What about boundaries you guys have since you've been married!? A pastor of my church said that her and her husband have a rule where they aren't allowed to meet with someone of the opposite sex alone in order to protect their marriage. Do you guys have any boundaries like that? Love you guys!❤️
I hate being in relationships where these boundaries are one sided. I wish someone loved and respected me as a person enough to be willing to follow similar boundaries because they see the long term value.
Hellooo :) It seems like in christian relationships, there's usually one person who wants to stay pure and the other one doesn't see the point in waiting for any sexual interactions. Eventually, one will submit to the other. If the one who wants to be sexually pure isn't strong enough, they will give in to the temptation. I believe the devil tempts us of course, but most of it is us giving in to our flesh since the Bible talks about how sexual immorality is the work of our flesh. Advice I'd give someone.. Practice self- control. That is a fruit of the Spirit, but we have to choose to be spiritually minded to see that fruit work. The best thing to help with that is to feed your spirit with Gods word and worship. Get that word rooted in your heart. Meditate on His word and you won't give in to the lusts of the flesh. It works!
Great tips!! I especially love that you guys kept your parents in the loop and were purposeful with the time you spent together--and that you talked about your specific boundaries together. One of the things I loved about my hubby James is how serious he was about honoring my body and honoring God, and that just made me love and trust him so much more. (Also, you guys are hilarious together. I love it. 😂👏)
Hey Tiffany! Thanks for the comment :D Yes Amen, when the guy takes the lead in honoring the woman by going after purity it makes the woman trust him right off the bat!!
i don’t agree with that at all “men are the leaders and we have to follow their rules”??? um no. i’m sorry but i think it suppose to be half and half , i’m sorry but i think you both should be free of each other’s beliefs and live by them, not by following the dude “rules” in a relationship .
@@jensraab2902 You can't just cherry pick everything you want to hear from the Bible and just forget about the bad things (and there are sooo many in there, could give you so many examples). I just hate this naive thinking so much. Also I think you can have the relationship you want, but it's dangerous to tell women and especially girls that its's okay to let your partner suppress you (just because he is the man??). I think that being sexist is really nothing that god would like us to be.
@@jensraab2902 Oh okay sorry, I really misunderstood your comment. So, then where're on the same page about this topic. And I don't think I have to evaluate my religious orientation, because I never believed in a god in a way that Christians do. I really don't support these radical Christians who are not only intolerant but also against everything they cannot understand. Saying these cruel things for example about homosexuality is not okay just because you are manipulated since you are little. (Also surpressing your sexual drives for such a long time is sooo bad for your mental and physical health, so why telling young people that you're sinning when you're doing something sooo healthy?!) Sorry, that's making me so pissed. haha
Well yes, bc the bible says that wives shall submit to their husbands. Do I think that wives should have a small say in just about everything. But the husband is in control. My dad told me, that even though the husband makes the choices, once your married, you both are one. So the wife should get to have a say, in my opinion.
The Bible ALSO discusses women in terms of property to men. One of the Ten Commandments actually includes women in the rule to not covet thy neighbors wife, oxen, ass, etc. Clearly your neighbor is a man and his woman is his property. I think we all need a reminder that the Bible was written by men not God.
Anna Potts I started University this year and I definitely encourage you to read your Bible everyday (begin now if you don't yet because that'll help you when you go to College). Once you get to College continue reading the Bible and try to everyday (it can be hard but I've learned it's so important!) Find a good church to go to and look into the school you are going to and see if they have a Christian group. (I don't go to a Christian school but they have a Christian group which is absolutely amazing and I love it!) I've actually made most of my friends through church and this group and I'm so glad my core group of friends is Christian! I know you weren't necessarily asking for someone to give you tips because you wanted a video on it (and they should still make one) but I hope this helps!! 😊
Hi Anna, I agree with Madison on these points 😄 Finding a local church and getting involved with a Christian group/society or the university's Christian Union is fundamental is staying grounded during your studies away from home - you'll have a support group of like-minded people who desire to see you grow closer to God ❤️ Before I started at university in September 2016, I checked online for churches in the city I was moving to and got in touch with them. Most churches will have student/young adult groups which will host Bible studies, social events and prayer/worship evenings - make sure to get plugged into these! You won't even have to force making friends because God will surround you will the right people that fear Him and encouragement you to love Him and pursue Him more. Also, a practical piece of advice is... PRAY about it! Pray that God will be present with you and He will give you the wisdom to go to the right church and to connect with the right people. Acknowledge Him in all your ways 👏🏾 I pray that you'll enjoy the exciting journey of starting at uni! Lots of love xx
@@hannahhewitt6421 Ah O.K. I understand. Sorry, didn't discriminated between boyfriend and husband, because for religious christians dating basically means to find husband. I think there is no dating just to date and or just for fun. So a (longtime) boyfriend in the sense does not exist, only a man who might be your potential future husband if everything goes well.
This is the teaching of the Bible. If you don’t believe in that. You can consider all the horrible consequences of diseases non purity can lead too. You can think of it as simply taking care of your body.
Really great and important subject you guyyyzz Being a young man who The LORD has protected through his teen years from Sexual relationships and even dating (aside from strong internet relationships) this advice is really going to help me when coming into my adult years (21 in MAY!!) when facing a relationship and being a man when it comes to boundaries. That’s really reverent of Paul for sitting in the corner, I’m curious. Paul, did you have an experience previous to this that lead you to want to pursue a pure, relationship with Morgan with boundaries?! Can’t wait for your next video!
Hey brother! Love the way you worded this comment, amen! I was similar to you, God protected me and gave me a strong desire for purity👊 But the closer we got to marriage the more difficult it got to stick to boundaries! #shortengagements 🙌
Paul and Morgan Really great stuff my dude, thank you for sharing! I’m sure I’ll have a similar problem, especially when I find a girl who is worth keeping ya’know? Feeling the need to meet those expectations of a couple, I’d really be curious to see a video from y’all on how Christian Couples should conduct themselves (like Paul says to Timothy “in your life, love, faith and purity in 1 Tim. 4:12) in a world that is doing it wrong!!
“The modern use of Matthew 5:28 is to regard human beings as robots who are presumed to be able switch off certain aspects of their bodies and minds at will, and reactivate them at the moment they utter the words “I do.” Arguments that ‘lust’ objectifies women and treats them as sex objects abound in their condemnation of the most essential of all human instincts, leaving an endless trail of trauma, guilt and hadephobia in their wake. In reality, they are using a passage which endorses the worst forms of female objectification, misogyny and loveless slavery; their erroneous arguments enabled through religion’s ultimate foundations: the lust for power and control-and the blatant refusal to think.” -Tanya Simmonds
2:10 My youth pastor and dad both said nothing good ever happens after 10 pm. That was any cerfew till moved to college. When I am home I still try to abide by that. If I am not able too I tell my parents before I leave or before cerfew. I was also taught keep your shoes on. If you will be on the same piece of furniture then keep your shoes on so you will not be tempted to put your feet up and get to comfy. Also, when I was in high school if a guy wanted to go on a date with me then he needed to come in and meet my parents.
These are so very true and right on.. I just wish I had done these things in my first relationship (only relationship). I know I am forgiven and loved even with the mistakes that I have made, but I still live with so much regret and sadness for allowing boundaries/things to happen. Something I'd like to add to what was said in the video is that, just because you may not go "all the way" doesn't mean you haven't committed a sexual sin. A lot of people and including myself at one time think it's okay as long as you don't do the act. But if you have lusted in your heart no matter what kind of physical touch was made it's still sexual sin with that person. That soul tie is still formed. Corinthians 7:1 "It is best for a man not to touch a woman."
I think this is great! Something I would add would be for those thinking "well I know I'm going to marry this person so it doesn't matter." Coming from personal experience, my husband and I did get a little too intimate before marriage and it is hard for us to look back at those times. It STILL brings baggage even if you do marry that person. So stay pure no matter what. That is what God calls us to do, and there is a reason for it.
Well for me, I'm 31 and never had a girlfriend, and so therefore I have no clue on even how to get a girlfriend (if i knew how I would've by now), and then if you gotta wait till marriage and you "cant act on feelings". So then even though I'll never marry its like I'll never get rid of my sin.
Is there a video on what your written rules are? Black and white is to be found no where and i find the ones who successfully maintained purity boundaries im begging you please write it somewhere and share because i need them too its a subject as a female that is always hard i had a guy call me rigid but now im in this courtship and its like you paul those boundaries became harder because your heart really loves this person please help
I notice you say men set up boundaries and women submit to them but what if in your relationship it’s more the other way around or the man is having a difficult time trying to control those temptations
Paul and Morgan well not that the man doesn’t like them but how would you work together to work through those temptations the man is having difficulty with
But why are the men the leaders in the relationship shouldn’t the boundaries be communicated and set together. Just saying it’s not the 1920s anymore guys.
Paul how were you so strong? Did you have a strong Christian background? How were you able to maintain boundaries if Morgan sometimes crossed them (with the frontal hugs thing). Serious question
How would you advice a couple who had previously been sexually active in their past relationships but are seeking purity together currently. Because it's harder when you already kinda awoken the giant.
Another great video filled with good advice!! I think you guys should make a video talking about how to call out a Christian the right way when you know they are actively living in sin. In a past video (the one about Justin Bieber and Selena I think) Morgan touched on the topic of calling Christians out on the way they live. I have a friend right now who calls herself a Christian and goes to church but she is having sex with her boyfriend. I’ve felt like I need to tell her that it’s not okay to be having sex before marriage but I don’t even know how to bring it up or if I even should.
Wow thank you for this comment. That’s a powerful topic that we have talked a lot about lately. That’s for sharing, def adding it to the list. I really think this needs to be addressed :)
I like the videos but I disagree with submitting to your boyfriend . When you are dating and even engaged you are single in the eyes of God . You should yes have respect for your partner but not where you are submitting yourself . Pastor Mike Todd from transformation church goes in this in depth.
I really love your videos,they are inspiring.I remember talking to a bunch of guys at school about pursuing purity in relationships,I totally looked like a weirdo.They all just looked at me like "uhhhhhh",oh yer.I am still single and still hope that if I do date this will be my heart's desire,to honour God in that relationship even if it seems and sounds weird to the world.Thank you for keeping it real!!!!!!and being yourselves!
This is horrible advice. There's nothing wrong with pre-marital sex. Humans should be taught to take responsibility for their actions. That goes for sex, eating a whole bag of M&Ms, sleeping in until 2PM, not doing your homework, etc.
I can see both the ‘stay away from sexual temptation’ and they ‘are they compatible for me?.’ Although having said this I don’t understand why people have this blanket assumption that all Christians are incapable of controlling themselves around the opposite sex? I don’t see why we can’t just trust couples as Christians to trust their boundaries. Plus I find Christians quite nosey with this sort of topic and I worry about how people respond to this within churches. I mean this about living together, romantic dating boundaries ect. I’m concerned that if people have made a mistake that people in churches will just criticise and point the finger too quickly rather than point that person back to the lord first.
Just a quick thought about the bible and submission... it says wives submit to your husbands. This is advice given for married couples, not dating couples. I think that is important to acknowledge because although when you date you are figuring out if this is someone you want to marry, but you are not married. Both the men and woman need to be equally apart of making and setting boundaries. Pretty much, stick with the boundaries of the person who is the strictest... else the power dynamite of 'submission' can create an unhealthy relationship between boyfriends towards their girlfriends.
this is advice that’s most relevant to very young people still living at home, not independent from their parents. what about people in their 30s, who are fully independent adults, but trying to follow christian values in their relationships?
Love this video you guys 🙌🏻 I think being purposeful and intentional are definitely great ways to make sure you stay pure in a relationship! Good advice!!
Hey Mat and Est! Agreed, as awesome as it would be to just trust your intentions and hope for the best, protecting your purity is a big deal. And we gotta be intentional!
Do not tell people that they ‘aren’t strong at all’ that is so damaging and detrimental to certain people and your lord definitely wouldn’t be pleased with that treatment of others - presume that’s not how you’d like to be treated no?
Lauren Fletcher exactly and what, you think that’s right? it’s a sickening message to put across, very toxic to young people (Male and female) lacking in confidence and self esteem, LOVE YOUR OWN SELF FIRST PEOPLE
That is reprehensible and damaging to youth to make them believe that they are powerless. Unless you have God to keep you from your weak, filthy, unclean, thoughts that happen naturally to every adolescent. Shame them. It’s proven to cause emotional damage and even suicide.
Thank you guys so much for your videos! I appreciate your advice and clarity so much. I really do feel your sincerity on your topics and I admire how passionate and strong you are about it all. CUTEST COUPLE!
Thank you guys so much for making videos like this. As a young single guy it really inspires me on how I should carry out my relationships in the future. I love how you guys were willing to make those boundaries even though they may have been viewed upon as strange by the outside world. I feel really blessed to have stumbled upon your channel, God has been really speaking to me through it. Keep up the good work!
One thing that helps me and my fiancé a lot is dancing. We get out favorite love songs and slow dance to them. This allows us to be close to each other and express love without falling into sin!
how to not judge in a way that will push non christians a way. one of the common things I hear from non christians is that christians are judgemental. hope these ideas help. I have over 2,000 videos that I have made in four years so learned how to come up with videos from making so many. oh and homosexality and bring Christian video and another would be is going to church important when being christians and can you get to heaven and be a Christian just by being good. a couple more ideas. I have seen your videos in awhile but decided to check them out today.
Thank you so much for your advices. Following God is harder but we have to follow Him to see His purpose to what we want in life. Sometimes I'm over thinking about relationship because this is the first time to really commit to a person that I love. I want to follow God with obedience and let Him work through it.
"HEAL IT!" 😂 "Everybody wants purity but few people maintain it, keep it, have it, hold on to it." --- Yeah so that should be the quote that goes on the shirt when your merch drops hahahaha Ooo I really like that one: have a plan for your dates and don't just hang out till whenever; that will definitely help in avoiding temptation. 2 Corinthians 10:5 has been like my go-to verse lately just as I try to reign in my mind and my thoughts about life in general but I feel like it applies really really well here too: "Bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." Difficult to do but it's something we're called to. I think I've said this before but I"ll say it again haha: thank you guys oh so muchly for sticking to Biblical principles and speaking the Truth with boldness! By God's grace, you are shining lights in this dark dark world and He will bless you for honouring Him :) Love you guys and keeping shining
Awww keep hanging in there, Renee! God will carry you through and give you all the grace you need :) From one singe girl to another, you've got this with God's help!! I'm glad the quotations encouraged you but I can't take credit for them haha they're all from the video....Paul and Morgan have some stellar nuggets of knowledge :D
Any advice about keeping a strong marriage and staying loyal to your significant other? Like how do you stay pure in marriage? Do you have a video like that?
About ten years ago in my teenage years my parents used to drag me off to church and I remember being told by the Pastor that Jesus expects everyone to love their brother, I listened to his sermons and began to take an interest in the teachings of Jesus so when the opportunity arose I decided to put those teachings into practice, I was upstairs in my bedroom loving my brother when the door opened and Mom stood there with her mouth open and her face as red as a beet, she hit the roof and the screaming could be heard a block away, she yelled at us to put our clothes back on and chased me down the stairs, it was terrible and she didn't speak to me for two months, David lost his allowance for a month and after that she began to speak to him again but it was very frosty Brrrrr, what is the matter with parents? first they want us to obey Jesus and then they blow up when you try, life was very confusing . . . .
Should someone maintain a social media relationship with someone you once dated? I'm of an older generation but in speaking to those in your generation they have felt it's okay. I can see many issues with doing this but I'm teachable. What would be your advice?
Hmmm I’d say that one depends on the specific situation. I would prolly lean no personally. But if your dating relationship was pure I think it could work :)
I don’t see what’s wrong with what they said in the end. I believe that wives should submit to their husbands and husbands should submit to their wives just like it says so in the bible. The husbands are the leaders, and it doesn’t mean that could boss you around / demand you to do things, that’s not called a leader, that’s called a boss. A true leader leads by example, wants the best for his people and is very invested in his team, and in this case your husband is your leader, and “leader” cannot be substituted by commander, boss or anything else. This is my input on this verse, I totally recommend you guys to watch Pastor Rich’s sermon “It’s Complicated”, i personally learnt a ton from it as it‘s direct & biblical, i’m sure you’ll learn something from it too. Also, I just wanted to say, to the people who are doubting God’s word aka the Bible and for what it says, for me, Christianity starts from it and very much of our lives are founded on the Bible. God clearly states that He wants us to read His word to feed our hungry souls. I hope that we’re nice to each other in the comments, spread God’s love & positivity y’all
Are you investing in God as much as you are your romantic life? Is another good question for singles, I've noticed that for my own thoughts and God is still helping me with that. Thank you Morgan! I've had that before over emotional and attracted lust, ugh i feel bad, but I've been more emotionally and lusts-dully invested with guys in my past and so i really think it makes me more hesitatint to speak to guys i like, besides the fact that I'm shy! i think you need God at the absolute center to be able to have any type of godly relationships and that's my story and I'm sticking to my guns on that one
I totally understand not hanging out alone and want to make that a goal for my next relationship. However, how do you share emotional things with each other, like past experiences, that you don't want other people knowing. Where do you draw the line between being too emotionally attached, and simply getting to know each other before marriage? Because I have things that my future wife is going to want to know before marriage, however I don't want other people knowing.
This was very good! Idea for other video's: something about living with people who don't believe who are asking all those hard questions or how to stay strong in hard times when you are doubting faith(like the hard questions etc)
Do a video of what you should do in Middle and High school when your crush likes you back and you're friends. Basically what you think of "Teen/Young Teen Relationships"
Would y’all mind maybe sharing a list of the lines y’all set that you can remember? Thanks in advance! FYI I’ve been binge watching y’all for the last two days since I found ya and been loving what I’m seeing! #sickinbedwiththepaulandmorganshow! ♥️♥️♥️
Hello. Paul and Morgan thank you so much for the advise. How ever we are from.india and we both believe in Jesus and have been in a relationship from 7 years. And not yet been married as my parent are hindu and doens't agree with me marrying a believer hence we are delaying marriage. And with all this it is really difficult to maintain purity. Can you give some advise
As a christian man I have to say that I would never ever ever be able to love a woman who has been with another man intimately, I have to be the only one she has ever been with, first and last
Hey Paul and Morgan, thank you for sharing!! You are wonderful examples to kids like us. THank you for the great advice and perspective. #AJandAnneAlida #weRgenerationZ
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What about boundaries you guys have since you've been married!? A pastor of my church said that her and her husband have a rule where they aren't allowed to meet with someone of the opposite sex alone in order to protect their marriage. Do you guys have any boundaries like that? Love you guys!❤️
I’d like so see more videos for married couples! 😊
Hey Kennedy, oh man that’s a good topic! Thanks!
Hey Jayme, sounds good😊😊
Paul and Morgan how to control your anger 😂 (in relationships fighting for God and NOT AGAINST EACHOTHER)
My mentor always said, "Nothing productive happens after midnight... only things reproductive, you know what Im saying?" LOL always stuck to me.
Hahaha that’s good😛
That's a good saying 😂
But aren’t all times after midnight except midnights itself
A role model of mine puts it this way there is nothing open after midnight except for the ER and legs😂😂😂
I LOVE that Paul sat on the floor in Morgan's room!😁 I pray that I get a man like you Paul!
Amen
What about a video on purity after not staying pure in the past? How to do it, how to approach it and what to tell the person you are with?
That’s a great topic
yesss
Yes please. Specially it's still the same person. But you both decided to make things right in the eyes of God. 😭 thank you.
@@PaulandMorgan did u make a video about this? I hopeeee to watch it. Cos I'm in the situation right now. 🙏🙏🙏
@@Mayumi221988 same
I hate being in relationships where these boundaries are one sided. I wish someone loved and respected me as a person enough to be willing to follow similar boundaries because they see the long term value.
I can totally relate, but it's neccesary to make THE TALK, even though I haven't done it yet, I know that if the feelings grow more it'll be siminal.
YES SISTER 100% AGREED
They don't cause your boundaries are fucking insane
That little dance was the most dad thing he did all video 😂
Hellooo :) It seems like in christian relationships, there's usually one person who wants to stay pure and the other one doesn't see the point in waiting for any sexual interactions. Eventually, one will submit to the other. If the one who wants to be sexually pure isn't strong enough, they will give in to the temptation. I believe the devil tempts us of course, but most of it is us giving in to our flesh since the Bible talks about how sexual immorality is the work of our flesh. Advice I'd give someone.. Practice self- control. That is a fruit of the Spirit, but we have to choose to be spiritually minded to see that fruit work. The best thing to help with that is to feed your spirit with Gods word and worship. Get that word rooted in your heart. Meditate on His word and you won't give in to the lusts of the flesh. It works!
Amen sister! That advice is so good, totally agree thanks for sharing!
For real
As a teenager just entering the world of relationships, this video was so helpful! I absolutely love your channel! Thank you for being so insightful.
Great tips!! I especially love that you guys kept your parents in the loop and were purposeful with the time you spent together--and that you talked about your specific boundaries together. One of the things I loved about my hubby James is how serious he was about honoring my body and honoring God, and that just made me love and trust him so much more. (Also, you guys are hilarious together. I love it. 😂👏)
Hey Tiffany! Thanks for the comment :D Yes Amen, when the guy takes the lead in honoring the woman by going after purity it makes the woman trust him right off the bat!!
Love your stuff too! @ Tiffany!! :)
“Wait Paul Get up and do something young.” **tries to do floss dance** 🤣🤣
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i don’t agree with that at all “men are the leaders and we have to follow their rules”??? um no. i’m sorry but i think it suppose to be half and half , i’m sorry but i think you both should be free of each other’s beliefs and live by them, not by following the dude “rules” in a relationship .
Amelia Beman actually God says the husbands are to submit to their wives and their wives to submit to your husbands
@@jensraab2902 You can't just cherry pick everything you want to hear from the Bible and just forget about the bad things (and there are sooo many in there, could give you so many examples). I just hate this naive thinking so much. Also I think you can have the relationship you want, but it's dangerous to tell women and especially girls that its's okay to let your partner suppress you (just because he is the man??). I think that being sexist is really nothing that god would like us to be.
@@jensraab2902 Oh okay sorry, I really misunderstood your comment. So, then where're on the same page about this topic. And I don't think I have to evaluate my religious orientation, because I never believed in a god in a way that Christians do. I really don't support these radical Christians who are not only intolerant but also against everything they cannot understand. Saying these cruel things for example about homosexuality is not okay just because you are manipulated since you are little.
(Also surpressing your sexual drives for such a long time is sooo bad for your mental and physical health, so why telling young people that you're sinning when you're doing something sooo healthy?!) Sorry, that's making me so pissed. haha
Well yes, bc the bible says that wives shall submit to their husbands. Do I think that wives should have a small say in just about everything. But the husband is in control. My dad told me, that even though the husband makes the choices, once your married, you both are one. So the wife should get to have a say, in my opinion.
The Bible ALSO discusses women in terms of property to men. One of the Ten Commandments actually includes women in the rule to not covet thy neighbors wife, oxen, ass, etc. Clearly your neighbor is a man and his woman is his property. I think we all need a reminder that the Bible was written by men not God.
I'm starting College next year. Can you do an advice video about how to maintain your faith and make good friends in college?
Great topic, Anna! We’d have a lot of fun with this video!! 👍👍👍
Anna Potts I started University this year and I definitely encourage you to read your Bible everyday (begin now if you don't yet because that'll help you when you go to College). Once you get to College continue reading the Bible and try to everyday (it can be hard but I've learned it's so important!) Find a good church to go to and look into the school you are going to and see if they have a Christian group. (I don't go to a Christian school but they have a Christian group which is absolutely amazing and I love it!) I've actually made most of my friends through church and this group and I'm so glad my core group of friends is Christian! I know you weren't necessarily asking for someone to give you tips because you wanted a video on it (and they should still make one) but I hope this helps!! 😊
It does! Thanks :)
Hi Anna, I agree with Madison on these points 😄 Finding a local church and getting involved with a Christian group/society or the university's Christian Union is fundamental is staying grounded during your studies away from home - you'll have a support group of like-minded people who desire to see you grow closer to God ❤️ Before I started at university in September 2016, I checked online for churches in the city I was moving to and got in touch with them. Most churches will have student/young adult groups which will host Bible studies, social events and prayer/worship evenings - make sure to get plugged into these! You won't even have to force making friends because God will surround you will the right people that fear Him and encouragement you to love Him and pursue Him more. Also, a practical piece of advice is... PRAY about it! Pray that God will be present with you and He will give you the wisdom to go to the right church and to connect with the right people. Acknowledge Him in all your ways 👏🏾 I pray that you'll enjoy the exciting journey of starting at uni! Lots of love xx
Thanks ;)
hey you guys should do videos about your testimonies and what you believe, so people can get to know you better. :)
Love that, Baylee! Testimony videos coming soon👍👍
There is no reason why you should submit to your boyfriend... at all
Andrea Leite Exactly, I was so disgusted by how they described it like that.
FUCK SEXIST SHIT
Andrea, if you are a christian the bible says so.
@@zahnpastacremetube yes, to your HUSBAND. her point was, you should never feel you have to submit to a BOYFRIEND
@@hannahhewitt6421 Ah O.K. I understand. Sorry, didn't discriminated between boyfriend and husband, because for religious christians dating basically means to find husband. I think there is no dating just to date and or just for fun. So a (longtime) boyfriend in the sense does not exist, only a man who might be your potential future husband if everything goes well.
My hubby and I were pure for a little over a year and it was a challenge but with God it was possible!!
Amen! Love hearing testimonies of victory like this :D
Excuse me, don't wanna be rude, but I really don't understand why do you have to do that? It doesn't make sense.
This is the teaching of the Bible. If you don’t believe in that. You can consider all the horrible consequences of diseases non purity can lead too. You can think of it as simply taking care of your body.
@@marinagirgis2198 what you just said it's completaly nosense, for real. You shouldn't be scared to be intimate with your husband/boyfriend, wth.
Why would you equalize husband and boyfriend. Each has its own intimacy standards.
Y'all should make a video about things you should talk about in a first date or before a first date😆
Good one, Joanna!!
Ya
Hey! I’d like to see a vid on witnessing/evangelism and what that looks like in daily life. ☺️
Thanks Leah! That’s a great topic👊
You could be a friend in need and encourage them with the love of the Lord 🥰🙏🙏
Best tip is to NOT listen to immature Christians on this channel.
If y'all haven't already done this, maybe do a video on how to enjoy the single life
Great idea, I’m wanting to do a 3 video series on ‘the single years’! Thanks, Whitney!
How about a video on church? What type of church you guys go to, do you take notes, etc :).
Oh I like that topic! Don’t think we’ve done anything like that yet👍😊
This would be a cool video.
Really great and important subject you guyyyzz Being a young man who The LORD has protected through his teen years from Sexual relationships and even dating (aside from strong internet relationships) this advice is really going to help me when coming into my adult years (21 in MAY!!) when facing a relationship and being a man when it comes to boundaries. That’s really reverent of Paul for sitting in the corner, I’m curious. Paul, did you have an experience previous to this that lead you to want to pursue a pure, relationship with Morgan with boundaries?! Can’t wait for your next video!
Hey brother! Love the way you worded this comment, amen! I was similar to you, God protected me and gave me a strong desire for purity👊 But the closer we got to marriage the more difficult it got to stick to boundaries! #shortengagements 🙌
Paul and Morgan Really great stuff my dude, thank you for sharing! I’m sure I’ll have a similar problem, especially when I find a girl who is worth keeping ya’know? Feeling the need to meet those expectations of a couple, I’d really be curious to see a video from y’all on how Christian Couples should conduct themselves (like Paul says to Timothy “in your life, love, faith and purity in 1 Tim. 4:12) in a world that is doing it wrong!!
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“The modern use of Matthew 5:28 is to regard human beings as robots who are presumed to be able switch off certain aspects of their bodies and minds at will, and reactivate them at the moment they utter the words “I do.” Arguments that ‘lust’ objectifies women and treats them as sex objects abound in their condemnation of the most essential of all human instincts, leaving an endless trail of trauma, guilt and hadephobia in their wake. In reality, they are using a passage which endorses the worst forms of female objectification, misogyny and loveless slavery; their erroneous arguments enabled through religion’s ultimate foundations: the lust for power and control-and the blatant refusal to think.”
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2:10 My youth pastor and dad both said nothing good ever happens after 10 pm. That was any cerfew till moved to college. When I am home I still try to abide by that. If I am not able too I tell my parents before I leave or before cerfew. I was also taught keep your shoes on. If you will be on the same piece of furniture then keep your shoes on so you will not be tempted to put your feet up and get to comfy. Also, when I was in high school if a guy wanted to go on a date with me then he needed to come in and meet my parents.
That sounds like some wise advise! :)
"We're not strong at all but the Lord is" -Morgan that's so true 🙏🏽👏🏾👏🏾💯
Wow , i love this . I pray my relationship be God fearing. Thank you for these tips .
These are so very true and right on.. I just wish I had done these things in my first relationship (only relationship). I know I am forgiven and loved even with the mistakes that I have made, but I still live with so much regret and sadness for allowing boundaries/things to happen. Something I'd like to add to what was said in the video is that, just because you may not go "all the way" doesn't mean you haven't committed a sexual sin. A lot of people and including myself at one time think it's okay as long as you don't do the act. But if you have lusted in your heart no matter what kind of physical touch was made it's still sexual sin with that person. That soul tie is still formed. Corinthians 7:1 "It is best for a man not to touch a woman."
Thanks for good tips, really helpfull
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I think this is great! Something I would add would be for those thinking "well I know I'm going to marry this person so it doesn't matter." Coming from personal experience, my husband and I did get a little too intimate before marriage and it is hard for us to look back at those times. It STILL brings baggage even if you do marry that person. So stay pure no matter what. That is what God calls us to do, and there is a reason for it.
Well for me, I'm 31 and never had a girlfriend, and so therefore I have no clue on even how to get a girlfriend (if i knew how I would've by now), and then if you gotta wait till marriage and you "cant act on feelings". So then even though I'll never marry its like I'll never get rid of my sin.
Is there a video on what your written rules are? Black and white is to be found no where and i find the ones who successfully maintained purity boundaries im begging you please write it somewhere and share because i need them too its a subject as a female that is always hard i had a guy call me rigid but now im in this courtship and its like you paul those boundaries became harder because your heart really loves this person please help
Hey guys found your channel and just wanted to say love what you guys are doing. Keep leading the way. Wish you all the best.
Hey Josh! Praise God thanks so much for watching and supporting👊👊
Can you please make a video about friendships with people who aren’t Christian?
Good topic!!
I notice you say men set up boundaries and women submit to them but what if in your relationship it’s more the other way around or the man is having a difficult time trying to control those temptations
That’s a good question. I suppose the woman would have to be the one setting them, and if the man doesn’t like the boundaries, that’s a red flag
Paul and Morgan well not that the man doesn’t like them but how would you work together to work through those temptations the man is having difficulty with
But why are the men the leaders in the relationship shouldn’t the boundaries be communicated and set together. Just saying it’s not the 1920s anymore guys.
Paul how were you so strong? Did you have a strong Christian background? How were you able to maintain boundaries if Morgan sometimes crossed them (with the frontal hugs thing). Serious question
Maybe how to have that boundaries conversation?!?
How would you advice a couple who had previously been sexually active in their past relationships but are seeking purity together currently. Because it's harder when you already kinda awoken the giant.
I love the tips! So crucial to resist all the temptation that's flooding the world nowadays.
Amen, yes it is
Another great video filled with good advice!! I think you guys should make a video talking about how to call out a Christian the right way when you know they are actively living in sin. In a past video (the one about Justin Bieber and Selena I think) Morgan touched on the topic of calling Christians out on the way they live. I have a friend right now who calls herself a Christian and goes to church but she is having sex with her boyfriend. I’ve felt like I need to tell her that it’s not okay to be having sex before marriage but I don’t even know how to bring it up or if I even should.
Wow thank you for this comment. That’s a powerful topic that we have talked a lot about lately. That’s for sharing, def adding it to the list. I really think this needs to be addressed :)
Honestly. In my case, The biggest tip I found so far to staying pure and even staying single is just to be myself. 😊😒.
I like the videos but I disagree with submitting to your boyfriend . When you are dating and even engaged you are single in the eyes of God . You should yes have respect for your partner but not where you are submitting yourself . Pastor Mike Todd from transformation church goes in this in depth.
I really love your videos,they are inspiring.I remember talking to a bunch of guys at school about pursuing purity in relationships,I totally looked like a weirdo.They all just looked at me like "uhhhhhh",oh yer.I am still single and still hope that if I do date this will be my heart's desire,to honour God in that relationship even if it seems and sounds weird to the world.Thank you for keeping it real!!!!!!and being yourselves!
Amen, I pray it remains your hearts desire! It’s counter- cultural but so good and pleases God!! Thanks for the comment😊😊
If you are dating someone how often should you talk or text over the week? How many times a month can you go out with your spouse?
This is horrible advice. There's nothing wrong with pre-marital sex. Humans should be taught to take responsibility for their actions. That goes for sex, eating a whole bag of M&Ms, sleeping in until 2PM, not doing your homework, etc.
Hahaha you guys are so hilarious and cute 😂😂 love your videos, I wish I could have a relationship like yours 🙏🏽❤️
I can see both the ‘stay away from sexual temptation’ and they ‘are they compatible for me?.’ Although having said this I don’t understand why people have this blanket assumption that all Christians are incapable of controlling themselves around the opposite sex? I don’t see why we can’t just trust couples as Christians to trust their boundaries.
Plus I find Christians quite nosey with this sort of topic and I worry about how people respond to this within churches. I mean this about living together, romantic dating boundaries ect. I’m concerned that if people have made a mistake that people in churches will just criticise and point the finger too quickly rather than point that person back to the lord first.
Just a quick thought about the bible and submission... it says wives submit to your husbands. This is advice given for married couples, not dating couples. I think that is important to acknowledge because although when you date you are figuring out if this is someone you want to marry, but you are not married. Both the men and woman need to be equally apart of making and setting boundaries. Pretty much, stick with the boundaries of the person who is the strictest... else the power dynamite of 'submission' can create an unhealthy relationship between boyfriends towards their girlfriends.
this is advice that’s most relevant to very young people still living at home, not independent from their parents. what about people in their 30s, who are fully independent adults, but trying to follow christian values in their relationships?
Do a topic on whether or not Christians should hold hands. Please lol. Thank you!
I feel like all a man would need to ensure my hands stay away from him is simply just wear that hat.
so y'all think the man is the leader and women have to 'submit' ?? IT'S 2019 FUCK THAT
Love this video you guys 🙌🏻 I think being purposeful and intentional are definitely great ways to make sure you stay pure in a relationship! Good advice!!
Hey Mat and Est! Agreed, as awesome as it would be to just trust your intentions and hope for the best, protecting your purity is a big deal. And we gotta be intentional!
This is very true!
how long were you dating before you got married? love the advice :))
Guuuurl your hair!!😍 you changed it right? Or am I trippin😅
Love ya'll as always!
Haha she got it trimmed and styled 😄💇♀️
"you'll get all the lovin' you need after you get married" ... Love it. Very good thoughs
I like the tip that says be specific... very important
Do not tell people that they ‘aren’t strong at all’ that is so damaging and detrimental to certain people and your lord definitely wouldn’t be pleased with that treatment of others - presume that’s not how you’d like to be treated no?
Alex Berry I think that they mean that if you find your strength in yourself, it is weak in comparison to the strength that you find in God
Lauren Fletcher exactly and what, you think that’s right? it’s a sickening message to put across, very toxic to young people (Male and female) lacking in confidence and self esteem, LOVE YOUR OWN SELF FIRST PEOPLE
@@alexberry5190 it means not strong enough sexually, not emotionally or individually
That is reprehensible and damaging to youth to make them believe that they are powerless. Unless you have God to keep you from your weak, filthy, unclean, thoughts that happen naturally to every adolescent. Shame them. It’s proven to cause emotional damage and even suicide.
Thank you guys so much for your videos! I appreciate your advice and clarity so much. I really do feel your sincerity on your topics and I admire how passionate and strong you are about it all. CUTEST COUPLE!
I wanna follow these but its hard to find someone who has the same mind set like these too cause even christians do sins in this generations
The Lindsey Buckingham and Morgan show…
Will you post your list, or a sample list, of boundaries?
Thank you guys so much for making videos like this. As a young single guy it really inspires me on how I should carry out my relationships in the future. I love how you guys were willing to make those boundaries even though they may have been viewed upon as strange by the outside world. I feel really blessed to have stumbled upon your channel, God has been really speaking to me through it. Keep up the good work!
One thing that helps me and my fiancé a lot is dancing. We get out favorite love songs and slow dance to them. This allows us to be close to each other and express love without falling into sin!
Can you give more examples of specific boundaries
Please make a video what the Bible says about make up and tatoos
how to not judge in a way that will push non christians a way. one of the common things I hear from non christians is that christians are judgemental. hope these ideas help. I have over 2,000 videos that I have made in four years so learned how to come up with videos from making so many. oh and homosexality and bring Christian video and another would be is going to church important when being christians and can you get to heaven and be a Christian just by being good. a couple more ideas. I have seen your videos in awhile but decided to check them out today.
Thanks for watching! Those are really good topics, I’ve been wanting to do a video on the Judging topic!
Make a video of your boundaries, and be specific
Why don’t u guys want to have fun in life? lol
We have fun :)
They are married so they obviously do have fun.
God bless you
Thank you so much for your advices. Following God is harder but we have to follow Him to see His purpose to what we want in life. Sometimes I'm over thinking about relationship because this is the first time to really commit to a person that I love. I want to follow God with obedience and let Him work through it.
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"HEAL IT!" 😂 "Everybody wants purity but few people maintain it, keep it, have it, hold on to it." --- Yeah so that should be the quote that goes on the shirt when your merch drops hahahaha Ooo I really like that one: have a plan for your dates and don't just hang out till whenever; that will definitely help in avoiding temptation. 2 Corinthians 10:5 has been like my go-to verse lately just as I try to reign in my mind and my thoughts about life in general but I feel like it applies really really well here too: "Bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." Difficult to do but it's something we're called to. I think I've said this before but I"ll say it again haha: thank you guys oh so muchly for sticking to Biblical principles and speaking the Truth with boldness! By God's grace, you are shining lights in this dark dark world and He will bless you for honouring Him :) Love you guys and keeping shining
Baahaha love your shirt ideas❤️😂. Thank you Tabby. You really are a huge encouragement to Morgan and I! Stay strong Sister!
I'm currently struggling with singleness but your quotes give me hope :)
Awww keep hanging in there, Renee! God will carry you through and give you all the grace you need :) From one singe girl to another, you've got this with God's help!! I'm glad the quotations encouraged you but I can't take credit for them haha they're all from the video....Paul and Morgan have some stellar nuggets of knowledge :D
saying the Lord's name in vain like I notice in movies and people say it like it's nothing or meaningless even though it's the Lords name in vain.
Oh that would be a good topic!
Any advice about keeping a strong marriage and staying loyal to your significant other? Like how do you stay pure in marriage? Do you have a video like that?
We haven’t made that video yet :)
About ten years ago in my teenage years my parents used to drag me off to church and I remember being told by the Pastor that Jesus expects everyone to love their brother, I listened to his sermons and began to take an interest in the teachings of Jesus so when the opportunity arose I decided to put those teachings into practice, I was upstairs in my bedroom loving my brother when the door opened and Mom stood there with her mouth open and her face as red as a beet, she hit the roof and the screaming could be heard a block away, she yelled at us to put our clothes back on and chased me down the stairs, it was terrible and she didn't speak to me for two months, David lost his allowance for a month and after that she began to speak to him again but it was very frosty Brrrrr, what is the matter with parents? first they want us to obey Jesus and then they blow up when you try, life was very confusing . . . .
1.5 years later and I am still watching this video
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I heard you mention Lexington and thought in another video you mentioned something about Louisville...are you two by chance in Kentucky?
Yes we are!
Thanks for the tips!
You’re welcome 😄
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Solid advice guys, thank you
Should someone maintain a social media relationship with someone you once dated? I'm of an older generation but in speaking to those in your generation they have felt it's okay. I can see many issues with doing this but I'm teachable. What would be your advice?
Hmmm I’d say that one depends on the specific situation. I would prolly lean no personally. But if your dating relationship was pure I think it could work :)
I don’t see what’s wrong with what they said in the end. I believe that wives should submit to their husbands and husbands should submit to their wives just like it says so in the bible. The husbands are the leaders, and it doesn’t mean that could boss you around / demand you to do things, that’s not called a leader, that’s called a boss. A true leader leads by example, wants the best for his people and is very invested in his team, and in this case your husband is your leader, and “leader” cannot be substituted by commander, boss or anything else. This is my input on this verse, I totally recommend you guys to watch Pastor Rich’s sermon “It’s Complicated”, i personally learnt a ton from it as it‘s direct & biblical, i’m sure you’ll learn something from it too. Also, I just wanted to say, to the people who are doubting God’s word aka the Bible and for what it says, for me, Christianity starts from it and very much of our lives are founded on the Bible. God clearly states that He wants us to read His word to feed our hungry souls. I hope that we’re nice to each other in the comments, spread God’s love & positivity y’all
Thank you for making videos like this!! New subscriber ❤️❤️
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Love your videos! I’d love to see something about how to have conversations with unbelievers or how to invite your coworkers to church.
Thanks for the comment! I like that topic a lot👊
Are you investing in God as much as you are your romantic life? Is another good question for singles, I've noticed that for my own thoughts and God is still helping me with that. Thank you Morgan! I've had that before over emotional and attracted lust, ugh i feel bad, but I've been more emotionally and lusts-dully invested with guys in my past and so i really think it makes me more hesitatint to speak to guys i like, besides the fact that I'm shy!
i think you need God at the absolute center to be able to have any type of godly relationships and that's my story and I'm sticking to my guns on that one
I totally understand not hanging out alone and want to make that a goal for my next relationship. However, how do you share emotional things with each other, like past experiences, that you don't want other people knowing. Where do you draw the line between being too emotionally attached, and simply getting to know each other before marriage? Because I have things that my future wife is going to want to know before marriage, however I don't want other people knowing.
This was very good! Idea for other video's: something about living with people who don't believe who are asking all those hard questions or how to stay strong in hard times when you are doubting faith(like the hard questions etc)
Thanks for the comment, Moniek. I love that idea for a video👊 I’ve been thinking a lot about staying strong in the Lord in hard times
Do a video of what you should do in Middle and High school when your crush likes you back and you're friends. Basically what you think of "Teen/Young Teen Relationships"
Would y’all mind maybe sharing a list of the lines y’all set that you can remember? Thanks in advance! FYI I’ve been binge watching y’all for the last two days since I found ya and been loving what I’m seeing! #sickinbedwiththepaulandmorganshow! ♥️♥️♥️
Hello. Paul and Morgan thank you so much for the advise. How ever we are from.india and we both believe in Jesus and have been in a relationship from 7 years. And not yet been married as my parent are hindu and doens't agree with me marrying a believer hence we are delaying marriage. And with all this it is really difficult to maintain purity. Can you give some advise
I just discovered your channel today, and I already love it so much! Thanks for sharing what the Lord puts on your heart!!!
Praise God Glad you found us😊
It's very difficult to stay in purity... Satan tempt always...
But we are trying 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Could you do a video on Tinder for Christians? How to connect with people of similar intentions (not just looking for a hook up)? thanks!
These are great tips.
As a christian man I have to say that I would never ever ever be able to love a woman who has been with another man intimately, I have to be the only one she has ever been with, first and last
Amen! More specific. Let your yes's be yes's and your no's be no's, don't let their be a line that is way too easy to cross, lol
Great video! Very practical indeed.
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I know to not be alone as much with my date. Thank you for advice about kissing.
what if you were sexually assaulted or taken in advantage? does that mean im not pure?
Lexington? As in Lexington ky?? I live close! Aha. About an hour away
Hey Paul and Morgan, thank you for sharing!! You are wonderful examples to kids like us. THank you for the great advice and perspective. #AJandAnneAlida #weRgenerationZ
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