someone if they're not of the same Faith. This will cause heartache and trouble down the road.
Agreed.
I agree ☝️
Amen
Knowing that all Catholic women want 6/6/6 Chads to marry with, as a Catholic man I will be delighted to have a relationship and marry any kind of woman, no matter her religion or lack of faith, who truly accepts me, respects me, and loves me.
Hey beautiful Elizabeth!
What a treat to see you and Blaise. Thank you for this important post. I pray, with God’s Grace, that (many of?) those who need these words of wisdom, hear them in His perfect timing so as to draw them closer to living “Thy Will be Done”.
Cathy P 🙏
2 years is too long and you really shouldn't be approaching it as "dating." You should start seeing a woman in a courtship mode and a woman needs to expect to be courted by ONE man. No dating multiple people to find "the one" and then becoming exclusive. That means she already knows what your intention is and if it's not hers, just don't start. And that works in reverse too. If her intention isn't to be married within a year of starting a relationship, move on. The sex question should be a statement of your position because people will lie if asked. They'll know where you're headed and tell you what you want to hear. and number 3? No, NO, NO. There are no non-negotiables. There's no such thing. You have your values, your needs and your offerings(how you see YOUR role). That's it. Once you state your values, end of discussion. They're either acceptable or they're not. Values=non-gegotiables by definition. Your marriage should occur within less than a year of entering the relationship.
As one who engaged in typical secular dating back in the day, I'd say less than 2 years is too soon. People can hide their 'true self' for a year, easily.
@blujeans9462 and the can hide themselves for longer, too. You won't know until you live with them daily. 2 years is too long to risk temptation and struggle with it. If you aren't being tempted after a year, you're just not into them enough to spend the rest of your lives together.
The baby in the video only gave you more credibility! ❤ I loved it!
Don't look for relationship advice from people part of the hook-up culture. Ask the ones who have been married, preferably decades in, who have been through so many ups and downs, stuck through, and especially if they treat each with respect and can laugh over it.
Thank you very much.
What I have learned from several years of watching multiple evangelists on television and listening to my pastor at church is that you should put God first in any relationship for God is constant ant people are not. I think that should be the first question.
Congratulations on the new baby!
Thank you.
You're so welcome!
Ask about sex after marriage. Do they have a negative reaction to the term “marital debt”. Do they view sex as optional? Do they believe it is OK to deny the marital debt if they are tired or don’t feel like it?
Also look at their parents. If a girls mom has been divorced and remarried a few times, run.
Ask the person how she feels about her mon having multiple husband before fleeing. My mom married seven men but I have only had on husband for 46 years so far, through thick and thin.