I think this movie has done so much to decrease stigma in men. I have a number of clients who reported this is the only acceptable conception of therapy they have ever had.
I was studying for my counseling degree when this film came out and it was a required viewing where we had to fictiously assume the role that we were counseling Will and what technique we would use if he were in a certain situation. I forget exactly what class it was for but it was one of my favorite papers that I wrote
I finally found a therapist that actually LISTENS to me! She doesn't laugh if I say something awkward that may be found funny in some way. She doesn't ask me the cliche bullshits, "How does that make you feel? What do you want out of therapy? Have you been taking your meds?" She listens, she doesn't care if I curse like a sailor or if I don't wanna talk that day. I actually feel..okay during a session. But I am an iceberg so to speak. There's a lot of things I have probably suppressed underneath that even I, myself , an not aware of. I guess I'm still guarded up..
Thanks Doc, my favorite movie scene of all time Had same trauma; violent alcoholic father. This movie makes me feel we are not alone. My son delivered dinner 2 me. Now this. BEST COVID MOTHERS DAY EVER.🙏
You describe this, almost artistically; it’s the art of therapy, in a sense. It is a beautiful way to to hear it described, and in conjunction with a beloved film. It’s very reassuring to see such devotion, reverence and passion. So thanks for doing these.
Great analysis, Kirk. You do this so well....the way the therapist moves between different aspects of his own authenticity, telling Will he’s just a kid, but also respecting him enough to acknowledge that Will’s words affected him deeply, and following this by admitting to having been so vulnerable to a woman that he was leveled by her eyes. A lot of give and take and it earned Will’s respect. It also kind of exemplifies how to allow someone to see your vulnerability without dropping all of your own boundaries. Loved this movie.
Your videos are so helpful... even the reactions to things I’ve never seen, although I’ve seen this film and absolutely love it. So grateful to have found your channel. Thank you for what you do.
Thank you for breaking down the breakthrough scene. I couldn’t understand it for the longest time. I love this movie because in a way, it’s everybody’s story on some level. Will’s story was on an extreme side. However, we all go through traumas in one way or another.
I had a client who literally called me a "phone s-x operator" that they paid for my time and demanded it when they wanted it. After a while I started to let too much happen and they became really abusive. I believe it taught me about my own past trauma of taking verbal abuse. So I had to stop contact.
WHEN YOU'VE BEEN WATCHING Dr. Kirk Honda's Reacts for WEEKS AND REALIZE HE'S AS BIG OF AN ELLIOTT SMITH FAN AS YOU !!! I have a big tattoo of Elliott on my forearm. His music helped me trough the darkest times in the past 16 years. He should have gotten an Oscar for "Miss Misery", his Song in Goodwill Hunting, not Celine Dion, that year. Anyway, love your reactions Dr. Kirk Honda.
someone took me to see this movie thinking i was going to feel related somehow, he thought i was damaged bc i couldn't say i love you to him, he never thought i couldn't say it bc i didn't felt it .he even tried to force it out of me, maybe thinking i was going to enter into a catharsis like Will and he was going to cure me, lol, Freud enthusiasts. nevertheless i love this movie.
ahh Love. Who is to say that feelings aren't important, unless they happen to you. A good thing about feeling it and saying it, is, that when you say it you mean it. Did he try to force an I love you? or did you just interpret it that way? Oftentimes selfinflicted imposed therapy is about letting the other person know you are frank, and that whatever you say is on the counterbalance... so in effect, all that is done is being honest with eachother... you could have said, I love you as a friend. ouch, but still honest.
me too! I thought I'd written therapy off entirely after being let down and misunderstood by so many therapists, but Dr. Honda has done the impossible and renewed my interest in trying again.
I watched this movie a few days ago for the first time, and was thinking what your thoughts would be. And now you made this video! How is it even possible? 😯
I think it's something in ads and so on, like cookies and stuff, I am reminded that all therapists seek the same heaven, or cartharsis, so don't think it's manipulation or anything like that, it's similar minds doing similar things :)
the reason for the shepard and kicking him out of the session seems to be that robin has a limited time with will (court ordered) and wanted to break his comfort and complacency. It is a tricky gambit but with someone of wills intelligence it would be enough to make him in the time between the sessions wonder and fixate on that which is why he brought it up to bens character which drove the point home.
Sooo stoked to watch this but I can remember an even earlier film that depicted therapy in a positive light. Dr. Honda, can you react to Ordinary People, starring Donald Sutherland, Timothy Hutton and Mary Tyler Moore. So many psychological intricacies!!
I watched that movie at the worst time I could've watched it...not long after losing my dad. Not by choice but it was shown in class at school. Later in life having studied psychology I went back and watched it again and it had so much more meaning. For the main character in that movie it was his brother but he was feeling the same thing I was at that time regarding my dad even though in the movie the death was due to a drowning (I believe) where as my dad it was cancer. However the emotions and the guilt and such were the same.
15:41 I've always thought the therapist did this for effect and wasn't really up set, so let him realize bullshitting isn't what we do in this room. Maybe even: you are allowed to say, I don't know.
I really appreciate you sharing so much insight about counseling on your channel! I am in my first few weeks of my Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy and I have found your videos very useful, interesting, and inspiring! Thank you!
I was just looking for a psychology review of Good Will Hunting, so thank you for your perfect timing of this video. It’s such a fantastic movie and this was a great explanation and dissection of the scenes.
Man, I teared up again. The sheer number of people who have been affected so profoundly by this scene indicates just how many of us live our lives carrying devastating wounds, myself included.
Love these reaction videos! Good Will Hunting is one of my favorite movies. This was a nice surprise! Today is my birthday and I will be incorporating this video into my birthday routine! lol
21:59, Dr. Honda, you are too pure for this world. My favourite fictional therapist is the one on "Skin Deep". The scene when he sees his patient walking and having spasms in the parking lot. Genius.
Thank you so much for this video. Good will hunting is one of my favorite movies. I'm lucky to have a really good therapist myself and hearing you explaining everything only confirms to me that I'm at the right place with him. Thanx also for sharing your emotions with us regarding to that one "It's not your fault" scene.
I've had many many pherapist in my life because my father abused me since i was i kid until i moved out when i was 17. I ran away from home alot, i had to live with my grandparents and friends. Now i am going thrue PTSD treatment and it is hard. I'm still self abusive and have suicidal thoughts. I tried to commit suicide in my 20s and still have to live on. It is really hard tight now and i can't sleep. I try to understand why i am feeling like this right now and look up things that may answer my questions. So one of my favorite movies is Good Will Hunting and that is how i came to watched this video. Great video and it sounds like you are a great therapist. Keep going!
The Opening scene where he disrespects his wife and he puts his hand to his throat. I must say, I understand why that's a no-no for therapists, but I feel like we also forget therapists are humans too, maybe instead of losing his license, he gets a 6 month suspension and requirement of therapy for himself.
Your videos are amazing and get me even more interested in maybe becoming a therapist one day (really liked being sometimes a holistic wellness coach and working in massage therapy, etc.). If I lived in Seattle still I'd want to learn directly from you. Such a great movie too - to see such a tough, intellectual, distant guy break down crying and hugging like that - wow. 💗
Thank you so much Doc. I had a session once like the climax session here and i have such a different view of it now. I felt so freed and like an emotional vomit after sobbing like a child unable to catch my breath for several minutes. Later I felt scared, I never went back to that therapist despite 6 months of weekly sessions already. I suddenly was terrified to have the therapist look me in the eyes, bring it up again. She called every week for a month then every other for a few more and I just ignored the calls. I sent a check for the missed session apologizing for being busy and that I would call in for another appointment but never did. Thanks to listening to many of your analysis, commentaries and deep dives and probably 15 years older I'm able to see that in a different light. I feel like I want to write her and apologize and let her know it wasn't her. I am still scared though she may want me to resume. Economics and distance give a good excuse why I can't Will sleep on it.
On the question on why Robin Williams was coming off as hostile with Will on the bench scene. You need to take in to account that they come from the same background/neighborhood. Will wont respect any person who comes off as "establishment". This kids been to juvenile detention , starts fights, this conversation is like the bottom of the totem pole for aggression.
I have binge watched your play lists one after another for weeks now. This by far is one of my favorite of your videos posted and not just because Robin is one of my favorite people. Thank you... Now I need to go watch Good Will Hunting with someone close so I can tell them its not their fault.
22:48 “When you have been made to feel worthless, when been made to feel your not good enough, when criticized to the very core of who you are, of course intellectually we know we are good enough, of course intellectually we know it is not our fault, but deep down - which is the majority of our psyche, the majority of our soul - does not believe it. There are certain ideas that we conclude early in life given the way we are treated like ‘I’m not good enough,’ ‘I’m not worth it’ and ‘It is my fault’ and we might know intellectual know that it wasn’t our fault but most of us still believe this core sense that ‘Yes it was our fault.,’ [and] ‘We did deserve for these things to happen.’ It is a natural conclusion of children as they try to make sense about why things like this are happening to them... Children will come to those conclusions - it is almost universal that children do - because they are trying to make sense of the world. Why would I be treated so badly? It must because I’m a bad person... Until we get to that core... It's hard for us to heal...”
Interesting. I've watched this specific scene before but I don't remember in what context. Anyway I agree, it's a very powerful scene and brings me back to my own therapy sessions. Especially the sitting in silence part made me laugh because that was totally me at times hahaha Edit: forgot to mention - can you do reactions to "Shameless" (the American version) and "Skins" (the British version)? Both shows present mental health problems in a very accurate way and there are some really inspiring scenes in them.
There’s a common belief that most people choose to study psychology to solve their own problems. As far as I find it logical, I must say I’ve met many therapists that are the most unstable and neurotic people out there and this is crazy! I always wonder how can they help other people while being so troubled themselves. I wonder what’s your take on that! On the other hand I feel like it’s really difficult to find a therapist that is really able to get through to you. As you said, it usually stays on the superficial level but doesn’t get to the core. It’s so upsetting when you do agree with what they say and you kind of know and understand but in the end it doesn’t change anything deep inside. Maybe you have some recommendations on how to find the right one? I realize that is rather complex but maybe you could give us some clues on how to search better😊
Omg I had forgotten about the music in this movie! So wonderfull. Atually I think I have a full cd of this music, long forgotten, but gonna look for it now. Ellioth Smith's "Between the bars" brings back the memory to this movie in 1 second. Lovely music ❤ Edit: it turns out to be a video cassette of the movie that I still have! From 1998! Can't play this anymore abviously 🤣
I love how the end scene starts. "Listen, son". Like in this moment he tries to replace the flawed figure of authority in Will's brain by an empathetic safe one so that doors would open... Now to compare this with the Doctor Silberman from Terminator 2, lol.
This scene reminds me of another, surprisingly in the Marvel Movies, specifically Endgame where Thor learns he's still worthy. It's a very small thing in the scope of a bloated spectacle of a film, but that look on his face when he realizes after everything, he still matters. Dad Bod Thor could definitely benefit from some counseling.
As usual I am watching this late as I only just discovered you. The "It's not your fault" scene is one I have been through with a counselor, but i was on the receiving end of it. The first time I saw this movie, I didn't make it through this nor the rest of the movie. I still can't watch it without feeling like I've been run over by a truck.
My therapist accepted a phone call and talked about golf while I wiped snot and tears from my face. I hope I find one like you or Robin Williams' character.
That’s what I needed to hear. I intellectually understand the trauma and why and how I function. But I can’t figure out how to feel better. Bc even tho I know it it’s distant. I understand it but I am not able to heal and don’t know how. I hope to find the right therapist
Please, you should react to "50 shades" movies!! The main character has one of the worst fictional therapist ever!!! And there is *A LOT* of couples therapy to do with those movies.
This movie touched me a lot back then even though I hadn't connected with my own childhood trauma yet. Children need to adapt to the parents, and it has purpose when they're young but becomes toxic as they get older. The belief that I'm bad or It's my fault is a coping mechanism for a child because if it isn't their fault whose is it then? The parent? That is too much for a child to realize. The fear of being at the mercy of an unloving or inept parent is too much, so they find a way to cope. This belief can haunt the child their whole life.
My question would be "Is the scene where Sean and Will are talking outside really a therapy session.....or is that simply an honest conversation?" As I understand it, therapy is about consistency. You start and end every session at precisely the same time with no exceptions. The therapist sits in the same chair when you talk every time. You meet on the same day each week when you are in therapy. The consistency of these things establishes a sense of comfort and trust between the client and their therapist. It shows them "this is a safe place where I can be vulnerable and this is someone I can show my darkness to without being judged or condemned. I can trust this person" In this particular scene, all of that goes out the window. Will shows up EARLY to the session....already smoking a cigarette (which he knows is breaking Sean's rules) and then, rather than sitting down in Sean's office, they go outside to have their talk and Sean is extremely blunt with his words. He doesn't hold back anything. So IS it really a therapy session.....or is this Sean's way of clearing the air between them, considering their last meeting ended with him trying to strangle Will for insulting his wife? It IS interesting though....in the previous sessions, Will was sitting as far away from Shawn as he could be. He was moving around the room. He was smoking (against the rules). He was insulting Sean....and then Sean's wife. And then, he was using silence to try and exert power over Sean. To make him speak first. In this scene....Sean is talking to him and the whole dynamic has changed. Will is not avoiding him anymore....he is sitting right next to him. He's not deflecting the conversation or insulting Sean....he's actually listening. There seems to be a bit of respect there.
Oh my god. I love Elliott Smith too. He’s also my favorite singer songwriter. Where you living in seattle at the time so you could bear witness? Man. Sitting a foot away from him, at an all ages afternoon show at the Redmond Y Firehouse in 96... After the show he was very kind, hilarious, super generous with his time. I’ll never forget seeing Elliott do a cartwheel for a cigarette. I thought he’d fall on his face, but he was practically acrobatic. Still miss him. Anyways.
12:10 From what I recall reading, both Damon and Williams were improvising here and the laughter was due to lines both had come up with. I believe Robin said something about lighting a match after his wife had farted and Matt asked, "was that how she died?" And they both just lost it at that moment.
these videos have been giving me life since quarantine started and i discovered them after watching 90 day fiance. i would love to see you react to counselor deanna troi therapy scenes from star trek tng, and also possibly my favorite tv show of all time, buffy the vampire slayer and/or golden girls, if thats not too much of a stretch. whether you do them or not, keep making amazing content :)
I love Elliott Smith, I loved his music in this film, but I didn’t really discover him until I heard Angel in the Snow in the George Clooney film Up in the Air, really got me listening to his other works & then I googled him & found out he was deceased... I was so sad & still am every time I hear him, such a tormented soul w such beautiful gifts
The way he says "don't fuck with me, Sean; not you", you can see that he does fully trust Sean, and is (for a moment) scared of that trust having been misplaced.
Accepting something deeply and emotionally compared to intellectually being aware of it was my biggest complaint about REBT therapy. I know it works for a lot of people and its good for a lot of problems people have, but personally, Im fairly intellectually aware of my problems and why they arent realistic and not functional anymore aaaand now what? I still feel the same and the same things creep up on me. I've done so much more with say Psychodrama or similar techniques than REBT.
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"it's not your fault" always makes me cry.
In The Prince of Tides Barbara Streisand says: "I feel your pain, I feel your pain" kills me
It makes you cry because it really isn't your fault!
I think this movie has done so much to decrease stigma in men. I have a number of clients who reported this is the only acceptable conception of therapy they have ever had.
As soon as he said the first "It's not your fault", I started ugly crying in anticipation. Props to Dr. Honda for holding it together
YUP
The film that made me a therapist.
Oh, that's awesome!
I was thinking of maybe becoming a therapist when I’m older due to this film
I was studying for my counseling degree when this film came out and it was a required viewing where we had to fictiously assume the role that we were counseling Will and what technique we would use if he were in a certain situation. I forget exactly what class it was for but it was one of my favorite papers that I wrote
@@cg0825 that sounds amazing omg.
Cute 😊
I finally found a therapist that actually LISTENS to me! She doesn't laugh if I say something awkward that may be found funny in some way. She doesn't ask me the cliche bullshits, "How does that make you feel? What do you want out of therapy? Have you been taking your meds?"
She listens, she doesn't care if I curse like a sailor or if I don't wanna talk that day. I actually feel..okay during a session. But I am an iceberg so to speak. There's a lot of things I have probably suppressed underneath that even I, myself , an not aware of. I guess I'm still guarded up..
How about doing 'react' to Dr. Hannibal lecter's therapies in Hannibal..., 😬
Yes! I'd love to see that!
I need this in my life💯💯
Ooowwwwwww good call!
Thanks Doc, my favorite movie scene of all time
Had same trauma; violent alcoholic father. This movie makes me feel we are not alone.
My son delivered dinner 2 me.
Now this. BEST COVID MOTHERS DAY EVER.🙏
That's easy. Just don't eat your clients.
You describe this, almost artistically; it’s the art of therapy, in a sense. It is a beautiful way to to hear it described, and in conjunction with a beloved film. It’s very reassuring to see such devotion, reverence and passion. So thanks for doing these.
Great analysis, Kirk. You do this so well....the way the therapist moves between different aspects of his own authenticity, telling Will he’s just a kid, but also respecting him enough to acknowledge that Will’s words affected him deeply, and following this by admitting to having been so vulnerable to a woman that he was leveled by her eyes. A lot of give and take and it earned Will’s respect. It also kind of exemplifies how to allow someone to see your vulnerability without dropping all of your own boundaries. Loved this movie.
the talk on the parkbench, is really wisdom talking to knowledge... in essence.
I would never skip a lecture if I would have such an excellent lecturer like you.
Your videos are so helpful... even the reactions to things I’ve never seen, although I’ve seen this film and absolutely love it. So grateful to have found your channel. Thank you for what you do.
Thanks for reacting to this great film. That scene always makes me cry and triggers me, because at that moment, I know exactly how Will is feeling.
Oh, this is one of my favourite movies. Can't wait to hear your thoughts on it!!
I didn’t know I needed this today, thank you. Happy Mother’s Day to all the mommies out there 😊
Thank you for breaking down the breakthrough scene. I couldn’t understand it for the longest time. I love this movie because in a way, it’s everybody’s story on some level. Will’s story was on an extreme side. However, we all go through traumas in one way or another.
I had a client who literally called me a "phone s-x operator" that they paid for my time and demanded it when they wanted it. After a while I started to let too much happen and they became really abusive. I believe it taught me about my own past trauma of taking verbal abuse. So I had to stop contact.
WHEN YOU'VE BEEN WATCHING Dr. Kirk Honda's Reacts for WEEKS AND REALIZE HE'S AS BIG OF AN ELLIOTT SMITH FAN AS YOU !!! I have a big tattoo of Elliott on my forearm. His music helped me trough the darkest times in the past 16 years. He should have gotten an Oscar for "Miss Misery", his Song in Goodwill Hunting, not Celine Dion, that year. Anyway, love your reactions Dr. Kirk Honda.
someone took me to see this movie thinking i was going to feel related somehow, he thought i was damaged bc i couldn't say i love you to him, he never thought i couldn't say it bc i didn't felt it .he even tried to force it out of me, maybe thinking i was going to enter into a catharsis like Will and he was going to cure me, lol, Freud enthusiasts. nevertheless i love this movie.
Ivonne Guajardo that is hilarious
ahh Love. Who is to say that feelings aren't important, unless they happen to you. A good thing about feeling it and saying it, is, that when you say it you mean it. Did he try to force an I love you? or did you just interpret it that way? Oftentimes selfinflicted imposed therapy is about letting the other person know you are frank, and that whatever you say is on the counterbalance... so in effect, all that is done is being honest with eachother... you could have said, I love you as a friend. ouch, but still honest.
these videos has made me realize how terrible my therapists have been, and I've been through at least 5
me too! I thought I'd written therapy off entirely after being let down and misunderstood by so many therapists, but Dr. Honda has done the impossible and renewed my interest in trying again.
let me guess - Barry, Henry, ....not Rick?!?
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@@avocado184nhs82 its a refrence to good will hunting lol
I watched this movie a few days ago for the first time, and was thinking what your thoughts would be. And now you made this video! How is it even possible? 😯
It's destiny.
I think it's something in ads and so on, like cookies and stuff, I am reminded that all therapists seek the same heaven, or cartharsis, so don't think it's manipulation or anything like that, it's similar minds doing similar things :)
the reason for the shepard and kicking him out of the session seems to be that robin has a limited time with will (court ordered) and wanted to break his comfort and complacency. It is a tricky gambit but with someone of wills intelligence it would be enough to make him in the time between the sessions wonder and fixate on that which is why he brought it up to bens character which drove the point home.
"You deserve a therapist like Robin Williams, apart from strangling you" = a perfect summary. Inspiring. Thank you for sharing this.
Sooo stoked to watch this but I can remember an even earlier film that depicted therapy in a positive light.
Dr. Honda, can you react to Ordinary People, starring Donald Sutherland, Timothy Hutton and Mary Tyler Moore. So many psychological intricacies!!
I watched that movie at the worst time I could've watched it...not long after losing my dad. Not by choice but it was shown in class at school. Later in life having studied psychology I went back and watched it again and it had so much more meaning. For the main character in that movie it was his brother but he was feeling the same thing I was at that time regarding my dad even though in the movie the death was due to a drowning (I believe) where as my dad it was cancer. However the emotions and the guilt and such were the same.
15:41 I've always thought the therapist did this for effect and wasn't really up set, so let him realize bullshitting isn't what we do in this room. Maybe even: you are allowed to say, I don't know.
I really appreciate you sharing so much insight about counseling on your channel! I am in my first few weeks of my Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy and I have found your videos very useful, interesting, and inspiring! Thank you!
I was just looking for a psychology review of Good Will Hunting, so thank you for your perfect timing of this video. It’s such a fantastic movie and this was a great explanation and dissection of the scenes.
This movie is what first interested me in becoming a licensed counselor!! I love it so much
revisiting my favorite movie through your analytical lens is such a gift. thank you for this!
Even thought most of your viewers seem to watch your 90 DF videos, I for one would really like more of this content
Man, I teared up again. The sheer number of people who have been affected so profoundly by this scene indicates just how many of us live our lives carrying devastating wounds, myself included.
Love these reaction videos! Good Will Hunting is one of my favorite movies. This was a nice surprise! Today is my birthday and I will be incorporating this video into my birthday routine! lol
21:59, Dr. Honda, you are too pure for this world. My favourite fictional therapist is the one on "Skin Deep". The scene when he sees his patient walking and having spasms in the parking lot. Genius.
Thank you so much for this video. Good will hunting is one of my favorite movies. I'm lucky to have a really good therapist myself and hearing you explaining everything only confirms to me that I'm at the right place with him. Thanx also for sharing your emotions with us regarding to that one "It's not your fault" scene.
Good Will Hunting, the film that turns me into an emotional mess.
I've seen this so many times and it never fails to make me cry. The acting is so good and I can really relate to it.
Who's watching this in 2021?? Both this and GWH? I'm going to have to rewatch this film again. So good.
Thank you so much, Dr. Honda.
This episode of therapist reacts is so Amazing thank you dr Kirk😭❤️
I've had many many pherapist in my life because my father abused me since i was i kid until i moved out when i was 17. I ran away from home alot, i had to live with my grandparents and friends. Now i am going thrue PTSD treatment and it is hard. I'm still self abusive and have suicidal thoughts. I tried to commit suicide in my 20s and still have to live on. It is really hard tight now and i can't sleep. I try to understand why i am feeling like this right now and look up things that may answer my questions. So one of my favorite movies is Good Will Hunting and that is how i came to watched this video. Great video and it sounds like you are a great therapist. Keep going!
Awwwwww, hearing Dr Kirk talk about how having breakthroughs with clients like they did at the end of the movie gives me all the feels ☺
The Opening scene where he disrespects his wife and he puts his hand to his throat. I must say, I understand why that's a no-no for therapists, but I feel like we also forget therapists are humans too, maybe instead of losing his license, he gets a 6 month suspension and requirement of therapy for himself.
What an incredible set of insights. Thank you for sharing, Dr. Honda. I was moved.
Your videos are amazing and get me even more interested in maybe becoming a therapist one day (really liked being sometimes a holistic wellness coach and working in massage therapy, etc.). If I lived in Seattle still I'd want to learn directly from you. Such a great movie too - to see such a tough, intellectual, distant guy break down crying and hugging like that - wow. 💗
Thank you so much Doc. I had a session once like the climax session here and i have such a different view of it now. I felt so freed and like an emotional vomit after sobbing like a child unable to catch my breath for several minutes. Later I felt scared, I never went back to that therapist despite 6 months of weekly sessions already. I suddenly was terrified to have the therapist look me in the eyes, bring it up again. She called every week for a month then every other for a few more and I just ignored the calls. I sent a check for the missed session apologizing for being busy and that I would call in for another appointment but never did. Thanks to listening to many of your analysis, commentaries and deep dives and probably 15 years older I'm able to see that in a different light. I feel like I want to write her and apologize and let her know it wasn't her. I am still scared though she may want me to resume. Economics and distance give a good excuse why I can't Will sleep on it.
On the question on why Robin Williams was coming off as hostile with Will on the bench scene. You need to take in to account that they come from the same background/neighborhood. Will wont respect any person who comes off as "establishment". This kids been to juvenile detention , starts fights, this conversation is like the bottom of the totem pole for aggression.
I am an MSW student and I just want to say thank you for doing what you do. I’ve been learning a lot through your videos!
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Silence by a client is not best understood as a 'refusal' to speak but rather an inability.
I have binge watched your play lists one after another for weeks now. This by far is one of my favorite of your videos posted and not just because Robin is one of my favorite people. Thank you... Now I need to go watch Good Will Hunting with someone close so I can tell them its not their fault.
22:48 “When you have been made to feel worthless, when been made to feel your not good enough, when criticized to the very core of who you are, of course intellectually we know we are good enough, of course intellectually we know it is not our fault, but deep down - which is the majority of our psyche, the majority of our soul - does not believe it. There are certain ideas that we conclude early in life given the way we are treated like ‘I’m not good enough,’ ‘I’m not worth it’ and ‘It is my fault’ and we might know intellectual know that it wasn’t our fault but most of us still believe this core sense that ‘Yes it was our fault.,’ [and] ‘We did deserve for these things to happen.’ It is a natural conclusion of children as they try to make sense about why things like this are happening to them... Children will come to those conclusions - it is almost universal that children do - because they are trying to make sense of the world. Why would I be treated so badly? It must because I’m a bad person... Until we get to that core... It's hard for us to heal...”
“Woah we’re getting a little too close to my emotions right now, back off pal” felt that in many sessions
Thank you so much
Thank you for doing this!
This is making me watch GWH for 4th time... Absolutely Marvelous
Interesting. I've watched this specific scene before but I don't remember in what context. Anyway I agree, it's a very powerful scene and brings me back to my own therapy sessions. Especially the sitting in silence part made me laugh because that was totally me at times hahaha
Edit: forgot to mention - can you do reactions to "Shameless" (the American version) and "Skins" (the British version)? Both shows present mental health problems in a very accurate way and there are some really inspiring scenes in them.
There’s a common belief that most people choose to study psychology to solve their own problems. As far as I find it logical, I must say I’ve met many therapists that are the most unstable and neurotic people out there and this is crazy! I always wonder how can they help other people while being so troubled themselves. I wonder what’s your take on that!
On the other hand I feel like it’s really difficult to find a therapist that is really able to get through to you. As you said, it usually stays on the superficial level but doesn’t get to the core. It’s so upsetting when you do agree with what they say and you kind of know and understand but in the end it doesn’t change anything deep inside. Maybe you have some recommendations on how to find the right one? I realize that is rather complex but maybe you could give us some clues on how to search better😊
Just watched the film for the first time yesterday, love it so much
Omg I had forgotten about the music in this movie! So wonderfull. Atually I think I have a full cd of this music, long forgotten, but gonna look for it now. Ellioth Smith's "Between the bars" brings back the memory to this movie in 1 second. Lovely music ❤
Edit: it turns out to be a video cassette of the movie that I still have! From 1998! Can't play this anymore abviously 🤣
I love how the end scene starts. "Listen, son". Like in this moment he tries to replace the flawed figure of authority in Will's brain by an empathetic safe one so that doors would open... Now to compare this with the Doctor Silberman from Terminator 2, lol.
Classic movie!!.... great choice !!
Could you do the Kings Speech?
I'm a speech pathologist, I love that movie!
This scene reminds me of another, surprisingly in the Marvel Movies, specifically Endgame where Thor learns he's still worthy. It's a very small thing in the scope of a bloated spectacle of a film, but that look on his face when he realizes after everything, he still matters. Dad Bod Thor could definitely benefit from some counseling.
"It's evidence-based to listen well" yeah man :)
As usual I am watching this late as I only just discovered you. The "It's not your fault" scene is one I have been through with a counselor, but i was on the receiving end of it. The first time I saw this movie, I didn't make it through this nor the rest of the movie. I still can't watch it without feeling like I've been run over by a truck.
The duck pond monologue is one of the best in film history
If only I had a therapist like that 25 years ago, I might have stuck with therapy and saved myself nearly a decade of depression.
I love another Robin Williams movie, Dead Poets Society. This is my favorite Robin Williams movie.
my favorite movie! Thank you for this!
Thank you. It inspire me, and helped my vocation.
Great commentary keep it up man
Really liked this video. Very insightful. This movie is such a gemstone! Thanks you.
Really lovely video. Thank you!
wow i didnt know both people could heal at once, that's beautiful
I've been in therapy long enough to know you are very good.
How about Hope Springs? Could you do a reaction to that? That seemed like a great depiction of couple's therapy to me...
I've always thought and felt like I didn't belong in my family and felt less loved and I'm just realizing how much that affected me without knowing it
Thank you for this I’ve had people say they thought this scene was stupid but I was very young when I was abused and I always felt it was my fault.
My therapist accepted a phone call and talked about golf while I wiped snot and tears from my face. I hope I find one like you or Robin Williams' character.
This movie made me a social worker ❤️ I now work in addiction counseling and it is the best job one can have.
Have you watched Ordinary People? I'd be curious to your take on that film
I cried watching this too 🥺
I’d be interested in hearing your reaction to the leaked Amber Heard/Jonny Depp audio in which they discuss domestic abuse
Niara W he has already done this very interesting
That’s what I needed to hear. I intellectually understand the trauma and why and how I function. But I can’t figure out how to feel better. Bc even tho I know it it’s distant. I understand it but I am not able to heal and don’t know how. I hope to find the right therapist
Please, you should react to "50 shades" movies!! The main character has one of the worst fictional therapist ever!!! And there is *A LOT* of couples therapy to do with those movies.
This movie touched me a lot back then even though I hadn't connected with my own childhood trauma yet. Children need to adapt to the parents, and it has purpose when they're young but becomes toxic as they get older.
The belief that I'm bad or It's my fault is a coping mechanism for a child because if it isn't their fault whose is it then? The parent? That is too much for a child to realize. The fear of being at the mercy of an unloving or inept parent is too much, so they find a way to cope. This belief can haunt the child their whole life.
My question would be "Is the scene where Sean and Will are talking outside really a therapy session.....or is that simply an honest conversation?" As I understand it, therapy is about consistency. You start and end every session at precisely the same time with no exceptions. The therapist sits in the same chair when you talk every time. You meet on the same day each week when you are in therapy. The consistency of these things establishes a sense of comfort and trust between the client and their therapist. It shows them "this is a safe place where I can be vulnerable and this is someone I can show my darkness to without being judged or condemned. I can trust this person" In this particular scene, all of that goes out the window. Will shows up EARLY to the session....already smoking a cigarette (which he knows is breaking Sean's rules) and then, rather than sitting down in Sean's office, they go outside to have their talk and Sean is extremely blunt with his words. He doesn't hold back anything. So IS it really a therapy session.....or is this Sean's way of clearing the air between them, considering their last meeting ended with him trying to strangle Will for insulting his wife?
It IS interesting though....in the previous sessions, Will was sitting as far away from Shawn as he could be. He was moving around the room. He was smoking (against the rules). He was insulting Sean....and then Sean's wife. And then, he was using silence to try and exert power over Sean. To make him speak first. In this scene....Sean is talking to him and the whole dynamic has changed. Will is not avoiding him anymore....he is sitting right next to him. He's not deflecting the conversation or insulting Sean....he's actually listening. There seems to be a bit of respect there.
You did a awesome job. I love this movie
Oh my god. I love Elliott Smith too. He’s also my favorite singer songwriter. Where you living in seattle at the time so you could bear witness? Man. Sitting a foot away from him, at an all ages afternoon show at the Redmond Y Firehouse in 96... After the show he was very kind, hilarious, super generous with his time. I’ll never forget seeing Elliott do a cartwheel for a cigarette. I thought he’d fall on his face, but he was practically acrobatic. Still miss him.
Anyways.
12:10 From what I recall reading, both Damon and Williams were improvising here and the laughter was due to lines both had come up with. I believe Robin said something about lighting a match after his wife had farted and Matt asked, "was that how she died?" And they both just lost it at that moment.
these videos have been giving me life since quarantine started and i discovered them after watching 90 day fiance. i would love to see you react to counselor deanna troi therapy scenes from star trek tng, and also possibly my favorite tv show of all time, buffy the vampire slayer and/or golden girls, if thats not too much of a stretch. whether you do them or not, keep making amazing content :)
Thank you. Inspiring!
not only did i grow up abused, but profoundly gifted
I love that you reacted to my favorite movie. Thank you!!!!
23:49 I can't believe but I broke down as soon as you said those words
Dr Honda is so much more awesome to me now I know he also loves Elliott Smith! :')
I wish I could find a therapist like Dr. Kirk (or Robin Williams).
I LOVE THIS!!!! P.s Elliott Smith is my favourite too 👌
I love Elliott Smith, I loved his music in this film, but I didn’t really discover him until I heard Angel in the Snow in the George Clooney film Up in the Air, really got me listening to his other works & then I googled him & found out he was deceased... I was so sad & still am every time I hear him, such a tormented soul w such beautiful gifts
So how do you get to a place where you believe deep down it wasn't your fault? Doesit require a therapist
The way he says "don't fuck with me, Sean; not you", you can see that he does fully trust Sean, and is (for a moment) scared of that trust having been misplaced.
Thank you.
Accepting something deeply and emotionally compared to intellectually being aware of it was my biggest complaint about REBT therapy. I know it works for a lot of people and its good for a lot of problems people have, but personally, Im fairly intellectually aware of my problems and why they arent realistic and not functional anymore aaaand now what? I still feel the same and the same things creep up on me. I've done so much more with say Psychodrama or similar techniques than REBT.
I'd love to see you react to more films with therapy scenes like "Ordinary People" (1980). The scenes with Timothy Hutton and Judd Hirsch are intense.
I might even put up with a teeny, tiny strangle for a therapist like Robin..