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I think the reason why women who think natural hair is hard is that they complicate the routine, buy expensive products thinking it will change the texture of their hair and they do not know how to style it. They don’t follow people who have hair like their own and get upset when their hair doesnt look 3b etc. its so sad.
It's always funny to me when people talk like this. It's not like the hair will grow out relaxed, it'll still grow out as her natural hair texture. Tbh, that's one of the reasons I went natural, I was tired of dealing with two textures and fighting a losing battle. Plus it has literally made me fall in love with my hair so much.
Natural hair will never be easy until you let go of the self hate, the comparison, the judgement and self critism, the shame and your bias. It will never be easy until you look at your hair in the morning , unstyled and unmoistuirized and think this is so beautiful. It will never be easy till you let go of the feeling of defeat when a twist out doesnt go as planned. It wont be easy until you give yourself grace on days you experience setbacks and patience on days you are too tired to handle a full washday. The work starts within. The problem isnt your hair. Its you. The journey of growing your natural hair will never really start until you address your inner misgivings
I have relaxed hair after being natural for 5 year, and i love every bit of my hair, my natural hair was the best, the only issue i had was very sensitive scarp and i couldn't keep it anymore because no one couldn't touch my hair without me having migraines (it wasn't tight at all) but i didn’t know why it happened, the only option i had was to cut it off or relax it, but i miss my natural hair so much and i want to start over again but not now after 5 years of relaxed I'll turn back to natural 😊
Hate this mentality myself. It’s so harmful. It’s so bad for us as Black Women and for little Black Girls💔. Yet you’ll see the same individuals who encourage this or justify using perms being the same people who ironically deny Black Women’s hair even being real when it’s long, natural and healthy. Makes no sense. Our (too many of us) attachment to the very things that *exploit* Black Women, *as* Black Women, is a problem. Too many of us are more apt to look for a quick fix in using synthetic or human hair that isn’t ours to *cover* our natural hair, as opposed to actually learning and implementing how to take care of our own. I can’t get behind it. I don’t shame Black Women who stick to community norms like these or who haven’t gone on or persisted in natural hair journeys for themselves - but I do hate how stunted this kind of content makes us look in the aftermath of everything proven and disproven by Black Women who’s journeys have been successful. Update: 4:53 not her *combing* the perm through her hair tho!! 😫 lord that’s hard to watch. These will be the type of ppl that defend altering their hair w such harmful chemicals - with the audacity to not even know how to use it properly. Make it make seeeeense don’t do that you’re not supposed to do that….!!😭🫣
I can already see why her hair is “difficult”. She doesn’t know how to care for her hair. Her hair is shrunken, she is using a small mouth comb instead of a big comb, she is parting her hair dry and didn’t stretch her hair, she says negative things about her hair and is impatient.
Babes your hair has grown so much from what I saw from the thumbnail.Your doing something right.God bless you and Jesus loves you❤️❤️. What about the friend you grew your hair with an we see her hair🙈
You are so right👍👍 everyone tell me to relax my hair, everyone tell me to take down that bush. Mmm My hair is past bra length. What is funny is our Africa women the insult our hair the most and our hair is our identity
When i first went natural, most people said things, i didn't listen I followed ladies on RUclips and tried my best in my own little way to take care of it, fast forward years later, ues i jad setbacks came back on track but i didn't let the people get to me...😅 Funny how now they compliment me and say ooh your hair is so full, your hair is long etc.... Nothing good comes easy ❤ keep going
This mentality is prevalent here in Nigeria amongst girls, which is why you see ladies with short damaged relaxed hair looking good in wigs.... I don't hate on people because of whatever hair theu decide to do but the mentality behind it is what's sad.... I once had a stylist who kept asking when I'll relax my hair like girllll NEVER!!! Because i went natural for the right reasons... M Most of them only tried it out cause they saw someone who did and looked good, not knowing all the person does underneath to keep good and healthy moisturized hair . I feel your pain, even more so when it's someone I know saying things like this, I do my best to educate people around me anyway God bless
You get my message 💖💖 I really really wish this is like a seed that produces food in someone's heart out there who has this mentality...at least. I know I can't change people but I believe people can be influenced
I agree with you. Somehow I feel she just wanted views.. I am just awed at some people. For real, even hydration makes it more manageable before you add leave in etc
Another funny thing is that these women will still be lazy to take care of their relaxed hair. It will break off so badly and they’ll be back!! Just wait and see
😭😅 this shouldn't be funny ... honestly I feel bad I actually know and follow people with "healthy", long and thick relaxed hair but they've done their research and learnt how to relax it but most people who relax their hair don't do that and believe in a narrative that it's just an escape from kinks.
Your points were great. Unfortunately, you can't change the way a person sees themselves. They have to love themselves. If they dont, they do destructive things.
🫂🫂I know right but at least we can make them know what is right and wrong. I will never make a video calling relaxed hair devilish or mad and I believe it should be vice versa. I hope she does love herself 💖
I think her content was just for humour and her being satirical about how she didn't have the patience to take care of her hair in its natural state. Dont take it to heart.
My dear I took it to heart because the comment section of her video were no satirical at all. They were dead serious and supported the "natural hair is ugly or stressful" narrative😭
Honestly sis, me too 🫂💖 but long isn't also for the weak and I have experienced both. I totally agree with dealing with insecurities and breakage but NOT spreading the narrative that it is devilish, mad or it only has bad attributes meanwhile relaxed hair is the opposite...that I won't support😭
I’m so angry ,I have alit to say but this lady is just making me not wanna say everything on my mind …I already know that anyone who relaxes their hair didn’t take their time to accept,learn and love their true hair ..All that she achieved after relaxing could easily be achieved with aloe Vera ,a product with flax seed or any conditioner with slip but she had no patience or knowledge after three years ..(Sigh)Her hair was was more beautiful and healthy before the relaxer…now she has lost her volume ,thickness and beautiful hair texture for scanty wet chicken looking hair and this is what people see to be beautiful ????
Hi sis💖💖 I never called her hair ugly in the video. I made this video solely because I hate that she's spreading a false narrative that natural hair only has bad attributes.
Forest on her own head not ur own. People react to things differently. Don't come at her cause she can't handle her hair the way you will your own. Some people have even cut their hair its all individual don't come and be building castle out of nothing
Nobody cares about what she does to her hair if she's okay with it, it's the words she chooses to use on social media which will in turn affect others that are not okay
Hi sis...exactly! People react to things differently. I honestly believe that you can't change people but people can be influenced. She is not just sn individual, she is an influencer.💖💖 Also, I'm not coming at her or bashing her, I just want to sow a seed to her mentality and that of her audience.
It may SOUND RUDE to this channel and all the commenters but we are ALL different, you watched a video of someone's opinion of their OWN hair (Hers) and felt the need to make a video- featuring her and asking your audience to have the same opinion as you? If she is relaxing Her hair, it does not make or break ANYONE else.. Why cant she make content about HER OWN HAIR? She said ouch and you say she is spreading a bad narrative.. Respectfully you could've made this same video without shading her OR anyone else, Social media make you all think you can put down other creators just to make content when you need to mind your own business about anothers perosn body or what grows out of it.
Its not about her relaxing her hair, it's the negative connotations she gives to our hair to justify her reasons. Its ok to say, I am unable to deal with my hair and I think relaxed hair will be easier to manage. But to push the narrative that our hair is impossible goes beyond her video and influences black women and girls on how they think about their hair. It props up the prejudices against 4c hair and that in the long run is soo damaging to women
Hi sis, I said so in the video and no, I would never find joy in bringing someone down. I believe that you can't change people but you can definitely influence people💖
❤The registration of the next cohort for HAIR CONSULTATIONS ends by July 31st. I would only be accepting 10 people this time because of my tight schedule 🙏🏽
Here is the link to register
bit.ly/3TBG2hp
Please don't forget to recommend ways to sensitize people because we meet them everyday❤
I think the reason why women who think natural hair is hard is that they complicate the routine, buy expensive products thinking it will change the texture of their hair and they do not know how to style it. They don’t follow people who have hair like their own and get upset when their hair doesnt look 3b etc. its so sad.
Very true very very very true💯 it's really really sad
I totally agree!!!
It's always funny to me when people talk like this. It's not like the hair will grow out relaxed, it'll still grow out as her natural hair texture. Tbh, that's one of the reasons I went natural, I was tired of dealing with two textures and fighting a losing battle. Plus it has literally made me fall in love with my hair so much.
I'm proud of you sis💖
Natural hair will never be easy until you let go of the self hate, the comparison, the judgement and self critism, the shame and your bias. It will never be easy until you look at your hair in the morning , unstyled and unmoistuirized and think this is so beautiful. It will never be easy till you let go of the feeling of defeat when a twist out doesnt go as planned. It wont be easy until you give yourself grace on days you experience setbacks and patience on days you are too tired to handle a full washday. The work starts within. The problem isnt your hair. Its you. The journey of growing your natural hair will never really start until you address your inner misgivings
It's a journey... exactly. I believe hopefully she'll build her confidence whether relaxed or natural 💖💖
I ❤ my natural 4c hair.
I have relaxed hair after being natural for 5 year, and i love every bit of my hair, my natural hair was the best, the only issue i had was very sensitive scarp and i couldn't keep it anymore because no one couldn't touch my hair without me having migraines (it wasn't tight at all) but i didn’t know why it happened, the only option i had was to cut it off or relax it, but i miss my natural hair so much and i want to start over again but not now after 5 years of relaxed I'll turn back to natural 😊
I feel you sis...💖💖💯 Support you all the way
I strongly feel like it's usually a lack of practice on how to take care of our hair and also a mentality issue. Nothing changes until that changes.
I pray this is a seed to change people's mentality whether relaxed or natural 💖
Hate this mentality myself. It’s so harmful. It’s so bad for us as Black Women and for little Black Girls💔. Yet you’ll see the same individuals who encourage this or justify using perms being the same people who ironically deny Black Women’s hair even being real when it’s long, natural and healthy. Makes no sense. Our (too many of us) attachment to the very things that *exploit* Black Women, *as* Black Women, is a problem. Too many of us are more apt to look for a quick fix in using synthetic or human hair that isn’t ours to *cover* our natural hair, as opposed to actually learning and implementing how to take care of our own. I can’t get behind it. I don’t shame Black Women who stick to community norms like these or who haven’t gone on or persisted in natural hair journeys for themselves - but I do hate how stunted this kind of content makes us look in the aftermath of everything proven and disproven by Black Women who’s journeys have been successful.
Update: 4:53 not her *combing* the perm through her hair tho!! 😫 lord that’s hard to watch. These will be the type of ppl that defend altering their hair w such harmful chemicals - with the audacity to not even know how to use it properly. Make it make seeeeense don’t do that you’re not supposed to do that….!!😭🫣
Oouchh!! Hmmm...
I was so angry when I watched this TikTok. Not because she relaxed her hair but because of certain words that came out of her mouth
I can already see why her hair is “difficult”.
She doesn’t know how to care for her hair.
Her hair is shrunken, she is using a small mouth comb instead of a big comb, she is parting her hair dry and didn’t stretch her hair, she says negative things about her hair and is impatient.
It is well😭
Babes your hair has grown so much from what I saw from the thumbnail.Your doing something right.God bless you and Jesus loves you❤️❤️. What about the friend you grew your hair with an we see her hair🙈
Fun fact... my friends hair is relaxed now😁 but she's not spreading a false narrative
You are so right👍👍 everyone tell me to relax my hair, everyone tell me to take down that bush. Mmm My hair is past bra length. What is funny is our Africa women the insult our hair the most and our hair is our identity
When i first went natural, most people said things, i didn't listen I followed ladies on RUclips and tried my best in my own little way to take care of it, fast forward years later, ues i jad setbacks came back on track but i didn't let the people get to me...😅
Funny how now they compliment me and say ooh your hair is so full, your hair is long etc.... Nothing good comes easy ❤ keep going
The Day you will come along with your natural hair is the Day you will heal and also See your Real beauty.....
Lets love ourself first❤❤❤
God don't make mistakes 🙏❤
Amen
This mentality is prevalent here in Nigeria amongst girls, which is why you see ladies with short damaged relaxed hair looking good in wigs.... I don't hate on people because of whatever hair theu decide to do but the mentality behind it is what's sad.... I once had a stylist who kept asking when I'll relax my hair like girllll NEVER!!! Because i went natural for the right reasons... M
Most of them only tried it out cause they saw someone who did and looked good, not knowing all the person does underneath to keep good and healthy moisturized hair .
I feel your pain, even more so when it's someone I know saying things like this, I do my best to educate people around me anyway
God bless
You get my message 💖💖 I really really wish this is like a seed that produces food in someone's heart out there who has this mentality...at least. I know I can't change people but I believe people can be influenced
I agree with you. Somehow I feel she just wanted views.. I am just awed at some people. For real, even hydration makes it more manageable before you add leave in etc
Ikr It is well🥰
😂😂The thumbnail and the tittle finished me before watching the video...I was washing my hair today the frustration in the moment between is REAL
It's the beauty of the love hate relationship we have with our hair😅💖💖
Honestly, I share your point of view.
It's a very wrong mentality.
I actually think that girl is crazy.
Really!
Another funny thing is that these women will still be lazy to take care of their relaxed hair.
It will break off so badly and they’ll be back!!
Just wait and see
😭😅 this shouldn't be funny ... honestly I feel bad
I actually know and follow people with "healthy", long and thick relaxed hair but they've done their research and learnt how to relax it but most people who relax their hair don't do that and believe in a narrative that it's just an escape from kinks.
Your points were great. Unfortunately, you can't change the way a person sees themselves. They have to love themselves. If they dont, they do destructive things.
🫂🫂I know right but at least we can make them know what is right and wrong. I will never make a video calling relaxed hair devilish or mad and I believe it should be vice versa. I hope she does love herself 💖
Self destruction mode.. True
I wear virgin hair.
Hi divine
Hiiiiio🫂🫂🫂🫂
I think her content was just for humour and her being satirical about how she didn't have the patience to take care of her hair in its natural state. Dont take it to heart.
My dear I took it to heart because the comment section of her video were no satirical at all. They were dead serious and supported the "natural hair is ugly or stressful" narrative😭
i was laughin so hard watching that That girl in the tik tok video was being dramatic ain't gonna lie
😭😁😁😁 I didn't laugh when I watched it at first...I was just dumbfounded
5:51 😂😂😂😂
It's God that created it😊
But honestly my sister, I relate to the woman who posted the TikTok. Short 4c hair isn't for the weak
Honestly sis, me too 🫂💖
but long isn't also for the weak and I have experienced both. I totally agree with dealing with insecurities and breakage but NOT spreading the narrative that it is devilish, mad or it only has bad attributes meanwhile relaxed hair is the opposite...that I won't support😭
I’m so angry ,I have alit to say but this lady is just making me not wanna say everything on my mind …I already know that anyone who relaxes their hair didn’t take their time to accept,learn and love their true hair ..All that she achieved after relaxing could easily be achieved with aloe Vera ,a product with flax seed or any conditioner with slip but she had no patience or knowledge after three years ..(Sigh)Her hair was was more beautiful and healthy before the relaxer…now she has lost her volume ,thickness and beautiful hair texture for scanty wet chicken looking hair and this is what people see to be beautiful ????
It's a shame for her not having learnt anything from all the free natural RUclips university teachings especially over 3 years of being natural😮..
Hmm...it is well
@@beatriceking84 it really is
Her hair actually looks so good. But then again that’s her hair, her forest as she says. Leave her alone 🤦♀️
Hi sis💖💖 I never called her hair ugly in the video. I made this video solely because I hate that she's spreading a false narrative that natural hair only has bad attributes.
She said she couldn't maintain natural hair and its was making her look mad.
Yes sis
Forest on her own head not ur own. People react to things differently. Don't come at her cause she can't handle her hair the way you will your own. Some people have even cut their hair its all individual don't come and be building castle out of nothing
Nobody cares about what she does to her hair if she's okay with it, it's the words she chooses to use on social media which will in turn affect others that are not okay
Hi sis...exactly!
People react to things differently. I honestly believe that you can't change people but people can be influenced.
She is not just sn individual, she is an influencer.💖💖 Also, I'm not coming at her or bashing her, I just want to sow a seed to her mentality and that of her audience.
let me know when you relax your hair so i quickly unfollow you relaxer gave the black race no hair to talk about
Hmmm...sis
It may SOUND RUDE to this channel and all the commenters but we are ALL different, you watched a video of someone's opinion of their OWN hair (Hers) and felt the need to make a video- featuring her and asking your audience to have the same opinion as you?
If she is relaxing Her hair, it does not make or break ANYONE else.. Why cant she make content about HER OWN HAIR? She said ouch and you say she is spreading a bad narrative..
Respectfully you could've made this same video without shading her OR anyone else, Social media make you all think you can put down other creators just to make content when you need to mind your own business about anothers perosn body or what grows out of it.
Its not about her relaxing her hair, it's the negative connotations she gives to our hair to justify her reasons. Its ok to say, I am unable to deal with my hair and I think relaxed hair will be easier to manage. But to push the narrative that our hair is impossible goes beyond her video and influences black women and girls on how they think about their hair. It props up the prejudices against 4c hair and that in the long run is soo damaging to women
Hi sis, I said so in the video and no, I would never find joy in bringing someone down. I believe that you can't change people but you can definitely influence people💖