The History of Beauty Standards and how I logically stopped caring (undoing the brainwash)
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- Опубликовано: 28 июн 2024
- This is just a casual sit down where we talk about the history of beauty standards, why they exist, and how to break free from them - truly. This is how I did it!
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if you don't have an insecurity they can't exploit it, and it's troubling because it's mostly gaslighting (self-love being 'crazy') but at best it's negging and they're warming people up to the same abusive treatment by individuals from normalizing it at a cultural level
You are so sweet and pretty
Jessica, if I'm being honest, I've been in a HORRIBLE mood the past two weeks. My friend and I were really close and we have always wanted to date. Btw we are now both in college. Well, she finally met someone and just went out on her first date, and I was SO JEALOUS! I had always envied her so much and now her life had just gotten even better. Since then I had been terribly depressed and so insecure. I've never been asked out and every guy I had liked has NEVER liked me. I really thought there was something wrong with me. I can't tell you how happy I am that this came out NOW. My favorite RUclipsr helping me to improve my confidence. 💙💙 Jessica you have saved my life. ❤️❤️ I can't thank you enough
I love Jessica 💞 You are the best ✨
This was a great video
"You're not ugly, you're just not in season right now"
Lmao I will have to pound that into my head.
Thank you atleast someone said it
I don't get it
Best line 👏
@@coffeeisgood5194 It means right now is not your time
i need that in a shirt
As I always say, “Even the Initials of Beauty Standards are B.S”
lmaooo i love that
Holy shit I love this 😭😂
Damn that’s clever-
I don't get it! 😢😣
@@ariyaddna sAME
My fiancee was listening to the video while playing videogames and he was like: thats a very wise video youre watching 😅
😂😂
i agree :)))
Haha indeed
he's a keeper
fiancee for a reasonn. are you married yet
You're not ugly, you're just not in season is my new favorite quote, thanks!
it's propaganda, which rebranded itself to PR
they're using military grade psyops on us, starting with a creep called bernays
@@seabreeze4559 exactly. If anyone is interested, there's an actual documentary called "The century of the self" free on youtube that really opens your eyes regarding this, I'd wish everyone watched that
"You're beautiful in some decade" idk y that made me tear up instantly ;;; thank u for this video
🥺❤️
“why spend your day staring at yourself in the mirror, when you can go out and make memories?”. Thank you ❤️
“they’re just average people like you” Exactly! like who are we actually trying to impress? everyone has different taste so there’s absolutely no point in trying to please everyone anyways ❤️
50s adverts - you're unloveable as you are!
adverts now - you're unloveable as you are!
what has changed? maybe a little more virtue signalling, but corporations shouldn't be replacing the church and giving us moral sermons, especially for stuff they're supposed to believe anyway
the hedonic treadmill has gotta stop
Do you want to write on Instagram?
Ah this is so real. I remember when I was in middle school, I was so insecure about my dark circles around my eyes that I was obsessed with concealer. I would obsessively research concealers and how to get rid of dark circles because I had received comments from kids on “how I needed to sleep more”. Imagine my surprise when dark circles started to become “hot” on TikTok recently. It was validating but it was also like: really? Beauty standards are absolute bullshit.
same here..when I saw those videos I was like omg I'm on a trend 😂😎
dark circles are hot? thats a new to me..i havent heard about this trend
dude my best friend also had that issue, but I’ve always liked her dark circles since we were like 8 (currently 22) 😹 so what she’s saying is right, different people like different things and trends are bullshit😹
When I moved to Ireland as a teenager in the early 00’s - I was ostracised for having a natural tan, dark eyes, dark hair and a small waist with wider hips.. Former schoolmates of mine are now excessively fake tanning and paying for the features I inherited genetically. None of it is real or logical
I have Bella Hadid features from early in her career. Was called hideous at school, because the in look was busty, tanned, blonde with green or blue eyes. Was pale, leggy, strong cheekbones, round eyes etc. It's BS, it's all BS. They sell us envy.
i’m east asian and people have always made fun of our facial features. i have eyes that turn up at the ends, and look exactly like what the influencers are trying so desperately to achieve right now with eyeliner, eyeshadow, and fake lashes. (they call them “fox eyes”.) i’ve always loved my eyes and facial features and didn’t care much what the western beauty standard said, but it’s so funny seeing the people who made fun of us now wishing they had what we genetically have. lol. just love yourself and be kind to others, everyone.
Exactly, I'm English mixed white and black African Or Caribbean or small island - I'm adopted so not sure exactly. And I got praised in school for my skinnyness but family members on one side equally ostricise it! Madness
I'm from the Mediterranean and I moved to the UK, it's weird seeing everyone getting fake tans while I just tan naturally, and it's how my body is!
Yeah the beauty trends in body type and skin tone is extremely weird and I think it's harmful for real. I had a much better confidence when I was a teen because having a skinny and straight up and down no curves body was considered beautiful. Now when big curves and a big butt and hourglass shape is what people say is beautiful I'm just "unfortunate looking" and I see training programs to get an hourglass body type. They don't work. I just get muscular and even more boyish looking when I work out.. So yeah. What can we do.. Just accept ourselves and focus on being healthy I think. I can't help to wish I had curves because pretty clothes are now made to fit and enhance that body type more. I sometimes think about shopping for men's clothes and give up trying to look feminine
"You're not ugly, you're just not in season right now"
YOU👏🏼 SAID👏🏼 IT👏🏼
"You're not ugly, you're just not in season right now". Make a t-shirt with that quote!!
Yes please!
(21:37) "Be the 'you' that the little kid version of yourself would be very proud of."
sounds like a Disney quote
I’m mixed (Indian and Italian) and have grown up in both countries and it always baffled me how different the beauty standards in both countries are! Tan vs fair skin, curvy vs skinny and so many other differences! That really made me realize there isn’t just one type of beautiful.
One thing I don't like is now that I'm getting older and my taste in clothing hasn't changed and I also still fit in all of my clothes, I've heard younger women saying I'm trying to dress young. Not by any means. My style hasn't changed, and I'm covered up, but I'm not about to go dress like a grandma because others think I should. I'm not about to go buy an entire new wardrobe. I'm pleased I can still fit in all of my clothes.
I've been asked where my vintage clothes are from..... childhood. They were hand me downs no one wanted.
@@seabreeze4559 I don't feel the need to constantly buy new clothes when I've already spent a ton of money on the ones I have. I think it's pretty cool that people want to know where your clothes are from.
Same here lol 😂😂😂😂 I'm 26 and still have some clothes from middle school that I just love !
Good for you! Keep that spirit up. Why give a damn about people‘s opinion when you didn’t even ask for them?
There's nothing wrong with trying to dress young.
I was heavily bullied for my big nose with a bump in the middle in high school and now people are starting to be like “oh I wish I had an aquiline nose, they’re so cute” so I speak from experience, she’s right
You described that like you were miss frizzle.
Once enough people have paid to surgically alter their noses to be upturned, the aquiline nose and downturn will come back as a trend in full swing. It's cyclical, it's insidious!
@@lizzie7219 I also have curly hair, so I might be lmao
Really? I've never heard anyone wanting aquiline nose. Are you a man?
@@liawatson5789 no, lol. I hadn’t heard of that either until these past 2 years, suddenly I’ve gotten a lot of complements.
I think that beauty comes from someone's personality and from just being themselves and not what they physically look like.
Rightt?!
That's so true. Some may argue against this but honestly I think that the way people move, gesticulate, talk, look (as in their eyes), react (in other words, what people call "personality shining through") is what makes most of the "appearance" or impression you're left with in regards to people around you. Multiple times I realized I see a person as more good-looking, or less so, after knowing them for a while.
Totally agree with you!
i’m east asian and people have always made fun of our facial features. i have long eyes that turn up at the ends, and look pretty much exactly like what the influencers are trying so desperately to achieve right now with eyeliner, eyeshadow, and fake lashes. (they call them “fox eyes”.) i’ve always loved my eyes and facial features and didn’t care much what the western beauty standards told me was beautiful. it’s kinda funny seeing the people who made fun of us now wishing they had what we genetically have, lol. love yourself and be kind to others, people. you’ll never make everyone happy, so just try to find yourself beautiful and love yourself. even if i don’t fit some people’s beauty standard, when i look in the mirror i like what i see and it fits my own beauty standard 😇
Fair skinned, freckles, thin lips here. When fair skinned was "out" I didn't tan, when freckles weren't popular I embraced them; I appreciated who I saw in the mirror. Thanks for the video, we all need a reminder.
One thing I did to help break out of toxic beauty standards was to explore other cultures and step out of American Beauty Standards. Not all Cultures Beauty Standards are great but it's interesting to look into.
"You're not ugly. You're just not in season right now." That's perfection and I'm going to use that forever now. Thank you. 😊 lol
The unfortunate thing is that these things get absorbed unconsciously by kids and teenagers, which continue to linger into adulthood and actually affects people's tastes unconsciously
This is SO important
Jessica being a great role model once again 💜
Ikr. 🥺
All my life I’ve been told i’m “too pale”... It never bothered me, I just thought it was weird to even say that 😂
Same. People like to joke about how my legs blind them 🙄
@@abrielle13 same!!! Every time I wore shorts or a short sleeve shirt 😂
@@jamluxx If my legs are blinding you, it sounds like you might have a problem 😆
I'm super pale because I BURN easily. I toned my hair more red amd it looked great with my pale skin!
@@captaincrunch784 I like red tones for my hair too! Auburn colors are my favorite.
This is so true! I was bullied for my bushy eyebrows at school and now I see those bullies tattooing their eyebrows to look like mine! Beauty standards are a joke. We need to start being happy and confident within ourselves. Not what Hollywood and media are telling us.
So sick of feeling like I'm not beautiful cause the magazine and the girls I see are constantly trying to keep up with trends! It's tiring and expensive and I'm done!
Flaunt your 'flaws'/ 'imperfections' cause they are what make you unique ❤
Thanks for this video Jess, a lot of girls, women and men need to hear this.
Wow that exact thing happened to me as well, it’s just so confusing and proves that these things don’t really matter.
I've always had big thighs despite being thin most of my life. I personally like them because they're strong and sturdy. It doesn't bother me whether people like skinny thighs or not, because I see strength in my larger thighs.
Are you sure you're thin? Is your bmi 19?
A member of my extended family has a saying
"Thick thighs,saves lives" lol
She is so amazing, she literally just gave the best tips ever. She couldn’t have said it any better.
This really resonated with me, because evolving beauty standards are a pervasive issue throughout our society. Ideals of beauty are the bane of female existence. They set us apart from one another, and create a capitalistic hierarchal structure where 'imperfect' women are made to feel insecure. Most women are trying so hard to become attractive enough to climb that beauty ladder, that they don't even realize the way the industry is exploiting female insecurities and making a profit. You definitely hit the nail on the head when you said, "you're not ugly, you're just not in season right now."
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I can also seriously relate to your commentary on body image. It's very confusing to receive positive feedback from one person about your body type, and then be met with a contradictory opinion from another. There's a weird disconnect between compliments and criticism. I can actually recall a negative experience at Macy's about 5 years back, when I was scrutinized by an elderly woman who walked up and said the back of the dress was too low. She even slapped my lower body as if to emphasize where the fullest part was. I'm quite curvy, and I was fuller at the time, so it occurred to me that people might think the low back dress was too risqué. However, I never expected someone to come up to me and do that. It's really unfortunate when people feel like they can openly comment on someone, and touch them. I don't really blame her personally, and with good reason. I think it's a societal issue of the normalization of public criticism, as well as being culturally influenced. This elderly woman was likely raised with these cultural norms. I considered this, and detached myself from the situation, as I had grown up in a largely Asian American community in California where people felt that open criticism was acceptable, and she was an older Asian woman. Whether it was telling someone to hide their stomach, narrow the nose, look as pale as possible, lose a few pounds, wear a push up bra, or cover acne, these were the cultural norms in my childhood community. I certainly thought that, as horrible as what she did was, she was likely the 'lethal' combination of cultural norms and dated values from her generation. Had I not grown up within a culture outside of my own, I probably would have broken down the moment this happened. I was just so aware of where she was likely coming from. Does this make it okay? Hell no! With that said, though, I still don't blame her because I understand the origin of her reasoning. ---- Contrary to this negative experience and many other uncomfortable moments, though, I've had many people say they wish they had my measurements and have been compared to Christina Hendricks (body-wise)/ Kate Beckinsale (facially). I've ultimately come to the conclusion that I can't please everyone within society, and I certainly can't keep up with the beauty industry, so i might as well attempt to embrace my body. As long as I'm physically healthy and content within my own skin, there's no valid reason to feed into beauty brainwashing.
Some of the worst of men deliberately try to break a woman's self-esteem to make her easier prey so you can't always trust their supposed opinion because there's negging and gaslighting. I've met men who found it weird I accepted compliments without apologising, turns out they were abusers in the lovebombing stage.
Also I'd have told her what she just did was assault, because it was. Then reported her. Creeps get old too, it's no excuse. She was a jealous narcissist. It's impossible to hide curves, men don't understand in particular because they've never had to dress them, it's like the turtleneck effect.
True beauty (in my opinion) is within personality before appearance. You could be "gorgeous according to the CURRENT beauty standards) but if you have a rude, unattractive personality, that makes you overall unattractive in my personal opinion. This applies verse visa, those (who are still beautiful, but DON'T meet/feel societies current view of beauty) if they have an amazing personality that, in my eyes, makes them BEYOND beautiful!!!
As I get older, some of the least attractive people are the most beautiful to me.
This is the stuff my beloved husband has been telling me for years and he’s right. It’s so hard, no matter what your age, not be pulled into the world’s idea of beauty and the pressure of the media and Hollywood. But that’s so vain and empty. Let’s be real and break the mold!!
You are so pretty! Never know what ppl are going through.. I swear I would look at you and say I wish I look like her. You saw yourself as imperfect but I saw you as goals! I wish we could see ourselves as our parents do or the people who love us do ❤️
I have a supermodel looking cousin.... she was jealous of me for being thinner. It's weaponising envy between women and gaslighting us about it when we finally get over it.
this was so true! and the fact that the standards are always changing, they're "discovering" new trends or body types that were always beautiful but they're just now noticing them because it's popular. it makes me think about hair and how certain hair types were looked down upon Because one hair type was in the light. and then all of a sudden they notice the hair type they looked down upon. the whole system is dumb😂, that's why it's important to choose what works for you and not someone else. I love love loved this video!!💖💖
they're looking at new markets to rebrand to, it's morally bankrupt
they don't really care but the gaslighting require shame and envy so women sadly do play into it, helping them by going along
I'm happy body type info is coming out so we're less beholden to corporations
@@seabreeze4559 Yeah it's sad that the people who are telling you how to look are just looking for your money and not you as a person. Like breaking away from expectations is so freeing and it really makes you realize how distorted the industry is
it's gaslighting and triangulation, they're playing women off against each other and calling women crazy for pointing it out
NPDs do a thing called golden child and that's what fashion does with body trends - a body part shouldn't be a trend, it's invalid
@@seabreeze4559 Thats so true, a body shouldn't be a trend. and you're right I've actually never seen it as gaslighting until now. It makes sense because they want you to believe one thing, but then change the game. it's inconsistent and toxic
Everything that you have said is so true! I remember in middle school I was hitting puberty (as most of us girls were) and I had hips and I hated them so much bc the beauty standard at that time was just being skinny. I used to wear long sweaters so my hips wouldn’t show. I’ve been small all my life bc of my height (I’m only 5ft) but I hated my hips bc they would pop out a lot and especially as a 13 year old it was even worse. Now every one wants that “hour glass shape”. It truly sucks bc as young lady’s we want to feel accepted by society but in reality we need to learn to accept ourselves and love our body’s the way they are. Thank you so much for speaking out about this 💕
the hourglass figure is IMPOSSIBLE to dress cheaply - it's all 300-500 per dress or it doesn't fit
Last year I went to a dance and when I walked in this guy just said to me "wow, you look like persephone!"
That's the best compliment that I ever heard
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@@BeaMetal616 Ikr? That had me feeling so pretty all night
@@irmalair1 she's a greek goddess known for her beauty. Some even said her beauty rivaled Aphrodite
You're so well spoken and articulate, thank you for this.
Having a 'plump' figure is also seen as positive in a lot of black/African countries culture and also some Asian culture and always has-just noting some diverse history too💕
fat deposition varies by sex and race so while I rarely call this it's definitely racist because women and especially black women are genetically predispositioned to a higher body fat percentage, so they're shaming women and gaslighting them for evolution
when a fat guy insults fat women, they're overlooking the fact BMI was a standard only intended and based on men in the military, who have a lower fat percentage, women genetically have more oestrogen and as dr berg videos mention oestrogen is the fat storing hormone. a man and woman at the same weight aren't the same fitness, the woman is healthier because she's supposed to have more fat than he is.
@@seabreeze4559 exactly why I put 'plump' in quotations - because it has factors. Also the only thing I'm talking about here is the *attitude* towards being 'plump' not what makes people the size they are. ❤️
@@lornatw we're never taught the distinction between a healthy curve and things like oestrogen dominance, they want us ignorant
the slim thick trend was because of black people's body types. basically white people want to be anything other than white as long as they don't get the opression
@@zuyu2 LITERALLY. and the racist ones and their little minds DISCREDIT that
I love this video so much. Honestly i never really liked the sentiment of "youre not ugly youre just broke" because with how quickly our bodies and faces go in and out of style maybe we shouldnt be labelling things ugly and permanently "fixing" them, because the ideas of"beauty" that we have literally change every year lol
you should definitely make more videos like these! youre great at articulating your points and i can tell youve thought about this a lot
This is exactly what I took into mind once I unenrolled out of public school. I was so wrapped up on trying to be "popular" and "pretty" that I completely lost myself. Once there was time to think about the true meaning of beauty, I really started to understand that It. Doesn't. Matter. Like you said, I use to spend so much time looking the mirror telling myself that I was ugly based off of other's remarks. I've began to realize that if I say that I am beautiful then I am. That's for me to say. Not others.
Hi Jess! You’re so gorgeous and thank you for talking about this. This is so imperative! Everyone is beautiful and beauty truly comes from within. Beauty and our youth fades away as time goes by. I hope you and everyone who’s reading this is doing well. 💗
Wow, ok, I've been struggling with an eating disorder since I was 13-14 (I'm 19 now) and honestly this video made me feel so much better about myself ❤️ thank you so much Jessica
Wishing you all a lovely day filled with self love❤️
Jesus loves you Kasia. He died for your sins so you can have an everlasting relationship with Him. He created you beautiful. ❤️
Isaiah 53:5 and Psalm 139:14
Apparently looking like a cartoon character is in season right now. All these women getting surgeries to look abnormal boggles my mind. Whatever happen to natural beauty no matter your size?? Getting surgery to enlarge your hips and butt to the point you dont even look human isnt healthy. This video was very inspiring Jessica ❤️
its really ironic for me to comment this but thank you i was comparing myself to you a few days ago instead of loving and accepting myself even the people who seem super perfect aren't perfect no one is and thats okay! were all princesses deep down 🎀
Sabrina Carpenter...
@@qttaffeit9061 duhh she's amazing and singular is a really good album
@@thankunext5602 yeah I love her songs
this honestly was published at the perfect time I've been having a lot of body issues and I really hope this helps
Saving for this video for when in person school starts up again. Im going to need Jessica hyping me up to dress how I want.
@@mad380 thank you so much! You’re too kind.
I can’t wait to buy from your store!!!! As someone who also use to struggle with confidence using the princess/royal aesthetic helped me gained confidence
I grew up in a time when looking like a nutritionally deprived heroin addict was hot and so I would try to make myself as thin as possible, but I naturally have a softer figure, and I was always told I was not thin enough. Fast forward to now when we appreciate curves more, my body is technically in trend, and I get complimented on it a lot by girls who look the way I wanted to back then. It's all a big mess of crap... don't listen to beauty standards.
Really love that hairstyle and bow, Jessica. And the sweater is real pretty as well.
I also kinda tend to find logic in every thing. I really loved the way you took us to the 80's like the beginning of it ✨ I really loved that you took this topic up Jess ! U rock
your timing was perfect, thank you ❤️ this will help so many people.
I need to watch this every day before I leave the house lol
me too, a confidence boost before walking out the door lol
I was told that I'm too muscular, not feminine enough... I later realized that people would chase that look 10 years earlier. My high school class mates just weren't around for that
"your not ugly you're just not in season" weirdly enough I thought the same even before watching this video and thank you very much and this has helped me a lot
Jess is the best person in the whole entire universe no cap
YESS
Do you want to write on Ibstagram or something
So basically, don't care about what people think about you and live your life for you and no one else
Dear people,
Beauty is not being fat or thin it's not being fair or tan it's being confident in your own look aka self love if you do it you are *miss world* PERIOD.
I always used to try and pull my nose down and was so worried it looked like a pig nose- now it's fashionable!?! I try really hard not to pay attention and accept myself how I am meant to be- I love being pale and having frizzy wavy hair and being curvy, still trying to accept not having the coveted flat stomach- constantly being made to feel I would be happier if my stomach was flatter, which I logically know is ridiculous, great video 🥰
My aunt and basically all my family has thick eyebrows and she told me that the 00s were like a nightmare for her, like everyone wanted their eyebrows to be a literal line and now she always gets compliments on her eyebrows and is just true i see my friends overlining their brows and asking me what do i do so...
I know that the Kyle Jenner lip challenge was a thing and everybody wanted fuller lips and for some reason I wanted lips like that too untill I changed my mind when I got older and I started to love my tiny lips.
It's funny because I have full lips and thick eyebrows and grew up hating them. Seeing them become trends when I was in ninth grade was what led me to realise that it's all bs and different people have different features for a reason. I love tiny lips! They're so pretty and ethereal.
I've always wanted to be a natural person I don't really want to change anything about my body, but I am so far away from the beauty standards and I got so many insecurities. it's just so hard to love my body
so as my fashion taste, my mom always telling me what I shouldn't wear because they'll make me look bad so I become afraid to be myself
but you make me rethink all of that today
Thank you so much I love this video
People need to embrace their individuality!
God made us all different and unique!
There’s no point in trying to be someone else just bc it’s “popular”
Let’s appreciate that everyone is meant to be different
The early 2000s also hated thicc thighs, wide hips and anyone over 90 pounds. Which severely messed me up as a child to the point that I had a mini melt down when I eventually surpassed 99 pounds.
dude me too! being me in 2003 was miserable
@@MrsMuffin11 Absolutely terrible, but we made it through!
When you were talking about your body type, I totally related to you. I remember people commenting on the size of my butt when I was younger which made me super insecure. Times have completely changed!
This was a great video! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Thank you for this video Jess. I have been feeling bad recently because I feel like people think I am too skinny. Thank you! You have no idea how much this means to me. People in middle school are so judgemental I feel like I can't even dress the way I want to dress. People at school wear t-shirts and jeans everyday. I wanna wear dresses but I feel like I can't. I hope people start wearing dresses sometimes in high school. 😇 Also, you have made me feel so much better. Thank you again! Love you Jessica.
Hey Isabelle! As someone who is also skinny and struggled with caring about people’s opinions in high school (I’m 20 now but it wasn’t so long ago), I’d say just wear those dresses! You’ll be much happier wearing what you love than settling for clothes that you’re not as passionate about. Don’t worry about what others think - as long as your outfits are dress code appropriate (lol gotta put that reminder in cause you still in school) people will get used to it. And who knows - you may even inspire some other girls in your shoes to start wearing dresses or what they love 👗 again too - I’m sure there’s others in your shoes 🤍
Embrace being skinny while it lasts. Your 30's will be where the weight slowly creeps on. Next thing you know, your body will be the opposite.
nobody cares about school as an adult, ask any adult
@@AutumnHarvest1 not true, usually that's metabolic syndrome and insulin resistance, not aging
@@seabreeze4559 You'll find out the hard way as you age. You'll see what's true. Until then, please don't act like you know everything. Take care
I been learning to treat my body as my best friend. I love my body, my thighs are in love, they can't help but rub up against each other all the time. I been speaking life into my body.
THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH FOR THIS! Like I feel soooo much more confident with my body image now. For my whole life I have been super self conscious of my curvy figure, especially since the people I hang out with are naturally much slimmer. So for years my life goal was to be skinny. But after hearing this, I don't feel the need to be skinny anymore. THANK YOU!!!!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that is always on trend for me.
I think this discussion is so important and I'm glad you brought it up!! Beauty is overrated and it shouldn't be! Our worth doesn't come from our beauty. I think we need to remember that is not a virtue. Virtues are things like, you said, being kind, being smart, being fun and a good person. We should change ourselves to be better versions of us, not to be "pretty"
please make more of these casual videos if you're comfortable jess! it's so cool to see this more personal side of you
I love that you gave us historical insight, your own personal experiences & some advice you live by!! Love this video Jessica 🤍
Your video made starting to cry, because finally somebody says what not enough people know. That being beatiful is being YOU!❤
Love you Jess. I didn’t realize that I respond better to logic rather than what I’ve been saying to myself for years until your video. Thank you! ❤️😊
Thank you so much for this video! It honestly really helps me to see you, a very beautiful person, talk about your struggles with body standards ❤
"you're not ugly, you're just not in season"
Truer words were never spoken.
Thank you so much Jessica for making this video and getting my confidence up!
I needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for this, it's what I needed to hear to keep my self healing journey rolling. 🥺❤️
One of the best and most live-changing videos I’ve probably ever watched. Thank you Jessica- I have so much love and respect for you🤍💕
Thank you so much, Jessica 💜 you really made me cry a bit there.. You really just found the right words. I will send this video to my best friend right away.
I am acting and a lot of my friends are actors and I feel like it's a mini-universe of what you described. Some of my friends are really good but they don't get certain roles and it makes them feel bad. But one has to realise that not getting a role mainly means one thing: you don't fit that role. It does NOT mean that you're a bad actor/actress and noone is ever going to employ you. We are depending so much on other people's opinion and we forget about what WE think of our own worth and that we have it in the first place..
Again, thank you! ❤️ That was wonderful
This logical/rational approach is also so much more convincing and helpful to me than motivational quotes or basic advice like "Who cares about what others think". Understanding why you feel the way you feel is the first step to overcoming something. :) Thanks for taking the time to make this video
I’ve been struggling with body issues since I was a young girl. I think our cultures do have an impact on that as well and not just the beauty industry telling you this and that. At least that’s been my experience. It needed to be said and I am glad you talked about this issue. It’s easier said than done though and I find it’s hard to unlearn certain things that we’re taught to you as a child. Thank you Jessica for this video.
In Japan, being called “Heian Beauty” means you have a facial feature that resembles all the beauties in Heian era (around 8th century). As good as it may sound, it is also an indirect, crude way to say you are actually ugly. Remembering how I always got bullied with this word, I can see how beauty standard has been feeding on people’s insecurity at international level.
People, hang in there. You are beautiful.
Honestly ever since I became a fan of yours, I've always been so jealous of you, your cute nose, your curvy body, because I'm an Asian with a flat nose and straight body, and here in my country the beauty standard is basically to look like a western person, so I've been super insecure, and after watching this and finding out the dumb origin of all these "beauty standards", I've really had a chance to rethink things, and seeing you, one of my beauty icons, having insecurities and at one point being "unfit" to the beauty standards, makes me relate more and realize we all are just humans, we make our own standards and we also make our insecurities, thank you so much for enlightening me, I love you so much! 💕
Thank you so much ❤️ I’ve been trying to find full confidence in myself, trying to change things to make other people notice me. But your words have helped me to put it into perspective, to realize. Thank you
This was literally the most inspirational video I've ever seen. I am an extremely logic centered thinker, and no other video hit me like this. You've always been one of my favorite RUclipsrs and I'm so grateful that I can watch these amazing videos you create. Thank you for all you do 🙏🖤
I notice after my break up that I'm able to talk to other "prettier" women. My ex wasnt model type but she wasnt ugly. Really attractive girl my ex was but a side from that, I'm thankful that I'm a person who's able to see a person for who they are and not just by how they look. People get into relationships because they say they look cute together or they'll make a cute baby, etc, etc, b.s after b.s and then wonder why they're relationship doesnt work out. It's been 2 months after the break up that I have, and regardless of all these girls I'm attracting. I stay away! Idc if the girl looks like Scarlett Johansson. Same thing goes with girls reading my comment. Just cause he look like Zac Efron doesn't mean your going to have a lifetime of happiness. Guys choose who makes you happy. Stop worrying about looks! Jessica you got good points here. Fact is, this world is all messed up.
Wow, "Be the version your kid-self would be proud of." Yes! ❤ Jessica, if we met in pwrson I'm sure we'd be best friends. ☺ I have been following you since 2017 and your videos always make my day. But this. . .made my life! You are truly inspiring and an answer to prayers💕 Thank you! For everything
"It's not designed for you to keep up with" that is all I needed to hear 😭alright eff finding hip dip "fixing" videos she's completely right!!
Just been sent this by my sister, who said it reminded her of me, which is really cute
i’m from moldova, which is a very poor country overall. we’ve always appreciated plump figures 💗 it’s a sign of wealth and health! in fact, my grandfather tells people that they’ve gained weight as a compliment 🤣
romania here, hi sister!❤
@@elenamarcu5652 hi hi!!! my name is elena, too :D💗💞✨💕
oh my god!!!
Love this! Thank you Jessica! All so true - carrying yourself with confidence and treating others with kindness is the best and most important type of beauty.
Thank you so much for this video. As someone who has dealt with body image issue for a long time, this video was really impactful, and really caused me to think. You have such a beautiful personality, and I know you’re helping a lot of people with this video, including me, so thank you so much ❤️
I feel you so much. I was bullied for having a thicker kinda mid size body during my childhood. Yeah, I was raised around thin small girls. Now its trending to have a thicker kinda of body.
You're right, we're not ugly, just not in season.
THANK YOU like literally thank you for this video and for not saying it as everyone else cause this ACTUALLY helped more than what most people say !!
I was feeling a bit down and I revisited this gold treasure of yours today and I can't say you how much your words helped me get through it. Thanks for helping me love myself a bit more. Forever Fan!!!!
This is a really inspirational message, it was interesting to see how the beauty standards have changed over time. You’re absolutely right, we need to spend less time worrying about what we look like. Half the time, the people you are trying to impress are more concerned about how they appear to you, rather than how you appear to them. Thank you for this message/video, I don’t often comment but this deserved a thumbs up from me.
I’m crying. Thank you Jessica. I needed this.
thank you you’ve put into words how i’ve felt for a while and reminded me i don’t need to look outside myself to see my body as beautiful
One of the most meaningful things I've ever heard on youtube, thank you very much
This video gave me so much confidence! I was already transitioning towards a more feminine wardrobe and I couldn't care less of that everubody said, but now I'm even more confident! I'm going to keep dressing as a princess and I encourage everybody to do whatever makes them happy! I SO love you for this video! Keep doing you!🎀
Thank you so much for explaining and posting this, I just started to not care what people think about how I look and this made me so happy to see this 😊
This video reaffirmed a lot of things, thank you. And you’re right, we’re racing though life to die ✨ENJOY IT✨yas queen!
Please make another video about these stupid and unrealistic beauty standards! I loved this video so much and it really helped me to realize that I need to start believing in myself more and working on myself to gain more confidence. Thank you for helping me realize that and now I’m off to go and start my journey on working on my self.
I also want to add that to everyone who’s ever felt that they’re not pretty or good enough I’m just gonna stop you right there. You are worth so much more than that silly boy or girl that’s broken you. They couldn’t see it at the time, but now they’re really regretting it and wishing that they had you again. Don’t you ever change your unique self for anyone else, your you, and there’s only one of you. And if you ever feel that nobody loves you or appreciates you, just know that I do. I know it’s sounds a bit crazy and your probably like what the heck I don’t even know you, but I’m here for you. And I’m never leaving, I’ll be sticking around for a long long long time. Sending lots of love and virtual hugs to who ever needs it!! And to anyone who just wants one! 💖🦋💕🌸🌷🌺🍀🔐🌼